Don't joke about calling CPS so casually like that. It's a very serious allegation you're making and calling CPS should only be for serious inquiries only- NOTHING TO JOKE ABOUT on yr youtube channel Busiswa, kids get taken away from good parent(s) all of the time (bc of a misunderstanding or crazy vindictive ex or family member making false allegations) & get placed in a very broken foster care system for mere days or weeks or months where they then get abused- Don't joke about that, it's not funny, at all.
You don’t think covert inc€st is abuse? You don’t think a mother saying “…we do more intimate things in private..” isn’t suspicious? Don’t you think I know better than to, “joke” (according to you), about that? It wasn’t a joke.
Julie, do you even know what this video is about? Incest isn't a joke, maybe you don't find it weird but tbh it is just disgusting, YOUR DISGUSTING. ofc calling CPS isn't A JOKE, HOWEVER, don't you think we're talking about a serious situation, she is not joking abt calling CPS, she's just being truthful bc imma be honest, there are literal moms who act like their sons are their husband's... maybe you should stop assuming that everything is a "joke" cuz clearly jokes are meant to be funny I don't think ppl were laughing at this.
she isn't joking about CPS, do you even care that mother's act like animals towards their children? your disgusting and tbh she is just telling the truth because there are mothers who treat their kids like their husband's.. This wasn't a joke, nobody's laughing at this video it's just the fact that you assume that she's joking about something so serious is disgusting and weird, why would she joke about something like this??
Gonna have to agree with Busiswa. CPS needs to be called on mothers who cannot differentiate between romantic and paternal PLATONIC love. You understand the reason she said that was because the children involved are being exposed to abusive behavior; that in the long run will damage them and cause them to need help to work through their trauma? It isn't a joke she made, it's guidance she's trying to offer. If I see any mother/father being weird with her/his child, CPS is absolutely being called. I'm more concerned as to why you DON'T want CPS to be called on these gross parents.
The jump that boy moms make from having a husband or boyfriend and projecting that onto their own son is just weird as hell. There some unresolved issues that these women need to figure out.
They either married useless men and can't get the love they need from their man,so they raise their sons to be what they wish their husband was,this is my opinion
Theres a term for this. Its covert incest where essentially the women treat their kids like their husbands in every way but sexually. I think the extreme cases its abuse.
@@themischief420 true but since we were on the topic of boy moms I directed it towards women. I'd say the same thing for father - daughter relationships that are more like a daughter - boyfriend relationship
@@hannahdyson9963This is more common with women, particularly single mothers. Men aren’t doing all of that unless there’s actually some creepy stuff going on behind closed doors!
Shoot you might be right. That's why some of these moms wear white to their own sons weddings. "its my wedding too" face asses. They WOULD if they knew they COULD.
Teaching my son how to cook so he doesn't think that cooking is a woman's job was the best thing anyone could have said. That is what we all need to do with all our children. Everyone should learn to cook because it is an important life skill.
I totally agree. My little brother doesnt cook, and my big brother mostly doesnt cuz of his wife. I’m gonna teach my potential future sons cooking as thew grow. As well as any daughters. One of the most valuable things is realizing “ we really do have food at home”
While I agree, that is absolutely not the sentiment these women are implanting into their sons- they’re setting them up for a lifetime of unsatisfying relationships and women who will never measure up. God help any woman who marries one of these man-children; nothing like being saddled with someone who’s never happy and compares you to their mother 24/7.
I never understood how any mother could send their child, no matter the gender, put into the world without even teaching them how to prepare a meal for themselves… …and it was so common. How are you a good parent?
Especially if women can’t cook anymore, got to be good at it so you can have a good life and just get that woman when the urges are there . Anyway that video was chocking
This is called emotional incest. The crazy thing is it's not just manifested in a boy-mom/girl-dad dynamic. Therapy opened my eyes to realizing that I (a woman) was experiencing this in my relationship with my mother. When my husband and I were dating she literally yelled at him that he will never love me as much as she does or like she does. My husband shared this with his father a few years into our marriage and his father expressed nothing but disgust saying, "well yeah, she's your wife's MOTHER and that relationship is different from a romantic one between you two and no attempt at comparison should be made because her mother is not her lover." I still want to throw up. I'm no contact with her.
I have basically the same thing with my mom!! She'd always go on about how "no one will love you like your mother". There were lots of worse behaviors, but she'd put me and my man through the ringer! I'm little to no contact with her now.
My cousin was like this when her daughter expressed love for a boy in her class. And her mom was You're my baby. I hope nothing transpires between you two. I shut that down saying she's a teenager.... it's normal for her to express she likes someone. She was really angry and jealous
GEEEEEz.. I did not know emotional incest was a thing until now.. and now this is starting to open my own eyes to things that now I am even more disturbed by wtf is wrong with people...
That is just weird. My mom was so happy for me when I met my now fiancé, and she is so excited to help me plan our wedding BECAUSE she loves me and knows that he is everything I have ever wanted and more. My fiancé's mom is the same way thankfully. I love her.
I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on "girl dads" too. The ones who threaten the boyfriends with shotguns and make their daughters sign "celibacy contracts" when they're toddlers. That last one isn't a joke. There are tiktoks of these men making their toddler daughters not date until they're 30. It's like the other side of the toxic coin and I'd love to hear your thoughts on them too, Busiswa.
@@TheMaiaDriscol I've seen a tiktok where a dad proposed to his 20 year old daughter (if I remember the age correctly) with a FRICKING Purity Ring he also mentioned something along the lines of saving herself till marriage💀
Also girl moms. Idk if that's a thing or not. I grew up in a house of all boys so I can't speak from experience but From the stories I've heard a lot of y'all's mom's did not see it for you and I think that's fascinating
I don't remember where I saw it but someone had said that "pick me's end up becoming boy mom's" and from the ones I've seen and the ones you showed that statement gets more true by the day.
It's true actually, I had one friend with super severe pick me and she definitely a boy mom now, she always talk how she so grateful she have boy and not a girl and always talk negatively about other people's daughter. Thank God, she got 4 boys and lately she said they not gonna have baby no more
Yes! This is legitimately a studied social phenomenon, the conditioned need for male approval in some women becomes so severe they literally can’t help but seek approval from every man in their lives, even their own sons, it’s sad and it’s a bit sickening. To be a parent seeking validation from your own child is just wrong, you are their leader and protector, you should be guiding them, not trying to gain their approval. Women who are conditioned to this point sadden me, but men raised this way is what really scares me.
@@pookiebear2779I was going to add this, but you already did. She's creating monsters she won't want to face later on. My kids weren't allowed to physically fight or name call without serious verbal reprimand. Thank God they're past that stage and know how to relate to each other respectfully.
This. My dad abused me and my mom. Mom said dad's mother (my paternal grandma) was a control freak with all the men in his family. Grandma hit my dad a lot as her way of ""disciplining"" him as a child. Apparently after dad married mom, grandma told him "Never let your wife tell you what to do. Be a man and take control". And so he learned to take control by beating his family into submission. Abuse is a terrible cycle.
Okay, I'm a mother of two boys. My oldest is 17 and could never even imagine trying to hang on then like a spidermoney. I'm raising my boys to be men who will value their wives. Not the one wanting to be the wife. 🤢🤮
I have 3 sons- 26, 24, 21 and I cannot even begin to contemplate behaving so overtly, much less allowing it to be _filmed and posted to the interwebs for the world to see_ and not being horrified. This is so insanely inappropriate and it makes me wonder what their friends think, or even the mom’s friends (doubtful she has any that aren’t also behaving this way, but still) and it makes me want to pour bleach into my eyes seeing some of the extraneous things these women are inflicting on their kids.
@@AYFKMRNI have a 20 year old son. It takes a 'special ' kind of person to even contemplate straddling their child. It's disgusting and disprectful to the child, and shows the mother doesn't have any self respect.
Thanks for stating the obvious. I don't know why your comment got so many upvotes when any decent mother would do the same thing as you, Arielle Arruda. I liked the spider monkey analogy though, lol.
Ahhh the boy moms are so scary! I have two boys so they come up and tell me their weirdo behavior like I’m going to relate. NO THANKS. I’m never wrapping my legs around my son’s waist like 🤢 I’ll hold HIM like a baby until he’s 80 years old but him hold me like that? Just gross. I’m his mom, not his woman. These women give me the ick.
Also I don’t mean I’ll actually cradle him like a baby 😹 just that if he needs to be held then his mom is always here. I will do this for my daughter too. & my mom still holds me sometimes and I’m in my mid thirties lol sometimes I just need my mom.
see that's the difference between caring about your children, like you are, and . . . whatever this nonsense is ! it's giving the women who DARE to actually care about their sons a bad name !
@cortneysmith2698 no that's okay, any mother will cradle their kid if they have to.. I saw a woman cradle her 17yr old daughter cause she was scared of needles, so that's okay.. it's your baby still But turning their baby into a partner they don't have is creepy as hell
From what I’ve seen most boy’s with “boy mom” moms don’t go no contact. Most of them just turn into Momma’s boys and pick their mother over anything including their wife and children.
*YES!!* I saw one mom pitching a holy terror fit about her son going full no-contact with her _’after everything under the sun I’ve done for him!! I gave up everything I wanted and needed so he could have anything he desired!’_ Sis, with that full-blown martyr syndrome you’ve got going, I can absolutely understand him needing to have extreme distance from you.
@@AYFKMRN Man, I love when parents use the "I gave you everything since you were a child" excuse as if we owe them for the mistake they made and then want you to stay with them like crazy.
@@Iziamack The real kicker is often thats just selfish delusion speaking. They're talking about the natural changes in life a parent experiences when going from a chidless person to a parent. Often the actual needs/desires of the child are not only neglected but put down for their own selfish reasons! (Don't pursue higher education, estranging the kid from friends *especially ones who might show them how weird the parents behaviour is. Downplaying any natural talents for ones they can talk about with their friends, extended infantalisation, intentionally spoiling or giving unreasonable expectations of partners/friends/jobs so tha the child is unable to handle the outside world and remains dependent on them) It's beyond sick.
My mother in law is a boy mom 🤦🏾♀️. A boy mom who’s desperate for a grandson. I can’t describe the tantrum she threw when I had my second daughter. She wanted her son to divorce me and find a real woman who could give her a grandson 🤣.
