Sex is not worth it, even if you think you won't fall for their games, slowly, but surely you will be stuck in the same confusing nightmare. NO contact is the only option for someone lacks the capacity neurologically/spiritually to even care about you, let alone love you. Save your love for someone who has the capability to truly love you. Life is short and you can NOT fix someone without empathy, nor should you spend a decade+ to end up with someone resembling a normal human, but the storm is still raging inside, just better veiled.
Been practicing no contact for the last 6 mo. Hasn't been easy, but I have got back my peace. And I've realized how little that group of people actually means to me. What was I thinking!
I'm doing boring-work at work at the moment so my mind wanders. When I find myself thinking about anyone I have blocked (which happens all the time!) I say to myself, "If they are blocked on my phone, they are not going to be in my mind, either"
I won't say it's easy but I seem to be getting better at blocking see I didn't even want to write the word because my mantra has to find the good in people so sigh it's not easy. Thank you for sharing and making me feel as if I'm not alone.🌹🙏🇦🇺😎
I keep them blocked to preserve my peace. Enough chances, being nice & excusing the imbalanced bad behavior! I will not allow myself to be entwined with the clear toxicity, self serving myth of a relationship. NO to narcissism!!! Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
It's not even a relationship. They just poke, prod and agitate relentlessly to get a reaction so they can take the high ground and starting ordering you around like a dictator, that's all they want. A relationship means there's some form of connection. If the narcs sole purpose is to manipulate and control there's no connection. They're either in control of you or they're proactively and relentlessly trying to destroy your self-image and self-confidence. That's no relationship. If they can't control you and they can't get a reaction then all they want is to watch you suffer, fail and ultimately die. Narcissism is very close to psychopathy in the complete lack of empathy. It's a dangerous situation being around narcissists. What you call a relationship is a life and death situation.
I was in a long distance relationship with him so I was constantly on my phone and feeling drained from it. The plus side is I've got 7 years of evidence that I have analyzed and can now read through the lines of how I much was manipulated.
At first I thought no contact was an immature response to my ex. I don’t any longer. It’s taking back your power over your own life. Best decision I made in this whole drama.
probably because the partner immaturely blocks and unblocks at their whim to punish you then hoover... your block is for your sanity. keep it permanent
I use my hurt as a burning desire to better myself. Im on my way and getting in the best shape of my life pysically and mentally. I thank the narcissist for everything. Next year will be the best of my life. Giodluckk to them with the new supply. Enjoy the ride.
Same here. What was initially overwhelming pain and confusion eventually set me on a path of personal growth and mental /physical health I never would have undertook otherwise. They really are great for this, aren’t they? I’m so happy for you❣️🛤️🌲👣❤️
Exactly I feel like you feel me and my husband are 14 years have separated September and he moved in with somebody before Halloween as if he was not married with kids or nothing I am using this time to work on myself and make myself the person I was before I met him
I have blocked the narcissist, his family and the friends who took his side during the smear campaign because I am putting myself first. I keep all toxic people out of my life because I deserve better. I will never unblock the narcissist because I am a wonderful, caring and loving person and I deserve better in my life!!! Every day I watch your video Andrew to remind myself that I must stay vigilant and strong !
Thank you so much Andrew and all you beautiful people out there. I survived as the scapegoat for 30 years now and went no contact about two years ago from my sad narc father. i knew since at least 15 years ago something was not right, and turns out you can't begin to understand how bad it was if not experienced yourself........ we are all deserving of love, and that's why we are still here.
Andrew , im 4 months no contact. Today was a roigh one, i so badly wanted to break no contact and defend myself about something vile he said to mea while ago. But i came to my senses and realized it wouldnt change anything. Stay strong everyone. Im still in the midst of breaking the trauma bond, its been a Rollercoaster. Im not giving up! Thank you!
You might have drug withdrawal symptoms at the beginning But 4 months is good time You can go forever no contact Do not contact because there will be a trap And you it will be worse if you get it Your energy will be drained And same shit happen If you feel lonely you're not alone And alone is different than lonely even feeling alone is better than being with these creatures Work on yourself and heal childhood wounds and how to appreciate yourself that you deserve something better Do not accept poor behaviors Since you reached here you're safe Have a good Day
"But i came to my senses and realized it wouldn't change anything." NICE!! You caught yourself is key, since you are not getting submerged in MEMORY"s filthy pit. Live in The Now...Good show, keep it up n your power NATURALLY grows...
They have now resorted to veiled threats since I started ignoring. They're desperate for my attention. I'm not playing the mind games anymore with them. I have disengaged!
The person I met feigned ignorance, to put it politely. He constantly claimed to have no understanding of computers. Yet, he owned several phones and, to my knowledge, six Facebook accounts, and likely multiple Instagrams. He masqueraded as having the naivety of a young boy, behaving as such, but I remember him from his youth, and he was nothing like that. Now, nearing seniority, he uses this to attempt to deceive others.
Thanks Andrew, you're right on time. When we're at our weakest and need your reminders we can find our strength here with you! REALLY appreciate you, Andrew!!!
After two decades, she was only a friend and I answered the phone which I knew was a mistake. I have never blocked anyone in my life. Catching up quickly ended and then insults about my mother she only met once and her stories I heard her repeat back in the nineties. Yes, she was checking her Rolodex and the devaluation and her eternal victimhood in life as excuses. She’s spent a lifetime living off of people. She was an energy vampire and at times literally gave me a headache and tightness in the chest. I realize she’s an envious, jealous hateful person with black, dead shark eyes. I blocked her and she’s started hoovering me on another phone and she’s finally stopped. You’re so right Andrew. Toxic vampires that are predators and very frightening when you realize you were on their menu. I’m now very mistrusting of everyone now and much more guarded in daily going about in life.
