Why I have No Friends, No Wife, No Social Life at 41

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  • @gradpatat4057
    @gradpatat4057 6 місяців тому +1642

    Being alone is not the worst in life. Worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel alone.
    Rather alone than in bad company.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  6 місяців тому +67

      You are absolutely right 🎯

    • @TinaSpeaks
      @TinaSpeaks 5 місяців тому +6

      Truth

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 5 місяців тому +2

      Dear Grandpat4057. Well done.

    • @notyourtypicalcomment2399
      @notyourtypicalcomment2399 5 місяців тому +6

      @@rizenflybrother ppl are flawed, we lose ppl that is part of the human experience, however if u still want a wife and a family ntn wrong with wanting that, but just understand that obviously some parts will be rough, ppl are heavily flawed.

    • @desireeeeam
      @desireeeeam 5 місяців тому +3

      People who make you feel alone…oof. And then you aren’t, but you’d rather be, and every noise they make thing they do drives you insane.
      I’m so jealous of the actually lonely people; I wish I hadn’t chased affection and attention and ended up…here. I healed too late in life, and now that I’m happy with myself I still have all the messes of the past!

  • @alexperkins8361
    @alexperkins8361 9 місяців тому +1623

    Whoever said more money more problems got it wrong... It's actually more people more problems. I'm a single father and every time I let some one in they become a distraction from what my calling is.

    • @merfn
      @merfn 9 місяців тому +33

      Facts

    • @EminentPK-z1s
      @EminentPK-z1s 9 місяців тому +23

      Indeed😂

    • @BenBisset-yc9qo
      @BenBisset-yc9qo 9 місяців тому +20

      Feel that brother

    • @eii8794
      @eii8794 9 місяців тому +15

      I can relate 100%

    • @Tony_Kaku
      @Tony_Kaku 9 місяців тому +42

      Exactly! There are people who always get themselves in messy situations and will always need a favor or money and blame everyone else as the reason. I understand sometimes shit happens but there is also knowing how to avoid those situations.

  • @joes4987
    @joes4987 9 місяців тому +733

    Thank you for sharing, 38, no wife, no kids, no social life, and i truly love my life. Was always a lone wolf, wouldnt have it any other way.

    • @lstruggy
      @lstruggy 9 місяців тому +15

      💯🎯 forever 🥷

    • @ChrisJWatts504TV
      @ChrisJWatts504TV 9 місяців тому +1

      💯💯

    • @AlexanderMatrix11111
      @AlexanderMatrix11111 9 місяців тому +32

      ​@rotweilerscholar1181No thanks

    • @waynek805
      @waynek805 9 місяців тому +16

      @rotweilerscholar1181 Too often nowadays, the love is no longer unconditional between parents and their kids. Then there is the difference between love and respect (another thing sorely lacking in today's society). But yes, overall, having kids is important for most of us to get fulfillment and a sense of true accomplishment in our lives in the long run. Plus, with so many people choosing not to have kids, we are facing a real demographic disaster that many other countries are already experiencing.

    • @AlexanderMatrix11111
      @AlexanderMatrix11111 9 місяців тому +11

      @@waynek805 So what

  • @RouxBeard
    @RouxBeard 5 місяців тому +647

    I'm 40, no friends no family no spouse ever in my life and it looks like we're the new normal in America.

    • @wesleywatson9514
      @wesleywatson9514 5 місяців тому +8

      Luck you mate

    • @PerryKim-s5l
      @PerryKim-s5l 5 місяців тому +12

      I’m right there with you too.

    • @wesleywatson9514
      @wesleywatson9514 5 місяців тому +14

      @@PerryKim-s5l peace and quiet is the best.

    • @lutaayam
      @lutaayam 5 місяців тому +6

      I have some friends

    • @memacharles129
      @memacharles129 4 місяці тому +20

      Yrs, definitely the new norm. Appreciate and love yourself and your own company. Priceless

  • @john-lacherry
    @john-lacherry 8 місяців тому +3153

    I'm 81, alone my whole life. I'm still alive and kicking. Only child. I absolutely love being alone. I am my best friend.

    • @daneyraju8433
      @daneyraju8433 8 місяців тому +98

      Are for real bro... or just joking

    • @leelunk8235
      @leelunk8235 8 місяців тому

      ​@@daneyraju8433WHY DO YOU CHALLENGE HIM HEFFA

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +142

      Yes, very encouraging brother thanks for sharing your experience and for listening. I appreciate that 💯

    • @leelunk8235
      @leelunk8235 8 місяців тому

      @@daneyraju8433 ARE YOU FOR REAL

    • @pizzahot133
      @pizzahot133 8 місяців тому +24

      Rock on!

  • @nikkikraus8298
    @nikkikraus8298 9 місяців тому +1847

    Being alone and being lonely are 2 different things. Sometimes being alone for a while is the best move on the chessboard.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +80

      Yes I totally agree 💯

    • @beo_bred1247
      @beo_bred1247 9 місяців тому +18

      This one💪🏾🔥🤜🏾!!!

    • @Mishy555
      @Mishy555 9 місяців тому +38

      Yup being alone and being lonely ARE two entirely different things. People get it mixed up.

    • @robinnewton1061
      @robinnewton1061 9 місяців тому +9

      For sure!!

    • @lstruggy
      @lstruggy 9 місяців тому +7

      Yezzzrrr! 🥷

  • @bigbad123321
    @bigbad123321 9 місяців тому +350

    I'm 40 and your story is identical to mine. I joined the Navy though and not Army. Everything else is scarcely similar. No wife, no kids, shy, the few friends I have are all now married and so I don't get to see them very much these days. Keep working on yourself like you are man, I think that's the key. Over the last couple of years I've got myself a Degree and am looking for a better job. I've also lost 120 lbs over the last 13 months. I'm improving myself 1 small step at a time

    • @TheClemt33
      @TheClemt33 9 місяців тому +8

      Good job sir, don't give up !

    • @bigbad123321
      @bigbad123321 9 місяців тому +3

      @@TheClemt33 Thanks man, and thanks for sharing your story.

    • @robertmann446
      @robertmann446 9 місяців тому +3

      120 lbs are you ok?

    • @bigbad123321
      @bigbad123321 8 місяців тому +6

      @@robertmann446 Yeah, I was very overweight. I haven't gone anorexic or anything.

    • @RetireandGo
      @RetireandGo 8 місяців тому +6

      You are making your way and I wish you all the best

  • @Beatles0223
    @Beatles0223 5 місяців тому +206

    I'm 48, not married, childless, with exactly one friend. Why do we always have to explain ourselves or feel bad? Meanwhile, the married folks are beyond miserable.

    • @sexysportsfan1
      @sexysportsfan1 5 місяців тому

      it's not a bad life. I know folks who miserable

    • @Ciskuss
      @Ciskuss 5 місяців тому

      Why only 1 friend? I have friends and work but I feel a lot alone and wrong

    • @tracym6652
      @tracym6652 5 місяців тому +10

      I am divorced, not exactly single but I was miserable when I was married. Don't want to get married again

    • @ranganathprahlad
      @ranganathprahlad 4 місяці тому +4

      Really marrying in this era would be fault for sure.

    • @SmithyWesson
      @SmithyWesson 2 місяці тому

      lmao

  • @trevagraham1605
    @trevagraham1605 9 місяців тому +2637

    I'm 47, married, I have three real friends, and I don't go out much. People are really just a liability.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +115

      I glad to hear that, thanks for listening

    • @nowchanlahkesis9691
      @nowchanlahkesis9691 9 місяців тому +22

      Lotta users be the boss of your gifts " never look like your dumb one sec or yeah'''

    • @dah_goofster
      @dah_goofster 9 місяців тому +25

      They can be an asset

    • @trevagraham1605
      @trevagraham1605 9 місяців тому +76

      @@dah_goofster They can be, but more often than not that's not the case.

    • @dah_goofster
      @dah_goofster 9 місяців тому

      @@trevagraham1605 well if you think about any business that is successful, it’s always a collective effort. I think the trick is to figure out how to extract the assets from each person, if there is any.
      Might sound psychotic but it’s the reality.

  • @marycrowley1442
    @marycrowley1442 9 місяців тому +1227

    Being betrayed by someone you thought was your friend or someone you thought loved you and would be there for you is one of the worst feelings one can experience. It is a hard gut punch.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +89

      Indeed it is 🎯

    • @gma729
      @gma729 8 місяців тому +58

      Happened to me too Bro. My gf. She went from a Dream from Heaven, to 8 months later xa Malevolent Demon from hell. She literally tried to destroy my life, instead she ruined hers, her New bf bailed her out of jail recently. But she's facing 6 felony charges come August. Good Riddance

    • @YeseniaCargill721
      @YeseniaCargill721 8 місяців тому +24

      @@gma729 dude you're ex gf sounds like a terrible person who seriously makes someone's life a living nightmare like that she seems like the type of person who has no respect for anyone at all

    • @tommiejackson-zd4dl
      @tommiejackson-zd4dl 8 місяців тому +19

      Trust me Im living it now betrayal

    • @thinktankindi2664
      @thinktankindi2664 8 місяців тому +17

      I used to have a gang of so called friends. They let me down...outright betrayed by a few. I stick with my wife and kids...just casual friendships with a few. I keep some distance.

  • @Omar-y9m7r
    @Omar-y9m7r 9 місяців тому +1383

    I'm 48, burnt out with being socially deceptive, I'm a true introvert, no friends, no close family ties, and no social life. I look forward to work and running errands

    • @jaydub7386
      @jaydub7386 9 місяців тому +47

      Same

    • @deleted5338
      @deleted5338 9 місяців тому

      @@jaydub7386 both of y’all would make great volunteers. You bring time and effort to the communities around out. We are social creatures, be careful you are not making excuses, if you feel you are, consider therapy.

