@@djjustice3244 ❤ your passion drive believe 💯 don't ignore gut instincts keep us driven never giving up can do as only do right for me family all. Thank you 🦋 not being bullied living in fear appreciate words.
Elizabeth *** Nice! I like it so much! Cause even if you are angered by their stupid behavior, for being rude etc,.. you can always be better and not let Your anger get to you. Thanks for the comment.
1. Certain levels of stress are good. They teach you how to cope, they teach you how to problem solve, they teach you how to fail and then to do better the next time. 2. I am ___(put the labels you think puts you in a disadvantageous position). No one’s going to like me. If you put labels on yourself, you are putting yourself at a disadvantage. 3. You just perform. In areas, you are weak, perform. Earn your place. 4. If after you perform, people still have an issue with you, know that you are not the problem, they are. 5. Focus on putting one foot forward the other. Think about the next thing you are going to do. If I am not performing. And I’m there waiting for people to accept me, then now it’s me. 6. It’s 50% you and 50% the other person. 7. Respect is a gift. If someone wants to give it to you, they will, if they don't they don't. 8. Don't tell people you are the authority. Show them. Don't demand respect, command respect. Show you are the in charge by how do you walk into a room, how do you carry yourself, how do you speak, how do you project your voice. All those things exude power, and all those things command respect. 9. People make your impression in first five seconds. Think about what you are exuding, how you are dressed, think about the audience. You are going to wear one outfit for something and a different outfit for something else. 10. There are different versions of us. There is no just one you. What version of you are you bringing to the table? 11. Your goal shouldn’t be to make someone like or fear you. What is the end result you want? Likability is important. 12. Competent and warm not competent and cold. 13. No one is 100% bad. 14. Don't make it personal. Focus on the end result. 15. When things happen to you, rather than completely losing your mind, take a minute, don't respond, and don't do anything. Introduce a disrupter such as time or movement. 16. If you feel threatened in a situation, listen to your gut. Don't worry: about making the other person feel that you are rude. 17. Embrace and not avoid confrontation. Also, you should be able to confront people about things you don't feel right about in your life. Don't sit there and swallow it. 18. Mirror the other person’s language. If they say hi, say hi, if they say hello, say hello. Connect. But dint fake it. 19. Get in the right mindset and then decide how you want to speak to the other person. 20. 80% listen, 20% talk. 21. Talk to people not the way you want to be spoken to but the way they want to be spoken to. 22. You are not going to own my response to you. I am going to own it. 23. You have to create those barriers for yourself. You have to self-assess who you are going to let in your inner circle. Select the people in your inner circle. 24. People should audition to be in your inner circle. 25. Don't embarrass people but don't hesitate from confronting them. 26. There should be standards that you create for yourself. You get what you tolerate. 27. When you make a conscious decision to be done with someone, be done with them. 28. It should be about your mental conviction. Speak with confidence to make sure those who heard your message heard it clearly the first time. It should not be mistaken for weak or uncertain of your abilities. 29. Strengthen your voice and believe in what you are saying and why are you saying that. 30. The more adversity you deal with, the more resilient you become. 31. Repetition, repetition. Create habits that are healthy so when things happen, you default to those habits and pull out that version of you. 32. There are two types of people you should be careful of: people who are extremely self-righteous and people who use justification. 33. Look at people holistically who are they with everybody because that’s going to come back to you. 34. You feel dirty with someone be aware of them. 35. Don't get energy from the outside things such as your job, your family etc. Give your energy to those things but be mindful of how much of your energy you put out there into things. 36. Don't be surprised. Everybody at the end of the day is looking after their self-interests. 37. Don't be a victim. 38. Indecisiveness is a very dangerous thing. Indecisiveness causes us to look to others to give us the advice, it causes us to not make decisions in life, indecisiveness keeps us paralyzed, and indecisiveness is bad for our self-esteem and our confidence. I am going to do this right or wrong I am doing this. 39. You don't become this person overnight. It’s work. It’s a lot of work. 40. This person has an emergency. It’s their emergency. It’s not mine. 41. Choose to make it a lesson. 42. Remember you do not know everything. 43. “I messed up. So what? Everyone does.” 44. Have some humility. 45. Establish yourself as an authority from the moment “go”. 46. Think of your words as “money”. The more powerful and impactful the words, the more money you are putting down. My words matter and they have weight. They are going to impact the other person positively or negatively and their connection with me. 47. Don't stand behind the podium when you teach. 48. Be prepared, wear the right outfit, and do your hair and makeup in way that make you feel confident. 49. Own your shit. Be responsible for yourself even if the person sitting across you is authority. 50. If you are constantly being victimized by people, ask yourself: what am I doing to let people think they can do this to me. 51. Realize that you have choices. Fight back, speak back, or walk away. 52. Realize you have power. You can choose to not stay there in victim mentality. You can get back up. Watched all three of her videos and put it on all three. This is of so much value.
This woman is a powerhouse! So refreshing to see someone embrace stress and obstacles, rather than the head-in-the-sand "good vibes only" bullshit that so many subscribe to.
@@milkandspice1074 Thanks for the reply! I do, however, beg to differ. That mentality has been making people soft and weak- often unable to cope with any real adversity. It is very possible to frame obstacles in a positive yet realistic way. Embrace the suck.
@@sendy_wendy Well, I use what has worked for me. Sometimes I push forward hardcore and at times I need time to wallow. Other times, I need good vibes. Ya know, I let myself be human. But, I mean...you probably fit in nicely with psychopaths/robots.
Joseph Flohr -Some of the most famous and highly paid interviewers haven’t mastered that technique. Jennifer L was right in acknowledging the fact that she listens and doesn’t interrupt.
I ALWAYS trust my gut. It’s saved me so many times. Including a time when a neighbor offered to watch my children. I turned them down because of my gut. It was uncomfortable, but the gut feeling was really strong.1 week later he was arrested for sexually molesting his siblings. Never feel embarrassed about something that makes you feel uncomfortable. Great interview!
100000% agree! You should never feel bad about going with your gut. You don’t have to be mean about it, you just refuse, go a different direction, don’t get on the elevator, wait for a friend to go with you, whatever it is! I’m so glad you went with your gut on that. You’re a good parent.
This is such stupidity.. yes of course trust your gut feeling but dont pretend you know what its saying.. All you know is that you recognize something. thats IT!!! Its mostly your insecurities you recognize.. Not truth or reality..
@@garyodriscoll7988 Its one thing listening to your instinct, its totally a different thing to understand and or act on it.. Its dangerous to advise or encourage people to listen to their instincts.. Not many people are wise enough or aware enough.. agreed?
This woman has helped me more in 48 hours (of binge watching her speaking) than most of the adult figures in my life combined. I’ve seen a real change in the way I interact with people, with myself.
Same! This is the woman my mom wanted to be (investigator for children). She ended up becoming a narcissist and used her position to abuse her kids. I see in this woman the good side of her I can't let go of.
YES, First video watching her and really listening, understanding, has helped me tremendously! I've suffered so long of being and letting myself be a doormat, I am a changed person. I cannot get enough.
That idea was very new to me. But I guess it makes sense. If I am trying to succeed and my haters don't believe in me or respect me, that doesn't matter. I don't need their respect to accomplish my success.
@Species 443764 Breen Ya I think that is really a typical man's point of view. Selfish and egotistical...they don't even respect themselves so of course you'd say that about women. 🤣🤦 Problem with society is no one respects anyone. Good talk you prove a great point.
@Species 443764 Breen You are talking non-sense. You are the only one here disrespecting a whole section of the population. You are the disrespectful one 😂
"Recpect is a gift. If somebody wants to give it to you, they will. And if they dont, they dont." ..."You cant force it.. and sometimes, you dont need it."
My mentor was a homicide detective and he always told me to trust my gut “feeling” bc that’s just my brain processing information so quickly that it feels like “intuition” even though it’s usually not
Hi, I've been studying personality for quite some years now. Not officially though. Despite that, I can tell you that current research supports this as a possible real thing. You can look at Jungian Psychology. Other than that I have similar experiences. And I tell you, if you use that 'feeling' combined with "intuition" its like you have accelerated access to more distanced relations between information. Unfortunately, it also takes more wisdom to manage as it brings more insecurity. (In the beginning those combined skills will fail to synergize and contradict each other instead. Just keep going you'll get better at it as you go. ) Wise mentor to realise and correlate.
The other interesting aspect of this idea is that people who grew up in abusive household were forced to learn to “read people” as a survival mechanism. A that skill grows... sometimes it becomes a “human lie detector” type of skill.
@@msc8382 interesting take about "in the beginning those combined skillsets will fail to synergize and contradict each other instead". Never seen in that way, it explains a lot of things that i had questioned about myself before
It's actually your whole nervous system, which does include the brain. But our gut and heart are part of a biological feedback system which understands your environment before your brain does, and before you become consciously aware of the precise reasons behind what you're feeling.
