Anxiety can be considered to be fear of fear, or more precisely fear of your body's natural physical responses to fear. Realising this can help reduce it.
That's the focus of Dr. Claire Weekes books and audio recordings. Desensitization of fear. She explains it so well. Love her audio recordings, too. Old school, but still applicable today, IMO.
What causes feelings of anxiety? In childhood, the mind archives the bad moments that human being experiment and when something happens that is similar to what was experienced the mind remembers it, emitting feelings of anger, fear, anguish or depression. It is important that every time something unpleasant happens and we feel bad about it, we realize that we are feeling ECHOES OF THE PAST, so that we don't go through life feeling bad about insignificant things. There are several ways to get rid of those constant warnings from the mind. When you feel anger, fear, anxiety or depression, accept to feel it until it fades. It is to cleanse ourselves of the unpleasant sensations experienced in childhood. Also practice to inhale, exhale deeply, count to eight and breathe again. repeat it several times and the unpleasant sensations begin to disappear.
@@tekkhero9767 even what you said proves his exact comment. Fearing consequences that aren't happening is fearing the fear of the consequences. You're fearing fear... Fear of etc. etc.
For me, when I’m anxious I can barely eat. The anxiety makes me nauseous already making eating so hard. Which just leads to feeling worse since I’m anxious and hungry
Me too. The anti nausea drug ocean helps a lot. B-complex can help. Meditation and especially vagal Nerve breathing actually helps. Cold pack on the upper back and neck.
I have found that understanding my bodily sensations are not necessarily the truth or real. I understand that my sensations are coming from thoughts that I have been thinking recently or thought patterns I have created. I have realized that my body subconsciously is trying to protect me by releasing all the adrenaline on a daily basis because it feels like it needs to to protect me. Trust me, I have had anxiety where I’m throwing up, having diarrhea and shaking terribly from anywhere from 5 to 16 hours a day every day for months, and this has happened on and off throughout my life.I would recommend if you’re feeling nauseated to drink protein shakes as it’s almost impossible to physically eat when we feel this way. I am currently trying to learn to not be afraid of the feelings and trying to change my thought patterns that have created this habitual panic.❤
I remember when I struggled with that. It was so difficult but I just had to force myself to eat and let myself feel nauseous. Not fun but it helped me
Force yourself to eat, even if just a little bit of food. When you eat your brain says: "We're eating, so there must be nothing dangerous or wrong going on." I've been through it.
No one can understand what intense anxiety can feel like unless they have been through it. Mine gets worse as I get older. Every day, every situation, every decision, is a struggle. Blessings to everyone who is suffering from it. Be strong and acknowledge your strength even when you overcome the smallest of tasks. ❤❤❤❤
@MC--342~~So true~~Unless Dr.s, just people in general will never understand what it feels like~~I'm a 70 year old woman who had my first panic attack when I was 8 years old~~I was laying in bed trying to get to sleep snd all of a sudden I couldn't breathe and my heart was pounding and I thought I was dying~~My Ma was still up and I;m trying to tell her how I was feeling~~She said you're probably coming down with something and go back to bed~~Also, she was a nurse~~I went back to bed and prayed~~It lasted for 20 minutes or so and it stopped~~It was never talked about again~~I still got the attacks but I knew they would stop~~I never felt right~~When I entered Jr. High School I found out other girls, friends were going through the same thing along with debilitsting anxiety all the time~~Our parents did nothing~~To make a very long story short, I suffered ny whole life feeling that way~~Nobody knew how horrible I always felt but continued with my life~~I worked hard, took care of my family, went to night school for different things but everything I did I had to push myself hard to get things done~~When I left home at 17 I worked so hard and saved my money, went to Dr's, therapists but they just didn't get it~~I got tired of hearing, just take deep breaths and blah blah~~Nothing worked and as I got older I got worse~~Anti-anxiety meds didn't help at all~~Then Dr's said take this and take that and it will help~~I just got worse and just took anxiety meds and ambien cause I always had insomnia to this day~~But I feel like giving up but I can't~~So many worries and feeling worse~~I just feel that MY GAD is genentic from my Ma's side of the family~~She was never like a Mother should be~~I later found out some of my cousins had panic attacks, anxiety but I got the worst of it~~I've tried everything to feel at least sort of normal but just got worse with age~~I also had problems with perfection~~My brain and body just doesn't respond to all the things you're suppose to do~~Take good care and Happy New Year~~I pray for everyone that is going through horrible disorder~~🙃🙃🙃🥵🥵🥵☹☹☹💗💗💗
Oh I hope you will get through it! It's a really heavy thing, but if I can do it, I'm sure as hell you can do it! My tip is ''don't take life so seriously''. Once I understood what that actually meant my intense anxiety got evaporated. I'm still learning and it's not like I'm never anxious anymore. But a giant burden lifted when I stopped listening to my self made rules of good and wrong. There are no rules. Enjoy life how you want it to! All the tips the guy mentioned in the video are perfect!
Anxiety and depression have crippled me my whole life. It's so painful and debilitating and I don't know anymore what to do. I'm tired, very, very tired. UPDATE: I am feeling considerably better than when i made my original post - the encouragement and prayers I received from my post, along with a review of my medications have really made a difference in my life, and the end result is I'm feeling considerably better. Thank you to all those kind people who cared enough to post words of love and encouragement in my time of darkness. You all saved my life.
Honestly my major cyclical, episodic depression (MDD) vanished the day I had the magic mushroom tripping while listening to the birds singing in the early morning, up at the cottage country in Muskoka (Ontario, Canada) Literally changed my life.
I have cPTSD (self diagnosed) from an abusive childhood and early adulthood. I am 66 and it is only now that I realize how much magic mushroom can help solve the disorder.
Ive started taking mushroom powders in my morning tea and give supplements to one of my teenagers. Such a difference. Mushrooms are the hidden gem. Mother nature has everything we need.
Things I did when he had such massive panic attacks that I couldn't leave my house: 1. Gratefulness! No matter how miserable you are you always have things to be grateful for! As a homeless Veteran, I was eternally grateful for, a warm meal, a roof over my head, my dog the few friends Ive had etc, etc. I write a list each morning to rewire my brain. 2. What can you do, what can you accomplish during the day! Write down a few simple things. The old "trick" to help a fellow human when you feel miserable works! Carry the bags from the store for an old lady give a homeless with a warm meal or just take a walk with your dog? 3. Meditate and manifest a light within you that outshines and forces the darkness away and discover the magic of synchronicity and the pure magic in spiritual awareness?
Good to hear that. I have one of regular coffee in the morning and then usually have several decaffeinated coffees into mid afternoon. Having more than one caffeinated coffee or drink really gets me anxious. Less so with the decaf ones but I wonder about those too.
Drank a couple cups of coffee 4 years ago & ended up in the ER with a severe panic attack. I thought I was going to die. Numb arms, hands lips turned blue & my jaw went totally stiff. Haven't touched coffee since.
@@bonekollektor1659 same man! And I became sure that the hyperventilation itself started as a byproduct of caffeine consumption as well... glad you survived tho brother!
One thing to add is walking away from social media for long periods at a time. This includes news stories that are triggering. Sometimes we avoid life due to anxiety but we do so by drowning ourselves in social media which acts as a catalyst for even greater anxiety.
I think you're right. Im addicted to social media and the stimulation it brings. Generally my screen time has been 10 to more hours everyday. How do I stop?
That is so true for me. I can't read something upsetting and a couple of hours later have forgotten about it. It plays on my mind for days and even weeks later it will resurface.
This reminds me of what a yoga teacher talked about at the beginning of every class. Work with the body of the day. Just because yesterday’s body was full of anxiety doesn’t mean today’s is. And of course she talked about nutrition and all the you talked about, but her point was to allow each day to be it’s own day. To let yourself experience the full range of human experience but not all on the same day. Trust that it will still be there tomorrow, maybe with a new ache, or maybe an ache from today will be gone. I do still drink coffee and my nutrition could use some fine tuning but this video is very helpful. Thank you
Me too, im experiencing severe anxiety these days with numbness in my extremities. It has made me dissociate a lot and it makes it really uncomfortable for me. But i will not give up and i wont let it take me down with it so ill keep trying.
I’m struggling at the moment. Alprazolam and buspirone are my only medication at the moment. I just took my 2nd alprazolam dose of the day (10:15 pm) with hope of getting a couple of hours sleep.
My advice: 1 No news at all! No social media!!! 2. Sport! Sport! Sport! 3. Breathing technics, belly relaxing technics! Meditation, relaxation! 4. EFT (emotional freedom technic) basically knocking or palpating on the stomach meridian line, helps me to relay on 5 min, and helps me to sleep. 5. Be gentle with yourself! 6. Sunshine! 7 Walking in the Nature! 8 No alcohol! No smoking! 9 Self respect/loving yourself= learn to say NO to people! Also, important to understand what causes the Panic (in case you have) in your life, because sometimes your body actually not just overreacting something but talking to you, showing you what is toxic in your life you should escape from, like a working environment or a relationship.
I agree as well. To hear that "anxiety can be defeated/ conquered" is reassuring. Thank you all for your transparency. It helps when you connect with others with similar journeys.
Oh WoW! Good for you, that's a big step! ( sorry I know you posted this a month ago but I just ran across the video ) so how did it go? Were you able to get on the tram and complete the ride??
Thank you for this. I went to the hospital for a panic attack the other day where I fainted at work. I haven’t been to work in 5 days due to this. After watching this last night I made it to work today. It wasn’t a great day but when I made it through the shift I felt proud that I didn’t avoid my priorities. Appreciate your vulnerability
Aww so sorry to hear this. Well done for making it back to work, keep going, you can do this!! One thing that might help is magnesium, it’s really calming and helps go minimise anxiety. Zinc also helps too. You can create flash cards with positive affirmations that you can look at when you are at work. Or relate a vision board book (A5) and add beautiful and calming images and look at your book when or if you feel anxious at work.
Fainting is a fear I've always had during anxiety/panic attack but never happened. However, at times when I was not eating enough, I feel faint. Once I passed out from not eating enough & drinking alcohol. There could be other health reasons for fainting that have nothing to do with anxiety, although when experiencing not feeling well can being on anxiety if you are prone to anxiety and then assume anxiety or panic attack was the reason for fainting. Make sure you are eating healthy as Dr. Eilers states & get physical check up & blood work, EKG, etc. to rule out health issues before blaming fainting on anxiety alone. My best :-)
Having been through this, the most important thing i found is to do it regardless - go to work,go to a party. You won't feel like it but doing it reduces the fear. Bottom line,you need to lose your fear of being anxious.
i did this, for years, what happened is i was suffering tremendously but learned to live that way, truly horrific, honestly. i was still "limited" so to say in many ways, cause first of all, under that amount of anxiety it is literally impossible to live, work, study and so on and so on name it, to your best ability,but you could say i was "functioning" i guess, bearly making it through day by day. what happened, i crashed, completely. my mental and physical health went to absolute shit, arguably to point of no return. what anxiety did to my body, you wouldn't even believe possible. the damaged caused, now impossible to function, cause of my physical health decline, it ain't bout the mental even anymore.
Thank you Scott. I am an older man who cared his dear wife to her last breath. More than grief I would say that my day is filled with anxiety, angst, and what you have to say offers me hope. Thanks, pal.
Anxiety just does not happen in a day. It needs hard work. We repeatedly tell ourselves something will happen in social situation or we have a heart problem because our heart is beating faster to help us deal with fear. Imaginary fears are the main problem.
Fears of everything even though it isn't real or happens. Like your brain is always working and you are thinking too many things. Like you want things around you to be perfect or well. It's very difficult to focus on things.
Sleep!! Sleep is the biggest contributor to my anxiety. I cannot sleep or I can't stay asleep. And looking towards the future at the current state is a nightmare. Which creates even more anxiety, a lack of sleep is the one thing I cannot shake..
I will give you some hope of beating unable to sleep . When I was about 5 years old , I couldn't sleep well because I would have terrible nightmares every night. My parents didn't get along, so I had no confidence that they could help me, so I thought of a way. I decided that if I couldn't remember the nightmares when I woke up, then I would be Okay. Believe it or not I managed to convince myself that I was not going to ever remember my dreams, nightmare or not. It took a few days, but I could not remember my dreams whenever I woke up for Years afterword. I guess it was something like hypnotizing myself or whatever. if there's a will there"s a way . Your mind is a powerful tool.
@chrisb7951 thanks for sharing your story. I'm amazed at how young you were being mindful and having the self-awareness to strategist a way to help you beat your nightmares. We all know that nightmares are very dreadful... My sleep has improved, but I still have some frustrating nights just not as many. Meditation and not allowing myself to overthink about falling asleep or not have helped tremendously.
That's a typical CBT solution. Keep yourself busy. But it only helps to attenuate anxiety for a little while. Anxiety comes from the lack of connection to your own body. You feel anxiety because you probably used to suppress unwanted feelings in the past, and your body is trying to let yourself know that you ignore important signals. People learn quickly that the more you think the less you feel. And your body just want you to feel it. Because it's trying to tell you something. Like "stop, I'm tired" or "I don't like it, dont do it". If you ignore it, it will let you know by anxiety, intrusive thoughts and in the end, somatic symptoms.
@@Tk0mma yes and no. It easy to say that part but if you have real mental health issues it’s a continuing battle. You’re not avoid your issues but stay busy but you focus on your work instead and thus slowly realize these “problems” are not actually problems and then they slowly release.
