And what they are paranoid about is what they are doing themselves. So, I'm guessing this guy was also cheating on his diet as well as his relationship with OP.
Here's my theory (it takes a little thinking on) - but LIARS ALWAYS TELL YOU THE TRUTH. They have to. And the truth will always be about them. Not about you. So whatever mean things someone says, that has no basis in reality or truth (self analysis is also important here) - if what they say doesn't reflect anything truthful about YOUR behaviour or attitude, then what they are saying is ALL ABOUT THEM. The meaner the accusation, the more you should inspect their actions/words/behaviour. Never take on board what is not yours. Here is a mild example: A woman I thought was a good friend once said to me "You can say anything to someone, as long as you smile as you say it". You can bet I was on guard around her from that second on.
@@Kayenne54 it's called "projecting". It's the same reason the most homophobic preachers are usually in the closet. For an alternative lying strategy, check out "Dr." Kent. When asked about the bibles perspective on his 3 divorces he said stuff like "I never cheated" and "I have never beaten anyone". You know, accusations no one made, but because he definitely did it, he has to preemptively deny it.
1. He didn't "want to be the bad guy" but then not only admitted he cheated but admitted he was just using OP the entire time AND THEN hurled personal insults of her physical appearance. I guess once you realize you ARE the bad guy, you might as well go all in. The beauty of this is the knowledge that he will get lazy and fat again and his lawyer girlfriend is cool with cheating, no doubt she will find someone better. She sure as heck won't cowtow to any of his whims.
He thinks he's screwing a new girlfriend. But SHE'S A LAWYER. Lol. Can't wait till she finds out what a douche he is, and screws him right back, till he's living in his mother's basement again.
I hope OP does not take his comments about her seriously. That jerk was just trying to justify his own infidelity. Chances are "Lisa" will drop him before too long. Good riddance to the controlling bastard.
My husband started a diet with his doctor to cut down on sugar a while back. He didn’t ask me to go on the diet with him, but I did help him by not buying sugar and sweets whenever we’d go shopping. I indulge every so often, but he doesn’t accuse me of betrayal when I do. When all is said and done, we inspire each other to change for the better by making good decisions for ourselves and treating each other with respect, not by forcing it down our throats
Same. My hubs is a diabetic. Diabetes runs in my family. And I like sugar free alternatives, so that's what I get for the house, unless we're having a small indulgence.
My husband and I did a diet last year that was his idea, but one we both needed to do. It was the best either of us have ever done because we supported each other. As it should be. Unfortunately we have both found all the weight we lost. But we did that together too. 😒
Sounds to me that he lost some weight, got confident enough to try to control her, became arrogant and cheated because he never had female attention, and then decided he was too good for the person who genuinely loved him and supported him
Essentially he's an AH in hiding because of self esteem problems. Once he got his "self esteem" from his body improvement, his AH-ness gets released from prison.
Classic story when a person with low confidence gets attention. They push the people that are there for them away, and seek outward attention to feed their new gained ego
What a garbage person. He cheats and then nitpicks faults he perceives in her. As long as what he did is okay in his eyes, he doesn't deserve any happiness.
@@mbyerly9680 Right. The dude got all high and mighty because he got in shape but he still hasn't accounted for the fact that a good looking lawyer who has to argue with morons professionally isn't going to deal with someone like him mooching off her and pulling the same type of controlling nonsense for too long when she can do better. I just know that there's gonna be an update where he comes back in a few months on bended knee to say that he's sorry, and he didn't mean it, and whatever else because she's the safe option. Side note: he did that when visiting his sick parents. It just adds to the level of grossness when you think about the fact that he specifically went looking for someone to cheat with during a family crisis.
OP didn't follow the script he had in his head. When he dumped her OP was supposed to grovel and cry at his feet begging him to stay. When she just went ok then that's what sparked the whole "well fuck you then, I can do better anyway" speech
Think about it. She dodged a male gold digger. He's moving on to a lawyer who he can try to control. OP can go on and live that best life without having to deal with this nonsense, eating any food she wants, playing video games and Fapping. At the same time!
Not even 5 minutes in, and already confused. He said himself that the idea was moral support, so her finding confort in food and hobbies when she's LONELY for MONTHS shouldn't even be something he feels the need to ask about. Like, dude, when I was CHILD and had some health problems that forced me to go on a diet and studied with my sister I didn't ask her to not eat around me, just not in front of me
One of my aunts has been chubby since birth, but my other aunt and my mom were always skinny. My mom used to eat smallish cans of sweet condensed milk with bread once every blue moon in her teen years, and EVERYTIME her sister would come and sit in front of her crying becase she couldn't eat that. It didn't matter how many times my mom, their mom or anybody told hee to stop it, she kept doing in until she got married and moved out. To this day, she cannot explain why she did it 🙄 but at least she apologized to my mom.
Finished, and well, ex was just a piece of shit who would rather waste someone's time untill he decided to improve himself than improve himself to attract the sort of people he likes. Classic narc
The fact that he said all that unnecessary stuff about her looks and brains after admitting he cheated shows what sort of garbage human he is. He admitted he chose her because she was nice, but then turned around and deliberately hurt her.
Totally agree. I think he said these things to try to justify, to himself, that what he was doing was okay. Pretty sure none of what he said about her was true just said it to make himself feel better..
HE is body shaming HER!?! The guy who couldn't get someone to give him the time of day when he was 60 lbs overweight is insulting the girl who helped him achieve his goals? Unbelievable.
I’m noticing a pattern that when one person blows a situation completely out of proportion and gets so angry, they are usually cheating. They are trying to make you the bad guy so they feel less guilty and looking for an out.
In OP's shoes, I'd strongly consider reaching out to Lisa and letting her know she was the other woman. Maybe she knew, or won't care, but there's a good possibility she'll spare the woman future heartbreak, with an added bonus of nuking the ex's new relationship. Yeah, kinda petty, but he deserves it.
I highly doubt she knew because he was all super confident and admitted he was thinking about it even before he left so I doubt he was telling these women he was in a relationship. He'll be back when he gets dumped.
@@pansprayers That's my go to answer to people who decide to insult my weight - Weight I can lose, that shitstain personality you have? Can't change that, I'm afraid.
I really need a follow up where OP’s ex comes crying back once reality hits. Also, after his family has shamed him. Then OP says “yeah, no” and he’s left alone and miserable.
Whoa!! Just because he decided that he needed to live like a monk doesn't mean that everyone needs to also live like a monk. I do intermittent fasting and I work out regularly. I don't expect my wife to do either. For this boyfriend to expect her to do all these things because he arbitrarily decided "this is the way", no. Just no.
Exactly. My husband deals with periodic weight issues, and he adores chocolate, bread, carbs and junk. Frankly, I'm AOT1 Diabetic, allergic to wheat, struggle to stay above 100 lbs, my idea of junk food is a bag of carrot sticks, and the occasional bag of hard candy (salted sour lemon drops rock) that lasts me a month. I don't push my issues on him, he eats what I cook, and if he wants to exercise, I'll support him, but I'm not about to damage my joints (connective tissue disorder) or body to go to extremes. We support each other's goals and needs, but don't expect the other to completely deprive themselves to make up for our own failings, lol.
Bruh. I am 2 min in and I can tell where this is going. Don't tell me I can't play video games, don't tell me what I can eat and REALLY DON'T try to control my sex life. That's just disgusting. I hate that she didn't see where this was going from jump. That is a classic setup for abuse.
