Most Men Still Don't Understand This About Hot Women
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This girl is just looking for more guys to reject. Rejecting men is a self esteem booster for most women.
Wouldn't that make it a self esteem booster for you?
I don't believe most woman want to get that attention. If she is shy, she definately doesnt want that confrontation so they will waffle through how to handle rejecting a man.
I think it's more a bimbo having a WOOO moment in order to get some attention and gather some like. 0 value for anybody here honestly. She wasted 10 seconds of everybody's time who watched her clip.
@@flipflop6525No!... I'm not pathetic nor stupid!
Only ask once men!
Their attempt to boost self esteem doesn't work if you say OK, smile and never give her attention from that point onwards!
If you know internally that she just lost something incredible then she will feel that!
It's time to train these hos into being human once again!
Alexander, the reason hot women are feared is because they come up with the most rude things a human being can possibly say to a guy. They don't just reject a man's advances, they turn humiliation into an art form. It is actually negative pre-selection.
And the correct response to such behavior is to publicly shame and humiliate her (best done through condescending humor) to the point that she never dreams of doing that again. Reward good behavior, punish bad behavior.
Touch grass bro. It's not that serious.
Shaming of women works best when done by other Women.......
@@elijahwilson1422 no, when a woman tries to talk down to a man, it's the man that has to put her in her place.
@@badgerapocalyps2546 shaming tactics work best when it's other Women doing so. As a Man you have to be important enough for her to care and they were never able to pull any of this bullshit prior to the passage of the 19th amendment. But the 19th never would have passed without Men caving in to the Suffragettes, the Flappers and hen pecked Anglos, many of them Freemasons/secularists and tinknee hats.
The first girl in the video is a good example for the type of girls every man should avoid (at all cost sometimes) and her TikTok page is a proof of this.
What's her tiktok
What’s her @ it’s for research purposes
@@m4dsci3nce61 Just run "toxic el is back" through the search box.
@@m4dsci3nce61 please don't, there is nothing of essence to research there or "research" even
@@TomNook. Oh, I 200% agree with this. Look at the actions, not the words.
Speaking about actions, most of those profiles are public, so anyone can see them. And if certain profile is full of clips like the one the search line above will lead you to, "borderline sanitary" clips and quite a few thirst traps here and there (like in her case), it's quite correct to assume that girls like her are NOT a girlfriend/wife material, no matter if she makes a semi-valid point about the men confidence in this video or not.
Also, to quote another "internet celebrity" slash social media-addicted gold digger who also gives "relationship" tips - "Just because in on the Internet, doesn't mean that is (entirely) true", semi-valid or not.
there was a girl in my school who was very attractive. everyone was stunned by her beauty which made them afraid of talking to her. when I finally decided to talk to her I find out that she's actually shy, not choosey, and didn't have many friends.
In my experience hot girl fall in two categories she either crazy or normal/shy that what I notice.
I'm not saying this specific girl did anything but be careful, some of these "shy no friends" girls are not what they let you think.
Attractive wm can never have enough betamale orbiters
@@simosavustaja9420 This can literally apply to ANY human being on this planet. Male or female.
Met a few such girls. Those are the ones that politely friendzone you. Despite being shy, they are still very aware of their beauty and always go only for Chads. Once with him, they become social and happy.
If unattractive girls are behaving like 10/10, why would the attractive girls be any different?
He gave a couple reasons. Very pretty girls have a different life experience.
They’re usually oblivious to it though
@@2ndtoJohn Attractive women know they are attractive. They act like they don't know because socially, anyone (men included) saying "im attractive" usually comes off as arrogant or self absorbed, even if they are speaking the truth. Unless that attractive person is completly lacking of social cues and norms
My personal experience has always been that the mid level girls, 5's and 6's, have always been the most demanding.
Just like midgets are demanding > 6 feet tall guys and average/above girls don't care about it that much.
Reason : Insecurity.
For me, all my life, dating only had one purpose: finding a wife for life. I seriously dated two women in my life, and ended up marrying them both. The first one was my high school sweetheart and she ended up being not quite I what I expected, and she walked out on me. The second one turned out to be my best friend, soulmate and wife for 45 years, right up until she died, nearly two years ago. To my way of thinking, what people view as "dating" today is more than unfortunate, it is toxic to the society as well as to themselves. When you waste those valuable young years on sowing wild oats, you find that when you get old, you will reap the nothingness that you have planted in your garden. You will not always be young and attractive. And when you slow down, because you must, if you haven't invested in a good mate, you will pay the price.
And one other point, most "hot women" aren't as hot as you think. Have you seen some of the actresses without all the makeup and fancy clothes? Most women who are viewed as knockouts spend half their time putting on their costume, which is what it boils down to. Women are beautiful naturally, when they are young. The older they get, the more they have to rely on makeup to cover up what they have lost. If you are chasing "glamour" which is mostly fake, you will deserve what you get. After you have been married and in love for decades, you find that beauty flows from the inside, it isn't caked on from the outside.
Ay my boi! long time no see!
@mikecollon100lol u think it's like going down to the market and picking up a new one?
It's not that simple bro, give the man time to heal and move on, if he don't want another one that's fine too
You are a very wise man. I completely agree. Also, when a man is truly in love with a good woman that love makes him see her in a way that changes very little over time. My wife is as beautiful to me today as the first day I met her. She cares for me and I her. I know we both look older but that means nothing to me.
When I was younger I had all the “sixes “ they want but I would have walked right past that girl because she has headache written all over her.
Good post, and I agree with you. Unfortunately, most women today aren't even close to marriage material. How can a man find a good woman when most today are bad, and even if you do find a good woman, how does she stay good when bad temptation is all around her.
In America, men have to adapt to survive. The men I know young and old are remaining batchelors, and they cycle women in and out, refusing to marry or have children with them. This is the world we live in now if you want to stay sane and keep $$ in your pocket.
Thank you for sharing your story. Very mature long-term orientated points mentioned. Stay humane and well. Take care, Sir.
