@@timmycu I think what they meant is "lazy" is when someone chooses not to do one thing, because they'd rather do something else that's more fun. Task paralysis with adhd is more like, you KNOW you're supposed to do one thing, but instead you're sitting there doing something else (or nothing at all), and you aren't even able to enjoy that because your brain is constantly reminding you of what you're supposed to be doing instead.
I was diagnosed with Autism back in January at age 20. It's crazy how when you're diagnosed with neurodivergency, nothing changes but everything makes sense.
As someone who was diagnosed at a young age and learned when I was young, even I have moments of looking back at younger me and realizing just how neurodivergent I was.
The trickiest thing about ADHD (in my opinion, as someone with ADHD) is that if you aren’t that hyperactive, ALL the symptoms can be put under “normal people problems”. You try to explain it to normal people and it’s like “I forget things, I’m always late, I can’t focus on school work”, etc. etc. and people are like “well yeah I do that too” but it’s not the same! Your brain is sabotaging you all the time, it’s not just little mistakes. Anyway, that’s my opinion on sometimes getting a diagnostic is hard and ADHD is misunderstood. Thanks for coming to my ted talk lol
OMG YES, it’s actually so frustrating to explain to people cause it’s always “oh yeah I totally get it, I struggle with that too” like but does it physically disable you to do literally anything even things you enjoy. So every time I talk about one of my ADHD symptoms with someone and they reply with “same” I’m like well “Everyone experiences ADHD like symptoms however it becomes ADHD when I actively damaged or disables your normal life in some way.” I can’t tell you how often I’ve repeated variations of that exact same sentence (too the same people too) 😭😭 anyway sorry for the ramble
i started watching you 7-ish years ago bc i thought you were entertaining. the aroace video made me realize I wasn't alone in it, and this made that feeling even bigger. i was diagnosed with adhd a year after I started watching you and am on the waiting list to get diagnosed with autism. it's nice to see a youtuber live a life i can relate to rather than the fake perfectness of some creators (i do definitely have hyper type adhd though, i got half way through the video before i needed to take a lap around my room because my legs started to hurt from too much energy)
@Shmorkie13 didn't even get to college yet🥲 (having to redo my junior year by 1%😒) but seeing my sister (who's a freshman in college) struggle so much makes me realize I'm gonna have it even worse
Best way id say to keep your energy lower then normal, is to just let yourself fidget around, and if you stop allowing yourself to stop you build on energy. Just try moving alot withought actually standing up and moving
This is so relatable. From the good and organized childhood to "what went wrong" adulthood. And I'm legit concern for myself since it affect me emotionally. Gotta seek help soon.
Like I am genuinely worried that won't be able to do my job because my brain doesn't work like it used to. Afraid I'll get fired any day now because I may really mess up unintentionally.
The line "A light switched off in my brain and suddenly I'm not capable of the things I used to be and it feels pathetic." Was heartbreaking and relatable. It reminded me of my struggles before I was properly diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and put on medication. Also I love the Joltik plush at 5:38
I’m that line… I’m the LINE… I always thought of this… I can’t focus on solving the problem… I always focused on the problem itself… I have ocd and adhd mixed…
i’ve been diagnosed for a few years now and i’m still mourning the life i could have had, i think i will forever. it was bittersweet being diagnosed, i thought everyone struggled as much as me but were just better at hiding it. it was extremely validating to finally understand why i felt so different and found a community in the process. welcome to the club ❤
@@pelagelunaire7114 yes it does. Knowing the answer before someone asks you the question allows you to be prepared for the question. Same goes for living your life with ADHD. Your life is filled with questions and decisions and knowing how you’ll act will help you better predict how you will deal with the situation and plan ahead. It’s like knowing that it’s winter and just knowing unconsciously to put on your coat and your toque before going outside. it’s just not even a thought. you just know you have to do that. It’s winter and it’s cold. it’s obvious. Without knowing you have ADHD it’s like every morning waking up and you step outside and you never know what the weather will be or what it’s gonna be like and you were unprepared for just the simplest thing. And you can never understand why you can never remember or be prepared. It’s like the classic saying: The real problem is not knowing about the things you don’t know. Cause there’s the things you know you know. The things you know you don’t know about. But what about the things you don’t know that you have no clue about. You don’t even know what question to ask because you don’t even know to even ask a question. You’re just completely oblivious. Now if that kind of sounds scary, it is. And that’s what every day is like not know why you act and think they way you do. If you don’t know you have a problem why would you ever try to fix it or at least try to do something about it?
The soul crushing knowledge that you were the cause of all your problem. The shame that you didn’t even know it, AND it was out of your control makes you feel very scared but angry at yourself for not being able to understand who you are as a person and for hating yourself for not knowing or catching on earlier. But also pitying yourself because you now know the situation was out of your control. It doesn’t make you feel any better knowing about it, but now you can try to make better choices. The one thing I think people really don’t understand about ADHD is you can really just ruin your life. Forgot to pay your bills then your credit score gets destroyed and now you’re in debt. Forget to brush your teeth and you lose teeth and have to pay expensive dental bills. You forget to respond to your friends text messages and you lose friendships. I also think about the life I could had, if I had just acted different or done that simple easy task. You never really get over it, but you can move on and make the best of THIS life you have now. I entirely empathize with the morning and loss of the potential future you could of had. ❤ it gets better trust me. It’s not any easier though. It’s like being in a wheelchair and being upset that you can no longer play basketball. But you just need to reframe your goals and realize you can play wheelchair basketball and that’s your life now. The limitation’s ADHD has put on your life can’t be removed but you can live within those limitation’s and have just as much fun and fulfillment. ❤
@@MachineBone Thank you very much for the really big awnser. It's clearer now. I've alteady heard about adhd wich is call TDA or TDAH if you have an hyperactivity in France, but not at this point. So thanks to take your time to awnser me.
nah there's a Redit post about someone whos perants didnt tell them they had adhd becose they "didn't want to give them a crutch" so the person was living life on hard mode until they got a diagnoses and got help relised that it was not meant to be as hard as it was and there you go
@@PatrickSquirtle-dl8lgYes, of course it gets easier once you know that it's ADHD and not you. It not only makes it way easier on you mentally, but also you can get medication to help with it I don't know how you think you're contradicting what this person said, you're just adding onto their point lol
@@PatrickSquirtle-dl8lg something really similar happened to Illymation’s boyfriend (nicknamed Kermit for the video he appears in) where his parents didn’t tell him he was autistic until he was 19 so he “wouldn’t use as a crutch”, if you are insterested on his experience along with Illy since she’s autistic and has ADHD too, the video name is “Dating (when you’re autistic)”
The feeling pathetic part really hit hard. About 5 days ago I confessed to my mother how pathetic I felt and like a bit of a burden because I just couldn’t remember things or I was so forgetful unlike my siblings or friends. I’ve lost countless of items in near minutes, I forget reminders I set for myself, it’s been awful. I feel like an 80 yr old with amnesia. I don’t know if I have anything, it just felt nice to hear from someone else their similar experiences, it helps make you feel less alone, thank you!
Ever since I started work I have been screwing up big and expensive way to many times. I started to hate myself. I went into a mental hospital for 10 weeks. The feeling of the world not being compatible with ones self. The feeling of YOU beeing WRONG, just wrong. It drives actual tears in my eyes just typing this.
The thing I've come to realize is that even though everyone's story is a little different, there's always someone who feels/has felt the way you're feeling at any given moment. And brains are very complicated mechanisms with so much being processed all at once that it's only natural that some will operate differently or even go off track at times. But that doesn't mean that you're inferior to anyone else, it just means that some people won't be able to relate, but there's definitely others that will.
honestly i totally relate to this and i always just chalked it up to me being lazy, but like even normal people can motivate themselves to do things like laundry or assignments. i dont have problems doing those things once i start so im like?? am i just lazy? but lately ive been thinking about the possibility of having ADD more and more.
I spent almost thirty years feeling like that, I absolutely understand what you're going through. I was lucky, my Dad noticed when I was in a very bad place with my depression and knew I couldn't afford the appointments myself at the time and paid for a good therapist. Within two appointments she was able to tell me I'm on the spectrum and the feeling of relief was incredible, as was being given some websites and books to read about other people's experiences and seeing my own brain mirrored. And now, just over ten years on, I'm ready to tackle the question of whether I have ADHD as well.
"i did all my homework on time!", "sure i didn't like Studying and found it hard to focus", "Up Until College" hit me like a truck,, i feel like that's a template for adhd diagnosis at this point
I was actually diagnosed with inattentive ADHD when I was in 4th grade but when I was 18 it was changed to an autism spectrum diagnosis which makes sense since I had a feeling I was on the spectrum even though adhd still made sense for me growing up
That's so interesting bc my experience is the complete opposite. I hated school but now that I'm in university, I feel so much freer and so much happier too. I hope I can get my own diagnosis...
I've just got diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 28 and you've got no idea how thrilled I was to stumble upon this video of yours. I relate to almost uncanny amount of your experience growing up as an organised child and then falling apart when moved out for university and all the other pleasures of ADHD. I kept stopping it to share moments with my boyfriend and he eventually rolled his chair up to me to watch with me 'cause he realised I'd be bothering him every other minute. I started taking prescribed Atomoxetine (everyday long-term drug) last week and after watching this I hope the result will be similar in the long run! Thank you Jaiden, we had a great laugh watching your video!
@TheGoIsWin21 I'm in the same boat, but to be honest, I think a lot of people likely don't have it, at least not on the weaker end of the spectrum. Having difficulty focusing and staying motivated on stuff, and pure detrimental glaringly obvious ADHD are two completely different things in my opinion. The modern world has just destroyed our attention spans, so we both likely don't have it. People like us just gotta make more of an effort to stay focused and motivated on things.
@@jrodd13 Despite that though, I think it's a better option to get diagnosed if you relate to most of the symptoms. If you have it, you can be prescribed and i absolutely want to think like how neurotypicals think. And if you don't have it, then great, that's when you put in the effort
What I don't like about discovering it, is the fatalist idea of thinking that my brain chemistry will always dictate everything I do, and that there is no choice than accept it, and live without as much independence from brain.
Yes!! Thank you. I think that I might have ADHD and am hesitant to getting a diagnosis, because the thought of not having it is almost scarier. That would mean that I am just a lazy bag and need to get my shit together. Having ADHD doesn’t make it better tho lmao
One of the most relatable videos about adhd I’ve ever seen. The “it would be easier to backflip off a bridge than write that essay” and being proud of doing 2 tasks especially.
Yup, except when you think about getting to the bridge and how exactly those backflips need to be carried out to actually launch you over the railing I’ve never done backflips before I could start learning now…
Literally last month I had a deadline for 2 essays and I missed it and when I asked for extension for a couple days it took me two weeks and I literally handed it in right before my teacher submitted my grades into the system
The "gifted kid burnout" is so strong with me. I crashed and burned in college, barely managed to graduate, and I've been going downhill ever since. To make it worse, my brother and my sister both have ADHD (and he's autistic), but I also did so well in school that I just chalked up my recent inattentiveness to laziness (instead of, like, a real problem, which you'd THINK a psychology major would know about), and now I work from home and can't focus for shit. The fact that I'm watching this on my 2nd monitor instead of doing my job really speaks for itself. Might be time to buckle down and get this mess sorted out. I'd actually be unstoppable if I could work for more than 6.5 minutes at a time.
Definitely try to get an appt to get diagnosed. I’m in a similar situation I barely squeaked out of college and now WFH I procrastinate all my work until the literal last minute and feel awful about it the whole time. When I tried adderall for the first time I felt like myself and it was a lot easier. Best of luck
I'm incredibly fortunate that my neurochemistry didn't pull the e-break until I had a kid (though grad school was tough), but at the same time, that made it *so much harder* to grok how I could have been so "successful" for so long with an attention disorder. Looking back, I realized how things like doing my homework early, finding creative ways to link schoolwork to my personal interests and eschewing much of a social life were *coping mechanisms* that allowed me to Feed the Hyperfixation Beast while still having time and mental energy left to do all the needfuls. It also meant that developing healthier habits meant unlearning a lot of unhealthy ones, and if I could go back in time and get my teenage self the diagnosis so that he could build his life-skills back when our brain was more plastic, I'd do it with zero regrets.
as someone with the combined type of ADHD AND autism I somehow feel more informed by silly animations and your voice about my condition than a PROFFESIONAL and that just shows how not only do us people find it easier to learn of stupid shit but also how ADHD people... understand ADHD people more than regular people its crazy and I'm proud how you managed to overcome this and its just crazy how one diagnosis seems to change everything
I was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism back in 2022, and oh my GOD it makes so much sense. Like genuinely, my psychologist looked at my results, looked at me and said “Well no wonder you’re depressed! You’ve been living life unsure of how life even works! You were given the wrong tools to navigate life, because those tools don’t work for you.”
your psychologists words made me tear up. was diagnosed too with ADHD (although I suspect autism too but i'll have to bring that up to whoever new psych i go to) mid pandemic and I didnt really hear much kind words lol. i just got angrier about life. thank you for sharing this!!
I was diagnosed in my late 20s and the biggest difference is that I stopped berating myself at how 'lazy' I am. My brain just don't got no gogo juice. Treat yourself with the kindness and grace you'd give to a friend who is struggling ❤️
The fact that u cleaned the birds room AFTER making the script and not WHILE making the script and leaving that task half done to return making the script, and jumping back on and on impressed the hell out of me
as someone who was diagnosed with autism, jaiden always felt so relatable (strong hyperfixations, struggling with social situations), but i just said to myself “not everyone has autism/adhd who is a little bit relatable” and this video was so refreshing
I... wow. This hit so close to home. Especially when you described things getting worse as soon as you started uni. I've struggled so much with trying to get myself to do things, with forgetting things, with going down obsessive rabbit holes for years. I've always internallised it with "Im lazy, I'm useless, I'm not good at work and life and socialising." The more I've been hearing about ADD symptoms, the more its been niggling my brain that maybe its not that I'm a terrible person. But I've never taken it further because any time I've dipped my toe into suggesting that I may have something like this, its been met with scepticism and "its just a trend nowadays to say you have it." I'm also immensely scared of trying to get a diagnosis because of these reactions. Plus I've dealt with other serious medical issues that have made me think I can't possibly add to my list of conditions. But watching this... watching this made me think that maybe it'd be worth it. Even if it seems to be a nightmare to get anywhere near a diagnosis in the UK. Thank you for this video. Thank you so much.
The saddest part is people think it’s a moral failure, that you can’t control these impulses or that you’re just lazy, or you’re not applying yourself. That it’s your fault you can’t do these simple easy things everybody else is capable of doing. But it’s not your fault it’s literally a REAL physical genetic disorder. It’s the equivalent of calling someone with down syndrome stupid and it’s a moral failure that they can’t be smart enough to do everything on their own. Or that someone born with hearing loss just isn’t trying to listen. That if they just try harder they could hear better and if they applied themselves that would somehow solve the problem. And not that they just need help and compassion in a certain aspect of their life from other people around them so they can better function with the people in the world around them.
Oh man the “scary if you might not have it” is so real. Before I went for my asd diagnosis all I kept thinking was “if it’s not that then WHATS WRONG WITH ME”. Feeling like you’re an alien and being worried about ‘what if it’s just all in your head?’ And not in the ‘there’s actually something up with your brain’ and more the ‘nope you’re just like everyone but you’re just failing more than others’. It was the biggest relief to be told that I’m not crazy and life is harder for me.
I feel this. It took years for me to get my diagnosis, and not because it actually took all that long--it was just so overwhelmingly stressful that it took months to make any given appointment. I was kinda hitting a point where if it didn't have it I was going to end up begging for a brain scan to see if I had brain tumors or something, because nothing scared me more than the idea that I was more or less normal and simply couldn't cope with life.
That part about being very organized as a kid and then it all falling apart as an adult is scarily relatable. Maybe I should stop putting off making that appointment to get diagnosed.
Go for it! Adhd and autism are spectrums. You can't hurt yourself with a negative or positive diagnosis. You can only learn. I got diagnosed at 25 and I don't regret it one bit. 👍
I strongly recommend it. Getting diagnosed comes with conversations with a therapist, which can help you shed light on your issues even if you don't have ADHD, it's liberating to be able to put words on your struggles, and empowering to be able to finally explain your experience to those around you
it's very common actually, specially if you had a good support network as a kid. my parents were not that for me cause they work a lot, but my aunt and grandparents were always there
Definitely consider getting a diagnosis. I had almost no symptoms of ADHD as a child and was a great student. But in highschool my grades started slipping, I was losing motivation, and sticking to one task became so difficult. I got diagnosed and since then I've learned to manage it better with a combination of medication and cognitive behavioural therapy and other coping strategies.
Honestly thank you so much for showing the negative sides of ADHD and not sugarcoating it as some "quirky" and "cool" thing. I have severe ADHD and it's genuinely ruined many parts of my life, made a lot of things that were supposed to be easy much more difficult, and made my childhood kinda sucky, so it's a huge pet peeve when people portray a literal MENTAL DISABILITY as something that's "quirky" or "cool" to have. Thank you for sharing your struggles with it and I'm so glad you're able to put a name to the monster that's been making life harder for you for years :}
idk why but the understanding that the voices are not there anymore is so relatable! made me cry god knows why. thank you jade for sharing this struggle many of us have.
its so refreshing to hear that other people w adhd struggle to do the things they love. my entire life is music and being a music major but sometimes it feels like pulling teeth to get myself to sit down at the piano.
