Intelligent? Intelligent is nothing without knowledge and critical thinking and some talent/ abilities. Its much more but of course very rare- she is smart and wise and insightful. In one word- nice girl xD She is able to understand what I really say... ;) Its very rare.
Really? She’s pleasing on the eyes and ears, and she’s very skilled at attributing certain traits and characteristics to men and women without real grounds to do so. In my experience, women are just as quick to abandon in order to prevent being abandoned, if not more so. And the crucial choice between being a problem creator or problem solver would definitely be a good one to ponder for ALL of us.
Lol. She herself said that if she was left to her own devices she'd make horrible decisions. The between the lines is she knows this from experience making her like most out there. She leans on family, friends, and religion to not do so. Though I will relent the self awareness and leaning into that which keeps her on a good path, or perception that she does instead of doing bad all by herself as most do nowadays is massive.
Sadia is only speaking common sense that existed when traditional values existed. Coming from the eastern culture most of the things she says is nothing new. I love the fact that she is fearlessly speaking out about men and women and without being diplomatic. She is shining light on things society has conveniently forgotten.
A person with an avoidant attachment style also gets critical about one's partner after getting intimate and pull away. It's their coping mechanism to avoid intimacy because intimacy makes them feel uncomfortable. By finding their partner inadequate and diminishing them, they reduce their cognitive dissonance and anxiety. This is why people with an avoidant attachment style tend to prefer polyamory, open relationships, casual sex and one night stands over committed monogamous relationships.
Sadia, Hello, you're wonderful opinion on this subject , we live for the day , yesterday is gone , tomorrow is not here it'll take care of it's self, respecting , honar up lifting person in a relationship , communication these go along way in life , you learned a lot , but wisdom caring come from with in ones self there is one thing that makes you different from the rest and that's right in front of you? Thank you for letting me text .
Wow. She’s is very insightful. The falling in and out of love as a feeling was mind blown ing. She’s so right. Do it for the kids. I coached youth sports for the better part of 20 years and the kids that where problematic often came from divorced parents. It’s sad to see what it does to the kids.
A long-term relationship requires going through a difficult time together with your partner and still not giving up easily. If your relationship survives a hard time you will appreciate your partner more and more.
I would only disagree when it comes to one person completing abusing the trust in the other e.g cheating behind persons back or keeping an important secret from them etc - if trust goes it’s awfully difficult to get that back and you won’t ever get it back 100% … plenty people don’t respect themselves enough and just accept the person back only to regret it several years down the line
Difficult time is not only related to cheating. Life in a relationship is, of course, complex, especially in the long term. There will be ups and downs, and like with anything else, we should put our effort and love to make it work. Children are a blessing for couples, and it is worth fighting for them. They deserve to have parents who love each other and are willing to put them at the top of their priorities. That is what will make our world a better place.
@@InterviewswithEd I agrée on effort whole heartedly but it I personally wouldn’t stick with someone if they abused my trust in a significant way - kids or no kids. I wouldn’t want to be a door mat to anyone.
Let's ask people in a long-term relationship, like 20 or more years. Passion comes and disappears in a different life situation. But a soulmate comes once in a life. We don't have to put our pride on top all the time; sometimes, we must accept the reality, like it or not. It is powerful when you don’t have expectations and, at the same time, do your best. That is a formula. Of course, if nothing doesn't work, we should stop that kind of relationship, but that is usually easy to detect in the first few months and years of a relationship
She is quick as lightening, and sharp as a razor, wise as a snake, but gentle as a dove. Wow, a lady to respect. If anyone thinks that being celibate they are missing out, let me tell you, you are wrong. Learned personal experience: being celibate BY CHOICE gives you power, over your life, and to manifest what you want. You can form connections in other ways, which are much more satisfying and fulfilling. Invest in your self healing, friendships, family, children, career, spirituality, health. Don't throw away your life force. Preserve it and harness it, channel it. When the right person and the right time comes, you will be ready and .... oh dear! It will be magnificent. But if you spend your time chasing pleasures and indulging in quick dopamine shots, you are going to crash and burn out and lose your vitality, and wreck your life, mentally, physically, financially, and relationally.
Why did you choose celibacy? It sounds a bit like denying yourself to the extreme so can enjoy a big reward at the end. If you starve yourself long enough, anything will taste great. What is the lasting reward?
Sadia please write a book on relationships. You have an unique outlook and it needs to be shared with the world. I would be your first customer if you wrote a book.
Yes. Exactly. We no longer value the core parts of human beings. The part of a person who is locked up in their own... mostly preprogrammed indentities... we are all craving genuine connection and we fall short when we lose ourselves in who we think we are supposed to be...we are complete people, no matter what the program is... first critical step to self awareness is identifying who you are and what types of experiences you want...then .. identity if it is a pretty dream or is it achievable in physical reality ...if it is possible...the plan you put forth to achieve it is now able to be formed... you now have the ability to become a wizard in your own life... you... the designer...
Sadia dropped a lot of gems in this one. I've noticed most romantic advice on UA-cam focuses on "dating" (which has various definitions). But I reject dating in the modern sense. No goal. Just sex for men and passing the time for women. Instead of focusing 99.99% on the initial stages of dating, more should be devoted to maintaining healthy happy relationships. I think Sadia is strong in this area.
@@BarredTrader I've been hypercritical of her in the past regarding things like age-gap dating, passport bros and male nature which she has big blindspot about. I noticed that she also attacks and insults, viciously, anyone who happens to disagree with her. I think she got reported and maybe that's why they took down her Instagram page. So probably well deserved. So I understand your feelings. Believe me I went in hard on her. But she was in top form in this video 😂
@mann8098 yeah but shes been defending onlyfans models on this video and host immediately called her out saying that of models knows about the consequences to their children but dont care, shes just beeing very polite to him but i can tell she wasnt very happy with him, she is double faced, i can smell it
She projected many common female faults onto men like she often does right at the beginning. She also goes about telling the guy how men should 'fix themselves'. Any man who's been around the block a couple times can see that one coming from a mile away. She also completely failed on the definition of marriage and what it is for at the beginning. Marriage is for children and family. It is not about love, or forever, or the duty to the other person, it's about children and the raising of them. All of those other things you definitely hope come with it, and they do with work from both sides, but they are NOT the reason for it. She recovered a bit at the end telling the couple to stick together if there are children involved. This woman isn't original, nor correct, much of the time. And an overwhelming number of statistics about failed relationships and marriages bears that wrongheadedness out. She's pretty, can speak well, and has a British accent. Because of that, people are receptive to some of her message. And the part they like has been said by men for more than a decade+ in greater detail and in a more astute way.
