When i listened to this, even after years, it makes it all to clear why an empathic dead mentality can easily do all the traits. Triangulation, baiting, future faking, zero sum games, emotional abuse, your adrenal abuse, usery, etc, etc. But nowadays beat the yesterdaze by unmeasurable relief. It still, after years is a relief i can feel in my bones, muscles and especially being fog free. Wow... 👏
@@MissNancy Yep. It is not lost that after the gut punch of no good deed goes unpunished, that finality of a narc that can't be monogamous is a gift of freedom from self bondage of perpetual hope. In otherwords once you get a chance for no contact clarity it is almost mortifying what was endured. I always say my bad. They are what they are, I didnt know better but now we all do. That is the gift of these forums. 🤜🤛
It takes time to feel again. I was numb for a couple of years. Once healed and in a better place it is possible to feel sympathy for the narcissist and to just leave it there, and get on with your life. Although even years after they'll still try and reconnect and they can be spontaneous opportunists, or move with stealth and wait for a time when you might be vulnerable (i.e. in the aftermath of a personal disaster) and might let your guard down.
They PRETEND to care.. but they care about what you can do for them. That's it. The relationship is way off balance. They just want to control your every move, to their benefit.
The tides have turned indeed. His new instant relationship with his latest “ fiancé”ended. His poor lifestyle choices resulted in a medical diagnosis that will ultimately shorten his life. His kids are estranged. Can’t afford the Corvette. Needs to find a place. He’s emailing me, coming around me at work wanting to reconcile. Co workers are on to him. I feel bad he’s ill, I’m an empath to the core. BUT we’ve done this dance for 10 years. Done but I still need this perfectly timed content, thank you 🙏
One person it won't happen to is the woman I called my wife for 27 yrs. Cheating & lying & taking /Awarded assets she never helped build, will see she thrives. Also it is the reason all this happened. She knew No Fault Divorce would not do anything about all this.
You did all you could, now it is his responsibility to care for himself. If you were ill, he wouldn't give a crap!!! You paid the price, and now cash in on that happiness. I just yearn for the day I can get out. Financially I'm stuck, but I keep praying and know that soon I will also be free. I'm happy for you.
For most narcissists the wheel of fortune usually lands on “too little, too late” eventually. Narcs don’t invest in life; they invest in destruction and chaos which is what they manifest when their charm offensive inevitably ages out .. 🤔🤷♀️
In my experience the narcissist ends the relationshit with more financial freedom than the abused. But if the abused is blessed by his God they usually bounce back once health and clarity has come back. Remember the courts protect the narcissist.
This is a very highly sophisticated and manipulative dark, evil force. And this is much bigger than we know. Stay strong on the high road and trust God…. Keep looking up 🙏🏻♥️🌎🎺🕊️
@SLLiberty23-you are so right cause we cannot see the spiritual world and the demons that have highjacked these people. My belief is that God finally gave them over to a reprobate mind, after years of refusing to repent & change their ways. They allowed the demons to come in by all their wickedness, then got comfortable with them, so Why change…this is working so well right?? God says “we reap what we sow”. He also says “vengeance is Mine, I will repay”. I definitely don’t want to be anywhere around when His wrath falls upon them. Blessings to all 🙏🩵
Self isolating for healing really is the way. They isolated me and stonewalled me as a punishment. Now I consider it a blessing. Appreciate that advice, I have not heard other people say that and emphasize it's importance.
These are the two reasons I changed my life period. Timothy 2:22 and Psalms 34:18 My job had more flying monkeys than the Wizard of Ozz. My sobriety was at jeopardy and than the marriage confirmed what my spirit was telling me. Now my life is different but I feel safe with God and my sobriety. Sad thing is it's not with the people I love. God has shown me that those you love may not love you and if that be it then it shall be.
Once the penny drops, you stop calling them on their lies, you just observe and remember, so by the time you tell them it is over, they are gobsmacked.
My alcoholic narssist is losing control of me, her mother, her sisters. Party's over. And crazy just keeps thinking how great they are. And blaming others for not helping enough. Boundaries! Stay away from the narc!! Don't let them steal YOUR HEALTH that's what they do! Stick to your boundaries!
I feel your pain, I am still in trouble, even though 6 months have passed since he discarded me I wish someone saved me… I know it has to be me, but still…🤪😄🌷
Post narcissistic relationship all we have to do is educate ourselves and move on. The universe or God whatever your beliefs are will take care of these narcissists. And it's better not to be around them when it happens. Have a great evening Andrew and everyone 😊💞💜🫶🏔🙏
Brilliant film andrew my evil mother is experiencing exactly this ...they age very badly and reap what they sow...in my mind I have no mother anymore she is dead to me. Love and peace to you all ❤❤
It seems like so many people are victims of one or more narcs.L these days. Everything Andrew shares here is true. It’s often hard to stand our ground but it is crucial that we do so. I hope that newly freed people do not go back because of holiday loneliness. It is better to be quiet and alone than to be totally distraught , or worse, because the narcissist was allowed back in out of some false hope. Better days do come. It is cold here too Andrew!
"I want to be able to break plans with you if my "buddies" come up to fish and we have plans." the ex narc said this within the first few months of our relationship beginning. I should have left him then instead of 6 months later. He certainly thought he was all that when he was just a pathetic old man.
Hey Andrew for the first time I'm free from free from the narcissist I have my life and she has her life I can watch WWE pay-per-view and peace and quiet without the narcissist blowing up my phone or eating my dinner while she calls me a lot for the first time I feel alive and it feels great
My ex girlfriend is (I believe) a covert narcissist. I always wondered why she claimed to love London so much when she rarely explored it. I think she loved London because it offered her anonymity as and when she burnt another bridge. She claimed she begged her parents to send her to boarding school at 6 which I found hard to believe, but perhaps she wanted to be able to play her games away from the watchful eyes of her family and neighbours in the quiet village (where everybody knew each other, and talked) and seek refuge in the city boarding school where there were more people and opportunities. If so then it worked for her. I met her when we were teens and she was at my friend's boarding school. I'm starting to regret that encounter now.
