🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: HOW TRAUMA EFFECTS MEN IN RELATIONSHIPS 00:00 🏛️ Open relationships can lead to putting desires over relationship needs, damaging commitment. 01:18 🚫 Forgiving cheating can lead to loss of self-respect and potential abuse, especially for men. 02:36 💔 Cheating can irreparably damage trust and lead to negative behaviors in a relationship. 04:44 🚼 Childhood trauma can impact adult relationships, influencing partner choices. 06:39 🏠 Absence of mother figure during childhood can lead to hyper-independence in relationships. 08:59 📱 Social media actions, like liking provocative photos, can damage relationships. 12:06 💑 Rejecting emotional connection bids predicts relationship issues and divorce. 14:11 🛋️ Couples counseling is valuable to maintain stable relationships, especially before having children. 15:41 📸 Being mindful of social media interactions with opposite-sex individuals is crucial. 19:05 💏 Quality time and attention can alleviate insecurity and maintain connection in relationships. 20:16 💪 Discipline is admirable; a disciplined man with principles and boundaries is respected. 21:13 💔 Jealousy can strain a relationship, and managing it takes patience; excessive jealousy is draining. 23:46 🎉 Utilize your 20s for personal growth, career development, and self-improvement, rather than just partying. 24:28 🌟 Fulfill your potential in your 20s to avoid regrets and maintain good mental health as you age. 27:07 💼 Life experiences in your 20s can shape your future; seek advice from experienced mentors. 29:43 👪 Starting a family is a goal; while every age is good for having children, be prepared to provide and be present. 30:54 👨👩👧👦 Choosing a partner for parenthood is critical; be cautious and considerate to ensure a healthy family environment. 32:08 👩👧👦 Consider using your platform to provide a balanced voice between feminist and "red pill" ideologies. 33:46 📚 Debunking divisive ideologies can promote healthier relationships and homes. 36:03 😬 Concerns about the next generation include hyper-sensitivity, offense, and excessive sexualization; fostering a balanced view is vital.
I also would like to know which book it is that they both refer to. Does anyone know the title of the book, the name of the author, or a have a link to it?..
Although Sadia said many very important things about psychology I've a strong feeling she's primarily an advocate for herself. It's just another mean of promotion.
@@RR-et6zpThat's an ignorant and dumb statement as it goes against the basis of psychology-we unconsciously operate in life our via childhood traumas/emotional-nourishment
@@RR-et6zpfrom someone who has supported very powerful and successful men to heal from their childhood trauma, I can attest that this is absolutely not true!
This woman is amazing! She is the embodiment of a what a woman should be. Even when she swears she's sweet. She is the role model that young girls and woman need in this day and age. I love how she doesnt pretend to be perfect and can easily admit her flaws. I absolutely love this woman. I have been watching everything with her in it the last few weeks and I just love her even more and more. Great podcast! We need more of her!
Sadia understands mental processes. She is a process analyst, very much like a process engineer but she takes care of mental processes of people. Acknowledging flaws is basically acknowledging a process. Flaws need to be identified before being fixed. You cannot fix what you do not see.
She has so much self awareness of herself is very impressive, and I love how authentic she is and not afraid to admit her flaws of being a jealous person. So few women are afraid or don't know they're insecure about something. We are all insecure about something and is wonderful when we're aware of it like she is.
My husband is hyper-indepent. All of his female role models growing up, in his mind, had problems.... I recently mentally checked out of our marriage when he told me that my happiness is my responsibility and to find a hobby after I confided in him that I miss him from being gone a lot and I am lonely. The worst feeling when you are feeling alone in a relationship or marriage.
It's your husband's responsibility to "calm" your emotions especially when you had just told him that you felt *isolated* when he was gone so much. It's *his* job to *comfort* his wife when she needs emotional support, otherwise if this were to happen too often, ... she might be tempted to find *emotional support* from a man other than her husband. You should *NEVER* feel emotionally *ALONE* when you have a husband !!!
@@DoloresSimpson oh that's BS lol, NOBODY is an emotional validation machine, or are you telling me mothers should ALWAYS fullfill their child needs? Even if she works? Or ill? Or whatever? Don't fucking shift responsibility, it's YOUR responsibility to give yourself emotional support at first place - YES because we are damn adults and your partner is NOT your fucking parent - and ONLY if your partner feels like he/she can give you smth, take it with appreciation. Never ever give your advice to anyone please
Sadia, your interviews should be played on national television with subtitles in all countries. Primetime. You have a way of reading people and finding the true reason and explaining things, I haven't seen anyone do it. I bet many people comment if i only knew that before...
It is so great, interesting and helpful that she admits to her insecurities in relationships. Some women will just casually say "their looks" as far as insecurities go, but the jealousy she talked about, with humility, in such detail is important for men to understand. I never would have known or presumed either way, judging from everything else about her. It's useful to see patterns in the way people profess to be in relationships.
