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''The discussions between Matt and Alex are so very valuable to me. the information and the presentation are water for my parched soul.
there is just something about that interaction, that feeling of just being in a group of buddies talking about a subject, that makes the subject and how it’s presented go down like butter!
In that context their interaction is also, leading by example for me , a demonstration of two high quality individuals, interacting. a guiding star and a template for the kind of social circles and interactions I seek in the future.
#nohomo
Edit: There is one aspect of the interaction which I recognise as something that is missing from my interactions and probably an indication of me singing slightly of pitch in the choir of social interaction Matt and Alex agree with each other back and forth. even if the points are not always perfectly aligned the words “I agree with you “ “those were good points” I’m glad that you said that” this general diffused recognition of what the other is saying as being of value
Even in the comments i write. It is something that i very much take note of. Woaaa they agree with me, this is rare! There is also the fact that people mirror your energy. The tone you set, is the one you receive. This has to be a subtle one on my part. i am aware if being passive agresive. (I think i might, and have had that mentioned to me) open rebelion was not a percieved option for me.
I think there is a generally positive and constructively complimentary manner in which discussions can be held. they do not always have to be a countering of the others opinion in order for one person to be seen as being right or the winner. Possibly it’s just me that perceives a lot of my conversations as having that subtle flavour of clashing . Of displaying and measuring up dominance. I don’t get that feeling with Matt and Alex and that is met with acknowledgment and appreciation on my part.''
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I told you what I think of matt
Have you considered trying to have a feminist with vastly different views do this same thing? Lol
Who is this Matt guy?
@@JohnBrown-ig5nc a friend of his?
People grasping for attention is just repulsive.
Sure , only low quality men would give atention to this kind of women 👍💪🇺🇲🇧🇷
If the internet ceased to exist, men would just hang out and play more sports together. Imagine how women would react. Complete psychological meltdown.
Especially after all the damage womon have done. I simply turn my back to most womon now days.
Unfortunately they wouldnt. Internet didnt exist always. Men would go into clans, like alpha males would be one clan, and then bully and scare others away. Its what is happening in the school. Men wouldnt team up, they would always find other men as a competition. And females would stick to the winning alpha male clan
There would be a spike of mental illnesses or at least it would be fully revealed as many w0men would go on a rampage rage thirsting for men's attention... a global black out would be a good way to reset things, but well what would happen next?
Nah i think women would start sewing together or something like that. 🙂
@@rotgutthebloated4730 Ahhh back to the olden days 😅😅
What you said about women being made aware of their effect on men at a young age is why for most of history, in most cultures, men and women were socially segregated from around the time they hit puberty (even earlier in some cultures) until it was time for courtship and marriage when they'd be allowed to ineract with each other in a highly managed and controlled setting. Girls had the opportunity to mature without the side effects of the "male gaze" warping their perception of themselves and men. This is another one of those things ancestors knew intuitively that we seemed to have forgotten and and are just figuring out again
Under rated comment. Thanks for the read.
Growing up I didn't understand all-girl or all-boy schools; now it all makes sense.
Yup
Well stated. F*minist propaganda calls that "the patriarchy" when in reality it was generally for their well-being.
This is correct. European elites STILL have these type of controlled introduction of young women and young men. Check out the debutant balls in large European capitols like Vienna and London.
High value men meeting beautiful women from orher elite families/royalty. That's 1 way by which elites continue being elites. Those are small clubs to which access and membership is controlled.
"men aint s**t"
And yet their entire self-worth depends on how much attention we are giving them. Funny.
They don't say that about Chad until he tosses them aside.
agreed but don't blame them (also a self reminder 😅) because most of men today are also low quality men so... what's lower than an attention craving woman? A guy who gives away his attention to those women. So a girl like that getting attention from something lower gives them that grosse rejection feeling.
we’re the gender who perpetuate that notion tho. we’re the ones giving them that attention and making sure the cycle continues. it’s on us to stop giving women our attention so easily.
Childish
Their self-worth is hard on any attention- calling men crap helps get attention from other females and simps. Win-Win for them
We've trained women to be like this. We are, some of us, full blown suckers.
I agree. Most women act like this because they know it gets them attention. If everyone (both men and women) had higher standards, our entire society would be better.