I just want to say, you are amazing, and you deserve gold credibility for your outstanding knowledge. And stregth, not just for you ,but the entire nation but this speaks volumes For the victims .Your counselling is amazing, to say the least 🇬🇧
You are a blessing to me. You have continued to open my eyes to the truth. For many years, I have been wallowing with emotional pain that I couldn’t understand until I listened to your message.
Great video Andrew I am in that cocoon of boundaries right now trying to heal from decades of this type of craziness it's been a process but thanks to channels like this I'm slowly regaining my sanity. Thank you Andrew 🙂
Thanks so much Andrew! I thought for so much of my life that as I was taught, "blood was thicker than water." What I've learned is that being involved with so-called family can be fatal or definitely toxic. This is something that the monarchs always knew. Not being wealthy doesn't protect against a narcarcistic family. They will kill you or your spirit and happiness for free! I am free to now choose who I will call family. Be blessed ❤
Thank you Andrew when you mentioned the common denominator it struck a chord. Recently a friend told me she missed another of our friends, she mentioned how she was close to this friend and would go to her house have nice meals etc. I asked her when did it stop she thought for a while and just said the name of the narcissist. I said to her there you have it, yet again the narcissist has broken up another friendship. Another interesting point one of the narcissists daughters does not want to know her and has not seen her in a year, now I know why. These narcissistic people are like bulldozers of evil and destruction. This narcissist is dead to me, I’m recovering and feeling finally I’m in a good place and thanks to you too Andrew😌
More and more I can see how blessed I’ve been to have a couple of real friends around me who could see clearly that I was in the throes of a toxic bond and risked our relationship to call it out. I hated hearing it, but I couldn’t escape the ring of truth. Now that’s a true friend!
My narc on the last visit I paid her and to my surprise all her things packed in the living room apartment she moved to heading to another state in the morning 😮 Anyways she cried surprisingly (narc injury) and said about 6 times over and over “forgive me, forgive me, forgive me while we hugged.. She was in tears I wasn’t, I was devastated, but I was concealing it very well. The only thing I can figure why she was so was this disillusion of “her”marriage was causing serious injury to her pride. I would have loved to stay and just talk, but narcissist don’t sit and talk, she never sat with me and shared her thoughts and dreams and hopes and fears, narcissist don’t do that.. But I thought it was strange she kept saying, forgive me.. looking back and that was back in March, I’m thinking maybe there’s hope for her if she can access things inside or she knows she’s done wrong to people. But that is more than likely, just wishful thinking on my part and I will never try to make plans or dream about that kind of wishful thinking in regard to her.. she had plenty of time to enjoy herself around me, but narcissist do not enjoy life.. I like to go to restaurants. It is a lot of fun., all she ever did was look around the room and intensely scan the room, seemingly distracted by me trying to talk to her..
Did everything, I had no idea I would be at the hands of many narcissistic relationships. Unbelievable yet understandable as I was groomed to be in destructive relationships until I walked away. These folks are empty vessels with no heart. Any child that has endured sexual, physical verbal and spiritual abuse are and will be compensated in full. We actually can not be compensated completely.
I never told my family as they haven't been through any life problems like mine. Maybe a sister. I've started to become a bit more active and eating a bit healthier. Taken me a year or so. Thanks Andrew.
Though you do not feel this way now someday you will be so grateful that he left The problem is they never leave They come back over and over and over if you let them Never let him back in or you will never get off that painful cycle
Andrew I just realized an important part of our no contact is us moving out of the way so God, karma, the crop of the seeds they’ve sewn can bare down on them the consequences of their actions.
Andrew YOU are the BOSS on education and straight up Knowledge of narcissism!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you 🙏 for your support and help and understanding and your wisdom and empathy and love for humanity!!!!!!!!!!!
All the time I wasted trying to explain him the obvious.. He probably was not even reading my messages, because he was hardly ever reacting to the content. They have no intention to resolve anything. He told me "I dont know what the problem is" after I tried to fix the issues by comnunicating about it for more than half a year. Might as well have been talking to a wall 😅 Its like rowing a boat together, but the other one is deliberately peddling in the wrong direction. At the end of the relationship he told me that love ruines everything. And that he showed me now that sincerity doesnt exist between people and love is fake. That has been the most real he has been with me.
Absolutely agree. The tides will turn. People will work it out. Narcissists lack constancy in behaviour. They aren't able to remain stable, consistent, and self-regulate mood through conversation. As a result, people are exposed rather quickly and unexpectedly, more often, as the narcissist gets more desperate and impatient in getting the outcome they're after. Their anger and cunning intensifies (particularly as they age), becomes more frequent as they realise they have wasted their life i.e. No one wants to be around them, they have no one to go home to. They must work harder, to get little, if anything in return. People catch on to their motives, fakeness, lying, cheating, manipulation, drama, abuse, and using people to get what they want I have observed this in the workplace.
When the tides change for the narc.....THEY FREAK, as they should!!!! Cowards & bullies don't get a free pass. Like everyone else on the planet, its called karma! Be Well, Be Wise & continue to choose to LOVE YOU, "YOU" ARE YOUR BEST FRIEND 🌈🎀😘
Yes, we are our Best Friends and long overdue on giving ourselves Positive Talk. No, not "Stewart Smiley-isms," but serious commitment to a "Can do, 'Take no prisoners Resolve'." It can be a new job, new neighborhood, new social group and even in a group home when you age ... they'll always be a Narc or Narc-like entity sizing you up. Consider yourselves educated and it will carry you for the rest of your life. Have a Good one, Marie and community, 2025 is just around the corner where your Good Luck will be meeting you!👍💪👐
@JHavaJoe2-m1z Ok Joe...I'm ready....I receive that! Perhaps I'll meet an astronaut 👩🚀 & fly🚀to the moon 🌜.... The sky's the limit! But however...if coffee ☕☕ is not involved, I'm not goin'!!!
