I DOUBT My Ex Will Come Back
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- Опубліковано 21 лип 2024
- During a breakup, you may be doubting if your ex will ever come back or reach out to you. Hopelessness after a breakup is common, but don't underestimate the power of attachment.
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Hi Craig, thank you for your videos, can you do a video on breadcrumbs and playing games
Coach Craig Kenneth Craig I love your videos, please make a video how to get an ex back if you still live with them I can’t afford another place right now and we living together because of the lease please help I feel lost and hopeless I was needy and clingy and I’m aware I pushed her away she says she never been alone and is content doing her own thing we also have a 10 month old baby
I haven't heard anything about what to do if you've already messed up and contacted/professed your love to them
One moment I'm optimistic and the next I'm hopeless 😕
Same here my friend!🥺
I feel you
Same. We got this!
@@Derek-rh9mi Damn this was 8 months ago! I can confidently say I'm feeling better, so it gets better. Just keep doing what you need to do and focus on yourself. In time your brain will do the work by slowly erasing memories if them that are no longer useful to your survival. All you gotta do is make sure you come out on top a better man than you once were. Much respect my friend 🙏
@@user-cl8zx6os8u yea... you can't force or convince someone to stay, and you shouldn't never have to. Now you know they aren't the right one because they chose not to stay. It hurts, but sometimes blessings in disguise are the most painful. Keeping hanging in and everything will get better. It always does 😊
Silence is food for the subconscious, feed your exes subconscious, they will do the rest
S A indeed...
IASOU2005 I have known that you have been doing this for a few years back
After 6 months she msg apologizing and all that. I was shy now then she left I See her in tinder 3 weeks after.
Garlic bread
I like this quote!!
I’m 2 months into No Contact & getting stronger by the day , I’m working out 5-6 days a week, I got a new job that pays more , Been reading books on investing & Financial literacy . I have three trips booked for next year & actually gotten closer with some friends and family I’ve kinda neglected while I was in the relationship . I do have a little doubt that she will reach out but at this point it doesn’t even matter I’m so focused on myself and being the best version i can be . If she does comeback theirs no doubt in my mind I’ll will be a whole NEW person . NO Contact is a WIN WIN because it gives you the opportunity to heal and work on yourself & gives you strength to move on and just let time take it’s course. If they truly love you they will come back . If they don’t then it’s clear they weren’t yours to begin with .
Me identifiquei, Luciano. Mysituation is similar. All the best for you.
Good luck man, you have the right mindset. My last ex didn't reach out until 6 months after our breakup, so don't be discouraged too much although of course it's not guaranteed for everyone.There's no way you can't not be a better person than you was so surely anyone equal/better is going to want you.
Luciano Mercado She was never your girl, it was just your turn. Keep up the good work brother, you dodged a bullet.
did she reach out yet?
hi brilliant, a real inspiration, how did you did you get your head around it ? what is your train of thought ? good work
Coach we did it! She came back after being apart 4 months! for the people that are going through the storm...I promise it does not last forever! Continue to work on growth and yourself as a person and continue to listen to coach Craig! We both go to different colleges in the state and just a few months ago she couldn’t do it due to distance. As soon as I started to live a life without depending on her she came back and was dying to have a relationship with me..thank you for getting me through the worst 4 months of my entire life!
My ex broke up with me 1 and half months ago after 4 good years....... I just broke the friendship connection few days ago .
Mysteriously Mysterious everything coach say is so true..you have to give it time. easier said than done..I KNOW. but nobody and I mean nobody can throw that time, love, and friendship away I promise. the power of walking away is sooo powerful and once you do it..you’re going to see your ex act out of character and act like they once did before all at the same time and it is confusing! once you truly gather the strength to leave it in the universe hands..you will be amaze with the results because I am still pinching myself to see if this is reality. It takes time and it’s all about how are you going to handle that time..BEST OF LUCK TO YOU❤️🙏🏿
Where u play ball
Bro lol
@@hwdareu5848 update
I know exactly how this feels.. one minute I’m telling myself ‘he’s never coming back, I just know it’ the next I remind myself of the times when he was crazy about me and think of all the success stories and other exes who came back (and trust me 99% of them did) and think ‘why not me, maybe he will come back’
Update?
@@jarrodoberg2078 mine is completely gone but 6 months post break up I am also feeling MUCH better and have moved on with life. I hope yours comes back ❤️
Update?
I put my faith in Jesus, He has the final say! He’s a healer and He can restore any relationship! 🙌🏽🥰
Or appoint you to someone better. Amen
@@JihadBunnydick I think you’re right.
I pray you are together xx
Amen!!
I love them! Can't stand hearing "just move on."
Sometimes to love someone is to let them go.
@@craig8304 Yes wish I didnt spent all that time thinking about an ex.
So what happened one year after that comment? Any update?
@@ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204 moved on
@@juliefrecker3811 very well. Good job.
I wish Margaret was still here. But she is in all of our hearts. and I’m sure she’s so proud of Craig and Victoria, and I’m sure she’s still looking down with love and fondness for this work you guys are doing ❤
I’m glad my ex will not come back. She was a huge narcissist
2 years, later, her "rebound" is still in her life.
I'm 100% certain I'll never talk to her again.
