They Start Missing You When....
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- Опубліковано 16 лип 2023
- They start missing you when... If you want someone to miss you, your behavior is absolutely critical. You MUST exhibit emotional self control and allow that person to feel the space and start to miss YOU. In order to maintain that level of emotional self control, you must work on your attachment issues. Craig's Creative Healing Course or The Knowledge Workbooks can help you transform your life and learn confidence and skills with anyone you date!
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How do you handle NC when kids are involved…. How will you ask for the kids needs from him
Who else has been binge watching these for days? And letting them play while you sleep?
ive watched sm videos already, i just want her to come back already
I thought i was the only one
Mee fr
@cf6096 did anything happened?
Rewiring my brain! 🙏
Accept The Break Up. No Contact. No Chasing. Personal Health, Healing and a Positive Mindset for the Next Person God Puts in Your Life! 💕
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Agreed.
After a year I don’t think no contact is working. I suspect she is with someone else but don’t know or really care. 5 years of being a couple down the drain. I would like to know if she misses me, but I am not going to ask. Attachment issues aside, I think the best course of action is to just give up hope and move on. I really can’t deal with this anymore, especially since she left me for no discernible reason. Stay strong everyone.
Nearly 2 months into this, feeling exactly the same
@morpheus yup, it's really the hoping part that is so painful. after that, if it was a great relationship, realizing that they threw away what you had, for no good reason, makes it hard - rightfully so - to ever want them back. much easier said than done, but "moving on," "letting go" is really the best course of action.
Have you reached out with a low risk text? Like just a “ I saw this and it reminded me of you”
@@kellyjford1 that is a ridiculous idea
@@BiefBinkDVSthis
When they found out it's not greener on the other side.
Feelings change like clouds move across the sky,
today's a new day and I feel like I'm alive,
rain washed the pain away, now I don't want to die
my mind was in a disarray, it felt like I was in a fight
I spent my time away, but now I know I'll be alright
I wish you the best, but now it's time to live my life.
Short poem inspired by Craig's famous quote about how feelings change like how the clouds move across the sky.
My first two months after being rejected were tough. I did break NC twice and got ignored! Anyways I have since re-focused my energy by enrolling in Ph.D courses, increasing my workout days, working and doing a internship. So I’ve been very very busy and I feel great! But I do have my moments of missing them but I won’t reach out anymore. I’m holding myself to a higher standard. I just don’t know how u liked me but made it so easy to leave and not even check in on me.
WOW, good job on your quest for improvement and moving past the trauma. It sure takes some gumption/will to do it, but if you keep the prize aka your sanity in mind, you'll make it through! I'm with you.
Update?
That's good.
Update???!?
It’s best to commit to growth. I fumble my ex twice and NC worked twice but I never worked on my mental. Now it’ll be a miracle or true love if my ex comes back again. It’s painful but more painful to not work on yourself and stay in the same mindset. Do the work people!
This. My ex came back but it was before i was aware of this kind of videos. Of course i did no personal work to take her back because in fact i was then of the opinion that very few exes come back.
Ergo when she came back (years later) it caught me completely offward. She was an angel and i was a mess, a fearful and too cautious of a mess (afraid it didn't work again). She more than proved her love and i flushed it down the toilet (she even waited more than a year to be with me during the pandemic, which also caused some serious finantial difficulties in my business). My cowardice finally exhausted her and she broke up with me.
It's has been more than 2 years of the breakup and not gonna lie: i still love her.
I totally agree with your view regarding hope. You’ve helped me a lot. Definitely know what you are talking about.
