If you follow her channel you will realize that her content is clickbait. Shes trying to be andrew tate. Its so odd And all she does is make clips from her old interviews instead of make new content
Tom! Love your content. I'm always just checking in on your videos and think... "I used to work with him" (what an honor that was, even before all your successes). Love how you've taken your success and using your wealth to make the world a better place. Thank you!
I'm really disappointed with you @TomBilyeu I'm not sure when you took such a weird direction in your content.But it's just not the positive vibe that you gave when I first ran across you. I wish you the best of luck, but I'm out.
"The toxicity comes from the inability to walk away." I believe this is so true... for both men and women. I think Sadia is at the heart of something deep in all relationships.
@AugustoAlmeida-ll4pz While I don't disagree with you, I think your abuser stance is one-sided. My comment was intended to be broad. For example, a healthy relationship can become toxic, not from abuse, but from an overdependence. What makes it toxic is the failure to maintain personal boundaries and individual growth. Toxicity isn't limited to abusive behavior; it can also stem from unhealthy dynamics that stifle both parties.
@@tooljack4439 it's not just abuse. Things likely became very toxic before it got to the point of abuse, and the inability to walk away at the point of toxicity creates a more toxic envirment that leads to abuse.
Tate says the exact same things. In the modern West, walking away is the only true leverage any man ultimately has. And when you say you will after she is disrespectful, you must follow through.
I am obsessed with this woman. I love how once she learned more. She changed her opinion. And she apologized about it!! WOW!! She is the queen of Prospective!!!
@fillupbanks7885: Uh, duh. The ONLY way anyone can POSSIBLY ever LEARN anything is to: 1. Be open minded (cuz otherwise you already know it all)... (as in, a new, different explanation of something); 2. After you've heard something new, to be able to incorporate it into your "worldview" or working knowledge. So, essentially... Learning: That's the definition of changing your perspective. 😮
I haven’t watched Tom or this channel in a while. It’s incredible how he’s only gotten better at interviewing, breaking down complex and nuanced subjects, and all with incredible reasoning. Forget why I loved this channel in the first place.
Peace over pleasure only goes to people who understand true gratitude gracefully so if you can find a partner who can be vulnerable, loyal and strong at the same time then and their character aligns with you long term and you can have fun together then, you’ve hit gold!.
That's really true. Unfortunately nobody taught us anywhere, and we found out through heartbreaks and failures. But at this point, it seems it's becoming difficult to have a heartbreak in the first place
@@MrMultiHerbatnik A couple examples: 1. Do not air out our dirty laundry in public 2. If they "can't make it" too many times in a row, they gotta go 3. They constantly talk negative behind your back, see ya!
The entire passage where she speaks about the need of a private life being congruent to a public like really hits the nail. That’s a mantra for happiness, right here. Thank you for that 🙏
Love her. She may not say what many want to hear, but she's pretty accurate for the kind of relationship most of us are going for but often make excuses and lower standards when we can't find it.
I think she says some truths but the more I listen to her podcast appearances it’s very odd because she also seems to have a surface level knowledge. It’s a like she has a ton of surface level knowledge but not a ton of deeper understanding
Yeah I never thought about it like this. After listening to her, I gotta agree that us men share a lot of the blame for the falling standards in women we complain about. It's the behaviour we men reward in women. Right from a younger age, most of us get attracted to the more shallow, hotter and promiscuous type of girls instead of girls who are more traditional and maybe have more substance.
I can't speak for all men, but I've never been attracted to promiscuous women, and I don't think I'm the only one. It's a turn-off, even for a casual encounter, so a long-term relationship is definitely out of the question.
@@leeanne1457Culturally to whom? Which culture? American culture? Western countries collective cultures? I agree that there is truth to what you're saying but I don't think it is the entire world because not everyones behavior in the world reflects that. I think that was an error in the video. There were generalizations about "men" and "women" as if everyone behaves a certain way when there should have been a mention of which people they are discussing specifically.
@@leeanne1457 The Majority of men WOULD be in a long term relationship with a woman IF a woman did not end the relationship. This is a statistical fact.
This is one of the greatest discussions on this topic I’ve heard in a long time. And I agree with it all. Who cares if somebody hates you as a result of it… this needs to get out in the open. And even as good as it is, it is probably the tip of the iceberg. Keep it going and I’d love to join your cause- this needs to get out into the masses. It’s too important. 😊
online dating and Instagram has ruined women for men. And porn has ruined men for women. I don't know how to fix this problem. All I know is that relationships will never be the same moving forward
@@bhfanaticosiI think people who want to consume porn will always find away, but I think there should be more information provided to the general population about what the medical community has known for a while about how porn literally changes the brain in ways that make it very difficult to enjoy sex. Google “pornography induced erectile dysfunction” to see just the tip of the iceberg.
Facts man especially the porn and undisciplined-weak men has fucked up this world there’s to much gay TikTokers, this is the softest era known to mankind
1:30 secs in, I didn’t know if I would listen to this podcast, but when she said guys assume things bc the guy picked her without her earning it, is spot on! 💯 🎯 ✍️
Love Sadia, she is so fun to watch. She speaks candidly and from experience. Aware of her own limitations and bias. Agree with her more than disagree. 👹
I’m not so sure… she seems quite awkward and uncomfortable. This may come from a couple of things but she isn’t relaxed in a conversation, and that is part due to the fact that she has 0 facial expressions (work done & Botox) speaks REALLY FAST (somewhat erratic) and also wants to give a response even though the interviewer has either moved on or hasn’t finished the question.
Sadia is gorgeous but her arguments have taken a turn for the worse in the last year. One great takeaway is "Don't fall in love with her face, but with the way she treats you" ..words to live by.
I love this woman! While I do disagree with some of her opinions on politics, and some of her other views, her core values are spot on. I have enjoyed your interviews with Sadia. Also, Tom, I like Lisa, but I could see why some others don’t, she has a strong personality, and she seems over the top at times. I think you’re all awesome!💪🏿
As a content creator myself and as one who has put a lot of thought into these ideas, I found Sadia Khan to have real solid thinking and perspective and I feel you could have allowed her to talk a bit more.
I have watched her a couple of times now and I have to say that nothing she says makes any sense to me. What I see is not men with unrealistic expectations so much as I see decent, kind, attractive men getting rejected by entitled women. To me, that's as much the reality as gravity.
Only men criticize her, that’s the proof that she is right in most of her viewpoints, classic men and their ego can’t accept anything real coming from a women. 🙄
I agree that a lot of what she says only makes sense if you have a surface level knowledge on the topic (Whig is confusing since she’s propped up as an authority on this subject) however I also believe what you’re saying is short sighted as well. Being decent and kind doesn’t attract women, being attractive helps attract women but confidence, purpose, responsibility, etc. are what really attracts women. It’s not to say that a woman doesn’t desire decent kind guys but if that’s all you bring to the table then you’ve failed to understand what attracts women.
I think she's very aware but her blaming men and porn as the primary driver for unrealistic expectations is BACKWARDS. Women have FAR more options then men due to online dating, social media, etc. So the moment they get bored or frustrated, they move on. It's sad she can't see this is the primary driver. In this day and age, to use her example, ugly or fat women all think they can get a top tier man. No guy I know that's average thinks he can get a top tier girl "because of porn".
Its not exactly backwards. I hear you on the last bit but the first bit she explained that there are far more men glorifying sex then woman. There could be 100,000 pornstars but theres hundreds of millions of men who watch them. The ratio is the problem, women are just capitalizing
I think it's often a lack of self discovery towards personal values, how to make sure there is compatibility, good communication skills and willingness to compromise (without dropping ones values). And considering 50% of us walk around with attachment issues, unresolved trauma and more. It's no wonder it doesn't work out. Lack of self love. Can't truly love anyone else fully without loving ourselves first. Oh, and our society breeds narcissistic traits like fruit flies. @@bonnie1097
In my opinion this UA-cam channel brings THE MOST VALUE to the viewers. Tom prioritizes value to us not views and IT SHOWS. Thank you Tom! God bless you!!!!
This isn’t valuable content. She’s not credentialed (and isn’t truthful about it), and she bullies people on her social media platforms in ways that are downright shocking. Just a quick search will reveal this. Many people are very concerned that large platforms are having her on…
@@PeaceIsYeshua you’re offended or threatened by what she says and it’s blinding you from seeing the value. The podcast and episode is filled with value
@@deaglefly4338 I didn’t listen to what she said for more than a minute. I had a bad feeling about her, and those feelings were confirmed. Please check out what I’m talking about and be careful who you take advice from. 🙏🏻 I’m very concerned that she’s influencing people as a “psychologist.”
It's amazing to me to see, but something I've learned in life is, the most valuable and knowledgeable people that have actual and helpful advice, are usually the ones society will tell you not to listen to, to me, social disapproval is a badge of honor, in most cases, she reminds me of teal swan, wisdom that most people don't want to be shared. Sad but true.