I listen to you a lot. You are trying to help the society because you see we are in trouble. Keep trying even though people like negativity and drama, keep trying.
Very Refreshing to listen to younger adults who see the pitfalls of society and the need for discipline and in turn creating a strong foundation for children (our future) & families❤
I knew I had trauma but I didn’t realize I need to go to therapy until I had my son for 4yrs already and realized my son was getting an unhealed version of myself. Having him brought up so many more emotions I thought I had let go of.
Thought this would be one of them red pill podcast where men just slander women. I've never been more relieved to be wrong. It's unfortunate, but these kind of unbiased interaction where men & women agree & are so rare to see nowadays
@@afrofaeries right! Personally, I'm just so used to seeing the negative of red pill & the negative of feminist content. We need more real content like this bc all of this "it's men's fault/it's women's fault" content has gotten out of hand
Sadia, you are a mom to women like me who feel very broken and are learning how to rebuild self worth❤ Your content is always inspiring and educational.
I love your honesty, when you said that you struggle with jealousy I was shocked, you are an intelligent beautiful woman, thank you for being honest and vulnerable with your weaknesses.
You really help me. My dad is homeless now and was kinda out of his mind when i was growing up. Never really saw my dad be kind to my mother or vice versa. I was never abused directly but it was just constant insanity every night and morning. I just don't know how to love or be loved. Thanks to you and mike and chris who helped me find you
@@lylez00 I couldn't invite that insanity into my life. Its one thing if he just lost his job and needs to get back on his feet. Its another thing if they're mentally ill and/or drug addicted chaos magnets.
I don' t know how I will describe this mystic lady.she is so clear cut in her perception in her portrayal of human relationship & explaining the delicacy & intricacy of human relationship in effortless way.
The jealousy aspect has hurt my marriage so much. I am now working on restoring what is left of it. I'm always suspecting things. It's such a bad feeling.
This is a woman who you aspire to be really you are amazing. With all the ridiculous women out there degrading womanhood & relationships im glad a healthy ones still exist.
I'm frustrated with this video because it doesn't tell us who the man is. Now please forget I said it because.... the insight you provided is sooo helpful. I have a new sweetheart who suffered trauma in his family as a young teenager, and I've observed that he enjoys his time alone. Your insight makes it even easier for me to support him so we can both be happy and content. Thank you!
I swear the last few interviews I've seen with good looking guys like him, you can tell they are interested in Sadia when they are fishing but make it seem like it is part of their podcast but it's really for personal reasons. He's definitely into her and how can he not be. She is a great package except that envy side of her which really is or will be her own downfall. I love her interviews because she is truly refreshing to listen to and learn from.
Smart girl. A touch of class... 1. Open relationships 2. Forgiveness 3. Cheating 4. Dealing with trauma 5. Narcissistic mothers 6. Becoming hyper-independent 7. Creating emotional distance 8. Why women are annoyed 9. Men and women are different 10. Common issues in relationships 11. Should couples go to counseling 12. Problems in every relationship 13. Following girls 14. Being secretive 15. Being on social media 16. What is your ideal man 17. Are you currently in a relationship 18. Have you been wrong 19. Advice for 20’s 20. Do not settle in your 20’s 21. First time I fell in love 22. Mentorship 23. Money 24. Enjoying life 25. Having a baby 26. Choice 27. Female role models 28. Red poor things 29. Reviewing Myron’s book 30. Female guests on podcasts
I said “nothing” was wrong, in my 20s. I don’t do that now. But also, I don’t hear the question as often either. They know when something is wrong. It helps to love someone who can be as introspective as you. Communication is underrated. Stop being afraid!
Thank you also to Mike for being real and open to share some of his vulnerabilities and genuine doubts on life and relationships. In general this interview was so educational on how we could all be and care torwards one another. Faith in humanity restored
@@Alex.KalashnikI really want to be a mother and trust me living in the city you’re rare .. everyone seems to be selfish and afraid of the idea .. but then again might be a culture thing
Wow. I’ve learned so many vital things here. I’ve never heard of Sadia before. I have to process what I’ve been exposed to here. Some of it is painfully enlightening. Thank you.
Never stay with a man or a woman that cheats. Children will see and feel the pain caused and will grow to resent the family and the idea of marriage. Trust me staying doesn’t help the family.
@@RR-et6zp yeah they talked about men trauma and she immediately jumped into what such traumatized men should do to make their girls happy. Weird shit. Men do not exist to satisfy women. We are not fucking slaves
I just said that I think therapy should be a requirement the other day and definitely should be free! Love the social media part..men really don’t get the psychological damage they inflict openly lusting after other women.
Oh my! You are perfect❤️🪷🙏 Everything u say makes sense! I had deep depresion for 12 years( still have) but I've never seen a scycologist like you. Be blessed dear❤
Yes to mental health counseling and support being free and de-stigmatizing it. Also, thanks for the awareness around childhood trauma and how devastating it is on all fronts.
