These GREEN FLAGS Make Woman a KEEPER
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My mother told me many times growing up "if you want a quality woman, you need to be a quality man".
And she was right!
True but it's not so much about quality as female expectations nowadays. Is there any love anymore or is it more a survival of the fittest arms race of constantly needing to be a "high value male" when just being a hardworking regular man appears to be insufficient.
Exactly, you can’t ask/expect things from a partner that you aren’t bringing yourself.
like attracts like.
Bingo!🎩👏👍
Summary of green flags:
1. Good relationship with her father. She likes strong masculinity.
2. She takes care of you if you're sick.
3. She stays away from toxic entertainment (news, drama, reality shows, gossip, social media garbage).
4. Generally positive about life and work.
5. She has some purpose in life, except a boss girl.
6. She takes ownership for her choices in life, accountability.
7. Low notch count. The lower the better. She doesn't compare your worst to someone else's best.
8. She's pleasant and doesn't nag you consistently.
9. She encourages and supports your purpose.
10. She's active and she exercises.
11. She has culinary skills (unless you prefer to cook, personal choice).
12. She's tidy, cleans up and continues to do so unprompted.
13. If you have kids, she knows how to engage with them and how to treat them (not necessarily as her own kids, but like a niece or nephew).
14. She doesn't use her phone as an attention device. She isn't posting publicly (unless she's selling/promoting something).
15. Obedience. She's a complement to your life, not a focus.
16. She doesn't compete with what you're doing.
#14. damn near every girl is out after that one lol
good luck finding a modern-day woman that embodies #6 lol.
women rarely, if ever, take responsibility for bad choices they make.
@@drewtakesprofit8897 Nah, somewhat decent amount of chicks have their gram on private and don't add random dudes. Dated a chick that was private, rarely posted but was a smokeshow IRL. She did have a problem with mindless scrolling though.
@@UnpluggedDiesel I dated a girl who would switch her ig from public to private back and forth all the time, and archive photos then reupload them. just weird shit. the type where we would be on a trip and shed be all "can you take a pic of me" and id be like "why dont we take a photo together?" and shed get mad lol
@@drewtakesprofit8897 aha
A HUGE one for me is when she's self aware enough to realise when she's wrong and is willing to apologise. That seems to be so rare now.
Spot on!
Men don't do that, though soooo....
Almost impossibly rare . Kryptonite is accountability, responsibility.
Really… most are like an entitled child.
Dude my ex could NOT admit when she was wrong. Ever. We could never communicate without yelling half the time. Once she got wound up you couldn't get her back down. She would scream at you and you would ask her to lower her voice in a calm way and she would yell and say No! It was just awful. But it was odd. She had a lot of green flags too. It was so weird. At the beginning it was amazing and then things started to show.
So after 33 years of marriage I learned how to do everything myself.
We were both extremely busy and both knew how to cook, clean and share all the duties .
Now that I’m widowed since cancer took her Im wondering if I even meed a woman.
I can do everything myself.
Do I really need a relationship with a woman who in my age group is looking for a man to take care of her?
I’ve been thinking hard about this.
I can do everything myself, my way on my terms and my time.
It may just do me fine to just have casual relationships with younger chicks ….as long as I can keep them just that I really don’t need the hassle of a future bad relationship.
My soul mate in life died….Ill never be able to replace her, I have all the skills to het along in life just fine without a Mommy figure so why bother?
I have young chicks hitting on me all the time so why not just have some clean fun and be a freaking batchelor with benefits?
The illness one's a definite. I once came down with appendicitis on the morning I was supposed to be going on holiday with my girlfriend. It was some of the worst pain I've ever endured and I was rushed to hospital in near collapse. And all she could say was that I'd ruined her holiday.
Just wow
That's narcissistic, and you're well clear of her! Not all girls like that.
@@jasonsanders8091 She didn't boil the bunny but she did go on holiday and leave it to starve. Definitely a narcissist, if not a sociopath. Most of my girlfriends have been lovely.
That's horrible, I also went through that same condition...it hurts like a biatch!
Well you did ruin the holiday, that is the truth, however it was a health issue, completely out of control!
Good to talk about positive attributes once
Fr 🤣
Yeah we need more of this in the red pilled community
@@porterdallenbach1639 yeah better because they get butthurt and get negative energy about all these stuff, that won't make them any better
It’s important because the bitterness caused by the bad apples are making men not noticing the good ones.
Yes thank you. Everybody wants to talk about what is wrong with women but very few of these red pilled gurus want to talk about how to recognize quality…
I knew this chick that married some good guy, he got into a terrible accident and was bedridden for months, plus physical therapy, etc etc. She left him in the middle of all this because it was just too much for her. What a complete POS this woman
It sucks to see this. I work in brain injury rehab. The sad reality is that this is how it is for potential future disabilities people. Males are more likely to obtain a brain injury so it’s more prevalent. But women with brain injuries experience the same issues with their spouse. Having said that, I work with a recovered brain injury guy who’s wife wouldn’t leave him. Despite his physical deficits, he became a counselor himself and works in the program. He’s still with his wife and raises his children. He recently has a newborn now. From what I know of him. The guy always maintains frame even at work and is a great loving father that provides for his family.
I realize this rare. But I’ve known. The guy for years. He’s an incredibly hard worker and doesn’t simp to nobody
Just wanted to put out a “success story” for a guy who damn near lost it all. I realize this isnt the reality that most men face when dealing with severe injury. Just wanted to state that even with Guys that have severe injury. Perhaps not all is lost. May take even more hard work than before.
