ENNEAGRAM & STRESS || TYPE 8
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- Опубліковано 11 лип 2024
- Life with an Eight in tight quarters can be a blast. When they’re healthy and skillful in their type they’re often the most popular number on the Enneagram. And with good reason-they’re energetic, inspire confidence, and mobilize people to act.
So when times are hard you want a healthy Eight in the mix. They love a challenge to overcome.
That said, when stressed and unskilled in their number, Eights can be hell on wheels. They are commanding personalities who need to be in control.
If you are an Eight or have an Eight in your life, here is a video with a few tips to help Eights realize their best selves in these scary times.
PS: Don’t miss my Instagram Live Q & A on Monday, April 13, 2020.
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I loved the insight into this number. I'm an 8w9. However, I have a question-- I see myself as not wanting to BE controlled and am fine letting someone else have control IF they are a competent leader. I also don't normally just step up and take over UNLESS no one else is. Is it really that we want control? or that we don't want to BE controlled? I usually observe first before deciding if my leadership is needed. I have to watch myself to make sure I don't overwhelm others with my 8-ness and not "bowl them over". I am passionate but not everyone shares that same feeling. It is HARD because in my head I'm like "Why don't you care as much as I do?" lol
I would love to hear Ian’s response to this also??
8w9 here. all of this 100%
It’s both right. Our core fear is of manipulation and control. Our fears often guide our desires as we take steps to ensure that we are never in a situation where we can be controlled. A situation in which you are in control is also somewhere others will never control you.
By allowing others who are competent to lead, you are deciding who is “competent”. As long as you respect the work of the other people in charge, you deem that they are “fit” to lead and thus, maintain your level of control. So, although it’s less unhealthy, you are still seeking control of the situation.
8w7 here .I feel exactly the same! I do not want to control people. But unless you are super competent and straightforward, you should rather not try to control me.
Although I will control Situations. If nobody else steps in.
Thank you. I just found this channel and these 8 videos are helpful; as I am an 8 and am fairly new to the world of enneagram. I just stated the other day that I'm tired of feeling like I'm "too much" for people, and I think it's a them problem, not a me problem, but this video taught me to see it other wise.
How about your next series: How to deal with the stress of each of the numbers?
Long wait from One to Eight! Thanks for this episode Ian & Anthony! I'm a Social 8w7. I find that I like the Enneagram has helped me to be a better coworker. I am a Communications Manager on a church staff. This has been a trying time for our staff for sure.
I'm an 8 married to a 9 with a 4 and a 7 as sons in a stay at home world. It has been good, challenging and eye opening at times. Thanks for this, although I didn't particularly "enjoy" it. The description is unfortunately spot on. Trying to stay healthy, happy and useful on Ohio.
Your larger than life presence can take over spaces. THAT IS A WORD for us 8’s!
Eight here and in my happiest moments I have definitely***, had others pipe up and say how absolutely hilarious I can be. 😅
Ohhhh my goshhhh, I’m always told I’m amazing at cooking, and I love having others enjoy what I prepare. 🖤
My husband is an 8 as well and I notice when he takes part in excess before I notice my own. And he definitely does his things to avoid boredom.
We are hilarious.
Thanks for doing this during this time.
Gosh. I've always been told I'm too much.
Ian you really do understand 8s.
"God bless em" 🤣🤣
I am a Estp male 8w7, try to control or work off my exaggerated in pulses. Exerting more control with people who need it and giving people more drive for freedoms is the only thing that's helped
I have never been able to distinguish if I am an 8 or a 2. I know where I go in stress...scary! But I can be wicked funny. I like to help others, but sometimes it is more like "lead, follow, or get out of the way". I won't enable others, but it feels rewarding to help someone with a resource that empowers them - especially rewarding when I see their eyes light up like "I get it!"
8 will never miss type as 2 as 2 tend to be fake and misleading people pleasing and some what pathetic 8s are agressive cruel uncaring and in your face
How I knew I was definitely 8 ( and not 2): In my ‘distress’ I go to 5: withdraw! I too love people and helping but I am direct, nice without manipulation... hate that. Not that all 2 are that! Anyhow hope it helps! 😊💪
There's a difference between allowing yourself to be vulnerable with a close friend which I think 8 are great at, versus people who feel sorry for themselves and expect everyone else too as well, it's repulsive
I'm a 4 but I do have a question. I know we feel that 8 can be too much to us, however is that "too much" from a real and healthy perspective without denying who they are or much of the "too much" is just perceived only from and based on our paradigm or discomfort. Aren't we denying them sometimes who they are for our own comfort? Will we feel be fine being denied who we are for only others comfort?
I mean that's a question that popped up in my mind, some clarifications might help
Sexual 8 here (semi-self aware). From what I've gathered, it can go either way. I can certainly be too much when I'm less healthy. Such as when I feel the urge to curb stomp someone who I feel desperately deserves it. Now, I always stop myself (thus far), but I notice that other people usually feel the energy and back away (which is the proper response). In those situations too much from your perspective is a correct response. When healthier, my excessive energy is normally used to help others (not just myself). But the intensity of the energy can still be too much for people. In this instance, I don't think it's nessesarily right or wrong to want to duck for cover. But I also know that I can sometimes be trying to help someone who doesn't want it.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, whether we are too much or not is always going to be calculated and perceived based on what you think/feel. There is no difference between me being overwhelming and you perceiving it, or not perceiving it. If you feel afraid, you feel afraid. If you feel empowered, you feel empowered. The only question is...am I trying to help or hurt you?
I know it's hard, but I wish people would just ask. I'm not the type of 8 who's going to belittle you for being emotionally honest. That makes me a little different from other 8s I've met. I know what it's like to feel like a bug that's been stepped on, and I don't wish to step on anyone unless they intend to harm me or someone who I perceive as innocent.
@@andrewwabik5125 wooow thanks for sharing your perspective on the matter. I've had to meet some 8s like you even though not many of them.
@@marienguessan8520 No problem. If you have any other questions, just ask :)
@@andrewwabik5125 okay no problem, I will. Have a good day
@@andrewwabik5125 Hello Andrew! I agree with what you said. I think that most 8s are ENTJs, but there are a few of us ENFJs in there what care about everyone’s feelings & the work that needs to be done.
Insightful explorations of the “too much” of an 8. When you are near an unhealthy 8, it is totally and completely okay to remove yourself from the situation no matter what they say. With a healthy 8, they can still be intense but if you wish to improve your perspective of them, you can focus on their positive intent & treat them accordingly.
I have a terrible time enjoying little things.
Great 👍 Thanks 🙏😆🤝💪💪’more energy than needed’- 🙏 amen🙏Being ENFJ-8, full on🤦♀️Poor my hubby 🤫😅😂🤣☺️ps. ‘Too much’- my second name😳🥺😢
I'm an 8 named Kaylee! haha
To me, this is a perfect description of our President. Bless his heart, and God help those around him who are trying to keep up with him!
How can an 8 become healthy?
Hahahaha!!!