Have you lost " friends " since getting sober?, Living with liver disease
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You sound so much better !
Thank you so much lynn! God bless❤❤❤
When the only "glue " that bonds "friends" together is shared use of a substance , it's probably a relationship that has no grounding or holding power .
You are absolutely right craig! Hope all is well! God bless😊😊❤
I only hang with my family nowadays, and we don’t care to go out to many places anymore. Home is CooL & Enough ♥️
Amen to that, there really is no place like home.
I'm pretty much the same laura. ❤❤❤❤
Had a girlfriend who told me." I liked you better when you were drinking." I told her I liked her better her better when I was drinking....😂😂😂
Haha!!! That's great!!! You told her!!
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That’s common!
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I was so isolated by the end I hadn’t been around my old drinking buddies for a while. I never missed them after I got sober and only choose to spend time with people who want to do things I enjoy, which doesn’t involve sitting around for hours drinking anything!
💯 ❤😊 right there with you leo leo!! God bless❤❤❤
You look better and better every day LD. You sound stronger, too. Thanks for your daily updates. Fist bump 🫵❤
Thank you honestmicky!!!! I really appreciate you saying that! I'm starting to feel better, just kinda tired is all. Hope you are doing well! God bless ❤❤❤❤ fist bump right back at ya!👊
LD glad to see you back. Never really thought of this topic but you are right. Day 64
Congratulations, I love seeing ppl doing well. Keep up the good work!
@ thanks, Lets all pray for LD to recover from his procedure. 🙏🙏
Hey tulga! Congratulations on 65 days now! 🎉🎉🎉🎉 God bless ❤❤❤
Just grateful for my new friends here on this channel. We are all one big family 👪 ❤. Gb you LD for starting this!
From one member of this community to another: Grateful to have you here!! 😊
Hey iouzip! Thank you so much for the support and generosity my friend! God bless you and your family. I am so happy that you are here, this community is a wonderful group of like minded people. Thank you for being here!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
We are family!!!!❤❤❤
I'm rooting for you to recover your health, LD.
Thank you so much pat!!! God bless ❤❤❤
Keep your head up!
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You sound and looks so much better today. I hope you’re also feeling better internally.
Thank you lizzy! I am! God bless ❤❤❤❤
Your place looks beautiful! ❤
Thank you so much my friend! God bless❤❤❤
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I haven't lost any friends since I gave up alcohol. My circle is small but tight, I got a lot of support from the homies and even had one quit soon after I did.
That's so awesome to hear f110mech!!!! God bless ❤❤
I didn't lose any. I was the one who became the alcoholic. I am still friends with the same people. I drank alone. My drinking only affected a good friend of mine one time and we put that incident behind us.
@@ShadesOClarity hey shades, Jersey here. Your comment sounds a lot like mine. I have friends that I drink around. They didn't drink but they see me in my darkest times. The last 3 years I didn't even see them I drank alone just like you. Now I'm so glad they are still there for me I enjoy them so much more now. And I'm sure they enjoyed me! I feel ya! Take care 😘
No! I have gained respect from family and friends because I have stopped drinking!!!!!
Today is my birthday and I am sober. 🎉
Happy Birthday!!! Happy Sobriety!!!! I hope you have a wonderful rest of the day and I hope this is the beginning of a happy, sober, fulfilling, new life year!!! 🎂🎈🎁🎉
Happy birthday 🎁 and so proud of you 👏!!
Happy Birthday 🎉 Have a great one!
Happy sober birthday!!!
Happy Birthday, and congratulations on your sobriety!
Some people do not like associating with sick people because they do not want to be reminded that sickness can make you weak, clumsy, and /or change your appearance.
They do not want to see bad things happening which remind them a human body can become imperfect and weak.
Thank you for your thoughts on this gwillis! I really appreciate it! Hope you are having a great day! God bless 😊😊😊
Thanks a lot Suzy!!
A true friend wants the best of health and happiness for you. Other people just want companions in the chemical fog of addiction so they do not feel all alone.
@gwillis01 that’s so true. I’ve been surrounded by large groups of “friends” and felt alone as they were not reliable or trustworthy. I’ve never been lucky in the friend dept. The small group I had of real friends drifted apart either because they chose to stay in unhealthy relationships with partners or just life happened. I’m open to new friendships but always weary and careful. For the most pasty people are in it for themselves and what they can get from you. Take it easy.