“Sex” is all about sharing a deep emotional connecting. I read an amazing book called Tantric Intimacy. Eye gazing, soft touch…like caressing a partners hands, palms, head, face, arms…. Breathing together, inhaling and exhaling in sync with each other, plugging in, things like this! Without care for the finish, but sharing in the journey of just being in the Now with each other. It’s a shame more does care to understand this depth of connection with another human.
I loved when Sadia, a beautiful psychologist, allowed herself to be vulnerable and confessed to having self esteem issues. I suspect it is very common for “therapists” to be able to quickly diagnose everyone else while ironically coexisting in their own blind spots.
The more beautiful the woman, the higher the chance of self esteem issues. I’ve dated a couple super beautiful women in my time and they have the worst issues with self esteem. It is so sad to see and even harder to be the person to help them through their constant self doubt. They almost never see what others see in themselves.
It's often the unfortunate reality for many overly analytical, perfectionist types that still struggle with self esteem stemming from unresolved childhood experiences. "Ask me how I know?" - Garth Brooks @@Guwapo77
Sadia should be the new AI psychologist for every household .. The way you put yourself in.. as not being perfect and relating with the same issues...creates an instant connection for everyone's ears and brain.. I just love listening to you .. always learning something... May the God always Shine on that beautiful face of yours..❤💯🙏
When I was about 40, a young Muslim woman once asked me why I wasn't married. She was new in Europe, so I wasn't sure how to explain it in a way that she could understand. I said, "We have to find our husbands ourselves, without the help of fathers and brothers to help us find decent men." She looked at me so shocked and felt really sad for me and for all western women.
The same happened to me when my teacher said me and my husband we don’t have any faith (non religious) I was about to cry deeply, after that in on other days later, she invited me her home for lunch and she cooked ground beef 🥩 , I asked her is it halal? I can read her face, she was too angry, she replied ‘ when someone invites you, you have to show respect, well I simply said to her am not allowed 🚫 finally she said I respect you faith, what else can I cook for you? I said just vegan 🥗
Everything he described about his life I feel just the same, just him younger and I'm figuring out I can have a life that I want and that it doesn't have to be so hard all the time. I'm about to look up his channel, all the men my age need to hear this, it's so hard doing it on your own, there's no other choice, but knowing there's other people like this in your shoes is relieving, right now I don't feel so crazy, weird or broken anymore. i am definitely going to watch the video in full.
She’s amazing. She’s the reason I quit porn a month ago and it’s been amazing. I heard her speak about the harms of watching porn in a video. I hope a lot more people get the help they need watching her videos.
If you can make it at your age between wet dreams with no other relief, you are amazing. Especially if sex drive is wicked and just goes away once you stop using it. A breakthrough in human physiology, I would imagine.
@@sadiapsychologyTy sooooo much for your answers. Wow did it all hit home. My ex is a pornhead and I've felt its the cause of his inability to live in real life. So pleasant to hear you a professional confirming that. Ty🌻
If only the people getting married knew that. And it can't be sacred if the government is involved. Plus, males more than females don't understand what is sacred.
This woman gets it. We men will self sabotage because we 50/50 love our freedom. Some men are all in and some are good being on there own. Nothing wrong with it but you do need to recognize it and if you are going to change what you want and need you will need to alter your habits and thought process to move forward for the best.
@@jayextermapest765 I simply mean that western countries (especially Western European ones) no longer have a religious worldview. This make it difficult to apply relationship advice predicated on religious views in those places. In fact, most western nations have substituted relationships for religions, which makes applying such advice even more difficult.
Sadia’s ability to delve deeper into her psyche publicly is outstanding. Love her transparency and vulnerability in the advent of hypercritical mindsets & expectations in society. No one can bash you if you’ve swallowed YOUR truth pills. Refreshing conversation once again.#Growth #RawandReal
Absolutely agree. Sex with my ex was the most dehumanizing because I literally felt like he got off on degrading me during sex. He was constantly online, watching porn and would police my phone and go through the history to see what I was watching.....divorcing him gave me back my self esteem and my life back....
@ 13:00 - They key (and purpose) to life is serving God The God of The Holy Bible) and others. Our lives aren't about us. Serving others is the key and purpose to life.
Every woman will choose someone she feels that has higher value than her so in other words. All women that find you unattractive just think of themselves as higher value than you.
What about having wonderment, like kids together. What's with all this value shit. It's all assumption. Short-sightedness. Imagine having the time of your life because you're not shut off to all that can be.
@@moee_thyself All they need is is wallet. Fact that most young women almost universally go for the hot guys tells you all you need to know about genuine desire and attraction. It's only when women realize that they can't retain these kind of men that they just opt for a guy that can offer them financial stability but the problem is that most women lack the genuine desire for those kind of men which can lead to infidelity down the road. I see that a lot of the blame gets pushed on men but women also need to be more up front about what their true intentions are. There are tons of women with men that they don't really like because they offer them financial stability and that in itself is a problem for long-term relationships.
Thank you very much for this great podcast ! Pornography destroys people's brain ! 😡😡 This is something that i learn ! It's a very bad and dangerous addiction. We people need to replace bad addiction with good addictions like moving your body, eating healthy, reading, writing, praying to God, taking care of your apparence and hygiene, listening to great podcast like this one and so much more good addictions ! God bless you Sadia Khan for this podcast ! 😃
Did this dude just say "I love fucking hard, maybe that's my downfall." Wtf? Im guessing that means something different in UK or Ireland than in America. Because that seems really forward statement that only works in a porn podcast, not a.dating podcast.
