EP 100 - CHECKING YOUR WOMAN, POWER STRUGGLES, LETTING MEN LEAD, LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS, ETC

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  • @lornawanjiku7751
    @lornawanjiku7751 7 місяців тому +70

    When Duke said that letting a man lead isn't taking a back seat,but letting him stand in front and protect you from anything that could hurt you 🥺🥺

  • @lina19988
    @lina19988 8 місяців тому +112

    Duke: “you can not wait for a women to be vulnerable to be vulnerable with her you have to create a safe space for her”🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @jailynpaigee3966
    @jailynpaigee3966 8 місяців тому +191

    That was good “you can’t wait for a woman to create a safe space you gotta show her that the space your in is safe enough for both of you “ a word 💯💯

    • @judekabongo282
      @judekabongo282 8 місяців тому +3

      I needed this thank you I will implement this in my relationship with my woman

  • @blessingsr4real
    @blessingsr4real 8 місяців тому +117

    I am telling you we need more men like this and more podcast like this. Showing the positive side of love and relationships. The world is plagued with so much negativity to you scared to be this vulnerable with anyone because you are afraid they will have you looking silly.

    • @preciouswiesner3060
      @preciouswiesner3060 8 місяців тому +1

      Took the words out of my mouth 😮‍💨

    • @shalbec3232
      @shalbec3232 7 місяців тому

      Heavy on we need more men like this

  • @octaviad9082
    @octaviad9082 8 місяців тому +62

    Shout out to Duke for having a chocolate queen 😎🥳 Love that for black Men

    • @Mx.Tutorials
      @Mx.Tutorials Місяць тому +1

      I’m sayingggg! Yessss I love it smmmmmmm

  • @DAD2286
    @DAD2286 8 місяців тому +111

    When you’re married to the right person, Marriage definitely changes you in the best way!! It’s the best feeling.

  • @KillaCam2534
    @KillaCam2534 8 місяців тому +123

    This shit is so inspirational and beautiful dawg. Black love is alive and well; don’t let social media tell you otherwise 💯 🥃

  • @unique.diamond5955
    @unique.diamond5955 8 місяців тому +427

    Can we get Devale & Khadeen Ellis on here !

  • @Yeahokaiight
    @Yeahokaiight 8 місяців тому +104

    Ahh Chanel is so polished and classy. I just love her poise, how articulate she is, how she communicates, & how her & Duke compliment each other 🖤 I think this was a good example of how she allows her man to lead, not only because she discussed it, but because it shows in how she engaged in the show. Never overbearing, just the right amount of everything to admire 🤩 Get it girl! 🫶🏾

  • @Yeahokaiight
    @Yeahokaiight 8 місяців тому +42

    Pop yo shit, Candace! 🗣️🗣️🗣️ #1 showgirl, multi millionaire, wife, soon to be mother… & then the assist from Omar throwing in the BEST SELLIN MUHFUCKIN AUTHOR 👏🏾👏🏾 … But ☝🏾 family above all 🙌🏾 The growth personally & within the relationship is beautiful

  • @ds98368
    @ds98368 8 місяців тому +83

    You can feel the energy of stillness and peace in this episode. You can tell they all know how to operate in their lanes and positions. Fire episode🔥

  • @VershyTheQueen
    @VershyTheQueen 8 місяців тому +24

    For these group men to say “I will die for you”, “I’ll kill for you”.
    WHEW CHILE! These are MEN 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @samonecharisma3043
    @samonecharisma3043 8 місяців тому +35

    I can appreciate they are all with women of color; especially being in LA you don’t see black couples together too much

  • @tmcc4975
    @tmcc4975 8 місяців тому +26

    What's so crazy is... I feel like the "safe space" tip is where I am with Jesus rn. Learning how to submit truly bc it's safe. The fact that you guys are speaking on this in the physical sense is really helping me understand this with God better. Thank you✨

  • @Momdrogynous
    @Momdrogynous 8 місяців тому +36

    Candice is so stinking cute! Her energy is so warm and loving. I’m enjoying getting to know Brittany! You can tell how her presence has positively affected Jalon! They compliment each other so well, you can tell their baby boy is going to know so much love! Chanel is so beautiful and calm. Great episode!

  • @Brixdee
    @Brixdee 8 місяців тому +45

    All of you compliment your partner beautifully! I especially loved getting to hear from Brittany, she is so well-spoken, articulate, and STUNNING. Praying for nothing but love and joy for all of you as couples, and individuals. ❤

  • @delshawnadixon6007
    @delshawnadixon6007 8 місяців тому +59

    Yay! So happy you listened to the viewers and brought the ladies on 😊

  • @FernGray
    @FernGray 8 місяців тому +68

    I took some time away from this channel, came back and jelon jumped the line into fatherhood in the blink of an eye. Such a healthy open and honest conversation as always and expected. Wish the best for you guys and ladies

    • @TheKaRenaLee
      @TheKaRenaLee 8 місяців тому +1

      THANK YOU!!! I’m in the comments like whose child is this ?!

