Avoiding eye contact could also mean, the person feels generally uncomfortable in this social situation, like you tintimidate him or he has general social anxiety. Doesn't have to have anything to do with deceit or boredom. And the more brazen and remorseless liars will will tell their BS it while looking you straight in the face.
My PTSD has me scanning constantly, so I am rarely holding eye contact with others while conversing, I am usually listening and don't get bored, but if I do I will simply walk away. Its not uncomfortable for me, its hypervigilance and my mind trying to keep track of everything around me.
Avoiding eye contact can also mean the person feels shame, many applications. You need to attach other body languages and link them in to understand the picture
@@SweatyFatGuy Exactly. Or the person may be on the autism spectrum and generally not comfortable to hold eye contact. There are so many options why someone is not comfortable holding eye contact. And there are plenty of liars who don't have a problem doing it. Particularly the psychopathic or narcissistic types who feel no remorse about it and see you as an unimportant subhuman anyway.
its also known that eye contact interferes with cognition, ie closing ones eyes helps to better solve complex mathematical problems and makes it easier to recall knowledge. so looking ppl in the eyes is often an indicator of someone, as you note, who is just spewing out mindless b.s. and not actually being thoughtful.. they are relying on cheap signalling of eye contact = "respect" or "confidence", classic tools of con men.
@@petrairene sure, but I am not autistic, I only know what its like to live with PTSD for nearly your entire life. With almost everything involving human nature, its complex and nuanced. Its kinda funny though, growing up in the environment in which I did, that activated the survival mechanism we call PTSD because it doesn't fit with a polite and safe society, has made me exceptionally adept at reading non verbal communication in other people. I can tell a lot about people, if they are lying, when a girlfriend or wife is cheating or has been thinking about it, when someone intends to do harm to others... I can tell as accurately as seeing the sunrise. Its something those with autism find nearly impossible to do.
I love after all these years, Echo has not been altered from your criticism of filler words, awkward “ums”, or trailing thoughts. Even Jocko’s persistence and tenacity cannot waver the true authenticity of Echo Charles.
Serotonin governs postural flexion-how you carry yourself physically. Someone high in serotonin will literally walk with confidence-it’s one of the first things we notice about people. Shoulders hunched, head down, no eye contact-low serotonin, low confidence, avoiding social intentions-likely not the happiest person.
@@jonosay854 true but what OP was saying is somebody who lacks confidence, feels unworthy, isn’t going to be walking around joyfully, strutting with confidence and be full of happiness, and vice versa, the confident person who’s in control of his/her life isn’t gonna be scared to make eye contact and moping around, the body is the mind 🤙
I think my biggest mistakes in reading people occurred when I excluded certain possibilities or assumed that their thought process was similar to mine.
😄 People should also recognize that body language is also culturally ingrained toward social norms! Not all body language observations apply to non American cultures! I spent a lot of time amongst Asian immigrants and overseas in Japan, and my body language shifted immensely as i appropriated those things to my own behaviors while overseas, sometimes just subconsciously as i recognized it in people all around me. So, when i came back to the US, lol i kind of felt like a foreigner just because my body language was so different, and NOBODY that i knew previously could read my body language anymore! 😂 my friends kept misinterpreting my moods and facial expressions and posture, etc, so i spent a REALLY long time (years) breaking those habits to try to have American body language again, so that people understood me!!!!!
Avoiding eye contact can be for other reasons. I have a son who is autistic and I used to use the “look at me when I’m talking to you.” when he was a young child. And he would get uncomfortable and fidgety. He is non verbal, so he isn’t always able to let me know what is going on. After learning from other people who were autistic that sometimes some people can’t focus on the words when they are forced to have eye contact. The way they described it was imagine your mind taking a thousand photos a second and then trying to concentrate. Once I learned this he was able to focus more and was open to more teaching when I went against that learned behavior that I had. I could go on for days the things I have learned from my son. Now when I encounter somebody who looks away or turns their attention to another place, I use vocal questions or cues to see if they are paying attention. Because you never know if a co worker, or somebody you are just meeting is the same as my son. Just some food for thought. I love the videos, keep up the great work.
