Wow Andrew, Has all this wisdom and knowledge come-as a Direct Result of your personal experience with the narcissist ? Did you break it down and work it out or Did you have an “Andrew”of your own to give you the understanding throughout the healing journey? Either way ,the understanding and the willingness to share as you do is a gift from GOD! One that blesses many people as you share the tools you have gained. Just want to say how well you have done!!! Thank you once again Your in my prayers brother and all those that watch your channel Blessings
@@JoyJohnson-u5e Yes. Life is good. When I was 8 months narc free I couldn’t see the joy. After a long marriage- it was difficult. This is the 3rd thanksgiving that I really feel happy. Sometimes I feel sadness in my heart but I can’t change the monster I married. Being narc free is a journey. I wish you all the strength in the world to keep on your path !!
Andrew is giving of himself to us every day. I challenge everyone here to share this video and other videos with 5 other people in your social network!!! Let’s get him to over 1 million subscribers!!! It’s the least we can do. Thank you Andrew!!!
Wishing everyone a soft place to land . Wishing everyone good health for the holidays and a comphie winter .....I'm just at the pint that I trust no one
All your videos are right on point with what's going on in my healing path. It's almost been 6 years since the narcissist I was married to for 24 years passed away and almost 3 years that I have gone no contact with his family and mine. The fog is clearing more and more every year! None of them especially him had me believing I could never do anything on my own! I couldn't make decisions and I could never accomplish anything substantial. Well if they had the opportunity to know anything about me they would be shocked to know that instead of wasting my holidays with people that pretended to care for me but actually were controlling me I'm off to spend my holidays in a beautiful country outside the US! My life is beginning again at 68 years old. Thank you Andrew and everyone in this community for helping me get my soul back!
I found your videos this time last year. It helped me so much. You have no idea. honestly ...I stopped watching your videos maybe 3 or 4 months ago. I didn't even realize, but it's because I beat the narcissist. Im entering the 3rd version. I owe you so much. These videos are incredibly valuable. Thank you.
This so resonates, “they broke the relationship over and over and over again “ and then “they overplay their hand” . That’s exactly the pattern of my 8 years. And “they need supply to function “ and I don’t” So good to hear you speak of the healing path, not a straight line. So supportive hearing that because sometimes I’m great but then sometimes I feel pulled into this sadness , darkness , loneliness…. But then it lifts again. Thank you Andrew for this healing work you do. We are so grateful 💫⭐️
you put it well, ‘being pulled back into the sadness, darkness and loneliness’ I deal with the same - like a video of the past running thru my head wondering when it subsides and gets better. Am post 54 yrs married to Narc Husband (he passed away 4 mos ago) I had no clue of a Narcissist person how could I be so unlucky like so many of us?
while I have peace and quiet now which is super and I’m so thankful but I lived two separate lives in 24 hrs each day for yrs. One under control of NarcHusband, other half as a Professional at work where I had a voice and no one knew of my other half of my daily life.
@@annawallace3264 what is the sadness part from. He passed and sorry for your loss. It means going thru a lot but his abuse has stopped. So what is the sad part. That you won’t get answers, closure for his awful behavior? I’m thinking that’s it. Like “who was I with all these years?”. It’s only been a few months. Early in for the healing. It WILL get better. Rediscover interests of yours and take them up again. Hopefully you don’t in a place that’s too isolated. I live in Manhattan so was easier to find distractions.
@@lreevesnyc21 the good part, Andrew is educating us and others about Narcissists. The sad part is trying to live life as a ‘normal’ person (someone who has never lived with or been subjected to evilness and retaliation of a Narcissist) after a lifetime (married him @18, 54 yrs marriage) of disappointment/cruelty by the NarcHusband…because normal people can’t relate and understand what we have lived thru it sounds so foreign to them. Yes, I left the NarcHusband for almost 5 yrs but he and his flying monkeys were not making my life easy, see below*, thinking it would change if we lived 5 miles further away would work but it didn’t, it continued along with his new supply, etc. *Also, his one flying monkey a head Judge pulled my legal sep/divorce paperwork from court system put it in his bottom office drawer to keep it from happening-that Judge has now passed away. Oh it was NarcHusband told me “why I was never going to get a separation nor a divorce from him”. Evil. It is Winter here now but I will try to create a bucket list for the future and enjoy times with my best companions ever, my dogs.🐶
Wow Cheryl, that's amazing!!! I can definitely relate with you as well, I called the ex narc wife out on her nonsense lies, manipulation games and told her from the get go "I know your hiding something from me, it's just a matter of time" and I ended up being right and her mask dropped right in front of me once I put up a boundary!!! It was soo creepy yet liberating to know I beat her at her own game and she lost!!! Blocked her on everything and occasionally I get calls from fake private numbers or random phantom adds on Facebook but i just block all of them as if they don't exist!!!! By the way, my Mom's name is also Cheryl so it's special talking to you!!!
@ thank you Paul. I’m going through the same thing. He cheated and even got another girl pregnant. I blocked him on everything but I still get the odd threatening post cards, random phantom phone calls, fake accounts and smear campaigns. It’s torture but I try and remain silent. It’s the only way to keep them out your life. Can totally relate. Sending you love and light and healing energy. I just hope the heart heals from this and I can move forward, but it’s torture every day!