    • @Housewife_In_Training
      @Housewife_In_Training 8 місяців тому +1

      Same!!! Like this episode actually popped up on my feed and I was like woaaah!!! I don’t know why they don’t pop up on my feed anymore!

  • @instrinsiclove
    @instrinsiclove 8 місяців тому +18

    “I walk different” 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @glasskisses1
    @glasskisses1 8 місяців тому +14

    Candace and Chanel have such a warm aura ❤ they are so poised and have a welcoming presence about themselves

  • @angolanqueen
    @angolanqueen 8 місяців тому +13

    I don’t want them to stop talking I like seeing black people having conversations like this and no one is arguing the black men in this video you guys are setting up great example for the future ladies there is still hope in our black men ❤

  • @DAD2286
    @DAD2286 8 місяців тому +27

    I love black love. Thank you for being positive, beautiful, mature, intelligent, emotionally available, and vulnerable examples of black men who love, honor, and respect their black women. This is what needs to be going viral.
    Love!! Keep up the great work! ❤

  • @arieljai9073
    @arieljai9073 8 місяців тому +8

    From the outside looking in, I too felt a sense of safety while watching this. It serves as a reminder to never compromise on my desire for safety, security, and protection.

  • @AnnaM4117
    @AnnaM4117 8 місяців тому +13

    I can’t even think about love until I feel safe. It’s challenging when I’m dating someone who believes “love” is enough. Off rip- love isn’t enough for me. I don’t have the confidence to love a man until he’s given me a reason to feel safe about that decision

  • @bintukargbo6627
    @bintukargbo6627 8 місяців тому +15

    All of the ladies are absolutely gorgeous and compliment their partners so well. It was very beautiful and inspirational to watch! Congratulations on 100!

  • @amberabracadabra
    @amberabracadabra 8 місяців тому +30

    I’m crying and it’s only 37 seconds in lmaoo … I love the example you guys are setting and how y’all genuinely love on your ladies ❤❤❤❤

  • @Astoldby.tey4
    @Astoldby.tey4 8 місяців тому +25

    It's crazy the first episode I ever saw of N&N was the episode with Candace and Chanel! I feel like people protect what they love so the answer is LOVE!

  • @TajLuvsJB
    @TajLuvsJB 8 місяців тому +14

    Whew Brittany is gorgeous! Marry her ASAP. And everyone else looks stunning! May God bless and prosper your relationships!

  • @miladadon
    @miladadon 8 місяців тому +18

    Ask and you shall receive. Heal and watch God align you with what’s meant for you. Seeing everyone in a healthy growing relationship is amazing! Congratulations Guys!

  • @HeyKalayah
    @HeyKalayah 8 місяців тому +9

    Yeeees exactly what Javon said “Love Is Safety!”
    That was my conclusion right before he said it. 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💜

  • @jeniekasdixon
    @jeniekasdixon 8 місяців тому +8

    I love the part at 32:40 where you Candice mentioned being in love with a person that doesn't make you feel safe because they don't protect you or your feelings. I just recently came to terms with this in my relationship and I had to walk away, because I felt myself forming an armour. It's a very lonely feeling and I don't believe that we should willing be apart of a relationship yet still feel as though we're single.

  • @naynayhi93
    @naynayhi93 8 місяців тому +7

    I remember the first episode with the ladies vividly. And I can honestly say that Jalon has matured SO MUCH since then. He is totally different here than that episode. I can see how secure and in tune with himself that he is. I love that. I see maturity in everyone else as well.

  • @yulnikita
    @yulnikita 8 місяців тому +22

    I know they are probably sick of hearing it but Chanel and Duke are a such a Beautiful Couple! I wish continued love for them in their relationship.
    Wishing a healthy pregnancy for Candace and Omar.
    Also wishing peace for Jalon's partner and Jalon.

  • @jamiepaulse9898
    @jamiepaulse9898 8 місяців тому +10

    Brittany is soooo pretty! ❤ Loveddd this episode. Love from South Africa. 🇿🇦

  • @T.H-v4h
    @T.H-v4h 6 місяців тому +2

    Chanel is so wonderful. the definition of femininity. she's so smart, can express herself well, and is beautiful. what a TKO!