@@juniperstardust5549 You’re right! But I think it’s mostly alternative shows that feature her? I typically like the guests of alternative shows, but not in this case. She also holds to Muslim ideologies, and I don’t think I need to explain why those are destructive. There’s a clip on (redd) it where she’s praising child marriage…. and she’s deceptive. Plenty of red flags. 🚩
Cheaters cheat because of the pleasure principle which is the natural desire for more pleasure and less pain. The addiction to dopamine serotonin or oxytocin. When a relationship is boring and lacking, people will cheat. We do whatever is pleasurable to do. We are faithful if it feels good to be and unfaithful if it feels good to be. We are constantly bouncing from one end to the other because discipline is not a natural thing but the desire for pleasure is all natural
We cheat because we're animals. The constraints of a relationship is a false abstract connection. We're pretending to be something we're not. Sure you can chose not to cheat but that's individual choice. By nature we're still animals.
@@jeffreycharles5144 I think what your saying is partially correct but not universal. It's more nuanced and balanced in that there are situations where it is purely out of pleasure and other situations where it is out of unmet need. It really depends on each person's particular dynamics.
@@anthony212459Agree completely. Also there are no real conversations about each person's desires initially so that if you're a person who would say, choose not to be with other partners or lovers, you align more with someone who would be a better fit. Also we aren't naturally monogamous despite monogamy being sold as the norm
Ehhh…I can understand some of her viewpoints however I can tell she is very biased towards her own side and even admitted to sounding very different than her first time on IT. She kinda comes off as not sure or confused about her thoughts and experiences which I can understand to an extent as this subject is complex. Mostly sounds like she talking in circles but is trying to blame men for a lot of problems when it’s more of cultural and societal issues which Tom thankfully teases against what she is saying. And her belief of hypergamy as she stated early in the interview I think is kinda backwards….smh. All in all, this was a great interview.
@@coffeeandflowerz …exactly the point…while she wasn’t a great interview, the interview itself and Tom’s questions and perspectives is what made it a great interview as it parsed out all the BS and showcased the bias while pointing out the actual underlying issues influencing those biases.
@@grunge4ever08I felt a lot of that is that she is jaded by her clients. I saw that at times she was uncomfortable as though there was something else going on with her. (Perhaps anxious or another internal concern bothering her) I can tell her clients have changed her perspective. Yet, her clients are 1% of all men on earth so that in of itself is flawed, because the 1% are not reflections of all mens behaviors. I hope she takes a few regular men for the sake of seeing balance and remembering there is more of a Spectrum of the behaviors men are dealing with as they relate with women and it isn't just wealthy men who seem to have behaviors that are off putting.
@@jacobclayton2954 Point well taken with her being jaded especially the male clients she had gotten were of the upper echelon of all men who are likely able to afford her premium fees as opposed to average men. Often times people with a lot more resources at their disposal have an inflated ego and skewed outlook on life and the opposite sex. Like 1st world problems…it’s seems from their worldview perspective it would be considered “the top 1% problems”….i agree that she should take a few regular men to broaden her perspective and recognize there is a spectrum. In doing this she would be able to be more effective in her efforts to make a positive impact.
@@jacobclayton2954 Her Clients are the wealthy men of Dubai who can afford for $2000 a hr session with her. As Dubai has no social programs for mental health/well being outside of religion the only men going to her in a financially extreme country like that are men with excess wealth and time to spend. She is not having sessions with the guys who live in cages that built that city thats for damn sure. Even when she said $50 hr clients are different than $1200 an hour clients while yes she is right but BOTH of those clients are going to be in the 100k+ club living in dubai and using a psychiatrist at all. you know when the guy who makes 48k a year see's a pyschiatrist? when the hospital offers one for free and bills his Healthcare provider.
“Science” can be very subjective and bias as well. How many things were “proven” by science only later to be disproven by “science”. Science for a lot of things is a asking 1k a serious of questions and all of a sudden its congruent across its entirety. Look the plandemic and science proving “misinformation” only later that it wasnt misinformation…. Get a couple “experts” in a field agreeing on a subject and thats the truth all of a sudden…. “Insults” are often seen that way because they true and people cant admit it….. Like calling someone overweight that is……. Is an insult???? Thats truth homie
When she said Men are only going for the most beautiful you already knew this is looking at the top 5% of men in the world who some are living in dubai. The Average man finds the AVERAGE woman sexually attractive The Average woman DOES NOT find the average man to be sexually attractive she attributes to all men what the top 5% of men do even basic statements like "these men spend 10k on a OF model" this CANNOT be the average American man... who is making 48k a year the #1 vice in America is Alcohol (its really fast food but w/e) the average man spends $4800 a year on alcohol which is oddly 10% of his yearly income... again the Idea that the average man sends 10k to a OF model is absurd and impossible. The man who spends that much on "porn" is making 150k+ a year and is nowhere near the "average" for men.
@@jasonu3741 💯 I think in the end it will be 20% men and women fighting for the 20% of the opposite sex, everyone else will have sex robots for better or worse.
If she’s treating men who want to get better she can’t have contempt for them otherwise her work won’t be as successful. The men will feel the contempt. This is not rewarding nor feels good. She really should have more gratitude for the men she’s treating because these are the people who actually want to change. They seeked her help out. She only has gratitude when she’s talking to men who are already there like Tom. I really hope she works on this.
Such an interesting topic. It's appears that men and women are becoming more and more at odds with their goals and what they value. While I agreed with most things both of you said, the one thing I was very disappointed to see get brushed over was when Sadia continued to fervently ask why men are "obsessed with vagina?" It felt personal and shameful. It is however, just biological preprogramming. They can help it no more than women's obsession with romance and "cuddling". I sure hope she comes back. I feel I have more questions than answers. Tom, I feel like you hinted at some of these inconsistencies but pulled some punches. Great work as always.
I noted a few times where he very gently but directly and indirectly shared that she may want to look inside herself for how she is thinking and take a deeper look at what she is saying. I loved how he focused on connecting with her rather than being right.
When she talks abt what men say they want, versus what the reward, really hits home. I am a living testimony of it, i am someone is practicing abstinence, high morals & integrity, very caring and giving but men will not commit or take me serious bc i won't have sex with them. I've done a ton of work to not take it personally but it is honestly exhausting to see men say online & to my face that they want reserve classy girls & then immediately get into a relationship w/ women who have body counts 50+. But aye at least ik im protected from those kind of men 🤷🏾♀️
Nice conversation. A couple thoughts. I think that Men who are in high demand view agreeableness as unattractive in the same way high demand women do. Because the challenge excites them. It creates feelings that a nonconfrontational person can't inspire. That being said, there is a difference between pushback and toxic behavior.
I really miss the old Impact Theory that was positive, and business and life goals oriented. Now it feels like the focus is on fear of the future and more negative topics. I guess maybe that gets more attention. I will always be grateful for the old videos that were dedicated to accomplishment and hope.
Think so much has changed over the past 5 years we can’t help but get into other conversations which can seem negative. Also so much has changed over the past 100years we don’t understand how our species is on a decline: what’s favorable is that we can push to change these systems, ways, and ultimately starts within to ripple without. That whatever you want mirrors and those may mirror what makes you great and in turn echo into the world.
Cause she’s only telling the truth when she’s taking the man’s side, right? Notice how she’s holding both genders accountable. And you can’t stand that.
Sadia Kahn is a brilliant communicator. Her perspectives, opinions, and points are crystal clear and succinct. I noticed that she leans heavily on stoic philosophy. Control or master your desir, if you, as a man, want to succeed in your life persuit or goal
My advice is listen to your better judgement, especially when it comes to women. But, understand that there is an obstacle in the way. If the needs of the "boys" are unmet, the "boys" will conspire against a man's better judgement. It is difficult for a man to listen to his better judgement over the incessant chatter of his disgruntled "boys". They turn into great lawyers on the side of poor judgement. Paying direct for box quiets the incessant chatter of the disgruntled "boys" and helps provide mental clarity. It is easy to not care about rejection or losing a woman that is no good for you, when you know without a doubt that your needs will be met. Just remember to always wrap it up.
And i'm sorry , but I think your psychologist is only sharing a certain viewpoint. Because I can tell you right now. I've never gone into a relationship thinking that the man is going to cheat automatically. And I can tell you multiple times that my friend's partners and even my own husband has gone into it, assuming that the female is going to cheat. So I feel like her perspective is only true for about 50% of people.Because I've definitely seen the other 50%.So anytime that any group assumes that the other group is always coming at something from a certain perspective.You're going to miss half of the information and half of the accuracy.
She isn't a psychologist. She has zero medical training. In the USA this would be considered fraud... you're not allowed to impersonate a doctor. I think she holds residency in Dubai so I'm not sure how this applies in her case.
@@CaitlinWoodstock She does have a bachelors in psychology and even a masters degree in education and developmental psychology. You got upset about something she said and now you are trying to discredit her.