Sadia I am exactly the same with jealousy. I'm working on it and I know it is super draining sometimes to my husband. Really loved this conversation. Thank you for your expertise and insight.
I have been in that same situation where the women who loved me was using that reasoning of "If he loved me he should know why I mad at him." Damn lady I'm precisely asking what is wrong and you are putting every obstacle imaginable when it comes to communication. But in a weird way she was right. I should knew better. I've now realized I will choose a better partner who doesn't play mind games and tries to establish a solid foundation. Wish me luck, maybe I'm asking for the impossible
Omg 😮 this is my issue wherever a man is getting closer to me. I want distance. I didn't have a father figure so I don't know how it is to be love by a man and how to behave around one that has interest in me. I wish I can afford a session with you Sadia cause I never understand this blog that make me find myself lonely. I ran off men from wanting me 😢 you hit it on the nail with this one. I'm a big fan of yours. Much love ❤️
That chap is not puzzling. His is a sigma male. Them sort of men are probably the most misunderstood people on the planet, also highly intelligent. Which dose not help when comes to relating with people.
At the age of 8, I had the thoughts of serving a tour in the military, going to college, and helping others. Between the ages of 10 and 11, I was exposed to much hatred, including men. I changed my desire to getting a decent job, marrying a decent woman, and making the best for our children.
Sadya, jealousy is a symptom of distrust. It's not you, it's the man you're with, he sends a signal to your subconsciousness that he can't be trusted. It could be also how he behaves with other women, which is also a red flag. And if you experience jealousy consistently with every man you're with, it's easy to assume that the issue is with you. The issue actually is with you, specifically with your choice of men. I am sure that either you are attracting men that can't be trusted, and they approach you and that's how the relationship starts, or you personally choosing the same type of men. I bet on the first. You are smart, attractive and also seem to be a very gentle woman, this shows in everything, especially in the way you speak. This gentleness attracts dishonest men that know they are dishonest, because they see it as a weakness and they feel that they can be players with you, and you will tolerate it. Lots of love to you ❤.
If a woman cheats and gets caught, if he does want to forgive her, the incident is still always at the forefront. The slightest association trigger set him off, then the man punish her. As he punishes her and he relives the infidelity, he then begins to despise her. I am sure eventually they will separate. Not leaving must be the fear of not having someone else.
It is certainly not impossible for a relationship to survive infidelity by either party! Why do people assume that couples cannot resolve and overcome infidelity? With maturity, patience, love, kindness, and a renewed commitment to responsible behaviour, both men and women can move forward after infidelity, without destroying the relationship.
@@createone100depends on how the infidelity occurs as well…was it just a moment at the party while drunk and unable to rationalise and just doing what feels joyful …or….was it a full fledged planned affair….so many things to consider…and not all cheated relationships are recoverable neither should be…cheating is the worst thing one can do to his beloved,not even death compares to that
@@prameshsahu1957 it also depends if they come clean with remorse or if they lie and try and gaslight the partner until irrefutable evidence is presented.
My sister who’s been in a 20 yr relationship/marriage has found out her husband was having an affair for 2 yrs. And it’s been very difficult trying to work things out between them! She just withdrawn her love for her husband even tho he wanted to try make it work. They’re basically roommates! And my poor nephew has to live in this environment 💔
It sounds like you are blaming your sister for withdrawing love for her husband while it was him who destroyed the family. She is just reacting to his actions. The only thing she did wrong was to stay. Now she is blamed for not trying harder.
Just yell her to get over it or break the family up. Then leave when the kid moves out... so many marriages like that today. Yea he fuked up. If you got a wife worth the name, respect her and she will respect you back
This was a great interview. U 2 are awesome! The chemistry between you 2 was perfect. And i love how open an honest this sweet man was with her. And i definitely agree Saudie is a great role model for all women. Especially her energy is needed for younger women Loved this
wow! It was so refreshing to hear that you get jealous in that way. I am like that too but I keep it quiet mostly but sometimes it gets the better of me, I'm with a partner who is very private and keeps everything to himself, he's a sigma, scorpio male and he get s so annoyed with me when I ask details of what he's been doing when he's out, I'm always so open and tell him every detail but he doesnt do that, he likes to be secretive even though i have asked him on multiple occasions if he could share more. It has fueled suspiciousness in me at times which he gets very angry about if he senses that, its been very challenging. But thanks for your honesty it has made me feel better even if I know I still need to work on it. Thanks
As a woman, I have a different perspective on why women don't tell you what's "annoying" us: A. We feel ashamed or worried on some level that us having a need or want will push the man away. B. We often feel like we need to be accommodating and accepting of our man in all or most ways. (Most likely a fear of abandonment) For me for a long time, it was a lack of boundaries and fear of it making ME not good enough if a situation made me annoyed or unhappy, I thought there was something wrong with me. Now, I'm comfortable with expressing wants and needs in a kind and loving way
I imagine videos with topics like cheating and attraction are the ones that go viral, but I want to see more videos like this. Ones that illustrate how trauma, childhood and early development affect relationships.
