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Can't Save Single Moms? Won't Save Single Moms Is the right word in this line.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5226056/
My dad died when my brother and I were 11 and 12. She never went out on a date the rest of her life and worked two jobs and raised us both alone. We both graduated college and became successful. She was an amazing woman.
She’s not a modern woman. Those women are now extinct
@@phoenixrisin2269 I mostly agree.
My mom is a widow since I was 1 year old. Same for her. I've never heard my mom complaining about anything. It breaks my soul to understand, now that I'm an adult, what she went through.
@@con2mms2000 I know man. Mine died without my ever having really acknowledged what she went thru. Thankfully, I was her caregiver so I at least gave back a little…..but nothing compared to what she did for my brother and I.
The exception does not make the rule
Just because you eat well it does not mean that world hunger does not exist
The "you're not dad!" thing is so true. I met a single mom at a fairly nice restaurant a couple dates in, and this was the first time I met the child. Her kid is running around the place, bothering other patrons and staff. So I go into my natural role as disciplinarian, and go get the kid who is literally in front of the pass. No thank you from the mom, just an icy stare. Then after the meal the kid takes off on another lap. I get up and mom says "just let them be a kid, his dad does". I say "no problem" and leave.
I have a friend who is a single mom, her son said something similar. Lol
@ericlogos989 even if it's your job as their probation officer?
Yea I dated a girl who's son was an out of control whiney baby (he was 11 btw) and he told me I wasn't his dad. I told him "damn right you're not my kid because my kid wouldn't act this way" 😂 shut his punk ass up. Poor kid is due for a rough life....
Good man
There's nothing wrong with having step kids or kids that are half siblings this is such a dumbass video lol. I kind of agree I she has multiple baby dad though
I work for a large corporation. When walking through the office suites, I always noticed that the desk of the men would have pictures of his wife and kids. On the other, for the most part, women would only have pictures of the kids, and not her husbands. I always thought that was interesting.
I had a single mom wanting me to marry her in the worst way many years ago. My inner voice told me get the hell out of there. I listen to that voice and it has been one of the best decisions I ever made!
An anecdote! I see the polar opposite in my workplace. Women and men here have pictures of their kids and spouses. You should probably be more careful before you develop a self centered worldview off such a surface level observation lol
@@thenoobassassinWhat you said to the OP could apply right back at you. You did the same thing he did - you made an observation from your own personal experience. So, why you castigated him, l don't know why. Oh, the irony.
@@thenoobassassinbum comment
n = 1 or anecdotal evidence
I agree
Anytime I say to someone that I don't want a single mom I always get the same angry response. "Just because she has kids doesn't make her a bad person". Well just because she has kids doesn't mean I have to support or put up with them either! Then I hear "at your age everyone is gonna have kids". I guess I'll stay single then ...............
a divorced woman with kids, or a single woman with a kid[s] and never been married == very unhappy man if he gets fooled and marries either type.
DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH SINGLE MOMS
They always throw in that SIGN language as Kevin samuels would call it. Shame insult guilt and need to be right. It’s amazing they can have standards all day long but men can’t. Funny how that works.
@@onewhitepony It's pretty funny when they start that shit.
@@onewhitepony I was thinking the same thing.
Smart man!
You can never expect a mom to put you before her children with another man. Which is why its just best to stay away or use single moms for recreational use only.
That's not true. I'm remarried as well as have kids from my previous marriage. and I expressed my struggles to my husband how hard it is to try to make sure everyone's needs are met. Trying to make sure he doesn't feel like I'm just focused on the kids. Trying to make sure the kids don't feel like I'm only focused on him. My husband loves the kids and they love him. So it works if you're married to a good person who is just as willing to sacrifice as much as you are. And I was very forward and honest about how difficult it is to live with kids and how much they can end up costing. He's accepted it and I'm not working anymore. But he's okay because we made sure we understood what we wanted from each other and what we expected from each other. And we try to change the areas that bother each other. And the kids know he's working hard to take care of them and they appreciate it too. But I worked hard on the kids before he came into our lives and they're well aware of who is in charge and they respect and accept that he's now their dad(they call him dad. We don't use words like step-dad). So it's really just a matter of finding someone with good character. Which is hard and I actually married abroad because the culture in usa is so toxic.
@@bethany9430 He's a SIMP. I don't mean that as an insult. A lot of beta males have no issue coming second to the step-kids. And more power to him. Single moms need simps to come in and save them from the bad decisions they made when they were young . I appreciate your take on the situation. But your paragraphed comment doesn't negate nor does it present a logical argument to my perspective on dating single moms.
@@kevinlewis5194 he's not a beta male. He just really likes me so the only way was accepting the kids too. Your take on this is the same bad attitude as the single moms. You're just as much the problem as those single moms. You suck as bad as the rest. You're not high quality nor anything worth of value too. So try to remember how little of anything you too and how you don't deserve much of anything either. Least we die happy. You just die alone and miserable. And I'm genuinely saying that in trying to push your head into reality.