@@marieeakin8534 Hohoho! I already cynically guessed, they'll construct a starbucks near some Moon Crater. I'll wait for The Mom and Pop Enterprise. 🚀🛸☕☕🌕
@@JHavaJoe2-m1z another great comment Joe!!! Narcissists will always keep you fighting for peace but the healing path teaches you how to defend peace. When you keep moving forward there will always be something there waiting to meet you. 😊✌
Oh wow thank you. I needed this video today. There were so many moments of weakness during which I missed the ex narc to the point of distraction. And what did I miss? The verbal abuse? That's not love. It isn't supposed to feel like illness, with a knot in the stomach. My health is important. Toxic people have no place in my life.
I'm just divorced. I'm a thousand miles away. I think his karma is going to be so bad, I don't dare find out. There's no peaking or checking up on him on my part. I think it would be like watching Sodom and Gomorrah burn. Not a pretty sight.
Amazingly enough...the tides start changing (against the narc) when I stop waiting for karma. This has been difficult for me because I felt so much rage I could hardly keep focused. I am fighting a war on 2 fronts right now; but now I have found a superpower...something changed and I have PEACE, even though I got tricked again...and I know I will find my way out again.
@JHavaJoe2-m1z Absolutely! Thinking vengeful thoughts is natural...but one has to dig deeper and be the better person...A narc only wants to steal your peace and pull you down to their level...
Thank you. I’ve been in therapy for years and no one ever explained this so plainly as you have. I am in a precarious place right now. I am trying to help my Mom get away from my narcissistic and verbally abusive Dad, and this is getting ugly. I have two sisters who my Dad is using as enablers and his flying monkeys, they don’t seem to see what is really going on here, or they just think they had better go along with him or he will come after them, I’m not sure. I’m trying to find a two bedroom apartment that is some distance away from my Dad in a different city, but my Mom has a lot of friends near her that she wants to stay in touch with, so she wants to get a place not far from my Dad’s house. She has this idea that she and my Dad could still be on some kind of friendly basis or something like that, I know that’s not happening!!!! And I really can’t be the one to protect her from him anymore, she’s 81, she should have left him years ago, what do I do here??? My Mom is in the hospital now, but she will probably be discharged this week. I just called adult protective services, they will contact me tomorrow on Monday. On Tuesday I have to leave the hotel I’m staying at that the Salvation Army put me up in for a week. I am close to being totally homeless, I don’t even have a car. I have a huge credit card bill I have to pay off, from staying at hotels to get away from my Dad, no job right now. My Mom says she will help to pay off part of my bill, but I know she needs her money, and if my two sisters find out that my Mom is helping me in this way, they will get upset, I will be accused of manipulating my Mom which I am NOT doing, they will probably tell my Dad and then I will REALLY get it from him and be an absolute target of all his rage, and he’s not going to like it that my Mom is getting an apartment away from him. The local police are aware of the situation, they won’t do anything!!! This is all escalating. At this point I think I just need to save myself, I love my Mom but she has been too delusional for too long. I am scared as hell of being totally homeless here with little money, having to stay at a homeless shelter. That’s only where you can go at night, otherwise you are wandering around during the day. I am considering renting a car for at least a week, so I can get around and then my Mom can use her own car. I know my Dad purposely set this situation up so he could bleed me dry of my money, I’ve had enough!!! I need to exit this toxic family system, my Mom is really the only one who truly cares about me, she is going to have to help herself like I have to save myself. I have to cut off contact with all of them, at least for awhile, and definitely never talk to my Dad again. Just walk away, it’s possible he could become violent towards me, I have always known he has a shady side. My husband passed away last year, he was very concerned about my relationship with my Dad, there wasn’t a lot he could do to intervene. But he knew my Dad was abusive towards me, and he didn’t like it. I am moving away, to the next county for now. I definitely need some distance here.
THAT is the situation the narcs always pit you in. My mom was 79 and died in a mysterious fire. Her narc of decades lived right next door and didn't call the fire department so her house burnt all night to the ground. She should have left earlier, too. There are eight of us kids. We've found her places to live and even offered to let her stay with us. I called elder protective services two months prior. Since she could take care of herself and make her own decisions, we couldn't do anything. Just my advice. Get the apartment father away. Your mother may come.
she had anorexia she was told her organs where shutting down she did not go for treatment she was 90 lbs found dead like Karan carpenter i would not wish this on anybody thank you Andrew for the education the tides really turned on her
Only known this person foe 8 months. At 70, life is protected almost over. I'm about to loose my home because he had me pegged. Used up my savings. I hurt so bad can't seem to wrap this around my head. Please God help me!!!
Deborah . . . Don't give up! You can rent a room to a college student. You can get a part-time job at Costco. You can drive a school bus. Get some income and rebuild. Go to your Bishop and ask for help! "Be of Good Cheer." Christ wants to heal you. You are "worthy," you are "whole," you are a "Daughter of God!" You have Options!
Good morning thank you for this message much needed to listen too yes the tides will soon turn on him and that family. No reach out to me to say we sorry that my brother did you like this but we cut for no cause they could use me no more along with him when his mask fell the whole family mask fell as well. Now I know what I deal with fir the last 18 years in that family no empathy from all of them. Thank you Andrew have a bless rest of the week❤
You know The Narcissist so well. Your videos bring me a lot of peace and validation after the chaos, destruction, and heartbreak he wrought in my life. And confusion!!! Thank you. ❤❤
People used to take me as granted.I never said -no - So they kept me a side, for their convenience. So long I have being waited.I could read them. I left them off from my life. Now they are manipulating,and try to be me and stolen my identity from me .Even the system is against me,bcz I know their true colours.YUP. Now its started to sucking back to the Karma bcz of their bad deeds to others.
Ya...I knew it in my heart for so long that he never had my back.... But when I was bullied into buying a house.....and then that wasn't enough.... I was fn done.....took 3 years to get him to leave
Firstly thanks for these videos i watch every day. Please acknowledge more that some of us left the narcissist and were Reverse Discarded. And feel guilty for leaving sometimes. Its a different battle when you're the one leaving your wife. Lots of chatter in the mind feeling like I'm abandoning her. Would love if this community could show me some support. Im 3.5 months out atill going through divorce process. Its still hard not to be stuck in euphoric recall. 9 Rollercoaster years together. 6 married. Many huge ups and downs.
