Nice Guys Have A Massive (untapped) Advantage Over Bad Boys
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You can be a nice guy but you need to have a backbone.
Yeah that’s it. Nice guys are cool. Weak guys are contemptible
You also have to have the capacity for ruthlessness when it's appropriate to be ruthless towards the amoral trash out there.
You also need to not be pining for, and settling for, used up former party girls and 304's
yeah, being nice isnt bad. Just don't be 'nice guy' in a toxic way. Robert Glover described this very well.
No. Doesn't register to women. Criminals, abusers, manipulators only.
Good men are good to everyone
Nice guys are good to their target 🎯
Be a good man
So your saying being nice implies alittle manipulation, self interest
Well said.
@@abdulrahim8446 Maybe , maybe not 😃
@@Surfsup448 hmmm, I love mystery😉
@abdulrahim8446 I know a guy who refers to himself as a "nice guy." This "nice guy" is a pushover to women he likes. Meanwhile, he'll call other women c@nts and sl@ts behavior their back. Weak men like this give actual good men a bad name. He struggles with women, and claims it's because he's too nice, and women only want to bad boys. In reality, I think they see through his manipulation. He's worse than the bad boys, because with the bad boys then a woman at least knows what she's getting into.
“nice guys are not the defective people, the rest of the world is, and the rest of the world has adapted to that.” powerful words there brother ❤️
the only defective part about nice guys, is the fact that they haven't banded together and stood the fuck up.
There’s a difference between being a nice guy and being a kind man. A nice guy is a simp, but a kind man still has boundaries and standards.
Good explanation, I saw myself as a simp when I was a teen now that I’m older I’m suited for the Gentlemen/Kind man standard.
the "nice guy" is one that lashes out if he gets rejected. He expects to be "rewarded" for his faux pleasantries.
Being nice doesn’t mean being a simp. Bad boys can be simps too. After all, they lower their moral standards for women.
Yeah, I was thinking the same thing...He should have used the term kind guy because the Nice guy syndrome is a problem... Jordan Peterson talks about that a lot... basically they are push overs that get screwed by many
Character, discipline, and purpose are key!!!
Good message, bro. You can be as "nice" as you want as long as you have a good set of values and DGAF what other people think. That's how you win.
This guy is a freaking philosopher. It takes years of life experience to get to this.
It's rare for people to articulate their thoughts without says "like" every other word.
Only 5 minutes into the video and man, at 39 years old, this resonates with me a lot because through my own experiences I feel the same way. From an early age so many of us guys are way too mesmerized by the magical p-sleeve, that we constantly ignore or put off those values or skills that make us better and ultimately more attractive men. This goes on for years! When we finally grow up, stop wasting time, and give ourselves purpose through fulfilling pursuits and the establishment of personal standards, suddenly you're viewing life through a different lens. And when that happens, I think a lot of us realize that most of those girls that we were attracted to all this time were never a good fit for us to begin with. In fact, some of us are ashamed of it lol But hey, you live and learn.
True
This is absolutely true. The clarity that comes after you realize that the non-virtuous woman was never right for you is an important learning experience. Best to learn that as early as possible. Unfortunately, many of us didn't learn that until our late 20's or 30's...
Facts
This is exactly what I needed to read. Thanks for taking the time to write this all out. Many of us need to really think heavy about building ourselves up now so that we can enjoy life best in the future.
Yep I’m 34 and finally coming to this conclusion. It’s just hard bc attracted to the P, but genuinely getting less attracted to non virtuous tyle
About a year ago, a girl asked me “how are you still single?” I replied to her “have I asked you on a date yet?” Being a nice guy has had its ups and downs. A lot of times I’m too shy to ask women out, which limits my chances. But for the lucky woman who takes the initiative and throws caution to the wind, she is heavily and happily rewarded for her continued devotion. This month I am celebrating a 1 year anniversary with my girlfriend. She took the chance on a nice guy, and hasn’t looked back since. Great video LFA. Stay strong my fellow nice guys, don’t listen to these PUA’s that tell you to change!