I was really thinking to myself, "If the man who claims to love me makes those demands of me, then I won't believe he loves me, anymore." It's OK to ASK. Once. But NOT to make a huge deal about it, and certainly not get ANGRY should she refuse, or call it a BETRAYAL if she did not "avoid tempting him" when he wasn't even there to be tempted. And what the heck is with putting a person who DOES NOT NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT on a dangerous weight-loss diet?!
@@AuntLoopy123 Well ... he did all this stuff cuz he wanted to get rid of her. She was supposed to end their relationship, so that he doesn't look like the bad guy. He admitted that she's too butterface for him and not intelligent enough, etc. Plus he cheated on her three times while pretending to care for his sick father. He's a scumbag!
The controlling behaviors are a classic sign of not only an abuser, but a future cheater. My last ex did NOT like it when I told him that. Three and a half years later, he did cheat on me. XD
@@SakuraMoonflower Well he did cheat on her so I guess you're right. I never saw the correlation between abusers and cheaters. Thank you for pointing that out.
I'm willing to bet that boyfriend and Lisa don't even last half as long as Op and him did. Either he cheats, she cheats, or something else; I can't image that they will be together for long.
I'm not even sure they'll make it a quarter as long. It sounds like she has her life together, while he only has a chance of controlling her. She might easily just say "dump this zero" and move on. But hey! His non-Fap skills will be on point!
Heck for all we know this new emotional relationship might all be one sided! That he actually has no chance with Lisa because he was just a warm body that she was never going to see again!
Djeez, he only insulted her because he was projecting. He still feels so insecure about his own body, he felt the need tp unleash his worries on her. He is still going to be that overweight and shy guy deep down.
Poor OP. She seems like such a sweetheart. Her slime bag ex bf turned out to be a real douche. And she was far too accommodating to everything he wanted anyway.
This dude is the definition of "pathetic". Bro really sited all that vapid BS over a woman that was ready, willing and able to COMPLETELY CHANGE HER ENTIRE LIFESTYLE FOR HIM!
Now that he has lost weight, he is feeling himself and thinks he is better than her. I feel bad for the OP because she really cared for this guy, but he is trash. I hope the new love of his live drops him like a bad habit.
The moment he started using words like "betrayed" and "cheated" it was obvious he had been playing away. Is OP sure his story about staying with his parents is even true? A very weak and slimy individual and OP should be delighted to be rid of him.
It’s honestly so sad hearing victims of manipulation speak like they’re the ones in the wrong you could almost feel how brainwashed they are. Unfortunately sometimes you don’t see the red flags until it’s too late. Manipulation is a really hard thing to avoid especially with how subtle it could be. So I guess my advice to not fall victim is to know your boundaries and your worth and be firm about them. I’m not trying to sound like it’s the victims responsibility or fault because it never is but these people are everywhere and it’s important to be aware of the bigger picture.
This guy is a controlling jerk. OP has the right to enjoy herr life without living by somebody else's standards. OP's mistake was to agree to all this if they didn't really want to follow the plan.
2 months without having “personal time”? He should’ve just put a chastity belt on her before he left if boyfriend was so demanding. Going to add: I don’t care how hot you are if you’re insides are ugly. That’s going to catch up with you.
Yeah He's lying about everything. In 8 weeks, he's managed to "renew an old crush", find some other random chick, and form a meaningful relationship with Lisa the Lawyer, who does marathons. Helloooo???? anyone home? He's been playing away for much more than 2 months, otherwise why the sudden desire to improve his appearance, get fit and lose weight? And I'm pretty sure he was also lying about his parents' illness too. How on earth would he find the time if he was full time support and caregiver to a sick mother and a dangerously ill father in hospital? Sounds like a load of old youknowhat to me. What OP needs to remember is that He LIES. So he most definitively is lying about the whole sequence of events, and he is definitely lying about her "attractiveness" rating. Hopefully she'll recognize all the lies and drop them where they belong.
I really hope there is an update in the future where the OP is living their best life & a nice bonus would be the ex flopping on his face. To be so unnecessarily cruel to someone during a breakup is disgusting.
OUUUCH that hurt me and it wasn't even about me. But it definitely hit all the boxes of my insecurities of being with people who like you as a "for now" partner while saying they are looking for long term. It happens all too often that they will ask for support and strength from their less than partner, being everything they need but not what they want. And then upgrading after the less than partner put in all the work. You would think they would stay with the one who loved them from the beginning i.e through hard times, sickness and in health wink wink. But no, your just better than being alone, but if you knew that you'd dump them and then they would really be alone. Man, I need therapy from just HEARING him tear her down and compare to "Lisa".
Don't ever let lies hurt you. He's lying. All the way through. He's a liar, and a malignant narcissist and OP will hopefully learn much more valuable lessons from this experience. Lies are simply people telling you plainly what they know ABOUT THEMSELVES. Not about you. Never take lies in. Constructive criticism is different. But lies just don't fit you, so they're not yours.
I know this will be controversial to say, but hes gonna gain that weight back. These kinds of guys or people in general bask in the glory and attention they receive from being ‘hot’ all of a sudden without going through proper therapy to help them cope with the sudden change. He’ll be back with added baggage and equal poundage from pre diet, possibly more
It's not controversial at all. He didn't have the self discipline to follow ONE extreme change he forced globally on himself and his partner, much less three of them. People who go to these extremes generally can only keep it up for around 18 months max, before gaining back all the weight they lost, plus up to an additional 10 - 25% more. If he can't control himself around a bag of candy, then this isn't going to be something he maintains.
For sure, and I have a feeling lisa isn't going to love and accept him at any size the way that OP did... Whatta dbag. I sincerely hope that he suffers, while OP meets a much better guy and builds herself a very happy life.
@@pansprayers 6 years ago after my divorce at 60, I ended up having to move in with my daughter and her family because I had nothing. At that time I weighed about 275 lbs. I moved into their house with their 4, soon to be 5 kids. Suddenly I was playing with grandkids, eating much better food, being encouraged to start going out around people and have a social life, etc. After 10 years of not having access to a vehicle I was given the keys to a very old, junking van that the kids told me I was welcome to use, but probably shouldn't drive outside of the city limits, and a cell phone, so that when it did give up the ghost I could get a ride home. Withing a year I had lost 65 pounds, and I have kept the weight off. I am not skinny and I know I should try to lose more, but as long as I maintain I am pretty happy. So, I think that you can only lose weight and keep it off by making changes to your life that you can continue. I think I lost my weight because I started living a happy life. I have since than started working on some other issues of mine, but I do not expect my kids or grandkids to work on those issues with me, they have their own lives. I think OP was great at trying to support her boyfriend when he was around (still don't understand the masturbation shit--weird and creepy of him to demand that at all) but he was a controlling ass. She is good to be done with him, and I hope when he comes crawling back OP is so pleased with her life she laughs in that loser's face.
@@patpaiz5693 yup, that's all considered healthy global change, though. Once you cut the toxicity out of your life in one corner, life becomes much easier to manage all around. The big differences between what you've been able to accomplish, and what he's attempting to enforce though, is that you did put a rigid set of morays onto yourself, and demand them of others. You likely did it to heal (even if you didn't realize it at the time) from a terrible situation that you survived, and you weren't being unrealistic. I worked with people in a clinical setting who had diet and nutrition issues (really terrible ED's and health problems), and the first thing I always told them is that you have to want to be healthy for YOU. You can ask others to support you, but you can't demand that they also stuff themselves into the box you exist in. Honestly, unless it's for a medical reason, and being followed by trained medical and nutritional professionals, people shouldn't be on rigid diets. Statistics are pretty clear about that one, and even too much of a focus on 'healthy lifestyles' can lead to orthorexia, and ARFID. And 65 lbs is a HUGE deal! I'm proud of you!