I strongly recommend Sadia to read the book Basic Economics by Tomas Sowell. As good as she is on relationships, she knows very little about the economy.
You are SO RIGHT! My son is blind and clueless? Horrifying to watch. He refuses to believe anything I tell him I see. He puts her on a pedestal and it’s outrageously naive!!!!
I was enjoying the interview until she said she didn't understand communism, but chose to talk poorly about capitalism. Enjoy your channel, keep up the great work.
It’s funny how people take sound bites out of these conversations and try to extract a black or white truth. She doesn’t truly believe that narcissists don’t exist. It’s a statement made as a part of an entire conversation and that conversation is made around two individuals bodies of thought. When you strip away the context from any statement you can make anybody sound bad.
I felt Sadia at times was flushed and anxious as well as jaded. Sometimes I felt she was spot on. Other times, not so much, but maybe because Tom brought topics which challenged her to grow and learn. I hope she is ok. I really liked what she said in that you want a woman who actually is physically attracted to you. Its critical. You cannot get with someone who isnt digging you. Especially sexually. I think that is why many issues come up in the first place. Tom I thought did a masterful job with seeking to connect with Sadia, rather than be right.
I think Tom followed up by asking Sadia what would be the essential ingredients for that initial attraction. It felt like she wasn't really able to answer it in a concrete way, not without compromising on her position that men were largely the problem.
@@gus4gus250because they are, they want traditional but will go for the one who satisfies him better with sex, that means experience which means practice a lot, equally promiscuous.
I agree with Sadia on hypergamy. Women will initially fall for a man who's superior to her in a general sense, meaning she's not able to manipulate him on a psychological level. He's "alpha" from an interrelational perspective. However, we should not forget that, according to evolutionary psychology, both men and women have two dating/mating strategies: short term and long term. And a woman who's in it for the short term has some VERY different desires in a man than one who has a long term strategy. Sadia's point rings most true when the woman has a short term strategy (casual sex, having fun, flirting, etc). Though, when the woman is looking for the father of her children, she will be more hypergamous in the traditional sense where he should not only be smarter than her, but also more successful/higher status.
its absolutely terrifying to know that marriage and kids will lead to a significantly decreased sex life. I would love to have kids some day ... but this makes me think twice.
That isn't the case for all.. especially if this points are brought in conversation as to how to stay connected. It's up to the couple to not become lazy with or without kids. Perspective is everything.
I believe it's mostly during the breast feeding phase (hormones), but afterwards I think it may be because of exhaustion. I think that if people manage to survive the baby stage and then put in the work to create chemistry, like before children, the sex life can be satisfying. But there just won't be as much time and energy to work on it, as if you don't have kids, so that's indeed something to think about.
I have two children and never stopped having sex. Always had more sex drive than my partners. To te last day of pregnancies we had it 2-3 times a day and no interruptions after that. Why should we? If your house is big enough it's fine. You not being a provide male - THAT'S WHAT KILLS HER PASSION FOR YOU! NOT CHILDREN!!
To start, I think Sadie’s insights are very good. Sadia’s blind spot/weakness about men is that she doesn’t seem to understand the drive they have for sex and understand that men have many times more testosterone drives their need and desire (it’s not the only thing, but it’s huge) Also, while she’s generally correct about relationships, there are definitely exceptions based on my life and experience. And yeah, drama and toxicity and instability are extremely unappealing.
The primary logic for most women is based in caution (not exactly fear). The primary logic for most men is based in aggression (not exactly anger). The two navigate this among everything else hopefully reaching a center point or middle ground. Both seeking peace a security with each other. Complimentary forces. Her rewarding bad habit analogy is a chicken or the egg argument. I think it was a great follow up to challenge it with the human tendency to capitalize on convenience and needs.
*Choose someone who **_truly_** loves and fears God, and someone who shows genuine care and **_respect_** towards you. If they don’t respect or value you, RUN!!*
@@mickcrovo5238 Hey, Mick! I understand it may be hard for you to believe, but please don’t be so quick to dismiss the idea. Did you know the Bible is the only book with 100% accurate prophecy? You won’t find one false prophecy within its pages. To me, this points to a divine author. ✨✍️ If the Bible is real, and God is real, I know I want to be on God’s side and following Him. I know that I know He’s there. I have a relationship with Him. He guides me, warns me, and I can’t imagine life without Him. He also supernaturally saved me from what should have been a very bad car accident in a way that defies science. The only explanation is God! Nobody can ever convince me He is not there. Please ask him to reveal himself to you, and please have an open mind and heart! ❤️
This woman is a great role model for woman that are so lost and misguided…she is a saviour of women and the human race and is someone too be proud of in my opinion….she’s awesome she’s a Queen worthy of my respect and worship!
I’m realizing im so much like her now! I literally thought like they said in the beginning,”Isn’t this common sense?!”… this all seems like duh, how do people not know this. How society is changing and why people act as they do. I didn’t need degrees to know all of this haha
Narcissism exists. Yes people have overly used the term to create a victim mindset but when you experience narcissism it is like nothing else. Can’t believe she’s a therapist. Insane.
Why are people dating Narcissists? I believe she's right in asking that question, and it's a very important question. Maybe she's right and people love narcissists because it gives them the perfect scenario to feel like perpetual victims and get attention and pity from others, which sounds like what a narcissist would do. I guess people are not really ready to have the conversation because they lack accountability and second, they love feeling like victims, and anything that will expose a narcissist would actually generate the kind of response that we see in these comments. So she's right.
Sadia is spot on with her comment about narcissism .. go read around on social media 99% of people(mostly women) that have just broken up with a guy will tell he is a narcissist .. the term narcissist gets thrown around way too easily these days and it’s losing all meaning. Oh btw I find it hilarious and right when she said the people that are making the claim that their ex is a narcissist - they are the ones that are narcissistic lol
@@brianmeen2158and it going mainstream jargon detracts from the validity of those who truly suffered in those relationships. It's not an easy subject to truly understand or see the undermining kids deal with.
@brianmeen2158 finally some one who sees yrs ago was no such thing as narcissism now every girl calls thre boyfriend or partner ect a narcissist lol 😂
What men need to be/ have :- self control, leadership, virtuous, god loving, valuing commitment, high self esteem, financially well of, fit, tough mind(able to do right thing is situation favouring the wrong choice), fit, goal Oriented, delayed gratification. Not impulsive or in control of impulses. Have values & principles in place to make the right choices, have a 3rd person perspective, self respect, have the ability to walk away. FOR WOMEN( what a man who is having all the above traits wants from his partner : Ambitious, strong values and principles, only available to her partner, no male friends, god loving, understanding, accountable, less body count((no one wants to deal with a woman with trauma - due to her past) - I believe it's same for men as well, hence I belive men should only have sex with women who they consider to marry only period. Understand :- commitment, how the game works, both of them are a unit ( us against the world not each other). Understanding kids, is empathetic. To be very honest : both need to keep in mind :- what would happen if someone did this to me. Become oneself better for his/her partner that's the gift, grow together. Both need to have urges in control : stop giving these foolish dumb excuses to yourself that this is how men are designed or women are designed: u need to be responsible and make yourself to become better. Both should be brutally honest with each other. Both need to understand envy in this world and learn how to stay unaffected. Both need to firstly keep oneself in check then their partner asap anything slips. It's both. I say it again :- STOP giving excuses, stop being on the leash of your impulses, emotions : it means you are weak and there is no difference between you and an animal. Cultivate your ability to do the right thing. Be a person whom you would want to be with.... Don't say she did what he did, men are like this women are like this don't let anyone's betrayal, indeed, poor decision making, lack of intellect affect you as a person. Stick up to your moral, standards grow into it always stick by it irrespective of what others do, be a righteous partner, person, husband, wife. Date to marry. Date for intimacy, choose wisely, love is the answer. Question your beliefs, make them better. Keep yourself open to other people's opinions and understand what he/she wants to achieve or gain is there any agenda is the reason right, wrong act accordingly. Become the change you want to see in this world.
Her comment about capitalism is wrong. She is describing corruption, not capitalism. Corruption in any system will cause problems like the ones she stated.
You are right, but You forget, that capitalism is the corruption in democracy. It is capitalism that influences our choices in democratic votes, choices in romantic Partner and choices of the goods You buy.
She shows so many red flags in her behavior 🚩🚩🚩🚩 but doesn't try to hide them (and she actually told about that). She still delivers many truths and doesn't try to trick men or women on their relation
Hi Tom, I've been following you since 2016 and i trully adore Lisa! She is so inspiring woman and she help me to remind myself that good, inteligent and nice women still exist in this world. She was an example of female quailities I was looking for in a potential wife. Thank you both! BTW: you should reactivate relationship theory
She’s speaking for god??? Or promoting a narrow perspective of what a group of humans promote by their limited beliefs or limited understanding. Two wives?? Although she has some valid points….She also appears to speak from both sides of her mouth & hypocritical toward living up to her own belief system….???
