I personally came to the conclusion that most of the time anger is fueled by the fact that we are biased to our own point of view and fail to see things from the other person's point of view. once we try to think why the other person did or said why they said, we lose our anger.
Anger doesn't mean I want to punish someone or thinking ill of others......I am angry with the injustice, lies, dishonesty and it's not about a person.
It's really hard to change the way you react to angry outbursts caused by you, but remember this, the majority of times, you'll be greateful that you didn't act and did something regretful down the road. But instead follow the "procedure" that Noah suggested will help you even health wise!
I was in an abusive relationship for years with guy who could not control his anger! I never was an angry person untill our relationship. I'm thankful for it looking back because it really awakened my protective voice in my passivity. I learned to get angry and protect myself because I never had that. But to this day my anger lays dormant, like a sleeping grizzly bear, and I have to watch videos like this to protect myself and others
I have been dealing with a bad temper for most of my adult life and i must say this is the first thing i have heard that actually makes me think i can let it go , thanks allot Noah you may have helped change my life
You might also find these videos helpful: 1) How To Deal With Difficult People (Emotionally) 2) How To Deal With Bullies (Emotionally) 3) How To Forgive Yourself - How To Stop Feeling Guilty 4) How To Deal With Anxiety - Immediate Anxiety Relief 5) How To Love Someone
I have never thought about how I was keeping my anger. Thank you ! Sometimes in my mind I want to say something kind but the complete opposite blurts out. I'm bipolar and ptsd never had anyone role model to look up to. I watched this video 5x now. I want to be at peace. This video has helped me look at things differently.
I've never come to a greater realization in my life I've always been angry and had problems with my sister especially because i always thought I was right and she was wrong based on her actions & the things she always does to tick me off to a point that I'm bright red. I thought it was right to 'confront' her but in reality all I do is make myself angry creating chaos and friction between us .watching this , I question whether it's worth over thinking and getting mad and if it's worth getting in a fight with her but it's not and now I know how to deal with my anger and why I was angry Thank you :)
Samantha Rodriguez well, you know you are not the only one see.Even thought in my work i am like furious when i ask them to do stuff and they don't do it ,actually one person it is , i dont have ill feelings for him or for anybody and i think as you don't have ill feelings is better to be angry sometimes you better shout to someone than keep ill feelings for him is like let go;) However i do feel like i have to stop shouting everyday because i might lose him as a friend and he is an important person if you know what i mean because shouting , and shouting and getting angry doesn't get you anywhere.Don't you think and that's why i am also watching this videos. And i am telling you that is your sister she loves you , no matter what you are the same blood that doesn't change anything the only question is how to deal with it is the problem the solution i haven't found any yet.
I'm really bad with anger and when I snap people tell me I'm a crazy person. Its so hard to let it go too even though I know that when I get even I get no satisfaction from it and I feel bad afterwards.
john gun I am happy when people call me crazy :D That means i am Unique :D that's the feeling i get :) But you know i dont think they will stop calling you "crazy" they might want to tease you because they like you i dont know the people in the work we tease each other a lot and we have fun with it sometimes so much that i just can't stand and fell in the floor that's the joy i get:)
+john gun Typical gas lighting narc behaviour. They get you angry and then when you snap they call you crazy just the response they wanted. I turn the tables and never give them what they want
My problem is, my anger fuels me to perfection. It's that extra horsepower. I do running, swimming and a bunch of other physical pursuits. Sometimes I purposely think of bad things to put me in a state of anger to make me try harder, it gives me that adrenaline and frame of mind to hit my goals. From past experience it has always seemed to work. Though, from purposely making myself angry for so long to achieve my physical goals, it has turned into a problem in my work and home life. What was once anger, used as fuel to make a better lap time, is now with me everywhere I go. And I could snap at an instance. I know it sounds nuts, but.... I need to make myself even more angry to get a better time than the previous time. So for instance, If I run a km in 15 minutes and think that's slow. I get all worked up and angry at myself and aim for 14 min. If that isn't good enough I aim for 10. The anger becomes worse the better time I get, essentially I get more adrenaline and stronger will power the angrier I get. I now suffer from an uncontrollable destructive anger. So for instance, when I play a video game and lose, instead at having the anger go to 1 percent. It goes straight to 110 percent. I have basically classically conditioned myself to become angry everytime I don't get my way. Which results in me swearing and destroying the controller. I used to be normal. But for some reason, I can't shake the anger from the phsyical pursuits. I try and just turn it on for the physical stuff, but it seems to go with me everywhere I go. My question, is that normal? I must say, I have become insanely good at my physical endeavors, but am now known as the angry guy. :(
@@consciouseco775 Try to forgive the people that harmed you. It will make you stronger. I did not say you have to love them or be close to them, not at all, just forgive them. Think of them as victims of their own past just like you are. They could not get over their traumatic upbringing, but you must rise above that. It has to stop with you. Forgive! The best to you.
Hes right about everything he says...there's no such thing as ugly or beautiful its the thoughts in our own heads of what we think is perfect. People who suffer from low self esteem usually need external validation and approval of others to make them feel better. Internal validation is the key, you believe in your own values and self worth instead of relying on others to tell you that you are beautiful or great at your job etc. So you don't need the approval from others you get it from yourself. Turning the negatives into positives is also key to a healthy self esteem. People who rely on external validation are generally never happy cuz when someone says something bad about them its like the end of the world because they have low self esteem and think badly about themselves anyways.
Slap Happy well you are wrong. This same calm person can show anger in other forms, namely silence, manipulation, rumors, secret plans, take peoples jobs away and all indirect manifestations. There fore he gains the Trust of people who will believe his silence to be a calm persons maturity more than confused or angry persons. Therefore anger can be found in indirect routes towards the inner need for the destruction of another person.
Thank u 4 this information. I've dealt with the issues surrounding anger for many years. You are the 1st therapist that is making me see how to make the necessary changes to prevent this recurring negative behavior. Behavior that has cost me friendships, most recently jobs and increased stressful relationships.
I didn’t realise that how thoughts have controlled my life and also I could actually choose to believe it or not ,thanks for letting me know I have a choice .I feel more peaceful and open minded after watching video !Life changing experience :) You’ve saved my life !Thanks and God bless you !
Thanks for this video, I am going through an extremely difficult time in my life and a very traumatic breakup. And the anger I have for my loss is having a very bad impact on life. I will do my best to follow this advice.