@@Micru866 I’m sorry you’ve had the experience that most people are in it for themselves in a friendship. I really hope you can meet some people / friends who help you overturn that assumption. I have grown apart from some old friends due to physical distance or diverging interests (unrelated to alcohol), but they are excellent people and fortunately I never felt that they were in the friendship for themselves. I am grateful for that. My main thing nowadays is that it simply is less comfortable to make friends as one gets older. Must overcome inertia, shyness and other stuff. Anyhow, I’m sure there are some genuinely good people out there and, if you are seeking to find them, I hope you do!!!
You look and sound great! Keep up the good work!
Thank you so much mary! God bless❤❤❤❤
Good stuff LD! Be safe and stay warm brother!
Thank you jesustheking!!!! It's still freezing out there! Hope you are well! God bless ❤❤❤
So good to see you looking better!
Thank you joan!!!! God bless❤❤❤
I love you LD thank you
Everything you say hits home with me 🩵
Love you too Patrick!!!! Thank u! God bless 😊😊😊
I was diagnosed with end stage DLS march 24,i almost past in ICU, I'm 35 ,I was a half a bottle of vodka with sprite nearly everyday for a good 7 yrs ,I'm nearly a year sober and I'm doing ok day by day,it gives me hope hearing your story's 🙏
Congratulations on your sobriety and wishing you well as you manage your disease. I hope you get healthier and stronger with each passing day. Thank you for sharing your story, too, to remind people that liver disease does not just afflict old people. Your story will help others to make the decision to get sober. I hope you use this community (including fellow viewers) to find strength as you travel this difficult path. Glad you’re here. Best wishes!
Hey emmameyer. I am so sorry to hear that. So, so sorry. I was a vodka and sprite drinker too. Not kidding. Everyday. Hang in there my friend. They gave me 1 year.... 2 years ago. And I'm still here. I was so lost for so long. I know exactly what you are going through and just know that there are many like us here. I hope to talk to you a lot more in the future my friend. Let me know if you have any questions or anything, I'm here for you. I started this channel because I was so alone when I first found out and wanted to create a place for people that are sick, don't feel so alone. Thank you for sharing. God bless❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@liverdisease-qb6rkthanks LD for your kind words, if only we could take back time write, everyday is a new challenge for me as for anyone with this horrible disease ,plus not many people know much about it including doctor's, but they say my bloods are good but my liver is badly scared and I hope one day with a good diet,lots of vitamins and whatever else they give you to keep us going and setting small goals everyday to keep us active and happy,maybe just maybe we can't get our livers back to a compensated state or better 🙏🙏🙏🙏❣️
@@kathrynminnick8986thankyou for your kind words and wishes ❣️
@@liverdisease-qb6rkthank's LD,I find your story very similar to mine & it helps a lot hearing what you go through on a day to day basis,I'm still coming to terms that I have this disease (DLS) it's very overwhelming for me and my family,just like you say with a good healthy diet & exercise,keeping up appointments and take all the right meds/vitamin hopefully will be here longer then what we're told 🙏.
Having been sober for long periods of time.. my one regret is not having contact with some of these people.. just to let them know how better it can be
Seeing a friend accomplish sobriety instead of matching you shot for shot can be scary. The bubble of denial has been broken.
You may have been thinking that no one who has drunk as much as you have for as long as you have could ever get sober. But then, your rationalization gets shredded right in
front of your eyes. If the other guy who is so similar to you can get sober, what is stopping you from being sober?
What's your excuse?
Unfortunately, many people. find it easier to attempt dragging you back down to their low level than to applaud your efforts to get out of the sticky mud of addiction and better yourself.
Hey G. Crazy story. I have a few really good friends. They never drank. I was always drinking around them. Play see me through my worst times. They never left my side. Now that I'm sober, I enjoy their company that much more and they enjoy mine. I did have one drinking buddy but we don't hang out anymore. He doesn't want to. No big deal. Just glad I have the ones that seen me through. It's -5 here in Jersey. Haven't been outside in a week 😮 can't wait till spring 🌱 love you. So glad you made it through your rough time. You mean a lot to me ! ❤️❤️❤️
Hey jersey girl! I'm so happy for you that you kept your friends! All of mine drank or used so I had to stay away unfortunately. I'm glad that you have been able to keep them through the different stages in your life too! That's sooo cool. Sending you love!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤ sorry it's been so cold, it's freezing here for us... 29 degrees... that's cold! God bless ❤❤❤
Oh gosh LD, lol
I could never understand those who kept pushing shots, I hated shots & this one guy always pushed them so hard. I ran from him back then thankfully! 😊
There are some people who feel less guilt about being self destructive when they can persuade other people close by to join in on the action.