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my husband recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
I’m 67 years old and have dealt with anxiety and depression for over 50 years, listening to you has helped me to understand why I feel the way I do. I’m always looking forward to your next video. I’m so glad that I found you!
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 yes the stomach issues are horrible. I don't have a gallbladder so I'm almost obligated to eat well. I've actually been checked for all those things and nothing came of it. But, I'm so glad you found the root cause of your anxiety 🥰. They basically just told me I had a chemical imbalance and thats about it. The anxiety is what gets me depressed. It's a whole cycle.
Anxiety ruined my life. I got it from my mother. I have on my Whiteboard, written the following simple axioms 1-Life is engagement not avoidance (Existentialism) 2-Slow down and focus (Zen) 3-Act with self respect and confidence (NLP) NLP and exercise also helped me with anxiety and sleeping, and CBT helped with depression. -Good luck fellow travellers through the universe of emotions, which is life. Peace.
@@LaoSoftware It's common for SOME anxious people to have high irritability... Get easily irritated and angry for little to no good reason. It's frustrating... but everyones anxiety is a bit different.
My anxiety has really been horrible lately. I’ve always had social anxiety but lately it’s been severe. I used to not even try to be around people except when I had to at work. Since I retired it has been worse. But days like today give me hope. I started the day doing a group activity and I was so anxious. Tonight I went to my granddaughters game at high school and that is usually extremely uncomfortable for me. So many strangers in close proximity. I actually had a good time. I interacted with a few strangers and I could tell my daughter was very happy I felt reasonably at ease. I have recently been able to tell myself no matter what happens it’s not going to do permanent harm to me. No matter what happens my family will be there for me and life will go on. It has been helping.
STOP❌ 1️⃣ avoiding things that make you feel anxiety (do them!) 2️⃣ using stimulants (caffeine, sugar, alcohol and etc.) 3️⃣ doing nothing (be busy!) 4️⃣ eating like crap and skipping meals 5️⃣ doing everything by yourself (ask for help & delegate) 6️⃣ treating yourself as an untrustworthy person (if not today you will do it later!)
I've watched so many psychologists try to help and explain anxiety and depression. You are the ONLY doctor that can explain the way i truly feel. The way you decribe anxiety is how I feel on a daily basis. I just thank you for reaching out to people and being able to relate, because you've been there done that. You are one amazing doctor and i can't thank you enough for the all your help!!!!❤❤❤❤
Wow..I have been watching you this last 6 months or so...your ability to communicate in detail my existence, thoughts, and life....blows my mind..I just never believed another person on the planet could honestly " get it"...I am 61 years old...61 years of trying to get through it alone. Thank you for putting yourself out there for the rest of us!❤
After you have had a panic attack trusting yourself is difficult and I didn't even realize this until recently. My therapist has explained this and I'm working on it.
I went through comments, and it is very sad to see a lot of people struggling with anxiety, God bless you all! But just sitting and doing nothing will never help you, you are the first person to help yourself. I have anxieties too, sometimes it is horrible, but I fight it through sport, watching videos like this, reading. Start with small steps, but make it consistent and add little by little. As you feel the difference don’t stop, keep going until you win over it. Believe and act🙏🏼 thank you for this video, it is really helpful.
As someone who has dealt with depression for 14 years now, anxiety just randomly came into the picture about a year ago and has been debilitating ever since. My anxiety has made my stomach hurt almost daily and has prevented me from traveling which I was still able to do with my depression, but I also find it extremely difficult to leave my house anymore. Thank you for taking the time to share these with us. I hope they help make a difference.
I had horrible stomach aches from anxiety starting at age 11. Over the years I learned to calm myself with breathing techniques, exercise, and asking myself “What’s the worst that can happen”? This video supports my need to have a knitting project on hand, or other project. I also got therapy. When I was in the grips of a stomach ache, a doctor gave me the best advice: no alcohol or caffeine plus do get exercise. Another doctor gave me a little blue pill with mild calming properties that I keep on hand but rarely need anymore. Tackle your mental problems as soon as possible. For me, driving an old car and investing in therapy instead, when I was younger, has led to a happier life. Of course, my anxiety was more situational. My husband’s is genetic and requires anxiety medication.
I’ve suffered for 30 years and I’m tired of it. But I do like being alone. But it’s the fear of everything I’m so tired of it. Crazy things that have no rational. Xx
Well scoot over cause I'm in the boat with you. Haha I remember being very little and telling the family doctor that my tummy always hurt and he asked me to describe "hurt" and I said I feel like there's a whole bunch of butterflies flying around in my tummy all the time and making it dizzy. He asked basic questions like did it happen when I was doing or this or that or the other. I said it's ALL the time. Everyday when I wake up til bedtime. Welcome to generalized anxiety disorder was the diagnosis. It never stops, never takes a break. Even if I have nothing that needs done and I'm free to just sit back relax watch a movie, play a game on my phone, sit outside and enjoy the sunset. I still cant relax and I still have the anxiety. Like you said, I am so sick and tired of feeling this way and I am tired of being afraid of everything because I know that my anxiety is going to interfere so intrusively that it's just better for me mentally to avoid everything and stay in my comfort zone of home. I am able to socialize when I do go out and about to take care of errands and things like that. It's just getting myself out there to begin with. The dread of having to get out of the car and go inside the Walmart or something, even tho it's the same one I've gone to for years, the anxiety of going inside is overwhelming and then I try to get back to my car and go home as quickly as possible. Im not "afraid" of anything in the store, I'm not afraid of people, there's not a specifically particular reason that this act of going inside causes difficulty for me. It's just the act in it of itself that spikes my anxiety through the roof and I just dont get it. It happens with Everything and I'm so tired of dealing with it but it's literally all I've ever known and nothing seems to help. Just don't tip over this boat we're both in tho, OK? Lol Oh hell. It's worse than I thought. Rereading that I see that apparently I even have anxiety with imaginary things. 🤦🏼
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@KatSpade1018 bless you, but you literally explained it so well. It’s nice to know we aren’t alone though isn’t it. I wish I had a magic wand. I’ve lived so long with it I really don’t know anything else. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but yet somehow I hide it well. Only my nearest and dearest know so it’s a fight of will power and strength at times, which must mean we are incredibly strong - ironic isn’t it! Wishing you all the best for you. ❤️
I fight with anxiety each and every day, but I fight with it, I'm not giving up, even when sometimes I'm getting my ass kicked by it and I can hardly stand up, I always try and do it, to stand up and keep on going. And if I can, as someone who didn't really achieved anything special in its life then anyone can do it and that's what I believe in with all my heart.
In my mid 50's, I began to experience debilitating anxiety. I enjoyed my social life, and my career. Over time, however, I avoided social gatherings, and was having difficulty at work. Finally told my GP, who prescribed Sertraline 100mg. Totally changed my life for the better. I fully realize that medication is not the only solution, but the benefits for me have been beyond what I hoped. All the best...Mark
1. Stretch your mind by putting it into challenges. Don't avoid tasks. 2. Avoid stimulants like coffee, energy drinks etc 3. Keep your mind busy and occupied 4. Food is energy for brain. Don't skip meals and pay attention to your nutrition 5. Don't expect yourself to do each and everything all alone. Ask for help 6. Stop treating yourself like an untrustworthy person Just some key points I recall from the video :)
Notes I took while listening Stop 1. avoiding, start challenging yourself and get out of your comfort zone 2. using stimulants 3. doing nothing, give yourself projects and hobbies 4. eating crap and skipping meals 5. trying to do everything yourself 6. treating yourself as an untrustworthy person
"my brain will [...] extrapolate every possible worst case scenario for everything that's happening in my life right now". I live exactly the same way. It's debilitating.
I’m not far off your age and is in it amazing we are actually here. But it’s not the way we choose to live is it, we learn to live with it, and that makes it sad but doable. I hope you’re okay. Big hugs.
@sharon8121 in only 32 and I feel shamed for getting professional help and being prescribed a medication to calm my over thinking. I feel like people don't understand my point of view and most people that care about me tell me I need to stop taking my meds bcuz 'I shouldn't have anxiety'
Tomorrow I start school. For the past two years I’ve been hiding away due to anxiety. I don’t drive. I don’t really leave my house. And anxiety is telling me I’m not able to do this. But the first step is doing. So I’m going to show up tomorrow. I have done so much better and I know I can do it. I’m just scared but that’s something that I have to accept. I really hope it goes well and that I keep this confidence. I owe it to myself. And if anyone else is doing the first step, we’ve got this. We have anxiety and that’s ok.
@@Melly3112-ox3ey oh wow, I didn’t expect anyone to want an update. I appreciate it! ❤️ Well it was extremely nerve wracking. I couldn’t sleep the night before. And the day of , as I was getting ready, I felt a pressure on my chest. I also felt like I couldn’t take any full breaths in. If you know that feeling, I’m sorry. But I just gave myself pep talks the entire time. I told myself. I can feel this way and I will still be ok. I can feel scared. I can feel like my world is shifting and off balance and I will still be ok. So I got in the car and put some peaceful instrumental music on. (I was being driven btw. I have driving anxiety so that’s next on conquering) and I just accepted the sensations that I was feeling. I embraced and accepted that I was anxious because despite it , I was going to be ok. So I finally got to school and I went in class , and I sat down. It was so quiet bc ofc I showed up an hour early lol. And I just took deep breaths and reminded myself that I could do this. Then ppl came in and I realized I had put myself in the corner ! In the back and I started to think and spiral on what ifs. What if I had to get up , it was tight seating so I would bump into ppl. What if I tripped. What if and what if. And I could feel the panic rising , so I got my scrunchy that is like a bracelet and I just started to fidget. And I was able to breathe and calm down. Then ofc it’s the first class and I had to introduce myself !! I was then again spiraling, what if I embarrass myself. What if I stutter( which I tend to do ) what if what if. And then I get the news , you in the back, we’re starting with you, and I was so nervous and anxious. Mind you , I don’t talk to anyone , so I went and introduced myself. And after I realized, wow this wasn’t as scary as I thought. And I leaned into that feeling and I actually started to enjoy the class ! 30 min later and we had to talk to someone near us, and I did it ! I actually had a conversation with two random strangers. And I was able to do it. And I did not perish. lol. A bit dramatic but anxiety tends to have you believe that. I even made a friend I think. Overall, it wasn’t as bad as I had made myself to believe and picture. I mean the first thirty minutes I was ready to run out of that class. But I didn’t. I willed myself to stay and try. And I think that’s all we can do with anxiety. Is try. And be willing to do the hard stuff. But ofc anxiety is a b**** and wants to make me her b**** and these past two days it wants me to believe that I won’t be able to do it next week. That it was just a fluke. And I’m working on not believing it. So next week I’m going to show up. Despite the doubt and physical symptoms of anxiety. Oh and it’s also bc next Tuesday we’re going to be told our group members bc we have to do a group presentation 😭😭 so it is nerve wracking to have to do that for my first class. But hopefully it all goes ok. So that’s how it went. I hope it wasn’t too long. But thank you for checking in and wanting an update !
Dr Scott, your first hand experience puts you so far above the rest of your professional peers! Thanks for your courage to take a different approach, and for sharing so many practical resources! We appreciate you! 🙏🏽
@DrScottEilers I can't agree more! Thank you Dr Scott! I was telling my husband about how the not trusting myself/ having to do everything right then and he said hiw that was me to a tee. Alo g with black/white thinking from EatingD
Wow! I've heard about conflicts in the comments but it's never actually happened to ME before!😅My intention for donating $10 wasnt for anyone to send judgemental comments his way or cause him any bad publicity. @anubischick - I did it because therapy costs $150 a session these days, and yet his videos I receive absolutely for free! Based on his popularity I know I'm not alone in that we all get so much more value here than with an actual 1on1 therapy session elsewhere, and so I don't want him to stop making them! I know that not everyone has a self help budget, but me sharing less than a tenth of what a therapy session would cost me IRL for receiving even more practical value in return seems like the LEAST i could do, it's a steal! He's taken a big risk exposing his personal experience to the world, and going against the grain in his approach, you know how rigid doctors are, they don't always shoot straight, so much political ambiguity in their communication, which has it's purpose surely to not expose them to unnecessary risk so that they can help more people, but Dr Scott is recognizing a a big gap in care and taking personal risks to fill it, we need more people like that in the world, and in the capitalist society we live in it's soo important that people are financially incentivized to take risks for the good of others, that should be rewarded! Anyway, I hope more people that have a self-help or therapy budget see the logic, and the huge savings and consider doing the same so that Dr Scott gets back a FRACTION of the value he's putting out into the world. I'm not saying replace your care with UA-cam just that it's a great compliment, for the millions of people that just can't afford weekly therapy sessions. Btw-he mentions he's also a full time doctor, aside from his full family and personal life. Do we really want him responding to all the comments so that we don't get our feelings hurt, or do we actually prefer he prioritize his limited free time helping more people and focusing on the bigger picture? Also, I don't think it's greedy to thank someone for having received value in what you provided and giving you a fraction of that value back in money, he was just doing the polite thing, someone gave him cash, you'd do that same as well naturally, no need to vilanize him for it, we don't do it when anyone else says thank you at checkout. Anyway, hope that offers a different perspective. And I hope by donating again in the future anyone else avoids jumping to negative asumptions and instead considers donating as well. Thanks for reading!
8:00 doing “nothing” was/is my #1 trigger. I feel this vague panic rising as I sit (and maybe even scroll social media, Tv, etc- a stimulant IMO), which i later realized was anxiety due to my knowing I was doing something that contributed to my poor wellbeing yet was actively ignoring it and “freezing”. The anxiety rose from the cognitive dissonance.