You saved my life. I won’t go into it much but I almost ended my life when my high school sweetheart broke up with me. I was able to find your channel and listened to your uplifting advice about there will always be more women out there and how to move on. I just turned 21 and just got a LLC for my future business. I want to say you’re greatly appreciated and your words go a long way for a lot of young men that’s still figuring out life and relationships. THANKS AGAIN!
Feel You Bro. Never give up on yourself 💪
Keep it up brother
God bless you bro glad you are still with us
Please don't, brother. A friend of mine took his life earlier this year over a divorce and he always had a gf. You're worth much, much more than some girl.
No woman is worth that.
Thanks for this video, I’m in my 40s looking back at my life and was regretting not partying and sleeping around like a lot of guys I know. Felt like something was wrong with me and I missed out. I’m now starting to see I tried to have better goals and even though I only had a few women in my life, most of those were loving genuine relationships. I appreciate your video!
I realized this same but from a more desperate perspective. I also can now mathematically describe the change in the mind set that I noticed after all these split ups.
Young me: good woman > bad woman > no woman
Current me: good woman > no woman > bad woman
At the moment the relationship status is "no woman".
The misconstrued, negative connotation toward the term nice guy is better put as 'push over'.
Our blunt clumsiness with language is often a real hindrance in the world.
Nice vid my man
Facts!!! Most misunderstandings arise from semantic chaos.
As a "nice guy" approaching his 30s this video did resonate with me a lot. I get so many older women asking how I'm not married yet, but I tell them the culture just ain't the same nowadays, though I'm always on the lookout. But also, like you said, many women grow out of that hookup culture and regret it. I've seen it. So those older women generally can sense the "nice guys" and see their value. I'm hoping I can find that rare gem for me, but what I'm not doing is surrender to this modern dating culture, f that
Well said.
Those same women would have never given you the time of day when they were younger. They're only nice to you because Chad doesn't want them anymore.
@enigmatic8280 agreed, the older women only see that because they can't get the Chad's anymore that they desire. If you want young, hot girls, more than likely they are not going after the nice guy. Women are easily influenced and manipulated and unfortunately the culture today is a degenerate culture so they fall into that. There are good women out there, but they are a very small minority of women.
You end up in dead bedrooms.
@@enigmatic8280 exactly , self-respect always comes first !!
This is spot on! I too would consider myself a hybrid bad boy/good guy. Deep down I'm a good person, but over the years you learn lessons and gain experience/knowledge. You learn how to navigate through the dating market with a certain attitude and masculine frame, that some will deem you as a bad boy because of that. As long as you're true to yourself, never change up for anyone but yourself.
One of my law school professors was a nice guy. Super polite and emotionally intelligent. He was also a former federal prosecutor who put the most vile criminal elements behind bars.
Unsurprisingly it was mostly female students who lingered around after class. 😂
That's a good point of view.
As a young male I really appreciate it
LFA, never stop putting out these messages. I found your channel maybe 6 months ago. Your last few videos have been so helpful to me. All of your videos have been more than some what inform-e-tive! Seriously though, it’s refreshing to hear someone confirming a lot of what I feel is right. I appreciate you brother!
Bad Boy= my stepbrother= Peter pan= Jock who never grew up=hot and cold running 😸all day long, and what does he have to show for it? A lot of cheap thrills and three baby mommas. Lack of responsibility and living your life in cruise mode doesn't end well at 57 years old. Nice guy= 27 years of marriage=responsibility=three kids=a job I hate=A divorce after 27 years and no😿in between, but still owe her half my 💩 A life spent building something doesn't end well at 54. Somewhere, in the middle, the truth lies.
interesting way of writing but the message was conveyed
@@Loliipopis im with Loliipopis
@The1cdccop Wonderful writing.
LFA is on point,you’re a stand up guy there’s too many p.u.a scam artist who are giving vulnerable men the wrong advice ,exploiting them
its not about being a bad boy its about have an edge and a fire in your heart. to have relentless courage, bravery, a FUCK YEAH LETS GO attitude. that isnt being a bad boy per se. people conflate the two
You know what I really appreciate this video bro, thank you for loading this. I would say I've been a good nice guy for many years, and after I broke up with my fiance probably 5 years ago I've started to wander down the path of trying to be a small player, treating sex casually and having a share of experiences. It's not fulfilling, and this video is encouraging me to change how I've been to start attracting more the kind of woman that I want to build a family with.