Ex-bf sounds like a real peach! I hope his new love Lisa dumps his a**, but only after being a control freak, and then be judgemental and criticize everything he does during the break up conversation. Give him a taste of his own medicine.
Omgosh that is so childish of the boyfriend to act like a diet is like cheating...He sounds like he cheated and is going off on her out of guilt.. He asked for moral support to help him but he wasn't there! You don't MAKE someone do something.. He's taking this massively way out of proportion... I'm sorry but I could not be with someone like that... Glad someone told me what NoFap was but now that I know, SCREW THAT HE'S NUTS!! He's a control freak period! Absolutely not. Ruuun OP!! EDIT : I knew it!! Then for him to put her down like that is just disgusting.. That was so uncalled for!
Something I want to disclaim about the keto diet because it's been such a huge weightloss trend! Talk to your primary care provider BEFORE you attempt the keto diet! My significant other is a diabetic, so we regularly talk with a dietician and an endocrinologist. Unless your doctor supports it, you could very easily do more harm to your body than good, because if you don't sustain a steady consumption of fats to make up for the lack of carbs in your diet, your body will start to not only eat at the unwanted body fat, but also at the necessary muscle. It can be a good way to lose weight, however it needs to be done correctly!
Exactly. I'm on a medical Keto for seizures. I'm also a dual major chef/dietitian and nutritionist (first degree). Keto has it's merits, but they're mostly short term/extreme need weight loss/medical ones (I've known several people who went on a Keto diet prior to gastric surgery, but only for a maximum of 12 months). Your brain literally needs carbs to function properly, and if you're full tilt, unmonitored Keto, you can kill off your liver and kidneys really effing quick.
@@pansprayers I wish more people actually talked to their doctors or a dietician about things like diets but I'm sure everyone on the internet understands how these trends go. 🤦♀️
@@leonaeckert4318 It drives me absolutely nuts, to be honest. Unless there's an existing medical reason for it, there's absolutely no reason to diet, hey? Moderation and changing inner dialogue on how we view food (no food is 'bad', some should just be enjoyed in smaller quantities, or as a treat), and encouraging regular exercise is key to all of it. Frankly, the superfood, Keto, Paleo, and other trends are really just elitist food shaming BS that needs to be zapped from our vocabulary.
@@pansprayers that's what i have nevee understood. Keto is literally making your body alert, thinking there's no food so it uses fat as fuel. Once fat is gone, there's nothing to burn. But during process you should have adapted different type of eating/exercise so you can maintain your weight without keto. It's not permanent diet (ofc as you said, medical reasons but idk much about that) My sis dropped weight one point with keto and just said she was dead tired
All those insults as he left just reek of trying to get a reaction since she didn't cry and scream to keep him. So insecure and just trying to justify it to himself. What a scumbag.
Yeah, 'lisa' is gonna leave him. She cared for him truly, and he "settled". Then, when he got "hot" it never once occurred to him that it was only because of HIS looks. But the MOMENT 'Lisa' sees him for who he really is, shes gonna leave him.
Thanks for the video LG. I think bf told op those things so she would stay alone for a while so just in case new romance doesn't work, maybe he can work his way back. Have a great day
The title alone, my first thought was "I hope you mean 'My EX-Boyfriend is Furious And Says I Betrayed Him For Not Sticking To A Diet'". It didn't get any better after that, either. OP is better off without him as deadweight. His personality and behavior are rancid.
I feel so bad for this girl, she seems like such a genuinely kind and sweet person. If I were her I would get in contact with Lisa and let her know (just in case she didn’t) that she was the was the other woman. Just so she knows what kind of person he really is. I would also have doxxed the crap out of him, so other people could find him online and let him know just how much of a piece of crap he is. Last thing, I doubt this thing with Lisa is going to last. There is no way he can stick to Keto forever. Weak men like him always come crawling back, lucky for OP he set fire to that bridge after he crossed it.
Let me get this straight you agree to support him in his lifestyle change he wasn’t there for two months and all you did was fab. Play some games because nobody else was around and eat what you want because you don’t have any dietary issues. When I first saw this I thought you were cheating. He needs to go. Too demanding.
well, he did settle because everyone that was out of his league shot him down. His dating pool was limited to those that would give him the time of day. Now some of the more shallow girls think he is hot, and off he goes.
OP, you were always way too good for him. His words and actions say nothing about you, but a LOT about him. Onwards and upwards, you can do so much better. Condolences to his new "love".
I had a big feeling he was cheating. Lost weight, gone for a while and then tried to start crap over something insignificant. Mmhmmm! What a tool. She sounds like a wonderful partner that he definitely didn't deserve. 😑
"next time I won't be so damn accommodating and supportive because obviously, that is NOT the way to a man's heart." Alright men, this guy ruined it for us so grab your pitch forks and raise your torches. All jokes aside, if any women read this please know that being accommodating and supportive is absolutely welcomed and taken in gratitude by any man worth his salt, this guy just happened to be mr. Cheat-A-Lot and get in over his head on rebound confidence after suddenly gaining a boost in confidence and not knowing how to deal with people actually liking him and desiring him and getting cocky because of it.
You should be supportive of your partner. What you need to watch for is the reciprocation. If you're dating and not seeing the other person return that support you need to back up a bit and really consider it.
That was poor phrasing on her part because it was too open-ended but what she concluded on is totally healthy and appropriate. You can be too accommodating or supportive to a fault.
I knew he was cheating as soon as he went ballistic over something so minor as a diet. All that stuff he said on the way out was just him trying to absolve himself of guilt for what he did. His karma will be coming.
OP is so much better off. Now she doesn’t have to waste her time on someone who’s pretending to be into her while looking for someone better. He’s superficial and shallow. Sounds like a narcissist. Now he thinks he’s hot 💩 knowing deep inside he’s cold diarrhea. OP (and everyone really) deserves to be with a person who accepts and adores her for the person she is and isn’t. Sometimes it’s also the things we don’t do-violating boundaries, bending others to our will, making unreasonable demands, not accepting people for who they are-that define our hearts too. Your partner is also your best friend. Relationships are not a power struggle nor about control-it’s about peaceful and joyful coexistence while enjoying each other’s company and having each other’s backs. This guy has a disloyal heart and only thinks of his needs. He’s a taker-not a giver. 🤗❤️
I’m glad you knew that his hurtful comments weren’t about you. He thinks that getting a girl who has a certain look and personality will make him happier, rather than being with someone who liked him for him and supported his stuff. For that new girl Lisa, if all he can appreciate about her is her job, her dress size, and the fact that she runs marathons, it won’t be too long till he starts trying to “improve” her in other ways. It’s full on insecurity the way he’s behaving, he looks better now so he thinks deserves better looking people and thinks the fact that he banged someone who hated him in school is a win. I hope you find a great dude and he comes back like a kicked puppy to see that YOU’VE actually upgraded not him.
Cry all you want about how "nice" you are and how "no one gives you a chance" - because this is why. Nice guys/girls that are not conventionally attractive care more about not being alone than the partners they manage to find and will more often than not jump on the chance to "level up" if they think they can. Real people should care about who their partner IS not what they look like.
I am 41 years old. I have survived several brushes with death, have grown a whole ass human being inside my body, and many other things. No one is going to tell me not to eat candy or play video games. I earned my Chocolate and Pokémon Go.