  • @DHenny
    @DHenny 8 місяців тому +5

    I paused the video and answered the love or safety question and then pressed play and jalon said the same answer I said word for word ! ❤

  • @naynayhi93
    @naynayhi93 8 місяців тому +15

    I love this real bad. This shows that yall live by what yall preach

  • @francisw3456
    @francisw3456 8 місяців тому +4

    I am stuck in between most days, but am still learning to relinquish. Having been in prior relationships that teach you you have to rely on yourself, I feel like Duke says, my husband had to just lean in, and SHOW me without hesitation, and I feel the wall come down. Independence is my default but I'm "tired", love you all and your perspectives. Beautiful couples!❤❤❤

  • @mybrwnisbeautifulhin1165
    @mybrwnisbeautifulhin1165 8 місяців тому +4

    This podcast has come a long way. I def remember when Candice and Chanel were on the show. It’s nice to see the growth! Happy for all of them ❤

  • @qveencalyha222
    @qveencalyha222 8 місяців тому +4

    Candace is pregnant omg and I know she’s so happy she deserves this I’ve heard her talking about so much of this like God bless them 🩵🩵🩵

  • @quilabill
    @quilabill 8 місяців тому +5

    I could cry!!! ❤🎉 so so so happy to see and hear Chanel again!!!! She’s the epitome of class and beauty!!! Much blessings to Duke and Chanel!! I like seeing how they take their time and enjoy being wife and husband before parenthood- lt’s nice to hear from Jalon/his lady & Candace/Omar and their journey to mother and fatherhood 16:27 Her wisdom here is so true and nuggets like these is why I love this podcast!!

  • @mercyh193
    @mercyh193 25 днів тому +1

    Something about Candace! She was so cool and I don't even know whom any of these women are but, Candace was the one that I felt could be part of my friend group, out for brunch with the girls, definitely friend in my head!

  • @capturingdestiny
    @capturingdestiny 8 місяців тому +5

    I LOVE black love...beautiful to see.

  • @keys8885
    @keys8885 8 місяців тому +8

    Great episode. Proud of these guys. As a man this podcast help me carve my own way of manhood versus seeing my examples. Thank you guys for what you are doing.

  • @tonywilliams3916
    @tonywilliams3916 8 місяців тому +5

    There is so much good advice and things I see that I need to work on in myself as a man thank yall for being good representations of how Yahweh works in the middle of a husband and a nice god bless

  • @thekyrastewart
    @thekyrastewart 8 місяців тому +5

    THIS content that you all produce is what is ACTUALLY needed. So, thank you for spreading love, light, positivity, honesty, and vulnerability. I look forward to watching this grow even more than it already has.

  • @aquata3367
    @aquata3367 8 місяців тому +17

    You guys look amazing! Congratulations on the new adventures! I wish you all success in all areas of your life. I remember finding the Neat and Nice podcast when I was a senior in high school. I am so happy to see guys being an inspiration to young men and breaking the negative cycles. Renewing your mind and establishing your happiness. Beautiful! One more blessing to go. Lol!💜🤭

    • @millenniallove
      @millenniallove 8 місяців тому +1

      Amazing! This is the content our youth needs to see

  • @jazmin4065
    @jazmin4065 8 місяців тому +4

    Watching you all grow , even your ladies is so beautiful. You guys make me so excited for what’s yet to come and hopefully I’ll get to experience that part in my life. I’m soon reaching my first quarter of life (25) & I’ve lost hope in my love life , but watching you guys makes me excited to see what’s to come

  • @sergcolin
    @sergcolin 8 місяців тому +7

    This is such a good looking group of people like omg 😍 but I love when you guys bring the women in !

  • @Cass1ty
    @Cass1ty 8 місяців тому +2

    If you love someone they’ll keep you safe or do everything in their power to ensure ur safety. ❤

  • @gloriacastillo9514
    @gloriacastillo9514 8 місяців тому +6

    I love all of this. Manifesting a love like this. 🙌🏽

  • @Stunnamookss
    @Stunnamookss 4 місяці тому

    I LOVE how transparent you all are with each other. The level of maturity in this conversation is so admirable. I pray our community unleash the trauma they have and heal to be able to love how you all love. These are the types of videos we need in today's climate. PLEASE don't stop loving out loud and sharing these moments. I'm such a happy subscriber :,)

  • @rosecoloredglasses67329
    @rosecoloredglasses67329 8 місяців тому +2

    Super HAPPY for you! Please continue to HOLD on to each other and hold each other’s hands through life…literally and metaphorically!

