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I'm 39 single, no kids, and been this way for years. I have never been happier. I realised kids were not my thing in my 20s, and women were a headache. I live a quiet, simple life.
Same as you bro, i feel well like that, i dont want to change that .
At 25, my introverted nature leads me on a solitary path. Despite finding strength in independence, the unfulfilled desire to be a father brings occasional tears.
Make your money bro.
Blessing in disguise. Maybe my parents modeled good relationship behavior after all...even though they didn't like each other...
I bet you also made a conscious effort to accept yourself for who you are and genuinely like yourself. It's actually a great accomplishment, something most people never achieve. Once you do this you find genuine peace in life.
There’s no good reason for a man to get married unless he wants kids
the institution is basically designed to provide a mother with kids with added security. The man just gets some tax benefits WHILE he is married.
You can get married without involving the government
It was done like that those thousands of years
The system is designed to have the government be the total boss of everything. It wants to be your parent, spouse, and god with absolute control. It’s very clear and I don’t think these politicians actual think that way mostly, it’s like an invisible hand or spirit is kind of guiding this along.
This mess will get so bad that society will desperately give up any and all independence to someone, or some group that can fix things. Wonder what that reminds me of from the recent past?
YOU DONT NEED TO GET MARRIED TO HAVE KIDS AHAH STOP THIS STUPIDITY
i dont like to agree but you can be right at this point lol
Amen brother. I'm single, never been married. No kids. I'm enjoying my peace and quiet. Ya'll can have these 21st century,modern marriages.
100%
Unless you are willing to being that guy living in his car or sleeping on a friends couch for a while after divorce , for a time until you get on your feet again, myself i did that once and it changed me I believe in the red pill now .
Yup
@@jeffdutcher3676
Welcome
Cope
I think all of us, stable guys with good careers and a good head on their shoulders want a loving committed relationship. The problem is, most young women are brainwashed feminist's these days with absolutely non-existent traditional core values. It's fucked.
They mostly just want to control and profit off you not love and support you. Who in their right mind wants that?
The more you think like that, the more your gonna feed into your own self made idea about women being brainwashed. Control what you can control and let God sort out the rest.
Correct
It's fucked indeed.
recreational use only in the west fellas .. unless u find a 18 year old fresh out of high school from ukraine
I’m 50, never married, no kids. Just how it turned out. Was beta blue pill nice guy. Now I’m red pill, no more Mr. Nice guy. I did well, stay in great shape, retired and financially independent. If I still want a relationship I can travel abroad. In the mean time, peace, quiet and freedom. I’m a free agent.
I used to be a beta cuck deluxe. Like 2pac when he was talking about being a nice guy and girls said he was "too nice" but when he turned into a thug all the girls wanted him. What a weird world we live in but like animals they go for the alpha.
.... and a smart man.
Very good Sir!
I used to be the goodie goodie hopeless romantic. Now I kinda just want to get laid. But I got to lose weight first. Women are picky now more than ever
@@I_Am_The_Social_Reject yeah women dont like fat ass drunk grown men we better stay fit bro
I'm a 36 yr old guy who hasn't ever gotten married and never had any kids. It's a damn good feeling when you wake up to complete silence and you come home to peace and quiet....
Amen...
Agreed
that is torture for me i hate being alone. been lonely for years when you have someone by your side as company is a wonderful feeling.
Yes, most women are angry and evil. But don't give up, we do exist but we are rare
@@Mandi2727 does he want a woman?
I’m 37 years , I’m single , no child’s , no girlfriend, I’m Mexican living in NYC ,I am a construction workers , working 6 days a week around 60 hours working, obviously short time for meet a good girlfriend, I prefer work and save money for back to Mexico , if a great woman appears in mi way I will feel blessed 😇
lol apparently jewish women (alot in new york) like hispanic men? maybe you can get a sugar mommy 🤣
That's cool,good job
Working 60 hrs gets you nowhere.
Work less earn more. ☝🏿🧐
@@dacat8171 bro , New York is expensive, rent , bills , cost of live , dates , meeting with friends, nobody makes enough money working only 40 hours
@@derekluna7700 good idea bro 😎
I'm turning 33 next month. Single, no kids, a girlfriend every now and then, I'm not rich, but I'm doing ok. Currently in the greatest shape ever, I'm a personal trainer, love my job and I'm very free. I sometimes get anxious when I compare myself to my rich, married, friends with kids. But when I notice that they lost all their masculinity, health, freedom and physical prowess, I would never switch places with any of them. That gives me hope that I'm doing the right thing.
You’re on the right track man… this world is populated enough; you don’t NEED kids. Be true to yourself and love 💕 will find you
Dude, those guys that aren’t In Shape like you aren’t in shape because they have a life to attend to, they have kids they’re investing in so when they get old the kids can help take care of them. Have kids!
