CONGRATS PEGGY!!! 1 YEAR IS HUGE LET'S GOOOOOOOOO!!!!! 🏆🏆🏆 Thank you so much for your generosity to help me to continue making these very important videos 🥰🥰🥰
40, yes 4 0 yrs of drinking and finally made it past 6 months (6 months & 19 days) After several attempts w/no support system. You have to want this for yourself, no one else can make this happen. The demons are real, and sometimes overwhelming, however 1 day at a time, keep moving forward. I know there is light on the other side of the darkness we call hell…. Keep up the good fight! Thank you Jae for this Chanel, your “work” means more than you will ever know.
Let's go Jae🎉 he's right out means more than you know....... thank you Preston beautifully put young man❤ God bless you son 🙏 💙 40 years of self punishment is nothing to sneeze at congratulations 🎊 on your sobriety I'm proud of you 👏.
Another great video!!! I’m so grateful for this community. Sobriety comes with a lot of gifts, also the humility of cleaning up the wreckage and not a lot of understanding from others. 2.5 years later, I Look back on the journey and say wow! Mine included the worst depression for months… it takes a lot of work to stick it out. Today I still take it a day at a time, I just focus on today. I no longer wake up feeling terrible. I get to wake at 5am and work out and enjoy my mornings! I get to focus on goals instead of waiting out feeling bad. I lost both my parents, I don’t need to drink over it. Thankyou for your videos!!! Hope to hear from you.
💯! It’s only been 2 months for me, but still … I miss absolutely nothing of what I did, or what I was like when I drank! I am handling life stressors waaaaay better now that my mind is clear and my body is so much healthier!
Very challenging for me, as my partner drinks a bottle of wine a day and a few beers. Any tips? 12 weeks for me. And weathered lots of socialising. However I find myself getting anxious and bored.
My friends didn't go anywhere, but I stopped interacting with them because most of them love drinking alcohol and I don't. Thank you Jae for making these videos. They have been a big help on this sobriety journey of mine. 344 days now and couldn't be happier.
Yupp, so did I ....stopped interacting with my drinking buddies. Its high risk for me and I wanna stay sober this time! So I am learning to entertain myself and its going well and watch Jae everyday😉
Thanks for video Jae. Day 535 sober. Me, my liver and emotional wellbeing are all stoked being sober. Definitely staying present and surrendered to my Lord and Savior are key to not just staying sober but in moving forward on my journey to the best version of me I can be. :)
Friends are important in our life but not as important as ourselves & our goals, those aren't friends and would actually do anything to pull us down with them just for the sake of their drinking sessions, on 26th of June i have my first year anniversary of being sober 🎉 all is left for me to say Jae you been a vital part of my journey day in day out, thank you, looking forward to a video on the 26th of June hopefully you can make one.
@GettingSoberAgain absolutely 💯 a year of most savings, working & achievement because of that demon 😈 that was keeeeeep setting me back. For those who is at the beginning of this journey, STOP THE POISON ENTERING YOUR BODY & FREE YOUR SOUL.
I'm on day 2 of getting sober...again! Went six months last year without a drink so I know I can do it again. It gets lonely and boring at times so I try and keep busy. Things seem to fall into place for me though when I'm not in my beer cans and I make other activities like exercise more of a priority. Sure is nice to not have a depleted checking account too wondering where all of my hard earned money went.
Sometimes friends aren't really friends but associates but you don't know until you are going on a journey that they aren't packed for. Thank you for your videos Jae!
My wife quit drinking with me which is huge! My brother is still drinking and he his more of a toxic drunk than he realizes. Gotta make some boundaries with him which is pretty difficult considering that he acts as though there should be zero boundaries just because im his brother.
I was told at last years Halloween party that I was "A lot more fun when I drank" by a 50 year old man who was staggering around and slurring his speech, in front of his 10 year old son and his, equally as drunk wife. Haven't had a drink in 5 years.
233 days sober today 😊. Finding it tough some days and a breeze others. Small steps continually required. I have taken another challenge of giving up chocolate, cakes, biscuts and candy!! Its been 1 week so far 😅
@@cmf2009thorn I gave up sugar a few years ago. It was HARD. I was an addict. I started drinking more, just the way alcoholics tend to eat more sugar when they're off the booze. Now I'm on day 6 alcohol free. Best of luck to you!
Guess it's normal, kinda the same here. But I'm also declining a lot of invites from them because I know I'll wake up the next morning with a hangover and tons of regret. Gotta go it alone sometimes :) Also, who knows, they might be thinking of you when they're dealing with hangovers - you could slowly be becoming a role model for them
People who I thought were friends at my local pub were not friends at all, just people who are addicted to drinking, they haven't once been in touch since I've stopped drinking, their concern is only alcohol. I'm glad I don't belong to that crowd anymore.
We often need that time to recalibrate - and the universe knows it! - so we're provided that time to get accustomed to the new world we've stepped into.
On day 165 and recently had a great visit with the doctor. I'm fortunate to have a lot of support at home and work, and I don't take that lightly. I feel like an old house undergoing renovation. I'm just starting to feel comfortable in the new digs. Keep the faith, friends!
