Watching porno twice week and Women posting in bikini etc..is the same..both not healthy.. .. Not sure what and how you meant thats not wrong..... it is wrong... you said... .".there's nothing wrong with women posting external validation.. eg.tits..
@sadiapsychology Hello Ms Sadia, I truly appreciate your insightful videos and the positive impact you have on the world. I have a question I'd love to hear your thoughts on. In today's diverse society, I'm curious about the dynamics of a relationship when a Muslim black young man in his 20s seeks to marry an older woman, especially one who is around 10 years his senior. Additionally, when the couple doesn't share the same cultural background, how do you think this impacts the marriage dynamics? Your perspective on these aspects of relationships would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your valuable insights!
Yeah but you are also booring then, and you will have to be blamed for your divorse, and I don't mean like crazy booring, I mean like normal (atractiv in the first place) guy booring.
Someone has GOT to replace the Kardashians with this beautiful, intelligent, sophisticated, elegant woman who understands the importance of femininity and traditional values! I have been dying to find someone to aspire to, and this queen is the gold we need in this screwed up society. Loved this.
A high value man is one that is himself and not modest. I believe modesty is a problem. Im an independent thinker, and being modest pkaces limits. I say promote what you are great at and share that success! Sharing is caring. Dont present yourself as a challenge...becaise thats a desperate game then your desperation shows. Nobody is a challenge. If you be yourself, be confident what you are great at and share that knowledge and success with others thats very powerful. A confident man is happy to say he is bloody great because he doesnt need to be a challenge because he is the prize! No mystery needed! He doesnt need to play a game. Its not about bragging, its about sharing your success then everyone wins
@@wrfootball3847 Modesty is not not challenging your self it is being realistic, knowing your limits and working with them until you can surpass them. Like exercise being modest will save your life and allow your thru patience and dicipline to break your limits and that will create REAL confidence. Otherwise you just end up being prideful who is deseperate to keep up an image. Bragging is a useless trait with no benefit.
@1Surge exactly. I'm not talking about bragging, I'm talking about sharing success. When you have belief and know you are good at something...you just know. Well in my case I do anyway. Share it, be proud, be great. Then we all win together. If people don't agree that you're great, doesn't matter, not everyone will. Stop worrying what others think and keep improving yourself.
Do not chase the butterfly; instead, nurture your garden. In enriching the soil, tending to blossoms, and cherishing growth, your garden flourishes. And as it does, the butterfly will come, drawn effortlessly to the haven you’ve created.❤
So, the woman is the mercurial, unpredictable butterfly, flitting about on a breeze...and the gardener (the man) is a beast of burden, of value to the butterfly only on the basis of what he provides, as opposed to who he is? The actions of the butterfly are purely motivated by self interest, and determined by the actions of the gardener, leaving the butterfly with no meaningful agency beyond aesthetics and resource seeking? Nice. Hyper-sexist, but nice.
The way this woman carries herself and how eloquent and knowledgeable she is; is outstanding. She is a rare gem that must be protected in this chaotic world of today
Be strong in your beliefs Be strong mentally Carry yourself in a respectful manner Have some level of drive/goals Have some level of self control A good leader will always have followers
She is so freaking smart. What she says is like you already knew it but you never tought about this, and as soon as she says it, you are like "thats it".
“If he hasn’t got self control he’s a liability to you and your children” 👏🏼 yes! Exactly this. (& yes, the same goes for women) We should ALL be looking for partners with self control
Exactly, that easy, I'm 51 and never been married or divorced, self control my friend. I do have 2 sons now 21 and 12 from two different great mothers, as long as they are great mothers to my sons I'm happy. Whatever happened between us doesn't matter 1 bit. Billions of women globally.
There's a lot more to it then that. I have lots of self control but I've also been alone all my life, I might even have too much self control by overriding my instinct to find a partner. Self control is only part of it.
Human are generally swayed by temptations. Take Adam and Eve as example. It requires immense amount of faith and willpower to reject temptations. Sadly, few can do it. You see many married men who are low value, leaving many angry wives wanting divorce. Most people only know the apple is rotten after eating it.
I used to feel like a woman can’t tell a man how to he “high value” then I watched this video… I was wrong. She’s on point! Definitely will rewatch this a few times.
I can almost guaranteed if we had time and resources to investigate her personal life and her past or even present choices of men that we would arrive to exactly the opposite of what she talked about in this video almost for sure If a man would have been filmed and said these immature teenage like opinions out loud more than likely he would be called pig chauvinist arrogant asshole and so on
Thank you so much. at 53 years old, I have never heard this from any man I know. Thank you for braking down so many walls that I never knew I was behind. I got some work to do.
I’m a high value man, I’m responsibility for my own life and the lives of my 3 little sons. I knows that i have the power to make things happen, and I will do whatever it going to take me to get the job done. I’m not afraid of hard work or challenging situations, I knows I am in control. Materialistic things and money do not make me a high value man, thanks to god I have some money. I’m very disciplined self control patience content confidence empathy
Love her she is so feminine so soft and so strong, so intune woth her vulnerabilities and herself as a whole! Inshalla - many blessings in this world and other to you Sadia!
Wow! She just spoke everything I have been thinking about but not being able to find the words to describe it! Nothing but truth, truth, truth! Why is it so hard these days to just be a respectful and respectable human beings. Breaks my heart that we can't get there and social media killed that for us.
My wife told me the things that were total deal breakers for her: Cheating on her, Getting Drunk, Getting High, Going to the Strip Clubs and Titty Bars, Going to the Casinos, Abusing her, Not paying the Bills, spending more than they earned, running around having fun while leaving her alone, not being honest, not being trustworthy, not having ambition, Not Treating Her With Respect! - in other words, all the things her 1st husband did. Lots of men think this kind of behavior is what makes them "Real Men". Well, it doesn't. And it sure doesn't make them High Value Men. If a woman will put up with that, shes not a high value woman, and knows it. High Value Women aren't looking for bad boys. They want real men. Bad boys like Chad and Tyrone never meet high value women, because HVW take one look at them and won't waste another second on them. 😅 And if a woman doesn't know what men value in a relationship, and bring that to the table, shes not a HVW. (But she might become one, if you teach her what it takes.) If you truly want a high value woman, you must value her, because she values herself. If you want to be a high value man, you must value yourself, and not accept being disrespected for who you are. If you want to win a HVW, you need to be the standard that she will compare all other men to, and find them wanting. She wants to know that you are strong enough to have values and hold yourself to them. And that you are man enough to have expectations and values that you will hold her to as well. In other words, If you want a High Value Partner, you must be a HVP. Birds of a feather flock together. Being High Value is about Maturity, Character, and Values. Not money, or being Mr. Sixes. And you won't find each other running around in Feminists and MGTOW circles.
@@thetso99 Whatever. If that's all you can see..... But I have a pearl of great price. Her first husband was blind, and didn't appreciate who, or what he had. That in no way reflects on her. She says that I am as important to her as she is to herself. And that the only thing more important to her than that, is us. And she means it. Her actions constantly prove her words. Most men would give up their left nut to have a woman who has that attitude toward them. And loves them with all her heart. She truly is High Value. Frankly, with the attitude you've expressed, you would never be good enough for her. You'd never measure up. You can't see what truly matters. How would you ever become the standard she would use to measure all other men, and find them wanting??? You don't know what H.V. is, or how to be such. A H.V. woman wouldn't give you a 2nd look. And that's sad. But a fool never can bear strong counsel.
@mrw23 Clearly, you are confused. I'll try to help. High value women have standards, values, and expectations for and of themselves, and hold themselves to them. Just as High Value Men do. HVW also hold others to these expectations. Just as High Value Men do. It's because of their standards that HVW are valued. Its what makes them rare and valuable. Same for HVM. Being H.V. is about character. WOMEN WITHOUT High values and standards are not valued, and are for the streets. There are lots of them. Because they are "common" , they hold little value. That you scorn women who have high values, and who seek a man who holds the same high values, just shows that you truly don't understand what a HVW is, or what makes a Man a HVM. You've probably met HVW in your time, and they never gave you a second look. You probably even realized that they were out of your league. And so, rather than elevating yourself, you choose to mock and scorn what you don't measure up to... Once more, I say, If you want a High Value woman, you must be a High Value Man. The choice is yours to make. On the other hand, if what you value are women with no values, standards, or expectations for you or themselves, then my message was never meant for you, and you should just ignore it and move on. Happy hunting !! "For behold, the field is ripe to be harvested". There are more than enough 304's to go around. (Now that's really taking someone else's seconds)
I must confess, this conversation really had me reflecting on pornographic addiction. And Sadia is correct in saying porn is not healthy for our social development, it really has destroyed and distorted our views on sexuality, at a deeper level than we may recognize. I think for us as men, we are very visual, so those steamy music videos or hot sex scenes in movies are not helping our situation, those are just gateways into the more hardcore stuff which leads to more dysfunction. But are we ready to have more of these honest conversations? Both men and women are complicit in the creation and publication of these kinds of productions. I think our societies are generally deliberately turning a blind eye to the detrimental effects of making such things available for ready and easy access, under the false precepts of "free choice".
I'm not into the hard core stuff but more the Asian softer stuff and it's done wonders for me. The more I think about it the more I want and it's great for my relationship with my woman. We love it. I learn lots from it and it's improved my sex life, practice practice practice. I'm an independent thinker, not a politically correct thinker. But yes I don't like hardcore porn, but for some it makes their life more exciting. Everyone is different and has their own mind. That's your experience, but it ain't mine. Porn has actually been educational for me
@@wrfootball3847 I can appreciate your unique experience. What do you think of the proposition that porn is like a drug of choice, no different from weed, alcohol, etc.?
