5 Types Of People You Should Stop Being Friends With
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- Опубліковано 22 тра 2024
- Are you dealing with toxic friends? Having bad and toxic friendships has always been a very common occurrence. Toxic relationships can be very damaging for your overall wellbeing so it’s very important to cut toxic relationships off as soon as possible. So, we made this video to help you identify whether your friendships are healthy or toxic.
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Are we gonna ignore that megumi and yuuji were the example of a good friendship 🥺
I LOVED IT KWOCNSKX
who-
I’m glad I’m not the only one who noticed that
I sure didn't
@@gmyngbride 1:27
Idk if I'm right, but I'm thinking its these two??
"Wow, i'm actually a terrible friend"
- Me, 2021
Hey,since u understood I know u can be a amazing frnd from now on
Like eri said, it's all bout growth and realization is da first step. :D
@@ammdisguisedasanegg true
Eric you don’t have to me that can say well you can try being better!
Eri*
*To everyone, remember this:* Having a small group of friends that really care about you is way better than having so many friends that don't care about you.
💜
i have one true best friend and lots of “friends” who probably don’t like me much and i will always choose her over any amount of them
I've no friends and feel okay 🙂 👌
yes
The real problem is finding those small group of people.
In addition to cutting off these kinds of people, I think it's also important for us to be self-aware and avoid becoming those people
Yessssss!!! I totally agree!
this is so true!!
Ah yes, so true
Wooow.
Very good point I was thinking the same thing!!!
I have this friend in college who constantly asked for everything, whether it be my papers, homeworks, notes, etc. At first, I shared them out of pity with him because he’s academically lacking… until I found him hanging out with his friends the night before a homework was due, and sure enough he came to me for answers because he didn’t have time to do them. I eventually lost my pity for him, plus I realised he wasn’t going to change if I keep ‘helping’ him this way. So when he asked me for help again… I told him the homework is easy and it’s not necessary for me to help something so simple. That’s when he exploded lol. He said “you should’ve straight up tell me if you didn’t want to help. No need to start bitching about it. You aren’t the only person I’ve asked help from.” that was when I got so heartbroken and upset. I’ve helped him more than 30 times in less than one semester, and the moment I refuse to give help. he lased out and called me bitching. Shouldn’t I be the one who’s angry? For bothering me so much and taking advantage of me without giving me ANYTHING in return. I SHOULD BE THE ONE BEING ANGRY. Then I stopped replying to him at all. Didn’t talk to him til now.
A few weeks ago, he chatted with my close friend and asked why I keep distancing him. He told my friend that he didn’t expect me to be upset this long for such a simple fight. This part made me really angry because it was NEVER simple. How easy is it for him to call someone “bitching” and expect her to forgive him the next day? I’m just an engineering student in this man-dominated field, trying to survive threats here and there by doing the best I can so my peers don’t look down on me. Yet I was degraded as a bitch for this. Know I know why men label women as sensitive. They say the most hurtful, disgusting thing to women, and think their words don’t matter at all.
He tried to talk to me last week. I guess it’s because he misses the homework answers I gave him. But I avoided him because I no longer want to be associated with that beast anymore. I’ve never felt so happy after cutting him off. Best decision ever. He has to repeat all major classes because he faildd. I’m not saying I’m happy, but I’m satisfied karma has done their job.
Thank you for reading. I just need a place to vent. After all these months, I still cry after reading the “bitch” text til now… lol
"I don't have Friends
I Got Family"
- Dom Toretto
oh my god 💀💀
Me
Poggers
Wow this comment 😍😂😂😂
DOM TORETTO??
At first I thought she was gonna say “according to statistics, only a small percentage of you who watch our videos actually have friends”
PFFF 🤣
Though the same
I don't have any. Till now, every friend I had made had betrayed me...
@@student69741 Same :( 💔
@@student69741 I shall be your friend >:)
Having no family or friends guarantees my sanity and peace of mind...
I feel bad because I was the toxic friend.. and I did not realize it until it was too late. I was the type 2 friend who blames her friends whenever there is a problem in the relationship, and I always made them feel that I had a preference over them and that they needed me and that I could abandon them and I did not need them and I do not know if my best friend is upset about this because our friendship lasted 4 years, but in the fourth year we no longer talked much because we were not in the same class and because the sideburns had ended and we no longer had anything to talk about. Now we do not talk at all because she found friends who are more suitable for her. In fact, I am happy for her because she was the reason for my happiness and she did not abandon me and tolerated me for 4 years and she loved me and I do too and I hope we can be friends again to show her that I have improved
I’m sorry
"There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn't even jump puddles for you" - Peppa Pig
Muddy puddles that is
Peppa is smart
That is the best freaking quote I’ve ever heard!
I really could have used this video 4 months ago. But I’m out of that toxic friendship now
@@makennasrandomchannel9940 well, at least your out of the toxic friendship now!
1. the friend who always needs something
- true friendships involve mutual interest
- only looking for something when they need something and not being reciprocated
- they only take from you
2. the friend who gaslights you
- constantly blaming you when something bad happens in the relationship
- they only say they care for you as a way to gaslight you
3. the friend who never reaches out to you
- one sided relationships
- it feels like they’re doing you a favor when they reply
- they make you feel underappreciated
4. the friend who only talks about themselves
- your conversations with your friends get turned around and ends up being about them
- you end up being the friend listening to their problem instead
- you always give them your time and attention
5. the friend who always talks down on you
- makes you feel inferior constantly
- they brag
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much
Thank you. Not all heroes wear capes.
omo thank you 🤧
Most of my high school friends fall under the third category here.
I think when we get older we start to realize the people we thought we needed in our life or the people who added value to our lives changes. It's ok to shed those relationships and let them be what they were remember that it's up to you for personal growth. I have very few friends because of this and say it leaves me open to explore a relationship withyself and live an honest life with myself because thats what I value. Don't settle in relationships because there are really good people out there who want to grow along side of you
This video reminds me of when I wasn't self-aware of the way I treated my friends until my friend brought it up. I love watching these videos help me be more mindful of my actions and the things I can improve myself of. ❤ ( I love your cotent!! )
lol seeing a dream stan as a example for a terrible friend is literally the most funniest thing ever
@@VVampyr well i mean- he is gaslighting people-
it’s not a dream stan it’s dreams cannon character in his lore thing
in my comment i put time stamps to the moments a DSMP member is shown/sence revrence lol (i am not one of those commenters i swear i am just dumb)
It's his canon character
I legitimately lost my shit
There’s a lot of videos about “cutting out toxic friends” but I think a more needed video would be on how to 1) not only recognize you are toxic, but 2), improve from it and become better. Which that sort of content is more complex than a simple six minute clip, and plus it would likely be preaching to the choir, but people often forget to or don’t even know how to focus on themselves to improve for the better. I feel that self awareness is the most important step in making your own life and the world a better place.
The thing is being toxic friend is not a problem for themselves. They may be totally happy and oblivious how they make feel their friends. The problem is having them, cause they make your life's quality worse.
