Black Women Are NOT Marrying Down
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- Опубліковано 30 бер 2023
- Sure Black women have not married up or in ways that elevate our socio-economic class. But Black women are not “marrying down” or picking feckless negroes as partners. Outside of piss poor Tyler Perry films, much of the admonition about partnering has been around not being “flashy” or “secular” partners.
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They not “marrying” the bad men you described, they’re sleeping with them.
right, and then expects the guy that works at the plant to take care of them and the kids
Truth😅😅
This one said it the best they not even marrying them they sleeping with them then having their kids and get mad at them when he leaves them 😂
@@ricorogers9319facts
Fax 📠
Tyrone and Jerome and dayshaun…are clapping them cheeks and getting topped off…
But not paying a single fucking bill for her
She doesn't even believe what she's saying 😂
Yep
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Facts😆
These chicks are mental.
HAHAHA!!! 😁😁😂😂🤣🤣🤣
I’ve seen most women define “marrying down” as marrying a man with less formal education and a job that makes less money than her. If that’s the case then yes, most BW tend to marry down.
That's exactly what marrying down is. Less income, less formal education & less social aptitude.
@@13579hee that doesn’t negate my point bc more Blk women have HS diplomas than Blk men. So my point still stands
@KCMC92 who says most black women aren't college grads? Black women have led the nation in advanced college degrees for years.
@@meettheworldimagesolutions ummm you probably need to read the stats about Black women in higher education.
Y'all let the left-leaning media and the democratic part sell y'all a lie without telling y'all ALL the facts. So here they go. As if 2020....
The number of white women (39%) getting an associate or bachelor’s degree by the age of 29 is nearly twice as high as for Black women (21%) and Latinas (20%).
Among Black students in higher education, women are more likely than men to earn degrees: Black women get 64.1% of bachelor’s degrees, 71.5% of master’s degrees and 65.9%of doctoral, medical, and dental degrees.
Fewer students of color attend four-year colleges than white students do: 30.6% of Latinx; 27.1% of Blacks and 39.3% white.
So the reality is this...Black women are ONLY doing incredibly well in higher education in comparison to Black men. When comparing Black women to EVERYONE ELSE BUT BLACK MEN, Black women aren't doing so great in higher education. And that's no diss to Black women.....rather, Black women need to know the reality of their standings in higher education instead of believing a narrative that was cooked up to fool them.
@@LM-he7eb but that's women marrying ON THEIR LEVEL. That's what MOST women do
Growing together is for young ppl, you can be an average Joe and we can build up together but the problem comes when you’re in your 30s, 40s and 50s and a mf come to the table with crumbs, we’re way past the building stage
Then You are probably at the cat lady stage.
Beware of chameleons my brothers....
She's a chameleon, her and the rest of them that's starting to get hip to that spiritual chameleon hustle.
Faaaaaaaacts. It's a lot of channels like this. I've been married for 30 years and I don't recognize most of these women as far as looking like a wife. I've seen a bunch of channels like these and only 2 channels were the women speaking are actually Wives.
You didn’t understand the meaning of the video. Seems like this is actually coming from someone who’s better than the shallow women out there because she, like you would, prefers a partner who isn’t lazy and is striving to grow and better themselves. Didn’t say that she wants a man with a lambo/500kperyr/ ect.
If anything she’s spreading a positive message which is often lost with this generation of women which is the blue collar men have value within our community and need to be appreciated.
For us to grow as a community we need to build ourselves up to be at LEAST a decent hardworking man with something to offer. Look at the rest of the world
@@northst what he's saying is we don't need women to speak on the behalf of us. We can speak for ourselves. We are Men.
@@therealsyxx Would be fine if he did actually say that but a “chameleon” in this context is someone who shifts sides for their own benefit despite how negative the outcome may be
As someone who has been married for 7 years, i wish people who worry more about the no tangibles (character, spirituality, etc) than the tangibles (education, job, body type). All of those tangibles change randomly for thimgs outside our control. Focus on a person's character because thats the most important element that will determine how you go through life's challenges.
The non-tangibles are the ones that are really outside our control. The tangibles can be within our control (given the limits the systems has placed).
