HOW TRAUMA EFFECTS MEN IN RELATIONSHIPS

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  • @blacktea-podcast
    @blacktea-podcast Рік тому +69

    🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: HOW TRAUMA EFFECTS MEN IN RELATIONSHIPS
    00:00 🏛️ Open relationships can lead to putting desires over relationship needs, damaging commitment.
    01:18 🚫 Forgiving cheating can lead to loss of self-respect and potential abuse, especially for men.
    02:36 💔 Cheating can irreparably damage trust and lead to negative behaviors in a relationship.
    04:44 🚼 Childhood trauma can impact adult relationships, influencing partner choices.
    06:39 🏠 Absence of mother figure during childhood can lead to hyper-independence in relationships.
    08:59 📱 Social media actions, like liking provocative photos, can damage relationships.
    12:06 💑 Rejecting emotional connection bids predicts relationship issues and divorce.
    14:11 🛋️ Couples counseling is valuable to maintain stable relationships, especially before having children.
    15:41 📸 Being mindful of social media interactions with opposite-sex individuals is crucial.
    19:05 💏 Quality time and attention can alleviate insecurity and maintain connection in relationships.
    20:16 💪 Discipline is admirable; a disciplined man with principles and boundaries is respected.
    21:13 💔 Jealousy can strain a relationship, and managing it takes patience; excessive jealousy is draining.
    23:46 🎉 Utilize your 20s for personal growth, career development, and self-improvement, rather than just partying.
    24:28 🌟 Fulfill your potential in your 20s to avoid regrets and maintain good mental health as you age.
    27:07 💼 Life experiences in your 20s can shape your future; seek advice from experienced mentors.
    29:43 👪 Starting a family is a goal; while every age is good for having children, be prepared to provide and be present.
    30:54 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Choosing a partner for parenthood is critical; be cautious and considerate to ensure a healthy family environment.
    32:08 👩‍👧‍👦 Consider using your platform to provide a balanced voice between feminist and "red pill" ideologies.
    33:46 📚 Debunking divisive ideologies can promote healthier relationships and homes.
    36:03 😬 Concerns about the next generation include hyper-sensitivity, offense, and excessive sexualization; fostering a balanced view is vital.

    • @sadiapsychology
      @sadiapsychology  Рік тому +19

      Thank you ❤❤❤❤

    • @AzharSinga12
      @AzharSinga12 Рік тому

      @@sadiapsychologybe open minded person you feel great in your life

    • @Olans_669william
      @Olans_669william Рік тому

      ​@sadiapsychology what is the best way to do that kind of situation that kids don't get affected? Thanks

    • @statusquo1473
      @statusquo1473 10 місяців тому

      At 33min there was mentioned a book? Which one was that? Im blindly guessing its Rollo Tomassi book or am i wrong?

    • @dalmediatube
      @dalmediatube 2 місяці тому

      I also would like to know which book it is that they both refer to.
      Does anyone know the title of the book, the name of the author, or a have a link to it?..

  • @lanabos
    @lanabos Рік тому +238

    I love how she starts interviewing the interviewer. She is good. ❤

    • @RR-et6zp
      @RR-et6zp Рік тому

      Trauma doesnt exist for men

    • @luckyyyinlove
      @luckyyyinlove Рік тому +6

      ​​@@RR-et6zpThat's an ignorant and dumb statement as it goes against the basis of psychology-we unconsciously operate in life our via childhood traumas/emotional-nourishment

    • @RR-et6zp
      @RR-et6zp Рік тому +1

      its not a real field @@luckyyyinlove and no, that's not true

    • @RR-et6zp
      @RR-et6zp Рік тому

      its not a real field @luckyyyinlove and no, that's not true@@luckyyyinlove

    • @amberalchemy
      @amberalchemy Рік тому

      @@RR-et6zpfrom someone who has supported very powerful and successful men to heal from their childhood trauma, I can attest that this is absolutely not true!

  • @trinhttruong
    @trinhttruong Рік тому +323

    I love that primarily she is an advocate for children.

    • @VontriceIyonn
      @VontriceIyonn Рік тому +6

      Prevention.

    • @afrofaeries
      @afrofaeries 11 місяців тому

      @@VontriceIyonnYeah because in some cases the most high value women cannot have children due to a disease

    • @jarglee4471
      @jarglee4471 7 місяців тому

      Although Sadia said many very important things about psychology I've a strong feeling she's primarily an advocate for herself. It's just another mean of promotion.