Thank you for being the voice of reason and helping me understand my anger issues better. I noticed you have some more videos which I'll gladly check out. It's one of the few ways I can better myself, my attitude, my relationships and more.
Thank you Noah Elkrief. I was angry today and didn't know what to do. So. I just keyed in the phrase anger management in the youtube search and you popped up. This video helped a lot, to say the least. God bless.
Thank you for tips :) My short fuse was destroying my life. I would walk around happy and calm for the majority of the time but then I could just erupt out of nowhere for trivial little things, then I would feel like a real nasty piece of work for the rest of the day. This video really helped me to centre myself
Couldn't make it through this video it totally just pissed me off even more. Letting people off the hook for their bad behavior is something I cannot do.
heyyyyy1111 Let me help to clear some things up for you: 1) To "let people off the hook", they first have to be on the hook. You think that your anger is somehow punishing them for their actions. It is not punishing them in any way. It is only punishing yourself further. 2) You think it is your job to decide what behavior is good and bad, and your job to inflict punishment on the bad people. That is not your job. 3) The only thing that these people are doing is following what they were taught. Something like "gay is bad". If they were raised by different parents, in a different place, they wouldn't have that idea. Do they control where they were raised and who their parents were? If not, then how can they be to blame for these beliefs? 4) The reason they treat you poorly is because they believe "You are bad for...". The reason you treat them poorly and hold onto anger is because you believe "You are bad for..." You are being motivated by same thought. This thought is what perpetuates all violence and anger in the world. 5) The reason you hold onto your anger is because you unconsciously and unknowingly believe "anger gets me what I want". Why do you have this belief? Because when your parents asked you to do something, and you didn't do it, they got angry at you and then you did what they wanted. This taught you "anger gets me what I want" and trained you to hold onto anger even when it is not useful in any way. That's not your fault. You're not in control over that, just as they aren't in control over their anger. 6) They don't make you feel bad. Words don't impact you. Your belief in them impacts you. If you want to be free and at peace, don't depend on others to only say nice things to you. Investigate whether someone's words are true. If you don't believe what someone says, it will have 0 impact on you. None at all. By blaming them for your suffering, you have made yourself a victim, and have put your unhappiness in the hands of others.
Ugh I don't know man I read through thanks for the response but I can't help it, maybe I'm bitter. But even this response further upset me. Maybe I'm beyond help.
heyyyyy1111 Okay, then why do you treat them with anger? Their belief is that gays are bad. If people deserve to be treated with respect regardless of beliefs, then there is no reason for you to have anything but respect towards them.
thank you for everything.You have helped me tremendously! me and my mother would fight every other day.my girlfriend and I would fight every day.because of this video,I have been trying my best to control my anger and frustration with anything that would make me mad ....but I have stopped fighting with my loved ones.we no longer have any arguments or fights thanks to you ....with much appreciation thank you very much
one of my biggest problems right now is thinking im better than everyone else because i might be happier than they are, which makes me succesful and them a failure... :(
***** i guess any advise i could give is, just don't worry about it to much, dont think "its bad i think this way" just live life... but don't be a dick to people lol, ( also theres probly people a lot more cockier than us, because were honest about it, but that doesnt make it ok.... for some reason one day i was like idc man, im just gonna be myself not care about if i think this way and for some reason it went away...)
***** and also... dont feel like "omg someone is going to notice im cocky" that thought is as killer... and also i realised i was surpressing my emotions so in fact, there are of course people who live there life, differently, but are actually happier than i am.... and also if it works for them, who cares.... and also i'v shared this video with 3 of my friends who wore feeling down, and they never told me if it helped them, even though i asked that they do... exept for one friend who said it didn't... so... i assume the other 2 thought the same... umm... so i guess my key is... this practice doesnt work for eveyoyne.. And the only reason i think that im a succes if because i use to think i was a failure when i was sad... so that realisation also helps... omg i wrote so much! O.O
Thank you for this video. After wathching it, I have had a deep thought of my anger management problem. One thing that I totally agree with was when you said that some parents punish their kids by being angry and people keep their anger to punish others. When I look back my childhood, my prarents were angry at me whenever they thought I did something wrong and I really hated it. I always thought if I were them, I would have just used different ways to change my bad habits. but up until now, I have used the same way to try to chage people who are around me. So, now I really want to change my bad habit. Again thanks for your video. It helped me a lot.
Yes anger is a fake emotion and doesn't stem from the real need. The real need is only peace and happiness. Therefore being happy and doing a work is more logical than wasting your time and money and energy on anger over somebody.
This video help me a lot. I been dealing with anger problem all my life and for the longest time I've been looking for something that would help my anger problems.
i feel what you are saying, i do feel what they did was bad and i want them to pay. I Get so made i cant think and i hate not being in control of my thoughts. i dont want this any more, it make me feel sad and bring negative effects to my life.
Yeah, I think I just need to quit playing those types of games. I played Battlefield games for so many years. Then I noticed the anger and stress it was causing me. I stopped playing for about a year, and only played RPG games. I recently started playing Battlefield again and i'm noticing the anger and stress return. They are so fun, but detrimental in the long run, I think.
Isnt anger also in a way, natural reaction? Someone puts in danger me or my family with the way he drives, and he is not in hurry. That action IS bad, feeling of my family was in danger, creates my anger, and they have no serious reason to do it. How will I not be angry. How can I ignore that and stay "calm"? Isnt it natural reaction to become angry?
+Notsheep79 yea I think so to. One would get angry, and nothing wrong with that. Even Noah would get angry in that situation, because we are humans, but the anger should not stay with you way after the situation has passed. Anger that stays with you, dosn't do any good. It's holding on to anger, that can create huge problems in your life. Just my 2 cents.
I just watched your video it made me cry cause I do have anger problems and I really believe that if I watch this video everyday and examine my life on why I do I will get better. Thank you so much you saved me
When you're the victim of absolute malevolence. Absolute being the key word here. Nobody ever ever tells you to stand up for yourself and fight back it seems. Be complacent let bad behavior continue and wonder why the whole world's falling apart. I have a bumper sticker on my car that says, " isn't it weird how pretending everything is fine isn't working. " I would just like once for somebody to point out where the line is to be drawn to where you stand up for yourself and when you let it go. When I get that then I'll have peace
you just helped me so much. I just got through taking my anger out on a very good friend of mine. Thanks to this I won't do it again. you have opened my mind so much. thank you.
i found that most times when I get anger it helps to retort with attitude toward the other person. Not to an extreme extant, but enough to convey your disappointment and frustration towards them, and then we usually talk through things.