I don't know what this woman's qualifications are but she is talking about men and women I know nothing about. I really don't think she knows all that whomever gives her credit for. No thanks for this advice...
She really thinks she knows it all 😂 there are folks that will surprise you in the best way possible. Looking for love in the wrong places is the folks she's talking about.
You are right in that she has no clinical training. I don't understand why she doesn't just say that... lots of coaches have no clinical training... they don't pose as doctors... which is what a clinical psychologist is... someone with a PhD in Clinical psych, has passed their boards, and is licensed.
Awesome podcast Tom! Interesting topics; thank you so much! I really enjoy listening to your podcasts and learning valuable things for life from them! Thank you.
Relationship advice for couples with or without kids is different universes. It’s not the same thing to leave a relationship with kids. Without kids it’s just about you.
dont group me in a generalised men or women category. nobody is on a gender team here. the only team is you and your opposite sex spouse and its till death do you part. the problem is people get lazy and complacent. never stop treating each other like you are dating. kiss every day and say i love you. honour your vows. it says a lot about your character if you can transcend the physical and learn what real love is.
She's wrong in thinking that men fall in love through sex....thats why guys can be promiscuous and women cant...she was thinking from a women's standpoint... Also men like to teach a woman about sex...if she's going to stay. Men are as much attracted to promiscuous women, as women are attracted to short, weak, broke men
You are speaking from a non-promiscuous standpoint. The reality is most men are promiscuous themselves, which is why it is possible for women to be promiscuous. The men are the leaders of society. Women just start to follow what men do.
Most men DO think with the package below the belt, primarily. Men can reproduce into their seventies,.women cease at 42. This disparity levels and evens out in sixties. Basic Biological instincts have everything to do with sexual relationships. Was the 'security' aspect discussed? I may have missed it if it was. Of course, my opinion is just that...an opinion.
I watched the whole thing and realized how jealous women(including this lady) are towards men who are dating with a much younger women, this is something that they can never keep up with and that's what they are jealous about, I've always experienced this in my life and regardless, this is my personal experience that when you get older, something unknown to me(whether it's social status or maturity) tends to attract much younger women towards me , It's really out of our control, it only happens time to time!!
Done @ 1 hr 55, when she said there's no such thing as narcissist's, just people who choose to be abused ? i beg your ??????? pardon .. what ? I had no choice, i was adopted by a pair of alcoholic,, narcissist child abusers. I can assure you they exist. & what you both thought that was funny ? un subbing
Wow! Narcissism is a very real personality disorder, and I’m VERY sorry you grew up that way! I encountered it in a man I luckily never got too serious with (because of the red flags), and wow, what a nightmare I could foresee it would be. I hope you are now surrounded by healthy minded people who love and value you! ❤
@@tc59932 It would be nice if channels would better vet their guests though. She seemed suspicious to me, so I visited her channel yesterday, and just seeing how she responds to comments and throws insults like she’s in high school was shocking and is enough evidence to not take her seriously, and she’s not a real psychologist. :/ Maybe she is controlled opposition. I actually unsubbed due to this show also, because it’s not the first time he introduced me to a guest of this caliber, and I don’t want to be exposed to these types of people anymore. :/
A bit of criticism towards Sadia here. She says, “Men say they just want peace but they never define what it is.” But when asked, “Define what indicates a woman is attracted to a man.” She responds with, “Choose a woman who is attracted to you.” in turn, never defining what it is.
Her knowledge base seems to be sourced from warped online attention seeking dynamics of both men and women, not actual interpersonal dynamics. The conclusions she draws are really bizarre as a result, for example: “Low self esteem men don’t really care if they are wanted by a woman.” I would argue it’s their number one desire. It seems like she is basing her conclusions on the army of simps showering attention and resources in purely one way interactions and concluding that’s the final state these guys are really hoping for, that they don’t care if she wants them back. Instead of a desperate, ineffective, short sighted and dumb approach to try to get a woman to want them. She’s backwards on many conclusions.
She doesnt get that the attention these low self esteemd dudes buy with tools like OF are the only way they can get love. The underlying reality is that she doesn’t accept is that millions of men like that are not preselected as potential partners. Since they are human they have a natural desire for love too and I think as they get dtarved of it by women’s expectations (which doesnt consider average men as date worthy let alone lower status males) it as if they patching their wounds by spending money for love
No she is the one who is answering questions and knows more of the subject. So why are people coming on here to listen to the presenter no? Most of people came to listen to her
WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!
If you follow her channel you will realize that her content is clickbait. Shes trying to be andrew tate. Its so odd
And all she does is make clips from her old interviews instead of make new content
Tom! Love your content. I'm always just checking in on your videos and think... "I used to work with him" (what an honor that was, even before all your successes). Love how you've taken your success and using your wealth to make the world a better place. Thank you!
I'm really disappointed with you @TomBilyeu
I'm not sure when you took such a weird direction in your content.But it's just not the positive vibe that you gave when I first ran across you.
I wish you the best of luck, but I'm out.
She over values the value men have in his woman’s desire. Genuine desire is fleeting, like love… and oxytocin will force desire.
hahaha
The power of leaving the table when respect is not served, is real
"The toxicity comes from the inability to walk away." I believe this is so true... for both men and women. I think Sadia is at the heart of something deep in all relationships.
Left me speechless when I heard that
@AugustoAlmeida-ll4pz While I don't disagree with you, I think your abuser stance is one-sided. My comment was intended to be broad. For example, a healthy relationship can become toxic, not from abuse, but from an overdependence. What makes it toxic is the failure to maintain personal boundaries and individual growth. Toxicity isn't limited to abusive behavior; it can also stem from unhealthy dynamics that stifle both parties.
@@tooljack4439 it's not just abuse. Things likely became very toxic before it got to the point of abuse, and the inability to walk away at the point of toxicity creates a more toxic envirment that leads to abuse.
Fortunately I had the ability to walked away, and I agree with you!
Tate says the exact same things. In the modern West, walking away is the only true leverage any man ultimately has. And when you say you will after she is disrespectful, you must follow through.
I am obsessed with this woman. I love how once she learned more. She changed her opinion. And she apologized about it!! WOW!! She is the queen of Prospective!!!
@fillupbanks7885:
Uh, duh.
The ONLY way anyone can POSSIBLY ever LEARN anything is to:
1. Be open minded (cuz otherwise you already know it all)...
(as in, a new, different explanation of something);
2. After you've heard something new, to be able to incorporate it into your "worldview" or working knowledge.
So, essentially...
Learning:
That's the definition of changing your perspective.
😮
Obsession.
Women used to play hard to get but now they are hard to want.
Hard to wanna keep you mean…cuz I still want them but for disposable use only
I haven’t watched Tom or this channel in a while. It’s incredible how he’s only gotten better at interviewing, breaking down complex and nuanced subjects, and all with incredible reasoning. Forget why I loved this channel in the first place.
Thank you for having me Tom. Loved this
Why are you afraid to debate Rollo and Michael Sartain if you're convinced in what you say?
I just love u
You did so good. You ruffled feathers and spoke actual truths.
@@julieterrell1973Yoh 😮😮
Enjoy listening to you 😊 People hurt because you're speaking truth.
Peace over pleasure only goes to people who understand true gratitude gracefully so if you can find a partner who can be vulnerable, loyal and strong at the same time then and their character aligns with you long term and you can have fun together then, you’ve hit gold!.
Having boundaries changed my relationship game.
That's really true. Unfortunately nobody taught us anywhere, and we found out through heartbreaks and failures. But at this point, it seems it's becoming difficult to have a heartbreak in the first place
Could you please specify what kind of boundries change your relationship.
@@MrMultiHerbatnik A couple examples: 1. Do not air out our dirty laundry in public 2. If they "can't make it" too many times in a row, they gotta go 3. They constantly talk negative behind your back, see ya!
The entire passage where she speaks about the need of a private life being congruent to a public like really hits the nail.
That’s a mantra for happiness, right here.
Thank you for that 🙏
Weak men create hard times. I saved you 3 and half hours.
I see why you said what you said now lol
😂
😂😂😂
Watch Dan Bacon.
I saved you love life.
You're welcome.
Sure but how do you become a strong man? You don't become a strong man by reciting I'm a strong man 12h a day. There has to be more to it.
Love her. She may not say what many want to hear, but she's pretty accurate for the kind of relationship most of us are going for but often make excuses and lower standards when we can't find it.
I think she says some truths but the more I listen to her podcast appearances it’s very odd because she also seems to have a surface level knowledge. It’s a like she has a ton of surface level knowledge but not a ton of deeper understanding
Yeah I never thought about it like this. After listening to her, I gotta agree that us men share a lot of the blame for the falling standards in women we complain about. It's the behaviour we men reward in women. Right from a younger age, most of us get attracted to the more shallow, hotter and promiscuous type of girls instead of girls who are more traditional and maybe have more substance.