If only we all could understand this concept! This chatter is important I'm 47 and if I only knew! Hoping all the young girls that become women get this asap! Thank you for sharing! You are awesome!
"Weak people push other people down so that they can feel stronger" - great quote, for all of life, for anyone! Im only 15 minutes in and loving this advice. Be likeable but dont make being liked the goal, also great.
@@cauha12 oh really, what's with the "wink"? ps here's a link to her most recent video, linked at what I feel is the best part of this one - personas to be careful of: ua-cam.com/video/FmMTb2lF7jM/v-deo.html
The best 52 minutes I've invested on. I will continue to replay this video from time to time to really absorb everything she said. Such an intelligent and articulate woman.
I wish it were mandatory for all schools to have at least one talk a month from people like this, there is so much to learn (other than what kids learn at school, which isn't real life lessons). Children and adults need to listen to this talk. Thank you so much!
When I was in elementary school maybe middle school I can remember having speakers but that was 30 years ago!!!! I agree that they would totally benefit from a speaker such as her!!!
@@tula__ If someone is something, it isnt a label. Her being a woman in that field wasn't a label, it is what she is and it wasn't and isn't a negative or a hindrance.
Notice how her character changed when she talked about failure being her superpower? That was her emotional side breaking out. The way she looked down and smiled is what we do when we're remembering something specific. She's probably remembering a time of her life which she failed so hard it forced her to wake up. She's grateful for the experience of that event because it fortified her. We must look at all our failures this way.
I absolutely love that she gives permission to leave a situation without guilt or shame. This is my go to for healthy coping with PTSD. I’ve given myself permission to leave a situation and I always make sure I have an “out” and that my freedom / mobility is not in the hands of another person.
She's authentic; focusing on being her best self and her goals, rather than what others think. There is no other way to live, in my opinion. Way to go! Excellent job by the interviewer as well!
Insanely strong person. Her attitude is everything and it was probably 90% of her achievements and success. Great job Lisa and her team for this guest.
It’s okay to be rude, to get to safety, if you have a gut feeling that something is wrong. Thinking about it now, I feel pretty stupid that I put my not being rude above my safety. Needed to hear this
I know exactly what you mean... It is absolutely absurd the way we as women are willing to risk our own safety for the sake of possibly offending someone. Unfortunately I have been guilty of this so many times, but I've learned to get better the older I get. Some times our God-given "spidey-senses" might be off skew a bit, but 9 times out of 10 they're pretty dead on accurate. We mustn't be afraid of offending someone who is giving us an "off feeling" about them. The worst thing that can happen is that we were wrong and we'll need to apologize - but at least we will be alive and unharmed to do so.
Interesting, I've never feared being rude if I were uncomfortable. But I think that's because I had experience with some very bad people at a very young age.
I'm on the fence about this in terms of clarity....what does one mean by 'rude'??? Is ignoring someone 'rude' vs thinking we have to be confrontational? There's this weird spinning off on this advice for women to be pushy. I mean if some guy I don't like is talking to me I look another way and appear genuinely distracted but if he approaches me in a threatening manner and he's just bigger than me I'm not about to be stupid n think being mouthy is enough....because it may only be enough to get your bell rung like an idiot🤷♀️ I start moving and looking for exit strategies not ways to act stupidly big n bad *ss when I'm just not.
Evy is such a freakin BOSS! That energy is so assertive yet it also communicates, "I don't have time for your shit and I don't know how to beat around the bush" I loved this interview so much!
Evie has changed my life by just watching two of her interviews. she’s truly helped me step into my power again after an extremely abusive relationship.
@@EB-ok3io Shes half Greek, maybe that's why you suddenly like a 'white' girrŕl ? She's like so many 'whites', including me a blend, people think is 100% white , I'm not Some might say I look French or Spanish, but I'm halfway Italiano Everyone thinks I'm 100% white, it's presumptuous
This i find interesting. I learn stacks when things are going right...like..."ooooh...things are going right...how did i do that?..and get here......must remember to repeat that..somehow.
Evy is amazing. Articulate, confident and knows what she's talking about. And so was the interviewer... asking the right things and not interrupting. Loved it.
Often show hosts don't know how to interview. They like to hear themselves talk and think it's their show. This showhost is interviewing her guest with the intent to get information from her guest that will help others. That is exactly why she is a good interviewer and a good host. Guests don't want to be on a show where they can't share the information they were invited to share.
I naturally pay attention to body language, intuition, their social media accounts, listen, etc this is how I base my judgement of someone. It isn’t that we don’t all lie, we do, but what you lie about says everything about someone.
Presenting yourself 13:28 Influence towards goal 15:35 Self Assessment 21:36 Introduce a disrepute 23:40 Intuition (gut instincts) 25:12 Researching 6th Sense 27:20 Plan & Preparation/Training for the 'What If' 28:08 Embracing Confrontation 29:55 How to Confront without the Battle 33:20 Body Language, Verbal Language, Para-linguistics 34:50 - continued discussion throughout interview Examples of Interviews 37:00 Listen to People (open ended questions) 38:10 Assumptions (Confirmation Bias) 39:10 Knowing when someones lying (study human behavior) 41:30 Myth 'Look me in the eye' 43:30 Lying through Omission 44:40 Saying 'I' a lot 45:10 Lying and being Vague 46:00 Learn people (Empathy) 46:30 Put yourself in their place 46:53 Superpower - Failure 47:36
"Weak people put other people down so they can feel stronger" - So true - see it for what it is and recognize it is a reflection of the other person and not of you. Remember who you are and don't let anybody dim your shine in your mind. Never give the power of your self away. When you know your worth and all that is great about you - you have the mental strength to validate yourself - you don't need to prove your worth or argue your value to some third-person who will never know you as well as you know yourself - thank you
This channel is my daily ritual, I clean, cook, relax listening to these interviews. I feel empowered and prepared and SAFE in this virtual space you’ve created, and for that I am eternally grateful. I will continue to support you and the women and men that participate to cultivate this incredible community! Thank you so much Lisa and team ❤️
This is complete validation! lol I'm a therapist and I teach these principles to my adolescents and teens in middle school ("Know Your Audience" so they can anticipate reactions; "Use your intuition" for protection from dangers in life and not silence it; "Disagree Tactfully" so you can have a conversation of differing opinions and not an argument, listen to LEARN not to ARGUE and be RIGHT because they may give information that triggers a shift for you.) YES!! Reframing is also a therapeutic technique I teach parents (You can yell all their flaws at them or you can acknowledge their mistake and talk to them about how and why to make a different choice)
I'm glad that someone with your reach is digesting this type of information to use in your work. You're making a difference in young people's lives. Even if the nuggets you initially share come to the surface years later, you are planting the seeds now.
@@quickgirl80 Thank you! I appreciate hearing that. I have definitely come to learn that I may not always see the fruits of my labor, but if I can plant some good seeds and let life and others finish watering and cultivating them, I’ve done my part😌 (And I use that phrase all the time! It’s what keeps me sane in the hard days! lol)
It’s so great that you are teaching teens to listen to that inner voice or ‘gut’ or intuition! It is a valuable life skill that can be life saving. Additionally, to not be afraid to act on that feeling - meaning don’t be afraid to look crazy for a moment. For example, when I was about 17 I had to walk home after work at a fast food restaurant. We lived in a very, very rough area, but we were very poor and I had two after school and weekend jobs. So I took whatever shifts were offered. One night I helped close and started walking home at 11pm. Suddenly I realized three guys following me and cat calling. Then I noticed they were closing the distance between us. It felt like a pack of wolves getting closer. Just as they got within 10 feet of me I notice two adult young men about 20 feet ahead. I had never see them before, but called out, ‘hey guys wait up! You are supposed to be walking me home!’ with a cheery voice. They turned around surprised and laughed as I started jogging towards them. They had stopped to watch this strange teenager in her silly uniform coming towards them. The wolf pack stopped and then turned a corner. I never made it to the two young men, as they laughed again and went on their way. Yet, I am sure that I saved myself from being harmed that night. That was the first time I trusted my gut and took action. I wish I had done that when I was younger, as it may have saved me from being raped across the street from the apartments where we lived - in broad daylight.
To any men or women who care about men that see this and feel a little down because it seems everyone thinks that excluding men from people who should be empowered, or given aid, or shown empathy towards, know that it isn't everyone. I for one favor the idea of caring about, empathizing with, and providing aid to men as well, and recognize that excluding them from these things is a form of discrimination, and that it isn't fair or right.
You should never trust your gut, only trust Jesus Christ! He never lied, trusted His gut, sought after material gain, etc. He was God in human flesh, but NEVER sinned. People need to follow Him, not any man! I speak from experience. God bless you
INCREDIBLY IMPRESSIVE. I`ve watched hundreds, maybe thousands of interviews and speeches about psychological topics... So many people out there giving their 2 cents on what they think they know about human psychology and she just handed us a whole f*** DOLLAR. WOW!!!!
