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First time I've encountered Pearl was maybe a year ago. There were a handful of points she made, that I agreed with. Then, thanks to algorithm, I received more and more of her talks and after a while, I didn't even hear all the the stuff that Roma is mentioning, I had to do a little research and found that she is a very conservative women, with very... extremely(!) little life experience and her opinions where at a level of regressive views that I had to block her channel!
From time to time, I get suggestions, especially shorts from other channels that repost her "wisdom of a long life". Especially her denigrating of women that explore their own sexuallity on their own terms is something so backwards, it literally turns my stomach!
She’s def a Fed. Controlled opposition
I was just arguing this point the other day in your comment section, I'm glad I was right
I respectfully disagree about 1 thing you said. Wives should be submissive to their husbands but what you're talking about was subjugation. I don't require a woman to always shut up and sit down and I enjoy her input, but she should defer to me when a logical instead of an emotional decision needs to be made like I would defer to her when an emotional decision should be made instead of a logical one. We should bask in the glory of our differences and respect that our brains, hormones, bodies, and priorities are different. They both serve their purpose and they both deserve respect, but they are inherently different.
Yes and your sitting skint. When Pearl talks she isn't talking about the average guy, her dads in the 1% she grew up in it. So really you moaning about a different view to yours. She speaks about modern women, the "i'm a prize" no your not and you will never get a man in the 1% because of that attitude. Pearl says this because she has a perspective you don't.
My first ex-wife acted chill, just crazy enough to resonate with me, and was an awesome wife, up until she had my son. She purposely didn't tell me when she was giving birth (in an apartment because her mom is the extreme hippie/crunchy and homeschooled all her daughters) she then proceeded to turn up the crazy to the point of driving me out of the house, then moved with my infant son halfway across the country (North Carolina to Oklahoma) without notifying the court while were in proceedings for divorce. But, according to many I've talked to, it's my fault for marrying her in the first place. Never mind that she's currently serving time for attempted murder. It's my fault.
There is no hatred greater than that of mothers towards the fathers of their children.
My ex and her mother LOVED me before the birth of our son. Once the first grand baby (our son) showed up, I suddenly became enemy number one. I watched them go from loving me with all of their hearts to hating me with all their might. I have since learned that that is normal. That is simply what women do. It is what all men can and should expect.
Sorry to hear that man, coming from a fellow Carolinian (South to be exact) Hopefully your kid is back with you and away from her forever.
@@MatthewFutrell I'm actually from Kansas, I was stationed in Jacksonville with the Marines. I do have full custody of my son, so thank you.
Sounds like a lot of backstory. ..You should put all the details out there. I'm not being critical just curious.
@@edwarddoonan5253 I've been suggested by good friends to write a book, and I'm working on it.
Know why Roma's cool? She's making that money, but still keeping her feet on the ground. Being real.
Has pearl ever raised, or donated money for men’s causes?
@@RomaArmyMensRights Pearls of Wisdom. Not Pearl's opinion.😁
@@RomaArmyMensRights No idea. How does one find out about anyone else's finances without doing shady stuff? I don't agree with Pearl either. Her opinions are pro-inequality.
Malcolm X warned us about White Liberals and we didn't listen. Now here Roma is defending a chick that laughs at slavery okay cool then stop shitting on Kanye West over the Holocaust let's laugh at that as well 👍🏾
@@RomaArmyMensRights She said Black People over hype slavery and if Slavery is over hyped then so is the Holocaust let's keep the same energy don't start with the reporting 🙄
Holy shit dude, you hit hard with this one. I haven't finished the video yet, but I turn 40 in a few months. I currently don't have insurance, my body is literally breaking down, the government says I don't need help, despite being a widower, but I'm still expected to do the job of someone half my age. I do it, I'm good at what i do, but it's almost like i can feel the damage to my body happening in real time. It's horrible.
And I'm a strong cis male, but I'm also sensitive, and caring, and shy. why do we have to put labels on everything? Can't we all just be people?
Not in the best place right now but it's warming to know we're not forgotten. Thankyou for showing we're not alone
Hey, I’m not in the best place either. I understand, but come to this community when you’re ever feeling alone
@@RomaArmyMensRights thankyou your good soul
@@RomaArmyMensRights I'm in my 40s, no children but dearly want to be a dad and the last 2 years have been real tough to deal with, not going into details but I've lost some people I've loved for many years and of late I feel very much in a lonely place and without and real purpose. Thank you so much for reaching out
@@ianstay2185 Have money, will travel. Try experiencing a different culture where there's not so much... social delusion. Northern Thailand is full of smiling people. South Korea has great food. China is super cheap. etc etc
@@ianstay2185aww I hope everything gets better for you 🙏
I'm 30 and I've never wanted to delete myself more in my life purely because I'm a man and i can never meet the expectations that are required of me.
It's exhausting limping through each day being looked down upon because you're essentially a failure of a man.
Hey don’t, it’s not worth it. And the other side isn’t fun, trust me, and if you survive like I did the recovery is agonizing.
Bet you're really great at meeting the expectations of the average human though. Don't discredit yourself based on what you've been told you should be, or should be doing. You have skills, knowledge, and experience. You clearly have goals. Coming from another 30 yr old, you're still young, and there is lots of time to start setting small roads up to help you achieve your goals. If you're up for it, I highly recommend watching Stutz. Jordan Peterson is also fantastic. He can be a bit harsh but he really cares about men's wellbeing, especially young men that are struggling. Wishing you all the best. ❤
Hey there young man. Your feelings are valid, however may I suggest that you have the power to change your circumstances and build meaning for you in life. I’m older than you by more than two decades and have seen and been through a lot. I have been at that point of not wanting to go on. I started to change my perspective with the help of a doctor, changing from expectations of others to my own expectations and what was most important for my family. It’s been six years now since I made those choices and although life throws it’s challenges, I am better equipped to handle them. Life can get better on your terms. Shed the expectations of others, get your mental and physical health checked, make a list of what is most important to you, set up short term goals toward pursuing them. It might seem overwhelming at first, but you can only eat an elephant one bite at a time. Has anyone talked to you about the difference between easy and simple? A lot of things may be easy, but they are not simple. Walking (for most) is easy, one step after another. But, to walk across the United States is not simple. So, if someone says, just do X, it’s easy, realize it may not be simple from where you are needing to start. Hang in there, it can be better. Good luck and protect yourself so you can enjoy your future on your terms. Let God make the big decisions for you, like exiting the planet. You focus on getting better. People do care about you, even here on the Internet.