  • @petercorinth33
    @petercorinth33 Рік тому +289

    This is the embodiment of a masculine and feminine having a very healthy conversation.

    • @TM-mx3rv
      @TM-mx3rv Рік тому +2

      Who is him?

    • @Alexamw
      @Alexamw Рік тому

      ​​@@TM-mx3rv Mike Thurston

    • @alyssawork8337
      @alyssawork8337 Рік тому +10

      It is good but it also sounds like a 33 yo man speaking to someone about some of his issues for the first time.

    • @elvan5922
      @elvan5922 Рік тому

      Yes

    • @elvan5922
      @elvan5922 Рік тому

      And it is natural.I listened some talks using this that method and it soundscapes do fake.

  • @mayragomez5713
    @mayragomez5713 Рік тому +127

    I love the fact that she open herself and shows her flaws! love her!

  • @karinajanuary
    @karinajanuary Рік тому +56

    Her pureness, honesty and how grounded she presents herself is just next level of intelligence. Love love loved this vid 🙌🏽💛

  • @morearth4222
    @morearth4222 Рік тому +41

    Sadia, "You owe yourself peace not pleasure"....😮 totally different message than the main stream.

  • @mycuongnguyen7226
    @mycuongnguyen7226 Рік тому +81

    This woman is amazing! She is the embodiment of a what a woman should be. Even when she swears she's sweet. She is the role model that young girls and woman need in this day and age. I love how she doesnt pretend to be perfect and can easily admit her flaws. I absolutely love this woman. I have been watching everything with her in it the last few weeks and I just love her even more and more. Great podcast! We need more of her!

    • @josepablolunasanchez1283
      @josepablolunasanchez1283 11 місяців тому +2

      Sadia understands mental processes. She is a process analyst, very much like a process engineer but she takes care of mental processes of people. Acknowledging flaws is basically acknowledging a process. Flaws need to be identified before being fixed. You cannot fix what you do not see.

  • @darylmcginnis6033
    @darylmcginnis6033 Рік тому +7

    I listen to you a lot. You are trying to help the society because you see we are in trouble. Keep trying even though people like negativity and drama, keep trying.

  • @kathrynjohnson8979
    @kathrynjohnson8979 Рік тому +19

    I love how every one of these turns into a therapy session for the interviewer 😊

  • @336snake
    @336snake Рік тому +20

    She has so much self awareness of herself is very impressive, and I love how authentic she is and not afraid to admit her flaws of being a jealous person. So few women are afraid or don't know they're insecure about something. We are all insecure about something and is wonderful when we're aware of it like she is.

  • @RaffertyMBTI
    @RaffertyMBTI Рік тому +49

    It is so great, interesting and helpful that she admits to her insecurities in relationships. Some women will just casually say "their looks" as far as insecurities go, but the jealousy she talked about, with humility, in such detail is important for men to understand. I never would have known or presumed either way, judging from everything else about her. It's useful to see patterns in the way people profess to be in relationships.

  • @chriestinenpape
    @chriestinenpape Рік тому +45

    My husband is hyper-indepent. All of his female role models growing up, in his mind, had problems.... I recently mentally checked out of our marriage when he told me that my happiness is my responsibility and to find a hobby after I confided in him that I miss him from being gone a lot and I am lonely. The worst feeling when you are feeling alone in a relationship or marriage.

    • @njah1590
      @njah1590 Рік тому +3

      It's so hard this has been a message until now. We are now valuing attachment again

    • @DoloresSimpson
      @DoloresSimpson 11 місяців тому +3

      It's your husband's responsibility to "calm" your emotions especially when you had just told him that you felt *isolated* when he was gone so much. It's *his* job to *comfort* his wife when she needs emotional support, otherwise if this were to happen too often, ... she might be tempted to find *emotional support* from a man other than her husband. You should *NEVER* feel emotionally *ALONE* when you have a husband !!!