I have been "binging" on TED talks and old Oprah interviews the past few weeks, trying to keep my mind focused on something not related to COVID19... This is by far the most interesting and useful talk I have watched.
Oprah is the devil, it's better to watch healthy content like this. Oprah is connected to "John of God"... That's very bad! If you want something to listen to that's full on wholesome and helpful look up (Mel Robbins). She is the bomb!!! 🙏👌💃🔥💯
@Chorus Frog I mean I appreciate the sentiment behind what you're saying but one thing doesn't follow from the other. The fact that SOME people harm other people without knowing it does NOT mean that ALL OF US are harming someone without knowing it. But again, I appreciate the sentiment, it's never a bad idea to double check whom we might be harming w/o knowing it.
Evy is like a real-life Disney princess, her eyes are incredibly beautiful. This is the kind of person I look up to! I deeply admire her skill and intelligence. We need more people like her in the world! 💗
BushPiG0 Also, as she stated, don’t jump to assume the reason they are lying (the drug reference, the assumption it’s them doing drugs but it could be something else, like a loved one that they care about and makes it an uncomfortable subject for them).
As a child I was told how I should think and feel, so I learned not to trust my instincts. As a result, I've spent most of my life doubting myself, and over thinking everything. It's been a slow, painful learning process. I like her 24 hour rule of responding vs. reacting. My gut feelings have never been wrong.
Sometimes we don't have the luxury of waiting to deal with a conflict, though. In retail you can't just walk away from an angry customer, and you are limited in what you are allowed to say to them to get them to calm down, too. I'd like to ask Evy for tips in situations like that.
Which is not true. Imagine she would never had a job and failed in everything she did would you listen to such a person? I guess this just sounds nice to those who are not thinking...
This is the type of class I would have LOVED going into back in school: the basics of life, interactions, relationships, trusting your gut feeling, how to over come fear and or confrontation. Just to name a few and to have HER as my teacher. Every second of this interview was “FIRE!” Just to quote interviewer! 😉👍🏽
The discourse on your sixth sense is validating. There were many times when I lived in Chicago where I had a gut feeling and I removed myself quickly from a situation. I always thought, well maybe I'm being paranoid, but you know what? I'm still here.
@@ich6636 Yes! And such a worthwhile but hard lesson to learn. Its actually (in the end) empowering and helps build mental strenght. Thank you. That was really uplifting to reflect upon.
At 27 gut feeling is your guardian angel protecting you. Listen to it. It works for all aspects of our lives. Greek mama bear here very proud of both of you.
As a midshipman at the naval academy I love seeing the parallels between her training and the training in the military. Putting people under stress in controlled environments, making them get comfortable being uncomfortable, and developing mental resilience are all things the training shares. She is amazing and spot on about being a woman in a male dominated field! You simply perform and let your actions speak for you
My dad always told me to stand back and listen without saying a word and you will learn alot. This has proven true in some many different situations in my 39 years.
When she said her super power was failure it brought tears to my eyes it’s such a powerful and positive way to change the narrative definitely getting her book 💜
This woman has given me a 30 year life lesson in this 52 minute 5 second video. This is the definition of street smart (Harlem) and book smart combined in one. Her eye contact is captivating::.and she’s beautiful too. This the new definition of Triple Threat! I for sure underestimated her when I clicked on this video.
Melvin Lombard They also distant themselves, speak from a 3rd person perspective and sometimes offer way too much info and seemingly just ramble on (when details are completely unnecessary). For example: Q = Did you eat? A = Pizza, thin crust with pepperoni, extra cheese and a robust sauce. It took a long long long time to get they were super busy, but the waitress a girl named Jessica, was really friendly and apologized for the wait. Did I mention it was thin crust? It was incredibly delicious, we really should go there together sometime. I can’t remember the name of the place, but it was pretty good... and not really that busy. So how was your day? (Notice the over the top response and inconsistencies)
@@GhostSal I completely agree, they projectile vomit information that's not relevant, they have no conscience of what's right or wrong, they just go on and on... like I've officially had it with these people. Parents and family sometimes believe they have a free pass for twisting the facts to suit their narrative. I can still tolerate people who lie casually because it's clearly got to do with themselves and their reality, but people who lie to cause malicious damage to someone's character are trash, they are so far detached from reality that they lie so skillfully and convincingly. As they carry on with their deceitfulness you can see their minds working, the incessant talking, vagueness of whatever BS they are concocting as they go along, unoriginal and usually a projection or regurgitation of their own insecurities, twisting the true version of events. I mean if you're going to lie, atleast make it original, and don't you dare point them out a contradictory statement made previously, they'll tell you you're the lier. I'm dealing with this psycho and who I personally believe is not mentally well 🙄
Nsikelelo Mthembu Lol, too much info and inconsistencies are what you’re looking for (not just specifics). Also, body language is part of it too, you have to look for and recognize clues.
I’m an intuitive empath, so I read people immediately. I have an instant feeling about people upon meeting them. If something isn’t right with them, my spidey sense ramps up! Bless her heart, Evy worked with evil administrations from both parties. I’ve watched several of Evy’s videos and she’s pure badassed-ness! I’ve heard things I already knew and learned some valuable information! Evy is a wealth of information. My super power is chronic illness of over 10 yrs. Pain is an amazing teacher. All love to both of you, in oneness! 🙏🏻💞🕊🕊
she is so tough , resilient and so authentic.. i almost see her tear when she narrated about her ex. she is a role model for how genuine empathic people can build up resilience and emotional strength and survive the world that is becoming dominated by cluster b folks... phew... love and more power to her..
If this is the case for you, you most likely aren’t seeking out the right content and creators. I see the most wonderful, inspiring and insightful content, suggested to me daily. I have so many videos on my watch later list. I can’t keep up with all this empowering and often mind blowing stuff. I also end up on other platforms that don’t censor like UA-cam is renowned for. You will most likely find better content on subjects such as this, elsewhere but in the same breath, UA-cam has enough fantastic content to keep you going for several lifetimes. You just have to seek it out and subscribe and get notifications to the channels/creators who provide the content which best aligns with your interests, beliefs and stimulates your mind. Also interact on topics which really peak your interest. Hopefully the UA-cam algorithms have been kinder to you.
@@livvyjos you should consider to name those other plateformes where they are no MSM you tube , face book ,etc restrictions of any sort of .., thank you 🙏🏾
This is the second video of this channel I've watched (so far). I listen to mostly podcasts and interviews and I ADORE how this host doesn't interrupt even once.
Its usually the other persons energy that doesn't feel right with ours and your energy gives you that ''gut feeling'' that there is something not right..
I agree so much on the confrontation part. I learned this by working as a nurse on a Psychiatric unit. You let patients vent, that's energy. Once the patient is calm, you can speak openly and as far as my experience works with 90% of the patients and it avoids unnecessary restrictions/use of medication and provides a space to rapport-empathize with the person. I love my job. 😊
So great I found your channel! Thanks to all your guests. I had a "feeling" while walking alone and switched over to the side. He followed. I walked into a pub and explained the situation. Sat awhile and was walked home. Next day the news reported a serial rapist/killer matching the description of last night's stalker.
She hooked me up on the first compasses of the conversation with the stress explanation. Basically what she said was something like "coping with stress is an intangible muscle that needs working, work it because everntually you'll need it strong"
Yes yes yes fantastic interview! Women in general are taught to be "nice", not to come off as rude or cause any commotions. We're more worried over what some stranger might think, someone that we've never met before and will probably never see again, then trusting our own intuition.
YES I was followed at Night By a man, instead of Running away which was my instinct I walked. He suddenly attacked me. Luckily he didn’t get to rape me because I screamed and neighbors opened their windows so he run away.
"There's one common denominator, me. If something goes wrong -- I ask myself what could I have done differently or what could I have done to change the outcome because I can't control what another person does but I can fully control myself."
Self assessment is such an important factor to her success. Two ways I would suggest to fast track this is Journalling and Meditation. Nobody will lie to you more than yourself. Thank you so much for this amazing interview Lisa!
Lachlan McFarlane I totally agree. I haven’t been able to reach that state of calmness and spaciousness that meditation is known for. But my biggest aha moments usually happen when I meditate.
One of the best interviews I have ever seen! The interviewer let the guest speak and give her knowledge and experience. The guest gave wisdom that can apply to anyone. Smart people on both sides of this event. Kudos!
I taught my children to always trust their gut feelings. I call it our early warning system from God. If you feel uncomfortable get away from that person, place ,or thing! It has worked so well for them that they have trained their friends to do the same! I know that I have avoided some really scary situations because I didn’t second guess my gut instincts!
Yes!!! Gavin DeBecker talks about this in his book The Gift if Fear. I give that book to all my friends daughters and the young women in my life when they go off to college and/or move from home.
