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This is why I prefer to talk in texts because I can spend 9 minutes for 1 message to make sure it isn't offensive or could ever possibly be seen as wrong.
@@Pinkkittie5006 what I hate even more about discord is that it only updates wether you're typing or not in 10 second intervals. this means you can go to a chat, accidentally hit x instead of alt (trying to alt-tab away, you were just checking discord really quick), and now it shows that you're typing for 10 WHOLE SECONDS AFTERWARDS, AND THEN SUDDENLY STOP. I hate it so much ;w;
it made me feel heard to hear that other people suffered as well that I wasn't alone I felt alone during my time of struggling with it and it just feels so good to finally see somebody else who went through that pain not that it's a good thing but somebody who understands my pain
I don't think I have social anxiety, and I don't have panic attacks, but the part of over thinking and being too worried about what other people think and thinking everyone secretly hates u was really relatable, I think that almost everytime I wanna hang out or just go and talk to someone. But it doesn't happen to me with strangers, bc I know that they probably aren't gonna see me again
There is a word for that in phycology. The imaginary audience (thank you Rebecca Parahm for bringing this to our attention) It's that feeling that people are staring at you and judging you. That's normal, especially for adolescents.
it is a milder form of social anxiety just bc you are not shaking with fear, doesn't mean you are anxious; i for instance always manage to control my body and not let it take over me
Yeah anxiety disorders can still be present even if you don’t have “attacks,” as long as you’re anxious to the point that it makes your day feel disorderly, it’s probable that you have one. Worrying to the point that it’s abnormal and interrupts day-to-day life or (in your case) makes social interactions straining can be a sign that you’re not a normal amount of stressy. 100% valid, anxiety attacks or not.
I feel like everyone hates me all the time because everyone acts like I’m either scary or background noise but what calms me down is just asking myself questions I don’t know the answers to and my full attention goes to trying to answer the question. I get angry easily and that just helps me calm down
I get terrified that my friends secretly hate me. I just think that they stay "friends" with me because they feel bad that i have no friends. I feel that they talk about me and talk about how annoying and wierd i am. So, its not just you. And, honestly im glad its not just me! :)
Honestly to know that others are feeling the same way its just a pire relif because, about 3/4 of my freinds in primary school were fake but, i have freinds. Its doesnt sound like much but it makes me happy 😂
When I was in middle school, I had this fear of heart disease. Just the idea of blood clotting in my arteries, and my heart stopping at any time (without me knowing), really terrified me as a kid. My school was having an assembly at the gym. We were all sitting in the bleachers, and they had a presenter entertain the crowd. As the event was taking place, I was contemplating about my "vulnerable heart" getting clogged by heart disease. As a result, my chest began to tighten, my breathing was miniscule, and my arms froze in place. It felt like my entire body was shutting down, which only increased my anxiety even more. I started to hyperventilate, and wheezed uncontrollably. Everyone stared at me, and the faculty took me into the nurse's office. Whether the event was postponed because of me, I didn't know for sure. At the nurse's office, the paramedics arrived and asked me what was wrong. In a fit of tears, I told them about my fear of heart disease, and I genuinely thought I was going to die. After they calmed me down, they explained to me that I was having a "panic attack". My body acted in self defense because my brain was in such distress. Back then, I didn't know that the mind had such a powerful effect on the human body. It was quite the eye-opening experience, let me tell you. Nowadays, I've learned to compartmentalize my fears and anxieties by taking deep breaths, and writing them down on paper. Sometimes creativity can come from cathartic releases.
I’d had something like this, but instead of heart disease, it was pretty much any fatal disease. If my arms were aching, I’d complete overshadow the idea that i just worked out, and assumed that I had a terrible muscle infection. I was indeed such a hypochondriac, and it drove everyone else around me crazy whenever I’d talk about my health concerns.
i had the fear of not waking up from sleep (and my mind came up with many thinks that could happen when im asleep) so i had serius troubles falling asleep since elementary. my brain is still overworking at bedtime, but thanks to self studing "Falling asleep" i have it more or less under controll.
To all those who get really quiet, or bounce their legs, or have silent freakouts. Just because your anxiety isn't visible to most, doesn't make your pain any less real. You are valid. You deserve help, happiness, and more.
One time when I was venting to a friend about my social anxiety and insecurities they said that I should grow up and it’s all in my head and that I’m a selfish drama queen that seeks attention I really can’t control having emotional outbursts or panic attacks and my friend said “what about my feelings? Why can’t you think about the people around you that have to deal with your problems? The world doesn’t revolve around you.” It hurts when you’re accused of being selfish for having actual feelings and insecurities you’re sensitive about/can’t control 😢
When you sniffed that candle it’s actually a coping mechanism. I was taught it when I went in for therapy. I called it the 5 senses so like you find 5 things you see 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste. Personally I found that really good at helping me stay distracted
I haven't been to therapy or diagnosed with anything but large groups of people and social settings tend to be a problem for me. I don't wear much jewelry but I've started to get in the habit of wearing a particular heart shaped necklace with raised bumps and whenever a situation is becoming too much for me I hold and feel the necklace and focus on my breathing. I've occasionally found myself reaching for the necklace on the rare day I'm not wearing it.
@@Asygn1134 don't say rude and harmful things to others like 'no one cares' or other things like that, mostly because these are years where anyone's mental state can be anywhere from really great to falling apart
I just had one of my worse anxiety attacks a few days ago. I was crying, couldn't breathe, couldn't speak, and threw up multiple times. Hearing you talk about this was like looking into a mirror. I have these thoughts all the time and it is an endless struggle. I'm on anxiety meds which are helping a ton. I'm doing better with my anxiety, but it's still an uphill battle. I am in a new place right now so to cope I'm taking my copy of The Lost Heir everywhere with me. I have my squishmallows to cuddle with. I hate being like this. Also She-Ra and The Princesses of Power is my favorite show of all time. This video made me feel less alone. You've changed someone's life by making this video, you've changed my life. Thank you.
"You're just lazy." "Oh yeah. I get nervous too." "Don't worry, it'll go away." "Just cheer up, life is good." "Face your fears." These are only SOME of the things a person with an anxiety disorder has to hear. I know that they mean well... just... it doesn't help. Please keep in mind that this person does not CHOOSE to live this way. Don't say this stuff cause it just makes that person feel worse.
@@breyanna6951 Just being understanding, compassionate, and letting them breathe. Also don't be pushy about someone that has anxiety to do something they feel anxiety about. As it can cause anxiety before anxiety even occurs. Just tell the person you're there for them and don't judge them. It's the simple things to help in life that really matter.
If stuff like this happens to me, I just think “everyone forgets everything when they go to sleep, and if they still remember after that, then they at least got a good story to tell their friends”
im currently having a panic attack rn and i started watched this to help me feel better, n when that old lady said “here let me help u :)” i just started crying? idk its just the fact that when u think somebody is gonna get mad n then they’re not is so stress relieving to me. even if its not even my situation
Most of my panic attacks are brought on by overstimulation, like a noise that's *just* quiet or inconsistent enough that I can't tune it out. First I get irrationally angry, then It makes my hands shake, I get cold sweats, i can't breathe, I usually start crying. Having something textured to touch (I prefer my cat or a silicone brush), music, and something to smell or taste helps a lot
i also have ones simlilar to yours, but it takes a bit more for me, like loud noises with people being crazy and me being ignored. i don't seek attention but I like can't live in loud places without someone being with me reassuring me I'm fine:0. but yeah the same things haooen like sweaty hands you know the rest. ( I don't mean to sound rude sorry if I do)
I remember a few months back when I was having a panic attack - It infuriates me that the school nurse took my *temperature* , said I wasn't on the floor shaking either so I was fine and faking it and that "it's offensive to people who do have panic attacks."
I’m so sorry. It’s uneducated people like that who are actually invalidating people who suffer from panic and anxiety disorders. That really sucks and you deserve so much better.
That might ironically have set me into an even worse panic attack (because I have some ridiculously high moral standards...blame my fundie upbringing).
illy, i don't know if you'll ever see this.. but its worth a shot. you got me through some stuff... i find you inspiring, like a wise elder sister from half way across the frikin world. but this video got me crying.. it gave me horrible flash backs. and since i feel like a burden to EVERYONE i know, im telling this to a random comments section. once again, thank you illy and the random person reading this
Imagine if your best friend told you that they think they're a burden. What would you say to them? Tell the same thing to yourself. I know it's not easy, I struggle with the same thing, but I hope this helps anyways
A thing that really helps when it comes about being judged in public is that I have to remember [as long as it's a stranger] you just have to remember: Your NEVER gonna see that person again in your life most likely. I started to do that a few weeks ago and even though I'm just a stranger online, it *W* *O* *R K* *S* .
The corollary: every stranger who glances in your general direction for even a moment, recognises you from a video of you making fun of your appearance which has been created and gone viral without your knowledge. You will never be able to live a normal life again because literally everyone in the world will recognise you and will laugh in your face. In fact, you are such a meme that people have started making up false stories about you. You can't even relax at home because every car door or voice that you hear from outside is actually somebody coming to storm your house and drag you out into the street. If you try to grow a beard or cut your hair or whatever to be less recognisable, then your parents will worry about you and decide you are secretly gay, but were unable to come out to them, and they will blame themselves and die of shame and/or guilt.
for me, i like to think of myself as a little side character! like i'm just there, in the background. if i do something stupid, oh well! im just a silly little side character in the end. for me, it works really well and helped me overcome my fear of accidentally doing something embarrassing :)
My mum shouts at me and tells my to just calm down even though I can't and then I get grounded because apparently I was "stressing her out" and then I sit in my room crying for the next hour .-.