I was diagnosed with autism and ADHD at the age of 62(I'm now 69). For decades, I wondered why I had problems focusing, keeping relationships, and making myself understood to other people. Now I know. It's always better to know these things than to not know. Good luck with your journey with ADHD and remember that you have a lot of companions traveling with you on that road.👍
I think it’s untenable that the only replies on this comment are a very vulgar spambot. This is a very nice comment and as an autistic ADHDer, I’m very glad you now have that knowledge and I wish you good luck on your own journey :)
I legit cried in that part as well. It has more to do with the many years of shame and believing that I was dumb or lazy. I legit split my life to pre adderall me and post adderall me.
this is exactly how my ADHD progressed. i was also an excellent student and did well in school. but as i’ve gotten older, i’ve had issues completing tasks, hyperfixating on things i love but also having random hyper fixations on odd things and foods. simple tasks are such a struggle for me and i never thought i had ADHD because i did great in school and just thought i was lazy. i also have the attentive ADHD and was previously diagnosed with anxiety and depression, which is what commonly happens in women. i relate to this so much lol
Being diagnosed with AuDHD later in life as woman is such a weird yet vindicating experience, "so this whole time. THIS WHOLE TIME I DIDNT HAVE TO HATE MYSELF?? IT WAS NEVER MY FAULT??" Its an amazing feeling yet i still mourn for the child i was, as she was so hard on herself over every dang task that came her way. Jaiden, I really do hope you're proud of yourself love, this is such a life changing step in the right direction and it can only go up from here 💖💜🎉
dx at 40 a couple months ago, I hear you so hard about the mourning although for me it's more the lost time and opportunities that i could have at least tried for and didn't cause i was "too lazy" or "just procrastinated too much" whoops, well maybe next time I'll do better. (spoiler alert, I didn't do any better next time lol)
The "waste of space normal person" diagnosis fear is... Legit. It's part of why I don't really put any time, energy, or thought towards getting a diagnosis, even though I'm about certain that I have ADHD/Autism/probably PTSD. This was a good video. Thank you, very much, for sharing your experience, Jaiden.
I relate so hard, especially after going to a medical professional (albeit one who doesn’t actually know enough about ADHD to diagnosis it properly) and being told “No, you don’t have ADHD!” The main thing that I’ve heard from my friends to make me feel more confident in the idea that I *do* have it is “Normal, lazy people don’t feel guilty about not doing anything. People with ADHD actively fight with themselves to get things done.” Whether or not you decide to get a diagnosis is up to you, but for me, knowing I had depression/PTSD was a huge step in clearing that up. Either way, I wish you luck. Also, I’m so sorry your comment is *overrun* with bot replies.
Watched this 4 months ago now, related so so hard its not even funny, saved enough money in that time. I was diagnosed today and tomorrow will be my first day on meds. THANK U SO MUCH JAIDEN! Wish me luck. Hopefully I can actually get my work done for Uni.
this video no joke made me seek a diagnosis. like i can't even describe how many of these moments i relate to. 12:28 is one of the main reasons i considered adhd. it's literally my biggest struggle. as jaiden put it, "i realized my woes weren't actually woes, but symptoms of brain chemical deficiency." and as of this week, i've been officially diagnosed!! people's reactions have varied from "im sorry...?" to "ok". but im actually very excited to learn how my brain works a little better and to start living again. thank you so so much jaiden!!! (also this is especially cool to learn from this channel since i have been watching on and off since 2015) and happy adhd awareness month ironically
This video made me realize I need to train how to react when my friends tell me they have ADHD, i mean who knows when they suddenly get diagnosed with something like that when to me they seem absolutely normal, even though maybe they're weird and I'm normal apparently, whatever "normal" is anymore anyways...
Well, I had ASHD ever since birth. At elementary, I ran around which resulted in having low grades at school, and the rest of my elementary stuff is history being forgotten. Right now Im struggling, with the same burden as last time...
This was such a relatable watch especially going from "I don't need medication" to "damn I've been held captive in the dungeon of my mind this entire time. I just thought I was lazy" There's so much people don't know about adhd and it's so freeing to understand that you're not lazy you've actually been fighting to do the thing 10× harder than everyone else. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS
I feel so seen here, my ADHD was a bit more obvious luckily but even as a adult I practically vibrate at times. Its taken a lot of time and work to get to a point where I feel I have a really good handle on it. I second the idea that understanding you have to find paths into "work" or "focus" mode, I also get a productivity boost from cleaning.
I think all ADHD people are magnets to other ADHD people. Something I've noticed as someone with ADHD (I got the combination jackpot) is a ton of my favourite creators I've spent years watching either have ADHD or exhibit symptoms or behaviors of ADHD and it's actually crazy to think about. I also have never wanted to take ADHD medication because I was terrified it would change my personality but this video has implemented a little seed in my brain about maybe looking into getting a prescription for some kind of medication. Thank you Jaden, and hello all the other ADHD people alike and I wish you luck with existing.
neuro divergent people vibing together is pretty common it turns out. Lots of friends turn out to be ND in some way. It makes sense, I don't have to play people's videos at twice the speed, I follow every tangent, actually enjoy the tangents, the people I follow tend to make videos about things I already like, so when they ramble about their hyperfocus/special interest I can follow along and feel the same things.
Diagnosis Cascade is suprisingly common. One person in a group gets a diagnosis, or self-diagnosis, and then other people start going "what, that's an auDHD symptom? But that's just normal, I do that!" and then six months later they're like "I may have a tiny bit of ADHD"
Same! I go into fandom culture, especially tumblr, and think wow these people are just like me and then so many of them end up having ADHD/autism- even characters I like and relate to, many people going "ah yes, those characters, adhd"- but at the same time, it almost seems like anyone who has any grain of personality is labelled as adhd/autistic and ehhhh But then I get healthier screen times and more depression/anxiety/addiction withdrawal?? and suddenly I'm no one? So idk maybe I'm just a normal boring person after all- (not that not having a disorder makes you boring automatically but I mean the sub-culture-wise us vs them("normies") thing too)
ADHD medications are things you can easily stop taking at any time with no real consequences. So if you don't like who it turns you into, you can just stuff the pills in a drawer forever and go "Welp, never doing meth again!" and leave it at that.
Yes totally, when I find someone else that talks in run on sentences and is happy jumping around topics and interrupting each other evenly I call it “ADHD talking”, it’s one of my fave things
Hi Jaiden, I was going to do this before but I wanted to confirm it totally. This video has become really important to me, it became the reason I got diagnosed. I had almost the same symptoms as you and I knew I was different from everybody else, but after seeing this video it all made sense. I started my diagnosis process like a month after you uploaded it, and a month after that I got diagnosed with the inattentive type of ADHD. Once I got my diagnosis I spoke with my parents and told them it was genetic. My dad didn't show any symptoms, but my mom had all of them. She has become more stressed from the business she is running and it is really taking a toll in her health, both mentally and physically. At first, she didn't want to get diagnosed, but after some convincing she finally saw a glimpse of light and took the chance. She has the first appointment with a specialist in ADHD next week and she really is happy in finding a solution to this. I haven't seen her this happy in the past 5 years or so. I really feel happy that I got diagnosed, not only because it helped fix my chaotic life, but also it will help me fix my mom's chaotic life as well. All of this thanks to this video. Who knew an 18 minute video could not only change my life, but my entire family's life. Thank you so much. Keep it up. I really enjoy your content. ❤
@@juanjoserealpearcos my mum thinks herself and I have adhd but I am TERRIFIED to get diagnosed bc what if the person doing the diagnosis is like “hey you don’t have adhd and your js a weirdo who can’t get their life together”
@@YaFavGirl667 First of all, if they actually say that, then they aren't a real mental health professional, plus they're a jerk. Secondly, it's okay to be nervous about getting diagnosed, but it can really change your life for the better. I wish you the best of luck.
I don’t have ADHD but I do have depression. The idea of taking prescribed medication and suddenly feeling like “THIS IS WHAT NORMAL IS?!?” Is SO relatable. I went from wallowing in bed and not knowing happiness to sitting on the swings and giggling to myself. It’s like night and day in your mind
I dont do my homework and when my teach asks where it is i said "oh its at home!" And it was in my bag the whole time but the teach says turn it in tmrw but they forget so w/e thats their prob
it sucks people dont understand what makes something a mental health issue is when you experience something 'normal', like distractedness, but to the degree it interferes with your day to day life. we all get distracted but normal people arent distracted all day every day for weeks while still getting things done on time
Sometimes I can't tell whether I could have ADHD or I'm just lazy, my pops always tells me to tough it out, sometimes it works but I dont know if thats notmal, I'm pretty sure we both are kinda autistic or something since we both have some symptoms from what my dad tells me about how he gets work done and how I (kinda) do too, I have thought about trying to get a diagnosis for me but I don't really trust the Healthcare in my country and I really doubt my dad will actually want to get his brain checked in like, any way, which well I can understand, he was raised in a diferent environment than me
@@lautarofarnos835 This is what I kinda struggle with too. It seems like everyone is getting diagnosed with ADHD and Autism left and right. (I theorize it's due the insane amount of dopamine we experience through entertainment and food. We've progressively got more ADHD through the decades.) And like you, I don't trust my healthcare, the pharmaceutical are blatantly trying to push more and more drug prescriptions for that $$$ return. I'm pretty sure I have ADHD at this point.... but it seems like... so does EVERYONE else.
@@lautarofarnos835 feel you sometimes I go up to get something from my room then I'm like wonder what chapter I'm on in my manga.......... my MOM calls and then the realization hits that we have to leave and that I need to get my shit and run out the door. Other days I end up talking so much (interesting stuff like history and science facts) but omg does it go on and the reason is because I imagine the scenario so much that I start to get a dopamine rush from the imagination stuff. My parents tell me not to talk loud unsure if this is just a me thing but it happens and I don't notice it when it does. I write loads but my writing isn't gramatically correct and sometimes my teachers will point out the stuff that I thought wasn't wrong sometimes its for simple things like this is a run on sentence but other times it goes on to be more things to the point I'm rewriting 5 sentences to do. Naturally with all this monitoring constantly I get told that I need help in some areas more than I want to sometimes its for things that I know are a one time occurrence other times I sit there and look at the other person and think wtf who are you. I often spend time on my phone I don't socialize often this comes to my second diagnosis Autism or in other words the fucken pepper to the salt. I often understand things but my mom will explain the most tineist of things I already know if I ask for them to explain it it isn't a simple explanation it's a 5 sentence one you get the point. The other day sometime in the recent past someone just told me they were an adhd person I sat there and listened to them but to me it made me feel a bit uncomfortable to be told that at the dinner table while everyone else awaited the perspective of the oracle of adhd (just saying this to give a bit of emphasis in truth I'm no oracle). I get very creative though I write loads of songs and I have never shared it with anyone but close friends and family they all seem to love it when I listen to music you got to understand that that imagination high I talked about earlier happens and I even know what the song is before they say the name, and know things like all songs say there own name, all songs have an up and down part (beat wise), and finally all songs loop the words with tiny breaks and same thing for the beat it repeats as well with tiny breaks. It;s hard to manage my anger sometimes however this is one thing were I can say I've managed to cap that very well trust me. I realize I haven't talked about the social stuff well for most they look at someone and start talking then they become friends me I look at someone and wonder is it that simple. other times I wait till its too late and other times I wonder if I go up there will that be a socially awkward thing to do hello stranger blah blah blah blahhhhh now 5 days past am I boring them am I going up there and do they want to see me constantly. Other times I wait too long and this same scenario plays out there's more though I wonder if its easy to join a group of people I mean I think you can't just go there and etc right. often I overcomplicate this for way more sometimes I make friends but with a ragtag team or a group were I feel a little conflicted if I'm in the right group other times I act a certain way with people it feels like Im putting on a mask its weird. I wonder how to not overcomplicate friendships but its hard for me to do. Recently I joined a group at uni there nice people who all cherish me no matter how I act we've met through various members but each one found us and asked us to hang honestly I'm happy I met this kid named Peter he introduced me to loads of people and he's like me adhd as well so I felt like this was a god sent. I'm happy and I feel like though I may not have all the pieces I'm learning however there is a lot of programs for adhd and asd and trust me they all say the same thing picture listening to a lecture but it never changes the subject and the stuff is always the same just phrased differently that's what this recent program is like and so many before them they say the same stuff I've heard since childhood and the best part is that none of these staff have adhd or asd also so they are assuming how to help granted with the best research out there but they are giving us the feeling of I care about you I guess the best analogy is its like caring for a cold virus patient. It seems like I'm venting its just I thought I needed it at 3:20 AM after watching anime and other stuff not being able to sleep and though some may want my perspective it's clear my family cares about me and the people surrounding me feel the same they are trying and I guess that's all I ask for love and happiness I know I'm making it seem like its me against the world but truly its me with the best minds out there my loving family and friends who are wonderful people in my book.
just understood what this comment was about if your unsure you have adhd or asd or both I'd still get it checked out feel free to ask me if you want honestly if given the chance to confirm if I had adhd or asd or not I'd still have wanted to get it confirmed trust me your family will support you no matter what if there like mine I guess to answer thins that last sentence best summarizes this god I hope this doesn't sound egotistical I hope everything works out for you in the end I just want you too know that adhd and asd isn't the worst thing in the world it can be rad too like saying Enstien had it and 500 other famous people this just goes to show that our success in life is always possible as long as we work hard enough.
as an Autistic person with ADHD who used to be the golden child who fell from grace in college, i needed this. ADHD and autism are heavy diagnoses to deal with, so thank you for making this video. i currently relate to a lot of the feelings of wanting what my child self had, so thank you for showing me i’m not alone. been watching your content since i was 12 and now i’m going on 20
the "making a deal with yourself" is how i make myself do laundry. i trick myself into doing it by saying "oh ill at least take it downstairs" which turns into "well i have to put it in now that im already here" and eventually "ugh its already sorted i might as well fold it" to it being complete. congrats on getting your diagnosis! much love as you continue forwards!
Yeah...I've needed to wash my car for like 3 months. But I only have time on the weekends, and I just don't want to spent my free time on the weekends washing my car. I'm finally going to do it today, when it gets cooler outside. There's just certain things. 2 weekends ago I spent half a day reorganizing my closet. I planned to earlier that week, and once saturday rolled around, that was my goal, and I enjoyed it. Cleaning and reorganizing my closet, which included building a shelf? Perfectly fine. Washing my car for 20 minutes? Too much lol.
I have to do the same thing, I quite literally have to tell myself "You can not have (insert meal or snack or treat or anything I am interested in) until you get up and get this done!" Still takes me anywhere from 20mins-1hr just to do said thing, but it does help me atleast get it done-
I was finally diagnosed with combined ADHD as an adult in my 40s and I wept a little bit watching your video. I fully understand your struggles. I'm so glad you were able to finally ask for help and get it. I still have the same issues (distracted easily, forgetting, avoidance, inability to hold still, outbursts, impatience, hyper-focus, etc.) while on medication, but with a diagnosis and meds, I'm less angry about it all. I didn't realize just how much time I spent angry and frustrated at myself until I was medicated. For everyone else out there, it's important to get seen by a doctor and properly diagnosed so you get the right treatment. Be aware though, even if you feel better on meds, you still only have the same amount of battery life. If you try and do all the things, you will exhaust yourself. Even more than you are already exhausted. Unreasonable anger when being broken out of hyper-focus is real. Meds don't make ADHD go away. It can't be cured. It is a cradle to grave condition. It's genetic so share your info with your siblings and your parents. At least one of your parents has it.
I got my autism diagnosis like 2 years ago at 25 years age. People always say: why do you want a label? Like I don't, but having that diagnosis made me understand so many things of how I behaved and felt. A diagnosis doesn't change things, but it explains so much.
“Because there’s comfort in knowing you’re a regular zebra not a messed up horse” can’t remember where I saw it (might be in the vid I’ve not seen it yet) but it really just hit the nail on the head
Absolutely. Before being diagnosed with ADHD, I had this sense of frustration over not living to my potential, being "lazy", having trouble for concentrating and managing my time; I remember I said during my teens "I think I have something. It's not autism but I know I have something" It couldn't have been ADHD because I've always known how to behave; a bit talkative, but I've never had trouble sitting still and any other ADHD stereotype. Once I learned about the "inattentive" type something clicked. After sharing a bit of info about it with my wife, I got a diagnosis. Having a diagnosis didn't "cure" me, but knowing what I have make it easier on me when I mess up, building good habits (like putting a timer when doing laundry or taking a picture/screenshot of any potential gift for my wife) and also dealing with any problem head on instead of feeling lost in life and unable to do any responsibility. I know I can, I just need some accomodations and I learned to not feel ashamed about it.
@@Dairunt1omg, i say to my mum ALL the time “there’s something wrong with me i can feel it” nd i’ve been trying to get tested but because i’m under 18 and my parents don’t believe in neurodivergence, it’s hard to. any tips?
From collecting all straight A's during school to collecting (not) straighr A's (Aro-ace, ADHD, Autism) is such an amazing journey tbh. Not because it's fun, but because you just look back and realise', why tf did it take so long to get diagnosed? ' For me the more i look back the more I see how freaking apparent and obvious it was ha!
Is... is this a universal experience... the only thing I have not collected on that list is autism... yet... (I'm pretty sure the neurodivergence in my case is just ADHD, but who knows at this point, it took them 24 years to diagnose me with that so...)
Taking ADHD meds for the first time made me cry. Suddenly my head was so quiet. I could listen to a whole 1.5 hour lecture without once getting distracted and I didn’t even realise I wasn’t getting distracted until the lecture ended and I realised I had been focused the whole time. I love when newly diagnosed ADHDers get to experience the focus. It’s a beautiful feeling.
