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It is an important aspect of society, truly. A generation that refuses to reproduce will have their future security be utterly ruined (social security, caregiving in their twilight years)... but our society punishes that generation now.
Humanity will not get past the great filter.
They are *Miserable* *and* *they* *want* *to* *Make* *U* *Miserable...*
*They* *Want* *2* *make* *Submit* *to* *them,* So *IT* *CAN* *FEEEEL* *Empowered* *by* *the* *miserable* *Situation* *IT* *PUT* *U* *IN*
Yes they are Miserable, So Choose your *Funeral* *Wisely.*
Hey, Alexander I've been watching your videos for years and this video was very eye-opening for me. Thank you,I love your vidoes so much.
I was that poor sucker :/ I am so glad that witch left me
Such a sober take bro, (slow clap....) bravo 👏🏾
Trust and believe, women won't hesitate to label you as an abuser when you hold them to the standard of being an adult.
I've personally experienced this before with the ones I tried to hold accountable. Ever since I started sleeping around and treating them like they're disposable, life has been stress-free. This nonsense is not on men, it's on these harpies 🍸
Very true, all hell breaks loose when you point out their mistakes.
Quite VERY right, and that is how the modern day women work..
The film is a Get-Out-Of-Divorce-Free card.
So true. My ex lied to me and when I confronted her I fully expected an apology. Instead she went berserk and screamed emotional abuse. It’s like wtf?!
Had a gf do this a couple months in because I wouldn't take her to the mall. She was normal up until this. I turned the car right around, drove her home & dumped her on the spot. You can't negotiate w/ this level of illness. To try is to gamble w/ ending up arrested. When cops see a child err "woman" crying & screaming, they will instantly side with her & throw you in a cage if you do anything they perceive as wrong. Be strong, gentlemen. Leaders are men that walk away when they are disrespected.
They are *Miserable* *and* *they* *want* *to* *Make* *U* *Miserable...*
*They* *Want* *2* *make* *Submit* *to* *them,* So *IT* *CAN* *FEEEEL* *Empowered* *by* *the* *miserable* *Situation* *IT* *PUT* *U* *IN*
Yes they are Miserable, So Choose your *Funeral* *Wisely.*
100%, you’re a high value male
I don't blame you. Women love spending money on bullishh and are terrible at saving money.
I remember a skit where cops arrive at a scene where wmn is crying and screaming at a guy and cop says "sir, step away from the crazy wmn" . Hilarious.
I like this video but at this point of our culture in the states this comes off as "How to Deal with a Crazy Botch 101." I think this advice is spot on, just a day late and a dollar short...
My wife was like this, not to this extreme with the uncontrolled outbursts of toddlerisms but the same kind of emotional issues and expecting me to be the answer to.. well.. everything. I eventually got burnt out trying to be her babysitter, trying to keep up with her chaos and let her go crazy or be sad or figure it out for herself if that's what's going to happen. I became quite stoic to the whole situation and actually enjoyed a little personal peace in the midst of her chaos.
She divorced me because she felt that I had become unhappy and depressed and I quote "I can't be your sole source of happiness",.....
Honey, you were never my sole source of happiness, you were the greatest source of unhappiness and stress I've ever experienced... I didn't actually say that to her of course. I didn't fight the divorce, good riddance.. happier now than ever. She's absolutely miserable of course.. I wonder if she realizes I got tired of being her sole source of happiness. She's of course tried to come back but she cheated on me during the divorce process while we were still married so that tells me all I need to know about her capacity for honor and loyalty. Plenty of other women out there for me, hopefully some are less crazy.
They are *Miserable* *and* *they* *want* *to* *Make* *U* *Miserable...*
*They* *Want* *2* *make* *Submit* *to* *them,* So *IT* *CAN* *FEEEEL* *Empowered* *by* *the* *miserable* *Situation* *IT* *PUT* *U* *IN*
Yes they are Miserable, So Choose your *Funeral* *Wisely.*
In good times and in bad times - your good times, her bad times. In your bad times they walk away.
Best of luck out there, brother!
I feel this down to my core.
To be stoic are the best thing a man can do.
We Scandinavian men are known for that we doesnt say two words if we dont have to.
Somehow women finds this boring and frustrating but it works every time.
Hats off to you sir !
children: "play with me!"
women: "entertain me!"
child: throws temper tantrum when they don't get their way
woman: throws temper tantrum when they don't get their way
Courts: treats women and children essentially the same.
I definitely see a pattern emerging here.
@@chazzmccloud36 Yup
Men pay child support but women not forced to.
Men loose most of their value to women in divorce.
courts keep making men pay for women like they are helpless children incapable of getting jobs or having careers of their own who need to be cared for cradle to grave.
Children can be trained though.
A woman's mind stops developing after their first period
@@rejectwokeness1314 societies and cultures all through out history used to do exactly that.
As a 53 year old male I've come to realize that the older I get, the happier I've gotten.
My home is paid off, I run a successful business with an all male staff and since I've
moved outside of the city and as far away from female spaces as I possibly can
(i.e. the mall, night clubs) my happiness and life inspiration has increased so much.
I work out, I eat healthy and I have hobbies and a life outside of work.
I've realized that I have been born as the "blessed gender" because I've never seen
a long term satisfied woman in my +50 years. Doesn't matter if they are privileged
or poor, ugly or pretty, tall or short, thin or overweight, old or young, black or white,
they all seem to all burn out their happiness very quickly.
The only males I know personally that get depressed are the married ones or the
ones in relationships that never last. The toxic femininity rubs off on them and before
they can rub it off, they get into another relationship.
I wish I could have told my 16 year old self a lot sooner that life gets better for a man
as he gets older, wiser and makes the right life decisions and that that same formula
does not apply to females so enjoy your manhood and link it together with your happiness
because that's what it's there for.
I'm 52 and have been married for 26 years. One of the reasons for my successful marriage is the fact that I don't care about my wife's tendency to emotionally attach herself to everything. Right around year five I stopped trying to fix things that upset her. And I discovered that by doing that it kept me out of the emotional chaos that is a woman's life. When I used to get pulled into the chaos then it made me the focus of her current emotional "misery". Which ultimately turned out to be nothing because she just needed to work it out at her own pace. And usually had absolutely nothing to do with me.