    • @chloelol7611
      @chloelol7611 10 місяців тому +1

      girl you wayyyy too pretty for that

    • @angryktulhu
      @angryktulhu 10 місяців тому +2

      lmao he's right tho, your happiness is totally YOUR responsibility

    • @angryktulhu
      @angryktulhu 10 місяців тому +3

      @@DoloresSimpson oh that's BS lol, NOBODY is an emotional validation machine, or are you telling me mothers should ALWAYS fullfill their child needs? Even if she works? Or ill? Or whatever? Don't fucking shift responsibility, it's YOUR responsibility to give yourself emotional support at first place - YES because we are damn adults and your partner is NOT your fucking parent - and ONLY if your partner feels like he/she can give you smth, take it with appreciation. Never ever give your advice to anyone please

  • @bernardoalvesexplains
    @bernardoalvesexplains Рік тому +29

    Sadia, your interviews should be played on national television with subtitles in all countries. Primetime. You have a way of reading people and finding the true reason and explaining things, I haven't seen anyone do it. I bet many people comment if i only knew that before...

  • @maggib3971
    @maggib3971 Рік тому +71

    Very Refreshing to listen to younger adults who see the pitfalls of society and the need for discipline and in turn creating a strong foundation for children (our future) & families❤

    • @surferscollective613
      @surferscollective613 6 місяців тому

      It is. We do our best in the home but society, school,media,friends,government propaganda all weigh in.

  • @MoniqueLCoates
    @MoniqueLCoates Рік тому +38

    Why aren’t we talking about this more??? Thank you for this video, very much needed.

  • @shyetloka17
    @shyetloka17 Рік тому +19

    I knew I had trauma but I didn’t realize I need to go to therapy until I had my son for 4yrs already and realized my son was getting an unhealed version of myself. Having him brought up so many more emotions I thought I had let go of.

  • @champboehm7863
    @champboehm7863 Рік тому +33

    You really help me. My dad is homeless now and was kinda out of his mind when i was growing up. Never really saw my dad be kind to my mother or vice versa. I was never abused directly but it was just constant insanity every night and morning. I just don't know how to love or be loved. Thanks to you and mike and chris who helped me find you

    • @Tmo2024
      @Tmo2024 Рік тому

      Pathetic

    • @lylez00
      @lylez00 Рік тому +3

      Why don't you take him in? I'd rather die than for my dad to spend a single night on the street.

    • @lylez00
      @lylez00 Рік тому

      @@champboehm7863 Understood. All the best.

    • @oldscratch3535
      @oldscratch3535 Рік тому +6

      @@lylez00 I couldn't invite that insanity into my life. Its one thing if he just lost his job and needs to get back on his feet. Its another thing if they're mentally ill and/or drug addicted chaos magnets.

  • @rcz2023
    @rcz2023 Рік тому +9

    I love your honesty, when you said that you struggle with jealousy I was shocked, you are an intelligent beautiful woman, thank you for being honest and vulnerable with your weaknesses.

  • @jessicamerced9116
    @jessicamerced9116 Рік тому +8

    Sadia, you are a mom to women like me who feel very broken and are learning how to rebuild self worth❤ Your content is always inspiring and educational.

  • @VitaKoreneva
    @VitaKoreneva Рік тому +9

    Childhood trauma-> Choices in Adulthood unless You choose to heal your trauma! So valuable!

  • @Hælos.Ezequiel
    @Hælos.Ezequiel Рік тому +50

    Thought this would be one of them red pill
    podcast where men just slander women. I've never
    been more relieved to be wrong. It's unfortunate, but
    these kind of unbiased interaction where men & women
    agree & are so rare to see nowadays

    • @afrofaeries
      @afrofaeries 11 місяців тому +1

      I agree!

    • @afrofaeries
      @afrofaeries 11 місяців тому +1

      Men and women need to support one another, I don’t care if red pillers and feminists disagree

    • @Hælos.Ezequiel
      @Hælos.Ezequiel 11 місяців тому

      @@afrofaeries right! Personally, I'm just so used to seeing the negative of red pill & the negative of feminist content. We need more real content like this bc all of this "it's men's fault/it's women's fault" content has gotten out of hand

  • @amarendrabhowmick8896
    @amarendrabhowmick8896 Рік тому +8

    I don' t know how I will describe this mystic lady.she is so clear cut in her perception in her portrayal of human relationship & explaining the delicacy & intricacy of human relationship in effortless way.

  • @Giselleee789
    @Giselleee789 Рік тому +4

    I looooove how she admits her flaws and she’s just like us and how we women can be very jealous and crazy ❤😂 love her she speaks the truth.