I'm so different now and she will never know.
Be different for a better person :) You deserve it!
They do come back in time I never trust me when I say NEVER thought mine would be but did when I was focusing on myself & didn’t reach out at all. Do you! Everyone says that but it’s true work on yourself this is you time to fix whatever makes you unhappy about yourself & life.
You kinda lose the feeling of it Happening when you only dated 4 months and you've been no contact 8 months
Victoria how long did it take for your ex to come back? What happened in your situation? You really believe they will contact you at some point...even when they ghosted you? Mine was a short term r’ship only one month and I barely knew him so you think that will work in my situation? Did you do any coaching or you did this on your own?
Grace Yang he came back within a month, we were together & living together for 4 years & engaged for 3 1/2 of those years. I moved to a different state for him & once we moved he acted like a different person. I found out he was cheating on me with his coworker & moved back home & they’re still together. When he came back he told me how much he missed me & will be in love with me forever while still being with that girl. I stopped talking to him & now a couple months later I found someone wya better he treats me like a queen. They do come back love just focus on yourself & when they do act like you don’t care to communicate & take long to reply & guarantee you it will kill them ! Also don’t post sad things on social Media, post happy photos or quotes it kills them to see you move on! Hope that helps love ♥️
Victoria so you saying he hasn’t exactly given up on us yet...and maybe he needs time alone away from the r’ship because of the pain caused from the b-u?
I am motivated. I love hearing you guys talk about this. All the detail and thoughts that dumpees go through. It gives me comfort to know someone is out there that genuinely cares about breakups and how to deal with so many emotions and doubt. Thank you Craig and Margaret.
i really find it so easy to say im the wrong one, im the one that should always take the blame, every fight, every arguement.... being depressed knowing she’s getting better and im getting worse is pretty difficult to take
She left me for another guy and stubborn as I know she is, I dont see her coming back anytime soon..
Keep up the great work Craig. I applaud your efforts that have helped so many. Many blessings.
You know what? I noticed that when one of the two partners wants out of the relationship (usually a more attractive 3rd party interest somewhere hanging around that makes them all tingly down there) they will say the most hurtful, destructive, untrue, self-centered remarks just so you will let them go and not confront them. They blame everything on you even if you know you did nothing wrong and you were the best partner they could ever have. Yeah, to get what they want -"their happiness" they will throw you under the bus, and roll over you 3-4 times to make sure you can't breathe..... They want you shocked, devastated, destroyed and paralyzed at that moment and until the relief period is over so you will not fight it. That gives them a clean break-away. After that, they have taken you down so low you become a wreck, a mess and have nothing left of yourself. Realizing how attachment goes, most of these morons do come back (at some point) expecting you to reunite because the grass is not greener on the other side and some of us idiots (including me at the moment) do take our ex's back. All I have to say is no matter what happens respect yourself and always stay on a level above them. When they go low, you must go high... that does mean stay in No Contact and work to build yourself up again after they destroyed you. Isn't love fun???? (in case you are wondering, over here-a seven year relationship, 6.5 months in no contact and not one dam call, text, email. I deserve better than that). Having said that, to all my lonely hearts out there I truly wish you did not have to go through this and particularly with this COV-19 thing which makes it hard to even think about socializing and getting back out there. Maybe it is a blessing in disguise that we are limited. We all need time to heal from our love wounds before we get into another relation-shit.
Wow, been through hell and back. Sorry for venting, but I meant every word. Just having a bad day and still so hurt I can't breathe. Sorry if I came across as being bitter.
Yes me too. He quit talking to me in Jan. No text no call. We have very v
Close friends. Covid hit. I have isolated myself push everyone away. I pray everyday to forget him. Holidays coming up its really depressing me. Just don't understand
@@ShannonThor. Just remember you are part of the great divinity of the universe. Let the lower levels go do what they need to. Work on yourself and ascend. I am sure after knowing what they have been up to, that will be enough to disgust you that you will not what that person back. You deserve so much better and always remember Karma and what is said about it......
Coach Craig.. Just want to let you know that I am proud of myself because I made an appt with a therapist to see this evening! I need to pull myself out of this seep dark place I am in.. It is consuming my whole life amongst other things besides my brakeup.. Working on ME now and not going to continue putting him on the pedestal! I am lonely and 💔 broken.. 😔 will continue to watch you're videos on your channel cause you are so encouraging and Margaret too! And being handsome definitely helps with the eye candy! 😉 wish me luck with my appt and for continued success.. P.s. I still want to do a skype session one of these days soon as I am able to! Love ya and love you're videos!
I’m in no contact for a month. I’m addicted to you both! Thanks so much for your work!! I struggle with wanting to share your videos with my x. So much would help him too. He’s a widower and struggling still with unresolved grief. Can you do a video....if or how we can get your x to watch your videos. Learning the attachment styles could help our x’s understand why we could work out. So how do you lead the horse to water and make him drink and be in no contact !! 😊
You guys are amazing at posting exactly when i need to see it, so glad i get notified!thank you💖
You both are so amazing. I feel so much more confident when I watch your videos. I don’t want my ex back. But knowing and understanding how he might be feeling helps me move on. I love you both for helping us heart broken folks!
I am still struggeling... Greetings from Germany..