The first time I ever had a panic attack was on an overnight school trip. I was staying in a tent with some girls who I was sort of friendly with but we weren't friends, while everyone else was out hanging out at the 'party'. I was so scared of leaving the tent to go do anything with anyone because I just had a recent massive falling out with my two best friends and I knew I'd be alone,and my phone was almost dead with nowhere to charge it,and I started panicking. I kept telling myself "No no no I promised myself I wouldn't do this again" and I kept repeating it until I was having a full blown panic attack in my tent. I had this moment of clarity though when I heard a sudden loud boost of a song I recognized,and I realized what was happening,and did everything I'd heard online to fet myself out of the panic attack. Still scary to think about what could've happened if I hadn't had that moment of clarity because I had started to hyperventilate
You're really lucky, my first panic attack was also at a school trip. I was alone and I started hallucinating sounds (due to short sleep), heart pounding, overthinking, crying and derealizating, I thought I was going crazy. Just when I thought I couldn't take it anymore my bff appeared, she really saved me, I hugged her instinctively. She told me I could of asked for help, but in that moment it just didn't appear on my mind with all the overthinking and panic, and if i had gone to ask help whatsoever it would've added more overthinking because all my life I had never asked help for emotional distress. :) Wish you a great life, hope nothing like that happens to you.
"It really is that easy sometimes, but It doesn't always feel like it." Accurate. My anxiety is exactly like yours, the cutting and everything. About a year ago, My mom bought almond milk because she thought I liked it, but I didn't. I much preferred dairy but I didn't say anything because What if she freaked out about it because she spent so much money on almond milk, or she thought I had somehow been lying to her? Somehow, the topic got brought up in therapy and my therapist told me to ask my mom. In my head I said "absolutely not" but I promised her I would. So after my therapy session, I got in the car and my mom said "How'd it go? "Good, but there's one thing she said I may want to ask you." "Sure! What's up?" "Um can we switch to dairy milk? I like it more than almond." "Sure, just finish the gallon we have at home, okay?" It is that easy to ask for help, or advocate how you feel. Edit: I did not think a story about me being too scared to ask for milk would get so much attention. ty!
*runs* NEVER I DON'T NEED AN EXTRA PANIC ATTACK IN MY DAYS (I get them when asking for things most of the time good thing I have gotten good at keeping it secret)
It might help from a logical standpoint to switch roles. You are your mom, you bought the milk because you thought your daughter would like it. Would you prefer to be told that she doesn't? How would you respond? Good for you for saying something. Avoidance behavior is the worst thing we can do overtime to any anxiety trigger. Small controlled steps that get bigger are the way to teach your brain that it doesn't need to be scared, because it has a plethora of experiences large and small to back it up. Logic doesn't stop anxiety, but it can help us understand how it works. Trying to treat ourselves how we would to treat others in our shoes is important in not beating ourselves up.
It may be easy for some people to ask for help or convey their emotions, ( not trying to be mean or anything in ANY way) but for me I never ask for help because I’m always wondering what people think of me and etc , all the feelings of anxiety even though I haven’t ever been diagnosed . And it takes so much work for me to ask my mom or even my grandma or anyone in my family or even anyone on the internet that is my friends for help or something like I’m thinking in my head what will they say? How will they respond ? Etc etc etc... and it just tortures my poor head with these emotions. ( sorry for sharing this, but not all anxiety is the same, and some people are just self conscious , shy people and it’s harder for them to convey stuff, like me,) thanks for listening 💜
Most annoying one is when your folks say that it's all in your head and what you're going through is just seeking attention XD I get frequent anxiety attacks, almost like panic attacks but they tend to last longer.
I felt that at a different level because I get panic attacks when a phone make that noise when someone hangs up and it's just like dun dun dun dun dun dun yeah know? Probably not this probably made no sense sorry
5:06 thank you for reminding me that relapse is a normal part of recovery, I've been binging your videos all night and it makes me feel less alone with my depression and recent diagnosies it's nice to hear someone with similar experiences
My sister has severe anxiety and gets panic attacks from the smallest things, so when I talk about my social anxiety, she tells me it’s not real and that I say I have it for attention. This really affects me and my anxiety even more and makes me really upset.
Sounds like your sister has problems of her own. But hey soon you'll learn to not let her affect you regardless of how the conversation goes. If you do the work and learn to prioritize yourself and listen to the educated opinions and advice of well-intentioned people who care about you, you will find happiness.
One person's struggles don't negate another person's struggles. Say one person was stabbed in the neck and another was stabbed in the thigh. The person with the neck wound needs the quickest attention, but that doesn't mean that the other person wasn't stabbed or isn't hurting. They're both struggling.
that’s stupid. i heard someone give some advice one day, and i feel like it’s perfect for this scenario: if someone broke their skull, but then another person broke their hand, does that mean the person who broke their hand shouldn’t go to the doctor? just because someone out there is struggling more? same applies with mental health.
My panic attacks are horrible. Your description of them was the most perfect description I’ve ever heard. Most of them are terrifying and I end up spending hours in bed, often crying, basically having the same thing you have. I don’t have any good solution for them though, other than identifying which thought processes lead to me getting in a panic, and trying to stop them before i have an attack. The worst (now second-worst) one I’ve ever had was my first. It was nearly 6 years ago and is the most horrifying thing that’s every happened to me. It was such a strong, powerful shock that it didn’t just trigger my fight or flight instincts I lost all control of what I was doing and just starting running, I couldn’t think, I couldn’t control myself, I had no clue what was going on, I just kept running, even from my own family. It took more than a hour to end and had scared me ever since because I’m always worried that it’ll happen again as almost every panic attack hits me with an overwhelming impulse to run. Unlike you I’ve never resorted to self-harm or anything like that. At least, not in the traditional of way of inflicting injuries to myself... In a way though that’s made things worse for me since there are times where I’ll get an attack so strong it makes me really suicidal just because I want it to stop, it overwhelms me with so much it feels like there’s no escape. *EDIT:* I had a really nightmarish attack last night. I felt that since this the only place I’ve really spoken about my panic attacks, I should mention it. It was honestly the most terrifying thing that has ever happened to me. It lasted 5 hours, the longest one I’ve ever had, and I just couldn’t cope with it. I was so overwhelmed with everything that I was right on the verge of ending everything just to escape from it. Luckily someone online was really kind to me and spent 3 hours talking to me until they were able to calm me down. I’m incredibly lucky. I wasn’t ever going to tell that person. But if I didn’t I wouldn’t be here, so I’m making sure I learn from the experience even though it was horrifying.
I’m sorry this keeps happening to you. I have panic attacks as well. When I’m standing, I also get the impulse to move as much as possible and sometimes it results in random runs around my block until I can barely breathe. But when I’m sitting it’s the opposite. I feel like everything is tensing up and I can’t move any part of my body including my eyelids, so I just sit there staring and spiraling for about ten minutes. I’ve never had one as long as you and I really hope I don’t, but it seems that we have slightly similar experiences so if you ever need to calm down, I could be that new person that helps you online.
Ann Burke Your panic attacks are really similar to mine, except mine are much longer. When I’m standing up, (and even lying down sometimes.) I get these intense urges to run, and run, and never stop. It’s really scary since I don’t know what I’ll end up doing. Most of the time I just end up lying in bed and panicking horribly and struggling to move or do anything. Like you do, it’s super hard to move anything while my mind spirals out of control. I can usually control my eyelids but when one’s really strong I end up forgetting to blink and I just lie there struggling to even control my eyelids. Mine generally last longer than 10 minutes, although I can get some short ones, but I also have a degree of control. In the events leading up to a panic attack I can sometimes stop it early by ending the thought process leading me into a panic, but I often don’t manage that and then for 20 minutes through to several hours I have almost no control over anything, but eventually I can pull myself out of one slightly early if I can determine what thought processes are causing the panic, and then stop them. I hope you don’t have to suffer any really long ones. They can be absolutely terrifying. Especially when you are in a bad place mentally like I have been recently, because then the panic attacks get even more extreme. I’m lucky to be here to be honest as so many of my panic attacks make me feel really suicidal... I really owe a lot to those people I’ve managed to meet online who help keep me safe during my attacks and can calm me down sometimes, since if it weren’t for them I wouldn’t be here today. I’m glad to find someone who can relate with similar experiences to me. I’ll try and remember you, and if I have another really bad one I might message you for help.
@@justanotheryoutubechannel might l recommend some channels with some beautiful music? HDsoundi for example has some good ones that are wonderful for relaxing and even daydreaming if you'd like. I realize our life experiences are vastly different but it's the best thing that comes to mind at the moment
You must have been through some rough stuff, I can't even imagine how painful it must be for that stuff to happen. It sounds like you've had it rough. It's okay, bro. I know things are easier said than done but, it's going to be okay. I've been through some stuff, illy has been through some stuff, and a lot of her subscribers might have been through some stuff, but in the end as long as you have someone to help you and support you, it'll be okay. I know it must be so frustrating to hear people tell you it's fine and it's that you worry to much ect. but stay true to your heart, and I understand that it must be extremely painful. I've been through some things and I'm still trying to get over those things, but things will get better. It'll be okay and I'm so sorry to hear that you've been through some pain. I hope you're feeling better. I support you.
I used to be like that but then you realize the people who look down on you, there random people, they don’t matter, we’re all stuck on this rock that we call earth so why care about someone out of 8 billion people. Hope this helped
Using my phone actually helps with my panic attacks because I can use it as a distraction and watch funny videos to make me laugh, or listen to relaxing music. It really sucks when parents say that its the phone, when in reality, the phone helps
Lol that’s why I left theatre. I loved the study of it but performing was so painful for me. My life is better without it. Sometimes I miss it but I feel like I’m having more self compassion when I have a creative outlet that doesn’t make me sick
I also get panic attacks, I get them a lot in gym, so I cry a lot in gym.This video helps me a lot with understanding and coping with my panic attacks.
I know that I'm late to the party, but some helpful tip that I learned, that I call "5". First, you look or think around the room your in for 5 things. Second, you have to think or find 4 things you can touch. Third, you have to listen for three sounds. Fourth, think about 2 smells you really like. And Lastly, think about one emotion you feel. The reason that it works for me is because it's something that psychologists call "Grounding". I hope this helps anyone who experiences panic attacks!
A friend used the same tactic on me when I was having a panic attack, and it was actually really soothing and helped a lot. I'd never experienced such instant relief for my anxiety before.
I remember seeing this tactic used on bojack horseman when one character has a panic attack while at a party and this guy used the tactic to calm her down.