Marriage is a joint venture and takes work like everything else. We need to see the good in others and take accountability for our own baggage and heal from it. All Our answers lie inside of us. A wounded person cannot heal with a partner who is also wounded.
My ex girlfriend recently broke up with me because she discovered my porn addiction. After realizing and experiencing the damages it caused me and the people I love, I never consumed that poison again. I wish I could turn back time and stopped this addiction as soon as I could. I wasted a high value woman because I was a degenerate.
"Im a complicated man" "I wear my hear lt on my sleeve" "I come with a lot of baggage" "I know my worth" .... All I heard was "Im just another basic run of the mill traumatized delusional person"
Exactly. All I heard from him was, "I'll create drama all the time." I swear, modern man got it wrong. No wonder women don't want to follow them. For me it's simple. Be a man and lead, and make her be a woman. Cooking for you, taking care of the house and whatnot. She will stick around.
@lutherjacob You shouldn't have to make anyone do anything. If she doesn't immediately fall into that roll for you.. either you're not full filing your role... or she wasn't raised right. Ive never had to tell any woman in my life what to do. The one's that haven't naturally fallen into that role get replaced expeditiously lol
As a born and raised Californian, i grew up thinking that arranged marriage was the worst kind of abuse. Now i am old enough to realize, looking at the wreckage of failed marriages strewn across the landscape, that arranged marriages are really just filtered marriages, where wholly unsuitable pairings are avoided earlier. The statistics are overwhelmingly in favor of arranged marriages; as Sadia points out, it is about the duty to the relationship that allows things to last a long time. My goodness her hair is so beautiful. Indian women have the most luxurious hair on the planet. It is no accident that every black performer tends to use extensions from India.
It depends on how you define the word 'arranged'. If we are talking about family introducing you to people who prima facie have things in common with you, but without any pressure to marry them, then it might work. But when force or pressure is involved, it is abusive.
I think as we get older and we’ve had a lot of trauma from relationships, we will tend observe the traits that hurt us previously and we are not prepared to go there again .
Sadia, we;re usually not interested in "high value" women! As long she looks good, fit and nice. She's in even if she works as a gas station! I doubt if a girl like you would date a handsome cashier at my local gas station.
In every interview this woman has always quick responses and answers to every question. My question is whether that is all read knowledge or is she speaking more or less from experience? Anyhow, as a 43 y.o. male I have to admit, I like listening to her even though she is NOT always on the side of the truth. I always wonder how people like her behave and think when situations they talk about, apear in their own lifes/relationships.... Interesting woman, also attractive
"she is NOT always on the side of the truth" Thanks ! Happy to read a man who didn't fall for all that comes out of her mouth ! 👌🙏 because it started to make me sick...
@jarkachalmovianska7812 I watched plenty of her videos and in every one she has theories which she is very confident of, maybe even cocky, but NOT all she claims are facts. Just because you might "dig" her, doesn't mean she knows everything- she is to young for that. Not every claimed reason why women or men do what they do have the basis in her reasoning....I don't 100% believe people who are as cocky as she is
Please Sadia, would you make a video for women how to keep going respecting their boundaries and their very true self and needs (even though the society nowadays has changed so much)? ❤ I love your content and I am really grateful finding you in YT
Sadia Khan is a great example of a what a modern woman can be like, think like, communicate like. She is blessed and every woman can learn from her. Her belief system of Islam is like her Jedi inner strength. I have started looking into Islam and the power of belief in a single God and how to live a complete 💯 satisfied life. Having read the Quran its like a user guide on a way of life. The religion seems to have been misrepresented by the media, and Sadia Khan inspired me to find out more about it. The way she speaks and articulates knowledge and her guidance is sublime. Thanks 👍 🙏
So happy for the subtitles. Scottish accent is a big challenge to me as a French woman. However, talks with Sadia always end too fast. I learn so much from her. 😍
Stunning, Intelligent Woman. To admit that you have " insecurities" as a beautiful woman is a very attractive trait. If you ever do a public speech in the Miami to West Palm Beach area of Florida, I would like to attend.
I just came across this on my youtube feed. I'm now 54 have suffered a lot from severe anxiety and depression on and off over 25 years or more. Thankfully now I'm doing well. This woman Sadia i have to say is a really gifted woman. People can train to be a psycologist which is good, but this lady has a natural gift, she intuiitively knows what's going on with people and the effects modern day society and social merdia has on people.. Well done Sadia I've subscribed. I'm wondering who this guy is? Anybody?
I'm from her culture, and I can tell you that when they're seeking a marital partner for us most of the attention is paid to his and his families $$$ not much concern for the guy's character. It's all about keeping up with the Jones' How about we teach people to be more mature before making their own marital descision....that would be better than letting emotionally immature parents lead us into marital disasters.
@@sadiapsychology All the education infers is that they have the ability to make money. you can keep trying to reframe it any way you want but basically you agreed with this viewpoint that it comes down to your potential of earnings. He makes a very valid point which you kind of just dismissed about how many modern women only value men for what he can produce and don't give a c*** about his morals or values. That's why you see so many women making babies with men that have no intention of marrying them or from men that are criminals.
I appreciate her point of view on many topics. We need to hear these ideas. And…life is more nuanced than she describes. Every person is an individual with his/her own life path and not everyone fits into the types of generalizations she and other “gurus” like her espouse.
A spiritually sane man would be turned off by any woman seeing themselves as a high value woman. No human can either add or subtract one iota of value from themselves or another. That is just a dream, literally, that the false self mind system is conjuring up. To see life and others as such, is profoundly missing the mark.
The most sensible genuine way of telling WHT it is why and how .... Thts who Sadia khan is I love her podcast It's so helpful to make people understand how important the values and your roots are to create your life your relationship healthy
I met my wife when she was 7 and I was 9 years old, we have a beautiful family and she is my soulmate I really agree with what you saying, you seem beautiful inside and out it's a shame you have self esteem issues.
Exactly Sadia! That’s what marriage and a relationship is it’s bigger than the 2 people. I as nearly usual agree with 95-99% of what she says. Very smart, very articulate, and an break things down so that even I can understand it!
This lady talks a lot of good sense...And such a nice sensible person. Wow there is so much more to all this than at face value - very impressive 20 mins . .