Hey Craig, I can’t afford your coaching sessions at the moment but I’ve been watching literally all your videos . Piece by piece I take info from all of them and give myself the closure I need. It’s only been a month since my break up AND I’m already starting to care less about my ex. I’m even taking notes from each of your videos for future purposes. Being proactive instead of reactive 🙏🏻I’m building myself to be a better girlfriend for my NEXT boyfriend
Sandy Z keep up the good work! Im almost 2 months NC/since breakup. It does get easier and im feeling so much better about myself. Shitty experience but a very important one in my opinion even though it’s terrible. True saying, “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.
Thank you for all you do, coaches!
Guys please listen to this man, please! And help
Yourself because you hold the key to your happiness. Coach helped me through the hardest of times and i also thank the good lord my savior. But this man right here is a light sent from above, this is just a good human being who wants to see you succeed and be happy but he knows what he’s talking about! This guy is amazing but it’s up to you if you want to learn and be better. I will swear by this guy forever. Thanks coach you are truly and amazing person and human being
Haha I tried the good reminder text didn't work no surprise! To tell you the honest truth coach I'm really glad that I don't feel like my ex is coming back it's liberating to no longer worry about it and to have moved on with my life and be dating new women!!! Now I have so many beautiful women in my life that even if she did come back I doubt I would want to get back with her!
So happy to see you and Margaret. Even if our do nit come back, yiu both help as during the painful period
It’s just so hard to swallow the fact that 6 months could end up going by and she hasn’t reached out yet... I don’t want any more time than necessary to pass before I’m able to have this person back in my life. This is why I always battle with whether or not I send a message or call in order to let them know that I haven’t moved on from them.
Did you end up reaching out?
Any update?
One coach advice that to send that memory message to approach after no contact in 21-to 30 days. Its in their subcription offer.. but good that after 10 days subscribing to that i saw your video and feel better with your advices. That i even bought your workbook and subscribe to email coaching..
So i never follow the other one to break the no contact. Im happy watching your video and doing the workbook and improving myself not because of him but for me. Thanks coach Craig and coach Magareth. I love u both.
I've sad so many "aha" moments since I put in real work to change. I quit listening to friends and family, I started getting professional therapy, making financial goals, exercise goals, everything. Hopefully my ex still reaches out, but I am doing far better than before. I think I improved more than her.
At least watch the videos and do the workbooks. I no longer want my ex back. I am happier without her. It will help you heal and move forward with YOUR life.
Coty Robertson what are the exercises like in the workbook series?
@@mac121mr0 lots of self reflection. Recognizing what happened in your childhood to cause your attachment style. Recognizing redflags. Learning what a healthy relationship is. Stuff like that. Definitely worth it.
Coty Robertson thank you!! definitely buying them soon!
I've been watching this video on repeat constantly, I'm just feeling so devastated that's she's gone for good, it's been 6 months and 3 weeks I think I'm on the verge of another meltdown as my anxiety is kicking into high gear again :'(
@@porschecollector727 difficult bud it's been nearly a year, I'm actually in the village where we lived together, just walking through the fields I used to run in, processing. Still not heard a peep. Gotta move on, you gotta move on - cpt America.
Wishing you the best in your situation and hope you find peace soon.
@@1dontknowmyownname update?
@@dwightschrute8141 i dropped off the last of her stuff last weekend felt weird.
I'm moving on with my life
And if she came back at the 9 month mark??!!
@@timcook7649 What the hell is the 9 month mark? Never heard of it
After one month, I (SA/AA spectrum) don’t care whether or not he (DA)comes back. I’m focusing on me to grow, as well as learning to choose better. #options #next
My ex says she wants to cut all ties with me and that she wants to give her new relationship as much chance as she gave me to work, I have wished her well and gone into no contract, this is not what I wanted to hear but I have told her that I respect her wishes
I also doubt that my ex will comeback. But after watching the videos of coach craig after my breakup, it helps a lot. And i'm truly surprised how the table flipped so quick. Just need to absorb what coach says and have discipline.
I’ve been taking your advice and I’ve been leaving him alone. What’s weird is that they feel a disturbance in the force when you’re out - my ex called me yesterday as soon as I walked into a bar. He called me to see if I was home because he needed something from the home we shared. Then he called me this morning because he needed a picture of his Insurance card because he had gotten pulled over. Hmmm.
ThatCaliforniaBeauty watch the video by Susan winter why they cant come back
This video was so encouraging to me! I just went back into no contact....its been 4 months since the breakup, but I've broken no contact several times. I'm doing it again, and am on week 2. Its KILLING me, especially since I've contacted and seen my ex several times in December. He is very avoidant and hasn't initiated more then breadcrumbs with me. Everyone I know is telling me to move on, but I love this guy so much, I want there to be a reconciliation. Anyway thank you for this encouragement, its giving me the fuel I need to continue with what I'm doing!
Update about your situation?
Update?
Any updates?
I find your videos very helpful and very comforting. I have been watching them for a while and yes, you do have a number of videos for women, but what about if the woman breaks up with the man? Or better yet, is there any good chance at getting him back after doing so? Breaking up with someone because you know you need to, but definitely don’t want to.
