We should really have an education in relationships at school, there would be far less heartbreak and divorce leading to a more stable society with better values. Because lining someone up whilst being cold towards someone who loves you is the most cowardly, unhealthy, hurtful, and immoral thing to do to someone.
That is so insane you say that! Because I have been saying the same thing to my friends for months!! My coworkers as well. They teach us academically but this is the stuff. I wish I knew how to deal with communication and how to handle my anxiety.
sometimes breakups lead to a much better person... so you never know. (although, if the previous ex was romantically intelligent, they probably wouldn’t be an ex in the first place)
I just don’t get how I’m not enough. I’m never enough. I finally found a girl who went crazy for me, and then bam! She leaves me. Ngl, I was higher than her on the attractive scale too, so idk what to do anymore. I settled and I still get dumped. I was such a good bf. I give up. I literally feel like I’m cursed. I’m a born loser. I’ve been working on myself for the past 8 years. I can’t do it alone anymore. I’m GOOD ENOUGH!
@@thehavoc6331 he probably won’t respond. I can say I have an update on my situation if you’d like to hear it tho? I’m sure your looking for hope right?
My exes have always come back, eventually. Not necessarily to get back together, but they always reach out and now I can just smile and read their messages and put the phone down without feeling like I needed to respond. They want an ego boost, to know they still got it going on. Don't give that to them. They haven't worked on themselves, so they will be the exact same and you'll go through the same things. Start new with someone new. It's so weird and it's generally when you're pretty much over them. Pretend they don't exist. Hurt their ego for a change. There are so many people on this earth. You can find another one who appreciates your breath, genuinely. And remember, once the trust is broken, for whatever reason, it will never ever be the same. Being single is super beautiful. I've learned so much about who I am and dating and attachment styles and so on. I now don't take it personally. I see my worth and believe I deserve better. Time will make it easier. Let them go. Craig and Margaret, your videos help ease my mind. I've learned so much from you. It's inspired me to go to school to be a therapist. Thank you. Truly.
I agree with you, but being an avoidant with an ex who's an anxious attachment style, I feel like it was more my fault in some ways. But nevertheless, doubt she's really worked on herself
I'll give you an ego boost :) Glad i read this at this time I needed this. Been more than a month and this lockdown is getting annoying. Today was a down day even tho I felt good the past few days. Trauma was a big part in my life working on that now to get rid of it for once and for all. Once again I thank you from the bottom of my hearth for this comment :) Be safe and be well
@@_LilacRoses I'm on day 13 of no contact. She dumped me and I am struggling. My heart is crumbling. She hasn't even reached out and said hi or checked in on me. I feel hopeless and worthless.
It’s so true what people in these comments have said - no contact seriously helps you grow. Grow so much, that you out grow your ex and realise your worth. I feel pity for her now, and i’m getting so much attention from others
@@plusultra5735 Nope, not heard from him. Been more than 9 months now. He's still with the girl he cheated on me with/left me for. Luckily for me I don't really care anymore. i can't trust him anyway.
I am forming a love/hate relationship with these vids, lol. It's been months and months since I heard from my ex. He's still with the woman he left me for, and I am exhausted to the point of giving up. Then a vid like this pops up and it rekindles my hope, just for it to slowly dwindle again. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer. I do value the vids and your support. It's hard to keep the faith though.
Mixed Girl Magic same to me. im moving on already i was 8 years with this girl and never knew what was the reason of the ending. it was a surprise. 3 months and not reached never
Never reach to someone who broke up with you. When they break up, just say your peace and move on. It is not easy but the best way is to look for a hobby or go to the gym etc.. you need to work on yourself and move on. Especially if they are seeing someone or left you for someone, you cannot stay hoping. Believe me and what Craig says in his videos (well believe him more than me). It's not easy but it will make you feel much better,.it will make you feel much more worth it and you don't look at your ex in the same as you use too... at least that is how I deal with these situations. I wish you both the best.
Darling im battling that demon its not the vid it is our internal state even went on a physhic meditation channel that pops up and rralised what a load of nonsense that was. I cannot believe soulmates can treat you soo badly. Once you reprogram emotinally and u strong enough i am finding i am strong to mentally talk myself out of it. Letting it go. Craig n Margaret been speaking great deal on personal development i think thats the ultimate goal. They will pop up someday but who wants someone who walked away forgot about you in a flash and enjoyed themselves wuth others. Healthy functional good people dont do that. They resolve problems. Unless you had big problem then you shld talk to coach
Thanks for the support, but I have been doing all you said. I took a course, volunteered for a charity, lost loads of weight, joined dating websites and a social singles group. I am not the problem here. I've been hurt by someone who was obviously not honest about his feelings for me. That doesn't stop it hurting though, nor does it stop me missing him. As Craig said, some people just aren't going to get back with an ex and I am beginning to believe I am one of those people. I know my own worth, even if my ex doesn't but, as I said, I can't just wave a magic wand and pretend he does not exist.Believe me, if I could, I would.
That thing you said about what someone will do to someone else they will do to you... That hit me. And after everything I went through with my ex I think that was the hardest part to swallow.
Great video Coaches...boy there are some relationships that truly are almost unbelievable, I do not envy you trying to unravel this one. Now I have to check the obituary to see if my ex has passed as have not heard from her in months, lol. I am working hard on my self and the gains are fantastic. Thank you and love you both. Cheers, Rob
OMG, this is all messed up. You need to have respect for yourself. This guy is not seeing anything that is infront of him. Move on and the most important thing is to work on yourself.
God bless you both. We all love you. You’ll never know the positive impact you both have on people’s lives, but god knows. 🙏 incredible work guys! Keep it up. Thank you.
After my ex broke up with me she said stuff to really guilt me and I told her I couldn't be her friend after when she asked me and I said no that i was hurt but i wish her the best. She went off on me and guilt tripped me again and made me feel bad. A month later i reached out and she said no to reconcile but we can talk in a condescending way. That's when I finally let her have it and told her very honest but harsh shit about her. I doubt she'll ever come back now. I regret it but don't at the same time. She needed a wake up call.
Well, mine is hopeless. I only dated her for 4 months and another 4 via telephone when the pandemic hit. She dumped me for another person who apparently, have known for a decent amount of time and, they already started a business together. It's been 3 months and no sign of her
They key line in all of this was what he said at the very end. "What they did to you they will do to other people, and what they did to other people they will do to you." No question in my mind is that an accurate statement. It's sad though because often these people can make you feel like such a knight in shining armor, just waiting for you to let your guard down and then take a stab at you.
My ex is wrong for me. I need to and want to let him go, but my mind is working overtime to get him back. I recognize my mind and heart are hurting and my mind's advice right now is no good. I need more time. Luckily for me, my ex has helped me by not contacting me. Love and peace, friends. 🧡🤙🙏
I am really thankful about how things turned out. That dude was going to make me miserable! Look how it went already! Lol 😂 People who care get hurt. I cared and it hurt. But life goes on and so do I! Thanks for asking. All is well with me. 😁
Another story of hope: the mother of one of my exes, she was in a short relationship of about a year with a man, they broke up, and 10 years later they met again - and married. The last time I talked to that ex of mine, his mother was still married to that man (so for several years)... Maybe they're still married. She went through having cancer with him by her side.... So really, anything can happen, you never know. People are crazy. Don't we know it...