The usual way to combat this isn't the way this video suggested (always filling your time with things) and is that you should accept your anxious thoughts but not react to them. To begin with you can address your thoughts (say "no, it's not likely that i'm going to die if I leave the house", and then leave the house), and then as time goes on, maybe only answer 30% of them, and then eventually just 1 in 5, and then stop answering them at all and eventually you reprogram yourself. The signals and hyper vigilance come from an overactive amygdala and with this type of exposure you can change it in around 2 weeks. But if what you're asking is how to not be stressed when you're doing nothing just because this isn't productive, then you could ask yourself "what's stopping me from doing something that I actually want to do now" .. sometimes you need to rest, sometimes there's something blocking you that you need to give yourself space to think about, etc @@qtip4747
3 weeks from quitting weed and the anxiety has been crippling. 1) I have intermittent fasting pretty much my entire life and I never knew this could be feeding my anxiety. I can t tell you how much I needed this and it's a clear call to action with steps I can start today.
i used to be so care free ... outgoing .. full of life .... now i stand at my apartment door taking deep breaths and mentally preparing myself to take out the garbage .. i dont know how i got to this point ...but im so extremely thankful for the advice!
I definitely struggle with anxiety. I have missed so many opportunities in my life because of it. In pretty much all aspects of life. I ended up just accepting that's the way I am, but hate it when I know it's holding me back from a really meaningful life. I did somewhat defeat it once but had some events in my life that I can't change bring it on worse then it ever was. Once again starting all over again........ it's tiring.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@thoos192 Hi, I have Coeliac and my daughter started out with symptoms of Coeliac, but it didn't show up with the Edoscopy. The villi inside of the small intestine is what absorbs nutrients. In Coeliacs this gets flattened by reaction to gluten. Yes it causes lots of anxiety, from lack of nutrients, or in some people from gluten affecting them but villi not damaged.
I relate to you so much! As a therapist myself, my own struggle with anxiety is absolutely the thing I pull from the most when I work with clients who are struggling with anxiety. I am my own case study/evidence that anxiety can get better because (using many of the same techniques) I've also managed to control my anxiety to a degree I'm very proud of. Thanks Doc!
I'm having major anxiety right now. I've been on the internet too much today. I had way more coffee than I usually do. I'm tired. It's helpful seeing this video just when I needed it most. Thank you.
I recommend unplugging sometimes and going to do an hour or more walk with some music going. Exercise has helped me lately a lot. If I do an hour to 90 min. walk, I sleep like a baby! No matter what. I recommend walking or running with music, because for me it helps me just focus on my fave music and walking and filters out the anxiety.
@thiscorrosion900 Thank you. Normally, I do walk and ride my bike. I meditate and do pilates. But, not on that day. Plus, I have GAD (generalized anxiety disorder), and sometimes it overwhelms me.
@@lisac996 Lisac996 hi! I"m no great athlete and never was. Years ago I was skinny anyway and went out dancing all the time at clubs, etc. I was never a big gym guy. At times. Lately I'm trying to stick to 90 min. of hard walking about 4x a week. I might buy a bike, too. Anyway, I hear you and I've been through that and a lot worse.
The aspartame and sucralose in diet drinks and foods, is horrendously destabilizing to mental health. A low fat diet is also horrendously destabilizing to mental health. Eating overprocessed imitation foods is the same as well. Eat and drink natural foods and drink, get away from the phones and computers, get outside, and leave your junk alone, half the time, and you'll meet someone, to be with, that likes you. Lastly, stop hating that person in the mirror. Be their best friend. Good luck, you got this.
It's interesting you mention get outside. I never have anxiety out in nature. It's when I'm in the artificial constructs of humanity that the anxiety and anger sets in.
Sucralose is just a glucose attached to a starch molecule, meaning you can taste sweet but can't absorb it since the starch is too big. This has nothing to do with mental health.
Useful advice. Since I cut out sugary drinks, I have been resorting to some diet beverages, so need to find alternatives. Also good advice to get out, even if it means taking a walk. I have met some nice folks just walking short distances.
67 and lifelong anxiety… cutting down on caffeine tomorrow, thank you for showing up in my feed today. I also gave up watching certain topics on UA-cam and politics for Lent and I’m 11 days in and already feeling a wee bit better. Thank you🙏🏼ps laughing w recognition on projects through college degrees and then in work.
Wow I almost burst into tears watching this. I’ve never had my symptoms described so perfectly. Thank you for putting these videos out and for opening up to complete strangers about your own struggles and experiences.
Yup, your not alone this also described many things to a t for me, best advice I can give you is, constantly work on it, so you don't go backwards, and things will get better if you do this and get outta your comfort zone, also practicing, really practicing being in the moment, will also help, it's not gonna change over night, but you can change
My anxiety is soo bad. It feels like a rocky Balboa has pummeled my stomach. I have mdd and PTSD and anxiety. It just feels like impending doom. I can't hardly function. And it's so much worse at night. I'm not hungry so therefore I'm not eating. I won't let myself sleep. I am 47 years old tomorrow January 5. I just feel doomed since birth and I have soooo many regrets.
I let anxiety cause me to have no friends. Thankfully with the support of my boyfriend and lots of effort I have been able to heal and see positive results. Just my boyfriend and I for now and that’s ok.
I suffered with extreme anxiety throughout the 2000s . I was sent to a clinical psychologist at the Royal Free hospital in London. The guy was a “professor” he was utterly useless and disinterested, he was yawning during my consultation. His phone was on vibrate and rattling on his desk . A dreadful experience and left me feeling totally unsupported. He’s retired now thank God . My anxiety has dissipated over the years no thanks to medical professionals.
God I wish I could have you as a therapist. Young guy who knows how it feels. I feel everything you say, cause I'm in my 20s and have been in the shit my whole life.
It can change. Trust and pray about that. Small changes just a little at a time moving yourself into a better mindset and place. Trust and believe that you can. Expect to have difficult times. There's something to the old saying, "Fake it until you make it." And that's really just doing the things you know you need to do. God Bless!
I have found it hard to relate to a therapist because a lot of them who don't experience anxiety are just speaking from things they have heard or have been told about anxiety, but it is so complex and when a therapist has actually experienced it (god forbid), i would think it would help in treating it, at least with a more understanding approach
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 absolutely on point. We are unhealthy partly and in some cases completely caused by a food supply with toxic chemicals and little to no nutritional value. Look up NPK which is nitrogen, phosphorus and potassium which are the primary fertilizer chemicals which produce big plants, but the soil lacks the other minerals so those vegetables do little for nutrition. Leaky gut destroys mental and emotional functions and overall health and vitality. Get these things under control and you (original post author) will feel and do better! God Bless!
Timing on stimulants is important too! Since caffeine hangs around your body for several hours, an afternoon cup(s) of coffee can throw off and disrupt that night's sleep...leading to bad sleep, more coffee, and a big anxiety spiral cycle. It helped me a lot to just watch the timing and still enjoy a morning cup. Great video!!
I had debilitating anxiety for years. People who don’t have it cannot imagine what it’s like. I understand some of the adjustments or strategies that you discuss in this video. I’m not sure if strategies would have been enough for me. There’s the issue of complex trauma growing up in a difficult environment, not experiencing a healthy sense of connection with family members and a great deal of shame
Unlock the secrets to overcoming anxiety and depression with this incredible video! As someone who has battled with these challenges since childhood, I can confidently say that his advice is spot on. His compassion and understanding are truly remarkable. I am sharing this video on my Facebook page so others can benefit from his expertise. While there are many strategies that have helped me, accepting things outside of my control has been crucial. Silence and mindfulness have also played a significant role in reducing my anxiety. Remember, your brain needs rest, and constant busyness is not sustainable. Start small and focus on self-discipline, nutrition, and accepting yourself just as you are. Let go of the past and focus on the present, taking baby steps towards improvement. May you find peace and happiness on your journey!
I am so thrilled that I stumbled upon you on You Tube!! I’m 66 and have been having a huge struggle with ongoing anxiety for far too long!! You gave me excellent info so I can begin to take better care of myself to help the others. Thank you!
Dr. Eilers you are my twin. The 6 bad habits except for stimulants I do. Avoidance is my HUGE default to a point I have limited my life to the point, no long lasting relationships, not wanting children so they don't get my anxiety/depression because how can I help them if I can't help myself. My anxiety has kept me from challenging myself socially and professionally. Plus everything else you mention as trusting my future self and put my trust in others because it won't be as perfect as I want it to be. After listening to you for a while now, I've decided to work on the big 3: Improve my mental health, my body by eating better and exercising and finally spiritually. I'm so glad I found you because I do exactly what you spoke about in this video. I'm still a work in progress and most likely will be until I die.
I resorted to drinking my anxiety away at 19, I now have a damaged liver and 3 years of my life gone bc of this. Getting back on your feet is the hardest part but god the process is beautiful. I WILL NOT LET ANXIETY WIN!
This was the best video I’ve ever watched about anxiety. In such a short video, I took away way more than all the therapy sessions I’ve had. Thank you!
@@marshmellowpenguin2 That's actually a good mindset to have about anxiety. It became chronic for me at around 20 years old. You have more tools and instant information on everything now days. You could find out where it comes from and maybe beat it or super manage it. I would stay away from female therapists because being anxious and quickly flustered is a normal state of living for them. I didn't know that when I was 16.
When I think about anxiety and my brain, I think about a saying I've heard dog trainers say about Border Collies and other smart dogs: If you don't give them a job or task to do, they will find and make one for themselves. And you will not like the task they make for themselves, because it's probably destructive.
Alright, Dr. Eilers, I'm gonna take you up this. I have been struggling with anxiety for the past few months and it has gotten to the point where I wake up and am already at max stress level. I need relief. So I will try my best to break my patterns and get back into control.
I have lived a life so full of anxiety. what your saying may seem funny to some, like an MRI isn't any problem for some, but for people like me it's one of the most fearful things to endure. Panic situations are terrible. I am so appreciative of your videos. I believe a lot of people with anxiety go to stimulants which like you said are just another issue to overcome. I like your sense of humor .I feel as though I chose a career or it worked out that way that was a hostile environment for me. I went into the military right out of high school and received the Meritorious service award. I was not as stressed in basic as I was every day at the hospital. I was in a good career with the military, it was not a hostile environment for me. My panic attacks were terrible my entire career in a hospital and I was the go to guy that seems to have it all together. I did awesome, but no one knew it was pure fear. I needed to hear about eating. I have almost stopped eating. I eat just to live . I realize that has to change. I have been looking for mental help and I feel great about your channel. I have anxiety bad and I have been eating very little but eat healthy. I have low blood sugar levels for several years. I keep candy because of low blood sugar. Thank you. For me. Step 1 is diet.
Working on my debilitating anxiety, agoraphobia, panic disorder, and depression. I have a therapy appt today. We are working on cognitive behavioral therapy. Wouldn't wish this on anyone. I haven't been more than 30 minutes from home in TWO years.
@GabbyEsq next month is two years for me in therapy and I’m doing exposure therapy. Two years! It’s very difficult. My therapist says because I’ve had anxiety all my life and it began to become agoraphobia 11 years ago that it’s going to take time. I wanna know how much time!!?! I’m wishing you all the best!
I was that person, thank the Father above I have mostly overcome it. I speak to my fear, "go ahead, give me your best shot". It took a lot of time but I eventually started slaying the dragon
I really relate to your experience. Thanks for sharing. I remember genuinely believing I would never feel happy again or gain the will to live my life, and yet today I am thriving. I love hearing from people on the other side of mental illness. Glad you're in a good place now.
Thank you for making this video. I've suffered with anxiety my whole life, largely due to the complicated relationship I've had with the disability I was born with, cerebral palsy. Throughout my life, lots of non-disabled people I've known, even among friends, family, and romantic partners, have expressed in myriad ways that despite my proclivities and relative direction in life, I'm confined simply because I'm in a wheelchair. As you may gather, I've obsessed over that conclusion for the longest time. Essentially, you go through this cycle of feeling like your presence in someone's life will never be genuine. During the day, I'd be fine, but at night, I'd be kept up by defeatist thoughts that tell me things like "Don't bother shooting your shot with that woman; she doesn't date wheelchairs" "Even if you accomplish things in life, they're null and void just because you're in a wheelchair," or the biggest one, "Why are you trying to live a life that's not meant for cripples like you?" At the end of the day, these are merely thoughts more than anything else. You make a good point to say a better diet helps, as well as stimulating your brain from consistent exercise. That way, it becomes even easier to manage those thoughts that may spring up from time to time. Working on yourself, especially when you're alone, can feel lonely at times, given how often those you've trusted in the past seemed to look for excuses to cut you out of their lives. It could just be that I haven't found my people yet. I've tried, but those I've had a vested interest in want little to do with me. For the time being, it's better to focus 100% on myself.
I recall the exact moment that I lost control of my anxiety and became debilitating at 33… I just got the first dose of Moderna in Oct. 06 2021 and I felt like I was having a heart attack and the tech/LPN just looked at me and basically said to chill but didn’t take vitals??? Then said I’ll be back in a bit to check on you.. in a panic plus rage I peeled out of the parking lot drive to the hospital. Half way there I started feeling better and ended up driving home. A week later I passed out standing up and had chest pains… went to bed after. Woke up next morning with pain still and then went to the hospital by lunchtime. Heart check out okay… doctors kept saying you’re young and your heart is fine, but never found a root cause and released me the next day after testing. Almost 3 years later and I still feel the same… awful. I’ve gotten over test anxiety as a kid and this never felt like anxiety but here we are again looking for answers for an undiagnosed vaccine injury…
Sleep, healthy food, exercise. Someone to talk to. And find out which way works best for you to deal with negative, maybe overwhelming emotions. For me, I use meditations from Plum Village (Zen Buddhist). I am not a Buddhist, I just use their techniques.