Go within and that shit disappears within is salvation, power, confidence and balance fuq what others think what’s between your ears and in your heart has more value than others opinions of you or at least they should. No one matters but you and until you get that mindset you will feel and believe what others think of you. Fuq them all with a broken broomstick and no Vaseline. Weak men make hard times strong men make easy times reach deep and become what all fear…..A warrior in a garden he made by his own attributes and if he is called to battle he’s ready at a moments notice. Strong mind, strong body and strong spirit. Work out regularly it changes your chemistry in all 3 areas by default. Strength training constantly pushing yourself to the next level never taking your eyes off your prize not budging for anyone. Fuq them all none of their opinions matter only yours! You are a warrior if you want to be and a peasant if that is your desire as well remember you are the creator of your life and no one else. Fuq em alll….
I know this sounds weird but I like watching documentaries on our cousin to our species you see chimps teach us a lot about ourselves and in a weird way I feel an inspiration and drive. one because at least we are humans and not chimps so grateful but 2ndly they teach us authenticity and the potential in our selves to be strong if that's what we want but Importantly above all else whatever is making you feel the way you feel you need to walk away from it run away from it and heal once you are and it can take years possibly to heal but once you do you will be more stronger and capable
being a man with mental health issues and have been taken advantage and abused and had my daughter taken from me thank you for what you do
Sincerely sorry to hear what you've been through. My husband is much the same way. Except ex-wife turned his 2 boys against him as well. May you find the woman who is in your corner. Protects & loves you with every fiber of her being!
@@cntrygal2007 THHHHHHHHHHHHHHank you lol
dont fall for this grifter dude...she has some good points yes but watch out for the same old cookie cutter feminazi "arguments"
Personally the problem I have with Pearl has always been that she wants followers and she has found the best way to do it is to say what she thinks the majority of men want to hear.I really dont think she believes a lot of what shes saying she has just found that,if she says it,she gets attention.
This sums up my thoughts on this as well.
I heard from her own mouth that she believes that if you date a wealthier man that you better just get used to being cheated on.
Exactly, pearls entire online career is a persona, just like Andrew Tate. She is saying things to gain a following, for clout not to help people.
Honestly I think she's just a grifter. I've seen other people push this and it didn't ring true with me until I saw her poorly defend her points and give a sly smile as she gives her weird takes. I think she's just in it for the money and clout with her pick me attitude.
I think that's pretty much sums up majority that females would think just like her
I was forced to be a fighter for almost 10 years of life. My body was basically ruined by the time I was in my mid 20's. I did terrible in school because of my health so, everyone was practically screaming at me to get a job 24/7 but, the only jobs available to me were jobs where I needed to use my body... So I did. I'm barely mobile now and I didn't even know who I really was, as a person, until I was almost 40. I discovered that I'm an artist, btw. Always have been. T_T
My beliefs are mostly conservative, but i 100% agree with you here. Sometimes i feel like gender roles and expectations are a bit too much, especially toward men.
I appreciate you for being so caring of other people and staying true to your beliefs.
Yeah "traditional" for men includes most of the traditional qualities, while traditional for women is just have kids and be an active mom lol
@@superdooper50and take the abuse , stay at home stuck in semi permenant pregnancy , smile , don't talk don't look better than your husband , no financial back up and sometimes just enough education to read. What a GREAT existance and this is if your are upper middle class! Lower class women? Back breaking labor even as pregnant! Be it farms after industrial revolution factories even things like mining apperantly! Truly what a great position to be in.
Most of men's rights has nothing to do with the traditional conservative/liberal split in the same way that the majority of female rights (right to vote, equal pay, equal access to jobs, etc) have nothing to do with it either.
As someone whose father abandoned him, wrote off his debt in his mothers name, left his ex wife and child homeless and NEVER PAID A SINGLE BIT of child support (no hyperbole) i agree with you
Nuance isn't respected by all. I value your opinion because you are willing to have nuanced opinions.
Your dedication to this nuance, and to pointing out your goals as well as why you are distinguished from other ideologies, are why you have finally earned my subscription. I was left by my wife of 19 years after 4 years of me becoming bedridden. The system told me if i cared about my kids, I somehow would have chosen to not get sick. So she holds the keys. And yes, i became the deadbeat that got tired of arguing, fighting, and going deeper into debt with lawyers. I ultimately chose to walk away over the insanity that was courts and the ongoing abuse of my ex. I love my 3 kids, and they deserve better, but so do I.
You, more than anyone, seem to understand our struggle. And yes, we need you, a woman, to say it for us. Because everyone thinks it is some sick joke when I claim i've been abused by women, the courts, and society in general.
Thank you. I really mean it, thank you.
Please help us more. Thank you, again.
I like both creators for different reasons. I like to get a wide variety of viewpoints on the topic.
Same here!
Much respect keep up the good fight for men's rights.
NGL it's rough out here. I personally feel people like Pearl, F&F, Kevin Samuels(R. I.P.), and Tate make it harder to exist as a male.
They are bad representations of supposed "male advocates". I agree.
Who is F&F exactly?
I agree, they make us look worse than most are. Sure theres the douches out there, be we aint all tate😂
I have a cousin in newfoundland who literally has kids with guys, doesn’t let them know, then files for child support going back years
Jesus Christ women like that should be caught and forced to tie their tubes
And females like that helped produce guys not wanting to be hunkered down and treat females as an object
Your channel has provided me with invaluable support, for which I am profoundly grateful. As I commemorated my 40th birthday on January 1st, I found myself reflecting on a series of transformative experiences.
One of the most notable facets of my life is my service in the United States Marine Corps, during which I sustained injuries that led to an 80% disability rating. Subsequently, I faced another setback with a second shoulder injury that required surgery and precipitated a significant career change.
Meanwhile, my former wife obtained her green card. Regrettably, our paths diverged in this challenging time.
Despite these trials, I remain committed to learning from these experiences and fostering resilience. Your channel has been an integral part of this journey, offering a sense of community and camaraderie when I needed it most. Thank you for your continued dedication to providing this resource.
Fair enough in your assessment! I appreciate the straightforward way you stick to the topic in a logical way without politics or anything clouding the process in which you make your points! It's good to see someone like me who care about the important things without letting other opinions affect the rational conclusions! Very eloquent! Your point was well received!