I hate my anger it just doesn't stop there's to many things that I get annoyed about it just ugh MAKES ME MAD AND I JUST START RAGEING AND JESUS THIS IS NOT WORKING 😱😖 UGH NEED TO GO PUNCH SOMETHING I'M IN A ANGER MOOD AND I'M TRYNA COOL FOWJ BUT words your telling me isn't working I wish this would stop
I've been with my partner for nearly 10 years and this evening she took herself and daughter to her grandparents because of my anger which, almost over night, arose after my step father of over 16 years appeared on my doorstep. he let himself in looking for my sister whilst drunk. it was her 21st birthday birthday and had gone to the sea side with my mother and grandmother. my mother and him argued with one another on a regular basis and the police domestic disturbance files were in the hundreds. seeing this man again triggered something, but your video has helped me see something I should have seen a long time ago. I watched 2 people try to control one another for years, nothing but heart ache and misery came from it. For 3 years i have been toiling with anger only terrifying myself that my daughter will grow up witnessing the same destructive environment I did, but I think I know better now. Thank You Noah, your video has been more than helpful
Noah, thanks for your help. I honestly did not believe I would find your video to be helpful at all. I'm very glad that I did. I've been watching videos on controlling my thoughts and have had tremendous success doing so, but I could not understand why I could not control my anger. This one simple video explained my dilemma and addressed my issues so vividly that I'm truly humbled beyond measure. Thank you sir for your kindness.
This entire segment is assuming you are angry with a person. I can typically justify the actions of other people because I know by nature we are irrational. However I find myself getting angry about things not related to people at all. I can be mowing the lawn and the mower spontaneously breaks. Now it has thrown off my plans for the day and I have a half mowed lawn. Something like this could make me unnecessarily angry. What about these situations, how should we handle this? I've tried telling myself there is no point in getting angry, but I just cannot talk myself down. I don't want to be angry it just seems that I have no control.
madashell2 I will add that subject to my list of videos to make. Basically, this anger you have is a cover-up for feeling powerless or stupid in a given moment. In order to lose that anger, we have to fully acknowledge the underlying feeling, and then fully feel it.
Noah Elkrief What if I get angry exactly *because* I know I'm powerless towards something? ... I'm looking forward to watching that video, because right now I can only imagine the feeling of being powerless leading to anger, or at best sadness, which isn't much better.
But if he was robbed & beaten up, he would have to assess whether something bad ‘really did happen’ or is it just the ‘thought’ of it. Well no, you got robbed and battered how else did u get the bloody ‘thought’ wtf is this cobblers
I always get judged for liking stuff people dont like, such as Five Nights at Freddys, Undertale, or religion, and I like to fight whoever disagrees with me...this video taught me to respect their opinion or accept what they said and forget, and not fight or get mad afterwards. Thank you Noah. Its only matter of time before I can finally stop worrying...
So, I'm having trouble with the idea of not being in control of my own actions.... so what are we supposed to do? just lay around and do nothing because we can't change. so, by definition, we can't control being angry either, right? How is that freeing? Sounds a little depressing. :(
You can change, or in other words, change can happen in you, by watching videos like this one changes will happen in your thoughts, but it's not really you doing it, it's just happening, and you won't lay around doing nothing because your mind won't let you.
Hi Carolyn, if you play a sport, you never control whether you win the game. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't try your best, and it doesn't mean you can't improve your abilities.
Thank you Noah for this enlightenment. It sounds so simple listening to you and shrug to say "pft...I can do that". But I wouldnt be watching your video if I have done what I was saying. Truth is, I have led myself astray...to the point of almost no return. I am thankful that you are as simple and as scientific as you present these facts. I am sure going to adhere to your mindset and will be a follower and maybe even an advocate to your principle. I am a recovering verbal abuser and in the process of regaining the trust and love of my wife and family. Bless you for your vocation.
Hey Noah, have you seen the movie "Inside Out"? :) Just curious. Also, thank you so so so much for ALL of your videos. You are a brilliant teacher, I feel so at peace watching and listening to your teachings.. my life is slowly changing before my eyes because of this new way of thinking (or not thinking!?) haha. either way, thank you. xo!
I like how you are talking in a calm voice. Thanks you really helped, especially because I don't want to go to anger management class because I have a tight schedule! 💕
My parents told me i need anger management because when my mum wouldn't tell me where my charger was ....i trashed her house......i tipped water on the ground smashed a few plates,unrolled two rolls of paper towels and then tipped out and threw around 2 washing baskets of clean folded clothes and knocked anything i could get my hands on over.....and Im very violent.towards other people... Btw Im a 12 year old girl. And i don't feel guilty.
maybe you shouldn't act like a spoiled bitch, ur stil a lil kid and u have difficult to exspress ur feelings hence the rage, i would hit also everything and break everything if i had a bad time but never over a charger
All my life I have had a shity childhood and have been neglected by my parents my whole life, I tell myself that it's ok to get angry because I have nothing to be happy about and that I am doing the other person a favor by getting angry with them because I'm correcting their errors in life. I've lost many friends to drugs and bad decisions and I've always told myself I wouldn't get as bad as they got but as my life has gone on my anger and resentment has driven a wedge with everyone I know and at the end of the day is that any worse then the way I lost my friends
From now on make your own life work for you. You no longer depend on your parents, they were neglectful because their needs were not met. They were also victims. Get out of victim mode and into the mode of a winner. Change your thoughts to be that of a winner. Be strong. Things have to change with your generation. It's too late for your parents. Forgive them and move on with your life. Create happiness for yourself. It comes from within yourself. You can do it.
Let me share something: I have a friend who helped me a lot, almost saved me from suicide by giving me enormous financial help that will border on fairy tales. However he also criticized me like hell while doing so. And, strange as it might sound, his criticism became more important to me than his help and I started hating him from the core of my heart and considered him my worst enemy. He also became a difficult person for me. I wanted to avoid meeting him. Your video on losing anger caused by criticism and on dealing with difficult people, really, really, REALLY helped.
Hi, My name is Ramesh. I'm CEO of a 1989-established, New Delhi based boutique consulting firm specializing in high-stakes-communication, strategy consulting & marketing. However despite specializing in high-stakes communication, I have no words to express just how grateful I am to you for all your videos. I have watched 3-videos: how to lose anger caused by criticism, insult & perceived insult, how to lose anger in general and how to deal with difficult and they have made an enormous difference in my life. The value is worth its weight in gold. I am deeply grateful to you.
