Dealing With Anger, Resistance And Pessimism

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  • Опубліковано 6 кві 2012
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    Eckhart Tolle discusses the decisive shift from identifying with a feeling and simply observing it in your energy field.

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  • @osufand
    @osufand 8 років тому +3813

    it takes a courageous person to be vulnerable and ask that question in front of everyone

  • @stelioslagaras5334
    @stelioslagaras5334 8 років тому +3358

    What a brave man speaking for his own difficulties upright and shameless!

    • @sammleesonja
      @sammleesonja 8 років тому +81

      Agreed!

    • @hillbobaggins
      @hillbobaggins 7 років тому +74

      Stelios Lagaras my heart would be pounding too if I was in his shoes. I'm glad he asked the question.

    • @stelioslagaras5334
      @stelioslagaras5334 7 років тому +27

      famous brillance There is no big difference in what kind of "danger" we feel (internal,external).Speaking shameless is a big obstacle to jump over for a lot of us and the decision to take this step needs bravery! Best wishes :)

    • @CouldLiveOnYouTube
      @CouldLiveOnYouTube 7 років тому +5

      Stelios Lagaras as it should be!

    • @KikiRevenge
      @KikiRevenge 6 років тому +42

      Agreed! I hope he was able to practice what Eckhart taught. It looked like he was having a hard time grasping what Eckhart was saying. You could see his mind/ego trying to make sense of it. He looks like he has a good soul and was earnest to change so hope he had a breakthrough.

  • @marshastinnett1297
    @marshastinnett1297 7 років тому +1314

    so thankful that Eckhart is here during my lifetime...so grateful, can't describe.

  • @Emptiness512
    @Emptiness512 6 років тому +141

    I love it "you don't have to believe every thought that arises" very important for me to remember...

  • @Naaschkatzee
    @Naaschkatzee 5 років тому +183

    "The anger is no longer you. The anger is anger. And you are the awareness."
    Wonderful said! He really knows how to deliver the message - shortly yet deeply.
    Greetings from Germany. :)

  • @MelieSue
    @MelieSue 4 роки тому +131

    I used to have a lot of anger issues. I would give way to the emotions, fester in them and lash out. I’m grateful for my past anger, because it was what started my own spiritual awakening. I realized the anger and pessimism was ruining my friendships, my health and my life. I started becoming aware of when I was getting angry and would focus on the feeling instead of acting on it. I’m a totally different person now than what I was several years ago. Ironically, I kind of found my own spiritual awakening on my own...then I found Eckhart Tolle and was amazed to see someone essentially teaching exactly what I was practicing on my own.

  • @GorGob
    @GorGob 9 років тому +675

    I've noticed when anger rises it feels justified and normal but when you see it in another person while u are in calm mood you realize how absurd, stupid,weak and pointless it really is so this helps and motivates to manage anger. I think we learn these moods from our parents and we just keep repeating it all if we lack the desire to go somewhere else with our lives.

    • @jeanneymar6756
      @jeanneymar6756 6 років тому +28

      GorGob Thanks, it's exactly what I was thinking about

  • @Howskii
    @Howskii 6 років тому +594

    Not many people got the courage to do what that man did.. Much respect.

  • @TheRoarWithin
    @TheRoarWithin 8 років тому +1276

    I feel for the guy asking this question, because I can strongly relate.
    Sometimes, it just feels too overwhelming and impossible to shut off resistance and frustration, and just let everything be.
    It can be addictive to stay in control at all times.

    • @clairobics
      @clairobics 8 років тому +58

      +Stefan Alexander Lay "It can be addictive to stay in control at all times." = ego
      " just let everything be." = presence - only saying because exactly what I work with too! namaste :)

    • @comogamesghtr
      @comogamesghtr 8 років тому +4

      +Stefan Alexander Lay so true

    • @orbitalpl100
      @orbitalpl100 8 років тому +32

      +Stefan Alexander Lay I have the same problem and instead of staying present I prefer to punch a pillow or kick a training bag.... but what Eckhart is saying it's not about shutting off resistance, it's about observing it and being with it. Sometimes I manage to stay present and indeed anger subsides, but then I get a feeling that I need to vent it out instead of staying present, I guess my ego is very frustrated and wants to punch and kick to release the tension instead of staying present.