True
I am pretty and take care of myself and I have substance as well.
@@helloiamthechosenone Sad for me we didn't meet sooner :(
I think it’s surface level true but when you dive deeper I believe it’s completely falsifiable.
@@helloiamthechosenonehi ❤️👋
Confidence comes from competence and the byproduct is self esteem. Nothing artificial implemented will match because it misses authenticity.
I can't speak for all men, but I've never been attracted to promiscuous women, and I don't think I'm the only one. It's a turn-off, even for a casual encounter, so a long-term relationship is definitely out of the question.
That's great but that doesn't negate the fact that culturally men have moved towards preferrimg promiscuous women.
@@leeanne1457men like women who are promiscuous for THEM.....
That's not a new or hard concept
@@leeanne1457 yes, they forget that, otherwise OF wouldn't exist.
@@leeanne1457Culturally to whom? Which culture? American culture? Western countries collective cultures? I agree that there is truth to what you're saying but I don't think it is the entire world because not everyones behavior in the world reflects that. I think that was an error in the video. There were generalizations about "men" and "women" as if everyone behaves a certain way when there should have been a mention of which people they are discussing specifically.
@@leeanne1457 The Majority of men WOULD be in a long term relationship with a woman IF a woman did not end the relationship.
This is a statistical fact.
First time watching Sadia - I think she is easily one of the TOP 10 podcasters - for me - brilliant,quick mind...
Tom, PUSHING BACK in an interview it's a great idea! Debate nicely. It's so much better then any podcast where nobody gets challanged
Yes, noticed this also! Let’s her finish a thought then brings it up later for civilized conversation. People in politics need to take notes 😂
This is one of the greatest discussions on this topic I’ve heard in a long time. And I agree with it all. Who cares if somebody hates you as a result of it… this needs to get out in the open. And even as good as it is, it is probably the tip of the iceberg. Keep it going and I’d love to join your cause- this needs to get out into the masses. It’s too important. 😊
online dating and Instagram has ruined women for men. And porn has ruined men for women. I don't know how to fix this problem. All I know is that relationships will never be the same moving forward
I love this comment! Thank you for talking about both sides of the equation.
Make porn illegal?
@@bhfanaticosiI think people who want to consume porn will always find away, but I think there should be more information provided to the general population about what the medical community has known for a while about how porn literally changes the brain in ways that make it very difficult to enjoy sex. Google “pornography induced erectile dysfunction” to see just the tip of the iceberg.
Very accurate and I personally think that the only remedy to this situation is to detoxify society and go back to how things worked 100 years ago
Facts man especially the porn and undisciplined-weak men has fucked up this world there’s to much gay TikTokers, this is the softest era known to mankind
1:30 secs in,
I didn’t know if I would listen to this podcast, but when she said guys assume things bc the guy picked her without her earning it, is spot on! 💯 🎯 ✍️
Love Sadia, she is so fun to watch. She speaks candidly and from experience. Aware of her own limitations and bias. Agree with her more than disagree. 👹
I’m not so sure… she seems quite awkward and uncomfortable. This may come from a couple of things but she isn’t relaxed in a conversation, and that is part due to the fact that she has 0 facial expressions (work done & Botox) speaks REALLY FAST (somewhat erratic) and also wants to give a response even though the interviewer has either moved on or hasn’t finished the question.
I love the Chemistry between Tom and Sadia. This is my favorite podcast of Sadia. Tom, you're amazing at podcasting. Thank you both very much.
I spent 3 hours plus listening to this conversation because it was very interesting and informative.
The debate was great too!
Same here
Sadia is gorgeous but her arguments have taken a turn for the worse in the last year.
One great takeaway is "Don't fall in love with her face, but with the way she treats you" ..words to live by.
Yes she seems more jaded here than in other interviews
I love this woman! While I do disagree with some of her opinions on politics, and some of her other views, her core values are spot on. I have enjoyed your interviews with Sadia.
Also, Tom, I like Lisa, but I could see why some others don’t, she has a strong personality, and she seems over the top at times. I think you’re all awesome!💪🏿
As a content creator myself and as one who has put a lot of thought into these ideas, I found Sadia Khan to have real solid thinking and perspective and I feel you could have allowed her to talk a bit more.
I have watched her a couple of times now and I have to say that nothing she says makes any sense to me. What I see is not men with unrealistic expectations so much as I see decent, kind, attractive men getting rejected by entitled women. To me, that's as much the reality as gravity.
Good point man
Only men criticize her, that’s the proof that she is right in most of her viewpoints, classic men and their ego can’t accept anything real coming from a women. 🙄
Doubt it!
I agree that a lot of what she says only makes sense if you have a surface level knowledge on the topic (Whig is confusing since she’s propped up as an authority on this subject) however I also believe what you’re saying is short sighted as well.
Being decent and kind doesn’t attract women, being attractive helps attract women but confidence, purpose, responsibility, etc. are what really attracts women. It’s not to say that a woman doesn’t desire decent kind guys but if that’s all you bring to the table then you’ve failed to understand what attracts women.
@@TheVeillin I don’t disagree. In fact, that’s part of what I’m saying.
I think she's very aware but her blaming men and porn as the primary driver for unrealistic expectations is BACKWARDS. Women have FAR more options then men due to online dating, social media, etc. So the moment they get bored or frustrated, they move on. It's sad she can't see this is the primary driver. In this day and age, to use her example, ugly or fat women all think they can get a top tier man. No guy I know that's average thinks he can get a top tier girl "because of porn".
Islam is right about women. Its men's fault for being weak and allowing a matriarchical society flourish in the west to begin with.
Its not exactly backwards. I hear you on the last bit but the first bit she explained that there are far more men glorifying sex then woman. There could be 100,000 pornstars but theres hundreds of millions of men who watch them. The ratio is the problem, women are just capitalizing
Absolutely Correct Jarenb…
Women hold ALL of the cards in most relationships and manipulate men because they can.
Choose quality. That takes time that most people aren't willing to invest in.
I think it's often a lack of self discovery towards personal values, how to make sure there is compatibility, good communication skills and willingness to compromise (without dropping ones values). And considering 50% of us walk around with attachment issues, unresolved trauma and more. It's no wonder it doesn't work out. Lack of self love. Can't truly love anyone else fully without loving ourselves first.
Oh, and our society breeds narcissistic traits like fruit flies. @@bonnie1097
In my opinion this UA-cam channel brings THE MOST VALUE to the viewers. Tom prioritizes value to us not views and IT SHOWS. Thank you Tom! God bless you!!!!
This isn’t valuable content. She’s not credentialed (and isn’t truthful about it), and she bullies people on her social media platforms in ways that are downright shocking. Just a quick search will reveal this. Many people are very concerned that large platforms are having her on…
@@PeaceIsYeshua you’re offended or threatened by what she says and it’s blinding you from seeing the value. The podcast and episode is filled with value
@@deaglefly4338
I didn’t listen to what she said for more than a minute. I had a bad feeling about her, and those feelings were confirmed. Please check out what I’m talking about and be careful who you take advice from. 🙏🏻 I’m very concerned that she’s influencing people as a “psychologist.”
It's amazing to me to see, but something I've learned in life is, the most valuable and knowledgeable people that have actual and helpful advice, are usually the ones society will tell you not to listen to, to me, social disapproval is a badge of honor, in most cases, she reminds me of teal swan, wisdom that most people don't want to be shared. Sad but true.
@@juniperstardust5549
You’re right! But I think it’s mostly alternative shows that feature her? I typically like the guests of alternative shows, but not in this case. She also holds to Muslim ideologies, and I don’t think I need to explain why those are destructive. There’s a clip on (redd) it where she’s praising child marriage…. and she’s deceptive. Plenty of red flags. 🚩
I love sadia, she is a force of good. Great example of what good women look like (ideals, values, etc) for those that haven't grown up around them.
Cheaters cheat because they lack integrity and are lead by their Feelings not their conviction to be a honorable honest person. SELFISH
Wrong, cheaters cheat because they want to stay in their relationships despite being treated like a step child.
Cheaters cheat because of the pleasure principle which is the natural desire for more pleasure and less pain. The addiction to dopamine serotonin or oxytocin. When a relationship is boring and lacking, people will cheat. We do whatever is pleasurable to do. We are faithful if it feels good to be and unfaithful if it feels good to be. We are constantly bouncing from one end to the other because discipline is not a natural thing but the desire for pleasure is all natural
We cheat because we're animals. The constraints of a relationship is a false abstract connection. We're pretending to be something we're not. Sure you can chose not to cheat but that's individual choice. By nature we're still animals.
@@jeffreycharles5144 I think what your saying is partially correct but not universal. It's more nuanced and balanced in that there are situations where it is purely out of pleasure and other situations where it is out of unmet need. It really depends on each person's particular dynamics.
