EMOTIONAL ENGULFMENT (Ask A Shrink)

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  • Опубліковано 20 бер 2021
  • Being EMOTIONALLY ENGULFED is a form of TRAUMA which can strip away a child's IDENTITY and hurt ADULT relationships. Find out more about this form of abuse in today's video.....I'm a Licensed Therapist and answer your questions on 'Ask A Shrink'.
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  • @abi4458
    @abi4458 3 роки тому +21

    You really hit the nail in every aspect of what I have lived, I love the term toxic loyalty, that is what I have felt my whole life

  • @marsn.3887
    @marsn.3887 3 роки тому +18

    finally someone is talking about this!

    • @BradShore
      @BradShore  3 роки тому +5

      Such an important topic!!

  • @deebeautiful84
    @deebeautiful84 3 роки тому +8

    This is my whole life.😥😥😥😥 my mother use say if a child leaves my house I don't ever want to see them again. I stayed around taking care of her until she died.

    • @BradShore
      @BradShore  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you for sharing your story....

  • @imwatching2960
    @imwatching2960 3 роки тому +12

    That horrible guilt, even thinking about doing what's good for me and what's my heart's desire... close to 40, still trying to heal it and be my own person...

    • @BradShore
      @BradShore  3 роки тому +2

      Almost 40 is a great time to start!

    • @imwatching2960
      @imwatching2960 3 роки тому

      @@BradShore thank you! This means a lot 😊

  • @bethmoore7722
    @bethmoore7722 3 роки тому +10

    I’ve known people whose parents obviously did that. They were the most likely to rebel, and when I was in grad school, working as a hall director in a freshman women’s dorm, the girls whose parents had done this to them were most likely to careen off the rails, and had trouble with decision-making on their own. They were likely to get together with men who did much the same thing to them.

    • @BradShore
      @BradShore  3 роки тому +3

      Yes 'decision-making' is a common symptom.....thanks Beth!

  • @ivadedeva7005
    @ivadedeva7005 2 дні тому

    TOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT! Who’s comfort? The parent’s comfort!

  • @TheCountrychick015
    @TheCountrychick015 2 роки тому +5

    Can you talk more about the guilt an emotionally smothered child feels when they get their own house, get married, ect and the parent is offended by their independence. I don’t know how to process the guilt sometimes

  • @Gloroxsocks
    @Gloroxsocks 3 роки тому +5

    This video is about MEEE 😩

  • @savaroniusmanderoni4190
    @savaroniusmanderoni4190 3 роки тому +10

    God that’s why i am scared to take risks! Wowzers. I am challenging myself and pushing myself to go for things regardless of fear. Get back on that bike and try! 🚲
    Thank you for this. Your videos have helped me understand my own childhood neglect and being to process.

    • @BradShore
      @BradShore  3 роки тому

      Keep challenging yourself Savaronius!

  • @koneko1
    @koneko1 3 роки тому +5

    Man, my ex broke up with me due to the enmeshment with his parents, specifically his mother. He couldn’t let go of that comfort. So unfortunate...

  • @happygucci5094
    @happygucci5094 2 роки тому +2

    Wow. Heard myself say for years " yeah, I'm loyal to a fault"... I am 41. Never questioned where this came from. Wow I haven't even gotten to the end of this video and I am unfortunately relating to EVERY word.

  • @ChristelleAntonia
    @ChristelleAntonia Рік тому +1

    I thought I was afraid of committing but it didn't feel "true"... Turns out it's fear of engulfment. Been through that with my family, I've been engulfed in a romantic relationship too. Now still afraid a partner will never allow me to grow as a person.

  • @maksimfreezmaks5919
    @maksimfreezmaks5919 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you very much for your work!

    • @BradShore
      @BradShore  3 роки тому +1

      You're welcome Maksim!

  • @joinery11
    @joinery11 2 роки тому +2

    Hi Brad, didn’t realise until you explained it that this happened to me and has undoubtedly affected my approach to life and my relationships. Fortunately I have discovered ways of managing it but it’s good to have it explained to me thanks

  • @MindBodyStorm
    @MindBodyStorm 3 роки тому +2

    This one definitely hit home!!!

  • @beautifulspirit2973
    @beautifulspirit2973 3 роки тому +1

    I’m showing this to a friend who had toxic parents. He truly struggles with his emotions particularly in any emotionally challenging situation. Thank you! Wonderfully informative video

  • @Winterlandzzz
    @Winterlandzzz 3 роки тому +4

    Wow, even if that was an example...It got me thinking..I don't know how to ride a bicycle till date...and apart from mundane work....it generally takes a hell lot of planning to come to a decision for any task. #qualityContent 🥂👍🌻

    • @BradShore
      @BradShore  3 роки тому

      Any age is a good time to learn to "ride a bike"!! :)

  • @kimw9558
    @kimw9558 3 роки тому +1

    Well damn. This explains A LOT.

  • @lindsayhengehold5341
    @lindsayhengehold5341 Рік тому +2

    Engulfment is not fun to deal with

  • @berbearlol
    @berbearlol 3 роки тому +1

    Awesome video, very relevant to my healing journey! Thanks for this :)

    • @BradShore
      @BradShore  3 роки тому

      Glad it was helpful Amber!

  • @emilytreads
    @emilytreads 3 роки тому +2

    A useful video ☺️

  • @n.s.3514
    @n.s.3514 2 роки тому

    REPARENTING 👌✨

  • @VengefulPolititron
    @VengefulPolititron 3 роки тому +1

    God tried to fix me of this..
    (I was also evil)
    and I shut him out.. trusting my mom's advice, and now I've lost hIm. and probably am doomed to hell forever. while my mom might make it to heaven. thanks.
    3 kids in hell
    husband.. also buzzed out of christianity.
    her and unborn make it.
    maybe sister. but I doubt it.