Please don't leave any son(s) you may have alone with her. Hell, don't leave none of your kids with her. She don't sound right in the head and y'all don't owe her contact to your kids if you feel she's unsafe for them. Period.
When I was younger, my brothers and I used to play this game where we’d randomly bombard our mum with questions like who she loves more. We’d try to twist her words and insist that she had a favourite but she never fell for it because in her heart, she loved all of us equally. 😂
So I have two younger brothers and they were both of my parents favorites. So growing up and having mental health issues and dealing with trauma and watching my brothers get more love and attention the time it didn't help my mental health. As I got older and mentally healthy I forgave my parents, but when I got pregnant with my son 5 yrs after my daughter & my mom said "OMG you're gonna love him so much Amy, it's a totally different love than you ever fault"! My inside was on fire & I wanted to cry for my daughter. I have never loved anybody or anything more than I loved my daughter at this point, and I told her absolutely not. Literally she tried to talk me into it multiple times.. all I kept saying was no I am going to love my children the exact same. I am almost 43, my daughter is 22 and my son is 16 and my mom brought it up again. Something along the lines of the boy just seems more helpless like they need more help from their mamas.. and I simply told her that I did not feel that way and I told her not to say anything like that ever again. And I finally told her exactly how I felt. I said, my whole life I watched both you and Dad favor my brothers, one of my brothers could do no wrong even when it came to the law drinking and driving not paying off drug dealers.. oh it's been bad, when I was 21 I needed to have my wisdom teeth out really bad but I couldn't afford health insurance I was working and a single mom and my dad made me pay him every penny back... okay I'm getting off topic, anyways I explained to her that when she talks about how I am going to love my son more than my daughter that it infuriates me. I did not feel good growing up, I will never allow my children to feel that way
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. You deserve love and so does your daughter. It really saddens me people have kids especially daughters and make them feel unwanted. It's so sick and should actually be classified as emotional neglect.
The fact that they were bailing your brother out of idiotic decisions, but didn’t get your wisdom teeth out when you were a teenager makes my blood boil. That’s literally medical care!
Not to be an ssa or anything, but believe me.. you won.. Cause they're ruining your brother's life while they're bs made you strong.. I'm sorry, he is your brother but he's their problem.. they'll regret everything in the end the way he's going
I just want to say that the only reason she's pestering you to feel more love for your son than your daughter is because she thinks if you do the same as her, it justifies what she did and "proves she was right". She really wasn't. My sister in life, block her out of your mind. You are being a proper mom by loving your kids exactly how they should be loved. Good f*cking job and you keep knocking it out of the park!
My heart broke for the kid who was professing his toddler's idea of love for his mama, & yea she responded with the right words but not with the right energy- as mothers, we need to teach our boys what love is, she ignored her son so crudely to make a stupid tik tok video- I would have scooped up my son & thanked him for the flower & told him that "he cannot marry mama bc i'm yr mama, but thank you so much for the flower & mama will be there for you when you finally do fall in love w/ a beautiful girl, a girl just as beautiful as this flower, thank you so much hunny"
Yeah I do not get the approval for mom on this one- almost all children go through this with their opposite sex parent. She didn’t have to be so obnoxious and infer things that absolutely weren’t his intention. You can explain it to the child in a kind, compassionate manner so his developing mind can understand. the way she is so extra about the ick she feels seems really heartless and not a lesson about love you want to be teaching. When kids are this small, all they feel (hopefully) is a deep emotional connection to the people they love and trust most, so when they ask you to marry them, they’re doing what seems logical to their brain. It’s an excellent teaching moment and being so hurtful with his adorable ask is just mean. And as a practicing psychologist of over two decades with a specialization in childhood trauma, this is absolutely not how you deal with a small child.
I wanted my dad to marry ME as a kid because I thought you married who you love the most, obviously any kid that young has no idea marriage is only a Romantic love and not a best friend forever love, so I said i was a princess after I changed into a tiana dress and snapped an old photo, literally nothing more and I forgot about it HOW IS THIS BAD. my dad does not love any of us romantically but my mother??? He was just humoring me because I was four, Im pretty sure I was told the differences and understood them well because I do not love my parents romantically, I understand you need to teach the differences but seriously nothing was wrong about what she did and even if she said sure that's no where near being a predator, that's not liking your kids. my parents are not like that. and watching that annoyed me a ton
I had to read that like 5 times, but yes, you are correct. Look at the rapper T.I, he said he took his 18 year old daughter to the gyno to make sure her hyman is still intact. That's just gross, and why does he need to know this. It's almost like he was promoting and telling everyone I have a virgin up for grabs 🤮
I am one of them and I don't know if it is just Haitian fathers who say this or any father if they do. But one time, my dad told me that he was my 1st boyfriend and he was jealous of me me messing around at 16 years old. I can understand that at 16 I was doing things I wasn't supposed too like some teens at that time however, to say something like that is ridiculous and I would not be surprised if one of theses "boy-moms" told their sons that they were their first girlfriends.
I think the mum whose wee son asked to marry her could’ve explained it a bit better to him. Like sit him beside you and tell him that you love him so much but it’s a different love. One day he will meet a lovely person to marry and maybe even have his own wee babies to love. Tell him he will understand when he’s older, accept the flower, have a hug and tell him to go play.
i’ve been in one relationship and she gave the most incestuous vibe ever, & a story i can’t repeat out loud, safe to say it’s steered me clear of relationships for a long while 😅
My friend briefly dated a guy who had a damn near incestuous relationship with his mom. The guy was 20, in college and he still lived at home. The mom used to walk around in her bra and panties in front of him and they often slept in the same bed. My friend nope'd out of that situation real quick.
@@vegasgirl3538 i can understand the bra & panties cus some ppl have naked moms, mine is one 😭 but the sleeping in the same bed… i thought that stops after adolescence
As a mom of a boy....These women definitely need a therapist or 3. They are your kids. Not your second husband or there to fill the spot that your husband doesn't or whatever. It's so weird.
That last woman in the white pants is predatory. Look at how she's dressed, in that "hugging" video as well as in all of her videos with a pushup bra, all while talking about her son! It's all shades of inappropriate and it definitely crosses boundaries. She knows what she did is 1nc3stual in nature or she wouldn't have taken down the video and set her account to private. She just doesn't like that she got caught being creepy with her son. That young man is going to grow up with all kinds of problems.
@@danielleburke87 It's very creepy. She's having an identity crisis and wants people to *think* she is her son's girlfriend, so she dresses and behaves that way. It's not only inappropriate but it's extremely disrespectful. I feel sorry for him because he's never going to have a healthy romantic relationship with a woman or find a wife, not with a "mother" that conducts herself like that. Bring back shaming. Public shaming.
@@danielleburke87i don't think she was dressed inappropriately. However, her behavior is inappropriate, and she needs to be investigated. If their relationship is more intimate than her straddling his waist, so he can lift her, there is definitely a problem there .
The worst are the ones with the mothers jumping onto their sons to straddle them and you can tell the boys are uncomfortable - like the one saying "stop I did not wash my face" yeah he was desperate to get away from her.
11:18 this one made me tear up a bit. I agree with you. I think this mom was just reflecting and missing being his comfort but thankful he has someone to do it now❤🥹
My baby is getting married in a month, our first of 4 to do so. I was asked to give a toast, and since I write fairly well, I’ve agreed. It’s completed and I think it will be received well. But it’s not about my son, it’s about my new daughter and how she has turned him into the man I always knew he would be. As a mom- my job was always to raise healthy, responsible adults who would contribute positively to the community, to make others better people for having known them. To guide, counsel and provide discipline when needed that helped them become their best self. But in doing so, I’ve come to know each of them in an intimate way, sometimes knowing them better than they know themselves, but always instilling in them the confidence to make the best choices and know that they’ll make mistakes- but their dad and I will always be there to pick them up when they fall. Their choices are not always the one I would choose, but it is always their choice to make. And even though his fiancée isn’t a choice I made for him, if I could have chosen, I would have chosen her.
As a mom of 3, two boys, one girl, I never valued the boys over my girl. I tried to raise them ALL to be healthy, happy, compassionate adults who are independent.
As a parent I taught my son how to cook because it’s a basic survival skill we all need to learn it because it’s cheaper and/ or healthier than eating fast food or eating in a restaurant everyday. I don’t see why it has to be linked to a specific gender. It’s just a Basic Survival Skill!
I'm a boy of 2. A couple of months ago, my 5 yr old said I'm going to marry Mommy. I told him that's isn't possible because I am your mommy and mommy is married to Daddy. He said, "But you're my best friend." I simply told him one day when you are grown you will find a nice girl to marry ok. He said ok and went on about his business. I'm still trying to figure out how/what a 5 yr old even knows about marriage. Sir, you are in kindergarten, where do you get this stuff from?.....
Children don't know what that means. I once said something stupid like that when I was a toddler I thought of marriage as just being together like friends or something
I understand where ur coming from and yeah thank u for setting a boundary for ur son. Although i think hes just being a kid. I wouldnt over think it. If he continues as he gets older, thats where ide be concerned
There were studies done into similar issue, men implicated in emotional incest with mother grow up asexual. Meaning no sexual interest in their long term female partner in the context of intimacy.
@@Xx_D4RK_K1N_xXI agree with this. These women don't want a man within 100 feet of their precious boys. However, they don't want women near them either.
This is equivalent to the weirdo dads who give their daughter purity rings and make them promise to not have sex until their married lol I understand being protective over your children and doing your due diligence as a parent but some parents truly develop an inappropriate attachment to their children.
@wompppwompwomppp ok, so then cough cough dems mutilate children and trun tomboys into trannies cough cough drag queen story hour cough cough I am Jazz cough cough cough
The amount of condescending comments I got while pregnant and tell people I was having a girl. She’s two weeks old and the love and light of my life I will never understand why people hate on girls so much 😒
@@freemaiiow3678 sounds like she’s giving him space to be an adult?? My mom did the same thing when I moved out she stopped being there for me as often cause I had to learn how to do things myself.. cause I’m an adult now. The only reason my mom should be coming over is to say hi and relax and it’s like an every couple months thing.
