(I have bpd myself)I've never seen someone talk about the positive side of mental health issues, I cant even describe how grateful i am that you guys made this video to help educate people. It makes me feel less alone
Yeah most things make people with BPD look psychotic and only really talk about the manipulative weirdos and completely dysfunctional people. The rest of us that are sane, respectful, and quiet never get talked about. We just need some guidance so we don't turn into the dysfunctional ones xP
Same, I’m in the process of getting formally diagnosed but my specialist said that she’s leaning into the fact that I do have this condition. The hyper-empathy and loyalty here is super real, because I always strive to see the best in people regardless of their rocky past, however, I’m working on seeing myself in the same way.
I think I might have bpd. I've been thinking this since the age of 20. I'll be 23 this year. My boyfriend thinks I might have it too after doing his own research based off of my behavior. I want to get a diagnosis and I don't know where to go
I love how this video talks about how getting a BPD diagnosis can be a huge relief and sort of a blessing because it finally explains what the actual problem has been this whole time. That’s what it was like for me when I found out I had BPD, but most people only talk about the stigma of having the diagnosis and not wanting to be labeled.
It makes our life easier knowing this. But unfortunately getting a job with this level is so hard. People judge you. Not knowing what it is, is scary for them as if u will beat up their clients or something, cannot be trusted with vulnerable young or old unfortunately.
I was so relieved as well... at least now I know that not everything is my mistake; the hurtful problems exist and aren't just my fault or just an inception.
I always knew that something about me was really off, and it wasn't just because I had ADHD. When my BPD was at its worst, I knew that I needed to do something ASAP because I needed to know what was wrong with me, so I decided to admit myself to the psych ward and when I finally got my diagnosis, everything clicked in my head. And what helped even more was that my best friend also had BPD, and I knew that he was a great person because he was so supportive of me before my diagnosis, so it made it much less scary for me. Getting the diagnosis explained SO much though and it was very relieving to know that there was a reason why I acted the way I did, and that I can completely heal from it eventually. It's been a really difficult 2 years since my hospital stay, but I've learned so much about myself and learn how to manage my symptoms more and more every single day. And now I can even see the positive traits in myself that were described in the video and it makes me feel good because I know I'll always be one of the best people anyone could meet and befriend because I care so deeply about people and do my best to always make them feel good about themselves and supported.
i was not so reliefed. it completly changed my life from being succesfull and having ''friends'' into a downwards spiral with negative feelings about my self. idk if we lack professional help in my country but most professional help and meds seemed to make me feel wurse. its only recent (15 years later) i start to realize where it came from and that i accept that its not my self i need to hate. infact i should love my self for surviving and still standing, this recent feeling of acceptance is only the start of me learning how to coop with this disorder. i try to do self reflection on every scenario that triggers me or can trigger me. and it seems to help me alot. this video is only a bit of light in the dark, i love the positive side of this video, but being unable to coop with BPD is most deffinatly not a blessing
As someone with BPD I got to admit that I've never recognized these things as something "special" - I thought everyone is able to be as empathetic, good at managing other peoples crisis and having a bigger amount of resilience. It's beautiful to see someone talk about these things as "positive traits" for something that's negatively covered. Thank you for this video ❤️
i don’t think i’ve ever clicked a video faster than i did with this one. as someone with bpd i’m so happy to see a video like this. i’m excited to watch the whole thing ❤️
i have a friend with bpd, she absolutely dislikes herself because of it and feels like she ruins everything because of it, so i think this video may brighten her mood a bit thank you!
I had a right wing phase about two years ago and sometimes memories of my cringiness comes back to me and i feel like it’ll haunt me for years im so embarrassed P:
Yeah bpd makes me hate everything about me and tells I'm a failure. I've been stuck in a rut for months unable to move forward. It can be a blessing but it can also definitely be a CURSE 😓
It will, it did the same for me and like your friend I at times feel the same about myself and also thanks for being their friend and supporting them U the best!!!
You are an amazing friend for being there for her and uplifting her when she needs it. I truly struggle receiving any praise b/c more often than not I always see myself as a failure/ugly. The logical part of my mind tells me that is an irrational emotion and to not harp on it, for it won't do me or anyone any favors, but.. for me.. it feels like forever living in a dark hole. One that I can never shake. I am glad that your friend has you in her life. Thank you for being a kindhearted person 💗.
This video is particularly true for people who have BPD as a result of trauma. Once you accept your brain is actually working correctly and protecting you, even a psychotic episode. You then can appreciate the positives of BPD. Emotional connection is amazing.
@@1968leg There are no positives. Borderlines have a feeling of emotional connection. They don't actually connect. That's why they often continue the cycle of trauma onto others.
I have bpd according to my therapist and psychiatrist and it’s been a process accepting this, BUT I think sometimes it’s a super power. And hell, if I can survive this, and learn to overcome it and live with it, kudos to me and everyone else who can too. There are good traits to it c: it doesn’t have to control you nor does it define you. There is always hope :D
I've recently been diagnosed with BPD and I've been feeling down for the past four days.. And this video literally warmed my heart... I don’t know if I can ever thank you guys enough for what you do... Love you Psych2Go 💖
Nothing wrong with been BPD, is part of our reuro diversity. We need to learn to navigate in our modern society. This video is amazing, we have a lot of positive trails, people learn to love you for what you’re. Everyone has baggage and we accept them. I try to be a better person every day but other must try too. I send you a lot of support and encourage. My only advice, say I’m sorry as soon as you realize you hurt someone with your mood swings. Sometimes we say things that we don’t mean it, and I can’t why I said it.
@@Southghost5997Could've possibly meant that they didn't know how to feel about the diagnosis. This just happened to me. I was recently diagnosed with BPD and was struggling with it. I finally felt like I understood why I felt the way I felt and behaved the way did... but it also felt like it was information I would have rather not known... Just yesterday, I started to think that maybe knowing will be more useful for me to learn new skills and hopefully feel a little better.
I'm not usually one for over sharing but I've just finished my first week of chemotherapy and I won't lie I'm scared of how it's affecting me, but your enthusiasm for the topic helped put my mind at ease. So thank you, you have no idea how much I needed this today
You are strong, remember that your mind is stronger than everything, so practice ways to cure what you can with thoughts, manifestation and positive energy. So your way through this becomes easier, happier and it might even cure you faster, I believe you can control many aspects of your body with your mind (it takes time, believing and practice)
@@anthonyszymon3032 Thank you for sharing. Over the last 50 years, I've lots of experience with loved ones having cancer and hiv, I've seen information & support help immensely. Treatment has improved a lot. I hope your treatments go well. a friend of mine recommended a healer and caster for me, she helped me out.
I agree with the loyalty... but personally, I show that there is intense loyalty until situations, emotions, or other things start to go wrong and build up inside, then the bad overtakes the good, and one self-sabotages the relationship... a BIG negative in BPD. But, we try, and we move. Thank you for a beautiful, re-assuring video
Yes, i feel you. My Girlfriend is diagnosed with BPD. Unfortunately relationships with people like that are really hard, especially long-distance ones...
I was diagnosed with BPD since my teenage. Spent my whole life fighting this disastrous disorder. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment did wonders in my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I hate that psilocybin gets grouped with drugs like cocaine and heroin. Mushrooms are a remedy, not a vice! I went on a microdose treatment for a couple of months and within the first week, every sight of a cigarette got me questioning why I was doing all that to myself. It really works.
Oh hello fellow Kiwi!! Im trying to find others here who suffer with BPD as i have only just been diagnosed and I dont understand what it is really @SandraJulia-lw3kd
I've never been officially diagnosed with BPD. But I have a feeling that I do have it. Every explanation of BPD perfectly describes how I've been since I was a kid...
Since U was a Kid? BPD often shows not until you grow up. Most ppl get symptoms when there 20 or older. BPD signs are often confused with other common illnesses like ADHS / (c)ptsd / autism / BAS. Pls dont self diagnos yourself and Go see a therapist :) (sry for my english, i tried my best)
@@mandelkk2200 by kid I mean when I was teenager into my early 20s. Also, I am not self diagnosing because there's a good chance I could be wrong, but I could right too. Either Way, it is just a feeling that maybe...
Thank u much. I feel so thankful that U make Videos about: What is positive about this and that, coz mostly IT seems Like "Bad Stigma" but that is Just one Side of those Humans. Some of them are so calm and understanding, Empaths...and so much more (Depression 4 example). But If Most Just (ad the selves) See that stuff Just as "Bad" they might Not feel Well and heal, plus Others would be able Go Look at all Things in a broader spectrum way. 🌎🌱🕊️ Thx so much dears 💕
Loved this! I have always wanted to work in social work, but always hesitated because of my BPD. It was until recently I realized that having BPD is actually a pro instead of a con because of our compassion and empathy. I am finally pursuing my mental health and social service degree! Can't wait to graduate and start helping others.
Don't. BPD is no "superpower". Since when is a negative disability beneficial? That is twisted, borderline-esque logic right there! Especially since "evil for the sake of evil" is the innate modus operandi of BPD, and narcissits (defence against their extremely fragile, delusional, empty-ego)! Personality offsets the extent of the disorders, hence it manifests differently.
I've been diagnosed with BPD a year ago, the process to accept and try to keep up with life on a daily basis but seeing videos like this honestly brings me to tears. I am 17, and it's a challenge going through high school with this, everyone tags you as someone weird but seeing that somebody believes we have nice traits it's beautiful. My heart is filled with joy and happiness. A big hug from Chile
you will come out of this with more light, more love and more healing towards yourself and people involve in this process... Love light and blessings:)
Being diagnosed so early in your life is such a blessing! I myself have struggled unknowingly for many many years and am relieved now knowing what's going on and wish I had known it earlier! ☀️
My BPD friends were the sweetest and most caring I’ve ever met. They changed my life helping me to overcome self harm. They never believed it themselves but they were amazing, beautiful people.
Thank you for this. I am on the borderline spectrum and I could relate to all of these points except being energetic because I also suffer from chronic depression and anemia. It was nice to see someone say nice things about BPD, not just bad things.
✨ Timestamps and Major Points ✨ 1) 1:26 Borderline empathy paradox 2) 2:37 Creative 3) 3:42 Loyal 4) 4:35 Resilient 5) 5:13 Energetic 6) 5:51 Passionate To anyone struggling with BPD, you aren't alone. Remember that the right people will love you the way you are. There may be rough times, and you may not feel like going on, but know the good times outweigh the bad by so much. So many good moments and good people will come. You are amazing the way you are. Don't let anyone tell you different.
This is retarded. BPD doesn't result in increasing those traits. BPD changes emotional parameters... Yes. However, it is no "superpower". Safe drugs and mushrooms can give you those benefits with the crazed, evil disorder. Btw, did you know that borderlines and ENTP-narcissits started the wild fire in Hawaii? Most ENTP 'literally' secretly have narcissitic personality disorder! They micro-manage via subtly manipulating how other people view them.