Therapy/counseling is magic. I used to have a intense fear and anxiety of bees. Which is not a good fear to have. I barely went outside and felt an intense terror in my stomach whenever I did go outside. But then I went to go see a counsellor. He was really nice and we played a few games like uno and shaping clay. We made little clay bees and talked about it. Then when I noticed myself going outside, I didn’t feel anxious or scared. And when a bee flew by me, I thought it looked cute. Instead of running for my life!
ACatThatDoesStuff hey it’s gonna be alright just listen to some music and look at photos of your celeb crush for me I look at photos of MCR band members (specifically frank, Mikey, and Ray) they make me feel happy in my own way. Gerard on the other hand makes me act like a wild goose who hasn’t been fed for days and runs around screaming “don’t eat lemons it’s cannibalism!”
I think the worst part about a panic attack is that the symptoms stress you out even more: My heart is beating too fast, my chest hurts and I can barely breathe: I must be having a heart attack! Doesn’t matter how many times I have a panic attack I’ll always feel that way. Panic attacks also make me feel almost disconnected from the world, like I’m dying, literally.
I can whole heartedly relate, my entire life I've had panic attacks, like the ones that make you run an hide just because you sneezed in an elevator an everyone looks at you, judging you. I used to take so many Xanax a day that it wasent even funny. But now I got a service dog Amber an thanks to her I allmost don't need them anymore. She's a blessing an I only wish I had gotten a her sooner.
I get the running away thing to but i always thing that if i run away people will judge me even more so stuck with all this energy and a brain that wont let me use it.
I just realized what you meant by "Sometimes I don't deal with them well, and it leaves me with scars." Sorry you're going through this. I know what it's like, and I hope you can get through this terrible endeavor as well.
Beth Shea i remember i was in second grade and the teacher had called on me and i wasn’t expecting it and i remember i couldn’t move or breathe and my heart was literally POUNDING and i thought i was dying
So true. I straight up thought I was having a heart attack, literally couldn’t breath and went to the emergency centre just to make sure that I in fact wasn’t going to die.
When I have a panic attack I feel like a volcano has erupted in my stomach, my throat feels like it's closing up, and my head starts spinning. The first time I had a panic attack I was in third grade. It came on, slowly and breathing just got harder, and harder until I felt like I was going to die. I'm glad youtubers feel they can share these things because it makes me feel so much better about my own issues with anxiety!
This is what I was just thinking! I'm so glad the animation squad talks about this stuff. Otherwise I might not have realised I had social anxiety or even had known about it.
I have had panic attacks since 1st grade, but my first terrible one” (like one where I literally peed my pants) was in my room, when I heard a noise I thought someone had broken in and my mind I was imagining my entire family being murdered, so I just sat their very quietly sobbing like crazy, for an hour. Until my dad went looking for me and found me. I had one about every day (not always soaking the floor in urine😅🤮) but they are just absolutely terrible and it’s hard to talk about because, I don’t want people thinking I was weird and peed my pants everywhere, I don’t have them anymore but I still struggle with my mental health, some days I’ll be so tempted to stab everyone in the neck and the next I will be so floaty and light, but no matter what mood I’m in I still feel empty, I cry everyday and don’t know what’s wrong with me I just try to ignore it, don’t tell me not to I’m not gonna listen I know “your supposed to tell people” but I know for a fact if I told my parents or brother they’d get mad or laugh it off I want to talk to a therapist so I can get diagnosed with something so that people can’t just say “I’m being dramatic” I’ve always wanted to ask my parents why the heck they didn’t take me to a therapist after I literally wet my pants of terror after a noise
@@potato-phobia85yearsago27 do they have a reason? also, i don't know if this will work for you, but the way I got into therapy is i talked with my school counselar/psychologist/pedagogue and she helped me by telling my mom that i need help, maybe that'll work for you?
I get stressed out by the simplest things. Sometimes nothing. I have had plenty of panic attacks. And they can be really scary. You can’t control your body, and it’s tough. Love you illy!!!!
Gosh, the “in too deep to calm down” thing is too real. My mom loves me, but she thinks I can reason out my anxiety when I’m having an anxiety attack. She often suggests that I’m choosing to act this way and that I have to stop if I want to exist.
My body inevitably heats up to a burning degree and starts making every muscle in me shaking harshly whenever I enter a serious or emergent situation. It's physically uncontrollable so it makes it impossible to just calm down. My body does that on its own.
Okay, the belief that panic attacks are a choice is rooted in some very old (and inaccurate) data. I get this same thing, and sometimes I can rationalize my anxiety by shutting down and going completely into my mind for about ten minutes and taking with that voice in my head, but this doesn't always work. You are completely right. If this is still a problem now, explain to your mom that anxiety and panic attacks are an INVOLUNTARY response to a situation deemed dangerous by your subconscious mind. Hope I could help, and if this isn't a problem anymore, I wish you luck in managing panic attacks!
This video is incredible. Not enough people know about this, and you bringing it to light is a great thing! Also, that candle thing is backed up by psychology. Having a solution on hand, being prepared, boosts your resilience. Resilience gives you confidence, and confidence is key to overcoming anxiety. Keep up the good work!
This video imbodys me. A theatre kid with social anxiety and depression... I have never felt like there was someone so similar to me before (Me in my room at 2am making up false accusations about others think of me and being scare to face them because I said hi in a very strange pitch)
@@b.d6642 Yep, we're either loud energized extroverts who want a place to be our weird selves, or shy introverts with extreme anxiety and possibly depression looking for a temporary escape from our unpleasant reality. Take a guess which one I am.
To everyone who is going thru a rlly hard time rn: You‘re NOT alone It WILL get better U can do this! I know that it‘s hard and it sounds wayyy easier than it is. But things will get better one day. Don‘t give up. And if u feel like u can‘t deal with it without any help, try to find a therapist u feel onehundred percent comfy and chill with. Or atleast 99,9%. U can do this. I wish u the best, though i dont know you and though I’m just a random stranger. Keep going, there will always be someone who’s there for you and loves you ❤
Really needed this to remind me I’m not alone, that I don’t have to pound on my head to make the thoughts stop or hurt myself to distract me. Lately my panic attacks have really spiralled this past week, and even though I have a loving husband, I worry one day he’ll get tired of my shit, but instead he’s always there...he’s understanding and patient when I have episodes. I hope everyone who goes through this can find someone as loving and understanding during those darkest moments. Whether it be a significant other or a nice lady in the hospital. I really liked your video, thank you!
Bacon Bandito so then would you agree it’s people fault if they had a stroke? Because anxiety is definitely not anyone fault (if it was I wouldn’t be scared writing this and be done with it)
I think that a lot too. I just tell myself that they wouldn't hang out with me if they didn't like me, try talking to people about it. It may not seem like it would help but it really does. ❤️❤️❤️
i have that struggle. kids at my school decided bullying me wasn't enough and became friends with me just so they could later end the friendship and spread more rumors and people would believe them since they got to know me. So now i don't make friends anymore because i don't want to be a target again.
I have anxiety problems as well, the best thing you can do? Count out of order. Your brain can't panic and count out of order at the same time. Example, saying it out loud works best, "1, 8, 13, 2, 20, 12, 14, 6..etc" I hope that helps. Or even blurt out something crazy that has nothing to do with the situation. It makes my brain go, "...Wait, wut??" List random things that have no connection to one another. It can even be a game if you make it into one. Especially if you have a friend with you to help destress. They can go, "Favorite subject?" You can go, "I think I can lick my elbow! Wanna see?" The more stupid the better. Because if you're laughing you're not panicking. Hope it helps.
This is exactly how it goes in my head. As someone who’s been diagnosed with anxiety and depression, it’s awesome seeing how people talk about it. Thank you for bringing attention to it. Thank you showing people that anxiety isn’t just attention seeking. Thank you Illy :)
Same. He knew a lot of people in my class really didnt want to do the presentation and he said to write on the side of paper how we would rate our anxiety from 0 to 5 and *circle it*. I'm pretty sure that's the EXACT OPPOSITE thing that would help a person with anxiety.
oh i feel ya. got that before i gt diagnosed with autism now its 'everybody is unique in their own way, you dont need help just suck it up and stop pretending to be "special"'
“Just be happy” “Face your fears” “It’ll go away” People needs to understand that it is ok not to be okay sometimes and the best you can do is listen to them in my experience if they told me something like that it would make it worse because they’re not feeling what I’m feeling so please if someone you know is having an attack just let them know you’re with them and don’t say those things please
I have diagnosed anxiety but my mom is like “ oh EVERYone has anxiety but by calling it something and making it a mental illness people make it a big deal” Oh Well I’m sorry that I can’t breathe when talking at all in class. A nervous tic that I used to have was coughing. I couldn’t say a few words without having a coughing fit.
I have like hand tic where I will like fidget and shake my hand and one time I was being tutored and it was for piano and the teacher was just seeing my hands bug out like they are glitching out and I couldn't speak bc I was so nervous
The fact that this is so true, my moms like, I’m sure it’s not anxiety, it’s just the internet you have nothing to be stressed about. Everyone has anxiety it’s fine
i've only ever had one panic attack, and that was right before i went on for my third performance of whipped into shape in my school's production of legally blonde. basically, i had almost thrown up right after that number on the first night, then on the second night, i messed up w the jump rope and it messed w my head so badly (mind you i was 1 of 4 jump ropers). everyone was so supportive and sweet when i was having it and i ended up not going on for the third night. so scary bro, u feel like you're dying and it's the absolute worst!! wouldn't wish that on anyone
I'm probably diagnosed with anxiety, since I get frequent panic attacks at school I feel scared every time I want to ask for help because I feel like the teacher will get mad at me for not paying attention, even in public I feel scared that someone will lash out at me, harass me, or anything! So...I relate with this video, and I believe others like you and me relate too.. God bless, I want to eat at Chick-fil-a now .w.
I love how ur vids are relatebale, like for exsample SH, panick attacks, going to therapy and so much more! keep going and keep putting smiles on people's faces!
I didn't have the auditory questions about what others thought of me for what I considered a panic attack. It just felt like tv static and would do actions or say as much was needed to drown it out till it went away. I made my own mantras to repeat faster as needed to put it out in better form. I didn't really have people I wanted to talk to, so I enjoyed going out to browse art/craft stores and sketching by the ocean.