Notes: 1) Moving chair 2) Don't tell people you are the boss 3) Knowing your audiences and adjust to them. We have different versions of us depending on our audience 4) Look does matter. Esp for those people who don't know us. They make 1st impression of us within 5 seconds and it is hardly reversible if it is negative 5) Assess our goal, and communicate to get to the goal 6) Goal is not for people to like or fear us. Instead, we can accomplish if we are competent and WARM. Not cold 7) Pull out the good quality in people, then only they will highly co-operate 8) Don't take it personally when people lie to us. Don't say that people lie to me coz I am xxxxx.. Instead they lie coz of their ownself. They might want to protect themselves,etc. 9) Walk away from situation that make us angry. Don't react. Don't be repulsive. Wait for 24 hour. Don't send that email or text until 24 hours. Introduce a disruptor. Go somewhere else. Do something else. Do something to distract fron continue thinking about that situation 10) Follow your gut feeling! 11) Do not avoid confrontation. Embrace it. "I hear you. I disagree with you and here's why.." let them scream, let them become a fool, we just sit on our chair. SOMEONE IS YELLING AT ME, SO WHAT?? SOMEONE IS CONFRONTING ME, SO WHAT? Think like that 12) In the confrontation process, don't yell at people at talk to them like they are garbage. Avoid calling people rape, liar.. Instead ask, hey, did u hurt her? Did you take that money? 13) Listen to people. 80q listen, 20q talk 14) Do not make assumption or else we will fall in Confirmation Bias. We only listen to what we want and turn it to be something we have assumed earlier. 15) How to know if someone is lying? Body language, looking at they eye or not, omission (leaving out some info), stalling technique (asking back question). Observe the language they tend to use: often will leave out the 'i' in conversation due to lack of commitment, are they detailed or vague, liars are vague
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@@djjustice3244 ❤ your passion drive believe 💯 don't ignore gut instincts keep us driven never giving up can do as only do right for me family all. Thank you 🦋 not being bullied living in fear appreciate words.
I love the fact the interviewer did not interrupt evy once when she spoke. So we fully got the message.
I was just about to say that.
Oh she wanted to.
Thanks so much!!!
Good point/observation
@@arisn32 then why didn't she?
Smart people should be the new Celebrities! Humans need to start follow brain!
simpson6106 absolutely
Yes, so true.
YES
they'd prefer sheeples twerking on instagram, they don't want a bunch of Assanges to have to cart away, geez c'mon
No more freaking CELEBRITIES, no more idol worship. Comrades together in the quest of knowledge.
my dad always told me that he who angers you, conquers you
Lol its a very know proverb hunny
Love that, wil hold on to that, thanks Elizabeth's dad.
he told u wrong
holy crap
usa is sjit
Elizabeth *** Nice! I like it so much! Cause even if you are angered by their stupid behavior, for being rude etc,.. you can always be better and not let Your anger get to you. Thanks for the comment.
So powerful and TRUE!
1. Certain levels of stress are good. They teach you how to cope, they teach you how to problem solve, they teach you how to fail and then to do better the next time.
2. I am ___(put the labels you think puts you in a disadvantageous position). No one’s going to like me. If you put labels on yourself, you are putting yourself at a disadvantage.
3. You just perform. In areas, you are weak, perform. Earn your place.
4. If after you perform, people still have an issue with you, know that you are not the problem, they are.
5. Focus on putting one foot forward the other. Think about the next thing you are going to do. If I am not performing. And I’m there waiting for people to accept me, then now it’s me.
6. It’s 50% you and 50% the other person.
7. Respect is a gift. If someone wants to give it to you, they will, if they don't they don't.
8. Don't tell people you are the authority. Show them. Don't demand respect, command respect. Show you are the in charge by how do you walk into a room, how do you carry yourself, how do you speak, how do you project your voice. All those things exude power, and all those things command respect.
9. People make your impression in first five seconds. Think about what you are exuding, how you are dressed, think about the audience. You are going to wear one outfit for something and a different outfit for something else.
10. There are different versions of us. There is no just one you. What version of you are you bringing to the table?
11. Your goal shouldn’t be to make someone like or fear you. What is the end result you want? Likability is important.
12. Competent and warm not competent and cold.
13. No one is 100% bad.
14. Don't make it personal. Focus on the end result.
15. When things happen to you, rather than completely losing your mind, take a minute, don't respond, and don't do anything. Introduce a disrupter such as time or movement.
16. If you feel threatened in a situation, listen to your gut. Don't worry: about making the other person feel that you are rude.
17. Embrace and not avoid confrontation. Also, you should be able to confront people about things you don't feel right about in your life. Don't sit there and swallow it.
18. Mirror the other person’s language. If they say hi, say hi, if they say hello, say hello. Connect. But dint fake it.
19. Get in the right mindset and then decide how you want to speak to the other person.
20. 80% listen, 20% talk.
21. Talk to people not the way you want to be spoken to but the way they want to be spoken to.
22. You are not going to own my response to you. I am going to own it.
23. You have to create those barriers for yourself. You have to self-assess who you are going to let in your inner circle. Select the people in your inner circle.
24. People should audition to be in your inner circle.
25. Don't embarrass people but don't hesitate from confronting them.
26. There should be standards that you create for yourself. You get what you tolerate.
27. When you make a conscious decision to be done with someone, be done with them.
28. It should be about your mental conviction. Speak with confidence to make sure those who heard your message heard it clearly the first time. It should not be mistaken for weak or uncertain of your abilities.
29. Strengthen your voice and believe in what you are saying and why are you saying that.
30. The more adversity you deal with, the more resilient you become.
31. Repetition, repetition. Create habits that are healthy so when things happen, you default to those habits and pull out that version of you.
32. There are two types of people you should be careful of: people who are extremely self-righteous and people who use justification.
33. Look at people holistically who are they with everybody because that’s going to come back to you.
34. You feel dirty with someone be aware of them.
35. Don't get energy from the outside things such as your job, your family etc. Give your energy to those things but be mindful of how much of your energy you put out there into things.
36. Don't be surprised. Everybody at the end of the day is looking after their self-interests.
37. Don't be a victim.
38. Indecisiveness is a very dangerous thing. Indecisiveness causes us to look to others to give us the advice, it causes us to not make decisions in life, indecisiveness keeps us paralyzed, and indecisiveness is bad for our self-esteem and our confidence. I am going to do this right or wrong I am doing this.
39. You don't become this person overnight. It’s work. It’s a lot of work.
40. This person has an emergency. It’s their emergency. It’s not mine.
41. Choose to make it a lesson.
42. Remember you do not know everything.
43. “I messed up. So what? Everyone does.”
44. Have some humility.
45. Establish yourself as an authority from the moment “go”.
46. Think of your words as “money”. The more powerful and impactful the words, the more money you are putting down. My words matter and they have weight. They are going to impact the other person positively or negatively and their connection with me.
47. Don't stand behind the podium when you teach.
48. Be prepared, wear the right outfit, and do your hair and makeup in way that make you feel confident.
49. Own your shit. Be responsible for yourself even if the person sitting across you is authority.
50. If you are constantly being victimized by people, ask yourself: what am I doing to let people think they can do this to me.
51. Realize that you have choices. Fight back, speak back, or walk away.
52. Realize you have power. You can choose to not stay there in victim mentality. You can get back up.
Watched all three of her videos and put it on all three. This is of so much value.
Love this summary of all the pearls she shared. Thank you for taking the time to write and share!
Thank You ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much!! 💜
Thank you sooo much...💐👍
This woman is a powerhouse! So refreshing to see someone embrace stress and obstacles, rather than the head-in-the-sand "good vibes only" bullshit that so many subscribe to.
It all has its place. None of it is "bullsh**".
@@milkandspice1074 Thanks for the reply! I do, however, beg to differ. That mentality has been making people soft and weak- often unable to cope with any real adversity. It is very possible to frame obstacles in a positive yet realistic way. Embrace the suck.
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@@sendy_wendy Well, I use what has worked for me. Sometimes I push forward hardcore and at times I need time to wallow. Other times, I need good vibes. Ya know, I let myself be human.
But, I mean...you probably fit in nicely with psychopaths/robots.
@@milkandspice1074 Nope- just as human as you! I've just learned to make hell my living room.
This interviewer is incredible. She listens and lets the person speak. Wow.
AND she asks relatable questions
cool she used entry level interview techniques... get educated
She did what the one being interviewed said xD
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Joseph Flohr -Some of the most famous and highly paid interviewers haven’t mastered that technique. Jennifer L was right in acknowledging the fact that she listens and doesn’t interrupt.
I ALWAYS trust my gut. It’s saved me so many times. Including a time when a neighbor offered to watch my children. I turned them down because of my gut. It was uncomfortable, but the gut feeling was really strong.1 week later he was arrested for sexually molesting his siblings. Never feel embarrassed about something that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Great interview!
WOW... Serious call!!