My Mom had BPD. I wish she could have saw this after she was diagnosed. She wanted to be an author and script write. She only ever heard and was told the negative aspects of it. I think she believed it wouldn't allow her to be successful. But a few weeks ago I realized some of the most creative, outgoing, and successful people in the creative world are nerodivergent. I hope those watching this with BPD realize how awesome and cool you really are! My mother had many issues with her BPD and addiction, but everyone in my family knew she was the most loving, caring, and empathic person to grace my family tree.
thank you for this video, im actually doing a speech about BPD in my class! from what i read, i hope people with bpd are okay and know we’re with them if they need help, but even if someone doesn’t have it, the same thing. may god bless you all :)
Jim Carrey has spoken about depression before many times and lives with it but he'll always make us smile no matter what with BPD without being diagnosed officially.
Good evening, bpd fellas! I recently had another one of those “crashes”, and now I am back! I wish all of you the best, and remember, you are NEVER ALONE, and every thing you feel is VALID❤❤❤. Btw, absolutely LOVED the video, it arrived at the perfect time. Thanks a lot for caring guys!❤❤❤
Good video, but some thoughts on a couple of points. Loyalty, especially when forged from bpd can be a double-edged sword. I love intensely, but it's also intertwined with idealization, which causes me to either pull away or lash out. People with bpd can love so much that it causes a great sense of grief, and it can quickly turn to anger and resentment when they don't get what they want from the people they love. I'm certainly not energetic. BPD causes me to have severe, treatment resistant depression, so I simply feel like a burden. I and many with the disorder can become emotionally burned out trying to solve other peoples' problems, thinking it will validate them in some way. I've grown more numb to the plight of others, due to feeling like my efforts weren't reciprocated and I've pulled away from people to shield me from further harm. I think all of the points are valid, but they come with caveats.
I think this will be the only time I will ever comment on a UA-cam Video. I was diagnosed recently with BPD and everything has felt so much harder lately. I am glad that I finally have a diagnosis that explains what Ive always felt and have been feeling for so long, but getting this diagnosis has been incredibly isolating. No one usually talks about the positive things about BPD, and only hearing negative things when learning about the mental illness that I have has sent me into a dark spiral. I really needed to see this video and know that there are some positives when it comes to BPD. For the first time in a long time I actually feel better and hopeful. Thank you so much for making this video I love yall sm
I was diagnosed with BPD traits in my early 20's, but my doc never told me until a few months ago, during a session in which I pretty much diagnosed myself, and he admitted I was right and said he never told me because of the social stigma BPD can cause and because of the fear knowing to have It can cause, but I was aware of this, felt just a bit dizzy for a couple of days, and then everything clicked in the right position in my brain. Now I have an explanation for a lot of stuff I did in the past, good and bad things, and I know better now that if I survived the lowest points in my life as a BPD, I Will survive in the future. Also, as the video points out, when I am in a good mood I experience almost superhuman feelings of joy and strenght. BPD really is a superpower if you know how to use It and accept the bad moments for what they are: Just a price to pay for being helpful and inspiring for others, for being able to feel much deeper love, joy, euphoria. We are restless warriors and precious people, always remember that!!!
TW: suicide Thank you, thank you so much for sharing this video. Ive felt very hopeless with my condition. My former partner kept telling me that i never change and never tried when really I've tried everything, countless therapists, meds, and self help books to help me get better. The internet doesn't help either as I keep reading people 'survived' someone with BPD. That they don't recommend having relations with us. It left me so hopeless that I'll forever destroy other people's lives because of this condition. I even tried to end it all yesterday. So thank you. Maybe i can start over again now with a new hope.
It's because BPD is traditionally seen as one of the "dangerous" diagnoses. It's us, antisocials and schizophrenics that are considered dangerous and therefore stigmatised something awful...
He was but I believe he had Bipolar Disorder rather than Borderline. Edit: My bad. Wrote this before finishing the clip. The video suggested that he may have had it but wasn't been officially diagnosed.
Most of the videos I have watched about BPD, have included comments that describe us as monsters. It’s nice to think there are a few folks who can see the good in us. ❤
YES! I have quiet bpd, and I'm like if a therapy dog was a person. also, I'm a digital illustrator, and I swear any illustrations I put my ENTIRE mood swing into turn out as some of my best. I have a couple pieces from over a 2 years ago, and I've improved SO much since then, but I made them when I was feeling either my worst or most manic, and still consider them to be some of my best. They're proudly displayed near the top of my portfolio! A lot of neurodivergent people around me wish they could be neurotypical, and trust me I understand, and I am quite honestly in a PRIVILEGED enough position that my BPD and ADHD haven't been much worse for me, but I'm not sure I would have it any other way. When it's bad it's awful, but on the other end, I feel like I'm able to experience deeper connection to people than neurotypicals neurologically can, and when things are going good, and my coping strategies are working, it can be a beautiful thing.
That is SO true. I was baffled when I discovered other people didn't feel so strongly about their friends and relationships in general. I discovered I am more sensitive to light than (apparently) most. And a little to sound as well. I don't feel the need to label myself anything but hypersensitive at this point. Because I feel like if someone close to me had taken the time to help me with these strong emotions and sensations.. And through other traumatic events.. This disorder wouldn't have happened. I think deep down we are all like the video describes. And then the way the world has dealt with our intensity, and vice versa, is what made us sick. We have such incredible minds, open, creative, feeling..
@@guesswho5790 prefacing this by saying: hoo boy this turned into the most bpdhd rant of all time about the nature of the human condition, i wouldn't blame you if you don't want to read through it. I almost erased it and started over but eh, what the hell. original comment: mhm! for example, adhd was likely a desirable trait in humans before we became settlers. hypersensitivity also doubles as high sensory perception, people with adhd tend to intuitively catch on to skills that require working with one's hands, intuition, and senses such as tool crafting, foraging, and hunting. I believe bpd symptoms could potentially be much the same, and the negative ones are a product of the way we live now. black and white thinking could lead to a strong sense of solidarity within the group that they are part of, while being less hesitant to act on perceived outside threat. I think the issue is that we live in a very disconnected society. that applies to interpersonal connections, as well as the existance of smaller, more closely knit groups having some benefits we've given up for the sake of modernization. the biggest i can think of is allowing people to work in ways they're actually good at, rather than forcing every lower class worker's nose into the same, or very similar grindstone unless they're fortunate enough to be able to make it through self employment. I'm by no means a primitivist, i think the ways humans have advanced are absolutely incredible, though I do have to think that honestly MUCH of psychiatry is a result of neurodivergence that was once accepted with compassion, largely regardless of if it gave specialized abilities or was disabling, now being indicative of a defective drone. As someone who is also transgender, I choose to believe in the relative compassion of all working class people, even those who want me dead. of course, if someone is a physical threat to my safety because i dared to exist in public they are still scum, but I'm not sure I can blame them entirely either. it's the fault of the ruling class who have a vested financial interest in cultivating an oppressed class through directly producing ableist, racist, xenophobic, sexist, homophobic, and transphobic propaganda. we live in a global economy built on war and cheap thrills for those of us just trying to get by, of course we're all mentally ill. both those who are fighting for acceptance and those who are fighting for some perverted concept of tradition they've been brainwashed into have a lot of the same problems. we all divide ourselves and others into smaller demographics until we don't have enough people fighting with us to do anything meaningful. to do anything productive we have to band together in our humanity, shed these preconceived bigotries, forgive those who have taken those steps to educate themselves and change for the better, and stand together as people who refuse to be divided and made to fight against each other any longer. but that feels so insurmountable. i think in that hopelessness, it's really important for people to create, unapologetically, with no expectation to be compensated. I'm too scared right now, but I think street art is one of the most amazing forms of art in the world. the idea that it cost someone their material safety to put there, in the hopes that someone or anyone would be moved by it, knowing they would never even know that person's name
i never felt my heart so warm hearing someone talk about bpd before! i’m so grateful as someone with this diagnosis to see that there are people who are able to see the good things we have as well! that we are valued, cherished and we have things to offer because yes we do!! it took me a really long time to realize and find out all that in my personal journey but i hope that if someone ever gets the bpd diagnosis they can watch this and see how amazing they are as well
I am in tears watching this! THANK YOU SO MUCH!! I have been going through something recently and have been spirialing and this video just HELPED ME OUT SO MUCH!! It's hard to focus on the good with this diagnosis when you're in crisis. But thank you so much, truly.
Really needed to see something positive about BPD today. Definitely agree with this list, especially when it comes to being passionate, resilient (I had a manager once say she didn't know how I was still going someday after everything I've gone through" and creative :)
Dear Psych2go team, I just wanted to take a moment to express my appreciation for the work you do in creating educational videos about psychology and mental disorders. Your content has helped me gain a deeper understanding of the complexities of mental health, and has provided me with valuable insights into the experiences of individuals living with mental illnesses. I particularly admire your message that it isn't one's fault to have a mental disorder and that it doesn't define a person's worth. Your efforts to break down the social stigmas surrounding mental health issues are so important, and I'm grateful for the positive impact you're making on the world. Thank you for your dedication to creating informative and inspiring content. Keep up the fantastic work! Regards, Breaking Brain 👍
There is a narcissist that I know. Absolute drama, all the damn time. All you need to do is remember to breathe and know there are people out there ten times worse than you think of yourself.
I have EUPD (BPD), CPSTD, Autism. It’s so strange others don’t understand how loyal and caring we can be. I just want to give others the smile, shine, support, love, gifts, fun I never got. But I always mess it up.
The intro is true. This helps me accept myself more, and labelling brings me a sense of settling. I’ve always known i have some sort of mental issue; but the earliest diagnosis on my depression back in grade 7, feels really outdated (i’m in first year, college). And i’ve always doubted if i have bipolar, or this bpd. And, thanks. I love these traits of mine, when hearing someone else saying them like this. Thank you. And yes, accepting that i have a fear of abandonment can be challenging. I’m learning. Still learning, ever learning. You got this, fellow humans, and fellow BPD-havers. What worse could happen, after all that you survived. Trust me, i’m a good witch (with BPD) lolol
was having a horrible day (more like month) because of my bpd and this video popped up when i opened youtube. i feel a little better now. thank you for that. stay strong everyone
I am so happy to see this! When I was diagnosed I got supper happy, "I literally have a manual with instructions online and medicines to help me! I can work now!" But then all I saw online was a list of all the worse of me, the things I had years of work, by miself, to hide. It was not easy. Also, we see lots of videos were people sheer their terrible experiences with bpd and how people with bpd are terrible, how is hard to date them, and even professionals saying those stuff! Suddenly I felt like a monster, so many people hate who has bpd! We are "manipulators, possessive, crazy, selfish..." This are de dark side that I always run away... And that was all that people could see as soon as I share my "condition". I had to tell my boyfriend in the beginning, I tell people because I need the to understand when my mood change to the oposit suddenly... People get confuse so I try to explain. Then they look online. Then they see only the worse. This video makes me really happy, it shows the part that I like and love, the part that makes me happy of being who I am. It is hard to deal with the bad days and all the "craziness" thoughts, that, even if you know that are crazy you believe on it. But with the treatment... I really love the person I am and without bpd I would not be me. I love my empathy, my creativity, how I can fully embrace and make people that I love feel understood and valid. Thank you to reminde us of that. Thank you to share one content to help see more than the bad... Cause, for real, the love that I have for "my art" (writing), Is the best thing. I love my intensity, I love how I can use it to explain and give more sides to my characters... If you have bpd... I think you are kind of lucky. If you take your treatment serious (no energetic and no alcohol are really important folks, sorry but is true) you really start to love yourself. And appreciate you more. I always knew my life was hard... But now I feel so proud to myself for being able to endure to 27y with no help! And with the anxiety medicines... If my young me could know how "normal" thinking can be... Well... The time by myself made me really appreciate the treatment and love miself and trust the love of people around me. I really hate when I see people with bpd that don't value the treatment and don't put effort on that. Or that know that there is a treatment, and choose not to persue it. I know that is hard to start, to move, to take action... But now that I know the "sun", I really hate to see people in the dark. Go get treatment my loves! For real... Life will always be hard... But with more stable emotions everything is better. Even the bad days. Is all easier.