Pure Facts! 💯
Give it 5 or 10 years women with this mindset are gonna be even madder at themselves when 40 hits and they still singing the same narrative about Men, then they will have nobody to blame but themselves. Most like this are cooperative in the first place, so nothing will really work for them🤔
Agreed!
💯%!!! I didn’t have a pot to piss in when my wife and I first got married. She saw me for who I was, not where I had. Now I’m the 🍞 🥇 and I spoil her rotten. She’s always been there for encouraging and lifting me up!
In today’s age, I think if more black women focused more on character than swag, money, sex, etc, I think some of these problems would slowly cease🤷🏿♂️
FACTS
I think if black men were better men (aka Better Human Beings) things would be different. Stop abandoning your children, impregnating multiple women, going to prison, learn to read, get an education, stop being vi0lent, etc, etc,
@@rsrs8906 do you know every black man?no you don't stop generalized all of us and call out those women who do wrong and only singling blk men out
@@rsrs8906 and if black women keep laying with the same type of males you described, this won’t change 🤷🏿♂️
@@aarongray1981 Exactly bw are always telling bm to stop abandoning their children, stop going to Jail stop dropping out of school, stop laying around and get a job,get a education, stop trying to be a rapper, but yet these are the same type of men these same sistah's chase and lust after get with and than after those sorry ass hood negros do them wrong and kick them to the curb they than want blame and generalize all black men for their poor judgement and decisions and the sad part is most of these Sistah's know from the jump and saw the warning signs that these sorry ass street dudes they are always constantly choosing are trifling and mean them no good but yet they don't care until it's too late and these dudes leave them high and dry with a bunch of kid's, to raise on their own I saw it all the time growing up, to me it's like messing with a grizzly bear or a rattlesnake you know if you mess with either one of them they going to do you harm but sadly you can't tell these hard headed Sistah's nothing nowadays that's why I'm hoping and praying that my daughters don't grow up with the mentality of needing a hot boy or a so called roughneck n*gga, thug rapper wannabe because until this mentality changes in our community we as black folks will continue to suffer and stay at the bottom of the barrel.
Black women traditionally married the men that had a job at the plant and made a respectable living. The problems came in when he also had another family down the street, put his hands on his wife when he dealt with racism on the job or other difficulties, and left them with children to raise alone. We always held black men down.
Why are we daydreaming/imagining the worst in this fabricated world you’re displaying? C’mon… this is a stretch just to justify the reason for women leaving.
This is a lie, my grandfather was a military man, retired E-9 Master Chief Petty Officer in the navy. He travelled the world, and could afford to pay my grandmother 3800 and half his social security, pensions and retireement was an extra 1000 a month after he retired, and my grandma divorced him for a gambling habit that got out of hand. He owned his house a few cars and work a a gs worker after the military retired from that. He got long paper. He never cheated, beat her up, or faced racism because he was at the top of the food chain in the navy and civilian sector. His situation wasn’t unique, during these times. Y’all ladies do not know the full story behind a lot of these situations and really are not as loyal as y’all claim to be. Fast forward today you got old black women in their 40s fresh out of marriage, where none of the things you accuse black men of existed in the marriage, yet they divorce. Y’all really don’t like black male masculinity, thats the problem. This is why majority pick build a nukkas, abusive, and unproductive men. You want to control the outcome of the household, with the end result of you destroying the household. When competent men control the household trajectory, the household thrives, grandma has a house and a few dollars in the bank, maybe even businesses, the boys become men and the girls become women. For 30 years black women have controlled the household and look at the family units and then look at the community as a whole. See y’all could paint this narractive as long as the men didn’t have a voice, now the world can see the truth through social media and access to the internet at the palm of your hand.
her we go, so you're trying to project on the action of a few men that's jacked up to give you an excuse to
say you don't want a regular dude, just keep it real. A lot of you sisters, Dat Dusty ass niggros that treat you like shit but he got money, and he be trapping, just keep it real that's cap baby.
Seen more black women getting beat and cheated on Tv every day,but seen respectable families and church going people in real life
@@chiefakachi2296 GOTDAMN!!! You dropped a nuclear bomb 💣 on that bullshit propaganda they love to spew. They literally have zero accountability
These UA-cam experts are born everyday, weaved up, sandled up, it’s seriously hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂
HAHAHA!!! 😁😁😂😂🤣🤣💀💀😭😭 Ikr?!