NOT EVERYBODY WANTS TO SETTLE FOR GETTING OLD AND PLACING THT BURDEN ON THEIR CHILDREN. ITS NOT THAT SIMPLE IN THIS WORLD@@bigt2731
@@bigt2731 there is no guarantee kids will take care of old parents in today's time
@@bigt2731 you don't stay in shape you won't get old
I'm a 44-year-old single man with no kids; I don't even have friends that I hang out with. It's just me and my dog, and I honestly could not be happier. I don't think everyone can live the way I do, but I find great peace and contentment being alone. I think a big reason for this is that I accept who I am and genuinely like myself. Two big mistakes almost everyone makes in life are the following: thinking you need some kind of grand purpose in life. You don't; that's just ego, arrogance, and ignorance. The purpose of life is simply to experience living; just to be alive is enough of a purpose. The second mistake people make is going to war with themselves. People dwell on what they perceive as personality flaws, lack of passion in life, past mistakes, lack of skills, or any number of other things. What you need to realize is you don't need any of these things, and you can decide to like yourself just as you are. People get caught up in believing they need to follow the same path as everyone else, and all it does is cause them misery and depression. I decided to genuinely like myself just as I am, and I found it to be life's greatest hack. It's not an easy accomplishment, and I feel like I've succeeded where most people never do. Now, I never feel lonely, I virtually never feel depressed, and I always feel content. All it took was changing my perspective.
You seem nice
@@jeffreyerickson6766 I'm kind of a jerk.
I'd be your friend. I'm no saint.
@@mikescott5440 30-year virgin-incel here. Lifelong inceldom kind of does that to you, eh sir?
@@karansharma2352 There is no reason for anyone to be an incel In this world. You could change this today. Walk into virtually any Asian massage place in your city- every single one of them is rub and tug. Go there and let it happen, you don't have to do anything or say anything, they take care of all of that for you. Step outside of your comfort zone and do this, it will help you greatly and there's nothing to be embarrassed about it.
I'm 97 and jacked and this video really helped me.
You're 97??
58 and the forever bachelor! Been enjoying life since the day i graduated high school. Bought a 97 toyota tacoma couple days back with 20k on the odo. Flew up to salt lake city and drove it back.....flawless. Life is a big adventure. Marriage is a Business.....for Women!!! Timmy C Arizona
Do what’s best for you! Salute brother!
Hell yes sir! Live YOUR life my friend!
Turning 65 and bachelor with no kids. I just love being me and free!!
That's a hell of a find with so few miles. Well done.
Nice find! That sounds like a fun trip.
I have moments when I do feel lonely but it goes away. Every time I look at people in relationships I see the drama and that makes me feel better about being alone.
I’ve been watching you since I was 18 (I’m 23 now). Please never stop making these videos. You feel like the voice of reason in this chaotic world. I hope life is treating you well LFA.
You are posting this comment everywhere, correct?
Over 30, Not Married, No Kids = Getting lots of sleep, spending your money and energy on yourself and not aging 10 years in 1 year.
And 1 day you will die , do you think money and career matter? Why are we here for?
@@atabnaydiatta8961 I'm here to live my life the way I want. What are you here for?
💯Kids definitely speed up the aging process some ppl think I'm younger than my younger brother..he has kids I DON'T 😅
@@atabnaydiatta8961 It is what it is
👍
When I was ages 19-24 i chased relationships, and it wasn't fruitful. At 25 I became obsessed with financial freedom and 5 years later my net worth went from $30k to $1.4m now at 30, on its way to $4.5m. I'm really glad that I spent these last 5 years taking care of my own goals
Bless me with some money 💰 bruh! Lol
fr@@pickywolf2728
What's your business bro
What's your business bro
Cool! Now DO NOT GET MARRIED!
I’m 27 With No Kids and I’m Very Happy and Used To It. And enjoy my peace and quiet.
I'm 44 never married or had kids and I love it
1993: your gonna be living in a van down by the river!
2023: if you save & are lucky you might be able to live in a van down by the river🤡
😂 facts bro
Got that right.....America...about to hit 35 trillion in debt.
I married at 28 and still am 12 years later. Foolish me. I wished back then I waited longer in my 30s. I think I would have found what I was really looking for. It takes a long time to know a person. I had money, respect, good friends. Now I have none of that. 😢 stay true fellas
can you please explain how you no longer have those things?
Your wife and family doesn’t respect you? That’s all that matters. Money, friends, not as important as you grow up if you have somebody.
Wife respected me when we were dating, she listened to everything I had to say, bought me lunch at work, we made out all the time. All that stuff went out the door after we had a kid and I was no longer as important. Sex is hard to come by, even kids these days rebel and look at you as more like a caretaker than a parent if any. Its a new world fellas, woke, me-too, blah blah.
@@Insight-musicYou can't rush these decisions my dude. Let it come to you. I'm going to pray for you right now.
@@rhpham2kids have always acted this way. once you reach your teen years you don’t see your parents as parents anymore. You see them as people who let you eat and crash at their place. And it only gets worse from there. But that’s just me, I know once I turned around 13-18 I stopped caring about my parents. And now at 20, I am my own man, I do things my way. And refuse help from mommy and daddy, and they tell me how they’re so sad and they miss me blah blah blah, please talk to them. Like who’s gonna make me? I’m a grown man!