Thank you for this video. I’ve been married for 6 1/2 years and realized I’ve been emotionally abused for the last 2-3 years. My wife and I were fighting, I told her what I need. A few times. No attempt to change until I told her I wanted a divorce 3 weeks ago. Now she is being extra loving. But it’s too little to late. I’m filling out papers. Just need a lawyer I can afford.
3:35-4:20 you were absolutely spot-on. And I say this as a 38 year old man whose body began to break down. All I have known is work and hard work since I was 16 years old. When my wife and I got together; she came in with nothing actually looking for help because things weren't going well where she was living. At that time she had never had a place of her own, and next to no work history. Fast-forward a little while us living together and she was pregnant I did the right thing and stuck by her even though I wasn't yet ready. I was raised old school so old school rules; you get a girl pregnant you marry her. Over the last 12 years I give everything up to and including my own body and have two beautiful children together. Nearly no financial help over the last 12 years outside of the occasional part-time minimum-wage job from her. None of those jobs ever lasted and each time was only after arguments regarding her helping me and pretty much having to force her to go to work got tired of fighting and it eventually settled on her being a homemaker while I simply worked harder 🤦. Eventually even started land business to make sure we would have enough to get by since the regular nine-to-five jobs we're not paying well. Then covid hit. As a single member sole proprietor LLC in the construction industry; I lost business due to covid and lockdowns and was forced to find is secondary job on top of my business because business was getting really slow. @ that second job I was injured severely a year ago to the point of needing a fully reconstructed wrist and ligamentous structure within my wrist. Seen as disposable because I have a felony in my past; my employer buried and never filed the injury report form on my injury. Just left us unable to collect. I've been out of work for a year now because of the injury; just got surgery this past November and had the pins removed at the end of January. It was quite an extensive procedure and my surgeon says it may be another year before I'm back to normal as my ligaments had to be disconnected and rerouted through bone and then reattached with ligament anchors. My hand will never be the same again. At the time I got injured I had $26,000 in the bank for savings from my 1 year in business prior to injury. Rather than get off her ass and help me and pick up the slack while I was recovering; she continued to be a homebody until literally every last dime of my savings was spent. That's when she FINALLY decided to get a job. And just like before she pulled some part-time bulshit at a grocery store at barely over minimum wage. We argued fiercely about how she needed to get a real job and grow the fuck up. Did this part-time minimum-wage bullshit is not going to support a a family; that she has a medical degree upstairs in the fucking closet and for twelve years now I've been begging her to utilize it and help me out. I actually used to work in medical myself and had a little bit of pull at one of my previous facilities. She finally agreed to go back to work full time and I got her the first real job of her life just a few months ago.
I gave everything including my own body to the point where now I will physically never be the same and wonder every day what my worth is because my hands can no longer provide for my family the way they used to and I worked with my hands nearly all my life. Starting to notice back pain from doing labor work since I was 16. Now my hands don't work. And on top of that all of it has caused me such crippling debilitating depression that some days I won't even get off the couch anymore. I've slept on the couch for almost 2 years now. And because this last year of my life has been hell without her support; I actually took your advice from a and gave her no dique for over a year now. And am now seeking therapy and medication for my severe depression and anxiety developed over this time. On my way out very soon. NOW THAT SHE FINALLY HAS A REAL JOB so that she can sustain this house, We've actually discussed separating and going our separate ways each of us taking one of the kids permanently and swapping visitation on weekends😢 with me being the one that chose to leave everything behind because it'll be easier for me to start over then for her since before may she never had her own place, never had a real job, and I pretty much had to raise my wife like I had a third child. So I figured now that she's capable; I would be the one to start over and get a new house for my daughter and I. Crazy how we may now be separating when I have nothing left. I WAS DISPOSABLE. Jokes on her though since she waited till I had nothing so I don't plan on restarting my life until after the papers are signed since there are no assets left to divide and I've already agreed to leave her with what we have attained during the marriage otherwise. Trying to find strength to raise my daughter as a single father so that she doesn't wind up like her mother. I'm amazed at her strength and even though she has emotional trauma from this; she is a straight-A student. She is an absolute daddy's girl and is also neglected by my wife emotionally. Crazy that my nine-year-old also has depression and is seeing a therapist and on medication due to the emotional trauma of what's been going on the last few years. Used to come to me crying asking me "daddy why doesn't mommy want to play with me? Why does she always shoo me away? When she gets home from work all she wants to do is put her face on the tablet and yells at me when I ask to play with her." So now my daughter and I go out on daddy daughter days quite regularly cuz she knows that I will always give her the time she deserves. I will never shoo her away. That she can always come to me for help or to talk. And that I will defend her with my life. My son on the other hand; my wife absolutely coddles him and pretty much lets him do whatever the hell he wants to do. He won't listen to me at all anymore and when I used to step in to discipline him trying to raise a responsible, moral, ethical Young man; she always stood in my way. Now he's utterly out of control and there's nothing I can do about it because she always stands in my way and well men aren't allowed to discipline their boys and girls anymore without child services being involved although my daughter almost never needs correction anyways🤷 Anywho there's a lot more but I just wanted to share at least a part of my story and how I was disposable. When this is all said and done and the papers are signed; I would love to come and speak with you and tell the whole story. Up to and including portions of the story that include going to jail for this woman for false claims, taking charges in order to protect her When those false claims were admitted and the legal system said if I didn't take the charge they would go after her for making a false claim, and much more. And yes I have the black and white to prove that.😢😢 I made a life, sacrificed my being, gave over a decade, then got injured, and I am now disposable. And to be honest with you; if it weren't for my children; I would have unalived some time ago. So you were definitely spot on in the suicide rate related to these things. Because I have contemplated that many times. Frankly I was surprised that she agreed to split custody with the kids. But then again you see the dynamic that I explained above and how she missed treats my daughter and coddles my son. So for all I know maybe she's glad to get rid of me and her daughter so she doesn't have to try anymore. 🤢😓
My daughter sometimes watches your channel with with me and is surprisingly able to understand some of these things. So in a way I can thank you because little do you know you are already helping me in raising a better woman than society typically teaches as during a lot of your videos she has mentioned to me of her own accord that she sees a lot of these traits in their own mother and wants to be better than that.
Hey there. One year plus has passed, I'd like to know how you're doing now, and your daughter.