When I was young, I witnessed my uncles doing all the "bad boy" stuff. I remembered seeing lots of women going in and out of the house. My parents never wanted us to follow suit. As I got a bit older, I noticed how their lifestyle could not be sustainable. They constantly got into trouble with cops. One of them couldn't even retain his license. Then the ladies were dropping away like flies.
Best video you have produced @LFA
These brick wall vids are great. Makes me feel as if I'm chilling w/ a buddy having a heart to heart conversation.
Man you are the realest, i love you advises, they are rational
You deserve that 100k plaque LFA KEEP THE VIDS COMING
Character, discipline, and purpose are the keys to success in life!
Young men out here need to hear this shii frfr…thanks bro
It comes down to integrity: stick to your values. You prefer trust and commitment ? You look for meaningful and durable things? Stick to that. You can change a job, city, gf, sports...but stick to your core values, it is your nature, your DNA
Been a long time viewer of this channel and can’t help but notice your advice and perspective has definitely changed over the years, it’s very cool to see and men need to hear this.
This resonated with me, as a nice guy. LFA has been coming out with good advice and encouragement lately and I'm here for it
Very wise, but i think that the defective nice guys are those mentioned in "No more Mr. Nice Guy", a man that don't talk what he wants, a man that try being manipulative (doing what the other wants) while he says: "Oh my god, why don't they women like the favors I do and give me what I want?"
You know the truth when you hear it!
I have found the perfect solution 😂 look like a bad guy while being a nice guy is top tier
Thanks for the message LFA. I needed to hear someone say this.
I love the realisticness of this show. It's what keeps me coming back. With high school being 20+ years ago, let's face it, many guys who were killing it with girls back then don't have much going on in life at present. This is especially apparent considering that we're in the Facebook age now.
You cannot become a bad boy if it’s not your nature ,you can only adapt the characteristics of a jerk without acting like one ,it’s about balance be nice to people who are nice to you and be prick to those who aren’t ,it’s that simple
You've got that right!!...I feel the exact same way!!
Your content is awesome. You don't just speak things because they are popular opinion, this is genuinely reflective and well thought out. Wisdom, you could say.
Just wanna say thanks for all the well-articulated game over the last couple of years man
I really appreciate that man! Thank you and blessings for the new year!
@@LFA same to you brother
Bro...I agree with you 100percent.
This generation needs you. Thanks
I’m proud to be a nice guy. But I had to learn how to stand up for myself and not let people use me. I used to be ashamed of my own desires. I read No More Mr Nice guy years ago and it changed my life.
Preach it, Brother.
Being nice was a problem years ago, just being a kind person is a problem now, and it is getting worse.
Thanks, man. Great reminder for me, need to hear this message from time to time. Easy to get lost in the sauce in our sick society.
Bro this the realist manosphere video ive seen in a while , im a nice guy who never had issues getting women not as much as the bad boys but i think i do ok and everything you said was spot on. Good video!!!
Be kind but firm; and demand respect
being a balance is key not bad and nice ...be a good human being
One of the best street philosophers I have ever seen…thanks
I needed to hear this so much. I've been transforming my life recently and somehow my results with the usual Party type girls are the worst, and I was questioning myself, Should I become a fuckboy then and just join in? But after this video I realized, I just need to keep upgrading myself until I attract the type of woman my life needs. THANK YOU SO MUCH LFA, you might have just saved this world from one more fuckboy out there. Greetings from Colombia brother.
As a nice guy you only have a certain amount of women available to you and as a Bad Boy you have all of the options. Just because someone is a bad boy that doesnt mean he is only attracting hoes. If he does that then he only wants hoes in his life. Please stop the Cope, nice guys always gets cheated on, it doesnt matter what type of women she is. I´ve been around the block i´ve seen this horrible shit happening to dudes that dont deserve it. And from women i´ve never ever thought would do such thing.
@@redconsciousness2090 well man, I can't deny that since I've been on the shitty end of that stick. What can I say? I just don't feel comfortable being the scumbag type, which for a while I was, might devote myself to self improvement and forget about girls then, at the moment my mental energy is just not enough to deal with the possibilities of becoming the next will Smith, or attracting girls, which is not easy for me.
