Thanks for your videos Alexander. Because of your voice in that whole dating stuff I didn't become bitter, resentful and frustrated guy who hates women. I love that you're not spiteful but also merciless and brutally honest when speaking truth about women. I hope you realize how many men you helped with debunking the myth of women as pure, angelic, almost transcendential beings from another world, who only care about men's soul.
BTW I realize the video was not about it, but I just wanted to comment in order to both help the youtube algorithm and give a shoutout to Alexander before even watching :)
I wish I can get over the resentment though. I'm really starting to hate them and it's affecting my day to day life. I used to be in relationships but I've been used and abused, discarded, humiliated, it's like I suddenly got this target on my forehead
@@kitesupreme8907 I'm very sorry that it happened to you. I hope you will sort this out. Remember, your past does not have to define your future and also it is not a shame to look for a professional help.
yes same. I still get that resentment feeling when I watch some vids of other creators sometimes but mostly when I watch AG it helps me rationalize it.
The most disgusting thing I've learned about dating women from dating is women don't care about your struggles or personhood. Once I learned this I didn't care if they were attracted to me, I just lost so much respect and desire.
Same here, after the ex wife left a couple of years ago I told myself never again and honestly once you truly let go of that feeling of need or want for women the amount of stress that has been lifted is crazy. I've literally never felt more free and while I sometimes miss the old connection I had with her honestly the idea of giving this up now to go back to something like that isn't so appealing.
@@broke123 Thanks for that input, yours is a REAAL valid variant of the "The Juice is not worth the squeeze". Hopefully you are able to mentally not picture the bad times and just move on, move ahead (I never had a LTR and the possibilities I had and messed up, I keep replaying the bad in my head, lets all collectively as men support to NOT do what I did.)
I'm telling you man, you have to come to a place where you can enjoy the single life while still sourcing leads, playing the numbers game, and pursuing women when convenient and you have nothing better to do. It's hard to get there but eventually you get to a place where you become numb how toxic dealing with women is. That said, never go out of your way for women, spend a bunch of time/money on them, or plan around them actually showing up. They'll never go out of their way for you. the reason to do this is because actually actively pursuing women and running volume increases our chances of success dramatically. Up to you of course, but it's some food for thought
I'm 30. And after years of rejection I've come to believe that it's not true that "You've got nothing to lose". I'm not afraid of rejection. But I'm afraid of who I have become because of it. Now instead of dreaming of meeting "the one" I dream of coming to terms with a life of solitude. I want to live alone in the forest somewhere and be a hermit. I want to enjoy nature, great literature, good food and music. And I'm just going to live my life. If I meet someone who doesn't beat me down great. But I definitely don't expect that.
The problem is that men have been conditioned to believe they NEED a woman to have a fulfilled life. Its actually women who need men for that not the other way round.
Read Iron John by Robert Bly. Women are a pleasant distraction from men’s purpose, not the goal or reward. Stop focussing on women, they’re not the answer.
Isn't this video a bit of a cope though...? I mean, as much as i aspire to a long lasting, fulfilling relationship, a period of slaying first doesn't seem bad either...
LOL !! Or to quote Dumb & Dumber: "So you're saying, I have a chance?" I think the mating part of the life cycle is a small part, not the main part. So it is with animals so it is with humans! Enjoy each part and "dance to the music of time".
It’s funny cause I live in the exact situation you talked about at the beginning. I am married, have two daughters, and have felt before that I missed out on being a “player” or whatever because I got married so young. After watching videos like yours and others showing how the dating market is currently, it’s caused me to re-evaluate my life and what I have. I’m so grateful for my wife and girls. I’m super lucky to be in the position I’m at. What I have is extremely rare in today’s world. I have a beautiful wife who’s only ever been with me and we are raising two amazing girls together. I think I’ve realized I’ve reached the peak of what you can as a man. It’s amazing to have a woman in your life who desires you. But this also means I don’t stop trying. A relationship takes a ton of work. I’m continuing working on myself and keeping myself in a position where my wife wants to keep us together. Anyway I’m glad I’ve found your channel. I’ve learned a lot from you.
A man who realizes his blessings is twice blessed! Your wife is a lucky woman and your girls will have the foundation of growing up in a secure and loving family. So happy you shared.
We actually met in college back on 2009. So a whole different dating market back then. Also both of us grew up Mormon, which if you know anything about them they’re all about not having sex til you’re married, which usually leads many to get married young. Currently we both don’t follow that religion anymore because we don’t believe or agree with a lot of its teachings but I do think the focus on chastity as a younger individual can probably be a good thing in the long run. I think they do take it a bit over the top in some cases and cause anxiety with many youth but the generality of it could be good. So yeah in a way I’m resentful of how I was brought up but also grateful for it. And in the end it’s led to what I have now.
@@PGateBaseball trust the results you have now are a blessing, may your marriage prosper further. Dating is a strenuous exercise and sometimes after achieving what you are looking for you ask yourself if it's worth the effort. It's only good if it doesn't eat much of your energy, time, resources and state of mind.
"High quality women don't have one night stands" I'm pretty sure 90% of women has at least had a couple of them. Makes it really hard to find a gf if you're going to exclude all of them
Women enjoy sex as much as men. Most of us have had one night stands at one time or other. As we mature we move on from this behaviour. I think it is a question of how many and if the woman continues with this sort of behaviour into her late twenties when she should be settling into long term relationships. If you are looking for a Virgin in Western Societies then you might have more success finding a unicorn.
Attraction between men and women is asymmetrical. Women wants a guy who is always better than them. Taller, more social standing, financially sound, in shape and has game. While men looks submissive, feminine, young, good looking and slender women.
@Miguel Alves go to different country where women are shorter and you'll have foreigner effect going for you, maximize rest of the things that'll make attractive. You re Latino, if I'm not wrong. What about south America things not good for you there either...
As a former member of the "top tier men" I can confirm that what he says at 4:14 is 100% true. At the end of the day, it's not worth it. It's a fracking train wreck
Absolutely. It feels good in the moment, but shortly after, there's no substance in it. And when you realize that the majority of them, you likely wouldn't date, it really hits then. But the thing is, the more you do it, the more "addicted" you sort of get to it and want to do so. And the more you do that, the more at risk you put your future. If you ever end up in this position, it's probably best to exit it while you're ahead. I justified a bit of it by saying that most women I've been with, I actually developed a good friendship with. But even then, the casual stuff just doesn't go anywhere. It feels empty after a while.
@@BeastMode-oz8qc Yup, there's nothing worse than a phone call or text message saying "We need to talk" or "I have something to tell you" from someone you would not date 😂. Your mind immediately goes, "my life is over" haha. I laugh, but it's reality a lot of times. I've seen guys lives get wrecked because they got the wrong woman pregnant. Damn I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Best to get snipped if you're going to keep doing it. Otherwise, too risky.
@@fenyx2558 it sounds like they got into a high paying job, achieved all their finanical goals and then hated the stress that they may have got from that job and then knew if they could save enough money to try and change into a job that they enjoy, even if they have now gone down the road where there is less of the financial reward?
Completely agreed. I am one of the men who lost 'a very high-quality woman' to pay my sexual debt, that too after 6 years of fulfilling relationship. I used to think that she is preventing me from fulfilling my desires. What an idiot I was. Nothing is more satisfactory than lying close to a woman whom you love and who also loves you back in the same way after a very satisfying sex. Sex without love is so shallow. It's the love in the partner's eyes during sex that gives real sex-satisfaction.
The purpose of the dating market is to find someone and get the F out. So true. I'm happily married for 7 years and me and my wife agree that dating is a nightmare and we aren't going back to all of that nonsense. Find someone that is good to you and you're a winner.
How to find one though? Especially, when you feel behind and missed out in a lot of things. I know dating market is brutal for men. However, in order to find the one for me I still have to date.
@@flow1465 Quantity. My wife and I met through online dating. You message 100 people to get 10 dates to find 1 that is maybe worth a second date. You have to meet lots of people to find one that is a good match. I liked it that she approached me because she liked the picture in my profile. That's how it starts.
Well you are the extreme minority of happily married men, literally everyone I have ever met in real life, has told me they regret getting married. And that they are ONLY happy due to their children. That doesn't sound like a great deal to me honestly
@@FirstLast-gk6lg Marriage is not for everyone. Some people lack self-awareness and get themselves into situations they later regret. I didn't get married until I was 37. By that point I had figured some stuff out. Getting bitter and resentful after a relationship fails decreases one's attractiveness. Alexander is right on. Choose the one that chooses you. Don't chase. Get a pre-nup. I know I am very lucky - gratitude every day. Sometimes when you don't get what you want, you end up with something better.
@@hevnervals The ones that settled for a man, or are in the process of leaving him. No such thing as a "breadwinner wife" can exist in this world, women themselves won't allow it, because they don't want to be in that position.
I suggest more domination and in a fun friendly way. Set a better frame or don’t go on the date. I’m NOT chastising you or your share. Your a real dude, doing real dates. But what I said is truth. Don’t go on the date, if your not going to dominate the frame and enjoy that dominating.
Alex, you have just torn apart my deepest insecurities ever. I was in that trap of my pickup community. I have a lot of guy-friends who sleep around. I did it quite a lot too. But when I stopped they started saying that I'm not alpha anymore, I'm getting beta and so on. It worried me, I didn't want to loose my face with my friends, but I didn't wanna keep playing in the dating market. I felt quite uncomfortable about all of that. But after watching this video I got relaxed and calm. Finally! oh, this relief! Thank you Alex! You become my favorite person to watch on UA-cam.
I agree with Ashley, don't let another man tell you what being a man is. in my opinion sleeping around is just a threshold, different for all men, once you have slept with enough women you don't feel like you need to anymore. And in my opinion this is where a man STARTS seeing women truthfully.
I read "The Game" by Niel Strauss and thats been my impression- most players get ABSORBED by the process and addicted to external validation - its a trap bc now they've invested all their spare energy on playing - and - ended up with mostly nothing.
