7 Signs It's Your Trauma, NOT Intuition (Gut Instinct)
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- Опубліковано 26 чер 2024
- Gut instinct, also known as intuition, refers to the ability to understand or know something immediately without the need for conscious reasoning. But what if your gut feeling is actually trauma?
Trauma can significantly impact our decision-making processes by embedding fear, heightened sensitivity, and distorted perceptions into our cognitive and emotional responses, often leading to hesitancy, self-doubt, or reactive choices influenced by past traumatic experiences.
Have you ever been confused about whether it's your gut instinct or trauma influencing your decisions? If you've found yourself grappling with this question, you're not alone. This video is for you.
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#trauma #gutfeelings
Writer: Clarisse Delos Reyes
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Madhurima
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Van Der Kolk, B. A. (2015). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. New York: Viking.
Herman, J. L. (1997). Trauma and recovery. Basic books.
Bowlby, J. (1988). A secure base: Parent-child attachment and healthy human development. Basic books.
Hanson, R. (2011). Buddha's brain: The practical neuroscience of happiness, love, and wisdom. New Harbinger Publications.
Perry, B. D., & Szalavitz, M. (2017). The boy who was raised as a dog: And other stories from a child psychiatrist's notebook--what traumatized children can teach us about loss, love, and healing. Basic books.
Levine, P. A. (2010). In an unspoken voice: How the body releases trauma and restores goodness. North Atlantic Books.
Shapiro, F. (2018). Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy: Basic principles, protocols, and procedures. Guilford Publications.
Timestamps
1). Overreacting 0:30
2). Difficulty trusting 1:03
3). Fear of abandonment 1:49
4). Overthinking 2:31
5). Uncomfortable with stability 3:14
6). Hypervigilance 4:03
7). Avoidance 4:47
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thank you for time and energy!!❤❤❤
Thanks mate
@@AndreaLikesMusic happy to help 💙💙💙💙💙💙
thank you so much
@@tims9434 not a problem
The one in those that doesn't fit me is "uncomfortable with stability" - my life was always chaotic as a child that I wanted some form of normalcy. That chaos continued with my (now ex) and this year was the first time I felt real stability and calmness for the first time outside of all that. It doesn't unnerve me, it feels nice to have a stable grounding after everything. Never felt more peaceful than I do now 😌
same
I have never related to any video more than this, I feel so much anxiety when I am loved or someone shows concerns for me it's like my mind keeps on telling me that it will end up hurting 😢
Mood
To some degree I do have all of them, and I can't seem to free myself of these 7 types even with help. 😞
Me either, it kind of makes you wonder, are we too far gone? Or is the chance of saving are very slim?
@@GlitchedFire I wasn't even aware until someone told me because, I didn't know in what ways that my trauma was triggered outside of the actual mental and physical traumas coming directly from people triggering me.
@@muskansharma936 I am trying to get help because for me I wasn't aware of me having these signs was trauma but, I knew it took a toll on my life and relationships.
Hello! While watching this video I realized that alot of the things i fear aren’t just me being dramatic, i always seem to be scared one day everyones gonna leave me and turn on me, thank you for helping realize that im not being dramatic❤
As a child, my father would always whipped me, my brothers and my mom with his belt that has a metal buckle on it, whenever he was drunk or unhappy over the slightest thing. So whenever i hear a metal buckle clacking or clicking, my body would always tense up anticipating that myself or someone is gonna get whipped even if im in a pool changing room or in a public bathroom. It is so bad that i only wear belts with plastic buckles. I just turned 35 too
Dang
i hope you're fine now :(
I often wondered why whenever someone does something wrong to me and I play out how I’m gonna confront this person but something holds me back and the words won’t come out to where I freeze rendering me unable to say what I want to say.
Same here! I feel the same way most of the time (Smh).
Same!! 😭😭😭
That used to happen to me too. Over the years, I've learned that it's natural to feel that way. Especially if you never got to learn how to build a healthy relationship with confrontation. The best way to help you through that hurdle is by confiding in someone you trust and think woud support you. A little bit of support is all you need - it goes a long say 🤝✌
Bro, same thing is also happening with me... 🎉🎉🎉🎉
We’ve all been there. You’re not alone
What would be the best way to deal with loneliness when you decide to walk on a path of loneliness and darkness.
Teacher: Why do you never get a perfect score?
Me getting a perfect score:
1. Overreacting
0:32
2. Difficulty Trusting
1:05
3. Fear of Abandonment
1:50
4. Overthinking
2:34
5. Uncomfortable with stability
3:15
6. Hypervigilance
4:04
7. Avoidance
4:50
I've been through what seemed to be a heavilly stressful situation for me, i'm not sure wether or not to call it traumatic since i don't want to overexagerrate, but all of these are so very scarilly relatable to what i'm going through, and i am so ever glad i'm not the only one who mistakes these for my gut feelings. It can be extremely confusing and frustrating at times.