Im so excited for my Skype with Margaret on Friday 🙌🙏
I have zero hope after 7 months NC. Sometimes it doesn't work..but it works for getting you back. Wish you all luck for you guys
My ex asked me to lunch, said a prayer Thank you Lord for Kaye coming back to me, good kiss goodbye and texted me the. next night. He saw a picture on Facebook with another guy and I think he was just jealous. I am not reaching out to him. We will see. Not rushing into anything or I believe he will run again. Also, he asked how many guys I am dating and I did not answer and when he said the prayer I said nothing. We have been broken up over a year. We did text and see each other maybe 5 times during the break up. He does watch me on Facebook. I just believe he thinks he is losing me.
@sharon how long were you together with your ex bf before the breakup? Was it the only time you guys broken up and who was the dumper? Have you attempt to contact him first post break up? And how long did you do your NC? Were you posting updates on social media during NC or you went radio silence? So your ex only reached out to you after 1 year post break up?
I’ve been in no contact since January 2022. Ewe work together so it’s a bit challenging, but I keep things light and don’t get too involved. He must say something to me first in order for me to say anything. I do still care about him, but I am going out meeting new people and having dates with others. But I still miss him, but I can’t wait so maybe down the road our paths will cross again. This could be months and maybe even years if we both are willing to work on the relationship
Dear Coach Craig and Coach Margaret;
A few years ago I read “Gone With the Wind” on the advice of my girlfriend at the time. I enjoyed the story because of how complicated the relationship is between the two main characters- Scarlett O’Hara and Rhett Butler.
Since this unfortunate and very chaotic love story is said to be the best selling American novel of all time, I was wondering if you could break down and analyze the attachment styles of Scarlett O’Hara and Rhett Butler, and maybe any underlying personality or mood disorders they displayed.
I’m sorry to ask such a large assignment, but I think it would give amazing insight for those of us who are fans of love and romance. Thanks!
-Brad
That's a pretty cool idea, and would be interesting to hear Coaches Craig and Margaret's analysis!
I would love that as it's my favorite novel.
Coming up on 2 years since the break up and subsequent desperate attempts to get them back only pushing them further until finally finding you two and going into no contact. And despite being in a better place than I was......I still want them back and it just feels like they'll never come back
I know how you fill it's going on 4 years for me and I am still want her back.
@@princhipessa1969 I haven't heard anything from them in these past 2 years
Hi, Coach Chris. My ex of 2 yrs broke up with me 2 months ago. He said he finds me too controlling. Also, we have been fighting pretty much in our last months because he is avoidant while I'm anxious. Good thing is, I recognized my mistakes and tried working on myself.
I have tried NC for 20 days a month after the break up, but failed. Now we are back talking again. But, we have also been having very bad fights everyday because I get disappointed everytime he says he won't come back to me because he want to remain single forever (a bluff, for sure). It's confusing because he has been flirty, and he told me that he still cares for me but he didn't want me back. Also, there are times when he seems so annoyed at me. He also said he doesn't miss me and that it is better if we just cut contact forever. He doesn't make an effort to see me anymore or contact me.
Maybe he has moved on. I am so determined to get this guy back and make him happy again. Any advice, coach? Also, I want to start a session with you.
Any updates??
Same is happening with me..finally i left him. I stopped trying. I believe what is mine will come back to me.
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I was wondering if you could do a video on living with an ex. I currently stay with my ex and I feel like it makes things worst because everything I do pisses him off. I only seem to make things worst. I love your videos and have been watching for almost a year now. I don't know how no contact can work if a person has to stay with their ex.
I wasn't the best girlfriend and I can tell he's already over me even though he broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. We spent most of our time together but we were only together for 3 months. It feels absolutely certain that he'll never love me or want to be with me ever again
I have gotten to a point where I honestly don't think he will come back....but I'm ok with that now. I have actually gotten to the point where I am ok with being just friends, as I'd rather be friends than nothing at all. I'm gonna work on myself, get better for the NEXT guy, and you know what, its my ex's loss. Wish him the best, but he was right, I do deserve better, and I am gonna work on being the best possible me for myself and so that I am better prepared for the next guy.
Has there been any contact since ?
@@terrymccann2792 no, but I’m ok with it. At this point I genuinely just hope he is just living a full happy healthy life and is being treated well and is truly loved by who ever he might be with, or just successful in a career.
@@CurrentPulse that's very nice, ive been separated all year and in my longest spell of no contact 45 days - I am stronger and happier although I still miss her and her kids
@@terrymccann2792 yeah, I miss him a lot, the happiest I ever was in my life was with him, but if he is happy and doing well, I want that for him.
What about if your family is stalking them behind your back and you just found out after 6 months broke up? I am so hurt and had no idea that it was happening until a week ago. Betrayed by my own family without my knowledge.
Coach after 1 1/2 my ex reached out after thanksgiving but she seems like she has recentment or hate towards me we will talk calm and for no reason she will get upset she says she doesnt wanna talk about anything that doesnt have to do with our son.
Ive just realized that i made all of those mistakes, especially the good reminder. Guys if you want to attract someone dont be needy. Of course you have to be yourself, but I think nobody likes to be the center of attention of a person. I guess its human nature. The more people wants us the more we push people away
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Hi Craig. My ex sent me a strange text ending things. He said he’s staying away from misunderstandings. He didn’t want to turn a beautiful things into a nightmare. I wrote a letter reminding him of things I helped him with work wise and other things. Like him not giving me a chance to explain myself. I ended the letter wishing him the best for the future and I will always genuinely care for him.