You’re obviously looking fabulous! No men would argue, I don’t think. It’s just so fascinating the way you attract me. It’s nothing nasty I am talking about here, please don’t get me wrong. Watching your expressions and dealing with the natural human instinct, almost overcoming it is absolutely adorable! Pleasure, Madam
She’s fantastic ❤ I’m 50+ left 14 year medical working world and did the wife mother thing. She is spot on from my experience in marriage, relation-tips… please do a follow up
I feel that guy could visit some therapy. He is still amazing though. But you Sadia are on a different level of amazinness. I listen everything you say with passion
She’s right about daughters needing their fathers because this is the tale tale sign of they view men in general and how they choose their partner. This is fundamental is developmental psychology. Children are impressionable. Anything on what they observe or experience can affect their belief systems and behaviors in adulthood. I also love how she advocated for children too. Children are very perceptive and observant.
To be honest, this is an important topic. There are too many factors that affect our psychological well-being, both for women and men. And yes, we all come from childhood, and we also take and carry most of our traumas from there. And then we bring these traumas into our relationships with partners. Very few people go to psychologists to resolve these issues. The role of the mother in the life of a boy (man) is very, very important. After all, she is the first woman in his life, an example of behaviour, femininity, attitude to men, etc. This is the foundation.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: HOW TRAUMA EFFECTS MEN IN RELATIONSHIPS
00:00 🏛️ Open relationships can lead to putting desires over relationship needs, damaging commitment.
01:18 🚫 Forgiving cheating can lead to loss of self-respect and potential abuse, especially for men.
02:36 💔 Cheating can irreparably damage trust and lead to negative behaviors in a relationship.
04:44 🚼 Childhood trauma can impact adult relationships, influencing partner choices.
06:39 🏠 Absence of mother figure during childhood can lead to hyper-independence in relationships.
08:59 📱 Social media actions, like liking provocative photos, can damage relationships.
12:06 💑 Rejecting emotional connection bids predicts relationship issues and divorce.
14:11 🛋️ Couples counseling is valuable to maintain stable relationships, especially before having children.
15:41 📸 Being mindful of social media interactions with opposite-sex individuals is crucial.
19:05 💏 Quality time and attention can alleviate insecurity and maintain connection in relationships.
20:16 💪 Discipline is admirable; a disciplined man with principles and boundaries is respected.
21:13 💔 Jealousy can strain a relationship, and managing it takes patience; excessive jealousy is draining.
23:46 🎉 Utilize your 20s for personal growth, career development, and self-improvement, rather than just partying.
24:28 🌟 Fulfill your potential in your 20s to avoid regrets and maintain good mental health as you age.
27:07 💼 Life experiences in your 20s can shape your future; seek advice from experienced mentors.
29:43 👪 Starting a family is a goal; while every age is good for having children, be prepared to provide and be present.
30:54 👨👩👧👦 Choosing a partner for parenthood is critical; be cautious and considerate to ensure a healthy family environment.
32:08 👩👧👦 Consider using your platform to provide a balanced voice between feminist and "red pill" ideologies.
33:46 📚 Debunking divisive ideologies can promote healthier relationships and homes.
36:03 😬 Concerns about the next generation include hyper-sensitivity, offense, and excessive sexualization; fostering a balanced view is vital.
Thank you ❤❤❤❤
@@sadiapsychologybe open minded person you feel great in your life
@sadiapsychology what is the best way to do that kind of situation that kids don't get affected? Thanks
At 33min there was mentioned a book? Which one was that? Im blindly guessing its Rollo Tomassi book or am i wrong?
I also would like to know which book it is that they both refer to.
Does anyone know the title of the book, the name of the author, or a have a link to it?..
I love that primarily she is an advocate for children.
Prevention.
@@VontriceIyonnYeah because in some cases the most high value women cannot have children due to a disease
Although Sadia said many very important things about psychology I've a strong feeling she's primarily an advocate for herself. It's just another mean of promotion.
This is the embodiment of a masculine and feminine having a very healthy conversation.
Who is him?
@@TM-mx3rv Mike Thurston
It is good but it also sounds like a 33 yo man speaking to someone about some of his issues for the first time.
Yes
And it is natural.I listened some talks using this that method and it soundscapes do fake.
I love the fact that she open herself and shows her flaws! love her!
I love how she starts interviewing the interviewer. She is good. ❤
Trauma doesnt exist for men
@@RR-et6zpThat's an ignorant and dumb statement as it goes against the basis of psychology-we unconsciously operate in life our via childhood traumas/emotional-nourishment
its not a real field @@luckyyyinlove and no, that's not true
its not a real field @luckyyyinlove and no, that's not true@@luckyyyinlove
@@RR-et6zpfrom someone who has supported very powerful and successful men to heal from their childhood trauma, I can attest that this is absolutely not true!