    • @TheOmnipresent12
      @TheOmnipresent12 8 років тому +6

      +Claire Lou (GardenFaery) ... thanks for that well placed comment Claire... you hit the nail right on the head. I am... or was on the *exact* same vibe as Stefan, then I read your perfect comment!
      Ego is surely as addictive as heroin is to a heroin addict.
      (this comment added with utmost respect to Stefan!) ;o)

    • @TheOmnipresent12
      @TheOmnipresent12 8 років тому +36

      +lily Only realising this tonight after Stefan sparked the issue. I'm now thinking of it this way. Ego to our souls is like heroin to a heroin addict. Going without heroin for the addict brings about all manner of withdrawal symptoms... anger/sweating/intensity of thought and the rest. Therefore it should not be entirely unexpected that we may experience symptoms while we... detoxify (?) ourselves of the drug... in this case ego...
      Happy for anyone to better compose this statement... anybody...?

  • @buyrainbowstuff1130
    @buyrainbowstuff1130 9 років тому +762

    I love the way he validates people

  • @simplybest8412
    @simplybest8412 10 років тому +317

    Many times while listening to Eckhart, I become more alive and present. My suffering subsides and happiness appears. This is very amazing!

  • @charlotterose1557
    @charlotterose1557 3 роки тому +44

    you can see in echkart he embodies his teachings. he looks and sounds so calm and present, no fidgeting, completeley in the moment and listening...its amazing

  • @NickFontana
    @NickFontana 8 років тому +291

    i feel so much respect for that man who's being honest telling
    about his issues dealing with anger and distress

  • @zachfree6126
    @zachfree6126 7 років тому +636

    He has a beautiful soul. Full of understanding.

  • @waterlily8116
    @waterlily8116 9 років тому +322

    It's important to not suppress whatever you're feeling or scold how you feel/think because that just causes for more thoughts and emotions. Once I let go of myself and stopped hating my thoughts and emotions, I felt more present

  • @Sockdarner007
    @Sockdarner007 Рік тому +18

    I’ve been listening to Eckhart for a few months and the difference is profound.
    Negative thoughts I used to believe without question have lost their power, my marriage, which was rocky has grown stronger, and I am more content and appreciative of everything in my life- good and “bad”.
    I truely feel blessed to have stumbled upon Eckhart’s wisdom.
    I have shared his gifts with my children in the hope that they will get hooked and banish all the unnecessary suffering that I went through for 59 years.

    • @Raufm3
      @Raufm3 Рік тому

      Happy for you! How did you fix your bad marriage? I need some advice from experienced people..

  • @studentofspacetime
    @studentofspacetime 5 років тому +50

    I not only have respect for that man for sharing his innermost personal problem, I am also very grateful that he did it. Thanks to him we all got these incredibly useful words of wisdom from Eckhart.
    I hope his practice helped him.

  • @alicewonderland7218
    @alicewonderland7218 4 роки тому +59

    I admire the man who asked the question. This lesson was very helpful.

  • @floroliveto8531
    @floroliveto8531 6 років тому +36

    I love how present he is when he speaks, especially when he thanks the audience, it's not just the protocolar 'thank you' of any speech, but a meant one. With only that we can see he is no fraud, he does live according to what he preaches.

  • @pinkleish1
    @pinkleish1 7 років тому +126

    I am so grateful for men like this.

    • @moony77
      @moony77 5 років тому +4

      Mary Rice YES, in lowest moments of his”weakness”, he so much more powerful and strong💜

  • @jeffmcilroy7081
    @jeffmcilroy7081 7 років тому +106

    I'm proud of you dude. Most all of us are experiencing the exact same thoughts and you were brave enough to expose them. The simple fact that we recognize , or are aware of our thought patterns is the first step in changing our habits of negative thought patterns. Our minds can be our worst enemy or our best friend

  • @erin7913
    @erin7913 3 роки тому +18

    You don’t have to believe every thought you have 🙌🏼

  • @ASMRconKiki
    @ASMRconKiki 10 років тому +532

    It is very hard not to feel completely identified with the pain body. Awareness itself is a state of mind that I find really hard to put in practice when emotions arise.Thank you for this helpful and beautiful video.