You can be nice , kind yet confident. 💯
I remeber this line from the movie A Bronx Tale where Robert De Niro said "a working man's a tough guy".
Really Resonates with me. Thanks LFA last man standing 👊
This change my whole self perspective thanks bro ❤
Hence the quote "The first shall be last, and the last shall be first."
And I'd prefer the terms Good Men/ Gentlemen.
I think this is my favorite lfa video
This video was a powerful lesson for us,.... NICE GUYS,.... thanks, man.....
nice. the only channel on the youtube that keeps it real.
Love the message in this video 👊
It's great to see this upload as a women. Bad boys get stuck with psycho, fake baby mumma drama's, STI's and debt.... Stay nice, get a dog and live in peace haha.
Man, you just nailed it
Facts facts facts this man speaks the truth.
*"Lizard looking"* 🦎 🤣🤣
Pinpoint accuracy tho.. definitely agree. Stay truth to yourself. Great video LFA. Well spoken!
Good video mate. Many people mix up nice guys are weak guys but they not
Yes; do not take kindness for weakness.
LFA crossed the 100k threshold. Congratulations *King.*
You told the 100% truth, I’ve been on both sides
You are awesome, seriously you have genuine good intentions. There just seems to be a lot of conflicting information. You are very rare to be honest in your advice. I like it.
The older, wiser bro we all need. Thank you LFA.
At the end of the day you still have to look yourself in the mirror and live with yourself. You are who you are. Just do the best you can. That simple.
Moral and honor
I like your point of view.
I got finessed and used being a niceguy,I went out of my way to care about her well being ,i was always honest and upfront with her ,she knew I wanted something serious and long term with her ,i never judged her even ignored the red flags
Nice talk
Very interesting point of view which opens up a lot of issues here. For starters, we need to clarify that the term nice guy in modern times may refer to 3 very different male types :
1) Men that are simply weak, wallow in their weakness, and thus find refuge in being "just nice" to everybody at the expense of themselves
2) Duplicitous men who are being nice only to women they are interested in (or to men from whom they want things) but who are not nice. for example to their own friends whom they take for granted
3) Good men - these are well-brought-up upstanding men who stick to their moral code and who strive to do the right thing at all circumstances
It is pretty clear that the first two types of men are not genuinely nice. And it is clear that women are justified in pushing away them or keeping them in the friendzone. However women tend to do so also for the third type of men and then when we refer to the "plight of nice guys" we usually refer to that category, the good upstanding men, men who do have genuine value but which is not recognised.
We need to note here that this is a sign of our times. It did not use to be like that in the past. And in fact if you go to other types of non-western societies it is not like that there. In the past in western societies. the good upstanding men were the prime demographic from which women would pick their husbands - and in this certainly their families fathers and mothers and brothers and sisters had a saying, they were promoting such guys for their daughers/sisters. Since women are influenced socially in their selection of men, they were genuinely attracted to good upstanding men. And while they were carnally attracted to the bad boys, they were sensing also the danger of getting entangled by them and would be very ostentatious in rejecting them. So much that the term "playboy" had a very negative connotation prior to WWII and most men, even true playboys, they would try to avoid being labelled as such.
In other words, in the past we had societies that valued the good upstanding men to the point that bad boys were trying to pretend being like them .Today we have left it all upon women and they go for the bad boys to the point of good upstanding men trying to pretend being bad boys. In the past playboys/badboys did not have good endings in a very high frequency because they failed passing as good upstanding men. Similarly today good upstanding men have not good endings when trying to pass as bad boys.
Which just shows that this is a "fight" between different types of men and how to organise society to cater for each type. As it is today, as things are, the bad boys are winning. It is up to the good upstanding men to do something, yet that is not something that they will see but rather will be for the future generation, for their sons.
bro, i was in a bad down spot and i came across all these dating coaches, it literally made it worse with my ex i was seeing again. now after some videos of you i finally came back to my own self and will just be myself and not try to change into that manipulator shit type of guy. i am an honest and nice man who actually just wants real love create a nice family build a house and get his dream job living in a valley and get old. fuck these toxic tactics. fuck all of this bullshit. i am becoming myself again
Good stuff , I pretty much decided long ago I`m not changing for anybody including females. Digging your content!