  • @kibibishaw1194
    @kibibishaw1194 Рік тому +7

    So glad you came here! Two videos in, and you’ve re-riddled my biggest relationship issues. Sheesh, you’re a Godsend, Sis! 💖🙏🏽✨

  • @d1xx893
    @d1xx893 Рік тому +4

    If women are more like Sadia, society would have been much better and healtly place! Thank you

  • @Candy_Mountain
    @Candy_Mountain Рік тому +17

    I’m only jealous or insecure when they give me a reason to. And I give way too many chances.

  • @pod4771
    @pod4771 Рік тому +305

    Brains + Beauty = Sadia Khan. Much respects 👊

    • @janosik150
      @janosik150 Рік тому +4

      What about brains and not a beauty ?

    • @JesusAndLiliana
      @JesusAndLiliana Рік тому +13

      She’s gorgeous

    • @jonesoac3065
      @jonesoac3065 Рік тому +6

      + Super Crazy

    • @incognito.502
      @incognito.502 Рік тому

      ​@@janosik150why not a beauty? She doesnt look like a pig, a donkey or a frog. She IS beautiful.

    • @janosik150
      @janosik150 Рік тому +3

      @@incognito.502 what if she was not beautiful????? Then what????

  • @josephgatambia5679
    @josephgatambia5679 2 місяці тому

    I never get tired of listening to Sadia,she has made me understand women on a deeper level

  • @funygameur
    @funygameur Рік тому +2

    I've always been telling that : women and men need to work together not to fight.
    It's so refreshing to see someone on the internet talk that way !

  • @ApplePieRemix
    @ApplePieRemix Рік тому +3

    Thank you also to Mike for being real and open to share some of his vulnerabilities and genuine doubts on life and relationships. In general this interview was so educational on how we could all be and care torwards one another. Faith in humanity restored

  • @stellah2459
    @stellah2459 Рік тому +1

    I owe myself REAL love! I come from a very troubled childhood. I must chose wisely. I’m very quick to attract toxic men. I’m not giving up.

  • @mezlandia
    @mezlandia Рік тому +3

    I said “nothing” was wrong, in my 20s. I don’t do that now. But also, I don’t hear the question as often either. They know when something is wrong. It helps to love someone who can be as introspective as you. Communication is underrated. Stop being afraid!

  • @jenniferrackow3976
    @jenniferrackow3976 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much for revealing your insecurities and jealousy, Sadia! That made me feeling so much more relaxed about mine! ❤❤❤

  • @aldorodriguez7310
    @aldorodriguez7310 Рік тому +9

    I love how authentic and humble she is❤ Gives me hope. 22:43

  • @jeanjoelspatafora
    @jeanjoelspatafora Рік тому +1

    Wow. I’ve learned so many vital things here. I’ve never heard of Sadia before. I have to process what I’ve been exposed to here.
    Some of it is painfully enlightening.
    Thank you.

  • @Xbox12469
    @Xbox12469 Рік тому

    What a great conversation… she was like his elder sister giving great advices.

  • @Active10711
    @Active10711 Рік тому +4

    Sadia is truly amazing in having a meaningful conversation ❤

  • @chawo3456
    @chawo3456 11 місяців тому +1

    The jealousy aspect has hurt my marriage so much. I am now working on restoring what is left of it. I'm always suspecting things. It's such a bad feeling.

  • @lecastlevania
    @lecastlevania Рік тому

    Thank you for speaking reason into this mad world.

  • @Intruth-555
    @Intruth-555 Рік тому +6

    This was a great interview. U 2 are awesome! The chemistry between you 2 was perfect. And i love how open an honest this sweet man was with her. And i definitely agree Saudie is a great role model for all women. Especially her energy is needed for younger women
    Loved this

  • @excellentcomment
    @excellentcomment 11 місяців тому

    I'm frustrated with this video because it doesn't tell us who the man is. Now please forget I said it because.... the insight you provided is sooo helpful. I have a new sweetheart who suffered trauma in his family as a young teenager, and I've observed that he enjoys his time alone. Your insight makes it even easier for me to support him so we can both be happy and content. Thank you!

  • @Sam-jy5tj
    @Sam-jy5tj Рік тому +5

    I’m not sure how old Sadia is but she seems wise beyond her years.. and also very open and honest.