If someone gave you the choice of having a pretty nice car that would run despite needing work overtime or being able to choose a new car every few months that you can use but you do not have to worry about the maintenance or putting it in your name but you had all the usage of it that you wanted knowing that you can trade it in in another few months what would you choose. That's what dating is like choosing that one person versus fishing and test driving a bunch of people without the worry of commitment
It is quite telling that Sadia hasn’t succeeded herself in having a successful marriage/relationship. I don’t mean this as an attack, but it is telling. Even her with all her insights into relationships. She did admit she still has personal issues to work through. That is the first step.
THIS LADY , IS INTELLIGENCE MEET BEAUTY...Sadia...God made her as reminder of the beauty that he gave us... inner beauty and outer beauty.... SHES ENDOWED....SHES ONE OF OUR BEAUTY ANGELS.. TRULY SWEET ! IMPACTING WORLD WITH SAVOR WORDS OF AFFIRMATION ..ON ENHANCING ONES RELATIONSHIP... AND ONES SELF..
When I was young I was looking for a meaningful relationship, but I was naive. I'm 60, but still single and childless. My life experience demonstrated that as a poor guy women wanted me for a sex toy, while have relationships/looking for a rich man for a marriage life.
I started dating women who arent white and all the sudden I don't have to improve myself there are ppl who like me for me which proves the problem is women and their lack of accountability that's why women like u end up single wen ur older I knew I was already good enough but with entitled white women u would never know that I'm glad to be getting married to and baby on the way with my Pakistani soon tk be wife
@@antmanselector ha ha you sound so entitled . I am happily married and let me tell you even in the marriage you have to improve yourself ( that’s goes for both parties ) .
LOVE is not a feeling, lust is a feeling .... one of the biggest problems in society is people thinking "love" is a feeling. God is LOVE. Love is an action. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 LOVE is patient and kind, LOVE does not envy or boast, LOVE is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way, LOVE is not irritable or resentful, LOVE does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. LOVE bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. LOVE never ends.
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I have seen many clips and like the way Sadie explains difficult subjects to put a word on, BUT this is the first time I completely disagree with Sadie when she argues for arranged marriages! The consequenses of an arranged marriage would befall upon the arrangers (typically parents) and not the couples of that marriage. Where is the growth potential or possibilities to learn or the motivation to improve, if consequenses of ones actions, lays at the hands of the parents or any third party? Supporting arranged marriages can not be something a psychologist learns in their education. It sounds more like a passionate personal belief, based on the religious and cultural upbringing. Otherwise, thank you Sadie for very good answers, which are easy to understand by all levels of age, education and social backgrounds!
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You're not qualified
You're a 304 Dubai
I'm with a married Pakistani man
@@rabiaahmed7659 don’t be jealous honey
like you, but you come obviously from a different background, culture
I find this psychologist (Sadia) one of the most intelligent people I've ever heard.
Grounded and relatable.
Intelligent? Intelligent is nothing without knowledge and critical thinking and some talent/ abilities. Its much more but of course very rare- she is smart and wise and insightful. In one word- nice girl xD She is able to understand what I really say... ;) Its very rare.
@dhimancini1162 does she speak your language?
Really? She’s pleasing on the eyes and ears, and she’s very skilled at attributing certain traits and characteristics to men and women without real grounds to do so. In my experience, women are just as quick to abandon in order to prevent being abandoned, if not more so. And the crucial choice between being a problem creator or problem solver would definitely be a good one to ponder for ALL of us.
Listen to Esther Perel :)
This girl gives me hope that there’s still some real woman out there. Great conversation
Lol. She herself said that if she was left to her own devices she'd make horrible decisions. The between the lines is she knows this from experience making her like most out there. She leans on family, friends, and religion to not do so.
Though I will relent the self awareness and leaning into that which keeps her on a good path, or perception that she does instead of doing bad all by herself as most do nowadays is massive.
Very beautiful woman and more importantly very feminine.
sorry bro, she's doing it for the views and money
@@vladmihai306 yeah. Still adding a!perspectives.
And still really feminine.
Huge improvement on feminist
😂😂😂 if a talking head on the internet gives you hope you have bigger problems than finding a woman
Sadia is only speaking common sense that existed when traditional values existed. Coming from the eastern culture most of the things she says is nothing new. I love the fact that she is fearlessly speaking out about men and women and without being diplomatic. She is shining light on things society has conveniently forgotten.
Unfortunately common sense has become wisdom and wisdom has become utopia ...
A person with an avoidant attachment style also gets critical about one's partner after getting intimate and pull away. It's their coping mechanism to avoid intimacy because intimacy makes them feel uncomfortable. By finding their partner inadequate and diminishing them, they reduce their cognitive dissonance and anxiety. This is why people with an avoidant attachment style tend to prefer polyamory, open relationships, casual sex and one night stands over committed monogamous relationships.
Or after years, find that person had a mask so you pull back.
Sadia, Hello, you're wonderful opinion on this subject , we live for the day , yesterday is gone , tomorrow is not here it'll take care of it's self, respecting , honar up lifting person in a relationship , communication these go along way in life , you learned a lot , but wisdom caring come from with in ones self there is one thing that makes you different from the rest and that's right in front of you? Thank you for letting me text .
Wow. She’s is very insightful. The falling in and out of love as a feeling was mind blown ing. She’s so right. Do it for the kids. I coached youth sports for the better part of 20 years and the kids that where problematic often came from divorced parents. It’s sad to see what it does to the kids.
A long-term relationship requires going through a difficult time together with your partner and still not giving up easily. If your relationship survives a hard time you will appreciate your partner more and more.
I would only disagree when it comes to one person completing abusing the trust in the other e.g cheating behind persons back or keeping an important secret from them etc - if trust goes it’s awfully difficult to get that back and you won’t ever get it back 100% … plenty people don’t respect themselves enough and just accept the person back only to regret it several years down the line
Difficult time is not only related to cheating.
Life in a relationship is, of course, complex, especially in the long term. There will be ups and downs, and like with anything else, we should put our effort and love to make it work.