Hope you are including all those weaved up Caucasians in your "assessment". Some of those UA-cam experts have that low-T and soft members. "Some" of those UA-cam experts have receding hairlines/chewed up ass beards and Bigen poisoning going on. Did I mention short hell, looking like Rumpelstiltskin? Some of these UA-cam experts......ya know.😐
It sounds like she's on yall side. BW can't win for losing with yall🙄
@@giggles1219 wrong again we are not those dude’s
@@dustyinc.8 dudes not dude's
Dang, you’re defending bm and they’re still dragging you in the comments 😂
I know right. Like their misogyny is showing lol
BLK women do not like accountability. Misandry is always showing.@@politicomonsoon
Riight like are they even listening 😂
I am so tired of this conversation. It doesn't seem to be uniting...only further dividing. When in reality we can't afford it!! One thing that tickles me is the idea that the square type, educated type will treat you better than a street cat, etc....I will say why later. Ya'll not ready tho.
The black men in these comments are verbally abusive as hell!
It's always about the bag with these leeches. There's not enough Princes to go around Cinderella, so find yourself a fella, before father time and the grim reaper come knocking. Time is running out! ⏳️⌛️🙏🏾
Time has run out for the majority of you dusty Bandits. Stay out of women's business.
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She uses the "N" word to describe her fellow man and 1. Is talking about black women 'marrying down'
2. Talk about going to church.
I suggest any man marrying her would be definitely marrying down.
Brothers. Avoid, avoid.
Divest and be happy with a man with power, money, and resources.
You better,cause Black men are out
Yeah, cause that man is out here looking for bms,weeves and stank attitudes. (Statistics tell us the facts on that.)
@@yungplex9503 statistics say that no matter what race of women bm marry, your divorce rate ends up sky high, you 🦍s make terrible partners
@@yungplex9503actually the majority of black women have attitudes due to being gaslit by the men who do not build and sit around antagonize her all day. There are MANY desirable things about black women. Many white women and Hispanic and Asian women wear weaves, clip ins, glue in tracks. But you don’t know about that or when you get one who does you excuse it. In truth we know the biggest insecurity for black men is their own hair and skin which is why you antagonize those very things in your daughters and wives. It’s disgusting. Because truth be told, other men don’t care about that. Other men desire black women’s features and loyalties and treat them and protect them as such. So these other men get the best out of your women and then the women who date you come running back to expose the lie. It was black men ruining their own communities. No one wants to talk about domestic abuse and violence against black women by black men after George Floyd. But that day is coming. Biden has appointed multiple black women. There are NO black men around him though. Speaks volumes. If you are not apart of the problem then “talk to ya boys”. Because statistically they probably are.
@@yungplex9503actually the majority of black women have attitudes due to being gaslit by the men who do not build and sit around antagonize her all day. There are MANY desirable things about black women. Many white women and Hispanic and Asian women wear weaves, clip ins, glue in tracks. But you don’t know about that or when you get one who does you excuse it. In truth we know the biggest insecurity for black men is their own hair and skin which is why you antagonize those very things in your daughters and wives. It’s disgusting. Because truth be told, other men don’t care about that. Other men desire black women’s features and loyalties and treat them and protect them as such. So these other men get the best out of your women and then the women who date you come running back to expose the lie. It was black men ruining their own communities. No one wants to talk about domestic abuse and violence against black women by black men after George Floyd. But that day is coming. Biden has appointed multiple black women. There are NO black men around him though. Speaks volumes. If you are not apart of the problem then “talk to ya boys”. Because statistically they probably are.
The funny thing about this is none of that doesn’t matter you only can marry your man that wants to marry you
Truth
the next video will be about respectability lol don't black 30-somes get tired of this?
Young men get your passport. Run . Even better young men just focus on yourself.
Yes bm definitely need to get a passport quickly, we’re tired of all the crime and violence you cause
Most bw arent marrying at all. They date men who have a very low marriage rate.