    • @omarisaac5189
      @omarisaac5189 9 місяців тому

      Wtf!!! You people need desperate help. That is not normal or healthy

    • @micro_aggressor
      @micro_aggressor 9 місяців тому +66

      GYMMMM!!!!

    • @merfn
      @merfn 9 місяців тому +22

      The same

  • @astrahcat1212
    @astrahcat1212 5 місяців тому +82

    You're never alone when you're with your mind, soul, heart

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  5 місяців тому +3

      Facts 🎯

    • @Seforis-er2oc
      @Seforis-er2oc Місяць тому +1

      No such thing as soul or heart exist, but those thoughts are everything.

  • @J.Strantz
    @J.Strantz 9 місяців тому +122

    Nearly 34, no wife, no kids, no social life, my old friends from school/work are scattered around the US, no consistent contact.
    Thanks for your service.

  • @ShondaD_
    @ShondaD_ 7 місяців тому +890

    I'm 39, not married, have no children, stopped talking to my toxic family, and no social life either. But it's the best thing for me in this season of my life. I have to take care of my mental well-being. I'm alone but not lonely, and I enjoy my own company😊.

    • @bluudynuckles
      @bluudynuckles 7 місяців тому +8

      being alone is good to help you reflect i know i dont want to stay alone im in columbia sc now where are from/ at i think u can use a hug hehee

    • @rickman2267
      @rickman2267 6 місяців тому +2

      Me too

    • @Gamer-k2l
      @Gamer-k2l 6 місяців тому +14

      I'm too reliant on my family/ mother that's toxic. I'm currently 23 planning on leaving this environment in my 30s, but I also don't have a social life & no friends, so I can't wait for it, honestly. It's either living in this environment for now or being homeless for me. I don't know how to drive yet, so I feel stuck w multiple mental health/illness issues & no money... But I'm trying it's just feel hopeless sorry for complaining this much I hope you all can understand my situation I'm in.

    • @Ty-op5xr
      @Ty-op5xr 6 місяців тому +1

      @@Gamer-k2lgo to community college bro there’s friends there

    • @MrRepsMrReps
      @MrRepsMrReps 6 місяців тому +3

      @3d...p Start travelling and get into your passions. Family can be like leeches love them from a far.

  • @DIXIFREELY
    @DIXIFREELY 9 місяців тому +629

    I've found that living this type of lifestyle is more peaceful and abundant financially.

    • @heruthemaster
      @heruthemaster 9 місяців тому +34

      Marriage sucks

    • @TheCharr119
      @TheCharr119 9 місяців тому +28

      Exactly! You cherish more of your time and boundaries with rejecting most people nonsense, gossiping, mockering and childish behavior is despicable. Most people don't realize that gossiping and mocking people is a sin. My lifestyle is recluse to max.

    • @jdocean1
      @jdocean1 9 місяців тому +8

      I have a 16 year old daughter. I’m always broke 😂.

    • @TheCharr119
      @TheCharr119 9 місяців тому

      @@jdocean1 You have to learn about investing and remain patient for your harvest. Learn about digital assets like XRP, XLM, XDC and Pure Silver on UA-cam. I'll tell you one thing most people are condition thinking that once you invest they'll get overnight riches. That's not realistic at all.

    • @TheCharr119
      @TheCharr119 9 місяців тому

      @@jdocean1 Invest in physical silver, xrp, xlm and xdc

  • @flashgordo9485
    @flashgordo9485 5 місяців тому +41

    Im almost 50. Same thing. I just never been happier. No drama, no extra added expenses, no bitching, no disappointments.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  5 місяців тому +1

      😎

    • @summerr455
      @summerr455 17 днів тому

      Total peace and solitude ❤

  • @gamesmoney1025
    @gamesmoney1025 7 місяців тому +419

    Im currently 37 and barely have any of that. To be honest Im sick of most people.

    • @2PaweL
      @2PaweL 6 місяців тому +9

      👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

    • @Lonqpress
      @Lonqpress 6 місяців тому +6

      💯

    • @gamesmoney1025
      @gamesmoney1025 6 місяців тому +23

      Nowadays I barely talk to anybody unless I have to but other than that I keep to myself.... Eversince I did that, I've had a peace of mind. It gets lonely but I'll take that over dealing with drama, stupidity, and disrespect

    • @fence22
      @fence22 6 місяців тому +2

      ​@@gamesmoney1025I know the feeling so well😂

    • @inthelight565
      @inthelight565 6 місяців тому +3

      Maybe somebody sick of you to! Get off your high horse.

  • @smallwonder866
    @smallwonder866 9 місяців тому +428

    I am 38 and as far back as I can remember I have been an outcast. I was severely bullied throughout school. In my adult life, I was hurt and mistreated by jobs and "the system"...I ended up homeless. By the time I managed to acquire some sort of stability, I was well into my 30s and I just couldn't relate to or trust anyone.

    • @magerulz616
      @magerulz616 9 місяців тому +10

      Find a good therapist and start working

    • @Raptify420
      @Raptify420 9 місяців тому +82

      @@magerulz616 Therapy is talking to someone who cares as long as he gets your $. Also sitting in a chair for an hour just to talk is the female way of dealing with issues, men are not designed this way.

    • @magerulz616
      @magerulz616 9 місяців тому +16

      @Raptify-sh4kt trauma doesn't heal without professional help, talking doesn't solve everything but a great therapist will be much more than someone you just talk to

    • @Raptify420
      @Raptify420 9 місяців тому

      ​@@magerulz616 Talking, giving advice that you can get online for free and charging more than a hooker. Screw that!

    • @Jim-x1i
      @Jim-x1i 9 місяців тому +34

      @@magerulz616 no it doesn't just stop your BS.

  • @nouramoh731
    @nouramoh731 24 дні тому +16

    Thank you for sharing. I am 32, no husband, no social life, living with my parents. We can help each other women and men to build online community.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  20 днів тому +2

      You’re welcome, thank you for listening. I appreciate the support and wish you all the best as well 💯

    • @JamesKamau-p2k
      @JamesKamau-p2k 6 днів тому

      Me too

    • @MatthewPogue-mn7vq
      @MatthewPogue-mn7vq 3 дні тому

      I'm down. I'm on Facebook.

  • @williambarber2523
    @williambarber2523 9 місяців тому +644

    I'm 56 years old and I have been alone for over six years now and it's lonely but its a lot better than being used.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +30

      I hear that brother, Facts🎯

    • @angeliachandler1853
      @angeliachandler1853 8 місяців тому +9

      I totally agree

    • @versewonderstrikes5353
      @versewonderstrikes5353 8 місяців тому

      🎯How were you being used? Just curious? Were you enabling someone? Were you being lied to. What’s the real story?

    • @machida58
      @machida58 8 місяців тому

      ​@@versewonderstrikes5353Humans are opportunistic exploiters. It's a function of intelligence and having a "social" nature.

    • @Mighty-VizioN
      @Mighty-VizioN 8 місяців тому +6

      I was told that if no one is using you, that makes you useless. The point is to not be concerned about being used. it's a part of life and living

  • @rickjay2011
    @rickjay2011 9 місяців тому +374

    I'm 39, turning 40 soon... Divorced. No children. Your story is similar to a lot of us guys, who have trusted and been done wrong by friends, family, and ex wives or girlfriends. 2017 was my last relationship and after finally getting tired of being rejected and ghosted, I realized the only love I needed came from myself. I'd recommend reading into the Buddhist teachings regarding detachment. It's a great place in life to be happy in your own company, and no longer dealing with shallow individuals, just looking to suck the life out of you.

    • @aaronchapman3
      @aaronchapman3 9 місяців тому +17

      Yep. 2017 was my last relationship too. After my wife left I just do my own thing every day

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +8

      You speak so much truth. Thanks for your insight words and for listening. I really appreciate it💯

    • @Topsiekku
      @Topsiekku 9 місяців тому +7

      Tarvitset Jeesusta et Budhaa.

    • @marcusryan9129
      @marcusryan9129 9 місяців тому +1

      I'm going to check those Buddhist teachings out. Thanks 👍🏽

    • @HarryClipzFilmz
      @HarryClipzFilmz 9 місяців тому +2

      Read a book called the Stellar Man by John Baines. Great read my guy

  • @shawnjackson9337
    @shawnjackson9337 8 місяців тому +430

    I absolutely understand, brother. I’m 53 with no children, no spouse and very FEW friends. IDK how tf I got here but, man…. I’m enjoying it.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +19

      Thanks for sharing your experience and for listening. I appreciate it, wish you all the best 💯

    • @daphneytennard3267
      @daphneytennard3267 8 місяців тому +12

      Welcome to the club

    • @norgelopez1935
      @norgelopez1935 8 місяців тому +11

      Smart

    • @guerovillalbaso2523
      @guerovillalbaso2523 8 місяців тому +3

      You work at least?

    • @bigbro8817
      @bigbro8817 8 місяців тому +1

      If you were really enjoying it you wouldn't be here trying to convince us that you are truth is you need videos like this to feed off of because deep down you're miserable.

  • @TheFirstCalled.60.A.D
    @TheFirstCalled.60.A.D 2 місяці тому +17

    I had the wife, social life, friends. Now I'm 40 and have been flying solo for the past 6 years and never looked back. Keep on keeping on brother 👍🏻

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  2 місяці тому +1

      I hear you, thanks for the support! I appreciate that and wish you all the best as well brother 💯

    • @faizalmusa7462
      @faizalmusa7462 29 днів тому +1

      ❤❤❤

  • @dawrekzorcist3372
    @dawrekzorcist3372 7 місяців тому +1025

    Unfortunately, this is more common than people think.