47 years old and 12 years completely removed from relationships of any kind.
I endorse your comment 100%.......I don't have a house that is paid off but I am in the same boat in all other areas. My only regret is not tackling my best friend at his wedding before he uttered those two words that has caused him so much pain. I was the best man and standing right there too smh.
Joan Collins once said it's like being born rich and getting poorer every day (no matter what.) Probably not very conducive to happiness. Somehow, it's hard to have much sympathy 🤷
This is a king comment
The title was clickbait, but the advice was solid. Emotions need to be felt. Don’t be afraid, don’t cower, don’t appease, don’t fix, don’t repress. Don’t judge the emotion. Don’t be afraid of emotion itself. This applies to more than romantic relationships, it applies to relationship to self, too, and expands into collective conflict, too. I’ve NEVER seen such solid advice to men about emotion. Thank you.
I was the dancing monkey...
I twisted myself into a pretzel trying to make a miserable person happy...
I was relentlessly berated regularly until being falsely accused and losing everything...
Don't be like me.
I learned its a women s job to make and keep her man happy also learned a man have the right to mold her into his wishes .
I wonder why i read so many comments she wasnt reasonable she had outburst in public etc i learned behaviour like that have consequences ..
Yes im a woman
Definitely
I'm sorry man.
Losing everything? What happened? Tell us the story 😕
Same here. I learned my lesson. I just hope my ex can one day realize her issues and address them.
The similarities from what he is describing in women's behavior and literal children are almost indistinguishable.
if a woman did not have a strong father in the home she may never grow up.
That's the overall lesson here.
Children can learn to manage their emotions.
@@TheInsomniaddict Of course they can! But the longer one goes before they do, the more difficult & frightening task that becomes! not everyone is willing to do it, at a certain point!
women: "we mature faster than men..."
Traditionally speaking, it was the man's job to make his woman comfortable with food, shelter, and protection. It was never his role to make her happy. Ironically it was the woman's job to nurture her man and make him happy. Modern men are expected to do both traditional roles in this 'enlightened era'. Oddly enough women have no problems dumping all the traditional roles onto men while crying about traditions being evil.
Based
Asian women still operate to traditional values. A far easier & more natural arrangement.
@@Durnyful Even the ones born in the West?
@Dylan Christenson I can only speak for Thais... they don't integrate easily so stay v Thai...
Women was created for the man not the other way around. That's why these relationships don't work because you are doing it backwards.
I had a girlfriend almost as unhinged as this woman. She was heavenly the rest of the time but her emotional intelligence was basically zero. Throwing 3-4 day tantrums without a break, and the only way to get out of the conversation was to break up with her or physically run away. Loved her to bits, but had to let her go, it was insane.
Honestly, it is seems like such women as your girlfrieng or the woman in the video have autism or something. This is not looking like a "healthy" adult manipulative aggression, it is a pure emotional wave. Y'know, like in those situations when kids get mad at the grocery store because they can't get what they want, and they just start screaming without reason or goal, not be able to handle this pure rage.
@@PennyWise-eu9nz magic lady bits
@@PennyWise-eu9nz Are implying you have to love a person’s negative traits to love them? If so that is silly.
I just got out of a relationship like this. Every day that goes by it slowly turns from sadness to thankfulness.
@@PennyWise-eu9nz because she was hot
Never try to tame a woman's emotions. A woman's emotions come and go.
I mean yes, but can we please not act like this is at any kind normal behaviour from women? That woman needs to see a doctor
you're basically saying don't get in relationships with women. that's basically what relationships are. the process of taming a woman's emotional instability.
What if her emotions involve a wielding knife?
Yes. Their emotions are their problem. Just turn away until it changes.
The back of one’s hand calms the tide
Gentlemen, listen to this wise young man. He understands women. His free advice is priceless. Thank you Alex
Give her her rights and lefts
Your timing is so perfect Alexander. Just last Sunday the girl I dated kicked me out of her apartment, guess why? Because a chip fell to the floor and her dog ate it. I get it, it's not healthy for animals, but it was an accident, and she made a huge deal out of it, finally told me that she's about to kick my a$$ out, I said that I'll find the door myself and left. She started to text me right after, I told her to stay away from me. Never date crazy, NEVER. Though the fun in bedroom might be good, it's not worth it. One day you might end up getting jailed for false accusations if you won't be able to prove your innocence.
Yes there is a real danger of that, especially if they go to therapists.
Classic dog mom 😂
good job man, that was a huge red flag which there is no enough good sex can compensate it. Just run away as you did.
Best one.. at this point we all gotta laugh and not show them any emotion
@@patricksmith4424opposite is true. The real danger is them not going to the therapist.
My ex-wife was (and still is) chronically unhappy, never satisified, and never grateful. Leaving her was one of the best decisions I ever made.
Jason Alexander....And me as well with my ex-wife. Add to that no respect and little sex and after 4 years of this I divorced her. She was my biggest mistake in life but leaving her was the best decision I ever made.
you couldn't see this before you married her?
@@Viper4ever05 I was conned. She love bombed me and acted like Miss Perfect Housewife before I signed the contract. Then did a 180 almost immediately, so sudden as a matter of fact, that I questioned my sanity figuring this must be a mistake there's something I'm not seeing. There was indeed something I didn't see but it was too late.
@@jeffsmith8197 sorry that happened to you man. You have to test women as much as they test us.
@@Viper4ever05 Absolutely.
If all else fails, remember she can always be another man's problem.
My best friend was getting stressed out about the fact his soon-to-be-ex wife was now seeing another man and he was "visiting" their martial home.
I started laughing and said "let's send the poor bastard a sympathy card telling him to enjoy it while it lasts"
.... or her Aging Parents!
@michaeldpa1333 this man understands 😂
@robw7676 that's usually how it goes. Hopefully your friend is living a good life now that she's gone.
