This is the most brilliant and succinct explanation of narcissists I’ve ever heard. I will save this and re-listen to it when I start wondering if the narcissist in my life has changed. Spoiler: they never have. Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏼
Thank you for letting me know, I was not crazy then. I started seeing a psychiatrist because he made me think I was crazy! It was him playing mind games. Married 23 years and 2 kids. I couldn't take the all around abuse and longer and divorce him. Now, he treats his girlfriend of 3 years (who lives with him) so nice! Can you help me understand it? Please?
@@kalingakrishna2705 charisma and charm are their supernatural ability to put people under their spell, so people don't see their red flag, pure evil behaviors they always exhibit.
@@colleenstainer7743a flying monkey is someone the narc has to stalk you and enable their bad behavior triangulation is after they isolate you they make you jealous of the ppl they they’re either cheating with or their friends they don’t want you around.
Exactly 💯 he groomed me into thinking he loved me. All lies. I said, NO eventually. He called me one day from work he was heading to the hospital. I said why? He said he was bullied. 😅 The secretary said she would meet me there. I asked are you already on your way? She said, yes. I said, I'm not going. I'll wait for him at home. She probably was in shock? I didn't care. He came in acting like a 4yr old. I started laughing when he said he was bullied 🤣 😂 He was shocked. I said you have bullied me no more or I'll go see your abuser to hit you off the job 😂😂😂 6 months later I was gone. Did not look back. Cut him off. Divorced 8yrs WONDERFUL YEARS!!!
Unless they kill you with their abuse...you die of a disease they caused you because of all the stress. My sister got cancer after years of living abused. The narc husband then married a woman who got dementia. He is taking care of her now. And her 40 year old son lives with them. Is this payback? I dont know. He never treated my sisters kids well. He kicked them out of the house. So why is he allowing this adult child of his new wife live with him.
My ex-husband, who is a narcissist, has his children by his side because he is a multi- millionaire. They endure his behavior waiting for the payoff when he dies. They were fake towards me for 20 years before I left. I filed for divorce and won. My peace is priceless!
Same with my ex. He has money & his children & grandchildren were treated terribly imo. All except for his youngest son, who was the son of his old age, born from a relationship that ended, they never married , he got full custody & he raised the son alone. It’s all blowing apart now. Youngest has reaped the benefits of fathers wealth for years , the 4 oldest from his 1st marriage (there is a span of 20yr in age between oldest 4 & youngest son) were grown before he accumulated wealth via real estate. He’s wheelchair bound due to auto accident & youngest lives on West Coast while father is on East coast. Older daughter has always been there but ignored for the most part. She & her husband stepped up & provided home care for weeks, letting siblings know they need to do their part. Daughter found out that young brother (he’s 39 yrs old now) is beneficiary on the fathers bank accounts & the house is already in the brothers name. Needless to say she was hurt, felt used & has stayed away. Father blames her, calls her a bad daughter , says she abandoned him. He won’t even consider how they feel.
I was also in a relationship with a narcissist and thankfully escaped almost a year ago…it’s wild to me how many of these fragile people are wealthy! I guess it’s the lack of empathy? The more I learn about this, the more my mind is blown.
I know what you mean. Victims of narcissistic abuse know all too well the financial abuse and lengths the Marc will go to hide assets before and during a divorce. My adult children stay on his good side and i know he uses his own wealth and their inheritance are an incentives. I was + remain his main target.
@@jinxypop13 I had a Narcissist friend and we were cool for decades, he got into a arguement my wife and it put a strain on our friendship, the final straw was when he asked to chose between him and my wife, that was 20 years ago...
I'm healing from a narcisistic friendship. shocking right? we study in a foreign country together so we had no choice but to be friends, I have finally gone no contact after 9 years. I'm now only making friends with kind people, who listen to me and help me meaningfully.
Factual self center. Never care about one but them selves self focused and always making you look bad to make them look and feel better about themselves. A narcissist can put people on the verg of making u think your insane and not in control of yourself make you doubt your own self worth. Been there before. Get out as fast as you can it never gets better. I promise
@@richlasma I realised my sister was my narcissist Which lead me to realise my friend was just the same. 6 years no contact but they are still trying from time to time to contact via others with illness being both their excuses. The funny thing about that is the last time they saw each other was over 20 years if not for that I would think they were plotting. They sure chisel away on your sanity.
Everything doesn’t always have to be about them, you can totally disengage and challenge that idea. When it came to my ex, if I wanted to have a good day, I played that game. If I didn’t care about what happened that day or wanted to upset them, then I asserted my own independence. I also had no problem narcissistically injuring my ex when I felt the ego get out of control. That’s actually what precipitated the breakup but I was very vocal about how inferior my ex was and pinpointing their weaknesses. I payed for it, but I fought back because I wasn’t going to be afraid. I just wanted to maintain peace & civility until I could execute my exit strategy. I actually found it quite interesting how quickly I could calm down my narc if I stroked their ego. That’s all it takes is a little bit of ego stroking and they’re putty in our hands
I'm experiencing this and woke up to it. After all the namecalling and slander I wondered what was wrong with this person, why there was never an apology. Just learning they may be what I thought they were.
its for the best. mine had a long list of great attributes, but the conniving, lying, back stabbing, crazy, bla bla bla was just draining. time to cut ties for good.
They know...mine admits when mean to my sibling.. I distanced myself.. from parent who is very evil.. The Narc.. admits she knows she mean.. I had little boundary.. now I have huge.. 🙏🙏🙏💮💮🌻
Thirteen years after divorce,he is still trying to find me. Our kids have nothing to do with him. He only cared about himself. I used to say he was the most self absorbed person I ever knew. That about sums it up. Thankfully, I am blissfully free and living free, breathing free, thinking free and being me.
We like this comment.. sounds LIKE family members of mine.. So I tell them.. They don't like me.. LEAVE ME BE...BUT GIVE BACK ALL THE MAIL AND MONEY THEY STOLE. EVEN MY IDENTITY.. CAN'T HAVE IT ALL!
I can’t go without saying “I love the dogs”. Every video needs a dog. My home is full of them. They helped save me from despair. They are one of God’s most precious gifts to man kind.
The dog is the best deal man ever made. We give them the time we can spare, the food we can spare and the space we can spare. In return. they give us their all.
oh there’s no way to please them because they grind away at your mind and often in other ways (in my case retaliating if he didn’t get what he wanted like cutting the power steering lines in my SUV when I wouldn’t let him drive during the 5 yrs I took care of him with his narcissism, alzheimers, paranoia…). he is now (after 54 yrs marriage to him) in Assisted Living facility where he can no longer run/control my dog and I. There is peace after the narcissist!
@@MikeJackson690 definitely! That’s what pissed me off about that narc witch I used to deal with. I tried each and every way and angle to make her happy and make it work and nothing did. It’s was like trying to put a triangle in a square, then you get the square and it turns into a circle, it’s so frustrating and annoying. I’m so happy she discarded me was a true blessing in disguise though at that moment it didn’t feel like it. Had she never called me a narcissist I would’ve never knew about that “disorder” which I know believe are demons in skin suits.
I don't know that the narcissist will ever regret anything because the root of the condition is that they are accountable to anything. They will manage their misery by blaming everyone else for it.
She used to pray daily and the way she destroyed me, I literally recognized that was not a person. It was a literal demon inside her. No child of God could pray to Him and do such hideous actions at the same time. My entire life has changed realizing there are these empty demonic fake people walking on earth just to steal, snatch and kill everything you have.
Oh boy...i can so relate to your comment. My life has been destroyed by narcissists. My father, which i loved more then anything was a narcissist. I didnt realize he was til the last yr or 2. And regret not telling him that i finally caught on. Of course not wanting to upset him...i never said anything. Then he passed on Dec15th,2023. And of course loving my Dad so much...i ended up with men just like him. I ended up marrying a narcissist. Which has destroyed me. He used our daughter as a weapon to hurt me. Til so much ended up happening to her. Cuz of the abandonment she felt from her father....that at the age of 25yrs old. (3yrs ago) she committed suicide. Then if that wasnt bad enough her 2 kids were taken away by a narcissistic family and children services worker. That ended up in my life cuz of the narcissistic ex-husband. He would call them all the time on me. 15 times to be exact....during those 15 times. He found 1 worker that hated me cuz I'm 200×s better looking & had a great life after leaving my ex-husband. She decided she would finish me off. She's actually the reason my daughter finally couldn't take it anymore. Then i had to move....dont i end up with a narcissistic landlord. And i think there was other stuff going on with her & her deadbeat son. Anyways, I've now got PTSD. And while i was living at that evil hell hole i was at....thats when my father died. Now I'm 52yrs old....looking back at everything i missed out on, all the regrets. I screwed my life up cuz of these narcissists. Now i dont know what to do with myself these days. Now I'm completely alone & broken
I think you were probably dating my X. That sounds PRECISELY like her. I was amazed at how beautifully she could pray- it was almost like listening to poetry. But Oh my goodness, get her away from people she is trying to impress- and DEMON is the only word that comes to mind.
I'm currently living at a homeless shelter to escape my malignant narcissist ex, who violated a permanent restraining order to come after me. I'm rebuilding my life and disappearing myself was the smartest thing I've ever done. Also needed to go no contact with most of my family. It's hard but I know I'm doing what's right and healthy for me. Thank you for your message.❤
I did the same to flee my toxic world of ex and family members. My pup and I slept in my car for a month, crossing the country. Now we're very far away in a beautiful place, rebuilding all that lost. Will take some time, but we will bounce back and be the bright authentic souls we are who love and deserve love and light ❤
Done that. Stick with it. It's worth it. Just remember that your best day with a narcissist is always worse than your worst day alone. Stay strong, you are absolutely worth a good life. 🥰👍
The narc is a true vampire, they'll dazzle you in the beginning, they'll have you in a trance until you are hooked. Then they'll take repeated bites out of your empathy being taken for granted, money, sex, influence etc.) out of you, while finding someone new to start all over again because you're now empty in many ways or they're simply bored of you. .
So true! And for anyone who has caught on to their manipulation … listen to your instincts! Trust your gut and always remember that the best intuition is the greatest premonition of what is yet to come. Don’t wait for the explosion to happen! Trust yourself! Get out of the box while you can!
My narcissist literally WAS a biter. Thank GOD it was behavior I would not tolerate and I ended our short "romantic" relationship before it really developed. He simply could not tolerate a simple boundary and tested me a few times. That's all it took...
Toxic is the correct word. And then the narc recruited my younger sister who followed his orders and they both edged me out and then I backed out then 2.5 months later my dad passed. It's very bittersweet when they pass. @@lilfairycupcake
I like sleeping in on the weekends if I get the chance to. The work week is hard and challenging at times. So it feels great to get a little extra rest from time to time. Without a toxic person giving me a to do list and lack of appreciation. So much better now!
Yes, indeed! My narc ex-gf used to squeeze out whatever time and energy I had left on the weekends serving her during *her* rest time. It's such a blessing not to be under her yoke any longer.
My ex-narc, a medical doctor, got fired again, spent all her savings traveling, and then, after being evicted three times, had to move all her stuff into storage and move in with her elderly mom. She also gained over 50+ lbs and was convicted of reckless driving twice. Her downfall is spectacular, and she still portrays herself as the supreme winner. It's so bizarre, at least to me.
Yes, they can be admired for a while by people that don’t know them. Eventually, everyone has enough. Their own personalities drive them to destruction. That’s true in my experience too.
When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥ He is coming to avenge! 👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted His free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥🥳 As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations. Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤😊 Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥ 😍
Is there such a thing as a person who has narcissistic tendencies but seems so broken and low self esteem. I’ve been with a guy for a year and a half. He lovebombed me for the first couple of months. Then, blew up one night. It was over and I was devastated. It kinda happens every few months. Same deal-I have said no on something. Last night, he got mad cause I bought a vibrator. He went off into he wasn’t enough for me.and he was done with me. I just barely said anything. I feel that finally I have no fks to give. If he wants to be with me, he can act right. He keeps coming back. I’m sooo tired of the craziness. He’s supportive though and very very giving physically. Always has been. He helps fix things here and there. He’s 62 and I’m 59. We’ve both been thru bad relationships. We went to same high school but didn’t know each other. We enjoy music and arts and lots of things. I’m disabled and have trouble with my back, my hips, and loads of arthritis. He’s gotten better with caring about my pain or helping me. There are just a few times he will make off comments. Like I wanted to sleep one evening early and he said but you could’ve slept all day. He still works and comes in at 4pm. I told him he wasn’t being kind. What to do? Idk. Can a non narc live with a semi-narc as long as the non narc is aware and advocates for herself??