Idk.. im not really a very open person. Even though i stand out in classes as an extroverted person ( which is im not cuz im ambivert) i cannot really make a very fond friend with them. It takes time. And i actually have a close friend which im still in contact with. It's been 9 years of our friendship. But idk... Now he often talk to me how he felt tilted with another person whom not even knew him.. like toxic to certain influencer or something.. I'm living in a very toxic family and i think that i had enough with toxicity.. then he always talk to me about things he don't like constantly. It made me felt burdened to hear him out. And the toxicity repeat day after day.. I don't want to really admit that i need to cut things out with him. Even though im the only one (i think) whose feeling guilty of random things and whose feeling considerate towards him. Because i really want us to stay that way. But when he told me that i should cut out with him after i want to talk to him about the issue. Im feeling disappointed.. idk.. Im tired of trying to understand a person who don't even have the effort to understand me.. but i don't wanna end our friendship like that.
If the one who read this tends to be this friend of mine.. which im highly believe that he will not.. idk.. try to talk again with me if we ever stopped talking to each other then. I would gladly talk to you again.
Edit: And sorry for the grammars. I'm still learning
@@ryounoji6892 thanks for this(the other person's view", I'll try to become a better friend
Perfection! But this channel is more focused on giving it's viewers pats on their heads, filling them with delusional lies. They don't want to risk offending their subscribers, and that's why this channel is more toxic than helping to mitigate toxicity.
ua-cam.com/video/OFMCW2uP3rc/v-deo.html is this the vid u were looking for or ??
Your solutions to these issues are to just stop being their friend? It would definitely help to communicate how you're feeling before you just abandon the friendship
I recently found this video, and I want to say thank you for making it. I never really understood what made good friends and what didn't for the longest time, a lot of my 'friends' were a mixture of the first four, especially the gaslighting and the never reaching out. I always put so much energy into them, and the energy back was never equal or never there at all. I've been working on the good friendships I have, and retaining them, and so far my life has been getting better from it but...
My issue is with people who don't reach out in return. Its hard to tell which ones really care, or truly don't care at times. I'm quite social and I know some people are a bit more introverted but some people also just don't care. That's the part where I don't know how to tell if someone is just a friend that has troubles sometimes or a friend that doesn't care.
Summary:
1. The friend who always need something (will reach out to you only when there is a need).
2. The friend who Gaslights you.
3. The friend who never reaches out to you.
4. They always talk about themselves.
5. The friend who always talk down on you.
In this quarantine time, I have realised true friends and family who will be there for me in my hard times. Finally, I found I'll be the only person who is going to be with me no matter what happens.
Preach
Where did you find that emoji
@@axh007 I'm a member of this channel, so got to access the emojis.
@@winterlove6191 oh okay thanks for the reply!
Thank you!
(A bit of a story but more of a vent-)
There were a few months when my two best friends always asked me for help and rarely messaged me when they didn’t need it. Dean would still ask me how I was doing and reply to most of my messages but he always said goodbye when his girlfriend (my other best friend) was online but it was still understandable. They were a couple and they liked each other a lot, so of course he’d choose to talk to his girlfriend.
I always knew his girlfriends were very important to him, I knew he’d choose them over a friend so I wasn’t surprised. My other best friend pretty much never reached out to me unless I messaged her first, she would often ignore my messages and leave them on read until she was finished playing a game or playing with her friends. She was having a tough time at home so I did try to be understanding but it went on for months.
One day, I just had it. I joined her and tried to talk to her again like we used to, Dean and her friend Luna was there too so I private messaged her. I tried to spark a conversation with her but after a few minutes, it was a little too obvious that she didn’t want to talk so I left. I waited for a little while afterwards but she didn’t message me at all and that’s when I got mad.
I was never a patient person but this time, I think I can say at least I tried. I unfriended her on a whim (not really a whim) and unfriended Dean too, I was quite sure he’d add us in a group chat and ask me why I unfriended her. I hated confrontation and thought about talking to them again after things cool down a bit but a few days later, I checked and neither of them tried to reach out.
I think that’s when it hit me but ‘Maybe I was the only one thinking we were best friends after all…’
It was honestly hard and I came to regret my decision. I would rather they ignore me than to lose them completely but I didn’t reach out either, a part of me was mad that our years and months together meant so little to them.
Luckily I still had my brother and sister so I gamed with my brother on a daily basis. I knew it wasn’t healthy and it wasn’t a good habit to have but I spent a lot of time with him. When he was busy, I’d get him gifts in a game and when he wasn’t busy, we’d play and talk all day, that went on for months. I honestly didn’t miss my best friends much, my brother never asked about them either.
Lately I reached out to them, it’s been a year and I think I owe Dean an apology. I hate to say it but I also owe my other ‘best friend’ an apology for leaving, I don’t think I’ll talk to her much though. Dean and her broke up so there isn’t much reason for me to talk to her unless she’s having a really hard time. Well it’s not really my problem now since we aren’t even friends, is it?
Still I don’t hate or dislike Dean, I hope I can talk to him a few times every week. He used to help me and I used to help him, I really enjoy being with Dean. I met Dean much earlier than I met her so we were also much closer in my opinion. I’m planning on sending her a few messages at first and one conversation every month or two, I’m quite happy with my life, honest. My brother and I aren’t too close right now because of a mistake I made but I hope to make it up to him and thank him.
He’s always been there for me and he’s always helping me out, I owe him a lot. I also hurt him for a year because of my stupid mistake but I’m hoping to fix it, he isn’t someone I’ll let go of unless he doesn’t want me anymore.
- Wednesday 18 August 2021
Never once had a friendship where the other person actually talked to me without me reaching out first. If I don't talk to people, nobody talks to me.
💯me
Yep
Same, eventually you just give up on reaching out to ppl and learn to enjoy your own company
@@Samilin-Corrath-Gahar 🎯
Yep.. pretty much
The List Of People You Should Stop Being Friends With Included In This Video:
1.The friend who always needs something.
2. The friend who gaslights you (The act of manipulating a person to question their thoughts, memories, and things happening around them).
3. The friend who never reaches out to you.
4. The friend who always talks about themselves.
5. The friend who always talks down to you
Hope This Helps! ❤
You're better off having just people you know and not having solid friends you'll only get hurt in the end .Don't expect anything from anyone and you'll never be disappointed.
itadori and fushiguro being an example of good friends is so sweet :)
Yess😌 i was looking for this comment 💕
Fandom
@@makizenin8121 yeah same
@@Mary-zb9bt 🤜🤛🛐
Crying
Honestly, over the years I've realized what a friend actually means. And then I realized how little friends I have, and how I may be toxic to them.
Same 😔
Same here tbh.....
But I will try my best to change!
Same. I don’t think I am as toxic as before, but I know I am always talking about myself because I’m so overwhelmed with everything that is going on and I need support. I already see a therapist and I am on meds, but sometimes I get so depressed I need someone to talk to. Sometimes I just want to go out and grab some food or a drink, just get out of my head, but I feel like I’m the only person who is always the one who is setting up plans to hang out and that makes me feel lonely too.
Same...
Same. I feel like I make everything about myself and talk about myself but I give good comfort apparently or at least that's what my friends say. I'm so confused and trying everything to stop talking about myself as much
I just got out of a toxic bestie situation.we used to be extremely close but would often get into fights when I felt like I was being ignored and forgotten. I used to be naive. For 4 years I was made to believe I am immature and incapable of selfless love. I failed to recognise the countless other people who were there for me. She abandoned me the moment she got a bf. I broke. I'm in my healing period now but realised. She was everything this video spoke about. Made me realise how foolish I was to stay when everyone I knew told me they were tired of seeing me depressed and used. Pretty much venting in public right now. But learning to let go. That's a very important lesson I hope people learn without it destroying them.