    • @nc_elle
      @nc_elle 7 місяців тому

      She says she's 33😊

  • @zbmlk
    @zbmlk Рік тому

    Oh my! You are perfect❤️🪷🙏
    Everything u say makes sense!
    I had deep depresion for 12 years( still have) but I've never seen a scycologist like you.
    Be blessed dear❤

  • @u.s.navyengineroommechanic9394
    @u.s.navyengineroommechanic9394 2 місяці тому

    I’m not deaf, but I appreciate the subtitles for the disabled individuals. Good job.

  • @lanabos
    @lanabos Рік тому +71

    Sadia is definitely a role model ❤

    • @RR-et6zp
      @RR-et6zp Рік тому

      Trauma doesnt exist for men

    • @BogalaSawundiris
      @BogalaSawundiris Рік тому +2

      @@RR-et6zp it does, but by saying it doesn't exist some men are able to not be affected by it. Like fake it till you make it

    • @RR-et6zp
      @RR-et6zp Рік тому

      @@BogalaSawundiris men are built by adversity , women arent

    • @angryktulhu
      @angryktulhu 10 місяців тому

      @@RR-et6zp yeah they talked about men trauma and she immediately jumped into what such traumatized men should do to make their girls happy. Weird shit. Men do not exist to satisfy women. We are not fucking slaves

  • @d2svpcfp
    @d2svpcfp Рік тому +6

    Smart girl. A touch of class...
    1. Open relationships
    2. Forgiveness
    3. Cheating
    4. Dealing with trauma
    5. Narcissistic mothers
    6. Becoming hyper-independent
    7. Creating emotional distance
    8. Why women are annoyed
    9. Men and women are different
    10. Common issues in relationships
    11. Should couples go to counseling
    12. Problems in every relationship
    13. Following girls
    14. Being secretive
    15. Being on social media
    16. What is your ideal man
    17. Are you currently in a relationship
    18. Have you been wrong
    19. Advice for 20’s
    20. Do not settle in your 20’s
    21. First time I fell in love
    22. Mentorship
    23. Money
    24. Enjoying life
    25. Having a baby
    26. Choice
    27. Female role models
    28. Red poor things
    29. Reviewing Myron’s book
    30. Female guests on podcasts

  • @addiskidan1371
    @addiskidan1371 Рік тому +1

    This is a woman who you aspire to be really you are amazing. With all the ridiculous women out there degrading womanhood & relationships im glad a healthy ones still exist.

  • @LK-pb4no
    @LK-pb4no Рік тому +1

    I swear the last few interviews I've seen with good looking guys like him, you can tell they are interested in Sadia when they are fishing but make it seem like it is part of their podcast but it's really for personal reasons. He's definitely into her and how can he not be. She is a great package except that envy side of her which really is or will be her own downfall. I love her interviews because she is truly refreshing to listen to and learn from.

  • @mikeymaz9490
    @mikeymaz9490 Рік тому

    Sadia, do it. Spread the message on a larger scale, God, you and the world will thank you

  • @JuliaShalomJordan
    @JuliaShalomJordan Рік тому +8

    Love this woman. So wise. Such a force.

  • @paulkalindi4401
    @paulkalindi4401 11 місяців тому

    Watching Sadia is like attending a therapy session. I like how ends up doing some sort of psychoanalysis on her hosts.
    Therapeutic!

  • @EmmaAhmed88
    @EmmaAhmed88 Рік тому +6

    May Allah put barakah in your work Sadia 🤲🏼👌🏼

  • @drt830
    @drt830 Рік тому

    thank you for vocalizing @3:38 as to what i feel and actions when I'm mad at allowing for allowing my boundaries to be crossed.

  • @gabriellelynndalman192
    @gabriellelynndalman192 Рік тому

    Sadia I am exactly the same with jealousy. I'm working on it and I know it is super draining sometimes to my husband. Really loved this conversation. Thank you for your expertise and insight.

  • @akinun
    @akinun 7 місяців тому

    Sadia is the elder sister men always needed

  • @sadiqua7
    @sadiqua7 Рік тому +3

    I just said that I think therapy should be a requirement the other day and definitely should be free!
    Love the social media part..men really don’t get the psychological damage they inflict openly lusting after other women.

  • @gracia130
    @gracia130 Рік тому +1

    childhood traumas needs healing and very crucial for a healthy relationship and a better life.