@@bethany9430 it's extremely true.
Yes !!! That's it .. and for the love of God don't get them pregnant
“Single Mothers are a Liability, Not an Asset”
-Kevin Samuels 💯💊
Says the dusty losers who create them
RIP Kevin Samuels 🙁
Pump and dump material only 😂😅
Women are a liability in general
My experience is different and I would never trade my mrs in for a single modern woman with zero kids - the issue isn’t the kids it’s the woman, if she’s a bad one she is a bad one regardless of kids - kids or no kids if she’s crap she’s crap it just makes it more complex if kids are there. I can accept I am an exception but my mrs has supported me Massively and we have a a child of our own. She pays half and she has been with only the people she had relationships with, she isn’t a party girl never has been… that’s boring to most guys- I call it sanctuary
My aunt married a guy who basically raised my cousins from a young age and the moment she divorced him later in life they never spoke with him again. Really sad. He basically had to start his life over as if he was never a husband and father
Thats messed up!!
Man this is 😢😢😢
Maybe he was a POS step-father? I had a great dad, but I also had other awesome father figures in my life from a young age, basketball coaches, my neighbor, I keep in touch with all of them because they were good to me, people don't forget the positive people in their life
@@heatison11 Nevertheless, as men our masculinity is originated by a primal father figure which usually is the biological father.
@@dantefernandodantezambrano7910 agreed
Kevin Samuels covered this already. All HVM know that a single mother is a liability not an asset😂
Stop idolizing a showbusiness guy
Then why are they still getting with them every single day??…..
Tom Leykis, Tommy Sotomayor were way before Kevin Samuels, dear!
Tom Leykis (and many others) covered this topic (AND basically every other RedPill Topic) decades before Kevin, or these idiots
@@fredstriker2042 damnnn. Tom Leykis is a straight up savage ; nobody would want to take him seriously because it sounded like he only patronized women. Kevin helped the community whilst pointing out the mistakes. Tom was just clowning women for been fools.😭
This is incredibly accurate. Which also explains why women have so much regret post breakup. Their hyper-inflated view of themselves meets reality at some point.
I've been a stepchild, a step dad, and now I'm a father. As a stepchild, my "dad" was never truly family. As a "dad," my stepchildren were never really mine. Everything was made absolutely clear as I wheeled my boys (twins) down the hallway, as my wife was cared for in the delivery room. There simply is no comparison.
Think long and hard before taking on another man's children. You deserve your own kids.
Glad to hear you got your own family.
💯
In fact, children raised by single fathers have better outcomes then children raised by 2 parents. Modern women are the problem. Every issue we struggle with in today's society will be solved in one generation if we simply make fathers the default custodial parent.
And make male teachers the majority in schools.
That's not actually true. There's no comparison because there's nowhere near as many men raising children alone as there are women. Families of a man raising children alone will help more than they will a woman. If the man remarries he will often neglect his own children in favour of his new wife, sometimes the children she has and any they have together. Those are facts, men just don't talk about them. It's also a fact that children are hurt by their fathers abandoning them and showing no interest in them throughout their lives. More often than not, a woman who isn't raising her children full time, will still have contact with them.
@@craigsmith2755 At the very least schools should be separated by gender. Male only and Female only schools. That would solve a lot of problems. Not to mention how unfair it is to expect a teenage boy to pay attention in class when he surrounded by teenage girls.
Kentucky
@@susanplatt5331 More often then not, fathers are removed from THEIR home and children by an angry ex wife who's weaponized the family court system against him. Custody should start at 50/50 as a default. Single fathers make a better parent to boys then single mothers.
I dated a single mom, and I always felt like I was just there to be used for her and her kids. She never thought of me and the kids. It was always thinking of the kids first, then me or thinking of the kids and how I couldn't be used to benefit her kids. It was a very one sided relationship
Bro!!!! I am in the same position now. I will tell her that I am living her life basically, haha. We are almost a year in. I just broke things off cause she is traveling back home with her son and didn't even invite me. Nothing! Plus we had a trip planned during this time and she had to do this instead during our planned trip. I feel like I am just an after thought. She is trying to get back with me and being all loving but I think I am done this time. Her kid is cool though. Cooler than her, haha
@@MasterEggroll so this is a sign for me to leave my girl who has a 4 month old
@@Poeticjustice4ell I mean sure if you’re under 25 go for it, but if you’re in your 30s you might wanna reconsider. When I was 30 I met my fiancé who was recently divorced, with 3year old and 8month old baby boys, the past 7years with them have literally been the happiest years of my life. If you like the girl give it a shot, you in the sweet spot with the baby being so young, as they get older they don’t know what life is without you. Also with babies you get a first hand look at whether or not the mom is one of those women who get their figure back after pregnancy or if they blow up and let themselves go. You also get to see what kind of mother they are, so you can better decide if you want to have a child with them like I did lol
@@Poeticjustice4ell A 4-month old? Why isn't she with the father?