@@cheryl980 Wow Cheryl, can definitely relate with this one as well!!! The ex narc wife was cheating on me with her ex boyfriend and another random guy because she told me one day "babe, I need to tell you something. *Pause* and then she says "I got in touch with my ex, I needed closure" so then I said "oh ok, did you get the closure?" She said "yes and started crying then said "I don't think this is working out" that was it for me right there let me tell you!!!! But Cheryl, I say keep doing what you are doing as you are definitely on the right track to healing your heart!!! Stay consistent, ensure you also spend time praying for God to remove it from your soul! 🙏
Thank you for all you do! I left the narc 14 yrs ago. 10 yr legal battle. Turned my mom and two children and many friends against me. The first few yrs were hard but I learned that no matter what I do he would always be the same. There was no way to coparent. He took me to court continually even though I had move two states away. The court forced communication so no contact wasn’t an option and I was too scrappy for gray rock 😂the good news is I got through it and so can you folks! Today I have a husband (new, NOT THE NARC) that is my very best friend and he is so kind, loving and understanding. He was the one who taught me about narc abuse because he had been there before me. Now, my life is quiet, peaceful and I am healed. These videos are great for teaching me what I went through wasn’t my fault and it isn’t your fault either. You are kind and loving. Don’t change. Just have boundaries. Now when people push mine they only get two chances. Three strikes is a pattern and they are OUT! God bless you! ❤
thank you for your testimonial. Your story HAS to be heard for those who may doubt how cruel the NARC is in their life. You were one of the lucky ones who had the courage to do whatever it took to free yourself from their miserable grips. I am stuck unfortunately . I had ( and still have ) no support to free myself. I dream of finding a way out. ( winning the lottery?) and disassociating myself from the NARC and the entire family I married into. They are all the same. I wonder if I would have left years ago if I had a channel like this to lean on. I am so happy you married again...to a kind and loving husband but also a friend to you. I don't know what that feels like. to be loved.....I have no idea what that is. I am a chump all these years waiting and hoping for a better life....but it will never be with this jerk. Again.....yell your story from the rooftops and let the world know there is another world out there with love....and kindness....if you can get out....DO IT !!! Even if you are alone for awhile having calm conversations and an arm around you to tell you things will be OK. Wishing you all the best.....you deserve it and lets keep this going so we all will heal and move on.
@ thank you for your sweet reply. You’re right, I am very fortunate that I had the resources to leave. THAT was a real miracle! Seriously, I had to flee for my life with kids in the middle of the night! God really set me free and had people to take me in and help me get on my feet. I am praying the same for you dear one.💗Always hope. There is a way out for you.
Waves of the spiritual darkness I felt around her hit me hard today. I don’t know if you all believe in anything spiritual but it’s the only way I can explain the intuitive visceral feeling I had at the end of that relationship. Absolute dark energy. Sometimes I still can feel it.
I am A CHRISTIAN WOMAN. AND AS IVE GROWN IN THE LORD. AND LEARNED HIS DISCERNMENT, I FIND I CAN ACTUALLY FEEL AND DISCERN THAT DARKNESS. AND REMEMBER, HE WILL Confirm IT. YOUR COMMENT NEEDS TO BE TOLD AGAIN AND AGAIN. ❤
Severe ups & downs for me…..at the end I felt like I’d comeback from a war & when I came back the world around had changed as well because I was in survival mode for so long.
@@LeahIsHereNow nothing is forever, even the suffering we endure. If you stay , definitely it will never end. If you leave and you heal - there is another world waiting for you. I have more joy cleaning my toilets than I did living with the narcissist.
When you've endured the manipulation of a narcissist, it can feel like you're wandering in a fog. But the direction you are going in now matters more than where you've been. Every step forward-no matter how small-is a rebellion against the darkness they tried to impose on you. Choosing to heal, to recognize your worth, and to rebuild your trust in yourself is a powerful direction. Stay focused on your path, not theirs.
Going outside every Day with a smile on my face 😄:this took me a lot of time to achieve . narcissist ends up in a Hell:with bankruptcy and possible danger which is self-created 🙂↔️🗿👺
These's creatures of the darkness do not ever care about how many lives they have destroyed. Honestly I do not have time of day for any of these's disgusting shivering snakes & either should anyone on this wonderful channel ❤🎉 thank you Andrew for your wisdom 🙏 🙌 blessings 🌞 bright beautiful lights ❤ stay strong 💪 🎉 🌈 💙😇
I want to Wish everyone here a SAFE,, PEACEFUL& NARC/ FREE, holidays🎄✨️🫎🙏🇫🇷Be proud of ALL we have been through!! And BE GRATEFUL WE ALL FOUND Andrew🙏✨️🌲💚❤️I AM!!
Listening to Dylan today while doing physical work, I heard this song and it reminded me to change the words my friend to mother father sister brother husband wife lover or anyone else that has devalued you to the core. It starts you've got a lotta nerve to say you are my friend. When I was down you just stood there grinning. Look it up. Listen to it. It cuts to the core of the truth. Lean into it feel it meditate on it and then release
Thank you Andrew. Healing is definitely Not linear - so true! Some days are easier than others but- it’s worth it. I’m worth it. You my friend are worth it. These videos have been a godsend literally! Thank you Andrew and I thank God for waking me up out of the fog. For anyone new out there- be sure to block the narcissist if possible! Maybe you are like me and you think you can handle it or you’re in control or whatever- but take my word for it… the longer you put off blocking them- the longer your healing will be delayed. This happened to me. I thought I was over it, strong enough, etc fill in the blank…Now I realize just how insidious these creatures are and just how real the spiritual attacks can be. Block them NOW if possible otherwise limit conversation to minimum.
Life is amazing even when you are home alone !!! Many friends took his side - good luck and good riddance!! I kept the good empaths who love me unconditionally. Don’t stay with your abuser. Life if amazing when you aren’t in “ solitary confinement in the jail the made for us “.
I distance myself from my narc sister but my mother is old and many times when I talk to her she mention my sister life, etc… so bring me back to suffering again. Now I decided to call less my mother so I can heal. Fly monkeys don’t help!
I’m sorry you’re going through this. It is not easy. I have a narc sister and covert narc mother and they are thick as thieves. My sister would not talk to me directly. All communication went through my narc mother who would further spin anything in her favor. My mother is old. They were all shocked when I cut them all out. My sister and bil will have to care for my parents but that’s what she wants because she is a total control freak and loves to be the martyr. You are not alone. I hope you find peace and healing going low contact.
Moving forward 2 steps at a time is really good. The mind moves and thinks faster than the heart. That 3rd step is just a pause for your heart to catch up. 💜
Andrew u give me hope on this lonely healing process. The journey is slow but I'm making progress. 30 years of abuse does not disappear overnight. I'm having patience with me😊
I was talking with a friend today about these's dark creatures of evil. When I said there's disgusting evil souls don't have any empathy. My friend had no idea what empathy meant. Its amazing how many of us are learning not just about narcissistic but about ourselves & how different we are to those's dark souls. Blessings 🌞 beautiful bright shining lights ✨️ 💖💛 🙌 we need to believe in ourselves ❤🎉
SPOT ON.. Thank you Andrew! ❤💯 YES COMPLETELY SELF ABSORBED IN THEMSELVES, THERE IS NO ONE ELSE THERE IN THE ROOM, never was.. FOR ONLY THEM ! forget you.. you don’t even or have existed’ you never did (no one ever did).. they are perpetual dead light they were never truly alive anyway!