The whole "This has to all happen TODAY" segment... so completely relatable and helpful. I have Todoist and I can literally schedule things in the future, and I need to use that feature!!!
I consider that a ringing endorsement! I've found it very helpful so far. I have daily reminders for some of the most basic yet important things (check cat water, litter boxes) and it utteryly helps. Also helps me realize how much I DO do.
I live in Ukraine and we have explosions and bombings very often…air raids. I am very anxious often. Still not using medication but it’s really hard to manage anxiety when I live almost 2 years in the war zone… Your points are really important. I am skipping meals in the morning, drink coffee and feel terrible…anxious…I need to guide my child to kindergarten and walk my dog so don’t have much time for breakfast. And these morning habits are doing me not a good favor…need to switch to decaf and plan my breakfast from the evening, it’s very important, because hypoglycemia feels terrible and together with terrible news always makes me very anxious. I am learning nutrition, so I basically eat balanced meals, go to the gym in the evening 1-3 times per week but mornings for me are the hardest because of hard sleepless nights, caffeine and low glucose
I'm really sorry for what is happening in your country. I pray for peace and wisdom to be granted to these "leaders" who are causing this disaster. God Bless you and your family and country.
@@johnnytacokleinschmidt515 thank you! You are absolutely right! “Leaders” are solving their political issues while we ukrainians (women, men and children) are killed by ruzzians in our own homes…it’s terrible disaster
Thank you so much for giving real practical advice on anxiety! I can see how much you understand the topic from personal experience. I am making big strides, myself, and greatly appreciate when people talk about how our habits and behaviors keep us ruled by anxiety. In my past experiences over the years dealing with anxiety I was told by psychiatrists that it was "just the way I was", and needed to take medications that only ended up backfiring by making my physical and mental health far worse. For reference, I ended up with Serotonin Syndrome that came on slowly but got to a point where I was critically ill when it was finally diagnosed. Freeing myself from this vicious cycle and taking back my own brainpower to address the underlying issues has given me a whole new perspective and way of coping.
That resonates 100%, terrified to find a job, to make a call, to meet someone I like in person after talking online...brain creates worst scenarios in my head
Same same same same!!! My anxiety have consumed the important part of my life. My 20's was ruin.. im in my 30's closing in on 40 and still have this anxiety lingering.
This video is filled with so much hope and encouragement...from someone who gets it and has actually done all the work. I cannot thank you enough!! I 100% believe it can be overcome and your story proves it.
All six make perfect sense to me. I am currently struggling/adapting to number three. Anhedonia had me mostly nonfunctional for the past five months. Overwhelm, anxiety, depression ruled and I caved to it all. I began to practice the other five 'fixes' on my own about a month ago, coincidentally. Now, involved in a task easily gets me into a zone, even a state of flow. As soon as I take a break...the rumination returns! I'm certain that number 6 is the issue with this. Fear that I will not allow myself to complete a task (no trust in myself with the 'future') stems from early cPTSD trauma-induced failure imprinting. That particular malady is a tenacious and difficult one to remedy...I am working to give myself evidence, through consistent current achievement, that the old mental program was wrong; and no longer needs to be followed.
When you say failure imprinting - is it a persistent fear that you will fail at the next thing you have to do because you failed at something big in the past? My self-esteem crashed in university, and while I eventually got my degree, I no longer thought of myself as 'smart'. This has come back to haunt me in job searches, and it's causing me feelings of doom and catastrophe.
@@thisgirl5933 I can relate. My high school was extremely ‘average’ and there were very low expectations of me from either my (uninvolved and self absorbed) parents, or the teachers. Got into university but had little direction in life and no idea how to study. My parents stupidly got me into one of the more traditional hostels, and I was surrounded by high achieving students doing medicine & law degrees from wealthy backgrounds. I floundered through university, failed a critical paper in my second year had to switch degrees to one I didn’t really want to do and no longer thought of myself as smart either. Took another year off then started a diploma for which I had no background in. By the time I was finished at university and looking for work I was 27 years old with an average degree behind me - not 21 or 22 as I should have been. Found work but had imposter syndrome until I finished working after my 3rd child at 39, and started doing my own psychology research. Tg for channels like this on yt as I couldn’t afford long term therapy which I really needed to understand what was going on. Now in a much better place thankfully but I do feel sad I didn’t have a happier time in my 20s.
❤ Hi Scott, your honesty and sincerity are so powerful. 😊 I have relatives that suffer from these exact same issues and as a grandmother it is so difficult for me to watch people in the state of depression and anxiety. I feel so helpless so that's why I'm going to share your videos. your voice and your experiences is exactly what these young people need to hear and see right now!! thank you so much😊
Without knowing I have done most of the things he is saying and have been able to manage anxiety. I am only missing asking for help, I will get myself help cleaning my house and more hobbies, more exercise, more reading. This is a great video do what he says it works!!
Thank you so much I was waiting for this video, I had an unusual long period of depression and anxiety for about a year and I decided this month to try to get myself out of it! I'm taking notes! Thank you again❤ The part of asking for help is completely true cuz I was that type of "superwoman" that wants to do and deal with everything by herself but I think in long term that caused me just so much suffering and I feel like I've lost all my energy to do even little things in my life! While the solution is just ask for help as simple as it is❤
@@thinkingallowed1st Well I'm not a professional but I'll answer you from my experience! Just try to rebuild your relationship with your fam, your parents if they're still alive your siblings, maybe your partner, a professional...try socializing with more people around you and make your circle bigger, people whom share with you same activities/hobbies! I know it's kinda hard sometimes especially if you are an introvert, or having a depressive episode when you want just to close on yourself and just hide like I used to! In such time of vulnerability you start thinking that you're alone and everyone/everything is against you! Sometimes just finding someone to talk to and being vocal about what's hurting you inside can give you an instant kind of relief! Maybe just "notebook" as a starting point! Or if you believe in higher being just pray! Or virtual friends! Be more vocal spit it all out! Just believe it's just a period (transition), you're never alone!❤️❤️ Much love
I did the same, I tried to do it on my own then one day my body crashed. I couldn’t get up that day to do my daily routine. That’s when I had to share with my family what was going on. The anxiety became debilitating. At the time you feel like it is never going to go away. I am doing much better now. It took a few months. My daughter’s convinced me to sign up for therapy and it really helped a lot. It turned out that I had a lot of trapped trauma that was causing my anxiety.
Wow I feel the same I did so much then anxiety came and doesn’t leave me alone horrible symptoms it has been hard it’s been almost a year now from running a business to being scared of being alone
Ive never really had anxiety before until recently. I had open heart surgery 9 months ago and im still in recovery. Im physically doing very well but emotionally, not so great. My mom entered into hospice care in September and just passed before Christmas. I know im going thru the grieving process. But finding out about her entering hospice, no income for 4 months, dealing with all the bills that need to be paid, or else. Triggered insomnia and some anxiety. I'm working on it every day and trying to find the right people with the correct knowledge to help me. Your video just explained a load of useful items for my arsenal. Thankyou soooo much. God bless.😊
Eliminating caffeine has had an amazing effect on my anxiety disorder and my sleep. It’s completely underrated the effect it has on anxiety, I didn’t really believe it at first, but it’s been so much better since eliminating it.
Everything you've said in this video is literally everything I've gone through. I've experienced the panic attacks from The caffeine, The diet, The Hypoglycemia, The trust issues, etc.
This sounds like me. I'm 46 yo and struggle with extreme daily anxiety. I've recently had some mini-breakthrus, so hopefully I can keep going in the right direction.
Anxiety can be considered to be fear of fear, or more precisely fear of your body's natural physical responses to fear. Realising this can help reduce it.
Have never heard of this. I've had this inexplicable fear all my life. Wish I knew how to deal with it.
That's the focus of Dr. Claire Weekes books and audio recordings. Desensitization of fear. She explains it so well. Love her audio recordings, too. Old school, but still applicable today, IMO.
What causes feelings of anxiety?
In childhood, the mind archives the bad moments that human being experiment
and when something happens that is similar to what was experienced the mind remembers it, emitting feelings of anger, fear, anguish or depression. It is important that every time something unpleasant happens and we feel bad about it, we realize that we are feeling ECHOES OF THE PAST, so that we don't go through life feeling bad about insignificant things. There are several ways to get rid of those constant warnings from the mind.
When you feel anger, fear, anxiety or depression, accept to feel it until it fades. It is to cleanse ourselves of the unpleasant sensations experienced in childhood.
Also practice to inhale, exhale deeply, count to eight and breathe again. repeat it several times and the unpleasant sensations begin to disappear.
I dont think that is a complete definition. Anxiety could be about avoiding negative consequences, not only fearing the fear itself. Imho
@@tekkhero9767 even what you said proves his exact comment. Fearing consequences that aren't happening is fearing the fear of the consequences. You're fearing fear... Fear of etc. etc.
For me, when I’m anxious I can barely eat. The anxiety makes me nauseous already making eating so hard. Which just leads to feeling worse since I’m anxious and hungry
Me too. The anti nausea drug ocean helps a lot. B-complex can help. Meditation and especially vagal
Nerve breathing actually helps. Cold pack on the upper back and neck.
I have found that understanding my bodily sensations are not necessarily the truth or real. I understand that my sensations are coming from thoughts that I have been thinking recently or thought patterns I have created. I have realized that my body subconsciously is trying to protect me by releasing all the adrenaline on a daily basis because it feels like it needs to to protect me. Trust me, I have had anxiety where I’m throwing up, having diarrhea and shaking terribly from anywhere from 5 to 16 hours a day every day for months, and this has happened on and off throughout my life.I would recommend if you’re feeling nauseated to drink protein shakes as it’s almost impossible to physically eat when we feel this way. I am currently trying to learn to not be afraid of the feelings and trying to change my thought patterns that have created this habitual panic.❤
I remember when I struggled with that. It was so difficult but I just had to force myself to eat and let myself feel nauseous. Not fun but it helped me
Hardly eating nervös before a meal losing weight, trying my best to eat and train even if it's hard for 5 months now! Good luck to all who suffer!
Force yourself to eat, even if just a little bit of food. When you eat your brain says: "We're eating, so there must be nothing dangerous or wrong going on." I've been through it.
No one can understand what intense anxiety can feel like unless they have been through it. Mine gets worse as I get older. Every day, every situation, every decision, is a struggle. Blessings to everyone who is suffering from it. Be strong and acknowledge your strength even when you overcome the smallest of tasks. ❤❤❤❤
@MC--342~~So true~~Unless Dr.s, just people in general will never understand what it feels like~~I'm a 70 year old woman who had my first panic attack when I was 8 years old~~I was laying in bed trying to get to sleep snd all of a sudden I couldn't breathe and my heart was pounding and I thought I was dying~~My Ma was still up and I;m trying to tell her how I was feeling~~She said you're probably coming down with something and go back to bed~~Also, she was a nurse~~I went back to bed and prayed~~It lasted for 20 minutes or so and it stopped~~It was never talked about again~~I still got the attacks but I knew they would stop~~I never felt right~~When I entered Jr. High School I found out other girls, friends were going through the same thing along with debilitsting anxiety all the time~~Our parents did nothing~~To make a very long story short, I suffered ny whole life feeling that way~~Nobody knew how horrible I always felt but continued with my life~~I worked hard, took care of my family, went to night school for different things but everything I did I had to push myself hard to get things done~~When I left home at 17 I worked so hard and saved my money, went to Dr's, therapists but they just didn't get it~~I got tired of hearing, just take deep breaths and blah blah~~Nothing worked and as I got older I got worse~~Anti-anxiety meds didn't help at all~~Then Dr's said take this and take that and it will help~~I just got worse and just took anxiety meds and ambien cause I always had insomnia to this day~~But I feel like giving up but I can't~~So many worries and feeling worse~~I just feel that MY GAD is genentic from my Ma's side of the family~~She was never like a Mother should be~~I later found out some of my cousins had panic attacks, anxiety but I got the worst of it~~I've tried everything to feel at least sort of normal but just got worse with age~~I also had problems with perfection~~My brain and body just doesn't respond to all the things you're suppose to do~~Take good care and Happy New Year~~I pray for everyone that is going through horrible disorder~~🙃🙃🙃🥵🥵🥵☹☹☹💗💗💗
I can empathize! Mine keeps growing and unfortunately so many trials keep coming feeding the anxiety. It's like a hamster wheel that won't stop.
Oh I hope you will get through it! It's a really heavy thing, but if I can do it, I'm sure as hell you can do it! My tip is ''don't take life so seriously''. Once I understood what that actually meant my intense anxiety got evaporated. I'm still learning and it's not like I'm never anxious anymore. But a giant burden lifted when I stopped listening to my self made rules of good and wrong. There are no rules. Enjoy life how you want it to!
All the tips the guy mentioned in the video are perfect!
Hey, what triggers your anxiety? Tell me about your situation and l'll share my story with you. Let me know
EFT tapping may help you out.
Anxiety and depression have crippled me my whole life. It's so painful and debilitating and I don't know anymore what to do. I'm tired, very, very tired.
UPDATE: I am feeling considerably better than when i made my original post - the encouragement and prayers I received from my post, along with a review of my medications have really made a difference in my life, and the end result is I'm feeling considerably better. Thank you to all those kind people who cared enough to post words of love and encouragement in my time of darkness. You all saved my life.