@mukondelelic.mulaudzi8357 perhaps yes but in my opinion it doesn't have the physical effect on your body like alcohol, weed (which could also have a mental effect). I guess it's all about balance, some alcohol is ok, some porn is ok. Anything in excess usually isn't ok. As you say, it's all about choice. Nobody is forced to do anything. Alcohol, porn isn't the problem, it's people's choices that are the issue. We're all adults, which is exactly why these things are for 18 and over. People should take responsibility for their OWN actions and stop blaming others. Another analogy is when people get rekt by investments or crypto. Nobody forced you to invest, you made your own decision. Blame yourself and learn from it, don't blame others.
@mukondelelic.mulaudzi8357 only 1 in every 200 people with porn addiction, think they have a porn addiction. They make excuses for themselves such as its not hard porn, its only blah vlah blah, etc. Acknowledging the problem is rare and I agree with you 100%, porn is ruining our societies.
@sadiapsychology I was randomly surfing and found this interview . You have brilliantly put forward the message that possibly every sane individual wants to air these days. Keep doing the good work!
You have a beautiful message Sadia! As you get bigger, you will attract a lot more negativity too- pls ignore the negativity and carry on because people who try to bring you down dont even deserve acknowledgement. You have earned everyone's respect because of the integrity of what you say, and no one can take away from that. Izzat aur zillat sirf khuda ke haath mein hai. If anyone has the strength and grace to handle this, it's you wise lady! Prayers and love always ❤
@@kastelvetro1491 I wouldn't normally dignify this sort of comment with an answer, but just because I don't want any woman reading it to be disheartened: this is a nonsensical generalization. Every woman's circumstances can be so different. Disagree with what she says and provide evidence for it, but if you think attacking her marital status wins you the argument- sorry, it doesn't. If anything, I think a woman like Sadia would have trouble finding someone good enough for her, and so it would make more sense to me if she were single. Not that I think her marital status has any bearing on the wholesome advice she gives, which resonates with me so much so often.
@@something1162 Referring to human beings as low and high-value seems respectful to you?What if this message pushes a guy with low self esteem to the edge,because he's being called ''low value guy''.
@@fotisstergiou1165 I think men and women can absolutely be low value based on their actions. That doesn't mean they have been branded low value permanently, it means they need to consider whether their choices are letting them down in some way. I believe Sadia is trying to make us aware and reflective so we can choose to change course if needed. And this is valuable advice because no one tells it to us like that. A human being is potential, and that potential can be well directed or terribly directed. We are responsible for what we do with our potential. Of course everyone's circumstances are different- I think her message is just to show us an ideal to strive towards. The best we can do is to strive to be high value everyday- sometimes we'll manage, and sometimed we'll fall a little short, and that is perfectly okay.
"Self-control is like a muscle - the more you exercise it, the stronger it gets. 💪 Take charge of your actions, practice restraint, and watch your willpower grow. #SelfControl #MindOverMatter"
Integrity, responsibility towards yourself and others, humanity and consideration, kindness, authenticity, and compassion. Self control and identity is associated with ability to introspect and be authentic to their core values and others in their life. Men who are not in a rat race
0:32: 💪 Becoming a high value man goes beyond financial abundance and height, it requires self-control and investing in oneself. 4:03: 🔑 The video discusses the importance of selecting partners who are not self-destructive and the impact it can have on future generations. 7:26: 👩💻 The speaker discusses the impact of seeking external validation on self-esteem and the ability to serve others. 11:05: 💡 Pornography addiction prevents men from facing rejection and improving themselves. 14:12: 📺 The speaker discusses why women are less interested in watching porn compared to men. Recap by Tammy AI
this discrimination between high and low value regardless if it's for women or men whatever it may mean for each and every one of us somehow is borderline similar to how Nazis used to think and ACT when they used to categorize people into Superior and Inferior Race and then proceed to give themselves permission to eliminate those labeled inferior
Well, yeah, but self control (while important!) will not give you a 10/10 woman. Not even a 8/10, because (as she also says in another video) pretty girls are mostly a "different species" because they realize how much power beauty has. So, the ONLY way to get to those (which a man wants in his youth) is to get them by means of interests (money, power, looks). Self control is only for high value women (internal values) that are not very pretty (ugly?) ROFLMAO. 😀You can wait for a unicorn on a rainbow with gold at the end of it and it would be more realistic than a 10/10 pretty woman with internal high values. 😀
@@matthewschwartz6607 no, beautiful women usually have high body counts. Because they will always be hit on. She explained this so many times. Being beautiful is like a curse. Also having a lot of money too, in my case (who do you trust?). It takes an insane amount of humility and respect to resist the power of beauty, because once these beautiful women realise how much power they have over men, they will use it. The same goes for rich men and money. This is also self control, but no one cares cause no one will shame beautiful women/rich men for deceiving others. And on the other side aren’t beautiful women and rich men attractive? In the face of survival in the world very much so. So it’s a conundrum that can’t be solved. Fact is: if you want a 10/10 woman you need to have money and power. This is the nature of reality since millennia. But you need to realize: they will not stay. Because they will always have options and it will never be enough.
I think self control is always a work in progress. Once faced with temptations i lacked some self control but then had to learn it over the years. So I would say a man that is making true progress in learning self control is high value. One of my rules to being a mature adult is when you can do almost anything you want and chose not too do these things you are a mature adult.
She is amazing I appreciate every one of her videos. Self control, boundaries, honesty, integrity and conscious and proactive mindset rather than reactive. Makes a huge difference.
Unfortunately with both genders, only about 10% is capable of doing those things. Even more unfortunate is it is women who are more willing to pass on those guys just because she is not happy or bored.
recently have gotten into stoicism and this is what it all comes down to... self control over all areas in your life. The biggest areas where men lack self control is with porn, alcohol and junk food damaging your mind, body and soul.
It's incredible that the world is finally ready to hear the truth. This woman is 100% correct. I will add only this: A man has the ability to appreciate a woman that was with him when he was a lesser version of himself, providing that she's willing to grow with when he breaks out.
Really love Sadia's take on all things. To me, a high value man is mature, a leader, gentle and strong, has the ability to grow and takes care of the children and I. Self-control added to the list! So important!
A high value man is one that is himself and not modest. I believe modesty is a problem. Im an independent thinker, and being modest pkaces limits. I say promote what you are great at and share that success! Sharing is caring. Dont present yourself as a challenge...becaise thats a desperate game then your desperation shows. Nobody is a challenge. If you be yourself, be confident what you are great at and share that knowledge and success with others thats very powerful. A confident man is happy to say he is bloody great because he doesnt need to be a challenge because he is the prize! No mystery needed! He doesnt need to play a game. Its not about bragging, its about sharing your success then everyone wins
Praise God for miss. Sadia. This information is of the most value, besides that first God must be in the center of your life. Without, it will not work, at least for the long haul. Thank you Sadia ❤
I'm 6'2 and have immense self control. I workout 6 days a week, only eat once a day, don't smoke, drink or have any expensive hobbies. But I only make minimum wage and I've been dateless for over 10 years. I have tremendous self hate and self harm and I am suicidal. I have all this discipline, but I'm miserable
You have your priorities backwards. When you make minimum wage, you need to spend less time working out and more time learning a marketable skill to increase your income. You also need to eat more than once a day. 3 healthy meals a day won't make you overweight. You should also seek therapy for your emotional issues.
Sadia's definition of high value isn't the red pill's; it's almost deceitful but I can't tell if it's an honest cognitive lapses or a trick to sound sensible while "misguiding" her audience. When red pill and men in your situation think high value, the definition is something like "the power to attract women on a socio-sexual level" which is outcome oriented being able to facilitate a sexual encounter with non-sexworker women and becomes void if that result/feature is absent. When Sadia say high value, she's talking about a genuinely good man. The big issue is that she conflates being a good/great man with being a man who has sexual power. She may actually believe good men live in sexually abundant opportunity (turning down women that aren't good for themselves), but that comes from a very reasonable thought pathology. _The same way men's biology creates bias towards attractiveness in mate selection (ie not necessarily good women), women's biology is equally devoid of altruistic motivations. Women's bias moves them to select for preselected men, but they don't realize this is a sexual motivation because women either cognitively can't or socially can't be in tune with their arousal (being misconstrued as personality traits in men that are creating a more "romantic" or exciting pull rather than a randy sexual pull)_
Hello, I do not know you, but I think you you see a hypnotist very quickly or have some access bars session. It could help you or even change your entire life.
I think you've got that wrong. You should fear a person with low self-control. You can trust a person with high self control, because they are predictable and consistent. Don't fear a high self control person. Fear a person with no self control.
1. Gym 2. Eating right 3. Save money 4. Church going 5. Can resist sex _-----__--------------- Not high value 1. Alcohol, clubs, gambling 2. Cant resist sex 3. Any woman can distract him 4. Money can distract him
People saving money like they are going to live forever and it's usually too late when they realize they should have spent a lot more on experiences enjoying their life. Saving money is ok to some point but you never get to be in your 20s, 30s, or 40s ever again. You may have a lot of savings when you retire but some experiences are much more enjoyable when you are young. A good book on this topic is "Die with Zero" where the author explains why it is important to spend more while you still can.