1,5 year out …but it’s hard, to accept what happens. This is hard to go trough! To see that the one you loved and you gave all you can give and more, is a con, a faker, a cold heard….. but I survived! And I recognized that some friends are the same, that brothers are the same! O m g that is like start a new life! This people have no heart, may be no soul, no Conscience! And Sometimes just evilness! O m g! This hurts… this pain is to come out! God bless you @.
I am not healed as much as I thought I was. I am no contact and will not have contact but I have saved some messages and I thought they disappeared and my heart started pounding and I started crying. So it is what it is. I am still emotionally tied to the narc. I do not respect him, do not like him, think he is immoral and dangerous yet still cherish the false connection I had with him. It was genuine on my part but nothing but lies on his. In the end, I was sure he actually hated me.
Stay strong. Pray. It will pass , break the emotional TIE. GO. READ SCRIPTURE, PRAY. GIVE IT TO THE ONE WHOES LOVE IS BIG ENOUGH, TO HEAL TO CALM TO RESTORE. IM SAYING THIS BECAUSE IM GOING THRU THE SAME EXACT THING.
@nvbccjarbohum Sounds like you are experiencing what's called "euphoric recall", meaning you are recalling mostly the good things and minimizing the bad. But maybe this will help------Write a list of all the horrible awful things the narc did to you, and every time you start cherishing the connection you had to him READ THE LIST YOU MADE OF ALL THE AWFUL THINGS THE NARC DID TO YOU. Then you'll remember what a horrible no-good abuser the narc is and you'll be glad you're no contact and this will help you cut the emotional tie.
@@pamilaknapp203 I am doing it. I have also learned to go with my feelings. Not validating them they resurface anyway later on and it only prolongs the pain and misery. And as Andrew says, be kind to yourself instead of as I tend to criticize myself for not paying attention to my intuition. It is what it is and I am grateful that I am on the right path to recovery in this caring group. Take care.
Thank you for this gift. The metaphor of this ascending staircase is so beautiful and profound. What a healing landscape you’re standing in. Bless you, Andrew, for the wisdom you impart. Namaste to you, too! 💜✝💜✝💜✝💜✝💜✝💜✝💜✝💜
That last lil ‘bye everybody ‘hit hard as if you found your youth again. Appreciate the daily affirmations as I go face first into the holidaze- getting better and needed to hear that setbacks are part of it. Rock on Andrew and merry Dec 1st to the community
I feel like I'm spinning my wheels Andrew and nothing positive is happening. When I had no where to go I had find a place to stay.....so I'm almost use to the quiet.. it's been a real lonely road
Join a church, a sewing group, a gym, volunteer, make a few acquaintances, don’t stay alone to long. Soon you will have something to fill the void. You will heal as you do the work! You can do it!
I came to the conclusion after the relationship I recently was in, was a narcissist relationship. When I found the channel and started to do the work to heal I realized my two marriages that were ended in divorce years and years ago were narc marriages. Because I was discarded in both cases with nothing after years of being in the work force. Finding the wisdom has shown me the answers to all the questions I had from so many years ago. I am learning boundaries and working through all the issues including childhood hurts. I am strong and so can you be strong. Do the work, journal, listen to Andrew he is so smart. You can have victory. Nothing is as sweet as Peace. 😊
Sometimes its so hard even to recognise in what relationship we where. ? Once : symptoms sighns,where not clear. Under modesty humility was passive aggression lack of empathy impulsiveness. Twice : relationship, marriage ended very unconventionally. No clousure no emotions no nothing. My wife left me saying: " i just don't need you anymore for anything and i got enough of controlling you " and she dissappeared completely . No communication no cooperation toward ( agreement? divorce?... anything...). Stonewalling and she dissappeared completely ( i dont know even where ?) for years. The catch , confusion cognitive dysonance is : you dont know person from sutch behaviour. Quite opposite: you knew her as nicest person
So great to consume your wise words, like sitting at a grand dinner table, enjoying a feast of wisdom and feeling confident having found the path of peace and freedom. Bon appetit Andrew, thank you dearly. 😊❤
Your video is on point as always. I started watching your videos when you were in Costa Rica. I was going through a divorce at that time. I was getting out of a narcissistic relationship . Thanks for your videos they help me a lot. She turn our kids against me at that time, but they are now living with me. Except for the youngest one. Greetings and thank you!
I have been healing in almost 'sections.' I did take a months long course on narcissism and healing from narcissistic relationships. I filled many journals, read many books, watched Andrew's videos and others. Then, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, I began to heal, over a period of 2+ years, and definitely not in a linear fashion. I saw my healing through actions I began taking for ME; like finding energy somehow to go through all of my clutter--in a storage unit and in my home---beginning a fitness regimen, cleaning and fixing things that had been neglected during the 8 years I was putting all of my focus, energy and attention into helping the narcissist and into 'our relationship.' I am on my second therapist over this issue (and the current one is great), have taken up new hobbies, created new art, and have begun to open up to healthy people and fill my life daily with joy. I went from feeling almost like the walking dead to having a meaningful, joyous life. There are times of setback, like when the narcissist decides to send a "I'm thinking of you; how are you?" text (no, I have not completely blocked him) but I am continuing to learn and grow and I feel healthy and positive again ON MY OWN.
The narcissist web of lies is multi layered, has many multidimensional depths, and has infinite facets of malicious mischief. In my view, that is why progress out of that web has its twists and turns and indeed is not linear. Daily insights /learnings are the road map out of the web ..... thank you for the wisdom.
I've stopped emotionally eating and have lost alot of weight without trying. Blocking him was the best decision and then I found your channel. Thank you so so much ❤
with this narc experience I have had sanity because of videos like this one on at the exact time I need the help. this too shall pass we do recover. you are not alone either. I check in to tell everyone especially Andrew thank God for the help navigating my way out
I'm having an up and around and down (a little bit) type of day. 41 months since I escaped, I appear 'somewhat normal' a lot of the fime. But I do have days here and there of a white knuckle roller coaster ride. Thank you Andrew for reminding me to be gentle on myself.