The "being tired " is a REAL THING!!!!!
Turn to God, he is our healer.
You are not alone. 😢 Me tooin the same situation. I don't even know whether I have any other condition or anxiety itself.
Bless you, I'm sending you healing now 💖🙏 x
@@yvonnelesleybrigenshaw950 thank you so much. That's so kind of you. 🙏❤️
Honestly my major cyclical, episodic depression (MDD) vanished the day I had the magic mushroom tripping while listening to the birds singing in the early morning, up at the cottage country in Muskoka (Ontario, Canada)
Literally changed my life.
I have cPTSD (self diagnosed) from an abusive childhood and early adulthood. I am 66 and it is only now that I realize how much magic mushroom can help solve the disorder.
Golden teachers has been my go-to mushroom for months, it has helped in my recovery journey
Ive started taking mushroom powders in my morning tea and give supplements to one of my teenagers. Such a difference. Mushrooms are the hidden gem. Mother nature has everything we need.
Hello! It appears I have interests, I want to get some.. where do you get from?
medicgael
1. 2:25 - Stretch your mind; step outside comfort zone
2. 5:00 - Avoid stimulants e.g. caffeine
3. 7:38 - Occupy yourself with meaningful activities
10:41 - intro to #4
4. 11:48 - Take nutrition seriously
5. 13:53 - Stop trying to do everything (most difficult!)
6. 17:15 - Positive outlook; trust in yourself
Thanks for this. I have trouble holding the points in my head to the end of the video. This helps a lot.
Glad to help! 😊
@@centurionstrengthandfitnes3694
when we also have severe ADHD, trauma etc - sometimes stimulants def. needed for some time!
This is great. I would just add “stop avoiding anxiety” to 1 and add “everything YOURSELF” to the 5.
If you do 1 and 3 you will be 99% recovered. Really number 1 will get you 80% at least.
Things I did when he had such massive panic attacks that I couldn't leave my house:
1. Gratefulness! No matter how miserable you are you always have things to be grateful for! As a homeless Veteran, I was eternally grateful for, a warm meal, a roof over my head, my dog the few friends Ive had etc, etc. I write a list each morning to rewire my brain.
2. What can you do, what can you accomplish during the day! Write down a few simple things. The old "trick" to help a fellow human when you feel miserable works! Carry the bags from the store for an old lady give a homeless with a warm meal or just take a walk with your dog?
3. Meditate and manifest a light within you that outshines and forces the darkness away and discover the magic of synchronicity and the pure magic in spiritual awareness?
I m off caffeine for 3 years now. No more panic attacks. Period.
When i drink only one coffee a day everything is fine, as soon as i drink too much i get this anxious feeling that "something's about to happen"
Good to hear that. I have one of regular coffee in the morning and then usually have several decaffeinated coffees into mid afternoon. Having more than one caffeinated coffee or drink really gets me anxious. Less so with the decaf ones but I wonder about those too.
@@ConspiracyCraftersStudio exactly, and it stays for pretty long
Drank a couple cups of coffee 4 years ago & ended up in the ER with a severe panic attack. I thought I was going to die. Numb arms, hands lips turned blue & my jaw went totally stiff. Haven't touched coffee since.
@@bonekollektor1659 same man! And I became sure that the hyperventilation itself started as a byproduct of caffeine consumption as well... glad you survived tho brother!
Exposure therapy has helped me and staying away from toxic people...however its still there but noticeablly changed.
One thing to add is walking away from social media for long periods at a time. This includes news stories that are triggering. Sometimes we avoid life due to anxiety but we do so by drowning ourselves in social media which acts as a catalyst for even greater anxiety.
Agreed!!👍🏼❤️😊
yeah it's been a big relief for me, leaving social sites
I think you're right. Im addicted to social media and the stimulation it brings. Generally my screen time has been 10 to more hours everyday. How do I stop?
@@VarietyVault_shorts
That’s a serious addiction
Reduce by 30 minutes each day
Allow yourself an hour
That is so true for me. I can't read something upsetting and a couple of hours later have forgotten about it. It plays on my mind for days and even weeks later it will resurface.
This reminds me of what a yoga teacher talked about at the beginning of every class. Work with the body of the day. Just because yesterday’s body was full of anxiety doesn’t mean today’s is. And of course she talked about nutrition and all the you talked about, but her point was to allow each day to be it’s own day. To let yourself experience the full range of human experience but not all on the same day. Trust that it will still be there tomorrow, maybe with a new ache, or maybe an ache from today will be gone. I do still drink coffee and my nutrition could use some fine tuning but this video is very helpful. Thank you
This was very well said.I am extremely anxious to go new places,to the degree of avoiding it..
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Some days are worse than the others. Really struggling right now. People who are going through this too… you are not alone ❤ We will get better.
Sometimes i got anxiety so hard i got to sleep an hour after it U_U do you have that too ?
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Me too, im experiencing severe anxiety these days with numbness in my extremities. It has made me dissociate a lot and it makes it really uncomfortable for me. But i will not give up and i wont let it take me down with it so ill keep trying.
I’m struggling at the moment.
Alprazolam and buspirone are my only medication at the moment.
I just took my 2nd alprazolam dose of the day (10:15 pm) with hope of getting a couple of hours sleep.
@@VarietyVault_shorts Exercise and vitamin B helped me.
Anxiety literally destroyed my life. and I am not overexaggerating that's the truth.
It definitely can
How
I 100% feel you on this statement. Only
People with crippling anxiety can
But you’re still here, trying. That’s half the battle. God bless you! You are stronger than you think. We’re here with you. You got this!
Just tell your anxiety to bring it everytime you have one, welcome it, tell it to bring its worst. It really helps me
My advice:
1 No news at all! No social media!!!
2. Sport! Sport! Sport!
3. Breathing technics, belly relaxing technics! Meditation, relaxation!
4. EFT (emotional freedom technic) basically knocking or palpating on the stomach meridian line, helps me to relay on 5 min, and helps me to sleep.
5. Be gentle with yourself!
6. Sunshine!
7 Walking in the Nature!
8 No alcohol! No smoking!
9 Self respect/loving yourself= learn to say NO to people!
Also, important to understand what causes the Panic (in case you have) in your life, because sometimes your body actually not just overreacting something but talking to you, showing you what is toxic in your life you should escape from, like a working environment or a relationship.
Face your fears don't run away from it. Nothing will last.
You are right nothing will last and this life will soon 🔜 be over
Positive thinking is the key. We will have to train our brain with positive thoughts. Negative thinking is the culprit in anxiety.
@@LifeDelicu gotta do it again and again, it wont get better if u build the negative association
I agree as well. To hear that "anxiety can be defeated/ conquered" is reassuring. Thank you all for your transparency. It helps when you connect with others with similar journeys.
Watching this before buying a ticket alone and taking the tram alone for the first time in my life at 27 years old.
Oh WoW! Good for you, that's a big step! ( sorry I know you posted this a month ago but I just ran across the video ) so how did it go? Were you able to get on the tram and complete the ride??
How are you now? Did it make you feel a little more comfortable?
Good luck my darling you will be fine 🙂 promise 🇬🇧
Well done !! I need to do this for a big family function
Pre lockdown I was fine
Now it’s too hard
I have to make it happen
Awesome!
Thank you for this. I went to the hospital for a panic attack the other day where I fainted at work. I haven’t been to work in 5 days due to this. After watching this last night I made it to work today. It wasn’t a great day but when I made it through the shift I felt proud that I didn’t avoid my priorities. Appreciate your vulnerability
Aww so sorry to hear this. Well done for making it back to work, keep going, you can do this!! One thing that might help is magnesium, it’s really calming and helps go minimise anxiety. Zinc also helps too. You can create flash cards with positive affirmations that you can look at when you are at work. Or relate a vision board book (A5) and add beautiful and calming images and look at your book when or if you feel anxious at work.
I'd get some blood tests done to rule out iron and b12. B6. Deficiency. This is how i started panic attacks, from low Iron
Do you find that work either causes or triggers your anxiety?
Awesome that you went back to work… that’s how we do it…one day at a time. God bless you and provide new strength each day 🙏
Fainting is a fear I've always had during anxiety/panic attack but never happened. However, at times when I was not eating enough, I feel faint. Once I passed out from not eating enough & drinking alcohol. There could be other health reasons for fainting that have nothing to do with anxiety, although when experiencing not feeling well can being on anxiety if you are prone to anxiety and then assume anxiety or panic attack was the reason for fainting. Make sure you are eating healthy as Dr. Eilers states & get physical check up & blood work, EKG, etc. to rule out health issues before blaming fainting on anxiety alone. My best :-)
Having been through this, the most important thing i found is to do it regardless - go to work,go to a party. You won't feel like it but doing it reduces the fear. Bottom line,you need to lose your fear of being anxious.
I feel like the maxim “ Mood follow action” connects to your comment!
Works if you are not a socially anxious person which could have the opposite effect.
@@fitnessguy75daily or?
i did this, for years, what happened is i was suffering tremendously but learned to live that way, truly horrific, honestly. i was still "limited" so to say in many ways, cause first of all, under that amount of anxiety it is literally impossible to live, work, study and so on and so on name it, to your best ability,but you could say i was "functioning" i guess, bearly making it through day by day. what happened, i crashed, completely. my mental and physical health went to absolute shit, arguably to point of no return. what anxiety did to my body, you wouldn't even believe possible. the damaged caused, now impossible to function, cause of my physical health decline, it ain't bout the mental even anymore.
All that did was make me wanna retreat more lol
Anxiety usually has friends like OCD, ADHD, Panic disorder, Manic-Depressive, Depression etc. which actually feeds it even more, and makes it worse.
Thank you Scott. I am an older man who cared his dear wife to her last breath. More than grief I would say that my day is filled with anxiety, angst, and what you have to say offers me hope. Thanks, pal.
Anxiety just does not happen in a day. It needs hard work. We repeatedly tell ourselves something will happen in social situation or we have a heart problem because our heart is beating faster to help us deal with fear. Imaginary fears are the main problem.
Fears of everything even though it isn't real or happens. Like your brain is always working and you are thinking too many things. Like you want things around you to be perfect or well. It's very difficult to focus on things.
Sleep!! Sleep is the biggest contributor to my anxiety. I cannot sleep or I can't stay asleep. And looking towards the future at the current state is a nightmare. Which creates even more anxiety, a lack of sleep is the one thing I cannot shake..
I will give you some hope of beating unable to sleep . When I was about 5 years old , I couldn't sleep well because I would have terrible nightmares every night. My parents didn't get along, so I had no confidence that they could help me, so I thought of a way. I decided that if I couldn't remember the nightmares when I woke up, then I would be Okay.
Believe it or not I managed to convince myself that I was not going to ever remember my dreams, nightmare or not. It took a few days, but I could not remember my dreams whenever I woke up for Years afterword. I guess it was something like hypnotizing myself or whatever. if there's a will there"s a way . Your mind is a powerful tool.
@chrisb7951 thanks for sharing your story. I'm amazed at how young you were being mindful and having the self-awareness to strategist a way to help you beat your nightmares. We all know that nightmares are very dreadful...
My sleep has improved, but I still have some frustrating nights just not as many. Meditation and not allowing myself to overthink about falling asleep or not have helped tremendously.
Now you recovered?@@rocbronson
Yes. I’m experiencing the very same awake nightmare!
Me too bro, if I don't sleep well, my anxiety takes control
You’re right about number 3. When you’re not busy your anxiety starts to take over. I need to work on being more busy too.
oh boy I know that too. I just find it an immense struggle to get moving. Maybe it's my biggest problem at this point.
@@heaven7360 yeah exactly. Sometimes when you’re too anxious it give you 0 drive to get anything done!
That's a typical CBT solution. Keep yourself busy.
But it only helps to attenuate anxiety for a little while. Anxiety comes from the lack of connection to your own body. You feel anxiety because you probably used to suppress unwanted feelings in the past, and your body is trying to let yourself know that you ignore important signals.
People learn quickly that the more you think the less you feel. And your body just want you to feel it. Because it's trying to tell you something. Like "stop, I'm tired" or "I don't like it, dont do it". If you ignore it, it will let you know by anxiety, intrusive thoughts and in the end, somatic symptoms.
Isn't forcing yourself to be busy another form of avoidance?
@@Tk0mma yes and no. It easy to say that part but if you have real mental health issues it’s a continuing battle. You’re not avoid your issues but stay busy but you focus on your work instead and thus slowly realize these “problems” are not actually problems and then they slowly release.
It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this journey, it helps a lot to know that there’s other people that feel the same way I do.
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my husband recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Yes Predroshrooms
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
Yes he's Predroshrooms. I know few friends who no longer suffer ptsd and anxiety with the help of shrooms. Never had to take shrooms after then.
I’m 67 years old and have dealt with anxiety and depression for over 50 years, listening to you has helped me to understand why I feel the way I do. I’m always looking forward to your next video. I’m so glad that I found you!
Yep I am 47 and my life sucks
Don't make comparisons with any others.
Thank you for your honesty. Would you please say what has been helpful? Thank you
Hi I'm same im 55 suffering
Hello Ryan
That's me right now. Im in my room sitting, again. I cry constantly. I've dealt with this for 30 plus years.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 yes the stomach issues are horrible. I don't have a gallbladder so I'm almost obligated to eat well.
I've actually been checked for all those things and nothing came of it. But, I'm so glad you found the root cause of your anxiety 🥰. They basically just told me I had a chemical imbalance and thats about it. The anxiety is what gets me depressed. It's a whole cycle.