    • @CraigAnderson-h2h
      @CraigAnderson-h2h 7 місяців тому +30

      No way is discovering one's essential aloness unfortunate.

    • @unc1221
      @unc1221 6 місяців тому +15

      In America and it’s unnatural as well.

    • @MrSavageDOESITALL
      @MrSavageDOESITALL 6 місяців тому +17

      What u mean unfortunately

    • @Mindyourownright
      @Mindyourownright 6 місяців тому

      @@unc1221I don’t understand how it could be unnatural here when everyone is such a fake, one-way, narcissistic piece of garbage in the US. I look forward to my alone time.

    • @fufurabumbacka
      @fufurabumbacka 6 місяців тому +26

      Why unfortunatelly? Its graeat.

  • @Blu_Grease
    @Blu_Grease 9 місяців тому +1124

    When you’re young, everybody wants to be your friend but when you’re older, It’s very hard to make friends

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +105

      This is very true

    • @TheSwapMaster
      @TheSwapMaster 9 місяців тому

      Bullshit. If you're different or smarter, nobody likes you.

    • @thehotboywalking
      @thehotboywalking 9 місяців тому +54

      It’s not hard. Most adults just don’t go out enough. I go:
      Scuba diving
      Horseback riding
      Sky diving
      Painting
      Cooking class
      Pottery class
      Jet skiing
      Gun range
      Fencing
      Water rafting
      Swimming
      U name it. It’s 60 activities on my list. I meet dope ppl doing them all and almost all of them have clubs you can join

    • @dannysummers4591
      @dannysummers4591 9 місяців тому +151

      @@thehotboywalking most of us weren't born into aristocracy to have hobbies like that, some of us are stuck in the 9-5 grind with limited time and money

    • @TheSwapMaster
      @TheSwapMaster 9 місяців тому +87

      @@dannysummers4591 and some of us, like myself, are so ugly that every time I go out in public, people recoil.

  • @moniquemariemuniz
    @moniquemariemuniz 8 місяців тому +412

    This comment section is so kind. Thank you. I turn 40 this week and I am single, no kids and my parents are in heaven. My friends are my 2 dogs and a bunny. They are loyal. I too look forward to work and errands. I think I’m still in shock how unbelievably cruel this world can be. I’ve been severely bullied my entire life but became worse as I grew older. Being alone is safe and can be very fun. Many blessings everyone. Life is what you make it. So make
    It fun. Even if it’s just for you and the animals🥰🥰🥰

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +25

      Thank you for sharing your experience, sorry to hear about your parents, sending my condolences 💐 I appreciate you taking the time to listen as well, and hope that great things come your way💯

    • @Chris-ln6so
      @Chris-ln6so 8 місяців тому +11

      Such a lovely comment ❤

    • @flightkidd123
      @flightkidd123 8 місяців тому +5

      God Bless You

    • @Corleone007
      @Corleone007 8 місяців тому +3

      you look quite nice :) I would meet you. Where are you from? :D

    • @tomjones6630
      @tomjones6630 8 місяців тому +5

      That's trauma. Ever consider therapy? Others who are miserable will chime in and say it's okay to be that way. It's equivalent to the blind leading the blind.

  • @jy928
    @jy928 5 місяців тому +82

    A few years back I saw I was headed for the same path. So I got a wife and got some kids and now they are my life. Wishing everybody who reads this abundance and prosperity.

    • @ming-darhsieh9941
      @ming-darhsieh9941 5 місяців тому +5

      Same here. Thought I would be alone, but life has other plans. Things can always change.

    • @SpenceCurry
      @SpenceCurry 5 місяців тому +2

      No peace or orosperity eith wifeband kids. Jettison the baggage

    • @lonesurvivor815
      @lonesurvivor815 5 місяців тому +2

      Sounds very stressful life

    • @DemetriceOwens
      @DemetriceOwens 5 місяців тому +1

      Thanks! Ditto❤😊

    • @jy928
      @jy928 5 місяців тому +5

      It’s very stressful. It’s the kind of stress that forces to be an adult male, and to be about your business.

  • @dubmatic798
    @dubmatic798 9 місяців тому +190

    Came across your channel by accident. Thank you for serving our country. I'm 48 black man, have always been a loner. I can be social, hang out, conversate, date, but I've always been more comfortable when I'm alone. I've been in several relationships and literally have seen friends come and go. It all amounted to nothing. Now I'm just at peace. I love my hobbies and traveling and I happen to really love my Job/career. I've gotten more accomplished since I've made the decision to just stay single and mind my own business. Thanks for this vid.

    • @TheKingdom-i9t
      @TheKingdom-i9t 9 місяців тому +16

      Jesus Christ is the only way to everlasting life. He loves you, and He is with you. He will never abandon nor forsake you.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +13

      Cool, no problem it was an honor to serve. Thanks for listening and sharing your experience. Glad that you found peace and I wish you good times ahead as well😎

    • @ernstthalmann4306
      @ernstthalmann4306 8 місяців тому +1

      Stack money and get a Thai wife lol 😆 🤣

    • @JeromeBundy
      @JeromeBundy 2 місяці тому +2

      Stop blaming Yourself!!!I'm the same

    • @dubmatic798
      @dubmatic798 2 місяці тому +1

      @@ernstthalmann4306 A Thai wife wouldn't be bad at all.

  • @samanthap.879
    @samanthap.879 9 місяців тому +74

    I’m 27, married with a child and over the last 5 years my parents, best friend, best friends mom, and 5 other friends I held dear faded away. I have my husband son and one very close cousin and I am content because they love me. Quality over quantity

    • @funkbros3141
      @funkbros3141 28 днів тому

      The wife of a woman is charmed isn't it?

  • @oldbutbold
    @oldbutbold 8 місяців тому +195

    I'm also 41. No family, wife, girlfriend, friend. Life is work, eat, sleep every Mon-Fri, eat and sleep every weekend and public holidays. It has been that way for the majority of my adult years.

    • @mikeprice8307
      @mikeprice8307 7 місяців тому

      What you do for saxx?

    • @yxkesss
      @yxkesss 7 місяців тому

      saxophone ​@@mikeprice8307

    • @oldbutbold
      @oldbutbold 7 місяців тому +6

      @@mikeprice8307 Nothing of that kind at all.

    • @DA-qs4kq
      @DA-qs4kq 7 місяців тому

      Online poker a plus

    • @mikeprice8307
      @mikeprice8307 7 місяців тому

      @@oldbutbold wow you must want to rip through everything considered a looker.

  • @Phoenixat40
    @Phoenixat40 Місяць тому +24

    I'm 40 and I have no friends. Life changes and people change too as everyone moves on with their lives. If you're feeling lonely, know that you're not alone. You still have people like us on here.

  • @PeaceNamawejje
    @PeaceNamawejje 8 місяців тому +274

    The comment section is therapy itself. Thank y’all for sharing your insights on situations like this, reading your comments has helped me feel better.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +17

      I’m glad to hear that. Thank you for listening and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate that 💯

    • @rogeliomartinez9173
      @rogeliomartinez9173 8 місяців тому +4

      Uffffff!!!! Best comments,or to be said at the best way,BEST COMMENTORS EVER😊...what a quality on these comments!

    • @diobrando-qv3uv
      @diobrando-qv3uv 8 місяців тому +3

      The reply sections are quite the opposite tho...but that's just a UA-cam thing the reply section is always full of very mean and hateful people unfortunately.

    • @kimcapaldi9328
      @kimcapaldi9328 8 місяців тому +3

      Totally agree 👍

    • @freeindeed8416
      @freeindeed8416 5 місяців тому

      Me too

  • @Wuanty
    @Wuanty 9 місяців тому +274

    In the same position at 23. I don’t really care about socializing and meeting new people anymore. I’ve tried that last year and absolutely nothing came from it other than the realization that people don’t matter that much and I’m on my own in this life. I could live in a farm with my animals and be fulfilled.

    • @patrickglaser1560
      @patrickglaser1560 9 місяців тому +6

      Get that feed bag son... feels bad seeing these farmers selling land for developers

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +34

      I feel you, animal give off so much genuine energy and are real at all times

    • @Apollothe3
      @Apollothe3 9 місяців тому +25

      You’re 23. You haven’t earned your solitude. You have to get out into the world & make something of yourself. The lonewolf thing is a myth that will leave you socially inept.

    • @NamesZKP
      @NamesZKP 9 місяців тому +17

      @@Apollothe3 Says he's young and hasn't earned his "solitude" then says he's going to be "socially inept." Yeah if you're a gatekeeping pessimist just say it lol.

    • @Apollothe3
      @Apollothe3 9 місяців тому +8

      @@NamesZKPgatekeeping pessimist? You’re using a word & I don’t think you know how that word works. Socializing in person w/ others is like a muscle. If you don’t use it then it becomes atrophied & leads to social awkwardness & ineptitude because Humans are social animals. Why are you trying to pathologize optimism? Did the lonewolf comment strike a nerve?

  • @samueljava
    @samueljava 8 місяців тому +228

    I'm 39, no friends, no social life, no wife, no kids, no pets,... and I love my life. Sometimes is hard but it is for everyone. This is a bless my friend.

    • @GorryX3
      @GorryX3 8 місяців тому +8

      Giga Hyper Cope

    • @WakaFlakaFlame777
      @WakaFlakaFlame777 8 місяців тому +8

      Get a pet homie

    • @mdodo2380
      @mdodo2380 8 місяців тому +2

      I hope you give to charity

    • @Icarus169
      @Icarus169 8 місяців тому +18

      You do you man. Ignore the haters ❤.

