Woman Reveals Which Men She Puts In The FRIENDZONE
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Creating a masculine frame works on feminine women, but do you think that masculine women (which most are) will be irritated by men showing masculinity? And can that lead to confusion for a man that doesn't realize how masculine the woman he's talking to is?
There's no such thing as a friend zone.
Women will always cheat on their boyfriends or husbands with you, if you are worth the thrill. In fact, the friend zone is where you get the most pussy because thats when she doesnt want any strings attached.
If you're with a girl whose just calling you a friend but isnt putting out, it just means shes not attracted to you. Or it means that shes MORE attracted to her boyfriend/husband.
Once you are more attractive (And that word does not *only* mean physically) then the friend zone no longer exists.
@@TheHighEvolutionaryP13 It's a fake account scammer.
Thanks Alex
If you're in the "friendzone" is because you want to stay in the friendzone. Just leave her and find a girl who likes you.
Right, the reason some men stay in the friend zone is that one day they will have a chance, but what they don't understand is that only happens when she ways through their options or can't find the men they are attracted to. Basically, you're the backup, or the way my ex explained it "the idiot in waiting".
Yep either be upfront about advancing to a sexual/romantic interest, or just walk away.
Yep best way to deal with these women is by ghosting them or finding a girl that won't waste your time.
@@Boddah. Absolutely find a girl that likes you and won’t waste your time, but I respectfully beg to differ on the ghosting part; you should tell her, “look, I liked you and wanted/hoped for an exclusive relationship with you, but I see that is not going to happen, since you don’t feel attraction to me in return, so I am moving on to find someone who does,” or words to that effect. No hard feelings, no guilt trip; wish her well but make it plain that she will not be a priority in your life, since you were only ever going to be an option in hers. Make it crystal clear or otherwise she will string you along, thinking she can use you when she needs a favor, a shoulder to cry on, etc. Let her find another shoulder. Leave amiably, but leave. And don’t waver or look back.
@@tobiaslawrence8928 especially when these women hit post wall which always starts out with a Hey Stranger or Hey Big Head text followed by a bunch of bullshit followed by a bunch of lies and excuses claiming that she liked the guy for a long time and blah blah blah
When she turns 40 she’ll be in the old zone
*35
hahaha
Love it❤🤣
Fact😂
27-28.
Not being thirsty is a great way to avoid the friend zone.
Put her in the fz before she can put you there. It works.
You have put it in a nutshell. --Old Guy
Instructions unclear. Stuck my weewee into a toaster.
Having self respect and standards ...
A cold shower a day keeps the thirst at bay...
I ghost any women who wants friendship. I am not playing a losing game
woman*
I agree on not playing games you can't win, you shouldn't. But you can also be honest about it, and your goals - that you're looking for a partner, not a friend. Have integrity, you know? Ghosting is a coward's way out. I know because I did it. And it was done to me. And every time it felt shitty. I decided not to be a part of the problem.
I get them to wax my back
chad
I always figured SHE was lucky to be in MY friendzone.
Its crazy how easy it is to avoid the friendzone. Don't be friends with women.
I agree. Many men will tell you that you CAN'T be friends with women; there is always that underlying sexual interest, at least on the man's part, and she knows it. She is looking for free stuff. Don't give it to her. --Old Guy
@@Ed-ig7fj, and who says you can't have sex with your friends? If I were single and a woman I'm friends with asks, _"Would you mind terribly sexing the stuffing out of me?"_ I would be ok with that. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Don’t be friends with women (as a strategy to get in their pants because it’s draining and it rarely works).
All my friendships with women ended because at some point, I didn't bother to be the only one initiating meetings and they ended it because we weren't engaging anymore. With one, it was because I started my master's degree and had no time left. I still have one female friend and we hardly meet more than once a year, but for some reason, it doesn't bother her, opposed to the others. She's not a close friend of mine (those are 3 men) and I'm not a close friend of hers, but that's fine with me. I very much value her perspective on political and social issues, relationship, and sometimes she has really good suggestions about household things. Her positive attitude is just awesome.
None of us is single. She's married and I'm engaged. When Alex mentions high-quality women, I noticed that not only does my fiancée live up to this standard, but that friend as well.
@Brandon Letzco You can be friends with women, but not with most of them. It requires effort and it requires that you value her for something unrelated to being in a relationship with her.
I follow no women on Instagram. I no longer talk to women who have boyfriends. I do have multiple dates going on, but once I sense there’s the friendzone approaching, I immediately leave. Peaceful fair trade to me.
Well said
Just curious, what's a sign that the friend zone is approaching? Is it like asking you for favors when you communicate?
It sure is an extreme take but if it works for you. I can accept friendship without too much bs, expectations and when I'm clearly not interested in anything romantic/sexual.
@@xcosmiccrunchx one sign might be the effort put in isn't equal.
@@xcosmiccrunchx for me, the sign is when that girl is no longer touches her hair while talking to me
If she calls it the friend zone....she is not your friend
If you call it the friend zone you're not her friend either 🙃
@@whatever1068 if you're gonna be friends with a woman better to not be attracted to her
@@whatever1068 men don't go around saying they're in the friendzone. False equivalence!