Thank you Andrew ❤ My healing has definitely been doing a zig zag motion lately!! But each day, even when I feel I've taken 2 steps forward and one step back....I'm slowly getting where I need to be🙂❤
Thank you Andrew, I am from North Carolina and live here today. I enjoy your channel, and I have learned quite a lot during this journey of mine, and I appreciate everything you do! Sincerely, Blessings, Love, KRT
GREAT VID Andrew !!!!! ON POINT !!! I did HEAL !!! AS you say by investing in yourself and TOTALLY staying away from the VAMPIRE and all the toxicity and just slowing down and just being with NATURE !! ALL of you NEWBIES can DO THIS !! Listen to Andrew and in YOUR TIME you will HEAL !! God bless EMPATHS....💯💥🤚✌💪💥💯
Love it ❤. Yes you’re right but I still suffer from it it was a very big drama to my life. He’s out there with all the money and he left me with nothing and I mean nothing so I need to recover and that will take a lifetime thank you
Hello Andrew, beautiful environment animals and nature. Also great masonry work on the amphitheatre, stunning ambience ! Just noticed you posted today's video. Will watch when I get home from work this afternoon. It's early morning here.
She started the SMEAR Campaign with all my friends. She told them I was GAY !!!! One of my friends called me to tell me what she said...... I said....." 83 Women, no complaints and not counting Chickens and Goats - and she calls me GAY ???" There is NO LOW they will not STOOP to
the narcissist I was involved with was beautiful and talented on the surface and has/had no problem attracting pretty much any woman he's interested in - and that used to burn and frustrate me...but I've come to realize that doesn't matter. He is only capable of charming them into loving him with a fake persona - but not capable AT ALL of loving anyone in return. So nobody will EVER be good enough. He can catch as many as he wants, but will always wind up empty and unable to feel real love and connection, real trust and safety. It's tragic and sad. I am so glad I am coming out the other side of the fog and healing so much of my past. Thanks as always, Andrew. I feel like you're a friend I haven't met. :)
I identify with you completely but I'm now not sure if he stole my beauty. He left me feeling so ugly and worthless. It took years to realise I'm not. I think it was part of the manipulation. They are sick.
@@jennyborst4178 I feel the same way - but work hard to rebuild my self esteem and worth - and with it comes beauty. I had stopped caring for myself properly and aged over night. Please focus on giving yourself the care you need, try and sleep, eat right and get outside. You're beauty is still there. You are NOT worthless.
@@Sorsha011Thank you. They get so deep under your skin. I cannot really comprehend them. Good for you to reinvent and rediscover yourself. Andrew is right. We are bright shining lights and the narcissists are envious.
With 53 I have never been completely free of narcissism. I have to deal with parental alienation, was covertly rejected by my own parents, abused by sisters and betrayed by friends. Last year I bought a house abroad through a narcissist (looking backwards) who pulled me into a shared fantasy. I started looking up to him which gave me back my zest for life and the house gave me a future. But now he has shit all over it and the fellow countrymen who also live there are covert narcs, enablers and flying monkeys. Just think, if you have already lost everything you love (children) and you manage to find some meaning again, that then also becomes impossible, because you are unspokenly blamed for something and are also excluded. Life is to be lived, not to constantly break down. What to do now? I have given my all with love in all areas, but it seems as if I am forced to be stuck in this static world. I am unable to heal in this way.
What were you doing before the narcissist moved in to your life becouse they pulled you away from the purpose you were living before them. They glued themselves to you becouse you had a spiritual life before them. God will guide you find your higher power again. That is my strength it takes time but believe what you were doing is what they wanted and the demons didn't want you to fulfill your purpose.
Wow Andrew,
Has all this wisdom and knowledge come-as a Direct Result of your personal experience with the narcissist ? Did you break it down and work it out
or
Did you have an “Andrew”of your own to give you the understanding throughout the healing journey?
Either way ,the
understanding and the willingness to share as you do is a gift from GOD! One that blesses many people as you share the tools you have gained.
Just want to say how well you have done!!!
Thank you once again
Your in my prayers brother and all those that watch your channel
Blessings
Two years and two day of being isolated without any human being was my teacher..my guide..and is my testimony..💜⛰️🙏✨
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone NICE...With "narc noise' out of the way, Self whispered eternal secrets in your daily meditations...
Narc free for 2 years and life is unbelievably beautiful, enchanting, peaceful and unbelievably magnificent!!!!
💯💯⛰️💜
Beautiful 😍
Gbu on my journey a PRINCESS 20yr narc friendship THE DEVIL TRY TO TAKE ME OUT IM STILL STAND8NG ,GOD GAVE ME THE STRENGTH TO GET OUT.
Narc free 8 months, life is good
@@JoyJohnson-u5e Yes. Life is good. When I was 8 months narc free I couldn’t see the joy. After a long marriage- it was difficult. This is the 3rd thanksgiving that I really feel happy. Sometimes I feel sadness in my heart but I can’t change the monster I married.
Being narc free is a journey. I wish you all the strength in the world to keep on your path !!
Andrew is giving of himself to us every day.
I challenge everyone here to share this video and other videos with 5 other people in your social network!!!
Let’s get him to over 1 million subscribers!!! It’s the least we can do.
Thank you Andrew!!!
that social network...
Wishing everyone a soft place to land . Wishing everyone good health for the holidays and a comphie winter .....I'm just at the pint that I trust no one
😌😌💜
I completely understand. I am too.
All your videos are right on point with what's going on in my healing path. It's almost been 6 years since the narcissist I was married to for 24 years passed away and almost 3 years that I have gone no contact with his family and mine. The fog is clearing more and more every year! None of them especially him had me believing I could never do anything on my own! I couldn't make decisions and I could never accomplish anything substantial. Well if they had the opportunity to know anything about me they would be shocked to know that instead of wasting my holidays with people that pretended to care for me but actually were controlling me I'm off to spend my holidays in a beautiful country outside the US! My life is beginning again at 68 years old. Thank you Andrew and everyone in this community for helping me get my soul back!
I just cooked a beautiful first meal at my brand new apartment and bought myself a beautiful dining set!
It's great to be narc free
Treat yourself in your narc free zone.
You go for it & enjoy the beautiful new life ✨️ without any dark evil souls. Blessings 🌞 🎉
Thank you. Realized it’s evil in them and if you let it, it will get into you too. Get away from them get far away.
He called me from jail… Please Jesus, give me strength. He is legitimately mentally ill, but it’s out of my hands. God knows I tried.
Why not choose a good man like me ? Why choose a looser who calls you from jail ?