I have read the golden child ( narcissists) post's that they realised that they were used by their narcissistic parent and after that they changed for the better
Abuse lowers the bar a little at a time. You did the best u could with what you knew at the time. You likely never saw it coming. Don’t punish or guilt yourself. It’s not yours to own. Give it to God and keep moving forward. ❤
It takes time to recover; in my case five years, but we never 'recover' fully, as it is part of what makes you. You will probably suffer 'flashbacks' and internal breakdown (very temporary) for many years to come, especially when you are suddenly hit by another unrelated narcissist's cutting remark or behaviour. What we have suffered is life-changing trauma that has changed us deeply and is never forgotten.
i had a hoover from out of the blue today after decades...he wrote that he wanted to ask a favor. i did not or will not respond. There is nothing good to come out of that. Thanks for these videos.
This is a long read but I have to get this off my chest. My mom was insanely jealous of me, so jealous in fact that a close family friend of my parents noticed it and told my grandma about it, at that time I was only 8. I can now see why she basically tried to sabotage my health growing up with junk food and trying to ruin my hair with perms. She was a hair dresser and everyone elses hair she did grew but my hair got shorter and shorter and ended up being only about 4 inches long and I was THE ONLY one this happened to, that I know of. When people told her they were worried about my weight all she did was smirk, she never actually helped me to get into better health. Her jealousy of me was so intense and so noticeable. She grounded me out of pure pettyness for weeks at a time, one time she grounded me for three weeks for going to the mall, another time she grounded me for three weeks for going to the movies with a friend at the age of 16, I now see she didn’t want me to be able to have any friends. I developed bulimia in high school and she would encourage me to vomit, she said she even tried vomiting herself to see if she could lose the weight like I was. She would barge into the bathroom getting in my face asking me how much I weighed, she would feel proud of herself if she weighed less than me, and if she did weigh less than me she would mention that to family members over phone calls as a way to brag. She was never there for me, when I was being abused by a boyfriend she took his side. Many years ago a boyfriend of mine at the time got arrested for attacking me and keep in mind I didn’t even call the cops, some security guard saw him attack me and tackled him down until cops arrived, my mom shows up a bit later after I was trying to contact her and tells the cops “he didn’t do anything wrong he’s a good guy.” she said this with that dumb little smirk on her face…..she NEVER even asked me if I was okay, she never asked me what happened, she drove me home in complete silence and not one bit of concern. She’s pure evil. I could never EVER allow myself to carry on a relationship with her, I’ve tried so hard to be close to her but it’s impossible. I’ve blocked her on all social media, I’ve blocked her number, and I’ve began living my own life without telling her anything about it, she’s completely cut off. Now here’s her karma 😊She’s turning 60 in November and my oh my her weight has gone through the roof, she’s near 300 lbs and is now pre diabetic, she limps with a bad knee because of her weight, she’s wrinkled up like a raisin, her husband who loved her more than anyone else in this world has thoughts of finding someone else and wishes so badly that he had chosen a better wife. To top it up she has dentures now so she’s even more insecure than she was before and what makes it even better is the fact that she’s lonely and the only people she can be close to are the ones who are just as toxic as her. I think a part of her knows why she ends up alone but as we all know narcissists live in complete denial so she will never self reflect. All she talks about is how poorly everyone treated her which is absolutely such a load of bs because she painted my father to be a villan when he’s a good man. Not only was she a terrible mother but she was and is still a terrible wife, a wife who cheated on her husband and tried to leave him for an ex of hers who owned a car and a house which didn’t even end well for her. Her husband is her main source of supply now but even my dad tries to stay away from her when he can😅, most of my brothers distanced themselves from her, I was the last one trying so hard to be close to her, I am now the ONLY child who has fully blocked her. My father tells me “she is to blame for the relationship breaking, distancing yourself to protect yourself is all you can do and she can’t do anything about that.” Because I blocked her my dad tells me that my mom has stated that I don’t love her anymore, of course I don’t love her anymore I mean how could I? being abused for so long caused me to feel nothing but complete disgust by her very presence. So for the people wondering if they get their karma I truly believe they do even if it may not seem like it at first. Their poor choices back fire in their face and the consequences of that is every decent person leaving them to be alone. There is no one from her past that cares about her, she’s like a plague that most avoid once they’ve figured her out. For the people that are partially close to her, it’s only a matter of time before she turns on them too, they always need supply. She sits alone majority of the time with her three ipads and multiple iphones she never uses, she’s messy and can’t keep things clean because she thinks everyone should be cleaning for her. She’s the most miserable person ever and there’s no religion, partner, friend or family member who can fix that. May us victims who had to endure these type of people heal and find the love within ourselves to carry on and do what makes us happy, take up new hobbies, do the hobbies you love, lets love ourselves as much as we tried to love these sick people. We are kind and devoted, we are gentle and patient and so capable of love. Stay blessed everyone❤️
Some women are mothers and some women are “birthing people”. Real mothers deserve love and devotion. Keep all others at a safe distance or blocked completely. You know you are healed when you don’t care one way or the other.
I know this all too well. Mine finally disowned me and told me I should have never been born. It was the hardest thing to ever hear, because I tried so hard to get her to love me, it's all i wanted, but it was the best thing she did, because I was able to heal. I hadn't talked to her in over 13 years, and apparently she ended up with some health issue and was dying. She needed to talk to me. My wonderful step-mom told me I should probably talk with her, so I don't have any regrets. Ugh! If course I let her call me. I know what she was doing, she felt like she needed to "make things rights" with me to get into Heaven. We didn't talk but for a couple minutes, I really had nothing to say. I did tell her, "I hope you find peace where ever you end up"😂😂😂😂😂
I've been watching Andrew for 3 months. Today I spent $5000 as a retainer fee, so I can GET OUT with someone helping me. The money part hurts, but the abuse HURTS WORSE!! I am now on my way to the pinnacle of indifference. Namaste 🙏
Trust me, 5K is worth your freedom. I paid same amount 20 years ago, though I guess more if we add inflation, but that's not important. You having your freedom is the most important thing.
When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥ He is coming to avenge! 👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted His free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥🥳 As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations. Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤😊 Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥ 😍
I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 3 years and I never thought I would end up with someone like that, I was definitely wrong!!could not change them at all,never said I was sorry for anything she put me through
After dealing with two narcissists for years I've realized the best approach is no contact and don't even think about them. The more distance between you and them the better.
The narcissist is unpleasant to be around. They come up with strange, off-the-wall accusations, which is part of the gaslighting tactics they use. They'll say something like you're mad at me because I didn't do xyz. No, I'm not mad. If I were mad I'd say so. But they'll insist you're mad. You can trade mad with any other emotion, like jealousy. That's one of their favorite accusations that you're jealous. They really believe they are superior and that of course you would be jealous. After they are cut off, they hoover because they want to keep the abuse going. The narcissist enjoys causing people to feel bad. Call them out on it and they'll become speechless like the piece of lint they are. Like I said they are unpleasant to be around. After the basics, I need only peace.🙏
Your parents and your siblings are those who formed you from your youngest time and as such, they are deeply embedded inside you. That’s why it takes so long.
Siblings you can deal with but parents that is hard because you do have to have compassion on them but love them anyway but do not expect anything from them . Trust God and rely on him .
Im 54 now and only realised 5 months ago. I totally agree with the heartache, you grieve the loss of the relationships & all those times you spent with them as it was false.
@@louisewright8769thank you for this. I wish more people would realize that parents are not boyfriends, husbands, or friends. You only have one mother and one father. It can be difficult to keep even limited contact with them, but it’s the right thing to do, or to at least attempt to do.
MY eldest son was always the world’s smartest man, then his wife inherited a goodly sum in 2012, haven’t spoken to any of his family till his mother passed, he was first in line.
@@tatianaromanova2655 My narcissistic friend, who manipulated me with the intention of making me become his brother in law, would have isolated me from my brother and parents. By God's grace, I escaped from him.
@ProManifestor-l2c It may happen. My sociopathic colleague, who was physically abusing his wife, is now living alone. He tries to hoover her, but to no avail. He has lost his charisma, with which he was attracting women 20 years ago. He blames his mother in law for all his misfortunes.
Thank you Andrew. It's painful after 38 yrs but I ran away. I'm 62 yrs old, in a domestic violence shelter,gone no contact and proceeding on the path to freedom from this prison. IV learned much from you. Q
You should be proud of your strength and bravery. Hope the shelter keeps you feeling safe and protected. Not really familiar with this kind of shelter but in my opinion , be open to services they provide ( counselling , job training , etc ) to improve your life. Wishing you all the best on the beginning of your healing journey. 🙂
"They continuously try to break the relationship." That's one I never heard before and I believe that's true, at least it feels that way. The constant digs/jabs and trying to cause problems definitely can be looked at as them just trying to break the relationship, they are pushing you until you explode.
We need to start educating everyone about these dangerous people. Narcissism, like most mental health diagnoses, is on a spectrum and no one person is identical to another, but the end is always the same. The survivors endure harm that is sometimes irreparable. This type of behavior needs to be called out and made to be completely and unequivocally unacceptable.
Well we have all been doing our part, as survivors, in educating people. But I think this education on narcissism should be mandatory in school/college.
My ex narc ended up in a worse shape than twenty years ago when i met him. In a way it is so sad to see a grown man making poor choices and having to climb back up the steps. But that's his choice. There were nothing anybody could do for him because we now know that narcs don't listen to anybody. They just do what they wanna do. Have a great evening Andrew 🤗🙌💜❤️
Absolutely described what I just went through. I wanted to help him but just didn't want to listen at all, to me. He knew deep down, that I was a decent, good person overall. I also know very well. ,,that Today, Tonight , He has Lost me, Yes, he has. I am Positive that he hurts inside3.I know for knowing him, well enough.... Well,,I say to myself :" he ran after it " . He's even hitting himself in the stomach.. Sorry but, Good for Him.....
Like yourself, we had decades together. One day, I looked at him and thought “what an ass”. He already used up every bit of my energy and goodwill. There was nothing left. Even if everything improved magically, all I’d get was an ass of a human being. I never agreed to that. He never said “I’ll be an abusive and embarrassing ass your entire life - are you okay with that?”
Yes they're a law unto themselves,,they never take good loving advice ,,,they bring so much disaster on themselves and people around them ,and then play victim,
Saw narc 2 roads away from me, looked dishevelled and worn! I can't feel sorry, I couldn't have done more whilst he nearly completely destroyed me! And I tried to encourage narc to the Light of God! I failed and I saw narc morph into a complete demon one night! It was like being in hell!! Prayers for all survivors of narc abuse! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@michelebazinet9003 yes, they have to own the choices they made. Now we can live our best lives without them in it. Wishing you a beautiful weekend. 🤗💞
I thought about this earlier today (Where the Narcissist ends up”) that my Narc Husband (he is now in Assisted Living Facility with Alzheimers and other medical conditions) -for years he chose when he had time for the kids and me. Our kids are grown and out of the nest. I now choose when I see him. He can no longer do Narcissistic evil to us and my dog. Am healing. Thanks for the videos Andrew. Your dogs are cool!
It Looks Like mine Is Heading That Way Having To Feed The Cows Cuz he Fell And Hurt his Leg,.. Preparing For SomeThing But Not Sure What,.. Positioned And Ready - Been Forged In Fire So God Has Prepared me For What Ever Happens Feels Like The Hill Is Getting Steeper And It Is Covered With Thick Ice
Falling in love with a true female narcissist is the worst thing ever! They Pretend to be whoever they think they need to be in order to get what THEY want. They have no sense of self! They are merely a character trying to be something they’re not. My ex narcissist would NEVER do something just to please me. She was literally incapable of doing something for someone else. Everything had to Benefit Her. I moved across country just to get away from her. It was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself.
I was just journaling about how my ex didn't have a sense of who he was. His terrible road rage - he would tell me to not get upset or scared because his brother has much worse road rage, according to him. He couldn't get off of IG and stop watching young girls twerking? He would tell me his married friends were much worse. He broke his promise and was going to cost his landlord hundreds of dollars? He talked his friend and mom into defending him by not sharing the full story of how he was going to cost her money. He just couldn't own his own actions. He tried to excuse his poor behavior by bringing other people down or just lying.
i did the same thing i moved 3000 miles away shocked the hell out of him goes both ways i'm a magnet for narc men but i've mastered the game now but that's how you do it congrats!
As a female who has only ever dated male narcissists, i cant relate to them from a relationship perspective. But i can relate to them from friendship. So far despite being burned alive and broken by male narcissists i have come to understand males tend to be more explosive and physically demanding but female narcissists are just vicious! I would say they do tremendous amounts of damage and are often better at deception than men are. Experiencing female narcissists helped me realise there are bad people of all genders. So there must be good of all genders as well. This has been my experience at least. The first female narc i met was my step mother. I cannot understand how people become so hard and power driven.