@@Senad023 I save 10% of my income. If my income level stays the same for 30 years with average returns on investment I will retire with 1.7 Million. That number will be much higher since my income will grow over the next few decades. So I still live a good life and do the things I enjoy.
The main gist for guys out there from the lady & my interpretation as well as unsolicited suggestions: Acknowledge you have weaknesses. Ask real friends, relatives, even acquaintances what things you do that annoy them. Some have already told you but you didn't listen or brushed it off as spite or jealousy. Work on improving them gradually (less drinking, less gambling, less clubbing, less arrogance, less laziness, less sarcasm.....etc). Don't assume anything about anyone but do assume you did something wrong or rubbed someone the wrong way (by them ignoring or avoiding you) & question why? Learn from your mistakes. Question why certain things happened to you & how to correct for future reference. Consider the analogy of a football team watching game film on Mondays to play back what they did wrong & right in order to clean up those mistakes. Men as well women need to do the same thing by replaying in their minds what they did wrong & what steps they can do in the future to correct their mistakes. That's what high value folks do.
She is so good and so right! I hate the fact that the kind of women who need validation from men online or other places to make their selves feel good about them self. They ruin the way men look at woman these days. It is sad for women who just want love and respect like myself
I know they always want validation from their man at the drop of a dime too. I was at a get together, and talking to this type of girl, and her boyfriend came and stood with us. He said hello and the girl asked him to tell me the story of…. As he is about to talk she interrupts him and asks him if she looks ok, this process took over 5 min and was a process. I said I’d be right back and took off and talked to others. I’d say both were low value.😮
Well, the fact is that you don't *just* want love and respect. Otherwise you would have that already. Just pick a lower level guy. Pick someone who is "below" you. But you can't. You won't. Because you don't want *just* love and respect. You want love, respect, confidence, money, muscles, height, looks, emotional intelligence, skills, competence, a certain mindset which is rare to find, a respectable career, commitment, monogamy, charisma, protection, wisdom, intelligence, stoicism, kindness, patience, loyalty, a sense of humor... And I could go on and on and on. True?
What I'm taking with me from this talk is the word "unfortunately". Someone could make a drinking game based on how often she says it. I feel that it illustrates how strong our programming is and how much we need to work against it in order to reach our elevated versions of ourselves.
You have an amazing outlook to and vision of life Sadia! Your understanding of the process of life at a fundamental level (without fluff) is a breath of fresh air in the "influencer space". Thank you and keep at it!
Self control, seems like taming the beast, implies an undercurrent of wildness. The man who is truly high value, knows what he wants and goes after it. Once he gets it, he treasures it, protects it. He is committed, his desires lie beyond the physical and while they are met, he strives for a future, he's peaceful, he protects and provides for his family by not only working towards it financially but also by building a community a tribe around himself.
You are so right on what to look for in a good high value woman with intrinsic value. I look for that and i am what you described as a high value man. You confirmed my thoughts. My fiancée is a high value woman for me and we find value in our authentic selves. I like what you said about pornography as it is true. I got away from my addiction to porn and now no porn no alcohol except at weddings or family celebrations. I have deeply worked on my self. My Fiancée and I now each have a Charitable foundation helping orphans and IDP's in Ukraine and Ukrainian refugees. Next rebuilding Ukraine.
A REAL MASCULINE MAN IS a HIGH STATUS VALUE MAN. A REAL WOMAN IS A HIGH STATUS VALUE WOMAN It's doesnt has to do with AGE, Height, Beauty, Wealth, your crédito card, your car. It's your INNER ENERGY of SELF WORTH SELF DESERVING SELF RESPECT. It's a WAY OF BEING, A WAY OF LIVING.
I think Sadia is talking about what a healthy women considers a high value man to be and what a healthy man considers a high value woman to be. Unhealthy people will consider looks and material things etc as high value. Stay away from those people 🫠
Society defines value. You don't get to make up your own rules for what is valuable anymore than you can just decide that a hammer makes the best eating utensil. The question is not a metaphysical or philosophical question, it is a pragmatic one, and some traits work and others don't. Whatever gets men the most attention from women, and specifically the most desirable women, is by definition what is a 'high value' man in the mating market. Character is simply not relevant in the dating market, and it is not relevant in any other market for that matter. The data is pretty clear on what women value which is height, wealth, status, facial symmetry, build, and mastery of socially valued skills (not all skills, just the one's society deems worthy). Nothing else has any predictive power for success in the dating market. Self control is completely irrelevant as there are exactly zero women who have sexual fantasies about monks living a life of pure self control.
I am glad that exist women and people having same values as me. This psychologist isn't only intelligent and beautiful, but she is very spiritual and full of wisdom. ❤ More such people❤
True. I lived like that until I got fed up with it and started living with self control. It takes reading, goals, physical training, a getting rid of old friends and networking new ones.
Kinfolk, big respect for taking control and pushing forward. It's no joke to change your circle and better yourself. Keep grinding, every step counts. 👊🏾
8:40 You took the phrase "don't try to turn a ho into a housewife" and made it sound so clinical and proper lmao Jokes aside I just got out of a 4 year common law relationship with my ex fiancee. She was diagnosed as a grandiose narcissist from her therapist and I'm working with a therapist to heal from the abuse. She always posted herself on social media and I found out she had MANY men in her DM's validating her and hooking up with her behind my back. I blame myself because the red flags were there from the beginning, but sometimes you only want to see the best in people and ignore the bad. I learned this lesson the hard way.
The human species is not monogamous. Time to face the facts. "Relationships" may last up to 2 years TOPS. Then, it's dead. Couples who endure more than that, are just a scam. Either decadent cultures, who just live for the children and grandchildren, or the woman needs the man to support her, etc, etc.
I don't normally listen to women giving dating advice ... BUT .. that woman's spee h deeply touched me on a logical and emotionakl level . Not only i'll suscribe but i'll listen to most of your content .
first woman where i see where inteligence, beauty, humble, feminity is in balance. thats rare nowadays.please keep up your role modle figure. men and woman nowadays need it more than ever in this massinformation era imo. thank you
Holy hell! Instant subscribing. When that woman starting talking I NEVER heard a woman give so much valuable advice to guys as she just did in a few short minutes.
I predicted how porn would destroy the fabric of relationship and overall society when I was in high school! I remember in university it was such a contentious subject and those feminists used to be the first to defend it! I thought these feminists are not the classical predecessor feminists and are completely delusional! It’s the complete opposite of feminism and how these things got twisted is absolutely insane. What Sadia brings finally are traditional values that have been ripped apart in the West. It was always so predictable and it always boggled my mind how people didn’t see this coming!
40 years ago in the UK. The only porn was photos of naked women in magazines. Hardcore porn was illegal and people where jailed for selling it. The porn mags where put on a top shelf in a news-0agent, and you had to take it to the counter. Face the man or women assistant and pay them your money. Now, the hardest porn is available on every teenagers phone for free, 24/7.
I always felt that's the current root cause of the explosion of tattoo culture in the west. The x-rated film stars have tattoos. So then women think "oh that's what men want" so women emulate that. Women are more impressionable and superficial, so they will latch on to any trends. Longer finger nails, longer eyelashes, tattoos. Look at any current hip-hop female artists, they are glorified strippers. And the young girls are following that trend.
Ladies and gentlemen, whatever we all failed at in the past, was a learning experience, be very happy we learned. Just put in the work for few yrs or 1 decade and your entire life will change. Life is not difficult, we complicate it, btw im now 51 so i failed plenty of times across-the-board, take my advice and get to work.
Our worlds need more such women. May God send us more and more of that. Things are really really f*ked up. Only such an angel can guide and save girls and boys and direct them in a manner they become at least Women and Men. Hats off to you maam🎉
I think having money or access to it is a small portion of being a high value man......see below my list: 1. Having a minimum of a masters degree. 2. A well expanded vocabulary. 3. Being extremely knowledgeable in various aspects ie business/politics/community/financial/religion/technical/sports. 4. Being extremely confident. 5. Well groomed (tall & handsome) 6. Physically fit (not a slob). 7. Taking care of one's health, being the best version of yourself. 8. A transformational leader. 9. Having courage. 10. Discipline. 11. Having morals. 12. Having integrity. 13. Taking care of one's responsibility ie family/children. 14. Having a sense of humour. 15. Having money or access to it.
Height does not make any man high value, that's insane. Good character, self confidence, and temperance in all areas is high value. I know a guy who is short and not stunning at all. He is strong as a lion, a hustler, he works very hard, has integrity and self discipline, and is probably the most self confident guy I know. He is a natural boss. He scores the most gorgeous looking ladies, ladies with intelligence, self sufficiency, and credentials. He knows how to talk to women, and how to treat them. It's irresistible. And I agree with her completely on what a high value woman is. I agree with her on many issues. And let me just mention that Lewis is such a special man, truly. He is the full package. Lewis, I know you have a beautiful and equally special lady, but I appreciate you.
Beautifully said! I think Lewis has grown as a person and learned to develop himself emotionally. He's a good man. Sadiah is a beautiful person too- very deeply understanding of modern humanity
@@williamparrish2436 just like all men disqualify women based on her looks and/or career ambition. Height and money represents protection, on the flip side looks and ambition (lack thereof) represents arousal for men, sex and ability to do all the emotional labour without having a means to get out if need be.