But I won’t lie to you tho. I still keep them around. Just in case I go broke or Need their help, I have them to mooch off from.
I think being 30 with no kids is the new normal. I think it's alot more widespread than we think.
It’s more widespread than anyone is willing to accept, and all anyone can do is look, acknowledge, and keep living their own selfish life.
I'm 29 right now and turn 30 in 8 months. I just got out of a relationship that didn't work. I thought she was different, but she was more of the same. Too many women want to be girl bosses, they're ok to let you be the man until they want conflict all the while you as the MAN pay for almost everything.
they want to be the man until it's time for payment
Yes.
I’m 52 never married or had kids ,I get shamed for it from time to time from women ,but I love my freedom
Can be shamed for being a father in 2023 , can be shamed for anything by demons
in this culture you get shamed just for being a man
I think they are jus jealous of the freedom they no longer have .
Right on brother
@@pyramidhead138 true society seems to hate single men, i say this as i spend 99% of time alone, but the times i go on a date with an attractive female i am treated much better going to the same places i go to while alone. Not sure if it's the social validation element, or me genuinely giving off better vibes, but i noticed this each time.
The best time to marry is when you're young and broke. At least you'll know that she married you for you or the potential she saw in you. If you wait until your already successful to get married, the odds are very high that she married you for your money.
Also the best women are 15-24 or even 15 -19.
Yeah and the odds are also very high you married the girl largely for her beauty. If you love that she’s hot and she loves that you can give her a great life and you both have good morals whats the issue? Don’t see girls constantly complaining about men being mostly drawn to them for their looks
the best advice you can give a young man is to get married young and have your kids when you have nothing. Real emotional connection is at its best then and if it goes bad the payout is a lot less and you are likely young enough to rebuild. If you manage to last for life its a great feeling to be have that life experience with someone you met while young and there might be a chance she still cares when you are old. Doing it any other way is just transactional and not likely to last.
@@joelt1002 the issue is that you want to avoid future divorce and dead bedroom. 25+ , hot, friendly, moral values, likes sex woman is not single unless there's some issues (psychological baggage).
@@gottrekk5798 Maybe you could apply that as a general rule of thumb but its certainly not an absolute. You have to keep in mind that people who care that much about sexual purity are a smaller subset of the population anyway. I'm not an incel dweeb so the whole divorce/dead bedroom/woman not wanting sex/not listening thing has never historically been something I dealt with. The dynamic with every gf I've ever had was "I don't mind taking care of you but ultimately, I set the rules and lead this relationship". If they have some huge issue with some aspect of how I life or what I want from them, then we just weren't compatible
my uncle was single at 42, got married and now has two daughters. Stay in shape so you look and feel young later in life. age is just a number. sometimes you get dealt a bunch of bad hands
If age is just a number, then why do most athletes have to retire by 35? Oh right.... clear and obvious biological declines in ability to no longer play at an elite level.
@@edgelordpriestessofwaifust6434 Because elite playing has nothing to do with taking care of yourself
Think the point went over your head brother. Age and Aging DOES make things more difficult.@@ashtonmeyer2409
i had one uncle who was 40 marry and a 20 year old Amish girl, now he's 60+ with 2 kids
another uncle married a 31 year old woman when he was late 50s, now has 3 kids with her lol (though he did compromise on looks etc)
neither of them are super high status or super wealthy
sometimes you just gotta lower your standards
yes sometimes for men age is just a number lol
@@edgelordpriestessofwaifust6434 big difference in mating and throwing a ball brother. stop comparing apples and oranges. I've never seen a kid who is 20 land an elite woman because he's a kid. Men get better with age. Men age like wine and women like milk. Remember that.
I’m 52. Divorced 5 years, no kids. I absolutely love living single, alone, and only having to worry about my own survival and well being. The space all to myself at home and the peace and quiet are priceless to me. I get enough social interaction at work and hanging out with friends so loneliness isn’t an issue for me.
I'm almost 34. Never engaged, no kids, and finally getting my life on board. Disabled veteran. Dealt with Crohn's Disease since my teens and it basically ruined my life. 2.5 years ago I had a major emergency surgery to get better. Since then I've bulked on 70 lbs, feeling amazing, and doing really well financially. I still work a job, but I have been referenced for management. I'm pretty happy overall, minus being lonely from time to time. But looking back I wouldn't change a thing. A lot of hard times have calloused me to be able to take on any challenge.
Yeah man, I have had Crohn's disease for 12 years now. Got surgery 2 years ago. It was life changing for the better. Maybe in my thirties things will go better dating wise. Saved a lot of money over the years though.
Keep it up and stay strong man. The last thing you need is some nagging low iq c**t ruining everything you have achieved.
Y’all weak. Been dating girls since I was 13. Now 20 and still fucking girls. Go me! 🔥
Wish I had that red mane of yours
Nothing wrong with being single. I prefer it. Rather be alone than annoyed. Have had plenty of girlfriends and I can say with experience it's not worth the headache.