@@KyuubiNoAstralokk I think female narcs are really good at "triangulation"... But to a horrible degree, like getting people to off each other. My cousin a narc female was at the center of a big fight where someone ended up beat to deth, she ended up having a kid with one of the guys who did the beating. What's sad is the guy who died was fighting the other guys because she said those dudes who he was fighting were putting hands on her. Imagine that, narcs are dangerous people, I don't even talk to that cousin anymore. He doesn't talk about that enough on this channel, how they can be very dangerous. Female narcs also tend to try and get men to be physically aggressive on purpose, and if not play the "he/she hit me" game if they don't... They're very messed up people.
I left my husband of 21 years a year ago. I left him a note when I left that said "When they ask you about me, and I promise you they will, I hope it hits you like a train and the only thing you can say is " She truly loved me and I ruined her." For the first 15 years, as far as I knew, we had a good life. We were building that life together. Then he got a new friend, a new habit and several girlfriends. All of whom knew me. I felt betrayed and I was horrified. I live with my son now and can breathe safely again.
I recently divorced my husband of 24 yrs. My friend had to tell me and give me examples of what a narcissist was. I had no idea. I don't miss my ex but he kept our dog and I miss him alot. I wish there was a way for me to free him and take him but I doubt that would happen.
When I met my ex narc, she was financially done, never had money, couldn't hold a job, just lazy, that was in 06, fast forward ,2024, still running the streets, living with people, struggling, absolutely no motivation to better herself, every now and then I see her old flying monkeys, they feel the need to tell me everything they know about her, like I care....I've healed, and turned into a completely different person, i moved on with my life, and im blessed, i pat myself on the back because i made it out, safe, physically and mentally.
Narcs have many demons in them. I was able to get out FINALLY of my narcissistic relationship! Thanks be to God! I went no contact. He replaced me with an Ex GF FROM 30 years ago he looked her up and was talking to her while he was with me. I praise God I was able to get out! I’m a total empath. I am a very strong Woman but found myself all tied up after being with him! I’m finally healing and getting stronger! All praise be to God! Amen!
There is a reason why this post came up on my feed! It’s like you have read my life story! I’m coming up on 70 and over half of my life has been wasted!
Whats REALLY sad and pathetic is when a narcissist is in the Mental health field , Therapists , you also find them in the Yoga instructor field , Social workers etc....
With a Psychiatrist for six years. Violent rages almost every day and forced to take psychological medication because I was “slow”. Out and found out how to enjoy living alone
I was "friends" with a narcissistic sociopath for years. I knew something was wrong with this person but I didn't know the extent. Long story short, they are in jail now, for life.
They're like locust. They use everyone up in one area and move to another neighborhood or city and it starts again. Anyone that doesn't keep a job for long, move every few months a year. Watch them,be careful.
Discarded 7 days ago and this video is a blessing. I’m already feeling better. I had my suspicions about my now ex but this solidifies it. I even told him when he left that his mask has been lifted. Your insight is spot on. Thank you.
My dark night of the soul was severe insomnia after the discard. I shouldn't have survived what i experienced the day of the discard and months to follow, but i did. The day everything happened , I felt like my heart was tore out of my chest. Then, the severe insomnia started to the point I ended up in the emergency room. Long story. There is too much to explain in a comment section of youtube, but folks , take a good look at Andrew from his first videos to now . What do you see ? That's right. You see his life and soul, literally being restored with each video. It's quite remarkable, actually, but a testament to the narcissist being an energy vampire that steals your energy to the point of death when they discard you. What's the point of this comment ?Well, if you're feeling hopeless and / or experiencing a speed bump in your healing process, know that in time, you get stronger each day even if it feels impossible. If Andrew did it , I did it, and others reading this comment that are well on their healing journey could do it, you could do it too. One day at a time .
I am going exactly through this,at this very moment. I haven't felt like doing absolutely Nothing ! I feel depressed tremendously and very sad. My nsrc bf discarded me a month ago, just "out of the blue ", with absolument No Warning whatsoever. Everything was going well previously and Mister, all of a sudden, discarded me without giving me any reason. The previous month , he had told me how magnificent and marvelous I was, etc...I feel just Terrible and extremely sad....
@michelebazinet9003 You are going to be ok. It may not feel like it right now, but as I said , one day at a time. The process is very painful, but as time goes on, you are going to gain so much knowledge and strength from this.
@@michelebazinet9003I hear and feel your pain. ? Recently realized I had changed from the person I was before I moved into current apt. ( A person I liked and respected after decades of narc abuse from family and friends. ) Am slowly starting to take back characteristics of that person now. It sometimes takes a concerted effort but well worth it. 🙂 Good luck on starting your healing journey. 🙂
The greatest lesson I came away with from being caught up in an entanglement with a narc was this. Narc's are feeders just like vampires. They can't exist without food. They lure you in with charm & adventure. They give you an experience in exchange for resources. I realised I was allowing myself to be food. That's how I participated in the relationship until I said no more & cut off his lifeline.. I had to take full responsibility for the part I played so that I NEVER go there again
Thats actually a very nice analogy. I actually think of them as negative energy that feeds on our positive energy. If you think about it, your body actually senses discomfort in their presence. That is the body reacting to the negative energy field that emanates from them.
Energy vampires and controlling you of everything you do. They even acuse you of things that are not even doing and it's difficult to defend yourself because they truly believe you are doing these so called things. It's absolutely sole destroying. It's their way or no way at all.
Bible says...love your neighbor as yourself. Some make te focus other people. First things first, dictates that we love ourselves wisely first...then others
Spot on 100%. My narcissist is miserable. The “ perfect” woman he found has figured him out and is no longer of any worth to him. He is now the shell of himself. It’s truly pitiful.
my father is MISERABLE.. but only to me .. but my eyes seen the truth and he knows that I know .. I just terminated our relationship.. blocked and unfriended.. now I need to heal from this ..if I can he was extremely abusive to me physically and emotionally....
The narcs comfort zone is a loveless control drama. My comfort zone was peace and it ended up being a chaos solver..Where they end up? I'm not following up..As long as it's away from me life makes more sense..Thanks ☮️🙏
Congratulations. I am in this situation also. Finally I am not afraid of her. When my fear let go, suddenly I have constructive dreams at night. For 50+ years I only dreamt of her, my mother, or had extremely stressful dreams. Suddenly I experience sometimes even nice dreams. I am no longer afraid of her conspiracies or campaignes. I can not explain how I maganed it, but it is a work mentally.
It is amazing, isn’t it, how a narcissistic mother will affect any and all relationships one has going forward. When you don’t have what is meant to be the most profound trusting relationship with the one person that is meant to love you unconditionally and who gave birth to you, it affects any and all going forward. I was tortured for years with the silent treatment / I would apologise not knowing what I was apologising for. She would lie, she would gaslight, she’d promise me something only to then go behind my back and betray me, she discarded me once she met my stepdad, but what I remember the most was the silent treatment She’d go for days pretending I wasn’t there, I would do anything I could just to get her to speak to me and she would pretend I wasn’t there It is emotional abuse at its finest / and to this day, my fear of abandonment is what affects me the most.
It is really hard even if I keep my boundaries she just so nasty that she will wait till holidays to throw jabs at anyone no one is safe from her wrath it just depends which kid is tolerating her more than the other that is safest at the times
I stopped dating over 6 years ago. The narcissist (mine was a bonafide sociopath) will leave a path of destruction their entire life. I don’t think they end up alone and defeated. They are master manipulators and that skill only develops over time. Each time they take off their mask they learn from their mistakes. I get no satisfaction thinking he will end up lost and alone, I fully believe he will not end up like that. He is highly skilled. Oscar worthy. He’ll play it until the end. What I DO care about is not having contact under any circumstances. Living the remainder of my life free of the insanity. That is what I celebrate. My only sorrow is knowing how many others will be destroyed by that psycho. I exposed him where I could but any further exposure would make me look like the crazy one. No contact.
No contact is the best approach. The malignant narcissist I know, is very rich. Has a lot of friends and family who support him. He is extremely enabled. And he has hurt lots of people without taking even a bit of accountability for his actions. I can only hope that it catches up to him one day. But at the same time, I can not break no contact and indulge him again. He is dangerous.
I agree. There are plenty of naive and love hungry people. Narcs are master manipulators and abused women will take mr charming and work on the relationship for decades.
I was under the delusion that my mother would get better with age. She developed dementia in her 80s and became more paranoid and angry. She had a handgun and I asked her golden child/enabler, my older brother, to remove the weapon, but he refused. She threatened to kill the guy across the street, believing he was stealing her mail and she put a loaded weapon to my face. I left and never turned back. She died in her late 80s and left a trail of destruction for decades. Amazingly, she was never arrested but she weaponized the cops to do her bidding. I learned one thing. Blood isn't thicker than water.
"The Blood of the Covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Is the real "quote." Not trying to be a know it all or anything, but. Your story actually proves the real quote. God Bless you Sister in Christ.❤🙏
Nola & Nelson are so beautiful to watch....they're just taking in the wonderful view. I just love my dog, she's my baby! Dogs definately make a house a home. Thanks for bringing them for us to see again! 🌈🎀😘
They eventually end up alone as each successive supply seems to be worse than their last until finally they get who they deserve a person worse than they are..
That is the absolute truth!!! In the early love bombing stage, my Narc said to me... "I wonder if X (an acquaintance of mine, that I often sat with at lunch) knows that I am using them. He actually did use her to get to me, as his first attempts were not successful as I hadn't really paid any attention to him. I dismissed what he said at that time, because I had drank the Koolaid. So sad 😢
Every day I wake up and realize how lucky I am to have survived him. He love-bombed me and painted a picture of him as this wonderful, giving man. He literally had multiple videos he made of him helping children who didn’t have father figures in their lives; showing them how to use tools and fix things, taking them on trips and joking around with them. He had videos of himself fixing cars for people who couldn’t afford a mechanic; he literally just asked them to cook him a pot of beans with some cornbread or a pot of spaghetti. I met the people in his videos and I was amazed by how kind he was. Until he didn’t get his way, then he manipulated, or at least tried to, by saying “I fixed her car for a pot of beans and now she won’t just do the little thing I ask”. He was a jolly, silly guy until I disobeyed him and then things were thrown or broken in a fit of rage. He punished me like a child. He would throw all my stuff outside and tell me to leave and then cry to people that I left him. I can’t count the number of people who came to me and questioned me why I wasn’t giving him a chance, “he loves you and he’s so devastated that you left him. Don’t you think you misunderstood him?”. To the point that I blamed myself and went back. One night, he swung something at my head and it came so close that I can still feel how my hair moved. I sometimes still have anxiety when people walk behind me. I have improved, I can stand in lines now (when I first left him, people standing behind me in stores or restaurants would give me panic attacks). But, when I realized that I could have died if he had actually been just a fraction of a second faster, I knew I couldn’t go back no matter how many sympathizers he sent my way. I still have anxiety when I hear people say that he asked about me. One woman said he was sleeping in his car in a parking lot near me, hoping to see me walking into the store (I have never returned to that store again in fear that he is still stalking around). I still keep all four locks locked on my door and won’t respond to a knocker without checking my ring app. But guess what? I’m alive. I can stand in lines. No small feat after escaping that hell of a marriage. Someone said he lost his house and is homeless now. I get no joy in it and I do feel sorry for anyone who gets involved with him but I won’t know because he doesn’t have my phone number and he doesn’t have control over me anymore.
I’m so sorry you endured that, but so glad you got out with your life!!! Your ex reminds me of my mother’s second husband, who had money and claimed to love children and of course offered to take in me and my older brothers and treat us like his own. He lied and charmed snd manipulated. Turned out he chose my mom because she a bunch of cute tow headed kids he could psychologically, physically and sexually torture. They ended up having a son together when I was three years old, and the sick f*ck used my little brother to get his way, by threatening his life. My little brother was my reason for staying alive. Not surprisingly my younger brother ended up just like him. 💯 narcissist and I was his main empath supply. I finally cut my entire family off six years ago and wrote a book about my journey. I went off on a tangent. Lol. Yay to our freedom ! Cheers! 🥂
@@megstonewellness4220, you didn’t go off on a tangent, he made this video not just so he can support us but we can also support one another. Your mom’s boyfriend is definitely sick. My mom’s 2 husband sexually abused my brother’s and me. Being exposed to that somehow sets us up to end up with a narcissist. I thought I was so careful because I usually cut people off for far less than my ex did. Thankfully, he never sexually abused any of the kids but he used them as pawns to manipulate their parents “I helped your son so now you’re obligated to do what I say”. He didn’t literally say that but that is the sum of his intentions.
Sounds like my 43 long years. Thanking God everyday for my freedom from the abuser. I'm in security subsidized housing now and healing more everyday. I don't desire friendships in this small housing building. I see self centeredness here too. I help them, then, find myself having to pull away because of my PTSD. I know I'm gonna be ok. I learned to recognize their behavior. Best to you and your future.