Hi Jocko and Echo, I congratulate both, all items you talk always are interesting! And as a spanish speaker your tone of voices and way of speaking helps me a lot to understand english
A Spanish speaking good English..now that's an aoutlier. I think the reason Spaniards struggle with English is that they consume very little English content. Turn on the radio majority is Spanish. Even in tv everything is dubbed.ot makes the brain lazy
I tend to listen to people better if I look away from them. I get distracted if I am looking at their face because then I start noticing facial expressions and movements instead of listening to what they are saying.
In my experience the guy was clinging and the girl wanted everything so I bailed and found someone who respected boundaries until they didn’t until I eventually met my partner of 8 years, she’s a badass! I don’t regret any of them, and I love the music collections.
It can also mean they could be under MAGIC spells and the Jinn 👽 🧞 Shayateen. Also, very dilated pupils within drug's is a HUGE SIGN of DEMONIC possession.
I've noticed intimidation is a big issue when it comes to making eye contact, especially when you have extremely bad RBF in my case ... it also makes me not want to make eye contact as much either to avoid awkwardness or more intimidation because I'm a friendly guy for the most part and don't want people feeling intimidated or uncomfortable 😕
Don’t try to posture/peacock your body language, work on being the person you wanna be then just be authentic Be comfortable with eye contact and silence and pauses and conflict (Once you were no longer nervous with her (because you told/spoke to her the truth and the reaction/result was positive) you practiced staring at her without breaking eye contact when she was talking and when you were talking to her (you need to work on when you’re talking though because you have a habit of looking away when talking to people). You also became less nervous and more able to make unbreaking long eye contact when you noticed/realized she was nervous too (it’s like you got the power back in the dynamic and it’s like she was more humanized and less mythologized/scary. The dragon became smaller and you became more powerful)
@@Red_AIert You're welcome. Yeah, I've felt the same thing. Like it was "vibes" or energy I was picking up on, but I guess it was just body language. Either way, fascinating subject.
I used to not look my boss in the eyes and it was for none of those reasons. I've been told when I look people in the eye I make people uncomfortable, so I keep eye contact down to a minimum
A flat sixty percent also.. that meana the study is small and likely made up for one person to use in their sale pitch.. Also people who quote a political opinion study.. and the study is funded by a political group in some other eastern european lab that was literally funded to develop a study with a set result, so they can use it in said sale pitch... i could prove this deeper on many subjects lately.
Not making eye contact can also be an indication that we're dealing with a visual processor; that type of person may be an Associative Process oriented individual. This is why I really like the show: Lie to me. The body language is important, but it's all relative. And that is why, when dealing with individuals, it is absolutely *imperative* to establish a Standard. PS "When someone looks to the left, they're lying." Ya? Well, what if they're left handed? 🤔 PPS Mentalist
Don't know about anyone else, but I rarely, if ever, look in people's eyes. I'm normally looking at their mouth because tinnitus interferes with me hearing clearly.
I was talking to a clinet of mine who I think agrees with me on political/social issues so I noticed tonight I didn't look him in the eye when I talked about isssues I care deeply about.
Language of the BODY no one pays attention cause there faces are in technology. paying attention is free intuitive n instincts are under valued assets to utilize in every day life . If we are internal beings then nothing on the outside can affect us until it’s dangerous. Also civilians n law enforcement need to learn fearless is not dangerous. And to train on evaluating the difference!!! soap box 📦
You have to watch for twitches in eyes... An indicator of a angry tick or ... Think of the Pink panther movie... When the inspector hates cluseau!*** (Sp) 😂🤣😂🤣😂🧐🧐🧐😂🤣😂🤣😂
Jockos podcast ruined me Now when I listen to another podcast it's never really up to this level jocko set the bar pretty damn high, never an add in the middle of it and always straight into the meat
Unfortunately a lot of these are also symptoms/manurisms developed through traumatic situations. But I'm sure the comments section will be absolute in their cognitive deciphering in their social interactions (sarcasm).
depending on his popularity rates, but i think 2024 is too early. not sure how well known he is among americans that are not into military, fighting, discipline stuff like most of us are
FYI all of these things can be valuable and they’re essentially useless without a baseline. Eye contact for example. If you know someone to normally make eye contact and then there’s an aversion that has meaning. Just some random person not making eye contact could mean they’re autistic not dishonest.
Jocko is underated still doing great service to mankind with these platforms
1.5 million subscribers is underrated?