You have to look after number one which is you. I'm sure you had very good reasons for leaving & if she is a narcissistic or toxic person you need to run & stay away from these's dark souls. They never change. I hope you start to heal & find happiness that you deserve ✨️ ❤️ blessings 🌞 🙌
It is so very true that we do feel that we have abandoned them. We have to work through all of the stages of grief. None of us were used to putting ourselves first. In time, with hind sight, we see that we did have to leave miserable people. It is not what we would have wished to do in Life. We have been more prone to giving others endless chances to change. In the end, it is us who have to change. We stop people pleasing and people fixing. Leaving is what saves us. Because we cannot save them, does not mean that we did not do more than our part. In the end, they have to remain in their own negative reality. We have to move on and learn who we really are. Each person in this life has the free will to grow or not grow. We choose to pry ourselves free and grow. It is good. In time, it becomes great.
It's traumatic. You may be carrying on through the months and years and feel you're managing pretty good and on track. For myself, I couldn't see what was internalized, covered over, etc.How else was I to carry on? But it resulted in buried anguish, a coldness and taking it out on the wrong people.The worst was self--destructive behavior. In other words, you may be in the vulnerable zone, though you won't know it. Good Luck ... every step of the way!
I'm going to share something interesting. When the narcissist at a distance is angry at me the weather gets really windy in my local vicinity, like today. I returned their energy yesterday.
The narco-path is seriously messed up. They will go to any measure to destroy the objects of their jealousy unless exposed, penalized, and stopped (I mean any measure).
A therapist on YT explained all the ways that gay men and narcissists -- both gay or straight- -- can have a symbiotic, fulfilling relationship. I called BS in my comment, and replying to individuals I saw susceptible to odd, jackass, and suspicious ideas. I compared empaths to star basketball players at a small, liberal arts college. Now, put those players in the NBA! 'Nuff said.
‘Ski trips to Vancouver’ That cuts deep Andrew. I’m from Vancouver but I relocated years ago at the hands of the narcissist to Belfast, Northern Ireland, totally isolated! Fortunately I have the kids and I have escaped the narcissist after years of court. Living nightmare but I am free, happy and healthy. I will definitely resist the incoming holiday hoover. Keep up the good work Andrew!
The narcs were my family and it took me 40 years to figure out what I was dealing with. It came after a group betrayal and very public diacard where my family decided it was agood idea to defraud another state and kidnap my kids. Now, they're in a lot of trouble, two and half years of this madness. I'm pressing charges and they will have to gain their "supply" elsewhere. Thanks for these messages.
When i listened to this, even after years, it makes it all to clear why an empathic dead mentality can easily do all the traits. Triangulation, baiting, future faking, zero sum games, emotional abuse, your adrenal abuse, usery, etc, etc. But nowadays beat the yesterdaze by unmeasurable relief. It still, after years is a relief i can feel in my bones, muscles and especially being fog free. Wow... 👏
Thank you for sharing this..😌😌🙏💜⛰️
@@bradmcewen Fog Free feels like you're in a brand new reality, doesn't it. It's like you've been born again.
Stay strong! You have a brand new radar. Use it!
@@MissNancy Yep. It is not lost that after the gut punch of no good deed goes unpunished, that finality of a narc that can't be monogamous is a gift of freedom from self bondage of perpetual hope. In otherwords once you get a chance for no contact clarity it is almost mortifying what was endured. I always say my bad. They are what they are, I didnt know better but now we all do. That is the gift of these forums. 🤜🤛
The education and awareness is indeed a gift! The greater odds are in your favor, you'll never be conned like that again. Never!
I have run out of words to express my gratitude to you Andrew....The divorce will be final hopefully mid Jan.
The healing has begun....
Welcome..💜⛰️🙏
Hope all goes well for you 🙏 sending blessings 🙌 ❤
He contacted me today, telling me everything is falling apart, and I felt NOTHING! Healing is on it’s way! 🙏
I wouldn't have picked up the phone.
Stay free and forever single ❤
@@MsBrooklyn62 email...
It takes time to feel again. I was numb for a couple of years. Once healed and in a better place it is possible to feel sympathy for the narcissist and to just leave it there, and get on with your life. Although even years after they'll still try and reconnect and they can be spontaneous opportunists, or move with stealth and wait for a time when you might be vulnerable (i.e. in the aftermath of a personal disaster) and might let your guard down.
Can't wait to get there
The fact that they get fuel from you being uncontent is soooo messed up.
They PRETEND to care.. but they care about what you can do for them. That's it. The relationship is way off balance. They just want to control your every move, to their benefit.
The tides have turned indeed.
His new instant relationship with his latest “ fiancé”ended.
His poor lifestyle choices resulted in a medical diagnosis that will ultimately shorten his life.
His kids are estranged.
Can’t afford the Corvette.
Needs to find a place.
He’s emailing me, coming around me at work wanting to reconcile. Co workers are on to him.
I feel bad he’s ill, I’m an empath to the core. BUT we’ve done this dance for 10 years.
Done but I still need this perfectly timed content, thank you 🙏
Welcome..😌🙏💜
One person it won't happen to is the woman I called my wife for 27 yrs. Cheating & lying & taking /Awarded assets she never helped build, will see she thrives. Also it is the reason all this happened. She knew No Fault Divorce would not do anything about all this.
Wow. It’s sad but you did the best you could. Now you have moved forward ❤
You escaped both of you. They are only capable of worse. You were worthy of love, they are just not capable of it, only evil. @@kscott7657
You did all you could, now it is his responsibility to care for himself. If you were ill, he wouldn't give a crap!!! You paid the price, and now cash in on that happiness. I just yearn for the day I can get out. Financially I'm stuck, but I keep praying and know that soon I will also be free. I'm happy for you.
I am so lonely but i guess its better then being treated badly 😢
💯. You were alone even when they were there…
For most narcissists the wheel of fortune usually lands on “too little, too late” eventually. Narcs don’t invest in life; they invest in destruction and chaos which is what they manifest when their charm offensive inevitably ages out .. 🤔🤷♀️
And when their bank accounts run DRY as a bone!
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🔥🔥🔥Well said!!! 👏🏻💯💯
In my experience the narcissist ends the relationshit with more financial freedom than the abused. But if the abused is blessed by his God they usually bounce back once health and clarity has come back. Remember the courts protect the narcissist.
This is a very highly sophisticated and manipulative dark, evil force. And this is much bigger than we know. Stay strong on the high road and trust God…. Keep looking up 🙏🏻♥️🌎🎺🕊️
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@SLLiberty23-you are so right cause we cannot see the spiritual world and the demons that have highjacked these people. My belief is that God finally gave them over to a reprobate mind, after years of refusing to repent & change their ways. They allowed the demons to come in by all their wickedness, then got comfortable with them, so Why change…this is working so well right?? God says “we reap what we sow”. He also says “vengeance is Mine, I will repay”. I definitely don’t want to be anywhere around when His wrath falls upon them. Blessings to all 🙏🩵
demons from the bowel of hell
@ Jami thank you for this ..agree 💯💝🙏🏻
"You can't put the toothpaste back in the tube. You can't put the genie back in the bottle. You can't un-ring the bell.💖👏
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Self isolating for healing really is the way.
They isolated me and stonewalled me as a punishment.
Now I consider it a blessing.
Appreciate that advice, I have not heard other people say that and emphasize it's importance.
These are the two reasons I changed my life period. Timothy 2:22 and Psalms 34:18 My job had more flying monkeys than the Wizard of Ozz. My sobriety was at jeopardy and than the marriage confirmed what my spirit was telling me. Now my life is different but I feel safe with God and my sobriety. Sad thing is it's not with the people I love. God has shown me that those you love may not love you and if that be it then it shall be.
Once the penny drops, you stop calling them on their lies, you just observe and remember, so by the time you tell them it is over, they are gobsmacked.
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My alcoholic narssist is losing control of me, her mother, her sisters. Party's over. And crazy just keeps thinking how great they are. And blaming others for not helping enough. Boundaries! Stay away from the narc!! Don't let them steal YOUR HEALTH that's what they do! Stick to your boundaries!
Been struggling a bit lately. Thank you Andrew for your Strength and Wisdom. ❤❤
Welcome..😌😌🙏
Andrew says the healing path is not linear. There will be good days and bad days. It's hard to be patient, but you will get there.🌹
You are stronger than you know. Believe in yourself. Focus on you. You got this.
I feel your pain, I am still in trouble, even though 6 months have passed since he discarded me
I wish someone saved me… I know it has to be me, but still…🤪😄🌷
Post narcissistic relationship all we have to do is educate ourselves and move on. The universe or God whatever your beliefs are will take care of these narcissists. And it's better not to be around them when it happens. Have a great evening Andrew and everyone 😊💞💜🫶🏔🙏
You betcha Miss Marie!
Good, fun & prosperous vibes being sent your way. Much love 💪❤
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I'm proud of you too.
Yes, do be very proud of yourself.
Brilliant film andrew my evil mother is experiencing exactly this ...they age very badly and reap what they sow...in my mind I have no mother anymore she is dead to me. Love and peace to you all ❤❤
Same! Prayers and blessings to you!🙏💟🌻
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I’m no contact since 2015 from my demon mother. Peace is everything.
It seems like so many people are victims of one or more narcs.L these days. Everything Andrew shares here is true. It’s often hard to stand our ground but it is crucial that we do so. I hope that newly freed people do not go back because of holiday loneliness. It is better to be quiet and alone than to be totally distraught , or worse, because the narcissist was allowed back in out of some false hope. Better days do come. It is cold here too Andrew!
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"I want to be able to break plans with you if my "buddies" come up to fish and we have plans." the ex narc said this within the first few months of our relationship beginning. I should have left him then instead of 6 months later. He certainly thought he was all that when he was just a pathetic old man.
Hey Andrew for the first time I'm free from free from the narcissist I have my life and she has her life I can watch WWE pay-per-view and peace and quiet without the narcissist blowing up my phone or eating my dinner while she calls me a lot for the first time I feel alive and it feels great
Fantastic, Steve!
Yay!!!! Enjoy!!!
Good on you 👏 👍 enjoy your life to the fullest 🎉 💪
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Thank you Andrew. Your presence is so positive and comforting ❤️
Great 👍 idea! These ppl are not normal - scary
My ex girlfriend is (I believe) a covert narcissist. I always wondered why she claimed to love London so much when she rarely explored it. I think she loved London because it offered her anonymity as and when she burnt another bridge. She claimed she begged her parents to send her to boarding school at 6 which I found hard to believe, but perhaps she wanted to be able to play her games away from the watchful eyes of her family and neighbours in the quiet village (where everybody knew each other, and talked) and seek refuge in the city boarding school where there were more people and opportunities. If so then it worked for her. I met her when we were teens and she was at my friend's boarding school. I'm starting to regret that encounter now.
I just want to say, you are amazing, and you deserve gold credibility for your outstanding knowledge. And stregth, not just for you ,but the entire nation but this speaks volumes
For the victims .Your counselling is amazing, to say the least 🇬🇧
I agree!! ANDREW is so wonderful,,, and a gold light!!! I watch every morning ,,, over here in South of France🇫🇷🫎🌲🤗
You are a blessing to me. You have continued to open my eyes to the truth. For many years, I have been wallowing with emotional pain that I couldn’t understand until I listened to your message.
Great video…no one can treat another human the was they do and not suffer consequences… Thank you and have a great evening!
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The disrespect is the closure. Thank you for this v log
Great video Andrew I am in that cocoon of boundaries right now trying to heal from decades of this type of craziness it's been a process but thanks to channels like this I'm slowly regaining my sanity.
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they will not be standing up for you and it’s disappointing when you know it.
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Thanks so much Andrew! I thought for so much of my life that as I was taught, "blood was thicker than water." What I've learned is that being involved with so-called family can be fatal or definitely toxic. This is something that the monarchs always knew. Not being wealthy doesn't protect against a narcarcistic family. They will kill you or your spirit and happiness for free!
I am free to now choose who I will call family. Be blessed ❤
Another great analysis.
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I know some lonely people. No one can stand to be around them. It's so sad.😢
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Diddy is feeling the blow finally
"If you kick me when I'm down you better pray I don't get up" 😊
when the tide turns against them disconnect don’t wish them ill-will
forgive them, think and
move forward feel thankful, grateful and blessed
Thank you Andrew when you mentioned the common denominator it struck a chord. Recently a friend told me she missed another of our friends, she mentioned how she was close to this friend and would go to her house have nice meals etc. I asked her when did it stop she thought for a while and just said the name of the narcissist. I said to her there you have it, yet again the narcissist has broken up another friendship. Another interesting point one of the narcissists daughters does not want to know her and has not seen her in a year, now I know why.
These narcissistic people are like bulldozers of evil and destruction. This narcissist is dead to me, I’m recovering and feeling finally I’m in a good place and thanks to you too Andrew😌
More and more I can see how blessed I’ve been to have a couple of real friends around me who could see clearly that I was in the throes of a toxic bond and risked our relationship to call it out. I hated hearing it, but I couldn’t escape the ring of truth. Now that’s a true friend!
Thank you Andrew! 2 years of peace!!!!! Life is beautiful!!!
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My narc on the last visit I paid her and to my surprise all her things packed in the living room apartment she moved to heading to another state in the morning 😮
Anyways she cried surprisingly (narc injury) and said about 6 times over and over “forgive me, forgive me, forgive me while we hugged.. She was in tears I wasn’t, I was devastated, but I was concealing it very well. The only thing I can figure why she was so was this disillusion of “her”marriage was causing serious injury to her pride. I would have loved to stay and just talk, but narcissist don’t sit and talk, she never sat with me and shared her thoughts and dreams and hopes and fears, narcissist don’t do that.. But I thought it was strange she kept saying, forgive me.. looking back and that was back in March, I’m thinking maybe there’s hope for her if she can access things inside or she knows she’s done wrong to people. But that is more than likely, just wishful thinking on my part and I will never try to make plans or dream about that kind of wishful thinking in regard to her.. she had plenty of time to enjoy herself around me, but narcissist do not enjoy life.. I like to go to restaurants. It is a lot of fun., all she ever did was look around the room and intensely scan the room, seemingly distracted by me trying to talk to her..
So well thought out, and said.
Thank you for sharing let's pray she finds a God of her understanding but take care of yourself and remember that you are for God's higher purpose.
Did everything, I had no idea I would be at the hands of many narcissistic relationships. Unbelievable yet understandable as I was groomed to be in destructive relationships until I walked away. These folks are empty vessels with no heart.
Any child that has endured sexual, physical verbal and spiritual abuse are and will be compensated in full.
We actually can not be compensated completely.
God can restore all the years the locust has eaten..
I never told my family as they haven't been through any life problems like mine. Maybe a sister. I've started to become a bit more active and eating a bit healthier. Taken me a year or so. Thanks Andrew.
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He left me broke my heart I'm here in tears
Though you do not feel this way now someday you will be so grateful that he left The problem is they never leave They come back over and over and over if you let them Never let him back in or you will never get off that painful cycle
Andrew I just realized an important part of our no contact is us moving out of the way so God, karma, the crop of the seeds they’ve sewn can bare down on them the consequences of their actions.
Thank you Andrew for educating people of these demonic narcissists.
Once again nail on head....he is over there on rebound #3 when we just split in August and I am over here breathing, growing, healing
We never give up ❤
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Andrew YOU are the BOSS on education and straight up Knowledge of narcissism!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you 🙏 for your support and help and understanding and your wisdom and empathy and love for humanity!!!!!!!!!!!
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All the time I wasted trying to explain him the obvious.. He probably was not even reading my messages, because he was hardly ever reacting to the content. They have no intention to resolve anything.
He told me "I dont know what the problem is" after I tried to fix the issues by comnunicating about it for more than half a year. Might as well have been talking to a wall 😅
Its like rowing a boat together, but the other one is deliberately peddling in the wrong direction.
At the end of the relationship he told me that love ruines everything. And that he showed me now that sincerity doesnt exist between people and love is fake. That has been the most real he has been with me.
And then they project and tell you that YOU don’t know how to communicate!!!
Best we realize it sooner than later! 💟
Be glad you have that pig out of your life. You enjoy your own wonderful life sending you peace & happiness 🎉❤🙌
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HE CANNOT LOVE,THEREFORE HE IS NOT VESTED..IN YOU.
Thank you for your tireless work, brother andrew! ❤
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Andrew is wonderful helping us all here 👏 getting the wisdom we all need. 🎉❤
Thanks, Andrew. I understand that most of my life was fake, phony and for the most part, A nightmare!
Hi, how do you deal with that? It’s still almost unbearable for me to understand
Feels as if I was a freak not worth loving
I really appreciate these videos, another great reaffirming one- thank you.
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Yea... Its so hard today, but you talk to me and i feel your love so deep in my heart. 💖🌞🇦🇹💚
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Absolutely agree. The tides will turn. People will work it out. Narcissists lack constancy in behaviour. They aren't able to remain stable, consistent, and self-regulate mood through conversation.
As a result, people are exposed rather quickly and unexpectedly, more often, as the narcissist gets more desperate and impatient in getting the outcome they're after. Their anger and cunning intensifies (particularly as they age), becomes more frequent as they realise they have wasted their life i.e. No one wants to be around them, they have no one to go home to.
They must work harder, to get little, if anything in return.
People catch on to their motives, fakeness, lying, cheating, manipulation, drama, abuse, and using people to get what they want
I have observed this in the workplace.
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When the tides change for the narc.....THEY FREAK, as they should!!!!
Cowards & bullies don't get a free pass. Like everyone else on the planet,
its called karma!
Be Well, Be Wise & continue to choose to LOVE YOU, "YOU" ARE YOUR BEST FRIEND 🌈🎀😘
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Yes, we are our Best Friends and long overdue on giving ourselves Positive Talk. No, not "Stewart Smiley-isms,"
but serious commitment to a "Can do, 'Take no prisoners Resolve'." It can be a new job, new neighborhood, new social group and even in a group home when you age ... they'll always be a Narc or Narc-like entity sizing you up. Consider yourselves
educated and it will carry you for the rest of your life. Have a Good one, Marie and community, 2025 is just around the corner
where your Good Luck will be meeting you!👍💪👐
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Ok Joe...I'm ready....I receive that!
Perhaps I'll meet an astronaut 👩🚀 & fly🚀to the moon 🌜.... The sky's the limit!
But however...if coffee ☕☕ is not involved,
I'm not goin'!!!
@@marieeakin8534 Hohoho! I already cynically guessed, they'll construct a starbucks near some Moon Crater.
I'll wait for The Mom and Pop Enterprise. 🚀🛸☕☕🌕
@@JHavaJoe2-m1z another great comment Joe!!! Narcissists will always keep you fighting for peace but the healing path teaches you how to defend peace. When you keep moving forward there will always be something there waiting to meet you.
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Oh wow thank you. I needed this video today. There were so many moments of weakness during which I missed the ex narc to the point of distraction. And what did I miss? The verbal abuse? That's not love. It isn't supposed to feel like illness, with a knot in the stomach. My health is important. Toxic people have no place in my life.
My ex husband is now experiencing exactly this thanks to Karma
I'm just divorced. I'm a thousand miles away. I think his karma is going to be so bad, I don't dare find out. There's no peaking or checking up on him on my part. I think it would be like watching Sodom and Gomorrah burn. Not a pretty sight.
Amazingly enough...the tides start changing (against the narc) when I stop waiting for karma. This has been difficult for me because I felt so much rage I could hardly keep focused. I am fighting a war on 2 fronts right now; but now I have found a superpower...something changed and I have PEACE, even though I got tricked again...and I know I will find my way out again.
Unsinkable Optimism! It inspires! 👍💪
@JHavaJoe2-m1z Absolutely! Thinking vengeful thoughts is natural...but one has to dig deeper and be the better person...A narc only wants to steal your peace and pull you down to their level...
Thank you. I’ve been in therapy for years and no one ever explained this so plainly as you have. I am in a precarious place right now. I am trying to help my Mom get away from my narcissistic and verbally abusive Dad, and this is getting ugly. I have two sisters who my Dad is using as enablers and his flying monkeys, they don’t seem to see what is really going on here, or they just think they had better go along with him or he will come after them, I’m not sure. I’m trying to find a two bedroom apartment that is some distance away from my Dad in a different city, but my Mom has a lot of friends near her that she wants to stay in touch with, so she wants to get a place not far from my Dad’s house. She has this idea that she and my Dad could still be on some kind of friendly basis or something like that, I know that’s not happening!!!! And I really can’t be the one to protect her from him anymore, she’s 81, she should have left him years ago, what do I do here??? My Mom is in the hospital now, but she will probably be discharged this week. I just called adult protective services, they will contact me tomorrow on Monday. On Tuesday I have to leave the hotel I’m staying at that the Salvation Army put me up in for a week. I am close to being totally homeless, I don’t even have a car. I have a huge credit card bill I have to pay off, from staying at hotels to get away from my Dad, no job right now. My Mom says she will help to pay off part of my bill, but I know she needs her money, and if my two sisters find out that my Mom is helping me in this way, they will get upset, I will be accused of manipulating my Mom which I am NOT doing, they will probably tell my Dad and then I will REALLY get it from him and be an absolute target of all his rage, and he’s not going to like it that my Mom is getting an apartment away from him. The local police are aware of the situation, they won’t do anything!!! This is all escalating. At this point I think I just need to save myself, I love my Mom but she has been too delusional for too long. I am scared as hell of being totally homeless here with little money, having to stay at a homeless shelter. That’s only where you can go at night, otherwise you are wandering around during the day. I am considering renting a car for at least a week, so I can get around and then my Mom can use her own car. I know my Dad purposely set this situation up so he could bleed me dry of my money, I’ve had enough!!! I need to exit this toxic family system, my Mom is really the only one who truly cares about me, she is going to have to help herself like I have to save myself. I have to cut off contact with all of them, at least for awhile, and definitely never talk to my Dad again. Just walk away, it’s possible he could become violent towards me, I have always known he has a shady side. My husband passed away last year, he was very concerned about my relationship with my Dad, there wasn’t a lot he could do to intervene. But he knew my Dad was abusive towards me, and he didn’t like it. I am moving away, to the next county for now. I definitely need some distance here.
THAT is the situation the narcs always pit you in.
My mom was 79 and died in a mysterious fire. Her narc of decades lived right next door and didn't call the fire department so her house burnt all night to the ground. She should have left earlier, too. There are eight of us kids. We've found her places to live and even offered to let her stay with us. I called elder protective services two months prior. Since she could take care of herself and make her own decisions, we couldn't do anything.
Just my advice. Get the apartment father away. Your mother may come.
Yup, let your actions over time do your talking ✊🏽✊🏽 We heal tha version 3.0 comes.
Andrew, you are a saint, thank you 🙏🏾
she had anorexia she was told her organs where shutting down she did not go for treatment she was 90 lbs found dead like Karan carpenter i would not wish this on anybody thank you Andrew for the education the tides really turned on her
Only known this person foe 8 months. At 70, life is protected almost over. I'm about to loose my home because he had me pegged. Used up my savings. I hurt so bad can't seem to wrap this around my head. Please God help me!!!
Deborah . . . Don't give up! You can rent a room to a college student. You can get a part-time job at Costco. You can drive a school bus. Get some income and rebuild. Go to your Bishop and ask for help! "Be of Good Cheer." Christ wants to heal you. You are "worthy," you are "whole," you are a "Daughter of God!" You have Options!
All of your videos are wonderful, but this one is sensational. Thank you! ❤️🤗
Dear Andrew, I have no words to describe your huge work, helping people to get free of such empty shells. Thank you mate. Never give up 👍🏻
Good morning thank you for this message much needed to listen too yes the tides will soon turn on him and that family. No reach out to me to say we sorry that my brother did you like this but we cut for no cause they could use me no more along with him when his mask fell the whole family mask fell as well. Now I know what I deal with fir the last 18 years in that family no empathy from all of them. Thank you Andrew have a bless rest of the week❤
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Considering that she caused me pain with no remorse, I feel nothing for her 😂
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You know The Narcissist so well. Your videos bring me a lot of peace and validation after the chaos, destruction, and heartbreak he wrought in my life. And confusion!!! Thank you. ❤❤
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People used to take me as granted.I never said -no - So they kept me a side, for their convenience. So long I have being waited.I could read them. I left them off from my life. Now they are manipulating,and try to be me and stolen my identity from me .Even the system is against me,bcz I know their true colours.YUP. Now its started to sucking back to the Karma bcz of their bad deeds to others.
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Very good Andrew,I'm out of it thankfully,and don't miss what I didn't have,even if at some point I thought I had❤
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i still cry when i listen to these
They have a big problem now when they hurt a chosen one pay back is hard
Becoming the best version of you, is the ultimate payback .
Stay on the high road....
😄 beauty does what beauty does ; it’s beautiful . ❤
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Smear campaign = talking sh*t about you and others.
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Ya...I knew it in my heart for so long that he never had my back....
But when I was bullied into buying a house.....and then that wasn't enough....
I was fn done.....took 3 years to get him to leave
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3:38 is the scary truth. Thank the Lord divorce is finalized ‼️
Andrew, as you have often said it. The narc overplayed his hand & I walked away.
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Firstly thanks for these videos i watch every day. Please acknowledge more that some of us left the narcissist and were Reverse Discarded. And feel guilty for leaving sometimes. Its a different battle when you're the one leaving your wife. Lots of chatter in the mind feeling like I'm abandoning her. Would love if this community could show me some support. Im 3.5 months out atill going through divorce process. Its still hard not to be stuck in euphoric recall. 9 Rollercoaster years together. 6 married. Many huge ups and downs.
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You have to look after number one which is you. I'm sure you had very good reasons for leaving & if she is a narcissistic or toxic person you need to run & stay away from these's dark souls. They never change. I hope you start to heal & find happiness that you deserve ✨️ ❤️ blessings 🌞 🙌
Sorry...pray for strength that you are doing what is correct for your life.
It is so very true that we do feel that we have abandoned them. We have to work through all of the stages of grief. None of us were used to putting ourselves first. In time, with hind sight, we see that we did have to leave miserable people. It is not what we would have wished to do in Life. We have been more prone to giving others endless chances to change. In the end, it is us who have to change. We stop people pleasing and people fixing. Leaving is what saves us. Because we cannot save them, does not mean that we did not do more than our part. In the end, they have to remain in their own negative reality. We have to move on and learn who we really are. Each person in this life has the free will to grow or not grow. We choose to pry ourselves free and grow. It is good. In time, it becomes great.
It's traumatic. You may be carrying on through the months and years and feel you're managing pretty good and on track.
For myself, I couldn't see what was internalized, covered over, etc.How else was I to carry on? But it resulted in buried anguish,
a coldness and taking it out on the wrong people.The worst was self--destructive behavior. In other words, you may be in the
vulnerable zone, though you won't know it. Good Luck ... every step of the way!
I'm going to share something interesting.
When the narcissist at a distance is angry at me the weather gets really windy in my local vicinity, like today.
I returned their energy yesterday.
I wish the Narcs I knew had the power to control the Planets, I'd request: "Can you get Uranus out of my life?!"
Isolation isn't a punishment, but it's an opportunity I hsve found
The narco-path is seriously messed up. They will go to any measure to destroy the objects of their jealousy unless exposed, penalized, and stopped (I mean any measure).
WHEW! What a beautiful message! Truly needed this powerful reminder! Thank you Brother! SHINE! SHINE! SHINE! We Love You!
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My family wants me to leave him!
DO U NEED THEM TO TELL YOU? THE SIGNS, AND SYMPTOMS, THE RED FLAGS, ARE NOT ENOUGH?TO CONVINCE YOU?
My family did their best for years to tell me as well. Please, please listen to them. I wish I had listened a lot sooner ...
sometimes it's to late to be polite
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EXCELLENT ! Andrew.. ❤💯❤
Thank you so much Andrew .. I really needed to hear this today!! God bless you Sir 🕊️🙏
A therapist on YT explained all the ways that gay men and narcissists -- both gay or straight- -- can have a symbiotic, fulfilling relationship. I called BS in my comment, and replying to individuals I saw susceptible to odd, jackass, and suspicious ideas. I compared empaths to star basketball players at a small, liberal arts college. Now, put those players in the NBA! 'Nuff said.
Thanks for your work Andrew I had a downfall last but thinking about you helped me overcome
Thank you for your work, it's important to remember abuse, even if we moved on.
‘Ski trips to Vancouver’ That cuts deep Andrew. I’m from Vancouver but I relocated years ago at the hands of the narcissist to Belfast, Northern Ireland, totally isolated! Fortunately I have the kids and I have escaped the narcissist after years of court. Living nightmare but I am free, happy and healthy. I will definitely resist the incoming holiday hoover. Keep up the good work Andrew!
I am in a very bad mood. More than one year and still stuck. But just want to say. Thank you for your videos
Self-care is the key to healing.
@emilywilson7308 thanks Emily
@emilywilson7308 thanks Emily
Great video! I have not watched in a while.... But I am “unhooverable!” ❤️
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Thank you sir your a true blessing to us who have been hit pretty bad. Im glad your exposing it!!!!
The narcs were my family and it took me 40 years to figure out what I was dealing with. It came after a group betrayal and very public diacard where my family decided it was agood idea to defraud another state and kidnap my kids. Now, they're in a lot of trouble, two and half years of this madness. I'm pressing charges and they will have to gain their "supply" elsewhere. Thanks for these messages.
A hige Thank you Andrew!! For your daily lessons & your smiles!! GOD BLESS YOU TOO🇫🇷🫶🫎🌲🤗
They think they are so powerful they could hold back a wall of water ,....could YOU ?!! 🤣🙏❤️
Thank you for todays video💝
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That background wall is exactly how the walkway at my mom's house was..nice memories of Trinidad and Tobago
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