Dude, get out as fast as you can!
Its normal she will factor her kids that’s why you should have ur owns and forget about single moms
My parents divorced when I was 5. My father got custody and then married an absolute monster. My life was hell until I ran away from home at 15. I have dated single mothers and got along with the children but when ever I would try to correct bad behavior had the mother come at me like an enraged ferret. I’ve even had the children take me aside and tell me thank you for telling them how to live. They have said we love you snd wish you were our dad but we know are mom is nuts but could you marry her anyway. This always broke my heart but the friction and manipulation would always get too much and I would have to leave. Some of these children are adults now, visit and refer to me as their dad. What the hell is wrong with these women?
You are a good man.
XX chromosomes.🤣
Respect to you bro
Had a single mom's son clue me in his mom was cheating. Hope that kid made it.
They have a 🐱, money & a court system backing them. The older generation of men failed us
My parents were married for 60 years. My dad was my moms caregiver for the last eight years of his life. She died four years after my dad. Truly amazing people that fought like cats and dogs but when it got real they stood by each other. It took my mom several months before she stopped calling his name late at night. I’d get up and go in and comfort her until she dozed back off. Faithful people make faithful parents. They would be unicorns in todays world.
Every single moms dating profile says "my kids come first." Why in the hell would any man date a single mom knowing he will ALWAYS be number 4, 5 or 6 on her priority list?
100%
They are out for survival & self preservation. That’s why strong men, pimps and players are despised. We aren’t going for the bs
Although it's such a crude reality; it does make sense. Single mothers have to prioritize their kids; otherwise, they wouldn't be good mothers. Especially, when the biological father is unable to provide child support; a single mother has to be clever on how to feed her children's mouths; otherwise, the social service would take them away, and that would be a stab in her heart. I'm not justifying any single mother's attitude, but trying to give such an explanation on why they behave as they're used to.
Right... as soon as you hear,"My kids will always come first". She is telling you that you are expendable as a partner. You need to listen to her and believe her when she says this. You will live a life of misery if you don't accept this when she says it to you. If she can't put you at least on equal level as her kids, you are wasting your fking time. Hiw can a man provide for children who are not his and them can be sacrificed at a moments notice for her children. don't do it when she says those words. It's time to leave.
When I was working in the admissions department of the university I work, I never had a man ask me about scholarships for single fathers. Now the number of women who asked me scholarships for single mothers is a different conversation.
These women think cooking and cleaning for a man is slavery, yet they want a man who will pay for everything including children they produced with another man. And the worst part is they expect you to live up to their laundry list of requirements and expectations and all the while feeling you as a man should be honored to accept this lopsided deal.
Raised to look out for them and nothing else
Yeah man that sucks... And also my single mother made me ASK for a scholarship even though we have no way of demonstration needs. It was just an embarrassing entitlement situation she made me go through, asking for special benefits because since day 1 you are a victim and your story is of a victim
You were right on the money with this one! Dating single mom's is probably the least productive thing an attractive marketable man could possible do. And never ever tolerate your woman refusing to post pictures with you on her social media! I had a girlfriend that had friends tell her posting photos of me on her page would kill her music and new modeling career even though I have a verified profile, more followers and have had my talent contract since about 2019. If anything, the collaboration would make her more marketable. But thirsty guys would always be in the inbox with "hey beautiful" pumping up her head and eventually she left to the highest bidder. Listen and learn fellas. Rich is totally legit on this one.
These guys are playing you! They don't believe any of this. It's an industry. Your clicks are paying their mortgages! Any of these less-than-genius observations could be reapplied the other way. These are "gender hustlers" out for a buck. YOU are their sheep. Everybody has GD problems! They are feeding off of past failures and misery, and you guys are too damn blind to see it.
better option- don't be on social media. it's a cesspool and a place for people to live fake lives.
There’s actually very high value men that have tainted their lives, all because they got with a single mother. Even the most desirable men have to make the best decisions with women.
Yeah, but you're black.
Spot on concerning single Moms. You will always come in behind every child and animal she has.
I know a woman that recently announced that she’s pregnant with what will be her 3rd child, to a different man. But she has no current bf. The crazier part was that the other women were applauding her.
Yep. You'll never hear a woman hit her with... Where's the father.
They're her frenemies, that's why
That’s because the one expecting her third CANT compete with them. They celebrate her removal from their bracket. That’s why normal size women tell the massive women that they are beautiful no matter what…. It’s a lie but they say it because the massive women can’t compete on the same level.
@@seadragon1456Exactly. They're just eliminating the competition. Very simple and effective. They're not really celebrating a woman's f atness or her pr omiscuity; they're actually celebrating another obstacle out of the way in their pointless quest to find a man to put up with their nonsense.
Single mothers will never love you like their baby daddy. Hard truth for men to hear
After a few bad experiences, my personal rule is:"Stay away from single mothers".