Hey Jae, hope you are good ! Sadly , all my friends were supportive of me getting sober , once they were used to the idea . They saw how much it meant to me and were good with my decision! All the best from your pal in Bonnie Scotland 🏴🏴🏴
I've been watching your videos for a couple of months and they have really helped me towards sobriety. I'm a flawed perfectionist and my fear of screwing my sobriety up leads me to screwing my sobriety up! I just watched the October video where you said 'practice makes progress' and told your story of not being successful at the beginning; really resonated with me. I actually felt a little better about myself and shut down the mental chatter ( for a moment or two, I'll take it) telling me that I'll never make it to sobriety and will forever be a binge drinker, 'that's just the way that I am; have been and always will be'. Thanks for your videos, I feel like for once I have a community where I fit in. Again, thank you, Jae.
absolutely! I'm very familiar with the feelings of hopelessness and helplessness and anxiety and depression and guilt and shame that all comes along with overly obsessing about perfection. in today's society, everything's on the menu and there are way too many options. there are way too many distractions, phone notifications, and too much marketing. all trying to fight for our time, our dollar, and our loyalty. every single one of us is going to end up on a sobriety detour, and it's always important to remember that we're just practicing. That even your doctor practices and sometimes they kill people. your favorite basketball players only make a percentage of the shots that they make, your favorite baseball. players are considered All-Stars with a batting average of .300 quarterbacks missed passes, and running backs fumble the ball. But what they don't do is just quit. we get back to practicing, we learn from our mistakes, and we apply those lessons to a future situation so that we know where to zig when we zagged, and next time we actually zig instead of zag.
You are an amazing human! Why you don't have a million subscribers is a mystery! Thank you for doing this. Shared with my sister because she struggles too. I can't thank you enough. 😊
Quit cold turkey on Feb. 23. My partner on March 1st. We're the "sober couple" in our group and while our friends still drink, it's nice to know we're the ones that generate sober curiosity in our social circle. We love making sobriety look fun.
This is the best video I’ve seen yet on your channel. I’m approaching 6 months now. Most of my friends are actually cool with me not drinking; however when I told one - the response was “no way lol. F*** me like” before sending pics of him and the wife drinking. Haven’t spoken since. Next big challenge was a vacation in Italy. My wife still drinks and is super supportive to my decision. Culture there is wine/beer with dinner and I got some judgemental looks from waiters (very rarely I will say) but I never gave in despite that being the biggest temptation yet. Last week I had the toughest week in work for several years. Old me would have 100% opened the whisky. Instead I went to my kickboxing gym for a personal training session. In October I’m going on a trip with 3 friends and now feel confident we can go to bars, catch up and have a laugh without me wanting to order alcohol. I feel better now than I have in the post two decades and this is the biggest positive in making me want to continue this journey.
@@GettingSoberAgain thank you Jae. Your channel has spoken a lot of truths I’m sure many watching have experienced and thought. Massive thanks to you for cultivating a great community here and bringing some positivity to many
@@paulanderson24 I'm grateful to be able to do what I do and to have the great support of the people here. Not many people know I almost stopped making content at the end of 2022, but I decided to KEEP GOING
Jae, as usual, you are right on! I now realize a lot of people who I thought were my friends were really just drinking buddies. I am at 14 months of NO alcohol. I had to stay away from almost everyone for almost 6 months. I am so happy and feel so much better sober and the thought of going back to drinking is unthinkable to me. Thanks for another awesome video.
@@GettingSoberAgain Thanx so much These days I enjoy freediving, surfing, walking and weight training. Keeping busy. Sorry it’s so late where u r. How about you? Are you enjoying some activities?
40 days sober today, feeling pretty good overall. First week was really rough but im not really missing it much anymore. I still struggle with anxiety but its reduced by like 90 percent. One day at a time!
My husband is a heavy drinker too. He’s been pretty supportive of my sobriety but I also think deep down he resents losing his best drinking buddy. It definitely feels like we don’t have as much in common anymore. I’m hoping he will eventually get sick and tired of being sick and tired, and my being sober will make it easier for him to jump on board.
Hi Jae, DAY 27🎉 Feeling strong physically and mentally. Today is my first day off of 4 in a row, I get a bit bored when I have a few days off in a row. As I mentioned to you before, my two triggers/ vulnerable times are boredom and women. So these 4 days will be a test!!!! Thanks for the support!