You might not control access to sex
But you always control if you are in a friendozone or not
Always remember that
Never forget: the term for friendzone they used before the welfare state was "husband material".
@@bigneiltoo the audacity
@@bigneiltoo facts. The issue is that in the minds of modern women - the qualities that make for a good boyfriend/husband aren’t “exciting” to date. And the men that excite them, lack the qualities of being a solid long term prospect
@@desmonides Today's women are all like strippers. They have sugar daddies and some loser F-boy on the side. Even when you meet an attractive woman, hit it off, make out, and are better looking than her and/or her age, she's with her F-boy later that night, financed by your tax dollars. They have a hand-held app to help them find F-boys.
@@desmonides Yes. That is the choice made by low quality women.
I haven't been friendzoned much, but any time that I was, I put more into the "friendship" than she did, we were never like two guy friends, the women still expected me to be a white knight and do things for them and pay for them. Like a boyfriend without benefits. I don't do that, so I simply make myself too busy to do anything with them, and eventually they stop calling. Women want guys in the friendzone to still be traditional and do everything and pay for everything.
its called emotional tampon. you were an emotional tampon. if they arent helping you move gravel or put up sheetrock or moving furniture or helping your K:D ratio in some FPS then its not a friendship.
Dude. Guys in a girls friendzone are her labor workforce. If you're in her fz, you work for her.
That's a good description of what the friendzone really is: a "martian" that a "venusian" expects to treat her like a "intimate partner" but doesn't want to reciprocate and treat him the same way, to treat him like a "intimate partner".
I've had sex with girl's who put me in the friendzone before. It just took time to win their trust.
You summed it up perfectly
I can relate. Had a girl who I was friendzoned by while in high school. I actually didn't know I was friendzoned because I lacked a lot of social awareness from being super introverted and reserved. However, I did notice 1 thing about our friendship. I was always putting in more effort, time, and attention than she was. I guess I really didn't value myself growing up call out others, I was just wayyy too nice. Anyways, we move on to different college and that space and time from her is what I needed to reflect on the relationship and I realized just how the dynamic was between me and her. Years later though, after I graduated from my master's and now working a steady job, she appeared out of the blue into my life and I just left her on read. Then I met up with one of my high school and while we were chatting, we talked about her, and apparently she was freaking out because she was trying to get married and couldn't find anyone. I guess I got my revenge that day.
I think the better description is naive instead of "nice".
@@agm5424 you read my mind. I actually forgot to mention naivety. But ya, I was also super nice and severely lacked social skills due to being super nerdy and introverted. Going through a phase where I'm kind of a little bit of an asshole but trying to find a middle ground where I'm able to stand up for myself without being a complete asshole.
Read “No More Mr Nice Guy” by Dr Glover
"she was trying to get married & couldn't find anyone" it's almost completely over for her at this point, oh well. You'll be fine though so keep your head on straight.
@@stevec3526 I second that. That book is life changing
You put me in the friendzone today, you are ghosted yesterday.
Got friendzoned by a women recently. Laughed it off and told her nah. Unfortunately we have mutual friends, so there will come a time when we will meet again. So just told her it's better if we stay acquitances instead. Will I keep it civil.... yes, will I bother going out of my way to interact with her.... nah.
You're right, King. Nicely done.
Had the same with a girl from the supermarket I frequent. We walked around town and got along great. Flirted and so on.
Had the talk and she went “Well I am not ready yet (she just broke up with her bf), we can still meet up right?”
Me “Nope, I’ll still say hi and talk to you while shopping but that’s it.”
She was so flabberghasted 😆
I once got a huge email ending with "so can we just be friends?" and (after various unsent replies) I just wrote "No." and she said "Well F off then!". A couple weeks later we had wild monkey sex and she sent love letters like no other.
@@Dhalgrim they're JUST AS IF NOT MORE! entitled & disordered than a large percentage of men. So disgusting when they are flabbergasted tbh.
@@Dhalgrim At least she did not mess you around & use you as a rebound.
today is my birthday, she didn't even wish me a hbd after I wasted all my time with her for the last 6 months... women have 0 respect for us
Sucker! 😂
What…? is she really your gf?
She probably knows at least 3 guys who have the same birthday as you and places them higher than you.
@@le_decard its just his turn
😭😭
The answer to the friendzone question has been a pretty simple fix from my end:
If I am interested, I ask her out. If she says, “I am more interested in being friends,” then I say, “no big deal” and move onto the next one. Very easy to do and you only deal with the ones that are interested back.
I do keep female friends that add value to my life but, I know for sure I won’t be with them so it’s easy to not get too involved.
At one point in college I decided I wanted to get laid, and finding a girlfriend was less important. I asked a bunch of women out in a short period, and if they said no I moved on and didn't try again. A bizarre thing happened. One of them ended up sleeping with me, and I started dating her. Several of the others rounded back to me and started chasing _me._ Before this I'd had little success, but ask once and ignore seemed to work like fly fishing ... present the lure, withdraw it for a while ... when you present it again briefly they might snap at it.