Sweetheart, go to your mirror take a good look (Even in your pj's and no make-up) take a big deep breath and say; thank God he's gone, I'm now free, I'm worth a million of him and I am perfect just being me, and being me is my best choice . (Repeat every 4hrs haha) do not ever let him into to your life again! Enjoy your favourite treats and then have yourself a gaming marathon, wish you all the luck sweetie 😍😍
Lmao. In a few months, he is going to go back to his old ways, gain all the weight back and Lisa will dump him the moment he tries to control her. Reality is going to hit the dude hard and he's going to reach out to OP crying about how he's SOooo SOrrY. After which he will get furious and neg OP when she eventually tells him "no, go eff yourself five ways till Tuesday" OP, move on. This guy sounds like a fedora with arms. Yay 61k! Way to go, LG!
Sounds like an insecure person, even if he did end up with his high school crush, he still wouldn’t be faithful to her at all. Shitty insecure people tend to think that they actually the deserve to do the crap they are doing, including eating cake and still have it. It’s sucks knowing that you were always the second option like op.
Wow! This guy is a snake! 🐍 I'm pretty mad for OP. My heart goes out to her. Not only did her boyfriend used him, he cheated on her and humiliated her on his way out. He's just trash! 😡 He doesn't deserve OP. OP deserves better. I hope she's doing well now. ❤
Story 1, honestly this sounds like you could easily talk through it. I mean it's not like you cheated on him. Sounds like a lovers spat really. Edit: well Nevermind, he's just pathetic~
Excuse me, she did not betray him! And his behavior was VERY controlling. As one commenter put it, controlling her sexually is VERY disturbing. She didn't sleep with anyone else, she took care of herself. He didn't NEED her to follow his plan while he was out of town. He just needed to control her. Update:. Aaaaaand, of course he cheated! And with at least 1 person who'd rejected him when he was fat! He was too cowardly to break up with OP. Then he insulted OP?!?!?!?! What a complete a**hat! I hope his new "love" drops him when he gains the weight back, which he most likely will. And I hope OP goes out and lives her best life.
It didn't escalate into abusive, it just went there. Restricting what your partner eats, how they spend their leisure time, and their bodily autonomy is abusive in it's self. Everything else from there is just an extra step.
Just wait. NoFap boy will soon put all the weight back on, plus a lot more, and come running back. Oh, well. OP will have moved on to a much better relationship by then.
I knew he had cheated as soon as I read the title. This guy will probably gain the weight back and be dumped by his new hottie. He'll call OP crying and wanting to get back together. Hopefully, OP will remember his unnecessary cruelty and tell him to go pound rocks.
Man, that diet story. Me: Oh he's going to cheat, if he's not already... A COUPLE MINUTES LATER: OH, WHAT!! I freaking called it! I knew he was gonna cheat! Uggghhh leave him!! Another couple minutes later: WHAT A PIECE OF S#!T!!!!!
It’s wild that one would thing that their partner would have to live their life in secret to make sure their partner didn’t fail. It just seems like too much. Her life wasn’t her own anymore.
omg i was in the kitchen cooking keto dinner and heard no fat not no fap so i was like he's doing it all wrong keto is not no fat...looks up like Gilda Radner "Nevermind" lol
Before the adultery came out, I was thinking this guy had been listening to Jordan Peterson. Like he’d gotten a few specifics but missed the overall ideas.
OP shouldn't even care what her ex said about her.S he was there from the beginning when he was overweight and loved him for who he was. He decided to go on a health kick that for some reason she has to do as well. I bet this lawyer will kick him to the curb soon. I cannot stand people who have to drag someone else down to make them feel better. He's a narcissist did he seriously forget none of these women would be attracted to him I he didn't go on this health kick.
Sadly it's becoming an obvious pattern in these stories that those who are controlling are the ones who will cheat
Yeah because controlling people are already trash 🙄
And what they are paranoid about is what they are doing themselves. So, I'm guessing this guy was also cheating on his diet as well as his relationship with OP.
These are the kinds of people who are not self aware!
This is a genuine pattern in real life, not just a reddit thang. Watch out for the controllers and manipulators.
@@haplessasshole9615 I know it's a real life thing, I just meant that the more stories you hear, the more it becomes obvious, not just through reddit
OP: *Eats burger and plays Dark Souls*
BF: "YOU BETRAYED ME!"
Also BF: *has multiple affairs*
Here's my theory (it takes a little thinking on) - but LIARS ALWAYS TELL YOU THE TRUTH. They have to. And the truth will always be about them. Not about you. So whatever mean things someone says, that has no basis in reality or truth (self analysis is also important here) - if what they say doesn't reflect anything truthful about YOUR behaviour or attitude, then what they are saying is ALL ABOUT THEM. The meaner the accusation, the more you should inspect their actions/words/behaviour. Never take on board what is not yours. Here is a mild example: A woman I thought was a good friend once said to me "You can say anything to someone, as long as you smile as you say it". You can bet I was on guard around her from that second on.
@@Kayenne54 it's called "projecting". It's the same reason the most homophobic preachers are usually in the closet.
For an alternative lying strategy, check out "Dr." Kent. When asked about the bibles perspective on his 3 divorces he said stuff like "I never cheated" and "I have never beaten anyone". You know, accusations no one made, but because he definitely did it, he has to preemptively deny it.
It's nice when the trash take itself out.
Flan this guy is an idiot
She loved at his physical worst
When was fat but he just gave that up
And then just wait when he comes crawling back saying that he did a big mistake and it was the love of her life...
@@AkiraAlexisSoyra i hope by then,OP is already move on.
For real
Sadly not in the nicest way ....
1. He didn't "want to be the bad guy" but then not only admitted he cheated but admitted he was just using OP the entire time AND THEN hurled personal insults of her physical appearance. I guess once you realize you ARE the bad guy, you might as well go all in. The beauty of this is the knowledge that he will get lazy and fat again and his lawyer girlfriend is cool with cheating, no doubt she will find someone better. She sure as heck won't cowtow to any of his whims.
Then when he begs OP for a second chance she can laugh and slam the door in his face.
He thinks he's screwing a new girlfriend. But SHE'S A LAWYER. Lol. Can't wait till she finds out what a douche he is, and screws him right back, till he's living in his mother's basement again.
I’m just shocked at his reasoning...and angry
I agree with you, except for the lawyer girl. She may not have known that he had a girlfriend. Not like this guy is the epitome of honesty..
@@anahun2270 exactly. I highly doubt that she knew he was in a relationship.
I hope OP does not take his comments about her seriously. That jerk was just trying to justify his own infidelity. Chances are "Lisa" will drop him before too long. Good riddance to the controlling bastard.
Lisa will realize her mistake soon enough, and as an athletic and successful woman, will probably exercise her options as well. Here's hoping
Lisa's gonna cut him loose in about six months. His personality isn't ever going to be a durable quality.
I can just see the update: ex comes crawling back. OP slams door in his face.
I would have let Lisa know that he cheated with her and two other girls. Then congratulate her for new relationship.
This 100%
My husband started a diet with his doctor to cut down on sugar a while back. He didn’t ask me to go on the diet with him, but I did help him by not buying sugar and sweets whenever we’d go shopping. I indulge every so often, but he doesn’t accuse me of betrayal when I do.
When all is said and done, we inspire each other to change for the better by making good decisions for ourselves and treating each other with respect, not by forcing it down our throats
Same. My hubs is a diabetic. Diabetes runs in my family. And I like sugar free alternatives, so that's what I get for the house, unless we're having a small indulgence.
My husband and I did a diet last year that was his idea, but one we both needed to do. It was the best either of us have ever done because we supported each other. As it should be.
Unfortunately we have both found all the weight we lost. But we did that together too. 😒
Same, because you weren't using that as a pretext.