    • @kellerblake68
      @kellerblake68 10 років тому +41

      Awareness itself isn't a state of mind. Its awareness itself. Don't think about that lol

    • @stefanus4263
      @stefanus4263 9 років тому +11

      Doran Shaw perfectly explained... awareness is the ultimate Disidentification... if you think in concepts, ideas & words, it is by default distorted..

    • @Micscience
      @Micscience 9 років тому +3

      Doran Shaw I am trying to differentiate the act awareness from states of mind. Awareness could not exist without the mind so how come we cannot call it a state of mind. I am not talking about forcing awareness however the act of awareness as being, if you are aware you are in a state of mind are you not?

    • @stefanus4263
      @stefanus4263 9 років тому +25

      Miscience, remember states of mind is a concept. Theres only identification with the mind or awareness without necessarily lost identification.
      To make it easy, consider this thought: "I cant believe I did that to him...". So 1. Which part of you said that. 2. Which part of you actually did that? 3. Which part of you is just observing behind all of that?
      The observing part is the awareness, which is dissociated from all the dramas including state of minds. State of minds mean you engage in the THOUGHT process.. Which is not the awareness. Cos the awareness simply observes.
      Keep asking yourself those 3 questions again and again. Before u know it, u realise, there's spaciousness and awareness behind everything. Usually people are lost in THOUGHT.. Not realising it is not awareness.
      Consider this:
      1.Do you have to think to be aware?
      2.Can you be aware without thinking?
      Of course you can...

    • @Micscience
      @Micscience 9 років тому +8

      I understand that awareness works like the way we breathe so when we think of breathing we are forcing our breath. After awhile our breathing just happens and this is how awareness happens.
      I didn't realize in order to be in a state of mind you have to be in a thought process. Thanks for the explanation.

  • @corkycat93
    @corkycat93 7 років тому +67

    9:24 I found it really inspiring that I noticed a change in this gentleman's entire energy. He appears calmer, and the dialogue between him and Eckhart is very relaxed. I thought it was wonderful.

  • @jkhall9665
    @jkhall9665 6 років тому +10

    Spent two months buying, planting, maintaining a beautiful flower garden. My mother in law comes when I am gone from my home and steals not only plants but my tools!!! She is a destructive person in all aspects of life, all relationships. This mans words are all that keeps me from loosing control. Helps me put all in perspective. Keeps me out of prison. Love you ET!☮♥️☯️

  • @paulclay4293
    @paulclay4293 8 років тому +22

    For me this is what many refer to as emotional intelligence, recognising and controlling your own emotions and ensuring they are used in a positive manner.

  • @maritresnik7596
    @maritresnik7596 6 років тому +13

    If there are such thing as angels, here's one. Thank you, beloved teacher.

  • @1uciddreams
    @1uciddreams 10 років тому +24

    This man is brave simply by asking this question and revealing a raw emotion he struggles with. Love to you and nice job by Eckhart to give you tools and advice, which we all can benefit from 3

  • @MeT2338
    @MeT2338 7 років тому +120

    I think, and feel, the majority of what Eckhart says about what humans feel. His "knowing", for me, is proof that Eckhart is the real thing. He is authentic and he has helped me so much. He has saved my spiritual life; if not, my human/ physical life as well. I owe him much...

    • @Reason1717
      @Reason1717 7 років тому +7

      You are not alone in these sentiments, Micheal. Nice post.

  • @jonBrazilian
    @jonBrazilian 3 роки тому +3

    You just gotta love this guy Eckhart! God forbid my Ego is getting addicted to watching his videos.