Use the friendzone. If you know she isn't going to advance things with you then use her as a means to expand your female acquaintances. Consider her a spring board to meet her friends. Use her need to keep you around for validation as a tool to meet other women, If she is attractive and has attractive friends it will raise your status amongst other women when you are seen socializing with them. It will also make you a lot more comfortable in how you talk to women. The friendzone is only a negative place if you never take your eyes off of the one women. Otherwise its a whole world of opportunities.
I think if her friends see you as her friend, they'll most likely see you as low quality and give you a pass.
You know, this is an excellent idea. I doubt most have the fortitude to see it through.
@@veetour that and if you are a chad or just super sexy they won't resist to flirt with you and fck.
Trust me, female nature reveals it all, if they are thirsty over you
I should have done this more.
Nah. You'll just look like a beggar and a guy who "clings on". Dump her *ss and find someone worth your attention.
I never knew what 'friendzoned' was, until I experience it myself & I wasted 2 year of my times & money for nothing.
So when I knew a friendzone happen again by other women , I just leave them find someone else who available
A guy really does need to be a rube to end up in that situation.
@@Selrisitailook, stupid, I was In prison for long time 15year for aggravated arm robbery on few banks at 18 year old but I got snitched out so I didn't learn any computer skills or any technology & I'm 35 year old now.
It took me 3 years to learn about hook up culture, texting skills & other social media bullshit.
Anyway adapting to new world outside the prison was hard but lucky I had my insurance, it was a helper for me
Live a honest life now
User I been there 2. Was brainwashed. Though at least I know the USA UK & Australia are fully of delusional trash chicks
She puts chumps in the friendzone. Any self-respecting man WALKS the moment she says "friends".
"Friends without benefits", that is. Friends _with_ benefits might be the best option You can possibly have should she be hot and fun in the bedroom but a drama kween irl ....
Vetting women by making your intentions clear is essential. The friend zone is not benefiting the man at all. If they have a boyfriend or orbiters…..they are time wasters and you need to walk away.
Yes, the friendzone only exists to benefit her. You know what the friend zone for a guy looks like? It's the girl that let's him come over at 3 in the morning for a piece of ass.
The friend zone is not on the girl, it's on the guy.
If the guy sticks around and she's clear it's only friends it's on him! I'm a guy
Sure, my only pushback is how women define "clear".
@@xcosmiccrunchx true
But a woman can't change her mind ?
@@Funkylover-sl7ew what do you mean?
@@razarraz8276 there are plenty of cases where successful long term committed relationships started off as strictly platonic friends
I'm retired from the friendzone status I refuse to be a part of their fan club receiving nothing in return
I get a pedicure and back wax.
Once you start down the friendzone path, forever will it dominate the relationship.
Yes, yes . . . be mindful of your training, young Chadawan, save you it can, hmmm?
@@righthandwolf306 “chadawan” 🤣
There's no relationshit emerging outta the friendzone. You either dump her and get her aware that way, or You dump her and can go cheer the good riddance.
Fear of rejection increases when you are sold on a woman before even getting to know her. If you are not sold upon just seeing her but if you are instead merely interested you can ask her out much more easily. If she is not interested in meeting up with you it's no big deal. Merely being interested comes from having standards. It will require you to find out if she meets those standards first before actually becoming seriously interested in her.
Some call this "oneitis", & its a bad habit....
This is for guys who create attachment too easily/quickly. There are ways you can avoid this. But it's a learning process.
agree. sex is such an immediate, visceral need for men, we go from 0 to 100 when we see an attractive woman. this causes us issues. the challenge is men have to approach women, so women get the upper hand. but (particularly as I get older and the libido diminishes), putting in perspective, i have now lost count of the number of women who have such terrible personalities or are just plain incompatible. the equivalent for a woman is getting attention from a guy she is not attracted to. once the testosterone clears (and it does more so with age), you realise that if they don't actually work at it, women offer very little.
Friends = free resources = free attention = typical men's experience because of how we're raised
Completely ignoring women is no guarantee of avoiding rejection. I'm amazed at how many women who I'm not paying attention to at all feel the compulsion to come up to me and insult me, a complete stranger to them.
This is a new one to me. What insults are they throwing at you? And why?
@@davidvanwinkle5033 Why? That's what I'd like to know. Who goes up to a complete stranger who's not bothering them and starts insulting them? If they picked the wrong guy to do that to, they might get their asses beat into the pavement--so they're taking quite a risk. I usually get called either stupid or ugly. Okay, the ugly part is objectively true, and they sometimes elaborate on various features of my appearance and tell me how disgusting they find me. Still, doing that without provocation really makes no sense to me. And being called stupid without even speaking to me--what, are they clairvoyant?
@@bigscarysteve I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess you live in an area with a lot of feminist and "leftist" activity.
@@davidvanwinkle5033 I do live in a college town. The college here isn't as insanely left as the ones that get in the news all the time, but it's way too left for my taste.
@@bigscarysteve that explains everything then.
I'm not scared of the friend zone at all. But if she thinks she's gonna get GF benefits she's out of her damn mind.