I really like this guy and I’m wondering if I’ll ever get him back. I’m trying thé no contact rule, but, scared he’ll forget me and totally ignore me. His culture might allow him to not return to me. He’s Muslim.
It's been 8 months and mine never even tried to contact me again. There's no way in hell he'll acknowledge my existence again
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
4 months and not a peep from my ex. We were best friends before and during our relationship. I know she loved me deeply but I made a big mistake. Im pretty surprised she hasn’t reached out yet and I’m convinced it’s final. At a certain point you really do give up hope. Im not even sure if 4 months is a long time or not. Seems like it to me
I drive past my ex's house every day. I haven't seen her yet as she's working but I'm sure I'll see her one weekend or during the school holidays. I'm her postman
You had me in the first half 😂
My ex has been in a relationship for a year. I think it isn’t going to happen that he will come back anytime soon. Soon enough I’ll give in and just be occasional friend.
I will eat my shoes if he comes back... its been 1 month no contact, working diligently on your workbooks and self improvement....
By the time he comes back you want want him.
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Coach Craig I have trouble with jealousy issues I need your help with that ..
My ex is in a rebound with a 19 year old, my ex is 38. She broke up with me less than 2 months ago saying she needed time alone and space. I expect I’ll get a txt when this thing inevitably crashes and burns.
In the meantime, I’m working on my revenge body.
So wat happened
I have a feeling she may come back yet I made a mistake back in June but she let it linger on mentally while pregnant. We lost the child in November but she broke up with me two weeks ago. It was so much chaos that I didn't even know she was back in the same area even with my child in a whole 2 months. But she asked for time once we met in person and figured who was the culprit with fabricating stories (her cousin). Come Monday before Thanksgiving she broke up with me, the wednesday b4 Thanksgiving she was going to "mail my cell phone" back...that didn't happen. I get a text after 10 days of NC ...then texted again about calling her asap over another fabricated story. Seen her that Thursday, she hugged me, kissed me and all. Didn't talk to me friday due to her being in the ER,Saturday morning she tells me everything. Come this past Monday morning ...she said it was over and lashed out at me over her not handling responsibilities for the last 3 years but it was all my fault plus the mistake made (which was also fabricated and manipulated her brain badly). But since she said "I wish you well" and that it's over on Monday using the phone I got her even though she has another phone she bought (I don't know the number) ...so she has the address and said "i'll mail it soon as I can ..." ...somehow idk what to go off of ....besides focusing on self ..even though I'm "well known" in the profession i'm in ....... don't know what to expect
Even just the point where you guys said to stop stalking her or texting her & her family which I was doing but that helped.
i still watch your guys videos and my ex and i split 5 years ago she came back in 2021 i had to reach out didn't talk for years at that point. she left in 2023 in January tried hard for 5 years. but problem is she would never talk to me about problems which leads me to think she is a avoidant. i went to therapy and worked on my self our dog ended up going blind told her about that we didn't talk for months at that point she told me right away to put him down. so i learned a lot from all of this and you helped and im blocked everywhere have been for months but i messed up horribly before. but think i am being a avoidant myself due to trauma she caused.
Half of me believes that my ex girlfriend will come back to me, the other half doubts that she’ll come back. However, I still have hope, I’m still very hopeful that she will, even though it’s been 76 days since the breakup.
I was with my ex for six years. At times we would break up, but we would always get back together. This time he was in a new relationship and cheating on her with me until she found out. Since then we have been in no contact for 7 months now. However I saw him on tinder using a fake name! 7 months is the longest we have ever gone without talking since we met. I’m still so devastated :(
He’ll be back . Reach out if need be!
Aaron Randolph I really wish. It has now been a year of no contact :( I can’t reach out, because he had changed his number once she found out that he cheated. Plus, if he cared to talk to me at all he would’ve by now lol
Unfiltered Gem you don’t want him back.
I been in an on n off relationship for 2 years n im getting confused now kuz I never left him he would always hold grudges for simple arguments no cheating nothing crazy and now he played the depression card told me to move on and im really just exhausted kuz he said that before n still.came back...lol but I dont plan on responding to his texts or calls anymore
It's been 2 and a half months of NC for me.
You know how things just happen when you least expect it? I go to the store to get fruit and i see my ex walking her dog Snickers (cute name, i know) a block away. Don't know if she saw me drive by but all i can say is that seeing her for the first time in awhile drove me nuts. The urges of stopping to talk to her or to call her up just flooding my mind. I did neither of those and came to this video and others.
I miss her dearly. She mentioned depression on the day of the break up, and needing time and space.
I hope something unexpected happens again, just slightly different.
@B H i do recall him saying that, but i still believe it is a huge risk.
I had a coaching with Rory from the love chat and he respectfully disagreed.
I also don't see where i am the one to chase, i never wanted our relationship to end and plus she mentioned needing time and space. If she has enough of that and still wants me, she'll reach out.