I'm still struggling after my husband and friend discarded me 30 years ago.i don't believe I'm a narcassistbut I carry on alone since I was discarded thankyou for enlightening me about narcassists I'm always watching out!
100%. The narcissistic lifestyle causes untold harm to those who love them. The wear and tear on the narcissist's body can cause illness. Mine passed early.
My ex narc hung himself my son found him cut him down. He was schizophrenic I found out at the end he was into drugs and an alcoholic. He was very abusive towards me and a cheater. I was able to leave at the end. God forgive me but I'm glad he is gone.
Thank you! It’s been many years since I won my physical freedom, and channels like yours, has helped me win my mental and spiritual freedom. God bless!
I had very hard life in 20 years. it takes three years to get off from my relationship. now I’m married. I just realized what is happiness means. Thank you so much my friend.
They are true examples of LOST SOULS I spent 30 some yrs with a covert narc. Need I say more. Through God's grace, I survived, and was given some clarity. I'm grateful today.
Thank you for this video. The gaslighting is possibly the very worst aspect of these relationships. When you want accountability, there is only rejection. Denial and then abandonment. Narcissistic people are vicious and cunning. They will take everything and anything from you to satisfy their relentless hunger. My whole family is like this.
They spend money they do not have to buy things they do not need in order to impress people they do not like. They do not own any of that shit...IT owns them. peace
You hit the nail on the head!! My soon to be ex husband... He's a covert narcissist. I discovered the name for all this madness. Getting out of a very long, destructive, lonely, and abusive marriage!! 30 very long years! I feel like a butterfly 🦋 now!!
I moved back home to take care of my 90+ yr old Father. Dad called me for help, because no one was doing anything for him & he was blind. My Narc Brother declared WAR when I returned & wouldn't OBEY his RULES. He went to my DR., friends & job to destroy my life. We were in our 60's! Dad passed at 97 & my Brother doubled down the abuse. I moved 5 states away. My Brother kept calling family down here in VA where I moved. He became so wrapped up in anger, that he fell off a roof & died. My friends said, "God took him away to protect you from his wrath". Narcissists are in complete conflict with the universe.
Your explanations are so spot on. Your understanding of the narcissist and the partner is so exact. Your ability to give such clear explanation and examples is tremendously educational. Thank you for your efforts to assist everyone in their recovery.
I’m finally free and I’m feeling better after only a few days. Thank you for this video. The only thing I worry is that she’s trying to turn people against me, including mutual friends
Thank you Andrew ❤ The tragic thing is that these people have so many insecurities that their terrible behaviour pushes away genuine ,loving people who could actually make them feel better about themselves . This most recent 'relationship' has really taken its toll on me , but I'm doing my best to move forward, knowing I'm better off away from him ...❤xx
Before I become aware I would tell him he would be so much better off if he just realized I loved him and he didn’t act like that. That was the rare occasion I would see tears only for him to quickly double down. Like he was trapped in his own mess.
100% true. My oldest who was exposed to his toxicity the longest has the biggest struggle. I left for safety reasons, and regret not leaving sooner! It’s my biggest regret of all. Life is good without their horrible, evil behavior. I feel bad for those he still uses as tools for his evil. But I cannot save those “flying monkeys.”
If you have had kids with a narcissist, it is too late. You will never get out. You will be connected to them forever, in that they maintain power over you through the kids. They do not love their own children. They destroy their kids like they destroy everyone they have access to, and they use their kids for life to do whatever damage they can to a former spouse.
@@HS-vr9ml true. Narcissists train children starting at a very young age to be dependent on them. They also train them to be victims in order to keep control of them for life. I have a half sister that is a narcissist. She has two daughters and both were s/xually assaulted at a young age by men she dated and exposed to them to. One of her daughters is gay and the other as a young adult has been violently s/xually assaulted more than once. These creatures are innately evil and everything they do, all the harm they cause is 100% deliberate. They are destroyers, liars and murd/erers like their father the devil.
My daughter is a narcissist. She has lied her way thru life and now lives hours from me and has told my grandchildren lies. It hurts, and she has hurt her children
My daughter in law is a narc. She is torturing my son and my 3 grandsons all have anger issues and the family is so dysfuntional. She hates me and if my son did not bring my grandkids to me i would never see them. It is wickedness to the core. I am so disheartened and praying for things to change.
When I think about the narcissists terrible treatment of me, thinking"why me".. I always think back to the line from The Wizard of Oz. It sums it up beautifully. Glenda the good witch is talking to Dorothy about the wicked witch wanting her shoes . She says to her "Keep tight inside of them, they must be very powerful or she wouldnt want them so badly". EXACTLY. Enough said. These are your gifts you were born with that they can only attempt to vicariously live through. Never forget that. Period.
i endured so much while raising our kid. Now he’s 52, broke, back w his mama after several affairs, after not coming aroun for his girl, low financial support, low empathy, LOW LIFE ! Nothing was real. I still can’t believe this bs!
This is the most brilliant and succinct explanation of narcissists I’ve ever heard. I will save this and re-listen to it when I start wondering if the narcissist in my life has changed. Spoiler: they never have. Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏼
Welcome..😌💜🙏
So true, Andrew is SPOT ON!!! 🎉
So true, Andrew is SPOT ON!!! 🎉
Thank you for letting me know, I was not crazy then. I started seeing a psychiatrist because he made me think I was crazy! It was him playing mind games. Married 23 years and 2 kids. I couldn't take the all around abuse and longer and divorce him. Now, he treats his girlfriend of 3 years (who lives with him) so nice! Can you help me understand it? Please?
Agreed. Very helpful 🎉
Best part of moving on….IS NOT GIVING A FUCK WHERE THEY ARE!!
Yes. 😎
Amen yassss ‼️
Absolutely walk away
Why when I use curse words I’m censored? You are in the right mindset friend👍
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Narcissists do change. They get worse with age and over time.
@kalingakrishna2705 With years and decades of experience, they get much better at lying, cheating, stealing, manipulating, gaslighting...
At age 78 my narcissistic mother still stalks me. My dog hides under the bed when my mother knocks on my door.
@@kalingakrishna2705 charisma and charm are their supernatural ability to put people under their spell, so people don't see their red flag, pure evil behaviors they always exhibit.
Amen
Your a very well informed person.
Narcissists are demons living in a hell of their own creation. Absolute madness.
Hell has it's purpose🔥
They are not demons. I'm sure that they are more susceptible to the devils wiles though.
😅 💯 right
Demons. The most appropriate description of these hell-raisers.
Angel to outsiders (the monkeys), but monster at home!!!
If you tell a narcissist that they are a narcissist, they turn it around and accuse you of being a narcissist.There is absolutely no winning!
Yes there is…..leaving is winning 😉
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Sometimes you can’t always leave completely… like when you have kids with one
I called out my ex husband he then set out to destroy me and I am still broken
In a narc relationship, there is absolutely no winning. You can only "win" by leaving, even if it's with nothing.
The narcissist will be looking for your replacement while lying to you to keep you in the relationship and simultaneously mistreating you.
And they become angry when you deny them what they believe they are entitled to: access to you.
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True! As ridiculous as it sounds.
Going through this now😢
Sooooo true
Everybody dies alone. Some people choose to live alone because they hate the idea of running into another narcissist.
@@housemousellthat's sad because we weren't ment to be alone we are ment to be social beings .
What's a flying monkey and triangulation please can anyone tell me please?
@@colleenstainer7743a flying monkey is someone the narc has to stalk you and enable their bad behavior triangulation is after they isolate you they make you jealous of the ppl they they’re either cheating with or their friends they don’t want you around.
Exactly 💯 he groomed me into thinking he loved me. All lies. I said, NO eventually. He called me one day from work he was heading to the hospital. I said why? He said he was bullied. 😅 The secretary said she would meet me there. I asked are you already on your way? She said, yes. I said, I'm not going. I'll wait for him at home. She probably was in shock? I didn't care.
He came in acting like a 4yr old. I started laughing when he said he was bullied 🤣 😂 He was shocked. I said you have bullied me no more or I'll go see your abuser to hit you off the job 😂😂😂 6 months later I was gone. Did not look back. Cut him off. Divorced 8yrs WONDERFUL YEARS!!!
I couldn't take it anymore.
I rather be alone than to wish I was. I did leave July 18, 2016
They end up lonely when nobody takes their crap anymore.
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Nobody likes liars 🙁
I agree
When does that happen??
No, don’t ever think that, they will be ok!!!!
"Every narcissist relationship has an expiration date." So, very, very true.
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I noticed a pattern of 20 years being the average time span of the lesson.
@emmabeliever404 I know one who just celebrated his 50-yr. wedding anniversary. And she's so sweet. I don't get it.
@@barbarasaracini1271 It's mind control that feeds some need within her. Nothing more.
Unless they kill you with their abuse...you die of a disease they caused you because of all the stress. My sister got cancer after years of living abused. The narc husband then married a woman who got dementia. He is taking care of her now. And her 40 year old son lives with them. Is this payback? I dont know. He never treated my sisters kids well. He kicked them out of the house. So why is he allowing this adult child of his new wife live with him.
My ex-husband, who is a narcissist, has his children by his side because he is a multi- millionaire. They endure his behavior waiting for the payoff when he dies. They were fake towards me for 20 years before I left. I filed for divorce and won. My peace is priceless!
Same with my ex. He has money & his children & grandchildren were treated terribly imo. All except for his youngest son, who was the son of his old age, born from a relationship that ended, they never married , he got full custody & he raised the son alone. It’s all blowing apart now. Youngest has reaped the benefits of fathers wealth for years , the 4 oldest from his 1st marriage (there is a span of 20yr in age between oldest 4 & youngest son) were grown before he accumulated wealth via real estate. He’s wheelchair bound due to auto accident & youngest lives on West Coast while father is on East coast. Older daughter has always been there but ignored for the most part. She & her husband stepped up & provided home care for weeks, letting siblings know they need to do their part. Daughter found out that young brother (he’s 39 yrs old now) is beneficiary on the fathers bank accounts & the house is already in the brothers name. Needless to say she was hurt, felt used & has stayed away. Father blames her, calls her a bad daughter , says she abandoned him. He won’t even consider how they feel.
I was also in a relationship with a narcissist and thankfully escaped almost a year ago…it’s wild to me how many of these fragile people are wealthy! I guess it’s the lack of empathy? The more I learn about this, the more my mind is blown.
I hope his children aren't too surprised if he changes his Will and they get nothing. Just sayin.
He will have rubbed that stuff on to your kids it’s not their fault human nature comes in to play
I know what you mean. Victims of narcissistic abuse know all too well the financial abuse and lengths the Marc will go to hide assets before and during a divorce. My adult children stay on his good side and i know he uses his own wealth and their inheritance are an incentives. I was + remain his main target.
The narcissist winds up where they always belonged, bitter and alone.
Absolute
@@jinxypop13 I had a Narcissist friend and we were cool for decades, he got into a arguement my wife and it put a strain on our friendship, the final straw was when he asked to chose between him and my wife, that was 20 years ago...
@@kramsdrawde8159 Wow! To even entertain asking a friend such a question.
Exactly
Unless they have money.
They are shallow, superficial, and everything is about them, they are never wrong.....they get worse, not better
I'm healing from a narcisistic friendship. shocking right? we study in a foreign country together so we had no choice but to be friends, I have finally gone no contact after 9 years. I'm now only making friends with kind people, who listen to me and help me meaningfully.
Factual self center. Never care about one but them selves self focused and always making you look bad to make them look and feel better about themselves. A narcissist can put people on the verg of making u think your insane and not in control of yourself make you doubt your own self worth. Been there before. Get out as fast as you can it never gets better. I promise
@@richlasma I realised my sister was my narcissist Which lead me to realise my friend was just the same. 6 years no contact but they are still trying from time to time to contact via others with illness being both their excuses. The funny thing about that is the last time they saw each other was over 20 years if not for that I would think they were plotting. They sure chisel away on your sanity.
Sad pathetic but so true SMFH
Everything doesn’t always have to be about them, you can totally disengage and challenge that idea. When it came to my ex, if I wanted to have a good day, I played that game. If I didn’t care about what happened that day or wanted to upset them, then I asserted my own independence.
I also had no problem narcissistically injuring my ex when I felt the ego get out of control. That’s actually what precipitated the breakup but I was very vocal about how inferior my ex was and pinpointing their weaknesses. I payed for it, but I fought back because I wasn’t going to be afraid.