Friendzoned = she wants boyfriend benefits while giving her girlfriend benefits to others.
I have not met any women who expected girlfriend benefits from a male friend. I'm sure they are out there but most of us would only expect from a friend what we ourselves are willing to do for friends.
The friendzone bs is old and juvenile. Here's how you get out of the friendzone. Tell her, "I think that's great. You can never have too many friends." Then, don't be her friend and DO NOT EVER CALL HER AGAIN!
Quite solid advice, your being cordial whilst respectfully disengaging from being potentially exploited.
I once managed an accounting firm. When interviewing for entry level positions I often noticed that first time applicants ONLY wanted upper level positions. They OVER VALUED themselves and thought that they DESERVED greater salaries based upon FANTASY of their abilities and not reality.
This is sort of like dating in today's environment. Women are over valuing their abilities and what they bring to the table over and above access to their vajayjays.
F*****g facts!
Well that's what are your thinking of a relationship as being, a table (whatever that means) were your feel you are blackmailed for access to the V....?? whatever your calling it. That's not very mature to tbh. Can't you just go for someone who is also looking for casual fun, until you get that phase of desperately wanting to get laid out your system? And perhaps you might want to find out, why you even want to be with a women? What does 3 minutes of squelching count for when the person isn't even human to you. Is it for street cred with your buddies? There's electrical equipment that can stimulate certain sexual acts probably a lot better & then you can watch porn with better looking women in it who are eternally youthful and never age.
@@redstar7292 What kinda simpster insult is that? Jubal.Harshaw is absolutely right - generation show-up prize never being harshly corrected out of their "deserving" mindset are nothing but a pain in the behind, to work with as well as to be in whatever kinda relationshit in and even to simply have 'em around is a toxic, unpleasant experience. They need to get a proper dad-treatment the right time in their upbringing to learn what it all is about. Single momma's stepdaddying friends are the wrong demographic to do that, and once they reach 20 or so "uncorrected" You can just see to not have 'em around whatsoever until they create their first major catastrophe in their lives and start learning from scratch after it - while only some are capable to even grasp that, most simply keep on blaming and deservin' as they ever did.
My 21 year old daughter is not interested in dating right now, but wants a more mixed social group, currently they are nearly all girls. She says she gets friendly with a guy and after a day or two he asks her out and she says "no, can't we just be friends?". Of course, being a GenZ she blames society and the patriarchy, but I do feel for her. She just wishes guys wouldn't ask her out at all, then she wouldn't have to reject or "friend zone" them. They could just be friends. I tell her that she is an attractive, intelligent interesting person (takes after me of course!) so it will happen. I replied as well saying did she realise how it feels, as a man, to be in a group of friends with a woman you have a crush on but who you feel you cannot ask out? (been there, it is the eighth circle of hell).
Tell her she can be friends but must tell him in the most upfront and honest way as possible. Should not give the possibility to these men that they might have chance with her 1 day.
Also, to be friend she need to provide some value onto the table. Most of the time, a man bring more value between a male and a female friendship.
Biological drive men cannot switch off. A lot of women have completely different hobbies, interests and goals which make them uninteresting in friendship so once dates are off the table pointless staying.
My point to her would be:Find some friends who are in a relationship,and problem solved,right? Right?? O wait,their girlfriends don't let them hang out with other girls.Haha 😂
@@padrinozerocool That is hard though, maybe he isn't interested in her that way, so saying up front that you don't want to date him will come over as very hostile, and rather conceited! You don't know whether someone will want to date you until they ask. It is a very hard situation to negotiate and I don't think there are easy answers for either sex, particularly for an attractive 21 year old woman surrounded by hoards of horny 21 year old men! (she is at Uni). I told her it will be easier when she is 45 and living alone with her pets (like her mother). She didn't find that funny!
Being 21 and not being interested in dating men means only one thing: lesbian.
When I was a teenager and young adult in my 20s, I would constantly use the advice Alex gave at around 9:45! I would go on break with a girl I thought was cute at work, at school or at a social event, and I would sit down at the same table she was at and introduce myself. Afterwards, I would slide my phone on the table and tell her that she should throw her number in there so we could talk outside of work/the event/school. I started 2 relationships out of the multiple women I got numbers from. The rest didn't feel like rejections, even when I didn't get the number. Rejection is a mindset, that way, it seems.
There was a time in recent history where men had much more control over the dating and marriage outcome process. Socially, things were limited for women - and with good reason. This is because things have ALWAYS been effectively easier for the female. Putting restrictions on female interaction provides a more equal footing socially. Until things return to that standard, men are going to have a difficult time coupling.
Did not see this coming 😳
Lol b4 tinder and social media. No. Things were not much easier for w omen.
@@hanalala3164 And who said they were???
@@BarbaraA.MertzRN-CCRN Are you advocating for a Christian theocracy?