That's awful. I've seen to many women in my life (mom, aunts, friends) who yell and are not loving with their man when he's ill. When you're a child, it takes a toll on you psychologically if you have grown up seeing anyone yell when someone is ill.
I saw a lot of fellow troops in the military that got cheated on and/or ghosted as soon as they left town for training or deployment.
Misandrist western courts don't hold women accountable for poor behavior.
@Sciencegirl
Does the dude look after her when she's sick?
Lol...NO..there's your answer
Just had partial knee replacement surgery last week (just turned 49, so quite young for it). My girlfriend was there every step of the way. I got a hotel room for the first 5 days to avoid stairs. She was there with me every day. Had to go take care of the dog at night. Had tears in her eyes when she would leave - just hating to think of me being in the kind of pain I was in. But I explained she didn’t want to be around when I couldn’t sleep. She did such an amazing job that, after almost three years together, I felt like I had fallen in love with her all over again. Feel really proud to be with her. Those good women are out there. Just gotta be patient and be comfortable with who you are too.
Why don't you marry her if she's so great?
@@gardenofeels6872 Because he's got a BRAIN
She was crying about her position of going out and cheating on you😂
That's awesome, hope you can make her your wife.
3 years and no ring. Playing with fire
The dad thing is hit or miss. My ex wife had great parents, where still married, but she still betrayed me after 22 years. Other girlfriends with good parents for turned out to be basket cases, ones who where raised by single parent, seemed to respect me more. Careful men, results may vary.
The odds of having emotional and mental problems for being raised in a single family home are higher but it is not a guarantee that she will act up.
People can choose how to respond and live despite being dealt a bad hand.
Was looking for this reply. Sometimes it is vitually impossible to have a relationship with a dad, because he is a truly toxic influence, and it is not out of disrespect or hatred for men.
One of the most common sense responses I've read on here. The human race (let alone the female of the species) are so unpredictable one can vet for everything and still after one, two or even twenty-two years still end up with a nightmare scenario.
@@davidx8152 There are no guarantees in this life.
@@mikebingham9700 Cold comfort for any man thinking that 1+1=2
Very good advice. However, I will say as a Conservative woman we are looking for Conservative men. That is, men with high morals. If a mans past is full of one night stands and casual affairs we are not interested. Worldly women might not care about a man's escapades, but these women are Liberal, feminist types, and a good man looking for a good woman will avoid these types. It's incongruous to expect high morality from a woman while a man indulges in an immoral lifestyle.
Agreed
As a virgin woman, agreed!
Truth.
These pump&dump dudes looking for all the green lights .
Lol
If only it were that easy. I married a quality woman, that I respect. Turns out, she couldn’t do physical intimacy. A king size bed was needed, so there was no excuse for touching.
25 years, no parole, and I didn’t even get, to kill anyone. Is a very long time.
I totally get what you mean, about double standards, on a show like this.
@@billpetersen298
Why didn't you divorce her and live the life you wanted? Instead of complaining
Didn't you date and have sex? You would have found that out.
You have only yourself to blame
My ex had a great relationship with her father. Didn't keep her from drinking like a fish.
weak father. same thing with my ex gf. I only noticed long after having broken up with her, the mother ran the house, best father in law I've ever had though.
@@rjunbn Yeah my girlfriend’s father was actually a heroin addict but he somehow held down a job as a fighter fighter though (until one day he didn’t) She loved her dad because through it all he still loved the hell out of his kids and she’s values that, even though she knows he had a problem. Anyway my girlfriend still turned out to be a major green flag which is rare. I mean let’s face it. I’m black and so is she. This isn’t something that’s very common among us.
@@rjunbn Wow it's like you are on my mind dude! I was thinking about that with a girl that i was dating. I know her father and her father is a decent doctor beloved by everyone in his area but he looks weak. His daughter that i used to date is very manipulative and she goes to different clubs all the time getting drunk! Nothing like her father. Her brother is mostly like her father.
I think it important to note that a good woman won't follow all these green flags all the time. You gotta leave some room for her to be imperfect and an individual as well so long as there is dialogue and communication and compassion generally with these things without blow ups. No one will hit ALL of these flags perfectly. This is a lot of flags, good as they are
I agree. I'm dating a woman who has most of these green flags.
Except for the following:
• She is a Boss Girl, in that she very driven to find and close real estate transactions and flipping houses. She wants to include me as a valuable partner and teammate.
• Her vehicle interior and her bathroom is a mess.
• Her body composition isn't slim and fit like it could be.
This is where she needs someone with leadership skills to encourage her to improve in these areas.
@@GrandPines323 I'm glad you're accepting her the way she's. However, a woman's diet and the state of her bathroom tell a lot about her.
This sometimes translates into poor budgeting decisions, binge eating and so on.
Of course, every case has to be evaluated individually. Just something for you to keep in mind.
All the best and I hope you're able to maintain a beautiful and healthy relationship with this lady.
@@IEVAKambarovaite
In your opinion, what does a messy bathroom or a cluttered vehicle indicate about a women's personality?
Also the same about her being 20 pounds overweight because of over indulgence in her diet?
How can both issues be resolved in a healthy relationship manner?
@@canecorsomom2023 thank you for replying...
Not only knowing what to look for in red flags, but also knowing why they're red flags is very important.