@@williamparrish2436 I am sorry you feel that way. But it isn't true. Throughout history there have been great men who were not tall yet accomplished much. You would be shocked to know how many famous men currently are actually quite short. I think your own perception of yourself creates your limitations. If you are an amazing man with many other interesting attributes, you will be successful. My dad was short and stocky but he had a good physique and was multi talented. He was never short on self respect, dignity and honor. He was hard working with a lot of outside interests and adventures. Never had a problem getting female attention. Even as he got older, young girls would flirt with him. He appreciated it but remained a gentleman. I admire that.
Height is the number one consideration for women when it comes to what men are sexually attractive, therefore, it is indeed a factor of what makes a man high value. Sadia is moving the goal posts of the question from 'What makes a man highly sexually desirable to the most women' to 'What makes a man valuable under her moral standards of character'.
She brings a lot of very good points about what a high value men/women and pornography (the "If he/she doesn't have self control, he's a liability to you and your children." is definitely the key sentence). However, I would like to bring some nuances: - The passport bros are not necessarily porn-addicts that wants to escape. They can also be people that decided it is a better deal to start over in a new country whose culture is a better fit to their values than staying where they currently are. Tbh, self-control, loyalty and sense of community are not really the values that are at the forefront of west-European/north American culture/society - I like to see what we call pornography as male pornography, because it gives room in the discussion to female pornography aka intense twisted relationship story (cough) Fifty shades of grey (cough) Anyway, great video!
Reliability, a sense of duty, kindness, empathy, selflessness, intelligence, a can-do attitude, optimisation, an open heart, perseverance, and passion for their work. That's everything right there. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
And they wind up cheating anyways enough of this high value women and high value men bullshit!!!! Say u come from the debt’s of hell vs coming from a silver spoon in your mouth how do you apply that value perspective!!??Lets face it some of us never had a chance
@@queenoffaygo1100she said, women that men perceive as high value (good looking, showing a lot of skin, having lots of followers, seeking admiration and approval) are actually narcissistic, not high value.
I learned so much to value myself from the people I talk to it's mind blowing...WoW I appreciate your interview....I'm getting better and everyday in everyway.....Thank you❤
I always work my hardest everyday. But women are making it seem like the men that are not successful is just because they're lazy, but that's not true. It's extremely difficult and unlikely for success as a man for most of us. Only the very few make it out lucky.
No shade at all but what do you mean lazy? If you work hard every day how are you considered lazy? Men can be lazy. Women can be lazy. Not considered successful either way
@@brooke3312I'm not lazy at all, but women judge By Money in your bank account, not your work ethic. I try every day to become successful and it's extremely difficult.
@brooke3312 I get up and work hard every day. I work out I take care of myself all of the necessary things and I haven't reached success that I really want In order to be attractive to women. It sucks because it's such a high standard. I get financial stability and all that, But like it's just too much
Being lazy might be because the effort, energy, desire motivation is not really there. Men are often resistant to professional expert mature healthy support, mentors, allys, change, growth.. Relying on the same behaviors, mind that got you to struggle won't work. Therefore maybe lazy is assigned title. Putting in the work is a life long committment for yourself. Trying is not enough, hoping wishing is not a plan to success. Creating a growth map with others that have the life you want, reading feeding yourself conscious material, relationship with evolved professionals seeking ideas, gaining mentors that are positive, lectures groups meetings you are bending growing yourself to be your best for YOU.
I saw some of your content which I disagreed but today listening to you in detail. You really make sense we need women like you out in the society. Bless you
About not accepting the unacceptable : I think it's possible to accept bad behaviors, but with real conditions and not for ever. There is a difference between "you can do anything and i will just do nothing" and -> "you need to fight this and change. If you decepoint me, i will stay and support you, but things will get worst. I won't spend as much time with you, i will become distant. You will get punished by losing some of my trust and love, and you will need to earn back with your action and a real change". I think "zero punishement because i support you" is like "zero tolerance", a obvious answer that miss the middle ground. Since humans are not perfect. Zero tolerance promote zero punishment, because lying about the problem is the only way to maintain both an imperfect relationship and a zero tolerance policy.
A high value man has all he needs within himself. He is driven by his goals, passions, hobbies, and loves the company of his own thoughts. He may want a relationship with a woman, but has no need for one. As he ages and becomes more successful, the less he desires the company of a woman compared with the company of the peace which he has already been cultivating within himself for many years. A high value man has already acknowledged his own value to be high - external confirmation has become irrelevant.
Okay ‘ the term “ High Value “ is subjectively defined. But her advice for men to have self discipline sexually is harder than she explains. This professional is visually attractive, meaning she has actual sexual access to anyone generally speaking.For women to instruct men to have sexual discipline is falling on deaf ears because she is women with an abundance mindset.This whole subject is regarding to attract people. Truth is they’re many facets in attraction and in term “ High Value “ , the question come down to outcomes, results
I will bow down to someone who has complete and utter self control... winning yourself is the highest achievement I think and most of us never achieve that.
Never ask a western male what high value should be she's is Pakistani Muslim she speaks from a completely different background islamic values is contrary to western liberal capitalist values
@@civildiscourse7626 good luck finding a "virgin" it's impossible unless your going to date minors....90% of woman lose the virginity around early teens, all my exs told me they lost around 12 and 13 while I lost mine at 16...woman are more experienced than men in sex, but only a good woman can learn and mature but most either stay immature or don't want to change
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Sadia had a strong male presence in her life, most likely her father. Am I warm? She thinks like a man. This is refreshing.
Watching porno twice week and
Women posting in bikini etc..is the same..both not healthy.. ..
Not sure what and how you meant thats not wrong..... it is wrong...
you said... .".there's nothing wrong with women posting external validation..
eg.tits..
Sadia, I can never stop loving your videos!! Thx a lot
Why are you,a psychologist,referring to human beings as low and high-value?Aren't you ashamed of yourself?
@sadiapsychology
Hello Ms Sadia, I truly appreciate your insightful videos and the positive impact you have on the world.
I have a question I'd love to hear your thoughts on. In today's diverse society, I'm curious about the dynamics of a relationship when a Muslim black young man in his 20s seeks to marry an older woman, especially one who is around 10 years his senior. Additionally, when the couple doesn't share the same cultural background, how do you think this impacts the marriage dynamics?
Your perspective on these aspects of relationships would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you for your valuable insights!
"If he doesn't have self control, he's a liability to you and your children." Everything you need to know in one sentence.
🛎️ ding 🛎️ ding 🛎️ ding 🛎️ ding ! 🔑
Yeah but you are also booring then, and you will have to be blamed for your divorse, and I don't mean like crazy booring, I mean like normal (atractiv in the first place) guy booring.
Absolutely.
If she doesn't have self control, she's a liability to him and his, or their, children also.
And she is too if she can't.
Someone has GOT to replace the Kardashians with this beautiful, intelligent, sophisticated, elegant woman who understands the importance of femininity and traditional values! I have been dying to find someone to aspire to, and this queen is the gold we need in this screwed up society. Loved this.
The word has been out...Do we choose not to listen internally?.... everything is within...
Know ThySelf 💯💯🎤 Ase'
YES YES YES YES YES~~~~~~!!!!!!!!!
She’s a single woman with a kid, who was dumped….
Unfortunately they won’t replace them, coz they are choosing to click on them every time, coz they wish they were them.
I don't see any difference 😂
She is describing qualities on how to be a high value human in general.
A high value man is one that is himself and not modest. I believe modesty is a problem.
Im an independent thinker, and being modest pkaces limits.
I say promote what you are great at and share that success!
Sharing is caring.
Dont present yourself as a challenge...becaise thats a desperate game then your desperation shows.
Nobody is a challenge.
If you be yourself, be confident what you are great at and share that knowledge and success with others thats very powerful.
A confident man is happy to say he is bloody great because he doesnt need to be a challenge because he is the prize! No mystery needed! He doesnt need to play a game.
Its not about bragging, its about sharing your success then everyone wins
underrated comment. Nobody wants to be with a loser.
So true. Cause this applies to both men and women. A woman with no self control is a mess also.
@@wrfootball3847 Modesty is not not challenging your self it is being realistic, knowing your limits and working with them until you can surpass them. Like exercise being modest will save your life and allow your thru patience and dicipline to break your limits and that will create REAL confidence. Otherwise you just end up being prideful who is deseperate to keep up an image. Bragging is a useless trait with no benefit.
@1Surge exactly. I'm not talking about bragging, I'm talking about sharing success. When you have belief and know you are good at something...you just know. Well in my case I do anyway. Share it, be proud, be great. Then we all win together.
If people don't agree that you're great, doesn't matter, not everyone will. Stop worrying what others think and keep improving yourself.
Do not chase the butterfly; instead, nurture your garden. In enriching the soil, tending to blossoms, and cherishing growth, your garden flourishes. And as it does, the butterfly will come, drawn effortlessly to the haven you’ve created.❤
So, the woman is the mercurial, unpredictable butterfly, flitting about on a breeze...and the gardener (the man) is a beast of burden, of value to the butterfly only on the basis of what he provides, as opposed to who he is? The actions of the butterfly are purely motivated by self interest, and determined by the actions of the gardener, leaving the butterfly with no meaningful agency beyond aesthetics and resource seeking?
Nice. Hyper-sexist, but nice.
Luv this 💕
The way this woman carries herself and how eloquent and knowledgeable she is; is outstanding. She is a rare gem that must be protected in this chaotic world of today
A woman like she can protect herself in this harsh world. The rest of them need to be "protected".