@@Meraxes6 Appearently that is just what they can do. Currently in university and I can see how the other students have their shit together and do stuff perfectly fine on a day to day basis, with fully organized work, and then the results are clearly shown. Very unfair how far ADHD sets someone back, but sadly one can only play the hand one was dealt
This is literally my life…always a great student, hyper-fixating on things I’m interested in, extremely organized (probably too organized), but also late for everything, super forgetful, and major procrastinator. I never had the hyperactivity usually discussed, but recently learned it can also be mental hyperactivity which is what I constantly struggle with - my brain going in a million directions at once. Now in my 20s and nearing the end of my degree, and I have been experiencing everything you described to the point where I can barely function. I started mental health counseling for anxiety (which I’ve had for many years) which led to learning about ADHD like this. I now have an appointment scheduled to get evaluated for ADHD after months of putting it off. Already have a feeling I know what the results will be. 😅 Thank you for sharing this, because I feel really validated in my experience and that I’m not alone. I also feel less scared about trying medication. I hope it works for me like that because I just want my brain to shut up long enough that I can do what I need to do 😂
Seeing Jaiden text "THE VOICES ARE QUIET" to everyone made me want to cry in relief for her because I remember the very first time I took my own meds and the realisation that my mind was quiet, with one singular train of thought, made me physically stop in my track because of how hard it hit me That moment is fucking magical and I'm so glad Jaiden got to experience it too!
@@238Hero238 the way I had to physically stop what I was doing because it hit me like a truck, I still remember the relief of everything going quiet like it was yesterday
WISH THAT WERE ME. Instant release adhd meds never worked for me so now i gotta try the slow one however. THE ADHD MEDS IN BRAZIL ARE ON A FUCKING NATIONAL LACK OF MEDS APPARENTLY?????? I dont even have adhd diagnosed im going for autism but i went "yeah no i cant focus on school" and they just threw me ritalin anyways
@@lary_uwu6027 omg we had the same thing in France last year😂 and yeah it was nice at first but I ended up developping a resistance to the meds so now they only work if I don't take them for like...months Which I now do naturally because I barely need my meds these days since I'm in a field I love! (Animation actually, Jaiden is a huge inspiration for me)
I'm actually so shocked how relatable this is. When I was younger I was a perfect pupil, but as I'm getting to the end of secondary school, everything feels like it's going downhill. And right in the middle of my exams too.
That’s how I am right now, and there’s this awful stigma that having ADHD means that you can’t get good grades, and achieve great things in life, of course you can ADHD is not a measure of how smart your are, many people with ADHD are very smart, they just have a hard time regulating what they should devote their time and energy to.
As a college student this is so relatable. Used to have everything pinned down to the nail, but near the end of grade school and the start of college I’ve just been… slipping away
Well school gets harder. With the gaps it isn't like you can gain momentum. You don't have a group of friends in all your classes. There is more boring reading. Etc.
This legit made me cry. I was diagnosed by my (former) therapist a few months ago, but in my country I need to g to a psychiatrist to even have the chance at getting medication and I've been, unsurprisingly, putting it off, convincing myself I need to manage on my own, like a "normal" person. The way you've described being on medication sounds so amazing, it feels like I've never wanted anything more in my life. I'm in college, so studying more than a day before an exam AND keeping my place clean at the same time already sound like a dream that feels impossible. Thank you. This may have been the push I needed to actually start looking for a psychiatrist.
Where I live at least it's become incredibly hard to get diagnosed - and there's a major shortage of ADHD medication too. So I recommend jump to it asap, don't wait!
Keep in mind you also don’t always need medication. I survived years on mushroom coffee, getting all the vitamins and nutrition, and exercising often, because your health affects your ADHD. I thought I permanently had memory issues and thought my adhd was worse than all other adhders who seem more successful, until I changed my habits and realized that my health was affecting my brain function. I only use my medication for work and school, but I could stop using it any time and I would be fine, just like I was when I found out I had adhd.
This is insane. You make it so clear what the difference is between neurodivergent people and neurotipical people. Hearing what it can do is amazing!! I have no one to talk about what it does or how it helps. I am literally coming back from an ADHD test diagnosis thing. I'm already diagnosed with autism and they told me to see if i have adhd too. I do know i have it but it was still confusing and hard to get what adhd really is. This video helped so much more than i ever thought it could. Thank you.
As another woman who got prescribed in her 20’s after a childhood of “performing well” this hits home so hard. Happy for you Jaiden, it’s hard to explain how it feels to finally KNOW and how that can help, but it really does and you got that across beautifully
THANK YOU!! I am an ADHD mom of two ADHD and ASD kids, and my son is so excited that one of his favorite youtubers is talking about something he has too! Your shared experience has helped him hear the things he tunes out from me because I'm his mom (and your experiences are super relatable to me too).
When I first got diagnosed with adhd and asd, I remember watching Jayden’s videos and thinking, “huh, she presents quite a few adhd symptoms, I wonder if she has adhd,” but I’m no phycologist so I just shrugged it off. Over a year later I stumble across this video and scream “I KNEW IT!”
ADHD is executive in nature, so as you grow and are expected to juggle more and more of life's pile of responsibilities on your own, the harder it is for a lot of us former "good students" (especially the "gifted kids") to cope with... like, existence.
...I was a gifted child and my family don't believe in ADHD but all of these comments and her video literally makes me realize that...I may have this...and idk why it makes me SAD
@@anathemadvc Perhaps because you feel like you've _wasted_ a substantial chunk of your life on fighting your own brain to do things that other people don't even think about. It's a type of grief that precious, precious time has been stolen and you didn't even realise.
Yes yes and yes! I was a “gifted” student with undiagnosed (and not even suspected) ADHD and Autism. Then suddenly it turns out autistic people have extreme reactions to burnout, and adhd in women sometimes randomly starts manifesting in adulthood. Both happened! I couldn’t to anything. Where did my functioning go all of a sudden????? Why won’t it come back even after leaving school???? Why is my brain simply NOT braining….? Then… therapy. Three sessions in to what I thought was just therapy for depression and gifted-kid burnout, my therapist was like “hey, did you know you have autism and adhd?” And EVERYTHING. MAKES. SENSE. I’m looking into adderall for the first time right now, turns out all I needed was to hyper-focus on UA-cam for two hours (while I should have been working) until I found a silly little animation about it and now I feel safe to try drugs. What a life. Anyways.
@@AJB_twoleftwings First off, glad you're figuring things out and getting help! That "while I should have been working" is a real kicker, though... While that state can be helpful, I strongly advise you be wary of treating it like a superpower as so many others do. What people call "hyperfocus" is really just an _executive inability to stop;_ I've taken to calling it *Executive Tarpit,* which I think more accurately reflects the effects it has. The tarpit will try to seduce you-- those days you can get stuck in on the thing you want will feel like the best ever! But don't forget how it probably got you into that situation in the first place...
Mentioning how the medicine made you nervous definitely struck a chord with me. I've known I've had ADHD for years, but for such a long time I was afraid to take medicine because of some underlying fear that it would change me somehow? Got a weird phobia/hangup on like... loss of self, "would I be the same person after". What really kicked me into gear to get it was learning that it's not something that's permanent. It's a crutch for a bad leg - take it away and it'd be like it was before. So far I think I'm still on too low a dose, the effects don't feel quite as night and day as a lotta folks seem to experience, but it still helps so much more than I imagined.
has i said in my comments, i feel exactly like that... knowing i have it, but not getting diagnosed... Because its scary, or just i can go and say : "Hey, can you ask me some boring stuff about me to make sure that i really have ADHD, please..." is just the only way i can get myself to think about the situation. maybe one day ill find the courrage to go do that... not soon tho...
Its really refreshing to see this video. As a woman, the amount of therapists saying well your grades were good in school you cant possibly have adhd is so frustrating. The times Ive heard 'we all have a little adhd in us' is more than Id like. Ive had the same experiences, trouble in college, but not when I was younger etc, and its honestly really relieving to see someone else have that and quiet the imposter syndrome. I hope to get an official diagnoses some day as well! Thank you for making this video even if thats cheesy to say.
Last therapist I talked to got really super hung up on this as well... like... yeah, because my parents were right around the corner ready to punish me if things were not done well. But, soon as they were out of the picture, grades went from all A's down to C's, D's, and worse. Hmm... wonder why that is? Sigh. Have to wonder where some of them get their training and why it is so dated.
This video hit me as well, even as a man. My situation is almost exactly like Jaiden's. Great and organized student in Elementary and Middle School. Things started getting shaky when I had more independence in high school and then everything went off a cliff when I moved out for college. I did an assessment last year, and was told that since my symptoms couldn't be noted from when I was prior to 12 years old that ADHD should be ruled out... Now I'm thinking maybe I need a second opinion?
@@StormFreakJoshI noticed that as well as someone born as a guy. My symptoms were a lot quieter than what guys would typically experience. I only realized I had it when I was looking at adhd memes and found them a little too relatable. Like “hahaha ah that’s so relatable. Wait a minute…”
Jaiden’s experience was also mine to a T. No one ever thought that I might have a developmental disability because I got straight A’s without trying for most of my public school experience. I was not diagnosed until I was 22 and had already clawed and fought through an associate’s degree.
I know exactly what they mean with the whole mother thing. Right after watching this video I got a text from a friend congratulating me on my birthday, immediately panicked and ran to my mom for help in writing a response (I am a full grown adult). If I wasn't visiting her right now I would have absolutely stressed for hours over that one text, but with my moms help I wrote a response within minutes. (Even if that response ended up just being "Thanks :thumbs_up: ")
as someone who just recently got diagnosed with bipolar disorder, this video was so relatable. the “i wasnt like this when i was younger” feeling is so real 😞😞
I specifically always have pushed off all these symptoms I have for this exact reason! When I was younger, I was so on top of everything, but each year I am at college completing tasks has become harder and harder and I have always thought was it adulthood, or getting lazy or something...
ADHD gets often wrongly diagnosed as bipolar. So if you have doubts you should check that. I guess I can't post links but you can find information online on how to distinguish. HowToADHD linked an article on "additudemag" which seems helpful.
ADHD gets often wrongly diagnosed as bipolar. So if you have doubts you should check that. I guess I can't post links but you can find information online on how to distinguish. HowToADHD linked to an article on "additudemag" which seems helpful.
When I saw this thumbnail, my first response was “well duh” 😅 My psychologist once told me that we move in herds, if all your friends have adhd/the tism, then you’re far more likely to have it also! A fair word of warning for you tho Jaiden, once you’re on meds for a while and the adhd symptoms have been tamed, the autism symptoms can seem to worsen (yes and no, as they’ve likely always been there but now that adhd isn’t a concern they become more prevalent and noticeable!) I’ve found my meds can make it harder for me in social situations, and I’ll often struggle a lot more with social cues, etc, so just be aware that may be a possibility for you! (Obviously, not a therapist myself, and everyone’s different, but gosh I wish someone warned me) One last thing! DONT DRINK ORANGE JUICE BEFORE OR AFTER YOUR MEDS! Vitamin C acts like a little magnet for stimulants and if you have a glass of oj it can stop your meds from working properly! However it’s also a great tool if you accidentally take it twice, or have a coffee after your meds and feel like you’re about to see, and then attempt to fight god. It’s a quick and easy way to take some of the stimulants out of your system! Best of luck on your adhd journey! Keep up the great work, and remember to keep up rest! Whilst we love it when we can focus, when you get burnt out on meds it can be a hard slog for recovery! Take care of yourself first and foremost! ❤
My brother was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 13 and i was 11 and he also told me what his symptoms where like and i thought "maybe i have it too" so i told my parents, did the test and it wasn't until 4 years later that i got diagnosed. I struggled in school quite a lot and i felt like i wasn't good enough or as good as evrybody else, but in the end i did get diagnosed and got the extra time and all that so 👍🏼! Also, I know of a girl who got diagnosed when she was 17 and before that she was called lazy all the time and people said she just didn't care and that she wasn't smart enough so she felt stupid and she got depression, and no one noticed that she had ADHD cause ig she seemed normal? But then she got diagnosed and 19 and now she's doin better.
I love how nowadays the spectrum of neurodivergence is so wide that whenever somebody is diagnosed with autism or ADHD, the biggest thing that can happen among other neurodivergent people is like slipping a 20 dollar bill as they win a bet and saying something like "Yeah I told you so." or "I knew it." That is the best thing that can happen because it helps everyone understand each other and themselves better than ever.
It's better when you're friends with people who are undiagnosed but you *know* the signs as you've done the exact same things (as someone with ADHD) and you tell them to get diagnosed. As getting diagnosed and medicated honestly makes your life so much easier. Plus it funny watching their lightbulb go off and realize that people out there go through the exact same disorder and frustrations and that no, you're not a dumbass and gaslight yourself because you forgot about an important thing; you have a neurological problem that makes it really hard. It's like the truth finally opening up to solve a life long mystery
@@redpanda6497 Is this a sarcastic question? Ironically I have autism too so I can't tell if this is serious or not. But by spectrum I mean the range of what is considered between a neurotypical or a very neurodivergent (autistic) person in the extremes. Nowadays I think that everybody has a degree of neurodivergence that makes them perceive and work in the world differently, which kinda makes sense since more people are coming out with their experience on what they were expected to do as a "normal" person before understanding what was really happening with them.
@@baku3435 Oh, no I wasn't sarcastic. I just didn't understand what you mean by neurodivergent spectrum ( like "is someone less or more neurodivergent?..." ) because I know about the autism spectrum, but that's a spectrum in that one disorder. Now that you explained it I get what you meant. I kinda agree, but kinda not. You brain can still be different if you born neurotypical, but have CPTSD or SAD, but you're either neurodivergent or not.
The bit about getting yourself into the mindset of getting things done: I remember seeing a speech where somebody said that you should make your bed everyday, because then you have started your day by getting ONE thing done. I don't know why that has stuck with me all these years, but it has, and it definitely helped me.
I've tried this a few times and it definitely helps but it can be really hard to build the routine. quick yet similar thing I found is - wearing shoes! anytime you put shoes on your brain thinks "ah we are leaving home not in comfy mode gotta stay alert and active" so wearing shoes or sometimes slippers around the house helps me a lot!
I was late getting diagnosed in inattentive ADHD too Jaiden so I totally get the “I always did amazing in school” vs the “adult life is so hard even though I’m organized and responsible.” I really appreciated this video because I relate so much to it. Also the most ADHD thing I did was start the video, get distracted for a few hours, then realized I never finished the video lol
I feel your pain and specially, your happiness and I'm glad you found out about your neurodivergency, it also took me years to finally understand that I had it and it is such a relief to be able to do tasks without them being such a chore.
"The voices are quiet." is so relatable. I remember first taking my adhd meds, and I was just sitting next to my girl friend when suddenly, 20 years of non stop noise in my brain was just... gone. There was nothing there expect what I wanted to think. It was honestly kinda weird, but nice.
I've always exhibited ADHD symptoms, and I've found myself struggling to sleep cuz I'd have music running through my head for hours. Should start looking into this too
@@ambiarock590 while I’m currently undiagnosed, I definitely have adhd and the voices and nonstop thoughts and activities happening in my brain when I try to sleep is for sure a part of that.
Being diagnosed with ADHD at 14-15 literally saved my life. Discovering I wasn’t “lazy” or “not trying hard enough” was such a huge weight off my shoulders. And since moving in with my fiancé, I’ve convinced him to get diagnosed and sure enough, he has it too! He’s said the same thing, “everything makes sense now.” Highly suggest checking out the UA-cam channel “How to ADHD” for highly informative videos on what ADHD is and how to cope with it.
Omg these are my exact ADHD symptoms too. The mental anguish of procrastination vs the inner desire to get something done is absolute torture. The difference Jaiden got after taking meds is tempting me to get scheduled with a psychologist because I'm not medicated and still suffer from literally everything she describes. Now I just have to actually remember to schedule it.... sighhh
I don't have insurance, so I have to try asking this public health network provider if they even have a psychologist cuz I think I need medication. I've grown 6 gray hairs from this previous semester it feels like my brain is being overloaded
I was diagnosed with ADHD two days ago (and the 'tism a couple months ago), and I just wanted to say that this video has perfectly encapsulated all of my thoughts and feelings about being the 'perfect kid' in school, to failing to be able to keep up with myself now that I'm transitioning to college. Getting my diagnosis was scary because everyone around me was saying it couldn't be ADHD, that I'm just lazy, or that I'm tricking myself into thinking I have ADHD. Seeing your experiences felt like looking in a mirror, so thank you for releasing your story with this, it has genuinely helped a ton with me feeling like myself again.
I got diagnosed with ADHD at 20 and taking Adderall was literally like that scene in Snapcube Sonic riders where Jet yells "I'M TURNING UP THE GRAPHIC SETTINGS ONCE AND FOR ALL!" and then I was visually aware of my surroundings for the first time in my life.
@@jadedfire4351 The first day on ADHD meds, I was having lunch with a friend, and I was just staring at my bowl (I got some beef noodle soup or something) and I just turned to her and was like "is soup always this shiny?" And she said yes lol
Another thing that I found really helpful in terms of combating ADHD is tell yourself “ OK, I’m just gonna do this thing that I really don’t like for like three minutes and if I don’t still like it after that, I’ll just stop and try again later”. That gets rid of the whole mental block of getting started while also giving yourself an out if you’re really burnt out so that way you feel less of that burden and yay loophole!
@@GhostIntoTheFog Yet you’re the one who had the goad to insult me and anyone especially myself that I’m not neurodivergent. Just get out of here you hypocrite.