Sounds to me that he lost some weight, got confident enough to try to control her, became arrogant and cheated because he never had female attention, and then decided he was too good for the person who genuinely loved him and supported him
Essentially he's an AH in hiding because of self esteem problems. Once he got his "self esteem" from his body improvement, his AH-ness gets released from prison.
He'll probably contact OP in the near future telling her he made a big mistake and wants to get back together. What a douche!
I wonder if Lisa is on-board with his "rules".
Classic story when a person with low confidence gets attention. They push the people that are there for them away, and seek outward attention to feed their new gained ego
Wait until he puts the weight back on and Lisa dumps him.
What a garbage person. He cheats and then nitpicks faults he perceives in her. As long as what he did is okay in his eyes, he doesn't deserve any happiness.
Lisa is going to dump him in a heartbeat because a marathoner can do better than a pudgy control freak.
@@mbyerly9680 Right. The dude got all high and mighty because he got in shape but he still hasn't accounted for the fact that a good looking lawyer who has to argue with morons professionally isn't going to deal with someone like him mooching off her and pulling the same type of controlling nonsense for too long when she can do better. I just know that there's gonna be an update where he comes back in a few months on bended knee to say that he's sorry, and he didn't mean it, and whatever else because she's the safe option.
Side note: he did that when visiting his sick parents. It just adds to the level of grossness when you think about the fact that he specifically went looking for someone to cheat with during a family crisis.
OP didn't follow the script he had in his head. When he dumped her OP was supposed to grovel and cry at his feet begging him to stay. When she just went ok then that's what sparked the whole "well fuck you then, I can do better anyway" speech
The op needs realize she dodged a bullet. Sure she wasted 3 yrs. Buts that's much better than after marriage, kids and joint property.
She didn't 'waste' three years. In the grand scheme of things, three years is nothing when you dodge this kind of cannonball.
Think about it. She dodged a male gold digger. He's moving on to a lawyer who he can try to control. OP can go on and live that best life without having to deal with this nonsense, eating any food she wants, playing video games and Fapping. At the same time!
Not even 5 minutes in, and already confused. He said himself that the idea was moral support, so her finding confort in food and hobbies when she's LONELY for MONTHS shouldn't even be something he feels the need to ask about. Like, dude, when I was CHILD and had some health problems that forced me to go on a diet and studied with my sister I didn't ask her to not eat around me, just not in front of me
One of my aunts has been chubby since birth, but my other aunt and my mom were always skinny. My mom used to eat smallish cans of sweet condensed milk with bread once every blue moon in her teen years, and EVERYTIME her sister would come and sit in front of her crying becase she couldn't eat that. It didn't matter how many times my mom, their mom or anybody told hee to stop it, she kept doing in until she got married and moved out. To this day, she cannot explain why she did it 🙄 but at least she apologized to my mom.
Finished, and well, ex was just a piece of shit who would rather waste someone's time untill he decided to improve himself than improve himself to attract the sort of people he likes. Classic narc
If Lisa is how he described her, she will have 0 tolerance the moment he demands one of his rules.
Or...
She will have rules of her own because she is a distance runner, and will expect he follow those rules "perfectly" to support HER.
The fact that he said all that unnecessary stuff about her looks and brains after admitting he cheated shows what sort of garbage human he is. He admitted he chose her because she was nice, but then turned around and deliberately hurt her.
My ex did this. Told me I could be as slim as his new lady friend of U put my mind to it......so that was nice.
Dude is a dumbass
She loved him when he was fat, but nah just gives that shit up
Totally agree. I think he said these things to try to justify, to himself, that what he was doing was okay. Pretty sure none of what he said about her was true just said it to make himself feel better..
HE is body shaming HER!?! The guy who couldn't get someone to give him the time of day when he was 60 lbs overweight is insulting the girl who helped him achieve his goals? Unbelievable.
I’m noticing a pattern that when one person blows a situation completely out of proportion and gets so angry, they are usually cheating. They are trying to make you the bad guy so they feel less guilty and looking for an out.
Definitely a pattern there.
That is a trade of narcissist. It I called prejection. They are projecting on you what they really sre
It's called projecting. Pretty common in cheaters.
In OP's shoes, I'd strongly consider reaching out to Lisa and letting her know she was the other woman.
Maybe she knew, or won't care, but there's a good possibility she'll spare the woman future heartbreak, with an added bonus of nuking the ex's new relationship.
Yeah, kinda petty, but he deserves it.
Eh, Lisa's going to dump him eventually. Dude can diet to lose weight, but that sh*tty personality of his is pretty set in.
@@pansprayers true
@@pansprayers I was just thinking that. Only way someone as ~awesome~ as that Lisa will tolerate that dude is if she's as much a heel as he is 🙄
I highly doubt she knew because he was all super confident and admitted he was thinking about it even before he left so I doubt he was telling these women he was in a relationship. He'll be back when he gets dumped.
@@pansprayers That's my go to answer to people who decide to insult my weight - Weight I can lose, that shitstain personality you have? Can't change that, I'm afraid.
I really need a follow up where OP’s ex comes crying back once reality hits. Also, after his family has shamed him. Then OP says “yeah, no” and he’s left alone and miserable.
And hopefully gains his old weight back and then some!
Whoa!! Just because he decided that he needed to live like a monk doesn't mean that everyone needs to also live like a monk. I do intermittent fasting and I work out regularly. I don't expect my wife to do either. For this boyfriend to expect her to do all these things because he arbitrarily decided "this is the way", no. Just no.
Exactly. My husband deals with periodic weight issues, and he adores chocolate, bread, carbs and junk. Frankly, I'm AOT1 Diabetic, allergic to wheat, struggle to stay above 100 lbs, my idea of junk food is a bag of carrot sticks, and the occasional bag of hard candy (salted sour lemon drops rock) that lasts me a month. I don't push my issues on him, he eats what I cook, and if he wants to exercise, I'll support him, but I'm not about to damage my joints (connective tissue disorder) or body to go to extremes. We support each other's goals and needs, but don't expect the other to completely deprive themselves to make up for our own failings, lol.
The reality is the dude was never being anything close to being a monk.
Sucks for the boyfriend, they lost an absolute gem of a woman in OP.
Bruh. I am 2 min in and I can tell where this is going. Don't tell me I can't play video games, don't tell me what I can eat and REALLY DON'T try to control my sex life. That's just disgusting. I hate that she didn't see where this was going from jump. That is a classic setup for abuse.
Absolutely! The whole no fap thing is so dumb
I was really thinking to myself, "If the man who claims to love me makes those demands of me, then I won't believe he loves me, anymore."
It's OK to ASK. Once. But NOT to make a huge deal about it, and certainly not get ANGRY should she refuse, or call it a BETRAYAL if she did not "avoid tempting him" when he wasn't even there to be tempted.
And what the heck is with putting a person who DOES NOT NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT on a dangerous weight-loss diet?!
@@AuntLoopy123
Well ... he did all this stuff cuz he wanted to get rid of her. She was supposed to end their relationship, so that he doesn't look like the bad guy. He admitted that she's too butterface for him and not intelligent enough, etc.
Plus he cheated on her three times while pretending to care for his sick father. He's a scumbag!
The controlling behaviors are a classic sign of not only an abuser, but a future cheater. My last ex did NOT like it when I told him that. Three and a half years later, he did cheat on me. XD
@@SakuraMoonflower Well he did cheat on her so I guess you're right. I never saw the correlation between abusers and cheaters. Thank you for pointing that out.
That was a... tactical missile dodged.