Beautiful mind AND face! #goals! 👏🏽👑
She’s really cool indeed! Gorgeous and I’m learning a lot from her!🙌🏻 God bless her!🙌🏻
This young woman is a legend!
You need to go to London, Paris or Milan. Women like her are a dime a dozen over there.
Be strong in your beliefs
Be strong mentally
Carry yourself in a respectful manner
Have some level of drive/goals
Have some level of self control
A good leader will always have followers
She is so freaking smart. What she says is like you already knew it but you never tought about this, and as soon as she says it, you are like "thats it".
“If he hasn’t got self control he’s a liability to you and your children” 👏🏼 yes! Exactly this. (& yes, the same goes for women) We should ALL be looking for partners with self control
Exactly, that easy, I'm 51 and never been married or divorced, self control my friend. I do have 2 sons now 21 and 12 from two different great mothers, as long as they are great mothers to my sons I'm happy. Whatever happened between us doesn't matter 1 bit. Billions of women globally.
For a woman, I would say the one one with a reputation to protect. The one with a life that doesn't let her play games.
There's a lot more to it then that. I have lots of self control but I've also been alone all my life, I might even have too much self control by overriding my instinct to find a partner. Self control is only part of it.
Human are generally swayed by temptations. Take Adam and Eve as example. It requires immense amount of faith and willpower to reject temptations. Sadly, few can do it. You see many married men who are low value, leaving many angry wives wanting divorce. Most people only know the apple is rotten after eating it.
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Self respect is also very important. Respect yourself what you put in your body and who you spend time with.
Accurate!
Virtue gentleman, pursue virtue. Wisdom, temperance, fortitude and justice. All else will follow in due course.
How could you not Love this young lady..... Sadia is brilliant
Young? She's 35.
She's not young and while in some videos is well spoken, in others she has horrible views.
@@roi9 Escort?
@@roi9 I don't really like her, but she's married and she couldn't be escort. She is not young and she is not hot. Escorts have a different profile.
@@bigbanknewyork3655 yeah u dont know why she in dubai she satisfied dubai sheikh
I used to feel like a woman can’t tell a man how to he “high value” then I watched this video… I was wrong. She’s on point! Definitely will rewatch this a few times.
She is the best relationship psychologist I have ever known
That's truly sad.
This woman is full of wisdom. Everything she said is spot on. I need to replay or pause the video sometimes to digest her words.
She mentioned height as a quality of a high value man. That's the only thing she mentioned that a man has no control over. Everything else is spot on!
The full video is worth watching and she totally nails it the whole time.
I can almost guaranteed if we had time and resources to investigate her personal life and her past or even present choices of men that we would arrive to exactly the opposite of what she talked about in this video almost for sure
If a man would have been filmed and said these immature teenage like opinions out loud more than likely he would be called pig chauvinist arrogant asshole and so on
Exactly on point
Thank you so much. at 53 years old, I have never heard this from any man I know. Thank you for braking down so many walls that I never knew I was behind. I got some work to do.
I’m a high value man, I’m responsibility for my own life and the lives of my 3 little sons. I knows that i have the power to make things happen, and I will do whatever it going to take me to get the job done. I’m not afraid of hard work or challenging situations, I knows I am in control.
Materialistic things and money do not make me a high value man, thanks to god I have some money.
I’m very disciplined
self control
patience
content
confidence
empathy
Intelligence, confidence and spiritual awareness makes a high value person. Sadia seems to possess all those attributes!
She does not. She is also caping on some things. Like blaming men, older men when they choose younger women instead women of their age.
What if you find out Sadia (root word 'Sadist'??? =:O ), thinks she "deserves" to cheat on her hubby--and DOES so--will your opinion change?
@@MajorCaliber She is not even married mate...
You obviously missed how gorgeous she is
@@psidhu1979 It might take a week or so to list all of Sadia's good qualities!!
The most important thing of a person is who they are. It is what they bring to you (peace, love, support, etc.).
Love her she is so feminine so soft and so strong, so intune woth her vulnerabilities and herself as a whole! Inshalla - many blessings in this world and other to you Sadia!
Wow! She just spoke everything I have been thinking about but not being able to find the words to describe it! Nothing but truth, truth, truth! Why is it so hard these days to just be a respectful and respectable human beings. Breaks my heart that we can't get there and social media killed that for us.
In other words,you have to be spiritually, mentally, physically disciplined,sounds about right😊
Where does one find those men? 😂
@@nicolegio9173. Rare as. Most guys out there have some type of addiction or form of weakness 😳
My wife told me the things that were total deal breakers for her: Cheating on her, Getting Drunk, Getting High, Going to the Strip Clubs and Titty Bars, Going to the Casinos, Abusing her, Not paying the Bills, spending more than they earned, running around having fun while leaving her alone, not being honest, not being trustworthy, not having ambition, Not Treating Her With Respect! - in other words, all the things her 1st husband did.
Lots of men think this kind of behavior is what makes them "Real Men". Well, it doesn't. And it sure doesn't make them High Value Men. If a woman will put up with that, shes not a high value woman, and knows it.
High Value Women aren't looking for bad boys. They want real men. Bad boys like Chad and Tyrone never meet high value women, because HVW take one look at them and won't waste another second on them. 😅
And if a woman doesn't know what men value in a relationship, and bring that to the table, shes not a HVW. (But she might become one, if you teach her what it takes.)
If you truly want a high value woman, you must value her, because she values herself.
If you want to be a high value man, you must value yourself, and not accept being disrespected for who you are.
If you want to win a HVW, you need to be the standard that she will compare all other men to, and find them wanting. She wants to know that you are strong enough to have values and hold yourself to them. And that you are man enough to have expectations and values that you will hold her to as well.
In other words, If you want a High Value Partner, you must be a HVP. Birds of a feather flock together. Being High Value is about Maturity, Character, and Values. Not money, or being Mr. Sixes. And you won't find each other running around in Feminists and MGTOW circles.
Spendig more money than earn.
I am good to go, my wife does that for me 😀
Just remember< you have second hand wife.
@@thetso99 Whatever. If that's all you can see.....
But I have a pearl of great price. Her first husband was blind, and didn't appreciate who, or what he had. That in no way reflects on her.
She says that I am as important to her as she is to herself. And that the only thing more important to her than that, is us. And she means it. Her actions constantly prove her words.
Most men would give up their left nut to have a woman who has that attitude toward them. And loves them with all her heart. She truly is High Value.
Frankly, with the attitude you've expressed, you would never be good enough for her. You'd never measure up. You can't see what truly matters.
How would you ever become the standard she would use to measure all other men, and find them wanting??? You don't know what H.V. is, or how to be such. A H.V. woman wouldn't give you a 2nd look.
And that's sad. But a fool never can bear strong counsel.
lol brother@@thetso99
@mrw23 Clearly, you are confused. I'll try to help.
High value women have standards, values, and expectations for and of themselves, and hold themselves to them. Just as High Value Men do.
HVW also hold others to these expectations. Just as High Value Men do.
It's because of their standards that HVW are valued. Its what makes them rare and valuable. Same for HVM. Being H.V. is about character.
WOMEN WITHOUT High values and standards are not valued, and are for the streets. There are lots of them. Because they are "common" , they hold little value.
That you scorn women who have high values, and who seek a man who holds the same high values, just shows that you truly don't understand what a HVW is, or what makes a Man a HVM.
You've probably met HVW in your time, and they never gave you a second look. You probably even realized that they were out of your league.
And so, rather than elevating yourself, you choose to mock and scorn what you don't measure up to...
Once more, I say, If you want a High Value woman, you must be a High Value Man. The choice is yours to make.
On the other hand, if what you value are women with no values, standards, or expectations for you or themselves, then my message was never meant for you, and you should just ignore it and move on.
Happy hunting !! "For behold, the field is ripe to be harvested". There are more than enough 304's to go around. (Now that's really taking someone else's seconds)
I must confess, this conversation really had me reflecting on pornographic addiction. And Sadia is correct in saying porn is not healthy for our social development, it really has destroyed and distorted our views on sexuality, at a deeper level than we may recognize.
I think for us as men, we are very visual, so those steamy music videos or hot sex scenes in movies are not helping our situation, those are just gateways into the more hardcore stuff which leads to more dysfunction. But are we ready to have more of these honest conversations? Both men and women are complicit in the creation and publication of these kinds of productions.
I think our societies are generally deliberately turning a blind eye to the detrimental effects of making such things available for ready and easy access, under the false precepts of "free choice".
I'm not into the hard core stuff but more the Asian softer stuff and it's done wonders for me.
The more I think about it the more I want and it's great for my relationship with my woman. We love it. I learn lots from it and it's improved my sex life, practice practice practice.
I'm an independent thinker, not a politically correct thinker.
But yes I don't like hardcore porn, but for some it makes their life more exciting.
Everyone is different and has their own mind. That's your experience, but it ain't mine.
Porn has actually been educational for me
@@wrfootball3847 I can appreciate your unique experience. What do you think of the proposition that porn is like a drug of choice, no different from weed, alcohol, etc.?
@mukondelelic.mulaudzi8357 perhaps yes but in my opinion it doesn't have the physical effect on your body like alcohol, weed (which could also have a mental effect).
I guess it's all about balance, some alcohol is ok, some porn is ok. Anything in excess usually isn't ok.
As you say, it's all about choice. Nobody is forced to do anything.