  • @LMbe842
    @LMbe842 Рік тому

    Yes to mental health counseling and support being free and de-stigmatizing it. Also, thanks for the awareness around childhood trauma and how devastating it is on all fronts.

  • @Nah-ah
    @Nah-ah Рік тому +42

    My sister who’s been in a 20 yr relationship/marriage has found out her husband was having an affair for 2 yrs. And it’s been very difficult trying to work things out between them! She just withdrawn her love for her husband even tho he wanted to try make it work. They’re basically roommates! And my poor nephew has to live in this environment 💔

    • @ZARA-to9fp
      @ZARA-to9fp Рік тому +29

      It sounds like you are blaming your sister for withdrawing love for her husband while it was him who destroyed the family.
      She is just reacting to his actions. The only thing she did wrong was to stay. Now she is blamed for not trying harder.

    • @RR-et6zp
      @RR-et6zp Рік тому +2

      Trauma doesnt exist for men

    • @growthefarmup2606
      @growthefarmup2606 Рік тому +4

      Just yell her to get over it or break the family up. Then leave when the kid moves out... so many marriages like that today. Yea he fuked up. If you got a wife worth the name, respect her and she will respect you back

    • @Sam-jy5tj
      @Sam-jy5tj Рік тому +3

      They need to go to therapy.

    • @AshAndCream
      @AshAndCream Рік тому +4

      @@Sam-jy5tj The first sane response to the original comment.

  • @anthonycraig274
    @anthonycraig274 Рік тому +14

    If a woman cheats and gets caught, if he does want to forgive her, the incident is still always at the forefront. The slightest association trigger set him off, then the man punish her.
    As he punishes her and he relives the infidelity, he then begins to despise her. I am sure eventually they will separate.
    Not leaving must be the fear of not having someone else.

    • @elsa_nyc
      @elsa_nyc Рік тому +3

      I have seen that happen from the women's perspective as well. Definitely not exclusive to men.

    • @createone100
      @createone100 Рік тому +4

      It is certainly not impossible for a relationship to survive infidelity by either party! Why do people assume that couples cannot resolve and overcome infidelity? With maturity, patience, love, kindness, and a renewed commitment to responsible behaviour, both men and women can move forward after infidelity, without destroying the relationship.

    • @prameshsahu1957
      @prameshsahu1957 Рік тому +5

      @@createone100depends on how the infidelity occurs as well…was it just a moment at the party while drunk and unable to rationalise and just doing what feels joyful …or….was it a full fledged planned affair….so many things to consider…and not all cheated relationships are recoverable neither should be…cheating is the worst thing one can do to his beloved,not even death compares to that

    • @RR-et6zp
      @RR-et6zp Рік тому

      Trauma doesnt exist for men

    • @anthonycraig274
      @anthonycraig274 Рік тому +1

      @@prameshsahu1957 it also depends if they come clean with remorse or if they lie and try and gaslight the partner until irrefutable evidence is presented.

  • @2choosewisely2
    @2choosewisely2 Рік тому

    it teaches us that when there is trauma it can be healed, it can be overcome with healing, when you make an effort to heal the trauma

  • @britneylucky7845
    @britneylucky7845 10 місяців тому

    Omg 😮 this is my issue wherever a man is getting closer to me. I want distance. I didn't have a father figure so I don't know how it is to be love by a man and how to behave around one that has interest in me. I wish I can afford a session with you Sadia cause I never understand this blog that make me find myself lonely. I ran off men from wanting me 😢 you hit it on the nail with this one. I'm a big fan of yours. Much love ❤️

  • @2choosewisely2
    @2choosewisely2 Рік тому

    such a great effort in spreading healing for all positivity and healing

  • @Tamar-sz8ox
    @Tamar-sz8ox Рік тому +4

    Great commentary . I agree , we are drawn to people & unresolved issues , it’s part of spiritual beings on a physical journeys

  • @jww6355
    @jww6355 Рік тому

    Thank you Sadia Kahn! Love the information you put out for both men and women. You add hope and understanding for all us crazy-healing women!