Indeed
Im not so sure. I think women were always this way they just didnt have the opportunities to indulge in way they can today. The stigma of being promiscuous was more intense for example, being a single mother was seen as a defeat now its empowering. Society changed because this is what happens when you allow women into positions of power. Every successful culture on the planet know to not allow that to happen and has for centuries
@@sole__doubtThen we've enabled it. The point stands.
@@DamianSzajnowski What point did you make? I only see one reply from you.
A man actually becomes a super man if he master control over his sexual urges. I treat all women equally and some pretty women are surprised that I don’t pander to them because they are cute.
They usually think we are gay
@@mateonikolic6984 That Or they go out of their way to try and get you to validate them. Ive seen too many females fall for this when used as a tactic to bed them from both my brothers. They still do it to this day as we've all passed the age of 40.
Thanks or the life changing, insightful advice Mr. Kent. ,🙄
@@markallen2984 you’re welcome
@@mateonikolic6984 No, they just trying to shame you. And they are insecure
Ostracized from the group is their specialty, I used to be a male cosplayer and when they don't like you they make sure to talk to everyone about you to "poison the well" and make it impossible for you to get anywhere in the community or at the conventions where they have the most influence- particularly on other men who are easily fooled by their gossiping.
Hard lesson to learn in staying away from female dominated spaces unless you want to compete with them.
You nailed it when you said a woman's femininity is the prize for men and a males masculinity is the prize for women.
I feel like this is how my wife and I see each other.
We balance each other out. My strengths are her weaknesses and vice versa.
When we hold each other, the affect is immediately noticeable. We have a calming effect on each other. You can hear it in our breathing. The breaths becime deeper and slower andwe eventually start breathing in sync.
For her, she feels safe in my embrace. For me, she just brings peace. We calm each other.
This video is GOLD. I kept pausing to really digest and reflect on what was said (and I've watched almost all of Alexander's videos). Incredible quality right here
isn't it better to find a woman who will love me even without success? I mean isn't it stressful when you know the woman loves me because of my success. That means if I lose the success, then the woman has no more reason to love me. When I met my wife I had a shitty car and was unemployed. Then I got a skin disease. She didn't care about anything and stood by me. I thought that was such a proof of love that I married her. If I were single and successful I wouldn't trust any woman. I think I would see them more as friends and have fun, but not fall in love.
Well.. that's how it should be mate, woman should support her partner from the beginning to the end, but newday modern women just wait at the end of the race to pick up the winners .
Yes agree, but that's probably rare. I think women are brought up to have expectations and don't just date for compatibility. I got on well with my ex, and she appreciated that, but apparently one of her friends thought I was a loser - a rich divorced women. So there can be social pressure within her friends to have a man with high status.
@@lxdead5585 you're right. unfortunately that's the way it is. somehow it's painful. but it also helps us to develop further. i think many men work too hard on financial success. i think it's more important to work on a good and honorable personality. by that i mean a bit of discipline, strength and courage.
@@steveco1800
Your story here contains a point that I have seen so many times that I couldn't even begin to count them....
The opinions and feelings of your woman's friends, even her bitter and hateful friends, mean more to her than yours.
I don't know how common this actually is, but I have witnessed this so many times, including eventually my own ex.
@@steveco1800 You are right. I have really suffered from this. But i don't want such a woman. honestly, i have been looking for a good woman for a very long time. but i never gave up. And at some point I didn't care what women thought of me. I worked on myself, but not to please, but for myself. And I developed an indifference towards women. maybe that helped. Your ex-wife's friend is sick in the head.
She manipulated your ex and your ex went for it. I wish you that you find a much better woman!
Saying one person is "the prize" is flawed because it implies the other person isn't valuable. Both should value and appreciate each other, but it's impossible for two people to care for each other the exact same amount, so both need to be satisfied with that reality. Psychacks calls them the adorer and the adored, which sounds a lot better than prize and... consolation prize?
Keep in mind that the attention they get declines with age.
VVomen over 40 and single moms are the equivalent of a broke man with no job living in his parent's basement.
Mother Nature gives; Father Time takes away
The Wall has patience and it doesn't have to wait all that long.
Also over 30 years old.
There's a saying that's often quite true: Men age like wine, women age like milk.
Hormones and childbirth etc. often hammer most women over 30+
@@VenturiLife Not to mention the daily wine drinking.