I love the analogy of the stairs behind you meaning the elevation of the empaths always trying to heal better. Thank you Andrew
I found your videos this time last year. It helped me so much. You have no idea. honestly ...I stopped watching your videos maybe 3 or 4 months ago. I didn't even realize, but it's because I beat the narcissist. Im entering the 3rd version. I owe you so much. These videos are incredibly valuable. Thank you.
Welcome..💜🙏⛰️✨
@@i_read_bad_reviews awesome !!
Sweet Victory! Maybe "bittersweet,"back then, but still a victory. 👍
This so resonates, “they broke the relationship over and over and over again “ and then “they overplay their hand” . That’s exactly the pattern of my 8 years.
And “they need supply to function “ and I don’t”
So good to hear you speak of the healing path, not a straight line. So supportive hearing that because sometimes I’m great but then sometimes I feel pulled into this sadness , darkness , loneliness….
But then it lifts again. Thank you Andrew for this healing work you do. We are so grateful 💫⭐️
They need & i don't 💥
you put it well, ‘being pulled back into the sadness, darkness and loneliness’ I deal with the same - like a video of the past running thru my head wondering when it subsides and gets better. Am post 54 yrs married to Narc Husband (he passed away 4 mos ago) I had no clue of a Narcissist person how could I be so unlucky like so many of us?
while I have peace and quiet now which is super and I’m so thankful but I lived two separate lives in 24 hrs each day for yrs. One under control of NarcHusband, other half as a Professional at work where I had a voice and no one knew of my other half of my daily life.
@@annawallace3264 what is the sadness part from. He passed and sorry for your loss. It means going thru a lot but his abuse has stopped. So what is the sad part. That you won’t get answers, closure for his awful behavior? I’m thinking that’s it. Like “who was I with all these years?”. It’s only been a few months. Early in for the healing. It WILL get better. Rediscover interests of yours and take them up again. Hopefully you don’t in a place that’s too isolated. I live in Manhattan so was easier to find distractions.
@@lreevesnyc21 the good part, Andrew is educating us and others about Narcissists. The sad part is trying to live life as a ‘normal’ person (someone who has never lived with or been subjected to evilness and retaliation of a Narcissist) after a lifetime (married him @18, 54 yrs marriage) of disappointment/cruelty by the NarcHusband…because normal people can’t relate and understand what we have lived thru it sounds so foreign to them. Yes, I left the NarcHusband for almost 5 yrs but he and his flying monkeys were not making my life easy, see below*, thinking it would change if we lived 5 miles further away would work but it didn’t, it continued along with his new supply, etc. *Also, his one flying monkey a head Judge pulled my legal sep/divorce paperwork from court system put it in his bottom office drawer to keep it from happening-that Judge has now passed away. Oh it was NarcHusband told me “why I was never going to get a separation nor a divorce from him”. Evil. It is Winter here now but I will try to create a bucket list for the future and enjoy times with my best companions ever, my dogs.🐶
Once you have healed you will feel joy like you have never felt. Freedom- feels incredible. It’s all true!!! Just hang in there!!!
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You're on a one way street......going your way.
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I caught him out with all his lies, manipulation, cheating and corruption. His mask fell and i blocked him on everything! Moving on with my life!
Wow Cheryl, that's amazing!!! I can definitely relate with you as well, I called the ex narc wife out on her nonsense lies, manipulation games and told her from the get go "I know your hiding something from me, it's just a matter of time" and I ended up being right and her mask dropped right in front of me once I put up a boundary!!! It was soo creepy yet liberating to know I beat her at her own game and she lost!!! Blocked her on everything and occasionally I get calls from fake private numbers or random phantom adds on Facebook but i just block all of them as if they don't exist!!!! By the way, my Mom's name is also Cheryl so it's special talking to you!!!
@ thank you Paul. I’m going through the same thing. He cheated and even got another girl pregnant. I blocked him on everything but I still get the odd threatening post cards, random phantom phone calls, fake accounts and smear campaigns. It’s torture but I try and remain silent. It’s the only way to keep them out your life. Can totally relate. Sending you love and light and healing energy. I just hope the heart heals from this and I can move forward, but it’s torture every day!
@@cheryl980 Wow Cheryl, can definitely relate with this one as well!!! The ex narc wife was cheating on me with her ex boyfriend and another random guy because she told me one day "babe, I need to tell you something. *Pause* and then she says "I got in touch with my ex, I needed closure" so then I said "oh ok, did you get the closure?" She said "yes and started crying then said "I don't think this is working out" that was it for me right there let me tell you!!!! But Cheryl, I say keep doing what you are doing as you are definitely on the right track to healing your heart!!! Stay consistent, ensure you also spend time praying for God to remove it from your soul! 🙏
Sad to say, Andrew, if I ever told my Father about the abuse, my ex would be six feet under.....
Thank you for all you do! I left the narc 14 yrs ago. 10 yr legal battle. Turned my mom and two children and many friends against me. The first few yrs were hard but I learned that no matter what I do he would always be the same. There was no way to coparent. He took me to court continually even though I had move two states away. The court forced communication so no contact wasn’t an option and I was too scrappy for gray rock 😂the good news is I got through it and so can you folks! Today I have a husband (new, NOT THE NARC) that is my very best friend and he is so kind, loving and understanding. He was the one who taught me about narc abuse because he had been there before me. Now, my life is quiet, peaceful and I am healed. These videos are great for teaching me what I went through wasn’t my fault and it isn’t your fault either. You are kind and loving. Don’t change. Just have boundaries. Now when people push mine they only get two chances. Three strikes is a pattern and they are OUT! God bless you! ❤
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@@mzmishel7953 what a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing with all of us that even though it’s a difficult journey- better days are ahead.
My kid is 3 do i have a chance? Our child is currently a mamas boy
thank you for your testimonial. Your story HAS to be heard for those who may doubt how cruel the NARC is in their life. You were one of the lucky ones who had the courage to do whatever it took to free yourself from their miserable grips. I am stuck unfortunately . I had ( and still have ) no support to free myself. I dream of finding a way out. ( winning the lottery?) and disassociating myself from the NARC and the entire family I married into. They are all the same. I wonder if I would have left years ago if I had a channel like this to lean on. I am so happy you married again...to a kind and loving husband but also a friend to you. I don't know what that feels like. to be loved.....I have no idea what that is. I am a chump all these years waiting and hoping for a better life....but it will never be with this jerk. Again.....yell your story from the rooftops and let the world know there is another world out there with love....and kindness....if you can get out....DO IT !!! Even if you are alone for awhile having calm conversations and an arm around you to tell you things will be OK. Wishing you all the best.....you deserve it and lets keep this going so we all will heal and move on.