100000% agree! You should never feel bad about going with your gut. You don’t have to be mean about it, you just refuse, go a different direction, don’t get on the elevator, wait for a friend to go with you, whatever it is!
I’m so glad you went with your gut on that. You’re a good parent.
This is such stupidity.. yes of course trust your gut feeling but dont pretend you know what its saying.. All you know is that you recognize something. thats IT!!! Its mostly your insecurities you recognize.. Not truth or reality..
@@willyouwright who said they knew what their gut was saying? why are you creating an argument in your own head? lol.
@@garyodriscoll7988 Its one thing listening to your instinct, its totally a different thing to understand and or act on it.. Its dangerous to advise or encourage people to listen to their instincts.. Not many people are wise enough or aware enough.. agreed?
This woman has helped me more in 48 hours (of binge watching her speaking) than most of the adult figures in my life combined. I’ve seen a real change in the way I interact with people, with myself.
❤absolutely me too 100%
Same! This is the woman my mom wanted to be (investigator for children). She ended up becoming a narcissist and used her position to abuse her kids. I see in this woman the good side of her I can't let go of.
YES, First video watching her and really listening, understanding, has helped me tremendously! I've suffered so long of being and letting myself be a doormat, I am a changed person. I cannot get enough.
I came from CEO Podcast too lol
"Respect is a gift...and sometimes you don't need it."
That idea was very new to me. But I guess it makes sense. If I am trying to succeed and my haters don't believe in me or respect me, that doesn't matter. I don't need their respect to accomplish my success.
@Species 443764 Breen
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@Species 443764 Breen
Ya I think that is really a typical man's point of view. Selfish and egotistical...they don't even respect themselves so of course you'd say that about women. 🤣🤦
Problem with society is no one respects anyone.
Good talk you prove a great point.
@Species 443764 Breen You are talking non-sense. You are the only one here disrespecting a whole section of the population. You are the disrespectful one 😂
Bella Barbee this part really helped me!!
"Recpect is a gift. If somebody wants to give it to you, they will. And if they dont, they dont." ..."You cant force it.. and sometimes, you dont need it."
As they use to say, "you cant claim or demand to respect you,
you can only earn respect... "
My favorite part
@ agreed
I think she didn’t say “sometimes”
@@tzimiz77 yes, you cant change THEM as people, but you can certainly show them ( often without words ) what you are going to allow .....
My mentor was a homicide detective and he always told me to trust my gut “feeling” bc that’s just my brain processing information so quickly that it feels like “intuition” even though it’s usually not
Hi, I've been studying personality for quite some years now. Not officially though. Despite that, I can tell you that current research supports this as a possible real thing. You can look at Jungian Psychology.
Other than that I have similar experiences. And I tell you, if you use that 'feeling' combined with "intuition" its like you have accelerated access to more distanced relations between information. Unfortunately, it also takes more wisdom to manage as it brings more insecurity. (In the beginning those combined skills will fail to synergize and contradict each other instead. Just keep going you'll get better at it as you go. )
Wise mentor to realise and correlate.
The other interesting aspect of this idea is that people who grew up in abusive household were forced to learn to “read people” as a survival mechanism. A that skill grows... sometimes it becomes a “human lie detector” type of skill.
@@msc8382 interesting take about "in the beginning those combined skillsets will fail to synergize and contradict each other instead". Never seen in that way, it explains a lot of things that i had questioned about myself before
It's actually your whole nervous system, which does include the brain. But our gut and heart are part of a biological feedback system which understands your environment before your brain does, and before you become consciously aware of the precise reasons behind what you're feeling.
But thet is the very definition on "intuition".
"I fail a lot.. yeah failure is my superpower, the more I fail the more resilient I become and the less afraid I am of it.." BOOM
If only we all could understand this concept! This chatter is important I'm 47 and if I only knew! Hoping all the young girls that become women get this asap! Thank you for sharing! You are awesome!
Out of all this convo, you found a cliche one yo quote? 🤦🏻♂️
Stole my line
Wow I love your comments
Boom
Often times being "underestimated" works to your advantage.
Ive always lived by that! Glad you commented😎🙏
I'd much rather be underestimated than overestimated
As a psychopath, can confirm
Idiot! It's MISUNDERESTIMATING 😜
@@RoninDreamer God damn. This person possibly is one
Wow. This is probably one of the most influential interviews I’ve ever watched. She just schooled me on so many levels. She is goals at life.
She schooled me as well. Listened to this video three times
I have ADHD and this interview is the first that I listened to without getting distracted and needing to rewatch to understand.
I love her so much.
GURRRRRL ME TOO!!!!!!💯💯💯💯💕💕💕💕💕💕
Mood
ADHD'er love understanding people :D
Flickan Rimsky I can relate. Kept my attention the entire time!
Saaaame!
How refreshing! A woman who knows who she is , her strength and her values. Great role model for all of us girls!
"Weak people push other people down so that they can feel stronger" - great quote, for all of life, for anyone! Im only 15 minutes in and loving this advice. Be likeable but dont make being liked the goal, also great.
But after those 15 minutes they to back to their insecure self hatred selves😉
@@cauha12 pardon me?
@@sheilajac what i said was about those weak people who try to push others down, because deep down they are miserable
@@cauha12 oh really, what's with the "wink"? ps here's a link to her most recent video, linked at what I feel is the best part of this one - personas to be careful of: ua-cam.com/video/FmMTb2lF7jM/v-deo.html
@@sheilajac whats wrong with the wink?
The best 52 minutes I've invested on. I will continue to replay this video from time to time to really absorb everything she said. Such an intelligent and articulate woman.
Lili Rodas amazing to hear! So glad you invested 😉❤️👏🏻
Yes! I feel the same way.
That was exactly what I was thought. I would do the same.
Me too
Buy her book then! 😅
I wish it were mandatory for all schools to have at least one talk a month from people like this, there is so much to learn (other than what kids learn at school, which isn't real life lessons). Children and adults need to listen to this talk. Thank you so much!
Jessica Tackett hear that lovely! I think we can all relate. Keep undoing 🙏🏻💜
Bal 💯 parents and schools need to start educating themselves and the children in their care. Let’s break the cycle! 👏🏻💪🏻❤️
Bal I like this idea so much !
So very true
When I was in elementary school maybe middle school I can remember having speakers but that was 30 years ago!!!! I agree that they would totally benefit from a speaker such as her!!!
"failure is my super power-the more I fail the more resilient I become --the less afraid of it I become." Priceless
Im a guy and i feel empowered as a women after watching this
Tangeni Shikukutu BOOM!! Welcome!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Haha 👍👍👍
It's called gay
Tangeni Shikukutu I love your comment. Made me smile. Thanks
RIGHT ON BROTHER!!!!!!
Hearing a woman saying that starting with the "I'm a woman" mindset being a negative from the start is so bloody refreshing. Jesus.
Yeah. Any label is limiting. We can be limitless!
I used to be you but now ive got a billion dollar company
Ben Gnaden Gee, so do I ha ha ha.
Exactly!
@@tula__ If someone is something, it isnt a label. Her being a woman in that field wasn't a label, it is what she is and it wasn't and isn't a negative or a hindrance.
Notice how her character changed when she talked about failure being her superpower? That was her emotional side breaking out. The way she looked down and smiled is what we do when we're remembering something specific. She's probably remembering a time of her life which she failed so hard it forced her to wake up. She's grateful for the experience of that event because it fortified her. We must look at all our failures this way.
Her eyes also watered and she had a more sincere expression which would convert hardships.
@@autumnnights6414 l LP pl
I absolutely love that she gives permission to leave a situation without guilt or shame. This is my go to for healthy coping with PTSD. I’ve given myself permission to leave a situation and I always make sure I have an “out” and that my freedom / mobility is not in the hands of another person.
Amen
Great idea for any situation. I practice this always for physical safety and to never lose control of any situation.
Yes💯💯💯
This!!
She's authentic; focusing on being her best self and her goals, rather than what others think. There is no other way to live, in my opinion. Way to go!
Excellent job by the interviewer as well!
Amy Maier 🙏🏻🙌🏻❤️
Amy Maier yes!! 🔥
Except that her natural greek hair color is not blond!
@@jenniferthom4066 more power to her, for coloring her hair as she desires!😊
I was just pointing out use of the word "authentic"- (genuine, true, natural origin, un-altered)
Insanely strong person. Her attitude is everything and it was probably 90% of her achievements and success. Great job Lisa and her team for this guest.
Olga Anisimova thank you sweetie 😊💕
I'm honored to witness these beautiful, intelligent women 🙏
Yamileh R. 🙏🏻❤️
@@yamilehr.5269 yeah...she was GREAT...i loved it ..
Olga Anisimova I agree 100%! I hope I get the chance to interview her one day
Don't ask, "How do I want this person to feel about me?" but rather, "What is the outcome I want from receive from this interaction?"
That's high level training I respect. That kind of thinking can come in useful on both professional and intimate levels.
Sure that’s not manipulating.