It's really depressing to think about all of this. Women can get almost any guy they want, they can get attention and money easily for their bodies, they are given all of these advantages in life men aren't given while men are lonely, taken advantage of, unseen, demonized, divorce court. While women have these advantages though most of them are unhappy themselves because this modern way of life provides nothing of value to either men or women. They don't appreciate and capitalize on their advantage a lot of the time. There's many other problems besides dating and gender politics but not being able to connect with anyone anymore, have box, have genuine romance or friendships with women as a man definitely makes it harder to keep going. It's unbelievably hard for a man to make a living, to have success with women, to have any semblance of the lives that men of previous generations had. It's utterly depressing.
Your comment validates what I'm going to point out: It's the same the other way round; men tend to only see the beautiful women, and this is why you generalise women in your comment. There are many femcels out there who cannot garner attention and hence don't profit from any pussy pass. Let's not forget about them. Your are right about (beautiful) women having it easier in life because of their looks, though.
Just to be clear, you in favor of making it illegal for women to engage in promiscuous behavior?
@@technoloverish Learn to read
@@technoloverish is that what you took from his comment? 😂 bro what's going on?
- We have santised the attention of low quality men into a non threatening currency of which the basic unit is the like.
This is an amazing insight Alexander, one of the most erudite things I have ever heard. This explains much thankyou for working this out and sharing👍🏻👍🏻🤔🤔
My wife and and I had a discussion once about how women were ao concerned over reputation compared to men. Specifically when it came to sex. I explained it to her like this: Women don't typically want to be known as promiscuous or having details of their sexual experiences talked about because they are worried it will negatively affect the men that will be attracted to them.
Most men are perfectly fine with their partners sharing intimate details, especially if its about positive things (ex: her talking about how he gave her such an intense orgasm). The reason, is that if that relationship doesn't work out, his reputation as a lover has just gotten out to several potential women... and depending on how much they gossip, sooner or later, that reputation gets beyond his partner's immediate friend circle and he's got options if their relationship doesn't work out.
Now, that above part about men, I framed it as "those women now wish they had what the woman with the good lover has"
And this is what I found the worst way to punish a woman: gossip. Like If you go into her social circle and she indeed did ghost and tell everybody she did that. And then everybody she knows talks about her and that. From my experience she will displace mountains to try to undo this. Yeah reputation is everything for women I agree.
Reputation is everything period. Not just woman.
Best thing I ever did for myself was get off of social media. I occasionally post a comment on UA-cam but that’s it. It’s awesome. I live life like it’s meant to be. Outside meeting real people. I even found a girlfriend the old fashioned way. Go outside. Quit social media. Live
I really like your podcasts with your friend (Matt). Good conversations always that make sense and point of views! It's an interesting phenoneom how the world has changed due to Internet and easy access and how the culture has changed due to awarness, probably not for the better always
Gentlemen DO NOT get married or live with any woman. Date and work on yourself. Women are like the TV. When you don't like what your looking at change the channel. Never pedestal a woman. Never get in to deep. Always be willing to walk away. Don't be a yes man tell her NO when the answer is NO. You are the prize not them.
You forgot to add "IN THE UNITED STATES"
The DNA is EVERYWHERE my friend.They all share the same genes.
@@w4447 wrong. Sounds like a person who has never traveled
@@darklaw7635 in the states you said? reality is in everywhere. I am from South America and comparing with the us is almost the same. and many american men go to colombia thinking that they can engage in any relationship and reality surpasses fiction
@@w4447 the DNA... bruh. You gotta drop that nihilistic determinism. Such blanket statements are no more viable and true than birds like to fly through the air, fish prefer to swim in water, winter is cold. What you said is on that same level.
Probably should focus on doing some introspection as while everyone has the same basic framework that doesn't negate that it is fleshed out by the individuals past history and present experiences. Your list of change the channel, never get in to deep or pedestalize, or say no when you want to say no just screams that you failed to do so and now every woman, everywhere is the boogeyman so you don't have to face what is inside of you.