  • @charlotterose1557
    @charlotterose1557 3 роки тому +8

    this explanation of anger blew my mind...best explanation ive heard

  • @newbeginning4234
    @newbeginning4234 7 років тому +61

    Now this is a man, who doesn't make anyone feel like crap! And he is more Eduated than Leo. Education, opens up your mind so much more. I love the tender response, he gave this man. Love and understanding is what I was great at, till life threw me a curve ball. So this video helped me reflect. So many of us need mental help, and we should never be ashamed!

  • @dwerg1
    @dwerg1 10 років тому +155

    I've been through anxiety, depression, anger, frustration, pessimism, ignorance, arrogance, insecurity and apathy. I've been through a great deal of pain overcoming this. I've been at the lowest of lows and highest of highs, where everything was wrong and where everything was right. The complications of getting out of it is impossible to accurately put into words, but Eckhart Tolle provides some very good solutions.

  • @KarinWettig
    @KarinWettig 8 років тому +4

    are you sometimes angry abour yourself? Here is the solution....becoming aware is more important than changeing oneself. Become aware and the change happens..... that is the best insight Eckhart gave me. Thank you.

  • @enibeni3783
    @enibeni3783 10 років тому +26

    Thank you Echart. This really works! I catch it 95% of the time now. Used to be a loose canon.

  • @mintEgreen
    @mintEgreen 10 місяців тому +2

    Does anyone else really enjoy watching Eckhart's hands as he speaks?

    • @mitchkisman3677
      @mitchkisman3677 10 місяців тому +1

      When praticing this exercise, people have to be really careful never to let these feelings Come again . Because the flow of negative energy would become explosive and exponentially destructive . Before doing this people have to deeply understand the way of constant acceptation of every and anything coming through. The moment one goes back to the old way of living these feelings Can be awfully destructive. People really need to be educated, long before engaging themselves in this revolutionary way of being. ❤

  • @cassandra3410
    @cassandra3410 7 років тому +399

    I love Ekhart Tolle:)

    • @nikolairomanoff6969
      @nikolairomanoff6969 7 років тому +13

      Cassandra Del Prado Eckhart Tolle has been my teacher throughout the years. I have learned so much from his works.

    • @niemencasimir
      @niemencasimir 7 років тому +4

      And when you love everyone, you know you understand him :)

    • @wc3s3b
      @wc3s3b 6 років тому +5

      I feel such an authentic love for Eckhart :)

    • @alainmaitre2069
      @alainmaitre2069 6 років тому

      I love Cass . (and also Eckhart Tolle)

    • @dylanone8613
      @dylanone8613 6 років тому +1

      I love Alain & Cass. :)

  • @billsteppe4094
    @billsteppe4094 9 років тому +37

    Observing one's self is a great skill. He is very into his presence.

  • @bobmag5058
    @bobmag5058 3 роки тому +3

    Echart is a blessing. God bless him.

  • @2126Eliza
    @2126Eliza 9 років тому +76

    It's nice to hear someone say so honestly they aren't okay, it feels like things are wrong. Anxiety and OCD are what cause those feelings in me (maybe this man too), and it's so important to let those feelings be, without obsessing and trying to explain it.

  • @veroniquehoflack4910
    @veroniquehoflack4910 3 роки тому +3

    I was taught to try and transform anger into positive action. For instance, instead of being angry with someone, do something about it, open your heart and talk to them. The idea is to be proactive instead of suffering.

  • @kjetilmikkelsen1156
    @kjetilmikkelsen1156 5 років тому +9

    I remember a few years back when I was meditating a lot that I started appreciating my thoughts. I was waiting for them to appear and embraced them. When I stopped fighting them, they dissolved. It lead me to the discovery that acceptance is the truth.

  • @hariharansambasivam
    @hariharansambasivam 10 років тому +65

    Thank you Eckhart. 12 years ago, my cousin came to Singapore and he was advised by his boss to gift me a book. Amazing, how good things can happen to you. It was Power of Now, the condensed version. From the title, it seemed as time management book. From then on, the messages and guidance in your teachings has always part of my consciousness. Namaste.