That last Mom is absolutely disgusting. You don’t hug your son by jumping up on him and wrapping your legs around his waist. That is what his girlfriend should be doing not his mom. 🤮
I grew up with a mom and aunt and actually my entire mom’s side of the family favoring the boys. I love my kids equally. I will say my 5 year old son tries too much to protect me and help me out because his dad left. I had to pull him aside the other day and tell him it’s nice he wants to help me but he is a kid and he should go be a kid and not a provider of me. I feel like some of these moms expect their kids to step up and fill in the space of their missing father. That is not their job. Totally agree with the statement about your children not being your emotional support space.
So, so true. I think this is what my MIL wanted from my husband. When her hubby left, he'd assist financially and on our wedding she claimed he's her hubby. Even when she has to make basic decisions, she'd ask him but she has 2 daughters. The older isn't close to her.
This behavior from parents, let’s stop sugar coating it, absolutely *is* emotional incest. It’s not “toxic boy moms”, I mean it is toxic, it’s emotional incest. If people would call these people for what they really are, I bet they’d change their attitudes real quick. Many of these boy moms who have this type of relationship with their sons, aren’t just saying my son is the bestest best thing that has ever happened to me, they are saying the most vile, disgusting, disturbing, and disrespectful things that anyone would ever say to a minor. If they weren’t related people would definitely call it grooming. Especially the moms who climb all over their sons like the mom who jumped on her son and kissed all over his face or the mom who was congratulating her son for his football game. The toxic girl dads are just as disgusting. Again, it goes beyond normal behavior into territory where it’s just… so very wrong. The purity ring thing needs to be stopped. Seriously. It doesn’t look as sweet and innocent as they want people to believe it is. Many of those purity ring “ceremonies” look just like marriage proposals. It’s gross. Stop it. The shotgun dads need to stop too. What is wrong with you that you threaten someone’s life for taking your daughter on a freaking date. And isn’t it illegal to brandish a firearm? I swear I heard a story about a man accidentally shooting his daughter’s boyfriend because he didn’t check his gun. If it didn’t happen, that’s what *could* happen because let’s face it, they aren’t practicing gun safety. Treat it like it’s LOADED. I am saying this as a woman who was subjected to emotional incest. My mom and her first husband started treating me like I was married to her husband *and* raising *our* kids. I suffer from PTSD, for years I had trouble with men and women, amongst other problems. Your child; son or daughter, is not your significant other! Stop treating them like they are cheating on you when they get into a relationship. What is wrong with you!?
OK. Am I missing something? There are ceremonies for purity rings? My sister just bought a cute cross a d heart ring from amazon and wears it. Also aren't shotgun dads just a movie thing Also I'm so sorry about your mum and stepdad situation. I also had a messed up situation with my mum and stepdad (not like this kinda abuse, just physical, emotional and mental. From my stepdad not my mum). So I understand the distrust of others that comes afterwards. I hope you have healed🫂
@@blessedcocoa5729 They aren't just a movie thing. Yes, perhaps they were more common in the days of yore (my grandfather came to my grandmother's house to introduce himself to her father and ask for his blessing to _date,_ not even marry, and her father drove him off with a loaded shotgun), but I've seen modern social media posts of the like. One of note was a teenage girl with her dad, uncle, and brother(s), all of whom but the girl were holding weapons, and the caption was, "Waiting for the prom date."
I got a husband and a son. They are two entirely different relationships. I love and welcome my son's girlfriend and I love how she makes him smile, laugh, and encourages him to clean his room!
I broke up with a guy when i was younger because he had a boy mom. First of all, she cheated which caused a divorce. Then she asked for her son and said the dad could keep the daughter. And she was extremely jealous when he got his first girlfriend (me) and she was overtly sexual. I just couldn’t see myself marrying into that family. I had to end it real quick. But her son was so sweet if it weren’t for the mother, I would’ve really considered him.
@ I did and I told the mother. She called me to tell me that she didn’t understand why her son was so obsessed with me. I told her don’t worry about it because we’re not together anymore and I told her why.
@@sabinawitwickamy mom never told me but her attitude let me know. She likes her first 2 kids best- my brother and sister. I'm last (,number 4). I don't even know why she had me.
@@lailaalanna315 oh my god don't say that just because your mom doesn't value you means you loose value your mother sounds like she doesn't have empathy which is her problem not yours your all equal and nothing can change that ever
That mom with the little boy proposing to her. I appreciate that interaction. I do find it sweet that the son wants his mommy to be treated like a princess but she is trying to set the boundary that its not his responsibility nor appropriate. When hes old enough and ready he can marry and treat another woman as his princess. Kids got heart. He loves his mom. Kids don't understand the difference with relationships sometimes and im glad to see shes being responsible and setting the boundary.
@damiensisco6960 Meaning a mother of a boy not what is being shown in this video and what is being posted on TikTok/Facebook(probably there on Facebook too)
I think parents should be safe cuddling people for their child for the rest of their lives, but cuddling is totally different than what these women are doing, no crotches should ever be touching the son and boobs only by accident. Kissing is really normal in my culture but usually a son would be protesting while mom may hold their head and places some smacking ones on a cheek because it's natural to be somewhat repulsed and you make a joke about it. That's how you make it not weird. You should never look like lovers in public.
Sounds about right. Tbh, my son is 20 years old and I don't hug him. I touch his head, if I pass by and he's sitting or I may give his ear a little tug. The closest I get to him is braiding his hair, which I do sometimes. Now, if he needed a hug, of course, mom is always there and he knows that. He still comes to me for advice and we spend quality family time together, along with my 12 year old daughter and her dad. I don't understand the mentality of these mothers straddling their sons. They have no respect for their sons or themselves. It's disgusting and disturbing.
@@lailaalanna315 Yeah that's gross, I do think sitting on a lap is different but some kids just like that their whole lives, mom thought it was funny sometimes to sit on my lap and I'm female and only a touch taller than she was. But that really was just for a joke. I only hugged her when I really needed to. My brother is more the hugging type so he needs it more often, I'm very into my private space though. I got 99% of the hugs in I needed for life when I was a kid. If I'd had a kid or two I'd pet them for sure but none of the creepy stuff.
"Teaching my son to cook so he can have an independent living skill". The misogyny is strong with these boy moms. I love my son so much, but I am rasing him to be someone's husband, father, friend, coworker, etc.
I’m gonna start saying “I’m a mother of a son” if I have one in the future. It’s way more appropriate to me and spreads the message that I am that boy’s mother, his life teacher, and not his best friend or how they call themselves “their first love”. Another thing I hate about these mothers is how they get competitive WITH LITTLE GIRLS WHO ARE BABIES AS WELL when they get close to their son. Like, ma’am…bfr that you’re having beef with a CHILD.
My exs mom was weird like that, like ma’am I’m dating your son not you and your son. I’ll never forget how jealous she got when he bought me flowers and she insisted him to throw my flowers out, So glad my current relationship isn’t like that. The whole family was weird af and “too close” Mind you I was working 6 days a week and cooking three meals a day.
@@brookew2403 I’m sorry, it’s such a gross feeling for a mom to make you feel that way, so I feel for you that’s exactly how I felt, 🤢 🤢 So many weird awkward interactions. Hope things are better for you, even if it’s little contact with the in-laws ❤️
I broke up with a guy who had a mom like this. He was conventionally attractive compared to his brothers and sister and the youngest, so she was a different mother to him than them. She drives every woman (and the one guy) that her son gets involved with away.
OMG This describes my ex mother-in-law perfectly. She was HORRID. She hated me because I wasn't Catholic, because I had my tubes tied after I had my son (so she would never have HER OWN grandchild), because I didn't have big boobs, and any other petty sh*t she could come up with. I did see flags before we were married. But I kept thinking that once he had his own family he would "rise to the occasion". Yeah. NO. I am not exaggerating when I say he could not (WOULD NOT) make any decisions without asking his mother first. I had met him on my internship with the state police in my senior year at university. When I graduated I took a job with a sheriff's department south of Detroit. He was assigned to a post a couple hours NORTH of Detroit. His parents were right in the middle, so when he'd come down on days off, he ALWAYS stopped in to see mother - sometimes staying overnight. All the while she would be telling him what a terrible wife I was blah blah blah. Well final straw one time visiting them, she was outrightly RUDE to my son, letting it be known that he would never be "family." He was just a little guy so I don't think he got the whole thing but I sure did. So I decided to let her have her son, so she could pick out a big-boobed breeder for him and my son and I were OUT. Now the moral to this story is for you young girls who se flags but think it will change. It won't, unless it's for the worse. If he lets his mother bully you and disrespect you, gtfo sweetie. Do not walk - RUN. Leave the mama's boy and find a real man (or spend some time on your own!) That seems like so long ago, my son is 34 now and a happy, hardworking guy with an RN gf and they seem to be very happy. And I have been married to my husband and best good friend over 15 years now. We have furbabies lol. Sometimes people are so toxic you just have to turn your back on them - if you let them in your life they will bring only chaos and sorrow. Always trust your "Spidey Sense" ladies - if you're seeing flags, don't try to rationalize them as being OK. Find someone who is your intellectual equal. And take them as you find them. Do not think they will change or worse that it's your job to save or rescue them. Best to all, be safe out there kids...thx for reading, sorry about the wall of text. Cheers!
Im sorry i dont even think i will be able to get through this video, it will be too triggering 😭 Some moms…. Are freaking insane.. and weird. Both my exes had single moms and they were very weird. The first one wasnt so bad, i would say it was a good relationship with her son and me.. but she did walk around the house in her underwear which was weird to me. The second one, had a really toxic relationship with her son, and she was really weird to me. Sadly this ex was abusive to me, and we would be at his mom’s basement (i know, rough patch in my life lol) so she could hear everything. She literally came downstairs, brought 1 pastry, and gave it to her son, right after he was very physically hurtful to me… which was crazy of her. Like she literally was positively reinforcing him hurting me. And she wore very revealing clothes around him like full cleavage. Meanwhile i always wore sweats and a t shirt like idk, but i get some ppl have different clothing comfort levels. Also, when I wasnt in the picture, she seemingly hated him and never wanted him around. As soon as I came in, she would get very possessive and protective over him. That’s it i dont wanna talk about it anymore 😅 So love u B but now im gonna gooo
I also think women need to be careful though to not label every mom as a toxic boy mom. There are some moms who are just very loving, and Not weird about it. Girls are jealous too! Like my friend’s girlfriend said very hurtful things about my friend’s mom, who is just a very sweet person, just because she left a note saying “I love you” in his dorm. She demanded he go no-contact, and said nasty shit like it was Freudian and he was weird etc etc. He was just so sad about it because his mom had just gotten surgery and had no one to help her. I dont think it was right of his girlfriend to do that. Mothers are allowed to love their sons.. it’s just important to be cautious when you see them loving their sons in a weird way. Also I wanted to clarify in my previous comment it almost sounded like i was correlating single moms with this behavior, but that was just my experience. it can be any type of mom, and I know many non-weird single mothers, like my guy friend’s mom who i mentioned above.