Once you have decided to go no contact; yes, keep them blocked. There is an extremely high probability they will try to worm their way back in months or even many years down the road. And if they are able to contact you somehow, you will be absolutely shocked at how little they have changed over that period of time. For you it will be like going back in time - mostly in a bad way but it will serve the purpose of showing you how much you have grown and changed on your healing journey. The new you doesn’t even know how to relate to the sad entity anymore. But you will be amazed that you once tolerated that sad, disrespectful, idiotic behaviour. Best to leave it in the past where it well and truly belongs 🙃
So True. Before this education was seated solidly, within me, I did an e-mail exchange with the ex after many years of no contact. Oddly ( Hoover timing ), it came at the same time, I started on this channel . Within the Narc's words, alone, I could read, nothing had changed. Imagine!- Trying to manipulate me via e-mail with words. Poof! I cut all contact immediately. It pays to read carefully- their words still betray their falseness. They don't change.
Also had to leave many persons behind, leave some groups I had enjoyed. Practicing grey rock for a time now. No longer jumping into conversations. Thinking better and enjoying peace! Thank you Andrew for the wisdom.
Illusion is important to remember. We create an illusion of others. In my case, I had to look at how a few good times were blown up into more than it really was. I was stuck in the illusion, especially of the beginning and then noticed it wasn't at all what he portrayed and lied about. The rest of the relationship was fraught with disappointment, gaslighting, financial infidelity, losses after losses, chaos, misunderstanding, being treated worse than a stranger. Reputation savaging and real contempt for me was my thanks in the end for being understanding and doing way more than I ever should have.. It blew my mind! I don't miss anything about him. I am sorry for him and how his life just plummeted into real darkness. I have no idea what he does anymore. Pro Tip: Anyone in your life who keeps bringing the narc up, red flag on that person. I have someone who says they love and miss him all these decades later. Very strange and out of context. The narc didn't care about this person ever. I knew it.
Let's say there is a person or family member who you have chosen to not communicate with. Let's say that you have to speak to them or know they will be at the same event as you. Have a sheet of paper that lists the reasons you have decided not to communicate with them. Re-read it before you will see them. This keeps you on guard. When it comes to a toxic or narcissist person, blocking (or having very minimum contact if that is the only option) buys you peace. Peace buys you clarity & healing. ".. when you go no contact & block the narcissist, or anybody, it's sending a clear succinct message to them that you no longer will play the games.. " Great video Andrew 🙌. Truth. Thank you. Love the Banana tree in your background. God bless 🌟
Good! More weight and distraction eliminated. Life can be hard enough, steering away from potholes, you don't need anyone that's questionable or a "walking betrayer." 👍☕☕🍪
@JHavaJo2-m1z Deep hearts have deep hurt. God knew & wanted to show me & he did! What's that cookie business you're throwing in there? I want a bite NOW! 😋👍 ☕☕
@JHavaJoe2-m1z Ok Joe....... You tempted me with banana cream pie, 😋 now chocolate chip cookie 😋 if a box of Sees Chocolates appear, I'm a gonner! 😋😋😋😋😋 👍☕☕❤
Hoovered today on her birthday 😆🤣😆 this fish isn’t biting any longer. Also, I always love your quick message after you’re saying take care Namaste. Thank you, Andrew🪐.
I unblocked mine on fb after over three years. We have a 4 year old son who doesn't know him. He's been mia for years. We had a meet and greet 11/23 so he can meet our son. He walked out when he was 10 months old. I can tell he's trying to pretend like he wants to be a father to get close to me. Now, he's sending me random selfies of himself. His appearance has changed so much in the past 4 years. He looks terrible now. I dont think it's gonna last bc as soon as i tell him im not interested in a romantic way, im sure he will get the hell on
I used to wonder why my X would hang out with serious losers in society while projecting himself to be so far above them. It was the fuel he got from having people look up to him. Thanks Andrew. Doing good on the path.
@@kimsteed9401 Exactly. It reinforces their need for control of others and elevate their own perceived sense of superiority because they don’t want you to see their fragility.
My narcissist ex just popped up in my suggested friends on facebook. I blocked her July 2023. While her first name remains the same, she is using a fake last name. She looks PIST in her photo she took. Funny timing. After a year, I updated my profile photo, and then she miraculously popped up. I suspect a hoover at some point. Dont worry. I won't answer. Lastly, stay vigilant. There is no timeframe on a hoover. Be prepared because they will likely reach out to you after they discard you.
Great message… dealing with some loose ends, but oh what a glorious day it will be when I can block him totally and be done!! Thank you and have a great evening! Stay warm!
unable to concentrate on the roads 😮 creator made me have a tiny solo bingle with a pole and that was enough to take that vehicle off the road for a whole year 😢 i know that is so i could properly heal for another year.. the car is fixed and driveable again, and now i am able to drive with proper attention... but my vehicle, me, my vessel, continues on the healing journey... and Andrews content is part of this ❤ TY NarcDaily xXx
No contact for over 2 years. I changed my phone number, deleted all social media... I moved. For my safety I have cameras in my car and at home. I became friends with a security guard at the workplace. I love peace and quiet. I know who I am and what I want. I won't let anyone abuse me.
Thank you! I needed this on the false friends front - those are the hardest ones for me to permanently let go and stay away from. I've literally lived through the old adage, "Twice bitten, once shy." Anytime I've ever taken back a false friend, I have always regretted it!