"I know lots of women who would take a 6 or 7"
6 and 7's for women: actual 8 and 9s
80% of men are deemed below average in attraction by women so you're right
plus its a lie anyway
depends on her, an absolut unrealistic 12 to 20 could be also a 6
Yeah do the opposite of wat she says
@@joshclark2109 facts
Most “hot girls” know they aren’t as great as you think they are. Down deep, they know their beauty can be wiped off with a Kleenex. That has to be an insecure feeling.
Tell one of these creatures to not use makeup. They'll have an existential crisis.
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No. She just wants guys to do that so she can receive validation and attention while rejecting them
You have no idea how statistically true that actually is.
How many times will you let a poison spider bite you 😂 before you run out of chances
BULLSEYE 🎯 They just want your attention : energy. Tried and True.
That's quite a serious and extreme generalisation to make about a woman
@@shanept you believe what women say?
Woman: "SHOOT YOUR SHOT"
Man: "What am I going to get out of this outside of the obvious?"
Woman: ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!"
Man: "Whatever"
women need to have those "ugh! this creep tried to hit on me the other day!" stories to make themselves look both desirable and sympathetic
You get the stress of continuously keeping her happy and when you fail, off to the next richer guy
sex, companionship, good memories etc...
@@keiranmorrisart overrated
@@easter_sunday all of those?
It's called the Halo Effect. People superficially confuse beauty with kindness so they are bound to treat you right and create an overall positive opinion about you just because of the posession of an attractive physical feature.
BARS
@Three Eleven Both
halo effect doesn't really work for me. If a woman is hot, I automatically assume that the personality isn't something likable. And it is absolutely true for 90% of the time if not 100%
blackp!ll 101 lol
Women unfairly have an advantage with the halo effect. Makeup!
Men can't wear lots of makeup to enhance their looks. Well, I guess they can but they'll be regarded as effeminate, not masculine. No woman wants to date a straight guy covered in makeup. 😄
Chads do level the looks playing field a bit because so called chads are regarded as attractive to many women but those men don't need makeup... however some women don't want 'looks competition' in a relationship so may date down in looks. The halo effect can work for and against a person.
It's all contradictory, I guess. But I think the general consensus is better looking people are admired more than average looking people. You can admire someone's looks, but not want to interact with them due to insecurity or the belief they will look down on you or whatever reason.
I think the average girls who think they are above average are the worst, toxic woman... and there are A LOT of them. My experience is that the better looking woman are usually nicer. The image of the hot chick that's stuck up and arrogant is a Hollywood creation. Approaching a really hot girl is a good thing; Best case scenario is you pull her and worst case scenario is you get shut down but had the balls to approach a really hot girl and it gains confidence!
Exactly! Most of those 8+ girls are actually thinking that are just average, around 6 due to insecurity!
If you do not believe tell any girl of your relatives (female child) that she is beautiful! She will deny it fiercely!
If you tell that to any "hot" teenager or "hot" stranger you can be sure that her reaction will be heavily dependent on HER mood at that moment which is not necessarily meant to hurt you or make you feel bad!
If she reacts "badly" she is just not in the mood but that still does not mean anything!
Most of the time men are just out of touch with the flow and surrounding and are not good with reading the situation properly!
@@XPuntar exactly most guys says I am pretty but I can't believe it I have deep insecurities
That is what I experienced too, the hot girls are usually nice because of confidence, the slightly above average chicks are the evil ones, not just to guys, but also to hotter chicks.
@deez3063 how are you doing now? Are you better?
THANK YOU! the hotter the humbler in my experience. Heck, some are pretty shy, nervous and easily intimidated. The also always get picked on by their female "friends".
Fuglies are the worst creatures on earth. More ego than looks.
It's like there is a beauty dunning-kruger effect going on
She's confusing sex attraction with relationship attraction. Being desired for one doesn't mean you're desired for another. However, she's right about how far confidence and passing frame tests get's a guy because they're based in feelings whereas we are visual
Naw , that's cope. Women are just as visual and shallow as men are.
common mistake with women. Just because they can sleep with a guy they start thinking they can keep him
self confidence aint gonna get her to say yes to a 5'7" bald guy.
This is pure cope. Game isn’t going to overcome the lack of looks and money.
@@sssoundslike2259 No. But it helps
Funny thing is, once you go through all of this and get the attractive girl, you pretty much signal to everyone else that they stand a chance too, assuming you're average looking, then it's open season and you have to stave off the horde without looking like the jealous type.
That why a man pimp game need to be strong and show her that she can be replaced.
Good points, both of you
@@michaelzero5278 Pimp game totally must be strong. She must serve your purpose 1st. Friend of mine said always have a woman do something for you before she comes to meet you... even if it's just the smallest thing like pick up a pack of gum. The signal must be that she serves your purpose 1st. It also reinforces the fact that she has invested in you... Even if you invested more money into her than she has on you, the money you spend must be disposable to you. Her investment of time, Passion, energy, and money combined must be greater.
Love your posts. Btw. Once you start dating. Do you make her pick up something every time she comes to meet or just occasionally?
@@varsityeagle89 Occasionally is fine, it just has to be enough to reinforce the dynamics of the relationship... your purpose comes 1st. Women gladly want to serve leaders. It also challenges your leadership skills because sometimes you may be forgetting your purpose. If you are not delegating duties, taking control of the room and the dynamics, then you're not leading. She will notice that. Then she will try to lead.
I work in a field that is female dominated and I'm pretty content just keeping it friendly. I'm in my 40s now and it all just seems so tiresome nowadays, compared to when I was in my 20s.
I'm in my 40's as well and I know exactly what you're talking about. The novelty and validation I get from women now pales in comparison to the validation I get from success.
The only way to deal with women bs at work is playing dumb
@@fronttowardenemy7972 A deep, meaningful friendship and relationship with a woman is a form of success. I get what you mean if you're just looking at it from that perspective however.
What are your testosterone levels, diet, health, and intentions
@@fronttowardenemy7972 I'm in my 40s and I feel exactly the way you do. While of course I'm always interested in women, it's not my main focus, especially since modern dating culture has become such a mess. It's tiresome, and achieving success, Independence, security, and contentment from a comfortable life is my main focus now.
My sister has been a good example to this unseen world of women.
She is an athletic, attractive, woman. She's very popular, always knows someone wherever we are because she grew up dancing and is now a dance teacher, she is also cheerleader for a professional football team. She has traveled the world with her dancing. She's outgoing, happy etc.