Always a great channel Jae , My old Drinking buddies didn’t go nowhere but they are very happy and proud of me and so they understand why we don’t hangout like we use to .My girl came back into my life after taking a 3 month break due to my drinking but Now I’m 162 days sober. like you always said patience and self love was and finding what we are worth were the key and most importantly pray. I just want to say to everyone Hang in there and it will get better as the days goes by and just be patient and stay positive and everyday is not always gonna be awesome but hey that’s part of life and we are able to get through without alcohol.. THANK YOU JAE FOR MAKING THIS CHANNEL
I don't have the same space, energy or the internet bandwidth to produce the Livestreams the same way, currently. I've focused more on producing better content and shorts, which have been proving beneficial for folks and has helped the channel to grow 250% over the last year alone since ending the Livestreams. But I wouldn't rule it out in the future. "never say never"
June 21st: one year sober today! 🤩 Luckily, I lost very few friends when I stopped drinking. The majority of them were respectful of my decision, and some of them even praised me for it. It seems I've inspired at least one of my friends to drink less often. We had a girls' night last night and I happily enjoyed my non-alcoholic beer and mocktail while they enjoyed sangria. I felt next to no temptation, and absolutely no FOMO. Had a great time. So happy 😁
@@hayleyoesch1313 What do you have planned for your celebratory weekend??? We are on a bike ride right now, just did 20 miles, taking a break to answer messages 😁
@@GettingSoberAgain Wow, that sounds awesome! I bought myself a couple sweet treats and I've gotten to spend some time outside to enjoy the beautiful weather we're having in Paris ☀️
Great content once again, you’re analogy about the journeys definitely resonated with me. Once you go on the sober journey Other journey options start to appear and yes life seems to definitely be more manageable and organized,, keep up the content
About eight months not drinking. Was afraid of the upcoming summertime to be tempted to a cold one but I'll definitely won't as I'm kinda a cold one myself, I mean, coughing all the time and having problems to sleep, absolutely doesn't make me want a beer or anything that contains alcohol. There may be one buddy who'll freak out when he finds out I'm sober and won't break it for the sake of tasting another tasty IPA, stout, whatnot. I'm just too long into that to give it up. I don't care if he doesn't understand anyway. We used to have tea and snacks with my previous band I've left behind due to my departure from the country and those were my true friends, no drinking needed to be creative, productive, compassionate and to treat each other with respect and kindness.
I have struggled with alcohol for years. I've been quiting for years. My efforts have been met with nothing but failure. Two days sober then celebrate with 10 cans , right myself off and do another two days. I got off heavy beers and got on the mid strength beers. The same thing was applied and the cycle rebirthed into buy more beer just to keep on the same levels the heavys had me at. When I was told I could never be a father after having a micro-tese I haven't had a drink for 32 days. My mates are very supportive and always say "you're a better man then me , I could never do it" my day to day struggle continues but instead of coming home and face fucking 8 cans after building houses for rich snobby wankers I jump on a rowing machine for 45 minutes and drown myself in sweat and finish it off with a litre of water. You know the stat about teenage boys thinking about sex , that's how much I still think about beer, it still rules the main circuits of my mind but hey over time I'm sure it will fade. If you're current friends don't support you or don't wanna be around you cos you're sober they might as well just fuck off anyway. Cheers from Australia.
I am 1 week sober today! 🎉 I did actually hang out with my 2 friends on Friday, and they drank 🍷 as usual and I just had juice. I actually was not tempted like I thought I would be to drink! Probably because I am actively changing my mindset about all the terrible effects of alcohol {I’m reading “Alcohol Explained” by William Porter and it’s quite good!} But it’s so interesting to be acutely alert and aware of everything that my friends were saying, and noticing just how negative, critical & toxic they were, not about me, but others. Was their toxicity from the alcohol? Or just deep inside of them? I don’t know, but I really did not enjoy hanging out with them. The problem is, I don’t have any other friends here. Have you ever done a video on where to find new (maybe sober?) friends? Thanks for your videos Jai! 🙏✨💖
I don't necessarily think we have to limit ourselves to people who are strictly sober as much as we need to limit ourselves as you say, to people who are toxic while intoxicated. I made a friend recently playing pool who carries around (no joke) a pitcher of water with 2 straws in it, while he drinks his single glass of red wine. I didn't even know you could order an entire pitcher of water for yourself lol. Drinking can be done responsibly for some, but unfortunately for a lot of folks...it's a Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde situation.
I was 6 months sober. My life has changed in so many ways, all for the better. I drank last night, overwhelmed and overstimulated by life and the kids and work. I had some wine. I haven’t felt this hungover in years and it was 100% avoidable. I have terrible hangxiety and depression at the moment and am so down on myself. Lots of negative emotions, in addition to my head splitting open and wanting to throw up. Any kind word of encouragement would help. I can’t believe I did it after over 6 months without a drop.
@@GettingSoberAgain Definitely need to treat it as a detour and not a complete unraveling of my last 6 months. One night doesn’t undo all that I have gained. Just need to get back to the highway.
My husband and adult sons’ idea of a good time has to include alcohol. I’m committed to my sobriety and have no desire to hang out in the old local bars and music venues anymore because they really trigger me (I’m on day 38). I don’t have FOMO but I do feel like they think I’m boring now, because most of the time I just stay home when they decide to go out for drinks, music, pool, etc. I go to bed early, wake up early (and BTW I’m loving that!) and I’m not a part of the social life anymore. I’m also avoiding a ton of the drama that alcohol brings, and I’m hoping they’ll start to notice that more than thinking I’m “missing out” on the so-called fun.
Hey gang. I'm in my first week of my first ever attempt and feeling much different in good and bad ways already. My question is; what's the stance on near beer? It's helping me a ton and was wondering other people's perspective or experience. Good luck to everyone and thanks!