Or creating narcissism without self awareness.
Chelsea Smile exactly!! Love that point!
Doug G ex’s! That’s what o was thinking! Grade minds? How are employing it with coronavirus?
She’s remarkable. I can’t get enough of her honest conversations
Stumbled upon this video and did not think I would watch till the end, yet here I am 50 minutes in. Great content and a stunning intellectual.
Time flew by.
same same
The same here
Marquisha Sparkes me too girl
omg I didn't even know it was 52 minutes long until I read your comment
It’s okay to be rude, to get to safety, if you have a gut feeling that something is wrong. Thinking about it now, I feel pretty stupid that I put my not being rude above my safety. Needed to hear this
I know exactly what you mean... It is absolutely absurd the way we as women are willing to risk our own safety for the sake of possibly offending someone. Unfortunately I have been guilty of this so many times, but I've learned to get better the older I get. Some times our God-given "spidey-senses" might be off skew a bit, but 9 times out of 10 they're pretty dead on accurate. We mustn't be afraid of offending someone who is giving us an "off feeling" about them. The worst thing that can happen is that we were wrong and we'll need to apologize - but at least we will be alive and unharmed to do so.
Thats so so true! It's okay to not be nice sometimes.
Interesting, I've never feared being rude if I were uncomfortable. But I think that's because I had experience with some very bad people at a very young age.
I know! When she said that I thought of quite a few dangerous situations I have put myself in .... Yikes if I only knew then what I know know..
I'm on the fence about this in terms of clarity....what does one mean by 'rude'??? Is ignoring someone 'rude' vs thinking we have to be confrontational? There's this weird spinning off on this advice for women to be pushy. I mean if some guy I don't like is talking to me I look another way and appear genuinely distracted but if he approaches me in a threatening manner and he's just bigger than me I'm not about to be stupid n think being mouthy is enough....because it may only be enough to get your bell rung like an idiot🤷♀️
I start moving and looking for exit strategies not ways to act stupidly big n bad *ss when I'm just not.
Evy is such a freakin BOSS! That energy is so assertive yet it also communicates, "I don't have time for your shit and I don't know how to beat around the bush" I loved this interview so much!
sidra ahmed 💪🏻💪🏻
She worked with a man that flew 26 times to EPSTEIN ISLAND and we are to TRUST HER? Please. CASE CLOSED BOOM. I WIN THE INTUITION AWARD for today.
Evie has changed my life by just watching two of her interviews. she’s truly helped me step into my power again after an extremely abusive relationship.
Right there is the utmost poster girl for "beauty and brains".
everybody has a different view on what is beautiful.
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And brawn! She looks like she can kick anybody's ass!!
A.T. Here I don’t typically find white pple attractive but she is striking.
@@EB-ok3io
Shes half Greek, maybe that's why you suddenly like a 'white' girrŕl ?
She's like so many 'whites', including me a blend, people think is 100% white , I'm not
Some might say I look French or Spanish, but I'm halfway Italiano
Everyone thinks I'm 100% white, it's presumptuous
You don’t learn anything when things are going right. You learn when things are hard.
True
I’m getting hard just thinking about it
@@MrTrda 🤨🤔🤭😂🙌🤦🏽♂️
This i find interesting. I learn stacks when things are going right...like..."ooooh...things are going right...how did i do that?..and get here......must remember to repeat that..somehow.
HA HA HA HAAAAH!!....nice one TROY.
Evy is amazing. Articulate, confident and knows what she's talking about. And so was the interviewer... asking the right things and not interrupting. Loved it.
She’s not “the interviewer”, she’s Lisa Bilyeu. My gosh! This is her show.
Often show hosts don't know how to interview. They like to hear themselves talk and think it's their show. This showhost is interviewing her guest with the intent to get information from her guest that will help others. That is exactly why she is a good interviewer and a good host. Guests don't want to be on a show where they can't share the information they were invited to share.
I naturally pay attention to body language, intuition, their social media accounts, listen, etc this is how I base my judgement of someone. It isn’t that we don’t all lie, we do, but what you lie about says everything about someone.
Presenting yourself 13:28 Influence towards goal 15:35 Self Assessment 21:36 Introduce a disrepute 23:40 Intuition (gut instincts) 25:12 Researching 6th Sense 27:20 Plan & Preparation/Training for the 'What If' 28:08 Embracing Confrontation 29:55 How to Confront without the Battle 33:20
Body Language, Verbal Language, Para-linguistics 34:50 - continued discussion throughout interview
Examples of Interviews 37:00 Listen to People (open ended questions) 38:10 Assumptions (Confirmation Bias) 39:10 Knowing when someones lying (study human behavior) 41:30 Myth 'Look me in the eye' 43:30 Lying through Omission 44:40 Saying 'I' a lot 45:10 Lying and being Vague 46:00 Learn people (Empathy) 46:30 Put yourself in their place 46:53 Superpower - Failure 47:36
Thank you
Thank you
Tysm!
Thank you
"Weak people put other people down so they can feel stronger" - So true - see it for what it is and recognize it is a reflection of the other person and not of you. Remember who you are and don't let anybody dim your shine in your mind. Never give the power of your self away. When you know your worth and all that is great about you - you have the mental strength to validate yourself - you don't need to prove your worth or argue your value to some third-person who will never know you as well as you know yourself - thank you
Thank you!!!
AMEN TO THIS 🙏🏼
"If you're blaming everything that's going wrong outside of you. . . You're not being you." Personal responsibility requires emotional maturity.
This channel is my daily ritual, I clean, cook, relax listening to these interviews. I feel empowered and prepared and SAFE in this virtual space you’ve created, and for that I am eternally grateful. I will continue to support you and the women and men that participate to cultivate this incredible community! Thank you so much Lisa and team ❤️
Oh Lord, she is breathtaking: her attitude, intelligence! Such a powerful woman on every level!
you must be surrounded by real dumbasses then if she is breathtaking.
What is SOO powerful about her??? What a joke.
damn i smell jelousness ;)
Wow, some bitter folks under this comment... 👀😂😂😂
Some slimy, slimy people in this comment section. I guess “self-control” is not in your vocabulary. Ok. We get it.
This is complete validation! lol I'm a therapist and I teach these principles to my adolescents and teens in middle school ("Know Your Audience" so they can anticipate reactions; "Use your intuition" for protection from dangers in life and not silence it; "Disagree Tactfully" so you can have a conversation of differing opinions and not an argument, listen to LEARN not to ARGUE and be RIGHT because they may give information that triggers a shift for you.) YES!! Reframing is also a therapeutic technique I teach parents (You can yell all their flaws at them or you can acknowledge their mistake and talk to them about how and why to make a different choice)
Shea McMillan amazing lessons!! 👏❤️
I'm glad that someone with your reach is digesting this type of information to use in your work. You're making a difference in young people's lives. Even if the nuggets you initially share come to the surface years later, you are planting the seeds now.
@@quickgirl80 Thank you! I appreciate hearing that. I have definitely come to learn that I may not always see the fruits of my labor, but if I can plant some good seeds and let life and others finish watering and cultivating them, I’ve done my part😌 (And I use that phrase all the time! It’s what keeps me sane in the hard days! lol)
It’s so great that you are teaching teens to listen to that inner voice or ‘gut’ or intuition! It is a valuable life skill that can be life saving. Additionally, to not be afraid to act on that feeling - meaning don’t be afraid to look crazy for a moment. For example, when I was about 17 I had to walk home after work at a fast food restaurant. We lived in a very, very rough area, but we were very poor and I had two after school and weekend jobs. So I took whatever shifts were offered. One night I helped close and started walking home at 11pm. Suddenly I realized three guys following me and cat calling. Then I noticed they were closing the distance between us. It felt like a pack of wolves getting closer. Just as they got within 10 feet of me I notice two adult young men about 20 feet ahead. I had never see them before, but called out, ‘hey guys wait up! You are supposed to be walking me home!’ with a cheery voice. They turned around surprised and laughed as I started jogging towards them. They had stopped to watch this strange teenager in her silly uniform coming towards them. The wolf pack stopped and then turned a corner. I never made it to the two young men, as they laughed again and went on their way. Yet, I am sure that I saved myself from being harmed that night. That was the first time I trusted my gut and took action. I wish I had done that when I was younger, as it may have saved me from being raped across the street from the apartments where we lived - in broad daylight.
@@diannrogers5464 I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I got goosebumps reading your story.
There’s not a dull moment in this episode. This is something I would like to come back to time and again
Elvina Fernandes wow! Thank you 🙏🏻💕
I really appreciate her letting her talk without interrupting constantly, great interview!
Wow, I came across this video by accident. It's like the universe led me to this video for a reason.
EMPOWERING WOMEN! AMEN!