I'm not the best at words but I simply wanted you to know that if only I could I'd give you many hugs. I'm proud of you, especially know what you're talking about and therefore can appreciate and admire it fully. My mom and my oldest siblings were quite absent from my life and my father and the middle siblings (i'm the youngest) are down right the most toxic and violent people I've ever met. I'm not the same person, a sane person, anymore because of all this since I'm 8 and have been suicidal (with failed attempt) since being 11. We had police many times over to investigate home violence and child abuse (and not only, financial crimes and other stuff as well) but I still wasn't taken away and given in custody or anything as they promised. My brain has just stopped working, I've been sleeping about 4h a night for years now. I'll be turning 16 this year and I hope to find and part-time job along with school in order to avoid starvation. After school I already know I won't be able to get any job I'd like because of health issues (poverty, complete neglect, medieval superstitions and my parents being first cousins might explain smth). I honestly don't even know why I'm trying to fight to survive, it's probably never going to get any better - economy's messed up, especially here (Italy) salaries haven't increased in 25ys, hoping to find a life partner who cares about love and growing together rather than just wanting a f*ckboy or being in cold-hearted business is quite ridiculous and so, so much more. I just don't like the idea of giving up I guess, but it isn't rational - end it or keep on being miserable in all aspects of life? Sounds like a simple choice. I simply wanted to be a kind and dilgent kid who'd work hard to take care of his loved ones but God thinks that's boring and dull to watch from above, haha.
Being a good parent is the most important and delicate mission a person could have so I wholeheartedly wish you and your daughter (and son, even though it might be more challenging) the best, and in physical, mental, financial and social health. You sound like a genuinely good person and your daughter fantastic (as all children are until they're ruined by messed up adults). I always wished of having at least a parent who'd give a f*ck about me and a little sister to play with and take care of, I guess I can't fly over though. Abbi cura vecchio mio 🫡
Ps: English is not my first language, pardon any mistakes.
Thank you for standing up for us Men like me. I'm 47 years young and a very traditional man. What I mean traditional is, opening doors, the man walking on the side where the cars pass so the women wouldn't get hurt, pay for things even though I'm an average man working hard to be successful in life and many other things that describe the traditional man. I've been divorce for many years now with an amazing 21-year-old son, who lives with his mother. I wasn't in love with his mom, but I was raised if you have a child to at least try to form a union with his/her mother. It didn't work out and the rest is history. I've never given my love (heart) to anyone because I've seen how some of my friends ended up walked all over by the Women that thought was in love with them. I like an idiot decided to give my entire love (heart) to a woman who I met here in the states. She is from a different country. I went to be with her in her home country to try to form a life together which we had an extensive conversation about marriage and children on our second date. I wasn't able to find a job and the currency exchange was not enough to warrant me staying, because I couldn't pay my bills here in the US. I get back and I was finding different ways for her to come back to the US, so we could figure out our next step which is marriage. I was told by her a few weeks after I arrived that she believes that she doesn't love me the way I love her. This after all the money I spent on going over there, because we both spoke about it and were excited to be together again. I broke up with her and then two weeks later, I decided to call her back and figure out what we need to do to figure out our situation. She asked If I would agree to a 3-month breakup starting this past month May 9, 2023, to August 9,2003 to see if we want to continue our relationship or not. The back story is that her mom and Sister have impregnated in her mind that she can be a stay-at-home mom with 3 to 4 kids. I explained to her that the man she is looking for comes with many red flags. I could go on and on, but I won't. I just needed to vent, because this really hurts and I wish that Females would just be honest and not give us guys the run around. Thank you again for sticking up for us men that have a tremendous heart and would do anything for the women we love. I apologize for the long comment, again I just needed to vent. Thanks again for all that you do for us.
Omg all of these have been the very same exact ideas I've had almost my entire life. 💕 I can't express how happy I am about someone like Chloe existing and doing this work. Despite the fact that I'm not a man, I can't help but _love_ the way you're fighting for their rights.
I did _love_ to see a society where gender equality was a real thing because where I live, even though it may not seem like it, I've seen and heard so many nasty things that happen in the privacy of the home and some of them are truly heartbreaking, indifferently if the victim was a woman or a man. We're all human beings first and foremost and that's what should matter the most when it comes to these kind of things.
Keep it up queen, we'll be supporting you wholeheartedly! 💪❤
Omfg me too, my boyfriend sent me her account and said I sounded like her. I don’t think I’ve ever been so flattered tbh. I strive to sound as grounded as reliable as her
This was a Brilliant assessment. Hats off you you 👏 🙌🏾
Holy Shit! I hear the words but find it are to believe they are being spoken… 15 years of being put down has been a long road. Working 50-80 hour weeks and providing everything needed and wanted only to be told I haven’t done anything for her in 15 years. My eyes are being opened to the lies I’ve been told. Thank you for these words. It feels good to actually hear them.
I am in so much pain. I am sorry for the pain I have caused people. Al I want is for my children to be better than me. I wake up every day wishing I didn't wake up.
Every single time you mention mens suicide rates, I want to hop on my UA-cam channel and actually start advocating. I'm just terrified of backlash and judgement from others. Losing my son was the single worst thing that ever happened to me & I saw it coming like a train wreck in slow motion.. Just didn't know which of my three sons it'd be! Any advice for me on how to vet into the community without having a ton of negative come my way??? I feel very compelled to share my sons story & our families long family court fight with my husbands ex, etc.. In our nearly twenty yrs I've said it so many times, someone has to stand up for mens rights.. Glad I'm not alone. TY for your voice, Roma✌💜💭
As a man…..the most important thing at the core of my being is protecting…..then providing for my family……this Father’s Day i have given up yelling at my kids……happy late Father’s Day guys….
You don't think pearl is a bad person? She's repeatedly shown herself to be a massive grifter who will say anything for clout, including defending pedos
Oh darn I was hoping we were gonna have a discussion with both the ladies today. Hopefully in time.
I would love to, but it appears as if that’s not something pearl is interested in
@@RomaArmyMensRights that's a bummer. I very much enjoyed when you did a discussion with papagut.
Hopefully that's something that can come in the future.
Props girl. You're on point. I'ma be watching regularly now, thank you for speaking up for us in ways that we can't without being called horrible things.
Great video Roma! I like how you did your breakdown on the differences. Keep up the great work!!
I so look forward to what comes up next. Always Pearl's of Wisdom❤
Your "Pearl's" of wisdom supports slavery.
As a man, I don’t care what women say about me being me
Oh, you still very much do.