    • @marsisflat
      @marsisflat 8 місяців тому

      @@GorryX3suck a d man

  • @CuttinInIdaho
    @CuttinInIdaho 5 місяців тому +57

    Who TF would downvote this? 188 people out there suck. Thanks for the video dude, you seem like a good guy!

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  5 місяців тому +4

      Thanks I appreciate that 😎

    • @hawkertyphoon4537
      @hawkertyphoon4537 3 місяці тому +1

      who tf would downvote this... The type of people that Rise&Fly does not need in his life. The ones that should just leave him alone,
      and i guess they do so 🙂... all is good 😛

    • @andreajohnson7955
      @andreajohnson7955 2 місяці тому

      Why are you so upset? Ppl are not the same! So if somebody does not think that being alone by choice is the best thing since wrestling, they vote no. Simple as that, no offending words, just other preferences.

    • @CuttinInIdaho
      @CuttinInIdaho 2 місяці тому

      @@andreajohnson7955 Because people like you suck...keep being a loser, it doesn't matter

    • @_Eisley
      @_Eisley 2 місяці тому +1

      188 people who have friends

  • @outtahere321
    @outtahere321 9 місяців тому +118

    Thanks for sharing your life experiences. I'm almost 59, divorced after 17 yrs of marriage and have three children. I've been by myself now for 14 yrs. I went through the family court gauntlet and trust me you are better off remaining single, working in your career, saving money and just enjoying your life. We are in the last days where the love of many has waxed cold and it is just too dangerous for men to take the relationship risk in my opinion. God bless you and enjoy your life.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +7

      Anytime..thank you for listening and sharing your experience as well, I will take your advice. May you be blessed also🙏🏾

    • @tngerman
      @tngerman 9 місяців тому +3

      damn … my life to a T
      i’m
      62 divorced 18 years
      3 kids

    • @8corymix8
      @8corymix8 9 місяців тому +3

      Divorced in 04, 1 daughter who lives with me. Never remarried & have no time intentions of it. I work, travel a little & save my money.

    • @brandoyouth
      @brandoyouth 9 місяців тому

      hahaaa..just be scared man..ru intentionaly stupid or is that natural one

  • @countpicula
    @countpicula 9 місяців тому +118

    The algorithm brought me here.
    Glad you got it off your chest man. Keep at it.

  • @raym.7111
    @raym.7111 4 місяці тому +6

    Thank you man , I'm 59 and feel I failed in life , you've done things in life I could only be proud of , and wish I had taken a different path in life . Although I can relate to your situation, it is because of different circumstances , but it equals to the same outcome emotionally , being alone is not a negative in life , how others treat you and judge you is the negativity . Stay strong and stay safe . You are the only person that can look out for yourself, having a partner or friends and being a social butterfly won't set you up for retirement!

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  4 місяці тому

      You’re welcome bro. Thank you for listening and sharing your perspective. You have great insight, I appreciate the support and wish you all the best as well💯

  • @mrbojangles7996
    @mrbojangles7996 8 місяців тому +1390

    No wife, no kids, sleep great, no stress, no health problems, no debt, no drama, peace is priceless!

    • @Donnell-m5x
      @Donnell-m5x 8 місяців тому +28

      Yes it is brother peace is key.

    • @mimosahoney5617
      @mimosahoney5617 8 місяців тому +14

      absolutely!

    • @vibezlogistics7453
      @vibezlogistics7453 8 місяців тому +24

      So u can't find peace with friends and family..come on..

    • @MrRepsMrReps
      @MrRepsMrReps 8 місяців тому +15

      Traveling will add more joy to your life

    • @MrRepsMrReps
      @MrRepsMrReps 8 місяців тому +82

      @@vibezlogistics7453 Family can be a great source of stress

  • @sylvianpententner3051
    @sylvianpententner3051 9 місяців тому +344

    Married guy here with not a single friend, zero social life and loving it. Can't stand people, no interest in talking about netflix, cappucinos or sport so I'm happy its just me and my wife!

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +24

      Glad to hear that bro, I wish you both all the best 😎

    • @machida58
      @machida58 8 місяців тому +13

      Marriage is the biggest crutch of all time. Lol.

    • @sylvianpententner3051
      @sylvianpententner3051 8 місяців тому +22

      @@machida58 whatever works for you bro!

    • @machida58
      @machida58 8 місяців тому

      @@sylvianpententner3051 Don't isolate yourself and put all your eggs in one basket. You never know when you will need *some* kind of support network.

    • @machida58
      @machida58 8 місяців тому

      @@sylvianpententner3051 My comments are being deleted.

  • @MomentsByMo
    @MomentsByMo 9 місяців тому +92

    You seem to have a sweet soul... and unfortunately a lot of people take advantage of that. Sorry you went through those experiences. Stay blessed.😊

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +9

      Thank you for the kind words and support I truly appreciate it 💯

    • @kimboofdzners9574
      @kimboofdzners9574 2 місяці тому

      give them an inch and they will take a mile

  • @camronmoses8956
    @camronmoses8956 8 місяців тому +155

    41, one friend (which I'm wearing out my welcome), no lady, no job, no more money, and living out of my car. Literally waiting for my car to be towed any minute. Hungry, but I'm still sober. Crying, but still alive. The tough truth is life sucks. More so for some than others. Being alone sucks. Not being able to trust sucks. Not sure what brought me here, but I wish you the absolute best, man.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +12

      Thanks for sharing your experience and for listening. I appreciate that and wish you all the best in your future as well 💯

    • @micnorton9487
      @micnorton9487 8 місяців тому

      Understand brother,, I'm almost at the end of the line here getting kicked out of a low rent apartment by an owner who is a prosperity Gospel phony who wants to make more money off illegal immigrants (which I never have a problem with, people come here to get a better life and they should be able to do that)... I haven't been homeless for a long time, I always worked when I could and treated people well and this is what it got me... And it occurs to me, that these worthless pieces of garbage who screw over other people just to get a little bit more money DO have something coming to them, and if he's going to create a person with nothing to lose, well then maybe he should lose something... It seems a real ignorable way to go out, icing some worthless piece of s*** and then exit stage left myself but I really don't have the energy to go through being homeless again... Hope something turns up for you 🙏🙏🙏

    • @realbrother2795
      @realbrother2795 8 місяців тому +23

      Call out to Jesus to help you bro he really can help you and change your situation if you trust him

    • @D1Snr
      @D1Snr 8 місяців тому +9

      I feel you're pain. It's like hell on earth.

    • @daneyraju8433
      @daneyraju8433 8 місяців тому +18

      Bro your ability to wish him luck amidst all the struggle makes you an angel... shine bright man... you are not alone jesus is always with you

  • @extratole
    @extratole 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for your service

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  5 місяців тому

      Anytime.. It was an honor to serve. Thank you so much for your support and for taking the time to listen. I truly appreciate it😎

  • @MuzicDude18
    @MuzicDude18 7 місяців тому +279

    The fact that majority of people can't be alone is scary 😮

    • @DevouringWhiteSpider
      @DevouringWhiteSpider 6 місяців тому +14

      If I couldn't be alone I would go crazy. Maybe I am crazy.

    • @MuzicDude18
      @MuzicDude18 6 місяців тому +4

      @@DevouringWhiteSpider Same

    • @williamyoung9401
      @williamyoung9401 6 місяців тому

      It's biology. Humans need social interaction like we need food, water, oxygen, sunlight, and gravity. If we're denied it, over time, we die...literally die inside.

    • @jpscharged
      @jpscharged 6 місяців тому +27

      It's normal human nature to want to socialize.

    • @weirdphax5406
      @weirdphax5406 6 місяців тому +1

      we were designed to be alone, some people are better at it than others

  • @EmmettLBrown2015
    @EmmettLBrown2015 6 місяців тому +261

    I'm 39 years old, I don't have a girlfriend or a wife or kids or friends and not much of a social life, I work hard and then I go home, I used to feel lonely but then I really got used to being alone and I made peace with it and I find joy and comfort in it because I have nobody trying to hurt me, I can be myself around myself

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  6 місяців тому +5

      😎

    • @eclass96
      @eclass96 6 місяців тому +5

      Same here friend...👍

    • @allaboutcars4835
      @allaboutcars4835 6 місяців тому +2

      How do you like going to those family events by yourself every year???
      Your family is looking at you like, “hmm?” 🤔 💁‍♂️
      And your neighbors are highly baffled 🧐

    • @allaboutcars4835
      @allaboutcars4835 6 місяців тому

      @@eclass96
      How do you like going to those family events by yourself every year???
      Your family is looking at you like, “hmm?” 🤔 💁‍♂️
      And your neighbors are highly baffled 🧐 and look at you with pity.

    • @EmmettLBrown2015
      @EmmettLBrown2015 6 місяців тому +1

      @Randy_Richmond I guess myself, I'll die alone...

  • @xBelleNoire
    @xBelleNoire 9 місяців тому +686

    Everyone isn’t meant to be partnered. If this is truly the life you want, enjoy your solitude. Do what works for you.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +64

      Facts, thanks for listening much appreciated💯 will do

    • @Real-Name..Maqavoy
      @Real-Name..Maqavoy 9 місяців тому +21

      Agreed.
      I Had the Worst of The Worst *Parents*
      One a *Real* Socio-Path.
      The other one A - 'Psycho-Path' And... *Ex-Navy*
      Own Sister is *Bi-Polar & A Feminist*
      Side-Note; All of em'
      Have 1 Common-Factor
      ( *Alcoholis:m* )
      Me: .... *An Introvert*
      (That got My education) Stolen
      By The Parents {-Mūnchen-by-proxy-}

    • @Hello_Ladies
      @Hello_Ladies 9 місяців тому +38

      No such things as "partners" unless you're running a business together. A wife or husband is not a partner.