I love your channel. I came across it when my daughters boyfriend broke up with her and have learned a lot. And I have to say that Margaret is so funny, she’s something else lol. Your wisdom and experience is truly amazing coach
I am not giving up on my life or my personal growth and self improvement as a man.. But i am most likely giving up on my EX and dating in general since i dont see the worth anymore...
I love my kids but it wouldn’t have been so hard if we didn’t have 2 children together. I’m just full of regret. I don’t know if there’s anything I could have even done or if he just didn’t care to try. I wish I just didn’t care and could just move on. Some days I do and am fine, then I’m sad and regret and reminiscing and wondering why and missing him.
My 5 year relationship ended over 4 months ago. 3 weeks after we ended she entered into a rebound and this made the decision for me to never go back. Throughout the time with the rebound she continued to reach out but not once did i ever try to get her back. Let them go, especially if they go into a rebound.
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago. We decided to remain friends we texted daily. But most recently st pactricks day I had a few drinks and lashed out over text that I thought she should delete out mutual friends. I read my text as I came to and realized I didn’t mean it so I called at 430 am. She later said ok. I’m taking your friends off my list and I’m blocking you. I waited a week and texted her I’m working on myself and let her know I needed to stop with the excessive drinking. A week after that I mailed her a sincere letter of apology hoping it sinks in. I’m going to give it a few more weeks and give her some space( in hopes to make her miss me )before I try reaching out again via email or phone call. We known each other over a year by now.
But what is worst than a long distance breakup during this pandemic where no engagement of communication is possible? I'm already 3 months + into no contact leaving him to deal with his depression and that fact that he felt less happy given situational change in the UK. As I am aware the lockdown hasn't stopped. It has been so hard but I am not going to give up on this relationship while working on myself.... Craig probably will say long distance won't ever work and it's not a relationship to be had. But the relationship has been good, more ups than downs. Pandemic has changed it all.... I need hope.
Dear Craig, Margaret and Victoria, thank you so much for helping me understand so much about myself and my ex. I have this difficulty that currently I'm living with my ex boyfriend and have no chance and/or means to rent something else. I still hope we will work things out, but it's hard to keep no contact with someone who lives in the same house. Also, hard to be wondered about if he can see me on daily basis, sitting in my room. Could you make a video with hints how I'm supposed to tackle this? I would really appreciate it. Thank you wholeheartedly for all the work you have been doing, you are life saviours. Joanna
Wtf! This is exactly what happened to me! Except the cosmetic surgery.. we were highschool sweethearts, then met again after 28 yrs, we’re both married when we met again… In a relationship with her for 6 yrs, now she’s gone for 5 months now 😢😢. Moving on is hard especially when we created a lot of good memories 😢
Crystal Callaghan Margaret is so awesome. Craig tries one of his sly remarks and she instantly comes up with a better funnier reply 🤣 no wonder he's so knowledgeable he learned from the Master herself
This is identical to my situation except it is my fiancé of 4 years who is going back to his long separated from soon to be ex wife. It is heart breaking to be on the receiving end of.
Me and my ex were together for 4 years . She was getting attention another man and it end up them sexting. I gave her another chance. We ended 2 months ago . I am devastated and now she’s on a pedestal. She is making zero attempts to contact me unless it’s to do with the house we do own together or to collect items. I assume due to my anxiety that she is dating. She’s making it very clear she’s not interested in me anymore .
It's been almost 2 years for me in NC. Bumped into her once a few months after the breakup and had a short conversation. Didn't result in her reaching out later. Only thing I have initated was to send a Christmas card to the family last year. Thought it might be a reach out when she wrote to say thank you but it wasn't. She just angled for a coffee, but would not commit to coming over for dinner. I said no to coffee. She left a few of her things here but has never come to pick them up, and has never asked for them back. Her previous relationship was 5 years and ended in a broken engagement. We were together for about 2 years.
My ex is 19 I am 36. He says he is straight now and has made up his mind. Says I humiliated him and broke his trust. He has moved away and has a girlfriend now.... So hopeless or not ? Im thinking so 😅
When feelings for a new person come in, feelings for an ex come out. Works the same with anxiety though, when it disappears for an ex, shows up for the new person loool... and so on and so forth. I ll be watching these videos from NY soon!
Georgia Papadopoulou idk ... I still think About every single girl I've been with in my life ... Not in like ... A bad way or because I want them back ... But like. Ya know. We shared good times :)
risse x 💙 awww you guys always remember about your ex girls, I know and I understand the reasons behind it. The ugly truth is that women tend to delete their ex's if they do not share good memories with them. It's a matter of time especially if a new person invades her brains!
I swear to God I feel like coach makes these emails himself now it’s for the good because he’s trying to teach us and help us out but Man these email say just scream like he wrote them… matter of fact on a couple of them he slips out n said me n not us in the email or they speak just like he speaks..like “ broadcasting” on social media! Let me be clear I’m not saying he’s doing it to manipulate us he’s doing it because he’s a bad guy or any of that he’s just making it so he could teach us what he feels like we need to learn that’s my opinion I could be wrong but I don’t get that feeling from any other coach but him.. and with that being said I feel like he is one of the best coaches on UA-cam so I am not talking shit
I saw this comment and said what the heck? So Listened to this in my car and though… how the hell could anyone think I could make up a story like this??? Why in Gods name would I do that? This story is wild and filled with complications! I kind of remembered it too! Buddy, I have 2 kids and a life. I often stay up late just uploading and working on general things. I have no time or desire to create a story 🤣. My email coachings are more than enough to share 🤣 but u believe whatever u want
Is it good news if she hasn’t removed us from being ‘in a relationship’ on Facebook? Been broken up for 9 months, NC 5.5 months. No evidence of her dating or having a boyfriend
I tried to add my ex on Instagram after 3 weeks of no contact. She messaged me saying that she blocked me and unblocked me becasue she didn't care enough to let me see her posts. She told me that it doesn't mean that she wants to follow me, or be friendly because of how we ended not on good terms. She was cruel. She told me that she moved in with her like, so I should too. I don't know what to think. Ideas?
My ex asked me out 6 times and every time I said yes then no through sheet nerves I regret so much not accepting and sticking to it feeling pretty hopeless at the moment but only have myself to blame 🙈
Why would you even use that story as an example. It’s a terrible example of dysfunctional people that don’t belong in a relationship & not really about the video topic.