They do not want to be alone in the chemical fog of addiction.
They want to hold on to the silly rationalization that " Doing shots is not a bad thing if everyone around me is also doing it. It feels more average and normal if
several people are doing it at the same time. "
That's good to hear laura!!!!❤❤❤❤ God bless 😊😊
I stopped going to bars and I did notice my friends stopped inviting me out. Which is fine, I didn't trust my strength and I told them that so perhaps it was their way of supporting me. They knew I was trying to stop, I was very open about it. Maybe they know they have a problem and don't want to drag you down or admit it, I know I didn't want to admit I had a problem, but we guys can be too proud at times.
Thank you for sharing 420! I didn't and don't trust my own strength still to this day. God bless😊😊😊😊
Most of my friends have died either from ODs or complications of drugs & alcohol. I have a few close friends that are sober. I can’t believe you guys are getting snow down there! It’s freezing where I am.
I am so sorry Rhonda. May your friends rest in peace. So sad. I have lost many, many friends myself over the years from the same. God bless❤❤❤❤
Drinking is what made me more social. I love alone time these days, and time with some family and my cat :)
Thank you for sharing your story
Prayers coming your way 🙏🙏🙏
You are so welcome my friend! Thank you for the prayers!!!!! God bless❤❤❤❤
That's a big reason I stopped hanging out with my neighbors they only wanted to drink when we all hung out if you weren't drinking they would ask why so you come to realize they just wanted drinking buddies not to just chill and hang out so I cut that off real quick.
Good for you laura!!!! I'm glad you got away from all of that. God bless ❤❤❤❤
Thank's 💜 LUTENENT LD,.🇺🇲 🦅
😊😊😊😊 thank you ryan!!!! You are so welcome!!!😊😊😊 God bless ❤❤❤
You are so wise. I appreciate your videos. ❤
Thank you so much Stephanie! I appreciate you being here! God bless❤❤❤❤❤
I’ve lost friends for the opposite reason. My friends that have gotten sober no longer associate with me, a drinker. I understand it and I am ok with it.
I'm sorry woohoo. Thank you for sharing. God bless
Being around drinking now is annoying, for me. The party's over. Life is more calm.
I completely understand rusty. Thank you for sharing! God bless😊😊😊
Dont have any friends anymore but i consider you a online friend.
I guess you live in NZ? If so, please tell us about life there including the drinking and sobriety cultures, etc. Wishing you well. Thanks.
I absolutely consider you a friend as well Colin! Thank you! God bless❤❤❤
I rather loose my friends than my life..Thx LD
Absolutely 💯
It happened to my dad. His very good 2 friends that remained attended his funeral. All the others were just hanging around him for an excuse to drink. They all disappeared when he became sober.
I'm really sorry you hear that laura. May your father rest in peace. ❤❤❤❤❤God bless ❤
People are threate ned when we quit thinking we judge them which is not the case. Just part of getting sober😮
That's an interesting thought Robert! Thank you! God bless😊😊😊
I honestly don’t miss my old drinking “ friends “. They put me down for my decision to quit drinking. Fuck them !!! I was really hurt at first , but I am much better off with out them in my life . I wouldn’t trade my sobriety for ANYTHING!! My life quite literally depends on me keeping sober . 🙏❤
Great sense of priority!!
That's awesome to hear Andrew! You know exactly what matters most! I can totally relate to what you mean as well.... my life depends on it too. God bless😊😊❤
@@liverdisease-qb6rk Thanks LD. I hope you are doing well today . 👍🙏❤
Oh we have snow in Houston!!! Hard freeze tonight. Pipe burst cold.
Stay warm LD
Hope fam is getting better.
If u want to stay sober you need to change everything
Hey Kristen! We got a lot of snow too! Crazy that yall got in Houston! Wild! Stay warm yourself! I'm sure it's still cold there! God bless❤❤❤
@ now I’m over it
Time to get back to above freezing temps lol
@Kristen10-22 i know!