She is LONELY. On the outside, she has all the same pictures out with friends, at weddings etc. But in reality those friends don't call despite all the #BFF stuff in the pictures.
She is just a regular person. And through her I've met all of her dance and cheer friends... All very similar girls, and they are just regular people that also get lonely.
And the men I see them date? Usually nothing special physically.
You should focus less on "men I see them date" and more on "men I see them FI_ICK"
@@youtubesucks2755 LOL
I'm my experience hot girl fall in two categories she either crazy or normal/lonely.
Is this in the US? Just curious what city and state or country this is from?
Sounds bizzarre but could see it happening because its all “pretend and play”’for women to create a fake illusion. Like instagram posts of women traveling like they’re rich etc. when they’re not
@lionedheart It's actually in Canada.
She is a genuine person. She isn't always doing selfies, she doesn't do the whole "thirst trap" thing even though she could. She turned out to be a self respecting woman with values.
It's a lot of these other girls do put out that fake persona. It's even hard on her when these friends who on social media or in front of other people act like they are besties with her specifically because she is someone worth being associated with, yet we just spent new years alone in her living room for the 3rd year in a row... And it blew my mind she never had plans, never had people calling her to go out for nye etc. Eye opener.
A 6-7 is not dating down, 6-7 are above average to good looking.i swear women's look scales are all over the place.
those women are not even 4 in most cases and they still think got a 6-7 man is dating down, smh.
She's confusing sex attraction with relationship attraction. Being desired for one doesn't mean you're desired for another. However, she's right about how far confidence and passing frame tests get's a guy because they're based in feelings whereas we are visual
A 6-7 guy is super rare. Women rank most men at 4 or lower
An American 7 or 8 is a Colombian 4 or 5. No whinny BS or thinking she is dating down in Cololmbia.
@@mrvanntabulous Don't listen to women. They are lying.
Obviously on a scale there must be cases on every point. The scale is the market value. If women are only interested in the top 10 percent then everybody considered is a 10. Men are dating down, so everybody considered by the top 10 percent are 8 to 10. Women do not talk in a rational way. They try to manipulate the situation in their favour.
My mother was an 10/10 exceptionally beautiful woman when she was young. She was a shy introvert who hated talking to people. And everyone thought she was prideful woman and men were so scared to approach. One day my father (fairly tall and average looking) straight up approached my grandfather and asked to marry her. My parents are happily married even to this day.
There isn't 10 out of 10 women
Then they had this yutube baby 😁
👍 👍
Try this approach yourself and tell us what happened.
Different peopke, different times. Most of our ancestors married within proximity where they live, there were no social media and to much fornication as today, so you could find decent men and women.
The shy ones are indeed most likely to not be damaged and have issues they will dump on you and blame you for..........
Problem is, guys would be dating down if they followed this advice and potentially be putting themselve's into legal trouble. Get rejected but keep trying? With narcissistic women who won't make their own move? She's saying that she and other women know they're better than the guy so think about the dynamic that sets up. She wants a guy that will treat her like a celebrity and then treat him like a fan.
I guess taking selfies and being on tick tock makes a person feel like they're better than someone else doesn't it. That's why most women have children and no husband. First off most women kick their boyfriend or husband to the curb anyway. They probably should have waited until they got older before they decided to have a child when most people don't even act like parents anyway. I love how people say they love their children so much. But do you actually see it out here. Not really.
Problem is a lot of guys asking women out without a lick of choosing signals. Choosing signals itself will prevent any guy from false allegations. Women don’t want you if they don’t show they chose you.
You kind of missed the point because some people will tell you anything, and act a certain so they like them. That was the point of acting/ testing people to see how they really are. yes what your saying does absolutely happen as well
I agree with you OP.
Men should take the male position. Ask. But only ONCE!!!
ONE TIME!
If she's not taking the female position by accepting or declining temporarily gracefully and in a feminine way.
Leave. Smile and leave, knowing inside that it's her loss!
The concept that 'less-attractive women are more appreciative' started becoming a fallacy in the mid 90s. I've found that 6s and 7s are the most vicious with their men (although hotties can be the most vicious during and after breakup). 6s and 7s more often settle for a man who's lacking and stick around and emotionally beat his ass.
Not really sure I currently know any hot girls that don't have a boyfriend... and they don't seem to go very long without. Honestly, I don't know many at all (even average women) that aren't at least on a rotation with a new guy every couple of months. But, that's just my friend group. I know that's "not all" women... but if my social circles are any indication... I don't know that even a "hot/shy" girl is really having any problem finding a new man within weeks or even days. But anything is possible.
They usually have a boyfriend. Not necessarily a high quality boyfriend. You can get a weird inversion where the decent guys avoid her "must be out of my league" - and it's the jerk with insufferable self-confidence who actually snags her.
Yeah most of them have boyfriends even average or below average looking women and if they are single like you said it's for a very small window and they're still usually looking for a very specific type of guy. Or if they're deciding to stay single longer they're basically in a hoe phase.
@@simontmn Yeah, I don't doubt that most of these women have pretty questionable boyfriends. Especially the ones on "rotation." I don't think they care though.
And it sort of goes back to that rule about "women do the choosing?" Even for the "shy" ones, I don't think it's lack of available good options. I think they like the "jerk." My assumption is that all these "shy women" just use dating apps if their personality is severely lacking (and still have their pick of the litter).
The idea of randomly approaching some smoking hot chick (especially one with poor interpersonal skills) at a bar feels like a set up for disaster.
@@zipperpig What kind of disaster? I think very pretty girls if anything tend to be more pleasant/polite than more mediocre girls, for the reasons Alexander gave. A girl giving off an "I'm hot - and I know it!" vibe may give a harsh rejection, though not always. I think any cold approach most often results in rejection. It doesn't usually result in real 'disaster' - getting assaulted, arrested, or thrown out of the venue, say - but may result in a cutting put-down.
@@simontmn Yeah, not saying you're gonna wind up in jail (hopefully)... and I agree that better looking women tend to handle it marginally better than average girls... I should say a "set up for failure."