@@virginiaevelyn8278❤❤❤
Same HERE!! Just gave my life back to the LORD!!! This has helped ALOT!!!
@@virginiaevelyn8278 are you autistic?
Anxiety ruined my life. I got it from my mother. I have on my Whiteboard, written the following simple axioms
1-Life is engagement not avoidance (Existentialism)
2-Slow down and focus (Zen)
3-Act with self respect and confidence (NLP)
NLP and exercise also helped me with anxiety and sleeping, and CBT helped with depression.
-Good luck fellow travellers through the universe of emotions, which is life. Peace.
Is anxiety the same thing as anger? Because I'm angry all the time.
@@LaoSoftwareNo, nothing like it, probably the opposite
@@LaoSoftware I think it can be related in some ways, but according to chinese medicine anger is related to liver function.
@@LaoSoftware It's common for SOME anxious people to have high irritability... Get easily irritated and angry for little to no good reason. It's frustrating... but everyones anxiety is a bit different.
Thank you so much for sharing those axioms. 😊
My anxiety has really been horrible lately. I’ve always had social anxiety but lately it’s been severe. I used to not even try to be around people except when I had to at work. Since I retired it has been worse. But days like today give me hope. I started the day doing a group activity and I was so anxious. Tonight I went to my granddaughters game at high school and that is usually extremely uncomfortable for me. So many strangers in close proximity. I actually had a good time. I interacted with a few strangers and I could tell my daughter was very happy I felt reasonably at ease. I have recently been able to tell myself no matter what happens it’s not going to do permanent harm to me. No matter what happens my family will be there for me and life will go on. It has been helping.
STOP❌
1️⃣ avoiding things that make you feel anxiety (do them!)
2️⃣ using stimulants (caffeine, sugar, alcohol and etc.)
3️⃣ doing nothing (be busy!)
4️⃣ eating like crap and skipping meals
5️⃣ doing everything by yourself (ask for help & delegate)
6️⃣ treating yourself as an untrustworthy person (if not today you will do it later!)
I've watched so many psychologists try to help and explain anxiety and depression. You are the ONLY doctor that can explain the way i truly feel. The way you decribe anxiety is how I feel on a daily basis. I just thank you for reaching out to people and being able to relate, because you've been there done that. You are one amazing doctor and i can't thank you enough for the all your help!!!!❤❤❤❤
Wow..I have been watching you this last 6 months or so...your ability to communicate in detail my existence, thoughts, and life....blows my mind..I just never believed another person on the planet could honestly " get it"...I am 61 years old...61 years of trying to get through it alone. Thank you for putting yourself out there for the rest of us!❤
My pleasure 😊
@@DrScottEilers Be careful..?? Read between the lines.!
@@DrScottEilersit's the booze.
@tristanbulluss9386 I wish...I haven't had any since I was 25...thought it was adding to the anxiety..so I was done with it.
@@debbieford4685 how longs that?.
After you have had a panic attack trusting yourself is difficult and I didn't even realize this until recently. My therapist has explained this and I'm working on it.
Wow
Are you ok now?have you recovered?
I went through comments, and it is very sad to see a lot of people struggling with anxiety, God bless you all! But just sitting and doing nothing will never help you, you are the first person to help yourself. I have anxieties too, sometimes it is horrible, but I fight it through sport, watching videos like this, reading. Start with small steps, but make it consistent and add little by little. As you feel the difference don’t stop, keep going until you win over it. Believe and act🙏🏼
thank you for this video, it is really helpful.
Yes. Thanks for the great video and may all who read this be blessed and know you are never alone if you look around
I can attest to that. It's uncomfortable for sure.
@@RichardWagenknecht Hi - hope you feel better soon. Vitamin supplements and exercise e.g. walking really helped me. Give it a try.
As someone who has dealt with depression for 14 years now, anxiety just randomly came into the picture about a year ago and has been debilitating ever since. My anxiety has made my stomach hurt almost daily and has prevented me from traveling which I was still able to do with my depression, but I also find it extremely difficult to leave my house anymore. Thank you for taking the time to share these with us. I hope they help make a difference.
I had horrible stomach aches from anxiety starting at age 11. Over the years I learned to calm myself with breathing techniques, exercise, and asking myself “What’s the worst that can happen”? This video supports my need to have a knitting project on hand, or other project. I also got therapy. When I was in the grips of a stomach ache, a doctor gave me the best advice: no alcohol or caffeine plus do get exercise. Another doctor gave me a little blue pill with mild calming properties that I keep on hand but rarely need anymore. Tackle your mental problems as soon as possible. For me, driving an old car and investing in therapy instead, when I was younger, has led to a happier life. Of course, my anxiety was more situational. My husband’s is genetic and requires anxiety medication.
Your sharing the most intimate details of your life journey is an inexpressible blessing to thousands, maybe even millions of other people.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
true facts!
I’ve suffered for 30 years and I’m tired of it. But I do like being alone. But it’s the fear of everything I’m so tired of it. Crazy things that have no rational. Xx
Help. I'm. Home. Don't drive. 5:31
Well scoot over cause I'm in the boat with you. Haha
I remember being very little and telling the family doctor that my tummy always hurt and he asked me to describe "hurt" and I said I feel like there's a whole bunch of butterflies flying around in my tummy all the time and making it dizzy. He asked basic questions like did it happen when I was doing or this or that or the other. I said it's ALL the time. Everyday when I wake up til bedtime. Welcome to generalized anxiety disorder was the diagnosis. It never stops, never takes a break. Even if I have nothing that needs done and I'm free to just sit back relax watch a movie, play a game on my phone, sit outside and enjoy the sunset. I still cant relax and I still have the anxiety.
Like you said, I am so sick and tired of feeling this way and I am tired of being afraid of everything because I know that my anxiety is going to interfere so intrusively that it's just better for me mentally to avoid everything and stay in my comfort zone of home.
I am able to socialize when I do go out and about to take care of errands and things like that. It's just getting myself out there to begin with. The dread of having to get out of the car and go inside the Walmart or something, even tho it's the same one I've gone to for years, the anxiety of going inside is overwhelming and then I try to get back to my car and go home as quickly as possible.
Im not "afraid" of anything in the store, I'm not afraid of people, there's not a specifically particular reason that this act of going inside causes difficulty for me. It's just the act in it of itself that spikes my anxiety through the roof and I just dont get it. It happens with Everything and I'm so tired of dealing with it but it's literally all I've ever known and nothing seems to help.
Just don't tip over this boat we're both in tho, OK? Lol
Oh hell. It's worse than I thought. Rereading that I see that apparently I even have anxiety with imaginary things. 🤦🏼
@@KatSpade1018 I can relate in every single word you wrote. I have agoraphobia and also generalized anxiety disorder. So tired.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@KatSpade1018 bless you, but you literally explained it so well.
It’s nice to know we aren’t alone though isn’t it.
I wish I had a magic wand.
I’ve lived so long with it I really don’t know anything else. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but yet somehow I hide it well. Only my nearest and dearest know so it’s a fight of will power and strength at times, which must mean we are incredibly strong - ironic isn’t it!
Wishing you all the best for you. ❤️
I fight with anxiety each and every day, but I fight with it, I'm not giving up, even when sometimes I'm getting my ass kicked by it and I can hardly stand up, I always try and do it, to stand up and keep on going. And if I can, as someone who didn't really achieved anything special in its life then anyone can do it and that's what I believe in with all my heart.
Thanku
If you’ve ever had anxiety, remember that you are a survivor. Pat yourself on the back today, and take it one day at a time.
So true!!!
It’s so tough
Anxiety has fucked me up unbelievably bad.
I'm looking forward to this one. Anxiety definitely consumes my life. Its terrible. Would love to be able to fix it.
Same.. it's exhausting 😔
❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
I agree…please know you’re not alone.
Same !
Me too its torture 😫
In my mid 50's, I began to experience debilitating anxiety. I enjoyed my social life, and my career. Over time, however, I avoided social gatherings, and was having difficulty at work. Finally told my GP, who prescribed Sertraline 100mg. Totally changed my life for the better. I fully realize that medication is not the only solution, but the benefits for me have been beyond what I hoped. All the best...Mark
1. Stretch your mind by putting it into challenges. Don't avoid tasks.
2. Avoid stimulants like coffee, energy drinks etc
3. Keep your mind busy and occupied
4. Food is energy for brain. Don't skip meals and pay attention to your nutrition
5. Don't expect yourself to do each and everything all alone. Ask for help
6. Stop treating yourself like an untrustworthy person
Just some key points I recall from the video :)
thanks i prefer read, listen someone talk too long its anxious...hahahaha 😉
I'd probably add that stimulants can be much more than that - like video games, UA-cam, binge-watching, etc.
"avoid stimulants" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅😅😅😮💨
"ask for help" 😂😂😂😂😂😂 what help?
Unfortunately, my anxiety is right in too many cases, which is how I end up getting burned out & abandoned 🤦🏽♀️
Notes I took while listening
Stop
1. avoiding, start challenging yourself and get out of your comfort zone
2. using stimulants
3. doing nothing, give yourself projects and hobbies
4. eating crap and skipping meals
5. trying to do everything yourself
6. treating yourself as an untrustworthy person
"my brain will [...] extrapolate every possible worst case scenario for everything that's happening in my life right now".
I live exactly the same way. It's debilitating.
I’m 60 years old and I’ve struggled with anxiety nearly all my life.
I’m not far off your age and is in it amazing we are actually here. But it’s not the way we choose to live is it, we learn to live with it, and that makes it sad but doable. I hope you’re okay. Big hugs.
@@MaryLove-d5w 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I'm sometimes i ask myself is it really getting better...
I am in my 60s and suffered panic attacks all my life. Benzos help but I feel I'm pill shamed due to taking a small amount of them...
@sharon8121 in only 32 and I feel shamed for getting professional help and being prescribed a medication to calm my over thinking. I feel like people don't understand my point of view and most people that care about me tell me I need to stop taking my meds bcuz 'I shouldn't have anxiety'
I have anxiety bad too, but I find it. Prayer is a key to helping anxiety.
Amen
Yes. God never said life would be easy, but prayer DEFINITELY helps me.
Same. When I feel like I need run out the door, prayer is only thing that calms me down.
@@FascinatingFacts562truth
I need help 😢😢
The art of not giving a f*** is an awesome skill and having a good sense of humor goes a long way.
I started getting real bad anxiety attacks, it helps to listen to other people who work through it each day.
Hi - hope you feel better soon. Vitamin supplements and exercise e.g. walking really helped me. Give it a try.
@@rogerfournier3284 You can take online sessions from me
@@sciencetest8vitamins Xanax, Valium and Kolonopin 😃 Jk. Lol. If vitamins cured anxiety then there would be no reason for medication to be invented.
Tomorrow I start school. For the past two years I’ve been hiding away due to anxiety. I don’t drive. I don’t really leave my house. And anxiety is telling me I’m not able to do this. But the first step is doing. So I’m going to show up tomorrow. I have done so much better and I know I can do it. I’m just scared but that’s something that I have to accept. I really hope it goes well and that I keep this confidence. I owe it to myself. And if anyone else is doing the first step, we’ve got this. We have anxiety and that’s ok.
Please post how it went. We care...and we can learn from you. Thanks!
@@Melly3112-ox3ey oh wow, I didn’t expect anyone to want an update. I appreciate it! ❤️
Well it was extremely nerve wracking. I couldn’t sleep the night before. And the day of , as I was getting ready, I felt a pressure on my chest. I also felt like I couldn’t take any full breaths in. If you know that feeling, I’m sorry. But I just gave myself pep talks the entire time. I told myself. I can feel this way and I will still be ok. I can feel scared. I can feel like my world is shifting and off balance and I will still be ok. So I got in the car and put some peaceful instrumental music on. (I was being driven btw. I have driving anxiety so that’s next on conquering) and I just accepted the sensations that I was feeling. I embraced and accepted that I was anxious because despite it , I was going to be ok. So I finally got to school and I went in class , and I sat down. It was so quiet bc ofc I showed up an hour early lol. And I just took deep breaths and reminded myself that I could do this. Then ppl came in and I realized I had put myself in the corner ! In the back and I started to think and spiral on what ifs. What if I had to get up , it was tight seating so I would bump into ppl. What if I tripped. What if and what if. And I could feel the panic rising , so I got my scrunchy that is like a bracelet and I just started to fidget. And I was able to breathe and calm down. Then ofc it’s the first class and I had to introduce myself !! I was then again spiraling, what if I embarrass myself. What if I stutter( which I tend to do ) what if what if. And then I get the news , you in the back, we’re starting with you, and I was so nervous and anxious. Mind you , I don’t talk to anyone , so I went and introduced myself. And after I realized, wow this wasn’t as scary as I thought. And I leaned into that feeling and I actually started to enjoy the class ! 30 min later and we had to talk to someone near us, and I did it ! I actually had a conversation with two random strangers. And I was able to do it. And I did not perish. lol. A bit dramatic but anxiety tends to have you believe that. I even made a friend I think. Overall, it wasn’t as bad as I had made myself to believe and picture. I mean the first thirty minutes I was ready to run out of that class. But I didn’t. I willed myself to stay and try. And I think that’s all we can do with anxiety. Is try. And be willing to do the hard stuff. But ofc anxiety is a b**** and wants to make me her b**** and these past two days it wants me to believe that I won’t be able to do it next week. That it was just a fluke. And I’m working on not believing it. So next week I’m going to show up. Despite the doubt and physical symptoms of anxiety. Oh and it’s also bc next Tuesday we’re going to be told our group members bc we have to do a group presentation 😭😭 so it is nerve wracking to have to do that for my first class. But hopefully it all goes ok.