@@GrandPines323 it is ok to better each other in a relationship. Lead by example and see if it embolden her to do the same. Start going to the gym regularly and see if she will do it with you. If she has a lot of green flags and some red flags and you like her, you have to do your due dilligence to see what is permanent and what is temporary yourself. Socratic method is great for this stuff. And also, lead by example and see if she'll follow. 20lbs is not morbidly obese. It is totally workable. So, pound the pavement and change your pattern a little and see if she will change hers a little and just needed a little jolt! Too many people just dismissing each other too easily so they dont have to grow or put in any effort. Maybe it doesn't work. Set a time goal, put the effort in, and then drop it if it doesn't work out. Nbd
“She takes care of you when you’re sick”. After a couple of months I was dating her, I fell sick. She went out with her friends and left me at home alone. I ignored the red flag. Right now she is asking for a divorce after having 2 children. A girl of 5 and a boy of 3 years old. Shame I didn’t have your book 7 years ago, will have save me tons of pain.
Sorry to say this but what Rich is saying is just common sense. Even if you hadn't been sick she shouldn't have gone out with her friends when she was in a relationship with you.
Yes, huge red flag. Dating is coming attractions, the previews like of a movie. People don’t change. If they lack empathy now they always will.
Right. I never forgotten my exwife that Christmas when just I got high fever and flu and she "in response" took both children to another city to friends and left me alone for all Holidays till New Year almost not able to walk with dog under my care.
She trash, and no man gonna want to marry her, your free bro!! Atleast she out of your life forever, some women will string you on for decades. Freeeee
I am so sorry.
Thank You Rich! we need more videos with positive side of women/relationships...
He just did a green flag episode, if you haven't seen it, check it out
100%
Yeah refreshing to see. A mans true potential is with a wife and children.
True tired of negative sides.
Agreed. It’s easy to sit around and point out all the problems that others have and there’s so many UA-camrs just so obviously playing off of emotions with that formula to make easy money.
If she does things to make you happy and make your life easier without you having to ask, shes a keeper. If she cooks, clean, and satisfies you sexually without you having to mention it, more green flags. If she adapts to your mindsets and picks up similar ideologies as you, green flag. If she enjoys staying home with you on your nights off instead of being out with her single friends, green flag. Most importantly, if she leaves her phone around with no care and isn’t sneaky about things, more than likely she is faithful & thats the biggest green flag.
This is beyond a dream girl lol can you imagine
If she’s from Stepford that’s a green flag, or green something…🤮🦠🤢👽
I have this !! And she is hot lol must be lucky or something
@@mohammedzaid9737 same brother. Past 5 years. Been through many so i can differentiate well. A lot of my friends have longterm girls that lack these attributes and i feel
Bad for them.
@@GurlsiLike I hear you , rough out there for some guys . Been with mine over 10 years . Going strong 💪
I am all of these... and I'm happily married. Girls like me are out there, but you have to get off the dating apps. I do feel like a lot of men are looking for a 9 or 10 in looks. That is going to really limit the search results...plus, as you fall in love, the perception of beauty grows toward your loved one.
I've been off the dating market for decades. However, in my bachelor days I dated some 9s & 10s, and also some girl next door types. The girl next door types try harder. The stunning women have been taught they only have to show up to receive approval. In a small way I pity the stunners. They have been taught their looks will carry them, so they have no impetus to improve themselves for anything outside of their looks. Granted, they make good eye & arm candy.
@@Ace.0.0.0. some lucky guys have a personal taste for specific physical attributes that might make a 6 or 7 on the street a 10 in their world. Super cool if we have that too.
Almost all men look for a 9 or 10 but looks can be so subjective. Men look for what is a 9 or 10 in their mind. Plus NO woman wants a man that doesn't consider her beautiful and sexually attractive. If a woman found out her man was not sexually attracted to her he would probably never recover from that.
Thanks for the encouragement and reminder. So true. Especially the last one.
One of the five love languages is acts of service. If you love somebody you serve them, it shouldn't be a chore. You do it because you want to not because you have to. If it becomes a chore the love is gone or wasn't there to begin with.
Listening to these and many commentaries convinced me 100% I married a narcissist.
When I was sick, my ex would not bother or waste her time on me. Would not have a joint savings. I paid all bills etc and she did her gym and yoga leaving me constantly with the kids. Talked down on me in front of my friends etc. Took no responsibilities and lied repeatedly
...and wait for this. ...... she petitioned fir divorce when I was grieving my brother's death; and he's body still in the mortuary...
Now free and picking up the pieces while caring for my boys that I fought years to save. Please guys learn from watching these talks. Will certainly save your lives
I hope you are in a better place now.
I was away one time with my mates and their wives, I had a really bad allergic reaction to a beer (some wheat based drinks give me really bad reflux and stomach pain). All the wives came in and looked after me, asked if I was ok, brought me drinks.....except my (ex) wife.
I have followed many men on the "Manosphere" and the one thing that I have noticed is always the negative. This is the first time where I hear about "Keeping" a woman. I personally would like to keep a woman and not live only the bachelor life. I'd like to hear more from others on what attributes would be eligibility to keep a relationship going. More Green Flags please
Yeah a lot of men of the manosphere are often called incels because of posting nothing but bad behavior of Women. When it is not the case.
Apex Mindset has a green flag series.
I too, married a woman with many green flags. All the things Rich listed are good. More than anything, she must be an asset to your life. A complement. We all have the occasional bad day. Things work best between me and wifey if I am 1) polite, honest, & direct. 2) when I display integrity- or, when my words & actions ALIGN.
Also important is to be comfortable saying 'no,' and be polite, honest, direct.
Most of this men are frustated and can't properly treat a lady. They're traumatized by women. They need to grow up.
@@cristinap273 Like you know what it means to be a man?
What most men are told about women want in a man is totally wrong. Disneyland
Also, few women have a clue as to what men want in a woman worth marrying.