What bugs me about Pearl and other people like her and the male versions, is the whole rating system of worth they assign themselves and men and women in general. I don't get the 1-10 rating system of what makes an am attractive person and also the wealth aspect part too all these kinds of people like her and the male counterparts take about. Not to mention the strange aspect of women and men having totally different personalities because of their gender. They don't. Theres differences but not massive. Cultural practices make the ones they say men have and women have to be proper male and females. Also these people are obsessed with a persons body count in bed. Best scenario is you look for the right person to be with and if you have sex and then break up and you continue to try find the right person but it just doesn't happen for ages but you rack up a count, so be it. Apparently these people think men can just do as many as they want and even have side girls and the women are shamed for doing the exact same thing. I think you Roma are from what i can tell from the limited number of vids ive watched (i need to watch more sorry ha) are how things should be viewed. You aren't a some submissive woman who has to be at home because its expected but its either because you choose what you want to do and probably discuss it with your partner. A woman and man should be one. A rant from a Irishman whos sick of the rise of all these people who think they know human beings.
I was physically abused by a gf who didn’t want me to be a pilot. She had police out; I was incarcerated. N stuff
Brilliant. I’m going through everything you talk about and the saga the continues. I seriously thought it wasn’t possible for a woman to understand what I was going through until I saw your channel.
You're like my older sister of UA-cam 🤣 I appreciate you, Roma 🤘💯
Gonna be another great video!!! Keep up the amazing work 💯
Appreciate it!!
@@RomaArmyMensRights well you were the gave me confidence in being myself when I felt empty and I'll continue to support you and your channel!! Stay blessed and have a great day Roma
Chloe you nailed it
thankyou for your efforts
A men's rights and father's rights activist that's on the left and not a MAGAt...you have no idea how refreshing this is. THANK you.
Men’s rights and left do not go together. They are complete opposites.
Your chromosomes are showing buddy. This isn’t a political topic, it’s a human one.
About to lose an election, aren’t you?
@@jonathanknobel2014Lol. That's what they said about Biden in 2020 😜
@@godzilla9268 I don’t think it was anticipated what the left was willing to do to win.
I try to live libertarian principles which honestly is how I found your channel and latched on so quick. Because its pretty damn simple from the top... it's about equality. Not double standards, not division of sexes, but rather just stepping back and realized Weiner or boobs, we are human first and utmost!
Treat others how you expect to be treated in return and hey if they dont treating you the same, then its okay, find someone who appreciates you.
There have been very few things I didnt agree with over time but that's just human nature peeking there, as I am on front with about 98% of the rest.
Keep fighting the good Fight Roma! I'll be gladly fighting along side with you!
Simply want to say ... Thank You Roma!
During this crazy time in history, You are extremely valuable in being a voice for the voiceless. Thank you!
God I wish I would have seen her befor now, she is total awsome !!! My very woman is why I'm doing what I'm going to do Friday.. stay strong men out there. I just wasn't strong enough to go on ..
It's always to have a support system as a man. I started a support group in my location and we are trying to break the machismo stigma......let's goooo
Thank you for speaking up for all men!!!! Yes sometimes us men do pick the wrong women men won’t know after the fact
I can't wait.. it's the first live I've made it to on time lol🎉
Hope you enjoyed it!
I would like to thank you for being able to accept many perspectives and establish morally what is valuable to you. The ability to agree with specific aspects and challenge others. People need a hand up right now especially with so many internet bullies running around with their tribes
The comment about men’s bodies breaking down hits close to home. I’m a journeyman electrician, and I suffered a workers comp injury that gave me a bulging disk that rested right on the sciatic nerve and that injury put me out of work for almost a year. I’ve only gotten about 75 percent recovery, and now that I’m pushing 40, it’s difficult to accept that I’m not as capable of doing what I used to.
I like how your fair about pearl and Andrew tate etc Chloe you have no personal beef nor hate and you know they are good people with good intentions at the end of the day. However you are right pearl and Andrew don’t advocate for men they want to put the society roles back on men thus adding pressure. And no pearl has not donated. FYI I would love to have you as my gf Chloe bloody hell you would bring me so much peace
Over 40 here. Body getting worse by the minute. Trying to take care of myself, but its tough when you're in your 40s. I focus a lot on telling the 20 year old guys to take it easy and take care of themselves.
same. divorced at 36
@@ignoranceisnotablessing615 hard out here Jack.
Thank you for bringing up the men’s suicide epidemic. Men off themselves too often because he can’t provide or a woman he loves consistently berates and belittles him until his own mind tells him how much he sucks, how little he matters, and how disposable we are….
My problem with a lot of alleged "advocates" is that what I _do not_ see is simply what men like me have argued for since 2000: The law being applied equally to both men and women, no matter biology. That every person should be presumed innocent until proven guilty, with facts and evidence supporting either acquittal or conviction, with even length of incarceration sentencing being equal for similar crimes with similar circumstances. That's half of the "equal rights" coin.
The other half is, how about no bias in civil courts -- both divorce and family courts. Again, facts and evidence should be used to determine custody of a child and child support. Alimony and "community property" laws, eliminated from the books. And of all things, mothers are not always the more fit parent to raise a child, let alone automatically. And if she refuses to comply with an adjudicated order? She goes to jail for the same length of time a man would for not paying child support.
The gist is, on the civil side, men and women are not equals under the law, let alone in court, even if the facts and evidence are overwhelmingly in favor of a man who is a party to a proceeding.
Whether or not gender roles are traditional or not is irrelevant to a conversation, and unlike what Chloe or anyone else may think, if a so-called "men's rights advocate" is gonna talk about traditionalism and gender roles, guess what? That means the "men's rights advocate" is absolutely no different than any content creator in the MGTOW/RP/Manosphere space. So saying there is a difference, where there is no difference, is disingenuous at minimum.
Edit: At 5:56, Chloe says that most men "aren't capable of taking a life, because most men are not inherent monsters."
Whether or not men are monsters has no bearing on whether or not men are capable of taking a life. This is utterly false. Why? Because, as the story of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde illustrates, every man is capable of both the greatest good, as well as the ultimate evil -- and this includes the act of taking someone's life, including that of a woman. The difference is, most men have a moral compass. Because most men have a moral compass, they are restrained by their morals, values, ethics, and principles that are personal. If that does not come into play, they then make a risk versus reward analysis and determine that the cost of taking a life is simply too high. This is due to most men in the US knowing and understanding that we are a nation of laws, thus with those laws comes punishment via the judicial system. This socially restrains most men as well.