6:20 This is soooo true! Many years ago in the mid to late '70s I remember my sister (she was aged around 11 or 12 years at the time and I was around 16) coming home one afternoon in absolutely floods and floods of tears. She'd just been out for a short walk to the local shop and eventually, through all the tears and distress, my mother managed to extract from my sister that some men had approached her in the street and had said some extremely rude things to her and may possibly have even attempted to touch her. She'd been wearing very tight pants and thigh length rainbow socks which was a fashion trend of that period. It was then that I suddenly began to understand very uncomfortably indeed that young girls' experience of the social world, specifically in terms of their relationship with the opposite sex, differed in a fundamental way to that of young boys. I of course had NEVER and could NEVER have experienced anything remotely similar as a young boy in relation to adult women. I guess this is why it's always said that girls mature earlier than boys; they HAVE to because in a very clear sense, they're HAVING to deal with men on a very asymetrically challenging level. Some people argue that one of the reasons that many girls are choosing to become trans/non binary is that it's a way of absenting themselves from the discomfort of that asymetrical challenge.
@Crazy Introvert T-Girl There is no equivalence or comparison between the experience of a very young girl and the deliberate choices made by an adult.
Yeah, unfortunately I had to deal with things like that since I was very young and my response was to go through an angsty phase and reject fashions and behaviours that were too feminine. In my head, I was just a kid. It was very scary to learn that older men were seeing me in that way. Some things actually even flew over my head and I had to deal with them once I realized it much later. So basically I've come to the same conclusion as you have as to why young girls choose to distance themselves from their femininity.
Wait...describe her outfit again?
Wow what an insightful post. Thank you for that observation! We would all do well to try to virtually stand in other people's shoes.
Dude! I’m not even close to being gay..but..I’m pretty sure I just fell in LoVE with your INTELLECT
Alex, your points are getting very profound, this was great.
This video is going in the vault. Just gold.
That rant Alexander was fantastic! That was absolutely awesome. I was thinking of all of the great orators of our time.
One of the biggest problems these days is, unless you're famous or some kind of champion gamer, your status to a woman, while gaming all day, is useless. I'd suggest men start putting their effort into something where, when it is over, you have something of value to show for it. Like restoring a car. Or building something. Video games are killing us. At least sports results in a healthier/better looking body.
Dude your insights are just becoming more and more brilliant
Perhaps your best most insightful video to date! Bravo!
I really hate dating market :D
We think and work so hard as a man to get into a relationship. Even we need to see videos like this and study. On the other hand women have to do literally nothing....
You realize you don't need to stay in the dating market
Alexander is giving very important info. It all goes back to roles of hunter gatherer age.
The girl in the red top has such a small waist she looks like a human Barbie doll.
Man you're spitting facts, watching all the way from Zimbabwe
Watching you feel bad when trying to highlight a reasonable observation 😂 I agree. It also think it starts way much earlier than 10/11. It's unintentional but it does happen.
1:54 - the Lowest Common Denominator is where the money is. Most of these young 304’s posting 304 videos on the internet are just cashing in on their “beauty”. Not only are they not trying to attract a high quality man, they aren’t trying to attract a man at all. These 304’s are just making money as fast as they can.
Sadly men, much like many women, look at the hottest men and women, and when those hot men and women act like spoiled assholes, the people then say, "men are pigs" or "women are thots". If you stop turning you focus so much to 9-10s in looks, you' find a lot more 9-10 personalities in 5-10 bodies. If all you can see are trashy women, you might ask yourself where you're looking.
Alexander actually covers it well in his video, Invisible Men - Interviewing University Girls, but switch invisible men with invisible women.
True but that is unfortunately also a part of evolutionary pre-selection. A partner that is good looking gives you a higher status, which increases your chances of survival.
@@ZapR21 I've actually dating very attractive who were spoiled and didn't need to develop good social skills, and I'll tell you, less attractive woman with great social skills, help you keep higher social status in communities. Not to mention high stress over a long time also wrecks our bodies and kills us. Better a low stress 6 or 7 over a high stress 8 or 9. Sadly our measuring skills are thrown off, since tv, social media, adult content, exposes us to tons of 9s and 10s, in their most optimized lighting, angles, with filters, and retakes. Our minds will take the hundreds and thousands of 9s and 10s we see, who are amped up to the 11 or 12 non-reality version of themselves, and calculate that into the average. The average person should be a 5, but I bet most average woman would be rated 2-3, due to the skewing of averages done by media. Not to mention, the media sources give us a never ending stream of 18-22 year olds, but if you're looking for a long term relationship, she won't be 18-22 forever. A 22 year old 10 is best out by a 22 year old 7, when then 22 year old 10 turns 40 or 50 years old, if we're only having a physical beauty contest, but a good relationship and happy life is about more.