I think Alexander actually may have indicated the reason why in a prior video. I think he may have talked about "looks matching?" Whether shy or not... I think women (and men) are acutely aware of their "looks match," and the further you deviate outside of that framework, the worse you can expect the reaction to be (in general). That applies more to relationship longevity, but in my opinion, it also hold true for general interactions like approaches and even friendships to some degree.
I don't want to date anyone who thinks they're "dating down" tbh. I would hate to be with a woman who thinks they're better than me.
Most women ONLY marry up or on their level,and men will generally marry down or on their level. Dating may be a different story,but I’ve heard my first sentence from many different people that speak on this topic. Could just be in this country too,not sure. But don’t worry about any modern women dating down, and they will ALL think they’re better than you eventually. Focus on yourself,stack muscles,stack cash, and enjoy your life as a bachelor. Women’s dating down is a good one though😂😂😂
Why do you assume she is dating down when dating you?
Women always try to marry up. So that guy is actually settling. Because her beauty will fade.
@@rbfarrell1 exactly. Thank you for explaining it better. Peace
@@visaman because that is what she stated at the beginning of the video. She is delusional.
It doesn't pay off to approach attractive quiet girls either because even if you correctly identify one and make it past the initial defenses, all the other guys will take notice and start barging in left and right. All you really end up doing is walking through the minefield first.
As the quieter Attractive girl you are describing here, I chuckled because it’s true 😆 Or atleast.. this experience is similar to one I had during the month of November at a group Traineeship I was at.
Guys would watch me socialise with the men, & 1 by 1, they would make their approach - I was shocked as i’d never experienced something like this before, lol.
I found, I either had to be the one to instigate (then the rest kind of pricked up their eyes and ears) or it just took that guy to instigate. I could feel eyes on me all the time during those 6 weeks.
Call of duty...101.☺
The fundamental problem with this advice is that since you can’t actually differentiate between the woman who does not want any interaction and the woman who is simply insecure about interacting, what you’re going to end up doing is antagonizing a number of people because of the misread.
This guys is speaking the truth, due to my career path being a Social Worker, I have a lot of female friends who are 8's and 9's. This has been the case since college, so I've had the opportunity to demystify how society interacts with hot women. This is also how I got an IG Model as my wife, I just approached her like she's a normal person, and she was enamored by my confidence because most guys are intimidated by her looks. Great stuff Alex👌🏿
Treating beautiful women like normal people, will take you far in life guys.
But do hot women are treated special? Is she having an ego issue? Does she feel entitled?
@@alexanderg8466 She used to feel entitled, but not anymore. As for ego, not the case anymore either. But too many guys are afraid is losing the really hot girls, and are desperate to have a hot girlfriend.
Which is where the 8's and 9's get to get away with bad behavior instead of being corrected by the man. Pretty women, are just normal people, nothing special about them.
... if they act trashy they need to be corresponded to | kicked off accordingly. no gents' m.e.a.t. be wasted.
Or you have the looks and status. If you would have been 300 pound l0ser but approached her the same way, your confidence wouldn't matter. If i have to quess, you are propably higher value than you think.
@@simosavustaja9420 That may be true, I'm 6 feet and told I'm very handsome by others, but I was on the skinny side. But I'm a black otaku, who isn't athletic, so I was a late bloomer in high school.
What you're saying about looks is true but, my wife was taught by her parents to find a man to build with rather than trying to find someone already built. By the time we met, I was earning less than her, but in the span of 2 years I doubled my income (with her support).
There *are* women out there, preferably from 2 parent homes, who see the value in men. But you gotta look with intention, while building on yourself as a man, and focus less on looks and more on character.
So, the ‘nice girl act’ that hot girls put on is just that, an act. We all knew that. Going after women that are out of your league is a waste, she will always know she can do better and once the novelty of your approach wears off, she will quickly direct her gaze on the next best thing. Confidence will only get you so far for so long.
@@alexanderg8466 if you approached to an 8 and is satisfied with her personality, why would you go for an unknown 9?
@@noophia I agree with you but males are dumb.
an 8 and 9 is too close.. What about being with a 4 or 5 and finding an 8. That is where most male would fall.
@@alexanderg8466 i personaly don't believe 4 or 5 females exist naturally. Because every 4 can (and will) be an 8, if she's not lazy. Gym, light make up, good personality and you're good to go.
@@noophia There are a lot of fat unduckable women. Seriously there are some no man would take.
@@toddpacker1015 i actually saw an experiment, when some dudes took the handsome rich guy's photos to tinder account and got like ~170 matches, and then did the same thing with (as you called) fat unduckable woman. Do you know how many matches she've got? 449! almost 3 times more matches then top 5% guy did.
I always knew how men could be toxic as I am a man, I had an abusive older brother, a cheating/absent father, and a selfish/absent workaholic/alcoholic mother.
It wasn't until I was 11 that I came to realise that girls are way more toxic (even more so than women) and that the prettier the wrapping was, the more screwed up and toxic they were on the inside.
I learnt early, so I avoided the lust-inducing traps that were placed in front of me.
When I finally found my missus I vetted her for 3 years before we started dating, and ANOTHER year before we started sleeping together.
It must have been the right mind-set to have as we've been together 23 years, had a lovely daughter, overcame many difficulties together, and are still going strong.
And she's at least a 6 imo. A 7 when she's in the mood for some serious loving.
I've never met an 8+ who wasn't so toxic that she drags EVERYONE SHE EVER MEETS down into the dirt where she lives (mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, etc. All of their partners/relationships came to ruin in the end).
Dumpy fat chicks think they are entitled to the hottest guy, if just some mediocre guy shows an interest in them. best to go with a hot chick, because they will just move on after the break up.
lol, We "abusive" older brothers are getting you ready for the world, I kicked the sh*t out of my little brothers and they came out decent men, it's a rite of passage.
Bravo bravo bravo...
Women always know what they are doing and who they are sleeping with. If you don't mind me asking how did you vetted her?
@@seventhkeyomegasghost8233 🤣🤣 lmao
In a lot of cases, they also just know from experience that if they smile or look too approachable, they'll be approached all night by guys they don't want to talk to. It's also why they sometimes avoid eye contact with others. The good looks could be somewhat of a curse at times. A lot of them still end up being stuck up because they're constantly approached wherever they go. Even if it's just by one guy out of many.