That’s funny. I also have come to the conclusion that woman are all crazy and annoying
I had a really bad experience dating, got cheated on/left for other men often. With that in mind, marriage seems like a huge risk.
Try a relationship with a woman that is in love with you and you like her in return.
Just stay single till u have more to offer good luck
@@Nickthequik131 More to offer could mean you have more to lose tbh so that's not really the best way to go about it
Just don't date girls who had many sexual partners
u cant tell, they r good n play games@@gottrekk5798
Most my married buddies also have the same panic moments at night when they realize, their marriage is not going well. There are no guarantees in life no matter which course you take.
In the back of your married buddies minds....Do they realize that the possibility could be that one day your wife might say....we need to talk....Many men are getting or have been ditched in their late 30's and 40's when a woman wants someone younger....just like a car. And trust me....Divorce courts don't favor the man. Many have half their financial wealth ripped apart. To start over????
Just turned 45 in September, still single and no kids. Definitely have those thoughts from time to time, "have I made the right choices about staying single" "is it too late?" or "is settling down into a committed long-term relationship really for me?". Found out my highest value is freedom, so I would say up to this point I've made the right decision to stay single.
Having said that, I do feel like I would be better off turning my house into a home in the near future. I wager it's about having a clearer idea about the type of person who I could compromise with to create an enjoyable life for both myself and a partner
Fellas, consider yourselves BLESSED. A smart man wants neither a kid OR wife!
The Bible itself says: women are worse than death…
I am 35 had my first child son at age 34 because I was ambitious to have a child with a woman who is a virgin. And I found one she is 22 & I am 35 met her at the gym in New York, we love each other.
It's even more beautiful when you marry her too before having kids. Not sure if that was the case between you and her.
Virginity is dope
@@Casual_Talk oh yes we are married. We married at st Gregory Catholic Church buffalo New York.
this comment smells fake....
Congratulations man. You are in the 0.0001% of men. You struck gold.
I’m here brother, sucks big time, went through a late break up in my late twenties to the girl I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with and could count on, next thing you know I’m 33 and dating life is zero, I keep changing things up and focusing on self improvement and hoping it pays off, if not at least I tried. I can say it’s very difficult to make ends meet now days for young adults, a man use to be able to provide for a whole family on one income back in the day now a single guy can barely get by in his own.
Messed up society we live in for sure
same age same issue. You would think having a halfway decent full time job and no wife or kids , we would be made of money. I really am not, I do okay but I am not rich and probably never will be. If I worked this same job in the 1950's Id living in a massive house and drive a brand new car at the very least. Oh yeah and working a job you dislike full time and coming home to nothing, getting no sex, and not even having friends takes a toll.
@@gibememoniexactly. One could be a carefree unemployed bum and have nothing and no sex just the same. Why are we still on this human-sized hamster wheel?
Go back to school, get a STEM related college degree in medical or tech (yeah take out student loans) and get yourself into a 6 figure income.
Don’t make excuses, just do it.
Thank me later
Exactly. Guys out here making EVERY EXCUSE IN THE BOOK, not to do SELF-IMPROVEMENT. Just want to sit around and tell sob stories and complain ALL-DAY.@@MajorMovieReviews-
My main reason for being single at 37 is I need to get myself straightened out before inviting someone else to the mix.
I had a Narcissistic wife, thankfully no kids. She left without any explanation (she is a Narcissist). Divorced- tried a couple of relationships, nothing worked. I’m committed to stay single and enjoy life becoming the best version of myself. I’m DONE ✅
The juice is not worth the squeeze.
The only thing worse than being alone is wishing you were alone.
“The only thing worse than being alone is wishing you were alone.”
That’s a very strong statement!
27 here, my biggest fear is getting into a toxic relationship like the rest of my family. It’s quite petrifying.
I’m 36 and married my soulmate this year. Never thought I would get married, thought that it just wasn’t in the cards. But I met a wonderful woman last year and I knew that I wanted to be with her for the rest of my life. So I asked her to marry me, and she said yes. Crazy how life turns out.
How old is she?
How you meet?
@@yuriy5376 she's probably over 40
Simp
no such thing as soul mates. you will mature and learn. LOL
Married at 33 first child at 36, second at 40. I was in the best place at that time for a family.
Good to hear. Trying to have kids now and both of us are 34.
@@victormendoza3295how have you been trying exactly?
All you have to do is nut in her during her ovulation period
I’m 40 years old, single/unmarried and childfree all by choice. I’m never getting married or having children because I’m not financially, mentally, emotionally and spiritually fit. I love having the freedom to go out and do whatever I want whenever I want. I am over the moon with my decision and I have zero regrets.
It's very hard these days. I live in Poland, Central Europe and it's not much different than rest of the western world. 80% of the good women are already married with kids. The leftovers are mostly damaged goods, high body counts, independent 'travel' girls wasting their time in the clubs.