I have a neighbour who moved into the flat below me a year ago. I've started noticing a pattern where I'm happy to help them out with basic necessities here & and there. I'm instinctively kind & if I have plenty when they have nothing, I'm happy to help out or share what I have without needing to be asked. But they only really ever do the bare minimum for me & make it out that it was a real struggle to do even that. I brought it up with them & they got really defensive about it & started to gaslight me! Needless to say, I've got no further intentions to be anywhere near as forthcoming and helpful as I have been. From now on, I only have enough for myself! It's sad that people are so shortsighted & selfish, but c'est la vie! 😂❤
Pro tip: try talking out your interpersonal problems with your friend. Dont just drop friends. People can and will change if they want to.
Thats some big talk right there indeed 👍
some people are just stubborn and ignorant. talking is not an option, i seek war 🧙♂️
This absolutely a thousand times over. I've recently been ghosted by a friend for over a month now even though our prior conversation was completely normal. Now im just left in the dark and don't even know if we're still friends
@@pringu6216 Just go and get your tasks done first bruh . Nobody wants a dude who procastrinates a lot and is a nervous wreck as their friend for real . Be positive and responsible and you get and maintain friendships ez
@@akiamini4006 yeah I'm just sticking with the true friends I have now
"The friend who never reaches out to you"
I can't cut relationship with them, because that kind of friend is me. That why I don't want any friend I don't want to hurt them.
I relate. I'm the friend in number 3 who doesn't fill in as they should. I've just gotten sick of constantly dealing with the mental issues that I just can't anymore. Now she keeps trying to uphold our friendship but I'm just too exhausted. I do try to reply to her but it's just getting harder. Her situation at home in a way is similar to mine, but we are so different. It's hard to talk normally when we don't even have the same belief, or when the only thing we can talk about is our issues.
Same. For the longest time I've been the emotional support system of my friends, trying my best to talk them out of su!c!d3, making sure they don't harm themselves, get themselves into trouble and making sure they eat well. But they rarely take the time to ask how I'm feeling, or if I'm doing okay. It just mentally drains me, so I end up turning off my notifications on everything and ghosting everyone. It makes me feel bad because there are friends that have gone above and beyond for me, and those are the type of people I want in my life for a long time. But I just can't deal with people who dump all their problems onto me without offering help when I need it.
@@minty1312 EXACTLY! Can't describe my friendships any better than that!
Same, I felt very called out by that one. But I think the important thing is if you struggle to reach out to your friends because of anxiety or other metal health issues you just need to show you appreciate them for being the one to reach out. Let them know that *they're* doing *you* a favor and not the other way around.
im pretty sure im the friend who always talks about myself. my friend tried to vent to me and i end up venting to her. i kind of hate that about me-
but shes quite toxic- she only texts me when she needs something, or when she wants to vent- never any other time. i always have to ask to hang out or else its silence in our chat- even when i go over- which was once every day of my life- she just plays on her phone. no attention towards me. she ignores me half the time too. ive learnt to try and keep my feelings to myself away from her cause she tends to use that against me. but i do always end up venting to her when she wants to talk cause i feel like thats the only change i could ever get to vent to someone i couldve trusted- until i found out she was extremely toxic.
As someone who is autistic and has ADHD i personally struggle with a few of these. I accidentally end up sending full on books about my day because every little thing is interesting to me. I feel so bad about it and my friends definitely hate it and so I try to stop as much as possible. I also end up turning things around accidentally making them about me. I hate to admit it but I've definitely been guilty of it. It definitely hurts to know that i could be considered toxic but it's also a good thing for me to try and change!
That’s not your fault! You should sit down with your friends at a time they aren’t venting to you, and explain and apologise. If they are good friends, they will understand. 🙃
Same!! I like to talk to people about my recent hyper fixations and stuff cause i like sharing about my life but I'm worried I might be making it too much about me and not enough about them.
@@chaoticfroggo6852 I've been struggling with trust issues. My friends are not nice they're accusing me. They got mad at me for not going bowling. It's all my fault that I fell asleep.
@@chaoticfroggo6852 this guy was falling in love with me had a crush on me. Unfortunately I have no romantic feelings for him I didn't feel the same way at all. I was just looking to have friends. And he message me out of the blue I'm done trying to be your friend I offer you to come bowling with me and you never showed up so I'm done trying to be. It's all my body's fault for falling asleep I didn't think I was going to get in trouble I hate my life
Wow How mature of you to take responsibility , you will go far in life and grow maturely 👍🏼👍🏼
These videos really calm me down , I enjoy listening to the message but overall it’s very calming, and sometimes it’s fun to spot out characters that I like drawn in a sketch
This channel makes me anxious about every choice I've ever made in my life... love the miku though... but now I'm stressed that I'm not cool enough to have a Miku profile pic...
@@coastaku1954 Oh, I guess I can see this I suppose this channel is a slight bit overwhelming and other thinking. YOU ARE COOL ENOUGH FOR A MIKU PROFILE PICK ANYONE CAN HAVE A MIKU PFP!
Does anyone else feel quite sad when you can’t really find some loyal, trustworthy, or simply just someone you can count on when you’re in your lowest times type of in real life friends? So instead what you decided to do is to try finding some online and not that they’re “bad” or anything, in fact, there are lots of great people online. However the thing is you just don’t get the same feelings when talking to people online, rather than irl friends?
Exactly my point.. My best friend has betrayed me several times so she will never be able to fill this gap of trust she lost because there is always this fear that she will do it again. With online friends you can exchange topics and identify. However you will always want them to be physically next to you
@@elisabetpapadopoulou3866 Trust is like virginity you only lose it once
That's very true there's nothing quite like meeting friends face-to-face , having a chat , having fun making each other laugh.
@@lastofthefamous2542 Which is a shame. I believe its worth getting therapist help just to regain trust (for other people), life will definitely be worse if you cannot trust and build relationships.
I have no irl friends but i have a online friends on discord! Thanks :)
I don’t think I have any toxic friends, but this video WAS extremely helpful - cuz it’s taught me what exactly not to do in order to ensure that I never become toxic toward others 😅❤️
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I don't even have 5 friends lol
:)
You all have friends 😳, for me I think they (my definite friends ) are all fake and I can recognise each and every person talked me 😅...
@@noobh6144 i forgor 💀
Man i love when these type of youtubers add references to the complete opposite genre and make it make sense
THis video amuses me as it furthered my belief that cutting out almost all the people I once considered friends were truly toxic. Over the years I believed them when they'd say they would change. But each of them were at least a combination of 2 or more of these types listed. It took a family member going through one of the worst things one can in life to put into perspective just how evil and malicious these people were. I've been free of them for about a year now but I can't help to think about just how many people like that are out there. Stay safe, everyone and don't be like me. Act sooner rather than later.
Just Remember the six elements of friendship,
*Honesty
*Laughter
*Kindness
*Loyalty
*Generosity
*Magic
MY LITTLE PONY... I USED TO WONDER WHAT FRIENDSHIP COULD BE
@@socttcawthonbutnot1021
I see a man of culture
Love the magic!
My little pony. ...until you all shared its magic with me
@@ennardthefuntimepuppet6456 fr
"People I should stop being friends with?"