I have a lovely nature, why can’t everyone have a lovely nature
You're a true man of god. God bless you
The dad we never had
This video hits home 🥹
My old boss was one of the nicest guys I ever met and worked for. He gave out generous bonuses every year, but he had boundaries. There was a line with him you didn't cross. He would turn into a beast real quick and put you in check fast if you did.
You can be nice but you need to have a set of boundaries, rules, principles you live by and also set boundaries and rules for others who want to be around you. Most importantly you should understand that you too are important enough that you will learn to put yourself first all the time. You will piss off some people, they will call you selfish but you are doing this because you understand you can’t help others if you haven’t helped yourself first. As soon as your glass is overfull then you can start being nice and helping others, pouring in their cup.
Really needed to hear this. Not going to lie, It kind of gives me hope.
There is a big difference between being a nice guy and being kind. Its important to set boundaries. Because SELF-respect goes a long way from @$$ souls.
These are just labels 🤔 Not everyone is going to like us. Who wants to be labeled, for the sake of being liked?!
Labels are hogwash. Just march to the beat of your own drums AND be your GHAUD DAMN self.
Focus on YOUrself ☕ Don't get jaded from immoral behavior. We can only control ourselves 💪👊
No joke this guy is a head of the woke curve…. Bad boy / club chic is the narrative to avoid
From a woman's perspective who has never pursued a bad boy, what I will say is bad boys cap. If they lie to women, best believe they're lying to you.
Little story. A few years back, I was working at a hotel (front desk). There was a shuttle driver who was a bad boy. The guy kept trying to get at me, but his tactics weren't working. He knew I was pursuing a man. But this didn't stop him. As time went on, he started telling me about his experiences with women. Bad boys hide their L's from nice guys, but they might not from certain women. All the women he had been with cheated on him. One cheated on him with his friend after they fought. Then she went back to him & found out she was pregnant. She claimed he was the father when he wasn't. Another time, he went to some chick's house and her hair was covering half of her face. He pulled it to the side and freaked out cause her eyeball was missing 😂 He was talking mad about how his baby mama was the hottest thing to ever walk earth. He showed me a photo of her & I was disappointed. She was a solid 2 & left him with the kids. He also messed with the front desk manager, but she was cheating on him with the whole building. He got into a fight with one of the guests over her and cops were called. He lost his job.
On my way out, he told me he was offended that I didn't share anything about my relationship with him. I told him dead to his face that it brings me great joy to be able to let him know that he's a pathetic loser. Don't ever mistake someone's arrogance for confidence. For the amount of effort they put in, they get trash results.
Sir, you are more than 700% correct.
This is a very refreshing perspective, thank you
You got my sub man.
What's that song at the end?
It cracked me up. 😂😂😂
Quickly becoming my favorite UA-camr
The real power is being able to be a great guy but understand where to say yo this behavior is going to stop right now and we’re going to correct it. If she doesn’t we drop them. With that said coming from a place of power and authority. Also recognize it’s possibly to be good and bad know when and where to turn it on.
gotta be a dominant gentleman, thats the golden path baby
Thanks, LFA. One of your best videos yet.
The world has actually shifted towards more authentic individual level. Which is good. There are now nitches and types of people. Tribes of sort. There is really no such thing as good or bad. You just gotta pick and look for people you want in your life that also want you in their life. Most don't know it but they really just want to be a collective, so they end up doing the mainstream noise and lose out by trying to be something that most are simply not. And that's on them, that's their problem. Your goal is to live your life and do what you do. People are not your problem, you got enough of your own problems. Good video man.
im so glad i found your channel. i agree with everything you say.
Nice guys will always be nice
Needed this. Thank you. I'm between like you. 46 bad boy but a good guy.
I like how there's brick wall 🧱 right behind LFA when he mentions women hitting the WaLL.
The video was very inspiring and motivating to stay true to yourself and values 🙏🏼💯 thank you for making the video
GREAT VIDEO AND I THINK IM IN THE MIDDLE AS WELL 💯
Thank you for that brother