@@anthony212459Agree completely. Also there are no real conversations about each person's desires initially so that if you're a person who would say, choose not to be with other partners or lovers, you align more with someone who would be a better fit. Also we aren't naturally monogamous despite monogamy being sold as the norm
I like the way Sadia is engaging. after her response, she ends with a question for the host
Ehhh…I can understand some of her viewpoints however I can tell she is very biased towards her own side and even admitted to sounding very different than her first time on IT. She kinda comes off as not sure or confused about her thoughts and experiences which I can understand to an extent as this subject is complex. Mostly sounds like she talking in circles but is trying to blame men for a lot of problems when it’s more of cultural and societal issues which Tom thankfully teases against what she is saying. And her belief of hypergamy as she stated early in the interview I think is kinda backwards….smh. All in all, this was a great interview.
you literally just gave several reasons why she wasnt (a great interview)
@@coffeeandflowerz …exactly the point…while she wasn’t a great interview, the interview itself and Tom’s questions and perspectives is what made it a great interview as it parsed out all the BS and showcased the bias while pointing out the actual underlying issues influencing those biases.
@@grunge4ever08I felt a lot of that is that she is jaded by her clients. I saw that at times she was uncomfortable as though there was something else going on with her. (Perhaps anxious or another internal concern bothering her) I can tell her clients have changed her perspective. Yet, her clients are 1% of all men on earth so that in of itself is flawed, because the 1% are not reflections of all mens behaviors. I hope she takes a few regular men for the sake of seeing balance and remembering there is more of a Spectrum of the behaviors men are dealing with as they relate with women and it isn't just wealthy men who seem to have behaviors that are off putting.
@@jacobclayton2954 Point well taken with her being jaded especially the male clients she had gotten were of the upper echelon of all men who are likely able to afford her premium fees as opposed to average men. Often times people with a lot more resources at their disposal have an inflated ego and skewed outlook on life and the opposite sex. Like 1st world problems…it’s seems from their worldview perspective it would be considered “the top 1% problems”….i agree that she should take a few regular men to broaden her perspective and recognize there is a spectrum. In doing this she would be able to be more effective in her efforts to make a positive impact.
@@jacobclayton2954 Her Clients are the wealthy men of Dubai who can afford for $2000 a hr session with her. As Dubai has no social programs for mental health/well being outside of religion the only men going to her in a financially extreme country like that are men with excess wealth and time to spend.
She is not having sessions with the guys who live in cages that built that city thats for damn sure.
Even when she said $50 hr clients are different than $1200 an hour clients while yes she is right but BOTH of those clients are going to be in the 100k+ club living in dubai and using a psychiatrist at all.
you know when the guy who makes 48k a year see's a pyschiatrist? when the hospital offers one for free and bills his Healthcare provider.
"The toxicity comes from the unwillingness to walk away" - Amen sister!
People are triggered that’s how you know she is telling some truth
LOL
She has many haters 😂
I made a comment on one of her videos and got crushed by low confidence guys
“Science” can be very subjective and bias as well. How many things were “proven” by science only later to be disproven by “science”. Science for a lot of things is a asking 1k a serious of questions and all of a sudden its congruent across its entirety. Look the plandemic and science proving “misinformation” only later that it wasnt misinformation…. Get a couple “experts” in a field agreeing on a subject and thats the truth all of a sudden…. “Insults” are often seen that way because they true and people cant admit it….. Like calling someone overweight that is……. Is an insult???? Thats truth homie
People say "triggered" because they foolishly think it makes them look intelligent.
@@Madagascar2024Yet, Chad still wants nothing to do with you.
I am an older man who is an introvert and just an average man who keeps getting into bad relationships and this conversation has been helped
Dr. Khan can’t hide the contempt she has for the men she treats. It seems living in Dubai has truly jaded her views on men.
I believe that to be accurate.
When she said Men are only going for the most beautiful you already knew this is looking at the top 5% of men in the world who some are living in dubai.
The Average man finds the AVERAGE woman sexually attractive
The Average woman DOES NOT find the average man to be sexually attractive
she attributes to all men what the top 5% of men do
even basic statements like "these men spend 10k on a OF model" this CANNOT be the average American man... who is making 48k a year the #1 vice in America is
Alcohol (its really fast food but w/e) the average man spends $4800 a year on alcohol which is oddly 10% of his yearly income... again the Idea that the average man
sends 10k to a OF model is absurd and impossible. The man who spends that much on "porn" is making 150k+ a year and is nowhere near the "average" for men.
@@jasonu3741 💯 I think in the end it will be 20% men and women fighting for the 20% of the opposite sex, everyone else will have sex robots for better or worse.
If she’s treating men who want to get better she can’t have contempt for them otherwise her work won’t be as successful. The men will feel the contempt. This is not rewarding nor feels good. She really should have more gratitude for the men she’s treating because these are the people who actually want to change. They seeked her help out. She only has gratitude when she’s talking to men who are already there like Tom. I really hope she works on this.
@@aaroncabrera9955these men are betas, just the fact that they go to ask to a w0m@n how to be a man 👨 that tells you everything!
Such an interesting topic. It's appears that men and women are becoming more and more at odds with their goals and what they value. While I agreed with most things both of you said, the one thing I was very disappointed to see get brushed over was when Sadia continued to fervently ask why men are "obsessed with vagina?" It felt personal and shameful. It is however, just biological preprogramming. They can help it no more than women's obsession with romance and "cuddling". I sure hope she comes back. I feel I have more questions than answers. Tom, I feel like you hinted at some of these inconsistencies but pulled some punches. Great work as always.
I noted a few times where he very gently but directly and indirectly shared that she may want to look inside herself for how she is thinking and take a deeper look at what she is saying. I loved how he focused on connecting with her rather than being right.
Tom is patient, imagining listening to this lady for three hours.
I was thinking the opposite sometimes I can't handle him, I've had to take breaks over the past 3 days, It's just a little bit too much 😂
When she talks abt what men say they want, versus what the reward, really hits home. I am a living testimony of it, i am someone is practicing abstinence, high morals & integrity, very caring and giving but men will not commit or take me serious bc i won't have sex with them. I've done a ton of work to not take it personally but it is honestly exhausting to see men say online & to my face that they want reserve classy girls & then immediately get into a relationship w/ women who have body counts 50+. But aye at least ik im protected from those kind of men 🤷🏾♀️
Nice conversation. A couple thoughts. I think that Men who are in high demand view agreeableness as unattractive in the same way high demand women do. Because the challenge excites them. It creates feelings that a nonconfrontational person can't inspire. That being said, there is a difference between pushback and toxic behavior.
I really miss the old Impact Theory that was positive, and business and life goals oriented. Now it feels like the focus is on fear of the future and more negative topics. I guess maybe that gets more attention. I will always be grateful for the old videos that were dedicated to accomplishment and hope.
Think so much has changed over the past 5 years we can’t help but get into other conversations which can seem negative. Also so much has changed over the past 100years we don’t understand how our species is on a decline: what’s favorable is that we can push to change these systems, ways, and ultimately starts within to ripple without. That whatever you want mirrors and those may mirror what makes you great and in turn echo into the world.
Why do you see it as negative?
Why is this negative? I’m confused. It’s informational
Go watch something else then
Yes, Sadia is right about all the things she says about women.
She mix bs with truth so elegantly
No counter points. Just huffing and puffing away in a dark room in your home in a forested, inbred area of Arkansas. Lol
Cause she’s only telling the truth when she’s taking the man’s side, right?
Notice how she’s holding both genders accountable. And you can’t stand that.
@@us5freaak nah she just attributes the behaviours and actions of the top 5% of men to ALL men
stop watching her if you're gonna be so useless in your criticism
@@jasonu3741 Is that not what we do for women as well?
Sadia Kahn is a brilliant communicator. Her perspectives, opinions, and points are crystal clear and succinct. I noticed that she leans heavily on stoic philosophy. Control or master your desir, if you, as a man, want to succeed in your life persuit or goal
My advice is listen to your better judgement, especially when it comes to women. But, understand that there is an obstacle in the way. If the needs of the "boys" are unmet, the "boys" will conspire against a man's better judgement. It is difficult for a man to listen to his better judgement over the incessant chatter of his disgruntled "boys". They turn into great lawyers on the side of poor judgement. Paying direct for box quiets the incessant chatter of the disgruntled "boys" and helps provide mental clarity. It is easy to not care about rejection or losing a woman that is no good for you, when you know without a doubt that your needs will be met. Just remember to always wrap it up.
The type "has to be the one who likes you back" is the part people forget. Are you your type's type? Is a question many people never ask themselves.
And i'm sorry , but I think your psychologist is only sharing a certain viewpoint.
Because I can tell you right now. I've never gone into a relationship thinking that the man is going to cheat automatically. And I can tell you multiple times that my friend's partners and even my own husband has gone into it, assuming that the female is going to cheat.