#impact
Same here! I needed this message at for sure. :)
To any men or women who care about men that see this and feel a little down because it seems everyone thinks that excluding men from people who should be empowered, or given aid, or shown empathy towards, know that it isn't everyone. I for one favor the idea of caring about, empathizing with, and providing aid to men as well, and recognize that excluding them from these things is a form of discrimination, and that it isn't fair or right.
@@MrJuliopolis that was not my intention to exclude men.
The only times I’ve gotten into trouble or had bad results is when I don’t trust my gut.
Exactly!!
True.
You should never trust your gut, only trust Jesus Christ! He never lied, trusted His gut, sought after material gain, etc. He was God in human flesh, but NEVER sinned. People need to follow Him, not any man! I speak from experience. God bless you
Yup!!
!!!!! FOR REAL
INCREDIBLY IMPRESSIVE.
I`ve watched hundreds, maybe thousands of interviews and speeches about psychological topics... So many people out there giving their 2 cents on what they think they know about human psychology and she just handed us a whole f*** DOLLAR.
WOW!!!!
Stiliani Fakidaraki BOOOOM!! 💥💪🏻🙌🏻🔥
Absolutely agree, this interview was so amazing, so much to learn, so clever and well explained!!!
Absolutely agree!
Silence is the loudest response towards ignorance ( my quote) 🎯 I love her! Just ordered her 📕
I love how the interviewer reflects back what has been said and clarifies, instead of pushing an agenda
She is an excelleng interviewer who not only listens but adds interesting elements to the conversation
This woman is not only stunning, classy & articulate, but also brilliant! I learned a lot. Thank you for this amazing interview.
i would like her to piss on me!
Afgan No3 😐
Afgan No3 wtf
yes we exist
I have been "binging" on TED talks and old Oprah interviews the past few weeks, trying to keep my mind focused on something not related to COVID19... This is by far the most interesting and useful talk I have watched.
Danielle Bissonnette amazing!!! So glad you thought so and thanks for commenting 💪🏻
You should look at Jordan Peterson, he has some amazing video’s imo on YT ☺️
Danielle Bissonnette , look up some George Webb videos. He’s an investigative journalist who travels around getting information on criminals.
Oprah is the devil, it's better to watch healthy content like this. Oprah is connected to "John of God"... That's very bad! If you want something to listen to that's full on wholesome and helpful look up (Mel Robbins). She is the bomb!!! 🙏👌💃🔥💯
@@annafrances5118 yes yes!!! I came here to say the same thing!!!
My favorite phrase from this entire interview has got to be " even people who don't mean to harm us, harm us" soooooooo true!!!
@Chorus Frog ?
@Chorus Frog I mean I appreciate the sentiment behind what you're saying but one thing doesn't follow from the other. The fact that SOME people harm other people without knowing it does NOT mean that ALL OF US are harming someone without knowing it. But again, I appreciate the sentiment, it's never a bad idea to double check whom we might be harming w/o knowing it.
Evy is like a real-life Disney princess, her eyes are incredibly beautiful. This is the kind of person I look up to! I deeply admire her skill and intelligence. We need more people like her in the world! 💗
BeckyLoves Bucky I agree, I find her so stunning and undoubtably intelligent too.
she is like one, not literally :)
More idol worship in action. Your doing what they are teaching you to not do.
@@mjrotondi5086 😅😅😅
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Just because you know someone is lying, does not mean they will actually tell you the truth.
BushPiG0 Also, as she stated, don’t jump to assume the reason they are lying (the drug reference, the assumption it’s them doing drugs but it could be something else, like a loved one that they care about and makes it an uncomfortable subject for them).
What if they know, that you know, that they are lying
Just because it rains, doesn't mean I'll get wet.
yes its not hard to know that someone os lying but its hard to prove that they are lying & have them accepted with proofs .
Lisa is so admirable. She tops any network news interviewer. She is strong, humble and naturally beautiful in and out.
As a child I was told how I should think and feel, so I learned not to trust my instincts. As a result, I've spent most of my life doubting myself, and over thinking everything. It's been a slow, painful learning process. I like her 24 hour rule of responding vs. reacting. My gut feelings have never been wrong.
J. Skye Phoenix completely feel this! Has been a painful journey but one of the most beautiful as well :) good luck with your journey ✨
@@watsupgirl7 Thankyou. Good luck to you as well ❤
Sometimes we don't have the luxury of waiting to deal with a conflict, though. In retail you can't just walk away from an angry customer, and you are limited in what you are allowed to say to them to get them to calm down, too. I'd like to ask Evy for tips in situations like that.
Yes same! We had a rough start but we can get better guys 💪🏾
She is absolutely amazing!! "The more I fail the more resilient I become!"
Which is not true. Imagine she would never had a job and failed in everything she did would you listen to such a person? I guess this just sounds nice to those who are not thinking...
@@nachtschicht7276 Crisis let you see a person's true color.
This is the type of class I would have LOVED going into back in school: the basics of life, interactions, relationships, trusting your gut feeling, how to over come fear and or confrontation. Just to name a few and to have HER as my teacher.
Every second of this interview was “FIRE!” Just to quote interviewer! 😉👍🏽
Yess I’d love to take a class like this
Wow. What a woman. 20 mins in and I already know that I’m watching this for a second time, just to make sure that what she says here goes in properly.
This is real education.
Oh my goodness this was in my recommended and I almost didn't click on it and I'm just so glad I did. This woman is remarkable.
olivia 🙏🏻🙌🏻💕
Wow I was so upset , just watching this made me calm down and realize my ego was in the way and the goal . And never self checked myself. Thank you
Nawa Muyatwa pleasure! Glad it resonated ❤️
Nawa Muyatwa wet
@@anthonyramirez2576 ???
Nicely done
...and something worthwhile...thanks
Nawa Muyatwa If that is you in your profile girl you are beautiful. very nice skin.
The discourse on your sixth sense is validating. There were many times when I lived in Chicago where I had a gut feeling and I removed myself quickly from a situation. I always thought, well maybe I'm being paranoid, but you know what? I'm still here.
Woha! Beeing surrounded with sociopats or narcissist for years teaches you similar knowledge. What a Gift of Strenght! when you are not entangled.
Adele love, I was thinking exactly same thing. Actually what Evy is saying could be used in interactions with a narcisist or psychopath.
@@ich6636 Yes! And such a worthwhile but hard lesson to learn. Its actually (in the end) empowering and helps build mental strenght. Thank you. That was really uplifting to reflect upon.
Yes! I was thinking the same thing.
Totally agree being around narcissists as a child is it’s own form of boot camp if you get through it ok
At 27 gut feeling is your guardian angel protecting you. Listen to it. It works for all aspects of our lives. Greek mama bear here very proud of both of you.
" because when you're lying there's so much more you have to remember " OMG let that sentence simmer in your brain a bit. That's real deep!!
"Failure is my superpower." Thank you, Evy.
As a midshipman at the naval academy I love seeing the parallels between her training and the training in the military. Putting people under stress in controlled environments, making them get comfortable being uncomfortable, and developing mental resilience are all things the training shares. She is amazing and spot on about being a woman in a male dominated field! You simply perform and let your actions speak for you
but women shouldn’t have to do that. they should just be accepted already, period.
Dang. I want to read the comments, but the conversation is tooo interesting.
Same!
My dad always told me to stand back and listen without saying a word and you will learn alot. This has proven true in some many different situations in my 39 years.
Same here! It's great isn't it.
@@Amy_Stanmore Yes!
When she said her super power was failure it brought tears to my eyes it’s such a powerful and positive way to change the narrative definitely getting her book 💜
I wish someone like her would have been my role model when I was younger
This woman has given me a 30 year life lesson in this 52 minute 5 second video. This is the definition of street smart (Harlem) and book smart combined in one. Her eye contact is captivating::.and she’s beautiful too. This the new definition of Triple Threat! I for sure underestimated her when I clicked on this video.
I love this woman and I'm only 20 minutes in and she's gorgeous too! I'm a therapist and she is giving great info in general...
Lisa Wascher so glad you’re enjoying it 😊👏🏻🙌🏻❤️
@@LisaBilyeu you're gorgeous too of course 😍
Lisa Wascher 😘
Lisa Wascher sane here! I thought to myself wow, she knows her stuff. As soon as she said “it’s not about me”, I knew she was the real deal
The vagueness is so true... someone who's lying is extremely vague.