  • @tanianjeri1210
    @tanianjeri1210 8 місяців тому +7

    This was the best episode ever ever 🎉🎉🎉loved how vulnerable everyone was and seeing how the guys love on their queens elevation on both parties! Wow please bring the ladies often they really change the game ❤❤❤❤

  • @TheGClass
    @TheGClass 8 місяців тому +3

    This was such a great episode, y’all really had me looking in a mirror the whole time fighting tears 😢 these are beautiful examples of relationships I know I deserve!! Holding on!! 🙏🏽🖤

  • @rayquanpolk2979
    @rayquanpolk2979 8 місяців тому +3

    I love this fellas just love and transparency. Keep it going and putting out that positive energy bec our community needs to see more things like this. Much love and respect kings 💯💪🏾

  • @judekabongo282
    @judekabongo282 8 місяців тому +4

    Phenomenal 100th episode fellas. This is what I’m inspired by to do well growing in the next level of manhood alongside my woman this year in going onto year 3 next month after 2 years of just simply dating her , with being engaged this year and then married and expected next year. thank you for the inspiration for us fellas man keep doing what you’re doing you are really helping our culture as men out here in a positive way. Love from Toronto 🇨🇦

  • @SuperGman2011
    @SuperGman2011 8 місяців тому +2

    Ladies n Gents this was super dope! Shoutout to all of you & congrats on 💯! Cheers to many more incredible moments 🙏🏾🔥

  • @JSTheBestt1
    @JSTheBestt1 8 місяців тому +1

    Such a great 100th episode with the First Ladies of Nice & Neat! Y’all have beautiful families ✨✨

  • @G.L.P.
    @G.L.P. 8 місяців тому +1

    Congratulations to you all for every human season that led to this moment. The level of servitude you all express for each other is beyond beautiful. The brotherhood, the sisterhood, the humanization of it all is incredible to witness. May time reward you all in abundance. Keep watering each other.👏🏽

  • @DestinationDionna
    @DestinationDionna 8 місяців тому +4

    Could not wait for this update. I love the fact that we have been able to see the evolution of y’all individually and in your relationships! This is literally the only male podcast I watch and tell everyone else about.

  • @janelledaniel2958
    @janelledaniel2958 8 місяців тому +4

    Oh y’all good!! We gotta pay for the extended knowing this is one of the most anticipated episodes? 😩 okay subscribing now

  • @MariahSincere
    @MariahSincere 5 місяців тому

    I love how all of these women also have other things going for themselves and are successful in their own right 🙌🏾

  • @MercadezMichelle
    @MercadezMichelle 8 місяців тому +4

    Yes keep doing y’all thing 👏🏽👏🏽 good, bad, ugly y’all are needed on this platform.

  • @olaburrell9091
    @olaburrell9091 8 місяців тому +5

    I'm literally crying! WOW ❤️ this episode kept me smiling ear to ear

  • @jaz6789
    @jaz6789 8 місяців тому +3

    Chanel is gorgeous and such a lady. I’m so happy for Candice she going to be such an amazing mother.

  • @Tx_Nay
    @Tx_Nay 8 місяців тому +3

    Candice had me smiling the whole time 😊! I adore them!

  • @TheTonyAndreas
    @TheTonyAndreas 8 місяців тому +2

    Great pod! Congrats Jalon and fellas! Also beautiful family J! Congrats on the engagement, marriage and pregnancy guys! God Bless!

  • @keerabilo7095
    @keerabilo7095 8 місяців тому +6

    You guys need a TV SHOW.
    I love every second in this episode.
    But we need the second part on UA-cam.
    I live in senegal west Africa I don’t know if I can log in in Patreon

  • @AnnaM4117
    @AnnaM4117 8 місяців тому +5

    I agree with Jalon. At the same time, God’s love is perfect like all the characteristics Jalon described. God’s love is unconditional. And of course, we are imperfect. So, I’ve yet to love a partner without conditions. My love is always on the terms of respect and faithfulness. And so, until I know that you not only agree to those terms but value them, I refuse to love as sacrificially as the expression of love tends to be. I refuse to be attentive, as the expression of love tends to be. I refuse to be as receptive…and so on.

  • @tarikelshiekh2005
    @tarikelshiekh2005 8 місяців тому +3

    Nice insight into healthy relationships ✌🏽

  • @Patricia-w7g8z
    @Patricia-w7g8z 8 місяців тому +8

    "I walk different because I'm a Bolden now" !!!!!!! THAT LAST NAME HIT DIFFERENT🥹 so happy for y'all, and ALL of y'all! Happy 100th

  • @ifeanyichukwuozobu7819
    @ifeanyichukwuozobu7819 7 місяців тому +1

    The energy was so good, had to watch it twice!