Alcohol, porn isn't the problem, it's people's choices that are the issue. We're all adults, which is exactly why these things are for 18 and over.
People should take responsibility for their OWN actions and stop blaming others. Another analogy is when people get rekt by investments or crypto. Nobody forced you to invest, you made your own decision. Blame yourself and learn from it, don't blame others.
@wrfootball3847 I agree, as adults we should be accountable for our own choices
@mukondelelic.mulaudzi8357 only 1 in every 200 people with porn addiction, think they have a porn addiction. They make excuses for themselves such as its not hard porn, its only blah vlah blah, etc. Acknowledging the problem is rare and I agree with you 100%, porn is ruining our societies.
I love this. These are traits of trustworthy adults. Preach, sister!!!!!
Protect this woman at all costs. Our generation needs such information.
Get her woke left moralists!
@sadiapsychology I was randomly surfing and found this interview . You have brilliantly put forward the message that possibly every sane individual wants to air these days. Keep doing the good work!
You have a beautiful message Sadia! As you get bigger, you will attract a lot more negativity too- pls ignore the negativity and carry on because people who try to bring you down dont even deserve acknowledgement. You have earned everyone's respect because of the integrity of what you say, and no one can take away from that. Izzat aur zillat sirf khuda ke haath mein hai. If anyone has the strength and grace to handle this, it's you wise lady! Prayers and love always ❤
@@kastelvetro1491 I wouldn't normally dignify this sort of comment with an answer, but just because I don't want any woman reading it to be disheartened: this is a nonsensical generalization. Every woman's circumstances can be so different. Disagree with what she says and provide evidence for it, but if you think attacking her marital status wins you the argument- sorry, it doesn't. If anything, I think a woman like Sadia would have trouble finding someone good enough for her, and so it would make more sense to me if she were single. Not that I think her marital status has any bearing on the wholesome advice she gives, which resonates with me so much so often.
@@something1162 Referring to human beings as low and high-value seems respectful to you?What if this message pushes a guy with low self esteem to the edge,because he's being called ''low value guy''.
@@fotisstergiou1165 I think men and women can absolutely be low value based on their actions. That doesn't mean they have been branded low value permanently, it means they need to consider whether their choices are letting them down in some way. I believe Sadia is trying to make us aware and reflective so we can choose to change course if needed. And this is valuable advice because no one tells it to us like that. A human being is potential, and that potential can be well directed or terribly directed. We are responsible for what we do with our potential. Of course everyone's circumstances are different- I think her message is just to show us an ideal to strive towards. The best we can do is to strive to be high value everyday- sometimes we'll manage, and sometimed we'll fall a little short, and that is perfectly okay.
"Self-control is like a muscle - the more you exercise it, the stronger it gets. 💪 Take charge of your actions, practice restraint, and watch your willpower grow. #SelfControl #MindOverMatter"
The most perfect answer that I've heard on social media. Kudos to this incredibly intelligent woman.
So precise and so clear...
This woman is a synonym to clarity.
Integrity, responsibility towards yourself and others, humanity and consideration, kindness, authenticity, and compassion. Self control and identity is associated with ability to introspect and be authentic to their core values and others in their life. Men who are not in a rat race
What an intelligent woman - she has got it sorted. A great catch she is
0:32: 💪 Becoming a high value man goes beyond financial abundance and height, it requires self-control and investing in oneself.
4:03: 🔑 The video discusses the importance of selecting partners who are not self-destructive and the impact it can have on future generations.
7:26: 👩💻 The speaker discusses the impact of seeking external validation on self-esteem and the ability to serve others.
11:05: 💡 Pornography addiction prevents men from facing rejection and improving themselves.
14:12: 📺 The speaker discusses why women are less interested in watching porn compared to men.
Recap by Tammy AI
this discrimination between high and low value regardless if it's for women or men whatever it may mean for each and every one of us somehow is borderline similar to how Nazis used to think and ACT when they used to categorize people into Superior and Inferior Race and then proceed to give themselves permission to eliminate those labeled inferior
Thanks for the recap.
Well, yeah, but self control (while important!) will not give you a 10/10 woman. Not even a 8/10, because (as she also says in another video) pretty girls are mostly a "different species" because they realize how much power beauty has. So, the ONLY way to get to those (which a man wants in his youth) is to get them by means of interests (money, power, looks). Self control is only for high value women (internal values) that are not very pretty (ugly?) ROFLMAO. 😀You can wait for a unicorn on a rainbow with gold at the end of it and it would be more realistic than a 10/10 pretty woman with internal high values. 😀
@@qaesarx - Is it true that it’s usually the low value men who end up with the women who have really high body counts?
@@matthewschwartz6607 no, beautiful women usually have high body counts. Because they will always be hit on. She explained this so many times. Being beautiful is like a curse. Also having a lot of money too, in my case (who do you trust?). It takes an insane amount of humility and respect to resist the power of beauty, because once these beautiful women realise how much power they have over men, they will use it. The same goes for rich men and money. This is also self control, but no one cares cause no one will shame beautiful women/rich men for deceiving others. And on the other side aren’t beautiful women and rich men attractive? In the face of survival in the world very much so. So it’s a conundrum that can’t be solved. Fact is: if you want a 10/10 woman you need to have money and power. This is the nature of reality since millennia. But you need to realize: they will not stay. Because they will always have options and it will never be enough.
I think self control is always a work in progress. Once faced with temptations i lacked some self control but then had to learn it over the years. So I would say a man that is making true progress in learning self control is high value. One of my rules to being a mature adult is when you can do almost anything you want and chose not too do these things you are a mature adult.
She is amazing I appreciate every one of her videos. Self control, boundaries, honesty, integrity and conscious and proactive mindset rather than reactive. Makes a huge difference.
u forgot beautiful!!
Unfortunately with both genders, only about 10% is capable of doing those things. Even more unfortunate is it is women who are more willing to pass on those guys just because she is not happy or bored.
Anyone can do these and they are attractive
recently have gotten into stoicism and this is what it all comes down to... self control over all areas in your life. The biggest areas where men lack self control is with porn, alcohol and junk food damaging your mind, body and soul.
It's incredible that the world is finally ready to hear the truth. This woman is 100% correct. I will add only this: A man has the ability to appreciate a woman that was with him when he was a lesser version of himself, providing that she's willing to grow with when he breaks out.
Sadia just says the right things always. ❤❤❤❤
Yes...things you want to hear.
@@toddjohnson271 lol... The right thing is right and wrong is wrong. So she says the right things 😁
Definitely not always right, but very reasonable and tries to be consistent .. which is respectable
Very educational and an eye opener for every responsible man.
Really love Sadia's take on all things.
To me, a high value man is mature, a leader, gentle and strong, has the ability to grow and takes care of the children and I.
Self-control added to the list!
So important!
A high value man is one that is himself and not modest. I believe modesty is a problem.
Im an independent thinker, and being modest pkaces limits.
I say promote what you are great at and share that success!
Sharing is caring.
Dont present yourself as a challenge...becaise thats a desperate game then your desperation shows.
Nobody is a challenge.
If you be yourself, be confident what you are great at and share that knowledge and success with others thats very powerful.
A confident man is happy to say he is bloody great because he doesnt need to be a challenge because he is the prize! No mystery needed! He doesnt need to play a game.
Its not about bragging, its about sharing your success then everyone wins
there's too much "unforfunately", but you have said what we don't get to hear occasionally , and they are truly gem. thank you sadia
Praise God for miss. Sadia. This information is of the most value, besides that first God must be in the center of your life.
Without, it will not work, at least for the long haul. Thank you Sadia ❤
Sadia, it’s nice how she refined values but so simplistic as well. Black and white.
I'm 6'2 and have immense self control. I workout 6 days a week, only eat once a day, don't smoke, drink or have any expensive hobbies. But I only make minimum wage and I've been dateless for over 10 years. I have tremendous self hate and self harm and I am suicidal. I have all this discipline, but I'm miserable
Which proves that you are missing the major selection factors.....and they aren't ethics, morality, and mindset.
You have your priorities backwards. When you make minimum wage, you need to spend less time working out and more time learning a marketable skill to increase your income. You also need to eat more than once a day. 3 healthy meals a day won't make you overweight. You should also seek therapy for your emotional issues.
Sadia's definition of high value isn't the red pill's; it's almost deceitful but I can't tell if it's an honest cognitive lapses or a trick to sound sensible while "misguiding" her audience.
When red pill and men in your situation think high value, the definition is something like "the power to attract women on a socio-sexual level" which is outcome oriented being able to facilitate a sexual encounter with non-sexworker women and becomes void if that result/feature is absent.
When Sadia say high value, she's talking about a genuinely good man. The big issue is that she conflates being a good/great man with being a man who has sexual power. She may actually believe good men live in sexually abundant opportunity (turning down women that aren't good for themselves), but that comes from a very reasonable thought pathology.
_The same way men's biology creates bias towards attractiveness in mate selection (ie not necessarily good women), women's biology is equally devoid of altruistic motivations. Women's bias moves them to select for preselected men, but they don't realize this is a sexual motivation because women either cognitively can't or socially can't be in tune with their arousal (being misconstrued as personality traits in men that are creating a more "romantic" or exciting pull rather than a randy sexual pull)_
@@brandon-toddhutchinson3798 Correct....she is wrong. All high value means is the ability to control the market of the opposite gender.
Hello, I do not know you, but I think you you see a hypnotist very quickly or have some access bars session.
It could help you or even change your entire life.