I was not the best boyfriend I have cheated in the past (I know I’m wrong) but I would have never left her ... never... I’m that kind of guy once I’m with a girl she’s the one I’m staying with .. we broke up for the 4th time & I haven’t heard from her since going on about a month of a half ... she broke up with me on txt said she “can’t talk to me anymore it’s the only cure for both of us” I’m not sure if it’s hopeless or not ... but I’ve been working on myself mentally & physically & I am prepared to never hear from her again but damn it’s painful.... my birthday is in dec its nov 7th if I don’t hear from her on that day then I know the deal .. she wouldn’t let that day pass & not contact me & if she doesn’t then I’ll know it’s not the same woman I was with for 5 years & it will be much easier to move on ... if she doesn’t call I’ll never look back
How did it go.. my ex left me in Jan... still haven't heard from him 11 months later. My grandfather died. Nothing from him. So devastated. I feel like all our time together never mattered. He doesn't even like me
Maybe his ex wife wasn’t abusive. Maybe she was just always in her masculine energy because she wasn’t getting the love and attention from him. Sounds like he was busy chasing this other woman for 8 years. This other woman was already married. Sounds to me like he got his Karma. If a man says his wife is abusive or crazy maybe the first question should be, hmm well what was it that made her that way? There is a saying that goes like this, A man can only truly love one woman at a time. 🤔
My ex is with someone else it hasn’t even been 3 months I know she rushed into it to make herself feel better.... I’m hurting I can’t even sleep... and she doesn’t even care...
What are your thoughts on an ex boyfriend would married the lady of the night / co worker,whom he cheated on his former wife he was married too about five years ago. Do you feel he will cheat on the lady of the night soon in this new marriage?
In your experience or coach Margarets, do you have an instance or example of the ‘longest period between breakup and comeback? ... For an unmarried couple or a longer term married couple?
Not true because my ex girlfriend left me one year ago and she found someone els a year ago and there still together but 3 month ago she wished me a happy birthday then she stop calling me then I wish her a happy birthday then she ask me if we could be Facebook friends and I told her no and I told her to call me if things change with you and him now I haven't heard from her this is my question why did she wanted to be facebook friends
Question... 3 weeks ago my girlfriend of 7 years said we should take a break but picked me up from work, wanted to make love the next day and a few days later she texted and said she didn't wanna work things out and then a few nights later she texted to check on me cuz of some stuff going on and texted me for a couple hours and the next day I went to get my stuff and she talked to me just small talk and I asked her to work things out and she started crying and just said no I'm not doing this my nerves can't handle It (she's been super depressed) and then back to Ignoring me and then a couple days later she texted me while I was at work and we talked about her day, my day etc... She told me she was having panic attacks and her stomach felt numb (has stomach Issues requiring specialist&surgery) and I asked if she wanted me to come over and she said yes and we slept In the same bed and I loved on her by rubbing her back and legs but the next morning she wouldn't let me kiss her on the lips and I haven't heard from her since other than her saying "If I don't have to be at work early do you want to come and get your stuff?" I've been doing the no contact for 5 days now no text, calls or anything... She's sending me mixed signals and I'm thinking I should just move on but she and I connected on a different level from day 1... What should I do?
might be to late down the legal path now last thing I want.Was thinking of sending couple of pics by text with smile on her face saying this is the beautiful girl I loved for 29 years not the one impersonating u holding on to all the hurt, bitterness and stress. Was also thinking of adding better alternative to lawyers might be grab a passport lets go somewhere exotic to de stress. She wanted response from my lawyer with offer of settlement which she will get this week. She is only allowing our 14yo stay 1 night a week now and has threatened to stop letting him stay at all now unless my lawyer hurries up. Love your thoughts ty
yeah maybe not sure what is going on usually she is nice then has outbursts she moved to rental 11 months ago so is obviously frustrated as well there has been no settlement in that time, she is going to get letter this week from my lawyer what else can I do hope that snaps her out of it there will be offer of settlement with it of course. Maybe that will make her happy don't know. Been together 29 years miss her and kids terribly especially as oldest son isn't talking to me at all and youngest only staying 1 night a week even though he likes being home. Do people snap out of mid life crisis I don't know. I am good person so don't understand this get very down, people don't understand how hard this is. Hope u and your husband r still together at least and r happy ty for reply
ty your lovely so sorry u r divorced I understand how its killing u I am exactly the same been with her 29 years and apart 11 months miss her and kids so bad I am at the point of giving up had to do lawyer thing as much as I don't want to that's what she wants she is so stubborn obviously has so much hurt , bitterness and pain built up and she cant let go of it I am just so down rang lifeline that many times and have gr8 friends who have kept me from doing anything silly but who knows what will happen just want my family home ty
hi vim raj haven't been fighting hardly c her only when I pick up my 14yo boy ONCE a week or run into her at shopping centre usually she is ok occasional outburst from her and last Saturday she dropped jake off came into house to get some of my eldest sons things and cut up photo of her and my 14yo one of only ones I had of her said she didn't like it cant afford coaching too expensive only put comments on here hopefully I will be allowed my 14yo son tonight wish me luck need to c him asked her last Saturday as well if I could take jake on holiday during school holidays she said NO u cant afford to pay me out u cant afford holidays and sped off even though she took our boys away for 2 nights last school holidays
My recent ex is talking to another woman on the phone. He says that she was his first love 45 years ago and he still loves her. He said he is very much in love with me. He said he is making me breakfast and my favorite coffee the next day. He then tells me that he needs space. I ask him how can I eat breakfast if I am giving space. He said never mind we are not giving space.....WTheck....anyone out there ever even heard of such a thing???He seemes more angry and triggered by me and wanting and vulenteering to spend money on me. .Please please, will someone tell me what is going on????? I think I should do the no contact thing. However, even this triggers him. I'm not the arguing type even though he is blaming everything on me. He says he is holding a grudge against me, then he says he really doesn't have a grudge against me. He is a nice professional person and I have been with him 30 years. This has never happen before.
Hyy coach creg my bf broked up vd me aftr 10 yers by sayng his family nd carrier iz nw more imp dan u so i wont continue... ...i beged pleaded etc...nw finly im hope less....i love him more dan anythng....plzhelpme
She reached out but just want to be friend She reached out and giving me surprises on my birthday but I dont know she want comeback with me or not She reached out 3 times since our break up on november
When an ex reaches out, it usually means they want to see you. When she reaches out again just do a short reply saying something along the lines of, "Hey there. Great to hear from you. Would love to see you. Are you free this Friday evening around 8:00 to meet up at (insert place) for a drink and catch up?"
I would just tell my ex that I appreciate that she wants to be friends but since I have feelings for her, it wouldn't be right because it's not sincere as I am interested in more than that. Aside from the fact that it wouldn't be healthy for myself. I would then tell her to reach out and let me know if she would like to get together sometime for a drink or dinner and to just enjoy each others company some evening. I would then go no contact or limited contact. You have to remember that they are not a priority anymore since the relationship has ended.. By staying in communication with them, all you succeed in doing is giving them a "fix" and this does nothing to help with getting them to miss you. My ex told me a long time ago that when we were broken up, she would reach out just to make sure she still had my interest. Just something to think about...
Zoni20 I guess it depends. Avoidants too can feel neglected and might look back to a past partner who was stable, independent and loving. Things tend to happen that way when this past partner is gone for good though, so that what they perceive as “flaws” give place to good memories. Look at the situation in this video, this avoidant’s ex-husband is back on the picture out of nowhere.