@ thank you for your sweet reply. You’re right, I am very fortunate that I had the resources to leave. THAT was a real miracle! Seriously, I had to flee for my life with kids in the middle of the night! God really set me free and had people to take me in and help me get on my feet. I am praying the same for you dear one.💗Always hope. There is a way out for you.
Amen and Hallelujah! 7 months free🌟🙏🙌🥳
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Thank you it feel very different because now I see how evil people can be it’s so sad to see these demons get away with there evil behavior!
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Waves of the spiritual darkness I felt around her hit me hard today. I don’t know if you all believe in anything spiritual but it’s the only way I can explain the intuitive visceral feeling I had at the end of that relationship. Absolute dark energy. Sometimes I still can feel it.
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Yes, I had same feelings. One that really got my attention was the cold feeling I would get in my chest at odd times.
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They are dark evil souls & will try and destroy your beautiful soul ♥️ ✨️ leave them in the darkness were they all belong 🙌
I am A CHRISTIAN WOMAN. AND AS IVE GROWN IN THE LORD. AND LEARNED HIS DISCERNMENT, I FIND I CAN ACTUALLY FEEL AND DISCERN THAT DARKNESS. AND REMEMBER, HE WILL Confirm IT. YOUR COMMENT NEEDS TO BE TOLD AGAIN AND AGAIN. ❤
Severe ups & downs for me…..at the end I felt like I’d comeback from a war & when I came back the world around had changed as well because I was in survival mode for so long.
I'm still putting out fires that the narcissist started 😮😮😮
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I promise you that eventually there will be no more fires to put out. Once you block them, divorce them they are on their own!
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@@LeahIsHereNow nothing is forever, even the suffering we endure. If you stay , definitely it will never end. If you leave and you heal - there is another world waiting for you. I have more joy cleaning my toilets than I did living with the narcissist.
When you've endured the manipulation of a narcissist, it can feel like you're wandering in a fog. But the direction you are going in now matters more than where you've been. Every step forward-no matter how small-is a rebellion against the darkness they tried to impose on you. Choosing to heal, to recognize your worth, and to rebuild your trust in yourself is a powerful direction. Stay focused on your path, not theirs.
Yes… and marriage or living with someone is not a license to abuse.
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Going outside every Day with a smile on my face 😄:this took me a lot of time to achieve . narcissist ends up in a Hell:with bankruptcy and possible danger which is self-created 🙂↔️🗿👺
These's creatures of the darkness do not ever care about how many lives they have destroyed. Honestly I do not have time of day for any of these's disgusting shivering snakes & either should anyone on this wonderful channel ❤🎉 thank you Andrew for your wisdom 🙏 🙌 blessings 🌞 bright beautiful lights ❤ stay strong 💪 🎉 🌈 💙😇
I have a bright beautiful future ahead in the new year i believe in dreams
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I've been going forward and he no doubt has been standing still and sinking in the quicksand of his denial.
No joke, one of the first things i said was, "Where are you?" when seeing the background!! 😊
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I want to Wish everyone here a SAFE,, PEACEFUL& NARC/ FREE, holidays🎄✨️🫎🙏🇫🇷Be proud of ALL we have been through!! And BE GRATEFUL WE ALL FOUND Andrew🙏✨️🌲💚❤️I AM!!
Listening to Dylan today while doing physical work, I heard this song and it reminded me to change the words my friend to
mother father sister brother husband wife lover or anyone else that has devalued you to the core. It starts you've got a lotta nerve to say you are my friend. When I was down you just stood there grinning. Look it up. Listen to it. It cuts to the core of the truth. Lean into it feel it meditate on it and then release
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It's everything. Hope not to be back for a while have to concentrate on hard work
I wish I could order everyone to begin their journey of healing by listening to this song.
Love that you loved
Used to think of my ex when that song played. Cuts deep.
Thank you Andrew. Healing is definitely Not linear - so true! Some days are easier than others but- it’s worth it. I’m worth it. You my friend are worth it. These videos have been a godsend literally! Thank you Andrew and I thank God for waking me up out of the fog.
For anyone new out there- be sure to block the narcissist if possible! Maybe you are like me and you think you can handle it or you’re in control or whatever- but take my word for it… the longer you put off blocking them- the longer your healing will be delayed. This happened to me. I thought I was over it, strong enough, etc fill in the blank…Now I realize just how insidious these creatures are and just how real the spiritual attacks can be. Block them NOW if possible otherwise limit conversation to minimum.
Life is amazing even when you are home alone !!! Many friends took his side - good luck and good riddance!! I kept the good empaths who love me unconditionally.
Don’t stay with your abuser. Life if amazing when you aren’t in “ solitary confinement in the jail the made for us “.
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I distance myself from my narc sister but my mother is old and many times when I talk to her she mention my sister life, etc… so bring me back to suffering again. Now I decided to call less my mother so I can heal. Fly monkeys don’t help!
I’m sorry you’re going through this. It is not easy. I have a narc sister and covert narc mother and they are thick as thieves. My sister would not talk to me directly. All communication went through my narc mother who would further spin anything in her favor. My mother is old. They were all shocked when I cut them all out. My sister and bil will have to care for my parents but that’s what she wants because she is a total control freak and loves to be the martyr. You are not alone. I hope you find peace and healing going low contact.
Thank you for your help. I'm struggling but I am making it through with your guidance. God bless you.
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The struggle sucks but it will be worth it. I was there.
My healing has been three steps forward, one step back. Progress over perfection. A big stronger each day
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Moving forward 2 steps at a time is really good. The mind moves and thinks faster than the heart. That 3rd step is just a pause for your heart to catch up.
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Andrew u give me hope on this lonely healing process. The journey is slow but I'm making progress. 30 years of abuse does not disappear overnight. I'm having patience with me😊
I was talking with a friend today about these's dark creatures of evil. When I said there's disgusting evil souls don't have any empathy. My friend had no idea what empathy meant. Its amazing how many of us are learning not just about narcissistic but about ourselves & how different we are to those's dark souls. Blessings 🌞 beautiful bright shining lights ✨️ 💖💛 🙌 we need to believe in ourselves ❤🎉
SPOT ON.. Thank you Andrew! ❤💯 YES COMPLETELY SELF ABSORBED IN THEMSELVES, THERE IS NO ONE ELSE THERE IN THE ROOM, never was.. FOR ONLY THEM !
forget you.. you don’t even or have existed’ you never did (no one ever did).. they are perpetual dead light they were never truly alive anyway!