@@TVsMyBeloved I had an hour long panic attack a few weeks ago. I did really bad in a test and my teacher was passively aggressively shouting at me and saying that we didn’t do work on lockdown even though we did and had no support. I had to keep it in since I was at school and it felt like there was a hurricane inside me.
iTs jUsT hOmEwOrk I fucking hate people who say stuff like that Like yeah- maybe it’s just an assignment to you, but it’s a mark of self worth for me. Plus it determines where I go from here, what people think of me, how I see myself, and a whole bunch of other things People just don’t understand and they don’t try to- it’s infuriating. I know exactly where you’re coming from, you aren’t alone
I totally understand. Sometimes when I hand in an assignment I feel my heart racing and all I can think of is how the teacher thinks of me as a complete failure. Same feeling for tests and stuff like that, although I am not a bad student
Don't you hate it when your just sitting in class or anyware feeling fine then you get a random panic attack out of noware? Yea that happens to me alot
I have severe panic disorder and the panic attacks I have often escalate into meltdowns. I have been hospitalized for this multiple times. And the amount of times I have been infantilized and mocked for it is insane.
My brother littered does too I got diagnosed with social anxiety and I was having a panic attack and my brother just said “u don’t have anxiety stop oVeRrAtInG” he said I don’t have anxiety even though I got diagnosed by an actual doctor
hi guys!! i had audio issues when i first tried to upload this. thanks for coming back to watch! i hope its fixed :') check out my amazing sound editor hannah moroz in the description! shes a life saver!
Thanks to Hannah \O/
Ty for this! Ik lots of people have this issue and it’s amazing that you can help people in simple ways like this :)))
I am 100 percent of the vote
Amazing!!!!!!!!!!!💙💚💛🧡❤️💜
lol i was wondering what happened, i had notif on and when i clicked it said private 😂
No one:
Me: ***sits in my room making up scenarios and hurting my own feelings.***
Haminations that’s a little to real 😁😅😫😭
Lol
Yes
HAMONATIONS!!! Hello :))))
OMG HAMINATIONS I love your videos
This video reminded me that I hadn't lit that candle in a while and now my room is back to smelling like elderberry goodness, thank you
Emily!!! I love you!!
I love the both of you💜💜ARMY
*HUGS emily*
:3
Emirichu u r so right!🙃🤣🙂
Illymation: - gets compliment -
Also Illymation: - runs away -
This is why I prefer to talk in texts because I can spend 9 minutes for 1 message to make sure it isn't offensive or could ever possibly be seen as wrong.
Hahaha same
True unless it's discord that tells people when your texting too long. Or snapchat that shows you seen their message. 😐
@@Pinkkittie5006 what I hate even more about discord is that it only updates wether you're typing or not in 10 second intervals. this means you can go to a chat, accidentally hit x instead of alt (trying to alt-tab away, you were just checking discord really quick), and now it shows that you're typing for 10 WHOLE SECONDS AFTERWARDS, AND THEN SUDDENLY STOP. I hate it so much ;w;
thank god for tone indicators
Same
Old lady arrives: anxiety goes away
Conclusion: Carry an old lady with you at all times
That is a good wisdom
:O
I literally broke down from not smiling in an airport
oh my lord is that a great pyrenees!? My favorite dog breed
@elana playz oh I'm sorry about that 😫 anxiety is bad
I’m glad she addressed self harm, everybody makes it to be so taboo, but not talking about it just makes the issue bigger
Sun :3 it makes me so sad, when I here that kinda thing! I can’t imagine, Uch its just so sad I don’t know...
Sun :3 I came down to the comments to see if anyone noticed that.
Because *d e m o n i t i s a t i o n*
Yeah true.
it made me feel heard to hear that other people suffered as well that I wasn't alone I felt alone during my time of struggling with it and it just feels so good to finally see somebody else who went through that pain not that it's a good thing but somebody who understands my pain
This is honestly the most accurate video I've seen about social anxiety
I don't think I have social anxiety, and I don't have panic attacks, but the part of over thinking and being too worried about what other people think and thinking everyone secretly hates u was really relatable, I think that almost everytime I wanna hang out or just go and talk to someone. But it doesn't happen to me with strangers, bc I know that they probably aren't gonna see me again
There is a word for that in phycology. The imaginary audience (thank you Rebecca Parahm for bringing this to our attention) It's that feeling that people are staring at you and judging you. That's normal, especially for adolescents.
it is a milder form of social anxiety
just bc you are not shaking with fear, doesn't mean you are anxious; i for instance always manage to control my body and not let it take over me
Yeah anxiety disorders can still be present even if you don’t have “attacks,” as long as you’re anxious to the point that it makes your day feel disorderly, it’s probable that you have one.
Worrying to the point that it’s abnormal and interrupts day-to-day life or (in your case) makes social interactions straining can be a sign that you’re not a normal amount of stressy. 100% valid, anxiety attacks or not.
Same, mine’s gotten a lot better just with time, but still.. its a valid struggle. Sending strength, luck, and optional virtual hug :)
I feel like everyone hates me all the time because everyone acts like I’m either scary or background noise but what calms me down is just asking myself questions I don’t know the answers to and my full attention goes to trying to answer the question. I get angry easily and that just helps me calm down
Love how the poll with the "do you ever feel like this" is at 100% often
@Ender moon nah its broken try to vote for another answer it keeps saying 100%
innit lmao
Honestly not even suprised
*wait, so normal people don’t lay in bed for 2 hours every night wondering if that one text you sent could’ve come off as mean?*
There’s no way- how could you not?
Yep-
Me every single night
Nah no way
@@facevaluehighfive for real do-
I get terrified that my friends secretly hate me. I just think that they stay "friends" with me because they feel bad that i have no friends. I feel that they talk about me and talk about how annoying and wierd i am. So, its not just you. And, honestly im glad its not just me! :)
Same tho
Same bro
@@jaxk9060 I am so glaf it isnt just me. i mean i thought inwas insane... I AM
Honestly to know that others are feeling the same way its just a pire relif because, about 3/4 of my freinds in primary school were fake but, i have freinds. Its doesnt sound like much but it makes me happy 😂
same thing here, i just feel like im annoying my friend and i worry about what she thinks because shes really quiet.
When I was in middle school, I had this fear of heart disease. Just the idea of blood clotting in my arteries, and my heart stopping at any time (without me knowing), really terrified me as a kid.
My school was having an assembly at the gym. We were all sitting in the bleachers, and they had a presenter entertain the crowd. As the event was taking place, I was contemplating about my "vulnerable heart" getting clogged by heart disease. As a result, my chest began to tighten, my breathing was miniscule, and my arms froze in place. It felt like my entire body was shutting down, which only increased my anxiety even more. I started to hyperventilate, and wheezed uncontrollably. Everyone stared at me, and the faculty took me into the nurse's office. Whether the event was postponed because of me, I didn't know for sure.
At the nurse's office, the paramedics arrived and asked me what was wrong. In a fit of tears, I told them about my fear of heart disease, and I genuinely thought I was going to die. After they calmed me down, they explained to me that I was having a "panic attack". My body acted in self defense because my brain was in such distress. Back then, I didn't know that the mind had such a powerful effect on the human body. It was quite the eye-opening experience, let me tell you.
Nowadays, I've learned to compartmentalize my fears and anxieties by taking deep breaths, and writing them down on paper. Sometimes creativity can come from cathartic releases.
i had this same irrational fear when i was kid omgg
@@duubaduu same, i was also afraid of breaking my neck so much i grabbed my neck to avoid it being broke
I’d had something like this, but instead of heart disease, it was pretty much any fatal disease. If my arms were aching, I’d complete overshadow the idea that i just worked out, and assumed that I had a terrible muscle infection. I was indeed such a hypochondriac, and it drove everyone else around me crazy whenever I’d talk about my health concerns.
i had the fear of not waking up from sleep (and my mind came up with many thinks that could happen when im asleep) so i had serius troubles falling asleep since elementary.
my brain is still overworking at bedtime, but thanks to self studing "Falling asleep" i have it more or less under controll.
turns out me and you having the same audio issue was a blessing as ive now found an unbelievably talented animator!!!
Ahhh seapeekay! I still remember the old crazycraft 3.0 videos. (Seapeesound4lyfe)
YOOOOO I used to watch you like a mad man when I was young!!! Like when I was 8!!! It’s been 4 years
@@nexaf7140 dude youre twelve. you are still young.
Kas the Wolf yup...
Im 10
illy: *explains what a panic attack is*
Me: oh shi-
same
Yes
Sheila Bourke why is that exactly what happened to me
Same
What’s worse is when you’re not sure if you’re just having a panic attack or a panic induced heart attack XD
To all those who get really quiet, or bounce their legs, or have silent freakouts. Just because your anxiety isn't visible to most, doesn't make your pain any less real. You are valid. You deserve help, happiness, and more.
Thank you :)
thank you!! :))
thank you so much!
thank you :)
Thanks, I feel that way because when I tell people about it there like “You’re just over reacting”
One time when I was venting to a friend about my social anxiety and insecurities they said that I should grow up and it’s all in my head and that I’m a selfish drama queen that seeks attention
I really can’t control having emotional outbursts or panic attacks and my friend said “what about my feelings? Why can’t you think about the people around you that have to deal with your problems? The world doesn’t revolve around you.”
It hurts when you’re accused of being selfish for having actual feelings and insecurities you’re sensitive about/can’t control 😢
Dang, I’m sorry you received that response. Just know that you’re understood here, and we can all pull through this!
@@BlueSun57 It's alright haha thank you so much you're really kind! God bless you 🤗
When you sniffed that candle it’s actually a coping mechanism. I was taught it when I went in for therapy. I called it the 5 senses so like you find 5 things you see 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste. Personally I found that really good at helping me stay distracted
Aryn Elias underrated comment!
@@Kelzlps agreed
Yeah I learned about it today it’s called aromatherapy
I haven't been to therapy or diagnosed with anything but large groups of people and social settings tend to be a problem for me. I don't wear much jewelry but I've started to get in the habit of wearing a particular heart shaped necklace with raised bumps and whenever a situation is becoming too much for me I hold and feel the necklace and focus on my breathing. I've occasionally found myself reaching for the necklace on the rare day I'm not wearing it.