Her pureness, honesty and how grounded she presents herself is just next level of intelligence. Love love loved this vid 🙌🏽💛
This woman is amazing! She is the embodiment of a what a woman should be. Even when she swears she's sweet. She is the role model that young girls and woman need in this day and age. I love how she doesnt pretend to be perfect and can easily admit her flaws. I absolutely love this woman. I have been watching everything with her in it the last few weeks and I just love her even more and more. Great podcast! We need more of her!
Sadia understands mental processes. She is a process analyst, very much like a process engineer but she takes care of mental processes of people. Acknowledging flaws is basically acknowledging a process. Flaws need to be identified before being fixed. You cannot fix what you do not see.
Sadia, "You owe yourself peace not pleasure"....😮 totally different message than the main stream.
She has so much self awareness of herself is very impressive, and I love how authentic she is and not afraid to admit her flaws of being a jealous person. So few women are afraid or don't know they're insecure about something. We are all insecure about something and is wonderful when we're aware of it like she is.
My husband is hyper-indepent. All of his female role models growing up, in his mind, had problems.... I recently mentally checked out of our marriage when he told me that my happiness is my responsibility and to find a hobby after I confided in him that I miss him from being gone a lot and I am lonely. The worst feeling when you are feeling alone in a relationship or marriage.
It's so hard this has been a message until now. We are now valuing attachment again
It's your husband's responsibility to "calm" your emotions especially when you had just told him that you felt *isolated* when he was gone so much. It's *his* job to *comfort* his wife when she needs emotional support, otherwise if this were to happen too often, ... she might be tempted to find *emotional support* from a man other than her husband. You should *NEVER* feel emotionally *ALONE* when you have a husband !!!
girl you wayyyy too pretty for that
lmao he's right tho, your happiness is totally YOUR responsibility
@@DoloresSimpson oh that's BS lol, NOBODY is an emotional validation machine, or are you telling me mothers should ALWAYS fullfill their child needs? Even if she works? Or ill? Or whatever? Don't fucking shift responsibility, it's YOUR responsibility to give yourself emotional support at first place - YES because we are damn adults and your partner is NOT your fucking parent - and ONLY if your partner feels like he/she can give you smth, take it with appreciation. Never ever give your advice to anyone please
Sadia, your interviews should be played on national television with subtitles in all countries. Primetime. You have a way of reading people and finding the true reason and explaining things, I haven't seen anyone do it. I bet many people comment if i only knew that before...
It is so great, interesting and helpful that she admits to her insecurities in relationships. Some women will just casually say "their looks" as far as insecurities go, but the jealousy she talked about, with humility, in such detail is important for men to understand. I never would have known or presumed either way, judging from everything else about her. It's useful to see patterns in the way people profess to be in relationships.
I listen to you a lot. You are trying to help the society because you see we are in trouble. Keep trying even though people like negativity and drama, keep trying.
Thank you so much x
Very Refreshing to listen to younger adults who see the pitfalls of society and the need for discipline and in turn creating a strong foundation for children (our future) & families❤
It is. We do our best in the home but society, school,media,friends,government propaganda all weigh in.
Why aren’t we talking about this more??? Thank you for this video, very much needed.
Childhood trauma-> Choices in Adulthood unless You choose to heal your trauma! So valuable!
I love how every one of these turns into a therapy session for the interviewer 😊
I looooove how she admits her flaws and she’s just like us and how we women can be very jealous and crazy ❤😂 love her she speaks the truth.
I knew I had trauma but I didn’t realize I need to go to therapy until I had my son for 4yrs already and realized my son was getting an unhealed version of myself. Having him brought up so many more emotions I thought I had let go of.
Thought this would be one of them red pill
podcast where men just slander women. I've never
been more relieved to be wrong. It's unfortunate, but
these kind of unbiased interaction where men & women
agree & are so rare to see nowadays
I agree!
Men and women need to support one another, I don’t care if red pillers and feminists disagree
@@afrofaeries right! Personally, I'm just so used to seeing the negative of red pill & the negative of feminist content. We need more real content like this bc all of this "it's men's fault/it's women's fault" content has gotten out of hand
Sadia, you are a mom to women like me who feel very broken and are learning how to rebuild self worth❤ Your content is always inspiring and educational.
I never get tired of listening to Sadia,she has made me understand women on a deeper level
I love your honesty, when you said that you struggle with jealousy I was shocked, you are an intelligent beautiful woman, thank you for being honest and vulnerable with your weaknesses.
You really help me. My dad is homeless now and was kinda out of his mind when i was growing up. Never really saw my dad be kind to my mother or vice versa. I was never abused directly but it was just constant insanity every night and morning. I just don't know how to love or be loved. Thanks to you and mike and chris who helped me find you
Pathetic
Why don't you take him in? I'd rather die than for my dad to spend a single night on the street.