Not a problem, I have no friends any way! :)
Its good to have like 2 or 3 tbh
i've had a lot all my life and now no one, as took years to realise what a lot of them were like, I never put myself first at all
You don't have friends
How lucky .. Actually you don't need them,bc they just want to be with you for some reason,they don't want to be with you bc they're interested in you or like you,in my opinion,the life that you have without friends is the best life that anny one can have,if you see the other people happy with their friends,they are just acting to be good person is the others mind so if you are searching for a friend,you should stop and come back to your room to watch memes like me:-)
I wrote a lot right sorry for that...
Hey starting with a clean slate I see lol...me too..
ILL BE YPUR FRIEND
A lot of these points apply to me actually. Funny thing is I am usually aware of that and more often than not communicated openly when I don't see a relationship as proper friendship because of that (formerly trying to avoid "making friends" as much as possible for the longest time after noticing my feelings in highschool), but it often gets dismissed because people keep insisting on their own definitions of what friendship is, and oddly enough it NEVER has to do with genuine mutual care and chemistry. Now I am left with a truckload's worth of shame, guilt, hatred and a broken, repressed identity because I was doing very badly in general with self-doubts and lack of control and I don't see myself ever recovering.
I never genuinely cared for another person in my entire life, which is something that kept nagging me because I know it's sus as hell (just like the total lack of any passion, curiosity, talent, grit or anything else that's considered good). But I really don't know what I'm supposed to do about it. Trying to force it anyway just drove me mad. It almost works in fantasies (that I'm not able to have anymore), but that's about it.
Thank you for the video you made!
To be honest I had a problems with my friends before. I was in like a friend group with four other girls and we were very very close together like sisters. And I thought everything was doing fine until a girl who was very nice asked to be friends. I loved comunicating then and I said yes. Not too long she met the others. I thought I will still have my friends and that it's nice to have more people to be close to but they all started to avoid me. They were always being jealous when something good happend to me and the new girl who was also very close became my crush gf. The saddest thing is that she knew I liked him
Edit: I don't say that having a big friendship group is bad but sometimes you can be forgotten.
Just want to say before you stop being friends with anyone: in my opinion you should 100% talk to them first before making a move. This gives you both the opportunity to work things out and understand why they do the things they do I believe.
Edit: I would like to also mention how sometimes it is not a good idea to give someone a chance based on the circumstances. Such as them not willing to listen or comply with the chance you give them. But it's still not a horrible idea to give everyone a second chance as long as they don't take it for granted.
Absolutely! I speak from hard experience, because I give people plenty of slack from the beginning. If they make a mistake or two I might help them untangle things, or give more slack so they can figure it out for themselves. This can go on for years, or it can be over fairly quickly, though I totally understand the phrase, "give enough slack to hang themselves with" because the truly unworthy person will. At some point it's just unworkable anymore, and they usually know it at least as well as I do by then.
I got gaslighted and blocked lmao after multiple tries at that “stop questioning my loyalty” she said after I addressed her literally talking crap about me with literal proof smh I shoulda just ended the friendship. We’re adults btw.
@@pterodactylbull yh dont be friends with them anymore
Most people like this are typically full of themselves and don’t take criticism very well. Sounds like a waste of time to me
Why go through even more drama. Its better to just up and go an never explain what happened. Because youll only help them hide how toxic they are because they will learn what drove you away. Its better to let them figure it out if they ever do. Just focus on you. They don't care about your feelings.
I never forget that quote that says
"Because friends is not about quantity, but qualities"
Yessir that’s a good quote imma keep that, I live by “give respect to earn respect and that goes the same way with disrespect”, this can be applied to many different things I use to decide how I feel about a person and what they’re on
It's just Quantity over Quality. QOQ
KOK
1. The friend who always needs something. The friend who only talks to you when they need something from you.
2.The friend who Gaslights you. Manipulater
3.The friend who never reaches out to you. Doesn't care! Doesn't care to Even reaches out.
4.The friend who always talks about themselves. Self centered and doesn't really care about you.
5.The friend who always talks down on you. Is either full of envy and just wants to feed their ego
Bro...No.5...I just complained about her when She crossed the limit..What would I have done..She tortured me let me down for almost 1 yr
I have a cousin that always talks about themselves, but since they have a sister who are always are on their side, I don’t even have the guts to
Edit: she always interrupts me and then talks about herself. But she says sorry, so idk if she’s really self centered
This is such a sweet and calming channel and I love it sm
I'd like to say that usually cutting your friends off immediately is a bad idea. Sometimes, you should confront them about it first. They might not realize that they're doing it, and you might actually help them out by pushing them to be a better friend.
If they refuse to grow, THEN you can cut them off, and only after they start trying to improve themselves should you give them a second chance.
I've always expressed but there are 4 and 5 and 3 and the one who needs something and they've apologized and came back and I've completely just distanced myself because it hurts me and i have another who act likes she benefiting me and idk man i rather just stay to myself, she just always talking bout her problems and i give her advice and she doesn't take it at all just wants me to feel bad and like its to draining to deal with anymore i wish her the best
@@WonToTwee just cut(leave) her bro
Not everyone deserves a second chance, so if the person has hurted you enough, I don't see the reason why you should be giving them another chance 🧐
@@drunknown422 because if you made those mistakes, you would want one.
One of the things that makes "villains" is people lacking the capacity to forgive
You don't have to if you don't want to, but that is my personal philosophy
@@WonToTwee yes, I have this friend who always talks behind people's backs and makes remarks, I know she had a lot of things that going on for her but it's still no excuse to how she acts, she also talks down to someone I really care about, so I'm going to try to confront her about it soon, if not, then it's okay I'm not going to the same high school as her anyways
I really love your amazing and cute animations, your voice is also so calimg and relaxing to listen to, thanks for your videos and helpful advices :>
I'm most guilty of the "talking about myself" one - I try to keep it in mind when I'm talking to people these days. Sometimes, just shutting up, listening and following up on what they say by asking about them is the best course of action.
Please don’t be one of those people who falsely accuses all of their friends as being one of these stereotypes. We know it happened to at least one person who watched this, haha
I have only had 2 or 3 friends who check all these boxes, and I think none of them are close friends anymore. One still sends out feelers from time to time, though I think he understands by now that I've had enough.
Shit...I have the level of trust equal to that a security guard's. I hate myself so much.
After I talked to my best friend about quitting the therapist friend role, she accused me
For making her depression 170% when she hasn’t been diagnosed, she made excuses like
“Serious talks make my depression big”
When she put me in lots of drama, stress, lots of venting, and made me
Neglect my mental health
I just wish breaking a friendship with your cousin was so easy
Algorithm needs subscription,don't be friends with the needy,it's about give and take, you need to make an effort, selfish one-sided relationship isn't appreciated⛔
@UCybVYmRe4TahgWwR0AvjW3A this reminded me of the time i was depressed and i had a therapist friend, after she wanted to quit i was a fuking prick to her and i still regret what i said to her, that drove me to talk to a professional but i still feel bad about it after all this time
I love how they used Dream as an example of Gaslighting...if only they used Ranboo as the victim though but overall very happy about that lol
it’s still not wrong..
or tommy during exile
What'd he do?