Omg!! Your coment made my day... you made me feel that the same level of intense and empathic person as of me is sending me a warm hug through their kind words.. Love light and blessings your way thank you for your comment it felt like a warm hug to me..😇🤗
@@christinewilcox6857 well, each bpd person have particularity. In my case I use a medicine to stabilize my humor and a anti-anxiety medicine. But only medicine is not enough, Is also good lots of self care, online study and look for videos that help to deal with emotions. I use internet a lot to help me, I write my feelings with details until I get tired and realize that... I don't care, Is so silly to spend so much on that! A jornal help me a lot. Each person find their way... but you have to look and try to improve. Medicines and therapy are great, I truly don't think I could live without my medicines. I always take them with care, and if I use anything that interact with them (energetics, alcohol...) I see the difference. Eat well, sleep well, take your medicine and accept yourself. Be your own best friend, encourage you, also remind yourself that you don't need to be more than you are, that you are doing your best and respecting your limits. That each mistake is a learning chance and that people are able to forget and forgive. And, if they are not, why do you need them in your life? Life naturally filtrate who stays... work hard on being your self support, and surround yourself of people who can appreciate you... but remember that you have to do the same for them. Internet have all kinds of asmr and raike videos that calm me a lot... And I think that is it for me. Just... I don't do therapy. I would like to, I would like to improve... but I didn't find someone that I like... this is terrible to say, I know, but therapy helped me a lot in the beginning. Oh! Also, find what is really bringing you your intense feelings! Understand yourself is REALLY important, for you and for others. Even with the medicines, once my father moved a plant from the kitchen window to the window by my bed. He said that I was not watering on the window but by my bed I would do that. I snapped and get irrationally angry at him that day (I usually hate when people move my stuff aroud and my dad does not live with me, but even though was too much anger), then I had time by myself and realized... I was not angry because he move my plant! I was angry because I live in the house that my grandmother used to live when she was alive.... and that was the place where she put this specific plant: by the window kitchen. As soon my grandma died the house change a lot, they exchange the mobile, etc... her room was not there anymore, her sofa, her... but there was where she put that kind of plant, and was a plant I use to buy for her. Being able to understand I felt lass crazy and unfair, I was also able to explain my reaction to my father and he even thanked me. My grandma was his beloved mother. Now that plant is always by the window, and even if she is dry, she will always stay there... and when I look at her I realize how this is important to me... and feel that my grandma is still around. That plant give me a sense of normality. And I don't feel embarrassed by my reaction anymore. How we feel, how we react... there is always a reason, and we need to get over the embarrassment and think about the feeling, understand it. Sometimes you realize is something selfish and silly... but the reason is always easier to deal than a "irrational" feeling or reaction. This for me is really important. Love yourself is not about have a great self-esteem, Is about support. Is about be patient with yourself, understand yourself, forgive yourself... be to yourself the same that you would be for the person you love the most. This kind of care will make you love yourself. And will make you love others more... also, will make you protect yourself from people that is no worthy, the same way you protect a friend
As a 60 year old BPD I can assure you that ''acceptance'' is important but not how people think. I learned to accept my behaviour and take 100% responsibility for what I create in my life, that acceptance lowers the bubbling up of desire to self abuse for not being good enough for this absurd world we are in. Eckhart Tolle and Alan Watts make me accept myself even more.
As someone with BPD, thank you so much for making this video. I’ve never seen or heard anyone talk about the positives of having borderline, so this is so refreshing and can help educate so many people, as they probably have only heard the negative side of the disorder. As hard as it is to navigate life with the struggles we have to deal with as people with BPD, at least in my personal experience, the positives like being overly empathetic and knowing how to help others in times of need make it a little more bearable. All of these strengths that come with it have become the things I love most about myself and what makes me proud to be me. To anyone who thinks they may have BPD or have been recently diagnosed, you are not alone and you are not what society thinks you are just because you have a mental health disorder. There are going to be things in life that neurodivergent people may not have to deal with, but because you may have to, it will only make you stronger. You will be okay. ❤️❤️❤️
Timestamps 1). Borderline empathy paradox 1:27 2). Creative 2:37 3). Loyal 3:41 4). Resilient 4:35 5). Energetic 5:13 6). Passionate 5:50 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Absolutely beautiful video! I have experienced all of these traits through my lenses. These feelings often are a huge inspiration for my music! I also feel lucky to have a wife also having BPD. The beginnings were rough (2 BPD in a bucket, sounds like disaster), but she is the most honest, helpful, caring and generous person I know. After 4 years of being together it is one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. I often feel extremely lucky to have found somebody to be able to feel and understand me in such a deep fashion. ❤Thank you waifu! ❤
My goodness this made me cry. Thank you for this video. Its easy to only see the negative in my BPD. I AGREE WHOLE HEARTEDLY. ONE MORE THING. WE WORK HARD IN MAKING OTHERS HAPPY EVEN IF ITS JUST TO GET A SMALL LAUGH OUT OF THEM.
I have BPD I felt relieved because I knew that I wasn’t going crazy but I hate how I have it because nobody understands what it’s like they just think I’m dramatic or crazy but hearing the positive side of BPD gives me hope to keep going 💕
(I have been diagnosed with BPD) Thank you for this. I remember reacting angrily last time I heard someone dare to even imply this disorder has any positive aspects. But that was some years ago now, and I think I've made progress regarding everything more during the last few years than ever before. Now I'm just full of joy for this 😊
BPD both broke me and motivated me to heal. It's like seeing heaven without dying and meeting the devil without trying, with both trying to talk to you
This is so beautiful that it moved me to tears. Thank you so much for this video. I've never seen or heard anyone explain the positive sides of bpd which mainly made me see the negative side of it....until now!❤
I’m late to this video but I saw this pop up on my recommended. I sent this to my best friend, I never really realized that their bpd is part of why I love them so much!
I have been diagnosed with bpd and this video literally made me cry, tears of joy ❤. I‘m having a really bad episode right now and I feel like I’m loosing all the progress I made over the last 2 years since my worst episode. Thank you for reminding me of the good aspects about being neurodivergent, remembering my higher self or „superpower“ really helps me do get back into that healthy mindset, the normal mode we bpd people feel we sometimes only can hold for a couple of hours. Reminding me of these really helps me to get thru the day and makes the moments where I’m the person I want to be longer and more sustainable, hopefully until the day where I can say I love myself and if let go of my trauma ❤️🫶
All of them I’ve just come out of a narcissist relationship and I suffered with childhood trauma so I feel the BPD is me all over that you for that explanation ❤️👍👌🇬🇧
Oh my goodness, this video made me cry so much... I have BPD and other mental health conditions, the struggle is real... I'm grieving the loss of a friendship that chose to end it. Based on what I talked with my psychiatrist, I was highly concerned and to a paranoid point blaming myself for the end of the relationship. Also the wording used by this person leaves a lot in me, I acknowledged my mistakes, validated his emotions and wanted to have a talk to have some closure and be emotionally responsible for whatever I have done or didn't do. My friend chose to deny this option regardless if he wants to continue the relationship or not. I've been feeling so guilty about my conditions, specifically having borderline and being in a relapse of my MDD and developing social anxiety. Trusting myself on the fact that I was a good friend, if I am indeed or not, the immediate doubt about if the rest are telling me I'm a good person but is a lie? This video popped and helped me to reassure the things my friends and husband (my best friend) have been telling me, they are helping me to deal with this and I'm allowing myself to grieve this. Thank you for this video, I needed to remember a positive side of my brain.
Some friendships might not last for long. And even though it feels hard to let go of someone with whome you shared multiple good memories with is not an easy thing, sometimes it could be for the good of both you and him. And ofcourse when something like this happens, sometimes it feels like you did something wrong, its normal to have doubts. But eventually, after sometime you need to start accepting that the friendship is over. Slowly but surely, let go of it, since constantly overthinking about it will bring nothing but pain. And haveing these mental health condition is out of your control, you didnt chose to have them so try not to feel guilty about. Accept yourself the way you are. If these conditions interfere in your daily life, inquiring advices on how to manage them from a proffesional will be good for you. I hope your doing good now. Take your time, its ok, slowly let go of the frienship. Hope you have/had a great day
@@babybear3430 thank you so much for your kind words. I'm actively in therapy and pharmacological treatment for years. This situation escalated when I started developing this strong social anxiety. But more than guilt is really hard to process that someone gave up on you (paraphrasing a little). Is damn hard. And I keep stumbling up with some pictures or messages. Stuff that reminded me that I had a strong relationship of friendship, but it fractured in such a place... I feel his pain but I also feel mine and is rough to keep going, but I am. Thank you so much.
@@Mtz2604 I see If they gave up on such a wonderful person like you, then they missed a great oppurtunity to be friends with you. It might be hard to accept but they didnt see your worth and deliberately cutting ties with you suddenly like that....its better to not assosciate with someone like that. Not many people stick around to see your true great potential. The hurtful feeling of loss might not permanantly leave you but with practice and motivation it will hurt a lot less and after some more time what happened will just be one bad memory. Seeing how geniunly you cared about the friendship its clear it isnt your fault. Some friendships even the strongest can suddenly end, with or without a reason as to why. Ofcourse lettng someone you were that close with isnt easy but its not impossible. I am glad you yourself is determined to let go, it takes a lot of effort to attempt. Whenever your reminded of the friendship don't think a lot about it, just smile and relish the good memories you had with them and be happy while you had the friendship you cherished each and every moment. I wish you well in your journey to letting go.