So that’s how it went. I hope it wasn’t too long. But thank you for checking in and wanting an update !
@@jaz_899Was really interesting to read your story. Wish you a fun time and that everything works out!
@@jaz_899cool to see people in the same situation as me. Getting to class early has been helpful. Just have grace with yourself.
@@jaz_899I have driving anxiety too 😭
Dr Scott, your first hand experience puts you so far above the rest of your professional peers! Thanks for your courage to take a different approach, and for sharing so many practical resources! We appreciate you! 🙏🏽
Thank you so much Mitch! 🙏🏼
@DrScottEilers I can't agree more! Thank you Dr Scott! I was telling my husband about how the not trusting myself/ having to do everything right then and he said hiw that was me to a tee. Alo g with black/white thinking from EatingD
@anubischick be nice fragile people abound on here, and negativity doesn't help. Someone was just thanking him. No harm done.
@anubischick I'd have to say you sound a little butt-hurt, she says in that self righteous tone... You take life too seriously..
Wow! I've heard about conflicts in the comments but it's never actually happened to ME before!😅My intention for donating $10 wasnt for anyone to send judgemental comments his way or cause him any bad publicity. @anubischick - I did it because therapy costs $150 a session these days, and yet his videos I receive absolutely for free! Based on his popularity I know I'm not alone in that we all get so much more value here than with an actual 1on1 therapy session elsewhere, and so I don't want him to stop making them! I know that not everyone has a self help budget, but me sharing less than a tenth of what a therapy session would cost me IRL for receiving even more practical value in return seems like the LEAST i could do, it's a steal! He's taken a big risk exposing his personal experience to the world, and going against the grain in his approach, you know how rigid doctors are, they don't always shoot straight, so much political ambiguity in their communication, which has it's purpose surely to not expose them to unnecessary risk so that they can help more people, but Dr Scott is recognizing a a big gap in care and taking personal risks to fill it, we need more people like that in the world, and in the capitalist society we live in it's soo important that people are financially incentivized to take risks for the good of others, that should be rewarded! Anyway, I hope more people that have a self-help or therapy budget see the logic, and the huge savings and consider doing the same so that Dr Scott gets back a FRACTION of the value he's putting out into the world. I'm not saying replace your care with UA-cam just that it's a great compliment, for the millions of people that just can't afford weekly therapy sessions. Btw-he mentions he's also a full time doctor, aside from his full family and personal life. Do we really want him responding to all the comments so that we don't get our feelings hurt, or do we actually prefer he prioritize his limited free time helping more people and focusing on the bigger picture? Also, I don't think it's greedy to thank someone for having received value in what you provided and giving you a fraction of that value back in money, he was just doing the polite thing, someone gave him cash, you'd do that same as well naturally, no need to vilanize him for it, we don't do it when anyone else says thank you at checkout. Anyway, hope that offers a different perspective. And I hope by donating again in the future anyone else avoids jumping to negative asumptions and instead considers donating as well. Thanks for reading!
8:00 doing “nothing” was/is my #1 trigger. I feel this vague panic rising as I sit (and maybe even scroll social media, Tv, etc- a stimulant IMO), which i later realized was anxiety due to my knowing I was doing something that contributed to my poor wellbeing yet was actively ignoring it and “freezing”. The anxiety rose from the cognitive dissonance.
What do you do to combat it?
The usual way to combat this isn't the way this video suggested (always filling your time with things) and is that you should accept your anxious thoughts but not react to them. To begin with you can address your thoughts (say "no, it's not likely that i'm going to die if I leave the house", and then leave the house), and then as time goes on, maybe only answer 30% of them, and then eventually just 1 in 5, and then stop answering them at all and eventually you reprogram yourself. The signals and hyper vigilance come from an overactive amygdala and with this type of exposure you can change it in around 2 weeks.
But if what you're asking is how to not be stressed when you're doing nothing just because this isn't productive, then you could ask yourself "what's stopping me from doing something that I actually want to do now" .. sometimes you need to rest, sometimes there's something blocking you that you need to give yourself space to think about, etc
@@qtip4747
3 weeks from quitting weed and the anxiety has been crippling. 1) I have intermittent fasting pretty much my entire life and I never knew this could be feeding my anxiety. I can t tell you how much I needed this and it's a clear call to action with steps I can start today.
i used to be so care free ... outgoing .. full of life .... now i stand at my apartment door taking deep breaths and mentally preparing myself to take out the garbage .. i dont know how i got to this point ...but im so extremely thankful for the advice!
I'm sorry but i just laughed at the garbage taking because i can relate to that so well 😅 if you really think about it, what is there to be scared of?
How many lives has this channel transformed?? What a great blessing
I definitely struggle with anxiety. I have missed so many opportunities in my life because of it. In pretty much all aspects of life. I ended up just accepting that's the way I am, but hate it when I know it's holding me back from a really meaningful life. I did somewhat defeat it once but had some events in my life that I can't change bring it on worse then it ever was. Once again starting all over again........ it's tiring.
Right there with you, it is crippling
Your first 4 sentences so accurately describe my life too.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@thoos192 Hi, I have Coeliac and my daughter started out with symptoms of Coeliac, but it didn't show up with the Edoscopy. The villi inside of the small intestine is what absorbs nutrients. In Coeliacs this gets flattened by reaction to gluten. Yes it causes lots of anxiety, from lack of nutrients, or in some people from gluten affecting them but villi not damaged.
I relate to you so much! As a therapist myself, my own struggle with anxiety is absolutely the thing I pull from the most when I work with clients who are struggling with anxiety. I am my own case study/evidence that anxiety can get better because (using many of the same techniques) I've also managed to control my anxiety to a degree I'm very proud of. Thanks Doc!
I thought therapists didn’t have anxiety, I don’t know why lol
I wake up in the middle of the night with panic attacks. Hoping watching videos like this helps me figure it out.
I'm having major anxiety right now. I've been on the internet too much today. I had way more coffee than I usually do. I'm tired. It's helpful seeing this video just when I needed it most. Thank you.
I recommend unplugging sometimes and going to do an hour or more walk with some music going. Exercise has helped me lately a lot. If I do an hour to 90 min. walk,
I sleep like a baby! No matter what. I recommend walking or running with music, because for me it helps me just focus on my fave music and walking and filters
out the anxiety.
@thiscorrosion900 Thank you. Normally, I do walk and ride my bike. I meditate and do pilates. But, not on that day. Plus, I have GAD (generalized anxiety disorder), and sometimes it overwhelms me.
@@lisac996 Lisac996 hi! I"m no great athlete and never was. Years ago I was skinny anyway and went out dancing all the time at clubs, etc. I was never a big gym guy. At times. Lately I'm trying to stick to 90 min. of hard walking about 4x a week. I might buy a bike, too. Anyway, I hear you and I've been through that and a lot worse.
The aspartame and sucralose in diet drinks and foods, is horrendously destabilizing to mental health. A low fat diet is also horrendously destabilizing to mental health. Eating overprocessed imitation foods is the same as well. Eat and drink natural foods and drink, get away from the phones and computers, get outside, and leave your junk alone, half the time, and you'll meet someone, to be with, that likes you. Lastly, stop hating that person in the mirror. Be their best friend. Good luck, you got this.
Yes! Self contempt is destroying us! Forgive self as well as others! FEAR=False Evidence Appearing Real!
It's interesting you mention get outside. I never have anxiety out in nature. It's when I'm in the artificial constructs of humanity that the anxiety and anger sets in.
I look in the mirror and I don't even recognize myself. I've never really found myself.. if that makes sense
Sucralose is just a glucose attached to a starch molecule, meaning you can taste sweet but can't absorb it since the starch is too big. This has nothing to do with mental health.
Useful advice. Since I cut out sugary drinks, I have been resorting to some diet beverages, so need to find alternatives. Also good advice to get out, even if it means taking a walk. I have met some nice folks just walking short distances.
67 and lifelong anxiety… cutting down on caffeine tomorrow, thank you for showing up in my feed today. I also gave up watching certain topics on UA-cam and politics for Lent and I’m 11 days in and already feeling a wee bit better. Thank you🙏🏼ps laughing w recognition on projects through college degrees and then in work.
Wow I almost burst into tears watching this. I’ve never had my symptoms described so perfectly. Thank you for putting these videos out and for opening up to complete strangers about your own struggles and experiences.
Yup, your not alone this also described many things to a t for me, best advice I can give you is, constantly work on it, so you don't go backwards, and things will get better if you do this and get outta your comfort zone, also practicing, really practicing being in the moment, will also help, it's not gonna change over night, but you can change
Heather you can overcome it!
Life is short…very short. I hope you can just live and put anxiety behind you 👊🏼
My anxiety is soo bad. It feels like a rocky Balboa has pummeled my stomach. I have mdd and PTSD and anxiety. It just feels like impending doom. I can't hardly function. And it's so much worse at night. I'm not hungry so therefore I'm not eating. I won't let myself sleep. I am 47 years old tomorrow January 5. I just feel doomed since birth and I have soooo many regrets.
I let anxiety cause me to have no friends. Thankfully with the support of my boyfriend and lots of effort I have been able to heal and see positive results. Just my boyfriend and I for now and that’s ok.
I suffered with extreme anxiety throughout the 2000s . I was sent to a clinical psychologist at the Royal Free hospital in London.
The guy was a “professor” he was utterly useless and disinterested, he was yawning during my consultation. His phone was on vibrate and rattling on his desk . A dreadful experience and left me feeling totally unsupported.
He’s retired now thank God .
My anxiety has dissipated over the years no thanks to medical professionals.
God I wish I could have you as a therapist. Young guy who knows how it feels. I feel everything you say, cause I'm in my 20s and have been in the shit my whole life.
It can change. Trust and pray about that. Small changes just a little at a time moving yourself into a better mindset and place. Trust and believe that you can. Expect to have difficult times. There's something to the old saying, "Fake it until you make it." And that's really just doing the things you know you need to do. God Bless!
I have found it hard to relate to a therapist because a lot of them who don't experience anxiety are just speaking from things they have heard or have been told about anxiety, but it is so complex and when a therapist has actually experienced it (god forbid), i would think it would help in treating it, at least with a more understanding approach
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 absolutely on point. We are unhealthy partly and in some cases completely caused by a food supply with toxic chemicals and little to no nutritional value. Look up NPK which is nitrogen, phosphorus and potassium which are the primary fertilizer chemicals which produce big plants, but the soil lacks the other minerals so those vegetables do little for nutrition.
Leaky gut destroys mental and emotional functions and overall health and vitality. Get these things under control and you (original post author) will feel and do better! God Bless!
Timing on stimulants is important too! Since caffeine hangs around your body for several hours, an afternoon cup(s) of coffee can throw off and disrupt that night's sleep...leading to bad sleep, more coffee, and a big anxiety spiral cycle. It helped me a lot to just watch the timing and still enjoy a morning cup. Great video!!
Wow, that part of not trusting your future self really hits hard. So, so accurate.
I had debilitating anxiety for years. People who don’t have it cannot imagine what it’s like. I understand some of the adjustments or strategies that you discuss in this video. I’m not sure if strategies would have been enough for me. There’s the issue of complex trauma growing up in a difficult environment, not experiencing a healthy sense of connection with family members and a great deal of shame
Unlock the secrets to overcoming anxiety and depression with this incredible video! As someone who has battled with these challenges since childhood, I can confidently say that his advice is spot on. His compassion and understanding are truly remarkable. I am sharing this video on my Facebook page so others can benefit from his expertise. While there are many strategies that have helped me, accepting things outside of my control has been crucial. Silence and mindfulness have also played a significant role in reducing my anxiety. Remember, your brain needs rest, and constant busyness is not sustainable. Start small and focus on self-discipline, nutrition, and accepting yourself just as you are. Let go of the past and focus on the present, taking baby steps towards improvement. May you find peace and happiness on your journey!
I am so thrilled that I stumbled upon you on You Tube!! I’m 66 and have been having a huge struggle with ongoing anxiety for far too long!! You gave me excellent info so I can begin to take better care of myself to help the others. Thank you!
Dr. Eilers you are my twin. The 6 bad habits except for stimulants I do. Avoidance is my HUGE default to a point I have limited my life to the point, no long lasting relationships, not wanting children so they don't get my anxiety/depression because how can I help them if I can't help myself. My anxiety has kept me from challenging myself socially and professionally. Plus everything else you mention as trusting my future self and put my trust in others because it won't be as perfect as I want it to be.
After listening to you for a while now, I've decided to work on the big 3: Improve my mental health, my body by eating better and exercising and finally spiritually.
I'm so glad I found you because I do exactly what you spoke about in this video.
I'm still a work in progress and most likely will be until I die.
You didn't say one single thing that made me roll my eyes. I bought your book and I'm reading it now.
Some people have constant heavy circumstances and needs that go un
met that are the contributors to anxiety, which is what brings on hopelessness
I resorted to drinking my anxiety away at 19, I now have a damaged liver and 3 years of my life gone bc of this. Getting back on your feet is the hardest part but god the process is beautiful. I WILL NOT LET ANXIETY WIN!
This was the best video I’ve ever watched about anxiety. In such a short video, I took away way more than all the therapy sessions I’ve had. Thank you!
Yes, get them all. It's lots harder when your 70 and alone.