@@dinoluvr1 his character on the Dream SMP, which stands for Survival Multiplayer (not the content creator himself) has had a story arc where he manipulated an exiled character
@@houdaini7 ohhh ok, tysm
Thank you for another lovely video! All my life I've had lots of trouble with #4. Even now, I don't seem to be able to find people who actually want to hear about me and my thoughts. I know I'm a good listener--is that the source of my problem? I know I'm not the most fascinating person in the world, but I think there must be times when I'm worth hearing about?
I did not even realise my friends were ghosting me and was a horrible friend to me
I was literally innocent and happy before I even met them
I’ve been a terrible friend. I’ve mistreated my friends just this year and I kept on messing up because I never realized how toxic I was until now. Now I’ve started to improve but I think almost all of them are giving up on me- they think I’ll never change. They all doubt me
At least you've acknowledged your toxicity and now doing what you can to improve yourself, maybe, the new friends that you'll make will see the better you
I also have been a very bad friend, I bragged about myself too much, and never reached out to my friends. 😞😣
If you realized your mistake and are sorry for that, they your are good human.
It's okay to make mistakes but the important thing is to realize it and make yourself better tomorrow.
Keep on improving 👍
Dude, what you just said right now is amazing, continue on your efforts with that will to change and you won't have to worry about that too much in the future, it's really cool to see someone saying how they were wrong and wanna change for the better ^^
Same as me I have realised thing after I saw this video so I will try to be better . Well............ I am an introvert so I have no Idea how to strike a conversation. It becomes VERY AWKWARD 😅🥺😭
It doesn’t look like anyone caught that jujutsu kaisen reference so I’m just gonna point it out and appreciate it
Yes! I'm not the only one that noticed it then ✋
THANK U
I was looking for a comment like this, thanks
THANK YOUU!!
Wat is tat
I used to have a toxic friend. Now I have good friends, when I met them, on that day I fell and they helped me.
Having a friend that gaslights you is really painful, I just got out of that kind relationship and it was really tRaUmAtIzIng because, of course she was the one that ended the relationship and told everyone that I tried to sabotage her, so guys be careful who you befriend because I don’t wish anyone what I’ve been through not even to that friend because it drains all your energy and love of life, I’m still healing but now thanks to you PsychToGo I now understand how toxic of a friendship it was :)))
The worst part about this would be someone who constantly talks about themselves, ask only for your help and doesn't invite you for any good moment whatsoever BUT COMES HERE and say that you're someone who's talking down when you highlight what they do. That is Gaslighting at its finest ladies and gentlemen.
love how this channel references so many show and characters, it’s so fun
True, it’s great
This channel helped almost the whole world you showed that mental illness is real love your channel and vids ❤❤❤❤
I had "friends" who fit the bill on some of these and started to feel like the friend nobody likes. Luckily I was able to find a new group who would never make me feel that way.
1.) Always needs something (never give back)
2.) Gaslights you (constantly blames you)
3.) Never reaches out to you (you keep maintaining the relationship)
4.) Always talks about themselves (always end up being about themselves)
5.) Ways talks down to you (goes out of their way to make you feel lesser)
thanks
Yup I have that friend.
Definitely not dealing with this anymore.
Your friends are not your significant other lol
Ye all these things are happening to me rn and im fukin broked up ... i dont have any friends man ... thing to remember-only friend of yours is your family , tell them the things instead of sharing it to the anonymous
you know what... *I don't need friends, they disappoint me*
but whoever realized your one of the top above. It's okay being self aware is the number 1 step to change your ways and actions we're all human.
Vine
You're lucky they just disappoint you, I've had 2 in the last 18 months who downright disloyal and hurtful.
I'm sorry to say that I've had multiple close "friends" that behaved in one or more of these ways. Did cut them loose when I realized they actually didn't care about me, but sadly not before getting hurt by them.
These encounters have made it hard for me to trust people to actually be friendly and not simply wanting to manipulate me in one way or another. It has also made me have a hard time trusting my own judgment of people since the people that hurt me were very close friends.
The fact I don't have many friends but a few very close friends, made it that much worse when I figured out that a significant portion of my friends were actually toxic relationships...
These encounters were many years ago but I still am cautious around new people to this day and it takes a fair bit for me to feel that they are a proper friend that I can trust. I've managed to take it more easy nowadays, but it is always in the back of my mind, making me doubt people's true intentions.
Truly thank you. I am in a toxic friend group who, always make fun of me, talk bad about me to my face and behind my back, pick on me about being short, dumb, stupid, and tell me nobody cares for me and to shut up. They ask to hangout, only to bully me ask for things, gaslight me and etc. for example one time I told my friend a secret and he swore he wouldn’t say anything to anyone. One week later half the ppl at my school know and he blackmails me into things with this. I will be dropping them. Thanks
Don't forget about the friends who don't respect your boundaries and purposefully make you feel uncomfortable
Uhmmmm...........Me and my friend do that as a joke .....
And she’s the one who’s toxic 🥰
@@doritodiamond1201 I honestly do understand thinking yourself is annoying or something and wanting to change but not because it has gotten into a habit or smth. You can break the habit if that's the case for you, I believe in you. I'm sorry you got into a toxic relationship tho
they might betray you
@@TotaldramaisGreat_924 I have had one, they tried to turn everyone against me but ended up leaving the friend group and feeling bad.
Some nuances to consider!
On never reaching out: Sometimes people isolate due to mental illness or addiction. Always keep this in mind, some folks aren't trying to put the responsibility on you, they're just struggling.
On making things about themselves: neurodivergent people often relate to others by bringing up personal experience to show they understand! It's not always an attempt at monopolizing a conversation.
Just a reminder to give people space to be human, not everything fits in neat, clear-cut boxes!
What is neurodivergent? Sorry.
@@AwesomeRace7 The definition on google says, "Differing in mental or neurological function from what is considered typical or normal (frequently used with reference to autistic spectrum disorders); not neurotypical."
Other psychological disorders are considered neurodivergent as well outside of ASD, but that's what's usually being referred to :)
Damn so I guess I'm retarded then
thats so true! I'm neurodivergent and I do that all the time! I never realized that it was an autism thing.
Why are we shouting with exclamation marks?!!!!!!!
I recently joined this friend group that i didnt wanna join in the first place but im too embarrassed to say no. I only joined their group for one person i wanted to talk to since i saw her. They make fun of me all the time making fun of anything that i do and it brings me down. I wanna get to know the girl i wanted to friend, but she is always with them, and they literally control her because she thinks they are very nice because they friend her. They were making me so uncomfortable and always told me they wanted to cheat off of me in front of me. I started talking to them less every day, and now im always sitting alone doing nothing and no one even bothers to help me. They always try to make me do their homeworks basically using me. The class basically hates me. Couldnt care less but i have been lonely for 2 years with no friends and its driving me crazy.
you are loved and valuable, always! ❤🤗
i was always the friend who never reached out unless i needed a favour, although i would have done anything for them at the time. i didnt stop reaching out on random, nobody ever reached out to me so i decided it wasnt worth it. ended in getting ditched and ditching everyone else, too. pretty sure they forgot about me though and honestly feel better without any of them. its not always bad having no friends - sometimes its better off.
I'm the friend who never reaches out but I'm always waiting for my friend to message first cuz if I contact her first I feel like I'm disturbing her. She likes talking about herself which I'm very comfortable with cuz it's good knowing more about your friend.