I'm willing to bet that boyfriend and Lisa don't even last half as long as Op and him did. Either he cheats, she cheats, or something else; I can't image that they will be together for long.
I'm not even sure they'll make it a quarter as long. It sounds like she has her life together, while he only has a chance of controlling her. She might easily just say "dump this zero" and move on. But hey! His non-Fap skills will be on point!
And then he gains all the weight back. XD
And sometime down the line when Lisa gets sick of him, he's gonna come crying back to OP that 'He made a mistake' and really loved her a long.
Heck for all we know this new emotional relationship might all be one sided! That he actually has no chance with Lisa because he was just a warm body that she was never going to see again!
@@abbazgirl3956 I’m so down for that plot twist!
Djeez, he only insulted her because he was projecting. He still feels so insecure about his own body, he felt the need tp unleash his worries on her. He is still going to be that overweight and shy guy deep down.
Poor OP. She seems like such a sweetheart. Her slime bag ex bf turned out to be a real douche. And she was far too accommodating to everything he wanted anyway.
Gave up gaming too >.>
This dude is the definition of "pathetic". Bro really sited all that vapid BS over a woman that was ready, willing and able to COMPLETELY CHANGE HER ENTIRE LIFESTYLE FOR HIM!
When I heard the title I thought op had cheated or something. But this... That boyfriend is a control freak. 😆
And a cheater. Control freaks who say that their SO/spouse are sus, they’re the ones doing exactly what they are accusing.
NGL, I have to wonder if the whole thing was less about his own self-improvement and more about testing just how much control he had over OP....
Boyfriend is a hypocrite. Along with being a control freak in a cheater.
Glad OP is in a better place and respecting herself more. 61K (YAY!!!! "smiley face")
Yea! well on our way to the 100k :) I will make this year 💪
Now that he has lost weight, he is feeling himself and thinks he is better than her. I feel bad for the OP because she really cared for this guy, but he is trash. I hope the new love of his live drops him like a bad habit.
The moment he started using words like "betrayed" and "cheated" it was obvious he had been playing away. Is OP sure his story about staying with his parents is even true? A very weak and slimy individual and OP should be delighted to be rid of him.
I was thinking the same thing.
OP, don't feel bad about being hurt by this guy. It's very natural and he said some horrible things to you. Feel however you feel.
It’s honestly so sad hearing victims of manipulation speak like they’re the ones in the wrong you could almost feel how brainwashed they are. Unfortunately sometimes you don’t see the red flags until it’s too late. Manipulation is a really hard thing to avoid especially with how subtle it could be. So I guess my advice to not fall victim is to know your boundaries and your worth and be firm about them. I’m not trying to sound like it’s the victims responsibility or fault because it never is but these people are everywhere and it’s important to be aware of the bigger picture.
Doing a little studying on narcissistic abuse and Cluster B personality disorders in YT and Google makes it easier to avoid than you think!
This guy is a controlling jerk. OP has the right to enjoy herr life without living by somebody else's standards. OP's mistake was to agree to all this if they didn't really want to follow the plan.
Oh ffs -- betrayal? Melodramatic much, bro? I hope OP doesn't give in to this nonsense
2 months without having “personal time”? He should’ve just put a chastity belt on her before he left if boyfriend was so demanding.
Going to add: I don’t care how hot you are if you’re insides are ugly. That’s going to catch up with you.
Yeah He's lying about everything. In 8 weeks, he's managed to "renew an old crush", find some other random chick, and form a meaningful relationship with Lisa the Lawyer, who does marathons. Helloooo???? anyone home? He's been playing away for much more than 2 months, otherwise why the sudden desire to improve his appearance, get fit and lose weight? And I'm pretty sure he was also lying about his parents' illness too. How on earth would he find the time if he was full time support and caregiver to a sick mother and a dangerously ill father in hospital? Sounds like a load of old youknowhat to me. What OP needs to remember is that He LIES. So he most definitively is lying about the whole sequence of events, and he is definitely lying about her "attractiveness" rating. Hopefully she'll recognize all the lies and drop them where they belong.
@@Kayenne54 and all of this while "taking care of his sick parents" might I add
Wait wait wait. OP is apologizing for cheating on her diet? SO is being way too dramatic, it’s not like she was unfaithful with a person
I really hope there is an update in the future where the OP is living their best life & a nice bonus would be the ex flopping on his face. To be so unnecessarily cruel to someone during a breakup is disgusting.
OUUUCH that hurt me and it wasn't even about me. But it definitely hit all the boxes of my insecurities of being with people who like you as a "for now" partner while saying they are looking for long term. It happens all too often that they will ask for support and strength from their less than partner, being everything they need but not what they want. And then upgrading after the less than partner put in all the work. You would think they would stay with the one who loved them from the beginning i.e through hard times, sickness and in health wink wink. But no, your just better than being alone, but if you knew that you'd dump them and then they would really be alone. Man, I need therapy from just HEARING him tear her down and compare to "Lisa".
Don't ever let lies hurt you. He's lying. All the way through. He's a liar, and a malignant narcissist and OP will hopefully learn much more valuable lessons from this experience. Lies are simply people telling you plainly what they know ABOUT THEMSELVES. Not about you. Never take lies in. Constructive criticism is different. But lies just don't fit you, so they're not yours.
@@Kayenne54 exactly. This was a classic Narc Discard
I know this will be controversial to say, but hes gonna gain that weight back. These kinds of guys or people in general bask in the glory and attention they receive from being ‘hot’ all of a sudden without going through proper therapy to help them cope with the sudden change. He’ll be back with added baggage and equal poundage from pre diet, possibly more
It's not controversial at all. He didn't have the self discipline to follow ONE extreme change he forced globally on himself and his partner, much less three of them. People who go to these extremes generally can only keep it up for around 18 months max, before gaining back all the weight they lost, plus up to an additional 10 - 25% more. If he can't control himself around a bag of candy, then this isn't going to be something he maintains.
For sure, and I have a feeling lisa isn't going to love and accept him at any size the way that OP did...
Whatta dbag. I sincerely hope that he suffers, while OP meets a much better guy and builds herself a very happy life.
And when Lisa left, pobably the Ex will crawling back to OP.
@@pansprayers 6 years ago after my divorce at 60, I ended up having to move in with my daughter and her family because I had nothing. At that time I weighed about 275 lbs. I moved into their house with their 4, soon to be 5 kids. Suddenly I was playing with grandkids, eating much better food, being encouraged to start going out around people and have a social life, etc. After 10 years of not having access to a vehicle I was given the keys to a very old, junking van that the kids told me I was welcome to use, but probably shouldn't drive outside of the city limits, and a cell phone, so that when it did give up the ghost I could get a ride home. Withing a year I had lost 65 pounds, and I have kept the weight off. I am not skinny and I know I should try to lose more, but as long as I maintain I am pretty happy. So, I think that you can only lose weight and keep it off by making changes to your life that you can continue. I think I lost my weight because I started living a happy life. I have since than started working on some other issues of mine, but I do not expect my kids or grandkids to work on those issues with me, they have their own lives. I think OP was great at trying to support her boyfriend when he was around (still don't understand the masturbation shit--weird and creepy of him to demand that at all) but he was a controlling ass. She is good to be done with him, and I hope when he comes crawling back OP is so pleased with her life she laughs in that loser's face.