I'm 34 years old, top 5% man in terms of income, 6ft tall, triathlete working 4-5 months of the year in London (financial industry) and it's very dark reality if you are thinking of finding a long-term partner. Extremely annoying to go through numbers of girls and tbh almost gave up already.
Finding the one is not up to you. It is up to the universe. You can encounter it but you can't go looking for it. For you to met that one person that is right for you, you like her, and she likes you and are compatible, the encounter is pretty much out of your control. It is up to the universe. Then you have the free will of whether to pursue it when the universe lets you two meet each other. Some people are destined to be alone like my aunt. In fact her mother went to a psychic and with the birthdate the psychic told her that my aunt won't have any relationship opportunities past the age of 27. And it happened. My aunt met this guy that liked her initially, but she thought she was too good for him. He ended with another girl. And ever since then my aunt has never had another encounter ever again. She is nearing her 70s, been single all her life. Not everyone has the same fate. It depends on your birthdate,. It is like why are some people attractive and liked by all and some are not. It is all predestined when you are born.
"I'm 34 years old, top 5% man in terms of income, 6ft tall, triathlete working 4-5 months of the year in London (financial industry"
It doesn't mean much. There are people way worse than you that find good attractive woman. It is all about the encounter. You can be that high status, but if you never come across those woman. Your status doesn't matter. You se what I mean? It is out of your control. It is up to the universe.
Sex is fun, but eventually the bachelor lifestyle gets old you may not get a 10 or 9. Settle with a 7 or 8.”, that works out, and cooks, and you should be set
My brother is 33 , married no kids . I honestly admire his genius he’s rich now
Over 30, not married with no kids, what people don't realize is that this is what's called a dream come true...
Im 34. no kids, no marriage. just me and my bicycles, guitars and 4 cats . Living my best life. Some gaming with Counter-strike2 also
Male version of cat lady?
@@animal79thecat Only the owning cats part
The fluidity and the simplicity will grow your channel expeditiously. I believe you spit straight facts that will hit home for many individuals. Keep it coming!
I adore the concept of family however with so many broken women and a family court system that incentivizes women to break up the family…I’m forever happily single.
I look at it this way.
The best thing is to be in a loving relationship.
The worst thing is to be in a toxic and unloving relationship.
The second best thing is to not be in a relationship at all.
I personally feel like chasing women is ultimately a waste of time tho because my 6 year relationship and all my other relationships. They chose me. I was just right place right time.
it's always the woman's decision.
39, single, no kids. When i was a kid I hoped to be married at 21 with a beautiful wife and raise a good family. That was just not realistic. It is what it is. Guess I'll spend my days in Thailand.
One of the best things I ever did was practice semen retention. The energy and control over my sexual urges changed a lot about how I see and interact with the world.
Bro I'm 32, and I am far from wanting kids lmao, I still feel I'm too young xD, probably will feel like this forever
37, not married, no kids. Took me a long time to get into a position to be a stable, high earning provider capable of having a family. Now I just can’t understand why I would risk everything I’ve accomplished gambling on a relationship. 😂 The irony is real. I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’ve got to find something else to do with my life. I’m not a gambler and I’m not discontented enough with being single. The risk/reward ratio does not favor a relationship for me.
I'm 36, and the reason I'm not married is because my version of sacrifice would be a demotion in life by letting a damaged woman into it. Every girl I've dated always ends up revealing they have a huge track record of online "dating" and they are unable to stay satisfied with one person. Ultimately they treat guys like a vacation and eventually want to move on to new sights to see.
I did almost marry a 30 year old Christian virgin once but she ultimatumed me into becoming a Christian and really laid down some of her perspective about how wrong my religion is, which is the bahai faith, so I couldn't start a married with that
google Isaiah 53, who do you think that prophecy is about? Written hundreds of years before the incarnation
Interesting choice. Haven't seen anyone in that faith since Marko.
As a 27m I’ve experienced the same with every woman I’ve dated recently. They all pretty much have one foot dipped in the online dating pool while they’re with you. Yeah she may come off as if she’s into you, but you will never get her full attention and will be treated not as a person but as a discardable option. They’re usually preoccupied with grass is greener syndrome because they get ego validation constantly from men in their likes, matches and dms. It’s basically impossible to compete with 10,20, 50+ guys. You have no chance unless you’re a 9 chad able to sweep her off her feet and basically purchase her. Dating apps have deluded women’s expectations and given them the ultimate excuses to leave a man whenever they get bored and feel like their fantasy isn’t being met.
@@Insight-musicreal talk
I enjoy these sorts of videos where people share their stories/ wisdom without using any fancy cameras, lighting, or editing; they're just having a good time out in nature and leveling with the audience. Keep up the quality content, Sir! You've earned yourself a subscriber 👍👍
Im 46 and single. I found a young 25 year old in 2018 and hoped to marry her but she left me during COVID-19 lockdown when i lost my job , partly infuenced by her mom and friends
U should be greatful for that imagine if that happens when u marry and have kids then she left you
you were lucky! she did you a favor!
It's always the bitchie moms 😂 I swear.