Avoiding eye contact could also mean, the person feels generally uncomfortable in this social situation, like you tintimidate him or he has general social anxiety. Doesn't have to have anything to do with deceit or boredom. And the more brazen and remorseless liars will will tell their BS it while looking you straight in the face.
My PTSD has me scanning constantly, so I am rarely holding eye contact with others while conversing, I am usually listening and don't get bored, but if I do I will simply walk away. Its not uncomfortable for me, its hypervigilance and my mind trying to keep track of everything around me.
Avoiding eye contact can also mean the person feels shame, many applications. You need to attach other body languages and link them in to understand the picture
@@SweatyFatGuy Exactly. Or the person may be on the autism spectrum and generally not comfortable to hold eye contact. There are so many options why someone is not comfortable holding eye contact. And there are plenty of liars who don't have a problem doing it. Particularly the psychopathic or narcissistic types who feel no remorse about it and see you as an unimportant subhuman anyway.
its also known that eye contact interferes with cognition, ie closing ones eyes helps to better solve complex mathematical problems and makes it easier to recall knowledge. so looking ppl in the eyes is often an indicator of someone, as you note, who is just spewing out mindless b.s. and not actually being thoughtful.. they are relying on cheap signalling of eye contact = "respect" or "confidence", classic tools of con men.
@@petrairene sure, but I am not autistic, I only know what its like to live with PTSD for nearly your entire life. With almost everything involving human nature, its complex and nuanced.
Its kinda funny though, growing up in the environment in which I did, that activated the survival mechanism we call PTSD because it doesn't fit with a polite and safe society, has made me exceptionally adept at reading non verbal communication in other people. I can tell a lot about people, if they are lying, when a girlfriend or wife is cheating or has been thinking about it, when someone intends to do harm to others... I can tell as accurately as seeing the sunrise.
Its something those with autism find nearly impossible to do.
I love after all these years, Echo has not been altered from your criticism of filler words, awkward “ums”, or trailing thoughts. Even Jocko’s persistence and tenacity cannot waver the true authenticity of Echo Charles.
Serotonin governs postural flexion-how you carry yourself physically.
Someone high in serotonin will literally walk with confidence-it’s one of the first things we notice about people.
Shoulders hunched, head down, no eye contact-low serotonin, low confidence, avoiding social intentions-likely not the happiest person.
Spot on brother
@@jonosay854 true but what OP was saying is somebody who lacks confidence, feels unworthy, isn’t going to be walking around joyfully, strutting with confidence and be full of happiness, and vice versa, the confident person who’s in control of his/her life isn’t gonna be scared to make eye contact and moping around, the body is the mind 🤙
You guys are awesome. Always extremely valuable information from you guys. Great video as always
The ability to be quiet when preparing to answer a question and after you are finished is confidence.
Nice
I think my biggest mistakes in reading people occurred when I excluded certain possibilities or assumed that their thought process was similar to mine.
And thanks for not taking sides.
Good objective analysis.
😄 People should also recognize that body language is also culturally ingrained toward social norms! Not all body language observations apply to non American cultures!
I spent a lot of time amongst Asian immigrants and overseas in Japan, and my body language shifted immensely as i appropriated those things to my own behaviors while overseas, sometimes just subconsciously as i recognized it in people all around me.
So, when i came back to the US, lol i kind of felt like a foreigner just because my body language was so different, and NOBODY that i knew previously could read my body language anymore! 😂 my friends kept misinterpreting my moods and facial expressions and posture, etc, so i spent a REALLY long time (years) breaking those habits to try to have American body language again, so that people understood me!!!!!
Avoiding eye contact can be for other reasons. I have a son who is autistic and I used to use the “look at me when I’m talking to you.” when he was a young child. And he would get uncomfortable and fidgety. He is non verbal, so he isn’t always able to let me know what is going on. After learning from other people who were autistic that sometimes some people can’t focus on the words when they are forced to have eye contact. The way they described it was imagine your mind taking a thousand photos a second and then trying to concentrate. Once I learned this he was able to focus more and was open to more teaching when I went against that learned behavior that I had. I could go on for days the things I have learned from my son.
Now when I encounter somebody who looks away or turns their attention to another place, I use vocal questions or cues to see if they are paying attention. Because you never know if a co worker, or somebody you are just meeting is the same as my son.