Crisis text line does the same thing except it says “Say one thing good about yourself”
by 2 minutes literally everything is relatable asf omg
those are exactly my thoughts tbh
Emiliono Kanalas i don’t know if illy herself went through this, but the bloody napkins were referencing self-harm
Aetheria Uraraka!
"dude, what are you ON?"
"candles."
Lol
Lol no one cares🤣🤣🤣
@@Asygn1134 you're just spamming that everywhere ._.
😂😂😂
@@Asygn1134 don't say rude and harmful things to others like 'no one cares' or other things like that, mostly because these are years where anyone's mental state can be anywhere from really great to falling apart
I just had one of my worse anxiety attacks a few days ago. I was crying, couldn't breathe, couldn't speak, and threw up multiple times. Hearing you talk about this was like looking into a mirror. I have these thoughts all the time and it is an endless struggle. I'm on anxiety meds which are helping a ton. I'm doing better with my anxiety, but it's still an uphill battle. I am in a new place right now so to cope I'm taking my copy of The Lost Heir everywhere with me. I have my squishmallows to cuddle with. I hate being like this. Also She-Ra and The Princesses of Power is my favorite show of all time. This video made me feel less alone. You've changed someone's life by making this video, you've changed my life. Thank you.
"You're just lazy."
"Oh yeah. I get nervous too."
"Don't worry, it'll go away."
"Just cheer up, life is good."
"Face your fears."
These are only SOME of the things a person with an anxiety disorder has to hear. I know that they mean well... just... it doesn't help. Please keep in mind that this person does not CHOOSE to live this way. Don't say this stuff cause it just makes that person feel worse.
i completely agree.. but if a person i care about is having an anxiety attack
*what do i say?* pls help
@@breyanna6951 Just being understanding, compassionate, and letting them breathe. Also don't be pushy about someone that has anxiety to do something they feel anxiety about. As it can cause anxiety before anxiety even occurs. Just tell the person you're there for them and don't judge them. It's the simple things to help in life that really matter.
@@breyanna6951 I have been struggling with anxiety and panic attacks for 20+ years. Just be there!!!
@@noahkinard8569 Well said 😍
One of the best things you can say from someone who deals with anxiety (GAD) you aren't alone I am right there with you.
If stuff like this happens to me, I just think “everyone forgets everything when they go to sleep, and if they still remember after that, then they at least got a good story to tell their friends”
Exact same. It really helps me. I know that no stranger will remember my actions unless something absolutely crazy happens
Biggest threat of 2019: candle dealers in an alley...
@@elifsu2951 lol xD
I wanna become a candle dealer now.
"Hey. You got the stuff?..."
@ yeah I got the stuff.
im currently having a panic attack rn and i started watched this to help me feel better, n when that old lady said “here let me help u :)” i just started crying? idk its just the fact that when u think somebody is gonna get mad n then they’re not is so stress relieving to me. even if its not even my situation
Most of my panic attacks are brought on by overstimulation, like a noise that's *just* quiet or inconsistent enough that I can't tune it out. First I get irrationally angry, then It makes my hands shake, I get cold sweats, i can't breathe, I usually start crying.
Having something textured to touch (I prefer my cat or a silicone brush), music, and something to smell or taste helps a lot
Same
i also have ones simlilar to yours, but it takes a bit more for me, like loud noises with people being crazy and me being ignored. i don't seek attention but I like can't live in loud places without someone being with me reassuring me I'm fine:0. but yeah the same things haooen like sweaty hands you know the rest. ( I don't mean to sound rude sorry if I do)
@@bunnylifestory9754 pLms sweaty, mom's spaghetti, story of my like man 😔
that sounds like sensory overload, it usually affects people with autism I think, but idk, Google it maybe
i deal with the same kind of stuff
I remember a few months back when I was having a panic attack -
It infuriates me that the school nurse took my *temperature* , said I wasn't on the floor shaking either so I was fine and faking it and that "it's offensive to people who do have panic attacks."
I’m so sorry. It’s uneducated people like that who are actually invalidating people who suffer from panic and anxiety disorders. That really sucks and you deserve so much better.
That makes my blood boil
I’m so sorry about they shouldn’t be a school nurse 😩
thats messed up, im so sorry that had to happen
this makes me so mad I feel rly bad for you 😭😭
lady: “you know you could have asked me for help”
Illy: “...”
Lady: “here let me help you”
My eyes: * TEARS *
Offly AnimeObsession IKR
Right!? I felt that!!
That might ironically have set me into an even worse panic attack (because I have some ridiculously high moral standards...blame my fundie upbringing).
R E S O N A T E
Same. It caught me so off guard when my eyes started watering
Wtf
illy, i don't know if you'll ever see this.. but its worth a shot. you got me through some stuff... i find you inspiring, like a wise elder sister from half way across the frikin world. but this video got me crying.. it gave me horrible flash backs. and since i feel like a burden to EVERYONE i know, im telling this to a random comments section.
once again, thank you illy
and the random person reading this
Illy might not read this but I did. I know the feeling, trust me you’re not a burden but I also know its hard to see that but I’m rooting for you.
Imagine if your best friend told you that they think they're a burden. What would you say to them? Tell the same thing to yourself. I know it's not easy, I struggle with the same thing, but I hope this helps anyways
A thing that really helps when it comes about being judged in public is that I have to remember [as long as it's a stranger] you just have to remember: Your NEVER gonna see that person again in your life most likely. I started to do that a few weeks ago and even though I'm just a stranger online, it *W* *O* *R K* *S* .
The corollary: every stranger who glances in your general direction for even a moment, recognises you from a video of you making fun of your appearance which has been created and gone viral without your knowledge. You will never be able to live a normal life again because literally everyone in the world will recognise you and will laugh in your face. In fact, you are such a meme that people have started making up false stories about you. You can't even relax at home because every car door or voice that you hear from outside is actually somebody coming to storm your house and drag you out into the street. If you try to grow a beard or cut your hair or whatever to be less recognisable, then your parents will worry about you and decide you are secretly gay, but were unable to come out to them, and they will blame themselves and die of shame and/or guilt.
It's hard to do but I like the idea. Good on you.
for me, i like to think of myself as a little side character! like i'm just there, in the background. if i do something stupid, oh well! im just a silly little side character in the end. for me, it works really well and helped me overcome my fear of accidentally doing something embarrassing :)
i do that, but most of the time it *is* someone that i will see again, and someone whose opinion matters, so it doesn’t work too much
Me: has a panic attack
People: don’t panic
Me: what an idea why didn’t I think of that
omg ikr genius ;-;
I read that in an adrenaline rushed motor mouth voice
My mum shouts at me and tells my to just calm down even though I can't and then I get grounded because apparently I was "stressing her out" and then I sit in my room crying for the next hour .-.
It's literally like that when people tell me not to be depressed like "WHAT DO YOU THINK, IT'S A SWITCH? NO."
*Dying*
People: *LIVE LIVE*
WHAT AN IDEA WHY DIDN'T I THINK OF THAT?
Me: I don't freak out while presenting my presentation
Anexity: *I gonna end this man's whole career*
Fr
*AAaAaAaAaAAAaaaAAAAaAAhHhHhHHHhHhHhhhH*
*anexity*
*anexity*
Omg I spelled it wrong lol
Edit:Oh well
The first time I ever had a panic attack was on an overnight school trip. I was staying in a tent with some girls who I was sort of friendly with but we weren't friends, while everyone else was out hanging out at the 'party'.
I was so scared of leaving the tent to go do anything with anyone because I just had a recent massive falling out with my two best friends and I knew I'd be alone,and my phone was almost dead with nowhere to charge it,and I started panicking.
I kept telling myself "No no no I promised myself I wouldn't do this again" and I kept repeating it until I was having a full blown panic attack in my tent.
I had this moment of clarity though when I heard a sudden loud boost of a song I recognized,and I realized what was happening,and did everything I'd heard online to fet myself out of the panic attack.
Still scary to think about what could've happened if I hadn't had that moment of clarity because I had started to hyperventilate
You're really lucky, my first panic attack was also at a school trip.
I was alone and I started hallucinating sounds (due to short sleep), heart pounding, overthinking, crying and derealizating, I thought I was going crazy. Just when I thought I couldn't take it anymore my bff appeared, she really saved me, I hugged her instinctively.
She told me I could of asked for help, but in that moment it just didn't appear on my mind with all the overthinking and panic, and if i had gone to ask help whatsoever it would've added more overthinking because all my life I had never asked help for emotional distress. :)
Wish you a great life, hope nothing like that happens to you.
@@Knunuewow, i wish to have a bff like that some day. r u still friends?
@@linz.aesthetics yea :D
"It really is that easy sometimes, but It doesn't always feel like it."
Accurate. My anxiety is exactly like yours, the cutting and everything.
About a year ago, My mom bought almond milk because she thought I liked it, but I didn't. I much preferred dairy but I didn't say anything because What if she freaked out about it because she spent so much money on almond milk, or she thought I had somehow been lying to her? Somehow, the topic got brought up in therapy and my therapist told me to ask my mom. In my head I said "absolutely not" but I promised her I would.
So after my therapy session, I got in the car and my mom said "How'd it go?
"Good, but there's one thing she said I may want to ask you."
"Sure! What's up?"
"Um can we switch to dairy milk? I like it more than almond."
"Sure, just finish the gallon we have at home, okay?"
It is that easy to ask for help, or advocate how you feel.
Edit: I did not think a story about me being too scared to ask for milk would get so much attention. ty!
*runs* NEVER I DON'T NEED AN EXTRA PANIC ATTACK IN MY DAYS (I get them when asking for things most of the time good thing I have gotten good at keeping it secret)
That's something that happens often to me
It might help from a logical standpoint to switch roles. You are your mom, you bought the milk because you thought your daughter would like it. Would you prefer to be told that she doesn't? How would you respond?
Good for you for saying something. Avoidance behavior is the worst thing we can do overtime to any anxiety trigger. Small controlled steps that get bigger are the way to teach your brain that it doesn't need to be scared, because it has a plethora of experiences large and small to back it up. Logic doesn't stop anxiety, but it can help us understand how it works. Trying to treat ourselves how we would to treat others in our shoes is important in not beating ourselves up.