Prostitutes makes so much more sense.
legit, its actually a saving, spiritually, financially and mentally.
@@generationexodus1783 Yes, you know what you're getting up front,
and no fighting , arguing , hassles , no strings attached after!
I don't know why my Country just won't legalize the s***.
@@seventhkeyomegasghost8233 It's legal in many countries in Europe ,like the Netherlands,Germany ,Austria !
@@gregorygant4242 It's not legal here where I'm at. It needs to be legal worldwide so we can cut the bullsh*t, that men and wmn have going on.
“Shoot your shot so I get validation. If you get rejected, shoot your shot so I can #metoo you if I feel like it.”
Men, its not about the hot, pretty woman. Its all about you and how you view yourself. Stop being concerned about what women want and be more concerned about what you want for yourself! Set goals and standards based on your likes and dislikes. There are beautiful women in all walks of life, from the spectrum of nerdy chicks to party girls to gym rats. The key to successful interactions with women is first knowing yourself and being comfortable with who you are and what you represent. When you have this mindset, confidence oozes out of you, which in turn causes you to present yourself in a positive manner. Also, you must understand that regardless of how confident, handsome, or rich you are, you will be rejected regardless. Andrew Tate gets shot down just like the average Joe does, maybe even more often than you think. When you have a true knowledge of self, you avoid wasting your time with frivelous pursuits chasing women you have nothing in common with. You will recognize that if she doesn't respond or show some level of mutual interest, move on and don't waste your time chasing your tail. You're more likely to be made an orbiter/friendzone fanatic than a potential datin/relationship partner if she doesn't show some level of positive response or curiosity in the first 30 seconds. As a man, you don't beg, plead or tarry. You stake your claim and pursue what is reasonable and cost appropriate.
lol🤣
Nope be humble
Spoken like a true G
True that. This guy gets it.
How did Andrew Tate enter the chat?
Most of my ex girlfriends are hot women and one of the patterns I noticed is the ones who grew up with certain dysfunctions tends to be spoiled brat princesses. They’re used to getting anyway with certain behaviors because men are afraid to check them on it so they think it’s normal to act like a child until they get what they want. Another problem is most of them are addicted to real life and especially now, social media male attention. They love to an IG account with hundreds of men following, liking and commenting on their pictures but if one girl comments on your IG pic., she’s ready to start world war 3 LOL😂. If you get serious with a hot woman to the point of engagement and marriage, she should stop getting calls and texts messages from her “guy friends” at least after a certain hour of the night. Almost every hot girl I dated always had guys texting them all day and night and she would say, “We’re just friends”. Women in general but especially hot women who know their toxic USUALLY keep one or two BACKUP PLAN MEN AROUND, because they know they will probably self sabotage the current relationship. My ex girl was like this. She drank a lot and men texted her non stop daily so I had to let her go. Fellas, protect your seed, money and emotions. No amount of hotness is worth a pretty face and a hot body. Look at how COCKY that FIRST GIRL was. She’s used to men chasing her and her acting anyway she wants.
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Hitting the nail on the head!! 👍.
I know some good looking women. Their life view in a nutshell is & I'm basing this on their behaviour: I'm better looking than most so I can get away with more than most.
They act like nineteen or 20 year olds even though they are in their mid thirties. They are in long term relationships & wear the trousers pretty much in those relationships. Their men are in the happy wife happy life club .
I had a thought of why they still act this way. My conclusion was that they have never needed to act any different. It's always worked for them. Why develop their character further, their looks have got them where they are.
@@travis3430 "I'm better looking than most so I can get away with more than most"
they're not wrong
“Most of my ex-girlfriends are hot women.” Hmm.
Even if the phenomenon that you are talking about exists, I don't think it necessarily has the effect you think it does. Plenty of dudes (lacking self-awareness) will shamelessly shoot their shot at women who are out of the league because of how thirsty they are. Attractive women get hit on all the time, because they're physically attractive, and thus tend to develop social defense mechanisms to screen people out. This is something you've pointed out yourself in past videos iirc. This contradicts your claim in this video that attractive women feel pressured to act inviting. If anything, they'll be pressured to be distant and selective in the sorts of men they give the time of day, simply because people are drawn to them all the time due to their looks.
you are correct
hee attitude towards you all comes down to whether she thinks you're cute or not when you approach her.. and you'll know really quickly whether she thinks you're cute or not.. it will be obvious, whether you pick up the obvious hint or not is on you..
Spot on.
Absolutely true. I've had social enxiety since early childhood. It had been really frustrating, so I decided to approach everyone in any situation, men, women, anyone. It's funny how many people who look intimidating are intraverted and shy, but they're actually very friendly and happy that I talk to them. A few good looking women who look confident get nervous and stumble, they're like anyone else.
Camping for Christmas… Most Australian thing I’ve ever heard 🤣
I disagree with this video. The simplest explanation of why this woman (our any woman) encourages men to approach is they like attention.
Maybe she's a dating coach. A man's chances aren't any better with a hot, shy woman. They're worse because the better looking a woman is the higher her expectations and the less outgoing the more the man would have to carry the conversation.
Never treat a woman like something better than you. Be reasonable. Make her earn your attention. Be what she wants and she does not want a slave. She wants something better than her.
Wuss
@@johnjcb4690 ???
Respect yourself more than you respect any woman or anyone else. (God being the exception)
All the bullshit games come to an abrupt stop immediately afterwards.
Don’t reward women for being closed off. Let them learn that they have to open up to get what they want.
Exactly!!!!!!!
I've never thought about this to be honest. I've actually only noticed that they usually have a bitchy persona in order to scare off creepy men
Or they already have a btchy persona and so curate their appearance to make themselves look hotter
"Creepy" men
@@dariushzend9866 creepy and/or unattractive hahah
IME that's more the 6s who get hit on a lot, not the 9s who intimidate most men.
Creepy aka not blessed with good genetics.
With Social Media, facially challenged women are starting to also have relationship problems. The seven layers of makeups are creating the power ranger effects in a lot of them.
Stuff like “I’m strong and untouchable”
Yeah, you go, girl! Get em tigress!