As a mother of a boy: I'm a mom, not a friend, not a weird woman trying to look young and super fun... I can't deal with that attitude. For me be a mother is a sacred thing, G.od gave me a lil treasure and is my duty as a mother and a woman, raise a boy to be a man who is gonna care about others, be kind, love his wife and children feel fear for G.od and respectul of His creation. In fact, I try to always look put together and dress super modest because I have to respect him as my son and a man.
@@Stdutcthdnobody said loving one more than the other bro. Do you know math??? If they love their sons less and their daughters more than what they CURRENTLY do, it would be equal…..!?!?
I Will teach my son to cook, even if I am a bad cooker, to clean a house , and to be respectful and kind so he will be a good partner for the man or the woman who share his life (sorry for my english I am french)
The video about the little boy asking to marry his mom reminds me of when I used to go around as a toddler to my family and say I wanted to marry them, that was just my ‘I love you’ lol
That “hard day” one just makes me think of the shooter in Ga that attacked a spa. He told the cops “he had a hard day” as if that was an excuse for killing people… it’s definitely not healthy to allow your son to harm his sisters or anyone for that matter because he had “a hard day”…
I teach my son how to cook and clean, 1) so he can be a functional adult, and 2) so he isn’t a helpless child when he finds your wonderful daughter. And if she bears a child, he better be doing cooking and cleaning while she rests, or he’ll have to deal w me.
Great video *Busiswa.* It’s nice having a creator who points out and discusses these weird, online behaviors that people are choosing to upload for the world to see. Thank you ma’am!
Dealt with this the beginning of my husband and I’s relationship. She has a whole husband and everything.. She literally said “don’t take my only son from me” like her youngest son (who was 8 at the time, he’s 13 now) wasn’t RIGHT THERE!! It got better, but it took 6 effing yeeeears (we’re coming up on 10 yrs together)
Which is why I don't understand why women always say it's single mothers. I don't have statistics but I'm sure a number of married mothers do this, as well.
That reminds me of a time when my (male) cousin was at his own brother's funeral, and their dad was at the front weeping over losing his only son. My cousin then cut off contact.
It looks like the men are just doing what they need to do to get back at these horrible women. The mothers who are having these so-called “relationships” with their sons are very narcissistic and do not want their sons ever to get married. They look at them as their husbands. This is a form of abuse. This is also what you call a “monster-in-lawl” when his wife will always be hurt by his mother IF he ever gets married.
I am married to a mommy's boy. When I first met his mom I realized that we look alike. The covert incest I experienced growing up was between my mother and me. She told me things that should have between her and my father. She relied on me for emotional support a spouse should supply, not her child.
When I have a son I’m going to pray for him and his future wife . I want her to feel welcomed and at home whenever she steps foot into my space, not like she’s in competition with me for his love . I want her to know that yes I’m his mom , but once you’re his wife , I’m stepping back and letting her shine as his wife. Cuz my job is done . If she needs advice or someone to talk to , I’ll always be there of course , but I’m not over stepping any boundaries she has . The Bible says that a man will leave his parents home and cleave to his wife . Because they have become one . Some mommas don’t wanna let their sons cleave ! 🤣 I believe women who act like with their sons have deep rooted daddy issues that they need to get healed from.
I have three boys. I love them so much. I love their hugs and kisses, but I will not ever jump up on them and wrap my legs around them. 🤢 They aren't my husband. My MIL was a hard one to deal with at first. My husband was her favorite child (her only son). She let everyone know it, and she didn't like me for many years. It's getting better finally. Ladies, if you are obsessed with your son, you run a high risk of losing them as adults.
When I asked my brother to marry me I was the same age as the boy who asked his mom. I had no freakin' clue what that meant in reality because my brain literally hadn't developed enough for me to understand. All I knew is that when people love and admire each other, they get married. I did NOT want to kiss him or anything like that. It was simply a way for me to show that I really cared for him and thought he was a great guy. Of course, now I know better. But the kid wasn't asking to sleep with his mom! He was trying to express how much he cares and she should have taken the 40 seconds to explain why marriage is different BUT mention that she appreciates his affection and love. Not shame him for all of the world to see and pile on.
Don't joke about calling CPS so casually like that. It's a very serious allegation you're making and calling CPS should only be for serious inquiries only- NOTHING TO JOKE ABOUT on yr youtube channel Busiswa, kids get taken away from good parent(s) all of the time (bc of a misunderstanding or crazy vindictive ex or family member making false allegations) & get placed in a very broken foster care system for mere days or weeks or months where they then get abused- Don't joke about that, it's not funny, at all.
You don’t think covert inc€st is abuse? You don’t think a mother saying “…we do more intimate things in private..” isn’t suspicious?
Don’t you think I know better than to, “joke” (according to you), about that? It wasn’t a joke.
Julie, do you even know what this video is about? Incest isn't a joke, maybe you don't find it weird but tbh it is just disgusting, YOUR DISGUSTING. ofc calling CPS isn't A JOKE, HOWEVER, don't you think we're talking about a serious situation, she is not joking abt calling CPS, she's just being truthful bc imma be honest, there are literal moms who act like their sons are their husband's... maybe you should stop assuming that everything is a "joke" cuz clearly jokes are meant to be funny I don't think ppl were laughing at this.
she isn't joking about CPS, do you even care that mother's act like animals towards their children? your disgusting and tbh she is just telling the truth because there are mothers who treat their kids like their husband's.. This wasn't a joke, nobody's laughing at this video it's just the fact that you assume that she's joking about something so serious is disgusting and weird, why would she joke about something like this??
Gonna have to agree with Busiswa. CPS needs to be called on mothers who cannot differentiate between romantic and paternal PLATONIC love. You understand the reason she said that was because the children involved are being exposed to abusive behavior; that in the long run will damage them and cause them to need help to work through their trauma? It isn't a joke she made, it's guidance she's trying to offer. If I see any mother/father being weird with her/his child, CPS is absolutely being called. I'm more concerned as to why you DON'T want CPS to be called on these gross parents.
Yup. Crickets.
i have 2 boys. boy moms SCARE me fr. we're raising someone elses friend, dad & husband - not our own husband. SO creepy and weird
The jump that boy moms make from having a husband or boyfriend and projecting that onto their own son is just weird as hell. There some unresolved issues that these women need to figure out.
@@ashxo4179 as a girl mom. I hope I meet more parents like you. I fear for the day I run into one 😭
Exactly!!! You’re raising a HUMAN BEING not someone to groom 🤢
They either married useless men and can't get the love they need from their man,so they raise their sons to be what they wish their husband was,this is my opinion
Yessssss❤❤❤❤❤
Theres a term for this. Its covert incest where essentially the women treat their kids like their husbands in every way but sexually. I think the extreme cases its abuse.
Yeah but I can’t say that on this platform
There's a page on "Jocasta Complex" on Wikipedia - if you're familiar with "Oedipus Complex", Jocasta was his mother in the Greek myth.
@@themischief420 true but since we were on the topic of boy moms I directed it towards women. I'd say the same thing for father - daughter relationships that are more like a daughter - boyfriend relationship
@@hannahdyson9963This is more common with women, particularly single mothers. Men aren’t doing all of that unless there’s actually some creepy stuff going on behind closed doors!
@@cynthboh gosh
I swear, these "Boy moms" would marry their own sons if they REALLY wanted to.
Shoot you might be right. That's why some of these moms wear white to their own sons weddings. "its my wedding too" face asses. They WOULD if they knew they COULD.
I don't think "wanted" is the right word, more like... COULD!
I actually think they tried to legalize it in Cali!
@@L10N017ewwwwwwwwwwwww
History proves it
Teaching my son how to cook so he doesn't think that cooking is a woman's job was the best thing anyone could have said. That is what we all need to do with all our children. Everyone should learn to cook because it is an important life skill.
I totally agree. My little brother doesnt cook, and my big brother mostly doesnt cuz of his wife. I’m gonna teach my potential future sons cooking as thew grow. As well as any daughters. One of the most valuable things is realizing “ we really do have food at home”
While I agree, that is absolutely not the sentiment these women are implanting into their sons- they’re setting them up for a lifetime of unsatisfying relationships and women who will never measure up. God help any woman who marries one of these man-children; nothing like being saddled with someone who’s never happy and compares you to their mother 24/7.
I never understood how any mother could send their child, no matter the gender, put into the world without even teaching them how to prepare a meal for themselves…
…and it was so common.
How are you a good parent?
Especially if women can’t cook anymore, got to be good at it so you can have a good life and just get that woman when the urges are there .
Anyway that video was chocking
First teach modern women how to cook and be less entitled
No mom should be straddling her son.
😐
period.
Thank you soo creepy
Or sitting bw his legs, or sitting on his lap, or posing up close like a newlywed couple about to kiss. It’s all so creepy, I don’t get it.
Hell no!
Agree 1000000000000%
Straddling should be reserved for your spouse or partner.... that's it!!!
This is so gross. I have seen some moms get excited when people think their son is their man.
That is absolutely weird they probably are flattered and think to themselves they must look young.
That is weird they probably are flattered and think to themselves that they must look young
HOW CAN YTHAT HAPPEN AND THEY NOT REALIZE THE PROBLEM?!?!
Damn.
This is called emotional incest. The crazy thing is it's not just manifested in a boy-mom/girl-dad dynamic. Therapy opened my eyes to realizing that I (a woman) was experiencing this in my relationship with my mother. When my husband and I were dating she literally yelled at him that he will never love me as much as she does or like she does. My husband shared this with his father a few years into our marriage and his father expressed nothing but disgust saying, "well yeah, she's your wife's MOTHER and that relationship is different from a romantic one between you two and no attempt at comparison should be made because her mother is not her lover." I still want to throw up. I'm no contact with her.