Noone's ever so busy to msg their friends. And yes it goes both the ways.
@@DivineDefect he’d laugh lol
@@DivineDefect Yeah
@@bonbin6053 lmao
Same
I've never had friends like this. Choose the people you keep in your life wisely. You deserve only the best💕
Your lucky
@@mylzo2802 yea and I clicked into this video because I need advice on whether my friendships were ok
I've had a friend who was Toxic anytime I stood up for myself or said I didn't like something, she'd just turn around and say I did the same thing, I always felt like I had to walk on eggshells around her, for instance, If I said something even playfully that she didn't like she would just get up and leave, I was always there for her, and I'm not saying I'm completely blameless but it always felt unfair and unbalanced, she told me sorry a handful of times and made fun of me.
@@BrooklynJewel if you don't feel completely loved, even through hard times, it may be time to let go of this friend and make sure you're being the type of friend you wanna be. Then look for the awesome, caring, giving friends you deserve!
@@semicharmedlizzy aww thank you, I have cut ties with her and have made it clear that if she wants to be friends she's ganna have to make an effort, and she hasn't so I'm done.
This video describes my family dynamic and confirms my action. 💔🙏❤️
This is my number one pick for top 5 types of videos that grossly simplify interpersonal relationships and should thusly be neglected when making decisions to cut off people you've been with.
Uff I’m the third one, never reaching out- I just assume I’m not fun to be around so I just separate myself from them; I don’t mean to hurt them in any way at all, just been in a weird mood lately which causes me to cut off contact with so many people. Thank you for the video though, I hope to improve myself to become a better friend
Same! I don't reach out too often, but it's not like I'm ghosting my good friend. I feel guilty from time to time, though...
Same
Same, but my friend is kinda annoying hes always talking about himself
It’s okay :) you aren’t doing it on purpose. This behaviour isn’t your fault okay? Stay strong :DD
I am experiencing the complete opposite... There's this friend that I really care about because we've been through things for like 2 years now but it has never been this bad. Trying to reach out only to get one reply and afterwards I get ghosted, it's not like I don't want to talk with them but if they can't even reply me when I am trying to initiate a conversation just makes me feel unwanted and wondering why I even bother in the first place :/ Not sure how to fix that though.
Another really toxic type is the gossiper:
Someone who calls me his "girl best friend" (which he don't is to me but that's a diffrent story) wanted to force me to unfriend a girl just because she rejected his best friend. I ended up lying that I would do it but I'm still friends with her till today
*do it, commit not friend anymore.*
*he's trying to isolate you.*
@@garbage_goat8386 I mean we talked this out about half a year later. Still made me uncomfortable back then
Wow, that sounds tough.
@@kelechi9854 As I said we talked this out about half a year afterwards. I explained him how I felt back then and he at least seemed to understand my position (even though I have my doubts on how empathic he actually is but that's a diffrent story). While he didn't put me in such a situation again deep down inside I can't guarantee myself that it won't happen again.
As already said I'm still friends with that girl. It's kinda one of these open secrets
Thank you so much this really helped im gonna subscribe!
These videos of yours really work for me. Thank you very much..
0:56- The friend who always needs something
2:03- The friend who gas lights you
2:38- The friend who never reaches out to you
3:17- The friend who talk always about themselves
3:58- The friend who talks down on you
Wow many of my Friends can get award because they have mastered every betrayal
My friends don’t usually argue with me, they argue with my other friend and they are rude. But if you ask me are they good? *Yes but actually no*
I want to vent.
Thanks for simplifying !
Thanks
I've had tons.of friendships that ended badly. Too many. Mostly because I never left when I saw red-flags. I was loyal, attentive, selfless, and above all else made an effort. But unfortunately plenty of people do not understand these qualities within someone and will take your kindness for weakness. Nearly everytime. And worst of all, give you excuses when they don't adhere to their own word. Personally, if I were to offer any advice to anyone it's this -- Don't expect perfection but expect to be treated the way you treat them, and if they don't, won't, or can't, they aren't a true friend. Period. DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME! Life is too short to put your all into the kinda, sorta, maybe people who don't see your worth and treat you the way you deserve. So you have to find the ones that do. And they're out there, unfortunately you just have to get through the shit before you find the gold. But when you do, it'll be the true friends who treat you the way you deserve and will never take you for granted. Then it'll all be worth it. Trust me.
It's so true...it's painful now that I know and remember about it...
Amen.
Well, my “best-friend” and I were keeping a nice relationship but just a few weeks ago she stopped talking, only sometimes. she always cancel plans and now we only text if it’s for schoolwork. It’s mostly like 95% school and 5% actually talking to eachother. But now she’s trying to cut me off for even for school, like for example I asked her a question and wondered if she could help me , normally she’s always here to help but she said she isn’t want to help me without any reason. We keep getting distant, and idk what to do.
@@siyamthandaabulela492 ok thank you for the advice. You also made me laugh a bit so thanks for that to ☺️
Tbh if i make more friends i would usually be happy and just feel like i own the world but ofc alot of friends meaning that imposters having a chance to hide in every corner
I believe the friend that talks down about you while increasing their own self esteem is toxic. However, sometimes friends have to talk down to you so you don't get hurt by high expectations. Keeping you grounded. That's a friend I admire.
I always like to watch your videos even if it's not smth that I suffer with then maybe it's sth I'm causing by accident and that's why I come here and always try to learn and try not to do any mistakes or make someone feel bad because of this and you know this helped me a lot because I am not the kind of a social person but your videos helped me out to make a lot of friends now and I'm thankful for it
It’s best not to chase after a “friendship”. Especially a farewell one.
Thank you
I love Dream at 2:04 and how he is considerated "the friend who gas lights you" by what he did in the dsmp w his friends
I thought I was the only one who noticed that lmao
@@Hyperions.Ari. I highly doubt you were lol
I don't really follow the smp, what happened?
also there was a ranboo reference with the :)
@@HenCreations also killin them-
I have suffered soo much because of like these friends 😭Thanks for making this video as this helps me a lot. Now, I will be careful next time and try to find good friends 🙂
THANK YOU NEEDED THIS
My advice to anyone here is never let anyone walk over your boundaries, if someone doesn't want to be there for you in the good and bad times, try not to let them have full access to you. What I learned is you are the main character in your life and for most people, you are no more than background or side character, sometimes the antagonist. Put yourself first and trust your gut, if you feel a friendship is too transactional, walk away if that's the best move for you.
All relationships are transactional, cease the transaction and see how long the friendship lasts
True. Agreed
Yesss say it 1 more time for those in the back!!!
Used to have “friends” that were so mean to me that I didn’t understand how a real friendship was supposed to feel like. Looking back, they weren’t even my friends, they were literal bullies. Talking down on me, never including me, constantly ignoring me, making fun of me, laughing at me, constantly pointing out my flaws and more. Hell, one of them even told me that she would become very happy if I died as a “joke”. They both left me scarred for life. I’ll never forgive them for that.
I was in that exact situation for quite awhile. You get so used to their abusive behavior towards you that you think it’s normal. When someone actually treats you with respect and dignity, it kind of throws you off at first and you don’t know what to make of it.