Sure, if you find a high quality woman. But they are extremely rare and you still need to be in the top 5% to be selected by a high quality woman unless she is totally inexperienced and doesn't know her own value. Being in relationship with the average modern woman sucks, she thinks she deserves everything while offering nothing in return. It's not worth it. It's only headaches and problems and hard work.
@@JJ-hu4cm Dating these modern women, probably. Hell! You only need 10 min. watching tiktok videos or something like that to reach the same conclusion.
At 24, my wife of (now) 30 years actually kicked to the curb a guy who was tall, rich and very good-lookiing -- for me. Because he wasn't a good person. Quality women are out there. The question for every man is whether he can recognize her when she comes along. If he's laser-focused on tits, ass and "getting some," he's likely to miss the gems who actually come his way.
@@graymatters7584 I'm glad you had a good experience a while ago but honestly man, now a days it's all changed, even from 6 years ago. Women have totally changed, the good ones, if there are any, are all taken. Guys do recognize a good thing when they find it generally. But in general, there is not a lot of good ones out there. A lot are spoiled, entitled brats to put it nicely.
@@JJ-hu4cm Is this a serious question or are you trying to virtue signal? I'm not interested in woke or PC culture if that's your angle. You can't have missed that there is a lot of talk of what men need to do in order to be a good partner for a woman, but there is seldom any focus on what women need to do to be a good partner for a man. Even to suggest that women also need to learn how treat a man right is offensive. The blame is always on the man. All of society tells women they are perfect just the way they are, beautiful in every size and that they deserve everything and more just for existing. It's no wonder women have high expectations on men while also thinking it is enough for women to just show up and exist. Any man should be lucky to have her regardless of how she looks, how she behaves or the amount of effort she spends. This is what I've seen myself in modern western women, and also what I've heard from others. Of course there are exceptions, but most modern women bring more trouble than they are worth in my opinion. Maybe you have a different experience? Tell me. But for the average guy. Value your own happiness and mental well-being, either find the rare exception or stay single. Don't bother trying to make a relationship work with any of the others. If you are not the top 5% she will just resent you or disrespect you anyway, for being less than what she really deserves. I'm speaking from 15+ years experience in relationships. I choose to be single now and I've never been happier.
A guy I know, 27, got out of a 8 year relationship because of the debt feeling. She was one of the few normal women left (fit, feminine, caring and loyal) and the older men who are married long term all said he made a mistake. The next girl he got was one with some mental issues who used him as therapist..
Bummer, hopefully he realised that and left her. (Just in case , it would be good if he make it back to the other, but not have him chase her nor anybody)
@@paulcolin9071 Possible. I've been back and forth with that also though I'm currently 29. My life has definitely been on the up the older I get and so have options. The thing is though, I think the longer you wait to settle in these current days, the less likely it'll be that you'll find a quality woman. I've met several woman that I could see myself with. Several of them are still good friends. Thing is, most of all of them were around my age. The ones that I would absolutely not settle with, have mostly been those a bit younger. Just a little joke (partially) here, but I'm seeing too much purple and pink hair these days in younger women. And I know first hand, that is NOT a good sign. I was with one casually for a bit and she had that youthful modern mentality. When I started caching feelings, I came to my senses pretty quickly and simmered them down because I knew there was no long-term potential. They are out there doing nasty things but are emotional wrecks. And lots of sex is a coping mechanism for many of them. (Obviously this was one experience, but there's something to it). My advice is to live it up as early on as you can if possible. And when you find someone of quality, at least consider locking her down. I don't think the dating market is improving anytime soon. If anything, it's on an exponential decline.
When men start having some standards and chads stop settling for landwhales, we'll start to see an improvement in this huge disparity in the dating scene. Until then, I'm afraid things will only become worse.
Especially with the obesity crisis in western countries. No joke, a guy needs to travel to other countries it’s really eye opening when literally every woman in site is very attractive. It opens up so many more options.
@@charliedallachie3539 I think that's 1 of the top 2 reasons why dating is so hard for men in the West: a woman is in the top 30-40% simply by not being fat. So many women are fat and guys get so lonely that they give up and accept the fat women, because they don't have much of a choice! And so then the not-fat women value themselves higher just because they aren't fat, and fat women believe they're attractive when they just aren't. So, in the end, if you have standards you don't have many options.
@@jamesrussell2936 yea I had the opportunity a few years ago to travel over for a friends wedding in Poland and it’s legit attractive women literally everywhere you turn even at the mall….you stand out being an overweight dude if you are. I had only had a 2 weeks to spend there. Stopped by London on the way and it’s pretty much like NYC just more expensive. Definitely travel if you can. Tinder women were booming then overseas too I didn’t do it because I was on a short timeline.
@@BHBalast sure but less so than here in the US. Also they’re more easy to talk to, you can strike a conversation with them easier if they know English well which a lot do. In the US women will have this “why are you talking to me” vibe often (even if you’re decent looking) unless you’re asking for directions or the time.
You are right on, Alexander. I once "had it all." I was a cameraman, technical director, and field producer over a ten-year career at a Hollywood studio. I had the Porsche, the high performance airplane waiting for me at Burbank airport, the house in Laurel Canyon surrounded by the rich and famous with a view as far as Catalina Island. I used to only have to walk into the Roxy or the Troubadour nightclubs and women would just clong onto me. I was the quintessential Player. I knew the game, and I played it well. I exceeded Casanova's body count. And you know what? It was boring, empty, and vacant. There was no fulfillment in it. And how much of an achievement is it really when a woman says: "Gee. You have a really nice car/airplane/house"? Those are just things. And here's a shock: so are you -- a sex toy that doesn't need batteries. I came to realize that, instead of me notching my belt -- I WAS the notch in women's belt. What finally turned me around? A woman, who I was starting to get close to, telling me: "It's been fun but I can't see you anymore... because I'm getting married." That happened with more than one woman. "OK." I thought. "So that's what it means to be an Alpha." Brothers, don't bother going there, and never envy anyone who has put energy and resources into getting there. It ain't worth it. It's a false destination.
As a man, why commit to a woman in your best years when she wouldn't commit to you (or any ONE man) in her best years? This is the situation Fⓔminism has created.
Best part is even if you "win"....you still lose in the end. Thousands of married and divorced men will be more than happy to share their horror stories with you.
A quality woman is a myth in today's time, now we are calling women who act in the right way high quality women? that's how every women should act, I don't know any high quality women exposing/educating low quality women and fighting for men{maybe 1 or 2 exists}, making the world a better place and I bet even Alexander himself can't find one for himself, one day he will get divorced and admit that he was wrong.
So, casual sex is unfulfilling. After all these years, all this activism, all this "sexual revolution" and we end up right at the start: family values and Christian modesty. Amazing.
THis is bullshit. Only people who say that sex sucks is people that have it. LIsten i have never had it and i want it, so dont come to me and say it is no good. It's like an olympic gold medalist coming at me and saying "yeah it is no deal, i am not so happy" yet he worked to get it. It is very fulfilling, especially if you are very lonely and ugly. THe only people who don't like it are the ones who have a LOT of it.
@@brickgraims83 yep. Something I realised in highschool, only people who said having a girlfriend isn't worth were those who had no problem getting them and stayed getting them lol. Let me EXPERIENCE those things for MYSELF damn. Same deal with how "pusywhipped" I noticed friends, my dad, and other people get when it's put on them. I always wondered "damn, is it THAT good to make them act that way?" My dad would say all these negative things about women whilst being whipped at the same time smh. Still a mystery of how crazy pusy is that make folks act up.
@@brickgraims83 also same with people who like to preach that money mean nothing to them are those who have it in abundance lol. Like haha, yea, must be nice.
High quality women understand that they are tricked by the only one who benefits and that’s Chad. And that also the name of the real trash in the game. And the evidence is the pool of 35y old women wanting to settle because Chad is now abusing the next generation. Just last weekend I told my 2y grandson that the oven running at 200C is hot. He looked at me like the Chad chasers look at this video and tried out. He learned something he will remember. (I took care it only hurt but was not dangerous). How many Chads are needed to find out counting d.cks is not mentally healthy?
@@fromgermany271 the key is that it was your grandson. The number of chad d.cks needed to be counted is infinitely high for the very same reason that guardians generally don't put their grandaughters through that same oven lesson - they instinctively know that such lessons are futile on little girls because they instead operate on intense instinctual fear and avoidance. Also, because females are not expected to navigate the world in such way.
Also, whilst I agree with Alexander Grace and Jordan Peterson that guys in abundance should eventually choose, it's inherently better to choose from a perspective of abundance than scarcity, as it will a) give you access to higher quality choices and b)tip the relationship dynamic in your favour as you won't be coming from a perspective of neediness.
That is a thought I had some time ago, must dating sites and advisors preach / teach that mind set that there are women a plenty. but is is kinda a sham. Hear me out It is on point of what Alex states in this vid (and others of his) the women nowadays wants the 1% of guys so unless you are in that 1 % men top tier, that abundance mentality is skewed and glass half full without making you aware of the whole picture, HOWEVER IF you go into the current dating place with the scarcity mentality you are as you mentioned here, going to come of as needy and low class/game/quality, whatever (be it as it may intentionally or evidently) in your interactions with women, specially nowadays. Prepare for the best and the worst expect either, just stick with the process, do not fall into this dating market "Gaming" and constantly having to keep yourself into this market game. As Alex points out at 8:15.
No they shouldn't at least not marriage through the state. Until men and women can pre negotiate their own marriage contract as real equals it should be avoided. Having to maintain her life style upon separation even though you now have two residences? This is why so many men end up living in their cars upon divorce they get financially raped
@@JoseDiaz-rd9fh I haven't seen him mentioning marriage, so I'm not sure I understand this reply. I always operate on a non-marriage basis, unless it's specifically stated about marriage. Because marriages nowadays simply aren't viable. I'm assuming he means any sort of LTR.