This was my ex wife to a T. She was perpetually unhappy. After we divorced every relationship she was in failed. She even tried dating women, thinking it was men that made her unhappy only to realize herself that women are manipulative and she couldn’t deal with it. She told me all of this when she hoovered me. She is on antidepressants, birth control, and clonapin, and now smoke weed which she never did before with me because I hate it. Women are so lost these days and you will destroy your life trying to help them. They are extremely manipulative and narcissistic and don’t care about who they hurt. It’s pure survival at the core.
@Michael yep. I know exactly what you’re describing. I never knew the full extent of what narcissism entails until I experienced it directly. Like you said, pure evil.
omg bro. Why do you even know all that stuff about her, and why do you even care, after you've been divorced?
@@Michael-ow4kv Yes, me too, my ex wife is a vulnerable narcissist and has been trying to pull me back in, I just ignore her... no contact. She'd lie, manipulate, gaslight, devalue, discard, triangulate, emotionally cheat, and all that other fun stuff.
Hoovered you?
This "hoovering" sounds interesting.
Does it feel good? Why does it cause the woman to tell you all her pharmaceutical secrets?......
Life is too short to waste on psychopaths
Waste, but yes.
They are *Miserable* *and* *they* *want* *to* *Make* *U* *Miserable...*
*They* *Want* *2* *make* *Submit* *to* *them,* So *IT* *CAN* *FEEEEL* *Empowered* *by* *the* *miserable* *Situation* *IT* *PUT* *U* *IN*
Yes they are Miserable, So Choose your *Funeral* *Wisely.*
dont talk about my mother that way!
@@guzlemuzle 😄
@@guzlemuzle
If she happens to be that way, then we talk that way about her.
You see how easy English is when you repeat words.
My last girlfriend would frequently say that it was my fault that she wasn't happy and I would always respond by saying that I couldn't manage her emotions in addition to my own and that her emotions were her responsibility. I wasn't totally sure I was doing the right thing at the time, but looking back, I'm glad I stood my ground.
Good man
"I am ABOUT to go crazy" ... imagine her to actually go crazy 🤣
LMAO! Oh she was well beyond crazy! She is driving that crazy train at TOP speed, with her hair on fire!
She reminds me of my ex. Crazy thing is she didn't reveal her real self until dating her for about 8 months and slowly the cracks of her real personality started to show through until she was full blown bat shiт crazy
@@OverRule1 very recognizable. That's why men should typically vet a woman for at least two years prior to any commitment. Time is a woman's biggest enemy. The closer to reaching The Wall (ages 30+), the worse these acts of crazyness become.
"this isn't even my final form!"
I remember yes. The worst part of this is ... her parents KNEW she was like that and I bet neither of them said anything. She's fundamentally .... broken.
they wanted you to deal with her problems so they wouldn't have to
That’s exactly right.
As my marriage ended and my wife ratcheted up the screaming, threats and bullying, the only thing that worked was to instantly pull out the phone and hit record. If you are in a bad situation that you are trying to get out of, use your phone fellas - cloud store that stuff, change your password, make sure that phone is on you at all times.
good advice! thank you!
Well if I don't have that option, a trash bag, rope, duct tape, and cinder blocks would come in handy.
sound advice. I'm sure the woman in the video when in public acted so sweet and nice that no one would believe the husband
@@kentaroo.7759 A much better, quick and easy solution!
Cameras
I warned my ex-wife that I was going to film her and that just made her angrier. I knew if I filmed her she would have just taking or broken my phone. What I should have done is leave at the first sign of instability and not believe that I could be the one to save her. You can't save someone who doesn't believe they need saving. RUN!
You can't save anyone; people can't be fixed.
I used to think getting a girlfriend & being in a happy long term relationship was the final piece to complete my life.
The thing here is a 'happy' relationship.
I'm an average looking guy at best. My relationships haven't been happy. I was given the impression in every relationship I've had that I could be replaced at any time. That's because I could be. A woman can just open up their phones & they are bombarded with male attention. Because of this they become arrogant & entitled.
I now realise that a relationship has an extremely high % of being the beginning of my problems not the answer to them. Women are the job role & the male is the easy to replace employee, if he doesn't perform at 100% at all times, or if the women just fancies a change or gets bored of you.
True mate. Well said.
They only get Africans, Indians and Middle Easterners
The absolute truth , I’ll just take future relationships by the day and not make any plans .
Just like that
My late wife was "constantly miserable" and whenever she started complaining I would often reply, "...and how is this My Fault?"
She was a 'Stay At Home Mom' and when the kids were in school she spent her days watching daytime TV. She would pick up the kids from school, come back home, and fall asleep watching "Judge Judy". I would come home from work and she would either be asleep on the sofa, TV on, and Candy Crush Soda self-playing on her laptop, OR she'd be banging away in the kitchen, doing dishes while dinner was boiling away on the stove, trying to look as though she'd been busy all day. Our house was never clean, so I knew that wasn't the case. Whenever I asked her why the house was always a mess, she would claim that "Our house is TOO SMALL to keep clean" and demand that we needed a bigger house, and furthermore, "I CAN'T BE HAPPY HERE!" At this point I realized that there was no circumstance under which she would 'Be Happy'. Happiness is a state of mind, not a location, and I would then ask her, "Well, if you aren't happy HERE, WHERE will you be happy?" She never did grasp the truth of the matter: that she was the source of her discontent. She continued blaming me for everything she imagined wrong about her life until the day she died.
I was lucky in that I only somehow got into relationships with naturally happy women. If she's not naturally happy, then don't bother.
I'm sorry to hear that she's gone, but i understand everything you've said as I've seen it in others.
Do you miss her?
@@alastor8091 Not one bit. I've been happily widowed and single for the last eight years. After she died all my financial worries and stress disappeared. Spendzilla was no longer writing checks to Wal*Mart every day. I can now afford cars that don't break down and I can afford to keep my "Too Small" house in decent repair. Life is beautiful if you don't have a miserable nagging wife doing her best to make everyone around her miserable too!
I am a happy carefree man.
@@etoineschrdlu9382 ah okay. I didn't wanna say "Fk that bch" if you loved her but yeah, fk that bch.
I was married for 20+ years to one of these "unhappy/unpleaseable" women. Now divorced. This knowledge would have saved my marriage and made both of us much happier. This video should be mandatory viewing for all boys and men, I hope men share this video with male friends or your grown sons.
Edit; My ex-wife is STILL just as miserable & bitchy 5+ years after our divorce as she was during our marriage. Guys - give this method a chance, but always put yourself first, walk away if you need to.
She’s not gonna get any better as she gets older !
Alex, you are almost correct. I used to ride the bus, which came from the Los Angeles County jail. It had all the just released jailbirds. Often the low class pimps would bond out their prostitutes, so I saw how they handled their women. Without fail, the pimp would just sit there and let his prostitute vent. When she started to repeat herself, he'd call her on it. After 15 minutes of whining, he'd say, "that's enough. If you think you can do better without me, then go".
As I'm getting older I realize pimps are basically the only men who 100% understand their infantile psychology and emotions.
Sharia law and pimps are the key.
I'm 26, and thank God I found the books by Ice berg slim who was a real Pimp back in the day and his books saved me from ever caring about a women's problems.
@@ShitBagSPC Yall keep oushing sharia law into everything. Funny how you claim your religion to be the end of all society's woes.
Almost like its complete BS.
@@airthrowDBT a lot of guys when younger thought they would get a partner, someone to shoulder the burdens and work together. The reality is many guys got adult children full of insanity who were more the burden than the partner. It's telling that many divorce guys often describe their divorce as a release.
At 56, I'm not entertaining crazy outbursts from anyone. When I was in my 20s, my dating filter was like a coffee filter. Today, it's like triple reverse osmosis. Very few impurities are going to make it thru to the other side. But that super filter wasn't installed until I got married and divorced. Today, I'm perfectly fine being single with no thirst for women on any level. My advice to young men once they are out of the house on their own is never get married. If a woman tries to shame you or disrespect you cut them out of your life forever; this includes family members, friends, and work colleagues. Don't just focus on girlfriends. Focus on all relationships across the board. Stay safe.
It takes a traumatic experience to become red pilled most times. The sooner you have that experience, the better your life will be. Mine was in my early 20s (40 now). Best thing that ever happened to me.
And focus on money and self improvement because life is full of challenges.
wise advice..to not just limit removal to just wives/girlfriends.....family and job are sometimes required.....I've seen MANY business owners lose key valuable men because they could not deal with the tyrant wife that had been mistakenly brought in to supposedly help manage....BIG MISTAKE
We ALL need to stop giving them our time, attention, money, and most of all our self-respect. Teach all men to have self-respect and never tolerate this bad behavior.
@@troyhailey Now it's all about promoting the girls and holding back the boys in sch____ls now, telling them they are tock - syck... etc. The education system is the biggest source of this, teaching that men are the en - uhh - mee. I wish that was an exaggeration but I even see many of them celebrating men's dee - przz - show and "ending things". I've never seen men do anything like this and I don't see ANY of them saying it's wrong or stopping it, so we should do the same until they start acting morally. But very few of us would do that since we still have empathy for them.... for now... that's going away with the things like this and the puuur - jury way too common now. Very messed up.
Marriage rates are crashing down for a reason Alexander...
And men are fleeing- Passport
The marriage rates are crashing due to patriarchy being dead and over 71% of children are raised with no dad in the house.
@@rayme4raw Because women want to pick "Bad guys" because "good guys" always finish last.
YES! THIS!
I used to think I could make my missus happy, until I learnt that she is miserable almost 24/7 and I had to KEEP doing it 24/7 as yesterday doesn't matter to her.
Then I stopped GAF and started living MY life.
Next thing I know she's saying "You've changed. You don't do any of the nice things you used to do."
And I relplied with "...And you NEVER did any of those things for me. Ever. So when you start doing the things you want from me - FOR ME, then I'll do those things for you again."
Cue inevitable silence - which I heartily enjoy. 😆
The most infuriating thing is that they act like whatever you did yesterday didn't matter at all. All the sacrifices you've made to keep her happy means nothing, what matters to them is what you do for them NOW.
I find strong resemblance between women and cats. Ungrateful, unthankful, demanding, selfish, clingy etc...,
@@tolloromassi99
I recently looked after someone's cat for 6 weeks and came to the same realization.
They want everything to suit them, exactly how & when they want it, and they do not give AF about you.
If you think a cat rubbing across your legs or bunting its head on your hand is cute and affectionate, watch for awhile as she does the same thing to every inanimate object in sight.
Useless, pointless creatures.
My ex wife was a perfect example of this "everything is your fault because you don't do enough for me" attitude.
Women sound exhausting to deal with. Who would want to put up with this?
Confirmation bias. If all women really where like this, humans would have been extinct centuries ago.
That's why men are so h0rny 💀.
Men brainwashed into thinking they're the ultimate goal in life.
This is so spot on. I'm in my early fifties, single and happy. Years ago before all the manosphere presence I came to these very same conclusions about women that most are just miserable by nature... they get on that high when meeting some one new but when it wears off they become their miserable selves... can never make most ladies happy no matter the mountains you move for them...
In the end they'd go: You moved the wrong mountain, goodbye!
some women are pleasant and bake
and are grateful for many kind men
in the world
who listen and don't critizize.
Thank you
I was married to a woman like that. Believe me, there is NEVER enough that you can do to make her happy. Divorced her and found a woman who's default setting was happy. What a difference. 36 years now, in a happy marriage. Unfortunately, my son married someone who had some of the behaviors of my first wife. When I tried to bring up examples, he estranged us.
Same advice towards your mother if she is miserable. After some counseling I learned to let her problems be her own, not for me to cater to or fix. Prior to that I felt responsible to rescue her. Her latest is @87 yrs old she "got sexually assaulted and needs to take legal action" and "We need to meet with a lawyer". I told her there's nothing I can do for her, except give her a ride to counseling. Even at 87, they think every young man wants to grape them. Can't make this sh!t up... 😑
honestly that clip gave me ptsd from my previous long term relationship....I didn't know any better but my feelings where tied to her ups and downs, it took a few years for me to realize she was fundamentally miserable...when I left her I told her "all I'v wanted was for you to be happy and I don't think you ever will be" it broke my heart but 5 years later I hear from my friends who still are in her life, nothing has changed she is still 100% drama and bs in her new relationships....
It’s incredible the number of men’s experiences that sound just like mine. Went through the same thing brother. Finally divorced this year and free of her chaos. I have my two dogs and my peace. I guess part of life is just experiencing stuff so you can relate and not feel like you didn’t try. Accepting and learning about human nature…
My experience is identical. She had/has BPD.
I never met or seen a women in real life that dosen't behave like this, it seems like they all do at some point. Even my own mother...
I found one who doesn't, they do exist but I think they are very rare.
You're right though, women are children, I have never met a woman who doesn't give in to the opinion of the media, they all are sheep that want to be part of the good guys group and be virtuous.
Almost all men I met that I have been deep with have shown me their darkest thoughts about things such as culture/race, society, conspiracies pulled by the elite, very dangerous topics which would burn your status in the sheep world, women almost never expose themselves to this, they don't want the truth or to do the right thing, they just want to shelter under someone else's opinion that they believe is the winning or most shared opinion.
@@impudentdomain True. Not worth looking for though
@@samusaran7317 definitely worth it.
they dont act like this in front of chad
When you cave in for your desires, you let her lose respect for you, and then you cannot go back. It's better to be a "jerk" then a people pleaser. If she trully wants to be with you, she will gave in and trust you, but she doesn't, you have your answer to let her go with no regret. Speaking after 7 years of in and out with a difficult and narcissistic woman. Everytime i let her behind everything got better. Get rid of that bad energy, because it locks you and you cannot do anything else in your life because you will spend all of your time ruminating of the situation. She is broken and unfixable. Find better.
I told my gf if i was nice she would dry up like sahara and she knows it
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I realized a while ago that if you treat women like you would if raising a child, they suddenly make sense.
That is a very accurate comparison
Yup, don't take them too seriously.
If you treat them like you treat a kid, you'll go to jail. The system want them to be spoiled brats.
@@Bronze_Age_Sea_Person "If you treat them like you treat a kid, you'll go to jail."
No it wont. How do I treat a child that would ever land me in jail? What is illegal?
women are as emotional as kids
I think the immaturity of people overall comes from having too an easy life, never having gratitude (i.e. entitled attitude), and nobody checking their behavior. In this case the guy could have set a hard boundary and ask her to leave the car.
I know many men who are as emotional.
That is a disrespectful comparison towards kids
@@NorthernSpartan Good thing society knows how to deal with them and put them in check. Women? Now, that's a complicated issue.
@@NorthernSpartan uuhm, no, don't believe you. You may know some emotional men but I am 64 years old and I have NEVER seen a grown man pitch a fit like that, but I have seen it several times from women. I have seen men become extremely angry but there was always some provocation.
Im married and she is usually great. Once in a while, she gets in a mood. I usually just give her space and after a while, she comes over and apologizes. Not giving into her will give her space to reflect on her behavior (if she has the capacity for it)
Finally, a real man on here. I'm noticing a common thread on here. All single men. Funny, we tell single women, "if you have the same problem with multiple people, the common denominator is you, and you're the problem." The irony... apparently that doesn't apply to men. Very thankful for my leader of a husband. He knows how to lead, is not a doormat, but understands that women can be emotional sometimes, and we've worked through it together every time.
Yes, women are miserable. My sister would just counter this video saying it’s because of the patriarchy/systemic treatment of women.
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Patriarchy is flat earth for feminists
Lol, the irony.
They are *Miserable* *and* *they* *want* *to* *Make* *U* *Miserable...*
*They* *Want* *2* *make* *Submit* *to* *them,* So *IT* *CAN* *FEEEEL* *Empowered* *by* *the* *miserable* *Situation* *IT* *PUT* *U* *IN*
Yes they are Miserable, So Choose your *Funeral* *Wisely.*
There's a purple haired thing in the house who retorts with similar responses. I always say "Oh really, wow, what are the patriarchy doing to you, exactly, to have such an effect."
Radio stations would call her response 'dead air'.
Tell her that the patriarchy is a natural consequence of human evolution and that everything she regards as systematic patriarchal norms is are biological adaptations that helped us survive.
Or simply read evolutionary psychology. What is “patriarchal” is that which has been with us for thousands of years. Nobody just randomly came up with this, it’s like this because it’s supposed to be like this.
I'm 66 yrs old and I've never seen anything like this. I did have one girlfriend, who was drunk at the time, get up in my face and start yelling. The slap that followed almost knocked her down. Turned her over my knee, pulled her panties down and gave her a proper bare butt spanking. Her behavior was greatly improved after that.
@@mmm365 ya. And the force the issue ...
Subconsciously sometimes!
@@mmm365 it's true! They might not admit it but deep down they want to be dominated.
Yeah that's how I would take care of it
The discipline she didn't get as a child, so she kept acting like one.
1000%. My first wife was just a miserable person. Every time I indulged her complaints and changed something, she just moved onto the next with NO change in her miserable energy. For example, in our first apartment she was always complaining about how bad the light was (it was bad light). We got a new apartment that was much more expensive with better lighting, her happiness with THAT apartment lasted less than a day before she just moved onto other complaints. ALL of her unhappiness and miserable temperment was projected onto me, overtly as my fault. I.E., I am a terrible excuse for a man because she's constantly unhappy. She even would get mad at me when she would be stressing about something stupid we have no control over and I wasn't getting miserable and stressed about it with her. I'm sure she complained about me to other people who got her weird twisted viewpoint of things and they got the wrong idea. I've NEVER heard a woman ask if another woman was just miserable vs just listening to a woman's constant complaints about a normal ass decent guy.
This is the nature that women naturally have. We men naturally solve problems, women find new problems for men every time they solve the old ones. This is how the world ended up with all the technology. A man could live in a wood shed with a book and a fur coat. Eat sleep and make the things needed. Due to women using the p to manipulate men we make more for them to get a piece of p. Here we are, most men single, no p.
Had 2 gfs try to commit suicide. Happened yrs ago but it took me a long time to realize it wasn't my fault. Not getting their way and dependent on craving attention. I tried my best but one just has to give up when you are being manipulated.
Not your fault, but you sure can pick 'em! 😖
@blackhillsed4936 What were their reactions to you/moods like AFTER their suicide attempts?
I won't put up with the childish behavior of an "entitled" woman. I expect all adults in a relationship to act like adults who understand duty and sacrifice. If they aren't willing to sacrifice their wants over their needs, just move on!
I have a term with my wife when what she says starts to not make sense and she is becoming irrational. We call it "Nonsense that leads to truth" I understand there is something deep that is affecting her that she can't explain or even understand, so it comes out as nonsense as she is trying to figure it out. If I debunk one thing, she would just move on to the next thing. In the past I would take it for face value and argue back at each thing she throws. I now realize that the first few things she says has nothing to do with the deeper issue. Arguing about the surface issue she brings up isnt fruitful and a waste of time. Thus, nonsense leads to truth.
@treeghettox For us it is because she hasn’t thought it through. Women feel then think where as men think then feel.
I think I'm a fundamentally unhappy person. This is a good video for me. Certain steps that I took were confirmed by you as an actual solution so now I feel confident that I'm going in the correct direction.
They'll make you the bad guy for anything never let your guard down even if you think she loves you
Had a few exes like this, thought I wasn't good enough and it completely ruined my self esteem.
Gone through years of depression that made me lose my whole 20's because of it
Hope you're doing better now 🙂👍
Look upon your experience positively. Pain is the best teacher.
The way our society is reminds me a LOT of the movie Idiocracy. Honestly... I don't even care about a relationship or even being with anyone. At the end of the day I really don't need anyone at all. I feel the other part of society is that they believe they have to be with someone when in reality we don't really need anyone. The other part of it too is a lot of women confuse kindness and manners with weakness. I refuse to stop respecting people just because to most women it appears "weak." I treat others how I want to be treated. And being treated like garbage is not what I look forward to on a daily basis lmao.
@@PennyWise-eu9nz They're not honorable for good reason.
@@PennyWise-eu9nz im confused too. why would anyone want your shriveled and beat up hole in the wall?
@@PennyWise-eu9nz I can understand your point. Although I refuse to change my personality because of other men who do that. I’d rather treat people how I want to be treated unless they are bitter and cold. I will cut them off my life.
44 yo dude here, I lived together 3 times having serious relationships, dated a lot in between those periods, one night stands and everything... I had my fair share. I just can't stand tantrums and hissy fits. As soon as I notice it's recurring and she doesn't take responsibility or actions to do something with it... She's exit, or I am! I can't accept it. Does that make me less masculine? I think I'm just not as patient as you guys.
Nah. If she can't keep control of herself like an adult, you're right to leave.
That’s called having high standards and the human race would be far different if so many people didn’t enable others poor, selfish behavior
Well, I am getting to this point in my life where I have dealt with too many issues of various women that I've realised I do not wish to spend anymore of my mental or physical energy on staying calm and ignoring whatever stuff they keep on throwing at me.
I find it a much more sensible and productive (for myself) option to just walk away...
I’ve been trying to unfemale my life for a few years now. Down to one last female “friend “, she’s been okay, but is reaching the end states of her life and I’m starting to become her shrink. I keep injecting reality into her magical thinking and she’s putting up with it. But when she finally flakes, no more female “friends “.
I didn't realize it at the time, but I was that emotional bean bag in my last relationship. It took her screaming at me in front of my friends to see how messed up my relationship was. I ended it that night & I will NEVER let a woman manipulate me like that again.
This was my former fiancé 100%. She never yelled, but would get "disappointed" and felt "let down." It was always my job to change myself, or provide the perfect scenario where she might finally be happy. The best example is when she was upset that we weren't going to the gym. She had a point. Going to the gym makes sense, we really should. Once we started going, then she was upset that I wasn't super excited to go every time. I still went mind you, but my enthusiasm didn't match her fairytale. When I put on a good face and got myself excited she was still disappointed because when we went I would do different exercises from her. It was an endless stream of fantasy about the "next thing" that was going to do the trick and make her happy. It never did, and eventually she began blaming me for her emotional state. I didn't realize how miserable she was as a woman until the relationship ended. Dodged a bullet there.
Spent 4 months with a woman like this. Made me scared of dating, since I never thought women could be like this.
Really ? Lol most women are like this, at least to some extent
@@impudentdomain Yeah, I fell for the "women are more mature than men by nature..." mantra, said by the media and movies...
My ex was like this too. Oh boy it was hell on earth. I feel sorry for you cause I know what it's like.
Me too , i am scared of dating now cause I am afraid that most girls are like that
@@anandaphonglo9879 I can tell you that most girls are not like that. Luckily 😅
@@Kimbp85 it was my first relationship... it left me with PTSD. It's been 3 years and I haven't recovered yet.
"Happy wife, happy life" triggers my gag reflex.
My first girlfriend spent the last 3 months of our relationship threatening to commit suicide every time I didn't agree with her. About anything. Even the tiniest things.
That didn't make me leave, I stayed with her through the whole thing, catered to her and did everything I could to ignore my needs and service hers. But -- it didn't work, because after all of that she told me she thought we should take a break. Then she came calling a week later trying to come back to me. That's also when she told me that the suicide threats weren't serious and she was just trying to keep me from leaving. So, I refused to get back together with her. She...did not like that.
That wasn't the end of the story, and we continued to communicate for several years after. But the point of this is, even though it was really her who cut things off and all I did was refuse to get back together, she tried her heart out to make me feel like everything was my fault, and I was the one who left. She even told me once that she fantasized about murdering me and then commiting suicide. That relationship was one of my earliest lessons, that people need to own their own emotions, and not force other people to carry the burden for them.
Brother! You did the right thing. Put as much distance between you two as possible.
@@theempoweredman7353 Thanks friend. I definitely have no intention of ever speaking to her again. All she is to me now is a lesson learned.