@@captaineasychord1 yeah, I genuinely felt confused when I got new friends and they were nice to me. I still haven’t gotten used to it sadly.
wow i now realized that they were so abusive to me and i thought its a normal thing... would be kinda great if i had a friend who actually treats me with respect and sees me as a friend as well😑
@@captaineasychord1 that exact thing just happened to me in highschool a month or two ago. My introverted ass was just sitting on my phone in the cafeteria when out of nowhere this random kid I've never seen before introduced himself to me and I end up having a conversation with everyone around me before class eventually starts. Now I sit at the table with some of the people I met that day. Though I have yet to see the first kid again.
That’s not right! I hate this because I know exactly how you feel you deserve to be treated with respect love and kindness everyone does
I enjoy your videos. Thank you!
I love the little DSMP hidden things like dream being at a topic or an old ranboo design (the smile with the crown) i love it!
people with no friends:
I'm four parallel universes ahead of you
do you have a sibling or a pet? If yes , you already have one friend
@@sukanya3411
My cat, mom and dad are my best friends :)
Friends online be like : Bish what am i A roach?!
@@bxbbleteax731 No, flies!
@@thesaddestdude3575 Pictures too!
"You want to find someone to vent your problems to, only to find yourself listening to your friends problem"
God this hits home LOL
Yes
I find more helpful and secure when you vent with online friends rather than irl friends, cause it's just awkward sometimes after some months when you've told something and you see them in front of you physically-
Maybe they are hurting too. Just hearing your problems reminds them of their own.
@@YourMom-yp6ev mostly when you have similar experiences rip
@@jaeheekanghan yah a lot of times people like to relate to your problems.
I have had two friendships with co-workers that became intolerable when I realized all I was to them was a giant ear for them to talk incessantly into about themselves or whatever boring thing they wanted to blather on about. One would basically steal the conversation totally away from me and talk about her topic until I eventually got a chance to say "so anyway..." and go back to what I was trying to say. She never caught on and took the hint. I don't have patience to teach middle aged women how to converse normally. Both would tell sooooo much detail that if it were me, I couldn't be bothered to speak all of that blahblahblah much less think anyone else wants to hear it. I had to hear sooooo much (pretty ordinary) detail about her daughter's friend's parents' divorce and her neighbor's elderly parents' decline! I now shy away from work friendships because they're too awkward to get out of until someone retires or gets a new job.
I have this friend, I love her a lot as a best friend. Though we were closer when we lived together in the orphanage I currently live at. We got to know each other there, since our rooms were beside each other and we considered one another as neighbors, for fun reasons of course. Though we have our individual struggles. I always listened to their struggles and lended a shoulder for them to cry on, since I genuinely care about them. Long story short..they moved out from the orphanage barely a year after moving in. We were both individually worried about how to maintain our friendship, since we knew living beside each other was the thing that brought us together. Of curse they came and visited me once a week. But I started to notice a pattern with that. They wouldn't engage in anything outside the reach of my room for 3 hours, they mainly just sat on my tablet watching tiktoks or UA-cam for those 3 hours in total. It was like that all of the time. I tried to make them engage in something outside of my room, like going for a walk or going to the nearby town, or in one of the big halls my orphanage has in which we can play and run around In. Though they always refuse, coming up with excuses like, "I don't have energy for that" or "I'm not feeling so well". I always brush it off, and respect their decision, since I don't want to force them. But I can't help but to think,,why do they even come and visit me if they don't engage? Like if they don't feel like doing anything other than staying in my room, then why visit me in the first place? We eventually started hanging out outside of the orphanage, cause I got tired and drained from doing the same routine each wee,, without any special outcome in it, whatsoever. Though, they don't even look like they are enjoying my company. They don't even smile when we go out or when I visit their house, and just looks drained from everything. They surround me with such negative energy that I can't help but think of and opportunity to leave, or feel relieved when they leave. I feel guilty for thinking like that, cause they are/ used to be my best friend. Every time we meet up, they always complain about how late I am, telling me to stop making them wait like that, though it isn't my fault the train I'm paying to travel with to see them..just malfunctions. They also like to bake, and is even kind enough to bake something for me. Though I struggle with and ed, and isn't always as delighted to eat high calorie food like sweets and cake. Last time we saw each other they complained how they spend time asking something for me, when I didn't get to eat it. So I just told them I'd be happy to drop by their home to pick up and maybe play a bit with their pets together, just so they could be satisfied and not feel like they did something for no reason. But then they complained about how I only wanted to go to their house to eat the cake and nothing else, making me sound like I was greedy. It upset me cause I already struggle with the thought of food negatively, and therefore it felt like they was shaming me for being greedy for sweets, even if I just genuinely wanted to make,e them happy. They didn't even smile the whole day we hanged out neither, and I asked if it was okay to take pictures of us together as memories for me to hang up on my wall (which is a thing I love to do, when given consent). They said they were fine with it. But they didn't even smile in the pictures we took together, and genuinely look pissed off. So I eventually lost a bit of patient and asked them to just smile for one photo. (I also didn't hang up the pictures, because of the negativity surrounding the reason behind the taken photo, and I didn't want them to feel uncomfortable). Idk, I'm currently crocheting a bag for their birthday. But it feels like I'm doing for nothing, cause I don't feel the spark between us like I used to. I think we grew apart, but I'm doubting whether if I should just cut them off, but I feel like it's such a mean thing to do..
6. A friend who constantly tries to monopolise or ruin your relationships
“Does your friend always seem to ask personal questions about your relationship to your partner but not you, do they do everything they can to convince your partner they should get with someone else simply because they can’t stand to see you happy, chances are they doing this because they aren’t happy with themselves and are looking for a way to air off their own insecurities that they deny to themselves, so if you have a friend that consistently goes behind your back whenever your out with your partner and tries to get them with anyone but you then it’s time to draw the line and cut those toxic friends out of your life for good”.
By "partner" do you mean a friend of yours that they can't stand?
@@flameyt4149 no by partner I mean someone who I’m in a relationship with but people who I thought were friends will ask personal questions and try to get them with someone else when I’ve done nothing to them so fed up with it and don’t really hang with them anymore it’s the reason why I don’t have friends coz I only trust my partner no else
@@excelsiore457 oh ok I understand, i think u made the right choice
@@flameyt4149 thankyou it’s nice knowing someone understands
I definitely used to be this kind of person a few years back. But I grew as a person and no longer do that kind of stuff. It’s always good to see where you have improved as a person or confess you were that person but are no longer that type
"What Popular youtuber should we put in our video?"
"Dream"
*"YOU'RE HIRED!"*
And ranboo lore 🙂
Ranboo lore and Alivebur’s hair are there lol
jesus christ all these dream stans are asking to get bullied i swear
@The guy creeping outside your window lol
@The guy creeping outside your window ????
your voice sound like an angel
There's an inverse to scenario 3, where you can have people in your life who are trying way too hard to have a close friendship with you, even though you're very different people who want different things. If someone tries to make you feel like a bad friend for not doing things you've explained to them you don't want to do, then you probably need to find other people.
i remember having a friend that would probably have his own category here: the obsessive/pampering friend.
basically, the person is pretty chill at first, and you quickly get along with each other. in fact, it's really fast how it happens, and soon enough they're already in your circle of friends. but soon it feels like the friendship's going _too_ fast and it feels off. like, it's been only a few weeks and they already want to visit your house and they always pester you about it. they also slowly start pushing you away from other friends to make more time for them. they may even start acting hostile towards you other friends and then only act kind and sweet towards you. and then before you realise it, they're already trying to insert themselves into _every single_ social situation you're in, and even start following you around (at least, with what i've experienced), and it's to the point where even thinking about their presence makes you feel uncomfortable. in some cases, they may even try to start a relationship too soon. they constantly pamper and kind of obsess over you, hence the name.
i had a friend like this as a kid, who i'm gonna call V, and long story short, everything i've described above applies to his behaviour. he started the friendship way too fast and tried to cut me off from everyone, starting small with an argument between one of the my other friends to try to separate him from us. there was even an incident where i was talking with another friend privately about this situation, and i looked behind my shoulder and V was there, following us from a distance and trying to get close. we told him it was a private conversation from the get-go, but he just kept persisting. i'm glad i managed to get away from him in time before it got _really_ bad.