OMG!! this helped so much!! I didn’t know my hyper vigilance was linked to trauma. This makes so much sense, thanks!!
This is exactly what I needed to hear …. Thank you so much for verbalize so clearly without being harsh, instead , you giving me courage to face my trauma. Big love from Japan xxxx
i came to the conclussion a few months ago that I have some past trauma that I thought was just normal but a lot trauma videos I've seen on home page and watched a lot of stuff I can relate to
"STAY BRAVE"
The most valuable thing I needed to hear lately. Thank you!
I think what we learn is valid and important, even if it is from trauma. Its better than let it happen again. Actually its more valid than intuicion.
A good follow up video to this is a video on tools and techniques people can use to heal or regulate trauma responses.
Yeh, when I'm flight mode, the anxiety is soooo bad, its crippling and then my body numbs out in order to not feel so anxious
I literally went over this with my therapist yesterday 😔 Geez
It's great you had a talk with your therapist! How accurate was this video for you?
@@Psych2go I'd say this video is veryyy accurate helped reiterate what my therapist outlined for me and I'm thankful to not feel so alone and be actively healing so going forward continues to with positive growth!
If you find this video helpful. You might find this video help you watch next: 7 Signs 'Fawning' Is Ruining Your Life (Trauma) ua-cam.com/video/n7CJ96lFb0I/v-deo.html
We will list other relevant videos that might help you watch next:
1. 5 Harmful Behaviors That Are Actually Your Trauma Response ua-cam.com/video/lkiWznckxTI/v-deo.html
2. It's Your Childhood Trauma, NOT Being Too Sensitive ua-cam.com/video/mPu3EXP7LO4/v-deo.html
3. 5 Signs You're Being FAKE Due To Trauma ua-cam.com/video/-pnZFAX4pDU/v-deo.html
We'd really appreciated if you can share this video to others! Thank you for all of your constant support in our work!
Thanks for the videos
I find it scarily accurate! >_>
One time I got 7/7 but wish I hadn't
Which point(s) did you relate to the most? @@DasHeino2010
Thanks. I really needed this ❤
You’re welcome 😊 We hope this video helps you!
Watching this let's me know how much I've healed. Thanks.
I literally have every single one of these
1. i get intense flash of anger when i find out someone is doing the same thing as someone from my past that really hurt me
2. i can never trust because i keep thinking of "what if" scenarios in my head
3. i crave meaningful relationships with people, something that isn't just mindless fun, because something with more meaning is my way of trying to create a bond
4. i never talk without thinking first
5. exactly as she said in the video, calmness feels weird because im not used to it
6. i get alarmed by movements in my surroundings and i immediately have to look and find out what it is
7. i avoid social situations that were supposed to be fun, because i always doubt i'll be able to bring anything to that said event, and i tell myself that it'll be better without me
I don't know if what I'm about to say has to do with any of the things mentioned, but I'll say it anyway.
When I was a child, my parents would spank me and yell at me for doing anything wrong. My dad was much worse about it and I guess it makes sense that he'd have "outdated" methods because both of his parents were born during the Great Depression (dad in 1929 and mom in 1934). He wanted to teach me discipline, but all it did was teach me to fear any authority figure. Now, I have a terrible stutter and hate being around more than a few people at a time.
I experience all of these, most on a daily basis. Guess i still suffer from a trauma i dont even remember.
Thanks a lot your channel always helps me ❤
Thank you for joining early! We hope to this video helps you!
@@Psych2go it does always 🥰
Hi psy2go😊 this channel has always been useful to me!
Thank you! It means so much to us! Were there any topics you were most interested in?
Probably the friends/relationship videos 😊
I tick all of these issues can’t believe the timing of this video thankyou ❤️😊
Yes! I show all 7 symptoms. Hypervigilance is indeed extremely exhausting! I wish I would be able to find a good mental health pro who can help me integrate my traumas.
I know that I lost a lot of family and friends I was close to passed away when I was young. There were a couple songs that I refuse to listen to but it brings back memories and pain. Last week I listened to those songs and cried. I feel better once I realize that. I thing. I didn't want to do what I needed to do most. I haven't heard this song in 14 years. I can only think of good memories so now every time I'm sad I listen to those songs. It does get better it will. You just have to go through the pain first.
Appreciate this information! Thank you for sharing!❤
Out of all of these, I think the worst one for me is being uncomfortable with stability and calmness. The second toughest one is avoidance. I’d love to work through that one.
Thank you so much… I needed this right at this time!