Men don't just look at 9s and 10s though. We might avoid 1s 2s and 3s but 4s definitely get attention. The thing is, average women are still attractive. Even below average women. Men are strong, women are pretty, generally at least. There are ugly girls, but they're not common.
12:20. Since hypergamy always seeks above, or at least the feeling of the choosen partner being above the female, by default, biologically, men are the prize.
The fact that men are built, women are born, men are the prize.
In contrast, men should not see women as a prize for their work throughout life, but a reward. And justly earned.
'reward', yes.
That's true but remember that men power is being taken little by little by feminism and companies who need to complete an agenda
Hey Brothers!
You two fellas do very well together!
Spot On !!!!
So when you say to celebrate your achievements and masculinity by being in a relationship that certifies your achievements....is this not seeking validation for who you are as a man? Doesn't seem right to seek validation or happiness from an external source such as woman. Happiness should come from within..
More like celebrating your achievements by a trip, a car, or a new watch. A nice looking girl on your arm is the ultimate accessory.
I agree, women already believe that everything we do, everything we accomplish, every aspect of our personality they may find appealing is for their benefit. That is why they are so entitled because they believe they are our #1 motivation. Women are not the end all be all to a happiness in life. But there are a lot of simps that make women feel that way.
She isn’t celebrating you, it’s got nothing to do with validation unless that’s why you’re doing it, it’s because she’s using you and setting you up for pain
The advert with this video was a Tubi; "Jason (something) (I forgot)" a Chad at school and the girls screaming and wanting him. "He could fart on you and you'd ask for more" (one girl talking to another about him) was a quote I remember.
Yeah. Waiting for that motivational voiceover on a badass workout and study montage. That was epic!
A man’s power with women lies in resisting their allure and holding frame.
What you're saying is true; but, it's still your choice to put up with it. If you have woken up, change how you respond. It's your life.
Alex, could you recommend any books about evolutionary psychology?
At the end of the video Matt says "anything by David Buss", I guess Alex agrees
David Buss all day. Read everything
Great talk, guys, highly appreciated.
Wow you guys are so insightful, nice.
This is was quite insightful as always.
I think it absolutely is as detrimental to women and men who posts this sort of content, if we can call it that, and it's not just absolute brain rot for the consumer alone. I can imagine that it does take a toll, if the person is degrading themselves to something that borders on pornography, and the stream of attention is probably an addiction that needs to keep getting fulfilled. I personally don't see how it can be truly fulfilling if what you share doesn't show some sort of talent, skill, professionalism, or just something meaningful that can positively affect others. I'm also sure that this sort of content that's supposed to be "body positive" is an absolute magnet for young people with body dysmorphia and other issues.
In any case, it's good to remember that social media shows the worst trends, and that men and women who don't follow these trends tend to have their non-sexual content suppressed by algorithms, because sites profit off of perverted content. They also get overshadowed by accounts who often buy bot views and comments. UA-cam and instagram are huge culprits when it comes to this, and I'd bet tik tok is no different. They're meant to corrupt culture and make people depressed. If you can see how bad it is, you're really blessed.
The addiction that you mention is pretty much the biggest problem of social media and why we are even in this situation. It is addicting to get likes, comments and attention as those release hormones that make you feel good. The whole business model of social media is to get people addicted to this and keep coming back while they spam you with ads.
That's also why you see all social media trying their best to take away the ability of users to give negative feedback. Back in the days, youtube used to have a 5 Star rating system, then it turned to like/dislike and now dislikes are not even shown. Facebook removed their downvote button and other social media like instagram don't have a button for negative feedback in the first place.
Also, algorithms will automatically detect "bad" comments and remove or shadowban them. And if all of that doesn't help, the creator can just delete the post or stop people from posting.
All of this made it so that there is no way of giving negative feedback in social media and even the most average women can easily get addicted to the dopamine they recieve from likes.
@@AZzalor6632 So well said!! I'm sincerely glad that I avoid tik tok and instagram, and only use youtube in a professional capacity to post my work or to browse news and different interesting things. Honestly, tik tok just makes me instantly feel sick looking at it, you can immediately sense the overall depravity and corruption on it, it's really sad. It's just so damn vapid. It's uncomfortable to watch people mostly hurting themselves.