  • @mstiffany7
    @mstiffany7 11 років тому +3

    My reactions to my anger are expressed in a destructive manner. Often times, lashing out at the person with very hurtful words which have been learned since I was a child. These patterns are powerful but the awareness and the ability to change it is beyond words in how this can change your life.

  • @khalidsafir
    @khalidsafir 7 років тому +131

    Thank you Eckhart, I needed that this morning. I had this overwhelming, actually physically debilitating pessimism caused by the thought that I'm surrounded by people who don't care about making the world better - boring people. But it's not true and I love the idea of the 'pain body' - the existence of old pain from which anger can grow..... loads of good stuff here.

    • @mar8014
      @mar8014 7 років тому +7

      WOW i feel the same way sometimes I feel like NOBODY cares about the world. Whears theres so much BAD stuff like world hunger, criminals and what not. I think and read about problems all the time myself.

    • @cilanthropetunia
      @cilanthropetunia 6 років тому +6

      Khalid Safir i relate so much to this! Exact same for me today on a national level and personal level

  • @sarwatamir722
    @sarwatamir722 3 роки тому +1

    This guy has definitely changed my life. I was stuck in the cords of my anxiety so badly due to the Corona Virus. For a month I had severe anxiety attack and I couldn't share with anyone. I began watching his videos, reading his books and now I have learned to control it. Not that I am fully okay but 65% okay now. Love him. ❤️

  • @MultiLesvia
    @MultiLesvia 9 років тому +14

    I hope that the person who asked this question keep awakening and improving. A lot of practice is needed. Spiritual masters practice at all time, why not you and me.

  • @mariarichards5221
    @mariarichards5221 5 років тому +5

    Anger of course a very primal survival emotion in all of us. The Great Experiment, catch the spark, to stop the inferno. This by far is one of the most helpful Eckhart Tolle Question-Answer video segments (in my opinion of course, lol). The discussion and "decisive" shift from identifying with the feeling can be a challenging with all our social conditioning and so many belief systems, it requires dedication to the practice and definitely not a one off prospect. I have watched this video several times and it helps me gain an even deeper understanding each time. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  • @Jkl306
    @Jkl306 4 роки тому +10

    This man is so brave and this speaks to me on such a level I know I am in the right place. Thank you 💜

  • @johnhowells-vaughan5519
    @johnhowells-vaughan5519 5 років тому +8

    This man, helping us to see how we can all be. Trying to awaken us. The first few minutes of listening to him, I got it. I had never seen or listened to him before. I am amazed how just nailed it. To me, this indicates a true teacher.

  • @kathyreed4775
    @kathyreed4775 5 років тому +7

    Eckhart has such a beautiful "Spirit" and "Presence"...So glad I found him💚

  • @erin7913
    @erin7913 3 роки тому +7

    Developing an awareness of your emotions rather than becoming them 🙌🏼 = Complete control over yourself

  • @sevenply
    @sevenply 10 років тому +26

    I have just discovered this brilliant man and my long years of toil and suffering has come to a peaceful resolution, thanks to his inspirational insight. Definitely going to continue watching and learning his methods on how to cope with life. Just overall thankful to hear such words that gave me that teary happiness that I have longed for.

  • @sunyhyd
    @sunyhyd 10 років тому +174

    Amazing! Seems like Budhdha came to teach again.

  • @LisaArcelia
    @LisaArcelia 7 років тому +58

    Thank you so much for this video! I love you Eckhart and thank you to the brave man for speaking up about this! xx

  • @In2MeUcU
    @In2MeUcU 5 років тому +4

    If we were to live we had to be free of anger. -BBB of AA pg 66
    My dad gave me his big red plastic bat and said, "I know it sounds funny son but beat the shit out of your bed and release that anger safely so you don't harm others or yourself!" Best advice in healing anger ever given... I love you, dad, thank you for your wisdom and compassion. ❤

  • @chenlianghe
    @chenlianghe 3 роки тому +2

    such humility from Eckhart to explain it so clearly and so simply so others can appreciate as best as they could...