It may be easy for some people to ask for help or convey their emotions, ( not trying to be mean or anything in ANY way) but for me I never ask for help because I’m always wondering what people think of me and etc , all the feelings of anxiety even though I haven’t ever been diagnosed . And it takes so much work for me to ask my mom or even my grandma or anyone in my family or even anyone on the internet that is my friends for help or something like I’m thinking in my head what will they say? How will they respond ? Etc etc etc... and it just tortures my poor head with these emotions. ( sorry for sharing this, but not all anxiety is the same, and some people are just self conscious , shy people and it’s harder for them to convey stuff, like me,) thanks for listening 💜
I have the same sort of anxiety is a lot like yours but I hit myself instead of cutting myself
No one:
Me: *what if what if what if what if wHAT IF WHAT IF W H A T I F*
Ssssssaaaaammmmeee here
YEP 😢
Anis Ayuna me too
ME TOO :(
No one? More like everyone. Absolutely everyone.
Me having a panic attack: *almost dying*
My mom:it's all because of that phone.
Felt my face shrivel when I read that
Most annoying one is when your folks say that it's all in your head and what you're going through is just seeking attention XD I get frequent anxiety attacks, almost like panic attacks but they tend to last longer.
Itz Popplio omg samee
I’ll help hide the body
I felt that at a different level because I get panic attacks when a phone make that noise when someone hangs up and it's just like dun dun dun dun dun dun yeah know? Probably not this probably made no sense sorry
5:06 thank you for reminding me that relapse is a normal part of recovery, I've been binging your videos all night and it makes me feel less alone with my depression and recent diagnosies it's nice to hear someone with similar experiences
My sister has severe anxiety and gets panic attacks from the smallest things, so when I talk about my social anxiety, she tells me it’s not real and that I say I have it for attention. This really affects me and my anxiety even more and makes me really upset.
Sounds like your sister has problems of her own. But hey soon you'll learn to not let her affect you regardless of how the conversation goes. If you do the work and learn to prioritize yourself and listen to the educated opinions and advice of well-intentioned people who care about you, you will find happiness.
One person's struggles don't negate another person's struggles. Say one person was stabbed in the neck and another was stabbed in the thigh. The person with the neck wound needs the quickest attention, but that doesn't mean that the other person wasn't stabbed or isn't hurting. They're both struggling.
I looked it up and apparently anxiety is genetic! Also your struggles are valid, it shouldn't be a competition of who has more panic attacks!
I feel bad for you
that’s stupid. i heard someone give some advice one day, and i feel like it’s perfect for this scenario:
if someone broke their skull, but then another person broke their hand, does that mean the person who broke their hand shouldn’t go to the doctor? just because someone out there is struggling more? same applies with mental health.
My panic attacks are horrible. Your description of them was the most perfect description I’ve ever heard. Most of them are terrifying and I end up spending hours in bed, often crying, basically having the same thing you have. I don’t have any good solution for them though, other than identifying which thought processes lead to me getting in a panic, and trying to stop them before i have an attack.
The worst (now second-worst) one I’ve ever had was my first. It was nearly 6 years ago and is the most horrifying thing that’s every happened to me. It was such a strong, powerful shock that it didn’t just trigger my fight or flight instincts I lost all control of what I was doing and just starting running, I couldn’t think, I couldn’t control myself, I had no clue what was going on, I just kept running, even from my own family. It took more than a hour to end and had scared me ever since because I’m always worried that it’ll happen again as almost every panic attack hits me with an overwhelming impulse to run.
Unlike you I’ve never resorted to self-harm or anything like that. At least, not in the traditional of way of inflicting injuries to myself... In a way though that’s made things worse for me since there are times where I’ll get an attack so strong it makes me really suicidal just because I want it to stop, it overwhelms me with so much it feels like there’s no escape.
*EDIT:* I had a really nightmarish attack last night. I felt that since this the only place I’ve really spoken about my panic attacks, I should mention it. It was honestly the most terrifying thing that has ever happened to me. It lasted 5 hours, the longest one I’ve ever had, and I just couldn’t cope with it. I was so overwhelmed with everything that I was right on the verge of ending everything just to escape from it. Luckily someone online was really kind to me and spent 3 hours talking to me until they were able to calm me down.
I’m incredibly lucky. I wasn’t ever going to tell that person. But if I didn’t I wouldn’t be here, so I’m making sure I learn from the experience even though it was horrifying.
I’m sorry this keeps happening to you. I have panic attacks as well. When I’m standing, I also get the impulse to move as much as possible and sometimes it results in random runs around my block until I can barely breathe. But when I’m sitting it’s the opposite. I feel like everything is tensing up and I can’t move any part of my body including my eyelids, so I just sit there staring and spiraling for about ten minutes. I’ve never had one as long as you and I really hope I don’t, but it seems that we have slightly similar experiences so if you ever need to calm down, I could be that new person that helps you online.
Ann Burke Your panic attacks are really similar to mine, except mine are much longer. When I’m standing up, (and even lying down sometimes.) I get these intense urges to run, and run, and never stop. It’s really scary since I don’t know what I’ll end up doing. Most of the time I just end up lying in bed and panicking horribly and struggling to move or do anything. Like you do, it’s super hard to move anything while my mind spirals out of control. I can usually control my eyelids but when one’s really strong I end up forgetting to blink and I just lie there struggling to even control my eyelids.
Mine generally last longer than 10 minutes, although I can get some short ones, but I also have a degree of control. In the events leading up to a panic attack I can sometimes stop it early by ending the thought process leading me into a panic, but I often don’t manage that and then for 20 minutes through to several hours I have almost no control over anything, but eventually I can pull myself out of one slightly early if I can determine what thought processes are causing the panic, and then stop them.
I hope you don’t have to suffer any really long ones. They can be absolutely terrifying. Especially when you are in a bad place mentally like I have been recently, because then the panic attacks get even more extreme. I’m lucky to be here to be honest as so many of my panic attacks make me feel really suicidal... I really owe a lot to those people I’ve managed to meet online who help keep me safe during my attacks and can calm me down sometimes, since if it weren’t for them I wouldn’t be here today.
I’m glad to find someone who can relate with similar experiences to me. I’ll try and remember you, and if I have another really bad one I might message you for help.
Just Another UA-cam Channel I can only imagine what that must feel like. I’m her in you need me. 😔
@@justanotheryoutubechannel might l recommend some channels with some beautiful music? HDsoundi for example has some good ones that are wonderful for relaxing and even daydreaming if you'd like. I realize our life experiences are vastly different but it's the best thing that comes to mind at the moment
You must have been through some rough stuff, I can't even imagine how painful it must be for that stuff to happen. It sounds like you've had it rough. It's okay, bro. I know things are easier said than done but, it's going to be okay. I've been through some stuff, illy has been through some stuff, and a lot of her subscribers might have been through some stuff, but in the end as long as you have someone to help you and support you, it'll be okay. I know it must be so frustrating to hear people tell you it's fine and it's that you worry to much ect. but stay true to your heart, and I understand that it must be extremely painful. I've been through some things and I'm still trying to get over those things, but things will get better. It'll be okay and I'm so sorry to hear that you've been through some pain. I hope you're feeling better. I support you.
Wait is everyone not scared of being judged, rejected, and upsetting people
Yeah I thought the same thing
I think I have anxiety
@@adeola_63 yeah I do too, and before people say anything that’s not my only reason
I am
Lol I thought the same things, I thought everyone worried what others thought
I used to be like that but then you realize the people who look down on you, there random people, they don’t matter, we’re all stuck on this rock that we call earth so why care about someone out of 8 billion people. Hope this helped
I’m finding this video 3 years later and I have recently been diagnosed with anxiety. This is nice to know that someone feels the same as me.
Me: *having a panic attack*
My mom: _its that damn phone_
I relate to this to much
Yes let us blame the phone that our own moms even use
THIS IS SO TRUE. “ITS BECAUSE OF YOUR PHONE” But it’s NOT. ;n;
Using my phone actually helps with my panic attacks because I can use it as a distraction and watch funny videos to make me laugh, or listen to relaxing music. It really sucks when parents say that its the phone, when in reality, the phone helps
Hahahahaha that’s true
Candle: *Exists*
Illy: *s n i f f*
OH YEAH DATS THE GUD STUFF RIGHT DERE!
This video is how I realised that scented essential oils help me cope with my panic attacks! Thank you illymation 💕
Illy: *talks about really depressing stuff and her worrying about too many things*
Music in the background: we g r o o v i n'
Lol
Always groovin cause we gotta keep the mood good
@@stevenuniversefan108 grooovy~
@@stevenuniversefan108 grOoOovy
@@aestheticariii GROOOOOVY!
That “what if” part just hit different. Actually, hell the whole video just hit different.
Me: has extreme social anxiety and stage fright
Also me: joins theater
the theater technicians are all the socially awkward kids that can't act
I'm proud you got out of your comfort zone!
that would help, i wish i had the courage to do it :')
Lol that’s why I left theatre. I loved the study of it but performing was so painful for me. My life is better without it. Sometimes I miss it but I feel like I’m having more self compassion when I have a creative outlet that doesn’t make me sick
Theater has helped me a lot with getting my self esteem back. You got this!
I also get panic attacks, I get them a lot in gym, so I cry a lot in gym.This video helps me a lot with understanding and coping with my panic attacks.
Illy: *likes the smell of eucalyptus*
Me who lives in Australia: ............ OH HONEY
is eucalyptus the fire trees?
Where I live you just smell and feel cold air that's probably 22 degrees and that's probably why,I'm sick xD
I have a bunch of eucalyptus trees just outside my house.
YESSSS XD
Ha, relatable
“Something that smells nice for when you’re anxious”
My Ansomia: Hah, you thought there was a way to HELP your stress?!
Same
HaH yeah same
Hi
Oh yeah. Insomnia probably is the worst thing ever(it is).
@@taisdrills hence Faithless wants it to release him.
I know that I'm late to the party, but some helpful tip that I learned, that I call "5".
First, you look or think around the room your in for 5 things.
Second, you have to think or find 4 things you can touch.
Third, you have to listen for three sounds.
Fourth, think about 2 smells you really like.