@@patpaiz5693 yup, that's all considered healthy global change, though. Once you cut the toxicity out of your life in one corner, life becomes much easier to manage all around. The big differences between what you've been able to accomplish, and what he's attempting to enforce though, is that you did put a rigid set of morays onto yourself, and demand them of others. You likely did it to heal (even if you didn't realize it at the time) from a terrible situation that you survived, and you weren't being unrealistic. I worked with people in a clinical setting who had diet and nutrition issues (really terrible ED's and health problems), and the first thing I always told them is that you have to want to be healthy for YOU. You can ask others to support you, but you can't demand that they also stuff themselves into the box you exist in. Honestly, unless it's for a medical reason, and being followed by trained medical and nutritional professionals, people shouldn't be on rigid diets. Statistics are pretty clear about that one, and even too much of a focus on 'healthy lifestyles' can lead to orthorexia, and ARFID.
And 65 lbs is a HUGE deal! I'm proud of you!
She had better get everything in writing cause he already lied once. I don’t trust that he’ll keep up the same.
Ex-bf sounds like a real peach! I hope his new love Lisa dumps his a**, but only after being a control freak, and then be judgemental and criticize everything he does during the break up conversation. Give him a taste of his own medicine.
Omgosh that is so childish of the boyfriend to act like a diet is like cheating...He sounds like he cheated and is going off on her out of guilt.. He asked for moral support to help him but he wasn't there! You don't MAKE someone do something.. He's taking this massively way out of proportion... I'm sorry but I could not be with someone like that... Glad someone told me what NoFap was but now that I know, SCREW THAT HE'S NUTS!! He's a control freak period! Absolutely not. Ruuun OP!!
EDIT : I knew it!! Then for him to put her down like that is just disgusting.. That was so uncalled for!
Something I want to disclaim about the keto diet because it's been such a huge weightloss trend!
Talk to your primary care provider BEFORE you attempt the keto diet! My significant other is a diabetic, so we regularly talk with a dietician and an endocrinologist. Unless your doctor supports it, you could very easily do more harm to your body than good, because if you don't sustain a steady consumption of fats to make up for the lack of carbs in your diet, your body will start to not only eat at the unwanted body fat, but also at the necessary muscle. It can be a good way to lose weight, however it needs to be done correctly!
Exactly. I'm on a medical Keto for seizures. I'm also a dual major chef/dietitian and nutritionist (first degree). Keto has it's merits, but they're mostly short term/extreme need weight loss/medical ones (I've known several people who went on a Keto diet prior to gastric surgery, but only for a maximum of 12 months). Your brain literally needs carbs to function properly, and if you're full tilt, unmonitored Keto, you can kill off your liver and kidneys really effing quick.
@@pansprayers I wish more people actually talked to their doctors or a dietician about things like diets but I'm sure everyone on the internet understands how these trends go. 🤦♀️
@@leonaeckert4318 It drives me absolutely nuts, to be honest. Unless there's an existing medical reason for it, there's absolutely no reason to diet, hey? Moderation and changing inner dialogue on how we view food (no food is 'bad', some should just be enjoyed in smaller quantities, or as a treat), and encouraging regular exercise is key to all of it. Frankly, the superfood, Keto, Paleo, and other trends are really just elitist food shaming BS that needs to be zapped from our vocabulary.
@@pansprayers that's what i have nevee understood. Keto is literally making your body alert, thinking there's no food so it uses fat as fuel. Once fat is gone, there's nothing to burn. But during process you should have adapted different type of eating/exercise so you can maintain your weight without keto. It's not permanent diet (ofc as you said, medical reasons but idk much about that)
My sis dropped weight one point with keto and just said she was dead tired
Story 1 . The guy is controlling. It's one thing to ask not to have bad food around him but on your own you should do what you want
All those insults as he left just reek of trying to get a reaction since she didn't cry and scream to keep him. So insecure and just trying to justify it to himself. What a scumbag.
I hate people like the OPS boyfriend. Just because you have your own goals, it doesn't mean it's someone else's priority.
Before the update: Narcissist! RUN!
After the update: Called it. Definitely a narcissist.
Yeah, 'lisa' is gonna leave him. She cared for him truly, and he "settled". Then, when he got "hot" it never once occurred to him that it was only because of HIS looks. But the MOMENT 'Lisa' sees him for who he really is, shes gonna leave him.
Thanks for the video LG. I think bf told op those things so she would stay alone for a while so just in case new romance doesn't work, maybe he can work his way back. Have a great day
He’ll try crawling back once “Lisa” realize that he’s not that great.
The title alone, my first thought was "I hope you mean 'My EX-Boyfriend is Furious And Says I Betrayed Him For Not Sticking To A Diet'".
It didn't get any better after that, either. OP is better off without him as deadweight. His personality and behavior are rancid.
I feel so bad for this girl, she seems like such a genuinely kind and sweet person. If I were her I would get in contact with Lisa and let her know (just in case she didn’t) that she was the was the other woman. Just so she knows what kind of person he really is.
I would also have doxxed the crap out of him, so other people could find him online and let him know just how much of a piece of crap he is.
Last thing, I doubt this thing with Lisa is going to last. There is no way he can stick to Keto forever. Weak men like him always come crawling back, lucky for OP he set fire to that bridge after he crossed it.
ex-bf during the breakup sounded like a "nice guy" lmao
Yeah I had an ex that became super controling like that... Took a lot but I did leave him!!
1st story, sounds like the bf met someone else and is looking for a way to break up and make it OP's fault.
Listened to the update. I was right. He is such a pos.
What a jerk. Glad you found out.
Let me get this straight you agree to support him in his lifestyle change he wasn’t there for two months and all you did was fab. Play some games because nobody else was around and eat what you want because you don’t have any dietary issues. When I first saw this I thought you were cheating. He needs to go. Too demanding.
I've learned on these types of videos to hear the whole story first
OP, he probably didn't actually settle for you, but he's trying to justify his own crappy behavior.
well, he did settle because everyone that was out of his league shot him down. His dating pool was limited to those that would give him the time of day. Now some of the more shallow girls think he is hot, and off he goes.
He's gonna have a very rude awakening when Lisa dumps him
@@groofromtheup5719 But being hot or not being hot isn't what makes a relationship. They probably enjoyed one another's company at the very least.
@@pollypockets508 if you are shallow enough, it is enough. I'm just wondering what OP saw in him.
You can take the man out of the garbage, but you can't take the garbage out of the man.
Oh damn, he tripped and dropped all his red flags at once. Thanks 'Rona.
OP, you were always way too good for him. His words and actions say nothing about you, but a LOT about him. Onwards and upwards, you can do so much better. Condolences to his new "love".
The beauty of this that he will try it again with the other girl and since she's a lawyer, hope it was worth it
I had a big feeling he was cheating. Lost weight, gone for a while and then tried to start crap over something insignificant. Mmhmmm! What a tool. She sounds like a wonderful partner that he definitely didn't deserve. 😑
Lifestyle changes are are neat when done for health reasons, but way too many people out there think self imposed misery= responsible adult.
Yes because people who had no interest in you when you were "unattractive" are totally a upgrade I'm sure. 🙄
"next time I won't be so damn accommodating and supportive because obviously, that is NOT the way to a man's heart." Alright men, this guy ruined it for us so grab your pitch forks and raise your torches.
All jokes aside, if any women read this please know that being accommodating and supportive is absolutely welcomed and taken in gratitude by any man worth his salt, this guy just happened to be mr. Cheat-A-Lot and get in over his head on rebound confidence after suddenly gaining a boost in confidence and not knowing how to deal with people actually liking him and desiring him and getting cocky because of it.
You should be supportive of your partner. What you need to watch for is the reciprocation. If you're dating and not seeing the other person return that support you need to back up a bit and really consider it.