1,5 year out …but it’s hard, to accept what happens. This is hard to go trough! To see that the one you loved and you gave all you can give and more, is a con, a faker, a cold heard….. but I survived! And I recognized that some friends are the same, that brothers are the same! O m g that is like start a new life! This people have no heart, may be no soul, no Conscience! And Sometimes just evilness! O m g! This hurts… this pain is to come out!
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I have gone no contact because I know now what happened. I know it’s going to take time. Thanks for all your help.
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I am not healed as much as I thought I was. I am no contact and will not have contact but I have saved some messages and I thought they disappeared and my heart started pounding and I started crying. So it is what it is. I am still emotionally tied to the narc. I do not respect him, do not like him, think he is immoral and dangerous yet still cherish the false connection I had with him. It was genuine on my part but nothing but lies on his. In the end, I was sure he actually hated me.
Stay strong. Pray. It will pass , break the emotional TIE. GO. READ SCRIPTURE, PRAY. GIVE IT TO THE ONE WHOES LOVE IS BIG ENOUGH, TO HEAL TO CALM TO RESTORE. IM SAYING THIS BECAUSE IM GOING THRU THE SAME EXACT THING.
@nvbccjarbohum Sounds like you are experiencing what's called "euphoric recall", meaning you are recalling mostly the good things and minimizing the bad. But maybe this will help------Write a list of all the horrible awful things the narc did to you, and every time you start cherishing the connection you had to him READ THE LIST YOU MADE OF ALL THE AWFUL THINGS THE NARC DID TO YOU. Then you'll remember what a horrible no-good abuser the narc is and you'll be glad you're no contact and this will help you cut the emotional tie.
@@stephaniepiazzese2602 Thank you so much for your caring wisdom. I will do what you are saying. That is the path to be on. Take care and God bless. ♥
Yes. Stay in the word and meditate on scripture. It's helping me to do this
@@pamilaknapp203 I am doing it. I have also learned to go with my feelings. Not validating them they resurface anyway later on and it only prolongs the pain and misery. And as Andrew says, be kind to yourself instead of as I tend to criticize myself for not paying attention to my intuition. It is what it is and I am grateful that I am on the right path to recovery in this caring group. Take care.
I love the title Andrew....makes our vibration higher.
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appreciate it yes sir
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That's the best I can post. I'm going back to work now after a rest.. Just felt compelled say.
Thanks so much for all you do! With love from Brisbane, Australia.
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Andrew , I'm so thankful. Your words to all of us. Are confirming what we suspect. Or have already run from , ,,, thank you.
Thank you, Andrew, and tribe.❣️
Hey Roslyn 🙋 ❤
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Hey back, Marie. Hard day today❣️
Awe so sorry sweetie, sending a big hug & will pray for you. Much love 💞🙏
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I love those stepping stones leading to the tree above symbolizing the pinnacle of indifference. Most days, I am there! Sending love from BC Canada.
Prayers and love of gratefulness🥰 Thank you Andrew 🤟🏻 You are truly a blessing to me and so many ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🐑😘
Thank you for this gift. The metaphor of this ascending staircase is so beautiful and profound. What a healing landscape you’re standing in. Bless you, Andrew, for the wisdom you impart. Namaste to you, too! 💜✝💜✝💜✝💜✝💜✝💜✝💜✝💜
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Love the background! Great video as always.
That last lil ‘bye everybody ‘hit hard as if you found your youth again. Appreciate the daily affirmations as I go face first into the holidaze- getting better and needed to hear that setbacks are part of it. Rock on Andrew and merry Dec 1st to the community
I feel like I'm spinning my wheels Andrew and nothing positive is happening. When I had no where to go I had find a place to stay.....so I'm almost use to the quiet.. it's been a real lonely road
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Sending you blessings 🙌 🙏 you are not alone ❤you have yrself 🎉
Join a church, a sewing group, a gym, volunteer, make a few acquaintances, don’t stay alone to long. Soon you will have something to fill the void. You will heal as you do the work! You can do it!
I came to the conclusion after the relationship I recently was in, was a narcissist relationship. When I found the channel and started to do the work to heal I realized my two marriages that were ended in divorce years and years ago were narc marriages. Because I was discarded in both cases with nothing after years of being in the work force. Finding the wisdom has shown me the answers to all the questions I had from so many years ago. I am learning boundaries and working through all the issues including childhood hurts. I am strong and so can you be strong. Do the work, journal, listen to Andrew he is so smart. You can have victory. Nothing is as sweet as Peace. 😊
I'm working on it what a nightmare and still told I'm 100 percent at fault bully and liars!!
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You are a true hero, friend. Thanks for everything.
Great metaphorical background today, Andrew! And ain’t it the TRUTH!! Excellent!! 🤗💪🤘💛
Sometimes its so hard even to recognise in what relationship we where. ? Once : symptoms sighns,where not clear. Under modesty humility was passive aggression lack of empathy impulsiveness. Twice : relationship, marriage ended very unconventionally. No clousure no emotions no nothing. My wife left me saying: " i just don't need you anymore for anything and i got enough of controlling you " and she dissappeared completely . No communication no cooperation toward ( agreement? divorce?... anything...). Stonewalling and she dissappeared completely ( i dont know even where ?) for years. The catch , confusion cognitive dysonance is : you dont know person from sutch behaviour. Quite opposite: you knew her as nicest person
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So great to consume your wise words, like sitting at a grand dinner table, enjoying a feast of wisdom and feeling confident having found the path of peace and freedom. Bon appetit Andrew, thank you dearly. 😊❤
I feel this energy and excitement coming back ❤🎉
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Your video is on point as always. I started watching your videos when you were in Costa Rica. I was going through a divorce at that time. I was getting out of a narcissistic relationship . Thanks for your videos they help me a lot. She turn our kids against me at that time, but they are now living with me. Except for the youngest one. Greetings and thank you!