I've been married for 45 years. Caring for my husband whenever he was ill or going through a tough time has been one of the most fulfilling, calming, peaceful things I've ever known. He doesn't have to tell me I'm beautiful or bring bonbons home. He shows his love in special ways that others probably don't witness as "love". When I'm down, I suddenly find him fixing things I've been bugging him about or doing the dishes or a load of laundry and of course, there's always that look of love . We both take care of each other and at the end of the day, when I lay my head down, I know I'm blessed to have a guy who worked his behind off, loves me and our children,supported my career and what else can I say? He's a damn good man.
You're a very fortunate woman!! So glad for you!
God bless your marriage. We need for females like you.
Well my lady..you are a fantastic woman! Love to you and your man 🙏
god bless you. you give me hope there is someone out there that could experience this with me.
Nice to see a change in topic.
Thanks for what you do Rich.
😂
So grateful for my wife. I sorted through so many women to find her, and she stood out because she had all these green flags and more I would say. The top quality aspect I think is respect. If she loves and respects you, like as an aspect of her existence, then you will experience the night-and-day difference. That’s when the “honeymoon phase” isn’t a phase. That’s when she volunteers to stop advertising to other men via social media. That’s when you get constant validation sex. I truly wish that for every man and woman.
Glad you found her!! Thanks for sharing!!!
Had that once. But the hidden red flag was: she wasn’t mine to take. She’s already taken.
It’s fucking weird cause she’s going behind her guy but she’s portraying ALL of these green flags.
@@thevegastan the monkey-branch-receiver’s paradox you describe is answered by a reflection on the concept of loyalty. If she is so ruthless as to monkey-branch while in a relationship, you can safely assume that her character requires her to do that to you eventually. Contrary to the black-pilled notion that every woman has a back up man while in a relationship, some women actually do avoid that tendency. That’s why respect and demonstrable loyalty are so important. I would even contend that the woman you describe did not have as many green flags as you think you saw; she wasn’t available, she certainly was not avoiding advertising to other men, and so forth. You were likely blinded by dick-thinking. Be grateful you avoided her
I think what you are describing was far more prevalent/available 20+ years ago. It's not impossible now but online dating has all but destroyed the female psyche.
@@thevegastan That was a show for you, bro.
Hello, I'm currently dating a young woman who actually has all the green flags you explained and I'm really thankful, + she's beautiful and hot. But of course, I had to become a high value man to deserve this, I work hard, study hard, go to the gym, I eat clean, I'm able to protect her and I'm kind. She's a keeper but she's with me because she feels safe.
Sounds awesome, most men hope that there more green than red flags. God bless your relation.
Thats great, 2 years later, how are things with her ?
One thing we need to bear in mind is that none of these things are static qualities. Like a woman may treat the one guy right and the other one not, may be in a phase in her life where she is good with men and in another time where she is critical of men. You may date a woman and she will take care for you, but after 10 year of marriage she couldn't care less. When a woman has the prospect of getting her needs met, she is willing to make all the right moves she want you to see. but when she is tired of you or have new objectives those green flags terns red, well its also possible for red flags to turn green as she outgrow some of her childishness. But red or green flags in women are not fixed, it changes with her interest, the relationship etc. Predicting a relationship is still a dark art. Your best probability is when have her needs met, but that takes work from you. The worst red flag is a woman who dont meet your needs, that takes communication skills from you. Any woman can be a red or green flag woman depending if she gets what she wants from you or not.
How about all of these things are reciprocated?? If I am a woman, who is working full-time, just as much as my man, then , things should be shared. All peeps in the house can load the dishwasher and unload it. For that matter, for the most part, both should be equally responsible for appointment setting and KNOWING who the kiddos pediatrician/orthodontist/dentist is without being ignorant of “who” the kiddos practitioner is. Additionally, if mom is still at work and dad is home, it is NOT up to mom to determine what dinner is as the mister has been home long enough to figure it out. The man should also compliment the woman as well. If she is working and he is home early, then don’t expect her to be making dinner when she gets home after you and kids have been home for hours! Unless the man is willing to support, FULLY, the woman to stay home and be domestic, then that is a different situation. What can a man do to be useful as well? Both are equal in a partnership….the woman is not the maid.
A maid actually is useful to his life and is cheaper.
I think my wife and I work well together. She does enough to keep me happy and I do enough to keep her happy. If it's all too one-sided with only one partner providing any benefit, that other partner will only have so long to count their blessings before they either start pulling their weight, or learning what it's like to be on their own.
Interesting; I do wonder whether this was the case from the 1500s (or earlier) to the 1970s. Or is it the case that the encroachment of the state with advances in social security for women (e.g. single mother assistance), no-fault divorce law and family law courts favouring women either through access to children or financially devastating divorce settlements resulted in women being (rightly so) less reliant on men. This then results in any relationship automatically entering 'blessings countdown mode' the moment she is not happy with the balance of power.
What is "enough?" Isnt that the same as bare minimum?
There is no definite example - there's grey areas with everyone's lives, perceptions and experiences. The more we can be aware of our own thoughts and motivations the clearer it is to make better decisions.
Man everytime I hear one of my buddies having problems with women you are the first person I suggest. Even when a girl I'm with shows me a guy that is trying to get with her I'll take her phone and send a message to him telling him to get your book😂 thank you for turning my life around
Great video!!!..making guys accountable (to be able to have more options on life)...and bring the positive actions and great qualities of a woman .. there's so many channels just bashing ....salutes
Good points. For me, the most important would be taking care of your husband when he's sick. I've seen to many women in my life (mom, aunts, friends) who yell and are not loving with their man when he's ill. When you're a child, it takes a toll on you psychologically if you have grown up seeing anyone yell when someone is ill. It's worst than being ill.