I totally agree. It’s like a shopping mall for them & an interview for men. We simply have to level up physically, financially & mentally. Then beat them in their own game by reversing it. Also have an abundant mindset like they do even though most of them ain’t sh*t
@@0bsmith0 imagine if guys only slept with and gave attention to women they would be willing to be in a relationship with. The women would be brought back down earth real quick
@@JamalW239 You can have an abundance mindset even if you don't actually have abundance, you just have to be able and willing to walk away at the first sign of bullshit or when the relationship is more trouble and anxiety than it's worth. Most men stick around for all of the bullshit and drama, and if women see that, they'll walk all over you
I've had my fair share of casual sex. I have also had the great fortune of making love. I've only had one woman in my life so far that I have made love with. Unfortunately, we are no longer together. Let me tell you, I would trade all the casual sex in the world to make love again. Once you've made love, casual sex is practically meaningless. Great video Alex!
@@Genevasplaytime More and more couples are having 3 some and are swinging too. Never ever get married, the grass is never greener on the other side. Lots of sexless marriages.
Wow that term sexual debt is incredible. I sabotaged my last two serious relationships for that very reason and I never understood why I have this feeling. Thank you, now I can work on healing it ❤
This is like one of those no gambling PSAs, most guys know that "most guys" will have a bad experience, but each of them feel like they are special and aren't going to suffer the fate of the "average" person. Oh how wrong they (well at least most of them) are.
5:45, "Get a girlfriend..." "Have a happy life...." In my experience, these two things did not go together. It's unbelievable how much more peaceful my life has been since I became single and started establishing boundaries with the opposite sex (and also boundaries with the pathetic men that enable abusive behavior in women). Happiness is an inside job.
Facts. I have been in both great LTR with high quality women, and also been seeing 10 women a week. And frankly I would rather be alone and just occasionally date, I almost always enjoy solitude more than company.
@@searchrankoptimize idk what mtbi means. And definitely loner and introvert. I am extremely content alone and essentially 100% of what i need from a women is physical release
Depends who you are with really, I've been on both sides of the spectrum. One where I thought it would be forever, living the dream and unfortunately it ended because of circumstances. There was also this other relationship where she was so toxic because of past trauma that I left because I was becoming a monster I never thought I'd be able to become and I didn't want anything bad to happen. Love is double edged sword, it can be the most beautiful feeling or the most damaging one, depending on the partner you have. Now I'm stuck in the dating market and I've been thinking about leaving it. I've got projects so women are only distractions at this point, but at the same time I would like to feel again, the type of love the first LTR I described in my comment provided me with. These girls are rare nowadays, sadly... One in a million kind of girl.
I have to say that I agree one hundred percent. After divorcing at 29, the reality of the dating market hit me like a train. Over 13 years later, I have completely checked out and no longer dating.
Can confirm that a life of abundance when it comes to shallow relationships is like getting addicted to a drug and then developing a tolerance. It feels great everytime you get the first hit of the day, but when you’re withdrawing because there isn’t a single woman in your life that genuinely cares for you, it’s way worse than being confidently single.
completely agree. ALL MY hardest party friends female/male both side when they used to brag "yay56 weeks Clubing straight", now they msg me "so appreciate my wife doing it day after day for me. I feel embarased for being so arrogant n immature". The happiest dudes these days i know r the ones didnt get the 'idea of play boy as happy guy" stuck , they plug them out n realize the happiness is within reach its just up to them if they want it.
So much truth in this - the sexual debt feeling, the emptiness in casual encounters, the feeling of having missed out, and desire for a deep relationship.
Facts. I became a so called chad by working hard in gym and self improvement just to see how shallow and empty girls that chased me were and sex became very unsatysfying.
But what you are ignoring is that you now have an edge over the average guy in terms of options. Use this to get the best you can, then keep the chadiness with the chosen one so se keeps chasing you and getting on your program. This will lead you to a happy LTR.
@@agnjunio Facts! And Alex doesn't acknowledge this. The Chd not only finds and gets a higher quality women. But he keeps her, women are loyal when they feel like they don't have a complete hold over their man. When they feel that their man could get another girl as good or better than them, THEN they make the best partners. Alex is describing a Beta dude with no experience or prospects, if this guy gets married it will be to whatever chick looks his way and he will likely not be valued or treated well in the relationship.
The only thing tougher than finding a good girl -finding an happy successful long term married couple. I know of *NONE* ALL of my friends got divorced - they ALL got drug though the divorce mill - they all had BS fabricated about them. Marriage in America - is simply not worth it. I grew up long ago - I saw the lies for what they were early.
Yeah, I pretty much gave up on the idea of marriage. As a man, there is just so much you have to bring to the table, you give up all your freedom, you put in all the effort, you get all the risk, but you get no guarantees and not very much out of it. I haven't met a single happy family in my life.
A video of you interviewing your successful couple friends would bring a lot of light, I myself haven't seen a guy truly happy in a relationship even though they have been in it their whole life.
@Censored CensoredTrue, relationships only work if the girl wants it to work and not the other way around, any girl can lie and make it look like a perfect relationship, every guy needs to get red pilled before even trying to salvage or get into a relationship.
Agreed. I'm 50 years old. I've known hundreds of people in my life. The number of truly happy long-term relationships I've come across is probably under ten. Off the top of my head, I can think of three happy-ish relationships where it was two genuinely nice people together. I can think of a couple others where it was two raging a**holes who worked as a team. Beyond that, it's a desert. Many people stay in miserable relationships for a long time.
@@patricksquinlan1 I agree with that sentiment and I've found that in my own experience as well, but with that information, what are we supposed to do? given modern relationships are absolutely hopeless and modern dating is an irradiated hellfield. just give up on it completely?
@@patricksquinlan1 Facts, I am the same. Known men all around the world from all different cultures and couple dynamics, and yet 100% of them have told me not to get married. Even the ones who do actually like their wives(rare) even them tell me, stay single unless you want kids.
3 years single, first 2 years went for the abundance route. Dropped my standards just to get my end off often, every time after i felt like an empty shell off a man. Friend circle with their dysfunctional long term relationships are all jealous can't understand me when I say there is nothing to be jealous of. This year, started looking for high value woman again. Dating sucks it really does. But I also need to work on myself hence why I'm here. Thanks for your videos
I never really had that phase of just sleeping around (34 years old now). Don’t feel jealous, but small piece of me feels like I missed out. Even in my 20’s I enjoyed how my life was going and the thought of contracting and std or knocking up some girl I wasn’t in love with caused me so much anxiety that I just never gave into those temp stations if sleeping around. I think everyone is different.
Excellent. You are wise far beyond your years ...you've surpassed these other guys who just CHOOSE to dwell and inhabit a place of anger, frustration and self perpetuating victimization. You are 2.0 and I applaud you,bro
Great video Alexander not enough men speak about things like this. It's suprising how many Chads I have spoken to who told me how empty they felt living the promiscuous life and they walked away from it.
I haven’t lived that life, and part of me wonders what it would be like. Just for my own experience. Even if I only slept with two three more girls. I’m 34 and wish I just gotten this out of my system a decade ago.
So very true honesty we just need a reset as this is not sustainable anyways. If it wasn't for the lies of omission from our churches, cultural institutions and mainstream media men would have woken up long ago but no... Go on plow horse. Alternative media finally giving us the brutal truth but it's still better than a pretty lie
@@robbenvanpersie1562 it doesn't necessarily need to be a war. All it takes is men in meaningful numbers not committing and investing in women. Kinda like the herbivore men in Japan.
As a divorced man I attest that my married years were my most successful, fulfilling and happiest years of my life, despite the debt that he's talking about. Video right on point.
Pickup "artists" selling the player lifestyle are like feminists, both are crabs stuck in a misery bucket and both are trying their hardest to keep everyone else with them.
Nah, its fun to date multiple women. They sell their courses for money, not to make people miserable. The customers are not paying for misery, but results.
Hi Alexander, great video and your channel is a genuine resource for men, a rare jewel among the dirt of UA-cam. You are offering sound and mature advice for young men. I am a 51 year old guy now taking a time out of long term relationships, to heal after a bad divorce. I still get a lot of value from your channel and have recommended it to my son who is 20 years. Keep up the good work.
Love doesn't exist in relationships, it is a business transaction. She gets: money, resources, protection and leadership. He gets: sex, food, kids and companionship.
Love does exist. Love is the good feeling both sides get to feel when there is chemistry, and love is the feeling of happiness both sides feel when there is genuine physical/personal attraction. Relationships are about love. What is love? Love is 2 things: first it's a good feeling an emotion, but second it's an action (the action of giving to fulfill each other's needs) Relationships are about love (the emotion) and love (the act of giving) to fulfill each other's needs. Women are meant to receive affection, security and protection. Men are meant to receive sexual intimacy and good companionship. Love so real, we just don't understand it.
The measure of a man isn't the number of notches on their bed, it's honour, duty and integrity. Being a strong, dependable and respectful person that serves as a role model for others to follow and as an example to his family.
Dating women does NOT suck. It’s great; you meet some wonderful beautiful and amazing people. The key is to not have expectations. Be willing to let go. DO NOT expect anything to last forever.
By watching your videos I realized I am with a fantastic woman. Not only that, it encourages me to improve every day in being a better person for myself, and indirectly it also benefits the woman I love, making our relationship a lot better that it was`. I cannot thank you enough for this.
Thank you so much Alexander, you have spoken to one of my biggest insecurities. I used to think that my lack of high numbers meant that I was a failure with women and a failure as a man. Hanging out with the wrong crowds of guys who chased P* week in week out messed me up. I have messed up good relationships with good women in the pursuit of a hi body count. I know see it was the biggest waist of my time in my life. Time I will never get back!!! I have rookie numbers to my friends but I am the happiest out of all of them since I have changed. I only have a body count of 17, but to get to that number, i had to stoop down way to many times and would be ashamed to even be associated with these woman. Thank goodness I stopped, or I would have continued sleeping with women I would never give the time or day to because they are not people I value. Thanks again Alexander, appreciate all that you do for us men. keep up the good work.