I just wanted to maintain peace & civility until I could execute my exit strategy. I actually found it quite interesting how quickly I could calm down my narc if I stroked their ego. That’s all it takes is a little bit of ego stroking and they’re putty in our hands
They will never apologize never
I'm experiencing this and woke up to it. After all the namecalling and slander I wondered what was wrong with this person, why there was never an apology. Just learning they may be what I thought they were.
or their "apologies" are fake without meaning
Truth
Or they have an ulterior motive.@@maryyoung4046
I have no regrets letting her go. Im proud of myself for blocking her materialistic ass for good
What happened
You could be me, haha! All the very best, I hope you're doing ok.
its for the best. mine had a long list of great attributes, but the conniving, lying, back stabbing, crazy, bla bla bla was just draining. time to cut ties for good.
@@lilfairycupcake Yes!! Stand your ground and never let them abuse you again
That's the other side it teaches ... It's superficial world moreso then what's on the inside . I survived Praise Jah!
Unfortunately, most narcissists do not know that they’re narcissists
🎉 you are absolutely right, took the word right outta my mouth 🤣
@@clairissagovender3031it’s called ‘denial’.
They know...mine admits when mean to my sibling.. I distanced myself.. from parent who is very evil.. The Narc.. admits she knows she mean.. I had little boundary.. now I have huge.. 🙏🙏🙏💮💮🌻
There is a very tragic lack of self-awareness.
Much like your whiny self.
Thirteen years after divorce,he is still trying to find me. Our kids have nothing to do with him. He only cared about himself. I used to say he was the most self absorbed person I ever knew. That about sums it up. Thankfully, I am blissfully free and living free, breathing free, thinking free and being me.
We like this comment.. sounds LIKE family members of mine..
So I tell them..
They don't like me..
LEAVE ME BE...BUT GIVE BACK ALL THE MAIL AND MONEY THEY STOLE.
EVEN MY IDENTITY..
CAN'T HAVE IT ALL!
Oh I pray all his kids see through it 🙏 truth prevails ❤ God bless
I told myself exactly the same thing.....
Bless you
i can’t wait to say that !!
I can’t go without saying “I love the dogs”. Every video needs a dog. My home is full of them. They helped save me from despair. They are one of God’s most precious gifts to man kind.
Me too!
@@JudyChartrand-uv6oi You also love to love but your baby just wants to dance? Girls want to have some fun?
@@JudyChartrand-uv6oi But Muslims and hebrew consider dogs a dirty, root animal
Wonderfully put ❤️
Agreeeed !!!!!!!
Living solo is so freeing…no drama, total freedom. Don’t hitch yourself to someone, you dont need anyone but yourself.
stoicism
Thank you
Hear hear!!!!!
Absolutely!
Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Getting a dog will help you heal from anything.
That is the main thing that I love coming home to after my toxic job. My 3 loving pups! 🥰
The dog is the best deal man ever made. We give them the time we can spare, the food we can spare and the space we can spare. In return. they give us their all.
@@asdf9890 , up the irons!
Love my cat's. They found me not the other way around.
@@zenon2358 yeah, lets not forget about cats. They are awesome too. Sucks I have a cat allergy. Any pet really will help you heal.
I really dont care where they end up, as long that Is not by my side, they aré hard to please.
Great comment
oh there’s no way to please them because they grind away at your mind and often in other ways (in my case retaliating if he didn’t get what he wanted like cutting the power steering lines in my SUV when I wouldn’t let him drive during the 5 yrs I took care of him with his narcissism, alzheimers, paranoia…). he is now (after 54 yrs marriage to him) in Assisted Living facility where he can no longer run/control my dog and I. There is peace after the narcissist!
@@annawallace3264im glad you aré finding true happieness after all the abuse you went thru i wish you well always
Hard? Impossible! And absolutely exhausting.
@@MikeJackson690 definitely! That’s what pissed me off about that narc witch I used to deal with. I tried each and every way and angle to make her happy and make it work and nothing did. It’s was like trying to put a triangle in a square, then you get the square and it turns into a circle, it’s so frustrating and annoying. I’m so happy she discarded me was a true blessing in disguise though at that moment it didn’t feel like it. Had she never called me a narcissist I would’ve never knew about that “disorder” which I know believe are demons in skin suits.
I don't know that the narcissist will ever regret anything because the root of the condition is that they are accountable to anything. They will manage their misery by blaming everyone else for it.
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@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I meant "unaccountable"*
Don't matter they will be a walking target. We are in different times.
That creepy smile if you see it is scary. Yet that’s who they are. Unmasked
Yes, I remember that exactly. Their usual smirk is bad enough, but their more twisted smile (the few times you do see it) is the scariest indeed.
@@timothyrday1390 yeah it’s frightening. That’s the real person. And I’m shaking typing this as it is something can’t forget
The eyes....look at their eyes.
Listen to their words...ALL OF THEM.
Yes, that smile means contempt! Like I said above, they are evil.
@@ralphey8189Yes!!!!
She used to pray daily and the way she destroyed me, I literally recognized that was not a person. It was a literal demon inside her. No child of God could pray to Him and do such hideous actions at the same time. My entire life has changed realizing there are these empty demonic fake people walking on earth just to steal, snatch and kill everything you have.
Be wise...go on strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Boundaries, truth, inner strength.
Its really frightening but true
Oh boy...i can so relate to your comment. My life has been destroyed by narcissists. My father, which i loved more then anything was a narcissist. I didnt realize he was til the last yr or 2. And regret not telling him that i finally caught on. Of course not wanting to upset him...i never said anything. Then he passed on Dec15th,2023. And of course loving my Dad so much...i ended up with men just like him. I ended up marrying a narcissist. Which has destroyed me. He used our daughter as a weapon to hurt me. Til so much ended up happening to her. Cuz of the abandonment she felt from her father....that at the age of 25yrs old. (3yrs ago) she committed suicide. Then if that wasnt bad enough her 2 kids were taken away by a narcissistic family and children services worker. That ended up in my life cuz of the narcissistic ex-husband. He would call them all the time on me. 15 times to be exact....during those 15 times. He found 1 worker that hated me cuz I'm 200×s better looking & had a great life after leaving my ex-husband. She decided she would finish me off. She's actually the reason my daughter finally couldn't take it anymore. Then i had to move....dont i end up with a narcissistic landlord. And i think there was other stuff going on with her & her deadbeat son. Anyways, I've now got PTSD. And while i was living at that evil hell hole i was at....thats when my father died. Now I'm 52yrs old....looking back at everything i missed out on, all the regrets. I screwed my life up cuz of these narcissists. Now i dont know what to do with myself these days. Now I'm completely alone & broken
@@heathergatfield667 sorry to hear that. But happy that you are free now.
I think you were probably dating my X. That sounds PRECISELY like her. I was amazed at how beautifully she could pray- it was almost like listening to poetry. But Oh my goodness, get her away from people she is trying to impress- and DEMON is the only word that comes to mind.
I'm currently living at a homeless shelter to escape my malignant narcissist ex, who violated a permanent restraining order to come after me. I'm rebuilding my life and disappearing myself was the smartest thing I've ever done. Also needed to go no contact with most of my family. It's hard but I know I'm doing what's right and healthy for me. Thank you for your message.❤
Welcome..😌💜🙏
Good luck to you! 22 yrs for me with financial abuse thrown in. Years later happy and rebuilt my life after “No Contact”.
Best decision to leave.
So proud of you guys who got out.
I did the same to flee my toxic world of ex and family members. My pup and I slept in my car for a month, crossing the country. Now we're very far away in a beautiful place, rebuilding all that lost. Will take some time, but we will bounce back and be the bright authentic souls we are who love and deserve love and light ❤
Done that. Stick with it. It's worth it. Just remember that your best day with a narcissist is always worse than your worst day alone. Stay strong, you are absolutely worth a good life. 🥰👍
Warning - Don't expect any kind of death bed remorse either because that never happens either.
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Isn't that so sad and discusting . 😔
The narc is a true vampire, they'll dazzle you in the beginning, they'll have you in a trance until you are hooked. Then they'll take repeated bites out of your empathy being taken for granted, money, sex, influence etc.) out of you, while finding someone new to start all over again because you're now empty in many ways or they're simply bored of you. .
Exactly 💯
You hit it right on the nail ! That’s exactly how my experience with my narc was 😪
So true! And for anyone who has caught on to their manipulation … listen to your instincts! Trust your gut and always remember that the best intuition is the greatest premonition of what is yet to come. Don’t wait for the explosion to happen! Trust yourself! Get out of the box while you can!
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My narcissist literally WAS a biter. Thank GOD it was behavior I would not tolerate and I ended our short "romantic" relationship before it really developed. He simply could not tolerate a simple boundary and tested me a few times. That's all it took...
The narcissist tears everything down , they cant love and without love nothing can grow
all they know is hate, destroy. so let them hate, destroy, all by themselves.
FACT Andrew wisdom and flowers 🌷 are Both proof ❤
Nothing Survives a Loveless Life, down to my well cared for green plants.
@@cadams6945 toxic.
Toxic is the correct word. And then the narc recruited my younger sister who followed his orders and they both edged me out and then I backed out then 2.5 months later my dad passed. It's very bittersweet when they pass. @@lilfairycupcake
I like sleeping in on the weekends if I get the chance to. The work week is hard and challenging at times. So it feels great to get a little extra rest from time to time. Without a toxic person giving me a to do list and lack of appreciation. So much better now!
I feel you.
My narc bf would get angry if I would sleep on his couch for an hour or two
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Great escape for sure. Good luck with your healing ❤️🩹.
Yes, indeed! My narc ex-gf used to squeeze out whatever time and energy I had left on the weekends serving her during *her* rest time. It's such a blessing not to be under her yoke any longer.
Best advice for dealing with them is to disengage completely. It drives them insane 😂
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My ex-narc, a medical doctor, got fired again, spent all her savings traveling, and then, after being evicted three times, had to move all her stuff into storage and move in with her elderly mom. She also gained over 50+ lbs and was convicted of reckless driving twice. Her downfall is spectacular, and she still portrays herself as the supreme winner. It's so bizarre, at least to me.
Wow! Exactly like my ex-husband!!!
Yes, they can be admired for a while by people that don’t know them. Eventually, everyone has enough. Their own personalities drive them to destruction. That’s true in my experience too.
Yep…her ego couldn’t admit that she has spun out into a downward spiral
one more champion of bad decision making. lets all wish her the best. lol
When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥ He is coming to avenge!
👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted His free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥🥳
As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations.
Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤😊
Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥
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To all who haven’t experienced this you should take notes from Andrew. This is 100% truth. It’s almost amazing how similar narcissists are.
Because they are demon- possessed! I have videos of demons speaking through my soon to be ex! Scary crap!
Same Demon Class
These People Are Demonized
Trauma Was The Open Door
Yeah, even the ones that are in prison are basically cops.
I agree as a survivor of narcissistic abuse. Everything Andrew says is accurate.
Is there such a thing as a person who has narcissistic tendencies but seems so broken and low self esteem. I’ve been with a guy for a year and a half. He lovebombed me for the first couple of months. Then, blew up one night. It was over and I was devastated. It kinda happens every few months. Same deal-I have said no on something. Last night, he got mad cause I bought a vibrator. He went off into he wasn’t enough for me.and he was done with me. I just barely said anything. I feel that finally I have no fks to give. If he wants to be with me, he can act right. He keeps coming back. I’m sooo tired of the craziness. He’s supportive though and very very giving physically. Always has been. He helps fix things here and there. He’s 62 and I’m 59. We’ve both been thru bad relationships. We went to same high school but didn’t know each other. We enjoy music and arts and lots of things. I’m disabled and have trouble with my back, my hips, and loads of arthritis. He’s gotten better with caring about my pain or helping me. There are just a few times he will make off comments. Like I wanted to sleep one evening early and he said but you could’ve slept all day. He still works and comes in at 4pm. I told him he wasn’t being kind. What to do? Idk. Can a non narc live with a semi-narc as long as the non narc is aware and advocates for herself??
💯 a narcissist will Never change. Completely NO contact
Agree, these are the two most important things to remember 😊
Amen
I have read the golden child ( narcissists) post's that they realised that they were used by their narcissistic parent and after that they changed for the better
I have been out and no contact for 7 years. I am still healing. I still have flashbacks. I feel so much shame for having accepted so much abuse.
@tinytexan God gives these people many chances to repent and do right by Him, which definitely involves doing good to you and others in the world.
Abuse lowers the bar a little at a time. You did the best u could with what you knew at the time. You likely never saw it coming. Don’t punish or guilt yourself. It’s not yours to own. Give it to God and keep moving forward. ❤
It takes time to recover; in my case five years, but we never 'recover' fully, as it is part of what makes you. You will probably suffer 'flashbacks' and internal breakdown (very temporary) for many years to come, especially when you are suddenly hit by another unrelated narcissist's cutting remark or behaviour. What we have suffered is life-changing trauma that has changed us deeply and is never forgotten.
i had a hoover from out of the blue today after decades...he wrote that he wanted to ask a favor. i did not or will not respond. There is nothing good to come out of that.
Thanks for these videos.