Some people should never become parents. Or, just because you can have children, doesn't mean you should.
It’s a fine line between an alpha man and being too selfish.
Good relationship with a father isnt always a green flag, maybe he worshiped her and raised her like a princess. then its a red flag
This was a refreshing addition - instead of what’s wrong with women. Posting what’s right sets the bar.
Remember guys, this isn’t 100 % and it has to fit or life, but for the most part this is a fantastic guide.
My girl doesn’t cook but that can be taught on fun date nights.
She doesn’t know her Dad but she has a decent family with men involved.
I’d say the biggest threat is social media, especially intsa. If she doesn’t post hardly at all, HUGE green flag. Huge.
Sure, Red flags, but they can be worked on. When everything else is green, you got a winner.
Everything stated here is opulence, except the last part. Red flags can not be worked on. Sequential fact pattern can not be altered externally unless the party is 6 years of age, as self esteem plateaus at 7 years young and programmable prior. Move on for satiation, not sustenance. If the red flag does not cause 1st 2nd or 3rd degree burn once touched, it is not worth moving on.
aAMEN TO THAT
"She had more green flags than a st paddy's day parade!!!" Lol 😆 love your content Rich! I have your book! Great work!
I don't know any woman under the age of 50 who can come anywhere close to fulfilling all these green flags. It takes a long time for women to grow up this much. I think I was about 35 when I finally realized I had never really taken responsibility for my bad choices in life. My husband said he was just glad I finally realized that on my own. So grateful to have made it passed all that drama. We're just living out our happy retirement years. Good luck searching for that unicorn. It's like the equivalent of women searching for their prince to ride in on a white horse.
I agree, I was feeling the same way. We are all healing from some past trauma. We have to be understanding.
you're joking. Most of the women i know in real life have at least half of these, and others that aren't listed. Men do have to look in the right place. Many of these aren't about how smart they are, how fast they learn or how receptive they are at learning, but about how wise they are. i don't know what exactly it takes to be wise, but some times it can be harder to attain than getting a Ph.D.
Unfortunately, by the time they are 50 or over, they have so much damage and baggage, they have tons of red flags, no matter what green flags they may have.
What you say is true Zoey, but it's society's (and our) failing that young women these days aren't taught that these traits are the ones that matter. Instead they are taught almost the complete opposite at a young impressionable age. These green flags are not only desired by men, but also help women better realize their dreams of finding that high quality man. In the recent past, this wasn't a unicorn search, but it has now become one. I do think asking for ALL of them is overboard, but I think most guys understand that it's just a review of what to look out for.
You must not know very many women😂
that was the breaking point of my marriage. It years ago I was sick, i asked her to pass me the medicine and she yelled at me for not getting them myself where as I really wished someone would take care of me without asking.
Just reeks of self-involvement and conceit, with some deep-seated resentment of you for showing weakness, even if it is a rational and explainable one due to illness which anyone and everyone goes through. Plus the vows literally say 'in sickness and in health' - I guess she discarded those from her ethics lol
I’m sorry you had to go through that BS man. That really sucks. She was actually just a pos human being.
Yep same with my ex. Started to see a pattern where she would get really resentful and spiteful when I was going through difficult times. Breaking point was how malicious she was the night before I had to admit my dad to icu. He’s ok now but that was an eye opener because I realised this woman would not have my back when life threw a curve ball.
@@cocoskirt So you wanted an emotional slave?
Wow, so sad. I remember I had a first date with a guy a couple of years ago, he suddenly felt sick, I went to the pharmacy to get him medicine, and after that day he ghosted me. I felt like a clown🤡... But I'm glad that there are still men that would appreciate that and want to be taken care of when sick.
Thank you for the ongoing information and insights.
Great talk Rick!! You're giving VALUE to your talks by giving the true red pill and a ton of common sense!!
Re: All green flags... goes both ways! 😅
Culinary skills to me is most important one. Lots of women out there have zero clue about nutrition they either think not eating meat is healthy or they'll feed your children processed crap and Coca-Cola and place them in front of a tv while they scroll through Instagram. Also stay away from those women who are always posting restaurant food on their social media.
I'm a woman and have amazing culinary skills. Guys always ask if I can cook.
@@wyleecoyotee4252 Well then hit me up...
@Cheese Doodle nyggah
Just a fit healthy feminine feminist who is a fantastic cook and can create dishes far better than any frumpy trad wife.
This is a great video! Thank you for posting it. Are you going to have a Green Flags Chapter in your next book?
It's really refreshing to hear the term "green flags" as opposed to the usual red variety that so many people go on and on about these days. Your list of green flags is a darned good one and makes perfect sense. I really enjoyed this posting a lot. Thank you!
My wife wins almost all of these. I wish she took better care of herself, but she's had a few incidents, lately, which are compelling her to exercise and win that battle. Her family is blessed by her. I wish my father had it so good.
A woman that can cook. Hell yeah. As a friend of mine says, “Ain’t nothing like lovin’ that comes from the oven.”
Right timing. I currently have a fever and the first thing my girl did is call me straight away and tell me is that she gonna drop off the rapid Covid test kit. Didn’t have to ask. Little shit like that I appreciate. I would drop any girl that looks the other way and doesn’t even offer to help.
@the stream lol
Solid username
@@stayawayfromthewoke3412 doesn't matter if what she does doesn't actually help at all, It's her intention to help that matters. Even the emotional support of being cared for is very valuable.
But that's a natural reaction for a woman. We are i general care given, that's a woman's nature.
Pretend to be sick for a day and you'll know everything you need to know about who you are dating.