Thanks Noah, I have been a really angry man for a while now and it is causing big problems in what should otherwise be an incredible happy life. The reasons I hold on to anger was me to a tee. I am off to watch the vid again and write myself a little reminder card memo of the main points I can refer to when I start to feel angry with my kids or my wife. Otherwise I might lose them all for good.
The way he talks so slow makes me more angry than I was before I watched the video, like he needs to explain everything to us because we are retared. At least he has a nice bright white background that hurts my eyes, the pain makes me ignore that I'm angry and then makes me want to post stupid comments about it. >=(
Throughout the years of watching UA-cam this has been the most helpful video I ever watched. I'm just trying to forgive my sex abuser. And keep getting angry all the time about it.
This helped me lots. It was just claiming to watch and it was helpful. I get of a lot of fights with family, so this is helpful. I try to cope with it, they won't even try.
You know, that third point was hard to understand at first, but once I did... it hit home really hard. Wow, I am indeed blaming others for things they have zero control of. Thank you, Noah!
thank You so Much Noah , You have been a blessing in my life since I first started to listen to your You Tubes in Dec. You have help me free my heart of so much and also help me understand and get rid of unwanted misunderstood feeling . I feel set free .... thank you again . I am turning 60 in 9 months and I wish I had this knowledge in my 20s it would of saved me from so much unnecessary suffering.... but better now than never .... lots of love your way ;)
Hey, just a little offering of gratitude. I stumbled across your page and was having a browse through some of what you are sharing here. I'm enjoying watching/listening. So much clarity shining through. Thank you for being and for showing up in this way.
My car has been vandalised twice in a week and I wasn't really sure how to deal with my anger. After watching this I hope it brings positives in some way. Just ordered your book :)
thank you for sharing this with me never really understood how to control my anger, besides yelling and using abusive words towards people.... i did it so much i pushed away people from me who cared about me dearly, i really hope that throughout this video and time i become a better person. again thank you. Mr noah
Im not going to lie, this was extremely helpful, I have had so much anger lately, bottled anger that i was releasing upon everyone. The anger was bottled when I was bullied in school, thanks to this video, I now go to anger management,
Thanks Noah, this is really helpful. Now I realise that getting angry just isn't worth it, and good things can come out of bad events and people cant always help their actions. Thanks.
Finally, an anger management lesson that doesnt involve breathing or counting to 10! This was very helpful. Thank you.
I personally came to the conclusion that most of the time anger is fueled by the fact that we are biased to our own point of view and fail to see things from the other person's point of view. once we try to think why the other person did or said why they said, we lose our anger.
Hesrizen Amen Yes, that is certainly one reason why we get angry and one way to lose it
Paul & David 💯 true! People feel fail to realize that there are other views as well. When you disagree with their view they cant deal with that
Anger doesn't mean I want to punish someone or thinking ill of others......I am angry with the injustice, lies, dishonesty and it's not about a person.
I understand. That type of anger isn't really addressed in this video. Sorry
Noah Elkrief please make a video about that type of anger. Thanks
pritilota0419 same.
It's really hard to change the way you react to angry outbursts caused by you, but remember this, the majority of times, you'll be greateful that you didn't act and did something regretful down the road. But instead follow the "procedure" that Noah suggested will help you even health wise!
And you don't need to control that, that is normal.
I get angry really easily and I can never control it and I get breakdowns when I carry on.
josh kelly im exactly the same
Me too.... I flip the fuck out.
I agree
Ben LaDieu same over here...
TylerTGvlogz // TylerTGgamez Same Thing.
I cry so hard when i am angry because i feel so helpless when i am angry this make me cry more.
that's the same with me I just cry and get more anger and then I get a headache
Yes :/
Yeah it sucks
don't feel bad about that.....I have those days
Aimen Ish yes I cry all the time when I get angry
the calmness of the video makes it so much easier and comforting
Thank you for this video, it has pulled me from a mindless anger to a rational state of thinking about what happened
You're welcome Liv
I was in an abusive relationship for years with guy who could not control his anger! I never was an angry person untill our relationship. I'm thankful for it looking back because it really awakened my protective voice in my passivity. I learned to get angry and protect myself because I never had that. But to this day my anger lays dormant, like a sleeping grizzly bear, and I have to watch videos like this to protect myself and others
I have been dealing with a bad temper for most of my adult life and i must say this is the first thing i have heard that actually makes me think i can let it go , thanks allot Noah you may have helped change my life
I was on a one-way trip to getting fired for my job until I watched this video. This is amazing!
Glad it helped
You might also find these videos helpful:
1) How To Deal With Difficult People (Emotionally)
2) How To Deal With Bullies (Emotionally)
3) How To Forgive Yourself - How To Stop Feeling Guilty
4) How To Deal With Anxiety - Immediate Anxiety Relief
5) How To Love Someone
Thank you for the help 🙂
Thank you so much
Yes, thank you so much!
+Osmar Hoyos same I have anger issues as well and its not fun I've been kicked out of 3 schools
TitaniumXXO I do and I'm only 8
I have never thought about how I was keeping my anger. Thank you ! Sometimes in my mind I want to say something kind but the complete opposite blurts out. I'm bipolar and ptsd never had anyone role model to look up to. I watched this video 5x now. I want to be at peace. This video has helped me look at things differently.
I've never come to a greater realization in my life I've always been angry and had problems with my sister especially because i always thought I was right and she was wrong based on her actions & the things she always does to tick me off to a point that I'm bright red. I thought it was right to 'confront' her but in reality all I do is make myself angry creating chaos and friction between us .watching this , I question whether it's worth over thinking and getting mad and if it's worth getting in a fight with her but it's not and now I know how to deal with my anger and why I was angry
Thank you :)
Samantha Rodriguez well, you know you are not the only one see.Even thought in my work i am like furious when i ask them to do stuff and they don't do it ,actually one person it is , i dont have ill feelings for him or for anybody and i think as you don't have ill feelings is better to be angry sometimes you better shout to someone than keep ill feelings for him is like let go;)
However i do feel like i have to stop shouting everyday because i might lose him as a friend and he is an important person if you know what i mean because shouting , and shouting and getting angry doesn't get you anywhere.Don't you think and that's why i am also watching this videos.
And i am telling you that is your sister she loves you , no matter what you are the same blood that doesn't change anything the only question is how to deal with it is the problem the solution i haven't found any yet.