@B H Rory told me to never reach out in my case. My ex mentioned being depressed and not loving herself. So that may be easier for me. For you, i dont have a clear answer, but from what i have read and watched, i would give her time and space, let things digest. If she has emotions for you then that's good. Give her your absence and let her miss you. Maybe in time she will conclude that the issues she has on you aren't that serious. In the meantime, focus on yourself. Hang with friends, work out if possible, stay busy.
I am not sure how you can show her change exactly tho. Telling her directly won't be the best in my opinion.
@B H I am technically a Christian myself but haven't been to church in forever so i can relate.
Craig Kenneth mentions this quote in a lot of his videos, "feelings change like the clouds in the sky." He always aims it towards women more then men. So just because she feels a certain way now, doesn't mean it will always stay the same.
My advice, focus on the specific behaviors that she didn't approve of and work towards improving them. You have time before you'll see her again so this is an opportunity to work on yourself.
@B H of all the coaches I've watched, most say that when an ex wants to just be friends, its simply helping them move on in way. As if they can slowly distance themself from you. But if YOU don't want to be her friend then don't settle for it. Go No Contact, let her think about this.
Rory told mentioned in a video that if we stay in contact, we are like 'tab water to our ex, and that they can get us at any time they want."
In other words, when somone can get us whenever they want, then we dont have as much value in their eyes.
@B H i agree. If you play your cards right, you might just turn this around.
I made all of these mistakes!!!!!!! Well, now into no contact for 3 months. None of this things worked. No contact is the only solution. I am feeing better about myself
I'm incredibly doubtful. I don't think things were so bad at all, but her perception is probably much different than mine. I was a little mean, but nowhere near where I've been in the past (before her, never with her, except when I yelled at her for pushing me too far in one argument). I was truly just being honest with the situation, and the truth hurts, I guess. I'm not betting on it. I'm not living my life with some hope of reconciliation when I have no faith in it. It was only 6 months long, the relationship, but I was very devoted and very much into the idea of it being a forever thing. It hurts, but I have bigger fish to fry... It's been a bit debilitating, though. Wish I would just feel better.
I feel the same.
Mine came back after 3 months, and 3 months of casual communication later...time for NC again. She won't change her mind but wants me around. Hard stuff...
Travis Wepfer she only wants you for attention . Don't be a fool
@@bernardlartims9114 yep
All good, we talked and she no longer contacts me
I just love replies with no sense of context about my situation. That suggest i may be a "fool". I don't post because i want a reply from a stranger, as most people don't, unless the comment suggests feedback. Want me to make an assumption about you based on a couple vague sentences? Sure i could brighten your day the way you did mine....👎👉👌
@@traviswepfer1270 sorry that response probably made you upset. I hope everything will work out with you and your situation. Hoping for the best! :)
I've Given up "Hope" that My Ex Will Ever be Back....She Broke it Off With Me 3 Years Ago and Started Dating Other Men....and Now is Involved With a Guy She Says She is Planning to Marry Sometime in the "Spring" of 2020.
I tried on / off for 4 months to try coaxing mine back.. tried following no contact - kept breaking it 😫 2-3 week gaps between.. I just couldnt understand her reasons - they made no sense .. and she ended 4 years by text message.
I think shes an avoidant, based on the videos I’ve watched ..
I would be very surprised if she ever came back., and its so hard to move on from someone that I love dearly and lost for seemingly no reason at all. I feel broken and in limbo
Is this just to give naive people like me false hope???? Well hope is all I have left....
No contact does not always work. I did no contact and after 20 days she started seeing someone else. I reached out at 45 days and got ignored. 5 months later they got engaged. That’s been 2.5 years. She since told me if I had reached out sooner she would have come back right then. After a couple weeks she said she thought I moved on so she did... every single video that told me to let go couldn’t have been more wrong.
Bob-A-Lou Anna Maria How long were you dating? Who the hell jumps into a new relationship right after breakup? She is weird.
You can do better.
She's lying about the "if you approached earlier" bullshit, she already had the guy in mind
Yeahhh she just wanted to move on. There is no honesty in her response. U said u reached out to her before she got engaged but she ignored u!
If she broke up with you then it's her responsibility to mend it. Otherwise, they will break up again. A very selfish and weird woman.
did she break up or you
He moved in with his girlfriend I think they engaged i was hearing things
What about exes that has come back to you before? In my instance my gf came back to me a day after she broke up with me, then broke up again in less than a month
My ex reached out at start of covid after 2 months since we last saw each other, 6 months since breakup. Ummmm cursed him out lol. Now he reached out a week or so ago a, 10 months post breakup, to which I cant figure out for the life me why he's reached out to me saying absolutely nothing practically. I didn't curse him purple this time but he can't expect me be thrilled or do the work for him. He really needs to leave me be since he continues to not take accountability or do any work to move things forward positively. If it wasn't for the fact that I love him, I'd ignore him but I am happy the breakup happened to know that I don't need him and just as he has options so do I. I hardly think an email in crisis or random text is coming back.
Hopeless situation...
Would long distance be included in that category? It's depressing if it is...
What do you do if yr ex has his ex who is the problem....she is poison. She hasn't let go after years. My ex has 2 kids. One who is 10 and lives with his dad. I block her but she is so manipulative and dark.....