Absolutely, UA-cam before the Google takeover was really great. Content and channels grew naturally, comments and channels weren't shadowbanned for certain political views, it was honest and actually great for creators and artists.
I think the huge culture shift we have is also to blame, where media indoctrinates kids that there's no such thing as being vulgar, and interestingly enough, women just sharing an opinion and saying, "I don't like this, I don't think it's healthy or good" gets them a lot of harassment from the "anything goes" crowd. Basically, promoting professionalism and healthy behavior, even promoting relationships and marriage, is taboo.
Men are absolutely on this trend too, and if they're not just randomly shirtless on tik tok, then they're also doing stupid challenges or vapid lip syncing videos.
I'm just seeing how frustrated men are, looking at this, but they have to realize that women are just as frustrated looking these trends as well. Something for people to remember to not feel discouraged!!
Normal people are out there. You just most likely won't find them on a "viral video" at the top of a Chinese made company that's working to screw over other nations' culture.
@@AZzalor6632 Bingo. I was going to attempt to type a response similar to yours but my gut told me someone would come along and do it better and here your comment is. You nailed it. 👍🏽
Quality response and insightful observations overall.
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The individual isnt the prize a conmitment from both is
i saw an exemple of this, i know a dude, most people say he is handsome, plus he is tall, got no problem getting girl, but is so clingy that he can't keep them for long.
I like this collaboration. Very nice. Not a complete "echo" chamber as sometimes you guys don't see entirely eye to eye.
Amazing video! Alexander was specially eloquent today
Sure dude..."just to experiment" LMAO!!! 😂😂😂
And yeah as a dude I always got kicked out of social groups and never could blend in and I couldn't give a bigger damn back then lol.
It’s all about feedback with women. You can’t apply any philosophy as a rule except that if you get negative feedback you need to disengage or change your behavior. I used to believe that being aloof or insulting or being “confident” were attractive. Really it’s all kind of a crap shoot. Neediness is a turn off to both men and women but other than that there’s no due north to guide you. Playing by sight instead of by ear will always yield . Bad results.
True.
Really like these combo vids more.
That was a most excellent sililiquy about how to think about women as the prize. I saved this video just for that. Thank you!
Most guys can never be high value. There are certain physical requirements that average men can never meet.
Like what? Would you say Alexander (5'8" and not very physical) is not high value?
@@Anonymous-md2qp There's women on his Patreon would disagree.
@@simontmn No Alexander is not high value. He is NOT a highly sought after male.
@@simontmn There are SOME women who would disagree. But we have to go on averages. Remember his little experiment with, I can't recall which dating app, where the girl had to use the app for him?
Didn't go so well, now did it? High value men, and I know at least one, DO NOT have such a less than favorable outcome with women.
@@ArisenMind OK so by High Value you mean High SMV - can easily get lots of sex - which only partially correlates with being a high quality person. Alexander says the aim should be to form a lasting relationship with a high quality person; I agree. I'd rather have just my high quality (& high SMV) girlfriend, than sex with lots of low quality women (even low quality women with similar good looks & amazing figure)
excellent episode
This is Alex at his best.
Wow. What an insightful video.
wow this quote : "social media has sanitized women's capacity to enjoy the attention of low quality men" without the stigma that goes along with that attention..... This right here perfectly explains our culture's sharp turn toward low brow attention seeking. Mind blowing.
It's a real bummer that attention is so important to them when you consider that constantly giving free validation is the fastest way to get into the friend zone.
These women are perpetually is self-destruct mode when it comes to finding a man they can be happy with.
No wonder they are always asking "where have all the good men gone"
Not all women are asking where all the good men have gone. Some are lesbian, for instance
@@technoloverish
The video is about straight women and thus so was my comment. Lesbians are not part of this discussion here.
Note I said "These Women" which by default excludes any woman not described in the video.
Yeha to get attention that's all women have to do. Bounce up and down like a hamster and boom, thousands of thirsty men applaud. Same thing with relationships and dating. Women get in and out all the time of them. For men it doesn't work like that.
As the saying goes, a woman is born and a man is made.