I'm really bad with anger and when I snap people tell me I'm a crazy person. Its so hard to let it go too even though I know that when I get even I get no satisfaction from it and I feel bad afterwards.
john gun I am happy when people call me crazy :D That means i am Unique :D that's the feeling i get :) But you know i dont think they will stop calling you "crazy" they might want to tease you because they like you i dont know the people in the work we tease each other a lot and we have fun with it sometimes so much that i just can't stand and fell in the floor that's the joy i get:)
+john gun Typical gas lighting narc behaviour. They get you angry and then when you snap they call you crazy just the response they wanted. I turn the tables and never give them what they want
My problem is, my anger fuels me to perfection. It's that extra horsepower. I do running, swimming and a bunch of other physical pursuits. Sometimes I purposely think of bad things to put me in a state of anger to make me try harder, it gives me that adrenaline and frame of mind to hit my goals. From past experience it has always seemed to work. Though, from purposely making myself angry for so long to achieve my physical goals, it has turned into a problem in my work and home life. What was once anger, used as fuel to make a better lap time, is now with me everywhere I go. And I could snap at an instance. I know it sounds nuts, but.... I need to make myself even more angry to get a better time than the previous time. So for instance, If I run a km in 15 minutes and think that's slow. I get all worked up and angry at myself and aim for 14 min. If that isn't good enough I aim for 10. The anger becomes worse the better time I get, essentially I get more adrenaline and stronger will power the angrier I get. I now suffer from an uncontrollable destructive anger. So for instance, when I play a video game and lose, instead at having the anger go to 1 percent. It goes straight to 110 percent. I have basically classically conditioned myself to become angry everytime I don't get my way. Which results in me swearing and destroying the controller. I used to be normal. But for some reason, I can't shake the anger from the phsyical pursuits. I try and just turn it on for the physical stuff, but it seems to go with me everywhere I go. My question, is that normal? I must say, I have become insanely good at my physical endeavors, but am now known as the angry guy. :(
My god u guys can type alot.
@@consciouseco775 Try to forgive the people that harmed you. It will make you stronger. I did not say you have to love them or be close to them, not at all, just forgive them. Think of them as victims of their own past just like you are. They could not get over their traumatic upbringing, but you must rise above that. It has to stop with you. Forgive! The best to you.
You helped me over come my break up and now my anger before I go off too college, thank you
Hes right about everything he says...there's no such thing as ugly or beautiful its the thoughts in our own heads of what we think is perfect. People who suffer from low self esteem usually need external validation and approval of others to make them feel better. Internal validation is the key, you believe in your own values and self worth instead of relying on others to tell you that you are beautiful or great at your job etc. So you don't need the approval from others you get it from yourself. Turning the negatives into positives is also key to a healthy self esteem. People who rely on external validation are generally never happy cuz when someone says something bad about them its like the end of the world because they have low self esteem and think badly about themselves anyways.
this helped me so much. ever since the day i watched this my life turned for the better
Glad to hear it Khathutshelo. Thanks for sharing
Me too.
Hope it will do the same for me
why is a person who seems ridiculously calm explaining to me how to deal with anger....
I'm guessing he's been there, and to think he is now what he is gives me so much hope and postive energy
cause...He can
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Slap Happy well you are wrong. This same calm person can show anger in other forms, namely silence, manipulation, rumors, secret plans, take peoples jobs away and all indirect manifestations.
There fore he gains the Trust of people who will believe his silence to be a calm persons maturity more than confused or angry persons.
Therefore anger can be found in indirect routes towards the inner need for the destruction of another person.
I agree but not all angry people are bad.
David B lol
Thank u 4 this information. I've dealt with the issues surrounding anger for many years. You are the 1st therapist that is making me see how to make the necessary changes to prevent this recurring negative behavior. Behavior that has cost me friendships, most recently jobs and increased stressful relationships.
You’re videos have and continue to change my life, thank you Noah
I didn’t realise that how thoughts have controlled my life and also I could actually choose to believe it or not ,thanks for letting me know I have a choice .I feel more peaceful and open minded after watching video !Life changing experience :) You’ve saved my life !Thanks and God bless you !
Honestly, this is actually a fucking brilliant video. Thanks Noah. I was a trillion times more helpful than I expected.
You're welcome Jeetesh
You don’t need to swear.
@@Funintherain13 Apologies for that, was the remaining anger left inside of me,lol. Still watching this video in 2020.
Thanks for this video, I am going through an extremely difficult time in my life and a very traumatic breakup. And the anger I have for my loss is having a very bad impact on life. I will do my best to follow this advice.
Thank you for being the voice of reason and helping me understand my anger issues better. I noticed you have some more videos which I'll gladly check out. It's one of the few ways I can better myself, my attitude, my relationships and more.
You're welcome Doc
It's amazing how many things you said that actually relate to why I was feeling angry. You may have just saved my relationship man thank you
Thank you Noah Elkrief. I was angry today and didn't know what to do. So. I just keyed in the phrase anger management in the youtube search and you popped up. This video helped a lot, to say the least. God bless.
***** I did exactly the same thing today ...
Lmao
Anger is a natural feeling.
Don't supress, blame or shame. Be greatful.
Just remember to use it for the good🙏💙
I get so fuckin mad I break shit. Ppl hates me 🙁
+Kimmy L ew... be sure to wash your hands when you're done breaking it. you could get E.coli.
+CrazyIvan1988 omg hHahahhahaha
Why do you get mad?
+CrazyIvan1988 That was golden! XD
Kimmy L girl i know what you mean 😥
Thank you. The anger is gone and I learned something. I'm now glad I experienced the situation that led me to feel such anger :)
I just go in my dark closet and stay there for 1 hour. Works for me
Clash Clans hahahahahaha hahahahahahaha!!!!
Thank you for tips :) My short fuse was destroying my life. I would walk around happy and calm for the majority of the time but then I could just erupt out of nowhere for trivial little things, then I would feel like a real nasty piece of work for the rest of the day. This video really helped me to centre myself
+Teristar1 You're welcome Teristar
Couldn't make it through this video it totally just pissed me off even more. Letting people off the hook for their bad behavior is something I cannot do.
heyyyyy1111 Let me help to clear some things up for you:
1) To "let people off the hook", they first have to be on the hook. You think that your anger is somehow punishing them for their actions. It is not punishing them in any way. It is only punishing yourself further.