    • @ToniTruthArt
      @ToniTruthArt 9 місяців тому +14

      It’s a risk to me now that I’m 36 with no kids only because it’s literally gambling that I don’t get a woman who wants to just put me on child support because I’m a working man and most modern women
      Love the idea of having a baby because baby fever but discard the relationship.

    • @mschoy1597
      @mschoy1597 9 місяців тому +32

      @@rizenfly Same. I'm also 41. No Friends, No husband and no social life because I WANT my peace. Friends do NOT exist. Once you do better for yourself, by yourself, they get jealous. Not everyone should be married and social life is a distraction from my focus on Divine Source. I LIKE being alone. I like my walks in the park BY MYSELF.

  • @zedbruh7212
    @zedbruh7212 3 місяці тому +6

    Thank you for sharing sir. This is what we need. Men need to be able to share their feelings and concerns and we should support each other. Dont fall for the status quo. Work on yourself and pursue your passions.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  3 місяці тому

      Anytime brother..yes absolutely🎯

  • @technologic21
    @technologic21 8 місяців тому +267

    I'm 40, no wife, no kids, no social life. My true friends I can count on one hand. People are a liability. Solitude is a hard won ally. I'm very thankful for it.

    • @Donnell-m5x
      @Donnell-m5x 8 місяців тому +3

      Absolutely right

    • @wouterjansen4176
      @wouterjansen4176 8 місяців тому +2

    • @chris4321das
      @chris4321das 8 місяців тому +1

      "My true friends I can count on one hand" - that's how it is in life. You have that many? I teach my children that you can only have a 2-3 true friends, as friendship takes time and dedication 👍

    • @devilsoffspring5519
      @devilsoffspring5519 7 місяців тому +5

      Lots of people around is good for hobbyist/enthusiast groups, concerts, sports, and other things that can be social like that.
      Nobody around is necessary for getting things done. Especially anything creative, you better not have anyone around because they will interfere any chance they get. Songwriting, building things, hell--just fixing your car. People around will interfere because that's what people do.

    • @Cookieboy70
      @Cookieboy70 7 місяців тому +1

      I don't know. I'm in the same boat as everyone else here, no wife, no kids, living my life, etc. but my is in her 70s and she is losing the ability to remember things and is unable to open jars, bottles, etc. So I help her out in most these things. I've also lived long enough to see how big targets the elderly are for family/friends attempting to steal their money in addition to scam artists. I'm living my best life right now and it's a long way off, but I'm starting to think if how long I could actually support myself alone as I get older.

  • @MeetMeOutside
    @MeetMeOutside 7 місяців тому +91

    Much respect my friend. Takes some balls to talk about this, you’re a good man, one step at a time brother.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  7 місяців тому +5

      Thanks I appreciate the support brother 💯

  • @alcatraz3603
    @alcatraz3603 9 місяців тому +52

    Bless you man. Everthing will be fine. Your health is more important than anything.

    • @moxnix74
      @moxnix74 9 місяців тому +3

      Yes! Good health is true wealth.

  • @DQ-md4jk
    @DQ-md4jk 6 місяців тому +231

    I'm currently 35 years old , no wife / kids , no achievements , not rich and I'm questioning myself why do I even exist in this world.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  6 місяців тому +85

      Stay strong bro, you are here for a reason…I hope Great things come your way 💯❤️

    • @linfreepeace3419
      @linfreepeace3419 6 місяців тому +22

      Because your parents didn’t have the courage to do what you’re doing now❤

    • @KathyJo.
      @KathyJo. 6 місяців тому +23

      @@DQ-md4jk you are still very young. You have a lot of years ahead to find your way. Best of luck to you 🙏🏼🙂

    • @brendatate4159
      @brendatate4159 6 місяців тому +11

      God has someone for you because He said it’s not good to be alone.

    • @Aminah6623
      @Aminah6623 5 місяців тому +17

      Go out. Talk to people. Don't fear rejection. Don't take everything or yourself too seriously. Minimize expectations. Be in the moment. The best way to learn social skills is to practice socializing in real life with real people.

  • @sixslinger9951
    @sixslinger9951 6 місяців тому +358

    I'm 59, no wife, no kids, no friends, no pets, no social life. I haven't even been with a woman in over 20 years. And the last serious girlfriend was in 1991. You're not alone in this.

    • @Elena-n5d
      @Elena-n5d 5 місяців тому +10

    • @jonathannyamweya4940
      @jonathannyamweya4940 5 місяців тому +32

      Why have you not been with a women for 20 years?I can understand for being single since 1991, but not been with a women since 2000 is extremely ridiculous, unless you are either experiencing a mental or a medical condition. Sex is good bro both for your mental, physical and stress relieving aspects. Bro, do not live like that since it is not good for your health, especially now you are heading to your 60s. Do not let people tell you otherwise. Stay safe bro.

    • @patriciamkandawire7614
      @patriciamkandawire7614 5 місяців тому

      Its not ridiculous ​@@jonathannyamweya4940

    • @kdcarter9443
      @kdcarter9443 5 місяців тому +7

      ​@@jonathannyamweya4940😂😂😂 facts

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 5 місяців тому +1

      @@jonathannyamweya4940 To Jonathanny 4940: Sex stymies spirituality. Sin solidifies stress. One cannot marry without sufficient knowledge only to satisfy silly urges. ------------ Desperation instead of discernment will detract from finding the true religion, where a significant spouse will help solidify a satisfying spiritual path. A spouse should be sought from serious sincere sources: serving the same God.

  • @wabbit6653
    @wabbit6653 9 місяців тому +42

    Takes a lot of courage to open up like that 👍. Most people are fake. As an introvert and older I prefer being alone.

  • @sagatuppercut2960
    @sagatuppercut2960 4 місяці тому +18

    Dude, I saw your video on another channel. I can sympathize with you. I hope you can find some REAL FRIENDS somewhere in this world. You have kind of personality that most people would like. Best wishes to you, pal. 🍀

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  4 місяці тому +5

      I appreciate that bro.. thanks for taking the time to listen and share your kind words. I wish you all the best as well 💯

  • @LashaThe
    @LashaThe 8 місяців тому +129

    I'm 43 and no friends, no partner, and no social life. After being with someone for over 20 years I found that a peace of mind is so priceless. At first I thought something was wrong with me because I really don't have a life. But Im so at peace with myself and Im ok with that.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +4

      I appreciate you sharing your experience and for listening. You’re so right, piece of mind is priceless🎯

    • @MM-zj8be
      @MM-zj8be 7 місяців тому

      I will be your friend.

  • @ysho2248
    @ysho2248 9 місяців тому +32

    You dodged a bullet with your Ex. As you said, go inwards and heal yourself. Forget the outside world for now. Learn to love yourself and build yourself up financially, emotionally, mentally and Physically. Don't worry about the future. Take care of the present as it is in your hands and control. This way the future is automatically taken care of. You have a very good energy and the right people will gravitate towards you. Learn from the past. You are still young. Do you for now and trust things can only get better. ❤❤❤

  • @patvicencio7394
    @patvicencio7394 9 місяців тому +98

    Im 43,divorced almost 20 yrs ago. Had a messy relationship some years ago. I have been single for about five yrs , alone with no friends. Miss my children and thats about it. God Bless you brother.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +6

      Thanks for sharing your experience and for listening. May God bless you as well🙏🏾

    • @daneoman1000
      @daneoman1000 8 місяців тому

      I am in a very similar boat as you, stay strong brother

    • @PAT3978
      @PAT3978 8 місяців тому

      Very similar to my situation. I’m 46, twice divorced with kids but no friends, no need to impress anyone with BS, only to be there for me and my sons.

  • @Sr.Dusty-Leon008-da-III
    @Sr.Dusty-Leon008-da-III 3 місяці тому +6

    Stopped through to show support my brother

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  3 місяці тому

      Thanks brother I appreciate that 💯

  • @one7decimal2eight
    @one7decimal2eight 7 місяців тому +405

    There are 5 critical moments that impact a man's life.
    The death of your father.
    Getting your heart broken.
    Being broke.
    Being betrayed by your best friend.
    Realizing that no one is coming to save you.
    I have unfortunately gotten this BINGO, and even before all 5 happened I have been a loner. And as they have come to fruition, I have isolated even more. I love it, really. Ive had enough drama and hardship to last a lifetime. Now, at 45 almost 46 I look forward to my alone time to self reflect and not be sucked into the chaos that being around people brings.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  7 місяців тому +17

      Yes brother, you are on target with these 5 things🎯Thanks for sharing your perspective, very enlightening. I appreciate that and wish you all the best as well 💯

    • @maxburn478
      @maxburn478 7 місяців тому +5

      that's sad shit bro... don't let your down. Because all this happened for a reason. And this reason will make you stronger than ever, to help you find your true path, your own way, that one do you need. And it doesn't matter if friend or love gone, it's mean only one thing, they never ever be your close people for real. Everything passing, and what comes around goes around, don't worry about that. Today your on the top, next day your done, that's life and i feel when you come across these hardships, you will be grateful for this times. And you will find your one close man or woman, and it will be forever and it will be better than ever, just never change for yourself and this will happen, once again brother.