Just some food for thought. I love the videos, keep up the great work.
Hi Jocko and Echo, I congratulate both, all items you talk always are interesting! And as a spanish speaker your tone of voices and way of speaking helps me a lot to understand english
This is cool as hell, learning English from Jocko
A Spanish speaking good English..now that's an aoutlier. I think the reason Spaniards struggle with English is that they consume very little English content. Turn on the radio majority is Spanish. Even in tv everything is dubbed.ot makes the brain lazy
Great topic
Joe Navarro is the expert in this field, I recommend the book: What Every Body is Saying.
No eye contact could also mean social anxiety.
Body language conveys way more than we'd ever think
95 % of your communication is done by body language
I tend to listen to people better if I look away from them. I get distracted if I am looking at their face because then I start noticing facial expressions and movements instead of listening to what they are saying.
Please bring back grounded podcast man I just started BJJ and it was the most awesome thing ever
YES !!!!!
pull back your troops!!
In my experience the guy was clinging and the girl wanted everything so I bailed and found someone who respected boundaries until they didn’t until I eventually met my partner of 8 years, she’s a badass! I don’t regret any of them, and I love the music collections.
Thanks a lot Echo now I'm gonna fixate on blinking lol 😆 I won't be able to unsee it
It can also mean they could be under MAGIC spells and the Jinn 👽 🧞 Shayateen.
Also, very dilated pupils within drug's is a HUGE SIGN of DEMONIC possession.
I've noticed intimidation is a big issue when it comes to making eye contact, especially when you have extremely bad RBF in my case ... it also makes me not want to make eye contact as much either to avoid awkwardness or more intimidation because I'm a friendly guy for the most part and don't want people feeling intimidated or uncomfortable 😕
RBF?
Hey brother. Just keep pushing for it. Eventually it will be something natural to you and you won't look akward
Don’t try to posture/peacock your body language, work on being the person you wanna be then just be authentic
Be comfortable with eye contact and silence and pauses and conflict
(Once you were no longer nervous with her (because you told/spoke to her the truth and the reaction/result was positive) you practiced staring at her without breaking eye contact when she was talking and when you were talking to her (you need to work on when you’re talking though because you have a habit of looking away when talking to people).
You also became less nervous and more able to make unbreaking long eye contact when you noticed/realized she was nervous too (it’s like you got the power back in the dynamic and it’s like she was more humanized and less mythologized/scary. The dragon became smaller and you became more powerful)
You can sometimes feel someone else’s energy that you don’t even know. It’s hard to explain. Anyone ever experience this? 🤔
They mentioned this. Subconsciously reading one's body language.
@@Chris-0113 ahh ok. Thanks Chris.
No you’re the only person who has ever experienced such a phenomenon. You’ve a true gift
@@Red_AIert You're welcome. Yeah, I've felt the same thing. Like it was "vibes" or energy I was picking up on, but I guess it was just body language. Either way, fascinating subject.
Good colour
Jocko please cover some current events, I would like to know what you opinion is on this crazy world.
I used to not look my boss in the eyes and it was for none of those reasons. I've been told when I look people in the eye I make people uncomfortable, so I keep eye contact down to a minimum
0:36 It’s funny how people often give these precise percentages but they’re so obviously made up/pulled out of their asses.
LoL...
No you just don't get it if it's on the internet it must be true. DUH
Hehe LoL 😆
A flat sixty percent also.. that meana the study is small and likely made up for one person to use in their sale pitch.. Also people who quote a political opinion study.. and the study is funded by a political group in some other eastern european lab that was literally funded to develop a study with a set result, so they can use it in said sale pitch... i could prove this deeper on many subjects lately.
@@dertythegrower which is why you can’t trust anything followers of DT say, it’s all lies
Jocko taking mental note of Denzel's methods for next acting gig. Check.
Not making eye contact can also be an indication that we're dealing with a visual processor; that type of person may be an Associative Process oriented individual.
This is why I really like the show:
Lie to me.
The body language is important, but it's all relative.
And that is why, when dealing with individuals, it is absolutely *imperative* to establish a Standard.
PS
"When someone looks to the left, they're lying."
Ya?
Well, what if they're left handed?
🤔
PPS
Mentalist
I enjoy the uncomfortable silence, too.