Many woman have been taught that men are a walking wallet...When she thinks you are not providing enough many dump them for what they think is a more financial catch. Even Hollywood movies are made about this. Many men are now asking....why take the risk???
Never forget fellas, just because a marriage eventually ends in the death of one or both of the members rather than in a divorce doesn’t automatically mean that the marriage wasn’t a regretful disaster, let alone a ‘success’. A large portion of married people miserably stick it out for years and years for various reasons.
40% get divorced, and (at least) half of that non-divorced 60% wish they were divorced.
so the total bad deal percentage is closer to 70%. LOL
@@1MinuteFlipDocand women initiate up to 90% of all divorces when they are college educated
Indeed! Many Men live and lead quiet lives of desperation and all to get along with others and to avoid criticism, they paint a rosy picture or make things seem a lot better than they really are, but secretly die an unhappy and miserable life.
I couldn't care less as a 30 year old single dude, I'll have kids when im 45.
It's awesome! Come join us! 🎉
Spent my 30’s working hard, putting in long hours and having lots of fun. Had my one and only kid when I was 48. I highly recommend waiting for marriage/long term commitment and fatherhood for men. And I recommend the opposite for women.
I'm 41. I pretty much spent my 30s working. There were a lot of ups and downs with the economy, so I was moving around quite a bit. I also started to go to therapy when I was in my mid 30s. I thought I made a mistake by prioritizing work over relationships, but it seems like I still have a chance when it comes to settling down and starting a family. I do feel that I'm much more mature and more aware of what I'm looking for now, vs when I was in my early 30s.
I’m in my late 20s, hoping in the next 5yrs to settle down. Early 30s feels like a good time for me. But Isn’t 40s kinda putting the whole being a grandparent thing into a tighter time frame because you’ll be in your 70s while your kids are mid 20s. I want to be able to relate to my kids aswell so idk, 40s isn’t “too late” but for me feels not as ideal
@@Insight-music Not ideal but it’s kept me super active and very young so some great benefits.
Wow! Touched up on the narcs and bpds! Great video!!!!
Met my wife at 29, made a very intentional choice to pursue her. I hadn’t dated anyone for 6-7 years. I felt enough was enough of this single boy life. I told her I was looking for a future wife. She was on board with that, because she realized my intentions weren’t lead her on, but to actually commit. I proposed a little over a year later. We’ve been married now for 3 years. We want kids in a couple of years from now. As far as not wanting kids to grow up in this messed up world, I think most generations had the same sentiment to an extent. But this forces you to be an even better Dad, to steer your children in the right direction, and to protect them as best as you can. That’s called being a man, and that’s what I want to be, for my wife and for my future kids. Don’t trick yourself into thinking there are no good women, that’s just an excuse to keep you from having to put in effort to find someone worth pursuing. They are out there, and now I know this first-hand. Stay strong guys, she’s out there waiting for you to step it up.
How did you meet her?
@@41DallasMavsFan41 At my job. I was a substitute teacher at the time and she was a brand new math teacher at the school where I was subbing. And soon as I saw her, I thought to myself what do I have to lose if I ask her out, the most she could do is politely decline. So I went for it. And surprisingly she was into the fact that I was very direct. No games, no nonsense. And after about a month of getting to know her, I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. Fast forward a couple of years and I proposed. Everything happened pretty quickly. But none of it would have happened if I had never built up the courage to ask her out in the first place. The crazy thing is that she was exactly the kind of girl I was looking for, mature, confident, goal oriented, and of course very attractive, and I felt I wasn’t any of those things at the time. As soon as I started taking her out and getting to know her, it made me realize that I needed to step up my own life goals, and I was inspired and encouraged by her to pursue a teaching credential. I am now a full time Career Technical Education teacher, working at a great school, making a good income, and we are now gradually building our wealth together, and I am so happy that the girl I chose really brought out the best in me to the point where even I could be proud of my personal accomplishments. Seek a responsible girl who knows what she wants out of life, and you’ll see that her goal and ambition oriented mindset will rub off onto you as well. I just got lucky that she even said yes to me in the first place, but you’ll never know until you take that bold first step.
That really means a lot to the millions of men who went through our court system. The term Divorce Rape has been happening full course since the 60's. If thats your definition of being a man....to provide for your future kids and present wife...then more to you....but throughout the decades millions of men with simular thoughts as yourself have ended up burned....and in turn they have told others not to risk it. And many young men who have just turned 18-20 can see that the situation is not improving.
Divorce rate is 57% and another 20% are not happy in there Marriage.
This is coming from a divorce lawyer
James Sexton. That dude's you tube interviews are amazing!!
In the future will Female Robots be able to Divorce Men?
I don't know why but as of now I have this strong aversion to having kids. I go back and forth between wanting kids and not wanting them.