I have basically the same thing with my mom!! She'd always go on about how "no one will love you like your mother". There were lots of worse behaviors, but she'd put me and my man through the ringer! I'm little to no contact with her now.
My cousin was like this when her daughter expressed love for a boy in her class. And her mom was You're my baby. I hope nothing transpires between you two. I shut that down saying she's a teenager.... it's normal for her to express she likes someone. She was really angry and jealous
My mom did this shit to me too, wanted to live off me too, I got my family the hell away and I do not miss on second with her!
GEEEEEz.. I did not know emotional incest was a thing until now.. and now this is starting to open my own eyes to things that now I am even more disturbed by wtf is wrong with people...
That is just weird. My mom was so happy for me when I met my now fiancé, and she is so excited to help me plan our wedding BECAUSE she loves me and knows that he is everything I have ever wanted and more. My fiancé's mom is the same way thankfully. I love her.
I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on "girl dads" too. The ones who threaten the boyfriends with shotguns and make their daughters sign "celibacy contracts" when they're toddlers. That last one isn't a joke. There are tiktoks of these men making their toddler daughters not date until they're 30. It's like the other side of the toxic coin and I'd love to hear your thoughts on them too, Busiswa.
@@TheMaiaDriscol I've seen a tiktok where a dad proposed to his 20 year old daughter (if I remember the age correctly) with a FRICKING Purity Ring he also mentioned something along the lines of saving herself till marriage💀
It’s not as common also these boy moms sadly get lots of attention and aren’t really hated upon much.
@@ForeverCactiit’s very common in religious circles
Also girl moms. Idk if that's a thing or not. I grew up in a house of all boys so I can't speak from experience but From the stories I've heard a lot of y'all's mom's did not see it for you and I think that's fascinating
I mean, they're both basically emotional incest/surrogate spouse syndrome
2:05 It's the way she is dangling from her son like she is his GIRLFRIEND, very unsettling to say the least 💀
it’s fücking gross
I'm mortified
Is way too much disturbing for my taste.
@@Mossy_Rock1 EXACTLY, she's acting like that's her man💀
@@yatshie8717 I'm sick 🤢
I don't remember where I saw it but someone had said that "pick me's end up becoming boy mom's" and from the ones I've seen and the ones you showed that statement gets more true by the day.
Bingo
It's true actually, I had one friend with super severe pick me and she definitely a boy mom now, she always talk how she so grateful she have boy and not a girl and always talk negatively about other people's daughter.
Thank God, she got 4 boys and lately she said they not gonna have baby no more
Nailed it!
Yes! This is legitimately a studied social phenomenon, the conditioned need for male approval in some women becomes so severe they literally can’t help but seek approval from every man in their lives, even their own sons, it’s sad and it’s a bit sickening. To be a parent seeking validation from your own child is just wrong, you are their leader and protector, you should be guiding them, not trying to gain their approval. Women who are conditioned to this point sadden me, but men raised this way is what really scares me.
JFC I swear a lightbulb just appeared above my head like a damn cartoon- that is so simple yet so profound.
The one that said “he hits my daughters and I tell them maybe he is just having a bad day” will probably hit his partner bc mommy said it was ok.
I think it also teaches her daughters that it ok to be hit by boys/ men when they're having a bad day.
furthermore, the daughters will think it's acceptable for their husbands to hit them for the same reason.
@@pookiebear2779I was going to add this, but you already did. She's creating monsters she won't want to face later on. My kids weren't allowed to physically fight or name call without serious verbal reprimand. Thank God they're past that stage and know how to relate to each other respectfully.
This. My dad abused me and my mom. Mom said dad's mother (my paternal grandma) was a control freak with all the men in his family. Grandma hit my dad a lot as her way of ""disciplining"" him as a child. Apparently after dad married mom, grandma told him "Never let your wife tell you what to do. Be a man and take control". And so he learned to take control by beating his family into submission. Abuse is a terrible cycle.
Exactly!
Okay, I'm a mother of two boys. My oldest is 17 and could never even imagine trying to hang on then like a spidermoney. I'm raising my boys to be men who will value their wives. Not the one wanting to be the wife. 🤢🤮
I have 3 sons- 26, 24, 21 and I cannot even begin to contemplate behaving so overtly, much less allowing it to be _filmed and posted to the interwebs for the world to see_ and not being horrified. This is so insanely inappropriate and it makes me wonder what their friends think, or even the mom’s friends (doubtful she has any that aren’t also behaving this way, but still) and it makes me want to pour bleach into my eyes seeing some of the extraneous things these women are inflicting on their kids.
@@AYFKMRNI have a 20 year old son. It takes a 'special ' kind of person to even contemplate straddling their child. It's disgusting and disprectful to the child, and shows the mother doesn't have any self respect.
@@AYFKMRNwell voice of reason ...there you are
Thanks for stating the obvious. I don't know why your comment got so many upvotes when any decent mother would do the same thing as you, Arielle Arruda. I liked the spider monkey analogy though, lol.
As someone who has dated an extreme momma's boy, they are literally emotionally stunted.
Yes everything you said it's true .I dated one a decade ago.
True, mine was also abusive as hell
Ahhh the boy moms are so scary! I have two boys so they come up and tell me their weirdo behavior like I’m going to relate. NO THANKS. I’m never wrapping my legs around my son’s waist like 🤢 I’ll hold HIM like a baby until he’s 80 years old but him hold me like that? Just gross. I’m his mom, not his woman. These women give me the ick.
Also I don’t mean I’ll actually cradle him like a baby 😹 just that if he needs to be held then his mom is always here. I will do this for my daughter too. & my mom still holds me sometimes and I’m in my mid thirties lol sometimes I just need my mom.
see that's the difference between caring about your children, like you are, and . . . whatever this nonsense is ! it's giving the women who DARE to actually care about their sons a bad name !
Very inappropriate…
Same!
@cortneysmith2698 no that's okay, any mother will cradle their kid if they have to.. I saw a woman cradle her 17yr old daughter cause she was scared of needles, so that's okay.. it's your baby still
But turning their baby into a partner they don't have is creepy as hell
Just heard a Reddit story about the man being breastfed by his mom at his wedding this is so fitting lol
Ewwwww
That's nasty on so many levels omg💀
I could never let my daughter marry that kind of man...wtf.
🤢 nah that wedding would’ve ended right then and there.
Most Reddit stories are fake💀
And they have the audacity to ask why my kids going no contact
From what I’ve seen most boy’s with “boy mom” moms don’t go no contact. Most of them just turn into Momma’s boys and pick their mother over anything including their wife and children.
*YES!!*
I saw one mom pitching a holy terror fit about her son going full no-contact with her _’after everything under the sun I’ve done for him!! I gave up everything I wanted and needed so he could have anything he desired!’_
Sis, with that full-blown martyr syndrome you’ve got going, I can absolutely understand him needing to have extreme distance from you.
“I loved him unconditionally”
Yes… *but for all of the wrong reasons…*
@@AYFKMRN Man, I love when parents use the "I gave you everything since you were a child" excuse as if we owe them for the mistake they made and then want you to stay with them like crazy.
@@Iziamack The real kicker is often thats just selfish delusion speaking. They're talking about the natural changes in life a parent experiences when going from a chidless person to a parent. Often the actual needs/desires of the child are not only neglected but put down for their own selfish reasons!
(Don't pursue higher education, estranging the kid from friends *especially ones who might show them how weird the parents behaviour is. Downplaying any natural talents for ones they can talk about with their friends, extended infantalisation, intentionally spoiling or giving unreasonable expectations of partners/friends/jobs so tha the child is unable to handle the outside world and remains dependent on them)
It's beyond sick.
That is NOT just an exuberant hug …. That more intimate bond in private is very WEIRD. Please call CPS!
Looked like he got a face full of chest, too....
@@CaitlynHallartshe definitely needs to be investigated. That poor child 😢
My mother in law is a boy mom 🤦🏾♀️. A boy mom who’s desperate for a grandson. I can’t describe the tantrum she threw when I had my second daughter. She wanted her son to divorce me and find a real woman who could give her a grandson 🤣.
Wait till she finds out that men control the sex of the baby lololol
You should explain genetics to her and let her know it's not up to you anyway 🤷🏾♀️
Sounds like some Henry the 8th thing 😅
@@rick6386 her son did! This broad brought Jesus into it 😩. Said that I was “going against God and my womanly duties”
Please don't leave any son(s) you may have alone with her. Hell, don't leave none of your kids with her. She don't sound right in the head and y'all don't owe her contact to your kids if you feel she's unsafe for them. Period.
I'm the mother of an adult son. This kind of crazy never crossed my mind. So sick 🤢
Trust me , you're rare to find , as a mother in law .
@@JenJasCrilly That's sad! But thanks 💕
I literally cringe when I hear moms say "My son is my husband!". GIRL NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
😲
A guy I was dating said multiple times that his mom was his girlfriend! That was such a weird statement! I stopped dating him immediately!
@@bybyana26wouldn't that be cheating in that point?
@@I_like_my_dad I guess
OMG!!! I’ve never heard of this!! Disgusting and inappropriate
I've said it before, but I shall say it again: Not everyone is well.
I was thinking this myself.
When I was younger, my brothers and I used to play this game where we’d randomly bombard our mum with questions like who she loves more. We’d try to twist her words and insist that she had a favourite but she never fell for it because in her heart, she loved all of us equally. 😂
Same
So I have two younger brothers and they were both of my parents favorites. So growing up and having mental health issues and dealing with trauma and watching my brothers get more love and attention the time it didn't help my mental health. As I got older and mentally healthy I forgave my parents, but when I got pregnant with my son 5 yrs after my daughter & my mom said "OMG you're gonna love him so much Amy, it's a totally different love than you ever fault"! My inside was on fire & I wanted to cry for my daughter. I have never loved anybody or anything more than I loved my daughter at this point, and I told her absolutely not. Literally she tried to talk me into it multiple times.. all I kept saying was no I am going to love my children the exact same. I am almost 43, my daughter is 22 and my son is 16 and my mom brought it up again. Something along the lines of the boy just seems more helpless like they need more help from their mamas.. and I simply told her that I did not feel that way and I told her not to say anything like that ever again. And I finally told her exactly how I felt. I said, my whole life I watched both you and Dad favor my brothers, one of my brothers could do no wrong even when it came to the law drinking and driving not paying off drug dealers.. oh it's been bad, when I was 21 I needed to have my wisdom teeth out really bad but I couldn't afford health insurance I was working and a single mom and my dad made me pay him every penny back... okay I'm getting off topic, anyways I explained to her that when she talks about how I am going to love my son more than my daughter that it infuriates me. I did not feel good growing up, I will never allow my children to feel that way
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. You deserve love and so does your daughter. It really saddens me people have kids especially daughters and make them feel unwanted. It's so sick and should actually be classified as emotional neglect.