  • @bigweewee5944
    @bigweewee5944 Рік тому +3

    I feel that guy could visit some therapy. He is still amazing though. But you Sadia are on a different level of amazinness. I listen everything you say with passion

  • @nicolasmoreno9442
    @nicolasmoreno9442 Рік тому +10

    I have been in that same situation where the women who loved me was using that reasoning of "If he loved me he should know why I mad at him." Damn lady I'm precisely asking what is wrong and you are putting every obstacle imaginable when it comes to communication. But in a weird way she was right. I should knew better. I've now realized I will choose a better partner who doesn't play mind games and tries to establish a solid foundation. Wish me luck, maybe I'm asking for the impossible

  • @ceogoddess
    @ceogoddess Рік тому +3

    So true. Your life only begins when you have children. You realise what you have been missing out on. Nothing can compare to the love of a child.

    • @Alex.Kalashnik
      @Alex.Kalashnik Рік тому +2

      I really want to be a father, but need to find and marry a good woman first.

    • @grechelestrada4846
      @grechelestrada4846 Рік тому +1

      ⁠@@Alex.KalashnikI really want to be a mother and trust me living in the city you’re rare .. everyone seems to be selfish and afraid of the idea .. but then again might be a culture thing

  • @eviebernal2913
    @eviebernal2913 Рік тому +9

    He turned this into his own therapist session lol

  • @t.f.6297
    @t.f.6297 Рік тому +7

    "You can't pick your childhood but your stuck with it for the rest of your life" 💯🙌🏾

  • @marinafossey3129
    @marinafossey3129 Рік тому +3

    She’s fantastic ❤ I’m 50+ left 14 year medical working world and did the wife mother thing.
    She is spot on from my experience in marriage, relation-tips… please do a follow up

  • @waladaislamicart
    @waladaislamicart Рік тому +1

    Ma sha Allah Sadia, your work is amazing alhamdulillah. I love it. May Allah bless you.

  • @MrDough89
    @MrDough89 11 місяців тому

    You learn something new every day. Definitely to start your own podcast

  • @elfinflower4881
    @elfinflower4881 Рік тому

    wow! It was so refreshing to hear that you get jealous in that way. I am like that too but I keep it quiet mostly but sometimes it gets the better of me, I'm with a partner who is very private and keeps everything to himself, he's a sigma, scorpio male and he get s so annoyed with me when I ask details of what he's been doing when he's out, I'm always so open and tell him every detail but he doesnt do that, he likes to be secretive even though i have asked him on multiple occasions if he could share more. It has fueled suspiciousness in me at times which he gets very angry about if he senses that, its been very challenging. But thanks for your honesty it has made me feel better even if I know I still need to work on it. Thanks

  • @Azrael-xl3jl
    @Azrael-xl3jl Рік тому +4

    First 10 min was scary, remarkable how similar our trauma made us.

  • @inesesoncika
    @inesesoncika Рік тому

    Absolutely brilliant! More content form you please, Sadia!

  • @MrRickySoh
    @MrRickySoh Рік тому

    The meaning of life is to make life Sadia… don’t let inner fear hold you back from having children for too long. It’s a story.

  • @transitionsnc
    @transitionsnc Рік тому +33

    This is a great interview. Both Sadia and Mike are exemplary. I just wanted to say one thing about social media. I think women are so insecure these days because men are easily led. A seemingly innocent message (which may not be that innocent) on the part of another woman can easily lead to sexting, videos, and/or meeting up in person. Guys are easily led by sex and women know this. That's why they're hyper aware of social media. Not saying all guys do this but if a person has a large following, he's going to be in contact with a large amount of beautiful women. It's so easy for someone to be "cheating via social media" these days and their partner not even know what's going on. That's why when messages pop up, a woman wonders if something is going on because a lot of the times, there is.

    • @helenalexander1402
      @helenalexander1402 Рік тому +2

      This guy presenting is so insecure. You have a girlfriend, grow up, stay off social media.

  • @kw7796
    @kw7796 Рік тому

    Sadia, young women need to hear your message.

  • @Whatthe860
    @Whatthe860 Рік тому +9

    Never stay with a man or a woman that cheats. Children will see and feel the pain caused and will grow to resent the family and the idea of marriage. Trust me staying doesn’t help the family.

    • @elvan5922
      @elvan5922 Рік тому +2

      I agree.My dad always cheats and I can not love them anymore.