She end it 3 month ago, she is in rebound 1 months now, she tryied to hurt me many times despite im in nc, we have different religion, cultur and a 8 yours gab, sheis feeling the grass green syndom, she avoids me now snd dont talks to me at work, iam nit reaching out, so is this hopless, hell yeh.
My ex still sending me messages but always his puting me down. He want’s me back but he dosen’t know how to talk to get me back. Should i answer for his messages? I’ll just ignoring him cos of his behave.
What if they are narcissistic? I remember the Dear Abbey days ! Really miss her. That tells you how old I am! She probably wouldn’t know what to tell us! That gives me a laugh! My 8 year relationship has opened my eyes to what has gone on! I never cheated on him , but I believe he has done it to me! He would not admit it! I am such a fool! He manipulated me and I kept trying to keep this man that I loved! I was invested! His ex was always there but just friends! He knew how I felt but just kept doing it! I divorced my husband for him! No win!
there was no reaching out at all for the past 7 months. I sent him a happy New Years because I felt I was in a good place but he only replied in kindness wishing me all the best. THE END and back to nothing. no contact..... he did unfollowed me on everything.... I still want to work on this. I sent him a dm a month later no reply. please..... advise.... unlikely to meet up anytime soon due to the current global issue.
My Ex is Engaged to be Married this Year....So I've Lost All Hope and Faith that She and I Will Ever be Getting back Together...so...I've Accepted the Fact that I'm too Old (58yrs. old) to try and Start Over With Someone Else and Life is Over for Me....I'm Never Going to Ever Get Married and I'm Going to Die Alone....Some People Never Find "Forever Love" Regardless of What People tell You and Regardless of What You Believe....Some People Are Just Destined to Die Alone.
I don't see how I'd have any chance of my ex coming back its only been a month but, I moved states and his mother is moving to the state he is at to be near him so, do you really think he'll leave the state he loves with his elderly mother going to be there just to come back km a woman he fought with all the time? I think not Its also hopeless if they date someone else. I couldn't think of anything worse than waiting for your ex to come back knowing they're dating someone else then come back to you. That's an insult. Only if I've moved on too, felt indifferent towards them and then we found ourselves again that's fine. But not whilst one is waiting, no way
what if they are with someone else and have been hanging out with this person for about 6 months and say they love her and are happy? we were on and off or 9 years?
When its REALLY REALLY HOPELESS???🤔.. When they DIE !!! ...😁😁You two makes me laugh soo laugh here when all I wanted to do right now is Cry😝 Thank you soo much😁 You two are precious 💙You both are a TREASURE🌸Pls take care of yourself🏵️Hugs and love.💜
Hi Craig and Margaret. I'm watching your channel for a year now. I can't afford the coaching, however, i would really like to contact you somehow, at least this way, i hope you will see my comment. I've been dating a beatiful girl for a year, in the meantime we became exclusive and got in a relationship. She is divorced single mother, 31 years old, as me, who had been bullied by her ex. She never wanted a relationship with anyone, but yet somehow, we fell in love with each other. We had so much good time together, connected thru music and could talk about anything for hours. Our passion was amazing. As i've learned thru your videos, i've found out that i've had an anxious attachment style and she is probably an avoidant. We broke up three months ago. She left me because i think she became attracted to another guy who is talking bad about her, who involves with other women. They are not in a relationship, but they are 'hanging out', in a passionate way. I can't move on from her, and i've tried everything. I'm really good with her family, with her friends and, as we live 5 minutes away, i keep stumbling into her, or into someone hers. I've been doing research about the rebound relationships, however, we are in no contact (i've sent her 2-3 messages in a three months), but she is mad at me, she blocked me and it seems that she doesn't want to have anything with me. In the meantime, she has unblocked me (probably to check if i'm still interested in her), but when i've reached to her after a week from this, asking if we can make peace, she has blocked me again. I'm thinking about moving to China for work and to forget her, but on the other hand - i would be happiest man in the world if we could be together. I know it's toxic, but i really miss her. I didn't beg for her to come back, but i've been really bad to myself, got into depression and i'm trying to recover from it. However, i didn't stop thinking about her for a day since then. I would really appreciate if you could give me some advice or make the video about my situation with some advice for me, because i really don't know what to do, i just know that i love her and i would forgive her everything if we could make a fresh start. Whats the probability of she coming back and what would be the best for me? All the best!
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We should really have an education in relationships at school, there would be far less heartbreak and divorce leading to a more stable society with better values. Because lining someone up whilst being cold towards someone who loves you is the most cowardly, unhealthy, hurtful, and immoral thing to do to someone.
That is so insane you say that! Because I have been saying the same thing to my friends for months!! My coworkers as well. They teach us academically but this is the stuff. I wish I knew how to deal with communication and how to handle my anxiety.
I 100% agree
sometimes breakups lead to a much better person... so you never know.
(although, if the previous ex was romantically intelligent, they probably wouldn’t be an ex in the first place)
I agree completely, my last marriage went off the rails after my anxiety. And believe it or not it completely clouded any love i had for that woman.
Yesssss this the one
I just don’t get how I’m not enough. I’m never enough. I finally found a girl who went crazy for me, and then bam! She leaves me. Ngl, I was higher than her on the attractive scale too, so idk what to do anymore. I settled and I still get dumped. I was such a good bf. I give up. I literally feel like I’m cursed. I’m a born loser.
I’ve been working on myself for the past 8 years. I can’t do it alone anymore. I’m GOOD ENOUGH!
I won't give up on him. I won't give up on myself. I'm moving forward regardless.
Good for you!!!
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Same! For her!
@@thehavoc6331 he probably won’t respond. I can say I have an update on my situation if you’d like to hear it tho? I’m sure your looking for hope right?
@@David-fl4xw yes, do you have any update?
My exes have always come back, eventually. Not necessarily to get back together, but they always reach out and now I can just smile and read their messages and put the phone down without feeling like I needed to respond. They want an ego boost, to know they still got it going on. Don't give that to them. They haven't worked on themselves, so they will be the exact same and you'll go through the same things. Start new with someone new. It's so weird and it's generally when you're pretty much over them. Pretend they don't exist. Hurt their ego for a change. There are so many people on this earth. You can find another one who appreciates your breath, genuinely. And remember, once the trust is broken, for whatever reason, it will never ever be the same. Being single is super beautiful. I've learned so much about who I am and dating and attachment styles and so on. I now don't take it personally. I see my worth and believe I deserve better. Time will make it easier. Let them go.
Craig and Margaret, your videos help ease my mind. I've learned so much from you. It's inspired me to go to school to be a therapist. Thank you. Truly.