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Yo LD that was a great video. Was wondering if you could cover hanxiety and the insomnia associated with it. Been struggling with that the most currently
Thank you silaswalker! I absolutely will! It's funny you say that, I almost did today's video on hangxiety!!!!! God bless❤❤❤
Cold in Texas, too. At least for us, it is.
For me it feels like my life has evolved in a way that I don't enjoy being out with people who are out for a night to tie one on. I don't at all feel like I want to drink and other than that, it seems like a lot of yelling and carelessness, messiness. I don't enjoy that. I miss some of the people, but if we are going to hang out it has to involve more than a night out watching them drink.
Yep...friends & relationships. Just ended 2 1/2 yr relationship because my boyfriend was my "drinking buddy". Discovered we really don't have that much in common after all. Day 96 strong! 💪
Congratulations on 96 days!! That’s huge!! Congratulations, too, on prioritizing your well-being over a relationship reliant on drinking.
I'm so sorry sara. Congratulations on 96 days!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤ God bless 😊😊😊
You look and sound so much better than 3 weeks ago
Thank you so much Seth! God bless❤❤❤
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I lost all of my friends when I quit drinking. Yes,many were drinking buddies but I needed to stay away from most of my friends that drank. A lot of them were bar friends and so that was over, but my whole life has changed and I don’t care to be around alcohol
My social circle has shrunk substantially since I have quit but it was honestly more of my doing than anyone else’s.
I have discovered that my preferred way of life is actually to be by myself as much as possible. I’m the happiest either with my family or alone. I still talk often to couple of my closest friends but outside of that I have absolutely no desire for most social interactions. If given a choice I pick a quiet evening at home , a book, great meal and my family every time. I don’t know why but I find people exhausting. I can’t stand small talk or fake people. I hate drama and gossip. I’ve deleted all of my social media except for YT. It’s like since I have quit I have discovered a different version of myself.
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Ugg, that neighborhood you lived in is the type of neighborhood I would never want to live in.
Btw... thank you for this video. Currently going through the friend/relationship phase out and it can be rough but I'm honestly 1,000 times happier!! Ohhhh man, all the dull & boring surface level conversions... just can't handle them anymore lol.
You are so welcome sara! And man.... do i know what you mean about the conversations! People solving all the worlds problems..... around a bar. God bless❤❤❤❤
Mentholatum or Vicks Vapor Rub under your nose, behind ears, on lips and all over chest and throat.
It will help you & family members so much!! ❤
Thank you!!!❤❤❤
Yes, when I had my drinking problem, my “friend” of 30 plus years borrowed over 40k cash from me over several years. He had problems with his car, then his divorce, then his karate school, always something he needed money. I was too stupid to realize what he was doing. When I got sober, after rehab and all I asked about repayment. Then he got mad at me… saying how dare you… I thought we were friends ..I can’t afford to pay u back. Besides your family has a business, parents are rich, you can wait when I’m ready and able. The nerve. Unfortunately we didn’t have anything in writing and notorized … just pieces of papers saying I owe you 10k, i owe u 5k, etc. nothing that’ll hold up in court…
That’s a tough lesson to learn, I had to.
That’s probably why he lost his business, his wife embezzled money from the business and cheated with another guy, and his daughter came out as a lesbian , marrying another woman. He problem led a life that God didn’t approve and or punished
That's why you never lend money to friends.
@@almaconnor9171true, maybe the universe did get its payback.
1. His father passed away
2. His mother passed away, both parents smokers
3. Daughter married another female
4. His wife cheated on him, later divorced. Embezzled his karate school business
5. Closed his school
@@almaconnor9171yup…..😢
LD, I changed my mind. Women or Men who still drink are not close anymore. Or, disappeared. Like you and some others have said here, they just wanted to sit and get wasted. Same old, same old stories. I have moved away from that. It's sad to watch them or even to know what is happening. Usually not good. It's sad. Good subject to think about. Take Care.
Hey Karen. It's really sad to think there are some that will never stop. I hate to see it happen. Thank you for sharing. God bless ❤❤❤
whenever i refuse a drink from someone i think is going to peer-pressure me, i just lie and tell them that i can't because i'm on medication.
Hi ld I hope your getting better with each day. Tonight I was sober for the first time playing pool with my team here in Spain. Normally I'd get drink because of social anxiety. But not tonight. I was good and played well. And I enjoyed it more. Life can be better without alcohol. Thank you all again for encouraging each other. We can win this battle. Stay safe ld.
Great news!! I hope y’all won!!