However, if these things were removed and most men were no longer restrained, I can assure you that ANY man can and would easily become capable of taking the life of someone else, including women. To say men are not capable, is again, disingenuous at minimum, as women do not understand that when men deal with each other, we are constantly analyzing whether or not decisions and actions will lead us into direct conflict with the man we are dealing with. This "mutually assured violence" is also a restraint upon the actions of men, and is a natural behavioral restraint that also deters most men from acting in a violent fashion towards both men and women.
Us men are happy to have you ladies be advocates for us if it’s something you truly believe in, but stuff like this will always happen because no matter how much you ladies research, you can never truly understand or know what us men have to do and deal with everyday. The literal weight of the world is on the shoulder of every man. Ignorance is bliss, but you guys are trying to help and that I can applaud
When you showed the doll pic, there were 8 descriptions listed. I actually happen to think that 4 of those are not actually bad traits. Elegant, Nurturing, Kind and Sensitive are not bad traits. These are inherently great traits to have for any gender. What is it that modern Feminists hate about being nurturing and kind?? These are very good traits. Being angry about everything and being mean on general principal is emotionally draining; which leads to draining physically after enough time. It's unhealthy on all levels.
I think the point is that it's expected, but you're not always capable of it. Not everyone can be nurturing, kind, sensitive and elegant at all times. That's why such expectations feel like a burden and someone telling you that this is how you should be is frustrating.
Same reason some feminists hate being referred to as pretty, I don’t get it but some people will always find a reason to complain
Pearl has a strange worlview. I divorced my ex-wife because she continually accused me of cheating with my ex girlfriend who lived in another country 3000 miles away. She often worked herself up into violent rages. She then qualified her accusation saying it was an "on-line" affair? I told her the truth that I hadn't contacted her directly but via a local friend so he could pick up my stuff from her property (bike, clothes etc). I even offered to get my friend to get my ex-girlfriends number and my wife could call her and ask her herself. My ex wife refused and the tantrums became more violent until she physically attacked me- to her suprise I did defend myself and ended her vicious unprovoked attack with a single blow (I didn't hurt her just stopped her in her tracks). Why would I stay married to somebody like this? Being continually falsely accused and screamed at is just coercive control. I gave her the option to rid herself of her demons but she refused?
Sorry that happened but none of this seems to have anything to do with this whole "Pearl is bad" train.
I agree with most of what you said Roma. What I wholeheartedly disagree with is Men don't want to be with a Woman who's combative. Especially if the Man gets home after a long hard days work. Arguing is the last thing a Man wants to do when he gets home from work.
That part about mens bodies breaking down and feeling helpless... I feel that. Right now I'm 48 and I've been taking care of people since I was 14. First it was my 5 siblings, and then my own 3 kids, and now 2 grandchildren. I was always strong, and I believe, a hard worker. I've been a mill worker for decades and now I'm feeling it. I've needed knee replacement surgery for years, but just suffer because my wife doesn't work, so who will pay the bills if I do? I sat in my truck on father's day and just broke down, because I'm just so damn tired. I've given my life and health to my family and now I cant compete with the young guys. I get what she's saying, I really do. Sometimes you just burn out.
Hey Chloe! I stopped watching Pearl several months ago when she hosted Andrew Tate, the guy that was arrested and is being investigated for rape and human trafficking. Then she even began supporting his abuse towards women. I would really love it if you called her out on that! Thank you❤
Have you not seen what all of those women have sad about him ?
@@losrajvosa0078 what women?
@Jan III Sobieski Was he? I just stopped listening to him because he was a complete neanderthal and religious zealot.
3:34 after 1.9-ish tours in SE asia, i worked in the security industry (mostly moonlighting as : bouncer, security, private bodyguard) for almost 35 years. this type of work destroys a body. then add 6-1/2 years of homelessness. pile on the stress of my previous service, raising three girls by myself, and being part of the IT industry (both hardware and software) for decades, thestress, PTSD, and day-to-day crap just ground me down. now, most folks look on me with "that look" often given to a 76 year old geezer; not understanding that i am a survivor that's been through a lot.
i'm not saying "i had it worse than X, Y or Z", just that life ain't always "fair". but i did my job. i feel like i did it well. i left/created some legacies in both work and personal life that will long outlast me. and looking back, despite the occasional troubles, i am satisfied with how i conducted myself, and how most of my life turned out. and i would urge folks that when they see "a broken down old man" that they look beyond that and see him for his potential experiences, whatever wisdom he may (or may not) have gained. we still have some value, something we can give back to the world. no man or lady is disposable. but plenty of males and females are.
I will be honest I have tried to listen to the manosphere not because i sneak it out but because since I watch this channel those videos enter my feed which I hate but Roma speaks the truth about men and other serious topics that arent well known and i find it amazing because I can relate and agree with essentially everything she says and i feel like i have a safe space here and that i feel heard beause when I spend time with friends that are mainly women they blame men for a lot and I would always ask them am I like that am I that bad and they back track on their words and I say don't group men together because we are all different and so on so thank you Roma for voicing people's thoughts that basically can't voice them themselves because of possible backlash.
Pearl never has been about equality. She's about traditional inequalities. Thus, she will always criticize inequalities that are non-traditional, thus creating an overlap in sentiments with those who criticise inequalities in general. She will, however, not only celebrate, but actually claim that traditional inequalities are not only inherent to human nature but good for all humans. Which makes it pretty clear that she extends her definition of humans only to the subgroup of humans for whom such traditional roles are natural.
That's scary. Anyone who, for any reason, is willing to dehumanize another person, is someone who is capable of doublethink in the support of a personal ideology. Even the worst criminal offenders are human. Even the most monstrous serial killers are human. By understanding their humanity, we better understand the full range of human possibility, and only through understanding can we fortify ourselves against the worst affects of trauma, and protect ourselves from the worst aspects of our biological, sociological, and psychological natures.
When we make those aspects non-human in our minds, we innately reject the possibility that we might experience them, and thus, we lose our capacity to identify those qualities as they arise in us. There's a reason why so many people who dehumanize others cannot see that they are being cruel and monstrous themselves. They see themselves as human, and those qualities as inhuman, and thus, cognitive dissonance arises. This prevents them from being able to see their own thoughts and behaviour clearly, which means they become incapable of changing those qualities.