Thank you for sharing this experience, you literally rediscovered America for me. Thank you very much, I am literally bursting with the fact that I had the decision right under my nose. There is only one step left to do, and that is to go for an examination. And I really understand you, because I'm sitting here doing my homework right now. But then I got distracted on UA-cam and found your video (can I say that potential ADHD helped me find a solution to the problem of lack of concentration, and that adhd helps youtubers gain views on it, I do not know)
Report them all and don't reply to any bots. But anyways, yes! There's so much relief when you can share those struggles with someone who GETS IT, like man...
Funfact for those who experience periods. ADHD symptoms worsen when you're on your luteal and actual bleeding phase. If you take medication, the normal dose will be less effective during that time. Do be gentle with yourself if you feel like your meds don't work sometimes.
@Honeydropp11 yeah doctors do not explain things very well or know, unfortunately. But I have heard of people talking to their doctors to get enough medication to account for having to take more during their periods. I hope this helps on your journey!
oh and don't take progesterone only pills!! they can make it worse. i take estrogen based pills and skip my period most of the year (doc said i could) and it reslly helps
This hit me SO HARD. I feel like all medicated ADHDers go through that initial thought of "WHAT IF IT RUINS ME??!?" and then you take it and usually everything is WONDERFUL. Congratulations on getting the help you need. ❤️❤️❤️ Welcome to the ADHD crew
Oh the other hand, after my diagnosis I've gone through several kinds of meds (adderall, ritalin, etc), none of which have worked. So meds are definitely worth trying for the shot at "everything is wonderful", but unfortunately it's not always the case.
How do you deal with people that make you feel like everything you reach no matter how great, still depends on taking a drug? Cause I know people that are weirdos 😐
@@thomaslangworthy5468 No, it doesn't always work, but it does for a majority of us. I had to try four different meds, both stimulant and nonstimulant, before I found the one that worked for me. In the meantime, I learned coping tools and other methods and that helped me.
@@jorislehfeldt1971 The next time they take meds for a headache that all the good things they've ever done is because of Advil. Medicine exists for a reason and if they don't like the meds you take to help you, maybe they should stop relying on medicine at all.
@@jorislehfeldt1971 Those people must surely be aliens, because [otherwise] everything they do no matter how great, depends on 'water', or inhaling oxygen.
Your video has helped me finally get the courage and motivation to ask my therapist about adhd testing and they said "yea that makes sense". So in short im now 3 months medicated and except for a single slip-up(tried different meds and did not work) I'm happy to say stuff makes sense now and i'm finally cleaning my room.
That description of being a good student who never struggled with school until first year university, and eventually dropping out... yeah, that was me as well. I learned I had ADHD back in 2018 and it changed my life for the better. I'm glad you've finally been diagnosed!
Me here as well. Watching lectures is like pulling teeth. Constant fidgeting, constant procrastination, hated study despite being smart. Being smart is probably what took me through school okay. Anxiety (diagnosed) + possible ADHD (undiagnosed as of yet) and agoraphobia made studying impossible and I was failing papers left right and center. On a mental health gap year this year and pursuing a diagnosis... Edit: Damn this video is relatable
The biggest quality of life improvement I've ever experienced as a gifted burnout is the realization that my "failures" were due to partially undiagnosed neurodivergence (Autism + ADHD) and just not getting how much that worked against me when so much (gifted) worked for me...until none of it worked. And it still took years to internalize it and no longer categorize every failure as a moral one. Now failures are in spite of my best efforts, not because I didn't try hard enough. Same outcome, but I don't feel guilty and am better able to handle those failures as challenges rather than disasters. Still a work in progress, but better all the time.
I've been suspicious of having ADHD for a while, school was manageable but college is more mentally demanding and leaving things last minute is getting honestly exhausting. I really find many of the things you spoke about very relatable, and this video motivated me a bit more into looking for a way to get a diagnosis.
It wasn't until I was meeting with a psych about my depression and anxiety that she straight up asked me if I'd ever suspected I had ADHD. I've been a fidget person my whole life, constantly bouncing my legs and messing with my hands. It came as such a shock to hear someone say there was an actual reason for my issues with getting distracted by posters in class and struggling to keep up in college. Been on Adderall for a good several years now and whenever I skip a few days and get back on it, it reminds me how much it positively impacts my day to day. See a psych and discuss! It's life changing!
@Strangest1here Ikr I always meet new people, they tell me their names and 2 seconds later I look at them and be like: "What was your name again?" I partly don't even remember the names of people I hung out with quite a few times. What is this?!
@@Ri_is_here I know what you mean. My parents used to shame me for not remembering the names of relatives that I've only met once or twice over the past 10 years. Glad to know I'm not crazy!😅
by far the best explanation of my day to day life ive every heard it is a constant struggle of "man i should do this thing" never does it or losing a very simple to find object that i just had minutes ago and then going on a hour rant of tearing stuff apart just to find it and feeling so blind and dumb at the same time or yes sadly having a very difficult time remembering the easiest thing ever likes names or certain directions to complete a task
I can’t believe how relatable this is. I just got diagnosed inattentive ADHD and was so scared to take medication but it’s been changing my life and making me feel like I can actually function. Even just leaning that I had adhd help me be kinder to myself and look at my mind in a different light
I suspect I've got the combined type ADHD. I need to get around to actually getting tested and diagnosed if I do end up having it. Someday I'll do that
One of the real saving graces of an ADHD diagnosis is how treatable it is. Treatment options for most mental health and behavioral health issues are sparse. ADHD has great treatment options. It impacts every part of your life, yes, and some people need to try a couple different meds to get it right. Even still the vast majority of people see immediate improvement when on a prescribed treatment. If anyone else out there is afraid to start their medication I highly recommend you take all of your concerns to your doctor and they will talk to you about it!
Felt that bit on tricking your brain. I've always called it Productive Procrastination. I jam out to music and start tidying up/cleaning, and basically as long as I finish that chore while the music is still going strong, I've got the momentum just tidal wave through the rest of my tasks. Me and my wife own a business together and I've also found that there will be things I have zero motivation to do, but if my wife asks me to do it, suddenly it's the only thing on my mind and I gotta go try and get it done. Also, I can totally see how asking your brain to write a script on itself and how it can't stay focused would lead your brain to refuse to focus
I call it "making deals with my kid self" because most of my adhd not wanting to do things is "but it's not fun". It's basically self bribery lol So if i have to go out i'll go "okay we have to go to the doctor..... and if you do that.... we can get a little snack or a fidget toy at the store nearby!" and usually i'll think of something that will be enough to counter the "i don't wanna" in my brain.
thats so funny because i have the thing called demand avoidance, which is the exact opposite thing. anyone can ask me to do something, and immediately i have zero desire to do that thing and have to push myself to do it. its horrible because it includes things like assignments in school and when family needs something.
4:07 The "two blocks of iron strapped to both of my hands" rreally hit home. I really really really struggled with my engineering degree , to the point of it feeling like torturing myself to essentially do challenging homeworks. I have graduated with nearly dropping out around 12 times, but I am happy to report to you people , that for my brain going to work is significantly less painful than going to university.
This is..... surprisingly really helpful for what I'm currently experiencing. I'm nearing my last few units of my engineering program, but I've been stuck studying this for almost 7 years now, already stopping a semester for a brain break. I can't count how many times I've woken up crying because I need to go to uni, painfully convincing myself that all I need is to finish a prelim, then the midterm, then the finals just so I can breathe. Ever since, I know that engineering is really not for me and for some other complicated reasons, I can't leave so for this comment and video to exist basically describing what I am feeling on some days, is a huge thing to console me.
It feels like this video is calling me out for watching it instead of just starting the editing process for a video I’ve been meaning to make all weekend. As an undiagnosed fellow ADHDer with autism, I approve and feel your pain!
as an ADHDer, im watching this instead of working of my assessment due in 3 days, worth 30% of my grade and I have done like only 20% of it. Edit: I forgot to mention how I have 5 other Assessments/Exams happening over 3 weeks. I’m in week 1 of 3, I have finished 2/6 total exams and assignments, and I’m confident I’m gonna have a mental breakdown
I was watching with a 5 page assignment due in 3 hours and 0% done (went into hyperfocus and finished with 13 minutes left and proceeded to forget and submitted 10 minutes late)
You guys think that's bad? All my schoolwork is due on this upcoming Thursday and I have about 60 assignments remaining in total. I need to do like 10 assignments per day. I'm so fucked.
OH BOY DO I FIND MY PEOPLEEE!!! Count me in as well with currently 15 hours left before my exams that worth 40% of my grade and 0% studying....well 5% if you count sitting at the lectures with your mind wondering why the hell did we waste a pretty sounding word like 'malaria' into getting a bad rep. We could get a cute nickname 'Laria' for goodness sake. yeah anyway MUCH LOVE FOR ALL MY ADHDer OUT THERE!! I was feeling very down all day because I just couldn't bring myself to study, but somehow after watching this video and reading comments I feel sooo comforted! I hope u guys feel the same way. YOU GOT THIS CUTIE!! :D
Make yourself a google docs with a symptom every time you go 'oh that could be adhd' and just schedule that appt. a diagnosis makes all the difference!
been diagnosed with inattentive ADHD since kindergarten and i cannot tell you have much of a pain it’s been to concentrate on literally anything, remember things from a second ago, or do homework without some sort of stimulant. my mom refused (and still does) to put me on medication for whatever reason. while i can see why she wants me to, im not willing to deal with the millions of thoughts racing through my head everyday anymore 😭
luckily YOU dont have the voices in your he- jk,u really need those meds,try and tell her its very serious,convince her to get you checked if you need meds
i kinda wished i never had those meds they just make me like a super boring version of my self who cant have any fun and now since ive been on it since i was 5 i rely on it because i dont know how to function without it
@@tiggysuwu6773 That sounds awful, I'm sorry you're in that position. Is it possible that a dosage adjustment could provide a better balance of functional & fun?
My older sister was diagnosed with ADHD/autism even though I saw none of said traits in her, which really goes to show how tight of a box we put these conditions under. I _currently_ believe I am solely autistic as I haven’t really had troubles focusing on things, just troubles with actually doing them. Which is different. And I am just waiting to get that diagnosis 5 years later and all those “nah I don’t have ADHD” moments to slap me in the back lol
I am a new therapist and this video was actually incredibly insightfull. It's one thing to read about the perspective in a book, but another to hear it first hand, thank you! I will take this knowledge and help others.
Jaiden I don't think you realize how STRONGLY I resonate with this video. I'm having the EXACT same story as you with trying to be "the younger version of myself who could do it all" but honestly after watching the first 6 minutes of this video I should seriously consider sitting down for 10 minutes and planning an ADHD diagnosis.
Funnily enough, I sort of had the opposite. I'm in my sixth year of post high school studies and everything is going great for me, I'm in 3D animation school, so even though I've already seen many "I've got ADHD videos", my thought was "Huh. I mean some of it sound familiar but it doesn't really stop me from functioning so if I have it, it's probably just a little bit, and I don't need to look into that" But then my 16 year old me tugged at my sleeve and said "Hey, remember when the teacher had the top student of your class sit next to you for the whole year so she could remind you to take notes every ten seconds, because otherwise you would just zone out (it didn't work) ?" And then my one year ago me said "Hey, remember when it took you almost a year to call your doctor because she forgot to register you as a followed patient (french system, don't know if you have those) ?" And then my current me said "Hey, if you think about it, you mostly made it work because you managed to land in a spot where your special interest is your cursus, and one where you can take an active role in the learning process and not just have to sit and absorb information passively" I might look into that after all... just after I watch this one youtube vi-
I also just recently got diagnosed with adhd. I relate so hard to the “not trying hard enough”. It was honestly messing my life up to a point where I couldn’t function properly. I can’t tell you the relief I felt when I was diagnosed. It’s like “ oh no sweetheart your not a burden or anything, your brain just works different”.
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As someone with ADHD a sentence that really helped me when Im stuck in ADHD paralysis is “if you were lazy you would be having fun”.
Ooooh good point!!
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I still struggle to this day lmao, especially finding jobs, and staying at that job before transferring.
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@@timmycu I think what they meant is "lazy" is when someone chooses not to do one thing, because they'd rather do something else that's more fun. Task paralysis with adhd is more like, you KNOW you're supposed to do one thing, but instead you're sitting there doing something else (or nothing at all), and you aren't even able to enjoy that because your brain is constantly reminding you of what you're supposed to be doing instead.
I was diagnosed with Autism back in January at age 20. It's crazy how when you're diagnosed with neurodivergency, nothing changes but everything makes sense.
I was diagnosed with autism back in 2022. I thought I might have ADHD because I do have a some of those symptoms but turns out I have the 'tism!
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When i was diagosed i was "ok and?" But at least i knew why i was the way i was.
As someone who was diagnosed at a young age and learned when I was young, even I have moments of looking back at younger me and realizing just how neurodivergent I was.
Same but I was diagnosed last year, and the only change is that I’m slightly more comfortable with being weird in some ways.
@@kitdoesstuff_official I went in for ADHD suspicions and came out with that and autism at the same time lmao
The trickiest thing about ADHD (in my opinion, as someone with ADHD) is that if you aren’t that hyperactive, ALL the symptoms can be put under “normal people problems”. You try to explain it to normal people and it’s like “I forget things, I’m always late, I can’t focus on school work”, etc. etc. and people are like “well yeah I do that too” but it’s not the same! Your brain is sabotaging you all the time, it’s not just little mistakes. Anyway, that’s my opinion on sometimes getting a diagnostic is hard and ADHD is misunderstood.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk lol
Or if you have add and peaple just accuse you of being lazy all the time...
OMG YES, it’s actually so frustrating to explain to people cause it’s always “oh yeah I totally get it, I struggle with that too” like but does it physically disable you to do literally anything even things you enjoy. So every time I talk about one of my ADHD symptoms with someone and they reply with “same” I’m like well “Everyone experiences ADHD like symptoms however it becomes ADHD when I actively damaged or disables your normal life in some way.” I can’t tell you how often I’ve repeated variations of that exact same sentence (too the same people too) 😭😭 anyway sorry for the ramble
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I have ADHD too!!! It runs in my family on my dad's side! One of my older sisters has it too!
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i started watching you 7-ish years ago bc i thought you were entertaining. the aroace video made me realize I wasn't alone in it, and this made that feeling even bigger. i was diagnosed with adhd a year after I started watching you and am on the waiting list to get diagnosed with autism. it's nice to see a youtuber live a life i can relate to rather than the fake perfectness of some creators (i do definitely have hyper type adhd though, i got half way through the video before i needed to take a lap around my room because my legs started to hurt from too much energy)
same. College is hard with both ADHD and ASD
@Shmorkie13 didn't even get to college yet🥲 (having to redo my junior year by 1%😒) but seeing my sister (who's a freshman in college) struggle so much makes me realize I'm gonna have it even worse
Best way id say to keep your energy lower then normal, is to just let yourself fidget around, and if you stop allowing yourself to stop you build on energy. Just try moving alot withought actually standing up and moving
Perfect example of the fact that symptoms for adhd (and autism) isn’t always the stereotypical stuff
Not to mention that here in the US, people don't look for signs of autism or ADHD in girls.
@@haimay5767or adults, of which Jaden is both. So it is so hard to get any help if you seem okay and aren’t showing anything stereotypical
And not to mention how its forms can even change over the years with perspective.
Report all, but the last one is the most unique, never seen that one before
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This is so relatable. From the good and organized childhood to "what went wrong" adulthood. And I'm legit concern for myself since it affect me emotionally. Gotta seek help soon.
Yeah im the exact same way, seriously considering to go get checked out
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Same boat. I'll try to get help for myself. Lmk you got it for yourself too.
Like I am genuinely worried that won't be able to do my job because my brain doesn't work like it used to. Afraid I'll get fired any day now because I may really mess up unintentionally.
The line "A light switched off in my brain and suddenly I'm not capable of the things I used to be and it feels pathetic." Was heartbreaking and relatable. It reminded me of my struggles before I was properly diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and put on medication.
Also I love the Joltik plush at 5:38
@UTTP-Clockworker "because I sudden"
I rewatched that part ten times because that’s EXACTLY how I feel!
I’m that line… I’m the LINE… I always thought of this… I can’t focus on solving the problem… I always focused on the problem itself… I have ocd and adhd mixed…
I haven't been diagnosed yet, but the relatability of that one line hit hard.
i’ve been diagnosed for a few years now and i’m still mourning the life i could have had, i think i will forever. it was bittersweet being diagnosed, i thought everyone struggled as much as me but were just better at hiding it. it was extremely validating to finally understand why i felt so different and found a community in the process. welcome to the club ❤
@@dollitamusic i have a question. Does the diagnosis change something in your life, The fact of knowing that you have an adhd.
@@pelagelunaire7114 yes it does. Knowing the answer before someone asks you the question allows you to be prepared for the question. Same goes for living your life with ADHD. Your life is filled with questions and decisions and knowing how you’ll act will help you better predict how you will deal with the situation and plan ahead.
It’s like knowing that it’s winter and just knowing unconsciously to put on your coat and your toque before going outside. it’s just not even a thought. you just know you have to do that. It’s winter and it’s cold. it’s obvious.
Without knowing you have ADHD it’s like every morning waking up and you step outside and you never know what the weather will be or what it’s gonna be like and you were unprepared for just the simplest thing. And you can never understand why you can never remember or be prepared.
It’s like the classic saying: The real problem is not knowing about the things you don’t know. Cause there’s the things you know you know. The things you know you don’t know about. But what about the things you don’t know that you have no clue about. You don’t even know what question to ask because you don’t even know to even ask a question. You’re just completely oblivious. Now if that kind of sounds scary, it is. And that’s what every day is like not know why you act and think they way you do. If you don’t know you have a problem why would you ever try to fix it or at least try to do something about it?