You're welcome Samantha Don't forget, a video a day keeps the cravings away! Click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety! ua-cam.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
I have been trying to quit drinking for the last 6/7 months, couldn't do it, then I found this channel! I made it 5 days, then had a beer and a shot..... The next day I bought 2 beers and 6 damn shots, blacked out and kicking my self in the ass because I don't even know who I talked to 😢😢. I hate this 😢, and of course I just went to the store and bought a beer and 3 shots. I'm telling myself since I fucked up, might as well go out with a bang and today is THE LAST DAY 🎉
@@GettingSoberAgain apparently I replaced the urge with ice cream that comes in a little one serving tub, Carmel with Carmel sauce.....I wasn't a Carmel fan but this stuff is the bomb 💣 😂, but it's expensive, Hershey ice cream,
What do you do when your spouse is a heavy drinker/alcohol abuser? Most of our activities involve drinking. When I said I am taking a break from alcohol he looked at me like I had grown another head.
I stopped drinking 1/12/24 after five years of binge drinking and I just feel so isolated and bored. I work from home, just bought a house in the country outside of Dallas not close to any family and friends. I still socialize while gaming with college/childhood friends but it's not fun sober. I have two-year-old twin girls and enjoy playing with them every day, but damn I've been super social my whole life and this isn't it, but I feel stuck. I have no desire to go back to drinking but I'm just tapped out and have no drive. Every day is the same boring shit that I never wanted to grow up and do or be a part of this corporate hamster wheel.
Are you still hanging in there sober ? Your story reminded me of myself ! I am 7 months sober after a 12 year binge ! It took me about 5 rounds of stopping and drinking to reach a better out come ! The first rounds I felt like you do . I mean I was miserable . I did not know what to do with myself. I did not have any friends or family close to me where I live. I’ve been sober seven months now and it’s better this time I still don’t have any friends, but I’m working on it. I am also working on new things to do. I could easily make drinking buddies, but I don’t want that. Good luck !
Thank you for your help ❤️
One year Sober!
CONGRATS PEGGY!!! 1 YEAR IS HUGE LET'S GOOOOOOOOO!!!!! 🏆🏆🏆
Thank you so much for your generosity to help me to continue making these very important videos 🥰🥰🥰
Congratulations. Very proud of you. I’m one week out from the 6 month milestone.
Well done
Huge congratulations! I made it there today!
Made it to a year off the juice. For those who are struggling with the demon drink. There is hope folks trust me. your real friends will stay with you
40, yes 4 0 yrs of drinking and finally made it past 6 months (6 months & 19 days)
After several attempts w/no support system. You have to want this for yourself, no one else can make this happen.
The demons are real, and sometimes overwhelming, however 1 day at a time, keep moving forward. I know there is light on the other side of the darkness we call hell…. Keep up the good fight!
Thank you Jae for this Chanel, your “work” means more than you will ever know.
6mo 19days LETS GOOOOOO Preston!!!!
Let's go Jae🎉 he's right out means more than you know....... thank you Preston beautifully put young man❤ God bless you son 🙏 💙 40 years of self punishment is nothing to sneeze at congratulations 🎊 on your sobriety I'm proud of you 👏.
Another great video!!!
I’m so grateful for this community. Sobriety comes with a lot of gifts, also the humility of cleaning up the wreckage and not a lot of understanding from others. 2.5 years later, I Look back on the journey and say wow! Mine included the worst depression for months… it takes a lot of work to stick it out. Today I still take it a day at a time, I just focus on today. I no longer wake up feeling terrible. I get to wake at 5am and work out and enjoy my mornings! I get to focus on goals instead of waiting out feeling bad. I lost both my parents, I don’t need to drink over it. Thankyou for your videos!!! Hope to hear from you.
You deserve you at your best 👊
My friend said it was intimidating that i was completely sober. Its fine. We still had a good time. Im doing this for health reasons anyways.
We can't control how others feel about us, but we CAN control how WE feel about ourselves 🙏
339 days sober 😎
Congrats. 151 days for me.
Thuggish Ruggish Sober!
Hooray. BoneThugsNL. Keep that positive momentum going
@@GettingSoberAgain 😆😁👏
I started kayaking! I love it!
Yaaaaaaaay me too!
Two-plus years alcohol free and truly not missing 99% of what I did when I drank. Thanks for the continued encouragement and support, Jae! 😊🙏🩷
2 years?!?! AMAZING!!! What a blessing 🙏🙏🙏
💯! It’s only been 2 months for me, but still … I miss absolutely nothing of what I did, or what I was like when I drank! I am handling life stressors waaaaay better now that my mind is clear and my body is so much healthier!
@@abbytabby08 that's awesome, congratulations! I'm very happy for you!! 😁👏
@@mikelobrien thank you 😊
Very challenging for me, as my partner drinks a bottle of wine a day and a few beers. Any tips? 12 weeks for me. And weathered lots of socialising. However I find myself getting anxious and bored.
My friends didn't go anywhere, but I stopped interacting with them because most of them love drinking alcohol and I don't. Thank you Jae for making these videos. They have been a big help on this sobriety journey of mine. 344 days now and couldn't be happier.