The fact that they were bailing your brother out of idiotic decisions, but didn’t get your wisdom teeth out when you were a teenager makes my blood boil. That’s literally medical care!
Not to be an ssa or anything, but believe me.. you won..
Cause they're ruining your brother's life while they're bs made you strong.. I'm sorry, he is your brother but he's their problem.. they'll regret everything in the end the way he's going
Can someone tell your Mum that the reason the sons are helpless is because you don’t let them do anything for themselves and grow up.
I just want to say that the only reason she's pestering you to feel more love for your son than your daughter is because she thinks if you do the same as her, it justifies what she did and "proves she was right". She really wasn't. My sister in life, block her out of your mind. You are being a proper mom by loving your kids exactly how they should be loved. Good f*cking job and you keep knocking it out of the park!
“As he SHOULD be rejected” 🤣🤣
😂
My heart broke for the kid who was professing his toddler's idea of love for his mama, & yea she responded with the right words but not with the right energy- as mothers, we need to teach our boys what love is, she ignored her son so crudely to make a stupid tik tok video- I would have scooped up my son & thanked him for the flower & told him that "he cannot marry mama bc i'm yr mama, but thank you so much for the flower & mama will be there for you when you finally do fall in love w/ a beautiful girl, a girl just as beautiful as this flower, thank you so much hunny"
Different parenting styles.
Yeah I do not get the approval for mom on this one- almost all children go through this with their opposite sex parent. She didn’t have to be so obnoxious and infer things that absolutely weren’t his intention. You can explain it to the child in a kind, compassionate manner so his developing mind can understand. the way she is so extra about the ick she feels seems really heartless and not a lesson about love you want to be teaching. When kids are this small, all they feel (hopefully) is a deep emotional connection to the people they love and trust most, so when they ask you to marry them, they’re doing what seems logical to their brain. It’s an excellent teaching moment and being so hurtful with his adorable ask is just mean. And as a practicing psychologist of over two decades with a specialization in childhood trauma, this is absolutely not how you deal with a small child.
I wanted my dad to marry ME as a kid because I thought you married who you love the most, obviously any kid that young has no idea marriage is only a Romantic love and not a best friend forever love, so I said i was a princess after I changed into a tiana dress and snapped an old photo, literally nothing more and I forgot about it HOW IS THIS BAD. my dad does not love any of us romantically but my mother??? He was just humoring me because I was four, Im pretty sure I was told the differences and understood them well because I do not love my parents romantically, I understand you need to teach the differences but seriously nothing was wrong about what she did and even if she said sure that's no where near being a predator, that's not liking your kids. my parents are not like that. and watching that annoyed me a ton
Amen! You nailed what I want to say. 😊
She likes it .... and she's acting difficult . There's many sick ways out there to be incestuous and the naivety of people is infuriating.
Just imagine these boys mom are Dads and the boys are girls. You can feel how uncomfortable it is
Those exist too
I had to read that like 5 times, but yes, you are correct. Look at the rapper T.I, he said he took his 18 year old daughter to the gyno to make sure her hyman is still intact. That's just gross, and why does he need to know this. It's almost like he was promoting and telling everyone I have a virgin up for grabs 🤮
@@BusiswaG oh noooooo🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Yeah, I can see how this is going....... And I DON'T want to see it!
I am one of them and I don't know if it is just Haitian fathers who say this or any father if they do. But one time, my dad told me that he was my 1st boyfriend and he was jealous of me me messing around at 16 years old. I can understand that at 16 I was doing things I wasn't supposed too like some teens at that time however, to say something like that is ridiculous and I would not be surprised if one of theses "boy-moms" told their sons that they were their first girlfriends.
I’ve never seen a mother threatening her son like her husband, but if I WITNESS ONE, I’m done with humanity.
I think the mum whose wee son asked to marry her could’ve explained it a bit better to him. Like sit him beside you and tell him that you love him so much but it’s a different love. One day he will meet a lovely person to marry and maybe even have his own wee babies to love. Tell him he will understand when he’s older, accept the flower, have a hug and tell him to go play.
Yes, I agree. Explain alittle.
I agree😊
Honey, some of these mother's lay up with their sons...
I slept in bed with my mother until I was 16 and I can confirm that it’s not healthy😅 she is a certified narcparent
🤮🤮
You didn’t have sex right?
Yep my aunt does it...
@@real_cheritanothing wrong with co- sleeping. My daughter is 12 and sleeps in my room on weekends. The OP is talking about something different.
i’ve been in one relationship and she gave the most incestuous vibe ever, & a story i can’t repeat out loud, safe to say it’s steered me clear of relationships for a long while 😅
Is it out loud if you type it cus now I wanna know 😂😂😂😂
@iloveme2324 😂😂😂
My friend briefly dated a guy who had a damn near incestuous relationship with his mom. The guy was 20, in college and he still lived at home. The mom used to walk around in her bra and panties in front of him and they often slept in the same bed. My friend nope'd out of that situation real quick.
@@vegasgirl3538 i can understand the bra & panties cus some ppl have naked moms, mine is one 😭 but the sleeping in the same bed… i thought that stops after adolescence
@@iloveme2324 lol.. Whooooo chile cuz me too. 🤔
Those moms are so gross. Teach your CHILDREN life skills, not to be petty.
I'm uncomfortable by these moms. I think CPS needs to be called.
As a mom of a boy....These women definitely need a therapist or 3. They are your kids. Not your second husband or there to fill the spot that your husband doesn't or whatever. It's so weird.
Say it with me: Emotional. Incest.
That will be all......
That last woman in the white pants is predatory. Look at how she's dressed, in that "hugging" video as well as in all of her videos with a pushup bra, all while talking about her son! It's all shades of inappropriate and it definitely crosses boundaries. She knows what she did is 1nc3stual in nature or she wouldn't have taken down the video and set her account to private. She just doesn't like that she got caught being creepy with her son. That young man is going to grow up with all kinds of problems.
Exactly 💯 why is she dressing like that for her sons football game? It just shows she is looking for attention and is a pick me girl
@@danielleburke87 It's very creepy. She's having an identity crisis and wants people to *think* she is her son's girlfriend, so she dresses and behaves that way. It's not only inappropriate but it's extremely disrespectful. I feel sorry for him because he's never going to have a healthy romantic relationship with a woman or find a wife, not with a "mother" that conducts herself like that. Bring back shaming. Public shaming.
@@danielleburke87i don't think she was dressed inappropriately. However, her behavior is inappropriate, and she needs to be investigated. If their relationship is more intimate than her straddling his waist, so he can lift her, there is definitely a problem there .
You mean incestual
Who wears heels to a football game? @@lailaalanna315
The worst are the ones with the mothers jumping onto their sons to straddle them and you can tell the boys are uncomfortable - like the one saying "stop I did not wash my face" yeah he was desperate to get away from her.
11:18 this one made me tear up a bit. I agree with you. I think this mom was just reflecting and missing being his comfort but thankful he has someone to do it now❤🥹
Yes yes ❤️
My baby is getting married in a month, our first of 4 to do so. I was asked to give a toast, and since I write fairly well, I’ve agreed. It’s completed and I think it will be received well. But it’s not about my son, it’s about my new daughter and how she has turned him into the man I always knew he would be.
As a mom- my job was always to raise healthy, responsible adults who would contribute positively to the community, to make others better people for having known them. To guide, counsel and provide discipline when needed that helped them become their best self. But in doing so, I’ve come to know each of them in an intimate way, sometimes knowing them better than they know themselves, but always instilling in them the confidence to make the best choices and know that they’ll make mistakes- but their dad and I will always be there to pick them up when they fall. Their choices are not always the one I would choose, but it is always their choice to make. And even though his fiancée isn’t a choice I made for him, if I could have chosen, I would have chosen her.
As a mom of 3, two boys, one girl, I never valued the boys over my girl. I tried to raise them ALL to be healthy, happy, compassionate adults who are independent.
As a parent I taught my son how to cook because it’s a basic survival skill we all need to learn it because it’s cheaper and/ or healthier than eating fast food or eating in a restaurant everyday. I don’t see why it has to be linked to a specific gender. It’s just a Basic Survival Skill!
I'm a boy of 2. A couple of months ago, my 5 yr old said I'm going to marry Mommy. I told him that's isn't possible because I am your mommy and mommy is married to Daddy. He said, "But you're my best friend." I simply told him one day when you are grown you will find a nice girl to marry ok. He said ok and went on about his business. I'm still trying to figure out how/what a 5 yr old even knows about marriage. Sir, you are in kindergarten, where do you get this stuff from?.....
Children don't know what that means. I once said something stupid like that when I was a toddler I thought of marriage as just being together like friends or something
I understand where ur coming from and yeah thank u for setting a boundary for ur son. Although i think hes just being a kid. I wouldnt over think it. If he continues as he gets older, thats where ide be concerned
I think that alot of young kids say that
You're making a mountain out of a mole hill.
“I think my speed dial on my phone is now going to be CPS.” 😪😂😂
Toxic boy mom's are not mom's, they're mom-friends.
They're psychopathic!
They're incestuous
Can we also talk about how they want their boys to b gay? "So I'm the only woman in their life" like wtf
They don’t want they’re sons to be gay, they want them to be alone forever other than her.
There were studies done into similar issue, men implicated in emotional incest with mother grow up asexual. Meaning no sexual interest in their long term female partner in the context of intimacy.
@@Xx_D4RK_K1N_xXI agree with this. These women don't want a man within 100 feet of their precious boys. However, they don't want women near them either.
“He’s gay so I can kiss him like that”
😂 -Only Murders in the Building, season 3
They want to damage our boys
This is equivalent to the weirdo dads who give their daughter purity rings and make them promise to not have sex until their married lol I understand being protective over your children and doing your due diligence as a parent but some parents truly develop an inappropriate attachment to their children.