  • @callieraquel
    @callieraquel 7 місяців тому

    “I don’t want to know you before I know you” love that

  • @dianennaemeka6364
    @dianennaemeka6364 8 місяців тому +2

    That was so beautiful and felt so good watching it. Thanks for sharing!

  • @tylertutt2873
    @tylertutt2873 8 місяців тому +5

    The episode we’ve all been waiting for, congrats on 100 Nice & Neat! 🥃

  • @MariahSincere
    @MariahSincere 5 місяців тому

    Beautiful ladies! 3 Queens! And Candace is such a vibe! I know she is fun to be around! My heart warmed hearing her talk❤

  • @maydaeitsamayhem
    @maydaeitsamayhem 8 місяців тому +1

    on this topic with love and safety i believe that people can love what theyre lacking in another person which can give them a sense of comfort. the person and or relationship can still be toxic but its fulfilling a void that has captured a sense of relief and “safety” so they love what theyre missing and fear of being without creates safety in distress. (unhealthy safety that is)

    • @lornawanjiku7751
      @lornawanjiku7751 7 місяців тому

      Daammnnnnn!!! Now I need my journal😂❤

  • @simplybayyana
    @simplybayyana 8 місяців тому +2

    This is such a beautiful episode! Thank you to all the beautiful ladies for coming on and being vulnerable!

  • @chantellew.6493
    @chantellew.6493 4 місяці тому

    That line by Duke was powerful, as a man we have to create the safe space!”

  • @AllThingsMrRob
    @AllThingsMrRob 8 місяців тому +2

    That’s the word Jalon PREACH!!!!

  • @cj10109
    @cj10109 7 місяців тому

    Yes show us healthy relationships! Congratulations on being good men for these women and babies 👏🏾💕

  • @janiceburke6037
    @janiceburke6037 8 місяців тому +1

    THE BEST MESSAGES EVER! WE PROUD TOO! YES!!

  • @countessstevens63
    @countessstevens63 8 місяців тому +3

    This was so beautiful ❤ Jalon go ahead and propose damnit!

  • @tequila9149
    @tequila9149 8 місяців тому +1

    I loveee how supportive they are.

  • @bjos6596
    @bjos6596 8 місяців тому +2

    Love when you have the ladies on!!

  • @DeDollyshow
    @DeDollyshow 8 місяців тому +1

    My first time here and i love how intentional , thoughtful and open minded the conversation is
    Just subscribed ❤

  • @lifewithliyahh612
    @lifewithliyahh612 8 місяців тому +1

    Great ep,love when the ladies come on and speak 💙

  • @jamaicanqueenjamaicanqueen6615
    @jamaicanqueenjamaicanqueen6615 8 місяців тому +1

    The energy here feels real❤️

  • @kam__x
    @kam__x 8 місяців тому +2

    I loved this so much! Such a great energy between all of you that is truly felt! Look forward to seeing more content with the ladies 💕

  • @msgabb6229
    @msgabb6229 8 місяців тому +1

    this is so motivating, real love still exist

  • @trappjustdifferent
    @trappjustdifferent 3 місяці тому

    This content is much needed. For thank we thank yall⚖️

  • @millionafly
    @millionafly 8 місяців тому

    This was really nice. Thanks for sharing your lives and journeys with us, it is refreshing. All the women are so lovable and beautiful. The respect and love between each couple is palpable. Chanel girl you are so pretty!

  • @pbaby7879
    @pbaby7879 8 місяців тому +1

    Definitely get Devale & Kadeem Ellis on the podcast & can y'all drop the entire episode please!

  • @CarmenLita.B
    @CarmenLita.B 8 місяців тому +1

    This was so good. I love to see where you all are!!

  • @sparkwill5337
    @sparkwill5337 8 місяців тому +9

    CHANELLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!

  • @Mr247star
    @Mr247star 8 місяців тому +1

    Yassss I been waiting for another couple talk 🩵

  • @Gingerdesiree_
    @Gingerdesiree_ 8 місяців тому +1

    Hi Ladiiiiiiieeeeeees!! So so beautiful seeing you all together!!!

  • @instrinsiclove
    @instrinsiclove 8 місяців тому +1

    Congratulations on one hundred episodes! 🎉 you men are remarkable and seeing the journey from the backseat is dope! I’ve been a listener from the beginning so to go from that little dark studio with girlsfriends to husbands & fathers🔥🙌🏾 BIG UPS🥹♥️

  • @shekinahnoelle
    @shekinahnoelle 8 місяців тому +2

    The way y’all ended this!!!! Headed to patreon 🏃🏾‍♀️😂