2) You think it is your job to decide what behavior is good and bad, and your job to inflict punishment on the bad people. That is not your job.
3) The only thing that these people are doing is following what they were taught. Something like "gay is bad". If they were raised by different parents, in a different place, they wouldn't have that idea. Do they control where they were raised and who their parents were? If not, then how can they be to blame for these beliefs?
4) The reason they treat you poorly is because they believe "You are bad for...". The reason you treat them poorly and hold onto anger is because you believe "You are bad for..." You are being motivated by same thought. This thought is what perpetuates all violence and anger in the world.
5) The reason you hold onto your anger is because you unconsciously and unknowingly believe "anger gets me what I want". Why do you have this belief? Because when your parents asked you to do something, and you didn't do it, they got angry at you and then you did what they wanted. This taught you "anger gets me what I want" and trained you to hold onto anger even when it is not useful in any way. That's not your fault. You're not in control over that, just as they aren't in control over their anger.
6) They don't make you feel bad. Words don't impact you. Your belief in them impacts you. If you want to be free and at peace, don't depend on others to only say nice things to you. Investigate whether someone's words are true. If you don't believe what someone says, it will have 0 impact on you. None at all. By blaming them for your suffering, you have made yourself a victim, and have put your unhappiness in the hands of others.
Ugh I don't know man I read through thanks for the response but I can't help it, maybe I'm bitter. But even this response further upset me. Maybe I'm beyond help.
As a human being I deserve to be treated with respect regardless of color race or creed or beliefs we all do.
heyyyyy1111 Okay, then why do you treat them with anger? Their belief is that gays are bad. If people deserve to be treated with respect regardless of beliefs, then there is no reason for you to have anything but respect towards them.
Noah Elkrief are you a psychologist, because this is not helping me cope
thank you for everything.You have helped me tremendously! me and my mother would fight every other day.my girlfriend and I would fight every day.because of this video,I have been trying my best to control my anger and frustration with anything that would make me mad ....but I have stopped fighting with my loved ones.we no longer have any arguments or fights thanks to you ....with much appreciation thank you very much
+jayvalle50 You're welcome Jayvalle. Thanks for sharing
one of my biggest problems right now is thinking im better than everyone else because i might be happier than they are, which makes me succesful and them a failure... :(
***** i'v kinda got'n over it, so theres hope for us :D
***** i guess any advise i could give is, just don't worry about it to much, dont think "its bad i think this way" just live life... but don't be a dick to people lol, ( also theres probly people a lot more cockier than us, because were honest about it, but that doesnt make it ok.... for some reason one day i was like idc man, im just gonna be myself not care about if i think this way and for some reason it went away...)
***** and also... dont feel like "omg someone is going to notice im cocky" that thought is as killer... and also i realised i was surpressing my emotions so in fact, there are of course people who live there life, differently, but are actually happier than i am.... and also if it works for them, who cares.... and also i'v shared this video with 3 of my friends who wore feeling down, and they never told me if it helped them, even though i asked that they do... exept for one friend who said it didn't... so... i assume the other 2 thought the same... umm... so i guess my key is... this practice doesnt work for eveyoyne.. And the only reason i think that im a succes if because i use to think i was a failure when i was sad... so that realisation also helps... omg i wrote so much! O.O
***** haha were in the same boat *Virtual H5*!
Thank you for this video. After wathching it, I have had a deep thought of my anger management problem. One thing that I totally agree with was when you said that some parents punish their kids by being angry and people keep their anger to punish others. When I look back my childhood, my prarents were angry at me whenever they thought I did something wrong and I really hated it. I always thought if I were them, I would have just used different ways to change my bad habits. but up until now, I have used the same way to try to chage people who are around me. So, now I really want to change my bad habit. Again thanks for your video. It helped me a lot.
Your not yourself when your angry thats true beacause I didn't think while i was angry and i broke my laptop i hate being angry
Yes anger is a fake emotion and doesn't stem from the real need.
The real need is only peace and happiness.
Therefore being happy and doing a work is more logical than wasting your time and money and energy on anger over somebody.
I broke way more things than you 😊
GoodNewbsEveryone! same I just punched my desk and I cut my knuckle open
I got angry and threw my phone across the room, it smashed to pieces
FederalGOOF I punched my monitor
This video help me a lot. I been dealing with anger problem all my life and for the longest time I've been looking for something that would help my anger problems.
niko lugo Glad it helped Niko
i feel what you are saying, i do feel what they did was bad and i want them to pay. I Get so made i cant think and i hate not being in control of my thoughts. i dont want this any more, it make me feel sad and bring negative effects to my life.
i feel the same way
You've really just changed my life... Thanks!🙏
Thank you. I don't know if I am going to be successful, but at least I want to and I'll try.
Love xxx
You're welcome Efserable. Good luck
I think i found my actual hero. i hope this one works. Thanks a lot.
Thank you, now i can stop raging at games all the time :)
haha awesome
Yeah, I think I just need to quit playing those types of games. I played Battlefield games for so many years. Then I noticed the anger and stress it was causing me. I stopped playing for about a year, and only played RPG games. I recently started playing Battlefield again and i'm noticing the anger and stress return. They are so fun, but detrimental in the long run, I think.
Perfect talk. All the points make me think about how to improve my thinking instead of getting angry.
Isnt anger also in a way, natural reaction? Someone puts in danger me or my family with the way he drives, and he is not in hurry. That action IS bad, feeling of my family was in danger, creates my anger, and they have no serious reason to do it. How will I not be angry. How can I ignore that and stay "calm"? Isnt it natural reaction to become angry?
+Notsheep79 yea I think so to. One would get angry, and nothing wrong with that. Even Noah would get angry in that situation, because we are humans, but the anger should not stay with you way after the situation has passed. Anger that stays with you, dosn't do any good. It's holding on to anger, that can create huge problems in your life. Just my 2 cents.
Notsheep79
I just watched your video it made me cry cause I do have anger problems and I really believe that if I watch this video everyday and examine my life on why I do I will get better. Thank you so much you saved me
I’m already starting to get angry.
When you're the victim of absolute malevolence. Absolute being the key word here. Nobody ever ever tells you to stand up for yourself and fight back it seems. Be complacent let bad behavior continue and wonder why the whole world's falling apart. I have a bumper sticker on my car that says, " isn't it weird how pretending everything is fine isn't working. "
I would just like once for somebody to point out where the line is to be drawn to where you stand up for yourself and when you let it go. When I get that then I'll have peace
This is so helpful! I am so glad I found this. I am sure I will be watching it again and again. Thank you for posting!