The soul crushing knowledge that you were the cause of all your problem. The shame that you didn’t even know it, AND it was out of your control makes you feel very scared but angry at yourself for not being able to understand who you are as a person and for hating yourself for not knowing or catching on earlier. But also pitying yourself because you now know the situation was out of your control. It doesn’t make you feel any better knowing about it, but now you can try to make better choices.
The one thing I think people really don’t understand about ADHD is you can really just ruin your life. Forgot to pay your bills then your credit score gets destroyed and now you’re in debt. Forget to brush your teeth and you lose teeth and have to pay expensive dental bills. You forget to respond to your friends text messages and you lose friendships.
I also think about the life I could had, if I had just acted different or done that simple easy task. You never really get over it, but you can move on and make the best of THIS life you have now.
I entirely empathize with the morning and loss of the potential future you could of had.
❤ it gets better trust me. It’s not any easier though. It’s like being in a wheelchair and being upset that you can no longer play basketball. But you just need to reframe your goals and realize you can play wheelchair basketball and that’s your life now. The limitation’s ADHD has put on your life can’t be removed but you can live within those limitation’s and have just as much fun and fulfillment. ❤
@@MachineBone Thank you very much for the really big awnser. It's clearer now. I've alteady heard about adhd wich is call TDA or TDAH if you have an hyperactivity in France, but not at this point. So thanks to take your time to awnser me.
"i just thought i was lazy or wasn't applying myself" is too real, that kind of thing can mess with you so bad and it's _not even your fault_
nah there's a Redit post about someone whos perants didnt tell them they had adhd becose they "didn't want to give them a crutch" so the person was living life on hard mode until they got a diagnoses and got help relised that it was not meant to be as hard as it was and there you go
@@PatrickSquirtle-dl8lgYes, of course it gets easier once you know that it's ADHD and not you. It not only makes it way easier on you mentally, but also you can get medication to help with it
I don't know how you think you're contradicting what this person said, you're just adding onto their point lol
Same
The shame is *REAL*
@@PatrickSquirtle-dl8lg something really similar happened to Illymation’s boyfriend (nicknamed Kermit for the video he appears in) where his parents didn’t tell him he was autistic until he was 19 so he “wouldn’t use as a crutch”, if you are insterested on his experience along with Illy since she’s autistic and has ADHD too, the video name is “Dating (when you’re autistic)”
The feeling pathetic part really hit hard. About 5 days ago I confessed to my mother how pathetic I felt and like a bit of a burden because I just couldn’t remember things or I was so forgetful unlike my siblings or friends. I’ve lost countless of items in near minutes, I forget reminders I set for myself, it’s been awful. I feel like an 80 yr old with amnesia. I don’t know if I have anything, it just felt nice to hear from someone else their similar experiences, it helps make you feel less alone, thank you!
Ever since I started work I have been screwing up big and expensive way to many times. I started to hate myself. I went into a mental hospital for 10 weeks.
The feeling of the world not being compatible with ones self. The feeling of YOU beeing WRONG, just wrong. It drives actual tears in my eyes just typing this.
The thing I've come to realize is that even though everyone's story is a little different, there's always someone who feels/has felt the way you're feeling at any given moment. And brains are very complicated mechanisms with so much being processed all at once that it's only natural that some will operate differently or even go off track at times. But that doesn't mean that you're inferior to anyone else, it just means that some people won't be able to relate, but there's definitely others that will.
honestly i totally relate to this and i always just chalked it up to me being lazy, but like even normal people can motivate themselves to do things like laundry or assignments. i dont have problems doing those things once i start so im like?? am i just lazy? but lately ive been thinking about the possibility of having ADD more and more.
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I spent almost thirty years feeling like that, I absolutely understand what you're going through. I was lucky, my Dad noticed when I was in a very bad place with my depression and knew I couldn't afford the appointments myself at the time and paid for a good therapist. Within two appointments she was able to tell me I'm on the spectrum and the feeling of relief was incredible, as was being given some websites and books to read about other people's experiences and seeing my own brain mirrored. And now, just over ten years on, I'm ready to tackle the question of whether I have ADHD as well.
"i did all my homework on time!", "sure i didn't like Studying and found it hard to focus", "Up Until College" hit me like a truck,, i feel like that's a template for adhd diagnosis at this point
Yeah 100% College/University keeps smacking us into the ground
For real! I was the BEST student most of my school life, but as soon as I entered college, it all went to SHIT!
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I was actually diagnosed with inattentive ADHD when I was in 4th grade but when I was 18 it was changed to an autism spectrum diagnosis which makes sense since I had a feeling I was on the spectrum even though adhd still made sense for me growing up
That's so interesting bc my experience is the complete opposite. I hated school but now that I'm in university, I feel so much freer and so much happier too. I hope I can get my own diagnosis...
I've just got diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 28 and you've got no idea how thrilled I was to stumble upon this video of yours. I relate to almost uncanny amount of your experience growing up as an organised child and then falling apart when moved out for university and all the other pleasures of ADHD. I kept stopping it to share moments with my boyfriend and he eventually rolled his chair up to me to watch with me 'cause he realised I'd be bothering him every other minute. I started taking prescribed Atomoxetine (everyday long-term drug) last week and after watching this I hope the result will be similar in the long run! Thank you Jaiden, we had a great laugh watching your video!
"It's scary to have it, it's scary to might not have it" is such a good way to describe the hesitancy to getting diagnosed.
Me, sitting here around year 3 of putting off getting diagnosed: 🥲
@TheGoIsWin21 I'm in the same boat, but to be honest, I think a lot of people likely don't have it, at least not on the weaker end of the spectrum. Having difficulty focusing and staying motivated on stuff, and pure detrimental glaringly obvious ADHD are two completely different things in my opinion. The modern world has just destroyed our attention spans, so we both likely don't have it. People like us just gotta make more of an effort to stay focused and motivated on things.
@@jrodd13 Despite that though, I think it's a better option to get diagnosed if you relate to most of the symptoms. If you have it, you can be prescribed and i absolutely want to think like how neurotypicals think. And if you don't have it, then great, that's when you put in the effort
What I don't like about discovering it, is the fatalist idea of thinking that my brain chemistry will always dictate everything I do, and that there is no choice than accept it, and live without as much independence from brain.
Yes!! Thank you. I think that I might have ADHD and am hesitant to getting a diagnosis, because the thought of not having it is almost scarier. That would mean that I am just a lazy bag and need to get my shit together. Having ADHD doesn’t make it better tho lmao
One of the most relatable videos about adhd I’ve ever seen. The “it would be easier to backflip off a bridge than write that essay” and being proud of doing 2 tasks especially.
Yup, except when you think about getting to the bridge and how exactly those backflips need to be carried out to actually launch you over the railing I’ve never done backflips before I could start learning now…
@@_fnch_ but if learning is boring how re you going to do it without getting distracted
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Literally last month I had a deadline for 2 essays and I missed it and when I asked for extension for a couple days it took me two weeks and I literally handed it in right before my teacher submitted my grades into the system
The "gifted kid burnout" is so strong with me. I crashed and burned in college, barely managed to graduate, and I've been going downhill ever since. To make it worse, my brother and my sister both have ADHD (and he's autistic), but I also did so well in school that I just chalked up my recent inattentiveness to laziness (instead of, like, a real problem, which you'd THINK a psychology major would know about), and now I work from home and can't focus for shit. The fact that I'm watching this on my 2nd monitor instead of doing my job really speaks for itself.
Might be time to buckle down and get this mess sorted out. I'd actually be unstoppable if I could work for more than 6.5 minutes at a time.
Definitely try to get an appt to get diagnosed. I’m in a similar situation I barely squeaked out of college and now WFH I procrastinate all my work until the literal last minute and feel awful about it the whole time. When I tried adderall for the first time I felt like myself and it was a lot easier. Best of luck
im currently going through the gifted kid burnout right in the middle of my A level exams which kinda determine the rest of my entire life fml
I'm incredibly fortunate that my neurochemistry didn't pull the e-break until I had a kid (though grad school was tough), but at the same time, that made it *so much harder* to grok how I could have been so "successful" for so long with an attention disorder. Looking back, I realized how things like doing my homework early, finding creative ways to link schoolwork to my personal interests and eschewing much of a social life were *coping mechanisms* that allowed me to Feed the Hyperfixation Beast while still having time and mental energy left to do all the needfuls.
It also meant that developing healthier habits meant unlearning a lot of unhealthy ones, and if I could go back in time and get my teenage self the diagnosis so that he could build his life-skills back when our brain was more plastic, I'd do it with zero regrets.
the thing with gifted kid burnout is once the burnout ends, you're a gifted adult :)
I should be currently practicing my violin or doing my grandpas gift instead of writing this answer...
as someone with the combined type of ADHD AND autism I somehow feel more informed by silly animations and your voice about my condition than a PROFFESIONAL and that just shows how not only do us people find it easier to learn of stupid shit but also how ADHD people... understand ADHD people more than regular people its crazy and I'm proud how you managed to overcome this and its just crazy how one diagnosis seems to change everything
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I was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism back in 2022, and oh my GOD it makes so much sense.
Like genuinely, my psychologist looked at my results, looked at me and said “Well no wonder you’re depressed! You’ve been living life unsure of how life even works! You were given the wrong tools to navigate life, because those tools don’t work for you.”
Why did I read the quote in Jaiden’s voice?
I DON'T LIKE HOW THIS DESCRIBES ME, MINUS THE DIAGNOSIS
your psychologists words made me tear up. was diagnosed too with ADHD (although I suspect autism too but i'll have to bring that up to whoever new psych i go to) mid pandemic and I didnt really hear much kind words lol. i just got angrier about life. thank you for sharing this!!
where do you find a good psychologist? i'm genuinely curious :0
Sure they did. And everyone at the tard center clapped and cheered. You recorded that or memorized it?
I was diagnosed in my late 20s and the biggest difference is that I stopped berating myself at how 'lazy' I am. My brain just don't got no gogo juice. Treat yourself with the kindness and grace you'd give to a friend who is struggling ❤️
The fact that u cleaned the birds room AFTER making the script and not WHILE making the script and leaving that task half done to return making the script, and jumping back on and on impressed the hell out of me
As someone with ADH,Thats a incredible amount of focus
@@Jpx0999 bruh same that is INSANE! I cant just do one thing!
it does make sense considering she was on Adderall 🤷🏼♀️
@@Jpx0999the hell is adh?
wait adhd people do that? oh no.
as someone who was diagnosed with autism, jaiden always felt so relatable (strong hyperfixations, struggling with social situations), but i just said to myself “not everyone has autism/adhd who is a little bit relatable” and this video was so refreshing
ohh yeah her videos were close to home
as someone who also has adhd/autism I always forget to do work and the things due to my brain wanting to chill
"Miku obsession" into "ADHD/autism diagnoses" is the 2nd funniest consecutive videos since "dating simulator" into "coming out as ace"
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This the funniest shit I’ve seen all day and it’s 9 pm 💀
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I... wow. This hit so close to home. Especially when you described things getting worse as soon as you started uni. I've struggled so much with trying to get myself to do things, with forgetting things, with going down obsessive rabbit holes for years. I've always internallised it with "Im lazy, I'm useless, I'm not good at work and life and socialising." The more I've been hearing about ADD symptoms, the more its been niggling my brain that maybe its not that I'm a terrible person. But I've never taken it further because any time I've dipped my toe into suggesting that I may have something like this, its been met with scepticism and "its just a trend nowadays to say you have it." I'm also immensely scared of trying to get a diagnosis because of these reactions. Plus I've dealt with other serious medical issues that have made me think I can't possibly add to my list of conditions.
But watching this... watching this made me think that maybe it'd be worth it. Even if it seems to be a nightmare to get anywhere near a diagnosis in the UK.
Thank you for this video. Thank you so much.
The saddest part is people think it’s a moral failure, that you can’t control these impulses or that you’re just lazy, or you’re not applying yourself. That it’s your fault you can’t do these simple easy things everybody else is capable of doing. But it’s not your fault it’s literally a REAL physical genetic disorder. It’s the equivalent of calling someone with down syndrome stupid and it’s a moral failure that they can’t be smart enough to do everything on their own. Or that someone born with hearing loss just isn’t trying to listen. That if they just try harder they could hear better and if they applied themselves that would somehow solve the problem. And not that they just need help and compassion in a certain aspect of their life from other people around them so they can better function with the people in the world around them.
Oh man the “scary if you might not have it” is so real. Before I went for my asd diagnosis all I kept thinking was “if it’s not that then WHATS WRONG WITH ME”. Feeling like you’re an alien and being worried about ‘what if it’s just all in your head?’ And not in the ‘there’s actually something up with your brain’ and more the ‘nope you’re just like everyone but you’re just failing more than others’. It was the biggest relief to be told that I’m not crazy and life is harder for me.
I feel this. It took years for me to get my diagnosis, and not because it actually took all that long--it was just so overwhelmingly stressful that it took months to make any given appointment. I was kinda hitting a point where if it didn't have it I was going to end up begging for a brain scan to see if I had brain tumors or something, because nothing scared me more than the idea that I was more or less normal and simply couldn't cope with life.
im lucky my mom was like oh your a weird peice of crap and kidnaped a docter to look at me
That part about being very organized as a kid and then it all falling apart as an adult is scarily relatable. Maybe I should stop putting off making that appointment to get diagnosed.
Go for it! Adhd and autism are spectrums. You can't hurt yourself with a negative or positive diagnosis. You can only learn. I got diagnosed at 25 and I don't regret it one bit. 👍
Sameeeeeee x'(
I strongly recommend it. Getting diagnosed comes with conversations with a therapist, which can help you shed light on your issues even if you don't have ADHD, it's liberating to be able to put words on your struggles, and empowering to be able to finally explain your experience to those around you
it's very common actually, specially if you had a good support network as a kid. my parents were not that for me cause they work a lot, but my aunt and grandparents were always there
Definitely consider getting a diagnosis. I had almost no symptoms of ADHD as a child and was a great student. But in highschool my grades started slipping, I was losing motivation, and sticking to one task became so difficult. I got diagnosed and since then I've learned to manage it better with a combination of medication and cognitive behavioural therapy and other coping strategies.
Honestly thank you so much for showing the negative sides of ADHD and not sugarcoating it as some "quirky" and "cool" thing.
I have severe ADHD and it's genuinely ruined many parts of my life, made a lot of things that were supposed to be easy much more difficult, and made my childhood kinda sucky, so it's a huge pet peeve when people portray a literal MENTAL DISABILITY as something that's "quirky" or "cool" to have.
Thank you for sharing your struggles with it and I'm so glad you're able to put a name to the monster that's been making life harder for you for years :}
I agree with you, she didn’t sugar coat that shit, and I have it too, I do take meds for it but it’s so hard to focus
I agree! One time I saw some girl run up to a boy, hugged him, said something random and then said, "Sorry, I'm SOO Adhd!" 🥲
Wow, I guess 367 self-hating ADHDers liked your comment.
@@GhostIntoTheFog You’re the one with the problem especially with the hatred attitude you’re spewing out.
idk why but the understanding that the voices are not there anymore is so relatable! made me cry god knows why. thank you jade for sharing this struggle many of us have.
its so refreshing to hear that other people w adhd struggle to do the things they love. my entire life is music and being a music major but sometimes it feels like pulling teeth to get myself to sit down at the piano.
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@@Plumination same 😭😭
Better than snuggling up into a warm electric blanket on a cold christmas night or 3AM water tbh-
fr you go to do something like take out the trash but it feels like fighting goku
THIS IS SO ME
I was diagnosed with autism and ADHD at the age of 62(I'm now 69). For decades, I wondered why I had problems focusing, keeping relationships, and making myself understood to other people. Now I know. It's always better to know these things than to not know. Good luck with your journey with ADHD and remember that you have a lot of companions traveling with you on that road.👍
(sees ur age) nice
@UTTP-Clockworker shut the hell up no one cares about your channel with one puny subscriber
I think it’s untenable that the only replies on this comment are a very vulgar spambot. This is a very nice comment and as an autistic ADHDer, I’m very glad you now have that knowledge and I wish you good luck on your own journey :)
glad you feel better now :3 (Ignore the bots)
@UTTP-Clockworker ngl it would be funny if she pulled the uno reverse card
bro when she took the pill and messaged James "the voices are quiet..." i actually teared up
i can only imagine how wonderful that feels
I legit happy cried the first time I took adderall because of that. It’s wonderful
It talk insane without it
it's sick as hell, ngl
I legit cried in that part as well. It has more to do with the many years of shame and believing that I was dumb or lazy. I legit split my life to pre adderall me and post adderall me.
Same. It's a powerful feeling.
this is exactly how my ADHD progressed. i was also an excellent student and did well in school. but as i’ve gotten older, i’ve had issues completing tasks, hyperfixating on things i love but also having random hyper fixations on odd things and foods. simple tasks are such a struggle for me and i never thought i had ADHD because i did great in school and just thought i was lazy. i also have the attentive ADHD and was previously diagnosed with anxiety and depression, which is what commonly happens in women. i relate to this so much lol
Being diagnosed with AuDHD later in life as woman is such a weird yet vindicating experience, "so this whole time. THIS WHOLE TIME I DIDNT HAVE TO HATE MYSELF?? IT WAS NEVER MY FAULT??" Its an amazing feeling yet i still mourn for the child i was, as she was so hard on herself over every dang task that came her way. Jaiden, I really do hope you're proud of yourself love, this is such a life changing step in the right direction and it can only go up from here 💖💜🎉
dx at 40 a couple months ago, I hear you so hard about the mourning although for me it's more the lost time and opportunities that i could have at least tried for and didn't cause i was "too lazy" or "just procrastinated too much" whoops, well maybe next time I'll do better. (spoiler alert, I didn't do any better next time lol)
Congratulations on winning MrBeast! Well deserved and your subscribers are lucky :))
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The "waste of space normal person" diagnosis fear is... Legit. It's part of why I don't really put any time, energy, or thought towards getting a diagnosis, even though I'm about certain that I have ADHD/Autism/probably PTSD.