I'm 16 And thank God I've got my whole life to fight anxiety
I hope you succeed too
@@marshmellowpenguin2 That's actually a good mindset to have about anxiety. It became chronic for me at around 20 years old. You have more tools and instant information on everything now days. You could find out where it comes from and maybe beat it or super manage it. I would stay away from female therapists because being anxious and quickly flustered is a normal state of living for them. I didn't know that when I was 16.
@@orangeandslinky Thanks for the advice hahaha,
Fortunately my anxiety is not chronic, but it has severely destroyed more than a year of my life
🙏
When I think about anxiety and my brain, I think about a saying I've heard dog trainers say about Border Collies and other smart dogs: If you don't give them a job or task to do, they will find and make one for themselves. And you will not like the task they make for themselves, because it's probably destructive.
Children are the same,humans too. We need purpose
Alright, Dr. Eilers, I'm gonna take you up this.
I have been struggling with anxiety for the past few months and it has gotten to the point where I wake up and am already at max stress level.
I need relief.
So I will try my best to break my patterns and get back into control.
I have lived a life so full of anxiety. what your saying may seem funny to some, like an MRI isn't any problem for some, but for people like me it's one of the most fearful things to endure. Panic situations are terrible. I am so appreciative of your videos. I believe a lot of people with anxiety go to stimulants which like you said are just another issue to overcome. I like your sense of humor .I feel as though I chose a career or it worked out that way that was a hostile environment for me. I went into the military right out of high school and received the Meritorious service award. I was not as stressed in basic as I was every day at the hospital. I was in a good career with the military, it was not a hostile environment for me. My panic attacks were terrible my entire career in a hospital and I was the go to guy that seems to have it all together. I did awesome, but no one knew it was pure fear. I needed to hear about eating. I have almost stopped eating. I eat just to live . I realize that has to change. I have been looking for mental help and I feel great about your channel. I have anxiety bad and I have been eating very little but eat healthy. I have low blood sugar levels for several years. I keep candy because of low blood sugar. Thank you. For me. Step 1 is diet.
Working on my debilitating anxiety, agoraphobia, panic disorder, and depression. I have a therapy appt today. We are working on cognitive behavioral therapy.
Wouldn't wish this on anyone. I haven't been more than 30 minutes from home in TWO years.
Don’t end up like me-it’s been 8 years imprisoned in my home 😢
Same….five years here….don’t leave home…mental prison 😢
@GabbyEsq next month is two years for me in therapy and I’m doing exposure therapy. Two years! It’s very difficult. My therapist says because I’ve had anxiety all my life and it began to become agoraphobia 11 years ago that it’s going to take time. I wanna know how much time!!?! I’m wishing you all the best!
I was that person, thank the Father above I have mostly overcome it. I speak to my fear, "go ahead, give me your best shot". It took a lot of time but I eventually started slaying the dragon
@@AmyInArizona I've been in cognitive behavioral/exposure therapy for a year and a half.
I really relate to your experience. Thanks for sharing. I remember genuinely believing I would never feel happy again or gain the will to live my life, and yet today I am thriving. I love hearing from people on the other side of mental illness. Glad you're in a good place now.
Thank you for making this video. I've suffered with anxiety my whole life, largely due to the complicated relationship I've had with the disability I was born with, cerebral palsy. Throughout my life, lots of non-disabled people I've known, even among friends, family, and romantic partners, have expressed in myriad ways that despite my proclivities and relative direction in life, I'm confined simply because I'm in a wheelchair. As you may gather, I've obsessed over that conclusion for the longest time. Essentially, you go through this cycle of feeling like your presence in someone's life will never be genuine. During the day, I'd be fine, but at night, I'd be kept up by defeatist thoughts that tell me things like "Don't bother shooting your shot with that woman; she doesn't date wheelchairs" "Even if you accomplish things in life, they're null and void just because you're in a wheelchair," or the biggest one, "Why are you trying to live a life that's not meant for cripples like you?"
At the end of the day, these are merely thoughts more than anything else. You make a good point to say a better diet helps, as well as stimulating your brain from consistent exercise. That way, it becomes even easier to manage those thoughts that may spring up from time to time. Working on yourself, especially when you're alone, can feel lonely at times, given how often those you've trusted in the past seemed to look for excuses to cut you out of their lives. It could just be that I haven't found my people yet. I've tried, but those I've had a vested interest in want little to do with me. For the time being, it's better to focus 100% on myself.
I just love this. And yes, it is lonely to work on yourself for many reasons, one of which is that most people neglect this responsibility.
I recall the exact moment that I lost control of my anxiety and became debilitating at 33… I just got the first dose of Moderna in Oct. 06 2021 and I felt like I was having a heart attack and the tech/LPN just looked at me and basically said to chill but didn’t take vitals??? Then said I’ll be back in a bit to check on you.. in a panic plus rage I peeled out of the parking lot drive to the hospital. Half way there I started feeling better and ended up driving home. A week later I passed out standing up and had chest pains… went to bed after. Woke up next morning with pain still and then went to the hospital by lunchtime. Heart check out okay… doctors kept saying you’re young and your heart is fine, but never found a root cause and released me the next day after testing. Almost 3 years later and I still feel the same… awful. I’ve gotten over test anxiety as a kid and this never felt like anxiety but here we are again looking for answers for an undiagnosed vaccine injury…
Sleep, healthy food, exercise. Someone to talk to. And find out which way works best for you to deal with negative, maybe overwhelming emotions. For me, I use meditations from Plum Village (Zen Buddhist). I am not a Buddhist, I just use their techniques.
The whole "This has to all happen TODAY" segment... so completely relatable and helpful. I have Todoist and I can literally schedule things in the future, and I need to use that feature!!!
That’s what I use!
I consider that a ringing endorsement! I've found it very helpful so far. I have daily reminders for some of the most basic yet important things (check cat water, litter boxes) and it utteryly helps. Also helps me realize how much I DO do.
I live in Ukraine and we have explosions and bombings very often…air raids. I am very anxious often. Still not using medication but it’s really hard to manage anxiety when I live almost 2 years in the war zone…
Your points are really important. I am skipping meals in the morning, drink coffee and feel terrible…anxious…I need to guide my child to kindergarten and walk my dog so don’t have much time for breakfast. And these morning habits are doing me not a good favor…need to switch to decaf and plan my breakfast from the evening, it’s very important, because hypoglycemia feels terrible and together with terrible news always makes me very anxious. I am learning nutrition, so I basically eat balanced meals, go to the gym in the evening 1-3 times per week but mornings for me are the hardest because of hard sleepless nights, caffeine and low glucose
I'm really sorry for what is happening in your country. I pray for peace and wisdom to be granted to these "leaders" who are causing this disaster. God Bless you and your family and country.
So sorry you and others in your country are going through such horrible circumstances. I send you loving good thoughts.
@@NancyRamey-oz7gn Nancy! Thank you very much for support ❤️❤️❤️
@@johnnytacokleinschmidt515 thank you! You are absolutely right! “Leaders” are solving their political issues while we ukrainians (women, men and children) are killed by ruzzians in our own homes…it’s terrible disaster
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Thank you so much for giving real practical advice on anxiety! I can see how much you understand the topic from personal experience. I am making big strides, myself, and greatly appreciate when people talk about how our habits and behaviors keep us ruled by anxiety. In my past experiences over the years dealing with anxiety I was told by psychiatrists that it was "just the way I was", and needed to take medications that only ended up backfiring by making my physical and mental health far worse. For reference, I ended up with Serotonin Syndrome that came on slowly but got to a point where I was critically ill when it was finally diagnosed. Freeing myself from this vicious cycle and taking back my own brainpower to address the underlying issues has given me a whole new perspective and way of coping.
That resonates 100%, terrified to find a job, to make a call, to meet someone I like in person after talking online...brain creates worst scenarios in my head
Me too.
One of the most informative and to the point, smart videos on managing this terrible condition ive seen .
Same same same same!!! My anxiety have consumed the important part of my life. My 20's was ruin.. im in my 30's closing in on 40 and still have this anxiety lingering.
This video is filled with so much hope and encouragement...from someone who gets it and has actually done all the work. I cannot thank you enough!! I 100% believe it can be overcome and your story proves it.
All six make perfect sense to me. I am currently struggling/adapting to number three. Anhedonia had me mostly nonfunctional for the past five months. Overwhelm, anxiety, depression ruled and I caved to it all. I began to practice the other five 'fixes' on my own about a month ago, coincidentally. Now, involved in a task easily gets me into a zone, even a state of flow. As soon as I take a break...the rumination returns! I'm certain that number 6 is the issue with this. Fear that I will not allow myself to complete a task (no trust in myself with the 'future') stems from early cPTSD trauma-induced failure imprinting. That particular malady is a tenacious and difficult one to remedy...I am working to give myself evidence, through consistent current achievement, that the old mental program was wrong; and no longer needs to be followed.
When you say failure imprinting - is it a persistent fear that you will fail at the next thing you have to do because you failed at something big in the past? My self-esteem crashed in university, and while I eventually got my degree, I no longer thought of myself as 'smart'. This has come back to haunt me in job searches, and it's causing me feelings of doom and catastrophe.
@@thisgirl5933 I can relate. My high school was extremely ‘average’ and there were very low expectations of me from either my (uninvolved and self absorbed) parents, or the teachers. Got into university but had little direction in life and no idea how to study. My parents stupidly got me into one of the more traditional hostels, and I was surrounded by high achieving students doing medicine & law degrees from wealthy backgrounds. I floundered through university, failed a critical paper in my second year had to switch degrees to one I didn’t really want to do and no longer thought of myself as smart either. Took another year off then started a diploma for which I had no background in. By the time I was finished at university and looking for work I was 27 years old with an average degree behind me - not 21 or 22 as I should have been. Found work but had imposter syndrome until I finished working after my 3rd child at 39, and started doing my own psychology research. Tg for channels like this on yt as I couldn’t afford long term therapy which I really needed to understand what was going on. Now in a much better place thankfully but I do feel sad I didn’t have a happier time in my 20s.
❤ Hi Scott, your honesty and sincerity are so powerful. 😊 I have relatives that suffer from these exact same issues and as a grandmother it is so difficult for me to watch people in the state of depression and anxiety. I feel so helpless so that's why I'm going to share your videos. your voice and your experiences is exactly what these young people need to hear and see right now!! thank you so much😊
Without knowing I have done most of the things he is saying and have been able to manage anxiety. I am only missing asking for help, I will get myself help cleaning my house and more hobbies, more exercise, more reading. This is a great video do what he says it works!!
Thank you so much I was waiting for this video, I had an unusual long period of depression and anxiety for about a year and I decided this month to try to get myself out of it!
I'm taking notes! Thank you again❤
The part of asking for help is completely true cuz I was that type of "superwoman" that wants to do and deal with everything by herself but I think in long term that caused me just so much suffering and I feel like I've lost all my energy to do even little things in my life! While the solution is just ask for help as simple as it is❤
Who do I ask if I have nobody to ask?
@@thinkingallowed1st Well I'm not a professional but I'll answer you from my experience!
Just try to rebuild your relationship with your fam, your parents if they're still alive your siblings, maybe your partner, a professional...try socializing with more people around you and make your circle bigger, people whom share with you same activities/hobbies! I know it's kinda hard sometimes especially if you are an introvert, or having a depressive episode when you want just to close on yourself and just hide like I used to!
In such time of vulnerability you start thinking that you're alone and everyone/everything is against you! Sometimes just finding someone to talk to and being vocal about what's hurting you inside can give you an instant kind of relief! Maybe just "notebook" as a starting point! Or if you believe in higher being just pray! Or virtual friends! Be more vocal spit it all out!
Just believe it's just a period (transition), you're never alone!❤️❤️
Much love
I did the same, I tried to do it on my own then one day my body crashed. I couldn’t get up that day to do my daily routine. That’s when I had to share with my family what was going on. The anxiety became debilitating. At the time you feel like it is never going to go away. I am doing much better now. It took a few months. My daughter’s convinced me to sign up for therapy and it really helped a lot. It turned out that I had a lot of trapped trauma that was causing my anxiety.
Wow I feel the same I did so much then anxiety came and doesn’t leave me alone horrible symptoms it has been hard it’s been almost a year now from running a business to being scared of being alone
@Rhianna2023 being alone better than being with the person you love who makes you feel all alone when crave their touch or nice words
Ive never really had anxiety before until recently. I had open heart surgery 9 months ago and im still in recovery. Im physically doing very well but emotionally, not so great. My mom entered into hospice care in September and just passed before Christmas. I know im going thru the grieving process. But finding out about her entering hospice, no income for 4 months, dealing with all the bills that need to be paid, or else. Triggered insomnia and some anxiety. I'm working on it every day and trying to find the right people with the correct knowledge to help me. Your video just explained a load of useful items for my arsenal. Thankyou soooo much. God bless.😊
Eliminating caffeine has had an amazing effect on my anxiety disorder and my sleep. It’s completely underrated the effect it has on anxiety, I didn’t really believe it at first, but it’s been so much better since eliminating it.
caffee and booze , once they are out...peace settles
Really? I´ve been thinking about it , with energy drinks to get me going, and thought it would have a small impact on anxiety...
I just started having debilitating panic attacks and all the habits that you say cause it, I have been doing. It's crazy man. Thanks for the video.
Everything you've said in this video is literally everything I've gone through. I've experienced the panic attacks from The caffeine, The diet, The Hypoglycemia, The trust issues, etc.
This sounds like me. I'm 46 yo and struggle with extreme daily anxiety. I've recently had some mini-breakthrus, so hopefully I can keep going in the right direction.