4:44 4:45
4:44 4:45
No man should marry a single mother. No man should marry a female that has filed for divorce from her husband or separated from her husband causing the man to file for divorce.
Men must do better
GOOD CHOICE
You can tell this from day one if a girl you meet on a dating app posts her social media in her bio. Doesn’t matter if it’s private or not.
You ain't lying bro.
the thing is a single dad and a single mom getting together is the 2nd best possible scenario for the CHILDREN'S sake, me personally im 23 with no kids but I have a coworker who is a single father in a 10 year relationship with a single mother and they are working together to raise the 2 boys and that is beautiful especially so the children have both a father and mother figure to look up to at least in their lives. We cant live in a delusional world of perfect lives with perfect outcomes. It's great to be idealistic but REAL LIFE is far more complex than that.
Great post man.
Your 23. I got boots older than you.
@@ryanupchurch9683 yeah? and I have to train guys older than you, congrats bud
Love when he said it’s the opposite for single fathers ❤.
Single father of 2 daughters since 3&6 . One just graduated top 10% and got a full ride to a great university. The other is 14 starts highschool this fall . I’ve always thought this
Good job bro, proud of you 💪
We’ll done, brother.
They're just grifting and pandering.. single dads are low value too 💯💯💯
@@djwhakademiks Orale carnal
@@richardguzman6426 I'm glad you agree with me 💯
My Bf took in a single mom of four. He got out of a 20+yr marriage, so this is his 1st rodeo with a single mom. I myself know this is a no no. I watch her. She has one job cause she does not work. That is clean the house, she doesn't even do that. So i tell him you may need to guide her in the direction you want her cause she seems to be getting comfortable being taken care of. Him and i cut down a dead tree for a fire, he had a emergency with his MC and had to leave so i finished cutting up the tree and moving the logs to the pit. Shes playin with her kids the entire time, which is fine. He gets back cooks dinner she washes the dishes but asked me to wipe down the counters and stove. I'm like who are you 🤨, I spent hrs dead lifting logs on a truck and moving them for a fire i dont care about for a friend and you cant take 5mins to clean the fkn kitchen. Men STAY AWAY from single moms DO NOT move in with these women. If it didn't work with her kids fathers what makes u think ur the exception! Sry so long but i cant stand single moms that dont do shit but exists.
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a single mother your wife.
Agreed
Oldie but goody song...i see what you did here.
Dealing with single moms is not a difficult concept. Just smash, dash, and don't look back.
The problem with that, is you know they are fertile and pro-life. You're gonna end up on Maury.
Stupid advice.
Just make sure you get tested at the clinic afterwards, the latest CDC statistics on venereal diseases would blow your mind
AVOID her as soon you discover she is single mom.
@@marcomarco7099just pull out and tell her that’s how it’s done
The worst thing also is that it’s completely going against how men are designed. We don’t want to be around the seed of another man with the woman we choose to love, I’ve done it and it’s fucking weird, wasn’t for me. I’m like what am I doing here.
I felt the same way. It's not natural.
I think until you experience it you don’t really know how it’ll be. Though the thought of a single mom was always off putting and I never really understood why until I tried it. Now this chick was absolutely stunning, great sex kept me there a little while. But the spawn of another man always around, kids that look like the other man is just fucking weird. Never again
Most men don't even want to be around their own children. The fact you call them seed is very telling.
@@susanplatt5331shhh, men are never wrong and always have pure intentions despite females evil tricks...have you not learned any manosphere wisdom?! 😂
@@susanplatt5331i mean thats a male term lmao
Im a single father. My daughter has best grades and everyone admires how she got raised. I have to admit that i have no desire in dating because i dont gamble. Having more children and risk not having their costudy if stuff goes wrong is to much of a risk. Also im on my grind- so to stay focused i stay off women.
I went to lunch with a single and we had our daughters with us and she wanted her little girl to call the father to say happy birthday and the little girl was like “no I don’t wanna talk to daddy” that’s all I needed to hear to not go on a 2nd date. I don’t want my daughter brainwashed!
Lol be quiet incel, you are single for life!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Real one 😂😂😂
I’m a single father but I’d never marry a single mother. That would just put me into another shitty relationship
Same. I don’t have full custody though and mine is 16 nearly an adult. No way I’m going for a single mom.
Same mate I am divorced with a 12 year old son have no interest in another man's kids and some blended family absolutely pathetic my son gets all my time money and emotion
So you want a single woman for yourself but she should not expect the same ie a single man for herself. OF COURSE because she is female. Yes, they should educate young woman about how men will consider her spoiled goods before they enter relationships. You of course as a biological male deserve the earth and the sun.
I haven’t seen Elliot since 2009 housing cash. I was out of work and depressed but watching him keep me going. Great to see that he is still on UA-cam
Bought that T-shirt too. The kids are young adults now, and they still show appreciation that I was there at a vulnerable time of their lives. So it wasn't completely for nothing.