    • @michaelalonso8852
      @michaelalonso8852 7 місяців тому +5

      Same buddy same

    • @tdon39
      @tdon39 7 місяців тому +2

      Lmao y’all should try alcohol 🍷

    • @MhokinMhokin
      @MhokinMhokin 7 місяців тому +5

      4/5. for single parent child mother dying is just as bad. never had my heart broken, cause it had never got that far

  • @Oldeagle66
    @Oldeagle66 10 місяців тому +107

    I'm pretty much the same and love it. I don't have to worry about anyones drama or problems and don't have to share any of my resources. I'm cool being invisible.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  10 місяців тому +13

      Yeah I hear you, straight facts 💯

    • @wildwhiskeywolf
      @wildwhiskeywolf 9 місяців тому +3

      Facts

    • @IgorMironov-rq4ye
      @IgorMironov-rq4ye 9 місяців тому +4

      I am used to being invisible as well, for years now, just enjoying my peace, and trying to keep sane in this insanity.

  • @Plagueis313
    @Plagueis313 8 місяців тому +124

    Im 44. No friends, no social life. Just work and home. I always wait for someone to talk to me instead of talking to people.

    • @Randy-kc9gs
      @Randy-kc9gs 8 місяців тому +9

      45, same thing, dont like to engage.

    • @MrRepsMrReps
      @MrRepsMrReps 8 місяців тому +4

      Thats good you will attract people in a natural way

    • @rserna271
      @rserna271 8 місяців тому +3

      People never approach first .

    • @damon7956
      @damon7956 7 місяців тому +10

      @@rserna271 They're doing us all a favor.

    • @lastxp
      @lastxp 7 місяців тому +2

      Some 40+ have never even been on a date before. Availability can be an issue.

  • @mikerochon2508
    @mikerochon2508 2 місяці тому +1

    I can relate to you completely-I’ve been through a lot of the same experiences. Thank you for being open and sharing your story; it’s reassuring to know we’re not alone, and I’m certain it will resonate with others, too. I’m 43, educated, fit, and often told I’m attractive. I’ve had a few long relationships but never married, and I don’t have kids. I don’t have close friends, and I’ve distanced myself from the remaining family due to toxicity, with both of my parents now gone. My childhood likely played a big role in shaping my life in ways I’m still coming to terms with. Some days are tough, and I find myself burying myself in work just to get through. Making friends or finding someone special seems to get harder as we grow older, especially in today’s world.
    Thank you again for posting this-it truly helps to know we’re not alone on this journey. Let’s stay strong and keep going; after all, we’re living on borrowed time, my friend.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  2 місяці тому

      You’re welcome brother. I appreciate you the time to listen and share your experience. Stay strong, and I wish you all the best in times ahead 💯

  • @Winston0Boogie
    @Winston0Boogie 8 місяців тому +42

    I love this dude. This is so honest and the production is very bare bones. Just a guy talking about his feelings and what he's going through.

    • @droid4d279
      @droid4d279 7 місяців тому +1

      It’s honestly better to have a small circle even being by yourself is an awesome thing you control your money your time your energy if you want to go out you can do it once a month

  • @yoelquilates
    @yoelquilates Рік тому +713

    "Be alone-that is the secret of invention: be alone, that is when ideas are born." - Nikola Tesla

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  Рік тому +58

      Very enlightening quote, thanks my man!

    • @marcoAKAjoe
      @marcoAKAjoe Рік тому +35

      Yeah until it gets boring

    • @banginzaza
      @banginzaza Рік тому +36

      It's definitely common nowadays. People don't give a fk about how's your day going. Not many hello's and smiles. And some are alone not on phones and internet. All kinds of lonely ish nowadays 😂😂😂

    • @lsaye
      @lsaye 11 місяців тому +14

      i understand what you mean by this, but look at how Tesla's life played out and you will understand that this is probably not the best approach for life. Its great for SOME careers.

    • @Yujiro945
      @Yujiro945 10 місяців тому

      @@lsayewell brother Tesla bro was autistic that’s why.

  • @A_World_Full_of_Lies
    @A_World_Full_of_Lies 8 місяців тому +165

    This is me as well. I cannot deal with crazy people in 2024. All they do is judge and hate on each other, They are full of pride and are narcissistic, cold hearted and careless. They hate the truth and will block you for speaking of it. Good for you for being a loner. I too am one. It helps me keep my peace.

    • @drunkdrftr
      @drunkdrftr 8 місяців тому +3

      Yup. Culture wars

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +8

      You speak pure facts 🎯

    • @Purple.1111
      @Purple.1111 8 місяців тому +2

      Yesss!!!

    • @lebkuchenmann2000
      @lebkuchenmann2000 8 місяців тому +1

      The worst thing about that is, that I see myself becoming exactly like this, but I lose more and more control over it.

    • @Marvinyoung-o6m
      @Marvinyoung-o6m 8 місяців тому +1

      Very well put.

  • @JayMeDee
    @JayMeDee 2 дні тому +1

    I have a wife, but no friends. So I partially feel you! You seem like you'd be a good friend to someone that deserved it.

  • @Biaggiotti
    @Biaggiotti 8 місяців тому +150

    46, no wife/no kids and living my best life ever. Wouldn't have it any other way. God bless.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +5

      Thanks for sharing your experience and for listening. I appreciate that and may God bless you as well 🙏🏾

    • @Donnell-m5x
      @Donnell-m5x 8 місяців тому +4

      Much respect to you brother I am 41 no wife but 1 child. I have major trust issues so I prefer to be alone as well. Protect your peace at all costs

    • @charleybarley7148
      @charleybarley7148 8 місяців тому +2

      LMAO

    • @richy_rude
      @richy_rude 8 місяців тому

      @@Donnell-m5x and more importantly, protect your bank account lol. 😛

    • @meIanchoIia
      @meIanchoIia 7 місяців тому

      Cope 🤡

  • @MitsuKinG09VIRS
    @MitsuKinG09VIRS 8 місяців тому +139

    I'm 34 in the similar boat ..I trust no one , just waiting for my ticket to be punched . It's already impossible to live yet trust anyone in this new world.

    • @alexcarino3274
      @alexcarino3274 8 місяців тому +2

      Join the military create memories

    • @mlb7583
      @mlb7583 8 місяців тому +28

      ​@@alexcarino3274Bahahahaha Join the military? Bahaha Hilarious

    • @alexcarino3274
      @alexcarino3274 8 місяців тому

      @@mlb7583 take advantage of opportunity instead of just doing nothing and waiting to die or punch out

    • @ernstthalmann4306
      @ernstthalmann4306 8 місяців тому +2

      Brave New World

    • @JonBlack413
      @JonBlack413 8 місяців тому

      @@alexcarino3274he’s 34

  • @ash7324
    @ash7324 2 місяці тому +3

    Takes strength to be honest bro I appreciate you man. More men need to be honest and open up like this. You’re not alone I’ve been struggling too, but we will persevere.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  2 місяці тому

      Glad to hear this, I appreciate the support from you all! much love 💯

  • @copperridgegrow3940
    @copperridgegrow3940 9 місяців тому +136

    I’m 43 and am exactly the same way. No friends, no wife, no girlfriend, no kids, no social life whatsoever. I rarely even go to family functions. I have a couple of business associates I sell my organic produce to. Otherwise it’s just me over here at my little farm left to my own devices. I prefer it this way. I don’t even associate with my neighbors whose property borders mine. A couple from out of state bought the farm that borders mine 2 years ago, I’ve never met or spoke a word to them. lol

    • @Manhwa-recapped
      @Manhwa-recapped 9 місяців тому +8

      I enjoy being alone as well and haven't spoken to my neighbors in years, but don't you think when you're old and barely can move, an start reflecting, you'll feel lonely

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +10

      I’m starting to embrace this lifestyle as well, definitely more peaceful. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and listening💯

    • @jaym9675
      @jaym9675 9 місяців тому +8

      I'm 26 now and that sounds like a good life to me tbh. Me and my animals on a farm eating good/living the good life chillin

    • @RashadJames-y3e
      @RashadJames-y3e 9 місяців тому +3

      @@Manhwa-recappedyes I think about me being older at least 7 times a day.

    • @lisar.2549
      @lisar.2549 9 місяців тому

      Wow, how interesting.

  • @axshnjxsn2571
    @axshnjxsn2571 9 місяців тому +83

    Hey man.
    I've been isolated from society ever since junior high. Not a single solid friend, girlfriend, or social group to be around other than various outings every once in a while through whatever job I was working or some event. Just turned 30 yrs old. Of course I have my own issues too, but I had realized back in high school that something just isn't right, or natural with society and relationships. And it's only gotten worse, I can clearly see that.

    • @jayrob3
      @jayrob3 9 місяців тому

      What part of it all has gotten worse?

    • @TheSwapMaster
      @TheSwapMaster 9 місяців тому +2

      Ive been isolated since elementary.

    • @axshnjxsn2571
      @axshnjxsn2571 9 місяців тому +21

      @@jayrob3 everything started to get bad about when the pager was just dying off, and flip phones were popular. People started becoming disingenuous, exploitative, and manipulation was starting to become a praised trait to exhibit.
      Naturally the destruction of trust and integrity was one of the many outcomes.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +3

      Yeah like can be so complicated at time, stay strong brother. I hope better days come way💯

    • @TallGlass-fh8qf
      @TallGlass-fh8qf 9 місяців тому

      @@axshnjxsn2571 I don’t know if you’re interested, but consider studying the Christian Bible about birthing pains leading to the last days (2 Timothy 3:1-5). An example of this would be the increasing frequency, intensity, and duration of natural disasters. Another would be the attempt to better human communication that has only backfired into narcissism.
      1566 newspaper, 1822 computer, 1876 telephone, 1886 motor vehicle, 1893 radio, 1903 airplane, 1921 pager. All of these progressed individually overtime, until most of them became blended into one resource. Right now it’s mostly all in the smartphone, but sooner than we know it will all be in The Metaverse. Having all of this at our literal fingertips as early as childhood is too much for humans, and causes us to become self-absorbed. But when motivated by impatience or greed or the pride of life…this happens.
      Just my two cents. Take care.