  • @leahwitchypoo6085
    @leahwitchypoo6085 6 років тому +1

    The man in the red shirt is me. I related to his story. I love and appreciate his honesty. I could tell by looking at his face that there was a lot of emotion underneath... However because he was nervous at being the centre of attention I could see his vulnerability below the surface. This made me think his anger comes from a place of great sensitivity and vulnerability within himself... However these emotions manifest into anger instead of being initially felt in the first place. There is sadness in this man and this is where he should start. Recognise and investigate where this sadness comes from. . This man lacks faith in himself when as a complete stranger I have complete faith in his honesty and realness

  • @zemstone
    @zemstone 10 років тому +52

    Thank you eckhart, your videos made me more calm!

  • @javonstuman1352
    @javonstuman1352 6 років тому +21

    I’m 16 The guy with the red spoke every word I feel everyday thanks to him he helping me. see what one person that speak about there problem can help another🤟🏽💯edit and this not myaccount

  • @tothetop2498
    @tothetop2498 4 роки тому +5

    Thank you brother Tolle, this has opened up a whole new level of awareness for me. Not just with anger but every emotion, we can choose to be the awareness/observer or the participant.

  • @mindbodyconnection8017
    @mindbodyconnection8017 3 роки тому

    I love how calm and comforting Eckhart Tolle is. It takes a lot of courage to speak in front of people and he acknowledged both sides. He has had an amazing impact when it comes to the field of personal development and one of the top figures that I look up to along with Tony Robbins, Steven Covey and Wayne Dyer.

  • @lovetoallnow4681
    @lovetoallnow4681 7 років тому +3

    You helped me wake up so many years ago, thank you, I love you. Thanks for what you do Eckhart Tolle.

  • @VivekMishra-um7hl
    @VivekMishra-um7hl 3 роки тому +2

    Very helpful question for everyone...brave questioner

  • @TheWayshower
    @TheWayshower 7 років тому +13

    Anger is a very addictive energy ... You can take yourself out of that energy by listening to uplifting music and then more easily apply Eckart Tolle's recommendations ... or you can create a simple mantra that you repeat 3 times, each time with more conviction than the last ... My mantra is "I am God's Grace"

  • @emilyk5990
    @emilyk5990 6 років тому +4

    Thank you always, Eckhart Tolle!Not a giant leap at a time but when seen from a while later, a great difference is there in me, thanks to you. Your teachings have been sown to the ground of many people's lives and I'm sure that they are all growing and flowering in their own way and in their own time.

  • @abelalieljaouahiry560
    @abelalieljaouahiry560 7 років тому +1

    You are our time gift from God Mr Eckhart Tolle.

  • @fonzycat
    @fonzycat 8 років тому +6

    I am so thankful for Eckhart Tolle. Pranam Eckhart.

  • @kiela17
    @kiela17 5 років тому +4

    Thank God I found this channel. It's unlocked me to the deepest core, I'm finally understanding the lessons I came here to learn. The pain & suffering are all part of the awakening.

  • @nickjamesb2051
    @nickjamesb2051 4 роки тому +11

    The thought comes first, then the emotion. The anger is the response to what is likely a false story in your mind.

  • @themadgamer4571
    @themadgamer4571 6 років тому +17

    Just as how he explains that you can be aware of the emotional energy. You can be aware of the ones that reflect impulses and reactions. Until one can become aware of these impulses and reactions, they are not really living. They are autonomously driven by the impulses and reactions. First become present, then what's needed in your life comes. And what's needed in your life at that moment of impulses is, vegetables, not taco bell. The other half is being identified with thoughts that eating healthy is hard. Even other habits like homely habits that keep you away from socialization. It's fine to have habits, impulses and reactions. Just don't be lost in it. Be aware so that you can make practical decisions and "respond" to situations instead of reacting. Enjoy being alive and have fun doing whatever it is that you're doing. It's the identification of stories related to your past that create suffering, and dissolves enjoyment. There's nothing bad happening right now and it's absolutely beautiful, how can you be upset? Unconsciousness brings unhappiness, becomming consciously aware, you will realize how you can enjoy being alive.