But in the end, you're settling on a situation you don't prefer, with a woman who has it in her head that men in general (and fathers in particular) are only meant to come and go. Nothing short of counselling is going to convince her otherwise.
Very true. Many times the kids hate you because the Dad took off.
No, their mom ran him off but lies to the kids. They kids grow up, learn the truth then cut off the moms. All while the moms claim they did everything they could and when they turn older have their hand out for retirement funds ,housing and everything else.
4:00 even though the television tries to convince you that men are bumbling idiots and the woman is the hero of the household.
I am a divorced Muslim woman in my 40s with children. I am in love with reading and gardening and shall be nurturing no other pretentious desires for blended families and the like. In Islam the recommendation in cases of divorce is that the children go into the custody of the father who traditionally would make use of his female relations to help raise his children. So the point made at 4:30 is spot on. Children raised by single mothers really suffer from a lot of unspoken and unrecognised harms that play themselves out over more than one generation. My children are very “good kids”, but being raised by me (because dad was bipolar and a range of other things) they do not respect me anywhere near the level that they should and I will never be able to find a substitute father who will tell them to “respect your mother”. The best I can ever hope to do for them is explain what a healthy family relationship should look like because my opportunity to model it is gone. It is a ship that has sailed and divorced single mothers would do so much better to understand that than trying to chase down the ship.
Edit: Sorry I made a mistake re custody; custodianship is usually the mother’s until puberty but the father is financially responsible and naturally will have access to his children. If a divorced Muslim woman remarries, her claim to custody is renounced.
Don't listen to these creeps. There are good guys out there that when they care for you will be strong for you. Dating is possible at any age, women don't freeze at age 21. If adult men cannot handle adult issues, they are users, selfish, and lazy. Alpha Santa Claus is the bearded one but instead of ho ho ho it's hate hate hate-
@@katherinechase3674 you women are the users. Wtf are you talking about? It’s the ONLY reason why single mothers want to get married. So that you can use a man for Everything that he has. Buy a dog and die alone.
Very interesting information. Thank you.
Very interesting
@@katherinechase3674 she ain’t listening to you Muslim women aren’t stupid they’re never gonna take advice from Western 304 sexually promiscuous women, which is why you ladies are upset if they’re no longer taking advice from other women
Just broke up with a single mother, age 45, with 4 kids. Kids were monsters, never disciplined. The oldest, 15, has beat up the mother before. I told her if he ever put his hands on her in my presence, the scrawny fucker was getting his ass beat and then going to jail.
She told me if I ever did that, it would be over for us….
I am single now.
She immediately put up a profile on a dating website that reads… “Single mom of 4 kids, just got out of a high conflict divorce and looking for long term relationship”
I was sad at first… now I see that I dodged a bullet
You did. She's looking for help + attention, not love.
Happy to see this collab, been watching both of ya'll for awhile. Plus eilliot has a success marriage, so we are getting both sides of the picture. Divorce machine from Rich and successful marriage from elliot
Wild. My biological father is an absolute piece of shit. My stepfather is the person who molded me into the man I am today. Former Marine combat veteran, college graduate, living my best life. And I have a hell of a dad in my corner any time I need him.
That’s amazing bro, but do you consider the issues this brings up from irresponsible woman giving themselves for free to whoever she wants then sucker a poor schmuk that she wouldn’t be caught dead in her early 20s to raise her kids? That’s not fair and it’s the point… if they start asking for $5000 for a 1B apartment in Oklahoma and people agree to pay it nothing will change if no one pays it, they will put the price at a reasonable number
Yeah it’s always the woman’s fault lol… sounds like the OP contradicted your blanket unbending selfish world view
Exceptions do exist. Your situation certainly sounds like one.
I know lots of families where the mother remarried after widowhood or leaving abuse. Those guys are amazing. Some of those kids really love and appreciate their stepdads. Hope this never happens to me and my husband.😱
yea dont listen to theses dwebs saying men are cucks to take on a women with kids, she could have escaped a bad situation and hes her hero.
I’ve sound the statistics are absolutely true, twice. Not knowing any better, I married one in my mid 20s. I’m in my 40s now. I wish this content existed back then. Fast forward 20 years, I got involved with one after divorce. She was well off, not from divorce. Successful career. Killer looks. I thought what the hell, I’m a single dad, this makes sense. I was wrong. Literally the same list Rich outlines. Several months in all the issues reared their head. Badly in debt, boatload of anti depressants being hidden, very serious issues with the kids. Dropped her and instantly she was back to looking for the next. Never again lol
One of my very best friends 20 years ago raised another woman’s two daughters ( single mom) he was a good guy , but the girls ended up despising my friend, and the woman ended up divorcing him AFTER the two girls were raised on HIS money, even in my simpiest days I knew he was being played, and he was, NEVER be my friend
The social media pics is very telling. I was hit up by a married woman a few months ago off and on. We had a very short relationship many years ago. She now has 4 kids and is married. It got a bit flirty and reminiscing on her end about old times. I’ve stopped entertaining that because I don’t want to be in the middle of that and I don’t want to have a relationship with a single mom again. I have noticed she’s been posting pics of how in love she is with her husband lately. I’ve also seen that with other couples too. They make sappy lovey posts and within a year it’s over.