@@technoloverish Sadly, in my opinion, few Christians actually READ the scriptures or understand what they are really saying. For example, most Christians that I know are divorced yet the perspective of 'Christ' was that though Mosaic law permitted a 'Gett' in specific circumstances, he (Jesus) was against divorce. This is but one example - so - NO, I would advocate an even stricter adherence to G-d's laws as biblically mandated. More modest dress and conduct for females and men would need to adhere to the laws as well. Society as a whole needs to back up several centuries and pay attention to the lessons we have already learned.
Seriously, until women actually NEED men for their very survival, I don't see things changing. Women (for one) do not love in the same way that men do. Men love more completely with devotion. Women do not. Women are very opportunistic and willingly jump from guy to guy to increase their situational merit (gynocentrism). Sadly, it is just a part of their genetic structure and nature. But that does not make it right. that kind of action is vile and animalistic. It needs to be taught in schools that this nature is vile and ugly and restrictions placed upon it by ways of civil laws giving females punishments for not sticking with and supporting their husbands. But, I am 'Old School'...
The key to leaving the friend zone is stop being her friend. Don't be available for her, don't support her emotional needs, go live your life. She'll either chase more or leave it dead. But the ambiguity will be gone.
which is what women love to bank on. ambiguity. dangling the carrot just enough so you chase.
It's very simple to counter the friend zone. What she calls the friend zone I call ghosting!
POV: When you have been rejected 33 times consecutively till date, without experiencing any positive outcome, and all of the rejections are from warm/gradual type of approach
Perhaps it isn't the approach 🤔
@@davidvanwinkle5033 surprising right. Who would have guessed women are just as superficial if not more, especially regarding looks, race and skin tone lol
@@user-nq5hy7vn9k lol indeed. Dating isn't worth it. But I understand why many still try.
We all know already…. They don’t need to reveal anything. Anyone who’s smart enough can understand how things roll… things that most don’t even understand although they’re doing it lol.
Modern culture has exploited and exposed our biological ways at a level we can’t really handle. Fewer and fewer are being able to adapt every decade…
We’ve break apart from our true selves. Television and the “arts”(Hollywood, etc etc) and social media along with capitalism did that.
We’re at a stage where we already imitate the delusion that came out from this process… the “natural” doesn’t exist anymore, we’re engaging in this repetition of the toxic degenerate culture we created. That’s why everyone is depressed, detached, out of place…
Sad
I have a few long distance female friends . But I got rid of all my local female friends. Being friends with women is tough because you usually develop feelings for them and of course they just friendzone you so the best way to avoid this is not to be friends with females. Most of them just need someone to listen to thier daily gossip and other nonsense
Rejection sucks, but I find that it sucks more to recall how I missed an opportunity to approach someone I found really attractive. I congratulate myself when I approach someone like that, even when I get rejected.
That's on point
There is nothing better then rejection, you learn so fast what not to do
Very wise
Back before social media it was normal to have genuine friends who were the opposite sex. I had a few very good female friends who were just like one of the guys. But those days are over now. I still have some of those old friends but making new ones won’t happen. One of my best friends now is a female but we have been friends for 20 years
I can only imagine this working if there is mutual non attraction.
That was still rare then too.
Once i realized id been a beta orbiter for an attractive woman who had rejected me several times, I completely ignored her.
I will never allow myself to be friendzoned again
If you ever get friendzoned again, you better use the orbit for a slingshot maneuver. Use her connection to know more girls.
Generally, girls who are using a guy as an orbiter will not introduce you to girls. They tend to be careful and only have you around friends who are in relationships or are lesbians. Girls know that if she is using you and an available girl is around who may take you seriously, she will lose you almost entirely.
Guys totally underestimate how competitive women are when it comes to the male resource.
The internet has exposed women's garbage inner character. That and their seemingly unending delusions.
I feel like the world Nightmare right now is the product of Leadership done in mass by Women's Delusions.
Why be scared of the friendzone if that will open up other doors. Friendzone got me a few jobs, and also enabled me to move through life. It u are getting used then break the relationship. Rejection is good, you learn more through failure then when you success. The more you fail, the quicker you learn. Also, ask for feedback from friends and from exs. The quicker you grow a thick skin, the better. Have no agenda, no goal but just to have fun. The less you care the more you will succeed.
If she puts you in the friendzone ask her to hook you up with her best friend. She’ll get jealous quick! And you’ll be out of the friendzone.
you know!
that's a very interesting point he makes. i too used to be of the mindset that you HAVE to let a woman know your intentions, crash and burn asap etc., but i also came to realize over time that it doesn't always work that way. i think being overly obvious with your intentions can actually help in putting the overly shy introverts on the right path, but eventually they will need to learn other subtle skills too.
The Friend-zone is really misnamed because you are never her friend. In the first place women don't really have friends, I mean not like guys do. Their friends are still people they are in competition with at all times. Second, to a guy you are definitely not a friend, you are a source of favors/attention/validation etc. And that is it.
If you don't believe me go ahead and ask your guy friends and also ask your chick friends for a big favor like helping you move. See what happens.
I never put myself in the friend' zone
If a woman doesn't show interest in the process of gauging it, to me it's an indirect rejection, or you "struck out looking" as opposed to a rejection to a direct attempt, "striking out swinging". Both are still rejections but the 1st one may avoid awkwardness afterwards, so I recommend the 1st.
