To the narcissist, appearance is everything. They meticulously craft their image, projecting perfection while concealing their insecurities. Whether it's through charm, success, or physical looks, their identity hinges on how others perceive them. Any flaw, real or imagined, threatens their fragile ego. They manipulate and deceive to maintain the illusion, valuing appearance over substance, and demand admiration while offering nothing authentic in return.
You can be humorously self-deprecating and a Narc, unfamiliar with that territory, will never see it as humility. They are always looking for weakness.Man! These Narcs are a drag to be around at any time.
I woke up one morning with such severe pain I was having a hard time breathing. I told my husband, who was giving me weeks of silent treatment at the time. He purposely took me to a hospital that our insurance did not cover. He pulled up to the emergency room and said “I could go in with you but I don’t want to see you”. Technician’s came rushing to me with a wheelchair soon as I stepped out. I could not breathe. I needed emergency surgery. After so much morphine I was being rushed to the OR and as they were putting me under anesthesia my last wish was to die. Maybe then he might care. No one came to see me. His entire toxic family lived in my home two miles from the hospital. I’m living proof, you can pull through anything. Healing is attainable.
You’re not alone ! silent treatment, isolation, I know what you are saying keep doing what suits you by being observant I need to advise you to do exercises such as deep breathing hold your breath count to 5 or 10 what you can manage to reduce being breathless this allows enough oxygen to maintain your body and keeps you calm , take this as a habit. You said when you got to the hospital you wanted to die ? Please don’t punish yourself, you are doing your enemies a huge favour by thinking negative things to harm yourself . Don’t delete yourself you have as much right to live and love yourself God loves you
I lived with a narcissist for 9 years, and I've been recovering for 9 years. It doesnt have to take that long anymore bc of coaches like you Andrew. Thank you and God bless you. The hawk totem is a symbol of strength courage and protection.
@livinggood6876 Very cool about the hawk totem. Andrew has helped so many with the truth of lived experience. Our support may help others to see that this is seriously for real & a dangerous game.
No rage fits or screaming at me. She gave me nothing but scheming silence . My life was the peace of the graveyard in the arctic zone with a windchill factor of minus hundred and no sign of global warming . She spoke only when I spoke to her. Fool that I was for 30 years I hoped she’d change. But now I’m older , wiser and free
I’ve now studied this dissorder for a year now since I broke up with my x. The experts say it is growing and they say about 1 in 6 people have this npd. And I know the red flags now. I’m in shock how many people have this!
My friend you are so right, it took me 10 years to heal with a therapis help, or I was always blaming myself although I knew it was him all along. 15 years of torture of marriage mental emotionalTorture.
Whenever you mention rage fits and being in a car with them, it is a painful trigger for me. Then I hear this video and see you & this hawk in the woods and it’s so beautiful and peaceful. And I’m never in that car again…. I’m overtaken by nature, peace, love and gratitude. 🙏🏻Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥️.
Yes the raging in the car The raging about the most insane things *nothing made sense*I actually think he loved to hear the sound of his screaming voice! (my dad was the same) Today -years later I am free I live in nature My animals my plants my peace NOTHING is worth giving up this peace for Lonely? Never Every day I can breath I can be me Being an empath I seem to draw these toxic people to me But never again So much suffering but I learned so much about who I am and what I am worth and every day I work with the victims (like myself) of Narcissistic abuse I have PTSD now but I am healing slowly Helping others helps me with my healing
The more I look back on my narcissist relationship, the more I start to realise just how sad, insecure, and inward she was. Toxic with a poison mist leaking out of her pores!
This is so true. He had every one thinking he had it all together. His family during the holidays acted as if they were the happiest most loving family but during the year they would barely talk to each other let alone see each other but on the holidays they all acted as though they were all so close. I remember one Christmas as we were driving miles back home he says: I am so glad that's over "! I was so confused cause I didn't know them what I know now. So many times he did the silent treatment on the way to these fake family gatherings and them when we arrived he would be all chatty and happy! Thank.God.I don't have to ever have to go through that again! Andrew thank you for the video!
Yes its a long journey to heal,,i suffered panic attacks,,for months ,i also self isolated for 2yr,,i got Social anxiety,which i never had before,,,Be patient and kind to yourself,you will Recover in your time,,peace,love,and, Strength to all Survivors,,,T.y.Andrew,💜💜🌺🎋🙏🙏🙏🙏
I have never had panic attack...woke up at 2:20 am, heart racing, breathing heavy, severely chaotic thinking and depth feeling something bad was going to happen. Never have I felt that way in the past 64 yrs and never want to again.
A month ago, I didn't even know what a Narc was or anything about their existence. Now I'm 5 days into a No Contact situation with My wife of 4 years. (7 years together through Covid!).. just had a wonderful weekend with My son and mom and my wife hasn't been able to get any information. She hasn't once asked how my son is taking this. She's out looking for a new supply. She was NOT expecting my discard. It was on her bday of all days.. her guaranteed day of praise. Didn't happen
Does anyone else find themselves hearing Andrew's voice of wisdom throughout their day? Today for me it's "tiny little pea brain" which both makes me laugh and be sad at the same time. Funny, because it helps me to see them like swarming little predator insects, and sad for us having to live in the same world with these monsters and have to witness the damage they do to good people. Thanks Andrew : you're the best.