@@champboehm7863 Understood. All the best.
@@lylez00 I couldn't invite that insanity into my life. Its one thing if he just lost his job and needs to get back on his feet. Its another thing if they're mentally ill and/or drug addicted chaos magnets.
I don' t know how I will describe this mystic lady.she is so clear cut in her perception in her portrayal of human relationship & explaining the delicacy & intricacy of human relationship in effortless way.
If women are more like Sadia, society would have been much better and healtly place! Thank you
I’m only jealous or insecure when they give me a reason to. And I give way too many chances.
Brains + Beauty = Sadia Khan. Much respects 👊
What about brains and not a beauty ?
She’s gorgeous
+ Super Crazy
@@janosik150why not a beauty? She doesnt look like a pig, a donkey or a frog. She IS beautiful.
@@incognito.502 what if she was not beautiful????? Then what????
I owe myself REAL love! I come from a very troubled childhood. I must chose wisely. I’m very quick to attract toxic men. I’m not giving up.
So glad you came here! Two videos in, and you’ve re-riddled my biggest relationship issues. Sheesh, you’re a Godsend, Sis! 💖🙏🏽✨
I’m not deaf, but I appreciate the subtitles for the disabled individuals. Good job.
The jealousy aspect has hurt my marriage so much. I am now working on restoring what is left of it. I'm always suspecting things. It's such a bad feeling.
I've always been telling that : women and men need to work together not to fight.
It's so refreshing to see someone on the internet talk that way !
This is a woman who you aspire to be really you are amazing. With all the ridiculous women out there degrading womanhood & relationships im glad a healthy ones still exist.
I'm frustrated with this video because it doesn't tell us who the man is. Now please forget I said it because.... the insight you provided is sooo helpful. I have a new sweetheart who suffered trauma in his family as a young teenager, and I've observed that he enjoys his time alone. Your insight makes it even easier for me to support him so we can both be happy and content. Thank you!
Sadia is truly amazing in having a meaningful conversation ❤
Sadia, do it. Spread the message on a larger scale, God, you and the world will thank you
I swear the last few interviews I've seen with good looking guys like him, you can tell they are interested in Sadia when they are fishing but make it seem like it is part of their podcast but it's really for personal reasons. He's definitely into her and how can he not be. She is a great package except that envy side of her which really is or will be her own downfall. I love her interviews because she is truly refreshing to listen to and learn from.
Smart girl. A touch of class...
1. Open relationships
2. Forgiveness
3. Cheating
4. Dealing with trauma
5. Narcissistic mothers
6. Becoming hyper-independent
7. Creating emotional distance
8. Why women are annoyed
9. Men and women are different
10. Common issues in relationships
11. Should couples go to counseling
12. Problems in every relationship
13. Following girls
14. Being secretive
15. Being on social media
16. What is your ideal man
17. Are you currently in a relationship
18. Have you been wrong
19. Advice for 20’s
20. Do not settle in your 20’s
21. First time I fell in love
22. Mentorship
23. Money
24. Enjoying life
25. Having a baby
26. Choice
27. Female role models
28. Red poor things
29. Reviewing Myron’s book
30. Female guests on podcasts
I said “nothing” was wrong, in my 20s. I don’t do that now. But also, I don’t hear the question as often either. They know when something is wrong. It helps to love someone who can be as introspective as you. Communication is underrated. Stop being afraid!
Thank you also to Mike for being real and open to share some of his vulnerabilities and genuine doubts on life and relationships. In general this interview was so educational on how we could all be and care torwards one another. Faith in humanity restored
Sadia is the elder sister men always needed
I’m not sure how old Sadia is but she seems wise beyond her years.. and also very open and honest.
She says she's 33😊
So true. Your life only begins when you have children. You realise what you have been missing out on. Nothing can compare to the love of a child.
I really want to be a father, but need to find and marry a good woman first.
@@Alex.KalashnikI really want to be a mother and trust me living in the city you’re rare .. everyone seems to be selfish and afraid of the idea .. but then again might be a culture thing
Wow. I’ve learned so many vital things here. I’ve never heard of Sadia before. I have to process what I’ve been exposed to here.
Some of it is painfully enlightening.
Thank you.
What a great conversation… she was like his elder sister giving great advices.
childhood traumas needs healing and very crucial for a healthy relationship and a better life.
I love how authentic and humble she is❤ Gives me hope. 22:43
Thank you so much for revealing your insecurities and jealousy, Sadia! That made me feeling so much more relaxed about mine! ❤❤❤
Never stay with a man or a woman that cheats. Children will see and feel the pain caused and will grow to resent the family and the idea of marriage. Trust me staying doesn’t help the family.
I agree.My dad always cheats and I can not love them anymore.