My older brother wasted four years of his life with an annoying girlfriend. One thing that struck was that she pretended to be high class by wearing expensive clothing when she didn't finish high school, but eventually obtained her GED. She quit her senior year to model and it didn't go well. The big red flag was that she would pick things from ten of her girlfriends' boyfriends/husbands and compare them to my brother. "Susanne's boyfriend took them on a 7-day Caribbean cruise." "Angela's husband bought her a diamond necklace." "Jenn's husband bought her a Land Rover." My brother explained to her that he can't compete with the gestures of ten men and to just focus on one with a similar salary.
She offered to make him lunch one day and when he arrived from work there was a firetruck outside the rental home and half of the kitchen was burned.
Read this slowly and then the last sentence... damn.
You said model, but didn’t say, that hot!!
😂 Fire engines! Are you sure it was for a fire?
@@leorashirley1769 Fire engines even arrive at highway auto accidents. It gives firemen opportunities to perform a drill to train new members and keep the crew in practice.
@@riproar11 Your reply is way too practical, it was a joke! And your name is Riproar.... I was expecting better.
Really enjoying the book. I'll finish it tomorrow. 56(M) married to 57(F) for 34 years in June. Two adult kids. I can only say my instincts must have improved rapidly because at 23 I certainly wasn't that enlightened, and I dated some batch&t crazy women prior to marrying. Probably some luck as well. All green flags on your list, and even with that, marriage is no picnic. We have a solid relationship, but it could and should be substantially better. I own it.
The book is awesome. Listening to these videos along with book makes the understanding of the dynamic way, way better
married since 22? any regrets? what made you get married so early?
Great question, Drew. I had just turned 23, but yeah, very young by today's standards. Too young. 1988 was a much different time. It was actually quite common to get married right out of high school in the 80's. Most of those marriages that I'm aware of failed though. I wasn't particularly good at playing the field either, because I really had no clue what I was doing. I lost my dad a 9 years old and I was primarily raised by women, so I was trying to figure out how to be a man. I was a stud. 6'2", 215, muscular and in great shape, but resources like Rich's content and others weren't as readily available, so I didn't understand my SMV. I was commissioned as a lieutenant into the Army at that time, so I was entering a risky profession as well. Maybe biologically I recognized the need to breed to ensure my bloodline continued. Not sure, but my instincts suggested to me this was a good woman who I loved and someone I had a feeling would be a great partner. We had and still have common goals and belief systems - green flags across the board. She complements my life very well. Marriage is very hard work though, even with green flags. We have issues in our relationship. No red flags, but things that require effort and maintenance. Is it worth the effort? Yes. Would I marry her again? Yes, but I'd probably wait awhile and sample the buffet a little more. Ironically, my interest in Rich's content is mostly for my 23 year old son. I've picked up quite a few useful things for me to improve my relationship (mostly with myself), but it could be a game changer for my boy. I told him to have the book finished by Sunday so we can have a discussion.
@@drewtakesprofit8897people got married earlier back then
Thank you so much for helping me get my head straight I really appreciate it.
More good stuff. I'm going to buy your book for both my Son and I. Thanks.
Thanks Rich, Great Video All the Red Flags that you just laid out here are exactly the reason why I'm no longer with my EX Girlfriend. Brained Washed by the Nightly News and the Sunday Morning News Shows. I got very Sick late at night called in the AM Told her I was down for the count. I never heard from her until 6:30 that evening.
Always on the Smart Phone instead of talking about things that matter or which way our Relationshit is heading. All she did was complain about her job. If it wasn't the Supervisor, it was the Coworkers all they made her feel. Or its was the Hairdresser how she styled her hair or how the hairdresser spoke to her. I could go on. Don't want bore you.
You already been there and back. . I'm 15 years out a LTR. 8 No Contact I just Walked Away I had enough. I deserve better. Way Better I'm on my own Grind and Purpose. 65, look great feel great. Got my own Money. No Children, No Debt, I enjoy your Channel learned a lot.
The big one in my opinion is the relationship she has with her father ! Please gents if you’re going to have a little girl bring her up right… set those boundaries at the start and tell her right from wrong. Sure she’ll need to explore a little in life as she gets older but be that funny cool dad who rides when she’s in need of advice or trouble
So glad you did this video. Its one thing to know what to run away from but its another thing to know what to run towards. Thanks Rich.
This is the basis for your next book! TUA is about unplugging, awareness, red flags, etc. You should do a follow up about how to resume your journey in the right direction after unplugging!
This is very positive. Other people in the Manosphere will only speak badly about women. But if you think all women are toxic then you are no better than the feminists who think all men are toxic. I think we all agree it is harder to find good woman than ever before but it is not impossible.
Hi yz Zee oi
Most YT Manosphere contributors are not anti-woman. They are anti-feminists and anti-304s.
I’m 18 and it seems like these types of women don’t exist. I workout 6 times a week and focus on myself and business, so hopefully one day I can find one like this.
They do exist.
I'm like that and many other women in my community are like that...
Just finding the right man is is hard...
Because we live world's apart
Atleast be 25 years old to understand women, till then just have fun !
At the age of eighteen , you're in no position to decide whether not any type of people exist , to be honest😂
I found your channel recently and I enjoy your content. It’s good to hear from a mature adult and male perspective. I’m surprised that you don’t get a little more resistance from women watching. But you laid it out nicely… If a top-notch guy gives this, and this, and this, what is she bringing? I think many people can gain a better perspective listening to you.
And I’m happy to realize that I am full of green flags. I’ve been married a long time, but I’m pretty sure he realizes that. Maybe I’ll have him listen. 🥰
Great video, happy you put this info out!