This was a good video. Thank you, very much, for sharing your experience, Jaiden.
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man i feel bad for you wtf are all these replies ToT
PTSD? What happened?
I relate so hard, especially after going to a medical professional (albeit one who doesn’t actually know enough about ADHD to diagnosis it properly) and being told “No, you don’t have ADHD!” The main thing that I’ve heard from my friends to make me feel more confident in the idea that I *do* have it is “Normal, lazy people don’t feel guilty about not doing anything. People with ADHD actively fight with themselves to get things done.” Whether or not you decide to get a diagnosis is up to you, but for me, knowing I had depression/PTSD was a huge step in clearing that up. Either way, I wish you luck.
Also, I’m so sorry your comment is *overrun* with bot replies.
@@reneepark7385 Great saying
ADHD in completing takes is like studying for a difficult exam so you start with the easier things to be motivated to do more difficult things 😅
Watched this 4 months ago now, related so so hard its not even funny, saved enough money in that time. I was diagnosed today and tomorrow will be my first day on meds. THANK U SO MUCH JAIDEN! Wish me luck. Hopefully I can actually get my work done for Uni.
@@farisalmutairi2837 how did it go! ?
I dont think is goona respond because 4 years but I wish you luck
Congrats mate!!!
@@thistleheartandsnowfallsoul11 Thank u ☺️, I’m on vyvanse rn, huuuge game changer
@@farisalmutairi2837 hey good luck! same for me and taking rx meds now, life changing!
this video no joke made me seek a diagnosis. like i can't even describe how many of these moments i relate to. 12:28 is one of the main reasons i considered adhd. it's literally my biggest struggle. as jaiden put it, "i realized my woes weren't actually woes, but symptoms of brain chemical deficiency."
and as of this week, i've been officially diagnosed!! people's reactions have varied from "im sorry...?" to "ok". but im actually very excited to learn how my brain works a little better and to start living again.
thank you so so much jaiden!!! (also this is especially cool to learn from this channel since i have been watching on and off since 2015) and happy adhd awareness month ironically
This video made me realize I need to train how to react when my friends tell me they have ADHD, i mean who knows when they suddenly get diagnosed with something like that when to me they seem absolutely normal, even though maybe they're weird and I'm normal apparently, whatever "normal" is anymore anyways...
Well, I had ASHD ever since birth. At elementary, I ran around which resulted in having low grades at school, and the rest of my elementary stuff is history being forgotten. Right now Im struggling, with the same burden as last time...
This was such a relatable watch especially going from "I don't need medication" to "damn I've been held captive in the dungeon of my mind this entire time. I just thought I was lazy" There's so much people don't know about adhd and it's so freeing to understand that you're not lazy you've actually been fighting to do the thing 10× harder than everyone else. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS
How tf is this so relatable
HELP?????
Oh god no
Why I feel so relieved after watching the video and reading your comment But I don't have the symptoms (1or 2) too wth is going on...
DO YOU MEAN NOT EVERYONE IS LIKE THIS??? I’m 29 ain’t no way I’m figuring this put now….???
YESS!! literally i tried adderal for the first time and felt like crying the other day😢
I feel so seen here, my ADHD was a bit more obvious luckily but even as a adult I practically vibrate at times. Its taken a lot of time and work to get to a point where I feel I have a really good handle on it. I second the idea that understanding you have to find paths into "work" or "focus" mode, I also get a productivity boost from cleaning.
I think all ADHD people are magnets to other ADHD people. Something I've noticed as someone with ADHD (I got the combination jackpot) is a ton of my favourite creators I've spent years watching either have ADHD or exhibit symptoms or behaviors of ADHD and it's actually crazy to think about. I also have never wanted to take ADHD medication because I was terrified it would change my personality but this video has implemented a little seed in my brain about maybe looking into getting a prescription for some kind of medication. Thank you Jaden, and hello all the other ADHD people alike and I wish you luck with existing.
neuro divergent people vibing together is pretty common it turns out. Lots of friends turn out to be ND in some way. It makes sense, I don't have to play people's videos at twice the speed, I follow every tangent, actually enjoy the tangents, the people I follow tend to make videos about things I already like, so when they ramble about their hyperfocus/special interest I can follow along and feel the same things.
Diagnosis Cascade is suprisingly common. One person in a group gets a diagnosis, or self-diagnosis, and then other people start going "what, that's an auDHD symptom? But that's just normal, I do that!" and then six months later they're like "I may have a tiny bit of ADHD"
Same! I go into fandom culture, especially tumblr, and think wow these people are just like me and then so many of them end up having ADHD/autism- even characters I like and relate to, many people going "ah yes, those characters, adhd"- but at the same time, it almost seems like anyone who has any grain of personality is labelled as adhd/autistic and ehhhh
But then I get healthier screen times and more depression/anxiety/addiction withdrawal?? and suddenly I'm no one? So idk maybe I'm just a normal boring person after all- (not that not having a disorder makes you boring automatically but I mean the sub-culture-wise us vs them("normies") thing too)
ADHD medications are things you can easily stop taking at any time with no real consequences. So if you don't like who it turns you into, you can just stuff the pills in a drawer forever and go "Welp, never doing meth again!" and leave it at that.
Yes totally, when I find someone else that talks in run on sentences and is happy jumping around topics and interrupting each other evenly I call it “ADHD talking”, it’s one of my fave things
Hi Jaiden, I was going to do this before but I wanted to confirm it totally. This video has become really important to me, it became the reason I got diagnosed. I had almost the same symptoms as you and I knew I was different from everybody else, but after seeing this video it all made sense. I started my diagnosis process like a month after you uploaded it, and a month after that I got diagnosed with the inattentive type of ADHD. Once I got my diagnosis I spoke with my parents and told them it was genetic. My dad didn't show any symptoms, but my mom had all of them. She has become more stressed from the business she is running and it is really taking a toll in her health, both mentally and physically. At first, she didn't want to get diagnosed, but after some convincing she finally saw a glimpse of light and took the chance. She has the first appointment with a specialist in ADHD next week and she really is happy in finding a solution to this. I haven't seen her this happy in the past 5 years or so. I really feel happy that I got diagnosed, not only because it helped fix my chaotic life, but also it will help me fix my mom's chaotic life as well.
All of this thanks to this video. Who knew an 18 minute video could not only change my life, but my entire family's life.
Thank you so much. Keep it up. I really enjoy your content. ❤
@@juanjoserealpearcos my mum thinks herself and I have adhd but I am TERRIFIED to get diagnosed bc what if the person doing the diagnosis is like “hey you don’t have adhd and your js a weirdo who can’t get their life together”
@@YaFavGirl667 First of all, if they actually say that, then they aren't a real mental health professional, plus they're a jerk. Secondly, it's okay to be nervous about getting diagnosed, but it can really change your life for the better. I wish you the best of luck.
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Thats really cool actually, glad to hear you are doing better
my mom and i are showing the same symptoms aswell and i think this is my sign to tell her and get a diagnose
I don’t have ADHD but I do have depression. The idea of taking prescribed medication and suddenly feeling like “THIS IS WHAT NORMAL IS?!?” Is SO relatable. I went from wallowing in bed and not knowing happiness to sitting on the swings and giggling to myself. It’s like night and day in your mind
I'm so happy for you!
Thats so cool im happy it helped you feel better :D
yea
Haha, I have BOTH
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0:34 i do my homework the morning its DUE…
I just forget i have homework, pretty effective
Same lol
I dont do my homework and when my teach asks where it is i said "oh its at home!" And it was in my bag the whole time but the teach says turn it in tmrw but they forget so w/e thats their prob
Same
I don’t
it sucks people dont understand what makes something a mental health issue is when you experience something 'normal', like distractedness, but to the degree it interferes with your day to day life. we all get distracted but normal people arent distracted all day every day for weeks while still getting things done on time
That sounds like hell!
Sometimes I can't tell whether I could have ADHD or I'm just lazy, my pops always tells me to tough it out, sometimes it works but I dont know if thats notmal, I'm pretty sure we both are kinda autistic or something since we both have some symptoms from what my dad tells me about how he gets work done and how I (kinda) do too, I have thought about trying to get a diagnosis for me but I don't really trust the Healthcare in my country and I really doubt my dad will actually want to get his brain checked in like, any way, which well I can understand, he was raised in a diferent environment than me
@@lautarofarnos835 This is what I kinda struggle with too. It seems like everyone is getting diagnosed with ADHD and Autism left and right. (I theorize it's due the insane amount of dopamine we experience through entertainment and food. We've progressively got more ADHD through the decades.) And like you, I don't trust my healthcare, the pharmaceutical are blatantly trying to push more and more drug prescriptions for that $$$ return. I'm pretty sure I have ADHD at this point.... but it seems like... so does EVERYONE else.
@@lautarofarnos835 feel you sometimes I go up to get something from my room then I'm like wonder what chapter I'm on in my manga.......... my MOM calls and then the realization hits that we have to leave and that I need to get my shit and run out the door. Other days I end up talking so much (interesting stuff like history and science facts) but omg does it go on and the reason is because I imagine the scenario so much that I start to get a dopamine rush from the imagination stuff. My parents tell me not to talk loud unsure if this is just a me thing but it happens and I don't notice it when it does. I write loads but my writing isn't gramatically correct and sometimes my teachers will point out the stuff that I thought wasn't wrong sometimes its for simple things like this is a run on sentence but other times it goes on to be more things to the point I'm rewriting 5 sentences to do. Naturally with all this monitoring constantly I get told that I need help in some areas more than I want to sometimes its for things that I know are a one time occurrence other times I sit there and look at the other person and think wtf who are you. I often spend time on my phone I don't socialize often this comes to my second diagnosis Autism or in other words the fucken pepper to the salt. I often understand things but my mom will explain the most tineist of things I already know if I ask for them to explain it it isn't a simple explanation it's a 5 sentence one you get the point. The other day sometime in the recent past someone just told me they were an adhd person I sat there and listened to them but to me it made me feel a bit uncomfortable to be told that at the dinner table while everyone else awaited the perspective of the oracle of adhd (just saying this to give a bit of emphasis in truth I'm no oracle). I get very creative though I write loads of songs and I have never shared it with anyone but close friends and family they all seem to love it when I listen to music you got to understand that that imagination high I talked about earlier happens and I even know what the song is before they say the name, and know things like all songs say there own name, all songs have an up and down part (beat wise), and finally all songs loop the words with tiny breaks and same thing for the beat it repeats as well with tiny breaks. It;s hard to manage my anger sometimes however this is one thing were I can say I've managed to cap that very well trust me. I realize I haven't talked about the social stuff well for most they look at someone and start talking then they become friends me I look at someone and wonder is it that simple. other times I wait till its too late and other times I wonder if I go up there will that be a socially awkward thing to do hello stranger blah blah blah blahhhhh now 5 days past am I boring them am I going up there and do they want to see me constantly. Other times I wait too long and this same scenario plays out there's more though I wonder if its easy to join a group of people I mean I think you can't just go there and etc right. often I overcomplicate this for way more sometimes I make friends but with a ragtag team or a group were I feel a little conflicted if I'm in the right group other times I act a certain way with people it feels like Im putting on a mask its weird. I wonder how to not overcomplicate friendships but its hard for me to do. Recently I joined a group at uni there nice people who all cherish me no matter how I act we've met through various members but each one found us and asked us to hang honestly I'm happy I met this kid named Peter he introduced me to loads of people and he's like me adhd as well so I felt like this was a god sent. I'm happy and I feel like though I may not have all the pieces I'm learning however there is a lot of programs for adhd and asd and trust me they all say the same thing picture listening to a lecture but it never changes the subject and the stuff is always the same just phrased differently that's what this recent program is like and so many before them they say the same stuff I've heard since childhood and the best part is that none of these staff have adhd or asd also so they are assuming how to help granted with the best research out there but they are giving us the feeling of I care about you I guess the best analogy is its like caring for a cold virus patient. It seems like I'm venting its just I thought I needed it at 3:20 AM after watching anime and other stuff not being able to sleep and though some may want my perspective it's clear my family cares about me and the people surrounding me feel the same they are trying and I guess that's all I ask for love and happiness I know I'm making it seem like its me against the world but truly its me with the best minds out there my loving family and friends who are wonderful people in my book.
just understood what this comment was about if your unsure you have adhd or asd or both I'd still get it checked out feel free to ask me if you want honestly if given the chance to confirm if I had adhd or asd or not I'd still have wanted to get it confirmed trust me your family will support you no matter what if there like mine I guess to answer thins that last sentence best summarizes this god I hope this doesn't sound egotistical I hope everything works out for you in the end I just want you too know that adhd and asd isn't the worst thing in the world it can be rad too like saying Enstien had it and 500 other famous people this just goes to show that our success in life is always possible as long as we work hard enough.
as an Autistic person with ADHD who used to be the golden child who fell from grace in college, i needed this. ADHD and autism are heavy diagnoses to deal with, so thank you for making this video. i currently relate to a lot of the feelings of wanting what my child self had, so thank you for showing me i’m not alone. been watching your content since i was 12 and now i’m going on 20
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the "making a deal with yourself" is how i make myself do laundry. i trick myself into doing it by saying "oh ill at least take it downstairs" which turns into "well i have to put it in now that im already here" and eventually "ugh its already sorted i might as well fold it" to it being complete.
congrats on getting your diagnosis! much love as you continue forwards!
I wish I could trick my brain like that. Unfortunately it knows when I'm trying to.
Yeah...I've needed to wash my car for like 3 months. But I only have time on the weekends, and I just don't want to spent my free time on the weekends washing my car. I'm finally going to do it today, when it gets cooler outside. There's just certain things. 2 weekends ago I spent half a day reorganizing my closet. I planned to earlier that week, and once saturday rolled around, that was my goal, and I enjoyed it. Cleaning and reorganizing my closet, which included building a shelf? Perfectly fine. Washing my car for 20 minutes? Too much lol.
I have to do the same thing, I quite literally have to tell myself "You can not have (insert meal or snack or treat or anything I am interested in) until you get up and get this done!"
Still takes me anywhere from 20mins-1hr just to do said thing, but it does help me atleast get it done-
I was finally diagnosed with combined ADHD as an adult in my 40s and I wept a little bit watching your video. I fully understand your struggles. I'm so glad you were able to finally ask for help and get it. I still have the same issues (distracted easily, forgetting, avoidance, inability to hold still, outbursts, impatience, hyper-focus, etc.) while on medication, but with a diagnosis and meds, I'm less angry about it all. I didn't realize just how much time I spent angry and frustrated at myself until I was medicated. For everyone else out there, it's important to get seen by a doctor and properly diagnosed so you get the right treatment. Be aware though, even if you feel better on meds, you still only have the same amount of battery life. If you try and do all the things, you will exhaust yourself. Even more than you are already exhausted. Unreasonable anger when being broken out of hyper-focus is real. Meds don't make ADHD go away. It can't be cured. It is a cradle to grave condition. It's genetic so share your info with your siblings and your parents. At least one of your parents has it.
I got my autism diagnosis like 2 years ago at 25 years age. People always say: why do you want a label? Like I don't, but having that diagnosis made me understand so many things of how I behaved and felt. A diagnosis doesn't change things, but it explains so much.
Whoever asks that question seems to want the work of psychologists and such thrown into the flames, damn
“Because there’s comfort in knowing you’re a regular zebra not a messed up horse” can’t remember where I saw it (might be in the vid I’ve not seen it yet) but it really just hit the nail on the head
same just younger
Absolutely. Before being diagnosed with ADHD, I had this sense of frustration over not living to my potential, being "lazy", having trouble for concentrating and managing my time; I remember I said during my teens "I think I have something. It's not autism but I know I have something"
It couldn't have been ADHD because I've always known how to behave; a bit talkative, but I've never had trouble sitting still and any other ADHD stereotype.
Once I learned about the "inattentive" type something clicked. After sharing a bit of info about it with my wife, I got a diagnosis.
Having a diagnosis didn't "cure" me, but knowing what I have make it easier on me when I mess up, building good habits (like putting a timer when doing laundry or taking a picture/screenshot of any potential gift for my wife) and also dealing with any problem head on instead of feeling lost in life and unable to do any responsibility.
I know I can, I just need some accomodations and I learned to not feel ashamed about it.
@@Dairunt1omg, i say to my mum ALL the time “there’s something wrong with me i can feel it” nd i’ve been trying to get tested but because i’m under 18 and my parents don’t believe in neurodivergence, it’s hard to. any tips?
From collecting all straight A's during school to collecting (not) straighr A's (Aro-ace, ADHD, Autism) is such an amazing journey tbh. Not because it's fun, but because you just look back and realise', why tf did it take so long to get diagnosed? ' For me the more i look back the more I see how freaking apparent and obvious it was ha!
Cheers brotha i was diagnosed with aspergers at 19 and looked back and was like “how did it take them this long” lmao
Hope you’re crushin it!
Is... is this a universal experience... the only thing I have not collected on that list is autism... yet... (I'm pretty sure the neurodivergence in my case is just ADHD, but who knows at this point, it took them 24 years to diagnose me with that so...)