It's like the evil queen in Snow White holding out that shiny succulent red apple that looks so delicious , looks so good , so delicious , but you know one bite will eventually lead to being poisoned again , ...so you make sure YOU DON'T order any more apples !!! 🍏😝❤️
I blocked him last week after he contacted me about things I left at his house. After over 3 months. And by coincidence, a few days before Thanksgiving. I dont care about the things. I'm not giving him another opportunity to hurt me. Never again
The narc has me blocked on everything again for over 4 months now so I don't have to worry about that. If he were to reach out again, I plan to ignore. I don't want to block out of anger because it feels like he has control over me and making me bitter. I unblocked him to let that grudge go and become indifferent. I have kept 1 ex blocked for years because he was the cheapest narc.
Sick of the diminishing, the flighting-in-with-cape, the opinions, the advice, turning into demands, the insults both to my face and behind my back (for years & years), the being used as a tool to make himself feel better (forever)… and finally, when called out, the stating that our mothers' death at a young age did not bother him… i blocked my brother, and he's stayed blocked & out. Now it's pure focus, and daily crafting of a whole new life. And it's pretty blissful, too. And yes… starting from a very small footprint indeed (other very dangerous & toxic narcissists also appeared in this production).
This is so true! She complained about her dad playing dumb about things I remember. He is the head narcissist of the family. But she knows all about playing dumb this is one of the well used tools of the narcissist..And these people know EXACTLY what they are doing and OF COURSE they do. She actually one time after I mentioned I miss her said “ain’t no sunshine when she’s gone” like the song says.. She knew exactly what she was doing by pulling away.. some say, the narcissist isn’t aware they are a narcissist, and that could be true. But narcissism is just a name, their behavior is the real culprit and they are very much aware of what they’re doing is manipulative and coercive and mean and animalistic and cold and low energy.
The phone gave them wings but it also traps them. They don't think you know when they are twetter paited 😅😅 when they come out from the corner of the bed with their two phones. All you have to do is observe. If they come out ready for battle it had a moment with home wreckers or flying monkeys. If it comes out fluttered it got good supply it might be a good evening
Mean while I don’t matter to me that I blocked him! In between I thought to unblock. And I did it. But that was not good for me. I felt the nasty Energie… it makes me nervous. So I blocked him again! . And till now I didn’t unblock. And it’s the first time since I got hocked on him, I feel real save. I now know I didn’t need any kind of contact any more. He is not important any more! He s just a shadow, one day this shadow is gone. Nothing left!
Thanks Andrew. Blocking my narc ex was a game changer. He couldn't reach me anywhere. My advice will always be to do it when YOU are ready like Andrew has said. I felt so powerful after blocking him and REMAINING no contact. It's you being kind to yourself, loving yourself and pouring back into you. No longer spending your energy picking up your phone hoping your ex narc would have seen the light, apologise and get back with you. I realised after listening to Andrew daily and replaying certain videos he did over and over you can find it in you to block. It actually helped my healing so much that I wished I had done it earlier. Im still on my healing journey but I'm so much better today than I was months ago after being discarded just weeks before my birthday. Listen to Andrew and replay his videos especially when you have a weak moment, it helps. Like he says you are not alone. God bless you Andrew 💖. I pray that you will speak in arenas across the world enlightening people about narcs and their antics.
During my stage of the abusive cycle, I was heartbroken, then confused by her behavior, and finally understanding that she was just a toxic human being who never cared about me to begin with. I went from thinking about her constantly to realizing that she isn't worth a spec of sand on the beach that is my inner peace
You will need to have courage to live ALONE...Final straw for me was losing ALL my 5 grandchildren to no contact...All from narc daughter's two blown up relationships, 3 boys from first husband ( also a toxic narc...) and two little girls from second dude, who recently, suddenly died (btw, death is frequent "companion" to a MALIGNANT narc...)...Horribly emotionally abused grandchildren will grow up n figure it out that only hate kept "papa" away from them...
Instead of blocking the narcs, I just didn't respond to them and stayed 100% no contact. That way I knew when they tried contacting me and what their message was, and my knowing they tried to contact me and my not responding gave me a feeling of satisfaction because I know they didn't like it that I didn't respond to their messages, and they have no way to ever know for sure whether or not I even got their message or not. By the time I went no contact, I had had more than enough of their abuse and there was no way in hell that I was ever going to communicate with them again not ever----but I wanted to know when they tried to contact me. not out of any kind of longing to connect with them rather I get a feeling of satisfaction knowing that it bothers them I don't respond to their messages.
Hey Andrew you're right blocking someone is the only way to heal when I blocked my ex narcissist I get a notification that says blocked text message I'm going to try my best not to look at it
Have had it all, hovering, I seen it unravel , double standards , he can be evil, felt it, seen it. Seen the tantrum the little boy, totally asshole. “Dark Triad’s “ P/A with social path, with one element of sodium. 24 years invested, just found out two years ago. He has been trying to destroy me (heavily ) 8 years. And before but not as intense. 93 pounds at 5’3” He has been gone 4 months. I now weight 103.10 pounds yah !!! He is in Mississippi with all him family, and x-wife near buy. She left him in 75 from abuse.
I'm 6ft tall. 30 year old male. I work as a landscaper. I was only 128lbs when I left. They will destroy you. Nothing like seeing your own heart beat in your scrawny chest... wow. It was worse than I thought.
Block block block. NO CONTACT IS KEY. Any contact allows a way to get to you. They play mind games...any method to manipulate you. I was told I'm immature to block him. It was another manipulation..