I agree with you, but being an avoidant with an ex who's an anxious attachment style, I feel like it was more my fault in some ways. But nevertheless, doubt she's really worked on herself
I'll give you an ego boost :) Glad i read this at this time I needed this. Been more than a month and this lockdown is getting annoying. Today was a down day even tho I felt good the past few days. Trauma was a big part in my life working on that now to get rid of it for once and for all. Once again I thank you from the bottom of my hearth for this comment :)
Be safe and be well
Woke up and went straight to UA-cam to see if you had posted another video. You (and Margaret) are a huge part of my mornings 💕
We're all in this together Lilac :)
Did the exact same thing and it's 6:30am haha
indeed we are
haha, I'm the same sometimes, no shame :)
@@_LilacRoses I'm on day 13 of no contact. She dumped me and I am struggling. My heart is crumbling. She hasn't even reached out and said hi or checked in on me. I feel hopeless and worthless.
I appreciate you both very much. Two wonderful, kind human beings. Thank you for being great teachers with tremendous insight.
It’s so true what people in these comments have said - no contact seriously helps you grow. Grow so much, that you out grow your ex and realise your worth. I feel pity for her now, and i’m getting so much attention from others
It would be nice if she were to reach out. But I just don’t see it happening. In the meantime, I’m working on becoming a little better every day. 🎶
Mark Michael LePianka hear anything ?
Hope you stuck to your plan.
Same. I have basically given up any hope of him coming back, but I am still trying to improve on the issues we had in the relationship
@@anonymanonymesten1442 any update
@@plusultra5735 Nope, not heard from him. Been more than 9 months now. He's still with the girl he cheated on me with/left me for. Luckily for me I don't really care anymore. i can't trust him anyway.
I am forming a love/hate relationship with these vids, lol. It's been months and months since I heard from my ex. He's still with the woman he left me for, and I am exhausted to the point of giving up. Then a vid like this pops up and it rekindles my hope, just for it to slowly dwindle again. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer. I do value the vids and your support. It's hard to keep the faith though.
Mixed Girl Magic same to me. im moving on already i was 8 years with this girl and never knew what was the reason of the ending. it was a surprise. 3 months and not reached never
Never reach to someone who broke up with you. When they break up, just say your peace and move on. It is not easy but the best way is to look for a hobby or go to the gym etc.. you need to work on yourself and move on. Especially if they are seeing someone or left you for someone, you cannot stay hoping. Believe me and what Craig says in his videos (well believe him more than me). It's not easy but it will make you feel much better,.it will make you feel much more worth it and you don't look at your ex in the same as you use too... at least that is how I deal with these situations. I wish you both the best.
he ll come back when it's not working with that new person.
Darling im battling that demon its not the vid it is our internal state even went on a physhic meditation channel that pops up and rralised what a load of nonsense that was. I cannot believe soulmates can treat you soo badly.
Once you reprogram emotinally and u strong enough i am finding i am strong to mentally talk myself out of it. Letting it go. Craig n Margaret been speaking great deal on personal development i think thats the ultimate goal.
They will pop up someday but who wants someone who walked away forgot about you in a flash and enjoyed themselves wuth others. Healthy functional good people dont do that. They resolve problems. Unless you had big problem then you shld talk to coach
Thanks for the support, but I have been doing all you said. I took a course, volunteered for a charity, lost loads of weight, joined dating websites and a social singles group. I am not the problem here. I've been hurt by someone who was obviously not honest about his feelings for me. That doesn't stop it hurting though, nor does it stop me missing him. As Craig said, some people just aren't going to get back with an ex and I am beginning to believe I am one of those people. I know my own worth, even if my ex doesn't but, as I said, I can't just wave a magic wand and pretend he does not exist.Believe me, if I could, I would.
Coach Margaret, this haircut and color looks fantastic!
That thing you said about what someone will do to someone else they will do to you... That hit me. And after everything I went through with my ex I think that was the hardest part to swallow.
When one door closes, don't open it, turn to others that are open
I believe in the old saying which is very true, " how you get them is how you lose them" 🤷🏽♀️
Great video Coaches...boy there are some relationships that truly are almost unbelievable, I do not envy you trying to unravel this one. Now I have to check the obituary to see if my ex has passed as have not heard from her in months, lol. I am working hard on my self and the gains are fantastic. Thank you and love you both. Cheers, Rob
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Idk how coaches can be funny 😂 I just had mental breakdown from 3 wks of breakup and about financial issues rn listening to this makes me feel happier
OMG, this is all messed up. You need to have respect for yourself. This guy is not seeing anything that is infront of him. Move on and the most important thing is to work on yourself.
You're the best relationship coach ever
These people really deserve each other. They don’t belong in a healthy relationship with a decent person.
God bless you both. We all love you. You’ll never know the positive impact you both have on people’s lives, but god knows. 🙏 incredible work guys! Keep it up. Thank you.
After my ex broke up with me she said stuff to really guilt me and I told her I couldn't be her friend after when she asked me and I said no that i was hurt but i wish her the best. She went off on me and guilt tripped me again and made me feel bad. A month later i reached out and she said no to reconcile but we can talk in a condescending way. That's when I finally let her have it and told her very honest but harsh shit about her. I doubt she'll ever come back now. I regret it but don't at the same time. She needed a wake up call.
Margaret, I love this cut, style and hair color on you. It looks very nice :)
I need someone to give me a million dollars so i can get coaching. This breakup and wanting my ex fiancee back is driving me crazy. 😖
I remember going through a painful breakup, and these “is it hopeless” videos scared tf out of me haha.
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Well, mine is hopeless. I only dated her for 4 months and another 4 via telephone when the pandemic hit.
She dumped me for another person who apparently, have known for a decent amount of time and, they already started a business together. It's been 3 months and no sign of her
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Coach Craig, you and Margret make a realy good team. I'm enjoying your videos, keep up the good work...
They key line in all of this was what he said at the very end. "What they did to you they will do to other people, and what they did to other people they will do to you." No question in my mind is that an accurate statement. It's sad though because often these people can make you feel like such a knight in shining armor, just waiting for you to let your guard down and then take a stab at you.
My ex is wrong for me. I need to and want to let him go, but my mind is working overtime to get him back. I recognize my mind and heart are hurting and my mind's advice right now is no good. I need more time. Luckily for me, my ex has helped me by not contacting me. Love and peace, friends. 🧡🤙🙏
I know of a man who helped me get my ex backw. h. z. t. s. a. p. p... him.. for.. help+234.9150343520
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Hey. So I was obsessed and consumed for about 3 months and then one day it just didnt seem so important. And it isn't.
I am really thankful about how things turned out. That dude was going to make me miserable! Look how it went already! Lol 😂 People who care get hurt. I cared and it hurt. But life goes on and so do I! Thanks for asking. All is well with me. 😁
Another story of hope: the mother of one of my exes, she was in a short relationship of about a year with a man, they broke up, and 10 years later they met again - and married. The last time I talked to that ex of mine, his mother was still married to that man (so for several years)... Maybe they're still married. She went through having cancer with him by her side.... So really, anything can happen, you never know. People are crazy. Don't we know it...
I can’t do it anymore…
Coming up on a year and reaching out several times (w/o any communication back) I'm pretty sure it's done in this lifetime...
