Why Did They Vanish And Walk Away?
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- Опубліковано 10 вер 2023
- Why did they vanish and walk away. Why did they just vanish and stop replying? It can be very confusing interpreting someone's behavior after a break up. In this video, Coach Craig Kenneth and Coach Victoria discuss a situation with some very unusual behavior.
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If that person’s partner can’t communicate, but resorts to ghosting, he’s doing himself a favor.
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This happened to me. I shared too much! Be careful How much of your vulnerability you share
I think it was Katherine Hephurn who told Howard Hughes: Don't let people in. "They turn you into freaks."
Same 😢
@@astridrios1155 some people have loving hearts ❤️ that don’t judge. I do. 😁
Lol, I do this often! Might be part of an anxious attachment style?
It’s really hard to define the line between what I’m ready to share, what I feel compelled to share and what the other person might be ready to hear.
I never tell anyone that I’ve struggled with suicide…
But I don’t think it’s something to feel ashamed of x
Don’t give up your health and happiness 💙
@@wildlyvanessa5284 I am share everything when with a loving person. And she did me. Suicide is no joke and deserves medical attention and Not abusive people. I was mentally and sexually abused and now I’m strong 💪 and love ❤️ and forgive 🌼
I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorder last month.
We had an argument a week ago. The next day I apologised and decided to tell her about my condition. I said I kept my condition a secret from everyone including my family cos I’m afraid I will be looked down upon but I decided to let her know not asking for pity but hope that she may understand why I behaved the way I did… haven’t heard from her since.
I’m so sorry that happened to you
… tough on you emotionally but far better to have a partner that understands you and is empathetic than someone who is judgmental and won’t stand by you through the hard times
Great video coach! Thank you for helping so many in understanding relationships better.
My guy semi-ghosted me. We had our 1st big fight & he vaguely ended things (my friend was present & didn't realize my ex was breaking things off but I did; my ex & I share an attachment style so I speak the language.) He blamed me for the argument, said we weren't compatible, and blocked me without letting me say goodbye or that I was sorry. I'm still struggling to gain any closure. He did unblock later on. He was a Fearful Avoidant like me with lots of trauma. I still love him & I just hope he's happy somewhere out there.
That guy needs to take a break from dating and spend some time in therapy. She probably just got fed up and didn’t bother to deal with him - the way she went around it is awful and immature for sure, but he’s no prize either.
Hi Craig, this video relates to me a bit and throughout the years ive learned to share only what is necessary and dont vomit everything. I select what I want to disclose depending on who the person is and when the correct time to do it.
For the creative healing course, ive finally made it to section 3 but there are parts in the course that I dont feel comfortable doing yet... specifically drawing the breakup which requires me to go back into a dark place and relive the breakup. I already drew the breakup once few months back but im not sure if I am able to do it again
I tried everything with my ex watches all these videos but she chose to leave me out to dry but still wanted to be friends. I said I can’t be friends with someone who wants nothing to do with me. I’ve been strung along and 3 years went down the drain while I put my life on hold for a whole year
Well said. I wouldn't mind dating someone with a mental health condition as long as they are currently in therapy and if needed, meds. The most important thing is accountability and both partners always working on their personal growth inside and outside the relationship. That way it doesn't all fall on the partner to support them.
Thanks for your charity lmao
This happened to me with someone I’ve known 30 years. I was upset and wanted answers but know it’s not my fault, it’s on him.
Maybe she just got tired of him. Seems like it was alot for her, and she probably found someone else and moved on
Tired of him? Or tired of his failing health…
This video makes me feel a bit hopeful. Even though my relationship with my ex was only three months, we were close friends for ten years. It’s so true what you guys said, some people are better friends than partners.
Someone saying they are suicidal, makes one think if you got involved with them, they may include you in taking your life and theirs. I can see if she may have gotten scared and bounced.
Guys, it’s been 4 months into No Contact after a 6 month relationship. I’ve been wanting to reach out. PLEASE talk me out of it. Idk if i should or not. I feel like after a certain amount of time, you have nothing to lose, especially if you’ve healed.
If you reach out, you are not healed.
Head up and focus on yourself.
you will regret it big time if you don't
Don’t look for validation. If your healed, just keep the past where it belongs… in the past. Use it as a learning experience, and just move on. That’s what I did.
Move on
If it was your fault reach out. If it was their fault don’t reach out
You will be very disappointed if you think she’s missing you and waiting around for you. After months of nc with a guy, he reached out to me while I was in bed with another guy lol. Let her go, find another one.
I think that she's fearful avoidant.
Don’t share to MUCH
Should i tell my 'that i love her, miss her and want things to work out bettwen us so if she changes her mind she knows where to find me'' after 2 months? (We broke up on 1st of august but are traveling to rome togheter by plane so wanted to do that after coming back to fully go NC as i have to get organizational stuff sorted out. We only fly togheter there and back nothing more)
So I think what happened is that she probably got freaked out by him - and he did nothing wrong by confiding in her about his depression and so forth. I have to say that women can be really weird about men opening up. On the one hand they're always talking about how necessary it is for us to share our thoughts, feelings, etc. yet many times women seem to become freaked out by it and run away.
A man can tell them things no differently than what a woman can open up to people about - how they were the sexually abused girl in the family growing up, raped in a past relationship, had a tumultuous sexual lifestyle in the past because of their own depression, bipolar disorder, or bad relationship with their parents, etc. - yet they will seem to be frightened by men confiding in them about their mental or emotional struggles. So that's what I think happened, and her telling him she would get back to him was her way of trying to slip away. Ghoster style, yes.
Why didn’t he ask her where she went?? Lol
He has a right if he’s known her for 4 years.
so I'm guessing they're both disorganized attachment style
I was talking to dys guy …it’s a fact I didn’t want him as a husband or bf…I was just talking…I was not very expressive …he was usually d one initiating d conversation…n often he used to say dat he is not a nice person …I m a gud girl…I got pissed off n said sumthing to him…after dat he vanished n used to msg me on n off…n den I started liking him😅😅😅but he totally vanished
you only starting like him after he became distant?
@@locke8412welcome to women
You don't sleep with their best friend except to take revenge.
This guy sounds extremely selfish and possibly narcissistic.
Only when she's gone he starts to want her back.
She realised she should stay away from that type of guy.
He's the problem.
I don't buy his sob story.
Hahahahaha flare up
Victoria has an odd take in this video - that people who've suffered from depression in the past should disclose their condition so that the other person can 'consent' to being in a relationship with them. I know we're all about the C-word these days, but come on.
I disagree. My best friend is BPD her mood swings are insane. Her partner has a child from a previous partner. She has been suicidal before in front of the child. It was too much for him and his son at one point and they took time apart. Mental illness isn’t a skip in the street, it’s a full on daily battle. In the past she told partners of her condition and they ran. Just saying, the right one will stick by you and the wrong ones will go
@@AnnaWhite-go6nz My point was that if someone has suffered depression in the past, has sought therapy and recovered from it, they should not be obliged to disclose it to their future partner, as suggested by Victoria. Having ongoing BPD in the present is quite different.
Y’all tardy. She was just fed up with being rejected by this passive dude.
She found the BBD or she is a mentally challenged person to. ie BPD or NPD