Me too. They want to hurt you any way they can. Our love for our children is the ultimate thing they weaponise against us. Fortunately after 6 years my sin us starting to see his father for who he really is.❤️🙏💪🇬🇧
Your analogy with the hawk is beautiful and so truthful. Narcissists are not capable of being at peace with themselves or alone...they are ALL about appearance and trying to mock yours and drag you down to their level of insecurities. They preject and are mean...mean and condescending. Thank you for the great video, Andrew.
Hey Andrew! I LOVE seeing the hawk again!!! 🦅❤️ And appearance IS everything to the narc! They want to APPEAR to be kind and generous to others while behind closed doors, the opposite is true. Enjoy your day/ evening Andrew and friends! Love y’all!!! 🙌🙌☀️😁🦅🫂🌲🏔️💜❤️
Andrew I promise I won’t forget you whenever I get my reward. You’re ministry has meant a lot to me. I pray you and your family be blessed in Jesus Christ’s Mighty Name. God bless you brother.
My neighbor told me he was an empath. I wasn't sure what that was but as he said it he put his head down, covered his mouth and chuckled. He is everything you describe. Narcissist. He talked about how intelligent he is, how it is hard to talk to most ppl because they are so below his intellect etc. To prove how superior he is to me he has been playing pranks on me and some of them are pretty nasty. I spent years ignoring him and his silly pranks thinking he would stop because I didn't react but all it did was encourage him to become more and more out of line because he was thinking I was stupid and he was getting away with what he was doing. Once he got way out of line and I called him on it (not in person) and put up more security camera's, he stopped. (so far) I'm so glad I found your channel
I wish I was a "no holds barred" cranky old man with regards to people like these. I'd let out, "I don't give a damn what you are, Mr.Intellect, you got no class and dumb as a bag of nails!^&^%^!"
Elizabeth: Your experience sounds very similar to what I experienced with my most recent failed narcissistic marriage. (Lots of bragging) I know that things will get better every day for you. I am doing great now because I have been away from the “games” my narc played for nearly a year now. Life is good without them!
Hawks are my spirit animal - Seeing a hawk signifies one’s ability to overcome their challenges, of inner power, insight & being able to see things clearly. What an incredible sign. Thank You.
I cannot agree more. My narc mother didn't care if we had money for as long as she projected the "image" of having money. Similarly, my enabler sister would post old pictures of family gatherings on social media during Xmas because there are no recent ones (because another brother and I have decided to stop the pretence).
That sound is so Peaceful I go out everyday and appreciate it. Even in the rain. Anything is better than what I went through. If I had more people around me it would be better x😊
As a self aware diagnosed narcissist,Your analogy with the hawk is beautiful and so truthful. Narcissists are not capable of being at peace with themselves or alone. Most find this an impossible task, but I have been alone for quite some time however and I probably should stay alone for quite some time. My focus is on my work here among other things that help my community.
All True!! I’ve seen older Narcissists going Crazy because their looks are fading. It Really Really bothers them that they’re getting wrinkled skin and bags underneath their eyes. You can’t be the Best Looking in the Room Forever ✔️
I'm just chilling and doing Christmas as last few years weren't very good as I had no energy. I'm thinking "get lost" now. Stopped being angry in September and upset in October. Every day is getting easier. Christmas and New Years Eve will be a Narc Free celebration. 🥂🍾 🐻 ... thanks again
I'm not surprised, Nature tipped its hat and gave a thumbs up. This Man is no ordinary student of life and experiences. As for a communicator and teacher- extraordinary!
Andrew , another great video ! 😁💪 I also think that as we recover we also need to retain the very essence that attracted the narcissist to us in the first place , our inner kindness , our love , our LIGHT ! Even at the darkest monent we should always stay authentic to ourselves , but instead learn to develop a sheild of protection , a sheild we will only let down for those who TRULY deserve it as we move on with our lives ! Nameste, Andrew ,...and thankyou 🙏❤️
As empaths we can often struggle with the cruelty , unfairness loneliness of life , unlike most people we find it hard to put ourselves first , something which is NORMAL to others ! When someone shows us attention , kindness or advice we become easily impressed by their apparent confidence and superior knowledge . It's a lie , they are just muddling through and are just as lost and insecure as we are , they just use THE MASK of pride , arrogance and superiority to HIDE IT !
I get you. It's just our thoughts that we felt we were beneath others ( all too much). That hesitancy, to feel as comfortable in our skin as others appeared to be, we overcompensated .Our empathy and generosity were targeted by the "Takers" aka Narcissists.We get it NOW.
Great video… the hawk… ❤❤… it is all about the outside appearance to them… but I’m more concerned with my “inside” appearance… Thank you and have a great evening!!
No out staging these Prima Donna's ( both male & female) as competition is their game & they work hard to preserve an image to be adorned. Any threat to compromise what they have created will be met with a lash out or punishment.... image is VERY important to the narcissist. Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
Yes, while you're in a Chill state of mind, those automatons are always revving their competition circuits.👾 Had a banana creme pie last week with ol' Pal. Thought of you ... then I commenced scarfing. 🤔😋👍
@JHavaJoe2-m1z Oh Joe....banana cream pie & coffee...drooling & dreaming!!! 😋 Thanks for thinking of me.....I'm sure it was scrumptious! I got to get me some soon.👍☕☕
I successfully denied a "hoover" this Thanksgiving holiday! Because their number was blocked, I never had the chance to get the call or receive the text. (I saw his blocked call) Yes I have been tempted, but I get to remember now why I blocked him in the first place. Don't ever forget and don't ever give them second chances. ❤❤❤❤ ×× "Update": I see this morning that he tried to call again yesterday at 150pm. I really hope that's the end of it.