Haven’t been “hoovered” in a looong time! He’d been blocked on everything for a looong time & will remain blocked! However, unless I change my longtime phone number, which I haven’t & prefer not to! He is still able to call, but it sends him straight to voicemail & I don’t even know when he’s called until I happen to see a blocked message in my voicemail. Sooo, yesterday I saw it, after a looong time! Like Andrew said, watch out for the hoovering here at the Holidays! Clicked to listen to his pathetic voice & sickening words of ohh how much I love you & miss you!! 😑 Sooo thankful this does absolutely nothing to me any longer, makes me sick!! I listen, delete, and go on with my life, Peacefully!!! Andrew, you’re the best!! 👍🏼
It was the best thing I did to really start recovering. Thanks to Andrew and one of his followers (I’m sorry I don’t recall her name) who encouraged me to block.
Thank you!!! This topic!! This reminder is wanting to be on: press play, at convenient locations, so I can LEARN fully about the why and where to block. ( always? fully?)
Thank you Andrew. I observe a slight change in your energy lately. I think it helps. I understand that suppressed anger is the root of much depression and anxiety. And of course anger is OK, even Jesus got angry, and God gets angry. The Bible is with God's explanation that if we worship other gods, my understanding is anything against our authentic self as we are designed and defined by God, that He is a jealous and vengeful God. Exodus 20 explains "“Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me;” so that is supernatural and just anger in a profound explanation. With Jesus we can be delivered from this vengence, as arranged by God the Father as a new covenant for our salvation. The terms are simple, admit that we made a mistake, stop making the mistakes that we are aware of, and be our true selves as defined by God. Narcissists don't admit to mistakes, and the way we can love our enemy is pray that they be delivered from the demonic forces that govern them, and in the name of Jesus. It is out of our hands, we need to give it to Jesus, and that includes keeping the texting out of our hands and instead focus our love to God. There is tasks that God give us, especially to share His Word to children, and teach through our actions of humility. Jesus washed feet, that was the perspective of his being a teacher. I appreciate your humility and honesty, and it works to help recovery from childhood wounds that left us vulnerable to Narcissistic and demonic trickery often into adult life. God Bless You and Your Work Andrew. I suggest begood4000 as a macro perspective in the same stream as how you help, and I also hope Tim Fletcher can share those understandings.
Never blocked her.Im all behind healthy communication and solving problems normal way. Unfortunately after her dissappearence and stonewalling from her side for few years I'm still hoping she will get back to me and explain all to me.. Naive thinking I guess?
This is so I've experienced this kind of behaviors in past relationships.With ex boyfriends family friends co workers and neighbors etc.Good topic literature to talk about openly Andrew.
Exactly every time unblocked,, thought He'd respect Me. Last one,, knowing My severely 32 year old autistic daughter sleeping (and its hard to keep Her asleep) called 3 times in a row. No respect Still 😮😮😮
Blocking wasn't easy. Especially when you have a child with the narcissist, and they have a new supply. But now I only have 1 form of communication being txt. Unless it's an emergency, then I'm not interested any longer in her. Because once you see them for who they really are, you can't unsee them!
Andrew, I wish I could send you a Christmas 🎄 card but there is a postal strike here in Canada. Thank you for your messaging. I hope you have found peaceful moments within your healing. The first time I fell upon your messaging was jarring to say the least. It was life altering - and then even a trajectory I could not have imagined unfolded. I often wonder how you are healing ❤️🩹 Thank you so much for sharing your experience.
The narcissist only cares about themselves. Blocking them is the only way to start your healing journey. Better still, change your number and whereabouts if possible. That is the way to get your energy back and make the narcissist feel powerlessness.
It is a War for your soul. And mine. We are the front line of our families and Friends we love in this war. . Hold the line. Thats what i tell myself. 🎉I am free 😊🎉🎉🎉 I am done. I will not look back
Andrew is literally saving lives. He is a real life superhero.
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Amen 😊 He really is. ❤❤❤
Yesss!!
Most definitely. Steer towards the light! 🖖
Never acept the Hoover and block this monsters, they dont care about you at all, at all.
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Amen!!! 👍💥❤🙏
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Sex is not worth it, even if you think you won't fall for their games, slowly, but surely you will be stuck in the same confusing nightmare.
NO contact is the only option for someone lacks the capacity neurologically/spiritually to even care about you, let alone love you.
Save your love for someone who has the capability to truly love you.
Life is short and you can NOT fix someone without empathy, nor should you spend a decade+ to end up with someone resembling a normal human, but the storm is still raging inside, just better veiled.
Stay blocked. Stay safe. Rock on😊❣️
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Been practicing no contact for the last 6 mo. Hasn't been easy, but I have got back my peace. And I've realized how little that group of people actually means to me. What was I thinking!
Many have said the same darn thing 👍❤
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I'm doing boring-work at work at the moment so my mind wanders. When I find myself thinking about anyone I have blocked (which happens all the time!) I say to myself, "If they are blocked on my phone, they are not going to be in my mind, either"
I have unblocked two "friends" in the past. Never unblock. Remember why you got away from them that first time. You are 1st, 2nd, 3rd remember?❣️
Right on point , always good to remenber!
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Thanks for speaking to what needs to be heard! 👍💥❤🙏
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I won't say it's easy but I seem to be getting better at blocking see I didn't even want to write the word because my mantra has to find the good in people so sigh it's not easy. Thank you for sharing and making me feel as if I'm not alone.🌹🙏🇦🇺😎
Fern, we aren't alone. We are a tribe. Be well. Be discerning.❣️
Because they are dangerous predators that want to destroy their victims' lives.
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I keep them blocked to preserve my peace. Enough chances, being nice & excusing the imbalanced bad behavior! I will not allow myself to be entwined with the clear toxicity, self serving myth of a relationship.