I remember being like that back on 2021. I'm happy that it ended.
this used to be me in primary i didnt realise it until my friend told me about it
she told me that she has her own social circle and friends, and her social circle shouldnt revolve around me only
im very grateful and glad that she told me about thsi and i get to realise how bad my actions were
and i feel sorry for my primary friend
i no longer do this anymore :D
I was a little like this but I wasn't hostile to other people. I was glad to be able to talk to anyone else as well. I even tried to help bring a friend back into our little circle when they got into an argument because I wanted them to still be friends. I just always wanted to be with that one person because I felt safe since I was bullied a lot. I also had it stuck in my mind that being a best friend is having 1 person you always want to do everything with so that didn't help either 🤦♀️. There were a lot of red flags that should have told me to start finding other friends but I was super weird so it didn't take much for people to go from hi to oh eew go die in the corner no one wants you here.
Luckily I was able to find more friends in highschool, I stopped talking to that 1 friend and I was actually able to enjoy being in school
Oh yes I’ve been living this !
I also had a friend like that I honestly didn't really realize that I wasn't hanging out with my other friends into it was too late, and I had no one to talk to. I'm glad you got out of that situation it's hard to get out of it.
#3 is also just every introvert ever. I'll go months without feeling a need to talk to someone sometimes, and then I'll feel awkward because it's been months since I talked to them.
I mean as an introvert, that’s not really an excuse to ignore friends 😰
@@cantermelon4368 Ignoring isn't quite the same as not initiating conversation to begin with.
That’s not what being an introvert is
@@wavez4224 yah
@@nyankers even my close friend is an introvert but we talk each and every day
I had a friend that I considered my bestie. And at that time, supposedly so did she consider me. I met her at a workplace. We hit it off famously. People would ask us if we were sisters. She invited my husband and I out to her home to visit & meet her husband. I really did think I was special when her husband mentioned that she is hard to get to know and didn't think she had ever invited someone home this quickly.. Anyway, I would help her undergo some projects at her house. Painting, gardening & landscaping, restoring a wagon.. yea, not lightweight stuff and after awhile, I began to reflect onto my place and how much it too could benefit from the same & together there was nothing we couldnt do.
So one day I mentioned this and 'oh of course we will - we will fix you up to'
Years passed and nothing changed. Then when finally satisfied (I guess) We tried to plan for me but then she was working too many hours, had too much laundry this time, etc. . Then her check in phone calls became less and less.. I desperately needed a place to stay after trouble in paradise but there wasn't enough room for me. So I stayed with husband because although not "together", we remained good friends. He was my best friend. I'd try keeping in touch with text & at first she would respond but that became less and less as well. Then responding ceased altogether.... Then January of this year, my husband surprised everyone by having a fatal heart attack. I knew that the news would effect her some and wasn't announced in much media, etc.., SO, I did text her. I simply sent his picture with his birthrate & date of his passing.. She did respond and acted as though we never lost touch.. "oh my God honey, what happrned?" I replied with: " why have you been ignoring me and my texts?" NO response.. then I sent "oh ok, so you have nothing to say?" She said "because I don't know what to say, I didn't think I was".. I responded "OK sure, if you say so."
All she'd have to do is read for herself the last 10 or so texts in our history so see that I am correct. We've been silent ever since. If that is her true colors, I prefer that.
Another thing I’ve seen is:
Say you said your friends has anger issues, or maybe you had a fight with them and called them rude or mean. Sometimes they might say “oh, don’t mind me and my anger issues” or “sorry, I’m just really mean 😀”
I’ve had friends who’ve did things like that, and I end up working my head off about them.
I have a lot of one-sided relationships. I seem to be the only one putting in the effort to check in on them and see how they're doing. God, this hurts. Once I care about someone it's hard for me to NOT care.
I’m in the same boat with that one.
I feel you! I think it’s okay for some friendships like if I had a deep connection with them and when we hang out we enjoy each other’s company it doesn’t bother me as much. Compared to a friend that didn’t have any deep conversations with it makes me feel used and like they don’t care. And this one friend keeps making excuses for not reaching out more and when they do it’s only about them.
same but cutted them all because they didnt do the same for me...
I freaking swear I relate to this too much. Literally, two tears ago before the pandemic hit, I had some pretty good friends, and a really close one. I would talk to them a lot, as I had like three classes together with them, which were in order, so we had a long period of time to talk. We did argue a lot, as she was quite sensitive and I'll admit, I wasn't the nicest person back then. After the pandemic took a toll on the education system, a lot of my friends simply stopped talking to me and practically all the time I need to be the one talking to them before they say anything. I really don't think it was the pandemic that caused my one-sided friendships, it's probably just that after a school year has passed, I'm usually the one carrying the relationship. It has happened years before the pandemic many times. Random note: I've been in a friend group of four people twice in my life (it's insanely hard to get one now but easier when you're younger), and both times I'm usually the weirdo and the nerd at the same time. The first time I caught one of the people in the friend group writing a letter explaining why I should be excluded from the group for about a week, and I was kinda sad. The second group, contained two twins, a BTS Stan (how the absolute frick did she manage to get friends, she did nothing but talk about it and play Korean rythmn games), and there was me. Usually I was the one to make people laugh because I was outgoing, but now I think I was just weird and I also think that everyone is boring lol. I pretty much just got slowly but surely removed from the group, and to this day, I can catch the friend group grinding on games without me. It doesn't even hurt, I just feel determined to get new friends, as everytime I think about it, I just feel compelled to put my past behind me and to basically start a new life.
How did you read all of this? I literally ranted to complete strangers on the internet because that's how sad life is bruh
I'm in the same boat as you with multiple people, most of my friendships are like that. I'm always the one reaching out- it's not as if they act like they're doing me a favor by replying to messages, but it certainly can be exhausting at times. Since I know if I'm not reaching out to them when I can, the friendship will most likely just poof, like it never happened at all. That fact deeply saddens me- and I want to believe my friends do have their reasons for never being the ones to talk to me first, but it's hard sometimes.
I would add a 6th category : the pushovers. People with no respect of our boundaries, always asking (or rather ordering) that we do this and that.
"Answer my texts right away next time!"
"We'll go see a movie this saturday don't be late! What do you mean you can't? I said we're going!"
It's easy to stay with these people when we fear we would be alone and don't appreciate that. That makes us blind to these misbehaviors and we end up feeling worse everytime.
Run, run, run away from people like that!!!
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A true friend will not bully you into plans that they made without consulting you and will not demand that you be at their beck and call.
It's better to be alone than to be with a bully.
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