When I meet a 35+ year old chick, I put then in the post wall smash zone
W omen friendzone you even at a young age lol
Hey Kings. Work on yourself, make friends, push up. Dont let yourself down. Woman will come on go. You are your companion whole time, love yourself first.
The whole secret about the "friendzone" that all men should know in order to not get used is this: YOU ARE NOT ACTUALLY HER FRIEND AND NEVER WILL BE. If you were her friend you would have a great time. She would hook you up with her hot friends and occasionally sleep with you. Just by escorting you she could help you achieve great things by improving your image. Instead she PRETENDS to be your friend in order to continue enjoying rejecting degrading and hurting you. If a hot girl actually were your friend... you would be in heaven.
Uhh what?? Friends most definitely do not occasionally sleep with you.
I am a woman, and I fully agree with you, Alexander! I was always wary of guys who came on too strong and acted like they wanted to take charge and move ahead too quickly.
Being invited by a guy to a social event is quite perfect, actually. At least, it would make me feel far more comfortable to say "yes" to that than to a date with someone I don't know. I don't see anything manipulative about it at all.
It does vaguely communicate interest on the guy's behalf, but it gives everyone "wiggle room" to avoid making a potential rejection feel too awkward. And hey, it might be that the guy himself may want to reject the girl he invited - for example, she gets really drunk and acts in a disgusting manner.
So yeah, the "warm" approach in general should result in fewer rejections. And as you have correctly said, it allows the guy to get more info about the girl, too - just looking at her, seeing how she interacts with others, maybe getting his friends' opinion on the whole thing later. With a "cold" approach, one gotta be really handsome and/or charming to have any luck with it, imo 😂 I'd expect it to fail like 95% of the time otherwise.
very well stated
She won't put you in the friend zone if she's attracted to you...& if she does for some reason if you don't accept it you won't be in the friend zone for long.
How about a hybrid method that combines both cold and warm approach ? Keep things in the middle by making cold, fast approaches like if you were in the street. But in a place where there is some form of assumed intimacy like the Gym,library,University,School some kind of hobby ect. This way you can have the benefits of a cold approach like learning quickly if she is interested or not. And also the benefits of a warm approach like not being creepy since your presence in that place is justified.
This makes sense 👏
It's not only to make them like you but also to know whether you will like her! The looks are only 50% of the whole package and there is a high chance that you will not even like her after talking a bit. So if you change the perspective from "wow, she looks amazing, how do I get her number" to "she looks like my type, I have to show the best version of myself and see whether we have a connection" I think it makes a guy less greedy, more genuine and interesting!
In result, you will be less depressed on rejection, be more confident and increase your chance of success.
Looks are a lot less than 50% of it. If you end up in a LTR with her, you'll be with her when her looks fade. What then? If her looks are even 50% of it, the relationship can't last--and that will be your fault. Don't get into a LTR with a woman if her physical appearance is any significant percentage at all of why you want to be with her.
@@bigscarysteve I agree, although for each person that looks/personality ratio can differ. Cheers
Wait until she is 45 and a single mom. Then begins the "phone list pilgrimage" thru all these "friends" to see who will accept a BMW with 200k miles on it at a slightly discounted price.
VVomenz are actually TERRIBLE at friendship. They usually secretly hate each other and backstab their "besties".
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You always get me lmao.
You will stay in the friendzone for as long as you serve a purpose and for as long as it's convenient for them.
You are so nice and genuine. I just watched a female sociopath/ narcissist….. SCARY and just sick
I don't bother approaching and I never did. Rather be alone or be approached by a woman.
Nail it
Yeah, me too, but only half of men throughout history reproduced, so I was never that bothered by not being competitive. Besides, too often men have been taken advantage of, and I'm not willing to play that kind of game. Let other people's offspring inherit the world, it won't mean anything to me in the grave.
That's my strategy now let them approach me I stop cold approaches
Then, after 30 she'll be like "where are all the good men?".
Easiest way to get out of the friendzone......Don't ever go there to begin with.
She was in a lifetime movie I saw a few years ago.
That seems like a Lifetime ago!
High value women to me are intelligent women who are 8s, 9s, and 10s in looks. Mystery used to talk about the 7 hour rule. She needs 4-10hrs with an avg. of 7hrs of comfort-building before she can be f-ked and not feel regret (what he called "buyer's remorse"). You can skip the 7hrs by telling her about the fact that you feel a unique connection with her, and compliment non-sexual things about her personality, during Aftercare - that peaceful recovering and relaxing quality time spent together after sex. Of course you can only do that if you actually have a connection and know things about her personality. Most men just seem like they talk about getting off, and women complain about it. If men used Aftercare as an after action review and supported the woman by just telling her she was good in bed and you like her, there wouldn't be any women feeling used the next day and men would start to become more skilled lovers from the feedback.
I find the best line is "want to go make out?" They almost always admit they do. They'll say "No. I mean I do, but not now. I'm at work. But next time" and then they will do it anyway.