NO to narcissism!!!
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
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It's not even a relationship. They just poke, prod and agitate relentlessly to get a reaction so they can take the high ground and starting ordering you around like a dictator, that's all they want. A relationship means there's some form of connection. If the narcs sole purpose is to manipulate and control there's no connection.
They're either in control of you or they're proactively and relentlessly trying to destroy your self-image and self-confidence. That's no relationship. If they can't control you and they can't get a reaction then all they want is to watch you suffer, fail and ultimately die.
Narcissism is very close to psychopathy in the complete lack of empathy. It's a dangerous situation being around narcissists. What you call a relationship is a life and death situation.
Brother I think I've broken the trauma bond. Today's been my best day please keep me in your thoughts
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Good for you - keep up the good work. 😊
I was in a long distance relationship with him so I was constantly on my phone and feeling drained from it. The plus side is I've got 7 years of evidence that I have analyzed and can now read through the lines of how I much was manipulated.
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Do yourself a favor and delete all of it. Reading all that sh*t drains you too
It's necessary for my own sanity 😌
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At first I thought no contact was an immature response to my ex. I don’t any longer. It’s taking back your power over your own life. Best decision I made in this whole drama.
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probably because the partner immaturely blocks and unblocks at their whim to punish you then hoover... your block is for your sanity. keep it permanent
I use my hurt as a burning desire to better myself.
Im on my way and getting in the best shape of my life pysically and mentally.
I thank the narcissist for everything.
Next year will be the best of my life.
Giodluckk to them with the new supply.
Enjoy the ride.
Same here. What was initially overwhelming pain and confusion eventually set me on a path of personal growth and mental /physical health I never would have undertook otherwise. They really are great for this, aren’t they? I’m so happy for you❣️🛤️🌲👣❤️
Exactly I feel like you feel me and my husband are 14 years have separated September and he moved in with somebody before Halloween as if he was not married with kids or nothing I am using this time to work on myself and make myself the person I was before I met him
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@@ladyredd6857 make yourself even better
Thank you Andrew..you have given me sooo much power...bless you heart...
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I have blocked the narcissist, his family and the friends who took his side during the smear campaign because I am putting myself first.
I keep all toxic people out of my life because I deserve better.
I will never unblock the narcissist because I am a wonderful, caring and loving person and I deserve better in my life!!!
Every day I watch your video Andrew to remind myself that I must stay vigilant and strong !
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Thank you so much Andrew and all you beautiful people out there.
I survived as the scapegoat for 30 years now and went no contact about two years ago from my sad narc father.
i knew since at least 15 years ago something was not right, and turns out you can't begin to understand how bad it was if not experienced yourself........ we are all deserving of love, and that's why we are still here.
Thank you for sharing 👍💥❤🙏
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Andrew , im 4 months no contact. Today was a roigh one, i so badly wanted to break no contact and defend myself about something vile he said to mea while ago. But i came to my senses and realized it wouldnt change anything. Stay strong everyone. Im still in the midst of breaking the trauma bond, its been a Rollercoaster. Im not giving up! Thank you!
You might have drug withdrawal symptoms at the beginning
But 4 months is good time
You can go forever no contact
Do not contact because there will be a trap
And you it will be worse if you get it
Your energy will be drained
And same shit happen
If you feel lonely you're not alone
And alone is different than lonely even feeling alone is better than being with these creatures
Work on yourself and heal childhood wounds and how to appreciate yourself that you deserve something better
Do not accept poor behaviors
Since you reached here you're safe
Have a good Day
Welcome..😌🙏💜
That's what they want, an emotional reaction. Just give deadpan responses, yes, no, last week, not that I know of, etc.
"But i came to my senses and realized it wouldn't change anything." NICE!! You caught yourself is key, since you are not getting submerged in MEMORY"s filthy pit. Live in The Now...Good show, keep it up n your power NATURALLY grows...
They have now resorted to veiled threats since I started ignoring. They're desperate for my attention. I'm not playing the mind games anymore with them. I have disengaged!
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The person I met feigned ignorance, to put it politely. He constantly claimed to have no understanding of computers. Yet, he owned several phones and, to my knowledge, six Facebook accounts, and likely multiple Instagrams. He masqueraded as having the naivety of a young boy, behaving as such, but I remember him from his youth, and he was nothing like that. Now, nearing seniority, he uses this to attempt to deceive others.
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Thanks Andrew, you're right on time. When we're at our weakest and need your reminders we can find our strength here with you! REALLY appreciate you, Andrew!!!
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After two decades, she was only a friend and I answered the phone which I knew was a mistake. I have never blocked anyone in my life. Catching up quickly ended and then insults about my mother she only met once and her stories I heard her repeat back in the nineties. Yes, she was checking her Rolodex and the devaluation and her eternal victimhood in life as excuses. She’s spent a lifetime living off of people. She was an energy vampire and at times literally gave me a headache and tightness in the chest. I realize she’s an envious, jealous hateful person with black, dead shark eyes. I blocked her and she’s started hoovering me on another phone and she’s finally stopped. You’re so right Andrew. Toxic vampires that are predators and very frightening when you realize you were on their menu. I’m now very mistrusting of everyone now and much more guarded in daily going about in life.
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Once you have decided to go no contact; yes, keep them blocked. There is an extremely high probability they will try to worm their way back in months or even many years down the road. And if they are able to contact you somehow, you will be absolutely shocked at how little they have changed over that period of time. For you it will be like going back in time - mostly in a bad way but it will serve the purpose of showing you how much you have grown and changed on your healing journey. The new you doesn’t even know how to relate to the sad entity anymore. But you will be amazed that you once tolerated that sad, disrespectful, idiotic behaviour. Best to leave it in the past where it well and truly belongs 🙃
So True. Before this education was seated solidly, within me, I did an e-mail exchange with the ex after many years of no contact. Oddly ( Hoover timing ), it came at the same time, I started on this channel . Within the Narc's words, alone, I could read, nothing had changed. Imagine!- Trying to manipulate me via e-mail with words. Poof! I cut all contact immediately.