  • @MuddyZen
    @MuddyZen 6 місяців тому +51

    You're okay my dude, I'm almost 50 and in the same place. I think that being here makes you appreciate the small things that are really the biggest and the most forgotten...

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  6 місяців тому +4

      You are absolutely right🎯

    • @allaboutcars4835
      @allaboutcars4835 6 місяців тому +1

      How do you like going to those family events by yourself every year???
      Your family is looking at you like, “hmm?” 🤔 💁‍♂️
      And your neighbors are highly baffled 🧐 and look at you with pity.

    • @Ciskuss
      @Ciskuss 5 місяців тому

      How you reached this place of peace with yourself? My mind doesn’t like being single and alone, it judge me all the time

  • @WillzThaTube
    @WillzThaTube 5 місяців тому +2

    Thanks for sharing bro. You suffered a lot of close friends lost in some bad ways in your community and military career. I completely empathize, you came a long way my friend. Your lost ones would be proud of you. Stay safe and stay strong. Happy I came across your video.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  5 місяців тому +1

      You’re welcome.. I appreciate your support brother 100%

  • @yannieboi
    @yannieboi 9 місяців тому +30

    I’m 30 and I’ve been there for the past 5 years. Starting to become the happiest loner ever.

  • @OnlyBanzho
    @OnlyBanzho 8 місяців тому +97

    35 no friends black sheep in family, no kids, no social life, no social media life, too much wisdom. I’m glad you are here sir sharing this with us because you’re doin just fine.

    • @vincentkennedymcmahon50
      @vincentkennedymcmahon50 8 місяців тому +3

      😂😂😂 what a disgrace

    • @OnlyBanzho
      @OnlyBanzho 8 місяців тому +5

      @@vincentkennedymcmahon50 literally what I said lookin in the mirror today 😂😂😂

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +2

      I appreciate the support thanks for taking the time to listen 💯

    • @tashasmith1191
      @tashasmith1191 8 місяців тому +4

      Same for me no kids no social media black sheep just me myself and I

    • @LG-ro5le
      @LG-ro5le 6 місяців тому

      Social media is the worst thing to happen to this planet

  • @thedrunkenmaster1787
    @thedrunkenmaster1787 8 місяців тому +65

    I'm 36 never married, no girlfriend, not dating anyone, no kids, full time job as a truck driver, and I'm happy and content with it. I love my peace.

    • @RickTheBoss98
      @RickTheBoss98 8 місяців тому

      Bro have some kids I say they with slk respect

  • @misterpaper5039
    @misterpaper5039 5 місяців тому +3

    I appreciate you sharing your story. I hope you're doing better today than you were a year ago.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  5 місяців тому +3

      You’re welcome.. Yes, I am thank you

  • @don.3595
    @don.3595 9 місяців тому +152

    I'm 41, now single dad after 15 yr marriage and end do to be cheated on as well as loss of friends over time...crazy how the algorithm aligned us

    • @chad7694
      @chad7694 9 місяців тому +13

      You think it's the algorithm but they know your life.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +6

      Sorry to hear this bro, stay strong. Yes the algorithm. Thanks for listening and sharing your experience, much appreciated 💯

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 9 місяців тому +3

      🙂 dont feel bad, its normal for all of us

    • @southsidetherealest2860
      @southsidetherealest2860 9 місяців тому +2

      me too take care of my kids pay cs while they living with me still wating to go to court because they designed the system to swallow us up during the process but I wont go down!

    • @aaronchapman3
      @aaronchapman3 9 місяців тому +2

      There's a whole bunch of us, man...

  • @warriordx5520
    @warriordx5520 8 місяців тому +44

    Peace is priceless.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +2

      So True 🎯

  • @pablodominguez8318
    @pablodominguez8318 8 місяців тому +28

    I’m 26, Only Child. Lost my Mother when I was 18. The tough lesson was learning my mother’s “friends” weren’t actually her friends. I’ve reached a point in my life where I finally cut out the negativity & started to see the upside of being a “Lone Wolf”. I truthfully enjoy being by myself & not dealing with people. Thanks for sharing your story. So glad I came across this video 🙏🏻

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому

      You’re welcome, I appreciate you taking the time to listen. Sorry for your loss, sending my condolences 💐 I hope that many blessings come your way 💯

  • @Gabriel-er8pp
    @Gabriel-er8pp 3 місяці тому +1

    You are the man I needed to hear today. Thanks for your vulnerability.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  3 місяці тому

      Thanks brother.. appreciate you taking the time to listen, glad I could help in anyway 💯

  • @mementomori6315
    @mementomori6315 9 місяців тому +18

    It can be hard out here sometimes. I learned the hard way everybody isnt good people and it took a while to learn that life is spiriual warfare and most people dont look inside. You have your health and peace and sleep with a clear concious at night, your already so blessed on that alone.

  • @Eagles7sjn
    @Eagles7sjn 9 місяців тому +28

    I’m with you on this, folks are on some other shit right now, I’m good.

  • @spencer1280
    @spencer1280 9 місяців тому +126

    Same but im 30. Single 2 years, no friends, no social life at all. Go to work, come home and watch tv

    • @townstunsltd6727
      @townstunsltd6727 8 місяців тому +34

      Seriously, reduce the TV consumption or moderate it, as before you know it you'll be 40, and single, with no friends... find a hobby, or P/T Voluntary work! Get out there, get away from that screen, "STEP AWAY FROM THE SCREEN" you can lose years at that screen. Your in an important stage of life; the transition into middle age; so prep! All the best.

    • @daphneytennard3267
      @daphneytennard3267 8 місяців тому +1

      Volunteer with a dog shelter or a organization.

    • @leftyk072
      @leftyk072 8 місяців тому +4

      And when you are on your death.bed...will you be saying, man, I should have watched more TV...., at 30? You have a purpose! Life is meant to me lived..not just work + watch TV, unless that truly deep down makes you feel totally fulfilled in all aspects of life?

    • @ernstthalmann4306
      @ernstthalmann4306 8 місяців тому +3

      Compared to people in Sudan or Gaza or India
      You won at life m8
      Think about it
      You get the luxury a 1400s king would envy
      Perspective 🎉

    • @Davidpostingshid
      @Davidpostingshid 8 місяців тому

      So do something else

  • @itzkwame
    @itzkwame 5 місяців тому +42

    You’re never alone. God is with you.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  5 місяців тому +4

      So true 🎯

    • @alphasuperior100
      @alphasuperior100 4 місяці тому

      Where's he ?

    • @julianthegrappler
      @julianthegrappler 4 місяці тому +3

      He’s not real

    • @theunaccompaniedsenior
      @theunaccompaniedsenior 3 місяці тому

      Your "god" is a pervert.

    • @frosty8244
      @frosty8244 2 місяці тому +2

      ​@@alphasuperior100you have to except Jesus Christ first then you will find God. Read 1 Corinthians 15:1-4 it is the Gospel...... Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. John 14:6. And God bless you.Greater is he that is in you than he that is in this world.❤

  • @martinhodgson1996
    @martinhodgson1996 7 місяців тому +36

    The way I experience it, growing up with a sadistic twin sister. Who has personally targeted me since a little boy. Playing manipulative games by deceiving my father. And weaponising my father against me. Using him to physically assault me because she couldn't. My mum scapegoating me and eventually turning the whole family against me. My life started out extremely over psychological, dark and threatening. Continuously surrounded by people impacting my life without my constant or desire. With no space to authentically find myself. I've grown up into a 43 year old who has over come a lot of mental health struggles, depression, suicidal behaviour. To have a solid job, my own house. Hobbies, my own interests, gardening and wildlife. I have one best friend I see regularly for out door interests and hobbies. Spend most of my time alone. Compared to how life began. I'm now psychologically healthy, enjoying my life for me. Enjoying my interests, enjoying not being abused, manipulated and used. Experiencing happiness and safety. Being able to determine life on my own terms. Instead of feeling my own life is continuously being ruined by the effects of others that I shouldn't even have in my life.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  7 місяців тому +5

      Thanks for sharing your experience, I’m glad to hear things have improved. I appreciate you taking the time to listen and I wish you all the best as well 💯

    • @Professor__S
      @Professor__S 5 місяців тому

      ​@@rizenflyincredible how much your story resonates with people in all walks of life. Thank you for sharing and God bless.

    • @freeindeed8416
      @freeindeed8416 5 місяців тому

      🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @courtneygostling
    @courtneygostling 6 місяців тому +58

    I am 43, no wife, no friends, no dog, no car, no social life - but I have a canoe and a backpack and my axe. I am very happy.
    And dear Sir, I would love to be a friend of yours you come across like a good, decent and genuine Man. Thank you for sharing, thank you for not giving up.
    Bless you Sir.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  6 місяців тому +6

      Thanks brother I appreciate that, may God bless you as well 🙏🏾

    • @elsynjogu7578
      @elsynjogu7578 6 місяців тому

      What you are missing alot😊

    • @allaboutcars4835
      @allaboutcars4835 6 місяців тому +6

      First you say you’re happy with no friends, then you turn around and ask this guy if you could be his friend.
      Everyone really wants to have friends, but when you don’t have any, you try to trick your mind that you’re happy.