@@babybear3430 thank you for your kind words and care. Yeap, is gonna take a while to digest 9 years of friendship. I keep the door open for him in case we see each other again, in a future moment, and just say hi. I cherish a lot of things from that friendship and for him as the brother from another mother that he was. I know that therapy will help me to cope with this in a healthier way, since the primal intense fear of abandonment is t inforced with it very loss you can experience. I have some PTSD from deaths that happened since I was 13, and each one has a component of trauma to add on. Us with BPD experience already a hard time with understanding our social and inner identity, things are perceived in a distorted way. When you experience a loss, it shakes that notion of identity, because you try to understand your part in this situation. Instead of hopelessly waiting for validation from this person about the type of friend I was, I need to find that validation within myself. I'm willing to take this pqin away from me. At least to lose the guilt qnd shame, because what you're telling me is right, some people just don't have the same level of commitment or they just grow apart. Instead of noticing this and try to nourish the relationship, they let it starve and just one person cannot provide enough for that relationship to survive. Thanks again for your consoling words. I wish you the best ❤️
@@Mtz2604 Im glad your understanding the situation very well your really mature. Im not much familiar with Bipolar disorder I just... roughly know their emotions are...how do I say it...induced differently (?) . You seem to already be on the final stages of letting go and your trying to help yourself in a healthy way. I appreciate you for that. And thanks, I wish you the best too
It's beautiful to be able to see the rose for its thorns that such an isolating, horrific, and painful condition can also aid a person to be truly, genuinely kind, and support from experience. I find and remind myself, for all the suffering my mental health has endured, I have the experience to talk to just about anyone, no matter how bad their life and situation is. I think that's beautiful, too.
This video made me cry. It’s extremely moving to hear positive things about BPD. I don’t meet the criteria because my behavior is effective now but I still feel things as intensity and I am grateful for that. Thank you for this video
Absolutely adored this explanation on the positive traits of BOD. I was diagnosed in January 2020, after being misdiagnosed as HPD. It was a huge relief. And now mood stabilisers and therapy is helping. Minor nitpick, 2:02 the website is pronounced as A.C.T as the website is specifically covering BPD-related events in the Australian Capital Territory (incl. Australia’s capital Canberra). Understandable though if you’re unfamiliar with Australia.
This video made me cried, I was finally diagnosed recently and I finally made peace with myself. But nobody had ever talked about the positive traits about BPD. I feel so hopeful and grateful right now. I feel so lucky the algorithm brought me here❤
I’ve struggled with BPD since I can remember. It’s so difficult and I lose so many friendships and a lot of people I just tend to ignore and not reply for long because I’m too overwhelmed. I’ve never really had strong abandonment issues until I’ve been suddenly abandoned by my fp back in December because of being too much (oversharing even tho I was assured it was okay) and now I am terrified of any slight “maybe” “dunno” whenever I initiate a meeting with my fp. Ive really bad anxiety as my emotions are so strong any slight inconvenience to my plans sends me into a spiral of wanting to kms or crying, saying Ive nothing anymore, feeling like I’m under some rock and can’t get out. Ive no therapy as in my country the health care is so bad I’m still waiting. It’s really not easy and yet I still manage to come to work and manage to do a lot of things so I’m in a way kinda proud of myself. I just wish I had some proper help. I’m scared I’ll scare away yet another person I really feel for
You have to test people for their value because it takes a special someone to realise your true worth. If they haven't the intelligence to identify your true worth, they are not really complex enough to comprehend how special you are. I am sorry that you have no therapy though. That is so messed up. I mean.. who do you turn to for support? This world needs to recognise that you are isolated and that we all need connection to other people with similar values.
I empathize because I remember what it was like having this before therapy. All I can say is there are great workbooks out there and try to not take too seriously that voice in your head that says you're no good. Because you are. Half of the battle is learning to not hate ourselves
Something I found fascinating while looking through the comments, the emotional empathy in the comments on this video seem significantly higher than normal. I personally favor (as in personality is skewed towards) cognitive empathy, so many of these comments are in some way surprising to me. I'm not sure if you've covered the topic before, but I'd love to see a psych to go video on major differences between the different forms of empathy, including the newer suggestion of separating emotional empathy into multiple parts.
Ive just been diagnosed today with bpd and i feel a lot. Guilt. Shame. Relief. This helped center me and assure me that i have some redeeming qualities. All of these hit spot on
I was recently diagnosed with it so learning this will help me a lot with my healing process, I got over my PTSD and it's encouraged me to get my other issues resolved
i don't understand what's bpd from what I've read, but my feelings do change quickly, and swing from extreme closeness to extreme dislike. thankyou for talking about the positive aspects and the brighter side of a mental health issue; it's soo relieving and many people seem to find it warm ♡
@@man_5i thank you, my partners been diagnosed w bpd recently and were both trynna make it work w lots of communication and “dbt skills”. so my advice for you is, dont try to stay silent/manage it all by urself in your current situation. talk to someone u trust and find a solution through therapy. i know its hard, exhausting & very uncomfortable, but trust me, being stuck w this kinda mental disorder is worse. i believe in u stranger.
When I was first diagnosed, knowing that my personality was the product of a disease caused me to break down. Then came that relief because I now knew my limits and the reasons. Thank you for the nice compilation.
It’s been almost two years I diagnosis as Bpd. And this is the first time I hear something positive about bpd which didn’t feel like came from out of sympathy. Thanks.
Ive been struggling with bpd for... well, for a long time, but watching this video put a smile on my face because friends and family often tell me im passionate and surprisingly wise, and i didn't think much of it but now that I know it's from my neurodivergency I view bpd in a healthier way... thank you for this
Well, this made me cry. Got diagnosed back in late 2020, and while I've learned to handle my emotions it can still feel like a lot sometimes. So thanks for reminding me how far I've come.
I was diagnosed a long time ago but I ignored it until today, I’m watching this video and this is a real live saver, I always tried to figure out what was wrong with me, I felt like I was different, that something was off, I’m happy to know there’s light after the tunnel ❤
WOAH,,, thank you so much for this video!!! I'm not BPD myself but I've been trying to educate myself about this disorder and all I found was negative stuff until this beautiful video
I think more of us need to come forward with our stories of BPD and how it effects our lives. This is very complex and hard at times to understand. I found this video to be very educational and informative Thank you! 🕊☮I love the art work!!
I'm in the process of being diagnosed with bpd, it's been a long arduous process and it hit me like a sledgehammer when I was first asked if I'd peen referred prior for it by my GP. I cried watching this because I didn't think there could be a positive side to it. Thank you for this
I’ve been diagnosed today. It’s the first time they even start mentioning it to me I’ve been looking at videos reading books the whole day and it all seems so negative 😫 Thank you for this ❤️
When I was diagnosed with BPD it was a relief. It explained so many things in my life and it gave me a lot of tools to manage my condition.Thank you for this video
I do have a close loved one whom I suspect of having BPD. This video helped reinforce the reasons why I love this person, because folks with BPD are indeed capable of having great lives if they focus on the positive aspects.
Thank you for this! As a BPD supporter, it is hard to describe just how necessary this video is. These are important truths that I have not seen covered anywhere else. 👍
Thank you SO much for this!! I've just realized I've had bpd my whole life, and it's been misdiagnosed as other things. However, I've always known something was wrong, and spent years using certain coping tools to help deal with symptoms, and also have made significant progress over the past 10 yrs regarding mood regulation, and other symptoms. Lately, I've been intensely searching for awareness on my blind spots, and whoa, now realize I've got significant signs of bpd, especially thinking back to teenage years. However at this point in my life, I don't have as much negative experience with symptoms and was confused. How can I have CLEAR bpd traits, but not be currently, and consistently manifesting them in daily life. So it's like I've been working backwards, to find out I'm bpd. I try to focus on the good, and your list here is more indicative of my current main modus operandi...almost like I've squashed the negatives of bpd, and amplified the fun, and more productive traits. I've not gotten rid of the negative traits, just squashed them to the point where now I can effectively manage them in more productive ways. This video REALLY helped cut through the confusion. ❤💃🏼🥂🎉
This is a light in the tunnel since I recently got diagnosed with BPD, I felt relieved to finally find an answer on why I act like I act, however I was scared for what could imply, but the video gave me things to see as a bright part of myself
My half sister (fathers side) has this, my maternal grandmother appears to have this and I just received the diagnosis myself this week. Thank you for having a video on the positive side because the idea of being anything like them is devastating.
I was diagnosed after 3yrs of psychotherapy, so releaved to know, what I've been dealing with my whole life. Daily routines, mindfullness and meditation helps me. I also write a daily journal and poems for my own amusement. Do things you like to do, it will make you feel better ❤
(I have bpd myself)I've never seen someone talk about the positive side of mental health issues, I cant even describe how grateful i am that you guys made this video to help educate people. It makes me feel less alone
Me neither. I enjoyed this video, immensely.
Yeah most things make people with BPD look psychotic and only really talk about the manipulative weirdos and completely dysfunctional people. The rest of us that are sane, respectful, and quiet never get talked about.
We just need some guidance so we don't turn into the dysfunctional ones xP
💕💝🌎Thanks 2 Psych2go ☺️☺️🙏🏻
Same, I’m in the process of getting formally diagnosed but my specialist said that she’s leaning into the fact that I do have this condition. The hyper-empathy and loyalty here is super real, because I always strive to see the best in people regardless of their rocky past, however, I’m working on seeing myself in the same way.
I think I might have bpd. I've been thinking this since the age of 20. I'll be 23 this year. My boyfriend thinks I might have it too after doing his own research based off of my behavior. I want to get a diagnosis and I don't know where to go
I love how this video talks about how getting a BPD diagnosis can be a huge relief and sort of a blessing because it finally explains what the actual problem has been this whole time. That’s what it was like for me when I found out I had BPD, but most people only talk about the stigma of having the diagnosis and not wanting to be labeled.
It makes our life easier knowing this. But unfortunately getting a job with this level is so hard. People judge you. Not knowing what it is, is scary for them as if u will beat up their clients or something, cannot be trusted with vulnerable young or old unfortunately.
Me too, I was so relieved. ❤
I was so relieved as well... at least now I know that not everything is my mistake; the hurtful problems exist and aren't just my fault or just an inception.
I always knew that something about me was really off, and it wasn't just because I had ADHD. When my BPD was at its worst, I knew that I needed to do something ASAP because I needed to know what was wrong with me, so I decided to admit myself to the psych ward and when I finally got my diagnosis, everything clicked in my head. And what helped even more was that my best friend also had BPD, and I knew that he was a great person because he was so supportive of me before my diagnosis, so it made it much less scary for me. Getting the diagnosis explained SO much though and it was very relieving to know that there was a reason why I acted the way I did, and that I can completely heal from it eventually. It's been a really difficult 2 years since my hospital stay, but I've learned so much about myself and learn how to manage my symptoms more and more every single day. And now I can even see the positive traits in myself that were described in the video and it makes me feel good because I know I'll always be one of the best people anyone could meet and befriend because I care so deeply about people and do my best to always make them feel good about themselves and supported.
i was not so reliefed. it completly changed my life from being succesfull and having ''friends'' into a downwards spiral with negative feelings about my self. idk if we lack professional help in my country but most professional help and meds seemed to make me feel wurse. its only recent (15 years later) i start to realize where it came from and that i accept that its not my self i need to hate. infact i should love my self for surviving and still standing, this recent feeling of acceptance is only the start of me learning how to coop with this disorder. i try to do self reflection on every scenario that triggers me or can trigger me. and it seems to help me alot. this video is only a bit of light in the dark, i love the positive side of this video, but being unable to coop with BPD is most deffinatly not a blessing
As someone with BPD I got to admit that I've never recognized these things as something "special" - I thought everyone is able to be as empathetic, good at managing other peoples crisis and having a bigger amount of resilience. It's beautiful to see someone talk about these things as "positive traits" for something that's negatively covered. Thank you for this video ❤️
Most borderlines abuse people closest to them (at the time at least) and then proceed themselves empathetic?