It pays to read carefully- their words still betray their falseness. They don't change.
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Also had to leave many persons behind, leave some groups I had enjoyed. Practicing grey rock for a time now. No longer jumping into conversations. Thinking better and enjoying peace! Thank you Andrew for the wisdom.
Illusion is important to remember. We create an illusion of others. In my case, I had to look at how a few good times were blown up into more than it really was. I was stuck in the illusion, especially of the beginning and then noticed it wasn't at all what he portrayed and lied about. The rest of the relationship was fraught with disappointment, gaslighting, financial infidelity, losses after losses, chaos, misunderstanding, being treated worse than a stranger. Reputation savaging and real contempt for me was my thanks in the end for being understanding and doing way more than I ever should have.. It blew my mind! I don't miss anything about him. I am sorry for him and how his life just plummeted into real darkness. I have no idea what he does anymore. Pro Tip: Anyone in your life who keeps bringing the narc up, red flag on that person. I have someone who says they love and miss him all these decades later. Very strange and out of context. The narc didn't care about this person ever. I knew it.
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Let's say there is a person or family member who you have chosen to not communicate with. Let's say that you have to speak to them or know they will be at the same event as you. Have a sheet of paper that lists the reasons you have decided not to communicate with them. Re-read it before you will see them. This keeps you on guard.
When it comes to a toxic or narcissist person, blocking (or having very minimum contact if that is the only option) buys you peace. Peace buys you clarity & healing.
".. when you go no contact & block the narcissist, or anybody, it's sending a clear succinct message to them that you no longer will play the games.. "
Great video Andrew 🙌. Truth. Thank you. Love the Banana tree in your background. God bless 🌟
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I thought she was my friend....she thought she owned me.
I lost the delusion.... she lost a friend!
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Good! More weight and distraction eliminated. Life can be hard enough, steering away from potholes, you
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Deep hearts have deep hurt.
God knew & wanted to show me & he did!
What's that cookie business you're throwing in there?
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Ok Joe.......
You tempted me with banana cream pie, 😋
now chocolate chip cookie 😋
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On 2nd thought......if you intended that to be a pothole & not a chocolate chip cookie,
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Hoovered today on her birthday 😆🤣😆 this fish isn’t biting any longer. Also, I always love your quick message after you’re saying take care Namaste. Thank you, Andrew🪐.
I unblocked mine on fb after over three years. We have a 4 year old son who doesn't know him. He's been mia for years. We had a meet and greet 11/23 so he can meet our son. He walked out when he was 10 months old. I can tell he's trying to pretend like he wants to be a father to get close to me. Now, he's sending me random selfies of himself. His appearance has changed so much in the past 4 years. He looks terrible now. I dont think it's gonna last bc as soon as i tell him im not interested in a romantic way, im sure he will get the hell on
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I've got to keep my cup overflowing. Thank you, Andrew.
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I used to wonder why my X would hang out with serious losers in society while projecting himself to be so far above them. It was the fuel he got from having people look up to him. Thanks Andrew. Doing good on the path.
@@kimsteed9401 Exactly. It reinforces their need for control of others and elevate their own perceived sense of superiority because they don’t want you to see their fragility.
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My ex did the same thing! Wow...
My own mother.. talking behind my back, finally I stopped. Blocked sister, brother and niece as well as core narcissist..mother dearest
Facts 💯🎯 Keep them blocked. Never go back! ✌️
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My narcissist ex just popped up in my suggested friends on facebook. I blocked her July 2023. While her first name remains the same, she is using a fake last name. She looks PIST in her photo she took. Funny timing. After a year, I updated my profile photo, and then she miraculously popped up. I suspect a hoover at some point. Dont worry. I won't answer. Lastly, stay vigilant. There is no timeframe on a hoover. Be prepared because they will likely reach out to you after they discard you.
Great message… dealing with some loose ends, but oh what a glorious day it will be when I can block him totally and be done!! Thank you and have a great evening! Stay warm!
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unable to concentrate on the roads 😮 creator made me have a tiny solo bingle with a pole and that was enough to take that vehicle off the road for a whole year 😢 i know that is so i could properly heal for another year.. the car is fixed and driveable again, and now i am able to drive with proper attention... but my vehicle, me, my vessel, continues on the healing journey... and Andrews content is part of this ❤ TY NarcDaily xXx
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No contact for over 2 years.
I changed my phone number, deleted all social media... I moved. For my safety I have cameras in my car and at home. I became friends with a security guard at the workplace.
I love peace and quiet.
I know who I am and what I want.
I won't let anyone abuse me.
You're not alone
And many of us did that
Some even relocated
Maintain your peace and keep the guards up
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Thank you! I needed this on the false friends front - those are the hardest ones for me to permanently let go and stay away from. I've literally lived through the old adage, "Twice bitten, once shy." Anytime I've ever taken back a false friend, I have always regretted it!
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It's like the evil queen in Snow White holding out that shiny succulent red apple that looks so delicious , looks so good , so delicious , but you know one bite will eventually lead to being poisoned again , ...so you make sure YOU DON'T order any more apples !!! 🍏😝❤️
Well said.