Yupp, so did I ....stopped interacting with my drinking buddies. Its high risk for me and I wanna stay sober this time! So I am learning to entertain myself and its going well and watch Jae everyday😉
344 days closer to your best life ☺️
Thanks for video Jae. Day 535 sober. Me, my liver and emotional wellbeing are all stoked being sober. Definitely staying present and surrendered to my Lord and Savior are key to not just staying sober but in moving forward on my journey to the best version of me I can be. :)
👏👏👏 535 let's gooooooo
I am realising only now that I have been sober for 4 months today. And yes life has changed ... For the better😊
Welcome to greener pastures 🙏
Friends are important in our life but not as important as ourselves & our goals, those aren't friends and would actually do anything to pull us down with them just for the sake of their drinking sessions, on 26th of June i have my first year anniversary of being sober 🎉 all is left for me to say Jae you been a vital part of my journey day in day out, thank you, looking forward to a video on the 26th of June hopefully you can make one.
1 year already?!?! let's gooooooooooo!!!!!
@GettingSoberAgain absolutely 💯 a year of most savings, working & achievement because of that demon 😈 that was keeeeeep setting me back. For those who is at the beginning of this journey, STOP THE POISON ENTERING YOUR BODY & FREE YOUR SOUL.
I'm on day 2 of getting sober...again! Went six months last year without a drink so I know I can do it again. It gets lonely and boring at times so I try and keep busy. Things seem to fall into place for me though when I'm not in my beer cans and I make other activities like exercise more of a priority. Sure is nice to not have a depleted checking account too wondering where all of my hard earned money went.
Everything in its right place 🧩
You got this! So proud of you!
3 1/2 months thanks Jai!
👏👏👏 Jae approves
Sometimes friends aren't really friends but associates but you don't know until you are going on a journey that they aren't packed for. Thank you for your videos Jae!
My wife quit drinking with me which is huge! My brother is still drinking and he his more of a toxic drunk than he realizes. Gotta make some boundaries with him which is pretty difficult considering that he acts as though there should be zero boundaries just because im his brother.
It gets easier. Continue to let your light shine, be kind, and be consistent. He will come around 🙏
I was told at last years Halloween party that I was "A lot more fun when I drank" by a 50 year old man who was staggering around and slurring his speech, in front of his 10 year old son and his, equally as drunk wife. Haven't had a drink in 5 years.
Those people are THE worst 🤮
8 years on the happy path. Thank you for your encouragement 👍🏼👍🏼
Always 🌞🌞🌞
233 days sober today 😊. Finding it tough some days and a breeze others. Small steps continually required.
I have taken another challenge of giving up chocolate, cakes, biscuts and candy!! Its been 1 week so far 😅
Dang...if you can quit biscuits, you might need to write a tell all book 😂 👊
@@cmf2009thorn I gave up sugar a few years ago. It was HARD. I was an addict. I started drinking more, just the way alcoholics tend to eat more sugar when they're off the booze. Now I'm on day 6 alcohol free. Best of luck to you!
Thank you Jai. I’m 151 days sober today and have been experiencing my “friends” not inviting me to do things anymore. 😢
Guess it's normal, kinda the same here. But I'm also declining a lot of invites from them because I know I'll wake up the next morning with a hangover and tons of regret. Gotta go it alone sometimes :) Also, who knows, they might be thinking of you when they're dealing with hangovers - you could slowly be becoming a role model for them
@@Robdawgx Role models for the win! 🏆
With "friends" like these... Am I right? 🤷
This may be one of your best videos you made. Thank you so much.
Awww really?? I appreciate the nice words 🙏🙏🙏
People who I thought were friends at my local pub were not friends at all, just people who are addicted to drinking, they haven't once been in touch since I've stopped drinking, their concern is only alcohol. I'm glad I don't belong to that crowd anymore.
Some of the best stories ever told start with a crowd of 1 ☺️
50k subs holy christ!
Who would have thought?😁
We often need that time to recalibrate - and the universe knows it! - so we're provided that time to get accustomed to the new world we've stepped into.
🎯
On day 165 and recently had a great visit with the doctor. I'm fortunate to have a lot of support at home and work, and I don't take that lightly. I feel like an old house undergoing renovation. I'm just starting to feel comfortable in the new digs. Keep the faith, friends!
We all need a little personal interior decorating 😁
Good stuff! I’m almost 6 months sober after 40 years of chaos and heavy drinking. Keep up the great content!
I actively got rid of them because my recovery is far above toxic people.
Hey Jae, hope you are good ! Sadly , all my friends were supportive of me getting sober , once they were used to the idea . They saw how much it meant to me and were good with my decision!
All the best from your pal in Bonnie Scotland 🏴🏴🏴
Sadly? 😁 I'm glad you have real friends supporting you the way they should 😺
4 months sober after my last relapse which almost took me out. I learned that I don’t need anyone and enjoy my peace.