Melvin Lombard They also distant themselves, speak from a 3rd person perspective and sometimes offer way too much info and seemingly just ramble on (when details are completely unnecessary). For example: Q = Did you eat? A = Pizza, thin crust with pepperoni, extra cheese and a robust sauce. It took a long long long time to get they were super busy, but the waitress a girl named Jessica, was really friendly and apologized for the wait. Did I mention it was thin crust? It was incredibly delicious, we really should go there together sometime. I can’t remember the name of the place, but it was pretty good... and not really that busy. So how was your day? (Notice the over the top response and inconsistencies)
@@GhostSal I completely agree, they projectile vomit information that's not relevant, they have no conscience of what's right or wrong, they just go on and on... like I've officially had it with these people. Parents and family sometimes believe they have a free pass for twisting the facts to suit their narrative. I can still tolerate people who lie casually because it's clearly got to do with themselves and their reality, but people who lie to cause malicious damage to someone's character are trash, they are so far detached from reality that they lie so skillfully and convincingly. As they carry on with their deceitfulness you can see their minds working, the incessant talking, vagueness of whatever BS they are concocting as they go along, unoriginal and usually a projection or regurgitation of their own insecurities, twisting the true version of events. I mean if you're going to lie, atleast make it original, and don't you dare point them out a contradictory statement made previously, they'll tell you you're the lier. I'm dealing with this psycho and who I personally believe is not mentally well 🙄
or extremely specific and detail oriented
This comment thread: A person who is vague is lying. Also this comment thread: A person who is specific is lying. I'm never trusting anyone ever again
Nsikelelo Mthembu Lol, too much info and inconsistencies are what you’re looking for (not just specifics). Also, body language is part of it too, you have to look for and recognize clues.
I love all interviews with Evy, she represents everything I admire and respect in people. Thank you for inviting her to the studio.
I’m an intuitive empath, so I read people immediately. I have an instant feeling about people upon meeting them. If something isn’t right with them, my spidey sense ramps up! Bless her heart, Evy worked with evil administrations from both parties. I’ve watched several of Evy’s videos and she’s pure badassed-ness! I’ve heard things I already knew and learned some valuable information! Evy is a wealth of information. My super power is chronic illness of over 10 yrs. Pain is an amazing teacher. All love to both of you, in oneness! 🙏🏻💞🕊🕊
I feel like I was brought to this video at the perfect time in my life!
Trina 🙌🏻
Me 2
The interviewer is such an empath. I want to hug her. haha
Yeah, she's the kind of woman you want to be friends with.
She is Lisa Bilyeu - famous in her own right. Better learn about her...
She truly is!
She just knows the interviewee all too well. And yes like some said, research on her.
Look ima be honest I can’t relate I’m not a fan and I really wanna get through this whole video but I’m so sick of hearing “I love that”
she is so tough , resilient and so authentic.. i almost see her tear when she narrated about her ex. she is a role model for how genuine empathic people can build up resilience and emotional strength and survive the world that is becoming dominated by cluster b folks... phew...
love and more power to her..
She's right. It's all about listening and observing. Understanding others instead of projecting.
Probably the first time the UA-cam algorithm suggested something deep and meaningful.
If this is the case for you, you most likely aren’t seeking out the right content and creators. I see the most wonderful, inspiring and insightful content, suggested to me daily. I have so many videos on my watch later list. I can’t keep up with all this empowering and often mind blowing stuff. I also end up on other platforms that don’t censor like UA-cam is renowned for. You will most likely find better content on subjects such as this, elsewhere but in the same breath, UA-cam has enough fantastic content to keep you going for several lifetimes. You just have to seek it out and subscribe and get notifications to the channels/creators who provide the content which best aligns with your interests, beliefs and stimulates your mind. Also interact on topics which really peak your interest. Hopefully the UA-cam algorithms have been kinder to you.
@@livvyjos you should consider to name those other plateformes where they are no MSM you tube , face book ,etc restrictions of any sort of .., thank you 🙏🏾
...love this... my grandmother always told me that the first impression is the only impression...
Cassandra Diane boom!!
Correct!
This is the second video of this channel I've watched (so far). I listen to mostly podcasts and interviews and I ADORE how this host doesn't interrupt even once.
Its usually the other persons energy that doesn't feel right with ours and your energy gives you that ''gut feeling'' that there is something not right..
this woman took over the interview with her confidence
I agree so much on the confrontation part. I learned this by working as a nurse on a Psychiatric unit. You let patients vent, that's energy. Once the patient is calm, you can speak openly and as far as my experience works with 90% of the patients and it avoids unnecessary restrictions/use of medication and provides a space to rapport-empathize with the person. I love my job. 😊
Mistic Selene, I can see you love your job you know how to treat vulnerable people ,wish we had more empathetic people nursing .
She worked with a man that flew 26 times to EPSTEIN ISLAND and we are to TRUST HER? Please. CASE CLOSED BOOM. I WIN THE INTUITION AWARD for today.
So great I found your channel! Thanks to all your guests. I had a "feeling" while walking alone and switched over to the side. He followed. I walked into a pub and explained the situation. Sat awhile and was walked home. Next day the news reported a serial rapist/killer matching the description of last night's stalker.
Damn! Downloaded. Listening to this every morning until believing this is as effortless as breathing.
Same girl
Well done, ladies 🌺
Same! Downloaded immediately.
Sameee
I was just thinking of listening to this again after it finished. I think you just helped me decide to do it.
She hooked me up on the first compasses of the conversation with the stress explanation. Basically what she said was something like "coping with stress is an intangible muscle that needs working, work it because everntually you'll need it strong"
Cliff's note: "what does not kill me, makes me stronger ". F. Nietzsche.
Yes yes yes fantastic interview! Women in general are taught to be "nice", not to come off as rude or cause any commotions. We're more worried over what some stranger might think, someone that we've never met before and will probably never see again, then trusting our own intuition.
YES I was followed at Night By a man, instead of Running away which was my instinct I walked. He suddenly attacked me. Luckily he didn’t get to rape me because I screamed and neighbors opened their windows so he run away.
Dana Müller wow! Thank you for sharing and glad you’re ok! ❤️
They wont care what you think and be ready to treat you bad and walk away without batting an eye.
I love the way she perceives failure. It’s AMAZINGGG
"There's one common denominator, me. If something goes wrong -- I ask myself what could I have done differently or what could I have done to change the outcome because I can't control what another person does but I can fully control myself."
Very good. The bad people had to change. We had to stop bad behavior.
WOW the interviewer is SKILLED in listening!!!! I really enjoyed this! Also, loved the interviewee
I agree!
Lisa Bilyeu is her name. It’s her show.
Self assessment is such an important factor to her success.
Two ways I would suggest to fast track this is Journalling and Meditation.
Nobody will lie to you more than yourself.
Thank you so much for this amazing interview Lisa!
Lachlan McFarlane I totally agree. I haven’t been able to reach that state of calmness and spaciousness that meditation is known for. But my biggest aha moments usually happen when I meditate.
Lina _ I do the same thing!
You are an amazing interviewer. You let her talk and educate us. Thank you for doing this series
One of the best interviews I have ever seen! The interviewer let the guest speak and give her knowledge and experience. The guest gave wisdom that can apply to anyone. Smart people on both sides of this event. Kudos!
You are spiritually gifted ❤🙏😘
True I love her interviews
I taught my children to always trust their gut feelings. I call it our early warning system from God. If you feel uncomfortable get away from that person, place ,or thing! It has worked so well for them that they have trained their friends to do the same! I know that I have avoided some really scary situations because I didn’t second guess my gut instincts!
Good!!
Yes!!! Gavin DeBecker talks about this in his book The Gift if Fear. I give that book to all my friends daughters and the young women in my life when they go off to college and/or move from home.
*The Gift of Fear
She's so real, no acting, just authentic
Notes:
1) Moving chair
2) Don't tell people you are the boss
3) Knowing your audiences and adjust to them. We have different versions of us depending on our audience
4) Look does matter. Esp for those people who don't know us. They make 1st impression of us within 5 seconds and it is hardly reversible if it is negative
5) Assess our goal, and communicate to get to the goal
6) Goal is not for people to like or fear us. Instead, we can accomplish if we are competent and WARM. Not cold
7) Pull out the good quality in people, then only they will highly co-operate
8) Don't take it personally when people lie to us. Don't say that people lie to me coz I am xxxxx.. Instead they lie coz of their ownself. They might want to protect themselves,etc.
9) Walk away from situation that make us angry. Don't react. Don't be repulsive. Wait for 24 hour. Don't send that email or text until 24 hours. Introduce a disruptor. Go somewhere else. Do something else. Do something to distract fron continue thinking about that situation
10) Follow your gut feeling!
11) Do not avoid confrontation. Embrace it. "I hear you. I disagree with you and here's why.." let them scream, let them become a fool, we just sit on our chair. SOMEONE IS YELLING AT ME, SO WHAT?? SOMEONE IS CONFRONTING ME, SO WHAT? Think like that
12) In the confrontation process, don't yell at people at talk to them like they are garbage. Avoid calling people rape, liar.. Instead ask, hey, did u hurt her? Did you take that money?
13) Listen to people. 80q listen, 20q talk
14) Do not make assumption or else we will fall in Confirmation Bias. We only listen to what we want and turn it to be something we have assumed earlier.
15) How to know if someone is lying? Body language, looking at they eye or not, omission (leaving out some info), stalling technique (asking back question). Observe the language they tend to use: often will leave out the 'i' in conversation due to lack of commitment, are they detailed or vague, liars are vague