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@@Southghost5997please dont comment this on people with bpd’s stuff it can make us super upset
@@chipkid Flushing a toilet can make a borderline upset. What's your point?
@@Southghost5997 it’s just extremely rude
i don’t think i’ve ever clicked a video faster than i did with this one. as someone with bpd i’m so happy to see a video like this. i’m excited to watch the whole thing ❤️
Agree since I was recently diagnosed with this
I was thinking th same thing ! I too have BPD and this is actually reakky on point !
I think I have BPD... Im gonna find a doctor to help me out
I save it when it's uploaded now I'm watching. 😝😂😘😇
I was trying to defend bpd in a Tumblr post and got kicked out
i have a friend with bpd, she absolutely dislikes herself because of it and feels like she ruins everything because of it, so i think this video may brighten her mood a bit
thank you!
I had a right wing phase about two years ago and sometimes memories of my cringiness comes back to me and i feel like it’ll haunt me for years im so embarrassed P:
Yeah bpd makes me hate everything about me and tells I'm a failure. I've been stuck in a rut for months unable to move forward. It can be a blessing but it can also definitely be a CURSE 😓
same !!
It will, it did the same for me and like your friend I at times feel the same about myself and also thanks for being their friend and supporting them U the best!!!
You are an amazing friend for being there for her and uplifting her when she needs it. I truly struggle receiving any praise b/c more often than not I always see myself as a failure/ugly. The logical part of my mind tells me that is an irrational emotion and to not harp on it, for it won't do me or anyone any favors, but.. for me.. it feels like forever living in a dark hole. One that I can never shake.
I am glad that your friend has you in her life. Thank you for being a kindhearted person 💗.
I started crying halfway through the video. Didn't realize how desperately i needed this. Thank you so much.
Same🌝
@@zerosenseofself Borderlines cry when a leaf falls from a tree. Crying for you is nothing special.
Me too🥲☺️
This video is particularly true for people who have BPD as a result of trauma. Once you accept your brain is actually working correctly and protecting you, even a psychotic episode. You then can appreciate the positives of BPD. Emotional connection is amazing.
@@1968leg There are no positives. Borderlines have a feeling of emotional connection. They don't actually connect. That's why they often continue the cycle of trauma onto others.
I have bpd according to my therapist and psychiatrist and it’s been a process accepting this, BUT I think sometimes it’s a super power. And hell, if I can survive this, and learn to overcome it and live with it, kudos to me and everyone else who can too. There are good traits to it c: it doesn’t have to control you nor does it define you. There is always hope :D
Radical acceptance will help you so much.
@@DetriotQueenBeeNikkieDee "Radical acceptance" Stop getting all your ideas from the internet
It helps me I use it every day they teach it to you in dbt, I highly suggest you so dbt.
@@DetriotQueenBeeNikkieDee what's that gonna do radical acceptance don't exist
@@ryan.1990 Imagine taking the time to criticize someone over the origin of their semantics. They mean well, let it be.
I've recently been diagnosed with BPD and I've been feeling down for the past four days.. And this video literally warmed my heart... I don’t know if I can ever thank you guys enough for what you do... Love you Psych2Go 💖
Nothing wrong with been BPD, is part of our reuro diversity.
We need to learn to navigate in our modern society.
This video is amazing, we have a lot of positive trails, people learn to love you for what you’re. Everyone has baggage and we accept them. I try to be a better person every day but other must try too.
I send you a lot of support and encourage.
My only advice, say I’m sorry as soon as you realize you hurt someone with your mood swings. Sometimes we say things that we don’t mean it, and I can’t why I said it.
@@kaneezfatima6007 Four days? That sounds more like bi-polar
@@Southghost5997Could've possibly meant that they didn't know how to feel about the diagnosis. This just happened to me.
I was recently diagnosed with BPD and was struggling with it. I finally felt like I understood why I felt the way I felt and behaved the way did... but it also felt like it was information I would have rather not known...
Just yesterday, I started to think that maybe knowing will be more useful for me to learn new skills and hopefully feel a little better.
@@rnw_kidlvl oh
I'm not usually one for over sharing but I've just finished my first week of chemotherapy and I won't lie I'm scared of how it's affecting me, but your enthusiasm for the topic helped put my mind at ease. So thank you, you have no idea how much I needed this today
You are strong, remember that your mind is stronger than everything, so practice ways to cure what you can with thoughts, manifestation and positive energy. So your way through this becomes easier, happier and it might even cure you faster, I believe you can control many aspects of your body with your mind (it takes time, believing and practice)
@@anthonyszymon3032 Thank you for sharing. Over the last 50 years, I've lots of experience with loved ones having cancer and hiv, I've seen information & support help immensely. Treatment has improved a lot. I hope your treatments go well. a friend of mine recommended a healer and caster for me, she helped me out.
@@aaroncecil5381 wow, how can i get in touch, does she cure other sickness?
@@markharry8486 yes, name is Luana Kae Branigan
@@aaroncecil5381 wow, found her website, thank you very much for this.
I agree with the loyalty... but personally, I show that there is intense loyalty until situations, emotions, or other things start to go wrong and build up inside, then the bad overtakes the good, and one self-sabotages the relationship... a BIG negative in BPD. But, we try, and we move. Thank you for a beautiful, re-assuring video
Yes, i feel you. My Girlfriend is diagnosed with BPD. Unfortunately relationships with people like that are really hard, especially long-distance ones...
I was diagnosed with BPD since my teenage. Spent my whole life fighting this disastrous disorder. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment did wonders in my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I hate that psilocybin gets grouped with drugs like cocaine and heroin. Mushrooms are a remedy, not a vice! I went on a microdose treatment for a couple of months and within the first week, every sight of a cigarette got me questioning why I was doing all that to myself. It really works.
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
My first experience with shrooms cleared my mind and I started seeing the world on a whole new level
Oh hello fellow Kiwi!! Im trying to find others here who suffer with BPD as i have only just been diagnosed and I dont understand what it is really @SandraJulia-lw3kd
I've never been officially diagnosed with BPD. But I have a feeling that I do have it. Every explanation of BPD perfectly describes how I've been since I was a kid...
From what I have read, if you were traumatized as a child, chances are higher to have bpd.
Me, too. My mom definitely had it and I’m pretty sure I do too. This was really nice to hear the positive aspects and I agree with them all. 💕
@@tornadocupcake I didn’t know that, but that makes sense. Thanks.
Since U was a Kid? BPD often shows not until you grow up. Most ppl get symptoms when there 20 or older. BPD signs are often confused with other common illnesses like ADHS / (c)ptsd / autism / BAS. Pls dont self diagnos yourself and Go see a therapist :) (sry for my english, i tried my best)
@@mandelkk2200 by kid I mean when I was teenager into my early 20s. Also, I am not self diagnosing because there's a good chance I could be wrong, but I could right too. Either Way, it is just a feeling that maybe...
0:00 intro
1:25 1.Borderline empathy paradox
2:37 2.Creative
3:42 3.Loyal
4:35 4.Resilient
5:12 5.Energetic
5:50 6.Passionate
6:39 outro
Thank u much. I feel so thankful that U make Videos about: What is positive about this and that, coz mostly IT seems Like "Bad Stigma" but that is Just one Side of those Humans. Some of them are so calm and understanding, Empaths...and so much more (Depression 4 example). But If Most Just (ad the selves) See that stuff Just as "Bad" they might Not feel Well and heal, plus Others would be able Go Look at all Things in a broader spectrum way. 🌎🌱🕊️ Thx so much dears 💕
I wonder what the link between creativity and emotional instability is
Loved this! I have always wanted to work in social work, but always hesitated because of my BPD. It was until recently I realized that having BPD is actually a pro instead of a con because of our compassion and empathy. I am finally pursuing my mental health and social service degree! Can't wait to graduate and start helping others.
Don't. BPD is no "superpower". Since when is a negative disability beneficial? That is twisted, borderline-esque logic right there! Especially since "evil for the sake of evil" is the innate modus operandi of BPD, and narcissits (defence against their extremely fragile, delusional, empty-ego)! Personality offsets the extent of the disorders, hence it manifests differently.
@@Human_01 I think you need to go to the ward yourself with that shit talking buddy
I've been diagnosed with BPD a year ago, the process to accept and try to keep up with life on a daily basis but seeing videos like this honestly brings me to tears. I am 17, and it's a challenge going through high school with this, everyone tags you as someone weird but seeing that somebody believes we have nice traits it's beautiful. My heart is filled with joy and happiness. A big hug from Chile
you will come out of this with more light, more love and more healing towards yourself and people involve in this process... Love light and blessings:)
Being diagnosed so early in your life is such a blessing! I myself have struggled unknowingly for many many years and am relieved now knowing what's going on and wish I had known it earlier! ☀️
chilee 🤝 warm hugss
@@Mylove-lj8ne There are no nice traits of this disorder. You can still be a good person regardless of your condition.
My BPD friends were the sweetest and most caring I’ve ever met. They changed my life helping me to overcome self harm. They never believed it themselves but they were amazing, beautiful people.
Thank you for this. I am on the borderline spectrum and I could relate to all of these points except being energetic because I also suffer from chronic depression and anemia. It was nice to see someone say nice things about BPD, not just bad things.
✨ Timestamps and Major Points ✨
1) 1:26 Borderline empathy paradox
2) 2:37 Creative
3) 3:42 Loyal
4) 4:35 Resilient
5) 5:13 Energetic
6) 5:51 Passionate
To anyone struggling with BPD, you aren't alone. Remember that the right people will love you the way you are. There may be rough times, and you may not feel like going on, but know the good times outweigh the bad by so much. So many good moments and good people will come. You are amazing the way you are. Don't let anyone tell you different.
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I needed to hear/read this ♥️
Thank you
This is retarded. BPD doesn't result in increasing those traits.
BPD changes emotional parameters... Yes. However, it is no "superpower". Safe drugs and mushrooms can give you those benefits with the crazed, evil disorder.
Btw, did you know that borderlines and ENTP-narcissits started the wild fire in Hawaii? Most ENTP 'literally' secretly have narcissitic personality disorder! They micro-manage via subtly manipulating how other people view them.