@@ApexAL Sadly, it's easy come, easy go. In the old days a kiss guaranteed a date. Now I have girls who make out with me every time I see them, but who never text back. That means they live with another guy, etc. Last night a beautiful blonde girl with a flower in her hair got up from the bar, walked over and put her arm around my arm and just stood by my side for about 10 minutes. She was drunk but still. Then a waitress I know walked over and pried her off my arm and took her away, never having the courtesy to even say hello to me. The cock blocking that goes on when you reach this zone is beyond belief. It's like the universe balances out and keeps us single anyhow.
Yes a good skin care product is the key lol
If you want honesty, integrity, loyalty and love - get a dog.
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I'm not afraid of the freind zone because I would never stay there more than a week!
You should definitely put a definite date upfront. Being vague let's them play with you. If she rejects the plan because of time then let her suggest if she doesn't she is not interested
Friend zone = not sexually attracted to your girly man behaviours.
Im not scared of it anymore. If I like you and youre clearly not interested, im out. im not gonna talk to you.
Plenty of women I know are constantly saying "Ugh. Guys are complaining about the friendzone. How do you think it feels to be put in the fuckzone?" And its like, okay. So you are entitled to say no to having sex and being in a relationship with me and thats totally fine, but if I want to have sex or have a romantic relationship, and I get rejected, Im the asshole for ditching the friendship that I DIDNT WANT, and that OU probably dont want either? You ladies confuse me to all hell. No means No until it affects what YOU want.
I will let you on a lil secret; the 'friendzone' was made because women more often than not are afraid of a voilent reaction from a man who just got straight up rejected. Also, would you like it if you were treated like a f..uck meat by some gay guy? Like your friendship and you as a person has 0 value, he just wants to bang you.
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haha I made those silly mistakes of being too direct. I'd probably make the same mistakes again but who cares! Remember, we'll all be dead one day.
when she say everyone, of course she mean except chad, he has no rule to bend to.
Remember, all of this only matters if you're not ugly.
Enjoy your cats in 20 years sweet cheeks.
Enjoy your boxed wine and cat piss ladies!
My parents went through a horrible divorce when I was very young and all my friends' parents were divorced. At one level I wanted to find love but at another level I was terrified of ending up like they did. So being rejected was actually easier than not.
I would say Matt really wasn’t approaching. He didn’t want to risk. Zone Approximal means never leaving your comfort zone. No risk no reward.
Then how do you explain the awards he got?
Nah it's called knowing how to read body language. Not every approach has to be high risk.
Zone of Proximal Development means gradually pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone with intention and patience
They put you in the "friendzone" if their not interested but you're still good enough to provide something. Money, repairs, lifts etc.
Embrace rejection. Use it as a test tool or a guide. If she likes you, she won't reject you. The trick is to only give attention to high quality women worthy of your attention. If she rejects you, no worries: be polite and move on. If she doesn't, be polite and take her along for a ride.
Sometimes I want to be in the friendzone, so I don't have to deal with the sticky emotional issues of a rollercoaster romance. Sometimes romance is a nightmare, trying to meet someone's emotional needs. That's why I'd rather be friends most of the time anyway. Let the women put in the work for a change.
Just say “ i am not looking for friends and if you want that sorry m not interested in that.” If she says but we need to be friends first, just walk away
Yeah my "guy friends" have friend zoned me. It is really for the best though because they have different values even though I liked them as people.
My values were "red flags" for them but they also liked me around as a designated driver to bars when I don't drink and enjoyed the social banter and live music. Paid off with free Starbucks 😜 and guy protection from creeps- "guys I am not interested in" trying to offer a drink...I can flag a guy friend to act like a boyfriend to get the guy away.
They also told me when a guy was interested in me and if they were chill with what I am about aka my "red flags". So the guy friends were better wing men when single.
These guys sound like real friends not friendzone friends.
The new hobby for men soon will be watching women cry from their bathtubs in middle age like Paulina Porizkova. Tik Tok crying video compilations will become the new men's entertainment channels.
😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Sick
they pretty much already are, I know I get a kick out of them
@@philipcamp1370 You have no idea how much women laugh at men apparently. What is good for the goose is good for the gamder.
@@stormchaser419 oh but I do . Women have changed beyond reason .
I'm 51 and If I'd known what I know now, 30 years ago I can safely say that I'd never have bothered with women, period. They're not worth it. Don't dress to impress but how you want to dress. The clothes don't make the man, quite the contrary it's the other way around I've found. Most women are going to reject 80% of the men out there and that's most likely you.
The only advice I can give you, if you want to pick up women, is become successful, make lots of money, drive fancy cars, own lots of property and I can guarantee that you'll have women falling off of you. I would also advise you as well that they don't want you, but what you can give them and that's even the men who aren't successful. It's a contract a woman sees in having a relationship. She'll open her legs, if you pay hence why they're called 304's/garden tools. Women today are lost. They're all feminists, even those who say they're not because the whole society is feminist orientated and anti men.