Smart girl Patricia...its about you now! 👍❤💥
Blessings
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If he can reach you you have not initited no contact, you are in "no reply" which leaves you open to being disregulated by what he writes.
You made the right choice; block it.
Sounds like you are healed and free!
@@abuorC Exactly !
This is a long read but I have to get this off my chest.
My mom was insanely jealous of me, so jealous in fact that a close family friend of my parents noticed it and told my grandma about it, at that time I was only 8.
I can now see why she basically tried to sabotage my health growing up with junk food and trying to ruin my hair with perms.
She was a hair dresser and everyone elses hair she did grew but my hair got shorter and shorter and ended up being only about 4 inches long and I was THE ONLY one this happened to, that I know of.
When people told her they were worried about my weight all she did was smirk, she never actually helped me to get into better health. Her jealousy of me was so intense and so noticeable. She grounded me out of pure pettyness for weeks at a time, one time she grounded me for three weeks for going to the mall, another time she grounded me for three weeks for going to the movies with a friend at the age of 16, I now see she didn’t want me to be able to have any friends. I developed bulimia in high school and she would encourage me to vomit, she said she even tried vomiting herself to see if she could lose the weight like I was.
She would barge into the bathroom getting in my face asking me how much I weighed, she would feel proud of herself if she weighed less than me, and if she did weigh less than me she would mention that to family members over phone calls as a way to brag.
She was never there for me, when I was being abused by a boyfriend she took his side. Many years ago a boyfriend of mine at the time got arrested for attacking me and keep in mind I didn’t even call the cops, some security guard saw him attack me and tackled him down until cops arrived, my mom shows up a bit later after I was trying to contact her and tells the cops “he didn’t do anything wrong he’s a good guy.” she said this with that dumb little smirk on her face…..she NEVER even asked me if I was okay, she never asked me what happened, she drove me home in complete silence and not one bit of concern. She’s pure evil.
I could never EVER allow myself to carry on a relationship with her, I’ve tried so hard to be close to her but it’s impossible. I’ve blocked her on all social media, I’ve blocked her number, and I’ve began living my own life without telling her anything about it, she’s completely cut off.
Now here’s her karma 😊She’s turning 60 in November and my oh my her weight has gone through the roof, she’s near 300 lbs and is now pre diabetic, she limps with a bad knee because of her weight, she’s wrinkled up like a raisin, her husband who loved her more than anyone else in this world has thoughts of finding someone else and wishes so badly that he had chosen a better wife. To top it up she has dentures now so she’s even more insecure than she was before and what makes it even better is the fact that she’s lonely and the only people she can be close to are the ones who are just as toxic as her. I think a part of her knows why she ends up alone but as we all know narcissists live in complete denial so she will never self reflect. All she talks about is how poorly everyone treated her which is absolutely such a load of bs because she painted my father to be a villan when he’s a good man. Not only was she a terrible mother but she was and is still a terrible wife, a wife who cheated on her husband and tried to leave him for an ex of hers who owned a car and a house which didn’t even end well for her. Her husband is her main source of supply now but even my dad tries to stay away from her when he can😅, most of my brothers distanced themselves from her, I was the last one trying so hard to be close to her, I am now the ONLY child who has fully blocked her. My father tells me “she is to blame for the relationship breaking, distancing yourself to protect yourself is all you can do and she can’t do anything about that.”
Because I blocked her my dad tells me that my mom has stated that I don’t love her anymore, of course I don’t love her anymore I mean how could I? being abused for so long caused me to feel nothing but complete disgust by her very presence. So for the people wondering if they get their karma I truly believe they do even if it may not seem like it at first. Their poor choices back fire in their face and the consequences of that is every decent person leaving them to be alone. There is no one from her past that cares about her, she’s like a plague that most avoid once they’ve figured her out. For the people that are partially close to her, it’s only a matter of time before she turns on them too, they always need supply. She sits alone majority of the time with her three ipads and multiple iphones she never uses, she’s messy and can’t keep things clean because she thinks everyone should be cleaning for her. She’s the most miserable person ever and there’s no religion, partner, friend or family member who can fix that.
May us victims who had to endure these type of people heal and find the love within ourselves to carry on and do what makes us happy, take up new hobbies, do the hobbies you love, lets love ourselves as much as we tried to love these sick people. We are kind and devoted, we are gentle and patient and so capable of love. Stay blessed everyone❤️
You and I have the same mother😢
Some women are mothers and some women are “birthing people”. Real mothers deserve love and devotion. Keep all others at a safe distance or blocked completely. You know you are healed when you don’t care one way or the other.
I know this all too well. Mine finally disowned me and told me I should have never been born. It was the hardest thing to ever hear, because I tried so hard to get her to love me, it's all i wanted, but it was the best thing she did, because I was able to heal. I hadn't talked to her in over 13 years, and apparently she ended up with some health issue and was dying. She needed to talk to me. My wonderful step-mom told me I should probably talk with her, so I don't have any regrets. Ugh! If course I let her call me. I know what she was doing, she felt like she needed to "make things rights" with me to get into Heaven. We didn't talk but for a couple minutes, I really had nothing to say. I did tell her, "I hope you find peace where ever you end up"😂😂😂😂😂
Move on and make your own decisions. God’s blessings be with you
God Bless you 🌸💞
I've been watching Andrew for 3 months. Today I spent $5000 as a retainer fee, so I can GET OUT with someone helping me. The money part hurts, but the abuse HURTS WORSE!! I am now on my way to the pinnacle of indifference.
Namaste 🙏
Trust me, 5K is worth your freedom. I paid same amount 20 years ago, though I guess more if we add inflation, but that's not important. You having your freedom is the most important thing.
I feel such an overwhelming sense of pride for you. Congratulations my friend, what you’re doing is amazing! Greetings from NYC. Cheers!
PEACE TO you !!!
May you WIN WIN WIN
Congratulations, you’ve got this! 👏🏼♥️
When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥ He is coming to avenge!
👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted His free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥🥳
As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations.
Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤😊
Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥
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I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 3 years and I never thought I would end up with someone like that, I was definitely wrong!!could not change them at all,never said I was sorry for anything she put me through
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After dealing with two narcissists for years I've realized the best approach is no contact and don't even think about them. The more distance between you and them the better.
The narcissist is unpleasant to be around. They come up with strange, off-the-wall accusations, which is part of the gaslighting tactics they use. They'll say something like you're mad at me because I didn't do xyz. No, I'm not mad. If I were mad I'd say so. But they'll insist you're mad. You can trade mad with any other emotion, like jealousy. That's one of their favorite accusations that you're jealous. They really believe they are superior and that of course you would be jealous. After they are cut off, they hoover because they want to keep the abuse going. The narcissist enjoys causing people to feel bad. Call them out on it and they'll become speechless like the piece of lint they are. Like I said they are unpleasant to be around. After the basics, I need only peace.🙏
Thank you for sharing..💜💯🙏
it is truly amazing the crocks of mental ignorance they can whip up.
Geez they Hoover and don’t get tired of doing petty things to others 😞
@@yardiegirl7 they actually enjoy it.
Thank you this explains alot.
ON MY WAY, I'M ALREADY OUT, MOVING TO A BETTER PLACE, GOD IS GOOD 🙂🙂🙂
CONGRATULATIONS...stay focused on FORWARD. YOU..GOT..THIS! PLEASE STAY STRONG .... 🤗💖🙏💪👊
When the narcs are your own siblings, and parents, there is so much heartache involved even years after being subjected to their abuse.
It’s certainly very challenging. They are the strongest hoover
Your parents and your siblings are those who formed you from your youngest time and as such, they are deeply embedded inside you. That’s why it takes so long.
Siblings you can deal with but parents that is hard because you do have to have compassion on them but love them anyway but do not expect anything from them . Trust God and rely on him .
Im 54 now and only realised 5 months ago. I totally agree with the heartache, you grieve the loss of the relationships & all those times you spent with them as it was false.
@@louisewright8769thank you for this. I wish more people would realize that parents are not boyfriends, husbands, or friends. You only have one mother and one father. It can be difficult to keep even limited contact with them, but it’s the right thing to do, or to at least attempt to do.
Getting deserted by everybody, including their family members, is their Karma. Namaste, Andrew!
MY eldest son was always the world’s smartest man, then his wife inherited a goodly sum in 2012, haven’t spoken to any of his family till his mother passed, he was first in line.
A lot of times, the scapegoat gets estranged by the family as well
@@tatianaromanova2655 My narcissistic friend, who manipulated me with the intention of making me become his brother in law, would have isolated me from my brother and parents. By God's grace, I escaped from him.
My narcissistic friend, who wanted to make me become his brother in law, manipulated me 5 years ago. But by the grace of god, I escaped from him.
@ProManifestor-l2c It may happen. My sociopathic colleague, who was physically abusing his wife, is now living alone. He tries to hoover her, but to no avail. He has lost his charisma, with which he was attracting women 20 years ago. He blames his mother in law for all his misfortunes.
Thank you Andrew. It's painful after 38 yrs but I ran away. I'm 62 yrs old, in a domestic violence shelter,gone no contact and proceeding on the path to freedom from this prison. IV learned much from you. Q
Bravos! Best of wishes to You 🙏💐💜
You are courageous for leaving. I wish you all the best on your journey to rebuild your life. 💪💪💪
You should be proud of your strength and bravery.
Hope the shelter keeps you feeling safe and protected. Not really familiar with this kind of shelter but in my opinion , be open to services they provide ( counselling , job training , etc ) to improve your life.
Wishing you all the best on the beginning of your healing journey. 🙂
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Sending you prayers for peace and a quick resolution.
"They continuously try to break the relationship." That's one I never heard before and I believe that's true, at least it feels that way. The constant digs/jabs and trying to cause problems definitely can be looked at as them just trying to break the relationship, they are pushing you until you explode.
So true..❤..the bridges they burn baffles me..narcs will burn the whole hous down and all bridges..but it's always someone elses fault..
We need to start educating everyone about these dangerous people. Narcissism, like most mental health diagnoses, is on a spectrum and no one person is identical to another, but the end is always the same. The survivors endure harm that is sometimes irreparable. This type of behavior needs to be called out and made to be completely and unequivocally unacceptable.
That's a great way to look at it. A spectrum.
A spectrum, yes, my first was not as bad as the last, so yes. But the playbook is identical.
@@Grindstaff09Do they all cheat? :( I’m 21 and this is my first narc relationship. My dad was a narc who nearly killed my mum so.. I’m in a cycle
@@Euph3mia at least emotionally/flirting/looking, in my experience, for more supply
Well we have all been doing our part, as survivors, in educating people. But I think this education on narcissism should be mandatory in school/college.
My ex narc ended up in a worse shape than twenty years ago when i met him. In a way it is so sad to see a grown man making poor choices and having to climb back up the steps. But that's his choice. There were nothing anybody could do for him because we now know that narcs don't listen to anybody. They just do what they wanna do. Have a great evening Andrew 🤗🙌💜❤️
Absolutely described what I just went through.
I wanted to help him but just didn't want to listen at all, to me. He knew deep down, that I was a decent, good person overall. I also know very well. ,,that Today, Tonight , He has Lost me, Yes, he has. I am Positive that he hurts inside3.I know for knowing him, well enough.... Well,,I say to myself :" he ran after it " . He's even hitting himself in the stomach.. Sorry but, Good for Him.....
Like yourself, we had decades together. One day, I looked at him and thought “what an ass”. He already used up every bit of my energy and goodwill. There was nothing left. Even if everything improved magically, all I’d get was an ass of a human being. I never agreed to that. He never said “I’ll be an abusive and embarrassing ass your entire life - are you okay with that?”
Yes they're a law unto themselves,,they never take good loving advice ,,,they bring so much disaster on themselves and people around them ,and then play victim,
Saw narc 2 roads away from me, looked dishevelled and worn! I can't feel sorry, I couldn't have done more whilst he nearly completely destroyed me! And I tried to encourage narc to the Light of God! I failed and I saw narc morph into a complete demon one night! It was like being in hell!! Prayers for all survivors of narc abuse! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@michelebazinet9003 yes, they have to own the choices they made. Now we can live our best lives without them in it. Wishing you a beautiful weekend. 🤗💞
This should be shown directly to EVERY teenager boy and girl, help them.
It will help the ones that are suffering from a narcissist but it won't change the ones that are narcissists already.
My narcissist manager has just been sacked after being investigated for bullying. Best news ever!
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Definitely a win!! Worth celebrating nice to know that sometimes these things catch up with them.
Same thing happened with mine about 3 years ago lol
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Awesome.
I thought about this earlier today (Where the Narcissist ends up”) that my Narc Husband (he is now in Assisted Living Facility with Alzheimers and other medical conditions) -for years he chose when he had time for the kids and me. Our kids are grown and out of the nest. I now choose when I see him. He can no longer do Narcissistic evil to us and my dog. Am healing. Thanks for the videos Andrew. Your dogs are cool!