Cough cough republican party cough cough lol
@@wompppwompwomppp 😭
@@wompppwompwompppSo only Republicans are religious? And liberals are God less? Sure checks out
Apparently only Republicans are religious
@wompppwompwomppp ok, so then cough cough dems mutilate children and trun tomboys into trannies cough cough drag queen story hour cough cough I am Jazz cough cough cough
The amount of condescending comments I got while pregnant and tell people I was having a girl. She’s two weeks old and the love and light of my life I will never understand why people hate on girls so much 😒
Why do they think their son's future wife has to be his servant? A grown man should be able to cook for his wife.
What TF is that even supposed to be? You females are only okay with gender roles when it's the man doing them. What unprincipled charlatans.
The mom is pampering him, so she expects any other woman to do the same
6:53 As the mother of 3 girls and then a boy I would never EVER mount my own son like that. Disgusting!!!
The boy looked uncomfortable!
Three sons and I've never felt the need, to jump on them, for a hug. Boys need distance from their mothers, as they mature.
Exactly I have 3 sons my oldest live a hour away so I do t see him much he has kids as long he takes care of my grandchildren I’m happy
@@shawnni3014Sounds like u want nothing to do with ur sons anymore lol
@@freemaiiow3678 sounds like she’s giving him space to be an adult?? My mom did the same thing when I moved out she stopped being there for me as often cause I had to learn how to do things myself.. cause I’m an adult now. The only reason my mom should be coming over is to say hi and relax and it’s like an every couple months thing.
Can't change the weird but, When that RED FLAG Stands High...... RUN!
That last Mom is absolutely disgusting. You don’t hug your son by jumping up on him and wrapping your legs around his waist. That is what his girlfriend should be doing not his mom. 🤮
Yes
That clip of the boy proposing to his mom is adorable, he just wanted to make her a princess 😂❤
I grew up with a mom and aunt and actually my entire mom’s side of the family favoring the boys. I love my kids equally. I will say my 5 year old son tries too much to protect me and help me out because his dad left. I had to pull him aside the other day and tell him it’s nice he wants to help me but he is a kid and he should go be a kid and not a provider of me. I feel like some of these moms expect their kids to step up and fill in the space of their missing father. That is not their job. Totally agree with the statement about your children not being your emotional support space.
So, so true. I think this is what my MIL wanted from my husband. When her hubby left, he'd assist financially and on our wedding she claimed he's her hubby. Even when she has to make basic decisions, she'd ask him but she has 2 daughters. The older isn't close to her.
Bless that father who is teaching his son how to respect women.😘😘
1:55 was a nightmare! Of course it’s okay to hug your son and show him love but that..that is not okay. 😱😱
This behavior from parents, let’s stop sugar coating it, absolutely *is* emotional incest. It’s not “toxic boy moms”, I mean it is toxic, it’s emotional incest. If people would call these people for what they really are, I bet they’d change their attitudes real quick.
Many of these boy moms who have this type of relationship with their sons, aren’t just saying my son is the bestest best thing that has ever happened to me, they are saying the most vile, disgusting, disturbing, and disrespectful things that anyone would ever say to a minor. If they weren’t related people would definitely call it grooming.
Especially the moms who climb all over their sons like the mom who jumped on her son and kissed all over his face or the mom who was congratulating her son for his football game.
The toxic girl dads are just as disgusting. Again, it goes beyond normal behavior into territory where it’s just… so very wrong. The purity ring thing needs to be stopped. Seriously. It doesn’t look as sweet and innocent as they want people to believe it is. Many of those purity ring “ceremonies” look just like marriage proposals. It’s gross. Stop it. The shotgun dads need to stop too. What is wrong with you that you threaten someone’s life for taking your daughter on a freaking date. And isn’t it illegal to brandish a firearm? I swear I heard a story about a man accidentally shooting his daughter’s boyfriend because he didn’t check his gun. If it didn’t happen, that’s what *could* happen because let’s face it, they aren’t practicing gun safety. Treat it like it’s LOADED.
I am saying this as a woman who was subjected to emotional incest. My mom and her first husband started treating me like I was married to her husband *and* raising *our* kids. I suffer from PTSD, for years I had trouble with men and women, amongst other problems.
Your child; son or daughter, is not your significant other! Stop treating them like they are cheating on you when they get into a relationship. What is wrong with you!?
OK. Am I missing something? There are ceremonies for purity rings? My sister just bought a cute cross a d heart ring from amazon and wears it.
Also aren't shotgun dads just a movie thing
Also I'm so sorry about your mum and stepdad situation. I also had a messed up situation with my mum and stepdad (not like this kinda abuse, just physical, emotional and mental. From my stepdad not my mum). So I understand the distrust of others that comes afterwards. I hope you have healed🫂
This perversion is only an American thing.
@@blessedcocoa5729 They aren't just a movie thing.
Yes, perhaps they were more common in the days of yore (my grandfather came to my grandmother's house to introduce himself to her father and ask for his blessing to _date,_ not even marry, and her father drove him off with a loaded shotgun), but I've seen modern social media posts of the like.
One of note was a teenage girl with her dad, uncle, and brother(s), all of whom but the girl were holding weapons, and the caption was, "Waiting for the prom date."
I got a husband and a son. They are two entirely different relationships. I love and welcome my son's girlfriend and I love how she makes him smile, laugh, and encourages him to clean his room!
It is your job to raise your son. 🙂
I broke up with a guy when i was younger because he had a boy mom. First of all, she cheated which caused a divorce. Then she asked for her son and said the dad could keep the daughter. And she was extremely jealous when he got his first girlfriend (me) and she was overtly sexual. I just couldn’t see myself marrying into that family. I had to end it real quick. But her son was so sweet if it weren’t for the mother, I would’ve really considered him.
...Did you tell him why? Just wondering
@ I did and I told the mother. She called me to tell me that she didn’t understand why her son was so obsessed with me. I told her don’t worry about it because we’re not together anymore and I told her why.
Imagine finding your mom on social media admitting that she thinks of your brother with more love than you and your sisters.
My mom told me that my sister was her favorite while looking into my eyes. There is no need for social media.
@@sabinawitwickamy mom never told me but her attitude let me know. She likes her first 2 kids best- my brother and sister. I'm last (,number 4). I don't even know why she had me.
@@lailaalanna315 oh my god don't say that just because your mom doesn't value you means you loose value your mother sounds like she doesn't have empathy which is her problem not yours your all equal and nothing can change that ever
@@mar420.74 thank you for your kind words. You're right ❤️
That mom with the little boy proposing to her. I appreciate that interaction. I do find it sweet that the son wants his mommy to be treated like a princess but she is trying to set the boundary that its not his responsibility nor appropriate. When hes old enough and ready he can marry and treat another woman as his princess. Kids got heart. He loves his mom. Kids don't understand the difference with relationships sometimes and im glad to see shes being responsible and setting the boundary.
As a boy mom, this is not ok…
You’re a boy mom??
@@damiensisco6960 I have sons, what’s the problem ?
@damiensisco6960 Meaning a mother of a boy not what is being shown in this video and what is being posted on TikTok/Facebook(probably there on Facebook too)
I’m pregnant with my son now and y’all, “toxic boy moms” make me (more) queasy.
I think parents should be safe cuddling people for their child for the rest of their lives, but cuddling is totally different than what these women are doing, no crotches should ever be touching the son and boobs only by accident. Kissing is really normal in my culture but usually a son would be protesting while mom may hold their head and places some smacking ones on a cheek because it's natural to be somewhat repulsed and you make a joke about it. That's how you make it not weird. You should never look like lovers in public.
Sounds about right. Tbh, my son is 20 years old and I don't hug him. I touch his head, if I pass by and he's sitting or I may give his ear a little tug. The closest I get to him is braiding his hair, which I do sometimes. Now, if he needed a hug, of course, mom is always there and he knows that. He still comes to me for advice and we spend quality family time together, along with my 12 year old daughter and her dad.
I don't understand the mentality of these mothers straddling their sons. They have no respect for their sons or themselves. It's disgusting and disturbing.
@@lailaalanna315 Yeah that's gross, I do think sitting on a lap is different but some kids just like that their whole lives, mom thought it was funny sometimes to sit on my lap and I'm female and only a touch taller than she was. But that really was just for a joke. I only hugged her when I really needed to. My brother is more the hugging type so he needs it more often, I'm very into my private space though.
I got 99% of the hugs in I needed for life when I was a kid. If I'd had a kid or two I'd pet them for sure but none of the creepy stuff.
14:07 I’m glad she actually realize that she’s the problem instead of thinking that his girlfriend is the problem
Loving their sons and disciplining their daughters unfortunately
"Teaching my son to cook so he can have an independent living skill". The misogyny is strong with these boy moms. I love my son so much, but I am rasing him to be someone's husband, father, friend, coworker, etc.
I’m gonna start saying “I’m a mother of a son” if I have one in the future. It’s way more appropriate to me and spreads the message that I am that boy’s mother, his life teacher, and not his best friend or how they call themselves “their first love”. Another thing I hate about these mothers is how they get competitive WITH LITTLE GIRLS WHO ARE BABIES AS WELL when they get close to their son. Like, ma’am…bfr that you’re having beef with a CHILD.
My exs mom was weird like that, like ma’am I’m dating your son not you and your son.
I’ll never forget how jealous she got when he bought me flowers and she insisted
him to throw my flowers out,
So glad my current relationship isn’t like that. The whole family was weird af and “too close”
Mind you I was working 6 days a week and cooking three meals a day.
My mother in law used to treat me like I was the side chick 🤢🤮.
@@brookew2403 I’m sorry, it’s such a gross feeling for a mom to make you feel that way, so I feel for you that’s exactly how I felt, 🤢 🤢
So many weird awkward interactions.
Hope things are better for you, even if it’s little contact with the in-laws ❤️
And the guy is blind to it and always thinks ur tripping 😑
@@561j.a fr, especially when you point it out.
These are they types of moms who wear white to their sons weddings
I broke up with a guy who had a mom like this. He was conventionally attractive compared to his brothers and sister and the youngest, so she was a different mother to him than them. She drives every woman (and the one guy) that her son gets involved with away.