Children are a blessing for couples, and it is worth fighting for them. They deserve to have parents who love each other and are willing to put them at the top of their priorities.
That is what will make our world a better place.
@@InterviewswithEd I agrée on effort whole heartedly but it I personally wouldn’t stick with someone if they abused my trust in a significant way - kids or no kids. I wouldn’t want to be a door mat to anyone.
Let's ask people in a long-term relationship, like 20 or more years.
Passion comes and disappears in a different life situation. But a soulmate comes once in a life. We don't have to put our pride on top all the time; sometimes, we must accept the reality, like it or not.
It is powerful when you don’t have expectations and, at the same time, do your best. That is a formula.
Of course, if nothing doesn't work, we should stop that kind of relationship, but that is usually easy to detect in the first few months and years of a relationship
She is quick as lightening, and sharp as a razor, wise as a snake, but gentle as a dove. Wow, a lady to respect. If anyone thinks that being celibate they are missing out, let me tell you, you are wrong. Learned personal experience: being celibate BY CHOICE gives you power, over your life, and to manifest what you want. You can form connections in other ways, which are much more satisfying and fulfilling. Invest in your self healing, friendships, family, children, career, spirituality, health. Don't throw away your life force. Preserve it and harness it, channel it. When the right person and the right time comes, you will be ready and .... oh dear! It will be magnificent. But if you spend your time chasing pleasures and indulging in quick dopamine shots, you are going to crash and burn out and lose your vitality, and wreck your life, mentally, physically, financially, and relationally.
Why did you choose celibacy? It sounds a bit like denying yourself to the extreme so can enjoy a big reward at the end. If you starve yourself long enough, anything will taste great. What is the lasting reward?
Sadia please write a book on relationships. You have an unique outlook and it needs to be shared with the world. I would be your first customer if you wrote a book.
It's not a unique perspective but hasn't put into a book
Yes. Exactly. We no longer value the core parts of human beings. The part of a person who is locked up in their own... mostly preprogrammed indentities... we are all craving genuine connection and we fall short when we lose ourselves in who we think we are supposed to be...we are complete people, no matter what the program is... first critical step to self awareness is identifying who you are and what types of experiences you want...then .. identity if it is a pretty dream or is it achievable in physical reality ...if it is possible...the plan you put forth to achieve it is now able to be formed... you now have the ability to become a wizard in your own life... you... the designer...
Sadia dropped a lot of gems in this one. I've noticed most romantic advice on UA-cam focuses on "dating" (which has various definitions). But I reject dating in the modern sense. No goal. Just sex for men and passing the time for women. Instead of focusing 99.99% on the initial stages of dating, more should be devoted to maintaining healthy happy relationships. I think Sadia is strong in this area.
Some things she said is alright like watching porn is bad, but some things she says is absolute garbage
@@BarredTrader I've been hypercritical of her in the past regarding things like age-gap dating, passport bros and male nature which she has big blindspot about. I noticed that she also attacks and insults, viciously, anyone who happens to disagree with her. I think she got reported and maybe that's why they took down her Instagram page. So probably well deserved. So I understand your feelings. Believe me I went in hard on her. But she was in top form in this video 😂
@mann8098 yeah but shes been defending onlyfans models on this video and host immediately called her out saying that of models knows about the consequences to their children but dont care, shes just beeing very polite to him but i can tell she wasnt very happy with him, she is double faced, i can smell it
She projected many common female faults onto men like she often does right at the beginning. She also goes about telling the guy how men should 'fix themselves'. Any man who's been around the block a couple times can see that one coming from a mile away.
She also completely failed on the definition of marriage and what it is for at the beginning. Marriage is for children and family. It is not about love, or forever, or the duty to the other person, it's about children and the raising of them. All of those other things you definitely hope come with it, and they do with work from both sides, but they are NOT the reason for it. She recovered a bit at the end telling the couple to stick together if there are children involved.
This woman isn't original, nor correct, much of the time. And an overwhelming number of statistics about failed relationships and marriages bears that wrongheadedness out. She's pretty, can speak well, and has a British accent. Because of that, people are receptive to some of her message. And the part they like has been said by men for more than a decade+ in greater detail and in a more astute way.
@@BarredTrader like what exactly?
“Sex” is all about sharing a deep emotional connecting. I read an amazing book called Tantric Intimacy. Eye gazing, soft touch…like caressing a partners hands, palms, head, face, arms…. Breathing together, inhaling and exhaling in sync with each other, plugging in, things like this! Without care for the finish, but sharing in the journey of just being in the Now with each other. It’s a shame more does care to understand this depth of connection with another human.
She's bad ass
Yawn
I loved when Sadia, a beautiful psychologist, allowed herself to be vulnerable and confessed to having self esteem issues.
I suspect it is very common for “therapists” to be able to quickly diagnose everyone else while ironically coexisting in their own blind spots.
Wow. Well said. I despise the hypocritical ones. I have some therapists in my family and they suck at personal relationships
The more beautiful the woman, the higher the chance of self esteem issues. I’ve dated a couple super beautiful women in my time and they have the worst issues with self esteem. It is so sad to see and even harder to be the person to help them through their constant self doubt. They almost never see what others see in themselves.
It's often the unfortunate reality for many overly analytical, perfectionist types that still struggle with self esteem stemming from unresolved childhood experiences. "Ask me how I know?" - Garth Brooks @@Guwapo77
I was so shocked she's gorgeousss
Sadia should be the new AI psychologist for every household ..
The way you put yourself in.. as not being perfect and relating with the same issues...creates an instant connection for everyone's ears and brain..
I just love listening to you ..
always learning something...
May the God always Shine on that beautiful face of yours..❤💯🙏
She doesn't even have a degree
How do you know that..?
When I was about 40, a young Muslim woman once asked me why I wasn't married. She was new in Europe, so I wasn't sure how to explain it in a way that she could understand. I said, "We have to find our husbands ourselves, without the help of fathers and brothers to help us find decent men."
She looked at me so shocked and felt really sad for me and for all western women.