I can't do the dam notes one word takes one hour and my teacher hates me
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Taking ADHD meds for the first time made me cry. Suddenly my head was so quiet. I could listen to a whole 1.5 hour lecture without once getting distracted and I didn’t even realise I wasn’t getting distracted until the lecture ended and I realised I had been focused the whole time.
I love when newly diagnosed ADHDers get to experience the focus. It’s a beautiful feeling.
Laughs in ADHD diagnosis since like 5, speaking of which med did/do you take? I'm curious cause I'm on vyvanse but I know there are others
Man I wish mine worked at all...
(I'm trying to get new ones but I might have to get another medication first so I'm waiting till after that)
I feel like concentrating for 1.5 hours straight isn’t something most neurotypical people can do, but that’s great that you were able to!
@sigmaskibiditoiletohioUTTPshut up
@@Meraxes6 Appearently that is just what they can do. Currently in university and I can see how the other students have their shit together and do stuff perfectly fine on a day to day basis, with fully organized work, and then the results are clearly shown.
Very unfair how far ADHD sets someone back, but sadly one can only play the hand one was dealt
This is literally my life…always a great student, hyper-fixating on things I’m interested in, extremely organized (probably too organized), but also late for everything, super forgetful, and major procrastinator. I never had the hyperactivity usually discussed, but recently learned it can also be mental hyperactivity which is what I constantly struggle with - my brain going in a million directions at once. Now in my 20s and nearing the end of my degree, and I have been experiencing everything you described to the point where I can barely function. I started mental health counseling for anxiety (which I’ve had for many years) which led to learning about ADHD like this. I now have an appointment scheduled to get evaluated for ADHD after months of putting it off. Already have a feeling I know what the results will be. 😅 Thank you for sharing this, because I feel really validated in my experience and that I’m not alone. I also feel less scared about trying medication. I hope it works for me like that because I just want my brain to shut up long enough that I can do what I need to do 😂
Seeing Jaiden text "THE VOICES ARE QUIET" to everyone made me want to cry in relief for her because I remember the very first time I took my own meds and the realisation that my mind was quiet, with one singular train of thought, made me physically stop in my track because of how hard it hit me
That moment is fucking magical and I'm so glad Jaiden got to experience it too!
Isn't it just f-cking magical?
@@238Hero238 the way I had to physically stop what I was doing because it hit me like a truck, I still remember the relief of everything going quiet like it was yesterday
The voices
WISH THAT WERE ME. Instant release adhd meds never worked for me so now i gotta try the slow one however. THE ADHD MEDS IN BRAZIL ARE ON A FUCKING NATIONAL LACK OF MEDS APPARENTLY?????? I dont even have adhd diagnosed im going for autism but i went "yeah no i cant focus on school" and they just threw me ritalin anyways
@@lary_uwu6027 omg we had the same thing in France last year😂 and yeah it was nice at first but I ended up developping a resistance to the meds so now they only work if I don't take them for like...months
Which I now do naturally because I barely need my meds these days since I'm in a field I love! (Animation actually, Jaiden is a huge inspiration for me)
I'm actually so shocked how relatable this is. When I was younger I was a perfect pupil, but as I'm getting to the end of secondary school, everything feels like it's going downhill. And right in the middle of my exams too.
good luck with ur gcses
That’s how I am right now, and there’s this awful stigma that having ADHD means that you can’t get good grades, and achieve great things in life, of course you can ADHD is not a measure of how smart your are, many people with ADHD are very smart, they just have a hard time regulating what they should devote their time and energy to.
literally me too this year has been so different/difficult
As a college student this is so relatable. Used to have everything pinned down to the nail, but near the end of grade school and the start of college I’ve just been… slipping away
Well school gets harder. With the gaps it isn't like you can gain momentum. You don't have a group of friends in all your classes. There is more boring reading. Etc.
This legit made me cry.
I was diagnosed by my (former) therapist a few months ago, but in my country I need to g to a psychiatrist to even have the chance at getting medication and I've been, unsurprisingly, putting it off, convincing myself I need to manage on my own, like a "normal" person.
The way you've described being on medication sounds so amazing, it feels like I've never wanted anything more in my life.
I'm in college, so studying more than a day before an exam AND keeping my place clean at the same time already sound like a dream that feels impossible.
Thank you. This may have been the push I needed to actually start looking for a psychiatrist.
Where I live at least it's become incredibly hard to get diagnosed - and there's a major shortage of ADHD medication too. So I recommend jump to it asap, don't wait!
Keep in mind you also don’t always need medication. I survived years on mushroom coffee, getting all the vitamins and nutrition, and exercising often, because your health affects your ADHD. I thought I permanently had memory issues and thought my adhd was worse than all other adhders who seem more successful, until I changed my habits and realized that my health was affecting my brain function. I only use my medication for work and school, but I could stop using it any time and I would be fine, just like I was when I found out I had adhd.
This is insane. You make it so clear what the difference is between neurodivergent people and neurotipical people. Hearing what it can do is amazing!! I have no one to talk about what it does or how it helps. I am literally coming back from an ADHD test diagnosis thing. I'm already diagnosed with autism and they told me to see if i have adhd too. I do know i have it but it was still confusing and hard to get what adhd really is. This video helped so much more than i ever thought it could. Thank you.
As another woman who got prescribed in her 20’s after a childhood of “performing well” this hits home so hard. Happy for you Jaiden, it’s hard to explain how it feels to finally KNOW and how that can help, but it really does and you got that across beautifully
THANK YOU!! I am an ADHD mom of two ADHD and ASD kids, and my son is so excited that one of his favorite youtubers is talking about something he has too! Your shared experience has helped him hear the things he tunes out from me because I'm his mom (and your experiences are super relatable to me too).
When I first got diagnosed with adhd and asd, I remember watching Jayden’s videos and thinking, “huh, she presents quite a few adhd symptoms, I wonder if she has adhd,” but I’m no phycologist so I just shrugged it off. Over a year later I stumble across this video and scream “I KNEW IT!”
Lol but same though
First thing I thought when I got the notif for this video was "Did you honestly think we *didn't* know already?"
VINDICATION!!!!
I saw this a just went “oh, she didn’t know?”
why
I feel like I’ve stifled my anxiety with a strangely intense extroversion. Sort of a weird “fake it to you make it” situation
ADHD is executive in nature, so as you grow and are expected to juggle more and more of life's pile of responsibilities on your own, the harder it is for a lot of us former "good students" (especially the "gifted kids") to cope with... like, existence.
...I was a gifted child and my family don't believe in ADHD but all of these comments and her video literally makes me realize that...I may have this...and idk why it makes me SAD
@@anathemadvc Perhaps because you feel like you've _wasted_ a substantial chunk of your life on fighting your own brain to do things that other people don't even think about. It's a type of grief that precious, precious time has been stolen and you didn't even realise.
Yes yes and yes! I was a “gifted” student with undiagnosed (and not even suspected) ADHD and Autism. Then suddenly it turns out autistic people have extreme reactions to burnout, and adhd in women sometimes randomly starts manifesting in adulthood. Both happened! I couldn’t to anything. Where did my functioning go all of a sudden????? Why won’t it come back even after leaving school???? Why is my brain simply NOT braining….? Then… therapy. Three sessions in to what I thought was just therapy for depression and gifted-kid burnout, my therapist was like “hey, did you know you have autism and adhd?” And EVERYTHING. MAKES. SENSE.
I’m looking into adderall for the first time right now, turns out all I needed was to hyper-focus on UA-cam for two hours (while I should have been working) until I found a silly little animation about it and now I feel safe to try drugs. What a life. Anyways.
@@AJB_twoleftwings First off, glad you're figuring things out and getting help!
That "while I should have been working" is a real kicker, though... While that state can be helpful, I strongly advise you be wary of treating it like a superpower as so many others do. What people call "hyperfocus" is really just an _executive inability to stop;_ I've taken to calling it *Executive Tarpit,* which I think more accurately reflects the effects it has.
The tarpit will try to seduce you-- those days you can get stuck in on the thing you want will feel like the best ever! But don't forget how it probably got you into that situation in the first place...
this makes so much sense... my grades were PERFECT until 7th school year then it all went downstairs
Mentioning how the medicine made you nervous definitely struck a chord with me. I've known I've had ADHD for years, but for such a long time I was afraid to take medicine because of some underlying fear that it would change me somehow? Got a weird phobia/hangup on like... loss of self, "would I be the same person after". What really kicked me into gear to get it was learning that it's not something that's permanent. It's a crutch for a bad leg - take it away and it'd be like it was before. So far I think I'm still on too low a dose, the effects don't feel quite as night and day as a lotta folks seem to experience, but it still helps so much more than I imagined.
has i said in my comments, i feel exactly like that... knowing i have it, but not getting diagnosed... Because its scary, or just i can go and say : "Hey, can you ask me some boring stuff about me to make sure that i really have ADHD, please..." is just the only way i can get myself to think about the situation. maybe one day ill find the courrage to go do that... not soon tho...
I have all the ADHD symptoms, and once tried a retalin from my brother (dosis for a child!) Worst trip of my life .... Talk to a doctor first!!!
Its really refreshing to see this video. As a woman, the amount of therapists saying well your grades were good in school you cant possibly have adhd is so frustrating. The times Ive heard 'we all have a little adhd in us' is more than Id like. Ive had the same experiences, trouble in college, but not when I was younger etc, and its honestly really relieving to see someone else have that and quiet the imposter syndrome. I hope to get an official diagnoses some day as well! Thank you for making this video even if thats cheesy to say.
Woman here who also went through this. ❤️ There’s more of us than they would make you think!! You’re not alone ❤️
Last therapist I talked to got really super hung up on this as well... like... yeah, because my parents were right around the corner ready to punish me if things were not done well. But, soon as they were out of the picture, grades went from all A's down to C's, D's, and worse. Hmm... wonder why that is? Sigh. Have to wonder where some of them get their training and why it is so dated.
This video hit me as well, even as a man. My situation is almost exactly like Jaiden's. Great and organized student in Elementary and Middle School. Things started getting shaky when I had more independence in high school and then everything went off a cliff when I moved out for college. I did an assessment last year, and was told that since my symptoms couldn't be noted from when I was prior to 12 years old that ADHD should be ruled out... Now I'm thinking maybe I need a second opinion?
@@StormFreakJoshI noticed that as well as someone born as a guy. My symptoms were a lot quieter than what guys would typically experience. I only realized I had it when I was looking at adhd memes and found them a little too relatable. Like “hahaha ah that’s so relatable. Wait a minute…”
Jaiden’s experience was also mine to a T. No one ever thought that I might have a developmental disability because I got straight A’s without trying for most of my public school experience. I was not diagnosed until I was 22 and had already clawed and fought through an associate’s degree.
I'm literally crying after seeing this!!! You got this gurl
I know exactly what they mean with the whole mother thing. Right after watching this video I got a text from a friend congratulating me on my birthday, immediately panicked and ran to my mom for help in writing a response (I am a full grown adult). If I wasn't visiting her right now I would have absolutely stressed for hours over that one text, but with my moms help I wrote a response within minutes. (Even if that response ended up just being "Thanks :thumbs_up: ")
as someone who just recently got diagnosed with bipolar disorder, this video was so relatable. the “i wasnt like this when i was younger” feeling is so real 😞😞
I specifically always have pushed off all these symptoms I have for this exact reason! When I was younger, I was so on top of everything, but each year I am at college completing tasks has become harder and harder and I have always thought was it adulthood, or getting lazy or something...
ADHD gets often wrongly diagnosed as bipolar. So if you have doubts you should check that. I guess I can't post links but you can find information online on how to distinguish. HowToADHD linked an article on "additudemag" which seems helpful.
ADHD gets often wrongly diagnosed as bipolar. So if you have doubts you should check that. I guess I can't post links but you can find information online on how to distinguish. HowToADHD linked to an article on "additudemag" which seems helpful.
When I saw this thumbnail, my first response was “well duh” 😅
My psychologist once told me that we move in herds, if all your friends have adhd/the tism, then you’re far more likely to have it also!
A fair word of warning for you tho Jaiden, once you’re on meds for a while and the adhd symptoms have been tamed, the autism symptoms can seem to worsen (yes and no, as they’ve likely always been there but now that adhd isn’t a concern they become more prevalent and noticeable!) I’ve found my meds can make it harder for me in social situations, and I’ll often struggle a lot more with social cues, etc, so just be aware that may be a possibility for you! (Obviously, not a therapist myself, and everyone’s different, but gosh I wish someone warned me)
One last thing! DONT DRINK ORANGE JUICE BEFORE OR AFTER YOUR MEDS! Vitamin C acts like a little magnet for stimulants and if you have a glass of oj it can stop your meds from working properly!
However it’s also a great tool if you accidentally take it twice, or have a coffee after your meds and feel like you’re about to see, and then attempt to fight god. It’s a quick and easy way to take some of the stimulants out of your system!
Best of luck on your adhd journey! Keep up the great work, and remember to keep up rest! Whilst we love it when we can focus, when you get burnt out on meds it can be a hard slog for recovery! Take care of yourself first and foremost! ❤
In addition to orange juice and other citrus, don't eat anything that has activated charcoal in it. Just for anyone who needs to know.
Wait wth i didnt i know about the orange juice thing
why
Me, also subscribed to Hankschannel, Icecreamsandwich, and SsethTzeentach: everything makes sense now...
SKYE OMG I LOVE UR SUITS AAAAA
My brother was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 13 and i was 11 and he also told me what his symptoms where like and i thought "maybe i have it too" so i told my parents, did the test and it wasn't until 4 years later that i got diagnosed. I struggled in school quite a lot and i felt like i wasn't good enough or as good as evrybody else, but in the end i did get diagnosed and got the extra time and all that so 👍🏼! Also, I know of a girl who got diagnosed when she was 17 and before that she was called lazy all the time and people said she just didn't care and that she wasn't smart enough so she felt stupid and she got depression, and no one noticed that she had ADHD cause ig she seemed normal? But then she got diagnosed and 19 and now she's doin better.
I love how nowadays the spectrum of neurodivergence is so wide that whenever somebody is diagnosed with autism or ADHD, the biggest thing that can happen among other neurodivergent people is like slipping a 20 dollar bill as they win a bet and saying something like "Yeah I told you so." or "I knew it."
That is the best thing that can happen because it helps everyone understand each other and themselves better than ever.
It's better when you're friends with people who are undiagnosed but you *know* the signs as you've done the exact same things (as someone with ADHD) and you tell them to get diagnosed. As getting diagnosed and medicated honestly makes your life so much easier. Plus it funny watching their lightbulb go off and realize that people out there go through the exact same disorder and frustrations and that no, you're not a dumbass and gaslight yourself because you forgot about an important thing; you have a neurological problem that makes it really hard. It's like the truth finally opening up to solve a life long mystery
Wdym by spectrum?
@@redpanda6497 Is this a sarcastic question? Ironically I have autism too so I can't tell if this is serious or not. But by spectrum I mean the range of what is considered between a neurotypical or a very neurodivergent (autistic) person in the extremes. Nowadays I think that everybody has a degree of neurodivergence that makes them perceive and work in the world differently, which kinda makes sense since more people are coming out with their experience on what they were expected to do as a "normal" person before understanding what was really happening with them.
@@baku3435 Oh, no I wasn't sarcastic. I just didn't understand what you mean by neurodivergent spectrum ( like "is someone less or more neurodivergent?..." ) because I know about the autism spectrum, but that's a spectrum in that one disorder. Now that you explained it I get what you meant. I kinda agree, but kinda not. You brain can still be different if you born neurotypical, but have CPTSD or SAD, but you're either neurodivergent or not.
The bit about getting yourself into the mindset of getting things done: I remember seeing a speech where somebody said that you should make your bed everyday, because then you have started your day by getting ONE thing done. I don't know why that has stuck with me all these years, but it has, and it definitely helped me.
Yeah you’ve got to build momentum, and don’t you dare sit down once you have it because then you’ll lose it and the whole day is lost
@@gcd2036oh god i just sat down.....
I feel like everybody has seen that video in middle school AT LEAST once.
OH! I remember that speech too!
I've tried this a few times and it definitely helps but it can be really hard to build the routine. quick yet similar thing I found is - wearing shoes! anytime you put shoes on your brain thinks "ah we are leaving home not in comfy mode gotta stay alert and active" so wearing shoes or sometimes slippers around the house helps me a lot!
I was late getting diagnosed in inattentive ADHD too Jaiden so I totally get the “I always did amazing in school” vs the “adult life is so hard even though I’m organized and responsible.” I really appreciated this video because I relate so much to it. Also the most ADHD thing I did was start the video, get distracted for a few hours, then realized I never finished the video lol
same😭
I feel your pain and specially, your happiness and I'm glad you found out about your neurodivergency, it also took me years to finally understand that I had it and it is such a relief to be able to do tasks without them being such a chore.
"The voices are quiet." is so relatable. I remember first taking my adhd meds, and I was just sitting next to my girl friend when suddenly, 20 years of non stop noise in my brain was just... gone. There was nothing there expect what I wanted to think. It was honestly kinda weird, but nice.
I've always exhibited ADHD symptoms, and I've found myself struggling to sleep cuz I'd have music running through my head for hours. Should start looking into this too
@@ambiarock590 while I’m currently undiagnosed, I definitely have adhd and the voices and nonstop thoughts and activities happening in my brain when I try to sleep is for sure a part of that.
Being diagnosed with ADHD at 14-15 literally saved my life. Discovering I wasn’t “lazy” or “not trying hard enough” was such a huge weight off my shoulders. And since moving in with my fiancé, I’ve convinced him to get diagnosed and sure enough, he has it too! He’s said the same thing, “everything makes sense now.” Highly suggest checking out the UA-cam channel “How to ADHD” for highly informative videos on what ADHD is and how to cope with it.