That's a lie, marital stats shot up in pendent with non black men. Look it up
What people don’t realize is everybody who’s been to church been in the juke joints and vice versa
Marry down to me is character and integrity. A drug dealer with a lot of money is marry down to me. But still I ain’t building no damn man. This is not build a bear toy shop. You better get some ambition and build your damn self.
Literally every race and demographic marry primarily within themselves. We are no different but yet we focus on bashing eachother and keeping ourselves in the trash place we talk about. Everybody needs to do better. Some more than others. But if we focused on being better and doing better we would have less to complain about. Put god first and love second and see how your life change.
I wish no one would call a person a nigga. It's wrong no matter race.
100
Still one of my favorite videos from you.
Black men don't settle. Go where you are appreciated.
Go to church and do what? Get lied to? Get led down the wrong path. Just because a man goes to church every Sunday does not make him a leader. He’s actually a flower. Smh
Not true at all. It just goes to show you are not equally yoked to the conversation.
Your words sound good....but you don't even care about a man's character , you care about appearance value.....
Basically, you're championing working class men, which is good. But what women need to focus on is his character, the man he is, the man he is striving to become.
Thank You Sister. 🙏🌷
Yea Yea Yea. I've seen the church going show up to work on momday morning guy get overlooked by BW all my life. Save it!
They gaslight on the internet all the time. Nothing is up to par with what they spew, not even divesters arguments.
stay single brothers. keep ur peace
Most black women are average so you have average people who should marry other average people.
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Gurl you don't even believe what you're saying. You know dam well BM don't get married like that😂
BM dont want run through chicks with 3 sets of kids
Black men are married more than black women....now if the men you choose are not marrying you then that is a different story because you know black women don't like the truth
@@123pb but black men keep trying to talk to black women with no kids and they have different baby mamas. I talked to those kind to and blocked them
If you marry a BM, you will more than likely marry down. Look outside of Blackistan and you will be good.
And most black woman are average.
Truth is, they really want Rudy and Bobby slinging, not the brotha in church with the blue uniform.
Nah the truth is Rudy and Bobby want each other nowadays (ain’t no telling how long that’s been going on tbh)
If ABW don't denounce that gynocentic, misandrist, feminist ideology, lose the masculinity, put spirituality 1st, divorce the state, the fake "sisterhood", and social media....then this conversation is redundant.
True
divorce the state aren't YOU everyone else benefitting from the state..grown up
I love when hoteps masquerade as revolutionaries
@JM Jenkins no. I work for everything I got. I don't need white zaddy or his lost value system.
@jinmushui1soul well I damn sure don't have to explain myself to you but hit dogs will holla.
I don’t care what he does as long as it’s legal and he can pay his own bills. The issue I run into with men is that they are intimidated by my career 🙄
What do you do?
@@13579hee remain single 😊
Highly doubt its your career, it's probably your attitude about your career and how much money you make. That's usually the case when this "men are intimidated by me" nonsense is used.
@@dixonbourne lol 😂 I never have those issues with men that work in a similar career to me. They get it and it’s no big deal. The guys that think my job is a big deal bring it up none stop and ask me how much money I make blah blah blah. It’s pitiful.
Black women don’t get married, so not sure how they are marrying down. BM don’t want to marry you. I wish they could accept that & fine love somewhere else.
Some blue collars act just as bad as the pookie & ray rays….they just dress it up better. They may make 50k yr but still have addictions (alcohol,marijuana, sex), unhealed trauma, mommy/daddy issues, untreated mental illness etc… to me dating down is so much more than MONEY.
The comments are hilarious knowing the context of the clip. 😂
Wft wtf Please stop the marriage talk women are having kids by the worst men they can find before marriage. Why why why lord take them who ignore accountability.
Build with a man that's going to build with or without you
Good point 👏💯
I married a doctor to be. Currently about to start his 3rd year of medical school. But he is Mexican American. 🇲🇽🖤
You go girl
@@ThePhoenix3712 thank you! I appreciate your positive comment!
That's marrying across or within your socio-economic group.
It's like an engineer marrying a lawyer or a doctor marrying a nurse. Engineers and doctors out earn nurses and lawyers, but both are respectable, middle-class sustaining career options.