So I feel like her perspective is only true for about 50% of people.Because I've definitely seen the other 50%.So anytime that any group assumes that the other group is always coming at something from a certain perspective.You're going to miss half of the information and half of the accuracy.
She isn't a psychologist. She has zero medical training. In the USA this would be considered fraud... you're not allowed to impersonate a doctor. I think she holds residency in Dubai so I'm not sure how this applies in her case.
@@CaitlinWoodstock She does have a bachelors in psychology and even a masters degree in education and developmental psychology. You got upset about something she said and now you are trying to discredit her.
I strongly recommend Sadia to read the book Basic Economics by Tomas Sowell. As good as she is on relationships, she knows very little about the economy.
She always has the better answer, such a brilliant woman!
@Flo-ck8fx get help dude 😝
Sadia I totally admire your opinion. Morals, integrity and honorable people are a scarce group anymore
Yeah, we all learned about this on Jerry Springer and Maury Povich. Why are women not required to register for The Draft? Equality Now!
You are SO RIGHT! My son is blind and clueless? Horrifying to watch. He refuses to believe anything I tell him I see. He puts her on a pedestal and it’s outrageously naive!!!!
Can you show him through example? Like do you have examples you can share with him that might help him? Any men in your sphere who can educate him? 🙂
Best relationship conversation ever!
I was enjoying the interview until she said she didn't understand communism, but chose to talk poorly about capitalism. Enjoy your channel, keep up the great work.
It’s funny how people take sound bites out of these conversations and try to extract a black or white truth. She doesn’t truly believe that narcissists don’t exist. It’s a statement made as a part of an entire conversation and that conversation is made around two individuals bodies of thought. When you strip away the context from any statement you can make anybody sound bad.
Agreed w/ Sadia. High love overcomes low love. Long term goals overcome immediate gratifications.
I felt Sadia at times was flushed and anxious as well as jaded.
Sometimes I felt she was spot on. Other times, not so much, but maybe because Tom brought topics which challenged her to grow and learn.
I hope she is ok.
I really liked what she said in that you want a woman who actually is physically attracted to you.
Its critical.
You cannot get with someone who isnt digging you. Especially sexually. I think that is why many issues come up in the first place.
Tom I thought did a masterful job with seeking to connect with Sadia, rather than be right.
I think Tom followed up by asking Sadia what would be the essential ingredients for that initial attraction. It felt like she wasn't really able to answer it in a concrete way, not without compromising on her position that men were largely the problem.
Yes Tom did great job staying focused 🎯
@@gus4gus250because they are, they want traditional but will go for the one who satisfies him better with sex, that means experience which means practice a lot, equally promiscuous.
I agree with Sadia on hypergamy. Women will initially fall for a man who's superior to her in a general sense, meaning she's not able to manipulate him on a psychological level. He's "alpha" from an interrelational perspective. However, we should not forget that, according to evolutionary psychology, both men and women have two dating/mating strategies: short term and long term. And a woman who's in it for the short term has some VERY different desires in a man than one who has a long term strategy. Sadia's point rings most true when the woman has a short term strategy (casual sex, having fun, flirting, etc). Though, when the woman is looking for the father of her children, she will be more hypergamous in the traditional sense where he should not only be smarter than her, but also more successful/higher status.
Then why are there so many dating dating bad boys who end up single mums. I think we give too much credit to " intuition"
its absolutely terrifying to know that marriage and kids will lead to a significantly decreased sex life. I would love to have kids some day ... but this makes me think twice.
Don't do it man, I'm telling you, nothing is more valuable than your piece of mind and more important... your freedom!!!
That isn't the case for all.. especially if this points are brought in conversation as to how to stay connected. It's up to the couple to not become lazy with or without kids. Perspective is everything.
I believe it's mostly during the breast feeding phase (hormones), but afterwards I think it may be because of exhaustion. I think that if people manage to survive the baby stage and then put in the work to create chemistry, like before children, the sex life can be satisfying. But there just won't be as much time and energy to work on it, as if you don't have kids, so that's indeed something to think about.
I have two children and never stopped having sex. Always had more sex drive than my partners. To te last day of pregnancies we had it 2-3 times a day and no interruptions after that. Why should we? If your house is big enough it's fine. You not being a provide male - THAT'S WHAT KILLS HER PASSION FOR YOU! NOT CHILDREN!!
Believe me it's the end of access to the "Golden Door"
To start, I think Sadie’s insights are very good. Sadia’s blind spot/weakness about men is that she doesn’t seem to understand the drive they have for sex and understand that men have many times more testosterone drives their need and desire (it’s not the only thing, but it’s huge) Also, while she’s generally correct about relationships, there are definitely exceptions based on my life and experience. And yeah, drama and toxicity and instability are extremely unappealing.
The primary logic for most women is based in caution (not exactly fear). The primary logic for most men is based in aggression (not exactly anger). The two navigate this among everything else hopefully reaching a center point or middle ground. Both seeking peace a security with each other. Complimentary forces.
Her rewarding bad habit analogy is a chicken or the egg argument. I think it was a great follow up to challenge it with the human tendency to capitalize on convenience and needs.
This auto played, but as i started to listen I became hooked. What an incredible conversation.
Great convo. Thank you Sadia for being open to exploring ideas
This podcast i'm currently in it but i have to say it literally changed my life. Watching from South Africa
*Choose someone who **_truly_** loves and fears God, and someone who shows genuine care and **_respect_** towards you. If they don’t respect or value you, RUN!!*
Proverbs 31:10-29
People are evil and they will disguise behind religious beliefs or will pretend like they are religious when in reality they will get away with more
@@PeaceIsYeshua People who believe in a god are gullible and have poor judgment and poor reality testing
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Hey, Mick! I understand it may be hard for you to believe, but please don’t be so quick to dismiss the idea.
Did you know the Bible is the only book with 100% accurate prophecy? You won’t find one false prophecy within its pages. To me, this points to a divine author. ✨✍️
If the Bible is real, and God is real, I know I want to be on God’s side and following Him.
I know that I know He’s there. I have a relationship with Him. He guides me, warns me, and I can’t imagine life without Him.
He also supernaturally saved me from what should have been a very bad car accident in a way that defies science. The only explanation is God! Nobody can ever convince me He is not there.
Please ask him to reveal himself to you, and please have an open mind and heart! ❤️
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I wrote you back but YT has hidden my response. :/ Did you get the notification by chance?
She was so much smarter than him while being polite
He was trying to act like he knows shit , but she just laughed and let him think he was smart
Lol you’re just spreading hate. GTFOH
This woman is a great role model for woman that are so lost and misguided…she is a saviour of women and the human race and is someone too be proud of in my opinion….she’s awesome she’s a Queen worthy of my respect and worship!
I completely agree with you!
I’m realizing im so much like her now! I literally thought like they said in the beginning,”Isn’t this common sense?!”… this all seems like duh, how do people not know this. How society is changing and why people act as they do. I didn’t need degrees to know all of this haha
She thinks she knows how every woman thinks, but she could not be more wrong.
I learn so much from this, this is excellent content!
Narcissism exists. Yes people have overly used the term to create a victim mindset but when you experience narcissism it is like nothing else. Can’t believe she’s a therapist. Insane.
She isn't. She has no clinical training.
Why are people dating Narcissists? I believe she's right in asking that question, and it's a very important question. Maybe she's right and people love narcissists because it gives them the perfect scenario to feel like perpetual victims and get attention and pity from others, which sounds like what a narcissist would do.
I guess people are not really ready to have the conversation because they lack accountability and second, they love feeling like victims, and anything that will expose a narcissist would actually generate the kind of response that we see in these comments. So she's right.
Sadia is spot on with her comment about narcissism .. go read around on social media 99% of people(mostly women) that have just broken up with a guy will tell he is a narcissist .. the term narcissist gets thrown around way too easily these days and it’s losing all meaning. Oh btw I find it hilarious and right when she said the people that are making the claim that their ex is a narcissist - they are the ones that are narcissistic lol
@@brianmeen2158and it going mainstream jargon detracts from the validity of those who truly suffered in those relationships. It's not an easy subject to truly understand or see the undermining kids deal with.
@brianmeen2158 finally some one who sees yrs ago was no such thing as narcissism now every girl calls thre boyfriend or partner ect a narcissist lol 😂
Great idea sharing and pushback, both are great back and forth. Great debating with respect!