The same happened to me when my teacher said me and my husband we don’t have any faith (non religious) I was about to cry deeply, after that in on other days later, she invited me her home for lunch and she cooked ground beef 🥩 , I asked her is it halal? I can read her face, she was too angry, she replied ‘ when someone invites you, you have to show respect, well I simply said to her am not allowed 🚫 finally she said I respect you faith, what else can I cook for you? I said just vegan 🥗
@@ahmedosman4423 Yes, I agree with you.
That's sad when people can't respect the religion of others.
Very grounded and relatable. Totally opposite of the current swipe culture. Everyone needs to hear this not just people who are in relationships
I love this no BS approach by these two. It’s refreshing to see unencumbered honesty, gives me hope.
Everything he described about his life I feel just the same, just him younger and I'm figuring out I can have a life that I want and that it doesn't have to be so hard all the time. I'm about to look up his channel, all the men my age need to hear this, it's so hard doing it on your own, there's no other choice, but knowing there's other people like this in your shoes is relieving, right now I don't feel so crazy, weird or broken anymore.
i am definitely going to watch the video in full.
I totally understand where this brother is coming from. I just don't waste my time anymore. My peace and tranquility is non-negotiable.
Yeah she’s absolutely spot on. This lady knows her stuff
She’s amazing. She’s the reason I quit porn a month ago and it’s been amazing. I heard her speak about the harms of watching porn in a video. I hope a lot more people get the help they need watching her videos.
@@conman00007❤love this
@@sadiapsychology thank you Sadia. You’re amazing. Keep up the good work.
If you can make it at your age between wet dreams with no other relief, you are amazing. Especially if sex drive is wicked and just goes away once you stop using it. A breakthrough in human physiology, I would imagine.
@@sadiapsychologyTy sooooo much for your answers. Wow did it all hit home. My ex is a pornhead and I've felt its the cause of his inability to live in real life. So pleasant to hear you a professional confirming that. Ty🌻
“You need rejection” is a profound statement. Rejection is actually good.
Absolutely, Marriage is a sacred covenant not a contract.
acutally these days it is sadly a contract.
If only the people getting married knew that. And it can't be sacred if the government is involved. Plus, males more than females don't understand what is sacred.
@@ntitus3025 the last part is why I don’t entertain relationships/marriages.
Like Alan Alda said “a deals a deal”. Whatever you tell yourself is ok by me.
It is both for some faith groups. The first is spiritual: aspirational and inspirational, the second grounds it in reality.
This woman gets it. We men will self sabotage because we 50/50 love our freedom. Some men are all in and some are good being on there own. Nothing wrong with it but you do need to recognize it and if you are going to change what you want and need you will need to alter your habits and thought process to move forward for the best.
Loved her response! ❤ love how she always puts God as the foundation of marriage.
Agree
the muslim?
Who is the guy. Strong scouser accent. He said he was a footballer.
Not useful advice in a secular society.
@@jayextermapest765 I simply mean that western countries (especially Western European ones) no longer have a religious worldview. This make it difficult to apply relationship advice predicated on religious views in those places. In fact, most western nations have substituted relationships for religions, which makes applying such advice even more difficult.
Sadia’s ability to delve deeper into her psyche publicly is outstanding. Love her transparency and vulnerability in the advent of hypercritical mindsets & expectations in society.
No one can bash you if you’ve swallowed YOUR truth pills. Refreshing conversation once again.#Growth #RawandReal
Sadia told me in 10 minutes more than I have learned in 50 years of my life.
What a wonderful woman. Thank you💌
Sad.
Absolutely agree. Sex with my ex was the most dehumanizing because I literally felt like he got off on degrading me during sex. He was constantly online, watching porn and would police my phone and go through the history to see what I was watching.....divorcing him gave me back my self esteem and my life back....
@ 13:00 - They key (and purpose) to life is serving God The God of The Holy Bible) and others. Our lives aren't about us. Serving others is the key and purpose to life.
Every woman will choose someone she feels that has higher value than her so in other words. All women that find you unattractive just think of themselves as higher value than you.
Damn right!!!
What about having wonderment, like kids together. What's with all this value shit. It's all assumption. Short-sightedness. Imagine having the time of your life because you're not shut off to all that can be.
Teenagers maybe. Grown women need more than a super model for a boyfriend
There you go 💯
@@moee_thyself All they need is is wallet. Fact that most young women almost universally go for the hot guys tells you all you need to know about genuine desire and attraction. It's only when women realize that they can't retain these kind of men that they just opt for a guy that can offer them financial stability but the problem is that most women lack the genuine desire for those kind of men which can lead to infidelity down the road. I see that a lot of the blame gets pushed on men but women also need to be more up front about what their true intentions are. There are tons of women with men that they don't really like because they offer them financial stability and that in itself is a problem for long-term relationships.
Thank you very much for this great podcast ! Pornography destroys people's brain ! 😡😡 This is something that i learn ! It's a very bad and dangerous addiction. We people need to replace bad addiction with good addictions like moving your body, eating healthy, reading, writing, praying to God, taking care of your apparence and hygiene, listening to great podcast like this one and so much more good addictions ! God bless you Sadia Khan for this podcast ! 😃
Did this dude just say "I love fucking hard, maybe that's my downfall." Wtf? Im guessing that means something different in UK or Ireland than in America. Because that seems really forward statement that only works in a porn podcast, not a.dating podcast.
who owns the porn industry?
You are brilliantly wise. I am 73 and you have given me lots of answers to questions which i had never understood. Thanks.
Marriage is a joint venture and takes work like everything else. We need to see the good in others and take accountability for our own baggage and heal from it. All Our answers lie inside of us. A wounded person cannot heal with a partner who is also wounded.
My ex girlfriend recently broke up with me because she discovered my porn addiction. After realizing and experiencing the damages it caused me and the people I love, I never consumed that poison again.
I wish I could turn back time and stopped this addiction as soon as I could. I wasted a high value woman because I was a degenerate.
Move on there's billions of em
"Im a complicated man" "I wear my hear lt on my sleeve" "I come with a lot of baggage" "I know my worth" .... All I heard was "Im just another basic run of the mill traumatized delusional person"
Exactly. All I heard from him was, "I'll create drama all the time." I swear, modern man got it wrong. No wonder women don't want to follow them. For me it's simple. Be a man and lead, and make her be a woman. Cooking for you, taking care of the house and whatnot. She will stick around.