She will either accept your role as the husband she needs or try and emasculate you down to being her youngest child. Know when to walk, Kings.
You are absolutely right, but it works both ways. I'm happily married, but, if I was single, I would never date a man, who had children, regardless of what he could potentially bring to the table. I have zero interest in raising children, that are not mine.
Once someone decides to have a child, they must accept that their romantic market value nosedives. Most single people with kids act like that's not true.
I am very happy that men as a society are joining for their mental and financial well being again. Personally, I am tired of being the slave in society having to take care of everyhting and getting nothing in return.
Women on the other side not only have to have all their demands met, but society and the media keep pushing society to erase our voices, concerns, and need's as men.
I love channels like this one, It heelps me personally to know that I am not alone on this thought process, even some women like Pearl are starting to notice how unfair it is to be a men now a days. Men work all sorts of jobs just to deliver food to the tables, and women sharing their bodys on platforms earn more than most CEO's. Let me be clear I am not mysogynistic, i love and respect women as EQUAL.
However, the only thing we can do just for today, is get advice from platforms like this, be aware, be conscious.
Hopefully in the future we will have a more balanced society where men and women respect eachother, and have EQUAL RIGHTS.
I have to take issue with the guys saying “a single mom will always put her children before you”. First, no only the good single moms will do this. The sorry ones will put you before their children. By the way guys, If you have children with a woman and she’s a good mother you move to the back of the line the moment the first child is born. As does mom. If you are good parents the children’s needs always come before your needs and those of your spouse.
💯. Been there dine that . I hope the young men watching listen very carefully to this.
SM's are in "mom mode" for so long that it's hard to get out of it. They are used to being the boss and being able to dictate everything. When a man comes in they are quick to treat him like one of the children and try to be his boss.
The Good moms are. I’ve been on a date with a single mom and she swore she puts her man first even before her child and I left then and there. You’re willing to put men you just met before your child is already a red flag that she’s a shit mother
Been there and got the t shirt to🤣. Love makes you do stupid things. Lessoned learned here… keep getting the word out to the young guys.. maybe they won’t make the same mistake.. I’ve always had to learn things the hard way.. great video👍🏻
That thing about being raised by a single father is absolutely true. I make a hundred and fifty k a year, own a porsche, n two houses. Lol. Guess it's kind of a revenge thing. But seriously, we had a positive role model of provider so we know very well how to do that.
Life Is hard enough already, no need to burden yourself with someone else's responsibility
Dated a single mom when I was in my 20’s. I great learning experience on why not to date a single mom. It is a no win situation. Kids are not yours so you can not discipline. A choice of a good mother with no time to spend with you or a bad mother not taking care of her kids. The only situation maybe if the kids are at a age that they are going to move out of the house. You can not feel sorry for these women, they made a bad decision to have kids with a man and the relationship failed. The sad fact in life that I did not learn until I was older is that most women really do not give a crap about the man they marry. They simply want kids and a guy to provide for them. A hard truth many men refuse to believe. You can be friends, hook up occasionally, but no serious relationship.
Yes. Please, if you have a sister tell her then not to trust a man ever...lest she be left behind a single mother with 3 kids after her husband cheats. She will be considered a useless piece of shit after bearing kids.
@@jennifer9325 she always knew that. That is why she was very selective in choosing her husband and was married for 20 plus years. Not some nagging women on UA-cam who husband finally got sick of it and found another woman.
@@MrWoowootila So every married woman whose husband cheats deserves to be cheated on? You should know better. People cheat because they are cheaters.
@@jennifer9325 life is not black and white and relationships that end both parties to sum degree are to blame. The reality of life is a women who has kids is more difficult to date, so why go to the hassle. Plenty of women out there. Woman age like milk and men like wine. I do not make the rules, it’s been like that for centuries. The problem is feminism, lies to women. If you’re a woman and want to have children make sure you find the right guy and keep him happy. No one wants to come home to a complaining woman. You made your bed, quit complaining about being a victim and move on. Life is too short.
I've had good affairs with SMs, but that was only when we both agreed that I'd never meet the children, and she'd never bring them into my life or our affair. It would only be me and her getting together to screw each other, and that was that. As long as both parties know the score, and she doesn't expect you to be a temporary 'uncle' or long term father, and both of you can go out socialising with your (the man's) friends as a couple, then it's fine.
Exactly what I'm going through and part of my relationship has been affected tremendously things are not the same anymore
I know a guy, very successful (high value), handsome in his 40s, never married with no kids and he’s dating a woman with two kids who is also in her 40s, average looks. She had a failed business and probably in debt. I cannot understand why. It honestly blows my mind. I truly believe he’s captain save a hoe.