Yeah I don’t want kids cause my luck my kid would have pronouns and go by they/them lmao
Adoption is a good option if you still want kids but don’t wanna actually have em
Can you explain this to me? I’ve never understood guys that didn’t want kids. To me, it was always a natural desire of mine
@@JAKEBrakeModel94 thats a strange thing to say. What you're essentially saying is "I don't understand why people think differently than me"
@@JAKEBrakeModel94 free time, money, and no responsibilities
Great video. I'm 45. Never married, no kids. I was talking about this subject yesterday with a friend. She said that having 100 guys in her DM a day wanting to hook up has ruined it for the guy who works in the gas station whom she SHOULD be with, but social media has kinda ruined everything. I've been single now 8 years. No hook ups, nothing. I've been asked out a lot but always turned them down because the level of drama attached does not match my peaceful life. Last year I wrote 6 novels. All 150k long. There is no way in hell I could have been so productive if i had to listen to someone else's problems. I went on holiday twice this year to Spain. Yes, sometimes it did get to me. Seeing kids, happy couples in the sunshine. But I remembered that I could do anything I wanted on that holiday. Turned down a few women too. lol The most I've cried is when I was in a relationship. Now, it's two-three times a year. Keep strong and look after yourselves. :)
Honestly I see myself as more of a Burden... as you explained as a man, you are responsible for keeping things together.... I cant keep my own single life together, Cant even imagine to have to provide for others lol
Very relatable bro ur not alone
Had my daughter at 34, who is fourteen now. I enjoyed the freedom from parental obligations at the time. Never planned on having kids, but glad I did ❤🎉
Be completely honest without giving me ‘I wouldn’t want it any other way’ bs but would you be richer had you been childless?
@@Rico401Prov I was in and out of jail from 15 to that time. My gf convinced me to not abort while visiting me there, and I agreed we'd have it.
No, my life was messed up with twenty straight years of partying and getting in trouble.
Now I run my own publishing business, which I never would have bothered with otherwise. However, that's just my own particular circumstances. I never planned on being a parent, but I actually love it...
@@sianefer-ptah1258 good shit, man. Happy for ya 👍
man this was your best video ever, I felt it and I am that new adult with those exact problems you just mentioned
When a man puts God first, he understands that it's purpose that gives a man fulfillment in life. A woman and children are just a joy of life. They should be nothing more. Focus on finding your purpose fellas.
I just turned 35 and got out of a 9 year relationship. I had bought a ring and planned on marrying her. She cheated on me with a loser. She had untreated BPD. She wanted to “work it out” and still get married. I wasn’t going to do that. I didn’t want to be in this position but it just happened this way.
Al Pacino just had a baby and that guy’s in his 80s. I think you got time
u dodged a bullet. no worries, its a minor hiccup. you'll be fine.
dont date BPD women, if you value your life
Yup the BPD lol these women are so screwed up
So you waited 9 years to ask her to marry you and get her a ring ??? And you wonder why she cheated on you ?? How long did she have to put out for you to be a man and buy the cow instead of milking her forever??? It sounds like to me that you were just using her
I’m 40. For the past 10 years my ex (also 40) had told me that she wanted children when i asked her. She always had an excuse why it was t the right time and she avoided talking about it. A few days after I had once again bought up the topic, she left me. 😢
well if she wanted kids its too late now lol. You have another shot brother, she doesnt
39 never married and no kids I'm quite happy.
Late 40s, never married, no kids. Blessed 🙏🙏🙏
Speaking for someone with kids, it ain't all that 😂 enjoy your freedom. No BM drama, no unexpected BS and most of all women are dead weight. Just smash and keep it moving.
Im glad your growing with with quality content that helps many lost guys in society navigate this social mess were in.
Hey brother, I don’t usually comment on posts and I’ve been watching your content for a while. It’s been a break, but I could really feel you in this post man. Very genuine, and I can tell you’re doing some serious reflecting., I’ve been doing the same myself lately and I share the red pill VS a woman dilemma. Much love brotha! 👊
I’m going to trust my gut always
Great 20 minutes of good thoughts and reflection LFA
I’m 54 and have been married for 27 years with 4 kids, I can’t say it has been particularly fulfilling. Do NOT try to find happiness by getting married.
The majority of marriages stay together because your basically locked in financially.
If you are plus 30 and had relationship before you are OK, but if you are over 30 and struggling you are pretty much done.
Why?
@@george1449 you were unwanted from start, you are insecure and women see that from 1km, that big no no for them, you probably don't develop social skills, also big no no etc...
Unless you can get married to robots....like men can in Japan.
I turned 30 not that long ago and I’m not sure if I do want to have a wife and kids someday because it hasn’t happened yet. I know that I desire that specifically because I saw the hardships my own parents went through and they somehow made it work. All my relationships have just been hook ups from women that didn’t care about me as a person. Nowadays, I’m looking for the one to spend my life with. Thank you for the advice on going out every Friday. I will give that a shot.
I'm 42 years old, not married, and I have no kids! Life is good! Family life is good thing, but in the modern times, it can be a nightmare for a man, if the wife decides to divorce you!
Looks like your happy and have extra money for your future 😂. I am 51 single and no kids and now I have so many options in life that my future is bright and exciting!
You wrapped up the video very nicely!! Well done 👏
Living my beautiful life at 36 no kids no married no need to deal with bs of women. I'm investing in myself, look good and fit. Thanks God.