Ok so if women in this case black women want a man that makes more money than them then wouldn't that man be MARRYING DOWN
Facts.....This Statement is exactly why this Video makes no sense at all.......this is why im a 37yr old single black man..haven't been with a Woman in 4 months..A entrepreneur happy being alone living in Peace.......Brothers find peace and protect it......at all cost seriously........
The type of man you're describing is a stable man. Going to treat you right and open-minded to fulfill your fantasies. A man like me.
Stable men are important for families ❤
@user-ye4bu6xh4c 😂 that's actually funny
That's not what excites the black women. They pick swag over stability! 💯
Okay, this idea of marrying up, or down; where does that come from? Think: if you're marrying up, why should that man want someone below his station?
Now, you don't want to just marry someone who can't take care of you, of course, but you want to find the guy whose steady like you described. But, don't overthink it as most women do - 6 ft, 6 inches, 6 pack, 6 figures.
He's a Church goer?❤️🙏🏾 That's marrying up. We need to appreciate the good things.
Don't let that church goer fool you. They go until they get you, and then you can't get them back in the church after you marry them. Be careful what you ask for.listen to what he says ,pay attention to what he does, and the red flags
Derrick Jaxon was a church goer too...
That build up a man ideology was absolutely pushed in the black community. And the expectations that bw should be studious and be able to take care of a home was definitely pushed. Which was not there for the boys. The pressure and expectations were there in my community. I tried dating someone who needed a "push." Let me tell you, it didnt work. He was constantly being critical of my desire to have a better life. His words, "you think you are something and you are trying to be more than i you are. You come from poverty." I left and did my thing and evetually married an awesome guy (i know marriage is not the end goal for many ladies). You got to keep your options open and stop listening to folks who doesnt know you or are trying to humble and hinder you.
They don't want him they want the gangsta to disrespect them most woman love disrespect clearly
The Least married are talking like they got options.
This sounds like a lot of anger coming from a person that supposedly has it figured out. Happy secure people dont complain and pass down negative information as if it's facts!
they just continue to get left. Clueless. Who's coaching her?!?!
Y’all not getting married period. Statistically
Just live alone. Like most of you do! Do you!
Marrying a woman who is not a virgin, has hair extensions, crazy make-up, high body count. Is that Marrying up?
Shes saying this as if black women haven't tried this already. Lol
The days of , "as long as he got a job, he's a good man and should be given a chance" are gone.
Black women have elevated ourselves beyond that and many black women can no longer settle for males on that level of mediocrity. The ones that do, do not end up with happy healthy well round relationships. Look at wendy Williams, Mary j Blige, etc.
Ya’ll not marrying anybody. You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink it
Lies!!! Bw who's not like jouelzy is marrying non bm
Lies!!! Bw is marrying non black men, facts
y'all but a lotta trust in them church going men don't you 🤣
Plot twist,he's in your friend zone, too short, or too corny for you
Black women try to marry up but, sleep "down".
Those men were in their league. Actually, men who had their "shit" together were marrying down.
Somehow women think a man that built himself up to status he desired want to marry down…..
What does marrying up mean, and if you marrying for yourself to get right, you don't need to get married
The used to call men that work 9 to 5 normal. Now they are called average. Women have been told not to settle for average men. They listened.
So y'all don't know men ain't checking for women looking to cash in on his money 😅
Fellas don't stop on this BS keep scrolling!!
Naw Jouelzy it’s alive and well.
Opening this video I already had to turn down the volume because of how loud she was, imaging her voice angry.
I just don’t like the sassy masculinity, either them. As an high value American born man, I love my Venezuelan fiancé so much partly because she’s so feminine. We take care of each other the traditional way, which is how we both want it to be, and it’s worked. We’re as happiest clams. 😊
I agree 💯 and congratulations on the baby.❤
I don't care what colour you are, if you have a hardworking, loyal, good with his hands (DIY) man then he's a keeper. That's not marrying down that's marring right
Agreed!!!!
All cap ,yall look past the average blue collar brother on daily. The blue collar brother is the least respected man in this country.