And Lastly, think about one emotion you feel.
The reason that it works for me is because it's something that psychologists call "Grounding".
I hope this helps anyone who experiences panic attacks!
A friend used the same tactic on me when I was having a panic attack, and it was actually really soothing and helped a lot. I'd never experienced such instant relief for my anxiety before.
it's not think it's TASTE, you do not want to think when ur spiraling into anxious oblivion !!
thank you so much
thats like the uh 3-3-3 rule right? i tried it once it helped me calm down just a tiny bit-
I remember seeing this tactic used on bojack horseman when one character has a panic attack while at a party and this guy used the tactic to calm her down.
Therapy/counseling is magic.
I used to have a intense fear and anxiety of bees. Which is not a good fear to have. I barely went outside and felt an intense terror in my stomach whenever I did go outside. But then I went to go see a counsellor. He was really nice and we played a few games like uno and shaping clay. We made little clay bees and talked about it. Then when I noticed myself going outside, I didn’t feel anxious or scared. And when a bee flew by me, I thought it looked cute. Instead of running for my life!
"I need a Lexapro Susan, and a ladder" same Illy, same, that Lexapro is all that keeps me sane.
“Panic Attacks”
Me: Walking in school and going anywhere without someone with me to keep me calm
I had a random panic attack walking to school-
Cookie World I feel ya
Wish me luck I'm going to school tommarow and my only friend won't be there. Help
ACatThatDoesStuff hey it’s gonna be alright just listen to some music and look at photos of your celeb crush for me I look at photos of MCR band members (specifically frank, Mikey, and Ray) they make me feel happy in my own way. Gerard on the other hand makes me act like a wild goose who hasn’t been fed for days and runs around screaming “don’t eat lemons it’s cannibalism!”
Title: Panic attack
Me: E N G I N E E R I N T E N S F I E S
What..?
Engineering intensefies*
DO I PUT THE DISPENSER HERE OR THERE?!
just some dude SENTRY DOWN, SENTRY DOWN!!!!!!!!
Scout: WHY DID YOU PUT A DISPENSER THERE
I think the worst part about a panic attack is that the symptoms stress you out even more:
My heart is beating too fast, my chest hurts and I can barely breathe: I must be having a heart attack!
Doesn’t matter how many times I have a panic attack I’ll always feel that way. Panic attacks also make me feel almost disconnected from the world, like I’m dying, literally.
Title: *panic attacks*
Me: time to understand my freinds so that they won’t die
And myself
I can whole heartedly relate, my entire life I've had panic attacks, like the ones that make you run an hide just because you sneezed in an elevator an everyone looks at you, judging you. I used to take so many Xanax a day that it wasent even funny. But now I got a service dog Amber an thanks to her I allmost don't need them anymore. She's a blessing an I only wish I had gotten a her sooner.
I get the running away thing to but i always thing that if i run away people will judge me even more so stuck with all this energy and a brain that wont let me use it.
I just realized what you meant by "Sometimes I don't deal with them well, and it leaves me with scars." Sorry you're going through this. I know what it's like, and I hope you can get through this terrible endeavor as well.
I was confused too until I saw the tissues and was hit like a truck. This girl is just a clone of me fr
@@uranian-Umbra Im still confused...
“If you feel stressed out just like... don’t.”
-Every unhelpful person ever
I mean... Its true
It just makes it 10x worst 😭
On this very channel you might find a useful video to help you with that kind of people!
lol
Ouch
everyone’s first panic attack was definitely the most traumatic
edit: i love all of you and thx for everyone supporting everyone❤️❤️❤️
Definitely!!
Beth Shea i remember i was in second grade and the teacher had called on me and i wasn’t expecting it and i remember i couldn’t move or breathe and my heart was literally POUNDING and i thought i was dying
Samara Padgham swear
@@samarapadgham9168 oh yeah
So true. I straight up thought I was having a heart attack, literally couldn’t breath and went to the emergency centre just to make sure that I in fact wasn’t going to die.
When I have a panic attack I feel like a volcano has erupted in my stomach, my throat feels like it's closing up, and my head starts spinning. The first time I had a panic attack I was in third grade. It came on, slowly and breathing just got harder, and harder until I felt like I was going to die.
I'm glad youtubers feel they can share these things because it makes me feel so much better about my own issues with anxiety!
This is what I was just thinking! I'm so glad the animation squad talks about this stuff. Otherwise I might not have realised I had social anxiety or even had known about it.
That's so sad! 3rd graders should definitely not go through that stuff. I'm sorry this happened to you
My first panic attack happened in 6th grade
I have had panic attacks since 1st grade, but my first terrible one” (like one where I literally peed my pants) was in my room, when I heard a noise I thought someone had broken in and my mind I was imagining my entire family being murdered, so I just sat their very quietly sobbing like crazy, for an hour. Until my dad went looking for me and found me. I had one about every day (not always soaking the floor in urine😅🤮) but they are just absolutely terrible and it’s hard to talk about because, I don’t want people thinking I was weird and peed my pants everywhere, I don’t have them anymore but I still struggle with my mental health, some days I’ll be so tempted to stab everyone in the neck and the next I will be so floaty and light, but no matter what mood I’m in I still feel empty, I cry everyday and don’t know what’s wrong with me I just try to ignore it, don’t tell me not to I’m not gonna listen I know “your supposed to tell people” but I know for a fact if I told my parents or brother they’d get mad or laugh it off I want to talk to a therapist so I can get diagnosed with something so that people can’t just say “I’m being dramatic” I’ve always wanted to ask my parents why the heck they didn’t take me to a therapist after I literally wet my pants of terror after a noise
@@potato-phobia85yearsago27 do they have a reason? also, i don't know if this will work for you, but the way I got into therapy is i talked with my school counselar/psychologist/pedagogue and she helped me by telling my mom that i need help, maybe that'll work for you?
I get stressed out by the simplest things. Sometimes nothing. I have had plenty of panic attacks. And they can be really scary. You can’t control your body, and it’s tough. Love you illy!!!!
"That is the good stuff. I gotta get more."
Ad pops up: "stop vaping!"
Oop lol
Omg I get so many of those ads for no reason
Me: ^was just eating waffles and I wanted more*
Same
@@noakatie wtf do you mean
*me ready to talk to my mom after crying for 10 hours*
Mom: Hi-
*Proceeds to flood house with tears*
Me: >holding back tears
Other person: hey, are you doing okay?
Me: oh boy here we go TT-TT
Same!
Undefined Error Gosh this is so true. Sometimes people asking me if I’m okay while I’m holding back tears causes me to cry.
Same here! Nice profile picture
Hi kirishima i hope youre doing ok :)
Gosh, the “in too deep to calm down” thing is too real. My mom loves me, but she thinks I can reason out my anxiety when I’m having an anxiety attack. She often suggests that I’m choosing to act this way and that I have to stop if I want to exist.
Same thing!
I don't think she understands how anxiety works and she thinks that I can just control it.
My body inevitably heats up to a burning degree and starts making every muscle in me shaking harshly whenever I enter a serious or emergent situation. It's physically uncontrollable so it makes it impossible to just calm down. My body does that on its own.
Okay, the belief that panic attacks are a choice is rooted in some very old (and inaccurate) data. I get this same thing, and sometimes I can rationalize my anxiety by shutting down and going completely into my mind for about ten minutes and taking with that voice in my head, but this doesn't always work. You are completely right. If this is still a problem now, explain to your mom that anxiety and panic attacks are an INVOLUNTARY response to a situation deemed dangerous by your subconscious mind. Hope I could help, and if this isn't a problem anymore, I wish you luck in managing panic attacks!
This video is incredible. Not enough people know about this, and you bringing it to light is a great thing! Also, that candle thing is backed up by psychology. Having a solution on hand, being prepared, boosts your resilience. Resilience gives you confidence, and confidence is key to overcoming anxiety. Keep up the good work!
This video imbodys me. A theatre kid with social anxiety and depression... I have never felt like there was someone so similar to me before
(Me in my room at 2am making up false accusations about others think of me and being scare to face them because I said hi in a very strange pitch)
Same...
Is there a chance I'm a clone of you? I'm also a theatre kid with depression and anxiety.
I guess theatre is just full of people with anxiety
@@b.d6642 I'm also a clone, then.
@@b.d6642 Yep, we're either loud energized extroverts who want a place to be our weird selves, or shy introverts with extreme anxiety and possibly depression looking for a temporary escape from our unpleasant reality.
Take a guess which one I am.
I think we’re the same person. Literally me.
Me dying from crippling anxiety
Dad: MORE WATER
Water helps me because I don't have to talk to people when I'm drinking water lol
So true I thought my dad was the only one who did that
Headache: Water
Stomach: Water
Body: Water
Mental stuff: Water
DYING: Water
Mom: just be more social! It will deminish if you do that!
This one.. this is the one
Cakey UwU
School nurse: pUt SoMe IcE oN iT
When the “I don’t have anxiety” section of the poll is so small
Me: o o f
People who don't have social anxiety are usually busy socializing instead of watching UA-cam
I felt bad for saying no even if its true
I'd say most people feel anxious. But dont have anxiety? Mainly because most self diagnos.
They’re all a bunch of 12 year old girls who think that they have anxiety and self diagnose themselves because they feel nervous sometimes.
@@LiamS1947 yeah. It bothers me a lot. Especially since I have been diagnosed by a doctor that I had anxiety.
To everyone who is going thru a rlly hard time rn:
You‘re NOT alone
It WILL get better
U can do this!
I know that it‘s hard and it sounds wayyy easier than it is. But things will get better one day. Don‘t give up. And if u feel like u can‘t deal with it without any help, try to find a therapist u feel onehundred percent comfy and chill with. Or atleast 99,9%. U can do this. I wish u the best, though i dont know you and though I’m just a random stranger. Keep going, there will always be someone who’s there for you and loves you ❤
Thank you ❤
Really needed this to remind me I’m not alone, that I don’t have to pound on my head to make the thoughts stop or hurt myself to distract me. Lately my panic attacks have really spiralled this past week, and even though I have a loving husband, I worry one day he’ll get tired of my shit, but instead he’s always there...he’s understanding and patient when I have episodes. I hope everyone who goes through this can find someone as loving and understanding during those darkest moments. Whether it be a significant other or a nice lady in the hospital. I really liked your video, thank you!