My Mom had BPD. I wish she could have saw this after she was diagnosed. She wanted to be an author and script write. She only ever heard and was told the negative aspects of it. I think she believed it wouldn't allow her to be successful. But a few weeks ago I realized some of the most creative, outgoing, and successful people in the creative world are nerodivergent. I hope those watching this with BPD realize how awesome and cool you really are! My mother had many issues with her BPD and addiction, but everyone in my family knew she was the most loving, caring, and empathic person to grace my family tree.
thank you for this video, im actually doing a speech about BPD in my class! from what i read, i hope people with bpd are okay and know we’re with them if they need help, but even if someone doesn’t have it, the same thing. may god bless you all :)
Jim Carrey has spoken about depression before many times and lives with it but he'll always make us smile no matter what with BPD without being diagnosed officially.
BPDs are funny they do just about anything for attention lmao
We just over here trying at lyfe still xD
@@goddosyourself7970what is your problem with people with BPD? I’ve seen you reply negative things about BPD multiple times.
@@Frostfern94 if I told you then youtube would probably block the message so you couldnt know
As a man with BPD where we often already get overlooked, thank you for this video.
im also a man with bpd!
Good evening, bpd fellas! I recently had another one of those “crashes”, and now I am back! I wish all of you the best, and remember, you are NEVER ALONE, and every thing you feel is VALID❤❤❤.
Btw, absolutely LOVED the video, it arrived at the perfect time. Thanks a lot for caring guys!❤❤❤
Good video, but some thoughts on a couple of points.
Loyalty, especially when forged from bpd can be a double-edged sword. I love intensely, but it's also intertwined with idealization, which causes me to either pull away or lash out. People with bpd can love so much that it causes a great sense of grief, and it can quickly turn to anger and resentment when they don't get what they want from the people they love.
I'm certainly not energetic. BPD causes me to have severe, treatment resistant depression, so I simply feel like a burden. I and many with the disorder can become emotionally burned out trying to solve other peoples' problems, thinking it will validate them in some way. I've grown more numb to the plight of others, due to feeling like my efforts weren't reciprocated and I've pulled away from people to shield me from further harm.
I think all of the points are valid, but they come with caveats.
I have BPD and this is very me. It's nice to hear some positive things, I always feel like a total space alien
I think this will be the only time I will ever comment on a UA-cam Video. I was diagnosed recently with BPD and everything has felt so much harder lately. I am glad that I finally have a diagnosis that explains what Ive always felt and have been feeling for so long, but getting this diagnosis has been incredibly isolating. No one usually talks about the positive things about BPD, and only hearing negative things when learning about the mental illness that I have has sent me into a dark spiral. I really needed to see this video and know that there are some positives when it comes to BPD. For the first time in a long time I actually feel better and hopeful. Thank you so much for making this video I love yall sm
I was diagnosed with BPD traits in my early 20's, but my doc never told me until a few months ago, during a session in which I pretty much diagnosed myself, and he admitted I was right and said he never told me because of the social stigma BPD can cause and because of the fear knowing to have It can cause, but I was aware of this, felt just a bit dizzy for a couple of days, and then everything clicked in the right position in my brain. Now I have an explanation for a lot of stuff I did in the past, good and bad things, and I know better now that if I survived the lowest points in my life as a BPD, I Will survive in the future. Also, as the video points out, when I am in a good mood I experience almost superhuman feelings of joy and strenght. BPD really is a superpower if you know how to use It and accept the bad moments for what they are: Just a price to pay for being helpful and inspiring for others, for being able to feel much deeper love, joy, euphoria. We are restless warriors and precious people, always remember that!!!
TW: suicide
Thank you, thank you so much for sharing this video. Ive felt very hopeless with my condition. My former partner kept telling me that i never change and never tried when really I've tried everything, countless therapists, meds, and self help books to help me get better. The internet doesn't help either as I keep reading people 'survived' someone with BPD. That they don't recommend having relations with us. It left me so hopeless that I'll forever destroy other people's lives because of this condition. I even tried to end it all yesterday.
So thank you. Maybe i can start over again now with a new hope.
It's because BPD is traditionally seen as one of the "dangerous" diagnoses. It's us, antisocials and schizophrenics that are considered dangerous and therefore stigmatised something awful...
Robin Williams, a wonderful human being with true empathy and compassion. RIP...thank you for video
He was but I believe he had Bipolar Disorder rather than Borderline.
Edit: My bad. Wrote this before finishing the clip. The video suggested that he may have had it but wasn't been officially diagnosed.
Most of the videos I have watched about BPD, have included comments that describe us as monsters. It’s nice to think there are a few folks who can see the good in us. ❤
I sobbed uncontrollably while watching this, not because I’m sad but because you showed me that there IS hope.
Thank you so much..
TY for focusing on the positive things about us. Those of us with BPD get sh*t on a lot. It's nice to hear positive attributes about us. Thanks ❣️❣️
You shine a huge light in the abysmal darkness of mental health... thank you.
YES!
I have quiet bpd, and I'm like if a therapy dog was a person. also, I'm a digital illustrator, and I swear any illustrations I put my ENTIRE mood swing into turn out as some of my best. I have a couple pieces from over a 2 years ago, and I've improved SO much since then, but I made them when I was feeling either my worst or most manic, and still consider them to be some of my best. They're proudly displayed near the top of my portfolio! A lot of neurodivergent people around me wish they could be neurotypical, and trust me I understand, and I am quite honestly in a PRIVILEGED enough position that my BPD and ADHD haven't been much worse for me, but I'm not sure I would have it any other way. When it's bad it's awful, but on the other end, I feel like I'm able to experience deeper connection to people than neurotypicals neurologically can, and when things are going good, and my coping strategies are working, it can be a beautiful thing.
That is SO true. I was baffled when I discovered other people didn't feel so strongly about their friends and relationships in general. I discovered I am more sensitive to light than (apparently) most. And a little to sound as well. I don't feel the need to label myself anything but hypersensitive at this point. Because I feel like if someone close to me had taken the time to help me with these strong emotions and sensations.. And through other traumatic events.. This disorder wouldn't have happened. I think deep down we are all like the video describes. And then the way the world has dealt with our intensity, and vice versa, is what made us sick. We have such incredible minds, open, creative, feeling..
@@guesswho5790 prefacing this by saying: hoo boy this turned into the most bpdhd rant of all time about the nature of the human condition, i wouldn't blame you if you don't want to read through it. I almost erased it and started over but eh, what the hell.
original comment:
mhm! for example, adhd was likely a desirable trait in humans before we became settlers. hypersensitivity also doubles as high sensory perception, people with adhd tend to intuitively catch on to skills that require working with one's hands, intuition, and senses such as tool crafting, foraging, and hunting. I believe bpd symptoms could potentially be much the same, and the negative ones are a product of the way we live now. black and white thinking could lead to a strong sense of solidarity within the group that they are part of, while being less hesitant to act on perceived outside threat. I think the issue is that we live in a very disconnected society. that applies to interpersonal connections, as well as the existance of smaller, more closely knit groups having some benefits we've given up for the sake of modernization. the biggest i can think of is allowing people to work in ways they're actually good at, rather than forcing every lower class worker's nose into the same, or very similar grindstone unless they're fortunate enough to be able to make it through self employment. I'm by no means a primitivist, i think the ways humans have advanced are absolutely incredible, though I do have to think that honestly MUCH of psychiatry is a result of neurodivergence that was once accepted with compassion, largely regardless of if it gave specialized abilities or was disabling, now being indicative of a defective drone. As someone who is also transgender, I choose to believe in the relative compassion of all working class people, even those who want me dead. of course, if someone is a physical threat to my safety because i dared to exist in public they are still scum, but I'm not sure I can blame them entirely either. it's the fault of the ruling class who have a vested financial interest in cultivating an oppressed class through directly producing ableist, racist, xenophobic, sexist, homophobic, and transphobic propaganda. we live in a global economy built on war and cheap thrills for those of us just trying to get by, of course we're all mentally ill. both those who are fighting for acceptance and those who are fighting for some perverted concept of tradition they've been brainwashed into have a lot of the same problems. we all divide ourselves and others into smaller demographics until we don't have enough people fighting with us to do anything meaningful. to do anything productive we have to band together in our humanity, shed these preconceived bigotries, forgive those who have taken those steps to educate themselves and change for the better, and stand together as people who refuse to be divided and made to fight against each other any longer. but that feels so insurmountable. i think in that hopelessness, it's really important for people to create, unapologetically, with no expectation to be compensated. I'm too scared right now, but I think street art is one of the most amazing forms of art in the world. the idea that it cost someone their material safety to put there, in the hopes that someone or anyone would be moved by it, knowing they would never even know that person's name
i never felt my heart so warm hearing someone talk about bpd before! i’m so grateful as someone with this diagnosis to see that there are people who are able to see the good things we have as well! that we are valued, cherished and we have things to offer because yes we do!! it took me a really long time to realize and find out all that in my personal journey but i hope that if someone ever gets the bpd diagnosis they can watch this and see how amazing they are as well
Thank you for this. I...got this diagnosis and it basically was said to me that I'm broken and will be alone forever....
a loved one has this, she is truly the best person i’ve ever met. thank you for highlighting the beauty
I am in tears watching this! THANK YOU SO MUCH!! I have been going through something recently and have been spirialing and this video just HELPED ME OUT SO MUCH!! It's hard to focus on the good with this diagnosis when you're in crisis. But thank you so much, truly.
Really needed to see something positive about BPD today. Definitely agree with this list, especially when it comes to being passionate, resilient (I had a manager once say she didn't know how I was still going someday after everything I've gone through" and creative :)
I am diagnosed with bpd. This video brought beauty to my condition!! It brought tears to my eyes. Thank you!!
As someone recently diagnosed with BPD, I thank you for this video. ♥
Dear Psych2go team,
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I particularly admire your message that it isn't one's fault to have a mental disorder and that it doesn't define a person's worth. Your efforts to break down the social stigmas surrounding mental health issues are so important, and I'm grateful for the positive impact you're making on the world.
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It was so nice to hear the good side of BPD. Is this self love I feel right now?? That is very rare for me.
i've been diagnosed with bpd a few months ago. thank you for this video, it made me feel so understood i wish everybody saw it
as somebody with bpd who’s constantly worried about being a terrible person, this video is very helpful 🥲
There is a narcissist that I know. Absolute drama, all the damn time. All you need to do is remember to breathe and know there are people out there ten times worse than you think of yourself.
You should seek therapy or constant supervision if you're in doubt
I have EUPD (BPD), CPSTD, Autism. It’s so strange others don’t understand how loyal and caring we can be. I just want to give others the smile, shine, support, love, gifts, fun I never got. But I always mess it up.
I was always afraid of my BPD but now i dont have to be. thank you.
The intro is true.
This helps me accept myself more, and labelling brings me a sense of settling. I’ve always known i have some sort of mental issue; but the earliest diagnosis on my depression back in grade 7, feels really outdated (i’m in first year, college). And i’ve always doubted if i have bipolar, or this bpd.