I disagree... In the 90s Ebony and Essence magazines were doing articles encouraging corporate, mid-level executive bw to give black male janitors with criminal records who emptied the trash in their office a chance if they wanted to marry a bm. As you can guess, this had disastrous results. Bw are always being made to feel bad if they want a man who actually did something with their life. 😏
Between the ages of 18-30 (a woman's physical prime to the wall) BW meet plenty of good brothers. For whatever reason they want nothing to do with them (too nice, not enough swag, not hood, nerdy, under 6'2, lame, boring, etc.)🙄
Fast forward to the wrong side of 30, three kids by some combination of Pookie, Ray Ray and Dontayveus with the waves in his hair, after gaining 100 pounds and becoming a born again "virgin", all of a sudden, the guys they wanted nothing to do with are the ones they're praying to be sent their way.🙄
If these brothers weren't good enough to have you at your best, what makes them good enough to have you in your decline when you no longer have market value and nothing beneficial to offer?🤔
#SYSBM #BlueBookGentlemen✈️
Ya'll not getting married at all! The guy on the corner has a better chance of getting married then the guy at the plant.
Y’all have no problem having babies with the dudes on the corner but yall draw the line at marriage 😭
We as a community love to talk about racism and sexism (usually BW discuss it more often in our experience) but we love to leave classism out the equation.
The title "marrying down" is wild. It insinuates that anyone who isn't high-earning or highly educated is of less value. I understand wanting someone who can afford to take care of themselves and meet all of your expectations. It is not bad to want someone to be able to spoil you and folks with similar educational backgrounds may be able to relate to each other better, but we shouldn't be basing people's worth off of income and education.
We shouldn't be dehumanizing poor people, because at the end of the day *those* are the folks suffering under racism and misogyny the most. It doesn't make sense to rally in the streets for Black folks (who are often poor) that were victims of police violence but then reproduce the same ideologies that contributed to their lives being taken in the first place.
Why are there so many hoteps in your comments? 🤔
A whole lot of different factors that play. If he's working in that plant and making more than you, you are marrying up. If he is making the same amount or a little less and he has no children and you have a kid or multiple kids, you are still marrying up 🤷🏿♂️
Some of these degree holding women think it is. More BW have degrees than BM but more BM men make more money than BW. Sometimes it's job not the degree you have.
🤫😂😂 let them find that out
Weave check .. masculine check … poor grammar check ..overweight check
Why are so many men watching videos about marriage? There are hardly any women commenting.
Nowhere in scripture does it say you're marrying down or marrying up.
I feel the same way man shouldn't marry a thot🎉🎉🎉
Black women eventually tire of a Black man who doesn't need improvement. Stability is desired but without some firm of drama,they won't be content. Even to the point the woman will create chaos to her own detriment.
If Today's modern woman will get her head out of the clouds and be real and centered and healthy in mind, body and spirit then there are suitable Black Men everywhere. The problem is, some of you think that you're better than the Men that you see everyday. Are you?
No one is asking you to marry them. Let's be real.
Says the black woman that can never get married
You BW can marry in any direction yall want. Up or down. Lol. Wr bm are marrying abroad. Jus k ow that ish. Lol. Good luck 👍🏾
Wtf did I just hear.
Yoyo giving advice now?
She's a trainwreck...let that 304 crash to the Wall
She said she doesn’t know. I think you should know not to associate with the bums.🤷🏾♂️ A man that doesn’t work can’t provide for a family. Men don’t want to get married because it is not beneficial. Half of everything he earned goes to somebody else who did nothing to deserve half of his money.
Your hair is 🥰🥰🥰🥰
This is just dumb. How many females make more money than a male working at a Refinery
IT NEVER Was! Bw have been choosing the pooky and Ray-Ray who's lifestyle is risky. It's always been the case that 54% of BM are single and childless, 60% are in the middle class. The choices of BW are the ones that got them into the mess THEY are in. It's your choices that are to blame. Look in the mirror, stop insulting BM. Even you claiming that 'it's not marrying up...' is suspicious. You as a woman are not in control of marriage. You are in control of who you sleep with and make a baby with.
It’s called marrying right
Especially if you have nothing, beggars want to be choosers.
Amen…from a black man that do that…
Black men need to use the standards of Dubai
They don't even marry period
Where do these women get their upside down logic ???? from