John Kelly stop reaching out... they Mya wonder where you went and reach out
I love your channel. I came across it when my daughters boyfriend broke up with her and have learned a lot. And I have to say that Margaret is so funny, she’s something else lol. Your wisdom and experience is truly amazing coach
I am not giving up on my life or my personal growth and self improvement as a man.. But i am most likely giving up on my EX and dating in general since i dont see the worth anymore...
My ex says there is no chance for us to get back together. He broke up with over a month ago. He is seeing someone new already.
Hi couch Kenneth,,, I like all your videos thank u so much for sharing with us..I lern more about EX..
I love my kids but it wouldn’t have been so hard if we didn’t have 2 children together. I’m just full of regret. I don’t know if there’s anything I could have even done or if he just didn’t care to try. I wish I just didn’t care and could just move on. Some days I do and am fine, then I’m sad and regret and reminiscing and wondering why and missing him.
My 5 year relationship ended over 4 months ago. 3 weeks after we ended she entered into a rebound and this made the decision for me to never go back. Throughout the time with the rebound she continued to reach out but not once did i ever try to get her back. Let them go, especially if they go into a rebound.
This just goes to show that you shouldn’t get just any ex back.
great to see margaret
Listen to the coaches guys, they KNOW what they're talking about!
I think I'm exhausted, that's why I'm feeling hopeless.
Margaret looks beautiful!
You guys are so funny. Love that Margaret! I chuckle all day long watch your video. ❤️
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago. We decided to remain friends we texted daily. But most recently st pactricks day I had a few drinks and lashed out over text that I thought she should delete out mutual friends. I read my text as I came to and realized I didn’t mean it so I called at 430 am. She later said ok. I’m taking your friends off my list and I’m blocking you. I waited a week and texted her I’m working on myself and let her know I needed to stop with the excessive drinking. A week after that I mailed her a sincere letter of apology hoping it sinks in. I’m going to give it a few more weeks and give her some space( in hopes to make her miss me )before I try reaching out again via email or phone call. We known each other over a year by now.
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But what is worst than a long distance breakup during this pandemic where no engagement of communication is possible? I'm already 3 months + into no contact leaving him to deal with his depression and that fact that he felt less happy given situational change in the UK. As I am aware the lockdown hasn't stopped. It has been so hard but I am not going to give up on this relationship while working on myself.... Craig probably will say long distance won't ever work and it's not a relationship to be had. But the relationship has been good, more ups than downs. Pandemic has changed it all.... I need hope.
Dear Craig, Margaret and Victoria, thank you so much for helping me understand so much about myself and my ex. I have this difficulty that currently I'm living with my ex boyfriend and have no chance and/or means to rent something else. I still hope we will work things out, but it's hard to keep no contact with someone who lives in the same house. Also, hard to be wondered about if he can see me on daily basis, sitting in my room. Could you make a video with hints how I'm supposed to tackle this? I would really appreciate it. Thank you wholeheartedly for all the work you have been doing, you are life saviours. Joanna
Wtf! This is exactly what happened to me! Except the cosmetic surgery.. we were highschool sweethearts, then met again after 28 yrs, we’re both married when we met again… In a relationship with her for 6 yrs, now she’s gone for 5 months now 😢😢. Moving on is hard especially when we created a lot of good memories 😢
What if it was a short term relationship? (3 months)
Just stay in no contact and concentrate on yourself
Enjoy watching you both. Great pair.
I couldn't agree more :P
Crystal Callaghan Margaret is so awesome. Craig tries one of his sly remarks and she instantly comes up with a better funnier reply 🤣 no wonder he's so knowledgeable he learned from the Master herself
You both are such a gift. I am grateful !
Wulfy
This is identical to my situation except it is my fiancé of 4 years who is going back to his long separated from soon to be ex wife. It is heart breaking to be on the receiving end of.
Me and my ex were together for 4 years . She was getting attention another man and it end up them sexting. I gave her another chance. We ended 2 months ago . I am devastated and now she’s on a pedestal. She is making zero attempts to contact me unless it’s to do with the house we do own together or to collect items. I assume due to my anxiety that she is dating. She’s making it very clear she’s not interested in me anymore .
It's been almost 2 years for me in NC. Bumped into her once a few months after the breakup and had a short conversation. Didn't result in her reaching out later. Only thing I have initated was to send a Christmas card to the family last year. Thought it might be a reach out when she wrote to say thank you but it wasn't. She just angled for a coffee, but would not commit to coming over for dinner. I said no to coffee. She left a few of her things here but has never come to pick them up, and has never asked for them back. Her previous relationship was 5 years and ended in a broken engagement. We were together for about 2 years.
'It's like watching ... a tennis ..... match....." hahhahaha Margaret is awesomeness
My ex is 19 I am 36. He says he is straight now and has made up his mind. Says I humiliated him and broke his trust. He has moved away and has a girlfriend now.... So hopeless or not ?
Im thinking so 😅
You and Margaret are awesome 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you for this amazing video! You two have been a life source for us and I can't stop saying how amazing you are ❤
And we like to hear it :)
Did he comeback
So glad I'm single and celibate.
Thanks for making me smile
Hi there, how much time does it take to reply to an email?
You and Margaret both have lovely smiles btw :)
When feelings for a new person come in, feelings for an ex come out. Works the same with anxiety though, when it disappears for an ex, shows up for the new person loool... and so on and so forth. I ll be watching these videos from NY soon!
Georgia Papadopoulou idk ... I still think About every single girl I've been with in my life ... Not in like ... A bad way or because I want them back ... But like. Ya know. We shared good times :)
risse x 💙 awww you guys always remember about your ex girls, I know and I understand the reasons behind it. The ugly truth is that women tend to delete their ex's if they do not share good memories with them. It's a matter of time especially if a new person invades her brains!
I swear to God I feel like coach makes these emails himself now it’s for the good because he’s trying to teach us and help us out but Man these email say just scream like he wrote them… matter of fact on a couple of them he slips out n said me n not us in the email or they speak just like he speaks..like “ broadcasting” on social media! Let me be clear I’m not saying he’s doing it to manipulate us he’s doing it because he’s a bad guy or any of that he’s just making it so he could teach us what he feels like we need to learn that’s my opinion I could be wrong but I don’t get that feeling from any other coach but him.. and with that being said I feel like he is one of the best coaches on UA-cam so I am not talking shit
I saw this comment and said what the heck? So Listened to this in my car and though… how the hell could anyone think I could make up a story like this??? Why in Gods name would I do that? This story is wild and filled with complications! I kind of remembered it too! Buddy, I have 2 kids and a life. I often stay up late just uploading and working on general things. I have no time or desire to create a story 🤣. My email coachings are more than enough to share 🤣 but u believe whatever u want
Is it good news if she hasn’t removed us from being ‘in a relationship’ on Facebook? Been broken up for 9 months, NC 5.5 months. No evidence of her dating or having a boyfriend
Did you two get back together?
I tried to add my ex on Instagram after 3 weeks of no contact. She messaged me saying that she blocked me and unblocked me becasue she didn't care enough to let me see her posts. She told me that it doesn't mean that she wants to follow me, or be friendly because of how we ended not on good terms. She was cruel. She told me that she moved in with her like, so I should too. I don't know what to think. Ideas?