Ended up in hospital had symptoms of stroke due to 47 yr old covert son's emotional cruelty. I had no idea he "felt I let him down". Ghosted Mr worse experience ever all while my husband suffering from form of pancreatic cancer. It has taken almost 3 yrs have been going to therapy and realizing had severe abandonment issues from my childhood which became activated. I am doing better dealing with severe grief. I didn't deserve it. I am recovering, but going thru was complete hell. I see him as a monster and will stay away permanently. My only son
Fantastic spiritual setting this morning. Agreed- too much focus on outward image. So many regrets from 90 yr.old interviewees, regretting too much time worrying about what others thought of them or their image. Narcs obsess above and beyond, while standing on your head if it could boost their image. Have a Great Day and Go Cool During Your Holiday Shopping, etc. This education may beat any Christmas gift you receive in your lifetime! 👍🙏🎄
Yeeep. He wasn't as handsome as some of my past partners but I fell for him because of the way he made me feel so loved. Instead he took that as proof of his extreme attractiveness and told me he could do better.
Lol! My first nex was not good looking. We ended up divorced. He would take our daughters on weekends. His friends would say "your ex wife must be beautiful ". Apparently, according to my kids, he HATED that. Yet when we were together, I wasn't skinny enough. I wasn't blonde Yada Yada.
@@seameology Yes girl omg. He would make me feel so bad about myself and so undesirable if I gained a few pounds even though I am very petite. But every source of supply he chases after when he discards me, every single one is overweight (not to shame these women but he is going after easy targets he knows he can lovebomb). There was nothing actually wrong with me. **It was just another tactic to devalue me and make me feel worthless!!**
It looks so peaceful where you are Andrew and the hawk is gorgeous ❤ this is my kind of sunday afternoon. Thank you for this beautiful backdrop and have a great evening ☺️💜🫶✨️⛰️🙏
When my narc was working on the discard she would constantly tell me that her family members were all seeing her unhappy and distraught and tried using that to get out of marriage counseling. And she was in a hurry she would ask me “what are we doing” right after she would start a fight over nothing. She would start a fight in order to show the marriage wasn’t working and that we needed to end marriage counseling . O and my daughter messaged me that she heard. I said “heard what?” She said about the divorce. I said “what are you talking about?” Yeah… My narc filed for divorce without even telling me! And not knowing what was happening I took her out to eat and we came back and I tore the papers up. And she started an argument over it while still pretending she wanted the marriage to work. She was playing both sides to try and look like a victim and that she cared. It’s amazing the emotional gymnastics these people will do… And they are masters at it, I was completely in the fog while she was trying to extricate herself from the marriage while maintaining victim status…
Narcissists want to appear to others as “having it together”, as if they are the best, they want look like they have everything including money, fancy cars, boats and all the toys… when actually it all was bought by a previous supply or others.
Thank you Andrew. Your channel has really provided clear insight regarding my sister of late. And yes everything you've said here describes her to a 'T'. She does "shift" I have actually experienced her whole face contorting when she "gets into the name calling, and deflecting of the truth. She actually videos me periodically when" Ive caught her in a lie". May I just add, to the new peole to your channel :: People, this is very real. Andrew here has helped me understand the circumstances of why my sister is tye way she is. Not only that, I couldn't understand why she was also manipulating ny brother against me. We are all taking shifts to take care of mom at her home, she's never ontime for me to get to work and has even attacked me. People, I thank Andrew so much, for opening my eyes to narcissistic behavior. I LOVE NATURE, and have made some time everyday to stop, look and listen to nature, so peaceful. THANK YOU ANDREW❤❤❤😊 GOD BLESS YOU.
Information and education are so important! Thank you Andrew, nature is the cure and animals gives you the purest love ever. It took me so long to understand that I wasn't wrong, but I am the perfect role of the scapegoat in a dissociated narcisistic family, like those described in psychiatry books! Thank to video like this one, I understood what every therapist faild to explein me, in a lifetime by psychotherapists, psychologists... I'm so pissed! I spend my entire life as a pleaser, too generous too emphatic and fell into narcisitic relashionships, constantly gaslight....and when you finally understand you are already destroyed! Independent information, education is EVERYTHINS TO BE AWARE !💗🌼🔆☀
Interestingly, I stayed on your channel out of all possible YT channels and because from the very beginning I enjoyed your energy, which very much coincided with my energy 🦅
I have a Hawk that lives in the woods/trees behind my home. I never knew it was there until the Narc left. It seems to stay close to my home in a huge pine tree. At times I see it fly past my patio/deck window and usually I will go out to greet it to let it know I appreciate it being there and sometimes talk to it. ❤️ 😊
My ex had a custodial job at a school. It was very physically demanding and her feet were literally bleeding. I tried talking about other types of entry level work that was easier and quickly learned she didn’t want to hear about better job prospects because her ex tried to push her into something better. I believed it and at the time couldn’t see it was about discussing personal improvement and if your perfect you don’t need such nonsense. She actually put a line in the sand and said we weren’t going to talk about other jobs and her. Narcissist not only do not improve or grow or learn. They sure as heck aren’t going to talk about doing any of those.
I know see them as pathetic and I actually feel sorry for them, everything you say is true and they reap what they sow we may not see it but it’s true , you can not go around doing that to people without consequences.