Thank you Peter! That's so awesome! It's so cool to see when we can still do the same things as before..... and even better! I wish I could go whitewater kayaking again and see how much better I would be at it now. Thank you my friend! Sending love! God bless ❤❤❤❤
8 Degrees Fahrenheit here right now with a low of -4 tonight. (Ohio)
That's cold!!!!
Honestly I think I've lost friends BECAUSE of my drinking, people can't be assed by the end. But, yeh drinking buddies is a thing I guess and a lot of my friends are my friends are because we were drinking buddies. I dno if I hate alcohol or love it
Hi! Sending love from romania!!!❤
Hey Gabriel!!! Sending love back from the US! God bless ❤❤❤❤
I self isolated so I have nobody anyway. I also only work part time at best on temporary contracts this triggers drinking because I realize I failed jobwise...
Don't let others define job failure or success for you!!
Hey there my friend. You didn't fail, I promise. You are still here and fighting right now. That's huge!!!! And you have me and everyone here in this community! We are all here for you! God bless ❤❤❤❤
Can you call me one day I want to quit drinking and have stopped for 7 days but go back to it… if I dropped my number could we talk for a brief moment it would mean a lot I want to get sober but what i saw while in the marine corps was and still harder to deal with! I just would want to talk to you I love your videos and they help a lot!!! Let me know if this is possible please and thank you!!! Love you man and I mean it! Your awesome stay sober
Hey Brian! Yeah man. I can. For sure. Put it in the reply and I will take it down. I'll delete it as soon as I get it. Or place your email address here and I will send you an email. You can give me you number through that. Probably the safest way. Thank you for being here my friend! Talk to you soon. God bless ❤❤❤❤
I’m officially without any friends now😅. But it’s actually a good thing since I grew up in a rough neighborhood and all my old friends were not great people anyway, (like gangsters and what not) so my new life task is to learn how to make good people friends 👍
@RRiiccooo89 hey there you’re not alone. I have 0 friends some acquaintances but that’s it. I have found more value in conversations I’ve had in sober channels like this one than IRL. I guess it’s a sign of the times. Anyways, if I can’t have quality people around, I rather be solo.
Good luck making friends with good people! They’re out there waiting to be found!!
@@Micru866You seem like you should have some good high-quality friends based on what you’ve shown of yourself here. I’m sorry if IRL friendship is hard for you to find. I absolutely know what that’s like. But I’m sure lots of people could appreciate you if they got to know you. I hope you and they will cross paths!!
@@kathrynminnick8986 thank you for your kind words, unfortunately I do not. One part of the issue is I don’t put myself out there enough. It’s not because I have social anxiety or shy I just don’t put the energy into people. I’m the kind of person that lives in the moment. For example, if we’re hanging out even having coffee and the other person is constantly on their phone I’m going to be annoyed. Lots of people these days are glued to it. Also, if the conversation revolves around politics no thank you. I just want to have a good time. I think the other issue to contend with is after Covid people changed and became more isolated. I was more social as well. People I did consider friends have all drifted a part. I tried to make the effort to keep those connections but it’s a two way street. Anyways, I’m totally open to it and do hope I find those connections again…IRL 😊. I have found some great people here if we weren’t all in different states I would totally meet up and have a coffee.
@@Micru866 Good luck with finding new IRL friends!!! I’ve found the situation rather paradoxical myself-when one has a dearth of friends, one builds up the capacity to get along without them. But the capacity to get along without them ensures one won’t have the drive to go out and make new friends!!! It all becomes very circular (and challenging)!! Anyhow, wishing you well in building new friendship(s)! 😊
Oh yeh. I would challenge too that I could not participate in a lot of my “friends” typical, activities (golf (we always drank) Fri PMj bars, cookouts with drinking, ball games at bars) anymore so I was not around much. I don’t feel like people avoided me more than I avoided them cuz I couldn’t drink. Also, LD did you have trouble with bruising? I’m doing great but when I relapsed a couple times, you could blow on me and I’d bruise, especially my thighs.
Yeah.... that's a good point too Aaron. Yes, I do bruise very easily. I'm on blood thinners too though and have type 1 diabetes... that might play a role as well? Thank you! God bless 😊
Was your wife at one point while friends were moving into the neighborhood, drinking also conservatively in those days? However, she learned early on that this all needed curtailed?
Continued prayers for you and family.
Thank you for the prayers! God bless ❤❤❤❤