  • @sloppypoppie
    @sloppypoppie 9 років тому +25

    When you feel angry, just take a time-out and go back to presence, don't let the anger take you down. As soon as you shift back to presence, the anger immediately disappears.

  • @GeorgiYJohnson
    @GeorgiYJohnson 11 років тому +1

    The pain of helplessness is a truth. It is an inherent part of the human experience which is behind his anger. Helplessness is not a thought form but an aspect of experience. Infancy. Old age. Mortality.
    Surrender is ironically one of the most empowering and true phenomena of meditation. The sense of being "wrong" so sensitively picked up by Eckhart is connected with this. In Helplessness, we can allow this primordial feeling of 'wrong'. Accepting helplessness allows awareness to expand.

  • @swatisahay245
    @swatisahay245 3 роки тому +2

    Thankyou Echkart!you really helped me! concept of pain body and how to witness it was really helpful in seeing the reality.

  • @jenavids
    @jenavids 7 років тому +2

    fabulous video explaining anger as a field of thoughts. .. ."the decisive shift from being the anger, to having the anger in your energy field....feel it as the witness ...anger can become an important spiritual practice because through it awareness can grow." See also David R. Hawkins on the levels of consciousness, specifically the book Letting Go

  • @inLofiLife
    @inLofiLife 12 років тому +5

    I want to overcome my anger, it made most devastating things in my life and life of others... doing a practice from it sounds great to me. Thank you Eckhart.

  • @Twilightsummerbreeze
    @Twilightsummerbreeze Рік тому +1

    Emotions always want to be justified. But choosing not to believe or follow or buy that thought is truly helpful.

  • @studentofspacetime
    @studentofspacetime 5 років тому +1

    Wow! First of all, very brave of the guy seeking advice about this in public. And what a wonderfully thoughtful and lucid response.

  • @salsa101
    @salsa101 8 років тому +97

    When we can become the observer, we can see anger for what it is. I can imagine it would be like watching an embarrassing family video of yourself throwing a temper tantrum as a child. We can see the ridiculousness of it

    • @justinp1893
      @justinp1893 6 років тому +1

      F/X Art Desk I love this analogy! Thanks :)

    • @brandyf1932
      @brandyf1932 5 років тому +1

      Yes!

  • @kwgrid
    @kwgrid 6 років тому +1

    'Witnessing' is powerful. I remember learning of a way to 'disappear' a headache. You can look at it, notice its location, notice its intensity and whether or not moves or pulsates, etc. By distracting yourself from identifying with ("My head hurts. I'm miserable. Woe is me.") it will frequently dissipate on its own. Have you ever been totally absorbed in some activity and maybe stub your toe or walk into a door-facing, but you're so absorbed that it registers for a millisecond while you move on in your absorption? The pain disappears.

  • @UNCIVILIZE
    @UNCIVILIZE 8 років тому +8

    This is so true. Before I even started trying, I remember catching myself observing the angry person, me. I realized I don't have to be that. I'm always still working on it. Also at first, it's like an addiction, and when you stop Being angry, you kind of miss it. A few times I did it again as it just felt comfortable. But that anger is not really me, and I don't like it. I accept it, I can understand it, but I don't choose it...in the moments.

  • @matoki
    @matoki 8 років тому +30

    Thank you, Mr. Tolle for that. I needed to hear it. :)

  • @gma904
    @gma904 3 роки тому +2

    This very practice of being aware of the anger instead of owning the anger as a part of me, was exactly what helped me to let it go. I would notice the thoughts that brought on the anger and redirect my thoughts in a direction of positive truth instead. I’ve been struggling with this all week. Now I’m free. 😊

  • @cemdogan4991
    @cemdogan4991 10 років тому +30

    What l experienced about couple of days ago , At some point , l became very angry but the good thing is l was aware of it because l was totally in the present moment ... I had felt an incredible negative energy vawes were running through from my chest to my head and felt like screaming as loudly as l can .. Oddly enough l started to observe it more deeper ... D'you know what ? it took only 10 seconds to get rid of those feelings and negative energy waves...All l can say is After experiencing this , I realised there is something more strong than our thoughts and feelings inside us ... I guess what matters is to discover its power .