What men need to be/ have :- self control, leadership, virtuous, god loving, valuing commitment, high self esteem, financially well of, fit, tough mind(able to do right thing is situation favouring the wrong choice), fit, goal Oriented, delayed gratification. Not impulsive or in control of impulses. Have values & principles in place to make the right choices, have a 3rd person perspective, self respect, have the ability to walk away. FOR WOMEN( what a man who is having all the above traits wants from his partner : Ambitious, strong values and principles, only available to her partner, no male friends, god loving, understanding, accountable, less body count((no one wants to deal with a woman with trauma - due to her past) - I believe it's same for men as well, hence I belive men should only have sex with women who they consider to marry only period. Understand :- commitment, how the game works, both of them are a unit ( us against the world not each other). Understanding kids, is empathetic. To be very honest : both need to keep in mind :- what would happen if someone did this to me. Become oneself better for his/her partner that's the gift, grow together. Both need to have urges in control : stop giving these foolish dumb excuses to yourself that this is how men are designed or women are designed: u need to be responsible and make yourself to become better. Both should be brutally honest with each other. Both need to understand envy in this world and learn how to stay unaffected. Both need to firstly keep oneself in check then their partner asap anything slips. It's both. I say it again :- STOP giving excuses, stop being on the leash of your impulses, emotions : it means you are weak and there is no difference between you and an animal. Cultivate your ability to do the right thing. Be a person whom you would want to be with.... Don't say she did what he did, men are like this women are like this don't let anyone's betrayal, indeed, poor decision making, lack of intellect affect you as a person. Stick up to your moral, standards grow into it always stick by it irrespective of what others do, be a righteous partner, person, husband, wife. Date to marry. Date for intimacy, choose wisely, love is the answer. Question your beliefs, make them better. Keep yourself open to other people's opinions and understand what he/she wants to achieve or gain is there any agenda is the reason right, wrong act accordingly. Become the change you want to see in this world.
Thoughtful, wise advice. TY🙏
god loving? no thanks, i want my partner to be grounded in reality. it's really important.
@@phoenixfire8226so X out the spirit.. got it.
THIS WOMEN IS GENIUS, THANK YOU SADIA , SHE IS THE TRUW VOICE OF WOMAN... XOOO THANKS TOM. ANGELA IN MT.
Her comment about capitalism is wrong. She is describing corruption, not capitalism. Corruption in any system will cause problems like the ones she stated.
You are right, but You forget, that capitalism is the corruption in democracy.
It is capitalism that influences our choices in democratic votes, choices in romantic Partner and choices of the goods You buy.
I like her much more this time around. I'm glad she's changed her mind on things after doing more research.
She shows so many red flags in her behavior 🚩🚩🚩🚩 but doesn't try to hide them (and she actually told about that). She still delivers many truths and doesn't try to trick men or women on their relation
Shows many flags in her behavior, what do you mean actually?
Hi Tom, I've been following you since 2016 and i trully adore Lisa! She is so inspiring woman and she help me to remind myself that good, inteligent and nice women still exist in this world. She was an example of female quailities I was looking for in a potential wife. Thank you both!
BTW: you should reactivate relationship theory
LOVED THIS
I would make this interview mandatory in highschools globally 🙏🏼 thank you both! ❤
She’s speaking for god??? Or promoting a narrow perspective of what a group of humans promote by their limited beliefs or limited understanding.
Two wives?? Although she has some valid points….She also appears to speak from both sides of her mouth & hypocritical toward living up to her own belief system….???
This lady is exactly why im not dating .
I don't know what this woman's qualifications are but she is talking about men and women I know nothing about. I really don't think she knows all that whomever gives her credit for. No thanks for this advice...
She really thinks she knows it all 😂 there are folks that will surprise you in the best way possible. Looking for love in the wrong places is the folks she's talking about.
She has a fake degree posted on her website so I’m going to assume she doesn’t have any credentials lol
You are right in that she has no clinical training. I don't understand why she doesn't just say that... lots of coaches have no clinical training... they don't pose as doctors... which is what a clinical psychologist is... someone with a PhD in Clinical psych, has passed their boards, and is licensed.
Awesome podcast Tom! Interesting topics; thank you so much! I really enjoy listening to your podcasts and learning valuable things for life from them! Thank you.
I enjoy this. Thanks for the perspectives.
Relationship advice for couples with or without kids is different universes.
It’s not the same thing to leave a relationship with kids. Without kids it’s just about you.
dont group me in a generalised men or women category. nobody is on a gender team here. the only team is you and your opposite sex spouse and its till death do you part. the problem is people get lazy and complacent. never stop treating each other like you are dating. kiss every day and say i love you. honour your vows. it says a lot about your character if you can transcend the physical and learn what real love is.
Yes!
This needs 100K+ likes
Wonderful conversation! Big fan of Sadia.
She's wrong in thinking that men fall in love through sex....thats why guys can be promiscuous and women cant...she was thinking from a women's standpoint...
Also men like to teach a woman about sex...if she's going to stay. Men are as much attracted to promiscuous women, as women are attracted to short, weak, broke men
You are speaking from a non-promiscuous standpoint.
The reality is most men are promiscuous themselves, which is why it is possible for women to be promiscuous. The men are the leaders of society. Women just start to follow what men do.
Straight to the point.
Most men DO think with the package below the belt, primarily. Men can reproduce into their seventies,.women cease at 42. This disparity levels and evens out in sixties. Basic Biological instincts have everything to do with sexual relationships. Was the 'security' aspect discussed? I may have missed it if it was. Of course, my opinion is just that...an opinion.
Biological instincts are STRONG. Child bearing years and security are more important to women. Men can reproduce into their seventies often.
And that explains why porn is such a huge industry? What you described is a principled man, not the average man (at least in today’s world
I watched the whole thing and realized how jealous women(including this lady) are towards men who are dating with a much younger women, this is something that they can never keep up with and that's what they are jealous about, I've always experienced this in my life and regardless, this is my personal experience that when you get older, something unknown to me(whether it's social status or maturity) tends to attract much younger women towards me , It's really out of our control, it only happens time to time!!
Done @ 1 hr 55, when she said there's no such thing as narcissist's, just people who choose to be abused ? i beg your ??????? pardon .. what ? I had no choice, i was adopted by a pair of alcoholic,, narcissist child abusers. I can assure you they exist. & what you both thought that was funny ? un subbing
Wow! Narcissism is a very real personality disorder, and I’m VERY sorry you grew up that way! I encountered it in a man I luckily never got too serious with (because of the red flags), and wow, what a nightmare I could foresee it would be. I hope you are now surrounded by healthy minded people who love and value you! ❤
Unsubscribe from the guests channels, not the hosts channel here lol.
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It would be nice if channels would better vet their guests though. She seemed suspicious to me, so I visited her channel yesterday, and just seeing how she responds to comments and throws insults like she’s in high school was shocking and is enough evidence to not take her seriously, and she’s not a real psychologist. :/ Maybe she is controlled opposition. I actually unsubbed due to this show also, because it’s not the first time he introduced me to a guest of this caliber, and I don’t want to be exposed to these types of people anymore. :/
Some clouds have a silver lining.
Pleasure is, so often, the enemy of happiness
You don't ask fish how to catch fish.
You ask an experienced fisherman instead.
You don't ask a fish anything, cause they don't even speak English
Sadia thinks she is the.fish haha
Thank-you for arguing your points so well Sadia
She is assuming that both men/women, are judging one another by the same criteria. Not true.
1:52:20 Many words of wisdom from both in this discussion, but Tom, I like the way you approach validity of ideas. Thank you both
She’s marvelous! And beautiful!!
A bit of criticism towards Sadia here. She says, “Men say they just want peace but they never define what it is.” But when asked, “Define what indicates a woman is attracted to a man.” She responds with, “Choose a woman who is attracted to you.” in turn, never defining what it is.
This is like taking advice on how to hunt from a deer. 😆
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Only men criticize her, classic!
Her knowledge base seems to be sourced from warped online attention seeking dynamics of both men and women, not actual interpersonal dynamics. The conclusions she draws are really bizarre as a result, for example:
“Low self esteem men don’t really care if they are wanted by a woman.”
I would argue it’s their number one desire.
It seems like she is basing her conclusions on the army of simps showering attention and resources in purely one way interactions and concluding that’s the final state these guys are really hoping for, that they don’t care if she wants them back. Instead of a desperate, ineffective, short sighted and dumb approach to try to get a woman to want them.
She’s backwards on many conclusions.
She doesnt get that the attention these low self esteemd dudes buy with tools like OF are the only way they can get love. The underlying reality is that she doesn’t accept is that millions of men like that are not preselected as potential partners. Since they are human they have a natural desire for love too and I think as they get dtarved of it by women’s expectations (which doesnt consider average men as date worthy let alone lower status males) it as if they patching their wounds by spending money for love
I just learned more about women and relationships in the first 10min of this podcast then I had in the rest of my intire adult life. 😅
it's crazy how often she interrupts him
Because she is getting exposed
She does not interrupt him, they are having a conversation and she is giving her point of view, that’s why she said what do you think,
No she is the one who is answering questions and knows more of the subject. So why are people coming on here to listen to the presenter no? Most of people came to listen to her
@@aobakweCup326Dexposed about what? WTF are you even talking about?
She is very intelligent, honest and brilliant this woman will save a lot of people from confusion