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My ex asked me out 6 times and every time I said yes then no through sheet nerves I regret so much not accepting and sticking to it feeling pretty hopeless at the moment but only have myself to blame 🙈
It has been almost one year from the breakup and 3 months of no contact and nothing. I'm about to give up
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Why would you even use that story as an example. It’s a terrible example of dysfunctional people that don’t belong in a relationship & not really about the video topic.
I was not the best boyfriend I have cheated in the past (I know I’m wrong) but I would have never left her ... never... I’m that kind of guy once I’m with a girl she’s the one I’m staying with .. we broke up for the 4th time & I haven’t heard from her since going on about a month of a half ... she broke up with me on txt said she “can’t talk to me anymore it’s the only cure for both of us” I’m not sure if it’s hopeless or not ... but I’ve been working on myself mentally & physically & I am prepared to never hear from her again but damn it’s painful.... my birthday is in dec its nov 7th if I don’t hear from her on that day then I know the deal .. she wouldn’t let that day pass & not contact me & if she doesn’t then I’ll know it’s not the same woman I was with for 5 years & it will be much easier to move on ... if she doesn’t call I’ll never look back
How did it go.. my ex left me in Jan... still haven't heard from him 11 months later. My grandfather died. Nothing from him. So devastated. I feel like all our time together never mattered. He doesn't even like me
Maybe his ex wife wasn’t abusive. Maybe she was just always in her masculine energy because she wasn’t getting the love and attention from him. Sounds like he was busy chasing this other woman for 8 years.
This other woman was already married. Sounds to me like he got his Karma. If a man says his wife is abusive or crazy maybe the first question should be, hmm well what was it that made her that way? There is a saying that goes like this, A man can only truly love one woman at a time. 🤔
My ex is with someone else it hasn’t even been 3 months I know she rushed into it to make herself feel better.... I’m hurting I can’t even sleep... and she doesn’t even care...
She does care...stay strong
What are your thoughts on an ex boyfriend would married the lady of the night / co worker,whom he cheated on his former wife he was married too about five years ago. Do you feel he will cheat on the lady of the night soon in this new marriage?
Yayy i always thought that Coach Craig and Margaret are heading onto a TV show. Coach is the Oprah or Dr Phil of relationships!
If there's someone smart enough out there to make it happen :)
In your experience or coach Margarets, do you have an instance or example of the ‘longest period between breakup and comeback? ... For an unmarried couple or a longer term married couple?
Feel so hopeless 😭 been doing this for two months and have two kids where I wish I could get my family back 💔💔💔
Did he comeback
“Maybe in the next life” 😂😂
Forty years of marriage now divorced for four years,want her back! What do i need to do ?
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Not true because my ex girlfriend left me one year ago and she found someone els a year ago and there still together but 3 month ago she wished me a happy birthday then she stop calling me then I wish her a happy birthday then she ask me if we could be Facebook friends and I told her no and I told her to call me if things change with you and him now I haven't heard from her this is my question why did she wanted to be facebook friends
Question... 3 weeks ago my girlfriend of 7 years said we should take a break but picked me up from work, wanted to make love the next day and a few days later she texted and said she didn't wanna work things out and then a few nights later she texted to check on me cuz of some stuff going on and texted me for a couple hours and the next day I went to get my stuff and she talked to me just small talk and I asked her to work things out and she started crying and just said no I'm not doing this my nerves can't handle It (she's been super depressed) and then back to Ignoring me and then a couple days later she texted me while I was at work and we talked about her day, my day etc... She told me she was having panic attacks and her stomach felt numb (has stomach Issues requiring specialist&surgery) and I asked if she wanted me to come over and she said yes and we slept In the same bed and I loved on her by rubbing her back and legs but the next morning she wouldn't let me kiss her on the lips and I haven't heard from her since other than her saying "If I don't have to be at work early do you want to come and get your stuff?" I've been doing the no contact for 5 days now no text, calls or anything... She's sending me mixed signals and I'm thinking I should just move on but she and I connected on a different level from day 1... What should I do?
what is the update? I am in a similar situation.
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might be to late down the legal path now last thing I want.Was thinking of sending couple of pics by text with smile on her face saying this is the beautiful girl I loved for 29 years not the one impersonating u holding on to all the hurt, bitterness and stress. Was also thinking of adding better alternative to lawyers might be grab a passport lets go somewhere exotic to de stress. She wanted response from my lawyer with offer of settlement which she will get this week. She is only allowing our 14yo stay 1 night a week now and has threatened to stop letting him stay at all now unless my lawyer hurries up. Love your thoughts ty
yeah maybe not sure what is going on usually she is nice then has outbursts she moved to rental 11 months ago so is obviously frustrated as well there has been no settlement in that time, she is going to get letter this week from my lawyer what else can I do hope that snaps her out of it there will be offer of settlement with it of course. Maybe that will make her happy don't know. Been together 29 years miss her and kids terribly especially as oldest son isn't talking to me at all and youngest only staying 1 night a week even though he likes being home. Do people snap out of mid life crisis I don't know. I am good person so don't understand this get very down, people don't understand how hard this is. Hope u and your husband r still together at least and r happy ty for reply
John did u speak to the coach. Your suggestions above wld melt me.. if youve been fighting an olive branch might help. But ask coach
ty your lovely so sorry u r divorced I understand how its killing u I am exactly the same been with her 29 years and apart 11 months miss her and kids so bad I am at the point of giving up had to do lawyer thing as much as I don't want to that's what she wants she is so stubborn obviously has so much hurt , bitterness and pain built up and she cant let go of it I am just so down rang lifeline that many times and have gr8 friends who have kept me from doing anything silly but who knows what will happen just want my family home ty
hi vim raj haven't been fighting hardly c her only when I pick up my 14yo boy ONCE a week or run into her at shopping centre usually she is ok occasional outburst from her and last Saturday she dropped jake off came into house to get some of my eldest sons things and cut up photo of her and my 14yo one of only ones I had of her said she didn't like it cant afford coaching too expensive only put comments on here hopefully I will be allowed my 14yo son tonight wish me luck need to c him asked her last Saturday as well if I could take jake on holiday during school holidays she said NO u cant afford to pay me out u cant afford holidays and sped off even though she took our boys away for 2 nights last school holidays
There is a song redone by BONO dreaming with tears in my eyes very old beautiful song take a listen
My recent ex is talking to another woman on the phone. He says that she was his first love 45 years ago and he still loves her. He said he is very much in love with me. He said he is making me breakfast and my favorite coffee the next day. He then tells me that he needs space. I ask him how can I eat breakfast if I am giving space. He said never mind we are not giving space.....WTheck....anyone out there ever even heard of such a thing???He seemes more angry and triggered by me and wanting and vulenteering to spend money on me. .Please please, will someone tell me what is going on????? I think I should do the no contact thing. However, even this triggers him. I'm not the arguing type even though he is blaming everything on me. He says he is holding a grudge against me, then he says he really doesn't have a grudge against me. He is a nice professional person and I have been with him 30 years. This has never happen before.