Me: **gets anxiety**
My friends: "whY U GeT So ScaRed FoR EVerYthinG?"
Easy fix: *Become a hermit because these friends don’t sound so good*
Bacon Bandito bro stop :/
Bacon Bandito You shouldn’t say that. It’s not their fault they have anxiety
Bacon Bandito so then would you agree it’s people fault if they had a stroke? Because anxiety is definitely not anyone fault (if it was I wouldn’t be scared writing this and be done with it)
I don’t think they are friends then... just sayin just sayin
Ok but did everyone notice that “inmate: 420” 🤣
Yeap
Joshua Sanchez yes
And loss
And that math problem
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Thank you, I really needed this. I struggle with social anxiety all the time so thanks for reminding me that I’m not alone.
My “what if” is what if none of my friends really like me and they are all just so nice and I’m so mean that they just pretend that they are my friend
I think that a lot too. I just tell myself that they wouldn't hang out with me if they didn't like me, try talking to people about it. It may not seem like it would help but it really does. ❤️❤️❤️
i have that struggle. kids at my school decided bullying me wasn't enough and became friends with me just so they could later end the friendship and spread more rumors and people would believe them since they got to know me. So now i don't make friends anymore because i don't want to be a target again.
DogDad 2008 STOP STOP NO I KNOW THEY LIKE
I feel u, sadly that came true to me two years ago now I quit talking to anyone (unless I'm forced to) except if I rlly know them well
Same! And what made me think this, is my mom. She told me I had no friends because I was mean... And... I.... Uggghhhh
"Really young for her age"
Me: *Confused internal screaming*
I worry about it sometimes. I'm on the edge of 40 and people still call me "kid".
@The Happy Cajun LOL, not at all.
Friendly Neighborhood Jesus Freak yeah my almost forty year old mother was ID’d at a beer store recently.
Most places around here have a 100% proof policy, so I'd get proofed even if I didn't have a major case of babyface.
OMG dis coment has 333 likes...is beatiful
Me: yeah I've never had a panic attack so...
*watches this as someone who also has social anxiety and experiences this often*
Me: ....OH.
Same
iamaplatypus 1234 yeah I’ve tried that method before and it sometimes helps actually, thanks!
Same omg
I have anxiety problems as well, the best thing you can do? Count out of order. Your brain can't panic and count out of order at the same time.
Example, saying it out loud works best, "1, 8, 13, 2, 20, 12, 14, 6..etc"
I hope that helps. Or even blurt out something crazy that has nothing to do with the situation. It makes my brain go, "...Wait, wut??"
List random things that have no connection to one another. It can even be a game if you make it into one. Especially if you have a friend with you to help destress. They can go, "Favorite subject?" You can go, "I think I can lick my elbow! Wanna see?" The more stupid the better. Because if you're laughing you're not panicking.
Hope it helps.
Kawaii Chan Tysm, I’ll definitely try it!
This makes me feel so validated as someone with anxiety/panic attacks!! Thank you!!
This is exactly how it goes in my head. As someone who’s been diagnosed with anxiety and depression, it’s awesome seeing how people talk about it. Thank you for bringing attention to it. Thank you showing people that anxiety isn’t just attention seeking. Thank you Illy :)
Me: has anxiety.
My mom: "when I was your age..."
wHEn i WaS yOuR aGe wE diDn'T hAve AnXiEty wE JuSt sUcKEd iT uP
yes a common story
The good old days of beat up some other kid if you're anxious. Or beat up your kids if you're an adult. Or just drink a lot.
MultiFandom
Someone: “wHeN I wAs yOuR aGe”
Me: Oak Hay Boo Mer
Me: OK BOOMER
ok boom booms.....
me: **has cripplingly bad anxiety**
my ex-teacher: **everyone gets nervous sometimes uwu**
Same. He knew a lot of people in my class really didnt want to do the presentation and he said to write on the side of paper how we would rate our anxiety from 0 to 5 and *circle it*. I'm pretty sure that's the EXACT OPPOSITE thing that would help a person with anxiety.
oh i feel ya. got that before i gt diagnosed with autism now its 'everybody is unique in their own way, you dont need help just suck it up and stop pretending to be "special"'
Ugh ikr you don’t understand how many time’s I get that
Oof! I hate that!
Me: *has anxiety*
My friends: yeah, I get nervous before tests too.
My panic attacks just pop up in the middle of the night and I just feel scared of nothing and sometimes it can happen multiple times a night
“Just be happy”
“Face your fears”
“It’ll go away”
People needs to understand that it is ok not to be okay sometimes and the best you can do is listen to them in my experience if they told me something like that it would make it worse because they’re not feeling what I’m feeling so please if someone you know is having an attack just let them know you’re with them and don’t say those things please
Best thing I have read i... Just thanks ❤
oh wow, i told that to people to help them, now i feel like a bad person. ahahaaa.........
Yeah, it's toxic positivity
@@kandk4896 It's okay you didn't know better :) next time try to comfort them and help them deal with it and confront it.
I have diagnosed anxiety but my mom is like
“ oh EVERYone has anxiety but by calling it something and making it a mental illness people make it a big deal”
Oh Well I’m sorry that I can’t breathe when talking at all in class. A nervous tic that I used to have was coughing. I couldn’t say a few words without having a coughing fit.
I have like hand tic where I will like fidget and shake my hand and one time I was being tutored and it was for piano and the teacher was just seeing my hands bug out like they are glitching out and I couldn't speak bc I was so nervous
oml I hate tics, A Tic attack, or even just a lot of tics in public = an anxiety attack too.
FML
The fact that this is so true, my moms like, I’m sure it’s not anxiety, it’s just the internet you have nothing to be stressed about. Everyone has anxiety it’s fine
@@joymunchkin4160 why you
@@szecr Huh
illy: I can’t calm down it’s to late for that
Me: I feel that
i've only ever had one panic attack, and that was right before i went on for my third performance of whipped into shape in my school's production of legally blonde. basically, i had almost thrown up right after that number on the first night, then on the second night, i messed up w the jump rope and it messed w my head so badly (mind you i was 1 of 4 jump ropers). everyone was so supportive and sweet when i was having it and i ended up not going on for the third night. so scary bro, u feel like you're dying and it's the absolute worst!! wouldn't wish that on anyone
Me: *Literally faints sometimes due to my crippling anxiety*
Dad: “Just don’t *panic* “ :)
ō_ō
We did it boys panic attacks are no more
Ah yes, genius, why didnt i think of that
Ikr
Breaking news: panic attacks have stopped completely
It's like telling someone who has cancer to just "stop having cancer" wtf?
Me: has depression
My friends: *_just stop being sad. DUH-_*
Bruh
Telling a depressed person to be happy is like telling a deaf person to hear. It does nothing to you.
oH YeAh, iT’s BiG BrAiN TiMe
My friends just laugh at me when I get mad bc I don’t know how to express my anger to them there so fakee
I WISH
I'm probably diagnosed with anxiety, since I get frequent panic attacks at school I feel scared every time I want to ask for help because I feel like the teacher will get mad at me for not paying attention, even in public I feel scared that someone will lash out at me, harass me, or anything! So...I relate with this video, and I believe others like you and me relate too..
God bless, I want to eat at Chick-fil-a now .w.
I love how ur vids are relatebale, like for exsample SH, panick attacks, going to therapy and so much more! keep going and keep putting smiles on people's faces!
*has panic attack*
Mom: jUsT qUiT bEinG aNxIouS
*it's because of that damn phone*
Wow
Change Mom do Dad and you have my life.
_That darn screen is messing with your head_
Same
Creater- makes video discussing serious mental conditions
UA-cam: no ads for inappropriate content
her description of the panic attacks was freakin relatable on so many levels
fr
Yes exactly
I didn't have the auditory questions about what others thought of me for what I considered a panic attack. It just felt like tv static and would do actions or say as much was needed to drown it out till it went away.
I made my own mantras to repeat faster as needed to put it out in better form.
I didn't really have people I wanted to talk to, so I enjoyed going out to browse art/craft stores and sketching by the ocean.
I feel the same. i get so stressed and scared in social settings its very hard and stressful and im scared of friends not liking me
Me: *in the middle of Anxiety attack*
Person: Dude, stop overreacting it's just homework
Me: ...
actually me
i once had an hour long anxiety attack about 3 pages of long division and i hate homework lol
@@TVsMyBeloved I had an hour long panic attack a few weeks ago. I did really bad in a test and my teacher was passively aggressively shouting at me and saying that we didn’t do work on lockdown even though we did and had no support. I had to keep it in since I was at school and it felt like there was a hurricane inside me.
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I fucking hate people who say stuff like that
Like yeah- maybe it’s just an assignment to you, but it’s a mark of self worth for me. Plus it determines where I go from here, what people think of me, how I see myself, and a whole bunch of other things
People just don’t understand and they don’t try to- it’s infuriating.
I know exactly where you’re coming from, you aren’t alone
I totally understand. Sometimes when I hand in an assignment I feel my heart racing and all I can think of is how the teacher thinks of me as a complete failure. Same feeling for tests and stuff like that, although I am not a bad student
I have anxiety too, my panic attacks are me crying,being confused, I can’t think. When people tell me I’m ok, everything is fine, makes it worse
Don't you hate it when your just sitting in class or anyware feeling fine then you get a random panic attack out of noware? Yea that happens to me alot
yeah
I get stressed and anxious randomly too
I have severe panic disorder and the panic attacks I have often escalate into meltdowns. I have been hospitalized for this multiple times. And the amount of times I have been infantilized and mocked for it is insane.
Me, an extremely shy and social anxious person: *has panic attack*
My mom, who had the same problem: *comforts me*
My dad: *sToP oVeRRaCTiNg!!!!*
Is everything ok at home?
My teacher who has anxiety told me the same thing, then the next day she had a panic attack in class then went home for the day
My brother littered does too I got diagnosed with social anxiety and I was having a panic attack and my brother just said “u don’t have anxiety stop oVeRrAtInG” he said I don’t have anxiety even though I got diagnosed by an actual doctor