In order to be resilient and compassionate, and in order to build a world where humans can live happily, we need to accept that we have the potential to occupy those dark states of mind and emotion. We need to be able to see other people who are descending into those states and try and pull them out rather than shove them out of side, forcing them into cages where they suffer (in our minds, rightfully...as if suffering ever redeemed anything) and die. It is wise to identify monstrous behavior, but it is foolish to think a monster is the only thing capable of being monstrous. Brutality is baked into the DNA of living things. We destroy and consume to exist. The minute we pretend our hands our clean, we've taken a step down the path of self-delusion, down which only greater monstrosities await.
As a 55 year old man who has worked really hard his whole life and now it's not quite so easy I appreciate what you said more than you know about how in our body start breaking down we struggle to find worth
If Peral beleives woman should be quiet, small, elegant, submissive, nurturing, kind, senstive and pretty why is she no of these things.
And this is why you're my top watch throughout the day. Ive had 5 surguries due to work. Both elbows, both hands, and then finally my back was fused. Keep doing this for us and hopefully one day you have a prodigy that you've taught and educated.
Roma, I'm new to this channel, but I've never met a more insightful woman. You give me hope for the human race as a whole and give me the courage to speak up about men's rights as well. Thank you.
Thanks for bringing another point of view, i'am tired being stuck between feminism in one side and conservative trad on the other.
as a grown man and ex soldier, pearl nor tate speak for me. That's not what "being a man" is.
Keeping it real.
I'm a republican but I don't think women should be submissive to me. A relationship goes two ways and I believe both partners should work in order to get by. I refuse to be with a women who doesn't work.
I agree with most of what you say, but I think that it's important to remember that you understand that Pearl's position is from the perspective of a conservative mind. She was raised in a two parent home and hasn't suffered the way you have. To her, she is demonstrating, through open discussion, the benefits of her experience with a two parent home and how that family structure is beneficial. I'm sure that if she had gone through half of what you did then her opinions would be more aligned with yours. As always though, good video Roma👍
You are very knowledgeable and smart please keep doing this. I'm going through a divorce and the future EX has done exactly what you talk about. You educated me and have already helped me far more than my therapist. I wish you all the success and everything you seek to accomplish.. I wish I would have seen your video 4 years ago. Thank you
I will admit that I enjoy watching JustPearlyThings and agree with a few of the points she speaks on, but mostly for the freak factor of her shows. I follow your content because you are logical, well spoken, and really seem to care about the subject of men's rights. The fact I think you are very attractive in a non-traditional way just adds to the pleasure of watching your videos. Please keep up the great work.
I really like this site, You're like a mini me from all the years I have been saying the same before the internet was a thought in someone head, I'm 61. It's so sad to read the comments from all these broken men... As a mother I feel your pain...
I'm subscribed to both of you. From Pearl, I get the validation of the evolutionary strategy that has worked for our species for tens of thousands of years, aka traditional sexual roles.
What I get from you is that even with the success of traditional roles, there are variations and permutations not only at the individual level, but within the dynamic of a couple.
You both call out women on their actions. You give a voice to those of us who have had ours taken.
I love watching both of you and think you both have good things to offer.
Bless you, love!
Just stumbled across your channel. Thanks for saying what I feel like saying, and frankly, what I think most men that are in a shitty situation want to say, but they don't because they are afraid that standing up for themselves will only make their situation worse. Thanks for being in our corner while still being far to both sides. You're awesome. Keep it up because you're helping more than you know!
I literally had my kids kept from me this Father's day 😭 I balled when you started talking about it.
I'm 49 yrs old. Divorced and alone so I know exactly what point your trying to make and I for one appreciate it a dam lot !!!! I worry every day if I don't find someone to help me, or better yet join forces with, that when my body completely brakes down, and I can't work anymore, what is going to happen to me? I think of commiting suicide every day. I have not heard anyone say I love you in almost 10 years . I would not wish this life or prison on my worse enemy. Thank you Roma. Thank you Chloe. I wish and pray I can find a kind hearted person like you before I die . Don't ever change. You are exactly what the world needs badly today. Sincerely Edward j McDermott.
Thank you again for being a strong ally to men we barely have anybody fighting in our corner these days. I’m just grateful to have you on our side.
You’re A Godess Thank You For Being The Voice We Need 🤞💯💯💯💯💯♎️
My girlfriend is pulling all the weight rn due to my health, ( I had cancer which was easy compared to everything else, I have had 3 strokes with one being 2 weeks ago) I have the thoughts about unaliving myself because I feel useless and everything is on her and we are fighting to not lose our house, honestly that would be what would push me over the edge
I wish more women thought like you. I'm disabled and had to take an early retirement in 2016 at the age of 38 because my body is failing me. I'm afraid to date because I don't feel I have anything to offer
So sorry to hear that but you shouldn't feel that way ....all you hv to do is just believe in urself
A quote that helped me personally, to always move on is "You only truly lose when you give up". There's always hope, even if the outcome is not perfect. Your body might be failing you but your mind is still on your side.
@bella I try to believe in myself but sometimes it's not easy. I'm now 44 and I live for my daughter. If love to have a partner in life but it comes back to will she have to take care of me one day and I don't want to put that on anyone
Well said sista!
This video was a home run out of the park. I'm not experienced in relationships and I'm 22 but I work a blue collar job, with hopes of finding a women that we can make each other better. My problem, is I get confused on where to look for my equal because if I'm being honest I get a lot of content thrown at me fighting from both sides so I mostly choose to sit back. So I'm glad that you consistently push for that fine line. Thank you Roma!
Here's a great catch 22
The entity that is responsible for securing child support for the children actually inhibits men from accomplishing this goal.
If you have the privilege of working in a centralized area of your city you can still get to work. If you work in the construction field which does have less than ideal transportation access you NEED a driver's license to get to work to pay your support.
60 days, that's it, before you are in default. Partial payments or not. Automatically enforced. I can't even apply for most jobs because I need an "Employment License" aka driver's license.
The lack of work in the oil & Gas sector contributed to my arrears with MEP. Within 3 months of losing my license I was homeless, 2018. I'm still homeless today, I have applied to the MAID program, for obvious reasons.
I have been told or rather advised by them to go back to court to have my payments lowered. I found this absolutely insane to even consider and told MEP that they needed to just explain that to my ex this way. Because of the downturn in Alberta's economy your ex-husband is going to be punished with a license suspension and as a result your children DO NOT DESERVE THE ECONOMIC SUPPORT THAT HE IS CAPABLE OF DOING BUT WE WOULD RATHER PUNISH YOUR CHILDREN TOO. Sounds insane right, welcome to Canada.