Hi, I just found your channel. I'm 33, married for 12 years, 3 kids, upper middle class. Wife stays home full time, I work full time. I am learning more and more that I am one of the very lucky, very few that is truly happy and enjoying life growing a family. I have a lot to say on why things went this way but it's too much to text...
She probably already cheated on you XD
@DiegoBuitrago-om2zo lol your so funny, not everyone has a crappy marriage.
@@wedgepressure4313 check the data man and if you are smart enough you will start doing reserach to find out if she cheated, which she probably did
I don't want to be a plow horse 😭 helppp!!
I feel this video. I am 30, and becoming a somewhat successful software developer. I have been dating a really good girl for 2 years. She is loyal, smart, and is crazy about me.
She is pressuring me into committing more to her. She wants to move in together and would definitely say yes if I asked her to marry me.
I find myself in the situation he talks about, afraid to give up my freedom. I’m just now really on the come up, and am afraid to commit so much right now to one person.
On one hand, she would be a good mother and wife. And on the other it would be cool to be single again, travel, enjoy my success, meet more women. I’m so torn between what to do!
Time to break up with her. You said you want to meet more women. That's your sign if you've been dating for 2 years and you guys aren't even living together. You aren't doing bills or housework together, so you guys truly don't know each other. That's weird.
Quit wasting both of your guy's time
Thats 100% my situation. Im 27 she is 33. together for 6 months So it makes things even more complicated. I dont know what I should do either.
Don't ever sign that marriage contract! Till death do u part or guaranteed to lose about 75 percent of everything you've ever worked for. I'd never do it again 😢
If you have doubts, don’t do it!
Randomly came across this video from my algorithm and it was dead accurate. Thank you brother
When you propose to a woman, you get down on one knee in a begging posture. This act in itself is symbolic and it foreshadows what marriage will be - bending the knee to your wife
I never did that, lol.
THe whole marriage thing is for the trash. I reject the idea wholy. Amish come to mind, those guys know what's up and they mostly play the game right. If you can build your own "Amish like micro cosmos", you might be able to do it. Some things to look out for in potential woman to make kids with. First thing, she needs to be a virgin. Second, if she owns a smartphone and grew up in degenerate landscape that is social media and western/eastern materialistic culture, RUN. Third, get to know her and evaluate is she crazy or not. And ye accept that it is sacrifice, you have to dominate her life and steer it in directions you want it to go.
Happy Wife, Happy Life....There is no equivalent saying for a man.
No wife, happy life.
I enjoy being single because it gives me the freedom and mobility to pursue my goals. Marriage in the west, in it's current shape is not a viable option. Way too many horror stories from men being screwed over in family court.
Stop talking about the west bro lol
Passport bro?@@whiteboyinparadise
Good stuff man. Single 44 year old dude here. This definitely resonated. You’ve earned a new subscriber.
37, own a home, drive a performance german car, make decent money. still no kids.. Life is bless.
I'm 34 starting to get worried. I'm trying to get girls now but it seems like I'm out of the age range of the girls I'm attracted to. I focused on my education and getting a job instead of girls.
Eso es lo mejor que pudo haber hecho.
I was paying massive child support payments to a cheating ex-wife by the time I was 30.
I am done paying at 56 years old now.
From a guy that suffered because I trusted women and society (never trust either), I tell every young guy to not get married and do not knock up any woman no matter what.
The family/divorce/child support courts can't steal your paycheck if you avoid doing those two things.
Another great video brother, thank you for teaching the younger guys.
Reality is that, there are no more wife material left nowadays, then why bother marrying someone who has body count over 100, social media, onlyfans and co. Social media, porn, hookup culture, marriage laws changed the game totally. Why to sign a contract to be a workhorse for the rest of your life for someone like that
My dad was single to 36, then married for 52 years. Men have a 9 decade life, so enjoy bachelor era.
Man, i ve been watching you for a few years now& gotta say you just keep improving on already solid content. No bitching&soy boy shit but no pua scam either. Just a common sense, which we are severely lacking all over the world, not only in US(im from Poland). Your videos make me chill a little bit and giving some insights at the same time( listening to this on my ho job right now). Keep doing what you doing. Good job dude 💪
The difference is that in Poland 50% of young women are hot and in USA 5% at best.
Was very happy to see you pop up in my feed. One of my favorite channels since the beginning brother.
I just turned 25 and recently lost my father and I pray to God I find myself a good woman and end up having a son as my first child. I want to name my son after my father and continue his legacy, I want to be tough for my future son and make him proud.
Biggest misstake you could make sir.....When the going gets tough for America...and it allready is...A hugh majority of married men will find themselves dumped by their significant other. At 25 you have alot to learn.
This guy is somethin else! Hes not jus a guy hes a thought, an idea; hes that voice i have the same conversations with when i think about these thoughts. I can tell he was talking to himself many times thruout this video. Keep it real man!
I'd add to that list not even had a relationship and over 30. I see that more and more now.