  • @LurkingCrassZero
    @LurkingCrassZero 6 років тому +1

    I have great sympathy for this fella. He is acknowledging all these feelings at least. A lifetime of this unconscious reaction takes time to let go of. I struggle with it every day.

  • @Ellevateenergytarot
    @Ellevateenergytarot 7 років тому +23

    great on all levels and resonates and applaud his courage as well

  • @eshahans3677
    @eshahans3677 7 років тому +1

    I almost cried watching this video..from past two three days I have been going through anger issues,n it seemed to be destroying my spiritual practice...exactly what this man said..n this video popped up..eckhart tolle is a saviour I must say..how beautifully he explained that such emotions help u grow in ur spiritual practice. Will definitely try to be more aware of my thoughts n emotions
    Great respect n love for this guy 🙏🏻

  • @Welshmalteser
    @Welshmalteser 10 років тому +3

    Wonderful Buddhist teachings.....Thank you Eckhart!!

  • @ericmatthew360
    @ericmatthew360 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you thank you! Does he know how much he's helping so many!

  • @sharonlevy6781
    @sharonlevy6781 4 роки тому +3

    But the anger or angry emotion is based on truth. There is injustice, relationships frequently change, our babies grow into tweens that dismiss us, etc.. I feel lonely and disconnected and I am feeling the anger of so much emptiness despite how much I nurtured and provided. I feel the hurt of disconnections amongst relatives and friends.

  • @wc3s3b
    @wc3s3b 6 років тому +2

    I feel such a love for this guy - both Eckhart and the questioner :)

  • @ticklemysoul
    @ticklemysoul 4 роки тому +1

    A courageous Man for owning his shit. For admitting his weakness and suffering that his hindering his progress to a fulfilling life instead of relying on escapism ie Vices/addictions. Respect for this Man.
    SELF LOVE is his cure. ❤💞

  • @marisadallavalle393
    @marisadallavalle393 4 роки тому +1

    Amazing. I thank the man who spoke, it was spot on.

  • @Synochra
    @Synochra 7 років тому +1

    I agree with the other comments. The man explains his situation with such sincerity, it's truly amazing.

  • @melaniestarkey7868
    @melaniestarkey7868 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you from coming from our deep consciousness you bless and Heal so many not out of pride but out of truth

  • @devonseamoor
    @devonseamoor 6 років тому +2

    Wonderful conversation, between two brave men. Thank you! It's a timely refreshment of what became a bit buried
    underneath much whirring of my mind-mills. There's great humor in this, that our painbody-yelps and -mews, are tools
    for transformation and growth toward awareness. Empowerment contained within, how wise!

  • @zain4019
    @zain4019 4 роки тому +1

    The last two minutes are profound:)

  • @ClaudiaReneFuentes
    @ClaudiaReneFuentes 6 років тому +5

    I've never seen so many positive comments in the comment section haha. I thank both these men; for the vulnerable person who spoke truly about his anger and feelings, and for the other person who understood him and lent him a gentle hand.

  • @gracesequeira7907
    @gracesequeira7907 5 років тому +4

    I am feeling frustrated,angry, sadness. Disconnected, loneliness, helplessness, withdrawal, disassociated and I am listening just to help healing and feel speritual

    • @imadiva2975
      @imadiva2975 5 років тому

      This is the fear, this is the dread, these are the contents of my head.

  • @lindastrauss3318
    @lindastrauss3318 4 роки тому +1

    Totally experienced this this morning . Frustrated , realized it, would not stay there. Talked to Spirit, tried to think of something else good, pure and lovely , This took about 3 times before frustration subsided !!! still learning it’s a journey, my journey , thank God I am not alone ! I am one with ABBA Father, Jesus and Holy Spirit 😍