Sadia is definitely a role model ❤
Trauma doesnt exist for men
@@RR-et6zp it does, but by saying it doesn't exist some men are able to not be affected by it. Like fake it till you make it
@@BogalaSawundiris men are built by adversity , women arent
@@RR-et6zp yeah they talked about men trauma and she immediately jumped into what such traumatized men should do to make their girls happy. Weird shit. Men do not exist to satisfy women. We are not fucking slaves
I just said that I think therapy should be a requirement the other day and definitely should be free!
Love the social media part..men really don’t get the psychological damage they inflict openly lusting after other women.
Oh my! You are perfect❤️🪷🙏
Everything u say makes sense!
I had deep depresion for 12 years( still have) but I've never seen a scycologist like you.
Be blessed dear❤
Watching Sadia is like attending a therapy session. I like how ends up doing some sort of psychoanalysis on her hosts.
Therapeutic!
The meaning of life is to make life Sadia… don’t let inner fear hold you back from having children for too long. It’s a story.
Yes to mental health counseling and support being free and de-stigmatizing it. Also, thanks for the awareness around childhood trauma and how devastating it is on all fronts.
such a great effort in spreading healing for all positivity and healing
it teaches us that when there is trauma it can be healed, it can be overcome with healing, when you make an effort to heal the trauma
Love this woman. So wise. Such a force.
Lady is doing the lord’s work. She needs to educate all men in this. How in the world does this man not know this?!
Sadia I am exactly the same with jealousy. I'm working on it and I know it is super draining sometimes to my husband. Really loved this conversation. Thank you for your expertise and insight.
Sadia, young women need to hear your message.
Men more my dear!!! Check the title
yes a man was a cancer survivor as a young adult and now he is hyper independant who could not express love or take love
Sadia is unlike none
I love your ways
As a man I enjoy listening to Sadia, as I relate with a lot of things she says.
Thank you for being honest Saida you can tell that he’s not being honest
You learn something new every day. Definitely to start your own podcast
I have been in that same situation where the women who loved me was using that reasoning of "If he loved me he should know why I mad at him." Damn lady I'm precisely asking what is wrong and you are putting every obstacle imaginable when it comes to communication. But in a weird way she was right. I should knew better. I've now realized I will choose a better partner who doesn't play mind games and tries to establish a solid foundation. Wish me luck, maybe I'm asking for the impossible
Omg 😮 this is my issue wherever a man is getting closer to me. I want distance. I didn't have a father figure so I don't know how it is to be love by a man and how to behave around one that has interest in me. I wish I can afford a session with you Sadia cause I never understand this blog that make me find myself lonely. I ran off men from wanting me 😢 you hit it on the nail with this one. I'm a big fan of yours. Much love ❤️
That chap is not puzzling. His is a sigma male. Them sort of men are probably the most misunderstood people on the planet, also highly intelligent. Which dose not help when comes to relating with people.
High intelligence / Sigmas are puzzling to normies.
As a sigma male I can tell you sigma male phenomenon is total bs
"You can't pick your childhood but your stuck with it for the rest of your life" 💯🙌🏾
At the age of 8, I had the thoughts of serving a tour in the military, going to college, and helping others. Between the ages of 10 and 11, I was exposed to much hatred, including men. I changed my desire to getting a decent job, marrying a decent woman, and making the best for our children.
Thank you Sadia Kahn! Love the information you put out for both men and women. You add hope and understanding for all us crazy-healing women!
thank you for vocalizing @3:38 as to what i feel and actions when I'm mad at allowing for allowing my boundaries to be crossed.
OMG you all are a breath of fresh air.
Sadya, jealousy is a symptom of distrust. It's not you, it's the man you're with, he sends a signal to your subconsciousness that he can't be trusted. It could be also how he behaves with other women, which is also a red flag. And if you experience jealousy consistently with every man you're with, it's easy to assume that the issue is with you. The issue actually is with you, specifically with your choice of men. I am sure that either you are attracting men that can't be trusted, and they approach you and that's how the relationship starts, or you personally choosing the same type of men. I bet on the first.
You are smart, attractive and also seem to be a very gentle woman, this shows in everything, especially in the way you speak. This gentleness attracts dishonest men that know they are dishonest, because they see it as a weakness and they feel that they can be players with you, and you will tolerate it.
Lots of love to you ❤.
This Lady is BRILLIANT!!!! WOW.
If a woman cheats and gets caught, if he does want to forgive her, the incident is still always at the forefront. The slightest association trigger set him off, then the man punish her.
As he punishes her and he relives the infidelity, he then begins to despise her. I am sure eventually they will separate.
Not leaving must be the fear of not having someone else.
I have seen that happen from the women's perspective as well. Definitely not exclusive to men.
It is certainly not impossible for a relationship to survive infidelity by either party! Why do people assume that couples cannot resolve and overcome infidelity? With maturity, patience, love, kindness, and a renewed commitment to responsible behaviour, both men and women can move forward after infidelity, without destroying the relationship.