I am quite skeptical about Alexanders argument being made at 2:00. Attracting lots of attention with simple sexual displays does not strike as a bad strategy to get a high quality man. The large amount of attention will put you in front of many more high quality men. And men evolved to react to sexual displays. Perhaps some high quality men will write the woman off based on the video(s), but even if that is most of them, which I doubt, the woman is still winning the numbers game. So it seems like a good strategy to increase awareness and initial interest, at which point the woman can switch to something more tailored to the high quality men now in contact with her.
good point but a high quality man see that her looks is as valuable than his input. however when she gets older that man will leave.
getting a high quality man attention is one thing, keeping it for long term is another thing. it might take a while but she will eventually leave
HQ men do not want promiscuous woman
I don't agree. For me.personally i wouldnt even bother woth these types of women. I know they are going to be a pain in the azz, they will not reapect me and they will get bored easily. And they're dumb. Not worth it.
If TikTok got shut down tomorrow. The meltdowns would be just as severe and widespread as they are now with the abortion drama. Maybe worse
Tiktok will not get shut down until men stop relying on social media
Being a high-value man isn't all that difficult really! Put some work into it and most guys are there almost. But, it won't help you find dates on Tinder or other any other apps and also more importantly; it won't make any self-entitled women become high-value....so good luck out there!
It probably would help you get Tinder dates... but you will no longer want Tinder dates, since you'll have yourself a high quality woman, or can get one by better means than Tinder.
9:25 You name a true thing. We should tell the truth. Because denying it, raging it, hating it ... hides this: it is not the only truth.
Alexander: How do you think the recent dismissal of Roe v. Waide in the United States will affect women's behavior in the dating market? I would love to have a video of your thoughts. Thank you.
No problem. Mayor cities will still have abortion legal. Also, this guy is from Australia not the USA
I think it's going amp of feminism, because it is a wakeup call that our rights can be taken away. Younger women will probably get stingier with sex because the consequences are higher. Women are going to get more serious about men wearing condoms. But there's no reason for women to stop attention seeking behaviors because of it. If anything, they can use the excuse that they don't want to get pregnant more now than before.
@@williammkydde you may be right that it didn't change that much, but it will strengthen feminism.
@@williammkydde It's also going to affect men too. Because no one wants to pay child support for eighteen years to a woman that they are no longer with. It's going to affect the economy because there's going to be a lot more unwanted children in the system.
i don't know why so many rich people getting divorced can you explain that
In my case, a divorce lawyer had envoys in fancy restaurants, courting the wives.
"I can add up assets and show you your take in 5 minutes or less."
So now my X is one of my cleaning staff. Divorce lawyer faired much worse.
I’m a guy, and my social bonds and interactions are really important to me as well 🤷🏻♂️
Men get attention if people like what the man does and what he has to say. Women get attention if they are sexually appealing. We are not the same.
Hey Alexander, i dont know if you'll respond to this. But im in a weird situation. Not sure if i dodge a bullet.. im starting to get to know a girl i've met on a dating app.. everythings fine from the start, ive been trying to hold back and not giving any pressure to her,but my intentions are clear that i really wanted to start knowing her and see if were going to the next level.. then a few days on, she starred to be clingy, always calling even when im on my work, she likes me hearing talking.. i still stood my ground that this is just part of getting to know each other.. then suddenly things have changed.. she started to telling people and posting to her social media that she is into a guy (pertaining to me,she posted our conversation online, she also recorded a conversation to her colleague that shes into a guy shes in mutual understanding, which is me).. i thought she's into me so i did try to reciprocate the actions.. then suddenly she said that she's not yet prepared to be in a relationship and she wants to be friends only.. i did try to ask her if she wants to look into is since its still very early, that maybe in the long run she could chamge her mind.. but she stands her ground that she only want friendship.. i rejected her offer.. now im seeing her post like she broke up with some guy.. kinda weird if you ask me.. im 34 and shes 26.. sorry for my english, its not my first language..
She's playing games. Forget her and move on. If she comes crawling back, make it clear you're not interested in friendship. You want something more.
No, run as fast as possible. No joke
She's in it for the game. You're an NPC
Key concept: Attentional asymmetry.
I'm not playing the dating game anymore!
THE PRIZE SUCKS!
14:17 - EPIC SPEECH INCOMING! 🔥🎉👌
Wow, powerful summary!
preach brother!