The law in some country, like the US, is heavily biased against men. Plus the overall current dating atmosphere. Both of these incentivize women to be entitled. I wonder how much percentage of the "high quality" women do you think are there. Who is intelligent, reciprocate your contribution, don't "play" around, cooperative even without considering their age and look.
I agree. Feminism changed society to suit only women’s needs. We need more balance back in society. Young Men need more from society than they are getting.
Great advice! My ex-husband didn't understand self awareness and he left his family for a young "hot thing" and that only lasted 1 year. Meanwhile he destroyed his family unit.
Because he 10 years before, suffered to be neglected by these kind of beauties? Women don't know what young women do with youndg man's idealism. Work hypothesis.
This has to be the best dating advice video on UA-cam -- quite possibly the most important video a man of any age could watch. There should be an emoji of an exploding head for videos this great.
Sexual debt is one thing and leaving a relationship to go address that is okay but to make children and then go out pay your sexual debt is unacceptable. It's extremely selfish and evil and this is worsened by the fact that this guy is making himself up to be the victim of all this. We need to be consistent and judge men like this the same way that we would judge a women who leaves her family for other other men.
I cannot agree more. Leaving a perfect life, wife, children....Its just too sad. Atleast he could've had a side fling, not saying thats ok either, is even more selfish but as long as nobody found out. Atleast his kids wouldn't suffer.
Women do it a lot as well - I know of several who were sure that they had "settled too soon" and wanted to "explore their sexuality." Quite a few started affairs (and not by accident, they schemed and plotted to get an affair going with a man they had identified).
@@JstJaybeingJay My issue is with the sympathy that he treats this man with whereas he is often very harsh when talking about women who do the exact same thing.
@@farmerbrown84 That's not the point the point is that when a woman does this she is labelled 'low value' but when this guy does it Alex makes excuses for him.
Bruh, this 23min video was EYE-OPENING, wow ! Thanks for adressing such critical yet underrated topic, I didnt even know about it and to what extent it affected men's life
Thanks bro. I’m already living the dream with a hot wife who can cook, 2 beautiful children, house and 4 cars....I’m 100% satisfied and blessed. Would never ever go back to the dating world. I appreciate you spreading the message to happiness!
Good for you bro! Keep giving it everything you’ve got. Keep in mind, women generally need more space than men in order to get turned on. Use that, live a robust life.
I’ve been watching your videos for years and even subscribed to your Patreon for a number of months. I gotta say this is one of your best videos. Thank you 🙏
Thank you Alexander, changed my whole view point on dating. Find a high value woman/girlfriend then get out of the game and true happiness can be found.
Thanks for allowing me to trust that women are on the same side as men striving for the same goal. I started to believe that all women are out to get men. I've observed how some women believe that all men are out to get women and I thought that was ridiculous then I realized I was doing the same.
Alexander this is the most on point video i've ever seen of anyone giving social dynamics tips by far! I'd consider myself kind of a traditional guy and felt completly lost on the dating market. I wrecked my first relationship by beeing too sexually needy. I wrecked my second relationship because of that too. It even explains my fathers decisions breaking up with my mother. Both of my relationships had a lot of potential. And in the long run I don't want to "support" this in my opinion absoluty destroyed/sick dating market of the modern world. It just explains so much I needed to understand that I feel actual relief at the moment. So thanks a lot for this very intense and deep content! :)
Sexual debt is real. I lost the love of my life because of it. I went on to satisfy that debt and slept with a lot of women, but I would give all that up to have her back. And that will never happen.
By the way, I recently learned that if we skip the ads, you don't get any money. I won't skip the ads in your videos from now on. I didn't know that it worked that way.
Before you return to Earth in the next reincarnation - there is a leaflet that gets passed around. It says : "Always Be A Woman - Free lunches, Free dinners, and if smart you never have to do a day's work ever."
Let me tell you guys. I got rejected by my childhood sweetheart I obsessed over for years. This happened in my teens. The next ten years I worked extremely hard physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually. I was able to snag 10s at high end bars. Girls made it easy for me. Girls threw at me. But it was all bullshit. There's always another guy around the corner who is dazzling. There's always a new flavour, new spice. I found true happiness after I avoided women.
Thanks for your videos Alexander. Because of your voice in that whole dating stuff I didn't become bitter, resentful and frustrated guy who hates women. I love that you're not spiteful but also merciless and brutally honest when speaking truth about women. I hope you realize how many men you helped with debunking the myth of women as pure, angelic, almost transcendential beings from another world, who only care about men's soul.
BTW I realize the video was not about it, but I just wanted to comment in order to both help the youtube algorithm and give a shoutout to Alexander before even watching :)
I wish I can get over the resentment though. I'm really starting to hate them and it's affecting my day to day life. I used to be in relationships but I've been used and abused, discarded, humiliated, it's like I suddenly got this target on my forehead
@@kitesupreme8907 I'm very sorry that it happened to you. I hope you will sort this out. Remember, your past does not have to define your future and also it is not a shame to look for a professional help.
yes same. I still get that resentment feeling when I watch some vids of other creators sometimes but mostly when I watch AG it helps me rationalize it.
@@altair91100 why yall alwys complaing about women improve yourself
At this point I don't care anymore. I began my self-improvement for the women, but now I'm doing it for myself only.
Cope
@@KP-fy5bf Even if it is, so what? What's it to you? Let me guess, he's 'letting the side down' or you're just wanting to kick a dog when it's down?
@@KP-fy5bf you deserve to get married and then divorced.
Doing things for you is the only healthy way, otherwise it will always have an air of resentment.
@@whenpigsfly8178 please stop complaining about women that dont think about you
The most disgusting thing I've learned about dating women from dating is women don't care about your struggles or personhood. Once I learned this I didn't care if they were attracted to me, I just lost so much respect and desire.
Smart. Be the best man you can be, but do it for yourself. Hang in there, brother.
You were dating the wrong kind of women.
How can they care when they were designed to bond with one or two guys at most? Care goes out the window at an early age for these women…
These people only want a tool for their ego.
@@Big_Abomination That's hilarious, considering most men only want to "get" a woman for their ego.
My life and mental health have improved so much since I just gave up on dating a few years ago. Great channel.
Ditto
Same here, after the ex wife left a couple of years ago I told myself never again and honestly once you truly let go of that feeling of need or want for women the amount of stress that has been lifted is crazy. I've literally never felt more free and while I sometimes miss the old connection I had with her honestly the idea of giving this up now to go back to something like that isn't so appealing.
@@broke123 Thanks for that input, yours is a REAAL valid variant of the "The Juice is not worth the squeeze". Hopefully you are able to mentally not picture the bad times and just move on, move ahead (I never had a LTR and the possibilities I had and messed up, I keep replaying the bad in my head, lets all collectively as men support to NOT do what I did.)
I'm telling you man, you have to come to a place where you can enjoy the single life while still sourcing leads, playing the numbers game, and pursuing women when convenient and you have nothing better to do. It's hard to get there but eventually you get to a place where you become numb how toxic dealing with women is. That said, never go out of your way for women, spend a bunch of time/money on them, or plan around them actually showing up. They'll never go out of their way for you. the reason to do this is because actually actively pursuing women and running volume increases our chances of success dramatically. Up to you of course, but it's some food for thought
Many of us resonate with you here bro.
I'm 30. And after years of rejection I've come to believe that it's not true that "You've got nothing to lose". I'm not afraid of rejection. But I'm afraid of who I have become because of it. Now instead of dreaming of meeting "the one" I dream of coming to terms with a life of solitude. I want to live alone in the forest somewhere and be a hermit. I want to enjoy nature, great literature, good food and music. And I'm just going to live my life. If I meet someone who doesn't beat me down great. But I definitely don't expect that.
Rejection is nothing ive been there lots of times believe me
All more power to you man! No man needs a relationship in which he’s on the losing end. Good luck buddy
The problem is that men have been conditioned to believe they NEED a woman to have a fulfilled life. Its actually women who need men for that not the other way round.
I just want to go to sleep and never wake up again
Read Iron John by Robert Bly. Women are a pleasant distraction from men’s purpose, not the goal or reward. Stop focussing on women, they’re not the answer.
Given the amount of truth spoken in this video, I've no idea how this got monetised
Alexander is becoming more and more blackpilled, it’s good to see large channels like his and yours spreading the truth!
Isn't this video a bit of a cope though...? I mean, as much as i aspire to a long lasting, fulfilling relationship, a period of slaying first doesn't seem bad either...
Hey wheat...
Stupid inkwell! I'd seen wheelchair disable man with beautiful girl!
@@jkshallinheritearth3883 squirmy and grubs are your real life example of that. All for the cameras and not genuine love/attraction in my opinion.
Doctor strange : “there are 14,000,605 possible outcomes to this date”
Iron man : “And in how many of them do I score?”
Doctor strange: “one”
You know its over when Tony Stark has a hard time scoring with a modern woman
LOL !!
Or to quote Dumb & Dumber: "So you're saying, I have a chance?"
I think the mating part of the life cycle is a small part, not the main part. So it is with animals so it is with humans! Enjoy each part and "dance to the music of time".
someone should meme this
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It’s funny cause I live in the exact situation you talked about at the beginning. I am married, have two daughters, and have felt before that I missed out on being a “player” or whatever because I got married so young. After watching videos like yours and others showing how the dating market is currently, it’s caused me to re-evaluate my life and what I have. I’m so grateful for my wife and girls. I’m super lucky to be in the position I’m at. What I have is extremely rare in today’s world. I have a beautiful wife who’s only ever been with me and we are raising two amazing girls together. I think I’ve realized I’ve reached the peak of what you can as a man. It’s amazing to have a woman in your life who desires you. But this also means I don’t stop trying. A relationship takes a ton of work. I’m continuing working on myself and keeping myself in a position where my wife wants to keep us together.
Anyway I’m glad I’ve found your channel. I’ve learned a lot from you.
Good man :)
If you don't mind sharing, how did you meet? Are you highschool sweethearts, meet via church or family members as common friends?
A man who realizes his blessings is twice blessed! Your wife is a lucky woman and your girls will have the foundation of growing up in a secure and loving family. So happy you shared.
We actually met in college back on 2009. So a whole different dating market back then. Also both of us grew up Mormon, which if you know anything about them they’re all about not having sex til you’re married, which usually leads many to get married young.
Currently we both don’t follow that religion anymore because we don’t believe or agree with a lot of its teachings but I do think the focus on chastity as a younger individual can probably be a good thing in the long run. I think they do take it a bit over the top in some cases and cause anxiety with many youth but the generality of it could be good. So yeah in a way I’m resentful of how I was brought up but also grateful for it. And in the end it’s led to what I have now.
@@PGateBaseball trust the results you have now are a blessing, may your marriage prosper further. Dating is a strenuous exercise and sometimes after achieving what you are looking for you ask yourself if it's worth the effort. It's only good if it doesn't eat much of your energy, time, resources and state of mind.
Alexander genuinely caring about men.
One thing missing here those dating coach and pick up artist can get you that special person
Men have to care about other men, because women wont do that
@@Alexandratheberge He actually did mention that, you might've missed it
@@p2p104 Not always true. I care about both men + other women.
I am sick of that "vulnerability".When you show vulnerability you will lose every time.
@@newbiegain I learned that the hard way and that's why I am commenting it here I hope it's clear
You can be vulnerable without showing vulnerability. Be a man. Then be a gentleman.
If you become soft, I'll take over
@@JariSatta that is one of the most cleverly articulated comment that I have seen in a while.
If she can't suck a golf ball up a garden hose, leave her.
"High quality women don't have one night stands" I'm pretty sure 90% of women has at least had a couple of them. Makes it really hard to find a gf if you're going to exclude all of them
If that's true, do it, the 90% are not worth it anyway
They’re rare. I’ve met them before though. They’re usually church/volunteer types who think outside of themselves
Women enjoy sex as much as men. Most of us have had one night stands at one time or other. As we mature we move on from this behaviour. I think it is a question of how many and if the woman continues with this sort of behaviour into her late twenties when she should be settling into long term relationships. If you are looking for a Virgin in Western Societies then you might have more success finding a unicorn.
@@20thcentury_toy And then we are all competing for the same 10% of Women. No win
"don't have" is different from "have had". I also exclude women who smoke, but not all women who smoked in the past.
That story about the guy who left his family...my mouth just dropped. He had something that no money or status could ever bring...
Attraction between men and women is asymmetrical. Women wants a guy who is always better than them. Taller, more social standing, financially sound, in shape and has game. While men looks submissive, feminine, young, good looking and slender women.
Thats why mid age women are so depressed they never loved just did business.
What does *having game* mean?
Sorry, I am asking because english is not my first language.
@@Sang_Akrobatis having confidence, assertiveness and leadership skills.
@Miguel Alves go to different country where women are shorter and you'll have foreigner effect going for you, maximize rest of the things that'll make attractive. You re Latino, if I'm not wrong. What about south America things not good for you there either...
@@Sang_Akrobatis game means trying to create spark by talking with stacy(beautiful girl) even if you're ugly & old!
As a former member of the "top tier men" I can confirm that what he says at 4:14 is 100% true. At the end of the day, it's not worth it. It's a fracking train wreck
Absolutely. It feels good in the moment, but shortly after, there's no substance in it. And when you realize that the majority of them, you likely wouldn't date, it really hits then. But the thing is, the more you do it, the more "addicted" you sort of get to it and want to do so. And the more you do that, the more at risk you put your future. If you ever end up in this position, it's probably best to exit it while you're ahead. I justified a bit of it by saying that most women I've been with, I actually developed a good friendship with. But even then, the casual stuff just doesn't go anywhere. It feels empty after a while.
Worse yet when u get one pregnant
@@BeastMode-oz8qc Yup, there's nothing worse than a phone call or text message saying "We need to talk" or "I have something to tell you" from someone you would not date 😂. Your mind immediately goes, "my life is over" haha. I laugh, but it's reality a lot of times. I've seen guys lives get wrecked because they got the wrong woman pregnant. Damn I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Best to get snipped if you're going to keep doing it. Otherwise, too risky.
Why 'former'?
@@fenyx2558 it sounds like they got into a high paying job, achieved all their finanical goals and then hated the stress that they may have got from that job and then knew if they could save enough money to try and change into a job that they enjoy, even if they have now gone down the road where there is less of the financial reward?
Completely agreed. I am one of the men who lost 'a very high-quality woman' to pay my sexual debt, that too after 6 years of fulfilling relationship. I used to think that she is preventing me from fulfilling my desires. What an idiot I was. Nothing is more satisfactory than lying close to a woman whom you love and who also loves you back in the same way after a very satisfying sex. Sex without love is so shallow. It's the love in the partner's eyes during sex that gives real sex-satisfaction.
Why would it be much different than porn? I could never be a cad because I just felt horrible about the idea of using a girl and dumping her.
The purpose of the dating market is to find someone and get the F out. So true. I'm happily married for 7 years and me and my wife agree that dating is a nightmare and we aren't going back to all of that nonsense. Find someone that is good to you and you're a winner.
How to find one though?
Especially, when you feel behind and missed out in a lot of things. I know dating market is brutal for men. However, in order to find the one for me I still have to date.
@@flow1465 Quantity. My wife and I met through online dating. You message 100 people to get 10 dates to find 1 that is maybe worth a second date. You have to meet lots of people to find one that is a good match. I liked it that she approached me because she liked the picture in my profile. That's how it starts.
@@InactiveAccount996
Need to up my social skills I guess.
Well you are the extreme minority of happily married men, literally everyone I have ever met in real life, has told me they regret getting married. And that they are ONLY happy due to their children. That doesn't sound like a great deal to me honestly
@@FirstLast-gk6lg Marriage is not for everyone. Some people lack self-awareness and get themselves into situations they later regret. I didn't get married until I was 37. By that point I had figured some stuff out. Getting bitter and resentful after a relationship fails decreases one's attractiveness. Alexander is right on. Choose the one that chooses you. Don't chase. Get a pre-nup. I know I am very lucky - gratitude every day. Sometimes when you don't get what you want, you end up with something better.
Its the 80:20 or 90:10 Pareto rule. Average women don't want average men. They rather be single than live a humble life.
Yep the pareto rule is also evident in other areas of life like how 10 percent of men own 90 percent of the world's wealth etc.
Humble as in not rich? Women don't seem to care that much as long as you got a job.
@@hevnervals One in which you earn 150% more than they do, at least. Game is rigged, don't play unless you like insane odds. Cheers.
@@NahuCommNS 40% of married women are breadwinners now.
@@hevnervals The ones that settled for a man, or are in the process of leaving him. No such thing as a "breadwinner wife" can exist in this world, women themselves won't allow it, because they don't want to be in that position.
Dating a women, most of the time, is like looking after a child.
Very entitled and expect everything.
Not true at all you just don't know what women want
@@malikwilson7387 They want everything.
What do they want, then?
I suggest more domination and in a fun friendly way. Set a better frame or don’t go on the date.
I’m NOT chastising you or your share. Your a real dude, doing real dates.
But what I said is truth. Don’t go on the date, if your not going to dominate the frame and enjoy that dominating.
@@malikwilson7387 Women don't know what the hell they want, so how are we supposed to?
Alex, you have just torn apart my deepest insecurities ever. I was in that trap of my pickup community. I have a lot of guy-friends who sleep around. I did it quite a lot too. But when I stopped they started saying that I'm not alpha anymore, I'm getting beta and so on. It worried me, I didn't want to loose my face with my friends, but I didn't wanna keep playing in the dating market. I felt quite uncomfortable about all of that. But after watching this video I got relaxed and calm. Finally! oh, this relief! Thank you Alex! You become my favorite person to watch on UA-cam.
Alpha is about doing what you want to do. Not what others want for you.
I agree with Ashley, don't let another man tell you what being a man is.
in my opinion sleeping around is just a threshold, different for all men, once you have slept with enough women you don't feel like you need to anymore. And in my opinion this is where a man STARTS seeing women truthfully.
I read "The Game" by Niel Strauss and thats been my impression- most players get ABSORBED by the process and addicted to external validation - its a trap bc now they've invested all their spare energy on playing - and - ended up with mostly nothing.
@@fm2dmax
I read that too, about 20 years ago.
Was surprisingly dark.
But also fairly extreme cases
set in a particular time and circumstance.
Sure, if you find a high quality woman.
But they are extremely rare and you still need to be in the top 5% to be selected by a high quality woman unless she is totally inexperienced and doesn't know her own value.
Being in relationship with the average modern woman sucks, she thinks she deserves everything while offering nothing in return. It's not worth it. It's only headaches and problems and hard work.
@@JJ-hu4cm Dating these modern women, probably.
Hell! You only need 10 min. watching tiktok videos or something like that to reach the same conclusion.
At 24, my wife of (now) 30 years actually kicked to the curb a guy who was tall, rich and very good-lookiing -- for me. Because he wasn't a good person. Quality women are out there. The question for every man is whether he can recognize her when she comes along. If he's laser-focused on tits, ass and "getting some," he's likely to miss the gems who actually come his way.
That is exactly what I’m experiencing. The entitlement is astounding. Never settle for someone who thinks they are settling for you
@@graymatters7584 I'm glad you had a good experience a while ago but honestly man, now a days it's all changed, even from 6 years ago. Women have totally changed, the good ones, if there are any, are all taken. Guys do recognize a good thing when they find it generally. But in general, there is not a lot of good ones out there. A lot are spoiled, entitled brats to put it nicely.