Rich, this is a great list. I would reposition away from the word 'Obedience'. I believe you mean that it in a more complimentary and supportive way. So I would use "Cooperative". Love your channel dude.
All this sounds exactly like my wife. Thats why we have been together for over 25 years... sometimes it's good to hear it from such videos to see the treasure I have here in my home.
Another green flag : general reciprocation
If you're in a relationship and her birthday comes along, and you celebrate it with her
and when when your birthday comes, she gives it the same importance as you gave
hers, that's a green flag.
As many relationships I've been in, I've only met one girl who remembers my birthday
without the help of facebook alerts. I've broken off with girls who either forget my
birthday or doesn't give it the same attention as I gave theirs. 2 of them used the
excuse "but a girl's birthday is important though. you're a guy and guy's shouldn't care
about presents and cake. You're not a kid." and these are girls whom when I skipped
out on their birthday the same way they skipped on mine, they threatened to cheat
so I just dumped them.
I find single mothers have an amazing ability to change from green flag to red flag.Yes, some are thinking SM are red flag period... however they will show you extra love, care and attention for the first 6 months and then slowly fall into their world of selfishness. Most women have the ability to go from green flag to red flag at some point. Remember women are eternal emotional survivors, they will change their colours at any given time to gain their desired result. The green flag isn't fool proof, a man always has to be a step ahead of the game or he soon will be played. I've seen too many green flags that eventually change colour.
Just avoid all single mothers. They are just a waste of a single man's time and money.
How many men on here have been raised by single mothers?......so are you saying you hate your mother for struggling and sacrificing for you? Even Ronaldo whose dad was a permanent alcoholic (sadly as a result of ptsd as a soldier) and his mother did everything including work to maintain the family and he respects his mother and she was a single mother in all respects.
Been with a single mother for 3 years, she has all the green flags in this video, zero red flags, that’s why I am with her, even though she knows exactly what I think of single moms. She does exactly what I say, and she will tell you it makes her life better, because it does.
This is great material ✅
Glad Rich said it first. The guys first have to clean themselves up to get the nice women to "connect" with them to start some interactions. So many younger dudes seem to think the grunge-homeless look driving the 1975 Yugo car is cool.
This is golden advice Rich.
For the Biblical types, the qualities of a noble women is in Proverbs 31.
I definitely look at how a man treats his mother, sisters, women in his life, etc. I had a man refer to his mother as the b word, I excused myself to the “restroom.”
I love how you are talking about the positives.
Unfortunately, some mothers are seriously that way.
I ended up breaking up with a former GF because her mother was a narcissistic mess.
What would you do if your mother told you that she just wanted you for the welfare money? I just simply don't have any contact with her nor do I want it from her.
@@scottprofitt1065 that’s not your fault, I’d suggest therapy and surround yourself with loving, patient people
I'm fine with it, and moved on I don't see any need for therapy, unless I want to throw money away and there are much better ways spend my money.
Woman: "Be honest"
Man: "My mother is awful".
Woman: "How dare you be honest"
*Flees the restaurant
Agree 95%. After 35 years of marriage, some of this stuff varies. Some of your answers expose your age. It is great being 63. That said, a 40 year old woman ought to be at her peak. Same with guys.
Some very good points on green flags! thank you Rich.
Excellent video. Nice to see this side of things also. These type women aren't the most common - I'm sure plenty have already stated this. But they definitely are out there. I have someone in my life that displays most of these green flags. Some of which weren't actually there initially, but in time, I think it was my example that caused her to develop them - especially as I began to level up in my life. As I began to keep my home much cleaner and organized, I noticed she did hers also (and helps out in mine). I've always been in shape, but as I started to go harder and develop a better physique, and expressed how my body is a reflection of my mind, she started to workout, diet healthier, and take her health more seriously as well. I've expressed often what I believe too much consumption of entertainment can do to someones mind and thought processes, and noticed she backed off of it.
You certainly can't expect a woman to be perfect (I openly express that I'm not as a man), but I can say, if you find one that ticks most these boxes, especially the very important ones, and you lead by example, she will try to improve herself just to he in your life.
Now I'll say, I'm not married. I've known the woman in my case for the last 6 years since we were 24, and this whole time I've been very conscious of who she is, and how she's developed over time. I've never felt the "need" to be with a woman, I still feel that way, and she knows it. I've openly expressed things I wouldn't tolerate (and the fact that I would walk away), when putting myself in the shoes of men in relationship examples that we've talked about. That was my way of implicitly letting her know things I don't tolerate and that I'd walk away if they occurred. But I mention the fact that I'm not married because, I acknowledge the possibility that she could change if I were to go that route. I think it's important to keep that fact in mind when evaluating how things are. I know some women will show you certain things till they have you committed. I've seen them. I don't let my guard down, but I do feel out of all the women I've met and dated (I won't say how many, but I can say enough to know what I do and don't like, but most importantly, enough to pickup on their behavior patterns and redflags in these modern times), that she's shown me enough through time that I could consider fully letting her into my life.
Hope this doesn't sound bad (as I don't mean it that way), but I'm of the mindset that someone has to audition to be in your life. Many will audition, but only a few get to the point of being considered.
Flag #1 only works if you´re not a hypochondriac, or get sick very often. You have to be healthy so that illness seldomly comes to you, and when it does, she´ll be there for you. Fleag #2 please include Korean dramas. Obedience is often related to the relationship she had or still has with her dad.