Your KINDNESS IS HELPING SO MANY OF US. THANK YOU❤
Same here.
It Looks Like mine Is Heading That Way
Having To Feed The Cows Cuz he Fell And Hurt his Leg,..
Preparing For SomeThing But Not Sure What,..
Positioned And Ready - Been Forged In Fire So God Has Prepared me For What Ever Happens
Feels Like The Hill Is Getting Steeper And It Is Covered With Thick Ice
Peace To you
You Stayed
I Pray you End Up In A Very Good Place In your Life
I Live As A RoomMate With mine And I Have Joy Again 😊
Mine is on his way there. Dementia getting worse by the day and he's still narc'ing. Lost everyone's respect, including all the children.
Falling in love with a true female narcissist is the worst thing ever! They Pretend to be whoever they think they need to be in order to get what THEY want. They have no sense of self! They are merely a character trying to be something they’re not. My ex narcissist would NEVER do something just to please me. She was literally incapable of doing something for someone else. Everything had to Benefit Her. I moved across country just to get away from her. It was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself.
I was just journaling about how my ex didn't have a sense of who he was. His terrible road rage - he would tell me to not get upset or scared because his brother has much worse road rage, according to him. He couldn't get off of IG and stop watching young girls twerking? He would tell me his married friends were much worse. He broke his promise and was going to cost his landlord hundreds of dollars? He talked his friend and mom into defending him by not sharing the full story of how he was going to cost her money.
He just couldn't own his own actions. He tried to excuse his poor behavior by bringing other people down or just lying.
i did the same thing i moved 3000 miles away shocked the hell out of him goes both ways i'm a magnet for narc men but i've mastered the game now but that's how you do it congrats!
@@heatherlynn2695 Congratulations to you as well.
As a female who has only ever dated male narcissists, i cant relate to them from a relationship perspective. But i can relate to them from friendship. So far despite being burned alive and broken by male narcissists i have come to understand males tend to be more explosive and physically demanding but female narcissists are just vicious! I would say they do tremendous amounts of damage and are often better at deception than men are. Experiencing female narcissists helped me realise there are bad people of all genders. So there must be good of all genders as well. This has been my experience at least. The first female narc i met was my step mother. I cannot understand how people become so hard and power driven.
@@KyuubiNoAstralokk I think female narcs are really good at "triangulation"... But to a horrible degree, like getting people to off each other. My cousin a narc female was at the center of a big fight where someone ended up beat to deth, she ended up having a kid with one of the guys who did the beating. What's sad is the guy who died was fighting the other guys because she said those dudes who he was fighting were putting hands on her. Imagine that, narcs are dangerous people, I don't even talk to that cousin anymore. He doesn't talk about that enough on this channel, how they can be very dangerous. Female narcs also tend to try and get men to be physically aggressive on purpose, and if not play the "he/she hit me" game if they don't... They're very messed up people.
I left my husband of 21 years a year ago. I left him a note when I left that said "When they ask you about me, and I promise you they will, I hope it hits you like a train and the only thing you can say is " She truly loved me and I ruined her." For the first 15 years, as far as I knew, we had a good life. We were building that life together. Then he got a new friend, a new habit and several girlfriends. All of whom knew me. I felt betrayed and I was horrified.
I live with my son now and can breathe safely again.
Very proud of you 👏 You made a very wise decision. Now the idiot can live alone until he's able to find another victim.
I am so so sorry. I know how much this hurts. But it does get better.
Bless you and your beautiful son.
@@katiesimpson8517 I just want me back, not this sobbing, blubbering mess.
Thank you for your thoughts. I greatly appreciate it.
My heart grieves for you.❤
I recently divorced my husband of 24 yrs. My friend had to tell me and give me examples of what a narcissist was. I had no idea. I don't miss my ex but he kept our dog and I miss him alot. I wish there was a way for me to free him and take him but I doubt that would happen.
When I met my ex narc, she was financially done, never had money, couldn't hold a job, just lazy, that was in 06, fast forward ,2024, still running the streets, living with people, struggling, absolutely no motivation to better herself, every now and then I see her old flying monkeys, they feel the need to tell me everything they know about her, like I care....I've healed, and turned into a completely different person, i moved on with my life, and im blessed, i pat myself on the back because i made it out, safe, physically and mentally.
Good job, wow still the same, it’s going to 20 years 😮
Why does you entertain her knowing all this? You said you met her when she was broke etc. What did you expect?
@@cha9165 it was the love bombing stage that had me ignoring a lot of red flags, now that I look back on it, knowing what I know now.
Still climbing the mountain.
As hard as it is .
I will make it to the top ❤
Me too… yes, it’s a struggle but I hope one day my friend we make it to the top🩷
Yes 🕊️
One step at a time. 💪❤️
You will my friend. Its definitely a climb! But have faith. Also be patient with yourself. I take it day by day.
Keep climbing!
Narcs have many demons in them. I was able to get out FINALLY of my narcissistic relationship! Thanks be to God! I went no contact. He replaced me with an Ex GF FROM 30 years ago he looked her up and was talking to her while he was with me. I praise God I was able to get out! I’m a total empath. I am a very strong Woman but found myself all tied up after being with him! I’m finally healing and getting stronger! All praise be to God! Amen!
Amen my wife family has / had witches in them whew...
There is a reason why this post came up on my feed! It’s like you have read my life story! I’m coming up on 70 and over half of my life has been wasted!
They end up on their death bed wondering what is going to happen to them next. They know what they have done.
Whats REALLY sad and pathetic is when a narcissist is in the Mental health field , Therapists , you also find them in the Yoga instructor field , Social workers etc....
The Pastoral ministry is a magnet for narcissists, too, sadly.
Yes an ex narc was in that field, absolutely shocked and concerned me..
With a Psychiatrist for six years. Violent rages almost every day and forced to take psychological medication because I was “slow”. Out and found out how to enjoy living alone
@@christopherd6399 JP Miller
My narc ex is a young person's support worker 😢
Finally some one who breaks narcissistic down. I was married to a narcissist. I left him & divorced him. I've never seen or heard from him again.
I was "friends" with a narcissistic sociopath for years. I knew something was wrong with this person but I didn't know the extent. Long story short, they are in jail now, for life.
They're like locust. They use everyone up in one area and move to another neighborhood or city and it starts again. Anyone that doesn't keep a job for long, move every few months a year. Watch them,be careful.
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A Black Hole
Discarded 7 days ago and this video is a blessing. I’m already feeling better. I had my suspicions about my now ex but this solidifies it. I even told him when he left that his mask has been lifted. Your insight is spot on. Thank you.
My dark night of the soul was severe insomnia after the discard. I shouldn't have survived what i experienced the day of the discard and months to follow, but i did. The day everything happened , I felt like my heart was tore out of my chest. Then, the severe insomnia started to the point I ended up in the emergency room. Long story. There is too much to explain in a comment section of youtube, but folks , take a good look at Andrew from his first videos to now . What do you see ? That's right. You see his life and soul, literally being restored with each video. It's quite remarkable, actually, but a testament to the narcissist being an energy vampire that steals your energy to the point of death when they discard you. What's the point of this comment ?Well, if you're feeling hopeless and / or experiencing a speed bump in your healing process, know that in time, you get stronger each day even if it feels impossible. If Andrew did it , I did it, and others reading this comment that are well on their healing journey could do it, you could do it too. One day at a time .
I am going exactly through this,at this very moment. I haven't felt like doing absolutely Nothing !
I feel depressed tremendously and very sad. My nsrc bf discarded me a month ago, just "out of the blue ", with absolument No Warning whatsoever.
Everything was going well previously and Mister,
all of a sudden, discarded me without giving me any reason. The previous month , he had told me how magnificent and marvelous I was, etc...I feel just Terrible and extremely sad....
@michelebazinet9003 You are going to be ok. It may not feel like it right now, but as I said , one day at a time. The process is very painful, but as time goes on, you are going to gain so much knowledge and strength from this.
@@robpz448 Thank you for showing me your caring
@@michelebazinet9003I hear and feel your pain. ?
Recently realized I had changed from the person I was before I moved into current apt. ( A person I liked and respected after decades of narc abuse from family and friends. )
Am slowly starting to take back characteristics of that person now. It sometimes takes a concerted effort but well worth it. 🙂
Good luck on starting your healing journey. 🙂
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The greatest lesson I came away with from being caught up in an entanglement with a narc was this. Narc's are feeders just like vampires. They can't exist without food. They lure you in with charm & adventure. They give you an experience in exchange for resources. I realised I was allowing myself to be food. That's how I participated in the relationship until I said no more & cut off his lifeline.. I had to take full responsibility for the part I played so that I NEVER go there again
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Thats actually a very nice analogy. I actually think of them as negative energy that feeds on our positive energy. If you think about it, your body actually senses discomfort in their presence. That is the body reacting to the negative energy field that emanates from them.
Energy vampires and controlling you of everything you do.
They even acuse you of things that are not even doing and it's difficult to defend yourself because they truly believe you are doing these so called things.
It's absolutely sole destroying.
It's their way or no way at all.
When you start loving yourself, the right battles begin! Start listening, paying attention, keeping silent.
Boundaries first.
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Bible says...love your neighbor as yourself. Some make te focus other people. First things first, dictates that we love ourselves wisely first...then others
Thank God, I am Healed and free!
Spot on 100%. My narcissist is miserable. The “ perfect” woman he found has figured him out and is no longer of any worth to him. He is now the shell of himself. It’s truly pitiful.
my father is MISERABLE.. but only to me .. but my eyes seen the truth
and he knows that I know .. I just terminated our relationship.. blocked and unfriended.. now I need to heal from this ..if I can he was extremely abusive to me physically and emotionally....
The narcs comfort zone is a loveless control drama. My comfort zone was peace and it ended up being a chaos solver..Where they end up? I'm not following up..As long as it's away from me life makes more sense..Thanks ☮️🙏
Tough when the Narc is your Mother. Finally free after 56 yrs of this Devil
Congratulations. I am in this situation also. Finally I am not afraid of her. When my fear let go, suddenly I have constructive dreams at night. For 50+ years I only dreamt of her, my mother, or had extremely stressful dreams. Suddenly I experience sometimes even nice dreams. I am no longer afraid of her conspiracies or campaignes. I can not explain how I maganed it, but it is a work mentally.
I’m finally free from my narcissistic mother I haven’t spoke to her for 2 years
@@margaretaklemming2492yes same for me to my mom kept on popping up in my dreams now my grandma showing up in my dreams it’s so emotional
It is amazing, isn’t it, how a narcissistic mother will affect any and all relationships one has going forward. When you don’t have what is meant to be the most profound trusting relationship with the one person that is meant to love you unconditionally and who gave birth to you, it affects any and all going forward. I was tortured for years with the silent treatment / I would apologise not knowing what I was apologising for. She would lie, she would gaslight, she’d promise me something only to then go behind my back and betray me, she discarded me once she met my stepdad, but what I remember the most was the silent treatment
She’d go for days pretending I wasn’t there, I would do anything I could just to get her to speak to me and she would pretend I wasn’t there
It is emotional abuse at its finest / and to this day, my fear of abandonment is what affects me the most.
It is really hard even if I keep my boundaries she just so nasty that she will wait till holidays to throw jabs at anyone no one is safe from her wrath it just depends which kid is tolerating her more than the other that is safest at the times
Animals are always drawn to healing sessions💖
I stopped dating over 6 years ago. The narcissist (mine was a bonafide sociopath) will leave a path of destruction their entire life. I don’t think they end up alone and defeated. They are master manipulators and that skill only develops over time. Each time they take off their mask they learn from their mistakes. I get no satisfaction thinking he will end up lost and alone, I fully believe he will not end up like that. He is highly skilled. Oscar worthy. He’ll play it until the end.
What I DO care about is not having contact under any circumstances. Living the remainder of my life free of the insanity. That is what I celebrate.
My only sorrow is knowing how many others will be destroyed by that psycho. I exposed him where I could but any further exposure would make me look like the crazy one. No contact.
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I agree. Mine is a master manipulator too and is very talented in his work and is always fooling people with his charm. He never runs out of victims.🤨
Yes, my ex, too. He will go to his grave charming everyone in his path. I just wish I could see his face when he reaches the other side.
No contact is the best approach. The malignant narcissist I know, is very rich. Has a lot of friends and family who support him. He is extremely enabled. And he has hurt lots of people without taking even a bit of accountability for his actions. I can only hope that it catches up to him one day. But at the same time, I can not break no contact and indulge him again. He is dangerous.
I agree. There are plenty of naive and love hungry people. Narcs are master manipulators and abused women will take mr charming and work on the relationship for decades.