"Put yourself out there", the worst ever dating advice I've ever heard. It supports entitled women who want to play games, get approached and making men vulnerable and exposed to rejection to boost her entitled ego. Long story short, it's time for women to make the first move. Modern women aren't traditional so they are the ones who should make the first move. Otherwise, men are no longer going to put up with modern women attitude.
If you want women to approach you better look your best
It's the only surefire way to ascertain genuine desire and without genuine desire, intimate involvement with any woman is pointless.
A complete 180 wouldn't solve anything. It should be: if you are a guy and are attracted to a woman, approach her. If you are a woman and are attracted to a man, approach him.
@@XathosLP Gender equality doesn't exist.
@@jkfd97 This has nothing to do with gender equality. This is literally how you make friends and/or get a partner... Doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman
I’ve definitely experienced this. It really confused me for a long time. Thankfully I am very extroverted, so once I developed some social confidence, I had no trouble, & I just go after what I want. I’ve never been approached by a lot of men, though I’m told that I’m checked out constantly. I have open body language BUT I’m typically hyper focused on my task which might send a sort of ‘unavailable’ vibe.
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Alexander, I've fallen in love with the prettiest 10/10 girl you can imagine- looks like an actress, has degrees, speaks many languages, is a senior manager.
As a result I got destroyed- got thrown out of the social circle and got what PUAs call "beta male shaming"- i.e. how do I even dare thinking that I deserve a girl like that.
You can say I'm perhaps not realistic in my expectations, but boy- I sure know how to get up close, look her in the eyes and say "hey, I know what I want and what I want is you"
p.s. I got a lot of the disrespectful response "you've seen too much porn", which is basically a double standard, an ad hominem attack.
How do you fall in love with someone that rejects you? Thats not love, thats lust. You don't know her enough personally to be in love with her. You just know her from the outside and lust after her because you've filled in what you don't know about her and placed her on a pedestal.
@@gnelfpmeh 1. Your text is basic pua advice.
2. My text was a real-Life example of one-itis & betamale shaming.
3. "You just know her from the outside"- not really. We were in the same social circle for years before this happened, so nope- you're wrong there. And if Mr. Chady Chad wanted to play with her assets- no one would've objected (i.e. Alphamale vs. Betamale).
4. I've started with pua because of this story, so it's hilarious you're giving advice to my old self.
At the time I've believed in some mainstream ideas from Hollywood, that for winning her heart I should humiliate myself in public, which expectadly resulted in betamale shaming.
5. I was aware she was out of my league, but the sequence of events was: she nearly died in an accident, so I decided to tell her I love her. It was a stupid mistake.
Don't marry the girl who you love, marry the girl who loves you.
@@konstantinrebrov675 the best advice any man can get. This is where the difference lies in relationships. The woman has to live the man or she’ll always be looking for and thinking she can do better… and she’ll find it.
One thing I absolutely love about your channel is that you try to touch on several aspects and problems affecting both men and women, and from the persepective of both men and women. It just feels so fair in comparison to other manosphere / redpill content out there.
Excellent content as usual, Alexander!
I’m noticing more video effects and editing whatnot in recent vids. Just my two cents, but your info is so compelling that it stands on its own without the aftereffects frosting.
Either way I’ll continue to tune in - you’ve given words and structure to things I’ve vaguely sensed for years!
+1. These video effects are what's making society mad. Try watching a 50 year old movie that was a real blockbuster at the time. The story line goes so slow and the images are so static that you are getting physically annoyed. But the reality is that we are overstimulated on a daily basis and don't know how to relax anymore with all the health issues that comes with in current society.
I'm not a great looking guy, but I have dated several 'hot' women before I got married. They all approached me, because I ignored them. I would be on the dance floor all night, pausing for a drink occasionally, then back dancing. Meanwhile, the guys that were buying them drinks all night, were giving me the evil eye like I was the asshole.
Long story short; focus on yourself and your own well being. If a woman wants to join you on your journey, then YOU decide if you want her to be by your side. Regardless; you're moving forward.
So you married a hot woman and you are not do not understand women still...that you come to this channel to learn more..
Were you on the dance floor by yourself like John Travolta? That takes a lot of balls to pull that off.
@@visaman lol
@@visaman lmaoooo
You changed the format for this video. It feels like it transitioned from an educational video to a marketing video maybe.
This video is akin to advising people to play the lottery because you could win!
I agree but there are some people that have more probabilites, so I would not say lottery tho
The day I see that this hot woman is dating 4 or 5 I'd listen to what she's preaching. In most cases they say it to be PC but in reality doesn't follow that advise.
Yeah when a so called "beautiful" XX dates down, money is involved.
Indeed, this is rubbish advice. Observe what she does not what she says.
Why should we dilute our superior genes by dating someone so much less attractive? Then there are no more hot women…
2 cents. I find the new production distracting, Alex. If it is necessary, I understand, but mayyybe at the minimum tone down the sound effects.
Yeah, right. For the average (or below) guy, it doesn't work. First problem, how often do you run across a hot girl let alone one that's shy. Over my life I can count them on one hand. Chances are very limited. Second, they always go with the better looking dude unless you have money to throw around and I don't. Then there's your presentation. Feel her energy? Approach her, don't freak yourself out even if you're uncomfortable, but if she's uncomfortable... You'd need to be an expert at meditation to be self aware enough and still be able to pull your game together.
That’s a good point, where the heck are you even supposed to meet a pretty girl if she happens to be introverted? A store? A cafe? She might just spend most of her time inside at home and if you do find one in public, chances are she’s not open to approach and just want to be left alone. Then there’s the basics of being decent looking/confident/charismatic on top of making sure your first impression is good enough to hook her, aswell as many more possible problems following. Frankly, it just seems way too improbable, like there’s so much to take into account.
I’ve been married to two really hot women. Believe me, you get over the physical beauty pretty quickly.
It’s more important that they have integrity, character, emotional maturity and a capacity for loyalty and unconditional love.
Hpw does one get a harem with high quality women?
If you’re a man and think someone is out of your league then you need to change your mindset. No one is out of your league. It is them that have that opinion and sums them up. That already tells you they are unpleasant and stuck up. Most hot women tend to have the personality of a rock. They don’t have to try and therefore never have. They live on easy street and they don’t have it as tough as others. Ask them if they would rather be plain? They wouldn’t swap places so let’s not weep for hot women. They know they have it easier. Society treats the good-looking people better.