My ex is long distance, she came back with a huge paragraph about how much she loves me and said she knows she will never find someone else like me. I kept it pretty neutral and have only told her I miss her once. She's reached out 3 times and I made sure to keep the conversation to 4-5 messages and always ending the conversation. She lives in France and me in England, I was always the one to visit her, how do I convince her to come and visit me instead?
Did she ever go into a rebound?
The reminder text? First time I heard of. Certainly does not work, if I get a text like that ill get sick.
What do you do if you live in the same building and run into you at a pool, lobby, etc?
I broke up. Felt like he was giving me bead crumbs. He said I was too pushy so I reacted by ending it but stated I had feelings for him but needed to get over him. He never responded. It’s been 3 weeks. Is no contact for me even though I broke up?
I mean we were 2 weeks away from getting married. I got a bad temper and can say hurtful things or be an asshole which I’ve been working on. She canceled wedding and kept me at a distance, was rude as hell, and didn’t really care anymore... that went on for 2 months and had a nasty break up with both of us saying some real hurtful things and me saying I don’t wanna hear from her anymore... went a month no contact then she reached out to see if I can give her mom some of her things and it’s been 10 days since. Really doubt I’ll hear from her again but who knows?
I made the mistake of reaching out during thanksgiving after she blocked me on social media. She of course did not answer me. I hope I didn’t pudge her away more. We dated for four years and I was her first boyfriend. Even while she was breaking up with me she was still caring for me. She told me “I’m not doing this because I don’t wanna be with you I still want to be with you but rn the best thing for us is to be apart”. The whole catalyst for this was because she couldn’t live the life and the future I had chosen for myself (military). She told me I could still talk to her yet blocked me and has gotten rid of my pictures from her social media. I hope she doesn’t hate me and that I am get another chance or at least see or hear from her again. However since this happened in October and now that its Christmas Day I have since finally become happy again.
Update? I'm in a similar situation :/
My ex fiance broke up with me in October she told me she's seeing somebody new rape before Christmas and we've only talked 2 times. The last time she talked to me was to text and she told me that I heard her really bad and that I'm dead to her now I haven't heard her In just about a month I've done no contact now for 27 days and I'm fortunate I just think she's gone
No
Almost 1 month ago since the break up i did admit to her 1 week ago that i had some of the blame because i have been caught up with My work and was stressed out that much i forgot to do stuff with her did end up write a clean slate massage and didnt get a New chance she told me the romance was not there anymore and she ended up writing to me maybe in a yeah times. So yeah i regret the focus i had on My work and not her but at the same time im going to gym again 6 times a week after the breakup, after 2,6 years in a relationship with her im starting to focus on My education to become a police officer but yes i still want her in My life as a partner to be a part of My completness but working and My self do help alot i miss her alot not watching her snapchat/ig stories not because i dont want to but kinda not want to be hurted Even more so yeah 1 week of nc and keep working My age is 24 her is 21 so sadly it ended but I take My blame for it
You are too young to be worrying about a girl who is 21. My dad always told me whenever we moved to a new country and I had to break up with my gf (both 17 at the time) "You'll get over it. You have a long life ahead." It was harsh and I hated him for saying that at the time. But you know what? Everything he said happened. We are now 28 and she lives across the world happily married but we still keep in touch.
Its part of life man. Focus on your career and women will come. It hurts but you need to use this energy and emotion to create something good for yourself. Move forward, always.
My ex lives 5 blocks away, our children go to school togehter and we have the same friends.
99 weeks and my ex got married with her rebound yesterday,
Well at least ilearned a lot watching your videos and have a better situation now
Raptor TIE the marriage won't last just watch . Her rebound was there all along FYI
Is there a update?
@@francescogiuglianoauricchi7398 i don't talk to her anymore... Leave her in her marriage ... The pain is still here I still make nightmares . I have a new internet gf I never met
@@philipperoache513 lots of strenght and love my brother..
Anyone else have a ex with bpd that you can’t stop thinking about for some stupid reason?
My ex and I split up like 5 months ago, and I’m finally realizing, for sure, she’ll never love me again.. her and her boyfriend, had no place to live.. so I... I! Let them move in to MY apartment, cuz my ex started talking about moving away to another country, with OUR 1yo daughter.. I had no choice, so I had to offer my ex that they can Live in My apartment until they find a place to live.. how miserable can life get? Right now I’m actually starting to laugh (of misery), at how things went so wrong that I Had to offer them to move in to my apartment.. I told her that she could always move in to my apartment, but she always said she wouldn’t without her new boyfriend.. For sure, she doesn’t love me anymore..
My ex isn’t coming back and it’s final. Sometimes we just have to admit it and move on. Hanging on to fairy tales and hopes that isn’t real is really just detrimental to your mental health. Love yourself enough to let go and move on
How can an avoidant change to a secure or an anxious? Please do a video on that
I can't see him coming back now he's with another woman and it literally breaks my heart I don't talk about him to others cause I don't want them to know how hurt of upset I am about him it kills me but I don't have contact with him since 18th December 2020
High suspicion my ex is a narc. Im not quick to throw that on people because my other ex is a narc. But so many red flags with my current ex smh
Same boat here? I’m not sure what to do
@@owenpeters4266 I’m not sure tbh. My ex definitely was abusive and very manipulative. I had to leave him alone for my own mental health. Havn’t spoke in almost 6 months. If you feel something isn’t right then listen to your gut. I wish I did the first time we met and I would have never went through all this pain, but I am healed now.