That was poor phrasing on her part because it was too open-ended but what she concluded on is totally healthy and appropriate. You can be too accommodating or supportive to a fault.
I knew he was cheating as soon as he went ballistic over something so minor as a diet. All that stuff he said on the way out was just him trying to absolve himself of guilt for what he did. His karma will be coming.
Well, OP, in the end you lost the most weight: by having this putz show himself the door, you ended up losing a few hundred pounds!
OP is so much better off. Now she doesn’t have to waste her time on someone who’s pretending to be into her while looking for someone better. He’s superficial and shallow. Sounds like a narcissist. Now he thinks he’s hot 💩 knowing deep inside he’s cold diarrhea.
OP (and everyone really) deserves to be with a person who accepts and adores her for the person she is and isn’t. Sometimes it’s also the things we don’t do-violating boundaries, bending others to our will, making unreasonable demands, not accepting people for who they are-that define our hearts too. Your partner is also your best friend. Relationships are not a power struggle nor about control-it’s about peaceful and joyful coexistence while enjoying each other’s company and having each other’s backs. This guy has a disloyal heart and only thinks of his needs. He’s a taker-not a giver. 🤗❤️
I’m glad you knew that his hurtful comments weren’t about you. He thinks that getting a girl who has a certain look and personality will make him happier, rather than being with someone who liked him for him and supported his stuff. For that new girl Lisa, if all he can appreciate about her is her job, her dress size, and the fact that she runs marathons, it won’t be too long till he starts trying to “improve” her in other ways. It’s full on insecurity the way he’s behaving, he looks better now so he thinks deserves better looking people and thinks the fact that he banged someone who hated him in school is a win. I hope you find a great dude and he comes back like a kicked puppy to see that YOU’VE actually upgraded not him.
Cry all you want about how "nice" you are and how "no one gives you a chance" - because this is why. Nice guys/girls that are not conventionally attractive care more about not being alone than the partners they manage to find and will more often than not jump on the chance to "level up" if they think they can. Real people should care about who their partner IS not what they look like.
I am 41 years old. I have survived several brushes with death, have grown a whole ass human being inside my body, and many other things. No one is going to tell me not to eat candy or play video games. I earned my Chocolate and Pokémon Go.
Sweetheart, go to your mirror take a good look (Even in your pj's and no make-up) take a big deep breath and say; thank God he's gone, I'm now free, I'm worth a million of him and I am perfect just being me, and being me is my best choice . (Repeat every 4hrs haha) do not ever let him into to your life again! Enjoy your favourite treats and then have yourself a gaming marathon, wish you all the luck sweetie 😍😍
Lmao. In a few months, he is going to go back to his old ways, gain all the weight back and Lisa will dump him the moment he tries to control her. Reality is going to hit the dude hard and he's going to reach out to OP crying about how he's SOooo SOrrY. After which he will get furious and neg OP when she eventually tells him "no, go eff yourself five ways till Tuesday"
OP, move on. This guy sounds like a fedora with arms.
Yay 61k! Way to go, LG!
Sounds like an insecure person, even if he did end up with his high school crush, he still wouldn’t be faithful to her at all. Shitty insecure people tend to think that they actually the deserve to do the crap they are doing, including eating cake and still have it. It’s sucks knowing that you were always the second option like op.
Wow! This guy is a snake! 🐍 I'm pretty mad for OP. My heart goes out to her. Not only did her boyfriend used him, he cheated on her and humiliated her on his way out. He's just trash! 😡 He doesn't deserve OP. OP deserves better. I hope she's doing well now. ❤
Sometimes it shouldn’t be frowned upon to punch people in the face
Story 1, honestly this sounds like you could easily talk through it. I mean it's not like you cheated on him. Sounds like a lovers spat really.
Edit: well Nevermind, he's just pathetic~
Hey op, he’s super shallow! Karma will catch up with him!
Tyvm LG. Stay safe please. PEACE
Excuse me, she did not betray him! And his behavior was VERY controlling. As one commenter put it, controlling her sexually is VERY disturbing. She didn't sleep with anyone else, she took care of herself.
He didn't NEED her to follow his plan while he was out of town. He just needed to control her.
Update:. Aaaaaand, of course he cheated! And with at least 1 person who'd rejected him when he was fat! He was too cowardly to break up with OP. Then he insulted OP?!?!?!?! What a complete a**hat! I hope his new "love" drops him when he gains the weight back, which he most likely will.
And I hope OP goes out and lives her best life.
I have seen this patern that people who do too much for their partners always get cheated on.
So any bets on how long til Lisa and him break up?
Incredible! She went off her (his) diet while he was away and still lost a good 100-200 lbs. of dead weight!
This may escalate to an abusive relationship. He is being controlling.
It didn't escalate into abusive, it just went there. Restricting what your partner eats, how they spend their leisure time, and their bodily autonomy is abusive in it's self. Everything else from there is just an extra step.
The words I can use. I can't think of any polite ones to describe this guy
All that BS he leveled at her was nothing but him trying to find justification for the crappy things he did.
Just wait. NoFap boy will soon put all the weight back on, plus a lot more, and come running back. Oh, well. OP will have moved on to a much better relationship by then.
I love the idea that very soon the only girlfriend NoFap boy is going to be able to find is his right hand.
I knew he had cheated as soon as I read the title. This guy will probably gain the weight back and be dumped by his new hottie. He'll call OP crying and wanting to get back together. Hopefully, OP will remember his unnecessary cruelty and tell him to go pound rocks.
How much you wanna bet he’s gonna come crawling when Lisa eventually dumps him
Man, that diet story.
Me: Oh he's going to cheat, if he's not already...
A COUPLE MINUTES LATER: OH, WHAT!! I freaking called it! I knew he was gonna cheat! Uggghhh leave him!!
Another couple minutes later: WHAT A PIECE OF S#!T!!!!!
And here I am, thinking NoFap was some kind of diet? How very wrong I am... 😝
I'd like to see this guy try his little controlling games with this new lawyer girl he's been cheating with that he's head over heels for.
The silent treatment is abuse! Full stop. It’s emotional abuse and an abusive control tactic.
He wanted to compare notes on WHAT?! What about bodily autonomy? And OP wants to lie flatter for this control freak. Jeez.
It’s wild that one would thing that their partner would have to live their life in secret to make sure their partner didn’t fail. It just seems like too much. Her life wasn’t her own anymore.
omg i was in the kitchen cooking keto dinner and heard no fat not no fap so i was like he's doing it all wrong keto is not no fat...looks up like Gilda Radner "Nevermind" lol
Before the adultery came out, I was thinking this guy had been listening to Jordan Peterson. Like he’d gotten a few specifics but missed the overall ideas.
Give an ugly guy a chance, and they think they are better than you. Don't settle people, and thank god the trash took itself out.
I’m going through something similar with my husband right now. No diet was involved in the equation but Covid plays a part and his sons mother!
Yoooo I was reading this post yesterday on Reddit lol.... The updates man... Oh man
So... Is there any additional info on it, which wasn't covered in the video?
@@rqstuv9336 uhhh not that I know of, I can try to find the og post and find out but I don't think so...
Oh k, have a good day (depending which time zone you are in).
@@rqstuv9336 haha well yep, tis the morning here lol hope you have a good day too : )
OP shouldn't even care what her ex said about her.S he was there from the beginning when he was overweight and loved him for who he was. He decided to go on a health kick that for some reason she has to do as well. I bet this lawyer will kick him to the curb soon. I cannot stand people who have to drag someone else down to make them feel better. He's a narcissist did he seriously forget none of these women would be attracted to him I he didn't go on this health kick.