Most "hot" women got the Jabs & are having heart attacks
Great times
@@Attiues mainstream media makes it seem like most people got the jabs, but many people outside of North America, don't seem to care as much about the jab. I hope it's the latter.
A ‘10’ in looks with a ‘2’ in attitude is still a ‘2’.
It’s not only that you need to dare making the first step.
You need to be able to keep a conversation going which is witty, intelligent, feeling-biased, not seeming needy, not weird, not show-off.
And you have to keep this conversation going without any input from her.
sounds exausting
@@peterpitcard it does!
You're overthinking it, just bring calm and authenticity.
Your mindset is that you need to prove yourself to them, if you know you have value to provide that will be embodied in confidence.
@@HoodBn confidence is not enough
@@HoodBn No good advice for most men.
With „just be authentic“ they would talk about things they are interested in: Cars, soccer, computer games.
If women would be interested in that, pick-up schools would be unnecessary.
SUPER-Video! The Manosphere needs way more like this one.
This illustrates the dark-side of the “Halo Effect”, how to recognize it and how to
navigate it in a way that benefits both men and women.
Excellent!
Too funny, they'll date down, a six or a seven, because they're all tens.
That's was my immediate thought, they are not talking about men who are 6's and below, they are talking about men who are Chad-lite or Tyrone-lite with resources to burn through.
Thousands upon THOUSANDS of videos of women talking into their phones in their cars to strangers they will never meet.
In my ventures during 2005-2019, I have found that super-attractive women are a lot nicer that the average ones. Among them a real princess, actually, super-attractive, and the nicest and most gracious person ever. Also, the nasty secret about attractive women, after the third, let's say, "social exchange", they all look the same.
They're just really good actresses...eminence front;)
Risky actions are avoided, creating less competition, making them less risky.
This is true with almost everything. *It's less risky to take risks*.
Yeah, but what’s the probability of a hot women with over abundance of “resource”. For example, looks, men checking her out, flirting with her, hitting 100 likes on tinder per day. This person can become hollow or not care about the resource they have so much of, in this case, men. A poor person cares about money, because of the things it could bring them, health, happiness, doesn’t have to worry about job firing you. While a rich person wouldn’t really care about even spending 10$-100$ unlike a poor person would be humble and appreciate the resource. So it’s all about probability and just by understanding a regular human being. With too much of a resource: attention, money, men, women, etc, can lead to that human, person, to start not appreciate what they currently have.
So what’s the probability of a hot women wanting more attention, guys approaching her, and not being “full of themselves” and be a good person.
I loved the new editing
It added energy and a great vibe
Welcome to 2023, I Hope you have a great year, Alexander
An interesting psychological phenomenon affecting prettier / more handsome people: _"self adaptation"_ to the projected/perceived image of yourself. I've been, at times, rather ugly (say: a 4) and rather handsome (say, a 7) -- only possible if your main flaw is being _fat_ , particularly in the face: once much leaner, you climb several points.
And, I noticed, _when I was a 7, I would act like a 7_ , not just adapting my "targets" to my _new range_ but also in terms of _knowingly and intentionally missing out_ on very clear "avances" form girls _absolutely in my "new" league_ just because _I really wanted to make the people around me, and the girl in question, know, that " _*_I_*_ am a better person"_ that does not go after every chance or occasion. Can't it be that many women act like they do out of the very same phenomenon?
Yes. This is also why it works to be seen as a person, getting to know someone, having a bio in your profile etc. To escape people's more shallow first impression.
Some of the beautiful women I talked to in person have been very reserved.
Makes sense now. Great video.
Why you talk to everyone. You may surprise yourself.
Limerence - Falling in love with the ideas we have about a partner, instead of falling love for who and how they ARE. (i.e. she looks hot so she is worth loving/pursuing)
The fancy editing was a very nice touch I like it
"Stuck up" is not what's going through my head when I see a hot girl.
I'm more likely to be thinking "high maintenance."
From my experience the overwhelming majority of hot women are not friendly, smiley, or open. Hot women intentionally avoid those traits to weed out men that they don't want approaching them.
Ive had interactions with girls where in the bar where they have a friend come up to me and say they are interested, but the minute we start talking she's actually very socially awkward and only talks in a "yes" or "no" manner even though my questions are imo deserving of a better answer lol. Usually I just tell them that Im bored and get out quickly. It's a real shame as they are physically attractive but resort to using their phone when talking to someone they claim to be attracted to
I remember when a new girl came into our area who was so classically beautiful that she could've been a fashion model. Everyone was intimidated by her looks (including the women), so they avoided her. I decided to hang out with her on break, and it turns out she was a really cool lady. One of the most interesting people I've ever known. There's definitely some truth to this.
If you're in the market, take his advice on this. You might be surprised.
Yo right out of the gate I notice the change in editing style 🔥 I quite like it
Hot girls are less approached, but they are also approached by more confident high value guys ...and really experienced players. So to the sheer number of competitors is smaller, but they are harder to beat.
None of this applies to me. I’m 5‘6“. and bald. 😅 This “bias” (from their own anecdotal self reporting) doesn’t even come in to play unless approach is even a possibility 👍🏼
Yeah, you're destined for eternal loneliness, pal. Sorry.
Neil Straus the famous pua was 5'6 and bald and did well. It's possible.
That woman is full of it. Womens standards are higher than they’ve ever been thanks to dating apps. Even 5’s think they deserve 10s these days. If you try to talk to a woman in public they call you a creep. Women just make videos like that to get guys to try to chat them up so they can complain about guys talking to them all the time coz it makes them feel wanted.
I automatically avoid them like the plague on account of them usually being used to getting what they want in life simply on account of being hot.
That was dope, boss, thanks! I'm a bit older and this affirmed something I learned a while ago, but especially late-20-to-early 30-something men with half a brain and a bit of ambition toward ANYTHING need to hear this, great job! Just wanted to affirm you taking more "risks" like this moving forward as you produce and share more quality, useful info.
This editing format doesn't work with your content. It was better the way it was before, sorry to say.