@lutherjacob You shouldn't have to make anyone do anything. If she doesn't immediately fall into that roll for you.. either you're not full filing your role... or she wasn't raised right. Ive never had to tell any woman in my life what to do. The one's that haven't naturally fallen into that role get replaced expeditiously lol
@@501Labsmusicboth pattners have ro take care of each other
Yh the typical ‘Im not worth it’ rhetoric
If that's what you heard, please try to go on the deeper end of the pool. You're clearly on the shallow side.
As a born and raised Californian, i grew up thinking that arranged marriage was the worst kind of abuse. Now i am old enough to realize, looking at the wreckage of failed marriages strewn across the landscape, that arranged marriages are really just filtered marriages, where wholly unsuitable pairings are avoided earlier. The statistics are overwhelmingly in favor of arranged marriages; as Sadia points out, it is about the duty to the relationship that allows things to last a long time.
My goodness her hair is so beautiful. Indian women have the most luxurious hair on the planet. It is no accident that every black performer tends to use extensions from India.
it is a form of abuse. It's totally unacceptable.
It depends on how you define the word 'arranged'. If we are talking about family introducing you to people who prima facie have things in common with you, but without any pressure to marry them, then it might work. But when force or pressure is involved, it is abusive.
I think as we get older and we’ve had a lot of trauma from relationships, we will tend observe the traits that hurt us previously and we are not prepared to go there again .
Sadia, we;re usually not interested in "high value" women! As long she looks good, fit and nice. She's in even if she works as a gas station! I doubt if a girl like you would date a handsome cashier at my local gas station.
I like this guy’s honesty and vulnerability.
In every interview this woman has always quick responses and answers to every question. My question is whether that is all read knowledge or is she speaking more or less from experience? Anyhow, as a 43 y.o. male I have to admit, I like listening to her even though she is NOT always on the side of the truth. I always wonder how people like her behave and think when situations they talk about, apear in their own lifes/relationships.... Interesting woman, also attractive
She's blessed / challenged with ADHD, and I do see that. She's also just very sharp, God bless her.
"she is NOT always on the side of the truth" Thanks ! Happy to read a man who didn't fall for all that comes out of her mouth ! 👌🙏 because it started to make me sick...
@@MsSimpleMovies She's self aware and isn't afraid of admitting where she needs to work on herself.
Whoch part is not on the side of thw truth
@jarkachalmovianska7812 I watched plenty of her videos and in every one she has theories which she is very confident of, maybe even cocky, but NOT all she claims are facts. Just because you might "dig" her, doesn't mean she knows everything- she is to young for that. Not every claimed reason why women or men do what they do have the basis in her reasoning....I don't 100% believe people who are as cocky as she is
Please Sadia, would you make a video for women how to keep going respecting their boundaries and their very true self and needs (even though the society nowadays has changed so much)? ❤
I love your content and I am really grateful finding you in YT
Oh my god, I've never seen this discussed in so much depth, thank you so much! The world needs you Sadia!
You both are high quality genuine people, deserve applaud.
Like the line "marriage is working together for a shared purpose"
Every time she says "yeah" in that way, I melt...
Ya me two lol
wow such a sensible lady. Words of wisdom. Lots of love to you
Thank you so much for your work Sadia, the world needs you so much more than ever!
Sadia Khan is a great example of a what a modern woman can be like, think like, communicate like. She is blessed and every woman can learn from her. Her belief system of Islam is like her Jedi inner strength. I have started looking into Islam and the power of belief in a single God and how to live a complete 💯 satisfied life. Having read the Quran its like a user guide on a way of life. The religion seems to have been misrepresented by the media, and Sadia Khan inspired me to find out more about it. The way she speaks and articulates knowledge and her guidance is sublime. Thanks 👍 🙏
Exactly modern woman. She’s career oriented, material driven, and SINGLE 😂
So happy for the subtitles. Scottish accent is a big challenge to me as a French woman. However, talks with Sadia always end too fast. I learn so much from her. 😍
Such a fascinating, insightful conversation. Thank you.
Stunning, Intelligent Woman. To admit that you have " insecurities" as a beautiful woman is a very attractive trait. If you ever do a public speech in the Miami to West Palm Beach area of Florida, I would like to attend.
I just came across this on my youtube feed. I'm now 54 have suffered a lot from severe anxiety and depression on and off over 25 years or more.
Thankfully now I'm doing well. This woman Sadia i have to say is a really gifted woman. People can train to be a psycologist which is good,
but this lady has a natural gift, she intuiitively knows what's going on with people and the effects modern day society and social merdia has on people..
Well done Sadia I've subscribed.
I'm wondering who this guy is? Anybody?
Something so humbling and genuine about the self honesty y’all both share in this
I'm from her culture, and I can tell you that when they're seeking a marital partner for us most of the attention is paid to his and his families $$$ not much concern for the guy's character. It's all about keeping up with the Jones' How about we teach people to be more mature before making their own marital descision....that would be better than letting emotionally immature parents lead us into marital disasters.
Only boys if you are losers ever present think that most families look for education and a respectable family
@@sadiapsychology All the education infers is that they have the ability to make money. you can keep trying to reframe it any way you want but basically you agreed with this viewpoint that it comes down to your potential of earnings. He makes a very valid point which you kind of just dismissed about how many modern women only value men for what he can produce and don't give a c*** about his morals or values. That's why you see so many women making babies with men that have no intention of marrying them or from men that are criminals.
I appreciate her point of view on many topics. We need to hear these ideas. And…life is more nuanced than she describes. Every person is an individual with his/her own life path and not everyone fits into the types of generalizations she and other “gurus” like her espouse.
Anything everything do or don't say or don't say be present or not work or don't can does turns a woman off.
"Never accelerate physical intimacy over psychological intimacy."
Very pretty look on this outfit Sadia. And as usual you made loads of valid points
Im glad im hearing this. Wheww. THANK YOU Sadia.