Thank you Craig, very useful and yes, you're right : fathers are so important 😅, especially for women, clearly it shows what kind on man we will attract, what our issues are ....especially if they abandonned us
Nearly 2 months into this, getting dumped by the first (and only) love of my life after 3 years of strong relation and I'm thinking this will be forever 😢😢. Hurts like absolute hell. Thank you for your help, Craig
@@kevinhorve4821 Hope you're ok Kevin, sending you love 💙
She will come around. If the connection was strong. Just give it time, 2 months is way too early. I’m on month 5 and he unblocked me recently but hasn’t reached out yet. Glad I was on his mind at least
@@ghostgirl531 thank you, I'm sorry for you but unblocking sounds good👍🏻. It's not a she but a he in my case. He unfollowed me on snap and insta, but didn't block me. This doesn't feel too good but at least no block. Let me know if you want to talk about it and exchange thoughts 😔
I’m in a very similar situation. I don’t know if she is gonna come back. I really hope so, our relationship was super good. We just had a hard summer and I told her that I am so committed to fixing the issues and changing, but she just couldn’t. Our last words to each other were “I love you”. She unfollowed me on everything, no block tho. I’m at 38 days.
@@breadguy7962 sorry to hear that, same here, got unfollowed but no block. Still hurts now 3 months in. Wishing you all the best
Stay strong kings
And queens!
Absolutely an excellent video!!! Thanks for all you do coach! 😊
You miss them at first after the breakup but as time go by you forget about them. Yes they come back but you shouldn’t go back move on
Really depends on the situation and the person
It is hard to do so, but my decades life experience made me realize, that how are my exes now, I do not regret that they broke up with me. Not a single one. Currently suffering a breakup where a part of my mind still believes in reunion... 😀
I found these that i have within 24 hours of the breakup doing research and stumbling upon your videos. As time went on i just became insecure and having a low self esteem i pretty much dug my own grave. I have prayed that one i will be allowed another chance with her. i have expressed to her this and that i pray and hope one day she can allow me another chance to fix work on our relationship and get it right. I have a feeling in my heart that i lost her for good. I dont even want another relationship with anyone else unless its with her but since the breakup ive gone to therapy, focusing on my personal growth, and been these videos which im extremely grateful for. Ive accepted that she wont come back and i lost her forever. Im grieving this loss and im not tryna sound a like victim because im not. I made a crucial mistake and have been feeling the wrath of the consequences to my actions.
i found these issues that i have*^
I find myself to be in the exact situation as you!
Any updates of your NC and did your ex ever reach out?
@@vintkh629 yes but I messed up by trying to force things instead of going w the flow I think I pushed her farther away from me and she lost interest smh
Hi Coach Craig and Coach Victoria, It's me again :) As I have said I started watching your videos after a few days when I was dumped. I just want to thank you for all the helpful videos. I have the videos playing in the background as soon as I end my work shift. I have them playing while I clean, I work out and in any activity that requires both my hands and at least before I go to sleep. Sometimes I even fall asleep while the videos are playing 😂 I have decided to focus on personal growth which is building my business again. I started taking classes for new things I want to learn. I keep the house tidy at all times. I listed down all the things I want to work on and started doing it one by one. I logged out of facebook so that I will not be tempted checking him. I do hope that these changes will help me recover and if he comes back, then he'll see that I am better off now than before. I understand we both have issues when we decided to part ways, i hope he's working on his as well.
My ex tried to comeback after 2 years, after i got into another relationship, the best thing is trying to move on, if they try to comeback thats the decision you got to make
Can you make a video exploring the dynamics behind two dating partners with anxious preoccupied attachment styles? Maybe also a video on the dating dynamics behind masculine leading energy and feminine leading energy polarity
I love this video. I was just thinking that hope is a motivator to be the best version of myself if my ex (the person I love) does come back. If they don’t, I’ll just be better.
Thank you for these videos.
I and. my ex have decided to part ways for now, because i had to go back to do studies and complete my mandatory consription. And she didnt love the idea of being ldr because neither of us knew how long it would take. She expressed that staying in a long-distance relationship amidst uncertainties about the future didn't feel right for either of us. She believed focusing on personal development separately may be best. she and i expressed how we still care deeply for eachother and we decided to see if there was a possibility of a getting back in the future.
at first when she told me about parting ways , i was taken aback. Bwcause i didnt understand what happend. and so i tried to change her mind. We even had planned to get married, live together for the rest of ourlives and have kids etc.