Are you talking about me? hahaha.
Men like to fulfill a need
Maybe he sees something great in her
@@cheetavontiebolt9971 they broke up so I guess she wasn’t that great
Excuse me because she is a mother automatically she is labelled as a hoe? You are as misogynistic AF.
You will always be a lower priority than her worst child. RC is right on the money. Women often post 'event' pictures without her present man.
Being a single mother really should be embarrassing
0:27 this dude said, "got a t shirt" 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 Ah ok the good ole I'm a doctor t shirt 😂😂😂😂😂
You can’t build a legacy with another man’s seed bro! 💯
#1 reason - her child will always be more important than the man. in her eyes the MAN is replicable.
Elliot is great. Went to one of his camps back in 2018. Great experience.
I am 51. In 1995 I was 22 US Army stationed in Germany 🇩🇪. Met gorgeous Brazilian who had 2 kids w German and was getting divorced. I fell in love. But, I knew it was a bad call….
Army asked if I wanted to extend 1 more year in Germany? I said no, knowing it would hasten our break up. It did. 1998, I was back in USA 🇺🇸, and got a Christmas 🎄 card from her w new last name Tucker and military address. She married another soldier. 2004, I bumped into her in Germany 🇩🇪 again !! She had another kid w the American. I was an officer now. We had a 1 hour conversation. Caught up. They moved to Georgia. 2019, I went back to Germany. I FB peeked her. Divorced. AGAIN.
I am happy w my wife and 2 kids in California. I was lucky 🍀. It’s painful. Like cutting off your infected leg. But, you will be better off. Trust me. I wish I could talk to her 2nd ex husband and ask if he felt it was worth it. He got 2 kids out of her, so maybe? But, now I know she is bound to him and Georgia for YEARS due to custody. Oh well. Life.
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We all do it at least once. If you both have kids it's a fair deal, if she's hot and doing things for you that you like, but they will never be your kids. If you're not broken, you should stay away from broken things and go find your own family.
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Maaaan, Rich and Elliott Hulse. Homeboy got me through my teens and 20’s in the gym. Still giving. Great dude.
Absolutley correct in setting boundaries and the " tone" right from the start.....in any relationship for that matter.......
You have to be a "The Best of the Best" of Men to marry a single mom!
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Outstanding knowledge, thank you!!!
3:45 this is not as common in most european countries btw, it does happen but it's definitely frowned upon.
I don't care what the woman looks like... even if she's an 8 or a 9, if she's got a kid or more in tow, I wouldn't even look at her.
Me to I don't simp or date single mother bad deal I date ones never again single mother should date single father make more sense
Dragged up by a single mother , welfare numerous men poverty always moving, never had a settled life, joined a gang when young as didn't know any better, been incarcerated, I'm older now don't gb anymore but I still have hang ups over how difficult I had it, single mothers should not be celebrated they break children because of hate for their fathers & other emotional baggage.
I dated a single mom for over a year. It was the most stressful experience I have ever been in. Kid was poorly behaved, dad was a dead beat, I had to pay for almost everything… mom was angry at the kid all the time it was a constant toxic stressful situation that I never want to get in again. I’m glad I had the experience though because now I have a lovely childless 29 year old gf and I appreciate how pleasant she is. Even when she gets in a mood I’m like jeez this is nothing lol.
I didnt survive teen pregnancy to become a step-dad lol
Stealing that.
So true.. I used to date a girl with a kid and he would kick me all the time. One time he got me good and I held his legs so he couldn’t kick me. His mom instantly defended him and made me feel like a abusive step dad. Her family always looked at me like a weirdo or like I would treat the kid bad. Sooo you want me to care for this kid but allow them to kick and spit on people?! I’m sorry but if that my kid I’m giving them a nice pinch behind the arm like my mom used to do to me. It’s like a jolt of electricity and will get any kid to stop immediately. I’m all set with that step dad role, it makes you feel like a sucker! I did love that girl because I knew her before she had the baby. I know I would’ve married her if she didn’t have a kid. Smh
ive been dating this girl for a few months now she has a few month old should i just leave?
@@Poeticjustice4ell Keep dating, don't marry.
Marriage is where most men go wrong
Yup....!!! Cant save them Single Momma's and Can't make a 304 into a House Wife!!!
My ex had a kid and had a lot of selfies on her Instagram using filters. Two of my rules was never date a chick with kids and that uses Instagram haha. I broke both of them and gave it a chance. Back fired. If a girl post a lot of selfies with filters that is a huge red flag. Low self esteem
Even if a girl post pics of you two beware she could be trying to make another guy jealous. Try to find a girl that doesn’t need to update complete strangers on her personal life.
I love hearing from the “my wife is perfect” men. It helps give hope.