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I blocked him last week after he contacted me about things I left at his house. After over 3 months. And by coincidence, a few days before Thanksgiving. I dont care about the things. I'm not giving him another opportunity to hurt me. Never again
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Good for you. You can replace "stuff," but your peace of mind can't be bought.
Andrew, thank you so much for this video....amazing messages....so helpful to me today....Very True.....wonderful support ....appreciate your work ❤
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The narc has me blocked on everything again for over 4 months now so I don't have to worry about that. If he were to reach out again, I plan to ignore. I don't want to block out of anger because it feels like he has control over me and making me bitter. I unblocked him to let that grudge go and become indifferent. I have kept 1 ex blocked for years because he was the cheapest narc.
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Speaking Facts! 💯💯💯Nothing ever changes! No accountability whatsoever.
Sick of the diminishing, the flighting-in-with-cape, the opinions, the advice, turning into demands, the insults both to my face and behind my back (for years & years), the being used as a tool to make himself feel better (forever)… and finally, when called out, the stating that our mothers' death at a young age did not bother him… i blocked my brother, and he's stayed blocked & out.
Now it's pure focus, and daily crafting of a whole new life. And it's pretty blissful, too. And yes… starting from a very small footprint indeed (other very dangerous & toxic narcissists also appeared in this production).
It takes a long time to figure out. I can remember saying to my friends "How is she still single?"-Now I know why.
Hey, I'm single! 😮😂
@pandamakeuppics7772 me too! Wouldn't swap it for anything!!
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This is so true! She complained about her dad playing dumb about things I remember. He is the head narcissist of the family. But she knows all about playing dumb this is one of the well used tools of the narcissist..And these people know EXACTLY what they are doing and OF COURSE they do. She actually one time after I mentioned I miss her said “ain’t no sunshine when she’s gone” like the song says.. She knew exactly what she was doing by pulling away..
some say, the narcissist isn’t aware they are a narcissist, and that could be true. But narcissism is just a name, their behavior is the real culprit and they are very much aware of what they’re doing is manipulative and coercive and mean and animalistic and cold and low energy.
Yes! I saw this happen so much with my ex partner. Hobbies were constantly changing!
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The phone gave them wings but it also traps them. They don't think you know when they are twetter paited 😅😅 when they come out from the corner of the bed with their two phones. All you have to do is observe. If they come out ready for battle it had a moment with home wreckers or flying monkeys. If it comes out fluttered it got good supply it might be a good evening
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Mean while I don’t matter to me that I blocked him! In between I thought to unblock. And I did it. But that was not good for me. I felt the nasty Energie… it makes me nervous. So I blocked him again! . And till now I didn’t unblock. And it’s the first time since I got hocked on him, I feel real save. I now know I didn’t need any kind of contact any more. He is not important any more! He s just a shadow, one day this shadow is gone. Nothing left!
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Thanks Andrew. Blocking my narc ex was a game changer. He couldn't reach me anywhere. My advice will always be to do it when YOU are ready like Andrew has said. I felt so powerful after blocking him and REMAINING no contact. It's you being kind to yourself, loving yourself and pouring back into you. No longer spending your energy picking up your phone hoping your ex narc would have seen the light, apologise and get back with you. I realised after listening to Andrew daily and replaying certain videos he did over and over you can find it in you to block. It actually helped my healing so much that I wished I had done it earlier. Im still on my healing journey but I'm so much better today than I was months ago after being discarded just weeks before my birthday. Listen to Andrew and replay his videos especially when you have a weak moment, it helps. Like he says you are not alone. God bless you Andrew 💖. I pray that you will speak in arenas across the world enlightening people about narcs and their antics.
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I have his report cards, all times run in with the law, I was not aware he had a FBI RAP SHEET
Will keep them blocked FOREVER! Thanks Andrew, you’re amazing!
During my stage of the abusive cycle, I was heartbroken, then confused by her behavior, and finally understanding that she was just a toxic human being who never cared about me to begin with. I went from thinking about her constantly to realizing that she isn't worth a spec of sand on the beach that is my inner peace
This really is true!
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You take care of you and I will take of me
You will need to have courage to live ALONE...Final straw for me was losing ALL my 5 grandchildren to no contact...All from narc daughter's two blown up relationships, 3 boys from first husband ( also a toxic narc...) and two little girls from second dude, who recently, suddenly died (btw, death is frequent "companion" to a MALIGNANT narc...)...Horribly emotionally abused grandchildren will grow up n figure it out that only hate kept "papa" away from them...
The more distance the more sanity returns. Found this out the hard way. Excellent advice!
Yes I did this jumping everytime a call or text came in from him because of the business we were in together. It was Exhausting for sure...
Instead of blocking the narcs, I just didn't respond to them and stayed 100% no contact. That way I knew when they tried contacting me and what their message was, and my knowing they tried to contact me and my not responding gave me a feeling of satisfaction because I know they didn't like it that I didn't respond to their messages, and they have no way to ever know for sure whether or not I even got their message or not. By the time I went no contact, I had had more than enough of their abuse and there was no way in hell that I was ever going to communicate with them again not ever----but I wanted to know when they tried to contact me. not out of any kind of longing to connect with them rather I get a feeling of satisfaction knowing that it bothers them I don't respond to their messages.
Hey Andrew you're right blocking someone is the only way to heal when I blocked my ex narcissist I get a notification that says blocked text message I'm going to try my best not to look at it
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I will not unblock. The hardest thing I feel right now, is knowing I was never loved! 😞
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Have had it all, hovering, I seen it unravel , double standards , he can be evil, felt it, seen it. Seen the tantrum the little boy, totally asshole. “Dark Triad’s “ P/A with social path, with one element of sodium. 24 years invested, just found out two years ago. He has been trying to destroy me (heavily ) 8 years. And before but not as intense. 93 pounds at 5’3” He has been gone 4 months. I now weight 103.10 pounds yah !!! He is in Mississippi with all him family, and x-wife near buy. She left him in 75 from abuse.