I've been watching your videos for a couple of months and they have really helped me towards sobriety. I'm a flawed perfectionist and my fear of screwing my sobriety up leads me to screwing my sobriety up! I just watched the October video where you said 'practice makes progress' and told your story of not being successful at the beginning; really resonated with me. I actually felt a little better about myself and shut down the mental chatter ( for a moment or two, I'll take it) telling me that I'll never make it to sobriety and will forever be a binge drinker, 'that's just the way that I am; have been and always will be'. Thanks for your videos, I feel like for once I have a community where I fit in. Again, thank you, Jae.
absolutely! I'm very familiar with the feelings of hopelessness and helplessness and anxiety and depression and guilt and shame that all comes along with overly obsessing about perfection.
in today's society, everything's on the menu and there are way too many options. there are way too many distractions, phone notifications, and too much marketing. all trying to fight for our time, our dollar, and our loyalty.
every single one of us is going to end up on a sobriety detour, and it's always important to remember that we're just practicing. That even your doctor practices and sometimes they kill people.
your favorite basketball players only make a percentage of the shots that they make, your favorite baseball. players are considered All-Stars with a batting average of .300
quarterbacks missed passes, and running backs fumble the ball. But what they don't do is just quit. we get back to practicing, we learn from our mistakes, and we apply those lessons to a future situation so that we know where to zig when we zagged, and next time we actually zig instead of zag.
Great talk man, thanks for your words.
1,072 days!
There's our superstar!!! Keep letting your light shine 🌞
@@GettingSoberAgain Thank you!!!!
60 days today! Keep going everyone!
I want to said thank you for your videos. I just relapse and feel guilty, but I will go forward with my sobriety
We have a video about relapse! Find it in this playlist:
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Everyone is imperfect. The restart is more important than the stumble.
Many thanks for your videos and support. It is amazing, that people face same challanges across the borders. Greetings from Russia.
Be safe out there 🙏
You are an amazing human! Why you don't have a million subscribers is a mystery! Thank you for doing this. Shared with my sister because she struggles too. I can't thank you enough. 😊
I could get used to multiple comments a day from you 🥰🥰 Keep us updated om yours and your sisters progress 🤝
Quit cold turkey on Feb. 23. My partner on March 1st. We're the "sober couple" in our group and while our friends still drink, it's nice to know we're the ones that generate sober curiosity in our social circle. We love making sobriety look fun.
This is the best video I’ve seen yet on your channel. I’m approaching 6 months now.
Most of my friends are actually cool with me not drinking; however when I told one - the response was “no way lol. F*** me like” before sending pics of him and the wife drinking. Haven’t spoken since.
Next big challenge was a vacation in Italy. My wife still drinks and is super supportive to my decision. Culture there is wine/beer with dinner and I got some judgemental looks from waiters (very rarely I will say) but I never gave in despite that being the biggest temptation yet.
Last week I had the toughest week in work for several years. Old me would have 100% opened the whisky. Instead I went to my kickboxing gym for a personal training session.
In October I’m going on a trip with 3 friends and now feel confident we can go to bars, catch up and have a laugh without me wanting to order alcohol.
I feel better now than I have in the post two decades and this is the biggest positive in making me want to continue this journey.
You are tried, tested and true to YOU! Awesome work my friend!!
@@GettingSoberAgain thank you Jae. Your channel has spoken a lot of truths I’m sure many watching have experienced and thought. Massive thanks to you for cultivating a great community here and bringing some positivity to many
@@paulanderson24 I'm grateful to be able to do what I do and to have the great support of the people here. Not many people know I almost stopped making content at the end of 2022, but I decided to KEEP GOING
Jae, as usual, you are right on! I now realize a lot of people who I thought were my friends were really just drinking buddies. I am at 14 months of NO alcohol. I had to stay away from almost everyone for almost 6 months. I am so happy and feel so much better sober and the thought of going back to drinking is unthinkable to me. Thanks for another awesome video.
Hi Jae. Looking good. Paulie in Japan here. Still working on the good life AF. Thanks always for your inspiring videos. You are an absolute champ.
My guy! Glad to hear from you at 11:11pm!
Keep up the good work Paulie. What hobbies are keeping you busy these days??
@@GettingSoberAgain Thanx so much These days I enjoy freediving, surfing, walking and weight training. Keeping busy. Sorry it’s so late where u r. How about you? Are you enjoying some activities?
40 days sober today, feeling pretty good overall. First week was really rough but im not really missing it much anymore. I still struggle with anxiety but its reduced by like 90 percent. One day at a time!
you're now 40 days closer to your best self 🌞
Keep on striving to improve yourself.
Its so hard if your partner drinks....yiu have nothing in common...till they sober up
My husband is a heavy drinker too. He’s been pretty supportive of my sobriety but I also think deep down he resents losing his best drinking buddy. It definitely feels like we don’t have as much in common anymore. I’m hoping he will eventually get sick and tired of being sick and tired, and my being sober will make it easier for him to jump on board.
This is an exceptional video. Really resonates with me. Definitely deserves more views!
That's what I'm saying lol 😭
Hi Jae, DAY 27🎉
Feeling strong physically and mentally. Today is my first day off of 4 in a row, I get a bit bored when I have a few days off in a row. As I mentioned to you before, my two triggers/ vulnerable times are boredom and women. So these 4 days will be a test!!!! Thanks for the support!