I was under the delusion that my mother would get better with age. She developed dementia in her 80s and became more paranoid and angry. She had a handgun and I asked her golden child/enabler, my older brother, to remove the weapon, but he refused. She threatened to kill the guy across the street, believing he was stealing her mail and she put a loaded weapon to my face. I left and never turned back. She died in her late 80s and left a trail of destruction for decades. Amazingly, she was never arrested but she weaponized the cops to do her bidding. I learned one thing. Blood isn't thicker than water.
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"The Blood of the Covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."
Is the real "quote." Not trying to be a know it all or anything, but.
Your story actually proves the real quote.
God Bless you Sister in Christ.❤🙏
I hear you 🕊️
Your brother is likely affected by demons too
Blood is thicker than water, but you can't see through blood unless you test it. Water is transparent, you can see through it.
Nola & Nelson are so beautiful to watch....they're just taking in the wonderful view. I just love my dog, she's my baby!
Dogs definately make a house a home. Thanks for bringing them for us to see again!
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So many people adopt and rescue dogs......the dog I have actually rescued me.
True story...😊
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Dogs are something special. They have a whole reality in their noses alone.
"They nose what goes." 🐕🦺🐕
@chazbickel4518
I believe you, same for me.
I truly believe they are divinely sent to us. Our gifts!
Blessings Chaz 💥👍
@jhavajoe3792
That's for darn sure! 👍
Night Joe 🌜
watching this laughing at how accurate he describes things. crying at how accurate he describes things.
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They eventually end up alone as each successive supply seems to be worse than their last until finally they get who they deserve a person worse than they are..
No matter where they are!
There they are!
It's so hard when you realize it was fake. But if you listen to them they will tell you about how they are doing it to others.
Yes
yes, they run the same playbook with everyone. Everyone? Yes, everyone😒
That is the absolute truth!!! In the early love bombing stage, my Narc said to me... "I wonder if X (an acquaintance of mine, that I often sat with at lunch) knows that I am using them. He actually did use her to get to me, as his first attempts were not successful as I hadn't really paid any attention to him. I dismissed what he said at that time, because I had drank the Koolaid. So sad 😢
That was/is the hardest part for me -- recognizing that it was never real. Not ever. Because it was so real to me.
True
Every day I wake up and realize how lucky I am to have survived him. He love-bombed me and painted a picture of him as this wonderful, giving man. He literally had multiple videos he made of him helping children who didn’t have father figures in their lives; showing them how to use tools and fix things, taking them on trips and joking around with them. He had videos of himself fixing cars for people who couldn’t afford a mechanic; he literally just asked them to cook him a pot of beans with some cornbread or a pot of spaghetti. I met the people in his videos and I was amazed by how kind he was. Until he didn’t get his way, then he manipulated, or at least tried to, by saying “I fixed her car for a pot of beans and now she won’t just do the little thing I ask”. He was a jolly, silly guy until I disobeyed him and then things were thrown or broken in a fit of rage. He punished me like a child. He would throw all my stuff outside and tell me to leave and then cry to people that I left him. I can’t count the number of people who came to me and questioned me why I wasn’t giving him a chance, “he loves you and he’s so devastated that you left him. Don’t you think you misunderstood him?”. To the point that I blamed myself and went back. One night, he swung something at my head and it came so close that I can still feel how my hair moved. I sometimes still have anxiety when people walk behind me. I have improved, I can stand in lines now (when I first left him, people standing behind me in stores or restaurants would give me panic attacks). But, when I realized that I could have died if he had actually been just a fraction of a second faster, I knew I couldn’t go back no matter how many sympathizers he sent my way. I still have anxiety when I hear people say that he asked about me. One woman said he was sleeping in his car in a parking lot near me, hoping to see me walking into the store (I have never returned to that store again in fear that he is still stalking around). I still keep all four locks locked on my door and won’t respond to a knocker without checking my ring app. But guess what? I’m alive. I can stand in lines. No small feat after escaping that hell of a marriage. Someone said he lost his house and is homeless now. I get no joy in it and I do feel sorry for anyone who gets involved with him but I won’t know because he doesn’t have my phone number and he doesn’t have control over me anymore.
Very informative, ty
I’m so sorry you endured that, but so glad you got out with your life!!!
Your ex reminds me of my mother’s second husband, who had money and claimed to love children and of course offered to take in me and my older brothers and treat us like his own. He lied and charmed snd manipulated. Turned out he chose my mom because she a bunch of cute tow headed kids he could psychologically, physically and sexually torture. They ended up having a son together when I was three years old, and the sick f*ck used my little brother to get his way, by threatening his life. My little brother was my reason for staying alive.
Not surprisingly my younger brother ended up just like him. 💯 narcissist and I was his main empath supply.
I finally cut my entire family off six years ago and wrote a book about my journey.
I went off on a tangent. Lol.
Yay to our freedom ! Cheers! 🥂
@@megstonewellness4220, you didn’t go off on a tangent, he made this video not just so he can support us but we can also support one another. Your mom’s boyfriend is definitely sick. My mom’s 2 husband sexually abused my brother’s and me. Being exposed to that somehow sets us up to end up with a narcissist. I thought I was so careful because I usually cut people off for far less than my ex did. Thankfully, he never sexually abused any of the kids but he used them as pawns to manipulate their parents “I helped your son so now you’re obligated to do what I say”. He didn’t literally say that but that is the sum of his intentions.
@@sddRd68ugh. I’m so sorry. I’m so relieved for you to be out of that cycle now. Well done 👏🏼🫶🏼
Sounds like my 43 long years. Thanking God everyday for my freedom from the abuser. I'm in security subsidized housing now and healing more everyday. I don't desire friendships in this small housing building. I see self centeredness here too. I help them, then, find myself having to pull away because of my PTSD. I know I'm gonna be ok.
I learned to recognize their behavior. Best to you and your future.
I'm still struggling after my husband and friend discarded me 30 years ago.i don't believe I'm a narcassistbut I carry on alone since I was discarded thankyou for enlightening me about narcassists I'm always watching out!
100%. The narcissistic lifestyle causes untold harm to those who love them. The wear and tear on the narcissist's body can cause illness. Mine passed early.
This is the truth. They look grey.
My ex narc hung himself my son found him cut him down. He was schizophrenic I found out at the end he was into drugs and an alcoholic. He was very abusive towards me and a cheater. I was able to leave at the end. God forgive me but I'm glad he is gone.
Sometimes the victims die early too because of the toll it takes on us. But that's what we're here to work past! Blessings to you all here
@@Alison-o9d Yes. Exactly as you said.
@@empathicwarriorlissy3716 Exactly as you said and I am sure that he did more hurtful things than you listed here. My hugs and love to you.
Thank you! It’s been many years since I won my physical freedom, and channels like yours, has helped me win my mental and spiritual freedom. God bless!
Welcome..😌💜🙏
I had very hard life in 20 years. it takes three years to get off from my relationship. now I’m married. I just realized what is happiness means.
Thank you so much my friend.
They are true examples of
LOST SOULS
I spent 30 some yrs with a covert narc. Need I say more.
Through God's grace, I survived, and was given some clarity. I'm grateful today.
Thank you for a reminder of my worth and that I am not alone. Never ever will I let a narcissist rob me of joy again. Peace is priceless.
🐶🥰🐶 sweet doggies!
Happy weekend everyone 🙏
You as well! Thanks! ❤️
I agree. Andrew’s poochies are cute.
You have a great day!🌺🌸🐶❤️🐶
The mask slipped so many times but I didn't want to believe it. It took me 5 months. Now I fully see what they are. It's so sad and pitiful.
Thank you for this video. The gaslighting is possibly the very worst aspect of these relationships. When you want accountability, there is only rejection.
Denial and then abandonment.
Narcissistic people are vicious and cunning. They will take everything and anything from you to satisfy their relentless hunger. My whole family is like this.
There is no room for toxic people, but there is plenty of room for dog noses. Glad you didn't edit it out.
❤ They try to out live, out lie, and create fantastical scenarios which there are most certainly the star player...
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My father loves being the biggest fish in the sea and doesn't want me to outdo him UNLESS he can somehow take credit for it. 😂
They spend money they do not have to buy things they do not need in order to impress people they do not like. They do not own any of that shit...IT owns them. peace
This guy knows exactly what he’s talking about. He’s amazing. Thank you. ❤
You hit the nail on the head!! My soon to be ex husband... He's a covert narcissist. I discovered the name for all this madness. Getting out of a very long, destructive, lonely, and abusive marriage!! 30 very long years! I feel like a butterfly 🦋 now!!
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I moved back home to take care of my 90+ yr old Father. Dad called me for help, because no one was doing anything for him & he was blind. My Narc Brother declared WAR when I returned & wouldn't OBEY his RULES. He went to my DR., friends & job to destroy my life. We were in our 60's! Dad passed at 97 & my Brother doubled down the abuse. I moved 5 states away. My Brother kept calling family down here in VA where I moved. He became so wrapped up in anger, that he fell off a roof & died. My friends said, "God took him away to protect you from his wrath". Narcissists are in complete conflict with the universe.
Bro, that's wild.
Wow
Jesus, talk about roid rage behavior right there. Your brother sounds like a freaking nutcase.
Your explanations are so spot on. Your understanding of the narcissist and the partner is so exact. Your ability to give such clear explanation and examples is tremendously educational. Thank you for your efforts to assist everyone in their recovery.
We are lucky to have U Andrew - LIVE LONG & PROSPER
I’m finally free and I’m feeling better after only a few days. Thank you for this video. The only thing I worry is that she’s trying to turn people against me, including mutual friends
Welcome..🙏💜😌
Beautiful Irish wolfhound’s. Do what you can to stay away from narcs. Narcs feed off your energy. Listen to this man - he’s totally right.
Thank you Andrew ❤
The tragic thing is that these people have so many insecurities that their terrible behaviour pushes away genuine ,loving people who could actually make them feel better about themselves .
This most recent 'relationship' has really taken its toll on me , but I'm doing my best to move forward, knowing I'm better off away from him ...❤xx
Before I become aware I would tell him he would be so much better off if he just realized I loved him and he didn’t act like that. That was the rare occasion I would see tears only for him to quickly double down. Like he was trapped in his own mess.
It took me many years before I realized who he truly was and many more to get away.
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist and have kids, GET OUT for your kids sake. The damage they suffer has long term repercussions.
100% true. My oldest who was exposed to his toxicity the longest has the biggest struggle. I left for safety reasons, and regret not leaving sooner! It’s my biggest regret of all. Life is good without their horrible, evil behavior. I feel bad for those he still uses as tools for his evil. But I cannot save those “flying monkeys.”
If you have had kids with a narcissist, it is too late. You will never get out. You will be connected to them forever, in that they maintain power over you through the kids. They do not love their own children. They destroy their kids like they destroy everyone they have access to, and they use their kids for life to do whatever damage they can to a former spouse.
True as they can change the kids with that behavior as dont want to be rejected by them as they are dependants.
Shame starfish you lost them so sad they were dependants so couldnt leave maybe.hope u can get it back one day.
@@HS-vr9ml true. Narcissists train children starting at a very young age to be dependent on them. They also train them to be victims in order to keep control of them for life. I have a half sister that is a narcissist. She has two daughters and both were s/xually assaulted at a young age by men she dated and exposed to them to. One of her daughters is gay and the other as a young adult has been violently s/xually assaulted more than once. These creatures are innately evil and everything they do, all the harm they cause is 100% deliberate. They are destroyers, liars and murd/erers like their father the devil.
My daughter is a narcissist. She has lied her way thru life and now lives hours from me and has told my grandchildren lies. It hurts, and she has hurt her children
I have the same problem with my daughter in law. I’d walk away easily if it weren’t for my 7 year old granddaughter whom she is harming!
My daughter in law is a narc. She is torturing my son and my 3 grandsons all have anger issues and the family is so dysfuntional. She hates me and if my son did not bring my grandkids to me i would never see them. It is wickedness to the core. I am so disheartened and praying for things to change.
When I think about the narcissists terrible treatment of me, thinking"why me".. I always think back to the line from The Wizard of Oz. It sums it up beautifully. Glenda the good witch is talking to Dorothy about the wicked witch wanting her shoes . She says to her "Keep tight inside of them, they must be very powerful or she wouldnt want them so badly". EXACTLY. Enough said. These are your gifts you were born with that they can only attempt to vicariously live through. Never forget that. Period.
Thank you.
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1st I cried when I read this and then i felt relief. THIS will be my new secret!!!! 🌼
My daughter is suffering results of narcissistic man who is trying to get custody of 4 year old son. 😢
@Windsong1 Good. 🥰 I hoped by sharing that, it would remind people of their secret super powers. 👏🏻
i endured so much while raising our kid. Now he’s 52, broke, back w his mama after several affairs, after not coming aroun for his girl, low financial support, low empathy, LOW LIFE ! Nothing was real. I still can’t believe this bs!
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