1:58 - 2:25
3:30 - 4:17
4:30 - 4:40
Another faucet to the science of kinesthetics is also understanding the culture in which you’re in. For instance in Japan nobody makes eye contact.
Great/ necessary insight. That little nuance is key to fully understanding
Can't ignore the context of the environment.
Good evening Echo…… Good evening👊🏼
I don't make eye contact at times because I just don't care to look at them
What is the name of the tune at the end of the clip?
MEANINGWAVE EXISTS!!
I blink a lot due to exercising outside. Sweat is always running in my eyes and it becomes a natural twitch.
jocko loves awkward silence
It's subjective, but there is a great amount of truth in it.
Don't know about anyone else, but I rarely, if ever, look in people's eyes. I'm normally looking at their mouth because tinnitus interferes with me hearing clearly.
Good evening
I have ADHD and anxiety, eye contact is so hard for me.
I have a habit of blinking A LOT and people usually ask me if I’m okay but I swear I’m honest 😭
if I don't look at someone it seems to be for reasons that I feel negative
I was talking to a clinet of mine who I think agrees with me on political/social issues so I noticed tonight I didn't look him in the eye when I talked about isssues I care deeply about.
Best place to learn how to read body language? Work at a retail job.
lol true
Echo reminds me of Donatello, the live action ninja turtle lol 🐢
It's so hard for me to carry on small talk. I just want the info and move on.
Lack of eye contact can also mean lack of confidence
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Pockets, Pockets, Pockets.... Under Arms- be Glad... Even on HOOOD... Pockets. Hold COLLAPSEABLE BALLz? Idk.
Mines easy
Used up old man getting crushed by gravity
I'm imagining Steve Buscemi fused with the Rock on uppers trying to convince you to that subscribing to CNN+ is a good investment.
I don't look people in the eye because normal people make me anxious and I have a low self esteem lol
"If you can't afford it to support us we can still support you, email us and we will get this taken care of" 🙏
Language of the BODY no one pays attention cause there faces are in technology. paying attention is free intuitive n instincts are under valued assets to utilize in every day life . If we are internal beings then nothing on the outside can affect us until it’s dangerous. Also civilians n law enforcement need to learn fearless is not dangerous. And to train on evaluating the difference!!! soap box 📦
Blinking rate is important.... It's not about lying!!! Blinking is about intelligence.. sheesh...
You have to watch for twitches in eyes... An indicator of a angry tick or ... Think of the Pink panther movie... When the inspector hates cluseau!*** (Sp) 😂🤣😂🤣😂🧐🧐🧐😂🤣😂🤣😂
Blinking can also indicate morse code.
Watch garland in the last time he made a fbi statement hyper blinks
Jockos podcast ruined me
Now when I listen to another podcast it's never really up to this level jocko set the bar pretty damn high, never an add in the middle of it and always straight into the meat
Wait... this clip is in color...
What
Jocko won't give you colour unless you pay!
As a cop's kid.. ohh yeah..everything i could do to outsmart i would. But if caught..i always admit my involvement in the hmm... crime..lolzz
Or lack of eye contact people could have learning disabilities or autism or some type of neurological disorder
Unfortunately a lot of these are also symptoms/manurisms developed through traumatic situations. But I'm sure the comments section will be absolute in their cognitive deciphering in their social interactions (sarcasm).
*Jocko Willink is the Reluctant Leader we need.*
.....We know you've done enough, but your Nation needs you.
🇺🇸 *2024* 🦅
depending on his popularity rates, but i think 2024 is too early. not sure how well known he is among americans that are not into military, fighting, discipline stuff like most of us are
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Actually-if you are really underground or "we" are truly in the underground-you will never "see us".
i think the moral lesson here, stop acting like a prey. Be a monster with a good sense of humor.
FYI all of these things can be valuable and they’re essentially useless without a baseline.
Eye contact for example. If you know someone to normally make eye contact and then there’s an aversion that has meaning. Just some random person not making eye contact could mean they’re autistic not dishonest.
Every one wants to b a celebrity crazy cause these guys act like ther the shit
It's mostly b.s. Yes there's some.
A lot of this shit is pseudo science. I blink a lot, all the time. Guess I'm lying to myself when having a shit on the toilet lmao
What if my back hurts ? So Im walking funny?
Am I screwed?