I appreciate you more than you'll know for posting this video. My ex-girlfriend is obsessed with me but also hates me. Yes, I know that's toxic. I've tried so hard to make her happy in the past to no avail. She's older than me too. One time she wanted a drink from McDonald's, and I told her no. It's not that I don't have the money; I was just tired and didn't want to go through the hassle. She literally had what I could best describe as a toddler-style mental breakdown over a drink. Anybody else would tell me I'm the problem. One look at her tears, and clearly, I'm abusive?!? This is just one example of SEVERAL instances. All this being said, thank you for making this video. We live in a society where men can't even critique women without being called sexist.
That is how my ex wife was. I totally sucked at making her happy. She ended the relationship because she was not happy. Now I’m happy. Go figure. I don’t care whether she is happy or not.
Alexander, this video EXACTLY explains the woman I just ran away from. No matter what I did she was always miserable and angry and everything bad in her life was somehow my fault. Thank you for the wisdom!
Leave women alone is a great rule of thumb. Let them be.
They won't and they don't...
Being miserable, unhappy, young, and cute is Mother Nature's way of making sure other compassionate, empathetic, and productive people care for such souls long enough so offspring can be produced...
Of course, once the "cute" is gone, the malcontents move to gingerbread houses out in the woods and feed on the young.
Pay attention to your children's fables, folks... There's a lot of human nature to be discovered there.
Spot on. Fables, religious texts, myths, and lore are how acquired knowledge and wisdom were handed down to posterity. As a society, we have been too hasty and arrogant to dismiss and disregard them. Human beings are, now, as they were thousands of years ago. We simply have better tech
She moves in...wears socks from my dresser....one day I go to work...only one clean sock...I tell her that wearing my stuff is cute but she could go to her parents house and do her laundry more often because I don't have any socks for work....she storms out with her clothes basket... saying I'm mean...
This is probably one of the best advices you have ever given! Great clip!
So...no lake?
Yeah he threw her in it.😂
This reminds me of the last woman I tried dating she was inconsistent with communication and emotionally volatile, the last thing she text me was that she has mental issues. I sent her a few text after but no response so I moved on.
This is the kind of woman you dont want to deal with.
The best thing a man can do are to realise that the relationship are ended and to behave calm and without emotions and ofcourse dump her ASAP.
Afterwards it is ok to cry a little and to have a few drinks before moving on in life.
Gentlemen always focus on your purpose and your own future.
I so wish these kinds of info sources were available 40 years ago, had to learn this the hard way.
She had to divorce him to escape the humiliation
I had one of those. Mega divorce and she only gets worse! But the peace and quiet now she has gone!
It is pretty awesome to be a man. Self sufficient, easily amused, good full time job. I may understand why many females are unhappy.
Unhappy women are a minority.
Being a man is a double edged sword tbh.
You are blessed with your rationality, strength and overall masculinity but the reality is much more brutal for the ones who are just average dudes.
Average in anything especially as a man is a quick ticket for exploitation and disrespect. And those experiences drive most men to suic1de and misery.
We are always on the extreme spectrums and that's the fascinating part. But it's also quite fragile since we are the ones holding the most control.
The thing is, women actually used to be happier than men were. But that's back when they were following their biology and in their 20s they settled down with a good man and had kids.
It's a man's job to respect a woman, but it's a woman's job to give him something to respect.
The truly great news is more and more Men are discovering that is is NOT our job, our duty to make women happy.
That is what clowns are for...
This is a very good observation and one I realized many years ago. Men, it's not your job to be the sole source of a woman's happiness. Just think of the gauntlet you have to fight through just to get her to see you in the first place... the three 6's and all that... and then if she picks you, congratulations: You now have a full time job being her happiness coordinator.
Letting women be miserable is not the same as letting men. Men more often than not will express true regret at their mistakes and tell others what went wrong and not to do the same as them. Women will get bitter at their own realizations and lie about what dragged them down so they can have company in their misery. Letting women be this way is giving up on the idea that society can heal.
Brother, I know lots of men who lie to themselves about their failings. It's just a personality type, and sure it may be over represented amongst females, but there are a hell of a lot of men like this too.
@@jjm152 do you not understand what it means when someone says "more often than not?"
@@buoydix I do, and I disagree with that. I'd say the majority of both men and women blame others for their mistakes and failures.
@@jjm152 okay, let me rephrase because you do not seem to understand what I'm getting at. I'm saying the men that DO express regret and understand where they went wrong, tend to warn other men of the issues they faced rather than encourage them to do the same. Women seem to normally do the opposite.
She divorced _him?_ That's hilarious!!
I see clips like that, and I understand why literally all of my married buddies tell me they envy me. But yeah, hope he thanked his Ex. for the favor she did for him.
Two minutes in and you're already hitting the nail right on the head. Literally just broke up with my girlfriend a week ago because she is just a miserable person in general and extremely unpleasant to be around a lot of the time. To her credit, she didn't blame me for it, but she also never took any action to improve anything about her life or address any of her problems. That is why I left. I would be patient with anyone who had problems if they were doing things to actually address them, but if someone won't do that, nothing is ever going to improve.
There are women who struggle with severe anxiety and depression. (I am destined to pick up these women - don't want to think about what this says about me.) Anyway, your instinct is to help these women. Help them improve their lives, get out of their rut and their misery.
You have to learn that there are women out there you won't be able to help, because they need their misery. It is all they know. Walk away and move on.
BTW the sex is great, but be careful. Not necessarily worth it. When you try to walk away after you 🦆d them, some will try to destroy your life.
I bet they were attractive.
@@ac2395 That's continuously part of the problem.
Being very attractive from a young age, means no boy ever put them in their place, so they could get away with murder. Then as adults, they are unable to undo the tantrum drama that was once allowed.
Had very similar experiences. I used to think the same thing about the s*x, until I realized it wasn't the s*x that was great, but the emotional catharsis that comes from trauma bonding. However, it's great in the way that a drug high is great; it feels good in the moment, but it will poison your mind, body, and soul. They are emotion addicts and should be avoided in the same way you would avoid a junkie
This is absolutely the best video that you have posted in years.
*What a backhanded compliment!* 😆
Getting into a relationship with a miserable women is like tying yourself to a ship anchor and throwing it overboard.