@@JJ-hu4cm Is this a serious question or are you trying to virtue signal? I'm not interested in woke or PC culture if that's your angle.
You can't have missed that there is a lot of talk of what men need to do in order to be a good partner for a woman, but there is seldom any focus on what women need to do to be a good partner for a man. Even to suggest that women also need to learn how treat a man right is offensive. The blame is always on the man.
All of society tells women they are perfect just the way they are, beautiful in every size and that they deserve everything and more just for existing.
It's no wonder women have high expectations on men while also thinking it is enough for women to just show up and exist. Any man should be lucky to have her regardless of how she looks, how she behaves or the amount of effort she spends.
This is what I've seen myself in modern western women, and also what I've heard from others. Of course there are exceptions, but most modern women bring more trouble than they are worth in my opinion. Maybe you have a different experience? Tell me.
But for the average guy. Value your own happiness and mental well-being, either find the rare exception or stay single.
Don't bother trying to make a relationship work with any of the others. If you are not the top 5% she will just resent you or disrespect you anyway, for being less than what she really deserves.
I'm speaking from 15+ years experience in relationships. I choose to be single now and I've never been happier.
A guy I know, 27, got out of a 8 year relationship because of the debt feeling. She was one of the few normal women left (fit, feminine, caring and loyal) and the older men who are married long term all said he made a mistake. The next girl he got was one with some mental issues who used him as therapist..
I think 27 is way too young to settle though anyway
Bummer, hopefully he realised that and left her. (Just in case , it would be good if he make it back to the other, but not have him chase her nor anybody)
@@danballe He left but they met up again when lock downs were over. His ex has a new bf now though so too bad for him.
@@diemervdberg7661 If she did, so should he, point him out to this channel and have him on his merry ways, improving himself.
@@paulcolin9071 Possible. I've been back and forth with that also though I'm currently 29. My life has definitely been on the up the older I get and so have options. The thing is though, I think the longer you wait to settle in these current days, the less likely it'll be that you'll find a quality woman. I've met several woman that I could see myself with. Several of them are still good friends. Thing is, most of all of them were around my age. The ones that I would absolutely not settle with, have mostly been those a bit younger. Just a little joke (partially) here, but I'm seeing too much purple and pink hair these days in younger women. And I know first hand, that is NOT a good sign. I was with one casually for a bit and she had that youthful modern mentality. When I started caching feelings, I came to my senses pretty quickly and simmered them down because I knew there was no long-term potential. They are out there doing nasty things but are emotional wrecks. And lots of sex is a coping mechanism for many of them. (Obviously this was one experience, but there's something to it).
My advice is to live it up as early on as you can if possible. And when you find someone of quality, at least consider locking her down. I don't think the dating market is improving anytime soon. If anything, it's on an exponential decline.
When men start having some standards and chads stop settling for landwhales, we'll start to see an improvement in this huge disparity in the dating scene. Until then, I'm afraid things will only become worse.
Especially with the obesity crisis in western countries. No joke, a guy needs to travel to other countries it’s really eye opening when literally every woman in site is very attractive. It opens up so many more options.
@@charliedallachie3539 I think that's 1 of the top 2 reasons why dating is so hard for men in the West: a woman is in the top 30-40% simply by not being fat. So many women are fat and guys get so lonely that they give up and accept the fat women, because they don't have much of a choice! And so then the not-fat women value themselves higher just because they aren't fat, and fat women believe they're attractive when they just aren't. So, in the end, if you have standards you don't have many options.
@@jamesrussell2936 yea I had the opportunity a few years ago to travel over for a friends wedding in Poland and it’s legit attractive women literally everywhere you turn even at the mall….you stand out being an overweight dude if you are. I had only had a 2 weeks to spend there. Stopped by London on the way and it’s pretty much like NYC just more expensive. Definitely travel if you can.
Tinder women were booming then overseas too I didn’t do it because I was on a short timeline.
@@charliedallachie3539 I'm from Poland and the obesity rate is low, but woman are as premiscious as elsewhere I guess, even the Catholic ones.
@@BHBalast sure but less so than here in the US. Also they’re more easy to talk to, you can strike a conversation with them easier if they know English well which a lot do. In the US women will have this “why are you talking to me” vibe often (even if you’re decent looking) unless you’re asking for directions or the time.
You are right on, Alexander. I once "had it all." I was a cameraman, technical director, and field producer over a ten-year career at a Hollywood studio. I had the Porsche, the high performance airplane waiting for me at Burbank airport, the house in Laurel Canyon surrounded by the rich and famous with a view as far as Catalina Island. I used to only have to walk into the Roxy or the Troubadour nightclubs and women would just clong onto me. I was the quintessential Player. I knew the game, and I played it well. I exceeded Casanova's body count.
And you know what? It was boring, empty, and vacant. There was no fulfillment in it. And how much of an achievement is it really when a woman says: "Gee. You have a really nice car/airplane/house"? Those are just things. And here's a shock: so are you -- a sex toy that doesn't need batteries. I came to realize that, instead of me notching my belt -- I WAS the notch in women's belt. What finally turned me around? A woman, who I was starting to get close to, telling me: "It's been fun but I can't see you anymore... because I'm getting married." That happened with more than one woman. "OK." I thought. "So that's what it means to be an Alpha."
Brothers, don't bother going there, and never envy anyone who has put energy and resources into getting there. It ain't worth it. It's a false destination.
You still kept the car and the house though, right?
@@trippmoore Yes. I was smart enough to not get married!
@@SVAdAstra In another comment you wrote, that you have an ex-wife.
@@tonim.9460 Correct. I was married and divorced prior to moving to California.
Bro just go and get a son via surrogacy and you will see how fufilled you will be.
We live in so comfortable environment, that we(including girls) forgot that life is not an entertainment.
@@olemundoaguilar1224 but good
As a man, why commit to a woman in your best years when she wouldn't commit to you (or any ONE man) in her best years? This is the situation Fⓔminism has created.
Best part is even if you "win"....you still lose in the end. Thousands of married and divorced men will be more than happy to share their horror stories with you.
A quality woman is a myth in today's time, now we are calling women who act in the right way high quality women? that's how every women should act, I don't know any high quality women exposing/educating low quality women and fighting for men{maybe 1 or 2 exists}, making the world a better place and I bet even Alexander himself can't find one for himself, one day he will get divorced and admit that he was wrong.
True
So, casual sex is unfulfilling.
After all these years, all this activism, all this "sexual revolution" and we end up right at the start: family values and Christian modesty. Amazing.
Ain't that something?
THis is bullshit. Only people who say that sex sucks is people that have it. LIsten i have never had it and i want it, so dont come to me and say it is no good. It's like an olympic gold medalist coming at me and saying "yeah it is no deal, i am not so happy" yet he worked to get it. It is very fulfilling, especially if you are very lonely and ugly. THe only people who don't like it are the ones who have a LOT of it.
@@brickgraims83 yep. Something I realised in highschool, only people who said having a girlfriend isn't worth were those who had no problem getting them and stayed getting them lol. Let me EXPERIENCE those things for MYSELF damn. Same deal with how "pusywhipped" I noticed friends, my dad, and other people get when it's put on them. I always wondered "damn, is it THAT good to make them act that way?" My dad would say all these negative things about women whilst being whipped at the same time smh. Still a mystery of how crazy pusy is that make folks act up.
@@brickgraims83 also same with people who like to preach that money mean nothing to them are those who have it in abundance lol. Like haha, yea, must be nice.
@@respomanify it legalized the drug of sex and deleted love
High quality women DO have one night stands, but only with CHAD.
High quality women understand that they are tricked by the only one who benefits and that’s Chad. And that also the name of the real trash in the game.
And the evidence is the pool of 35y old women wanting to settle because Chad is now abusing the next generation.
Just last weekend I told my 2y grandson that the oven running at 200C is hot. He looked at me like the Chad chasers look at this video and tried out. He learned something he will remember. (I took care it only hurt but was not dangerous).
How many Chads are needed to find out counting d.cks is not mentally healthy?
@@fromgermany271 the key is that it was your grandson. The number of chad d.cks needed to be counted is infinitely high for the very same reason that guardians generally don't put their grandaughters through that same oven lesson - they instinctively know that such lessons are futile on little girls because they instead operate on intense instinctual fear and avoidance. Also, because females are not expected to navigate the world in such way.
I haven't watched your videos in approx 6 months. There definitely is a more aggressive approach than when I was here last.
I think so too, it feels more bitter now compared to more "analytical" videos of articles and such
He got blackpilled
@@prens4049 He woke up to reality and the toxicity of modern, overly entitled women.
Also, whilst I agree with Alexander Grace and Jordan Peterson that guys in abundance should eventually choose, it's inherently better to choose from a perspective of abundance than scarcity, as it will a) give you access to higher quality choices and b)tip the relationship dynamic in your favour as you won't be coming from a perspective of neediness.
For sure. And also: c) it will aid you in better identifying high quality and distinguishing it from low quality trash.
That is a thought I had some time ago, must dating sites and advisors preach / teach that mind set that there are women a plenty. but is is kinda a sham. Hear me out
It is on point of what Alex states in this vid (and others of his) the women nowadays wants the 1% of guys so unless you are in that 1 % men top tier, that abundance mentality is skewed and glass half full without making you aware of the whole picture, HOWEVER IF you go into the current dating place with the scarcity mentality you are as you mentioned here, going to come of as needy and low class/game/quality, whatever (be it as it may intentionally or evidently) in your interactions with women, specially nowadays.
Prepare for the best and the worst expect either, just stick with the process, do not fall into this dating market "Gaming" and constantly having to keep yourself into this market game. As Alex points out at 8:15.
No they shouldn't at least not marriage through the state. Until men and women can pre negotiate their own marriage contract as real equals it should be avoided. Having to maintain her life style upon separation even though you now have two residences? This is why so many men end up living in their cars upon divorce they get financially raped
@@JoseDiaz-rd9fh I haven't seen him mentioning marriage, so I'm not sure I understand this reply. I always operate on a non-marriage basis, unless it's specifically stated about marriage. Because marriages nowadays simply aren't viable. I'm assuming he means any sort of LTR.