Allow me to list my reasons why I doubt, 1. She said she doesn't love me anymore, 2. She's with another man now most likely a rebound though, 3. I lied to her a lot and broke her trust, 4. She claims she stopped loving me a long time ago 🤗
Update?
Its been a year she deleted her instagram and her facebook and sl did her new bf.i dont see any hope im sure its done even if she breaks up i m sure im not an option
Just got off coaching with Craig! Guys do it!! He will help you even if you feel hopeless or made TONS of mistakes! Just keep doing you and LEAVE THEM ALONE! 😂 it’s truly the only option that will make your chances higher.
Does it work if she left you for someone else.. If u had 8 years together and out of blue she's with him.
@@thenanusharma It wasn't out of the blue. She was talking to this guy when she was with you. Dude, this is a blessing in disguise for you. I know it's hard but you need to be indifferent and move on. She will be back , you know why? 8 years is a strong bond my guy and it doesn't just vanish. Let her realise her mistake. Besides, be glad you didn't marry or have a child. You're "free".
Fall off the radar completely.
@Jeremy thnx bro... But wht if she.. Comes back to rekindle in the future?
@@thenanusharma That's for you to decide. Which is why you go no contact. You can experience life without her and what you can finally do without "restrictions".
When she comes back to rekindle, and you decide you still want her, take it slow. It's a new relationship and you go through the whole process again.
Honestly though? I would not take her back. Simply because she just threw away 8 years for some dude who will dump her 100%. She will then come crawling back to you but during that time you were alone you became the man you wanted to be. You don't need her but wouldn't mind her around, even if she leaves again. Who cares?
Jeremy - I like you! Good advice and nice of you to help... I 100%agree with you
Before I name these things lemme just say she loved me first and I Loved her after.
1. I lied about me not going to live until 25 and said I had blood cancer.
2. I faked a panic attack in an alley with her
3. I lied about my last name but at the time just wanted to see what she thought about the last name didn’t mean for her to take it as a lie I was gonna tell her though.... yeah she said it was too much built up and she called me a compulsive liar and I played games.. still coming back last I talked to her on the phone it’s 4 hours ago we been broken up for 2 weeks.
After getting mad at me on Mother’s Day and taking his key back it’s been less than two weeks and he unblocked me to reach out. I was so excited. I missed him. But I was prepared to move on. I even went on a date. But of course it was a dud! So it took my ex nine days. So we’re supposed to talk on Friday. We’ve been together 22-months we argue constantly. Why can’t we get along? We’re both 68-years-old. He blocks then I block him. Anyway, I was shocked. He can’t be without me for two minutes! 😢
I’m showing my ex I’m more patient and I’m living life I hope he opens up more Snd more with me
3 months in nothing has changed I've done everything I'm blocked she says she won't unblock me rt now. I've asked does she have another man she says no she is wanting to be by herself rt now, she says she doesn't know if she will give us another chance or not. We go through sections of no contact but bump into each other at grocery store occasionally. I feel she is a avoidant I'm the anxious.
almost 6 months no contact. he’s added me on almost every social media (still blocked on fb😂) but so far no communication between us whatsoever. i feel that he is scared to contact me? but i’m too stubborn to text him first as I always think “don’t fix what you didn’t break”
G Up Need help? I’ll let you dm me on IG, I already knew a lot about how to text. Here’s my Instagram name: Pervysagejiraiyasensei
@@taejo4975 hey my ex text me 6 months after nc now she's on tinder I was shy when she reach out wtf
Took me 7 months, never thought it would happen, but it did. She dated a bunch of assholes, all they did was remind her how good i was to her. I did not initiate contact during this period. She contacted me eventually, when she started contacting me, it was hot and cold. Would reach out, then I wouldnt hear from her for like months. Cause she was confused. Then it got more and more frequent. I didnt bitch when she contacted me, just was positive to her, kept conversation to a minimum, didnt reach out. I always presented the offer to meet, which she never accepted. Finally, she came to town and agreed to meet. Weve hooked up a couple times and she wont stop texting me. Only now do I initiate texts because were in a different phase, but I still try not to overwhelm her with communication (like I used to). Im not playing her, I actually have real feelings for her, just trying to take it slow because I want this to work the right way now. Dont give up, it may take a while, but follow these videos, they work. They kept me sane while I hate to say I was kind of waiting for her, giving her space to figure out I was the one. Its a tough process, you have to move forward, work on yourself, and in case they do come back, you need to be ready to deal with it the right away.
Btw, I dated too during no contact. Helped me move forward and helped me get my confidence back. To the dates, I was very honest, I said I was hurt and getting through a break up and just looking to have fun. They were very nice because I was up front that the dates were just casual and not leading them on.
@G Up have you had any relationship for the last 3 months or been busy to think of your ex? What made you decide nor feel you still like her?
Should I break no contact to I need to tell her I don't want to be friends with her? she messaged me after 17 days saying she misses me and hopes we can be friends? I want her back in a relationship