You're welcome Tme
you just helped me so much. I just got through taking my anger out on a very good friend of mine. Thanks to this I won't do it again. you have opened my mind so much. thank you.
This made me more annoyed and angry
Pepper244 agreed
Right? Right? Right? Right? Right? Right?
Same he’s annoying
See now this comment made me happy and less angry lmfaooo
Apparently if you get robbed it’s because the robber has a gun to his head. What a crock
lol I sent a link to your video to some one that started swearing at me
I'm genuine about this. I'm close to 50 year old a male, and I've suffered depression, anxiety, and anger outbursts all my life.
I think my how to never get angry video might be a better fit for you. Good luck
This video really made sense to me. Thank you.
Zachary Self You're welcome Zachary
i found that most times when I get anger it helps to retort with attitude toward the other person. Not to an extreme extant, but enough to convey your disappointment and frustration towards them, and then we usually talk through things.
I hate my anger it just doesn't stop there's to many things that I get annoyed about it just ugh MAKES ME MAD AND I JUST START RAGEING AND JESUS THIS IS NOT WORKING 😱😖 UGH NEED TO GO PUNCH SOMETHING I'M IN A ANGER MOOD AND I'M TRYNA COOL FOWJ BUT words your telling me isn't working I wish this would stop
Same I want to punch the wall
ErikaandOlaf I wanna punch a wall or break something
Get yourself a boxing bag and some gloves. Use them when you are really angry and then let go of the anger. Sit down and cry if you have to.
I've been with my partner for nearly 10 years and this evening she took herself and daughter to her grandparents because of my anger which, almost over night, arose after my step father of over 16 years appeared on my doorstep. he let himself in looking for my sister whilst drunk. it was her 21st birthday birthday and had gone to the sea side with my mother and grandmother. my mother and him argued with one another on a regular basis and the police domestic disturbance files were in the hundreds. seeing this man again triggered something, but your video has helped me see something I should have seen a long time ago. I watched 2 people try to control one another for years, nothing but heart ache and misery came from it. For 3 years i have been toiling with anger only terrifying myself that my daughter will grow up witnessing the same destructive environment I did, but I think I know better now. Thank You Noah, your video has been more than helpful
YOU'RE NOT YOU WHEN YOUR HUNGRY
SNICKERS SATISFIES
HAHAHA nice one
eat a snickers
Cookiemonsta IF MY FAMILY WOULD LET ME EAT THEN MAYBE ID FEEL BETTER
Cookiemonsta but then I'll get fat and be more angry at myself 😂
how can you use the correct "you're" in a sentence then use the incorrect one straight after?
Noah, thanks for your help. I honestly did not believe I would find your video to be helpful at all. I'm very glad that I did. I've been watching videos on controlling my thoughts and have had tremendous success doing so, but I could not understand why I could not control my anger. This one simple video explained my dilemma and addressed my issues so vividly that I'm truly humbled beyond measure. Thank you sir for your kindness.
This entire segment is assuming you are angry with a person. I can typically justify the actions of other people because I know by nature we are irrational. However I find myself getting angry about things not related to people at all. I can be mowing the lawn and the mower spontaneously breaks. Now it has thrown off my plans for the day and I have a half mowed lawn. Something like this could make me unnecessarily angry. What about these situations, how should we handle this? I've tried telling myself there is no point in getting angry, but I just cannot talk myself down. I don't want to be angry it just seems that I have no control.
madashell2 I will add that subject to my list of videos to make. Basically, this anger you have is a cover-up for feeling powerless or stupid in a given moment. In order to lose that anger, we have to fully acknowledge the underlying feeling, and then fully feel it.
Noah Elkrief What if I get angry exactly *because* I know I'm powerless towards something?
... I'm looking forward to watching that video, because right now I can only imagine the feeling of being powerless leading to anger, or at best sadness, which isn't much better.
Noah Elkrief I agree. But how to fully feel you are powerless?
I can NOT say how helpful this was for me and I can't THANK YOU enough! God bless you.
The robbers must love you.
P.V. Ho omg 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
But if he was robbed & beaten up, he would have to assess whether something bad ‘really did happen’ or is it just the ‘thought’ of it. Well no, you got robbed and battered how else did u get the bloody ‘thought’ wtf is this cobblers
When you talked about suffering, I was moved. I think I slowly, somehow get it.
Very relaxing and helpful Noah.
I was relaxing a lot until you made digestion burps.
Then i got angry again
:-P
lmaooooo omg I died laughing
+Domenico Scintilla haha sorry man
Domenico Scintilla lol this comment 😂👌🏾
LMAODUDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I always get judged for liking stuff people dont like, such as Five Nights at Freddys, Undertale, or religion, and I like to fight whoever disagrees with me...this video taught me to respect their opinion or accept what they said and forget, and not fight or get mad afterwards. Thank you Noah.
Its only matter of time before I can finally stop worrying...
Your voice...is enough to calm me down. Because it is so soothing 😳👌
Thanks Noah. Just the first few minutes in and I realized that I'm such a horrible person when I'm boiled in anger.
So, I'm having trouble with the idea of not being in control of my own actions.... so what are we supposed to do? just lay around and do nothing because we can't change. so, by definition, we can't control being angry either, right? How is that freeing? Sounds a little depressing. :(
i think his Idea is to be aware to become in control and gain that control we lost back
You can change, or in other words, change can happen in you, by watching videos like this one changes will happen in your thoughts, but it's not really you doing it, it's just happening, and you won't lay around doing nothing because your mind won't let you.
Hi Carolyn, if you play a sport, you never control whether you win the game. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't try your best, and it doesn't mean you can't improve your abilities.
Thank you Noah for this enlightenment. It sounds so simple listening to you and shrug to say "pft...I can do that". But I wouldnt be watching your video if I have done what I was saying. Truth is, I have led myself astray...to the point of almost no return. I am thankful that you are as simple and as scientific as you present these facts. I am sure going to adhere to your mindset and will be a follower and maybe even an advocate to your principle. I am a recovering verbal abuser and in the process of regaining the trust and love of my wife and family. Bless you for your vocation.
AmericanForefather Good luck. Try this one too: ua-cam.com/video/0t8ksKyLv30/v-deo.html
Hey Noah, have you seen the movie "Inside Out"? :) Just curious.