So what number do you have to be for you to achieve super high quality Super Saiyan 7 megaChad ultra elite version? Is that like 9,000 or something?
Maybe "Likes" are to attention, what money is to wealth.
With money, instead of goods, livestock, land, etc. you have a marker that represents the the potential of those things; a kind of abstract wealth. That abstraction probably enables some dysfunction and in one's attitude toward wealth.
On social media, you don't have the desirable person smiling at you and showing you real favor, you have a marker that you trust means that. At best you have a written sonnet from a stranger.
I wonder if the dysfunctional attitudes from abstracted wealth and attention are similar.
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but why do they work more inferior, less logical?
hard to understand, why not simply communicate clearly?
That creation-celebration speech was absolutely insane. 😲 ❤❤
What if there are 10 girls interested in me and all of them are good? How do I boil them choices down to one? If one won't work out, I don't think the others would be available again.
nice problem to have
Long time ago there was a song which contained the words " If is for children building daydreams..."....so stop daydreaming superman.....because that is what children do...the narcissistic ones generally..🤪🤣🤣🤔
Yes they will. In fact, even more.
Alexander what do you think about Andrew tate?
Love this video!!! Great content !!!
Men and Sex = Doing Payment
Women and Sex = Receiving Payment
It seems like the film "As Good As It Gets" has great examples of the high quality guy giving quality attention to the women despite his exaggerated flaws.
I guess we are all looking for validation for who we are. We grab the easiest form of validation possible. I guess when girls body's start to change, she is handed a new form of creating a validation that is exciting for them to experiment with.
I like how AG asks a question but then goes in and answers it himself. Why have a guest?
Okay, after watching this video, I better understand your point of view, this mitigates (but doesn't negate) my previous comments.
Yep, in order to make your girl the prize, you have to be worthy of giving it. Otherwise, it means nothing to her. Your time has to be worth something.
Some powerful stuff.
In that case maybe we need to ban the internet.
Sexual maturity is far from emotional maturity and people can get stuck in any level of emotional maturation at any time in life. The more disparate, the more chaotic and narcissistic the individual
This is PRIME content. I don't know how much money you're making Alex, I know you coach people and stuff so you probably make your bacon that way but honestly, for how long you've been on UA-cam, you deserve WAY more subscribers. I know you've grown exponentially the past few years since I've started following you but this was great content. Im happy to say that I found your channel years ago before all these podcasts of men giving advice to men (some more valuable than others), you are my first exposure to this content.
I hunt and deliver the meat. I look upon my partner with love and affection. it is a wonderful life for a while. only years pass and what was love becomes scorn and contempt. I've lived this several times over to consider it inevitable. the premise of this vid seems to be that I just didn't do it well enough. I say that is false. no matter how good you are, the woman will eventually find you not good enough. she will then face the wall and I won't shed a tear. I'll let you all know if I find an exception. I hope so. I'm having fun in the meantime instead of holding my breath 😎
Yes, that's a pattern I've seen too. Celebrity examples aren't necessarily the best, but Brad Pitt etc etc.
Got me thinking if perhaps the "manosphere" model of hypergamy is incomplete. I don't doubt it's real, people will choose their best mate option. But maybe the key missing word is "perceived". I'm not sure that the perceived value is necessarily veridical. Going further with another "just so" evo-psych hypothesis, perhaps mate switching - even if you did bag the best option from your tribe - is a feature not a bug. Perhaps genetic diversity in the tribe would be more advantageous. In other words a kid from each of the top 10 guys in the tribe is of greater fitness value than 10 kids from the number 1 guy. That might have conveyed greater fitness at the population level (diversity really is our strength as we are often reminded) and those tribes with such practice being selected to go forward and amplify the proclivity as a general feature of the species over time.
Who knows, all "just so" beard stroking, but it was a thought that occurred to me as a "cope" against the crushing conclusion that I'm just "not good enough" to sustain long term attraction and commitment.
You know what, screw it, it's probably just me! Either way, the "why" doesn't particularly matter as much as the "is". It is what it is. 😜
Amazing video!
Who's the guest?
Great stuff
Listen to the song from the Simpsons gentleman: “Just don’t look”.
Damn dude
You just nailed it 💖
Meanwhile Amber Heard: