'Met' That's very vague. You mean you banged/had a relationship with her but bolted before long? That's still pretty low behaviour. If you mean this woman hit on you and you bolted, then that is acceptable behaviour.
I actually had a child with a woman with 4 kids from 3 different fathers and ours made 5. So 5 children from 4 different fathers now. She monkey branched and now I'm alone but swallowing red pills like vitamins and vicodin and am at peace with my ignorance and am pursuing my best interest knowing that I'm not the common denominator.
Maaaad respect to this dude for showing up on here and admitting to simping along with all the details. Not an easy thing to do. Yeah his story definitely hits home for me.
I thought that he doesn't want others to fall into the same mistake he did that's a good guy. Learn from your mistakes and help others do the same and the world becomes a better place.
I was having sex with a girl on the regular. Come to find several months later she was engaged with someone and he had no idea about me. I reached out to him about it. A year later he sent me a message thanking me and telling me that dumping her was the best thing to happen in his life. The truth sets a lot of us free, but some of us can't stomach it
I think you are no good or bad, you are just a man, a real one, because the men we suppose do that, you don't flirt a married or engaged woman, not to say about getting involved with those type of women, because that's why this days they don't care to cheat because they know they have a lot of simps willing to take them every time they play the victim role, so let's respect and protrect each other and cut that behavior one at the time and eventually they will have to respect us...
Not every single mother is bad. What has not been said is where are the men that leave their kids behind. How did she become a single mother? Did her husband die, did she suffer from domestic violence. It's sad that some of you are putting all single mothers in a box. It's not black and white, there are lots of shades of grey in life. So women should not date single fathers? Find a decent person. The girl that he was with was obviously a hoe and trifling, 3 kids but 3 daddies by the age of 25? I would have ran myself. There are plenty of single mothers that are wonderful, it's sad that the nasty ones ruin good men for us that are loyal and want to take care of their man. Just to simply move up the next level together, a partnership. God bless.
It's not better to not date one its life saving. I rlly got rekt by an insane one, she is my neighbor and returned to her ex. I had to escape this situation, when i returned to my apartment i heard them talking at her balcony and before i seen them in the park. Can u imagine this.. She said "cheating is a family thing" and she healed that with a chamanic ritual to then cheat on me. This is insanity at is best. I will take revenge on her one day, there is a limit what u can do to people. I must move away now from my own apartment because of this ***...
@@LRProductionsllc Nothing but stress and drama from single mums ! And always drama from kids father too, kids usally rude and disrespectful and tou cant discipline them! Evan If there good kids you bond with them and when the relationship ends you have zero rights to see those kids ! Save your heart , your head and your wallet ! Stay da f away from single mums !
I got with a girl with 2 kids when I was 19 and she went on to absolutely destroy me. I'm 45 now and only just rebuilding a happy single life. Guys, you have to be soooooo careful, I cannot emphasize that enough to you.
quick story. My best friend had a bright future. He met my cousin. 3 kids 3 diff dads. She made a move. He fell for it. I begged him not to pursue. He started to listen. My cousin freaked out crying to me how I am going to ruin her chance at true love. I backed off. They had a kid. BUT they are still together and its been 10 years. So...There is a bright side. They are happy. I just know he could have had a better life. But who knows. Maybe he is happiest in this life. It just was a shame.
It really depends. I dated one once in my 20's that was very caring who I loved a lot. I only paid half the bills when I moved in the entire relationship. The major downside is that the kids father would visit, but I never had a problem with him. The only reason why the relationship ended is that she wanted to have a kid with me and get married.. I guess my experience is apparently rare, but all the men who think it's automatically going to be doom and gloom need to realize there are decent single moms out there who aren't looking for you to pay their bills and fuck multiple men on the side. Also, I will admit that I was in the wrong because at the time I did lead her on to think one day think Imight be ready to have a kid with her/get married... if I was a good human being, I would have left sooner because I knew I wouldn't ever want to
@@gjergjaurelius9798 how is she bitter and yet all through the comments men are saying don't date single mothers. Don't date single fathers because who wants to deal with baby mama drama.
It sucks but most guys have to learn for themselves. My dad always taught me you always throw back the prettiest ones because they will eventually leave on their own. The funny thing is when you do this they become obsessed with you.
My own mother was a single mom. Re-Married a doctor and sucked him dry til he died. He was the most miserable human being that I know as a kid. Never saw him smile once.
@@nicedoppy2077 No. I did not benefit much from their money. Never went on vacations and only used the cheapest things. My mother was in charge of the finances and she made sure to save money on her kids too. Also didn’t really have a childhood and realized I’m pretty much fucked if I don’t get ahead on my own because having no real father. So I left home at 18 years old, went to college at my own expenses. Worked 2 jobs, got lucky in the stock market and then got into real estate. I didn’t have a girlfriend until 26 and focused on excellence. Worked every waking moment of my day and used all of my brain power to learn and get ahead. Now I’m in my early 30s and all I can say is life is very good for me.
@@jameszhang1127 u dont understand the question.... I dont ask if u benefit from his money (u has said your mother sucked him).... but if u got gratitude to him?
I remember I was dating a single mom with one kid. The chick was as old as my oldest sister, 35, while I was 28. I never dated her for anything serious but the part that got me the most is when her 10 year old boy was at dinner with us, and he said that “we can be a family again!” Referring to me as the father figure…. In my heart of hearts, that’s when I knew it was my time to bail. I could never be a father figure to someone else’s seed when I haven’t even started a family of my own with my own child. I broke up with the chick, but she knew what it was, we gotta keep it moving, you can’t stop your destiny for women.
It wasnt your obligation to stay. But it takes a good person to take care of another mans kids without prejudice. , and Millions of Children wouldn’t ever have had a father figure if the Step-Dads didnt step in and take on the roll that the Sperm Donor ran away from….it is not weakness…. A Man absolutely needs a Father in his life especially in his formative years, Everything from how a man uses Money to how he treats women is influenced and formed in his Brain years ago when he was a child and how he saw HOW A MASCULINE RESPECTED MAN CARRYS HIMSELF THROUGH THE WORLD…. Real Men raise Real Men….Luckily I was blessed with the best father anyone could ask for….he was stern and was never cuddly or overly Loving …I wasn’t spoiled….I was very much afraid of him simply because his very presence demanded respect….but he was SOLID…and he showed me how to WORK and HUSTLE and Carve out my spot into the world and how to always be down for my family. My Family is absolutely #1. We take care of our own. He also showed me how to manage money and use it to work for you…Besides basic living until adulthood…Ive never had to ask him for anything, hes showed me Independence…..and I really didn’t even really realize it until way into adulthood. I owe that man everything….He made me STRONG 💪🏼
Man I couldn't help but so hard but laugh when I read this. The part at dinner had tears rolling down my eyes. I know you were like umm yea...time to go
This is why you dont date single moms if you don't plan on accepting the role you're going to eventually play. You're not a winner in this story. It was just something you didnt want to be a part of. Children need men/father figures in their lives and you weren't willing to play the part. That's fine. But I think its goofy when people think they dodged a bullet that they willingly chose to stand in front of.
What do you expect from a single mom? None of these women, who destroy their own families and deprive their children from a father will ever be loyal, or genuinely caring. These women will march you into suicide, play the victims and laugh about your suffering. I know what I am talking abut.
I feel in love because “ that was the best I thought I could get”. This is a reality for so many including myself💕. This is a good looking dude and seems smart. He’ll find his queen.
I have MD therefore I can't build muscle I have to preserve what I have left, thank you for all the content, was a beta bucks guy, unfaithful wife, now living my best life, alpha mindset. My confidence and attitude gets me laid about once a month.Maintaing a mental frame is just as important.
Damn.. I know nothing about this.. I wider if a high protein diet such as animal based (eggs, meat, fish, collagen, butter, any animal product food) like carnivore would help with this 🥺🤔
Damn lol. He was taking all that baggage and difficulty and paying bills with this woman and other guys were getting free sex behind his back at his expense. Lol. A difficult lesson learnt for him and a free lesson learnt for others, thanks for sharing.
@@johncantlin563 bro, you’re a good looking dude. With a cool Laid back personality. You need to know your worth dogg! You can absolutely do wayy better. Which im sure you are coming to terms with that fact. Best of Luck homie
My old neighbor had 5 kids and the man she was with was only the father of 2. They would fight so much it was sad to the point their kids would knock on my door asking for help. He finally left her, she moved & followed me on social media and had the audacity to ask to hang out smh I blocked her 😭
I'm from South Africa, women in the USA are freaking crazy! I must share this on my SA pages. Nobody speaks about these kinds of women in SA! They must exist and guys need to be enlightened. Well done Rich and John C.
@@Hair-today my whole life hey :) surfed seal point, in your home town, quite a few times. My best friend lived across the road from supertubes/boneyards in jeffreys bay so I would fly down often to see him :)
@@Hair-today No I dont, I have not been down that side for many years now but have great memories of surfing the eastern cape. Last time I was there was a trip to Coffee Bay and Hole in the wall.
They humping at young ages these days, also hitting puberty really early. Probably all the hormones pumped into the food we eat, the American diet is awful
@@MX-CO lol in smaller slightly rural communities you see it too. About 10 yrs ago this dude who was probably 18/19 yrs old told me ‘shoot these days these girls gettin broke in at 14’ I was like shiiiit. Back in my hs days it wasn’t like that.
The guy is good looking too and this crap happens lol... Their entitlement never ends even when they have already had someone else's kids. DON'T DATE THEM GENTLEMEN
I’m 6’1, buff, tatted, a former model and this happened to me. Not a single mom, but she cheated for some drug dealer. Whatever you can give them becomes their minimum acceptable effort. There is never “enough”. She will always want bigger, better, more and she feels wholly entitled to it.
@@Thiiink precisely. It’s called Analysis Paralysis. When given too many choices, people can fail to pick one, and if they do pick one, the sheer amount of choices unexplored will cause them to feel regret.
Wish this young man all the best! Huge respect for his accountability in his mistakes and his willingness to strive to be a better guy and avoid the pitfalls in the dating world.
The rarity of good looking women in American has younger guys disparate and settling for single mother's. Luckily when you older and wealthier you can travel to where beautiful women are common.
@@babitapandhare1889 The land of gold-diggers dude. They're only looking for an escape from Russia (there are countless videos showing this). I like Russia, but it's a backwards thinking country.
John C. seems to be a very nice guy! I’m from Brazil and all I can say is the Red Pill community is gaining power over here so chin up everyone!! Cheers 💪🏼
Rich has sound advice and in my humble opinion he is a man with real integrity & morals and I really admire that. Thank you for your content Rich. It helps more men than you probably know.
I know this is not a space for women, but I want to say sorry to the men that have been hurt. I remember having good guys liked me and feeling eh. Then I got burned bad by one and it changed my perspective. I am now married to a good man and I swear when a man hits on me or one that recently dug my email up and sent me a message I don’t reply and delete them immediately. I want my Marriage. Plus this whole taking half from your husband really upsets me to my core. I don’t want to ever be that and god knows I don’t want to pay a penny to a lawyer. I hope and pray for my marriage to be one of the good ones.
I went through something so similar, she was screwing my family member and other guys for drugs. Thank you for the help and getting me to break the cycle and moving forward! Be easy and do the work and heal bro, it gets so much better.
I relate to his story so much...not having a dad around and not knowing HOW to BE a man and a gentleman. This sphere of content and influencers has been a sort of father figure to me as well this kid. I pray it keeps getting better and better and that it never goes away because it is priceless stuff. CHEERS TO ALL OF YOU MEN WHO ARE DOING THE WORK!!!
Congratulations for looking inward and honestly changing your mind & body. This dude is definitely someone you should be listening to and talking advice from!!
First off I'd like to point out that this guy is real. What a great interview. This dude clearly was lost and needed this to happen in order for him to wake up.. so it sounds like a blessing in disguise. A lot of this comes down to being a direct reflection of our culture and societal collapse.
Kudos to John C to being interviewed and putting himself out there to explain his story. Not many men can do what he did. It just goes to show regardless of your present state, it is possible to do right by yourself. You just need the motivation like John C gave himself.
I tell my guy friends to watch out too. One of my friends got involved with a single mom too. She left kid with him and went partying. And my friend takes care of her kid. Crazy. Now he's finally awake. Thank God for that ! So refreshing to see how men today sharing this way. Keep up the healthy conversation!
It's so great to see that your videos were able to help this guy turn his life around. Your channel is such a valuable resource since it can reach men all around the planet!
These stories break my heart, thank God they found freedom ! I do believe in marriage, I also could never share guy, I know that sounds dumb here but I honestly couldn’t it would break my heart. ( I have been happily married for 7 years and we have two little girls ) however it’s not something people should walk into lightly , vetting is so key!
I can deeply resonate with his growing up story and can only admire another person being able to surpass such obstacles at a young age. Sounds like he will never follow in his father's footsteps 👏
As a person who has struggled with pain pills for years, it makes sense why your father did what he did. I can barely take care of myself let alone someone else. Opiate addiction is hell on earth. I don’t wish it on anyone. So good to hear this story, great job bro. Stay in the gym and get jacked. Trust me it’s worth it.
No I take pain meds and have for years, and I would have cut off my legs before I would have thrown my 14 year old kids out of my house, his Dad is a pos, and pain meds are no excuse, I’m really glad it worked out for this guy, but doesn’t let his Father off the hook for being hot garbage.
I remember chatting to a lady on a dating site that told me she had two kids. Chatting further and she had another four kids that had left home and she was only telling me about the ones that still live with her. 🏃🏃🏃🏃
this is great. im literally one of the dudes who just watches a bunch of the content and dont really do anything with it. not to say i havent turned my car into a learning center, and that ive stopped dealing with the wrong kind of women, but just the point that he said its going to be the hardest year of your life.....im kinda good right now. ive BEEN going thru hard years, and im not asking anyone to care, but im not interested in putting all this effort in, when im content having left the blue pill stuff behind. im sure ill get bored in a couple years and change my mind, and at that point i might be the one on the show telling my story. but for now, ive got a good job, ive got my own place, and i like sitting around smoking weed and watching youtube videos when im not working. ive got my podcast its not like i do nothing but i have zero interest in spending that amount of time in the gym, or money on trt, as much as id love a pleasurable 7 which i def dont currently deserve. but i know that i will realize when im ready to take that leap like i have with anything else ive accomplished in my life. chilling at home doing exactly what you want by yourself shouldnt be a punishment - def shouldnt be my only option lol, but you get what im saying
good work young man i'm glad you escaped in time. it is hard i went through similar situation w my ex. and thank you Rich for helping these young guys bless your heart. it is so difficult to accept the advice. i was like him i had to be proved wrong, catching her in bed w/another guy did it. do not move in, do not live together, do not get married. NEVER intertwine finances. my ex used my kids against me like a club. i lost my son and my daughter is worse than dead. she destroyed them just to get at me. i moved to alaska. i raise german shepherds, cheers brothers. semper fi.
Props to John for his inspirational story !! I was very lucky to be rp'd before I met this same exact woman. 3rd grade teacher, 3 kids 3 diff baby dads, she spilled the goods on her useless friends and her friends did the same for her...all did me a HUGE favor. She was shopping for #4 & found a beta provider who she pumped out a 4th kid with, he married her up, but she is still on all the dating sites shopping for #5.
John C, there is not much I can say which hasn't already been said however I still want to give you recognition for sharing everything you did. Many of us have been through what you have but unfortunately most guys won't be transparent like you were which means we don't get to hear other guys talk about going through that so we then begin to think that what we went through is not common at all which makes us feel even dumber and more isolated which means we never really figure out how to stop the cycle. The sooner more of us admit what we have done wrong and what our exes have done to us (regardless of how embarrassing it may be) the quicker all of us guys can figure out a solution. Your share helps many of us to do that so thank you John for being bluntly honest and thank you Rich for being a great teacher.
I wrote a gal in the philippines went there and thought we might get married she was a single mother 3 kids also and long story short after several years her sisters daughter texted me saying she has a 20 yr younger boyfriend and just being used for money.
John C is a living legend. He says his ex is 25 and her oldest kid is 11. Rich says, that's crazy she must have been 14 when she had the child, John replies oh no she was 16 at the time😂
probably he´s right.......she was 16 like he said, but at the moment John was living with her the boy was around 9 and almost more of one year after he ends that relationship the kid is now nearly 11 years old.... or do u believe this storie is staged ?.....
@@Lestergreen77 he is very stupid. He also claim they give him pure T for not growing. The protocol is Growth Hormone. He only been with her for 7 months. Jesus. Give me a break. Like it's his whole life story. Talks about work out all the time. I was also skinny naturally but now easy 235 pounds 6.1 mad strong man. This guy is all into money. Make me sick and his IQ is so low that it hurts me.
I feel the same about fatherly figures. I think Rich, and for me CRP I had found first, bring knowledge and experience that is so profoundly positive I can't help but feel a family like bond with them, perhaps even a father figure, or awesome uncle. But legit when you realize the constant confusion and misery life would have been without these people you can't help but feel only your family could ever love like that.
I met a girl that had 5 kids from 4 different dads. I ran so fast I could have won a gold medal 🏅
Lol 😂
😂😂😂🤡👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
'Met'
That's very vague. You mean you banged/had a relationship with her but bolted before long? That's still pretty low behaviour.
If you mean this woman hit on you and you bolted, then that is acceptable behaviour.
😂
I actually had a child with a woman with 4 kids from 3 different fathers and ours made 5. So 5 children from 4 different fathers now. She monkey branched and now I'm alone but swallowing red pills like vitamins and vicodin and am at peace with my ignorance and am pursuing my best interest knowing that I'm not the common denominator.
Maaaad respect to this dude for showing up on here and admitting to simping along with all the details. Not an easy thing to do. Yeah his story definitely hits home for me.
He is very honest. Much respect.
I'm happy because he looks like he's in a good place now.
Shows us things pass.
I thought that he doesn't want others to fall into the same mistake he did that's a good guy.
Learn from your mistakes and help others do the same and the world becomes a better place.
Yea he seems very at peace with all the shit that happened to him, no resentment. Just happy his life is going so much better
Mad respect for those two guys to be honest with him
I was having sex with a girl on the regular. Come to find several months later she was engaged with someone and he had no idea about me. I reached out to him about it. A year later he sent me a message thanking me and telling me that dumping her was the best thing to happen in his life. The truth sets a lot of us free, but some of us can't stomach it
You’re a good dude
@@andrewhanson9251 Thanks man. Usually I don't snitch like that but I couldn't let her get away with playin both of us
I think you are no good or bad, you are just a man, a real one, because the men we suppose do that, you don't flirt a married or engaged woman, not to say about getting involved with those type of women, because that's why this days they don't care to cheat because they know they have a lot of simps willing to take them every time they play the victim role, so let's respect and protrect each other and cut that behavior one at the time and eventually they will have to respect us...
GOD bless you sir
If true, he's a good dude. Most other dudes would continue with her even if he is aware she's involved with another man already. @andrewhanson9251
Thank God men are sharing these experiences and waking men up, it is so needed.
I hope the redpill continues to spread and all men become saved
Love this. 💪🏼❤️
I'm 54. Wish this was available 30 years ago.
@@Mike-tn2ii OMG, if I knew this 30 years ago, not just knew it but internalized it , Forgettaboutit!
@@Mike-tn2ii oh it was.......I'm sure your grandaddy, or another man from his generation told you the Truth about women.......
they all did 😂😂😂
A smart person learns from his mistakes, but a wise person learns from the mistakes of others. Take note fellas 👊
yea, but stupid people "never see the mistakes they make" 😂
so be careful wit dat lol
Much respect to John d , keep moving upward and onwards bro , peace too you my man 🤙😉
Golden comment!!
I agree
Dating a single mom is like shopping for a new car in a junk yard.
Run for the hills guys.
Well said 👏guy .
Or the best car that you know your not going to drive forever and pay for repairs
That’s not true I can fix a junk yard car
Not every single mother is bad. What has not been said is where are the men that leave their kids behind. How did she become a single mother? Did her husband die, did she suffer from domestic violence. It's sad that some of you are putting all single mothers in a box. It's not black and white, there are lots of shades of grey in life. So women should not date single fathers? Find a decent person. The girl that he was with was obviously a hoe and trifling, 3 kids but 3 daddies by the age of 25? I would have ran myself. There are plenty of single mothers that are wonderful, it's sad that the nasty ones ruin good men for us that are loyal and want to take care of their man. Just to simply move up the next level together, a partnership. God bless.
@@yolandawilson9852
Would you rather have your son date a single mother or someone without kids?
1. 100% respect to the guy who own his mistakes. I understand he has learned his lesson.
2. Never will I ever date a single mother regardless.
It's not better to not date one its life saving. I rlly got rekt by an insane one, she is my neighbor and returned to her ex. I had to escape this situation, when i returned to my apartment i heard them talking at her balcony and before i seen them in the park. Can u imagine this.. She said "cheating is a family thing" and she healed that with a chamanic ritual to then cheat on me. This is insanity at is best. I will take revenge on her one day, there is a limit what u can do to people. I must move away now from my own apartment because of this ***...
Nothing wrong with dating a single mother... as long as she's way older than you! Lol atleast from my experience.
Don’t date a single mom
Why not?
@@LRProductionsllc why deal with the headaches that come with it.
@@LRProductionsllc Nothing but stress and drama from single mums ! And always drama from kids father too, kids usally rude and disrespectful and tou cant discipline them! Evan If there good kids you bond with them and when the relationship ends you have zero rights to see those kids ! Save your heart , your head and your wallet ! Stay da f away from single mums !
100% facts bro nothing but stress and drama and rude disrespectful kids !
@@johnholmes2808 facts bro ! My life is a drama free zone!
I got with a girl with 2 kids when I was 19 and she went on to absolutely destroy me. I'm 45 now and only just rebuilding a happy single life. Guys, you have to be soooooo careful, I cannot emphasize that enough to you.
If a single mother has 3 kids from 3 different guys that tells us she has SERIOUS issues with men.
This guy has really turned his life around.
What would say her issues are?
My father always told us girls. You guard your womb and just know men may forgive one kid but beyond that you will be for everyone.
@@rmjmoviereviews6876Don;t know how to choose a guy is #1, #2 is not knowing how to use birth control
Serious issues including dating and having children with simps
quick story. My best friend had a bright future. He met my cousin. 3 kids 3 diff dads. She made a move. He fell for it. I begged him not to pursue. He started to listen. My cousin freaked out crying to me how I am going to ruin her chance at true love. I backed off. They had a kid. BUT they are still together and its been 10 years. So...There is a bright side. They are happy. I just know he could have had a better life. But who knows. Maybe he is happiest in this life. It just was a shame.
Single moms are a no-go zone. PERIOD
It really depends. I dated one once in my 20's that was very caring who I loved a lot. I only paid half the bills when I moved in the entire relationship. The major downside is that the kids father would visit, but I never had a problem with him.
The only reason why the relationship ended is that she wanted to have a kid with me and get married.. I guess my experience is apparently rare, but all the men who think it's automatically going to be doom and gloom need to realize there are decent single moms out there who aren't looking for you to pay their bills and fuck multiple men on the side.
Also, I will admit that I was in the wrong because at the time I did lead her on to think one day think Imight be ready to have a kid with her/get married... if I was a good human being, I would have left sooner because I knew I wouldn't ever want to
Same goes for single dads
@@JustActNormal bitter biotch everyone! 🤣👊🏻
Yep
@@gjergjaurelius9798 how is she bitter and yet all through the comments men are saying don't date single mothers. Don't date single fathers because who wants to deal with baby mama drama.
It's heartbreaking to hear what many of our brothers are going through. It's not right.
It sucks but most guys have to learn for themselves. My dad always taught me you always throw back the prettiest ones because they will eventually leave on their own. The funny thing is when you do this they become obsessed with you.
My own mother was a single mom. Re-Married a doctor and sucked him dry til he died. He was the most miserable human being that I know as a kid. Never saw him smile once.
u got gratitude to him?
@@nicedoppy2077 No. I did not benefit much from their money. Never went on vacations and only used the cheapest things. My mother was in charge of the finances and she made sure to save money on her kids too. Also didn’t really have a childhood and realized I’m pretty much fucked if I don’t get ahead on my own because having no real father. So I left home at 18 years old, went to college at my own expenses. Worked 2 jobs, got lucky in the stock market and then got into real estate. I didn’t have a girlfriend until 26 and focused on excellence. Worked every waking moment of my day and used all of my brain power to learn and get ahead. Now I’m in my early 30s and all I can say is life is very good for me.
@@jameszhang1127 u dont understand the question....
I dont ask if u benefit from his money (u has said your mother sucked him).... but if u got gratitude to him?
@@nicedoppy2077 what do you mean if I got gratitude towards him? I received absolutely no help from him. What’s there to be grateful about?
@@jameszhang1127 thats the answer....finally.
I remember I was dating a single mom with one kid. The chick was as old as my oldest sister, 35, while I was 28. I never dated her for anything serious but the part that got me the most is when her 10 year old boy was at dinner with us, and he said that “we can be a family again!” Referring to me as the father figure…. In my heart of hearts, that’s when I knew it was my time to bail. I could never be a father figure to someone else’s seed when I haven’t even started a family of my own with my own child. I broke up with the chick, but she knew what it was, we gotta keep it moving, you can’t stop your destiny for women.
It wasnt your obligation to stay.
But it takes a good person to take care of another mans kids without prejudice. , and Millions of Children wouldn’t ever have had a father figure if the Step-Dads didnt step in and take on the roll that the Sperm Donor ran away from….it is not weakness….
A Man absolutely needs a Father in his life especially in his formative years, Everything from how a man uses Money to how he treats women is influenced and formed in his Brain years ago when he was a child and how he saw HOW A MASCULINE RESPECTED MAN CARRYS HIMSELF THROUGH THE WORLD…. Real Men raise Real Men….Luckily I was blessed with the best father anyone could ask for….he was stern and was never cuddly or overly Loving …I wasn’t spoiled….I was very much afraid of him simply because his very presence demanded respect….but he was SOLID…and he showed me how to WORK and HUSTLE and Carve out my spot into the world and how to always be down for my family. My Family is absolutely #1. We take care of our own. He also showed me how to manage money and use it to work for you…Besides basic living until adulthood…Ive never had to ask him for anything, hes showed me Independence…..and I really didn’t even really realize it until way into adulthood.
I owe that man everything….He made me STRONG 💪🏼
Man I couldn't help but so hard but laugh when I read this. The part at dinner had tears rolling down my eyes. I know you were like umm yea...time to go
@@Blake-ld7mx Internally, I was like "the universe is giving me my signal to bail already" lol
This is such a didactic life story. Glad you found enough courage to end it then and there
This is why you dont date single moms if you don't plan on accepting the role you're going to eventually play. You're not a winner in this story. It was just something you didnt want to be a part of. Children need men/father figures in their lives and you weren't willing to play the part. That's fine. But I think its goofy when people think they dodged a bullet that they willingly chose to stand in front of.
First red flag. Having a kid at 14!
What do you expect from a single mom? None of these women, who destroy their own families and deprive their children from a father will ever be loyal, or genuinely caring. These women will march you into suicide, play the victims and laugh about your suffering. I know what I am talking abut.
He fell for the real men date single moms and got fucked over typical 🤦♂️
I feel in love because “ that was the best I thought I could get”. This is a reality for so many including myself💕. This is a good looking dude and seems smart. He’ll find his queen.
There are no "queens", bro. Unless you're gay, of course. Keep listening, learning & let go of Disney fantasies. Leave those to the fefails ...
@@silverfox6883 it’s obviously a woman speaking.
That isn't love.
@@silverfox6883 agreed - so tired of women being referred to as queens. It’s cringe-inducing.
@Girly gto
I have MD therefore I can't build muscle I have to preserve what I have left, thank you for all the content, was a beta bucks guy, unfaithful wife, now living my best life, alpha mindset. My confidence and attitude gets me laid about once a month.Maintaing a mental frame is just as important.
but are you thinking about going back to long term relationships and marriage again or no?
Damn.. I know nothing about this.. I wider if a high protein diet such as animal based (eggs, meat, fish, collagen, butter, any animal product food) like carnivore would help with this 🥺🤔
Damn lol. He was taking all that baggage and difficulty and paying bills with this woman and other guys were getting free sex behind his back at his expense. Lol. A difficult lesson learnt for him and a free lesson learnt for others, thanks for sharing.
Man, it really did change my life. Because of her, I found RIch and did the work.
@@johncantlin563 welcome to the RedPill , understanding female nature.
In my country both the girl and the free loaders would lose their lives (btw nobody would settle for such girl at first place)
@@johncantlin563 bro, you’re a good looking dude. With a cool Laid back personality. You need to know your worth dogg! You can absolutely do wayy better. Which im sure you are coming to terms with that fact.
Best of Luck homie
My old neighbor had 5 kids and the man she was with was only the father of 2. They would fight so much it was sad to the point their kids would knock on my door asking for help. He finally left her, she moved & followed me on social media and had the audacity to ask to hang out smh I blocked her 😭
You so mean 😆😆😆😆
@@karrah3477 😂
She didn’t ruin your life bro
You ruined your own life
3 kids 3 different dads
Its always the man's fault
But the important thing is that he LEARNED from it
repsect to the dude for being so honest. he seems like a good dude whos eager to be better and to learn.
I'm from South Africa, women in the USA are freaking crazy! I must share this on my SA pages. Nobody speaks about these kinds of women in SA! They must exist and guys need to be enlightened. Well done Rich and John C.
I love these stories so much. Always watch these for the motivation to be a better man, from Durban :)
@@TheTericbarraclough Howzit Bru✌️I’m from Cape St. Francis. Do you surf?
@@Hair-today my whole life hey :) surfed seal point, in your home town, quite a few times. My best friend lived across the road from supertubes/boneyards in jeffreys bay so I would fly down often to see him :)
@@TheTericbarraclough Do you know AC?
@@Hair-today No I dont, I have not been down that side for many years now but have great memories of surfing the eastern cape. Last time I was there was a trip to Coffee Bay and Hole in the wall.
Im happy for this homie!!! Its inspiring!!!!
She is 25, and her older kid is 11!
Rich: WWWHAAATTTT???
Since she was a lil girl in highschool she was already a B
They humping at young ages these days, also hitting puberty really early. Probably all the hormones pumped into the food we eat, the American diet is awful
@@MX-CO lol in smaller slightly rural communities you see it too. About 10 yrs ago this dude who was probably 18/19 yrs old told me ‘shoot these days these girls gettin broke in at 14’ I was like shiiiit. Back in my hs days it wasn’t like that.
Dating a single mom is like getting invited to a party after its over to help clean up after Chad and Tyrone left
Right
Ewwwwww...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Damn lmao
Or to clean up after Becky and Crystal's mess and then being expected to clean up the kids afterwards. It goes both ways.
The guy is good looking too and this crap happens lol...
Their entitlement never ends even when they have already had someone else's kids. DON'T DATE THEM GENTLEMEN
I’m 6’1, buff, tatted, a former model and this happened to me. Not a single mom, but she cheated for some drug dealer. Whatever you can give them becomes their minimum acceptable effort. There is never “enough”. She will always want bigger, better, more and she feels wholly entitled to it.
@@ryanbailey8588 Yep. It's extremely eye opening
@@ryanbailey8588 they have chad
but they still want the "other" chad
@@Thiiink precisely. It’s called Analysis Paralysis. When given too many choices, people can fail to pick one, and if they do pick one, the sheer amount of choices unexplored will cause them to feel regret.
@Girly if that is your pic, you’re a 4-5 at best. And god forbid we compare you to miami women. As a straight man this dude is at least a 6.
RED FLAG WOMAN 🚩 thanks Rich, you have red pilled me completely when I was only half red pilled 💊
Wish this young man all the best! Huge respect for his accountability in his mistakes and his willingness to strive to be a better guy and avoid the pitfalls in the dating world.
The rarity of good looking women in American has younger guys disparate and settling for single mother's. Luckily when you older and wealthier you can travel to where beautiful women are common.
You mean Russia , sure "The land of ladies"
@@babitapandhare1889 The land of gold-diggers dude. They're only looking for an escape from Russia (there are countless videos showing this). I like Russia, but it's a backwards thinking country.
John C. seems to be a very nice guy! I’m from Brazil and all I can say is the Red Pill community is gaining power over here so chin up everyone!! Cheers 💪🏼
Rich has sound advice and in my humble opinion he is a man with real integrity & morals and I really admire that. Thank you for your content Rich. It helps more men than you probably know.
His statement on filling his subconscious with quality content is accurate.
I know this is not a space for women, but I want to say sorry to the men that have been hurt. I remember having good guys liked me and feeling eh. Then I got burned bad by one and it changed my perspective. I am now married to a good man and I swear when a man hits on me or one that recently dug my email up and sent me a message I don’t reply and delete them immediately. I want my
Marriage. Plus this whole taking half from your husband really upsets me to my core. I don’t want to ever be that and god knows I don’t want to pay a penny to a lawyer. I hope and pray for my marriage to be one of the good ones.
i'm proud of you. everyone makes mistakes but you learned.
I went through something so similar, she was screwing my family member and other guys for drugs. Thank you for the help and getting me to break the cycle and moving forward! Be easy and do the work and heal bro, it gets so much better.
Thing is...guys like him settle because they don't want to be alone and can't be alone so they take what they can get and justify being with them.
What a crazy story, so happy that he turned his life around !!! 💯🔥
I love men comming together and just speaking honesty.
I relate to his story so much...not having a dad around and not knowing HOW to BE a man and a gentleman. This sphere of content and influencers has been a sort of father figure to me as well this kid. I pray it keeps getting better and better and that it never goes away because it is priceless stuff. CHEERS TO ALL OF YOU MEN WHO ARE DOING THE WORK!!!
John, thanks for sharing your experiences. Feel happy for you. Great transformation!
this conversation inspired me...tomorrow i'm getting off my ass and start doing the work.
Salut! We as men gotta do the work and push the s**t of us to get the best of it!
Start now!!
@@tibiareplay1183 maybe he was watching the video late at night getting ready to sleep, that’s why he said tomorrow lol
@@SavedByGraceThroughFaith8 even late at night gotta start
Jesus bro, tough break but, look at you pushing through all that. glad to see you are doing well.
GREAT job to this MAN, not blaming his past and taking his life to the next level. 👊👊👊
Fair play for the dude being honest and holding himself accountable.
Must have been hard. Hope he does massively well in the future.
Congratulations for looking inward and honestly changing your mind & body. This dude is definitely someone you should be listening to and talking advice from!!
First off I'd like to point out that this guy is real. What a great interview. This dude clearly was lost and needed this to happen in order for him to wake up.. so it sounds like a blessing in disguise. A lot of this comes down to being a direct reflection of our culture and societal collapse.
This is the best interview to date for this channel!
“Women Are Great, Marriage Sucks” sounds like a great quote on a t-shirt.
Rich should do some Cooperism’s quotes for shirts like “HATE ALWAYS COME FROM BELOW”, “NO ONE FUCKS MORE WOMEN THAN JUST A FRIEND”, “DO THE WORK”,etc.
I’m so happy for him. Across all races we are waking up ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
Thank you for your honesty. These stories change lives for us men.
11:00 my job requires that I work at a workbench and I started listening to content that will help me improve over music years ago!
Kudos to John C to being interviewed and putting himself out there to explain his story. Not many men can do what he did. It just goes to show regardless of your present state, it is possible to do right by yourself. You just need the motivation like John C gave himself.
I tell my guy friends to watch out too. One of my friends got involved with a single mom too. She left kid with him and went partying. And my friend takes care of her kid. Crazy. Now he's finally awake. Thank God for that ! So refreshing to see how men today sharing this way. Keep up the healthy conversation!
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It's so great to see that your videos were able to help this guy turn his life around. Your channel is such a valuable resource since it can reach men all around the planet!
Many of us have to be proven wrong cause we have no compass no direction and no one to give us direction i.e a father or father figure.
I think this young man is strong, capable, intuitive and handsome. I hope he finds someone who is sweet, tender respectful and kind towards him.
She Wanted A Babysitter & The Fantasy Of Having A Boyfriend!! 😱😱😱
Props to this dude.
Respect to this guy opening up, not easy
Respect to dude for being real about his experiences. #Honestandreal
Awesome to see him turn around and killing it in life👍
Bless this man.. Grow Men GROOOOOOW!!
This was a great show. All the best to you John glad you're on a good path now
“Comply or Goodbye “ I like that 👍🏻
These stories break my heart, thank God they found freedom ! I do believe in marriage, I also could never share guy, I know that sounds dumb here but I honestly couldn’t it would break my heart. ( I have been happily married for 7 years and we have two little girls ) however it’s not something people should walk into lightly , vetting is so key!
Amen. If you're high value and you support your man then there's no reason to share him.
I like this kid. He's been through it and is honest as the day is long. Good work kid.
I think this is one of the better videos that Rich has done. I can totally relate to John.
This video is gold
In her mind she's just shopping for a better deal.
I can deeply resonate with his growing up story and can only admire another person being able to surpass such obstacles at a young age. Sounds like he will never follow in his father's footsteps 👏
BPD - Was married to one for 18yrs. Run!!!
Yes, this is BPD for sure. Stay away from diagnosis at all costs.
Great testimony, more power to you John! You are a true success story!
This is great. Love to see a life come back. Great video. Thanks Rich
@abc 123 probably lol
GOD BLESS YOU DUDE ! YOU OVERCAME THE ODDS
Found out I was cheated on yesterday. She even showed me the text to brag. What's up boys.
Thats wild, are you serious?
I suppose after what happend to me I shouldn’t be surprised
Hope you are doing better bro
Hahahahha 😂😂 stay mad we winning you losing we have fun you slave yoruslefs 😂😂😂
John, thanks for sharing. Very valuable conversation.
As a person who has struggled with pain pills for years, it makes sense why your father did what he did. I can barely take care of myself let alone someone else. Opiate addiction is hell on earth. I don’t wish it on anyone. So good to hear this story, great job bro. Stay in the gym and get jacked. Trust me it’s worth it.
kick his son out of a home bc hes addicted making him homeless? ive been through addiction to opiates too but thats fucked
I wish you good luck and good health. stay focused.
No I take pain meds and have for years, and I would have cut off my legs before I would have thrown my 14 year old kids out of my house, his Dad is a pos, and pain meds are no excuse, I’m really glad it worked out for this guy, but doesn’t let his Father off the hook for being hot garbage.
John C you have become very self aware! Well done brother, well done! Keep it up
No one lies more than a single mother.
Big respect for this guy and what he said about how you feed your brain is true, garbage in garbage out
I remember chatting to a lady on a dating site that told me she had two kids. Chatting further and she had another four kids that had left home and she was only telling me about the ones that still live with her. 🏃🏃🏃🏃
Insane
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Rich is a rich dad with many sons out there. Great service to all of us.
Her kids are going to struggle as adults
They will be in good company
I’ll never understand what you guys were thinking. I’d never mess with a single mom nor did any of my friends. We always knew better.
John C., you're a good looking dude, I hope your confidence is better now, and I'm glad you're out of that situation
Amazing transformation. Rich you are making a big difference in our lives. Thanks and keep on keeping on.
this is great. im literally one of the dudes who just watches a bunch of the content and dont really do anything with it. not to say i havent turned my car into a learning center, and that ive stopped dealing with the wrong kind of women, but just the point that he said its going to be the hardest year of your life.....im kinda good right now. ive BEEN going thru hard years, and im not asking anyone to care, but im not interested in putting all this effort in, when im content having left the blue pill stuff behind. im sure ill get bored in a couple years and change my mind, and at that point i might be the one on the show telling my story. but for now, ive got a good job, ive got my own place, and i like sitting around smoking weed and watching youtube videos when im not working. ive got my podcast its not like i do nothing but i have zero interest in spending that amount of time in the gym, or money on trt, as much as id love a pleasurable 7 which i def dont currently deserve. but i know that i will realize when im ready to take that leap like i have with anything else ive accomplished in my life. chilling at home doing exactly what you want by yourself shouldnt be a punishment - def shouldnt be my only option lol, but you get what im saying
good work young man i'm glad you escaped in time. it is hard i went through similar situation w my ex.
and thank you Rich for helping these young guys bless your heart. it is so difficult to accept the advice.
i was like him i had to be proved wrong, catching her in bed w/another guy did it. do not move in, do not live together, do not get married. NEVER intertwine finances. my ex used my kids against me like a club. i lost my son and my daughter is worse than dead. she destroyed them just to get at me. i moved to alaska. i raise german shepherds, cheers brothers. semper fi.
Props to John for his inspirational story !! I was very lucky to be rp'd before I met this same exact woman. 3rd grade teacher, 3 kids 3 diff baby dads, she spilled the goods on her useless friends and her friends did the same for her...all did me a HUGE favor. She was shopping for #4 & found a beta provider who she pumped out a 4th kid with, he married her up, but she is still on all the dating sites shopping for #5.
John C, there is not much I can say which hasn't already been said however I still want to give you recognition for sharing everything you did. Many of us have been through what you have but unfortunately most guys won't be transparent like you were which means we don't get to hear other guys talk about going through that so we then begin to think that what we went through is not common at all which makes us feel even dumber and more isolated which means we never really figure out how to stop the cycle. The sooner more of us admit what we have done wrong and what our exes have done to us (regardless of how embarrassing it may be) the quicker all of us guys can figure out a solution. Your share helps many of us to do that so thank you John for being bluntly honest and thank you Rich for being a great teacher.
Rich is the positive male role model so many men like this need in there lives
Good for you John. Keep after it brotha
I wrote a gal in the philippines went there and thought we might get married she was a single mother 3 kids also and long story short after several years her sisters daughter texted me saying she has a 20 yr younger boyfriend and just being used for money.
Happens all the time...
Typical deal. Happens often.
I love this video! Excellent conversation. And shout out to John C for being so honest and transparent. Much respect to you both.
John C is a living legend. He says his ex is 25 and her oldest kid is 11. Rich says, that's crazy she must have been 14 when she had the child, John replies oh no she was 16 at the time😂
Legend or just dumb
@@Lestergreen77 Probably a bit of both.
probably he´s right.......she was 16 like he said, but at the moment John was living with her the boy was around 9 and almost more of one year after he ends that relationship the kid is now nearly 11 years old....
or do u believe this storie is staged ?.....
@@Lestergreen77 he is very stupid. He also claim they give him pure T for not growing. The protocol is Growth Hormone. He only been with her for 7 months. Jesus. Give me a break. Like it's his whole life story. Talks about work out all the time. I was also skinny naturally but now easy 235 pounds 6.1 mad strong man. This guy is all into money. Make me sick and his IQ is so low that it hurts me.
I feel the same about fatherly figures. I think Rich, and for me CRP I had found first, bring knowledge and experience that is so profoundly positive I can't help but feel a family like bond with them, perhaps even a father figure, or awesome uncle. But legit when you realize the constant confusion and misery life would have been without these people you can't help but feel only your family could ever love like that.
This man's a real one! Felt bro this helped more then I expected it to! 🧠🏆🧐♥️👽
Respect for helping guys out!!
That guy is not bad looking and good mannered. He should value himself more.