“You cannot have children with self destruct people as it’s contagious” ❤️
Like I've always said. The only type of person that I fear is a person with high self-control.
I think you've got that wrong. You should fear a person with low self-control. You can trust a person with high self control, because they are predictable and consistent. Don't fear a high self control person. Fear a person with no self control.
Self control reminds me of Khabib Nurmagomedov
@@LowCostVideo I mean I fear them as an opponent. But as a friend and ally I love them around
Thank you Dr.Sadia. I love how you articulate such difficult concepts.
This is most sensible interview I had ever seen
1. Gym
2. Eating right
3. Save money
4. Church going
5. Can resist sex
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Not high value
1. Alcohol, clubs, gambling
2. Cant resist sex
3. Any woman can distract him
4. Money can distract him
People saving money like they are going to live forever and it's usually too late when they realize they should have spent a lot more on experiences enjoying their life.
Saving money is ok to some point but you never get to be in your 20s, 30s, or 40s ever again.
You may have a lot of savings when you retire but some experiences are much more enjoyable when you are young.
A good book on this topic is "Die with Zero" where the author explains why it is important to spend more while you still can.
Agree. Tread a middle path. Save some, spend some. Experience the planet & die without regrets.
And for women:
1. Beautifull
2. Loyal
3. Submissive
4. Virgin
5. Selfless
Agree?
@@Senad023 I save 10% of my income. If my income level stays the same for 30 years with average returns on investment I will retire with 1.7 Million. That number will be much higher since my income will grow over the next few decades. So I still live a good life and do the things I enjoy.
@@wizardddy3023 Yup but you forgot one
6. not picking fights with their significant other every 5 seconds
She’s preaching. It’s so true that porn gives men unrealistic standards in regards to the women they can get in real life.
The main gist for guys out there from the lady & my interpretation as well as unsolicited suggestions:
Acknowledge you have weaknesses. Ask real friends, relatives, even acquaintances what things you do that annoy them. Some have already told you but you didn't listen or brushed it off as spite or jealousy. Work on improving them gradually (less drinking, less gambling, less clubbing, less arrogance, less laziness, less sarcasm.....etc). Don't assume anything about anyone but do assume you did something wrong or rubbed someone the wrong way (by them ignoring or avoiding you) & question why? Learn from your mistakes. Question why certain things happened to you & how to correct for future reference. Consider the analogy of a football team watching game film on Mondays to play back what they did wrong & right in order to clean up those mistakes. Men as well women need to do the same thing by replaying in their minds what they did wrong & what steps they can do in the future to correct their mistakes. That's what high value folks do.
She is so good and so right! I hate the fact that the kind of women who need validation from men online or other places to make their selves feel good about them self. They ruin the way men look at woman these days. It is sad for women who just want love and respect like myself
@@kastelvetro1491there’s no wall stop making up BS.. people are getting married at all ages to have kids or no kids.
I know they always want validation from their man at the drop of a dime too. I was at a get together, and talking to this type of girl, and her boyfriend came and stood with us. He said hello and the girl asked him to tell me the story of…. As he is about to talk she interrupts him and asks him if she looks ok, this process took over 5 min and was a process. I said I’d be right back and took off and talked to others. I’d say both were low value.😮
Well, the fact is that you don't *just* want love and respect.
Otherwise you would have that already. Just pick a lower level guy. Pick someone who is "below" you. But you can't. You won't. Because you don't want *just* love and respect.
You want love, respect, confidence, money, muscles, height, looks, emotional intelligence, skills, competence, a certain mindset which is rare to find, a respectable career, commitment, monogamy, charisma, protection, wisdom, intelligence, stoicism, kindness, patience, loyalty, a sense of humor...
And I could go on and on and on.
True?
What I'm taking with me from this talk is the word "unfortunately". Someone could make a drinking game based on how often she says it. I feel that it illustrates how strong our programming is and how much we need to work against it in order to reach our elevated versions of ourselves.
Good conversation, Sadia seem so accurate, engaged and highly intellectual! Bravo!!
You have an amazing outlook to and vision of life Sadia! Your understanding of the process of life at a fundamental level (without fluff) is a breath of fresh air in the "influencer space". Thank you and keep at it!
Self control, seems like taming the beast, implies an undercurrent of wildness. The man who is truly high value, knows what he wants and goes after it. Once he gets it, he treasures it, protects it. He is committed, his desires lie beyond the physical and while they are met, he strives for a future, he's peaceful, he protects and provides for his family by not only working towards it financially but also by building a community a tribe around himself.
High Value man is a motivation salesman's term. A handyman is more valuable than one of many corporate board members. He keeps it all up and running.
She is the empress of pragmatism and plain logics!! Absolutely fascinating. 1+1 with her is always = 2. Clear as a water spring...
You are so right on what to look for in a good high value woman with intrinsic value. I look for that and i am what you described as a high value man. You confirmed my thoughts. My fiancée is a high value woman for me and we find value in our authentic selves. I like what you said about pornography as it is true. I got away from my addiction to porn and now no porn no alcohol except at weddings or family celebrations. I have deeply worked on my self. My Fiancée and I now each have a Charitable foundation helping orphans and IDP's in Ukraine and Ukrainian refugees. Next rebuilding Ukraine.
This is great. It points back to traditional values.
Yes yes yes!!! She’s on point with the narcissists of today. It’s disturbing but I’m glad she sees through the bs
Thank you for these videos sadia! You’re doing gods work
These videos look and sound like click-bait, but actually have real wisdom and life-lessons. Very good!
A REAL MASCULINE MAN IS a HIGH STATUS VALUE MAN. A REAL WOMAN IS A HIGH STATUS VALUE WOMAN
It's doesnt has to do with AGE, Height, Beauty, Wealth, your crédito card, your car. It's your INNER ENERGY of SELF WORTH SELF DESERVING SELF RESPECT. It's a WAY OF BEING, A WAY OF LIVING.
There is always so much value in her communication.
Men know the value of delayed gratification while boys are still learning it💪🏾
I learnt something new today about high value men. Here's to me hoping that I will self-control myself better so that I become high value. Thank you🙏
I think Sadia is talking about what a healthy women considers a high value man to be and what a healthy man considers a high value woman to be. Unhealthy people will consider looks and material things etc as high value. Stay away from those people 🫠
Society defines value. You don't get to make up your own rules for what is valuable anymore than you can just decide that a hammer makes the best eating utensil. The question is not a metaphysical or philosophical question, it is a pragmatic one, and some traits work and others don't.
Whatever gets men the most attention from women, and specifically the most desirable women, is by definition what is a 'high value' man in the mating market. Character is simply not relevant in the dating market, and it is not relevant in any other market for that matter.
The data is pretty clear on what women value which is height, wealth, status, facial symmetry, build, and mastery of socially valued skills (not all skills, just the one's society deems worthy). Nothing else has any predictive power for success in the dating market. Self control is completely irrelevant as there are exactly zero women who have sexual fantasies about monks living a life of pure self control.
So go be with a nice, kind, respectfull 5'3'' guy who works at McDonalds.
I'll wait.
She's talking about having enough self control in order to not self sabotage your future success. Not total self control to follow religion.
I am glad that exist women and people having same values as me. This psychologist isn't only intelligent and beautiful, but she is very spiritual and full of wisdom. ❤ More such people❤
The part where she talks about boundaries is so right. I've learnt the hard way
Who hasn’t ?
True. I lived like that until I got fed up with it and started living with self control. It takes reading, goals, physical training, a getting rid of old friends and networking new ones.
Kinfolk, big respect for taking control and pushing forward. It's no joke to change your circle and better yourself. Keep grinding, every step counts. 👊🏾
I wonder what has happened to make you finally being fed up. Can you share a bit of your experience?
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You took the phrase "don't try to turn a ho into a housewife" and made it sound so clinical and proper lmao
Jokes aside I just got out of a 4 year common law relationship with my ex fiancee. She was diagnosed as a grandiose narcissist from her therapist and I'm working with a therapist to heal from the abuse. She always posted herself on social media and I found out she had MANY men in her DM's validating her and hooking up with her behind my back. I blame myself because the red flags were there from the beginning, but sometimes you only want to see the best in people and ignore the bad. I learned this lesson the hard way.
The human species is not monogamous. Time to face the facts. "Relationships" may last up to 2 years TOPS. Then, it's dead. Couples who endure more than that, are just a scam. Either decadent cultures, who just live for the children and grandchildren, or the woman needs the man to support her, etc, etc.
I don't normally listen to women giving dating advice ... BUT .. that woman's spee h deeply touched me on a logical and emotionakl level . Not only i'll suscribe but i'll listen to most of your content .
first woman where i see where inteligence, beauty, humble, feminity is in balance. thats rare nowadays.please keep up your role modle figure. men and woman nowadays need it more than ever in this massinformation era imo. thank you
when she talks, its like poetry...
Holy hell! Instant subscribing. When that woman starting talking I NEVER heard a woman give so much valuable advice to guys as she just did in a few short minutes.
I predicted how porn would destroy the fabric of relationship and overall society when I was in high school! I remember in university it was such a contentious subject and those feminists used to be the first to defend it! I thought these feminists are not the classical predecessor feminists and are completely delusional! It’s the complete opposite of feminism and how these things got twisted is absolutely insane. What Sadia brings finally are traditional values that have been ripped apart in the West. It was always so predictable and it always boggled my mind how people didn’t see this coming!
porn is a sedation for the artificial hypergamy causing few selection of men by women. It is a symptom.