0:07 sadia stop talking about my life 😭😭😭 why you nailed my issues like that?😅
Good lord she's so gorgeous AND highly intelligent!
I love her and would marry her
A spiritually sane man would be turned off by any woman seeing themselves as a high value woman.
No human can either add or subtract one iota of value from themselves or another. That is just a dream, literally, that the false self mind system is conjuring up.
To see life and others as such, is profoundly missing the mark.
The most sensible genuine way of telling WHT it is why and how ....
Thts who Sadia khan is
I love her podcast
It's so helpful to make people understand how important the values and your roots are to create your life your relationship healthy
I met my wife when she was 7 and I was 9 years old,
we have a beautiful family and she is my soulmate I really agree with what you saying, you seem beautiful inside and out it's a shame you have self esteem issues.
Wow i just found you're channel and what a gem!!!!
So good and very spot on thank you for content!
Exactly Sadia! That’s what marriage and a relationship is it’s bigger than the 2 people. I as nearly usual agree with 95-99% of what she says. Very smart, very articulate, and an break things down so that even I can understand it!
So true, you’re a breath of fresh air Sadia
19:00 she dropped a really thought provoking gem!!💯
This lady talks a lot of good sense...And such a nice sensible person. Wow there is so much more to all this than at face value - very impressive 20 mins . .
I love her answers in this interview. Absolute wisdom!
Love is a feeling that can go up and down🔥🔥👏
If someone gave you the choice of having a pretty nice car that would run despite needing work overtime or being able to choose a new car every few months that you can use but you do not have to worry about the maintenance or putting it in your name but you had all the usage of it that you wanted knowing that you can trade it in in another few months what would you choose. That's what dating is like choosing that one person versus fishing and test driving a bunch of people without the worry of commitment
It is quite telling that Sadia hasn’t succeeded herself in having a successful marriage/relationship. I don’t mean this as an attack, but it is telling. Even her with all her insights into relationships. She did admit she still has personal issues to work through. That is the first step.
What?! No! Say it ain’t so 😱 one of the internet closet feminist boss chicks selling bs to men doesn’t walk the talk?! It can’t be 🤣
THIS LADY , IS INTELLIGENCE MEET BEAUTY...Sadia...God made her as reminder of the beauty that he gave us... inner beauty and outer beauty.... SHES ENDOWED....SHES ONE OF OUR BEAUTY ANGELS.. TRULY SWEET ! IMPACTING WORLD WITH SAVOR WORDS OF AFFIRMATION ..ON ENHANCING ONES RELATIONSHIP... AND ONES SELF..
There's a lot of crap advice on social media and people follow it. This channel is based.
Thanks for the subtitles, this guy was hard to understand
Agree 😅
Lol
Apart from his swearing he was difficult to understand.
Great content, thank you for putting it out there.
A lot of value in this video. Kudos!
She is so quick. She must be one of the best advisors on the planet.
Incredible episode, thank you for this informative sit-down Sadia.
This is relatable to some next level. Love the content!
When I was young I was looking for a meaningful relationship, but I was naive. I'm 60, but still single and childless. My life experience demonstrated that as a poor guy women wanted me for a sex toy, while have relationships/looking for a rich man for a marriage life.
Thanks God I found Sadia online. Finally someone talks the truth half of the world has forgotten ❤️
She is a 304
@@SylvesrerSam just like your mother
@@sadiapsychology😂😂😂😂
@@SylvesrerSamWhy that number?
Yes to calling out both men and women and holding both of them responsible
Kudos to you for growing up !! Not many man can realise that .
I started dating women who arent white and all the sudden I don't have to improve myself there are ppl who like me for me which proves the problem is women and their lack of accountability that's why women like u end up single wen ur older I knew I was already good enough but with entitled white women u would never know that I'm glad to be getting married to and baby on the way with my Pakistani soon tk be wife
@@antmanselector ha ha you sound so entitled . I am happily married and let me tell you even in the marriage you have to improve yourself ( that’s goes for both parties ) .
LOVE is not a feeling, lust is a feeling .... one of the biggest problems in society is people thinking "love" is a feeling. God is LOVE. Love is an action. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 LOVE is patient and kind, LOVE does not envy or boast, LOVE is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way, LOVE is not irritable or resentful, LOVE does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. LOVE bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. LOVE never ends.
Sadia you are one of the best and wise psychologist , there could be many more qualified ones but are not even close to your wisdom ❤
All this young lady is spot on on every aspect she covers.
Massive interview; great observation that were smooth and casual, but big bombs at the same time
Wow...very insightful 👏 Sadia seems very knowledgeable....Glad I ca e across this video! She is beautiful as well! 😊
The thing I really like about Sadia khan is that she drops pearls of insight when you least expect it, like at 4:05.
I enjoyed listening to this conversation - good stuff to consider and think on
Listening to you is very insightful. I wish I knew most of this when I was in my early 20s
Yo thanks for keeping me inform for this new interview post just had.I love watching all your videos post very very informative i have learn from your post.Allah bless u and your family take care b save.Lov u Habibi and keep up your good hard work and your ability.Chio and Inshallh.🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤❤
The meaning of life is connections. Very elegant very real.
Hi, just started watching your videos, been a big help,
I have seen many clips and like the way Sadie explains difficult subjects to put a word on, BUT this is the first time I completely disagree with Sadie when she argues for arranged marriages!
The consequenses of an arranged marriage would befall upon the arrangers (typically parents) and not the couples of that marriage. Where is the growth potential or possibilities to learn or the motivation to improve, if consequenses of ones actions, lays at the hands of the parents or any third party?
Supporting arranged marriages can not be something a psychologist learns in their education. It sounds more like a passionate personal belief, based on the religious and cultural upbringing.
Otherwise, thank you Sadie for very good answers, which are easy to understand by all levels of age, education and social backgrounds!
Love is always the right answer
True love , rare .....comes from the Universe...if you really desire !
14:57 ❤❤❤ I appreciate this comment about single mothers.
“What is it all about?” It’s about your life being witnessed up close & intimately, it’s about existing, being seen.
You have a great mind to do what you do, and you know how to use it, you are brilliant.
Who else is distracted by the beauty of this woman?