Sounds good but you eventually hear "I don't know what happened I thought everything was fine "
The thing is Rich, we are all simps to these single mommies, only some of us by force through taxation.
Nah..ur a simp…don’t include everyone in this
I remember this guy back in the day giving good advise from the seat of his sports car
Single mother will tell you that she has an expectation from you and that youll always come 2nd!!! Why would any normal guy settle down for that? On top of all that bullshit you have to deal with the father of the child, child whose life his/her parents already ruined when they got divorced, and single mother's drunking/prescription drugs problems!!!! NO, THANK YOU. Whoever put that baby in you must pay for that child's needs. Dont expect other men to finance your child!!!
A single mom nowadays is not a good situation for a man, best to work on yourself and women will come to you.
DNA test for all children born in the US should be required. The child has a right to know true parents.
It is required if you as a man do it, regardless of what your woman thinks.
Yes. In order for any future child support, there should be both the father's signature on the certificate, and a DNA test. In the past DNA tests were pricey. This is no longer the case.
5 year LTR ended last week. She is a single mom. I didn’t know any of these red flags before I met my ex 5 years ago. At the time I was 24 and ex was 23. Her child was only 2.5. I watched her grow up (she’s 8 this year) it’s nuts.
I’m getting over my ex no problem. Lots of red flags from Rich’s book that I know what to look for.
The most painful part is talking to her daughter (who I loved as mine) and trying to explain and sooth her worries about her mom leaving me. I wouldn’t wish this pain on my enemy. It’s gut wrenching to think this baby girls world Is shattered.
I know in the future it’s gods plan but man is it painfull
I had a single mother try & hit me up, her kids were broke & I saw where this was going, made my excuses & bailed, we all know she’d of been, but x needs this & Y is broke this month. I’m no cash machine for her 2 broke arse kids.
Most of these guys are accurate, they just lose me with “rehabilitation” tactics, rather than “termination” tactics, once you have to put your foot down and threaten them it’s over anyway
As heartless as the people in this comment section may seem, you guys are saving lives and anguish.
I want to bring up something that nobody really mentions as someone who (regretfully) has dated a single mom. When they created that kid(s) they didn’t have high standards for themselves (likely). Now for their next relationship or the replacement father to their kids they expect more. And when you get in to an argument you will think “why could this other guy get away with things that I can’t” to add to a laundry list of inferior thoughts. And to add to that:
Guaranteed loss - Money, Priority, Time Spent
Potential gain - Respect from the kids
It is almost impossible to feel adequate
Does it apply the other way around ? If you get a man who re marries and then the new wife becomes a step mother ? Either all the children were from him and his previous relationship , or there was 1 child from that then the other kid ( s ) are with the current relationship . Resulting in a mix of siblings .
I was brought up by stepfather since I was 7, Im grateful he was in my life. My biological father never ever contacted us ever. If it were not for my stepfather my life would of have been much different
90 seconds in and already making huge points. i was in relationships with 3 different single moms. my conclusion is you get 100% parental obligations, 100% of costs, and 0% of the credit.
If every man avoided single mothers society would get better. Leave them to their fate.
Men can't stay away from them. There is so many that it all men stayed away from single mothers a lot won't ever get their piece played with. Trusts the conundrum men are in
My one bro was shacked up with a woman who had 3 kids by 3 different fathers. My other bro owned a cabin that he rarely used located not too far from the first bro's house. She actually had the ballz to ask bro #2 if she could have a set of keys, so she could use it for her love shack. She didn't say that, but it was obvious. Bro #2 immediately ratted her out to Bro #1 (duh!). After he threw her out, her 2 sons who were minors stayed with him.
It's time for single moms to eat some consequences. You made poor choices, bail yourselves out.
Same with single fathers. Dont want it.
@@ewoman3584women leave marriages 90% of cases
Yeah
@@samjon6403Yes, because at that point, someone has to be the one doing that. Alot of men seem to be able to cruise along for ages, even If in a dead relationship/marriage.
@@jessicasvensson3258 nah because they know laws favor women and know how to play the system
Stay away from single parents period!!!!
No LTR w single mommy’s. No matter how cool they are. A few months with the boundaries set and no contact with the kid, and that’s it. Do not commit
Dating a single mom you will ALWAYS be dead LAST on her list of priorities. Kids will ALWAYS be first, then her family, her friends, any pets, coworkers, and yes....Even the kid's father will be more of a priority than you....And there will always be the chance for the father to smash....If you go into a relationship with a single mom, this is what you have to look forward to. Casual sex at the most and leave it at that....Anything more than that and you are setting yourself up for failure.
This video really helped alot!! I just broke up with my ex she is a single mother and she has alot of of these red flags. Im glad i made the right choice.and my life has been easier since then
Save? Naw my brother. If you think you need to SAVE a woman then you've already screwed up.
You will not get a loan with bad credit score.
Child from another man - is a bad credit score
I like that elliot lets rich speak. Some people cut the other off with their opinions