And, thanks. I love these traits of mine, when hearing someone else saying them like this. Thank you. And yes, accepting that i have a fear of abandonment can be challenging. I’m learning. Still learning, ever learning. You got this, fellow humans, and fellow BPD-havers.
What worse could happen, after all that you survived. Trust me, i’m a good witch (with BPD) lolol
was having a horrible day (more like month) because of my bpd and this video popped up when i opened youtube. i feel a little better now. thank you for that. stay strong everyone
I am so happy to see this! When I was diagnosed I got supper happy, "I literally have a manual with instructions online and medicines to help me! I can work now!"
But then all I saw online was a list of all the worse of me, the things I had years of work, by miself, to hide. It was not easy.
Also, we see lots of videos were people sheer their terrible experiences with bpd and how people with bpd are terrible, how is hard to date them, and even professionals saying those stuff!
Suddenly I felt like a monster, so many people hate who has bpd! We are "manipulators, possessive, crazy, selfish..."
This are de dark side that I always run away... And that was all that people could see as soon as I share my "condition". I had to tell my boyfriend in the beginning, I tell people because I need the to understand when my mood change to the oposit suddenly... People get confuse so I try to explain.
Then they look online.
Then they see only the worse.
This video makes me really happy, it shows the part that I like and love, the part that makes me happy of being who I am. It is hard to deal with the bad days and all the "craziness" thoughts, that, even if you know that are crazy you believe on it.
But with the treatment... I really love the person I am and without bpd I would not be me. I love my empathy, my creativity, how I can fully embrace and make people that I love feel understood and valid.
Thank you to reminde us of that. Thank you to share one content to help see more than the bad... Cause, for real, the love that I have for "my art" (writing), Is the best thing. I love my intensity, I love how I can use it to explain and give more sides to my characters... If you have bpd... I think you are kind of lucky. If you take your treatment serious (no energetic and no alcohol are really important folks, sorry but is true) you really start to love yourself. And appreciate you more.
I always knew my life was hard... But now I feel so proud to myself for being able to endure to 27y with no help!
And with the anxiety medicines... If my young me could know how "normal" thinking can be...
Well... The time by myself made me really appreciate the treatment and love miself and trust the love of people around me.
I really hate when I see people with bpd that don't value the treatment and don't put effort on that. Or that know that there is a treatment, and choose not to persue it.
I know that is hard to start, to move, to take action... But now that I know the "sun", I really hate to see people in the dark.
Go get treatment my loves! For real... Life will always be hard... But with more stable emotions everything is better. Even the bad days. Is all easier.
Omg!! Your coment made my day... you made me feel that the same level of intense and empathic person as of me is sending me a warm hug through their kind words.. Love light and blessings your way thank you for your comment it felt like a warm hug to me..😇🤗
@@christinewilcox6857 well, each bpd person have particularity. In my case I use a medicine to stabilize my humor and a anti-anxiety medicine. But only medicine is not enough, Is also good lots of self care, online study and look for videos that help to deal with emotions. I use internet a lot to help me, I write my feelings with details until I get tired and realize that... I don't care, Is so silly to spend so much on that! A jornal help me a lot. Each person find their way... but you have to look and try to improve. Medicines and therapy are great, I truly don't think I could live without my medicines. I always take them with care, and if I use anything that interact with them (energetics, alcohol...) I see the difference. Eat well, sleep well, take your medicine and accept yourself. Be your own best friend, encourage you, also remind yourself that you don't need to be more than you are, that you are doing your best and respecting your limits. That each mistake is a learning chance and that people are able to forget and forgive. And, if they are not, why do you need them in your life?
Life naturally filtrate who stays... work hard on being your self support, and surround yourself of people who can appreciate you... but remember that you have to do the same for them.
Internet have all kinds of asmr and raike videos that calm me a lot...
And I think that is it for me. Just... I don't do therapy. I would like to, I would like to improve... but I didn't find someone that I like... this is terrible to say, I know, but therapy helped me a lot in the beginning.
Oh! Also, find what is really bringing you your intense feelings! Understand yourself is REALLY important, for you and for others.
Even with the medicines, once my father moved a plant from the kitchen window to the window by my bed. He said that I was not watering on the window but by my bed I would do that. I snapped and get irrationally angry at him that day (I usually hate when people move my stuff aroud and my dad does not live with me, but even though was too much anger), then I had time by myself and realized... I was not angry because he move my plant! I was angry because I live in the house that my grandmother used to live when she was alive.... and that was the place where she put this specific plant: by the window kitchen. As soon my grandma died the house change a lot, they exchange the mobile, etc... her room was not there anymore, her sofa, her... but there was where she put that kind of plant, and was a plant I use to buy for her.
Being able to understand I felt lass crazy and unfair, I was also able to explain my reaction to my father and he even thanked me. My grandma was his beloved mother. Now that plant is always by the window, and even if she is dry, she will always stay there... and when I look at her I realize how this is important to me... and feel that my grandma is still around. That plant give me a sense of normality. And I don't feel embarrassed by my reaction anymore.
How we feel, how we react... there is always a reason, and we need to get over the embarrassment and think about the feeling, understand it. Sometimes you realize is something selfish and silly... but the reason is always easier to deal than a "irrational" feeling or reaction.
This for me is really important.
Love yourself is not about have a great self-esteem, Is about support. Is about be patient with yourself, understand yourself, forgive yourself... be to yourself the same that you would be for the person you love the most. This kind of care will make you love yourself.
And will make you love others more... also, will make you protect yourself from people that is no worthy, the same way you protect a friend
As a 60 year old BPD I can assure you that ''acceptance'' is important but not how people think. I learned to accept my behaviour and take 100% responsibility for what I create in my life, that acceptance lowers the bubbling up of desire to self abuse for not being good enough for this absurd world we are in. Eckhart Tolle and Alan Watts make me accept myself even more.
As someone with BPD, thank you so much for making this video. I’ve never seen or heard anyone talk about the positives of having borderline, so this is so refreshing and can help educate so many people, as they probably have only heard the negative side of the disorder. As hard as it is to navigate life with the struggles we have to deal with as people with BPD, at least in my personal experience, the positives like being overly empathetic and knowing how to help others in times of need make it a little more bearable. All of these strengths that come with it have become the things I love most about myself and what makes me proud to be me. To anyone who thinks they may have BPD or have been recently diagnosed, you are not alone and you are not what society thinks you are just because you have a mental health disorder. There are going to be things in life that neurodivergent people may not have to deal with, but because you may have to, it will only make you stronger. You will be okay. ❤️❤️❤️
BPD diagnosee here, I was actually having a lil episode, I clicked this and I feel a million times better. Thank you
Timestamps
1). Borderline empathy paradox 1:27
2). Creative 2:37
3). Loyal 3:41
4). Resilient 4:35
5). Energetic 5:13
6). Passionate 5:50
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Absolutely beautiful video!
I have experienced all of these traits through my lenses. These feelings often are a huge inspiration for my music!
I also feel lucky to have a wife also having BPD. The beginnings were rough (2 BPD in a bucket, sounds like disaster), but she is the most honest, helpful, caring and generous person I know.
After 4 years of being together it is one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. I often feel extremely lucky to have found somebody to be able to feel and understand me in such a deep fashion.
❤Thank you waifu! ❤
My goodness this made me cry. Thank you for this video. Its easy to only see the negative in my BPD. I AGREE WHOLE HEARTEDLY.
ONE MORE THING. WE WORK HARD IN MAKING OTHERS HAPPY EVEN IF ITS JUST TO GET A SMALL LAUGH OUT OF THEM.
I have BPD I felt relieved because I knew that I wasn’t going crazy but I hate how I have it because nobody understands what it’s like they just think I’m dramatic or crazy but hearing the positive side of BPD gives me hope to keep going 💕
(I have been diagnosed with BPD) Thank you for this. I remember reacting angrily last time I heard someone dare to even imply this disorder has any positive aspects. But that was some years ago now, and I think I've made progress regarding everything more during the last few years than ever before. Now I'm just full of joy for this 😊
BPD both broke me and motivated me to heal.
It's like seeing heaven without dying and meeting the devil without trying, with both trying to talk to you
This is so beautiful that it moved me to tears. Thank you so much for this video. I've never seen or heard anyone explain the positive sides of bpd which mainly made me see the negative side of it....until now!❤
I relate to a lot of these. People tell me that I’m one of the most genuine people they know. ❤
I’m late to this video but I saw this pop up on my recommended. I sent this to my best friend, I never really realized that their bpd is part of why I love them so much!
I have been diagnosed with bpd and this video literally made me cry, tears of joy ❤. I‘m having a really bad episode right now and I feel like I’m loosing all the progress I made over the last 2 years since my worst episode.
Thank you for reminding me of the good aspects about being neurodivergent, remembering my higher self or „superpower“ really helps me do get back into that healthy mindset, the normal mode we bpd people feel we sometimes only can hold for a couple of hours. Reminding me of these really helps me to get thru the day and makes the moments where I’m the person I want to be longer and more sustainable, hopefully until the day where I can say I love myself and if let go of my trauma ❤️🫶
All of them I’ve just come out of a narcissist relationship and I suffered with childhood trauma so I feel the BPD is me all over that you for that explanation ❤️👍👌🇬🇧
This made me cry ;) thank you. I felt understood instead of judged. ❤
Oh my goodness, this video made me cry so much... I have BPD and other mental health conditions, the struggle is real...
I'm grieving the loss of a friendship that chose to end it. Based on what I talked with my psychiatrist, I was highly concerned and to a paranoid point blaming myself for the end of the relationship. Also the wording used by this person leaves a lot in me, I acknowledged my mistakes, validated his emotions and wanted to have a talk to have some closure and be emotionally responsible for whatever I have done or didn't do. My friend chose to deny this option regardless if he wants to continue the relationship or not.
I've been feeling so guilty about my conditions, specifically having borderline and being in a relapse of my MDD and developing social anxiety. Trusting myself on the fact that I was a good friend, if I am indeed or not, the immediate doubt about if the rest are telling me I'm a good person but is a lie?
This video popped and helped me to reassure the things my friends and husband (my best friend) have been telling me, they are helping me to deal with this and I'm allowing myself to grieve this.
Thank you for this video, I needed to remember a positive side of my brain.
Some friendships might not last for long. And even though it feels hard to let go of someone with whome you shared multiple good memories with is not an easy thing, sometimes it could be for the good of both you and him. And ofcourse when something like this happens, sometimes it feels like you did something wrong, its normal to have doubts. But eventually, after sometime you need to start accepting that the friendship is over. Slowly but surely, let go of it, since constantly overthinking about it will bring nothing but pain. And haveing these mental health condition is out of your control, you didnt chose to have them so try not to feel guilty about. Accept yourself the way you are. If these conditions interfere in your daily life, inquiring advices on how to manage them from a proffesional will be good for you. I hope your doing good now. Take your time, its ok, slowly let go of the frienship. Hope you have/had a great day
@@babybear3430 thank you so much for your kind words. I'm actively in therapy and pharmacological treatment for years. This situation escalated when I started developing this strong social anxiety.