So true
I totally agree. It’s like a shopping mall for them & an interview for men. We simply have to level up physically, financially & mentally. Then beat them in their own game by reversing it. Also have an abundant mindset like they do even though most of them ain’t sh*t
You can only have an abundance mindset if you have abundance. An undesirable man cannot get abundance
@@JamalW239 If only there was abundance. Most guys just have no standards.
@@0bsmith0 imagine if guys only slept with and gave attention to women they would be willing to be in a relationship with. The women would be brought back down earth real quick
@@JamalW239 based and high IQ. Relationship attractiveness and I would sleep with you attractiveness are not always the same thing.
@@JamalW239 You can have an abundance mindset even if you don't actually have abundance, you just have to be able and willing to walk away at the first sign of bullshit or when the relationship is more trouble and anxiety than it's worth. Most men stick around for all of the bullshit and drama, and if women see that, they'll walk all over you
I've had my fair share of casual sex. I have also had the great fortune of making love. I've only had one woman in my life so far that I have made love with. Unfortunately, we are no longer together. Let me tell you, I would trade all the casual sex in the world to make love again. Once you've made love, casual sex is practically meaningless.
Great video Alex!
There's always people who need to tell us how amazing they are. Dude there are many comments like yours
@@Genevasplaytime More and more couples are having 3 some and are swinging too. Never ever get married, the grass is never greener on the other side. Lots of sexless marriages.
Tbh finding a high quality woman isn't a walk in the park.
Most men actually want high quality relationships but it's really hard to find one.
Wow that term sexual debt is incredible. I sabotaged my last two serious relationships for that very reason and I never understood why I have this feeling. Thank you, now I can work on healing it ❤
This is like one of those no gambling PSAs, most guys know that "most guys" will have a bad experience, but each of them feel like they are special and aren't going to suffer the fate of the "average" person.
Oh how wrong they (well at least most of them) are.
This guy is a genius. His advice is always spot on. Alexander, keep doing what you do!
5:45, "Get a girlfriend..." "Have a happy life...."
In my experience, these two things did not go together. It's unbelievable how much more peaceful my life has been since I became single and started establishing boundaries with the opposite sex (and also boundaries with the pathetic men that enable abusive behavior in women).
Happiness is an inside job.
Facts. I have been in both great LTR with high quality women, and also been seeing 10 women a week. And frankly I would rather be alone and just occasionally date, I almost always enjoy solitude more than company.
@@FirstLast-gk6lg your mbti type? Also are you a loner.? Or introvert?
@@searchrankoptimize idk what mtbi means. And definitely loner and introvert. I am extremely content alone and essentially 100% of what i need from a women is physical release
Amen
Depends who you are with really, I've been on both sides of the spectrum. One where I thought it would be forever, living the dream and unfortunately it ended because of circumstances. There was also this other relationship where she was so toxic because of past trauma that I left because I was becoming a monster I never thought I'd be able to become and I didn't want anything bad to happen. Love is double edged sword, it can be the most beautiful feeling or the most damaging one, depending on the partner you have.
Now I'm stuck in the dating market and I've been thinking about leaving it. I've got projects so women are only distractions at this point, but at the same time I would like to feel again, the type of love the first LTR I described in my comment provided me with. These girls are rare nowadays, sadly... One in a million kind of girl.
I have to say that I agree one hundred percent. After divorcing at 29, the reality of the dating market hit me like a train. Over 13 years later, I have completely checked out and no longer dating.
"Do not stay in the plane!" - Dude, I'm not even able to board the plane.
Lol I hear that 😂
Exactly we have no choice either way
Swim my friend. Be like water 🤣
Take the bus
Can confirm that a life of abundance when it comes to shallow relationships is like getting addicted to a drug and then developing a tolerance.
It feels great everytime you get the first hit of the day, but when you’re withdrawing because there isn’t a single woman in your life that genuinely cares for you, it’s way worse than being confidently single.
completely agree. ALL MY hardest party friends female/male both side when they used to brag "yay56 weeks Clubing straight", now they msg me "so appreciate my wife doing it day after day for me. I feel embarased for being so arrogant n immature". The happiest dudes these days i know r the ones didnt get the 'idea of play boy as happy guy" stuck , they plug them out n realize the happiness is within reach its just up to them if they want it.
So much truth in this - the sexual debt feeling, the emptiness in casual encounters, the feeling of having missed out, and desire for a deep relationship.
Facts. I became a so called chad by working hard in gym and self improvement just to see how shallow and empty girls that chased me were and sex became very unsatysfying.
There Always a chad who chadder
@@v2xerxes580 😂😂
But what you are ignoring is that you now have an edge over the average guy in terms of options.
Use this to get the best you can, then keep the chadiness with the chosen one so se keeps chasing you and getting on your program.
This will lead you to a happy LTR.
You just need to be a “chad” in a few other countries and life would be more satisfying
@@agnjunio Facts! And Alex doesn't acknowledge this. The Chd not only finds and gets a higher quality women. But he keeps her, women are loyal when they feel like they don't have a complete hold over their man. When they feel that their man could get another girl as good or better than them, THEN they make the best partners.
Alex is describing a Beta dude with no experience or prospects, if this guy gets married it will be to whatever chick looks his way and he will likely not be valued or treated well in the relationship.
The only thing tougher than finding a good girl -finding an happy successful long term married couple. I know of *NONE* ALL of my friends got divorced - they ALL got drug though the divorce mill - they all had BS fabricated about them. Marriage in America - is simply not worth it.
I grew up long ago - I saw the lies for what they were early.
Lucky, keep living in peace.
I agree it is a facade. Especially social media. Every happy picture is like the happy clown who takes off his makeup and cries.
Yeah, I pretty much gave up on the idea of marriage.
As a man, there is just so much you have to bring to the table, you give up all your freedom, you put in all the effort, you get all the risk, but you get no guarantees and not very much out of it.
I haven't met a single happy family in my life.
A video of you interviewing your successful couple friends would bring a lot of light, I myself haven't seen a guy truly happy in a relationship even though they have been in it their whole life.
@Censored CensoredTrue, relationships only work if the girl wants it to work and not the other way around, any girl can lie and make it look like a perfect relationship, every guy needs to get red pilled before even trying to salvage or get into a relationship.
Agreed. I'm 50 years old. I've known hundreds of people in my life. The number of truly happy long-term relationships I've come across is probably under ten. Off the top of my head, I can think of three happy-ish relationships where it was two genuinely nice people together. I can think of a couple others where it was two raging a**holes who worked as a team. Beyond that, it's a desert. Many people stay in miserable relationships for a long time.
@@patricksquinlan1 Men educating men is what's gonna save men. Amen.
@@patricksquinlan1 I agree with that sentiment and I've found that in my own experience as well, but with that information, what are we supposed to do? given modern relationships are absolutely hopeless and modern dating is an irradiated hellfield. just give up on it completely?
@@patricksquinlan1 Facts, I am the same. Known men all around the world from all different cultures and couple dynamics, and yet 100% of them have told me not to get married. Even the ones who do actually like their wives(rare) even them tell me, stay single unless you want kids.
3 years single, first 2 years went for the abundance route. Dropped my standards just to get my end off often, every time after i felt like an empty shell off a man. Friend circle with their dysfunctional long term relationships are all jealous can't understand me when I say there is nothing to be jealous of.
This year, started looking for high value woman again. Dating sucks it really does. But I also need to work on myself hence why I'm here. Thanks for your videos
Womanizing is great at 20 yrs old when all you can think about is sex but after 30 yrs old you do feel empty
So you're saying as part of an abundance mentality, you shagged a bunch of uggos and fatties.
@@Alexandratheberge yep and women above 30 feel
Worse
@@robbenvanpersie1562 doesnt seem to affect Leonardo decaprio though!
I never really had that phase of just sleeping around (34 years old now). Don’t feel jealous, but small piece of me feels like I missed out. Even in my 20’s I enjoyed how my life was going and the thought of contracting and std or knocking up some girl I wasn’t in love with caused me so much anxiety that I just never gave into those temp stations if sleeping around. I think everyone is different.
Excellent. You are wise far beyond your years ...you've surpassed these other guys who just CHOOSE to dwell and inhabit a place of anger, frustration and self perpetuating victimization.
You are 2.0 and I applaud you,bro
Great video Alexander not enough men speak about things like this.
It's suprising how many Chads I have spoken to who told me how empty they felt living the promiscuous life and they walked away from it.
I haven’t lived that life, and part of me wonders what it would be like. Just for my own experience. Even if I only slept with two three more girls. I’m 34 and wish I just gotten this out of my system a decade ago.
@@insearchofveracity2304 go do it if it's messing with you at 34 you're still young enough
I respect each one of your videos but this one is one of my favorites. Thank you for bringing clarity to many of us.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
The plane analogy was chef's kiss.
This talk is 10/10. Once again Alexander spitting facts like normal.
Part of the problem is that the proportion of "high quality" dateable women who are partner/marriage material these days is freaking TINY.
So very true honesty we just need a reset as this is not sustainable anyways. If it wasn't for the lies of omission from our churches, cultural institutions and mainstream media men would have woken up long ago but no... Go on plow horse. Alternative media finally giving us the brutal truth but it's still better than a pretty lie
@@JoseDiaz-rd9fh war for RESET?
@@robbenvanpersie1562 it doesn't necessarily need to be a war. All it takes is men in meaningful numbers not committing and investing in women. Kinda like the herbivore men in Japan.
I said it before, I'll say it again: There is gold at the end of the rainbow - fool's gold. 😊
LOL, been my experience too.
@@sethaldrich6902 Or a gold digger :lol:
If you aren't the gold at the end of someone else's rainbow you aren't likely to find any for yourself.
Something has to suck in a relationship.