This 👏
How about social media? For me thats worse than just porn.
40 years ago in the UK. The only porn was photos of naked women in magazines. Hardcore porn was illegal and people where jailed for selling it. The porn mags where put on a top shelf in a news-0agent, and you had to take it to the counter. Face the man or women assistant and pay them your money. Now, the hardest porn is available on every teenagers phone for free, 24/7.
I always felt that's the current root cause of the explosion of tattoo culture in the west. The x-rated film stars have tattoos. So then women think "oh that's what men want" so women emulate that. Women are more impressionable and superficial, so they will latch on to any trends. Longer finger nails, longer eyelashes, tattoos. Look at any current hip-hop female artists, they are glorified strippers. And the young girls are following that trend.
Ladies and gentlemen, whatever we all failed at in the past, was a learning experience, be very happy we learned. Just put in the work for few yrs or 1 decade and your entire life will change. Life is not difficult, we complicate it, btw im now 51 so i failed plenty of times across-the-board, take my advice and get to work.
100% agree high value women attracted to self control men, bc they feel safe, and protected next to tht man, and her feminine side will only blossem
Our worlds need more such women. May God send us more and more of that. Things are really really f*ked up. Only such an angel can guide and save girls and boys and direct them in a manner they become at least Women and Men. Hats off to you maam🎉
You can be as “high value” as you want, but at the end of the day, hypergamy will always exist. It’s all about maintaining your frame.
More and more women should start listening to sister Sadia. as a 20 years old man it helps me a lot and i wounder how much females can benefit from it
Thank you Sadia. So good, so true, so important. Please, please keep talking about the harms of porn. There are so many
I will never ever stop 😂❤
I think having money or access to it is a small portion of being a high value man......see below my list:
1. Having a minimum of a masters degree.
2. A well expanded vocabulary.
3. Being extremely knowledgeable in various aspects ie business/politics/community/financial/religion/technical/sports.
4. Being extremely confident.
5. Well groomed (tall & handsome)
6. Physically fit (not a slob).
7. Taking care of one's health, being the best version of yourself.
8. A transformational leader.
9. Having courage.
10. Discipline.
11. Having morals.
12. Having integrity.
13. Taking care of one's responsibility ie family/children.
14. Having a sense of humour.
15. Having money or access to it.
Height does not make any man high value, that's insane. Good character, self confidence, and temperance in all areas is high value. I know a guy who is short and not stunning at all. He is strong as a lion, a hustler, he works very hard, has integrity and self discipline, and is probably the most self confident guy I know. He is a natural boss. He scores the most gorgeous looking ladies, ladies with intelligence, self sufficiency, and credentials. He knows how to talk to women, and how to treat them. It's irresistible. And I agree with her completely on what a high value woman is. I agree with her on many issues. And let me just mention that Lewis is such a special man, truly. He is the full package. Lewis, I know you have a beautiful and equally special lady, but I appreciate you.
Beautifully said! I think Lewis has grown as a person and learned to develop himself emotionally. He's a good man. Sadiah is a beautiful person too- very deeply understanding of modern humanity
You should tell other women that. Almost all women DISQUALIFY men based on height.
@@williamparrish2436 just like all men disqualify women based on her looks and/or career ambition. Height and money represents protection, on the flip side looks and ambition (lack thereof) represents arousal for men, sex and ability to do all the emotional labour without having a means to get out if need be.
@@williamparrish2436 I am sorry you feel that way. But it isn't true. Throughout history there have been great men who were not tall yet accomplished much. You would be shocked to know how many famous men currently are actually quite short. I think your own perception of yourself creates your limitations. If you are an amazing man with many other interesting attributes, you will be successful. My dad was short and stocky but he had a good physique and was multi talented. He was never short on self respect, dignity and honor. He was hard working with a lot of outside interests and adventures. Never had a problem getting female attention. Even as he got older, young girls would flirt with him. He appreciated it but remained a gentleman. I admire that.
Height is the number one consideration for women when it comes to what men are sexually attractive, therefore, it is indeed a factor of what makes a man high value.
Sadia is moving the goal posts of the question from 'What makes a man highly sexually desirable to the most women' to 'What makes a man valuable under her moral standards of character'.
She brings a lot of very good points about what a high value men/women and pornography (the "If he/she doesn't have self control, he's a liability to you and your children." is definitely the key sentence). However, I would like to bring some nuances:
- The passport bros are not necessarily porn-addicts that wants to escape. They can also be people that decided it is a better deal to start over in a new country whose culture is a better fit to their values than staying where they currently are. Tbh, self-control, loyalty and sense of community are not really the values that are at the forefront of west-European/north American culture/society
- I like to see what we call pornography as male pornography, because it gives room in the discussion to female pornography aka intense twisted relationship story (cough) Fifty shades of grey (cough)
Anyway, great video!
Keep in mind, all this applies to women TOO👍🏼
Reliability, a sense of duty, kindness, empathy, selflessness, intelligence, a can-do attitude, optimisation, an open heart, perseverance, and passion for their work. That's everything right there. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
“High value women are narcissistic!” - She definitely described my ex.
And they wind up cheating anyways enough of this high value women and high value men bullshit!!!! Say u come from the debt’s of hell vs coming from a silver spoon in your mouth how do you apply that value perspective!!??Lets face it some of us never had a chance
There’s a difference between high value and high maintenance.
Did she say this?
@@queenoffaygo1100she said, women that men perceive as high value (good looking, showing a lot of skin, having lots of followers, seeking admiration and approval) are actually narcissistic, not high value.
I learned so much to value myself from the people I talk to it's mind blowing...WoW I appreciate your interview....I'm getting better and everyday in everyway.....Thank you❤
I always work my hardest everyday. But women are making it seem like the men that are not successful is just because they're lazy, but that's not true. It's extremely difficult and unlikely for success as a man for most of us. Only the very few make it out lucky.
No shade at all but what do you mean lazy? If you work hard every day how are you considered lazy? Men can be lazy. Women can be lazy. Not considered successful either way
@@brooke3312I'm not lazy at all, but women judge By Money in your bank account, not your work ethic. I try every day to become successful and it's extremely difficult.
@brooke3312 I get up and work hard every day. I work out I take care of myself all of the necessary things and I haven't reached success that I really want In order to be attractive to women. It sucks because it's such a high standard. I get financial stability and all that, But like it's just too much
Being lazy might be because the effort, energy, desire motivation is not really there. Men are often resistant to professional expert mature healthy support, mentors, allys, change, growth.. Relying on the same behaviors, mind that got you to struggle won't work. Therefore maybe lazy is assigned title. Putting in the work is a life long committment for yourself. Trying is not enough, hoping wishing is not a plan to success. Creating a growth map with others that have the life you want, reading feeding yourself conscious material, relationship with evolved professionals seeking ideas, gaining mentors that are positive, lectures groups meetings you are bending growing yourself to be your best for YOU.
If you can’t attract women, you are either a. Lying, b. are in a toxic environment or c. Trying to attract the wrong type of women.
I saw some of your content which I disagreed but today listening to you in detail. You really make sense we need women like you out in the society. Bless you
About not accepting the unacceptable : I think it's possible to accept bad behaviors, but with real conditions and not for ever.
There is a difference between "you can do anything and i will just do nothing" and -> "you need to fight this and change. If you decepoint me, i will stay and support you, but things will get worst. I won't spend as much time with you, i will become distant. You will get punished by losing some of my trust and love, and you will need to earn back with your action and a real change".
I think "zero punishement because i support you" is like "zero tolerance", a obvious answer that miss the middle ground.
Since humans are not perfect. Zero tolerance promote zero punishment, because lying about the problem is the only way to maintain both an imperfect relationship and a zero tolerance policy.
A high value man has all he needs within himself. He is driven by his goals, passions, hobbies, and loves the company of his own thoughts. He may want a relationship with a woman, but has no need for one. As he ages and becomes more successful, the less he desires the company of a woman compared with the company of the peace which he has already been cultivating within himself for many years. A high value man has already acknowledged his own value to be high - external confirmation has become irrelevant.
Okay ‘ the term “ High Value “ is subjectively defined. But her advice for men to have self discipline sexually is harder than she explains. This professional is visually attractive, meaning she has actual sexual access to anyone generally speaking.For women to instruct men to have sexual discipline is falling on deaf ears because she is women with an abundance mindset.This whole subject is regarding to attract people. Truth is they’re many facets in attraction and in term “ High Value “ , the question come down to outcomes, results
I will bow down to someone who has complete and utter self control... winning yourself is the highest achievement I think and most of us never achieve that.
Never ask a woman what a high value man/woman should be
Never ask a western male what high value should be she's is Pakistani Muslim she speaks from a completely different background islamic values is contrary to western liberal capitalist values
This day is my first time hearing her speak and i subscribed to her channel straight away. I hope to getting addicted to her
The true meaning of a real high value woman! I love when she speaks, she's here for us real men. Need more woman like her
Is she married? Was she a virgin until marriage?
I don't think all these your questions matter ..
@@civildiscourse7626 good luck finding a "virgin" it's impossible unless your going to date minors....90% of woman lose the virginity around early teens, all my exs told me they lost around 12 and 13 while I lost mine at 16...woman are more experienced than men in sex, but only a good woman can learn and mature but most either stay immature or don't want to change
@@alutagodspowereseoghene5294 they do that’s part of the highest value
@@civildiscourse7626she’s not married but has a partner 😂