My true advice is stay away from them. Be polite, be courteous, but that's it. Get on with your life and if you MUST have bedroom fun - pay a pro as you'll get what you paid for with no after problems, no bunny boilers, no false assault allegations etc etc etc. They're just a complete and utter waste of time and not worth the effort. And that said I wouldn't even bother with a pro either. Just grab your chicken and choke it. Trust me, afterwards you'll then realise you just saved $150 that you can spend on something useful instead of some slack, escort whose dead in the head and not interested.
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I just avoided girls in my teens- when my dad kept warning me that women were just 'dangerous distractions'- and then throughout my 20s, though I developed some good friendships with women in my academic and activist groups with no illusions. After a challenging intimate relationship with a gifted older woman therapist who killed herself when I was 30, I felt 'done' with intimate relationships- and then was approached by a succession of women who reminded me of some of the delights that females can provide- but also the frustrations. The last one I felt less emotional connection with, but I married her because she was willing to support my career which involved moving to a new city. I knew that it wouldn't last, but her family liked me and they all helped to 'polish' me in a way that I had ignored, which helped my career. I had a very dismissive family, so this was a bonus. I also found out that this woman was incapable of bearing children, which I considered a bonus, and it made our divorce a lot easier that the breakups my friends told me about about. Great points Alex
Considering how often people ghost or block when it's uncalled for, the friendzone is actually something I miss. Because at least I'm treated as a human being.
Also, going super direct is the WRONG approach to use in social environments where you'll see the girl regularly. That's where you SHOULD do the slow approach.
Do Not Be in the FriendZone, Unless You are there to be a Friend. I used to make this mistake. As soon as she says your in the friendzone, or you feel it-stop chasing her. Just stop. even ignore her.
Ugh bruh, I asked out a girl from my class at a specific time and place, mistake #1. She didn't reject me but said that she was going out of town for the weekend, which I know is actually true because I overheard her talking about it before. Bruh mistake. If I had just said "do you want to go out sometime?" She would have just said yes if she wanted to as well. What she did say is that she'd be definitely interested to go out sometime. From thinking about it for a few days I think that she was expecting me to propose a different time to go out. But all I said was "okay" and left. I feel so stupid. Well I plan on asking her again, to ask her to go out sometime, not specific and see what she says.
I had to force myself to get used to talking (only talking to get to a phone number to feel them out and set up a date) to multiple women at a time (if luck allowed). Had to turn it into a numbers game to get myself used to dating and rejection while logically evaluating myself.
I always asked a girl “can i have your phone #.” Recently i said that to a girl i met at a cafe. She told me “not right now.” But i saw her a few times after. Don’t know if she will continue going to the cafe. When i talk to girls, they always give me nervous body language or vibes.
Key stat for men: how do you perform with random girls who sit next to you at the bar? What percentage of the time does she talk to you? Like you? Touch you? Kiss you? Give you her number? Those are the equivalent of Batting Average, Hits, On Base Percentage, Home Runs, etc...
I have been a player all my life, but about 6 years ago i have decided to finally commit myself to some girl i really liked. Well i have told myself if i was playing these games with them all the time, i will not do the same with this one. She seamed honest and i said to myself i will be 100% honest with her about everything. Guess what happened ? She is the only girl that wasnt as interested in me as the others were. Usually i left them, this one, left me. But after that i have realized play is important much more then i knew. I changed back to playful myself and this girl came back into my life and likes me now more then ever. Being 100% honest is not the way. You dont tell her everything you feel or think. Just what is needed in that moment, compare it to children. They dont have to know everything and dont need to know. 0 emotions wins the day. And she must know your limits, but your approach should always be light and easy. Never go with absolute questions or moments, until you put that ring on.
Dude! so many videos of yours, I ended up watching the beginning and then skipping the rest cause I kinda knew the idea. This was a huge exception though, this video resonated with me a whole lot more than other ones. I have a lot to work on things outside of 'game' and videos like these help a lot. Sometimes game itself too though. For now I kinda think it's a 2 way approach I have to use. I have to be successful with women so that I don't care if I'm being put in the friendzone since I'm not that desperate to date. But at the same time in order to be successful with women I can't be so absolute, which would come from not being successful. Ugh the loop
Well, i would say "use" the friend zone . This is how connections are made with girls who opens new connections to other girls ;)
That's when she hits you with the old "oh all my friends are guys!" 🤮
There is no "friendzone" for men not accepting the friendzone-thingy. It is _me_ who decides whether she can have something halfway committed out of our encounter, and once she tries the friendzone-thingy before anything developing she simply ain't kept around anymore. She comes back on her own or sticks to contacting, there's no friend-zone. She does not come back: good riddance.
If you are in the friendzone, it’s YOUR fault
I live in Chicago. If you're not a felon, you're just a friend
In my opinion a cold approach when you seek a beautiful but high quality woman as well.... is pure luck. The gradual approach suggested by Alex is safer, cause one has plenty of time to assess if the girl is worthy of your time and energy.
Scared? Never. Aware? Absolutely.
Being "scared" gives others power. Never give power to anyone else, women or men.
NEVER BE IN THE FRIENDZONE.... ITS ACCEPTING DISRESPECT.... JUST WALK AWAY AND LEAVE HER BEHIND....