@@doomguy9049 That’s true - however, that is only a necessary criterion; not a sufficient one. 🤓
As a divorced man I attest that my married years were my most successful, fulfilling and happiest years of my life, despite the debt that he's talking about.
Video right on point.
My experience was the opposite
This video is very informative to me as a young guy. This wisdom will help sharp my way of thought and has helped me to be more self aware. Thanks
Pickup "artists" selling the player lifestyle are like feminists, both are crabs stuck in a misery bucket and both are trying their hardest to keep everyone else with them.
Nah, its fun to date multiple women. They sell their courses for money, not to make people miserable. The customers are not paying for misery, but results.
Beckett Absolutely true 👍 !!
What's really fulfilling is being genuinely loved, whether it's in a committed relationship or a casual one.
Can modern Western women DO that?
0:35 "The only way to win is to not play that game." Hmm, sounds like a Matthew Broderick movie from 1983...
Hi Alexander, great video and your channel is a genuine resource for men, a rare jewel among the dirt of UA-cam. You are offering sound and mature advice for young men. I am a 51 year old guy now taking a time out of long term relationships, to heal after a bad divorce. I still get a lot of value from your channel and have recommended it to my son who is 20 years. Keep up the good work.
Love doesn't exist in relationships, it is a business transaction. She gets: money, resources, protection and leadership. He gets: sex, food, kids and companionship.
Love does exist. Love is the good feeling both sides get to feel when there is chemistry, and love is the feeling of happiness both sides feel when there is genuine physical/personal attraction.
Relationships are about love. What is love? Love is 2 things: first it's a good feeling an emotion, but second it's an action (the action of giving to fulfill each other's needs)
Relationships are about love (the emotion) and love (the act of giving) to fulfill each other's needs.
Women are meant to receive affection, security and protection. Men are meant to receive sexual intimacy and good companionship.
Love so real, we just don't understand it.
The measure of a man isn't the number of notches on their bed, it's honour, duty and integrity. Being a strong, dependable and respectful person that serves as a role model for others to follow and as an example to his family.
Love, truth, compassion, reason, perseverance, courage, goodness, virtue, discipline, responsibility.
The only way to win is to leave them alone
Dating women does NOT suck. It’s great; you meet some wonderful beautiful and amazing people. The key is to not have expectations. Be willing to let go. DO NOT expect anything to last forever.
sharing your perspective with the Internet has helped me a lot.
truly unique way to tell the truth.
By watching your videos I realized I am with a fantastic woman. Not only that, it encourages me to improve every day in being a better person for myself, and indirectly it also benefits the woman I love, making our relationship a lot better that it was`. I cannot thank you enough for this.
how do i find a woman like yours?
What makes truly happy is to have someone who really loves you and cares for you. This requires a real connection and time.
Thank you so much Alexander, you have spoken to one of my biggest insecurities. I used to think that my lack of high numbers meant that I was a failure with women and a failure as a man. Hanging out with the wrong crowds of guys who chased P* week in week out messed me up. I have messed up good relationships with good women in the pursuit of a hi body count. I know see it was the biggest waist of my time in my life. Time I will never get back!!! I have rookie numbers to my friends but I am the happiest out of all of them since I have changed. I only have a body count of 17, but to get to that number, i had to stoop down way to many times and would be ashamed to even be associated with these woman. Thank goodness I stopped, or I would have continued sleeping with women I would never give the time or day to because they are not people I value. Thanks again Alexander, appreciate all that you do for us men. keep up the good work.
17. Your body count is higher than 90 percent of guys.
I can see how it would be degrading to your self-esteem to sleep with women you don’t value.
I ve never heard something as good as this, really well said !
The law in some country, like the US, is heavily biased against men. Plus the overall current dating atmosphere. Both of these incentivize women to be entitled. I wonder how much percentage of the "high quality" women do you think are there. Who is intelligent, reciprocate your contribution, don't "play" around, cooperative even without considering their age and look.
I agree. Feminism changed society to suit only women’s needs. We need more balance back in society. Young Men need more from society than they are getting.
@@whittakerwinstanleyiii4051 time will change
Great advice! My ex-husband didn't understand self awareness and he left his family for a young "hot thing" and that only lasted 1 year. Meanwhile he destroyed his family unit.
Because he 10 years before, suffered to be neglected by these kind of beauties?
Women don't know what young women do with youndg man's idealism. Work hypothesis.
@@JeanMaximeCorneille yes, you're right. My ex was very idealistic. He has since also left his second wife!
That's disappointing. I wish you the best. 👍🙌
Men who have succeeded in relationships; umm let's see Jeff Bezos , Bill Gates, Dr. Dre, Will Smith, Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt, Prince Harry, ....
My ex-wife cheating on me after 7 years of a storybook romance made me never want a relationship again.
Look... People are not happy, not because family life sucks, nor because dating life sucks -- but because life sucks.
Exactly. I don't know why your comment doesn't have more attention than this
This has to be the best dating advice video on UA-cam -- quite possibly the most important video a man of any age could watch. There should be an emoji of an exploding head for videos this great.
"The wind-blown way, wanna win? Don't play"
-Aesop Rock
Hello Alexander,
I'm a woman but this video helped me too to not feel sad that I didn't spend a lot of time single.
Sexual debt is one thing and leaving a relationship to go address that is okay but to make children and then go out pay your sexual debt is unacceptable. It's extremely selfish and evil and this is worsened by the fact that this guy is making himself up to be the victim of all this. We need to be consistent and judge men like this the same way that we would judge a women who leaves her family for other other men.
I cannot agree more. Leaving a perfect life, wife, children....Its just too sad. Atleast he could've had a side fling, not saying thats ok either, is even more selfish but as long as nobody found out. Atleast his kids wouldn't suffer.
Women do it a lot as well - I know of several who were sure that they had "settled too soon" and wanted to "explore their sexuality." Quite a few started affairs (and not by accident, they schemed and plotted to get an affair going with a man they had identified).
@@JstJaybeingJay My issue is with the sympathy that he treats this man with whereas he is often very harsh when talking about women who do the exact same thing.
@@farmerbrown84 That's not the point the point is that when a woman does this she is labelled 'low value' but when this guy does it Alex makes excuses for him.
@@josetheman239 I'm confused why are you guys complaining about women
Bruh, this 23min video was EYE-OPENING, wow ! Thanks for adressing such critical yet underrated topic, I didnt even know about it and to what extent it affected men's life
Thanks bro. I’m already living the dream with a hot wife who can cook, 2 beautiful children, house and 4 cars....I’m 100% satisfied and blessed. Would never ever go back to the dating world. I appreciate you spreading the message to happiness!
Good for you bro! Keep giving it everything you’ve got. Keep in mind, women generally need more space than men in order to get turned on. Use that, live a robust life.
Funny how a dating advertisement showed up multiple time while watching this 😂. Thank you
only way to win is not care about having a women in your life. only then do you find the right women
This almost sound like if you have hope
Modern women are only worth staying away from.
Same with a job.
@@senister14 isnt that so true lol
all bs 55 here
I’ve been watching your videos for years and even subscribed to your Patreon for a number of months.
I gotta say this is one of your best videos. Thank you 🙏
Juice just aint worth the squeeze anymore.
What died that mean sound like you complaining
@@malikwilson7387 What.?
Beautiful analogy
Thank you Alexander, changed my whole view point on dating. Find a high value woman/girlfriend then get out of the game and true happiness can be found.
Thanks for allowing me to trust that women are on the same side as men striving for the same goal. I started to believe that all women are out to get men. I've observed how some women believe that all men are out to get women and I thought that was ridiculous then I realized I was doing the same.
The plane analogy was really good. It's a really simple way to conceptualise the point being made.
Alexander this is the most on point video i've ever seen of anyone giving social dynamics tips by far! I'd consider myself kind of a traditional guy and felt completly lost on the dating market. I wrecked my first relationship by beeing too sexually needy. I wrecked my second relationship because of that too. It even explains my fathers decisions breaking up with my mother. Both of my relationships had a lot of potential. And in the long run I don't want to "support" this in my opinion absoluty destroyed/sick dating market of the modern world. It just explains so much I needed to understand that I feel actual relief at the moment. So thanks a lot for this very intense and deep content! :)
I really needed to see this video. Every second.
Thank you so much
Sexual debt is real. I lost the love of my life because of it. I went on to satisfy that debt and slept with a lot of women, but I would give all that up to have her back. And that will never happen.
Just the message I needed these days. Thanks a lot!
4:30
"casual sex is not the key to happiness."
But neither is having a wife who has had a lot of it.
Exceptional video. I can´t express enough how much your videos help me to understand certaing things even about myself. Thank you so much Alexander.
By the way, I recently learned that if we skip the ads, you don't get any money. I won't skip the ads in your videos from now on. I didn't know that it worked that way.
It's only fractions of a penny. Sign up for his patreon, I bit the bullet a few months ago and no regrets
That plane vs destination analogy, that blew my mind well done sir
10/10 can confirm lol, sex in a loving relationship beats casual sex in anytime. The rest gets boring real fast.
When you get loved proper, you don’t want anything else.
This is the greatest video on dating I've ever seen.
It sucks so much. Better to be single and save your money.
Before you return to Earth in the next reincarnation - there is a leaflet that gets passed around. It says : "Always Be A Woman - Free lunches, Free dinners, and if smart you never have to do a day's work ever."
I recall as a teen one girl was trying to convince me to be a man is much easier than a woman, they have so many problems... Ha-ha...
Let me tell you guys. I got rejected by my childhood sweetheart I obsessed over for years. This happened in my teens. The next ten years I worked extremely hard physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually. I was able to snag 10s at high end bars. Girls made it easy for me. Girls threw at me.
But it was all bullshit. There's always another guy around the corner who is dazzling. There's always a new flavour, new spice. I found true happiness after I avoided women.
10 plus years since the last time I dated or even been physical with a woman. At this point in my life all I'm doing is floating through the years
Are you content my friend?
Semen retention?