Always a great channel Jae , My old Drinking buddies didn’t go nowhere but they are very happy and proud of me and so they understand why we don’t hangout like we use to .My girl came back into my life after taking a 3 month break due to my drinking but Now I’m 162 days sober. like you always said patience and self love was and finding what we are worth were the key and most importantly pray. I just want to say to everyone Hang in there and it will get better as the days goes by and just be patient and stay positive and everyday is not always gonna be awesome but hey that’s part of life and we are able to get through without alcohol.. THANK YOU JAE FOR MAKING THIS CHANNEL
Thank you Lord for giving us all the ability to end the self-sabotage that has been getting in the way of our blessings 🙏
Hi Jae--you're fantastic
That emoji is fantastic!!! 🥰
Best community on UA-cam hands down. 15 days sober today! Thanks for everything. Been fiending for a new video lol!
happy to oblige as always! 🥰
@@GettingSoberAgain You the man, keep doing your thing !
Jey you are saving lives. God bless you sir
@@MatthewBaysinger-c9k I humbly accept this opportunity 🫶😇🫶
Thanks Jae - needed to see this one today . Looking good ! Do you think the livestreams will ever make a return ?
I don't have the same space, energy or the internet bandwidth to produce the Livestreams the same way, currently.
I've focused more on producing better content and shorts, which have been proving beneficial for folks and has helped the channel to grow 250% over the last year alone since ending the Livestreams.
But I wouldn't rule it out in the future. "never say never"
June 21st: one year sober today! 🤩 Luckily, I lost very few friends when I stopped drinking. The majority of them were respectful of my decision, and some of them even praised me for it. It seems I've inspired at least one of my friends to drink less often. We had a girls' night last night and I happily enjoyed my non-alcoholic beer and mocktail while they enjoyed sangria. I felt next to no temptation, and absolutely no FOMO. Had a great time. So happy 😁
Congrats on 1 year and being a great example for your friends! You all deserve you at your best 🫶
@@GettingSoberAgain Thank you so much, Jae! Your videos helped me get here ☺
@@hayleyoesch1313 What do you have planned for your celebratory weekend??? We are on a bike ride right now, just did 20 miles, taking a break to answer messages 😁
@@GettingSoberAgain Wow, that sounds awesome! I bought myself a couple sweet treats and I've gotten to spend some time outside to enjoy the beautiful weather we're having in Paris ☀️
@@hayleyoesch1313 Sweet treats and a beautiful summer day 🙏🙏🙏
Great content once again, you’re analogy about the journeys definitely resonated with me. Once you go on the sober journey Other journey options start to appear and yes life seems to definitely be more manageable and organized,, keep up the content
About eight months not drinking. Was afraid of the upcoming summertime to be tempted to a cold one but I'll definitely won't as I'm kinda a cold one myself, I mean, coughing all the time and having problems to sleep, absolutely doesn't make me want a beer or anything that contains alcohol. There may be one buddy who'll freak out when he finds out I'm sober and won't break it for the sake of tasting another tasty IPA, stout, whatnot. I'm just too long into that to give it up. I don't care if he doesn't understand anyway. We used to have tea and snacks with my previous band I've left behind due to my departure from the country and those were my true friends, no drinking needed to be creative, productive, compassionate and to treat each other with respect and kindness.
Well said 👊
I have struggled with alcohol for years. I've been quiting for years. My efforts have been met with nothing but failure. Two days sober then celebrate with 10 cans , right myself off and do another two days. I got off heavy beers and got on the mid strength beers. The same thing was applied and the cycle rebirthed into buy more beer just to keep on the same levels the heavys had me at. When I was told I could never be a father after having a micro-tese I haven't had a drink for 32 days. My mates are very supportive and always say "you're a better man then me , I could never do it" my day to day struggle continues but instead of coming home and face fucking 8 cans after building houses for rich snobby wankers I jump on a rowing machine for 45 minutes and drown myself in sweat and finish it off with a litre of water. You know the stat about teenage boys thinking about sex , that's how much I still think about beer, it still rules the main circuits of my mind but hey over time I'm sure it will fade. If you're current friends don't support you or don't wanna be around you cos you're sober they might as well just fuck off anyway. Cheers from Australia.
I am 1 week sober today! 🎉 I did actually hang out with my 2 friends on Friday, and they drank 🍷 as usual and I just had juice. I actually was not tempted like I thought I would be to drink! Probably because I am actively changing my mindset about all the terrible effects of alcohol {I’m reading “Alcohol Explained” by William Porter and it’s quite good!}
But it’s so interesting to be acutely alert and aware of everything that my friends were saying, and noticing just how negative, critical & toxic they were, not about me, but others. Was their toxicity from the alcohol? Or just deep inside of them? I don’t know, but I really did not enjoy hanging out with them. The problem is, I don’t have any other friends here. Have you ever done a video on where to find new (maybe sober?) friends? Thanks for your videos Jai! 🙏✨💖
I don't necessarily think we have to limit ourselves to people who are strictly sober as much as we need to limit ourselves as you say, to people who are toxic while intoxicated.
I made a friend recently playing pool who carries around (no joke) a pitcher of water with 2 straws in it, while he drinks his single glass of red wine. I didn't even know you could order an entire pitcher of water for yourself lol.