I have been healing in almost 'sections.' I did take a months long course on narcissism and healing from narcissistic relationships. I filled many journals, read many books, watched Andrew's videos and others. Then, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, I began to heal, over a period of 2+ years, and definitely not in a linear fashion. I saw my healing through actions I began taking for ME; like finding energy somehow to go through all of my clutter--in a storage unit and in my home---beginning a fitness regimen, cleaning and fixing things that had been neglected during the 8 years I was putting all of my focus, energy and attention into helping the narcissist and into 'our relationship.' I am on my second therapist over this issue (and the current one is great), have taken up new hobbies, created new art, and have begun to open up to healthy people and fill my life daily with joy. I went from feeling almost like the walking dead to having a meaningful, joyous life. There are times of setback, like when the narcissist decides to send a "I'm thinking of you; how are you?" text (no, I have not completely blocked him) but I am continuing to learn and grow and I feel healthy and positive again ON MY OWN.
💯 right to the point.❤ hold back no punches.
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Many thanks for your encouragement
Thank you! I appreciate all your videos. Truth sets us free.
The narcissist web of lies is multi layered, has many multidimensional depths, and has infinite facets of malicious mischief. In my view, that is why progress out of that web has its twists and turns and indeed is not linear. Daily insights /learnings are the road map out of the web ..... thank you for the wisdom.
I've stopped emotionally eating and have lost alot of weight without trying. Blocking him was the best decision and then I found your channel. Thank you so so much ❤
Thank you for saying healing isn’t linear and to take it easy on yourself.
Thank you so much, from the Netherlands🙏
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@@annejara7746 Hi there from America!!
with this narc experience I have had sanity because of videos like this one on at the exact time I need the help. this too shall pass we do recover. you are not alone either. I check in to tell everyone especially Andrew thank God for the help navigating my way out
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🙏Thank you so very Much, Once again Andrew... Ohhh.... how Peaceful without them! 🤠
11 days will be a year!!! I can't believe the difference in a year. I was so lost and confused. Miserable. Thank God.
I appreciate your work very much. Great messages. THANKS 😊 extremely helpful to me ❤
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I'm having an up and around and down (a little bit) type of day. 41 months since I escaped, I appear 'somewhat normal' a lot of the fime. But I do have days here and there of a white knuckle roller coaster ride. Thank you Andrew for reminding me to be gentle on myself.
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have a great evening andrew
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Thanks Andrew 🙂🫶👍
Love the beautiful background, as well as the imagery of the healing path. ❤️🙏🏻
Just over a year, free from the past. Direction is forward, and there's no going back.
Thank you Andrew ❤
My healing has definitely been doing a zig zag motion lately!!
But each day, even when I feel I've taken 2 steps forward and one step back....I'm slowly getting where I need to be🙂❤
Totally described my Dad 🎯💯
Thank you Andrew, I am from North Carolina and live here today. I enjoy your channel, and I have learned quite a lot during this journey of mine, and I appreciate everything you do! Sincerely, Blessings, Love, KRT
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Thanks again Andrew for your wise support and guidance. Hr did reveal his real self in time.
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GREAT video! Thank you for this message… needed it today… Have a great evening!
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GREAT VID Andrew !!!!! ON POINT !!! I did HEAL !!! AS you say by investing in yourself and TOTALLY staying away from the VAMPIRE and all the toxicity and just slowing down and just being with NATURE !! ALL of you NEWBIES can DO THIS !! Listen to Andrew and in YOUR TIME you will HEAL !! God bless EMPATHS....💯💥🤚✌💪💥💯
Love the amphitheater! So beautiful and peaceful!
Cannot wait to join you on that mountaintop. It's so hard 😢
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Love it ❤. Yes you’re right but I still suffer from it it was a very big drama to my life. He’s out there with all the money and he left me with nothing and I mean nothing so I need to recover and that will take a lifetime thank you
Your videos are truly a helping hand pulling us all up…
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Hello Andrew, beautiful environment animals and nature. Also great masonry work on the amphitheatre, stunning ambience ! Just noticed you posted today's video. Will watch when I get home from work this afternoon. It's early morning here.
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She started the SMEAR Campaign with all my friends. She told them I was GAY !!!!
One of my friends called me to tell me what she said......
I said....." 83 Women, no complaints and not counting Chickens and Goats - and she calls me GAY ???"
There is NO LOW they will not STOOP to
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the narcissist I was involved with was beautiful and talented on the surface and has/had no problem attracting pretty much any woman he's interested in - and that used to burn and frustrate me...but I've come to realize that doesn't matter. He is only capable of charming them into loving him with a fake persona - but not capable AT ALL of loving anyone in return. So nobody will EVER be good enough. He can catch as many as he wants, but will always wind up empty and unable to feel real love and connection, real trust and safety. It's tragic and sad. I am so glad I am coming out the other side of the fog and healing so much of my past. Thanks as always, Andrew. I feel like you're a friend I haven't met. :)
I identify with you completely but I'm now not sure if he stole my beauty. He left me feeling so ugly and worthless. It took years to realise I'm not. I think it was part of the manipulation. They are sick.
@@jennyborst4178 I feel the same way - but work hard to rebuild my self esteem and worth - and with it comes beauty. I had stopped caring for myself properly and aged over night. Please focus on giving yourself the care you need, try and sleep, eat right and get outside. You're beauty is still there. You are NOT worthless.
@@Sorsha011Thank you. They get so deep under your skin. I cannot really comprehend them. Good for you to reinvent and rediscover yourself. Andrew is right. We are bright shining lights and the narcissists are envious.
Thank you so much Andrew.
With 53 I have never been completely free of narcissism. I have to deal with parental alienation, was covertly rejected by my own parents, abused by sisters and betrayed by friends. Last year I bought a house abroad through a narcissist (looking backwards) who pulled me into a shared fantasy. I started looking up to him which gave me back my zest for life and the house gave me a future. But now he has shit all over it and the fellow countrymen who also live there are covert narcs, enablers and flying monkeys. Just think, if you have already lost everything you love (children) and you manage to find some meaning again, that then also becomes impossible, because you are unspokenly blamed for something and are also excluded. Life is to be lived, not to constantly break down. What to do now? I have given my all with love in all areas, but it seems as if I am forced to be stuck in this static world. I am unable to heal in this way.
What were you doing before the narcissist moved in to your life becouse they pulled you away from the purpose you were living before them. They glued themselves to you becouse you had a spiritual life before them. God will guide you find your higher power again. That is my strength it takes time but believe what you were doing is what they wanted and the demons didn't want you to fulfill your purpose.
Thank you, Andrew.
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We do need to remember they are dead inside. Most of its unconscious due to early childhood development.