Exactly what I needed to see today. 😌
Thank you for another great video!
Me who had several traumas in my whole life is sooooo resonate with this video
I definitely have a lot of these, thanks for the help
I find this very helpful. It helps me to understand more.
"Trauma is personal, it does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated, the silent screams continue internally, heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams, healing can begin." - Danielle Bernock
❤ this thank you 🙏🏾
Of all the items in the video, no. 6 is the WORST, along with 7 and 3.
I can't stop worrying about stuff that is unlikely to happen anytime soon, I'm always on red alert mode and it's just so tiring that at the end of the day I don't even have energy to focus on anything that can obviously help me more than worrying. I get anxious everytime the phone rings, when I get a message, when I have to answer back, when I have to do anything related to what worries me, when a relative calls me to tell me anything. Jfc I just want it to stop.
And no matter how many times I tell to myself that this is just nonsense and nothing will happen or that I'm doing just fine, the physical reactions (nausea, muscle tightness, lack of appetite, feeling of impending doom, etc) ALWAYS win unless I resort to anxiolytics, which of course is something that I'd rather to not to do.
This sums up BPD & CPTSD
Hello! Thank you for the video! Like always - you're posting a video about my present situation, haha:D
Thanks for watching! Did this video help you?
i indentify with the signs 1 2 3 and 4 i do overreact and have difficulty trusting people even the ones close to me including fear of abandonment with having no father in my life growing up and had an unhealthy relationship with a first ex when i was a teeanger left me feeeling like i wasn't good enough to be with him he left me for another woman i felt betrayed and used and lastly overthinking i do that too sometimes which is not good hopefully i will develop a healthy way to deal with my emotions by speaking to a therapist
For those who have gone through a traumatic experience, I want you to know that things will get better for you. You've made it so far in life, don't give up now, because there is light at the end of the tunnel 💙🩶☺️🩶💙.
I’m not sure if y’all have done this before, but has there been a video on self-deception?
I definitely need this
❤ A thousand Thanks
awww those videos need subtitles for other languages they're a must
MY god bless you Long Life and with good health 🙏🏼💐🙏🏼
Who would've known that I have a trauma that I feel like I've never experienced
Thank you 🌹🌷🌺
When the notification for this popped up I said “FINALLY UNIVERSE THANK YOU FOR HEARING ME!’’
I just tend to not think about those things, the less you think about it, the less you gotta worry about it
" In my own experience's, I might suggest to delve deeper into yourself and realize the small nuances that only you have. Other's may have smaller or larger traumas, but these are your's. The immensity of the trauma is the occurrence and it is each individual that has to relate to their own. After many years of my own life not being attended to, this was all new territory. Again Thank You all at Psych2Go. Keep Up The Wonderful Work."
5. Hits hard
oh biscuits i haven’t had every single point apply in a p2g vid in a while
I am an adolescent, and I've realized that my mom has been telling me that she's doing the best for me, does she mean that? Also, she has been telling me that all things that I do that are "against her" are "attitude." I don't think she realizes that I'm doing the best I can to please her. Have you covered this, or can you? Thank you for reading!
fear of abandonment is so real for me, not now but i remember how I've been always suffering from this fear, fear that people no matter who will eventually leave me one day, and I used to get dreams of people abandoning me because of which I cried in my dreams and eventually would wake up with my headaches.
3:20 yes, a totally yes from me
Sometimes I wonder if my mom's behavior was caused by past traumas. I can see a lot of her in this video.
I guess i really needed to hear this i;m constantly doing all of this except the stability one i finally have stability and i'm actually very happy with it i feel peace for the first time in my life but all these other things do constantly affect me it has been like this sine my ex husband betrayed me so deeply.
its scary how accurate it is (for me) ;-;
I LOVE HER SO MUCH
Very true
Wonderful
Thank you for joining early! We hope to this video helps you!
Yup. All this is my issues.
HEY GOOD EVENING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING, I HAVE TO SAY YES TO ALL OF THIS. SLEEP WELL MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY 💯🙏💙💪🙈🙊💪
Love you video 🐼👍
Thank you 😀
@@Psych2go Welcome🐼🙏
"Why are you being so nice to me?..."
Oof I’m still unsure since I had a fall with a friend, but the others want me to engage with them still. With them still being friends with said friend, I just grown weary of the whole group even if some of them aren’t bad. I honestly think it’s just time to spilt from the group and make my own pace to find other friends even if that’s going to be almost impossible in this day and age haha.
... Psych2Go, how is it everytime something happens to me you post a video about it within the next day breaking it down for me?
Coincidences aside, thank you.