OMG This describes my ex mother-in-law perfectly. She was HORRID. She hated me because I wasn't Catholic, because I had my tubes tied after I had my son (so she would never have HER OWN grandchild), because I didn't have big boobs, and any other petty sh*t she could come up with. I did see flags before we were married. But I kept thinking that once he had his own family he would "rise to the occasion". Yeah. NO. I am not exaggerating when I say he could not (WOULD NOT) make any decisions without asking his mother first. I had met him on my internship with the state police in my senior year at university. When I graduated I took a job with a sheriff's department south of Detroit. He was assigned to a post a couple hours NORTH of Detroit. His parents were right in the middle, so when he'd come down on days off, he ALWAYS stopped in to see mother - sometimes staying overnight.
All the while she would be telling him what a terrible wife I was blah blah blah. Well final straw one time visiting them, she was outrightly RUDE to my son, letting it be known that he would never be "family." He was just a little guy so I don't think he got the whole thing but I sure did. So I decided to let her have her son, so she could pick out a big-boobed breeder for him and my son and I were OUT. Now the moral to this story is for you young girls who se flags but think it will change. It won't, unless it's for the worse. If he lets his mother bully you and disrespect you, gtfo sweetie. Do not walk - RUN. Leave the mama's boy and find a real man (or spend some time on your own!)
That seems like so long ago, my son is 34 now and a happy, hardworking guy with an RN gf and they seem to be very happy. And I have been married to my husband and best good friend over 15 years now. We have furbabies lol. Sometimes people are so toxic you just have to turn your back on them - if you let them in your life they will bring only chaos and sorrow. Always trust your "Spidey Sense" ladies - if you're seeing flags, don't try to rationalize them as being OK. Find someone who is your intellectual equal. And take them as you find them. Do not think they will change or worse that it's your job to save or rescue them.
Best to all, be safe out there kids...thx for reading, sorry about the wall of text. Cheers!
Lovely story
😂Ur ex is probs rotting with his mamma
Im sorry i dont even think i will be able to get through this video, it will be too triggering 😭 Some moms…. Are freaking insane.. and weird. Both my exes had single moms and they were very weird. The first one wasnt so bad, i would say it was a good relationship with her son and me.. but she did walk around the house in her underwear which was weird to me. The second one, had a really toxic relationship with her son, and she was really weird to me. Sadly this ex was abusive to me, and we would be at his mom’s basement (i know, rough patch in my life lol) so she could hear everything. She literally came downstairs, brought 1 pastry, and gave it to her son, right after he was very physically hurtful to me… which was crazy of her. Like she literally was positively reinforcing him hurting me. And she wore very revealing clothes around him like full cleavage. Meanwhile i always wore sweats and a t shirt like idk, but i get some ppl have different clothing comfort levels. Also, when I wasnt in the picture, she seemingly hated him and never wanted him around. As soon as I came in, she would get very possessive and protective over him. That’s it i dont wanna talk about it anymore 😅 So love u B but now im gonna gooo
I also think women need to be careful though to not label every mom as a toxic boy mom. There are some moms who are just very loving, and Not weird about it. Girls are jealous too! Like my friend’s girlfriend said very hurtful things about my friend’s mom, who is just a very sweet person, just because she left a note saying “I love you” in his dorm. She demanded he go no-contact, and said nasty shit like it was Freudian and he was weird etc etc. He was just so sad about it because his mom had just gotten surgery and had no one to help her. I dont think it was right of his girlfriend to do that. Mothers are allowed to love their sons.. it’s just important to be cautious when you see them loving their sons in a weird way.
Also I wanted to clarify in my previous comment it almost sounded like i was correlating single moms with this behavior, but that was just my experience. it can be any type of mom, and I know many non-weird single mothers, like my guy friend’s mom who i mentioned above.
Thank god they are your exes, you deserve better!
Emotional incest.
"Why are you adding that when cooking?, Mommy doesn't do that"
It's rising up to really concerning levels that some moms are in their son's life. I can't see how these guy's girlfriends deal with that ish
No. Don't jump on your son, wrap your legs around him, or repeatedly kiss him all over his face. Ew, that's emotional ince$t. It's creepy.
Omg I just joined a creepy boy mom group. How ironic. It’s so…… yeah.
Like those FB ones?
@@BusiswaGyes!!
@athenachristinemusic that was just a guess because it’s the only thing that made sense. I’m not surprised
But why, why would you do that?
@@benzemamumbathey prob assumed the people were normal….? What do you not get?😂
As a mother of a boy: I'm a mom, not a friend, not a weird woman trying to look young and super fun... I can't deal with that attitude.
For me be a mother is a sacred thing, G.od gave me a lil treasure and is my duty as a mother and a woman, raise a boy to be a man who is gonna care about others, be kind, love his wife and children feel fear for G.od and respectul of His creation.
In fact, I try to always look put together and dress super modest because I have to respect him as my son and a man.
What's the that spelling of God that you are using? 🤨
I always say that if mothers loved their daughters more and their sons "less", the world would be a better place.
You shouldn’t love one more child than the other it needs to be equal switching the gender roles does nothing but continue the cycle
@@Stdutcthd she has written less in quotation meaning less in that sense and more like a son
@@Stdutcthdnobody said loving one more than the other bro. Do you know math??? If they love their sons less and their daughters more than what they CURRENTLY do, it would be equal…..!?!?
I Will teach my son to cook, even if I am a bad cooker, to clean a house , and to be respectful and kind so he will be a good partner for the man or the woman who share his life (sorry for my english I am french)
Yea, I'm a bit worried about what happens when a camera isn't around if that's what they think is normal to do on camera/in public ...
Oh my gosh… the first clip was literally my scenario I went through with my mil. The baby shower dilemma was a nightmare!
Oh gosh.
The video about the little boy asking to marry his mom reminds me of when I used to go around as a toddler to my family and say I wanted to marry them, that was just my ‘I love you’ lol
That “hard day” one just makes me think of the shooter in Ga that attacked a spa. He told the cops “he had a hard day” as if that was an excuse for killing people… it’s definitely not healthy to allow your son to harm his sisters or anyone for that matter because he had “a hard day”…
Literally like wtf???? Who says hitting anybody is alright for anybody to do???? Crazy
"If you see something wrong with that, then you're the problem" said every gaslighter everywhere.
I teach my son how to cook and clean, 1) so he can be a functional adult, and 2) so he isn’t a helpless child when he finds your wonderful daughter. And if she bears a child, he better be doing cooking and cleaning while she rests, or he’ll have to deal w me.
Exactly, because our sons are not different to any other male by default. 😄
Great video *Busiswa.* It’s nice having a creator who points out and discusses these weird, online behaviors that people are choosing to upload for the world to see. Thank you ma’am!
I have a lot of problems. But I dont havw your problems. That was ICONIC.
Dealt with this the beginning of my husband and I’s relationship. She has a whole husband and everything..
She literally said “don’t take my only son from me” like her youngest son (who was 8 at the time, he’s 13 now) wasn’t RIGHT THERE!!
It got better, but it took 6 effing yeeeears (we’re coming up on 10 yrs together)
Which is why I don't understand why women always say it's single mothers. I don't have statistics but I'm sure a number of married mothers do this, as well.
That reminds me of a time when my (male) cousin was at his own brother's funeral, and their dad was at the front weeping over losing his only son.
My cousin then cut off contact.
It looks like the men are just doing what they need to do to get back at these horrible women. The mothers who are having these so-called “relationships” with their sons are very narcissistic and do not want their sons ever to get married. They look at them as their husbands. This is a form of abuse. This is also what you call a “monster-in-lawl” when his wife will always be hurt by his mother IF he ever gets married.
I am married to a mommy's boy. When I first met his mom I realized that we look alike. The covert incest I experienced growing up was between my mother and me. She told me things that should have between her and my father. She relied on me for emotional support a spouse should supply, not her child.
I DIDN'T EVEN NEED TO LOOK AT THE VIDE. THE TITLE ALL NE WAS ENOUGH FOR ME! NOW I SHALL KEEP WATCHING. YES MA'AM! TALK ABOUT IT!
Ewwww. This is disgusting
All you want is for your babies to be happy. This scares me for their poor daughter in laws
Is anyone gonna help that boy at 2:10? Like this is also sexual abuse
When I have a son I’m going to pray for him and his future wife . I want her to feel welcomed and at home whenever she steps foot into my space, not like she’s in competition with me for his love . I want her to know that yes I’m his mom , but once you’re his wife , I’m stepping back and letting her shine as his wife. Cuz my job is done . If she needs advice or someone to talk to , I’ll always be there of course , but I’m not over stepping any boundaries she has .
The Bible says that a man will leave his parents home and cleave to his wife . Because they have become one . Some mommas don’t wanna let their sons cleave ! 🤣 I believe women who act like with their sons have deep rooted daddy issues that they need to get healed from.
I have three boys. I love them so much. I love their hugs and kisses, but I will not ever jump up on them and wrap my legs around them. 🤢 They aren't my husband. My MIL was a hard one to deal with at first. My husband was her favorite child (her only son). She let everyone know it, and she didn't like me for many years. It's getting better finally. Ladies, if you are obsessed with your son, you run a high risk of losing them as adults.
"I think the speed dial number on my phone is going to be CPS" lol 😂
CPS can and should also be called on mothers allowing their sons to abuse their daughters/other children!
When I asked my brother to marry me I was the same age as the boy who asked his mom. I had no freakin' clue what that meant in reality because my brain literally hadn't developed enough for me to understand. All I knew is that when people love and admire each other, they get married. I did NOT want to kiss him or anything like that. It was simply a way for me to show that I really cared for him and thought he was a great guy. Of course, now I know better. But the kid wasn't asking to sleep with his mom! He was trying to express how much he cares and she should have taken the 40 seconds to explain why marriage is different BUT mention that she appreciates his affection and love. Not shame him for all of the world to see and pile on.
Yeah she did him dirty
She did that for the views
@@kunal1957 She did! Thank you.
Same my brother felt so icky 😂I'm still embarrassed to this day
@@digimonalvatrax2738 Me too. Luckily I quickly learned he was annoying and that put an end to that!
Unfortunately, this is very common for sons of single/divorced mothers. Emotional incest topped with many many guilt trips.
And women do this to their daughters too. Sad.
These are the kind of moms who treat their DIL with the utmost hatred
Oh noooo not the lip bite on skit 2 😳
Meanwhile I’m teaching my son how to be a real loving and protective man so your daughter doesn’t have to worry about being mistreated