But more than guilt is really hard to process that someone gave up on you (paraphrasing a little). Is damn hard. And I keep stumbling up with some pictures or messages. Stuff that reminded me that I had a strong relationship of friendship, but it fractured in such a place... I feel his pain but I also feel mine and is rough to keep going, but I am. Thank you so much.
@@Mtz2604 I see
If they gave up on such a wonderful person like you, then they missed a great oppurtunity to be friends with you. It might be hard to accept but they didnt see your worth and deliberately cutting ties with you suddenly like that....its better to not assosciate with someone like that. Not many people stick around to see your true great potential. The hurtful feeling of loss might not permanantly leave you but with practice and motivation it will hurt a lot less and after some more time what happened will just be one bad memory. Seeing how geniunly you cared about the friendship its clear it isnt your fault. Some friendships even the strongest can suddenly end, with or without a reason as to why. Ofcourse lettng someone you were that close with isnt easy but its not impossible. I am glad you yourself is determined to let go, it takes a lot of effort to attempt. Whenever your reminded of the friendship don't think a lot about it, just smile and relish the good memories you had with them and be happy while you had the friendship you cherished each and every moment. I wish you well in your journey to letting go.
@@babybear3430 thank you for your kind words and care. Yeap, is gonna take a while to digest 9 years of friendship. I keep the door open for him in case we see each other again, in a future moment, and just say hi. I cherish a lot of things from that friendship and for him as the brother from another mother that he was.
I know that therapy will help me to cope with this in a healthier way, since the primal intense fear of abandonment is t inforced with it very loss you can experience. I have some PTSD from deaths that happened since I was 13, and each one has a component of trauma to add on. Us with BPD experience already a hard time with understanding our social and inner identity, things are perceived in a distorted way. When you experience a loss, it shakes that notion of identity, because you try to understand your part in this situation. Instead of hopelessly waiting for validation from this person about the type of friend I was, I need to find that validation within myself.
I'm willing to take this pqin away from me. At least to lose the guilt qnd shame, because what you're telling me is right, some people just don't have the same level of commitment or they just grow apart. Instead of noticing this and try to nourish the relationship, they let it starve and just one person cannot provide enough for that relationship to survive.
Thanks again for your consoling words. I wish you the best ❤️
@@Mtz2604 Im glad your understanding the situation very well your really mature. Im not much familiar with Bipolar disorder I just... roughly know their emotions are...how do I say it...induced differently (?) . You seem to already be on the final stages of letting go and your trying to help yourself in a healthy way. I appreciate you for that. And thanks, I wish you the best too
I was just diagnosed with BPD and I feel lost but this really helped at this moment I saved this so I can rewatch it when I'm feeling so low again 😭
It's beautiful to be able to see the rose for its thorns that such an isolating, horrific, and painful condition can also aid a person to be truly, genuinely kind, and support from experience. I find and remind myself, for all the suffering my mental health has endured, I have the experience to talk to just about anyone, no matter how bad their life and situation is. I think that's beautiful, too.
Thank you for making and sharing this video. As someone who has BPD, It’s so nice to hear about the positive side of it. We can also be very flexible.
This channel cares my mental health more than my parents can😭💗
This video made me cry. It’s extremely moving to hear positive things about BPD. I don’t meet the criteria because my behavior is effective now but I still feel things as intensity and I am grateful for that.
Thank you for this video
I live with BPD and needed to hear this. Thank you!!
Please make videos on how to overcome disorders/traumas..it is something what we need now
OMG , to know there was something that so perfectly explained things helps me sooo much
Absolutely adored this explanation on the positive traits of BOD. I was diagnosed in January 2020, after being misdiagnosed as HPD. It was a huge relief. And now mood stabilisers and therapy is helping. Minor nitpick, 2:02 the website is pronounced as A.C.T as the website is specifically covering BPD-related events in the Australian Capital Territory (incl. Australia’s capital Canberra). Understandable though if you’re unfamiliar with Australia.
This video made me cried, I was finally diagnosed recently and I finally made peace with myself. But nobody had ever talked about the positive traits about BPD. I feel so hopeful and grateful right now. I feel so lucky the algorithm brought me here❤
I’ve struggled with BPD since I can remember. It’s so difficult and I lose so many friendships and a lot of people I just tend to ignore and not reply for long because I’m too overwhelmed. I’ve never really had strong abandonment issues until I’ve been suddenly abandoned by my fp back in December because of being too much (oversharing even tho I was assured it was okay) and now I am terrified of any slight “maybe” “dunno” whenever I initiate a meeting with my fp. Ive really bad anxiety as my emotions are so strong any slight inconvenience to my plans sends me into a spiral of wanting to kms or crying, saying Ive nothing anymore, feeling like I’m under some rock and can’t get out. Ive no therapy as in my country the health care is so bad I’m still waiting. It’s really not easy and yet I still manage to come to work and manage to do a lot of things so I’m in a way kinda proud of myself. I just wish I had some proper help. I’m scared I’ll scare away yet another person I really feel for
You have to test people for their value because it takes a special someone to realise your true worth. If they haven't the intelligence to identify your true worth, they are not really complex enough to comprehend how special you are. I am sorry that you have no therapy though. That is so messed up. I mean.. who do you turn to for support? This world needs to recognise that you are isolated and that we all need connection to other people with similar values.
I empathize because I remember what it was like having this before therapy. All I can say is there are great workbooks out there and try to not take too seriously that voice in your head that says you're no good. Because you are. Half of the battle is learning to not hate ourselves
Something I found fascinating while looking through the comments, the emotional empathy in the comments on this video seem significantly higher than normal. I personally favor (as in personality is skewed towards) cognitive empathy, so many of these comments are in some way surprising to me. I'm not sure if you've covered the topic before, but I'd love to see a psych to go video on major differences between the different forms of empathy, including the newer suggestion of separating emotional empathy into multiple parts.
I was so happy when I got my diagnosis, it explained so much and I finally felt like I wasn't going crazy.
Ive just been diagnosed today with bpd and i feel a lot. Guilt. Shame. Relief. This helped center me and assure me that i have some redeeming qualities. All of these hit spot on
I was recently diagnosed with it so learning this will help me a lot with my healing process, I got over my PTSD and it's encouraged me to get my other issues resolved
i don't understand what's bpd from what I've read, but my feelings do change quickly, and swing from extreme closeness to extreme dislike. thankyou for talking about the positive aspects and the brighter side of a mental health issue; it's soo relieving and many people seem to find it warm ♡
thats sounds like a very common trait of bpd. u should go see a doctor/therapist. sending u energy
@@lacyyyy thankyou so much for the energy, hope everything's fine for you ^~^
@@man_5i thank you, my partners been diagnosed w bpd recently and were both trynna make it work w lots of communication and “dbt skills”. so my advice for you is, dont try to stay silent/manage it all by urself in your current situation. talk to someone u trust and find a solution through therapy. i know its hard, exhausting & very uncomfortable, but trust me, being stuck w this kinda mental disorder is worse. i believe in u stranger.
When I was first diagnosed, knowing that my personality was the product of a disease caused me to break down. Then came that relief because I now knew my limits and the reasons. Thank you for the nice compilation.
It’s been almost two years I diagnosis as Bpd. And this is the first time I hear something positive about bpd which didn’t feel like came from out of sympathy.
Thanks.
Ive been struggling with bpd for... well, for a long time, but watching this video put a smile on my face because friends and family often tell me im passionate and surprisingly wise, and i didn't think much of it but now that I know it's from my neurodivergency I view bpd in a healthier way... thank you for this
Well, this made me cry. Got diagnosed back in late 2020, and while I've learned to handle my emotions it can still feel like a lot sometimes. So thanks for reminding me how far I've come.
I was diagnosed a long time ago but I ignored it until today, I’m watching this video and this is a real live saver, I always tried to figure out what was wrong with me, I felt like I was different, that something was off, I’m happy to know there’s light after the tunnel ❤
WOAH,,, thank you so much for this video!!! I'm not BPD myself but I've been trying to educate myself about this disorder and all I found was negative stuff until this beautiful video
I've never knew the existence of this thing called BPD and after watching this video today, I just found out that I'm one of the people with BPD
OMG this video made me cry!!! HERE I AM!!! ❤❤❤ Diagnosed almost 20 years ago but this… this video… THANK YOU!!!
I think more of us need to come forward with our stories of BPD and how it effects our lives. This is very complex and hard at times to understand. I found this video to be very educational and informative Thank you! 🕊☮I love the art work!!
Thank you. It's so heart-warming to see someone saying good things about BPD
I'm in the process of being diagnosed with bpd, it's been a long arduous process and it hit me like a sledgehammer when I was first asked if I'd peen referred prior for it by my GP.
I cried watching this because I didn't think there could be a positive side to it. Thank you for this
I’ve been diagnosed today. It’s the first time they even start mentioning it to me I’ve been looking at videos reading books the whole day and it all seems so negative 😫 Thank you for this ❤️
When I was diagnosed with BPD it was a relief. It explained so many things in my life and it gave me a lot of tools to manage my condition.Thank you for this video
I do have a close loved one whom I suspect of having BPD. This video helped reinforce the reasons why I love this person, because folks with BPD are indeed capable of having great lives if they focus on the positive aspects.
Thank you for this! As a BPD supporter, it is hard to describe just how necessary this video is. These are important truths that I have not seen covered anywhere else. 👍
Thank you SO much for this!! I've just realized I've had bpd my whole life, and it's been misdiagnosed as other things. However, I've always known something was wrong, and spent years using certain coping tools to help deal with symptoms, and also have made significant progress over the past 10 yrs regarding mood regulation, and other symptoms. Lately, I've been intensely searching for awareness on my blind spots, and whoa, now realize I've got significant signs of bpd, especially thinking back to teenage years. However at this point in my life, I don't have as much negative experience with symptoms and was confused. How can I have CLEAR bpd traits, but not be currently, and consistently manifesting them in daily life. So it's like I've been working backwards, to find out I'm bpd. I try to focus on the good, and your list here is more indicative of my current main modus operandi...almost like I've squashed the negatives of bpd, and amplified the fun, and more productive traits. I've not gotten rid of the negative traits, just squashed them to the point where now I can effectively manage them in more productive ways. This video REALLY helped cut through the confusion. ❤💃🏼🥂🎉
This is a light in the tunnel since I recently got diagnosed with BPD, I felt relieved to finally find an answer on why I act like I act, however I was scared for what could imply, but the video gave me things to see as a bright part of myself
My half sister (fathers side) has this, my maternal grandmother appears to have this and I just received the diagnosis myself this week. Thank you for having a video on the positive side because the idea of being anything like them is devastating.
I was diagnosed after 3yrs of psychotherapy, so releaved to know, what I've been dealing with my whole life. Daily routines, mindfullness and meditation helps me. I also write a daily journal and poems for my own amusement. Do things you like to do, it will make you feel better ❤