Also, thank you so so so much for ALL of your videos. You are a brilliant teacher, I feel so at peace watching and listening to your teachings.. my life is slowly changing before my eyes because of this new way of thinking (or not thinking!?) haha. either way, thank you. xo!
I need to practice this stuff and stop lashing out at my boyfriend
Is it strange that I actually got angrier watching this?
lol
yes
I like how you are talking in a calm voice. Thanks you really helped, especially because I don't want to go to anger management class because I have a tight schedule! 💕
Bruce Wayne should watch this :p
thank you so much iv been having a lot of anger issues lately and now iv started to get nicer and less mad then normal thank yo so much Mr Noah
+death gaming You're welcome
My parents told me i need anger management because when my mum wouldn't tell me where my charger was ....i trashed her house......i tipped water on the ground smashed a few plates,unrolled two rolls of paper towels and then tipped out and threw around 2 washing baskets of clean folded clothes and knocked anything i could get my hands on over.....and Im very violent.towards other people... Btw Im a 12 year old girl. And i don't feel guilty.
pop loo I will put up a video on this type of anger soon
maybe you shouldn't act like a spoiled bitch, ur stil a lil kid and u have difficult to exspress ur feelings hence the rage, i would hit also everything and break everything if i had a bad time but never over a charger
At least you are strong enough to admit that your in the wrong; one day you will be in control of your anger
All my life I have had a shity childhood and have been neglected by my parents my whole life, I tell myself that it's ok to get angry because I have nothing to be happy about and that I am doing the other person a favor by getting angry with them because I'm correcting their errors in life. I've lost many friends to drugs and bad decisions and I've always told myself I wouldn't get as bad as they got but as my life has gone on my anger and resentment has driven a wedge with everyone I know and at the end of the day is that any worse then the way I lost my friends
From now on make your own life work for you. You no longer depend on your parents, they were neglectful because their needs were not met. They were also victims. Get out of victim mode and into the mode of a winner. Change your thoughts to be that of a winner. Be strong. Things have to change with your generation. It's too late for your parents. Forgive them and move on with your life. Create happiness for yourself. It comes from within yourself. You can do it.
I'm mad because people ddos my internet and make me mad
sorry
Let me share something: I have a friend who helped me a lot, almost saved me from suicide by giving me enormous financial help that will border on fairy tales. However he also criticized me like hell while doing so. And, strange as it might sound, his criticism became more important to me than his help and I started hating him from the core of my heart and considered him my worst enemy. He also became a difficult person for me. I wanted to avoid meeting him. Your video on losing anger caused by criticism and on dealing with difficult people, really, really, REALLY helped.
ok so this helped me a little bit..
maby I won t beat the bich up ☺
LOL
Hi, My name is Ramesh. I'm CEO of a 1989-established, New Delhi based boutique consulting firm specializing in high-stakes-communication, strategy consulting & marketing. However despite specializing in high-stakes communication, I have no words to express just how grateful I am to you for all your videos. I have watched 3-videos: how to lose anger caused by criticism, insult & perceived insult, how to lose anger in general and how to deal with difficult and they have made an enormous difference in my life. The value is worth its weight in gold. I am deeply grateful to you.
I love you
Thanks Noah, I have been a really angry man for a while now and it is causing big problems in what should otherwise be an incredible happy life. The reasons I hold on to anger was me to a tee. I am off to watch the vid again and write myself a little reminder card memo of the main points I can refer to when I start to feel angry with my kids or my wife. Otherwise I might lose them all for good.
this video makes me angry. ; )
You have to be careful. anger leads to the dark side
Hahaha! He should be take a anger classics lol😂😉😉
Yes this thing helps, when i came here I wanted to break every single thing in my house. Just listening to this guy calmed me down.
doktor4eto208 Glad it helped doktor
The way he talks so slow makes me more angry than I was before I watched the video, like he needs to explain everything to us because we are retared. At least he has a nice bright white background that hurts my eyes, the pain makes me ignore that I'm angry and then makes me want to post stupid comments about it. >=(
But he does have a cool beard....
Brenden Duletzke Sorry Brenden
Thanks, I have been dealing with this issue myself and I found alot of my answers in your amazing video.
Miss H SA I'm glad to hear that Miss
Throughout the years of watching UA-cam this has been the most helpful video I ever watched. I'm just trying to forgive my sex abuser. And keep getting angry all the time about it.
A lot of people say this video was making it worse but his honestly is helping me out lots
This helped me lots. It was just claiming to watch and it was helpful. I get of a lot of fights with family, so this is helpful. I try to cope with it, they won't even try.
Glad it helped Armine
You can never change someone else, you can only change your reaction to them.
You know, that third point was hard to understand at first, but once I did... it hit home really hard.
Wow, I am indeed blaming others for things they have zero control of. Thank you, Noah!
thank You so Much Noah , You have been a blessing in my life since I first started to listen to your You Tubes in Dec. You have help me free my heart of so much and also help me understand and get rid of unwanted misunderstood feeling . I feel set free .... thank you again . I am turning 60 in 9 months and I wish I had this knowledge in my 20s it would of saved me from so much unnecessary suffering.... but better now than never .... lots of love your way ;)
+Bobbie Sanchez You're welcome Bobbie
Hey, just a little offering of gratitude. I stumbled across your page and was having a browse through some of what you are sharing here. I'm enjoying watching/listening. So much clarity shining through. Thank you for being and for showing up in this way.
My car has been vandalised twice in a week and I wasn't really sure how to deal with my anger. After watching this I hope it brings positives in some way. Just ordered your book :)
Lucy Clarke I hope it helps you Lucy :)
I had zero resistance to anything you said. I don't want to be angry. I want to be free.
thank you for sharing this with me never really understood how to control my anger, besides yelling and using abusive words towards people.... i did it so much i pushed away people from me who cared about me dearly, i really hope that throughout this video and time i become a better person. again thank you. Mr noah
I get angry all the time and I don't know what to do but this video helped me a lot 🙂🙂🙂 thank you
You're welcome Jaloni
Im not going to lie, this was extremely helpful, I have had so much anger lately, bottled anger that i was releasing upon everyone. The anger was bottled when I was bullied in school, thanks to this video, I now go to anger management,
In my experience, I am noticing all you say to be true. Thank you for all your insight, Noah!
Thank you for sharing Saima! Glad to hear it. You're very welcome!
Thanks Noah, this is really helpful. Now I realise that getting angry just isn't worth it, and good things can come out of bad events and people cant always help their actions. Thanks.
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