  • @jamesrussell1979
    @jamesrussell1979 10 місяців тому +1

    Very interesting and very informative 👍 👌

  • @catherineallen7398
    @catherineallen7398 Рік тому

    So happy i came across your social media, Sadia! Amazing

  • @dianalee1589
    @dianalee1589 Рік тому +1

    yes a man was a cancer survivor as a young adult and now he is hyper independant who could not express love or take love

  • @sunamiah2627
    @sunamiah2627 Рік тому +16

    That chap is not puzzling. His is a sigma male. Them sort of men are probably the most misunderstood people on the planet, also highly intelligent. Which dose not help when comes to relating with people.

    • @hoodoooperator.5197
      @hoodoooperator.5197 Рік тому

      High intelligence / Sigmas are puzzling to normies.

    • @jonv570
      @jonv570 Рік тому

      As a sigma male I can tell you sigma male phenomenon is total bs

  • @cbkelli750
    @cbkelli750 Рік тому +1

    I just happened to stumble across this video on my feedback. Wasn't sure what to expect - a bro podcast? Turns out, this was a really good interview. I was hooked the whole time.

  • @mujahidabdulrazak2977
    @mujahidabdulrazak2977 Рік тому

    Sadia is unlike none
    I love your ways

  • @stephenobisanya
    @stephenobisanya Рік тому +5

    I absolutely admire this woman!

  • @ask4rockie
    @ask4rockie 8 місяців тому

    OMG you all are a breath of fresh air.

  • @beloastropena7236
    @beloastropena7236 Рік тому

    As a man I enjoy listening to Sadia, as I relate with a lot of things she says.

  • @deborahkempton5884
    @deborahkempton5884 Рік тому +1

    Fabulous. Love you sister ..thank you for spreading such truth for both woman and men ! Thank you for having her on the show!

  • @mayochsetcher5528
    @mayochsetcher5528 Рік тому +6

    One of our first rule in our marriage, is for both me and my wife you do not go anywhere without telling where we are going.
    This has long been like this in my families tradition and I think it was much more so important before phones came out nowadays. Everybody has his cell phone.
    You can so easy, even if you did not tell each other in the morning you can so easy send a quick text because occasionally and more than likely something comes up where you need to attend some other places my wife will send me a text when she leaves home to go do some thing that we didn’t talk in the morning it’s on the way a comfort to know that you can trust each other!!

  • @meesh1002
    @meesh1002 Рік тому +2

    Lady is doing the lord’s work. She needs to educate all men in this. How in the world does this man not know this?!

  • @MiriamASMR
    @MiriamASMR Рік тому +1

    She is amazing. I feel like I find a girlfriend that thinks like me. Everything she says I’m like “Yes, that’s right, exactly, that’s what I think!”

  • @stevenanderson101
    @stevenanderson101 Рік тому

    Sadia you are so gorgeous that its nearly impossible to focus on your great advice!!!!

  • @gerritrikkers2631
    @gerritrikkers2631 Рік тому

    I saw a few of your video's and you are really generalizing everything!

  • @elsa_nyc
    @elsa_nyc Рік тому +3

    Grateful we have this information put there on you tube.

  • @theseedoflife3057
    @theseedoflife3057 Рік тому

    Sadya, jealousy is a symptom of distrust. It's not you, it's the man you're with, he sends a signal to your subconsciousness that he can't be trusted. It could be also how he behaves with other women, which is also a red flag. And if you experience jealousy consistently with every man you're with, it's easy to assume that the issue is with you. The issue actually is with you, specifically with your choice of men. I am sure that either you are attracting men that can't be trusted, and they approach you and that's how the relationship starts, or you personally choosing the same type of men. I bet on the first.
    You are smart, attractive and also seem to be a very gentle woman, this shows in everything, especially in the way you speak. This gentleness attracts dishonest men that know they are dishonest, because they see it as a weakness and they feel that they can be players with you, and you will tolerate it.
    Lots of love to you ❤.

  • @ivankaradzhov3687
    @ivankaradzhov3687 Рік тому

    You’re obviously looking fabulous! No men would argue, I don’t think.
    It’s just so fascinating the way you attract me. It’s nothing nasty I am talking about here, please don’t get me wrong. Watching your expressions and dealing with the natural human instinct, almost overcoming it is absolutely adorable!
    Pleasure, Madam

  • @mabdullatheef810
    @mabdullatheef810 Рік тому +1

    I love the way they talk. Intellectually enervating!