Hyy coach creg my bf broked up vd me aftr 10 yers by sayng his family nd carrier iz nw more imp dan u so i wont continue... ...i beged pleaded etc...nw finly im hope less....i love him more dan anythng....plzhelpme
She reached out but just want to be friend
She reached out and giving me surprises on my birthday but I dont know she want comeback with me or not
She reached out 3 times since our break up on november
When an ex reaches out, it usually means they want to see you. When she reaches out again just do a short reply saying something along the lines of, "Hey there. Great to hear from you. Would love to see you. Are you free this Friday evening around 8:00 to meet up at (insert place) for a drink and catch up?"
Ces same
What sholud I do ?
Ces what if my ex dating someone else ?
Ces thank you so much for your advice
I would just tell my ex that I appreciate that she wants to be friends but since I have feelings for her, it wouldn't be right because it's not sincere as I am interested in more than that. Aside from the fact that it wouldn't be healthy for myself. I would then tell her to reach out and let me know if she would like to get together sometime for a drink or dinner and to just enjoy each others company some evening. I would then go no contact or limited contact. You have to remember that they are not a priority anymore since the relationship has ended.. By staying in communication with them, all you succeed in doing is giving them a "fix" and this does nothing to help with getting them to miss you. My ex told me a long time ago that when we were broken up, she would reach out just to make sure she still had my interest. Just something to think about...
But what if your ex has an avoidant attachment style?
Zoni20 I guess it depends. Avoidants too can feel neglected and might look back to a past partner who was stable, independent and loving. Things tend to happen that way when this past partner is gone for good though, so that what they perceive as “flaws” give place to good memories. Look at the situation in this video, this avoidant’s ex-husband is back on the picture out of nowhere.
She end it 3 month ago, she is in rebound 1 months now, she tryied to hurt me many times despite im in nc, we have different religion, cultur and a 8 yours gab, sheis feeling the grass green syndom, she avoids me now snd dont talks to me at work, iam nit reaching out, so is this hopless, hell yeh.
I love you guys 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗💞
This is so nice topic..
My ex still sending me messages but always his puting me down. He want’s me back but he dosen’t know how to talk to get me back. Should i answer for his messages? I’ll just ignoring him cos of his behave.
I would never talk to someone unless they showed me some basic respect and decency.
Abraham Jaleel You are wright.
U want a series of positive messages... not negative ones..dont respond..
Did he comeback
What if they are narcissistic? I remember the Dear Abbey days ! Really miss her. That tells you how old I am! She probably wouldn’t know what to tell us! That gives me a laugh! My 8 year relationship has opened my eyes to what has gone on! I never cheated on him , but I believe he has done it to me! He would not admit it! I am such a fool! He manipulated me and I kept trying to keep this man that I loved! I was invested! His ex was always there but just friends! He knew how I felt but just kept doing it! I divorced my husband for him! No win!
If they're narcissistic tie your running shoes and run away as hell!
sir is there a hope to get back together even my ex gf gave me a closure?
i didn't cheat on her, she didn't cheat on me.
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My situation is completely hopeless and he’s not coming back 👍
Im so Confused lol who's writing this in. The ex husband or bf?
there was no reaching out at all for the past 7 months. I sent him a happy New Years because I felt I was in a good place but he only replied in kindness wishing me all the best. THE END and back to nothing. no contact..... he did unfollowed me on everything.... I still want to work on this. I sent him a dm a month later no reply. please..... advise.... unlikely to meet up anytime soon due to the current global issue.
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My Ex is Engaged to be Married this Year....So I've Lost All Hope and Faith that She and I Will Ever be Getting back Together...so...I've Accepted the Fact that I'm too Old (58yrs. old) to try and Start Over With Someone Else and Life is Over for Me....I'm Never Going to Ever Get Married and I'm Going to Die Alone....Some People Never Find "Forever Love" Regardless of What People tell You and Regardless of What You Believe....Some People Are Just Destined to Die Alone.
How are you doing now?
I don't see how I'd have any chance of my ex coming back its only been a month but, I moved states and his mother is moving to the state he is at to be near him so, do you really think he'll leave the state he loves with his elderly mother going to be there just to come back km a woman he fought with all the time? I think not
Its also hopeless if they date someone else. I couldn't think of anything worse than waiting for your ex to come back knowing they're dating someone else then come back to you.
That's an insult.
Only if I've moved on too, felt indifferent towards them and then we found ourselves again that's fine.
But not whilst one is waiting, no way
what if they are with someone else and have been hanging out with this person for about 6 months and say they love her and are happy? we were on and off or 9 years?
When its REALLY REALLY HOPELESS???🤔.. When they DIE !!! ...😁😁You two makes me laugh soo laugh here when all I wanted to do right now is Cry😝 Thank you soo much😁 You two are precious 💙You both are a TREASURE🌸Pls take care of yourself🏵️Hugs and love.💜
Please do a video on how to deal with your ex when you have kids together. It is hard to do no contact or read signals.
Hi Craig and Margaret. I'm watching your channel for a year now. I can't afford the coaching, however, i would really like to contact you somehow, at least this way, i hope you will see my comment.
I've been dating a beatiful girl for a year, in the meantime we became exclusive and got in a relationship. She is divorced single mother, 31 years old, as me, who had been bullied by her ex. She never wanted a relationship with anyone, but yet somehow, we fell in love with each other. We had so much good time together, connected thru music and could talk about anything for hours. Our passion was amazing.
As i've learned thru your videos, i've found out that i've had an anxious attachment style and she is probably an avoidant.
We broke up three months ago. She left me because i think she became attracted to another guy who is talking bad about her, who involves with other women. They are not in a relationship, but they are 'hanging out', in a passionate way.
I can't move on from her, and i've tried everything. I'm really good with her family, with her friends and, as we live 5 minutes away, i keep stumbling into her, or into someone hers.
I've been doing research about the rebound relationships, however, we are in no contact (i've sent her 2-3 messages in a three months), but she is mad at me, she blocked me and it seems that she doesn't want to have anything with me. In the meantime, she has unblocked me (probably to check if i'm still interested in her), but when i've reached to her after a week from this, asking if we can make peace, she has blocked me again.
I'm thinking about moving to China for work and to forget her, but on the other hand - i would be happiest man in the world if we could be together. I know it's toxic, but i really miss her.
I didn't beg for her to come back, but i've been really bad to myself, got into depression and i'm trying to recover from it. However, i didn't stop thinking about her for a day since then.
I would really appreciate if you could give me some advice or make the video about my situation with some advice for me, because i really don't know what to do, i just know that i love her and i would forgive her everything if we could make a fresh start.
Whats the probability of she coming back and what would be the best for me?
All the best!
Almost two months after he left..he told me to move on. See no hope
Michal Sterenberg update ?
Update??
@@dwightschrute8141 no...it's over and done a long time ago
laughing all the way through lol so hilarious!
Mine said never again shell never be again