I went overseas, found a traditional woman, and wow, definite green flag, listening to you confirms it
Hey Rich, just subbed. Love your stuff, lots of good points here. My only gripe is gooooood luck trying to find a girl that isn’t all about her phone these days, or even social media. That’s like finding a girl who hates nice shoes. Not happening. I think it’s all about an open phone policy. That’s what I do with my girl. I also believe over time, you will eventually find out if she’s scandalous. Your gut will tell you a lot of things in life. Believe in it. Anyway great stuff man.
Educational as always. Thank you.
Another thing to observe is how she treats her pets. I have an ex that used to take her bad day out on her kittens and she would throw them on her bed or against the wall like a sponge ball. It was deeply disturbing to see how she used her pets as a tool to vent her anger and take it out on them. I'm also cautious about girls who overpamper their pets as well, but animal abuse is also a huge red flag.
What kind of demon woman is that
This is hilarious 😂 I'm sorry
I fall under all of this AND on top of that saved myself bc I had more of a lust for life and if I was going to date...I wanted to date with purpose. I'm not fat, I'm 29, no drugs, no tats, no kids, no drama...
I am and know these girls he is describing. A lot of them are in church to be honest....
Yes many girls at church are crazy
The church itself is not a guarantee, but definitely there's a correlation. People tend to judge religion basing purely on its mythical component and completely ignoring its ethical dimension and that's IMO the most important part of the religion.
As a woman, thank you for mentioning at the beginning of the video that men also need to work on themselves.
Thank you for talking about the positive things! So many talks on the red flags.
First thing he says made me shout in my bathroom because I've been saying this a lot and no one is listening. If her father is around IT'S A GOOD SIGN. If she has a strange relationship or comes from a broken home, it's a bad sign. Father's are important. It can't be stressed ENOUGH!!!
what if father abused the daughter?
I just made the test with my wife of 22 years and she ticked all the boxes. Fun fact: I picked her from a bar in Pattaya, the biggest brothel in the world.
One of your best videos /topics brother!
God bless 🙏🏽
Good info and confirmation I'm on the right track. I'm 54 and had 3 divorces but am seeing a great girl that hits all your green flags including a 2 body count before me due to a long marriage broken up by his chemical abuse and financial dishonesty to take advantage of her. I haven't seen this kind of commitment from someone since high school and the fact that she out earns me tells me she isn't after my money.
I am currently married to a green flag, really happy my choices were good. The only issue is doing more excercise, but thats my fault, my wife does everything I say, that includes excercise, only catch is we have to do it together, I need to be more active, thanks for the advice.
She does everything you say? I doubt that.
@@angelicaangel2624 Almost everything, your right lol
She'll get fit and hot, and leave you for a ripped dude who won't ask her to do things
@@wyleecoyotee4252 i thought women loved men who told them what to do. i think i dont care anymore... i dont think women have a clue about a thing. nor do most people.
The competition thing rings very true for me. My ex was OBSESSED with earning a higher salary than me. It was so off putting. She couldn't even handle working in a coffee shop, how was she going to get above £45k?! 🤦♂️
If a woman has these three things as a start, she is streets ahead of other women - loves to cook for her family, keeps a reasonably clean house, is pleasant to live with.
I enjoy the simplicity of your grounded advice suttle to the point
I definitely love to cook and have cooked for girls in the past, and it is even pretty fun when you cook together especially when you take the lead if she is still learning
Honestly, if she has/had and great relationship with her father and looks up to him, and the father was a masculine man on his purpose, the majority of the others points all fall into place. It should be the very 1st thing you ask her. Great video!
Many people don't have good relationship with their fathers. It's not something the son/daughter can change since the parent is an adult and they mosty can't change.
She must have a good relationship with her parents but SHE MUST be separated from them once married. When dating i asked her about her father she spoke only praises to him. However a few years down after the marriage this father made it impossible to stay together and she went back to his house literally. So the father flag is not necessarily what it seems. Separation betweeeb daughter and father must be clear and definitive.
Rich, solid advice as always! I appreciate your perspective.
Great advice. Going to buy your book now
Nice! I feel like we rarely hear about the type of women we should want in our lives!
The father thing isn’t fair! Some of us had traumatic relationships with our fathers, but have done the work to move past it, and are still good women/partners.
I think it’s fair in sense that women who have done the work have better opportunities for high value men VS most who don’t. Same for men who grew up with feminist mothers.
The #1 is what’s her baseline. Like on a normal day is she smiling and pleasant and fun to be around, or is she moping and depressed and venting on social media.
This man knows it and speaks it, straight up!
Love this! It all comes down to good morals. Follow the 10 commandments and we will be fine 💚
My lovely late wife Sheri was a champ in the kitchen & bedroom both.
She'd cook meals for her fam as a teen. Wowed me from early on - a more skilled chef than my own Mom.
She was the most promising Girl at our Church College age ministry.
How I landed her is a true Miracle & losing her to Cancer a tragedy.
She had about 90% of the Green Flags you mention Rich.
God help me be worthy of her successor.
Appreciate your sage advice my friend.
@psalm2forliberty577 Sorry for your loss. Love and light to you! ❤
Great video keep these coming 🆑
There's some decent points here. I appreciate this one.
This is super helpful. Just got out of a 6 month marriage after picking up on the fact that my life was a living hell. We dated 5 years. I’m an attorney, have a huge house, am funny, workout and have an amazing relationship with my family. She sat around and picked her nose. Thanks for the advice! I’m also 33 so I’m happy to get out now
I hope she was smoking hot.
@@Groover1964 she was not 😂
6 month marriage...wow! And it was all her fault it failed! Good thing you bailed before it was too late!
did she pick her nose in the 5 years before marriage
@@DavidMRudy-kn8ed She was 21 when I met her so I figured it was that youthful charm lol. Turns out it wasn't. lol