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I'm 6ft tall. 30 year old male. I work as a landscaper. I was only 128lbs when I left. They will destroy you. Nothing like seeing your own heart beat in your scrawny chest... wow. It was worse than I thought.
Block the narcissists 👿 . Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🙏❤️🤲😇
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Darn right, and they will stay blocked!
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Yes!!!
They’ll still find a way.
Blocked, then removed contact.
Email goes to Junk.
Still peak, but I’m getting stronger
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Squirrel! 18:34
I'm sorry, I saw one in the vid, hahahaha
Thanks Andrew! Much love brotha!
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Block block block. NO CONTACT IS KEY. Any contact allows a way to get to you. They play mind games...any method to manipulate you. I was told I'm immature to block him. It was another manipulation..
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His daughter said you knew how he was before you married him, I did not
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PERFECT for my current situation 😉 ty so much Andrew ❤
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Haven’t been “hoovered” in a looong time! He’d been blocked on everything for a looong time & will remain blocked! However, unless I change my longtime phone number, which I haven’t & prefer not to! He is still able to call, but it sends him straight to voicemail & I don’t even know when he’s called until I happen to see a blocked message in my voicemail. Sooo, yesterday I saw it, after a looong time! Like Andrew said, watch out for the hoovering here at the Holidays! Clicked to listen to his pathetic voice & sickening words of ohh how much I love you & miss you!! 😑 Sooo thankful this does absolutely nothing to me any longer, makes me sick!! I listen, delete, and go on with my life, Peacefully!!!
Andrew, you’re the best!! 👍🏼
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I am torn between two places
It was the best thing I did to really start recovering. Thanks to Andrew and one of his followers (I’m sorry I don’t recall her name) who encouraged me to block.
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Sincerely ……. Thanks so very much Andrew 🤟🏻 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️. 👌🐑🥰
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This topic!!
This reminder is wanting to be on: press play, at convenient locations, so I can LEARN fully about the why and where to block. ( always? fully?)
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How are you? I have been observing lately.
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I would do everything possible just to keep them away from me forever. I value my peace very much. It's too precious. Blocking isn't that hard.
This video was right on time. Thank you Andrew
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Comments he has said, remember I was not aware at this time
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Who needs you alls I have to do is go in the shower and jack- off
Go down to the corner bar and find some Niger to take care of you
He didn’t care for me he neglected me
We have lived on my SSI for 20 years
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Thank you Andrew. I observe a slight change in your energy lately. I think it helps. I understand that suppressed anger is the root of much depression and anxiety. And of course anger is OK, even Jesus got angry, and God gets angry. The Bible is with God's explanation that if we worship other gods, my understanding is anything against our authentic self as we are designed and defined by God, that He is a jealous and vengeful God. Exodus 20 explains "“Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me;” so that is supernatural and just anger in a profound explanation. With Jesus we can be delivered from this vengence, as arranged by God the Father as a new covenant for our salvation. The terms are simple, admit that we made a mistake, stop making the mistakes that we are aware of, and be our true selves as defined by God. Narcissists don't admit to mistakes, and the way we can love our enemy is pray that they be delivered from the demonic forces that govern them, and in the name of Jesus. It is out of our hands, we need to give it to Jesus, and that includes keeping the texting out of our hands and instead focus our love to God. There is tasks that God give us, especially to share His Word to children, and teach through our actions of humility. Jesus washed feet, that was the perspective of his being a teacher. I appreciate your humility and honesty, and it works to help recovery from childhood wounds that left us vulnerable to Narcissistic and demonic trickery often into adult life. God Bless You and Your Work Andrew. I suggest begood4000 as a macro perspective in the same stream as how you help, and I also hope Tim Fletcher can share those understandings.
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Never blocked her.Im all behind healthy communication and solving problems normal way. Unfortunately after her dissappearence and stonewalling from her side for few years I'm still hoping she will get back to me and explain all to me.. Naive thinking I guess?
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This is so I've experienced this kind of behaviors in past relationships.With ex boyfriends family friends co workers and neighbors etc.Good topic literature to talk about openly Andrew.
Exactly every time unblocked,, thought He'd respect Me. Last one,, knowing My severely 32 year old autistic daughter sleeping (and its hard to keep Her asleep) called 3 times in a row. No respect Still 😮😮😮
Blocking wasn't easy. Especially when you have a child with the narcissist, and they have a new supply.
But now I only have 1 form of communication being txt.
Unless it's an emergency, then I'm not interested any longer in her. Because once you see them for who they really are, you can't unsee them!
Oh my gosh I got a message from a “ flying monkey “ that I would have never guessed that they were!
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Andrew, I wish I could send you a Christmas 🎄 card but there is a postal strike here in Canada. Thank you for your messaging. I hope you have found peaceful moments within your healing.
The first time I fell upon your messaging was jarring to say the least. It was life altering - and then even a trajectory I could not have imagined unfolded.
I often wonder how you are healing ❤️🩹
Thank you so much for sharing your experience.
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The narcissist only cares about themselves. Blocking them is the only way to start your healing journey. Better still, change your number and whereabouts if possible. That is the way to get your energy back and make the narcissist feel powerlessness.
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It is a War for your soul. And mine. We are the front line of our families and Friends we love in this war. . Hold the line. Thats what i tell myself. 🎉I am free 😊🎉🎉🎉
I am done. I will not look back
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