    • @Popkornsky
      @Popkornsky 5 місяців тому +1

      Truly lone viking life

    • @memacharles129
      @memacharles129 4 місяці тому +1

      Stay strong you are a trooper

  • @lynny5510
    @lynny5510 8 місяців тому +30

    I just found your channel. I wanted to reach out and say that my husband was in the Army for 24 yrs and his last duty station was Ft. Campbell KY. After he retired he got a job with a company on post and we stayed in Clarksville for 10 more yrs. However he passed away 2 yrs ago and I had to sell what I had and move. He was 54 when he passed away. I still cry everyday. I am now 56 and except for having to live in my parents attic now I spend all my time alone. I don't miss being with people. I just miss my husband. I realize I will never be able to trust anyone the way I did my husband. He always took care of me and our children. I was always safe with him. I will never trust anyone in that way again. So for me, being alone is a good thing. I wish you all the best. God bless!

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  8 місяців тому +8

      So sorry to hear this, sending my condolences. Stay strong, I hope that great things come your way in the future. Thanks for sharing your experience and for taking the time to as well. I appreciate that, may God bless you too🙏🏾

    • @ksweetist
      @ksweetist 8 місяців тому +3

      My condolences to you too. 54 is young, what was the cause?

    • @ShutterSpeedGaming
      @ShutterSpeedGaming 7 місяців тому +1

      My condolences 💐 😢God bless you ma’am.

    • @lynny5510
      @lynny5510 7 місяців тому

      @@ksweetist He got the flu and it suddenly turned into what they said was pneumonia and after being in the hospital and seemingly doing better, within 24 hrs he went into cardiac arrest. He had been put on a ventilator even though he signed a form saying not to and within just hours after that he went into cardiac arrest and was put on life support. I wasn't allowed to be with him until he was taken to ICU due to covid restrictions but by then he was already gone. I am still so heartbroken. There is still question on what exactly started this chain of events and I can't get any straight answers.

    • @NewStart1971
      @NewStart1971 2 дні тому

      Im so sorry ❤ ​@@lynny5510

  • @bryansimpson8694
    @bryansimpson8694 8 місяців тому +135

    I'm 53 yrs old alone, no wife, no kids and I'm smiling because I still have my sanity and I'm at total peace and wouldn't have it any other way.

    • @sarge-T.O.
      @sarge-T.O. 8 місяців тому +1

      amen

    • @GorryX3
      @GorryX3 8 місяців тому +2

      Giga cope, probably you go cry every night before go sleep

    • @bryansimpson8694
      @bryansimpson8694 8 місяців тому

      @@GorryX3 Your childish trolling is laughable and judging from your comment, your intellectual capacity is lacking.

    • @TheChampionofEnki
      @TheChampionofEnki 8 місяців тому +10

      ​@@GorryX3just because you can't handle being alone, doesn't mean everyone else can't. I know exactly what this commenter is talking about.

    • @macho8240
      @macho8240 8 місяців тому +6

      ​@@GorryX3You don't know anyone's personal life. You're weird.

  • @ChrisB-xg4ww
    @ChrisB-xg4ww Місяць тому +2

    Thanks bro, makes me feel better. Alot of people try to ridicule the loners, but truly, we have no dependence on others and it gives us the freedom they lack

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  Місяць тому

      You’re welcome bro, yes you speak all facts 🎯

  • @DJJunkfoodJay
    @DJJunkfoodJay 9 місяців тому +143

    Same here.
    No Friends.
    No Wife.
    Zero Social Life.
    And I'm very happy.

    • @betht7591
      @betht7591 9 місяців тому +10

      How?

    • @ms.evegene
      @ms.evegene 9 місяців тому

      😂 y'all stupid lol.

    • @victorgrays6708
      @victorgrays6708 9 місяців тому +4

      I'm very happy to with what ever the most high has for me your health is your wealth if a family happens good but I'm not forcing anything it has to happen naturally

    • @pimphandslik
      @pimphandslik 9 місяців тому +6

      Are you really happy? Or are you telling yourself that as a cope? You don't even have to reply, that's something you should only answer for yourself.

    • @victorgrays6708
      @victorgrays6708 9 місяців тому +12

      @pimpdoggydogg8670 I'm very happy most my friends died went to jail are on drugs I'm 41 good health decent job with the post office very happy I wasn't a victim to society

  • @asdfxcvbn746
    @asdfxcvbn746 9 місяців тому +2452

    "Why I have No Friends, No Wife, No Social Life at 41" --- you won life... stack your money, stay in shape, date at your leisure with no commitment & no kids & enjoy your peace until you die.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +373

      Alright Will do, sounds like a plan. Thanks for listening and for the insightful words of advice💯

    • @teeaymusik9811
      @teeaymusik9811 9 місяців тому +222

      But aren't we all made to build a family? Thats what im still asking myself.. And i know western women are a too high risk. But i cant get over this thought and i'm 35 atm.

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 9 місяців тому +67

      get ur passport and go hit up the Red Light Districts and git u some

    • @Jason-ip6wq
      @Jason-ip6wq 9 місяців тому +347

      ⁠@@teeaymusik9811no, everyone isn’t made to build a family and not everyone wants kids. This is why so many kids aren’t raised right because people think they’re required to have kids, even if they don’t want them

    • @lindsay3793
      @lindsay3793 9 місяців тому +34

      ​@@teeaymusik9811 Sorry you hate us western women.

  • @24hourgmtchannel64
    @24hourgmtchannel64 7 місяців тому +34

    I'm 58 and have felt this way all my life and tried to listen to others in my younger years about going to parties and events and being social but always resorted back to my default of being a loner. I tell others who try to tell me it's not healthy that it's just opposite of social people that need to reach out to their friends daily or they get lonely and board with the advantage of not needing someone else to make my day happy. At my age I no longer feel solitude is abnormal as long as one can work, provide shelter for yourself, pay bills and feed yourself, you are 100% normal to be the single with no friends or whatever you choose. I see many of us who aren't social tend to have pets and that's great.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  7 місяців тому +3

      Thanks for sharing your experience, very insightful. I totally agree with your point of view. I appreciate you listening as well, and wish you all the best 💯

  • @masonridgewell8063
    @masonridgewell8063 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank you for sharing your experience. You give me good vibes and people can be the worst. I hope you will do well in life.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  3 місяці тому +1

      Thanks I appreciate the support 100% and wish you all the best as well💯

    • @masonridgewell8063
      @masonridgewell8063 3 місяці тому

      @@rizenfly Thank you Sir!

  • @skyguard7109
    @skyguard7109 9 місяців тому +34

    This video just popped up in my feed. I want to say, you come across as a fine, gentle and genuine person. Plus you are handsome. I think most gentle, loyal and honest people go through this. Maybe working voluntarily at an animal shelter or at your local church. Or go to the roller skating rink. You could meet people there. Also keep in mind: Life is like a train ride, some people stay for a couple of stations, others get off the next station. Everybody in this world has been betrayed by their spouses/family/friends/co-workers. Lesson learned: trust yourself and your capabilities. Don't give up! Anyway, I would love to be your friend. Please don't change the way you are. In this current time, I'm grateful for gentle souls like you. Greetings from Germany.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +9

      Thank you so much for the kind words and the good advice. I may give these things a try. I like your quote about the train station very good insight.😎

    • @BetterWithAir
      @BetterWithAir 9 місяців тому +3

      @@rizenfly I hope you took their offer on being their friend 🤝🏽

    • @mrtrollnator123
      @mrtrollnator123 9 місяців тому +1

      ​@@rizenflyu can do it bro lock in

    • @TheKingdom-i9t
      @TheKingdom-i9t 9 місяців тому +3

      Jesus Christ is the only way to everlasting life. He loves you, and He is with you. He will never abandon nor forsake you.

  • @jamesmcglynn5825
    @jamesmcglynn5825 8 місяців тому +13

    I’m an Irish man man living in Australia,14 years I’ve had my ups and downs like you. After watching your video I realise I am the same as you , I have been let down so many times I don’t trust anyone either . I think it’s a good thing bring on the real people !!

  • @reginaldmcgrady
    @reginaldmcgrady Рік тому +53

    Hey Brother, your not alone. You got us.😊

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  Рік тому +8

      Thanks brother, I appreciate that!

  • @prakb
    @prakb 4 місяці тому +1

    Thanks, I appreciate you sharing your story.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  4 місяці тому

      You’re welcome.. thank you for taking the time to listen💯

  • @meneerknak1
    @meneerknak1 Рік тому +78

    You have amazing genes man you're still looking young and healthy at 41. Relationships tend to work this way, it doesn't always work out and that's normal. Plenty of other fish in the ocean for you to meet. You're using your experiences to become a better person and I can only respect that. Find some hobbies you might like doing. It's a great way to meet new people and make friends or even find a girlfriend.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  Рік тому +27

      Lol thanks for the compliment. Your words really lifted up spirits. Things have been tough, butI am trying to keep it pushing. I’m working out more keep my mind focused with self improvement. Thanks for listening and your support!

    • @loveinautumn3978
      @loveinautumn3978 Рік тому +4

      41 is middle age, people still look young in their forties

    • @devilsoffspring5519
      @devilsoffspring5519 7 місяців тому

      @@loveinautumn3978 No they don't, I started getting an itchy burning scalp before I turned 13. That's right, a 12-year-old kid with a VERY quickly-receding hairline. Fuck Scottish genes. I wish I looked young at 16 never mind fucking 41!

  • @AnodaWun
    @AnodaWun 9 місяців тому +19

    Peace is priceless. Many friends are only your friends through circumstances. When real things happen these people won't have your best interests at heart if you're doing better than them.
    A good wife is definitely worth having though.

    • @rizenfly
      @rizenfly  9 місяців тому +2

      So true 💯

    • @dennyosifo
      @dennyosifo 8 місяців тому

      As long as she isn't a black woman