Facts right here.
Do you know how heavy ship anchors are?
I strongly suspect the problem with such women is that they suffer from a toxic childhood, BUT as she's STILL repressed, she's completely out of touch with her past traumas, & stuck in that stage would probably be in denial?
That was my first marriage, ended 40 years ago. She was bipolar. I could never make her happy
Been there... my first wife would never admit she had a problem so never sought help. Eventually fell off the rails completely for while, pretty scary.
How to deal with bipolar people -
Step 1 - Run
Step 2 - Keep running
I'm glad you actually provide a nuanced solution rather than just saying that women are 100% not woth the effort (or lack of effort at times).
New haircut looking sharp 👌🏻
No one else is responsible for your happiness. Only you are. And happiness is usually a choice.
There are also women who put on a traditional front for years, and as soon as they get a ring, they do a 180° and do everything you describe these miserable women do. Be safe out there guys.
"I'm about to go crazy!" I think you passed that point a long time ago.
I'm a woman subscribed to his chanel and occasionally watch his videos bc mostly
1. It makes me aware of male behaviour & psychology
2. His arguments are well constructed,logical ,supported by evidence, his opinions doesn't come from a perspective of blaming women. I would rather listen to someone who grounds me in reality rather than giving me delusional advices like no man is out of my league , all women are attractive 10/10.
3. A lot of the times it comes down to general human behaviour instead of being strictly gender specific.
There are both Men and Women out there who don't take responsibility for their own mental state. All they do is complain bc that's easier than working on yourself, healing yourself.
Does not matter what your gender is ,
If you OR your partner can't communicate anger, displeasure, annoyance like an adult that they are , if you don't have even a bit of emotional intelligence to let your partner know that you feel hurt, mistreated, disregarded without disrespecting them; then the quality of your relationship will be like this 🤮
There is a whole lot of “trying to save the poor lost bird” for men and a whole lot of “trying to tame the ahole” for women going on that gets people into these kinds of relationships. The early stages of any relationship will show how someone deals with friction pretty clearly. People choose to ignore it way too often.
Lol @ "it's not gender specific"
It absolutely is gender specific. Women behave terribly and think it's OK and behave even worse when anyone tries to hold them accountable.
Women support the idea that's it's okay to behave like this, so it that sense, it's definitely gender specific. Men don't have any respect for men who behave like children.
" his opinions doesn't come from a perspective of blaming women." So you are yet another woman ducking accountability for a the problems with women, how unique. They very much are gendered problems, you're part of the delusional sisterhood.
@@airthrowDBT Brilliantly accurate response. Amen.
I married daddy's little girl who daddy didn't raise man when our mothers passed away my wife lost weight she went too town she left thought she was too good for me.I didn't yell or scream I said GO do what you gotta do!!!!Never begging a woman too stay when she wants too leave.
Men are generally better at dealing with emotions. Being lower in neuroticism definitely helps. The idea that women feel emotions more than men is a fallacy. We just experience them at different rates, and respond to them differently. I suspect men employ their frontal cortex more when processing emotions.
5:00 Such true.....TRUE words, so many people I see doing things that they believe are "living life" when in reality they are running from dread. I remember a period during the pandemic where I just reflected my entire life from age 0 till now, (26). So much had not been processed but once I face the uncomfortable memories that I remembered from middle school till uni, how I felt during those occasions, then accepted them. It felt like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders. I was no longer tired throughout the day, taking naps and what not. I had energy and a more positive outlook. It can't be stressed enough how important it is for an adult to face themselves. Their emotions, traumas, experiences and to see them as learning experiences for themselves and other people. You will learn about people and yourself. I couldn't be more grateful to be aware of some many things we do that harm ourselves without even noticing.
"A happy wife, a happy life"
Culture has said it's a man's job to make a woman happy.... Impossible
I appreciate you making these videos. You are confirming my experiences with women. I’m 64. Decent looking healthy. Went thru CoDA before and during pandemic. It rang my bells. Women are sad mentally ill because of how other men have treated them. I learned from my mother who taught me not to touch married women. And my xwife- childrens mother (malignant narcissist) stole, ran up credit card debt, and lied in divorce. I love my childrens and they know not to screw with me. I’m happy and single. It’s very sad the way women are
Gratitude in general is something that crazy women are never heard of, so if you noticed that she does not demonstrate it then there is no need to go through understanding her emotions, just let her be, you cannot fix that, only her willingness and medication have small chance to do that; otherwise those are good advices how to handle such things.
gratitude! your youthful enthusiasm showed when u said that. gratitude is seldom seen and its recipients have no idea why it appeared.
No matter what you do, women will never be happy with you because nothing you ever do will ever be enough. Just do absolutely nothing for her. Don't get her flowers all the time, don't take her to here or there or wherever, don't take her out to dinner ever again, don't buy this or that for her, don't lift a finger to help her, don't do anything for her again. Because doing whatever she tells you to do for her will make her lose respect for you and she'll continue treating you terribly.
Edit: know what men should start doing? The same exact thing parents do to punish their kids when they misbehave: give them a time out. Any time a woman misbehaves and acts like a child, men, just take her, put her in a corner and make her sit there to think about what she's done and don't let her leave that spot for anything at all for as long as seems necessary and let her know she's in time out like a 5 year old, because she's acting like a 5 year old.
Keeping her in a corner sounds like a kidnapping or false imprisonment charge.
bro if you don't love your woman enough to want to get her flowers just say that. There's certainly something to be said for not living by her beck-and-call, but when you feel the urge to help her don't hold yourself back out of fear of looking weak
This is what happens when women never get told no because simps will never refuse anything they want.
Holy cow, you really touched on a bigger issue I am feeling is affecting our society. This in many ways seems to in many ways reflects some of the groups acting emotionally, and not being rational at all. So much more challenging in the group think dynamic. The tantrums are a real thing. I am curious your thoughts on this a bit, although I can understand avoiding this subject too
As a man, I used to be a person like that. I changed because I see consequences with my life choices. This personality is often fed by unhappy childhood, and it requires multi year of mindfulness practicr to fix