As a supplemental consequence to that action my ex IS able to say I'm inconsistent with payments, last year her Lawyer offered me a deal, my MEP arrears would be wiped clean as long as I give up guardianship (I would no longer be considered my children's father), this is not a joke. My ex was able to make the offer of buying my children for just over 30k. I absolutely refused that offer and instead countered with just giving me the driver's license and the ability to work. Needless to say that being homeless with no money to hire a proper Lawyer I was told to go through legal aid, geez, ima freaking Electrician that can afford my payments, a home and a Lawyer with that income level from being a Tradesman.
Guess what happened, she guardianship I got nothing but my self-respect for NOT SELLING MY CHILDREN. Still doesn't change a thing, I'm homeless and don't care to much about life, maybe I'm just a statistic waiting to happen.
Alberta proud, NOT...
Women can buy children in Canada, with the help of the government. Once men are economically devastated the ex can actually buy you children.
I will probably die with that debt over my head but I can die knowing that but I couldn't live with selling them because my government destroyed me.
Long winded and probably won't be read, that's OK. It's a comment to help your channel.
Thank you
From my experience in marriage is about balance she respect you and your opinion and you respect her and her opinion and most importantly is listening on both side.
Thanks for all your work, Chloe!!
I would just like to say to all the men out there: Women today want that top alpha, the ONE, the only, King. So, since that's what they want, become the lone wolf, the sigma. Ignore fashion trends, expensive gifts and dinners, hot rides, rentals, extravagant expenses. Explore yourself: Grow new hobbies and interests, expand your mind, learn a new language; go on a vacation out of the country with a loose itinerary.
GO LIVE.
Why the hell would you give your life, your money, your energy, to any woman you are LOOKING for? There are a million that look like that, and most of them are interested in what you can give THEM. Alphas, dominance, power. Your power is NOT theirs. If they do not earn it, their worth is just that: Nothing.
Remember: Men and women are equal; we both live, and die, on the same planet, with pretty much the same dangers, and primarily need the same things. Our behavior, however, is CHOICE.
Grow up.
seeing you and pearl have a civilized colab vid/podcast would be super interesting to see
Thank you. As a father of 3, my ex "stole" my kids from me, turned them against me, brainwashed them... I had no choice but to give up my rights to them because I was fighting a no-win situation. I fought with CAS, Lawyers, Police, Therapists and Councilors on a daily basis for many years, only to kicked down even further every day. It has been over 10 years, and I miss my children. I've tried to reach out to them MANY times (my oldest is 24, and youngest is 19 now) and they STILL see me as the bad guy.
Hi Roma, I've watched your channel for a good amount of time and I always enjoy your videos. I really like how you pointed out that men who have worked hard and start to break down should not be disposable. I was in this positions once as I poured Liquid Metal and cut wood for over 15 years and a lot of extreme sports had an end result. I now am doing a degree but being a single 35 year old male I do find that the woman I have met generally have high expectations but they don't for themselves. Sad as I'm and equal person and believe in a relationship is a team. Sorry, longer story short, I liked how you defined the difference between the meanings as it really made sense as I hadn't looked at it that way until now. I look forward to more 😎
I'm in my 40's and I daydream about unlife all the time. But then I just watch some pron and go to the library.
Expecting a person to call the police if they're abused? If you are abused, chances are the abuser has put considerable effort into making you feel that either you deserve the abuse or are in a position which only your abuser can get you out of. A fair chance your abuser has also done their best to leafing you to believe you actually cannot seek help, perhaps trying to make you believe the police will actually side with them over you. There also may be a lack of sufficient evidence to support your claim you were abused, although there is some chance the abuser left evidence behind. If you are physically abused, as a man, society has shown you can be met with ridicule, victim blaming, or a denial of your lived experience. Perhaps the abuser will be enraged if you seek help, and if you don't have anywhere to seek help, the abuser may well have access to you. There is plenty of reason a victim might not reach out.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't seek help because you should. I'm just saying there's plenty of reasons a victim might not.
To be clear, I wasn't even sure there was such a term as financial abuse when I was going through it, where my abuser was making sure I'd run out of money early in a month so that I'd feel entirely dependent upon him to make it through a month. He'd steal my bank card to purchase things he wanted when he could, and be persistent at getting me to give him money when he couldn't just steal my card. He always arrived at my residence with a loud and accusatory tone. I live on disability and cannot work. He stole my apartment key and made a copy so that I'd be forced to let him reside with me, which eventually got me evicted. He monopolized my phone after running me out of money for a landline. Yeah, it's not easy to get rid of an abuser, and depending on the type of abuse you might not even recognize it was abuse. If it doesn't have sexual nature to it, you might not even have a way to go against your abuser.
For some reason UA-cam started showing me your videos a few months ago, and now I try to watch all that I can. I truly respect you and LOVE the fact that with all you have been through, to still defend us men.
Pearl has capitalized on telling men what they want to hear and pretending to speak for them.
Chloe will call out BS on everyone, men or women. She also doesn't pretend to be doing this pro bono, and she also sells things that men want to see. It is however strange to see a left liberal advocate for tradition.
As soon as either woman starts lobbying for changes to court laws respecting men and divorce, I'll feel more like I have an advocate.
Men and woman are serious about marriage, they should go together and spend 1 day in family court. “Absolute horror”
We need a Left revival. Class-centric and compassion for men.
Love that you post naturally looking without make-up or filters. You are a natural beauty.
The best part of my day is when my husband gets home,and the house is clean,dogs walked,dinner ready and i can ease his day. He would never ask for any of that but thats why i give it to him.
A lot of people don't get it about abuse in a relationship: it's a lot like a frog in a pot. If you put the frog in the pot at room temperature. Turn up the heat slowly, and by the time the frog realises something with wrong, it's too late. No abuser is an arsehole from day one,, they're warm and charming until the partner is hooked. From there, it's a complex web of abuse, an attack on several levels. I've helped several people escape bad relationships, and I've even created a 10 point plan when the situation is dire and/or dangerous.
We really need the Family Court to do some reforms around false allegations. If it were anywhere but the Family Court, this would be called perjury, which is considered a criminal offence. Yet a parent can make a false allegation, it's investigated, they have to spend a lot of money defending themselves, and then their reputation may be destroyed. It really should have a bearing on future custody, Lie again and you forfeit your parental rights.
i DID call the police, and they arrested ME