Love the new snappy presentation, much more engaging and captivating.
I agree with the analysis re very pretty girls' frequent insecurity & approachability. Not sure this really applies to the girl at the start though! I definitely think a lot of guys make the mistake of avoiding the 9 and approaching the 6. That 6 may well get hit on *more* and be more likely to give a harsh putdown to raise her own status. The 9s tend to be at least pleasant, for the reasons given.
Let's stop this fallacy of somehow the 9's are all of a sudden these little delicate angels that wouldn't hurt a fly, they are just as big of an a**hole as the super average 6's are. They want the rich and famous chad's and tyrone's to stop slumming with the 6's and give all their resources to them, that's it.
Ugh, I hate to admit it but the editing really works. It radically improves my engagement to the video, simply putting text in front to read and the zooms and the transitions and cuts to clips. The dynamics change our psychology when looking at the video. Alex, you might have to pay attention to something like this too maybe
Most attractive girls already have a social group and that alone just makes it even harder to approach her. (She would gossip about you to her friends and stuff). Experienced this and wished I was dead afterwards xD
I've been married for years, so I'm not in the "walk away" camp, or whatever you call it. However, I do enjoy your channel and appreciate hearing your perspective. When I was dating, I tended not to go for the hottest women. Pretty yes, but not the girls who were the hottest.
Going to a smaller university and living on campus made things interesting. I pretty much knew most of the hot girls on campus. Almost without exception, they either 1) had a boyfriend from day 1 and were never eligible or 2) had other issues that made me not want to date them. I can't stand drama. So I wanted a girl who wasn't high maintenance, who was fun, easy to connect with, and who was at least attractive enough. I figured that, no matter how hot they were, they weren't going to be that hot forever. Plus, if there were other significant issues, them being hot wasn't going to be enough.
I am constantly amazed by conversations that go something like this:
Person: I actually met george clooney once and hes such an amazing person.
Me: Why what did he do (that was so amazing)?
Person: oh he just said hello (to me).
Beautiful women just need to be friendly to be amazing.
To the Editor: I like the Visuals, but the soundeffects are jarring
I watch with 2x which makes it extra jarring perhaps
I don't think youtube videos use transiting soundeffects that much?
Lay off the sound effects.
You are right that being stunningly beautiful is a double edged sword ..... And you're right that you can't really tell what their internal monologue is. But in my experience the shy beauty is rather rare and most beautiful women are extremely socially educated and get an absolutely insane amount of offers. Most of them are quite friendly because why wouldn't they be unless you're overstepping their boundaries.
Couple thoughts: if a hot girl doesn't get the kind of attraction she wants does she then take the opportunity it go out and talk to the guys she's interested in? It's the 21st century women can go ask a guy out if they want to. Second, if a girl is reserved in everything to the point that they don't respond much at all even in an interaction they enjoy, is that a bad sign going forward in a relationship? Will she want to work through things with you or just drop you once it becomes too hard? Last: could this just be a social chameleon feature, eg she doesn't know what to say yet so she says nothing.
Love how you pull in these insane clips...and rip on them....great content man!
Part of the problem is many can and do shoot their shot thinking they nabbed a date with future prospects long term. When all it really was is a free meal for her.
And validation.Imagine feeding a woman and she feels entitled to it?The thought is just disgusting.
This is applicable in the pre-social media era and also before online dating became the norm. It can be done today BUT IN VERY SPECIFIC SITUATIONS.
This is a stupid take, because what he's forgetting is that attractive women have social media. Attractive women get messages and DMS from men all the time.
But most of them are lame messages & often from men with no pic, & from men who aren’t even on the same continent. Approaching in person is much more powerful.
@@maidende8280 of course, but women don't dste down. She is Waiting message from 8s or 9s. So it makes no sense that women date down
@@gerardoa9179 Some of us might date slightly down in terms of looks, but every woman has certain traits she is hypergamous about, definitely.
Great video and seeing from the comments , talking about bias people have towards women and men is needed. Seeing as there is so much negativ bias and tunnel vision being commented🎉
I once dated a model (well she wasnt a model at the time), i got to know her when a girl in my click added her to our group, and then i just treated her as one of the gang without treating her any different then i treated any other girl in our friend group, witch she liked because she didnt have any real friends and was rather lonely because she intimidated other people because she was so beautiful.
Moral of the story, beautiful girls are still girls, and girls are still people, and if you treat them like that, they wont think any lesser of you.
Boom.
Even a 6 is above average! She's not talking to normal men here.
Not a fan of new editing, but the content is great as always!
A female friend who gives me really good advice has a saying; "Every girl is a '5' until you talk to them." Her attractiveness is the reason you're talking to her but if she doesn't match up in other ways she's not good enough for you.
Yeah one thing that gives me some confidence around super beautiful women is the fact that i genuinely really DO prefer a "7" with the full package over a "perfect 10" with nothing else any day, and the decision isn't even close. Now if she were a perfect 10 with the full package then yea I'd probably be nervous af and even if i did manage to get that girl, which would almost certainly never happen anyway, there is then the threat that she would leave little old me later on, and then all of my investment will have been for naught when i could have been building up my relationship with that full package 7.
Even though everything you just said is 100% facts, you’ll still have people out there telling you to “stop being so insecure” when really you’re just basing your actions in reality in trying to find a compatible partner
@@j.r.marcone7199 but also, that perfect 10 is gonna start to look like a 5 pretty fukken quick after you have to actually live with her whereas the 7 is going to, well, ALSO look like a 5 except that she will contribute to the marriage and have a wonderful personality and good character. does the perfect 10 offer everything else that the 7 offers? in the words of the Hot Crazy Matrix author, you better be careful, you're talking to a tranny!
@@marksmith4892 the Hot/Crazy Matrix never lies!
When I see a hot girl, I find a way to get over to talk to her. Many times that I do this I find myself surprised. The only thing I know is that if they are very attractive, they may have got used to using people and then after a while she could get tired of you, and haul ass with another guy. But if she has MORALS, you might just have found a prize. You will never know at least unless you talk to them.
Shoot your shot = 3 hots and a cot.
11:50 Those transition sounds are obnoxious... nah, never mind. All the sound effects in this video are obnoxious.