I love hawks we have lots of them in Suffolk. I can feel the healing happening to me everyday. My energy is returning after all the pain I suffered at the hands of the Narcassist. ❤️🙏
Loved your video Andrew 🙌. All truth. Filled with hope. Thank you for showing us the hawk & including him in your background 🙂 How awesome that he stayed right there for the entire video 🪶🌲🌲 I agree that after healing this is where the abundance is. It's a sense of peace. "There's no toxicity. It's just the ability to be. And this is where you belong " Stay strong everyone. Sometimes baby steps.. sometimes big steps.. just stay on the path ⛰
Its interesting after I filed for divorce. I heard so many stories about people who had negative experiences with him. The hardest thing was discovered his betrayals. Seemed like everyone knew but me. That has been hard to get through.
This bugged me also, after my eventual discard so many people told me they never liked her, got a bad feeling about her etc. I understand why I went through what I did, but I also asked people that if in the future, they notice something I don't, then speak up.
Great great post Andrew. You’ve helped me so much. The pinnacle of indifference has taken me 2.5 years, but it’s real. Beautiful hawk senses it’s safe in your calm serenity. Really wonderful to see.
I’m listening to this video cracking up laughing in the middle of the night, here in Alaska. Took me quite a while to realize that my now 38-year-old daughter is a full blown horrifying narcissist . It’s like you’re talking about her specifically . It’s a weird situation to be in because I do love her, but I can’t stand her. There’s not one thing I like about her. she has sucked the ever living life out of me. it has taken my health. I finally blocked her back in July and just knowing that I don’t have to talk to her or see her puts my soul at peace . They only hope for her is Christ . Love your videos and appreciate them 🙌🏾🙏🏼
I love watching and listening to your videos. It's very empowering and provides well needed information and support I need to stay in no contact with my ex. I am still pretty vulnerable after almost two years of being away from him but I am healing and it gets better each and every day. To highlight one of the synchronicities, hawk is one of my spirits animal totems. Thank you for posting this new video! 🙏🙏🙏
Andrew, I'm so happy that you got to experience the presence of the hawk. Hawks have spiritual meaning. They can usher in changes and bring protection. The fact that this one stayed with you throughout the filming of this video is quite interesting. You are blessed.
Appearance & being late or not showing up is 100% right about these's dark evil souls. They can not stand peace as drama& chaos is what makes theses disgusting creatures feel inpowered etc. Animals know people with beautiful bright souls ✨️ ❤️ 🎉 🐕 blessings 🌞 🙌
To the narcissist, appearance is everything. They meticulously craft their image, projecting perfection while concealing their insecurities. Whether it's through charm, success, or physical looks, their identity hinges on how others perceive them. Any flaw, real or imagined, threatens their fragile ego. They manipulate and deceive to maintain the illusion, valuing appearance over substance, and demand admiration while offering nothing authentic in return.
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Yeppers.
Absolutely perfectly stated.
You can be humorously self-deprecating and a Narc, unfamiliar with that territory, will never see it as humility. They are
always looking for weakness.Man! These Narcs are a drag to be around at any time.
True 💯💯💯👍🏻
Someone once said, "A wise person doesn't harbor hatred. They just release."
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I woke up one morning with such severe pain I was having a hard time breathing. I told my husband, who was giving me weeks of silent treatment at the time. He purposely took me to a hospital that our insurance did not cover. He pulled up to the emergency room and said “I could go in with you but I don’t want to see you”. Technician’s came rushing to me with a wheelchair soon as I stepped out. I could not breathe. I needed emergency surgery. After so much morphine I was being rushed to the OR and as they were putting me under anesthesia my last wish was to die. Maybe then he might care. No one came to see me. His entire toxic family lived in my home two miles from the hospital. I’m living proof, you can pull through anything. Healing is attainable.
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i understand that mine did the same what a useless jerk
So sorry but So happy that you pulled through! Keep going, love prayers and blessings for you ❤🙏
I hope they are out of your life, now.
You’re not alone ! silent treatment, isolation, I know what you are saying keep doing what suits you by being observant I need to advise you to do exercises such as deep breathing hold your breath count to 5 or 10 what you can manage to reduce being breathless this allows enough oxygen to maintain your body and keeps you calm , take this as a habit. You said when you got to the hospital you wanted to die ? Please don’t punish yourself, you are doing your enemies a huge favour by thinking negative things to harm yourself . Don’t delete yourself you have as much right to live and love yourself God loves you
You are certainly blessed when a hawk watches your back for you .
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nature is a great way to get in touch with your feelings.
@Sundaylamb3 so true. Forest bathing is so healing.
I lived with a narcissist for 9 years, and I've been recovering for 9 years. It doesnt have to take that long anymore bc of coaches like you Andrew. Thank you and God bless you. The hawk totem is a symbol of strength courage and protection.
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Very cool about the hawk totem.
Andrew has helped so many with the truth of lived experience.
Our support may help others to see that this is seriously for real & a dangerous game.
No rage fits or screaming at me. She gave me nothing but scheming silence . My life was the peace of the graveyard in the arctic zone with a windchill factor of minus hundred and no sign of global warming . She spoke only when I spoke to her. Fool that I was for 30 years I hoped she’d change. But now I’m older , wiser and free
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So true! Apperance and reputation. Everything to cover the hollowness..
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Flashy things and public perception to look good
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I’ve now studied this dissorder for a year now since I broke up with my x. The experts say it is growing and they say about 1 in 6 people have this npd. And I know the red flags now. I’m in shock how many people have this!
I see this now that I've been through it, they are everywhere
They sure are!
@@Racheal-qs9mn Yes we are here, we are everywhere. Be very careful and be vigilant.
Yes, it's the sad truth.
It scares me a little bit
Yes, its all about appearance. They wanted to make sure I knew, that there was nothing special about me.
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My friend you are so right, it took me 10 years to heal with a therapis help, or I was always blaming myself although I knew it was him all along. 15 years of torture of marriage mental emotionalTorture.
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real wealth is appreciating beauty, not owning or controlling it.
Gem of a comment!
Beautiful 💎
@@JHavaJoe2-m1z thank you, it's yours now x
The hawk is magnificent!
Thank you so much for the video, Andrew.
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It definitely wasn't her looks!! It was the mask! Thank you Andrew!!!!
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To the world they use phone app filters too ..
Lol I was thinking the exact same thing about my ex 🎉❤
Whenever you mention rage fits and being in a car with them, it is a painful trigger for me. Then I hear this video and see you & this hawk in the woods and it’s so beautiful and peaceful. And I’m never in that car again…. I’m overtaken by nature, peace, love and gratitude. 🙏🏻Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥️.
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Heyyy SLLiberty!!! 🙌😁☀️🫂❤️💜❤️💜
@@SLLiberty23 "I'm overtaken by nature, peace, love and gratitude " 🙌🕊
Yes the raging in the car The raging about the most insane things *nothing made sense*I actually think he loved to hear the sound of his screaming voice! (my dad was the same) Today -years later I am free I live in nature My animals my plants my peace NOTHING is worth giving up this peace for Lonely? Never Every day I can breath I can be me Being an empath I seem to draw these toxic people to me But never again So much suffering but I learned so much about who I am and what I am worth and every day I work with the victims (like myself) of Narcissistic abuse I have PTSD now but I am healing slowly Helping others helps me with my healing
The more I look back on my narcissist relationship, the more I start to realise just how sad, insecure, and inward she was. Toxic with a poison mist leaking out of her pores!
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The more you realize the clearer it gets.
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This is so true. He had every one thinking he had it all together. His family during the holidays acted as if they were the happiest most loving family but during the year they would barely talk to each other let alone see each other but on the holidays they all acted as though they were all so close. I remember one Christmas as we were driving miles back home he says: I am so glad that's over "! I was so confused cause I didn't know them what I know now. So many times he did the silent treatment on the way to these fake family gatherings and them when we arrived he would be all chatty and happy! Thank.God.I don't have to ever have to go through that again! Andrew thank you for the video!
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Yes its a long journey to heal,,i suffered panic attacks,,for months ,i also self isolated for 2yr,,i got Social anxiety,which i never had before,,,Be patient and kind to yourself,you will Recover in your time,,peace,love,and, Strength to all Survivors,,,T.y.Andrew,💜💜🌺🎋🙏🙏🙏🙏
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I have never had panic attack...woke up at 2:20 am, heart racing, breathing heavy, severely chaotic thinking and depth feeling something bad was going to happen. Never have I felt that way in the past 64 yrs and never want to again.
Flower, I wish I could give you a big hug!🥰
God it’s been about 1-1:2 years now and I’m still really really struggling. My physical and emotional health took a dive. I can’t believe it.
@@flowerpower4944 I totally understand. God be with you and give you peace, sweet friend. 🕯️🕊️🪽♥️🙏🏻
Getting attached is a personal curse that holds back everything, which I'm so guilty of
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Me too!
Curses can be lifted. This education does a great job.👍🙌
Thank you for this information Andrew. These demons will literally drive people to unalive themselves. Wishing everyone hope and healing. ❤️🩹
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Looks are deceiving!
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A month ago, I didn't even know what a Narc was or anything about their existence. Now I'm 5 days into a No Contact situation with My wife of 4 years. (7 years together through Covid!).. just had a wonderful weekend with My son and mom and my wife hasn't been able to get any information. She hasn't once asked how my son is taking this. She's out looking for a new supply. She was NOT expecting my discard. It was on her bday of all days.. her guaranteed day of praise. Didn't happen
Does anyone else find themselves hearing Andrew's voice of wisdom throughout their day? Today for me it's "tiny little pea brain" which both makes me laugh and be sad at the same time. Funny, because it helps me to see them like swarming little predator insects, and sad for us having to live in the same world with these monsters and have to witness the damage they do to good people. Thanks Andrew : you're the best.
Remember all the wedges between you and the children. This is the one I will never ever forgive.
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Me too. They want to hurt you any way they can. Our love for our children is the ultimate thing they weaponise against us. Fortunately after 6 years my sin us starting to see his father for who he really is.❤️🙏💪🇬🇧
Your analogy with the hawk is beautiful and so truthful. Narcissists are not capable of being at peace with themselves or alone...they are ALL about appearance and trying to mock yours and drag you down to their level of insecurities. They preject and are mean...mean and condescending. Thank you for the great video, Andrew.
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Religious narcs are the WORST. I'm mostly referring to the leadership. Imagine constantly deceiving the whole church. It's like being a total snake.
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When they are told " I never knew you "...they will finally understand
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you are right often they act as if they are God so above everyone
but God sees it and those people will be responsible for their choices and fakeness in the end.
Hey Andrew! I LOVE seeing the hawk again!!! 🦅❤️ And appearance IS everything to the narc! They want to APPEAR to be kind and generous to others while behind closed doors, the opposite is true. Enjoy your day/ evening Andrew and friends! Love y’all!!! 🙌🙌☀️😁🦅🫂🌲🏔️💜❤️
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Yes hi Jennifer hope you're doing well,lots of love sent,,nice to see you Here,💖💜🌺💜🌺💖💎🤗
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Hi Jennifer!🥰
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You know them so very well. I am impressed. Thank you.
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Andrew I promise I won’t forget you whenever I get my reward. You’re ministry has meant a lot to me. I pray you and your family be blessed in Jesus Christ’s Mighty Name. God bless you brother.
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My neighbor told me he was an empath. I wasn't sure what that was but as he said it he put his head down, covered his mouth and chuckled. He is everything you describe. Narcissist. He talked about how intelligent he is, how it is hard to talk to most ppl because they are so below his intellect etc. To prove how superior he is to me he has been playing pranks on me and some of them are pretty nasty. I spent years ignoring him and his silly pranks thinking he would stop because I didn't react but all it did was encourage him to become more and more out of line because he was thinking I was stupid and he was getting away with what he was doing. Once he got way out of line and I called him on it (not in person) and put up more security camera's, he stopped. (so far) I'm so glad I found your channel
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Sounds more mentally ill and glad you put up your security, never engage with him again.
I wish I was a "no holds barred" cranky old man with regards to people like these. I'd let out,
"I don't give a damn what you are, Mr.Intellect, you got no class and dumb as a bag of nails!^&^%^!"
Elizabeth: Your experience sounds very similar to what I experienced with my most recent failed narcissistic marriage. (Lots of bragging) I know that things will get better every day for you. I am doing great now because I have been away from the “games” my narc played for nearly a year now. Life is good without them!
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Hawks are my spirit animal -
Seeing a hawk signifies one’s ability to overcome their challenges, of inner power, insight & being able to see things clearly.
What an incredible sign.
Thank You.
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I cannot agree more. My narc mother didn't care if we had money for as long as she projected the "image" of having money. Similarly, my enabler sister would post old pictures of family gatherings on social media during Xmas because there are no recent ones (because another brother and I have decided to stop the pretence).
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Thank you andrew 😊 thank you everyone . Bless you all
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Peaceful I go out everyday and appreciate it. Even in the rain. Anything is better than what I went through. If I had more people around me it would be better x😊
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As a self aware diagnosed narcissist,Your analogy with the hawk is beautiful and so truthful. Narcissists are not capable of being at peace with themselves or alone. Most find this an impossible task, but I have been alone for quite some time however and I probably should stay alone for quite some time. My focus is on my work here among other things that help my community.
All True!! I’ve seen older Narcissists going Crazy because their looks are fading. It Really Really bothers them that they’re getting wrinkled skin and bags underneath their eyes.
You can’t be the Best Looking in the Room Forever ✔️
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I'm just chilling and doing Christmas as last few years weren't very good as I had no energy. I'm thinking "get lost" now. Stopped being angry in September and upset in October. Every day is getting easier. Christmas and New Years Eve will be a Narc Free celebration. 🥂🍾 🐻 ... thanks again
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Being narc free is the best! You’ll see. 🎉
I won’t forget the rage fits and his driving was dangerous
Keep being you people remember when your at peace your finally at home 🙏🙏
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Great video Andrew!!!
Hawks are messengers and provide guidance and protection...
(Reminds me of someone)😊
Wishing everyone clarity and peace
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I'm not surprised, Nature tipped its hat and gave a thumbs up. This Man is no ordinary
student of life and experiences. As for a communicator and teacher- extraordinary!
Like attracting like in this scenario! 👍💥❤
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Andrew , another great video ! 😁💪 I also think that as we recover we also need to retain the very essence that attracted the narcissist to us in the first place , our inner kindness , our love , our LIGHT ! Even at the darkest monent we should always stay authentic to ourselves , but instead learn to develop a sheild of protection , a sheild we will only let down for those who TRULY deserve it as we move on with our lives ! Nameste, Andrew ,...and thankyou 🙏❤️
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As empaths we can often struggle with the cruelty , unfairness loneliness of life , unlike most people we find it hard to put ourselves first , something which is NORMAL to others ! When someone shows us attention , kindness or advice we become easily impressed by their apparent confidence and superior knowledge . It's a lie , they are just muddling through and are just as lost and insecure as we are , they just use THE MASK of pride , arrogance and superiority to HIDE IT !
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I get you. It's just our thoughts that we felt we were beneath others ( all too much). That hesitancy, to feel as comfortable
in our skin as others appeared to be, we overcompensated .Our empathy and generosity were targeted by the "Takers" aka Narcissists.We get it NOW.
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Beautiful video. That kind of peace is a true gift. Can't be bought. I want it bad enough. Whenever I forget, I will watch this one again.
So true ❤ brilliant andrew thanks
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Great video… the hawk… ❤❤… it is all about the outside appearance to them… but I’m more concerned with my “inside” appearance… Thank you and have a great evening!!
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No out staging these Prima Donna's ( both male & female) as competition is their game & they work hard to preserve an image to be adorned.
Any threat to compromise what they have created will be met with a lash out or punishment.... image is VERY important to the narcissist.
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Yes, while you're in a Chill state of mind, those automatons are always revving their competition circuits.👾
Had a banana creme pie last week with ol' Pal. Thought of you ... then I commenced scarfing.
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Oh Joe....banana cream pie & coffee...drooling & dreaming!!! 😋
Thanks for thinking of me.....I'm sure it was scrumptious! I got to get me some soon.👍☕☕
Never one up a narcissist. As easy as it may be, you have to hide your shine.
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This is where the doors open 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Indifference 🦅
Sometimes empaths get tricked with the "MASK'of ''''goodness''''' by evil ones.
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Yes 15yrs PTSD
Mirroring!
“If not now, when?” 🙏🙏🙏
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Absolutely, was so strange that I was not physically attracted to this person at ALL,
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I successfully denied a "hoover" this Thanksgiving holiday! Because their number was blocked, I never had the chance to get the call or receive the text. (I saw his blocked call) Yes I have been tempted, but I get to remember now why I blocked him in the first place. Don't ever forget and don't ever give them second chances. ❤❤❤❤ ×× "Update": I see this morning that he tried to call again yesterday at 150pm. I really hope that's the end of it.
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Ended up in hospital had symptoms of stroke due to 47 yr old covert son's emotional cruelty. I had no idea he "felt I let him down". Ghosted Mr worse experience ever all while my husband suffering from form of pancreatic cancer. It has taken almost 3 yrs have been going to therapy and realizing had severe abandonment issues from my childhood which became activated. I am doing better dealing with severe grief. I didn't deserve it. I am recovering, but going thru was complete hell. I see him as a monster and will stay away permanently. My only son
Fantastic spiritual setting this morning. Agreed- too much focus on outward image. So many regrets from 90 yr.old interviewees, regretting too much time worrying about what others thought of them or their image. Narcs obsess above and beyond, while standing on your head if it could boost their image. Have a Great Day and Go Cool During Your Holiday Shopping, etc. This education may beat any Christmas gift you receive in your lifetime! 👍🙏🎄
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Amen!
Jingle Bells, 🎅
Narckies Smell 👹
Empaths on their way 😇💪💪💪 🎵
Oh what fun.....
It is to ride...in a Narc free Chevrolet 🎶
( truck....that is)!!!
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@@marieeakin8534 You are a Poet Lariat, Cowgirl! 🐎👍
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Not really Joe...no cowgirl in me.
Just being ??????????
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Yeeep. He wasn't as handsome as some of my past partners but I fell for him because of the way he made me feel so loved. Instead he took that as proof of his extreme attractiveness and told me he could do better.
Lol! My first nex was not good looking. We ended up divorced. He would take our daughters on weekends. His friends would say "your ex wife must be beautiful ". Apparently, according to my kids, he HATED that.
Yet when we were together, I wasn't skinny enough. I wasn't blonde Yada Yada.
@@seameology Yes girl omg. He would make me feel so bad about myself and so undesirable if I gained a few pounds even though I am very petite. But every source of supply he chases after when he discards me, every single one is overweight (not to shame these women but he is going after easy targets he knows he can lovebomb). There was nothing actually wrong with me. **It was just another tactic to devalue me and make me feel worthless!!**
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@@Domorriganaand so no one would look at you in an attractive way. Mine wanted me to gain weight, I am almost 5 ft and 108 lbs.
THANKS ADREW FOR BEING A LIGHT IN THE SITUATION OF THE NARSISASISTIC FOG❤ YOU ARE A BLESSING💜🔥🔥🔥
It looks so peaceful where you are Andrew and the hawk is gorgeous ❤ this is my kind of sunday afternoon. Thank you for this beautiful backdrop and have a great evening ☺️💜🫶✨️⛰️🙏
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The hawk is my "spiritual animal"-pretty much always has been.
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When my narc was working on the discard she would constantly tell me that her family members were all seeing her unhappy and distraught and tried using that to get out of marriage counseling. And she was in a hurry she would ask me “what are we doing” right after she would start a fight over nothing. She would start a fight in order to show the marriage wasn’t working and that we needed to end marriage counseling .
O and my daughter messaged me that she heard. I said “heard what?” She said about the divorce. I said “what are you talking about?”
Yeah… My narc filed for divorce without even telling me!
And not knowing what was happening I took her out to eat and we came back and I tore the papers up. And she started an argument over it while still pretending she wanted the marriage to work. She was playing both sides to try and look like a victim and that she cared. It’s amazing the emotional gymnastics these people will do…
And they are masters at it, I was completely in the fog while she was trying to extricate herself from the marriage while maintaining victim status…
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Narcissists want to appear to others as “having it together”, as if they are the best, they want look like they have everything including money, fancy cars, boats and all the toys… when actually it all was bought by a previous supply or others.
the coat of many colors
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Yes sir thanks for your service
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to put it short; if it threatens the image they won’t do it
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Thank you Andrew. Your channel has really provided clear insight regarding my sister of late. And yes everything you've said here describes her to a 'T'. She does "shift" I have actually experienced her whole face contorting when she "gets into the name calling, and deflecting of the truth. She actually videos me periodically when" Ive caught her in a lie". May I just add, to the new peole to your channel :: People, this is very real. Andrew here has helped me understand the circumstances of why my sister is tye way she is. Not only that, I couldn't understand why she was also manipulating ny brother against me. We are all taking shifts to take care of mom at her home, she's never ontime for me to get to work and has even attacked me. People, I thank Andrew so much, for opening my eyes to narcissistic behavior. I LOVE NATURE, and have made some time everyday to stop, look and listen to nature, so peaceful. THANK YOU ANDREW❤❤❤😊 GOD BLESS YOU.
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Thanks Andrew. Coming out of the PTSD. Blessings 😊
Information and education are so important! Thank you Andrew, nature is the cure and animals gives you the purest love ever. It took me so long to understand that I wasn't wrong, but I am the perfect role of the scapegoat in a dissociated narcisistic family, like those described in psychiatry books! Thank to video like this one, I understood what every therapist faild to explein me, in a lifetime by psychotherapists, psychologists... I'm so pissed! I spend my entire life as a pleaser, too generous too emphatic and fell into narcisitic relashionships, constantly gaslight....and when you finally understand you are already destroyed! Independent information, education is EVERYTHINS TO BE AWARE !💗🌼🔆☀
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Interestingly, I stayed on your channel out of all possible YT channels and because from the very beginning I enjoyed your energy, which very much coincided with my energy
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I have a Hawk that lives in the woods/trees behind my home. I never knew it was there until the Narc left. It seems to stay close to my home in a huge pine tree. At times I see it fly past my patio/deck window and usually I will go out to greet it to let it know I appreciate it being there and sometimes talk to it. ❤️ 😊
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My ex had a custodial job at a school. It was very physically demanding and her feet were literally bleeding. I tried talking about other types of entry level work that was easier and quickly learned she didn’t want to hear about better job prospects because her ex tried to push her into something better. I believed it and at the time couldn’t see it was about discussing personal improvement and if your perfect you don’t need such nonsense. She actually put a line in the sand and said we weren’t going to talk about other jobs and her. Narcissist not only do not improve or grow or learn. They sure as heck aren’t going to talk about doing any of those.
Thank you for the videos they are so helpful.
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Way beautiful. Thank you Andrew! God bless!
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Thank you Andrew 😊 we don’t play games, we live beautiful authentic lives with serenity and peace ❤
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I know see them as pathetic and I actually feel sorry for them, everything you say is true and they reap what they sow we may not see it but it’s true , you can not go around doing that to people without consequences.
I love hawks we have lots of them in Suffolk. I can feel the healing happening to me everyday. My energy is returning after all the pain I suffered at the hands of the Narcassist. ❤️🙏
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Loved your video Andrew 🙌. All truth. Filled with hope. Thank you for showing us the hawk & including him in your background 🙂 How awesome that he stayed right there for the entire video 🪶🌲🌲
I agree that after healing this is where the abundance is. It's a sense of peace.
"There's no toxicity. It's just the ability to be. And this is where you belong "
Stay strong everyone. Sometimes baby steps.. sometimes big steps.. just stay on the path ⛰
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You are able to put words on the confusion and the havoc
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Its interesting after I filed for divorce. I heard so many stories about people who had negative experiences with him. The hardest thing was discovered his betrayals. Seemed like everyone knew but me. That has been hard to get through.
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This bugged me also, after my eventual discard so many people told me they never liked her, got a bad feeling about her etc. I understand why I went through what I did, but I also asked people that if in the future, they notice something I don't, then speak up.
Trust is earned
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Very, very well said.
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Beautiful video it touched me deeply. Thank you.
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Appearance is everything to the hawk too it seems. Thanks Andrew ❤
Wow,,, 🇫🇷✨️🙏🪶🦅Hello Andrew,,, seeing the Hawk,,, started my day with a smile😊Thank you for all your kindness,, Truth & Love🤗🪶🙏
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Not only was I not attracted to him, but I found him unattractive physically and his personality
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Great great post Andrew. You’ve helped me so much. The pinnacle of indifference has taken me 2.5 years, but it’s real. Beautiful hawk senses it’s safe in your calm serenity. Really wonderful to see.
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I’m listening to this video cracking up laughing in the middle of the night, here in Alaska.
Took me quite a while to realize that my now 38-year-old daughter is a full blown horrifying narcissist .
It’s like you’re talking about her specifically .
It’s a weird situation to be in because I do love her, but I can’t stand her. There’s not one thing I like about her. she has sucked the ever living life out of me. it has taken my health.
I finally blocked her back in July and just knowing that I don’t have to talk to her or see her puts my soul at peace .
They only hope for her is Christ .
Love your videos and appreciate them 🙌🏾🙏🏼
a super video thanks be to you and the hawk.
Wow truly Amazing Andrew! Animals know good people 🕊️Namaste❤
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my narc ex literally word for word told me “appearance is everything” once it was crazy
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I lived in CR and found your videos while I was there. I have separated myself from the N and back into the states. The transition is not easy.😢
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Thank you, Andrew. And thank you to the beautiful hawk ❤
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I love watching and listening to your videos. It's very empowering and provides well needed information and support I need to stay in no contact with my ex. I am still pretty vulnerable after almost two years of being away from him but I am healing and it gets better each and every day. To highlight one of the synchronicities, hawk is one of my spirits animal totems. Thank you for posting this new video! 🙏🙏🙏
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Loved this, Thank you, Andrew. The peace is what we all need. I felt it. 💕
Andrew, I'm so happy that you got to experience the presence of the hawk. Hawks have spiritual meaning. They can usher in changes and bring protection. The fact that this one stayed with you throughout the filming of this video is quite interesting. You are blessed.
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"What have you done for me lately"? By Janet Jackson is their theme song.
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Appearance & being late or not showing up is 100% right about these's dark evil souls. They can not stand peace as drama& chaos is what makes theses disgusting creatures feel inpowered etc. Animals know people with beautiful bright souls ✨️ ❤️ 🎉 🐕 blessings 🌞 🙌
Wow, this one was beautiful, watching you and that hawk again. Thank you Andrew.
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Amazing Andrew, thank you for your video 🙏 incredible and magnificent nature around you with a Spiritual Hawk.
Hi Andrew, thank you for another great informative video 👍⭐️
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Love the hawk! Thank you for all you do.
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Loved the hawk. That's surely a message.
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