WOAH CALM TF DOWN@UTTP-Clockworker
@@Alexmc9768report it
Please don't feed the bots, just report them for spam. They've been popping up across UA-cam, I've seen these specific variations of messages a lot.
I’m 13 and I probably have 😵
Omg these are my exact ADHD symptoms too. The mental anguish of procrastination vs the inner desire to get something done is absolute torture.
The difference Jaiden got after taking meds is tempting me to get scheduled with a psychologist because I'm not medicated and still suffer from literally everything she describes. Now I just have to actually remember to schedule it.... sighhh
I don't have insurance, so I have to try asking this public health network provider if they even have a psychologist cuz I think I need medication. I've grown 6 gray hairs from this previous semester it feels like my brain is being overloaded
I'm going through the exact same thing too and I have no idea how to ask for a doctor to evaluate me or get a diagnosis 😭
@UTTP-Clockworker blud you have no subscribers shush
I know it's only 29 minutes ago as I type this or so but here's a friendly reminder to schedule that psychologist appointment!
@UTTP-Clockworker You seem stressed.
this video helped me a LOT. i also never struggled in school, but resonate with some of the adhd traits you described. thank you for making this!
I was diagnosed with ADHD two days ago (and the 'tism a couple months ago), and I just wanted to say that this video has perfectly encapsulated all of my thoughts and feelings about being the 'perfect kid' in school, to failing to be able to keep up with myself now that I'm transitioning to college. Getting my diagnosis was scary because everyone around me was saying it couldn't be ADHD, that I'm just lazy, or that I'm tricking myself into thinking I have ADHD. Seeing your experiences felt like looking in a mirror, so thank you for releasing your story with this, it has genuinely helped a ton with me feeling like myself again.
I'm glad that you were able to be properly diagnosed since it is pretty helpful to know that knowledge sooner or later!
I got diagnosed with ADHD at 20 and taking Adderall was literally like that scene in Snapcube Sonic riders where Jet yells "I'M TURNING UP THE GRAPHIC SETTINGS ONCE AND FOR ALL!" and then I was visually aware of my surroundings for the first time in my life.
dude what that genuinely seems super helpful hdhsissb
that line was so fucking funny tbh. one of my favorite lines in the sonic dub series
It's amazing what natural sunlight, in a filtered brain will do, right?
@@jadedfire4351 The first day on ADHD meds, I was having lunch with a friend, and I was just staring at my bowl (I got some beef noodle soup or something) and I just turned to her and was like "is soup always this shiny?" And she said yes lol
Another thing that I found really helpful in terms of combating ADHD is tell yourself
“ OK, I’m just gonna do this thing that I really don’t like for like three minutes and if I don’t still like it after that, I’ll just stop and try again later”.
That gets rid of the whole mental block of getting started while also giving yourself an out if you’re really burnt out so that way you feel less of that burden and yay loophole!
This is a technique I need to steal.
That doesn't work.
It’s unfortunate you see things in terms of “combating” your neurotype. Your brain isn’t your enemy. The society that disables you is.
@@GhostIntoTheFog Yet you’re the one who had the goad to insult me and anyone especially myself that I’m not neurodivergent. Just get out of here you hypocrite.
Thank you for sharing this experience, you literally rediscovered America for me. Thank you very much, I am literally bursting with the fact that I had the decision right under my nose. There is only one step left to do, and that is to go for an examination. And I really understand you, because I'm sitting here doing my homework right now. But then I got distracted on UA-cam and found your video (can I say that potential ADHD helped me find a solution to the problem of lack of concentration, and that adhd helps youtubers gain views on it, I do not know)
The solidarity and relief you feel when talking to someone else with adhd that shares the same struggles is so real
the replies i cant lmao
What is happening with these comments?
HAHA reporting all of you
wtf is going on here
Report them all and don't reply to any bots.
But anyways, yes! There's so much relief when you can share those struggles with someone who GETS IT, like man...
Funfact for those who experience periods. ADHD symptoms worsen when you're on your luteal and actual bleeding phase. If you take medication, the normal dose will be less effective during that time. Do be gentle with yourself if you feel like your meds don't work sometimes.
i second this 💙💙💙 being prepared for cycle changes is so empowering and also helpful
OH MY GOD I DIDNT KNOW THIS😭 this explains so much🥲
@Honeydropp11 yeah doctors do not explain things very well or know, unfortunately. But I have heard of people talking to their doctors to get enough medication to account for having to take more during their periods. I hope this helps on your journey!
WHATTTT, IS THAT WHY IM THAT *WAY* EASILY-TRIGGERED THAN NORMAL 😭
oh and don't take progesterone only pills!! they can make it worse. i take estrogen based pills and skip my period most of the year (doc said i could) and it reslly helps
This hit me SO HARD. I feel like all medicated ADHDers go through that initial thought of "WHAT IF IT RUINS ME??!?" and then you take it and usually everything is WONDERFUL. Congratulations on getting the help you need. ❤️❤️❤️ Welcome to the ADHD crew
Oh the other hand, after my diagnosis I've gone through several kinds of meds (adderall, ritalin, etc), none of which have worked. So meds are definitely worth trying for the shot at "everything is wonderful", but unfortunately it's not always the case.
How do you deal with people that make you feel like everything you reach no matter how great, still depends on taking a drug? Cause I know people that are weirdos 😐
@@thomaslangworthy5468 No, it doesn't always work, but it does for a majority of us. I had to try four different meds, both stimulant and nonstimulant, before I found the one that worked for me. In the meantime, I learned coping tools and other methods and that helped me.
@@jorislehfeldt1971 The next time they take meds for a headache that all the good things they've ever done is because of Advil. Medicine exists for a reason and if they don't like the meds you take to help you, maybe they should stop relying on medicine at all.
@@jorislehfeldt1971 Those people must surely be aliens, because [otherwise] everything they do no matter how great, depends on 'water', or inhaling oxygen.
Your video has helped me finally get the courage and motivation to ask my therapist about adhd testing and they said "yea that makes sense". So in short im now 3 months medicated and except for a single slip-up(tried different meds and did not work) I'm happy to say stuff makes sense now and i'm finally cleaning my room.
That description of being a good student who never struggled with school until first year university, and eventually dropping out... yeah, that was me as well. I learned I had ADHD back in 2018 and it changed my life for the better. I'm glad you've finally been diagnosed!
Yep, I related hard to the feeling that things only spiralled *after* moving away from a parent that was very supportive and organized
Same here, though I got diagnosed in 2022. Kind of crazy how much Jaden's story mirrors mine. I even also had a brother who got diagnosed first!
I think it's expressed different based on gender cause I was that way too and I have autism
Me here as well. Watching lectures is like pulling teeth. Constant fidgeting, constant procrastination, hated study despite being smart. Being smart is probably what took me through school okay. Anxiety (diagnosed) + possible ADHD (undiagnosed as of yet) and agoraphobia made studying impossible and I was failing papers left right and center.
On a mental health gap year this year and pursuing a diagnosis...
Edit: Damn this video is relatable
The biggest quality of life improvement I've ever experienced as a gifted burnout is the realization that my "failures" were due to partially undiagnosed neurodivergence (Autism + ADHD) and just not getting how much that worked against me when so much (gifted) worked for me...until none of it worked.
And it still took years to internalize it and no longer categorize every failure as a moral one.
Now failures are in spite of my best efforts, not because I didn't try hard enough.
Same outcome, but I don't feel guilty and am better able to handle those failures as challenges rather than disasters.
Still a work in progress, but better all the time.
It still fucks with me but I feel this
Hoping to get there one day
I've been suspicious of having ADHD for a while, school was manageable but college is more mentally demanding and leaving things last minute is getting honestly exhausting. I really find many of the things you spoke about very relatable, and this video motivated me a bit more into looking for a way to get a diagnosis.
It wasn't until I was meeting with a psych about my depression and anxiety that she straight up asked me if I'd ever suspected I had ADHD. I've been a fidget person my whole life, constantly bouncing my legs and messing with my hands. It came as such a shock to hear someone say there was an actual reason for my issues with getting distracted by posters in class and struggling to keep up in college. Been on Adderall for a good several years now and whenever I skip a few days and get back on it, it reminds me how much it positively impacts my day to day. See a psych and discuss! It's life changing!
@Strangest1here Ikr I always meet new people, they tell me their names and 2 seconds later I look at them and be like: "What was your name again?"
I partly don't even remember the names of people I hung out with quite a few times. What is this?!
LITERALLY SAME
@@Ri_is_here I know what you mean. My parents used to shame me for not remembering the names of relatives that I've only met once or twice over the past 10 years. Glad to know I'm not crazy!😅
by far the best explanation of my day to day life ive every heard it is a constant struggle of "man i should do this thing" never does it or losing a very simple to find object that i just had minutes ago and then going on a hour rant of tearing stuff apart just to find it and feeling so blind and dumb at the same time or yes sadly having a very difficult time remembering the easiest thing ever likes names or certain directions to complete a task
I can’t believe how relatable this is. I just got diagnosed inattentive ADHD and was so scared to take medication but it’s been changing my life and making me feel like I can actually function. Even just leaning that I had adhd help me be kinder to myself and look at my mind in a different light
I suspect I've got the combined type ADHD. I need to get around to actually getting tested and diagnosed if I do end up having it. Someday I'll do that
@@ambiarock590 it can be the most challenging part of the whole process but it’s so worth it in the end
Thankyou this is very helpful. I am very nervous.
@@stellablue7772 me too I got diagnosed earlier this year and I’m 21
It is a profound experience finding out it explained so much in my life
One of the real saving graces of an ADHD diagnosis is how treatable it is. Treatment options for most mental health and behavioral health issues are sparse. ADHD has great treatment options. It impacts every part of your life, yes, and some people need to try a couple different meds to get it right. Even still the vast majority of people see immediate improvement when on a prescribed treatment.
If anyone else out there is afraid to start their medication I highly recommend you take all of your concerns to your doctor and they will talk to you about it!
Felt that bit on tricking your brain. I've always called it Productive Procrastination. I jam out to music and start tidying up/cleaning, and basically as long as I finish that chore while the music is still going strong, I've got the momentum just tidal wave through the rest of my tasks.
Me and my wife own a business together and I've also found that there will be things I have zero motivation to do, but if my wife asks me to do it, suddenly it's the only thing on my mind and I gotta go try and get it done.
Also, I can totally see how asking your brain to write a script on itself and how it can't stay focused would lead your brain to refuse to focus
Someone asking you to do something is so much easier to obey then your own volition.
It's not even funny, it's sad.
I call it "making deals with my kid self" because most of my adhd not wanting to do things is "but it's not fun". It's basically self bribery lol
So if i have to go out i'll go "okay we have to go to the doctor..... and if you do that.... we can get a little snack or a fidget toy at the store nearby!" and usually i'll think of something that will be enough to counter the "i don't wanna" in my brain.
thats so funny because i have the thing called demand avoidance, which is the exact opposite thing. anyone can ask me to do something, and immediately i have zero desire to do that thing and have to push myself to do it. its horrible because it includes things like assignments in school and when family needs something.
Music also helps me a Lot
@@honeysana672 For me that person has to be present, cannot just be "out there" or just an "obligation".
4:07 The "two blocks of iron strapped to both of my hands" rreally hit home.
I really really really struggled with my engineering degree , to the point of it feeling like torturing myself to essentially do challenging homeworks. I have graduated with nearly dropping out around 12 times, but I am happy to report to you people , that for my brain going to work is significantly less painful than going to university.
Good to hear o7 I am also in the engineering grind currently myself… and I don’t want to rely on torturing myself if I can avoid it, so to speak
As a fellow engineering student, that's reassuring to hear
This is..... surprisingly really helpful for what I'm currently experiencing. I'm nearing my last few units of my engineering program, but I've been stuck studying this for almost 7 years now, already stopping a semester for a brain break. I can't count how many times I've woken up crying because I need to go to uni, painfully convincing myself that all I need is to finish a prelim, then the midterm, then the finals just so I can breathe. Ever since, I know that engineering is really not for me and for some other complicated reasons, I can't leave so for this comment and video to exist basically describing what I am feeling on some days, is a huge thing to console me.
Just getting started in the engineering grind and it’s definitely nice to know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel
It feels like this video is calling me out for watching it instead of just starting the editing process for a video I’ve been meaning to make all weekend. As an undiagnosed fellow ADHDer with autism, I approve and feel your pain!
as an ADHDer, im watching this instead of working of my assessment due in 3 days, worth 30% of my grade and I have done like only 20% of it.
Edit: I forgot to mention how I have 5 other Assessments/Exams happening over 3 weeks. I’m in week 1 of 3, I have finished 2/6 total exams and assignments, and I’m confident I’m gonna have a mental breakdown
I was watching with a 5 page assignment due in 3 hours and 0% done (went into hyperfocus and finished with 13 minutes left and proceeded to forget and submitted 10 minutes late)
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You guys think that's bad? All my schoolwork is due on this upcoming Thursday and I have about 60 assignments remaining in total. I need to do like 10 assignments per day. I'm so fucked.
@@wooper2654 I have ADHD, AND MY HOMEWORK IS DUE TOMORROWWWW- AND I HAVE SO MUCH HOMEWORK TOO DO ;-;
OH BOY DO I FIND MY PEOPLEEE!!! Count me in as well with currently 15 hours left before my exams that worth 40% of my grade and 0% studying....well 5% if you count sitting at the lectures with your mind wondering why the hell did we waste a pretty sounding word like 'malaria' into getting a bad rep. We could get a cute nickname 'Laria' for goodness sake. yeah anyway MUCH LOVE FOR ALL MY ADHDer OUT THERE!! I was feeling very down all day because I just couldn't bring myself to study, but somehow after watching this video and reading comments I feel sooo comforted! I hope u guys feel the same way. YOU GOT THIS CUTIE!! :D
ive been sitting on an adhd suspicion for like 6 years now and it just keeps getting elevated everytime a new youtuber discovers they have it
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@a1exneedsahamdleplease that's really funny, good job.
Same (w. 3 years maybe)... Only thing I can't relate to is the "almost physical pain" part, I don't really feel anything when I procrastinate.
Make yourself a google docs with a symptom every time you go 'oh that could be adhd' and just schedule that appt. a diagnosis makes all the difference!
@@metawarp7446 that doesn't really matter since you being upset or not about your procrastinating is more of a personal factor.
been diagnosed with inattentive ADHD since kindergarten and i cannot tell you have much of a pain it’s been to concentrate on literally anything, remember things from a second ago, or do homework without some sort of stimulant. my mom refused (and still does) to put me on medication for whatever reason. while i can see why she wants me to, im not willing to deal with the millions of thoughts racing through my head everyday anymore 😭
That sucks, I hope that she can eventually see how badly you need the meds
luckily YOU dont have the voices in your he-
jk,u really need those meds,try and tell her its very serious,convince her to get you checked if you need meds
i kinda wished i never had those meds they just make me like a super boring version of my self who cant have any fun and now since ive been on it since i was 5 i rely on it because i dont know how to function without it
@@tiggysuwu6773 That sounds awful, I'm sorry you're in that position. Is it possible that a dosage adjustment could provide a better balance of functional & fun?
My older sister was diagnosed with ADHD/autism even though I saw none of said traits in her, which really goes to show how tight of a box we put these conditions under.
I _currently_ believe I am solely autistic as I haven’t really had troubles focusing on things, just troubles with actually doing them. Which is different.
And I am just waiting to get that diagnosis 5 years later and all those “nah I don’t have ADHD” moments to slap me in the back lol
I am a new therapist and this video was actually incredibly insightfull. It's one thing to read about the perspective in a book, but another to hear it first hand, thank you! I will take this knowledge and help others.
That's really cool
There's a fantastic book called How to ADHD. How to work with your brain and not against it. I highly recommend you look at it.
Jaiden I don't think you realize how STRONGLY I resonate with this video. I'm having the EXACT same story as you with trying to be "the younger version of myself who could do it all" but honestly after watching the first 6 minutes of this video I should seriously consider sitting down for 10 minutes and planning an ADHD diagnosis.
Same. Also with me. Relatable 😅
As someone who does have the diagnosis, and is medicated. Don’t “consider it”, do it right now before you forget ;)
@@lava2istrue You just forced me to get out of bed and remember my hospital app password, I was so comfortable rotting to UA-cam videos 😭😂
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Funnily enough, I sort of had the opposite. I'm in my sixth year of post high school studies and everything is going great for me, I'm in 3D animation school, so even though I've already seen many "I've got ADHD videos", my thought was "Huh. I mean some of it sound familiar but it doesn't really stop me from functioning so if I have it, it's probably just a little bit, and I don't need to look into that"
But then my 16 year old me tugged at my sleeve and said "Hey, remember when the teacher had the top student of your class sit next to you for the whole year so she could remind you to take notes every ten seconds, because otherwise you would just zone out (it didn't work) ?"
And then my one year ago me said "Hey, remember when it took you almost a year to call your doctor because she forgot to register you as a followed patient (french system, don't know if you have those) ?"
And then my current me said "Hey, if you think about it, you mostly made it work because you managed to land in a spot where your special interest is your cursus, and one where you can take an active role in the learning process and not just have to sit and absorb information passively"
I might look into that after all... just after I watch this one youtube vi-
I also just recently got diagnosed with adhd. I relate so hard to the “not trying hard enough”. It was honestly messing my life up to a point where I couldn’t function properly. I can’t tell you the relief I felt when I was diagnosed. It’s like “ oh no sweetheart your not a burden or anything, your brain just works different”.
You shouldn't function, cuz society doesn't meet your needs.