Drinking can be done responsibly for some, but unfortunately for a lot of folks...it's a Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde situation.
@@GettingSoberAgain yes! Great take! Thank you 😊 🩷 And happy you made a new friend!
I was 6 months sober. My life has changed in so many ways, all for the better. I drank last night, overwhelmed and overstimulated by life and the kids and work. I had some wine. I haven’t felt this hungover in years and it was 100% avoidable. I have terrible hangxiety and depression at the moment and am so down on myself. Lots of negative emotions, in addition to my head splitting open and wanting to throw up. Any kind word of encouragement would help. I can’t believe I did it after over 6 months without a drop.
You and I had this conversation in my head Friday night.
@@GettingSoberAgain Wow that is some foreshadowing.
5 ways to rebound after a relapse:
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@@GettingSoberAgain Thanks, Jae
@@GettingSoberAgain Definitely need to treat it as a detour and not a complete unraveling of my last 6 months. One night doesn’t undo all that I have gained. Just need to get back to the highway.
Good evening Jae, and everyone. Today is DAY 30 for me🎉
30 DAYS LETS GOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! NICE JOB JOHN! 👊👊👊
Thank you so much for all of your videos. It really does help.
My husband and adult sons’ idea of a good time has to include alcohol. I’m committed to my sobriety and have no desire to hang out in the old local bars and music venues anymore because they really trigger me (I’m on day 38). I don’t have FOMO but I do feel like they think I’m boring now, because most of the time I just stay home when they decide to go out for drinks, music, pool, etc. I go to bed early, wake up early (and BTW I’m loving that!) and I’m not a part of the social life anymore. I’m also avoiding a ton of the drama that alcohol brings, and I’m hoping they’ll start to notice that more than thinking I’m “missing out” on the so-called fun.
Hey gang. I'm in my first week of my first ever attempt and feeling much different in good and bad ways already. My question is; what's the stance on near beer? It's helping me a ton and was wondering other people's perspective or experience. Good luck to everyone and thanks!
I no longer abuse alcohol, I’m grieving my only son, family and so called friends have all become distant.
Thank you for these videos ❤
You're welcome Samantha Don't forget, a video a day keeps the cravings away!
Click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety!
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I have been trying to quit drinking for the last 6/7 months, couldn't do it, then I found this channel! I made it 5 days, then had a beer and a shot..... The next day I bought 2 beers and 6 damn shots, blacked out and kicking my self in the ass because I don't even know who I talked to 😢😢. I hate this 😢, and of course I just went to the store and bought a beer and 3 shots. I'm telling myself since I fucked up, might as well go out with a bang and today is THE LAST DAY 🎉
Was it the last day?
@@GettingSoberAgain so far yes
@@Rita19642 🥳 🎉
@@GettingSoberAgain apparently I replaced the urge with ice cream that comes in a little one serving tub, Carmel with Carmel sauce.....I wasn't a Carmel fan but this stuff is the bomb 💣 😂, but it's expensive, Hershey ice cream,
@@Rita19642 been there lol
What do you do when your spouse is a heavy drinker/alcohol abuser? Most of our activities involve drinking. When I said I am taking a break from alcohol he looked at me like I had grown another head.
Jae use sesame oil on your beard to improve the colour of your beard....
Is there something wrong with my beard? I'm in my 40s lol
Hello Jae
😺hi
unfortunately I walk alone.
That's the beauty of support groups. It gives you new friends to talk to
I stopped drinking 1/12/24 after five years of binge drinking and I just feel so isolated and bored. I work from home, just bought a house in the country outside of Dallas not close to any family and friends. I still socialize while gaming with college/childhood friends but it's not fun sober. I have two-year-old twin girls and enjoy playing with them every day, but damn I've been super social my whole life and this isn't it, but I feel stuck. I have no desire to go back to drinking but I'm just tapped out and have no drive. Every day is the same boring shit that I never wanted to grow up and do or be a part of this corporate hamster wheel.
Are you still hanging in there sober ?
Your story reminded me of myself ! I am 7 months sober after a 12 year binge !
It took me about 5 rounds of stopping and drinking to reach a better out come ! The first rounds I felt like you do . I mean I was miserable . I did not know what to do with myself. I did not have any friends or family close to me where I live.
I’ve been sober seven months now and it’s better this time
I still don’t have any friends, but I’m working on it. I am also working on new things to do. I could easily make drinking buddies, but I don’t want that.
Good luck !
I wish there was an easy home blood test to track your liver health or age.
Got 5 of us doing sobriety together at the same time 90 days to start with
Can I be the Nick Fury to your Sober Avengers? 👊
@@GettingSoberAgain 😅 👊🏿
Day #4
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Good morning Jae, DAY 36
MORNING 🌞
Anyone know where or how I can attend online zoom aa meetings? I’m commercial fishing on an island in Alaska and they don’t have any meetings here.
www.sobertownpodcast.com/zoom-discussion-groups
Tell them Jae from "Getting Sober...Again" sent ya 🫡
170 so close to 6 months
OoOoOOoOoH yeaaaaaaah!
280 days alcohol free! Please don’t give up on yourself!!!