I'm definitely guilty for not trusting people I've been lied to my whole childhood teenage years was not any better even now I don't trust people
With all of the trauma that I have, ALL of these are things that I do. It makes me wonder-am I simply overthinking or is my friend using me for money? I seriously can’t tell. I already know with their situation, they can’t afford the sorts of things that I pay for them. However, oftentimes it feels like they don’t take me into consideration very often. I don’t know, maybe it’s because it’s not often that I have friends anymore, but I think I’m overthinking or something
I was just mentioning about Gut Instinct yesterday to someone...
So, it's Trauma after all, huh? 😅
I can relate to every one of them , but I still don't know what my trauma is
Why can't it be both? I get both sometimes
So apparently I have trauma 😐
All the time
This is me.
Oh dear I have all of these😢
i relate to all
Everytime i see one of your video I see how broken I am. . Good luck to myself 😅
Huh, so that's why i'm like this.
And I used to think that it's my gut feeling that telling me this and because of that I am all alone now and ruined the relationship with my dearest person 💔 😔. I don't know if i can ever recover from this loss and can ever make a normal relationship with someone
1. I feel harder to do simpler tasks as seen by others. Does this mean the same as reacting extremely to the minor stressors? Should I specify that to my psychiatrist? He never listened or said anything about my traumatic experiences by the way.
2. I often feel that no one will associate with me if I'm not beneficial to them and the time inevitably teaches me that. I'm also not good at confiding but neither at keeping the facts secret when they shouldn't be said. I know that but I also do that and also suffer. What's wrong with me? Normally, I feel uncomfortable with evening light settings. Is this related to the fact explained here?
3. I honestly feel so lonely and feel that others are stigmatizing me and my mental health. So, I wanna stop them in some way. Although, I don't understand whether it's related to fear of abandonment.
4. I think of the worst possible but it also happens to me. So, I can't surely know whether my thinking pattern is wrong.
5. As I said in point 5, I don't feel anything that I can remember about evening light settings but makes something unpleasant. I'd very bad religious experiences due to Schizophrenia, and now I don't feel that church is a safe place and Catholics would attack me at any moment due to my lack of faith. Is it a trauma response?
I didn’t like it, I loveeeedddd the video it is so accurate ❤ thank you
Thank you! We hope we can help you. Which part of the video resonated with you the most?
So avoiding visiting my mom even though I don't really feel a reason to avoid her could be my trauma?
Is there a cause to the avoidance?
Hiiiiii
Hello! Thanks for joining early! :)
Does this apply to relationships as well?
I have adhd so I don’t know where that falls in all of these feelings
Can someone help me go about on how to heal these trauma or give me a guide I can start with? 🙏🏆
Can we teach these ideas in School.
High school, all Four years. So that we can teach and Heal our Children.
I agree these should be taught! Share our videos to others and hope this could make it happen!
ah yes when my life is calm for a little bit of time i do things to sabotage it. well.... unconsciously. its like "damn. something is not right because im not worrying 24/7."
What about the other way around? As that's been my issue so far.
Humans are great to humans.
As someone who's an over thinker I'm now wondering if I have trauma that I didn't notice of it's just my gut feeling
Therapist usually traumatize you even more. I know I've tried 4 times, only one was helpful.
Agreed! The last therapist made me super angry.
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 My first therapist was really really good, but she was the old guard, like 70 years old, when they really helped people. The new University therapist only learn to make you dependent on them, or thell you the abuser is simply not well understood and evil don't exist and bla bla bla. I have fond memories of my first therapist, and she charged 40% of new generations on top of that.
@@Flitalidapouet Whenever I said that I was bullied (I didn't get room tell other stuff) she doesn't let me say what happened to me. Instead she said that she's bullied even more than me without telling actually what happened to her. OCD diary only made the condition worse for me. After not having therapy but just the medication for long, I got kinda recovered.
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 Srry about that, and I fully understand, I think the profession attract more and more psychopaths and narcissist because you're vulnerable and they are in a position of authority. Just like child predator take jobs related to take care of kids. It's a recent phenomenon, it's started to get bad in the 2000's, don't know why. I'm from Canada, where are you from if I can ask?
What a waste of money. It’s like trying to fix a car. You don’t know exactly where the problem is but it’s probably something to do with the engine because the engine light is on. You take it to a mechanic and explain the perceived problem then charge you $600 to fix something??? The light stays on. That money is gone and they played you like a fiddle even though they themselves were pretty sure that was the issue. They will still try to convince you that they just fixed one of the many problems and to take it to a body shop. Next pay check.
I reached out, but they want like $400+ per month almost $500….and we wonder why more people don’t get help, that’s a car payment
I have the 6th
LOL I'm traumatized.
Where can I get a repair kit for this?
Ok but how do I know if IT IS gut instinct?