@@createone100depends on how the infidelity occurs as well…was it just a moment at the party while drunk and unable to rationalise and just doing what feels joyful …or….was it a full fledged planned affair….so many things to consider…and not all cheated relationships are recoverable neither should be…cheating is the worst thing one can do to his beloved,not even death compares to that
Trauma doesnt exist for men
@@prameshsahu1957 it also depends if they come clean with remorse or if they lie and try and gaslight the partner until irrefutable evidence is presented.
My sister who’s been in a 20 yr relationship/marriage has found out her husband was having an affair for 2 yrs. And it’s been very difficult trying to work things out between them! She just withdrawn her love for her husband even tho he wanted to try make it work. They’re basically roommates! And my poor nephew has to live in this environment 💔
It sounds like you are blaming your sister for withdrawing love for her husband while it was him who destroyed the family.
She is just reacting to his actions. The only thing she did wrong was to stay. Now she is blamed for not trying harder.
Trauma doesnt exist for men
Just yell her to get over it or break the family up. Then leave when the kid moves out... so many marriages like that today. Yea he fuked up. If you got a wife worth the name, respect her and she will respect you back
They need to go to therapy.
@@Sam-jy5tj The first sane response to the original comment.
Very interesting and very informative 👍 👌
AFFECTS is a verb. Effects is a noun.
This was a great interview. U 2 are awesome! The chemistry between you 2 was perfect. And i love how open an honest this sweet man was with her. And i definitely agree Saudie is a great role model for all women. Especially her energy is needed for younger women
Loved this
Ma sha Allah Sadia, your work is amazing alhamdulillah. I love it. May Allah bless you.
wow! It was so refreshing to hear that you get jealous in that way. I am like that too but I keep it quiet mostly but sometimes it gets the better of me, I'm with a partner who is very private and keeps everything to himself, he's a sigma, scorpio male and he get s so annoyed with me when I ask details of what he's been doing when he's out, I'm always so open and tell him every detail but he doesnt do that, he likes to be secretive even though i have asked him on multiple occasions if he could share more. It has fueled suspiciousness in me at times which he gets very angry about if he senses that, its been very challenging. But thanks for your honesty it has made me feel better even if I know I still need to work on it. Thanks
I think it’s possible to love more than one person. There are many types of love. ❤️
As a woman, I have a different perspective on why women don't tell you what's "annoying" us:
A. We feel ashamed or worried on some level that us having a need or want will push the man away.
B. We often feel like we need to be accommodating and accepting of our man in all or most ways. (Most likely a fear of abandonment)
For me for a long time, it was a lack of boundaries and fear of it making ME not good enough if a situation made me annoyed or unhappy, I thought there was something wrong with me.
Now, I'm comfortable with expressing wants and needs in a kind and loving way
I imagine videos with topics like cheating and attraction are the ones that go viral, but I want to see more videos like this. Ones that illustrate how trauma, childhood and early development affect relationships.
Great commentary . I agree , we are drawn to people & unresolved issues , it’s part of spiritual beings on a physical journeys
❤ I love this girl. I have all those same issues. I don't feel so bad anymore ❤
You’re obviously looking fabulous! No men would argue, I don’t think.
It’s just so fascinating the way you attract me. It’s nothing nasty I am talking about here, please don’t get me wrong. Watching your expressions and dealing with the natural human instinct, almost overcoming it is absolutely adorable!
Pleasure, Madam
First 10 min was scary, remarkable how similar our trauma made us.
She is amazing. I feel like I find a girlfriend that thinks like me. Everything she says I’m like “Yes, that’s right, exactly, that’s what I think!”
She’s fantastic ❤ I’m 50+ left 14 year medical working world and did the wife mother thing.
She is spot on from my experience in marriage, relation-tips… please do a follow up
I feel that guy could visit some therapy. He is still amazing though. But you Sadia are on a different level of amazinness. I listen everything you say with passion
Sadia you are so gorgeous that its nearly impossible to focus on your great advice!!!!
She’s right about daughters needing their fathers because this is the tale tale sign of they view men in general and how they choose their partner. This is fundamental is developmental psychology. Children are impressionable. Anything on what they observe or experience can affect their belief systems and behaviors in adulthood. I also love how she advocated for children too. Children are very perceptive and observant.
To be honest, this is an important topic. There are too many factors that affect our psychological well-being, both for women and men. And yes, we all come from childhood, and we also take and carry most of our traumas from there. And then we bring these traumas into our relationships with partners. Very few people go to psychologists to resolve these issues.
The role of the mother in the life of a boy (man) is very, very important. After all, she is the first woman in his life, an example of behaviour, femininity, attitude to men, etc. This is the foundation.
May Allah put barakah in your work Sadia 🤲🏼👌🏼
Give this intelligent woman her due credit, she is a jewel in the relationship area. Fortunate dude that graps her selection and behavior. ❤️🔥💃
Sadia. You're the person who's saying things for what ppl call me narcissistic personality. First is my mother and all my ex partners.