So i tried to change her mind but she told me this was for the best ”for now”.
After realising that it wasnt a definite break up, i started having hope.
This video made me even more confident to try to prepare myself to be vest version of myself for me and for her. for a chance that she would take me back.
But i cant shake that feeling of ” if i had done something differently, we would still be together..”
But in the worst case she will think we were never meant to be and i will be left with better me.
I hate how life works
Great vid 👌
No one gives anyone hope... hope is a high vibrational emotion/feeling that higher vibrational beings posses and use according to certain circumstances... people just need to be open and honest to communicate and everyone will play the part accordingly... and then being hopeful that something greater manifests is that higher vibration they both would be in.
Not to be too critical and I appreciate your comment because it gives me a shred of hope, but I'm just tired of these vague and trite responses. People who've been dumped don't want to just work on themselves and hope for the best in the dark only to be screwed over and heartbroken all over again. It's like a cruel game that we have to blindly endure until we maybe get a single word from our exes or we are simply left abandoned with no real answers. The people who have been dumped want clear and direct results, but I understand the nature these kinds of situations aren't so cut and dry and I just wanted to clarify that this can be frustrating to most dumpees. We don't want to meditate, work out, get therapy, take up new hobbies or generally "work on ourselves," because most of us are genuinely good enough as we are. We just need the people who we love that have left us to realize our value and to come back.
@EdwardDavian1 this is true. Have you ever considered that hope could also be a form of prayer or meditative state as to manifest what we do want and that perhaps the dumper was following their intuition/higher self to leave as a message from the most high/universe/God to make way for exactly what we have been "hoping" for???
To all my doubters & non believers. Although it may not be guaranteed to go no contact and be radio silence as well, boooyyy!! the mother of my kids was so sure she didn’t want anything with me. 7 months later no contact no nada(nothing) she came back literally begging for another chance. It’s showing rite about now that nothing will get in the way for us to rekindle things together. But here’s where it gets tricky y’all just make sure you give them little by little and not just everything at once. You have the right to show that you’re a bit reserved.
I could love her but here on I know I could do without her cause I’ve done it so know you could too. Just work on yourself stay busy and life will start to throw beautiful people at you maybe even perhaps you’re X 😉😊
Best wishes..
If you don’t mind me asking, why did she leave? Lost feelings?
@@yoko_factor8025 I’m sure when women leave it could be a combination of things and sometimes they will never be fully honest why they left BUT she left and came back and so far it’s been so nice to be a full time dad again and also to be back with her cause at the end of the day she does make me happy.
@rivershinerealty6675 man you got this bro. Stay strong even when it gets very difficult watch these videos so that it helps like therapy.
Well did you get back with her?
@@taneyat6_33 yes we are working on things, taking it slow.
I LOVE YOUR CONTENT!! I HAVE BEEN LEARNING A LOT AND GROWING MORE HOPEFUL AND CONFIDENT IN MY CHANCE'S. BUT ONE THING I'VE NOTICED WITH A LOT OF HOW TO GET EX BACK AND NO CONTACT CONTENT IS THAT THERE ISN'T ANY REGARDING COWORKERS AND HOW TO NAVIGATE A BREAK UP WITH A COWORKER.
I wish my ex would reach out so that he can heal from his emotional trauma.
Don't worry !
After 9 months pass, you'll start to feel the craziness lift and you'll begin to feel your self-esteem grow again !
After 11 months, you won't want them back !!!
The wallowing in your own pathetic insecure delusions will dissipate !
The reaping will end too
Watching these videos will help you get through the pain
Hang in there !
I’m pissed just listening to this letter. This guy is HORRIBLE. Cruel cruel man. That poor woman and her family.
Ok, but why?
Get a grip firstly, then learn about attachment styles. Your attitude is terrible due to your complete ignorance I suspect. The guy made a lot of mistakes, but clearly loved his GF.
Very wise man.
RIP Coach Margaret.
I only just found out that Coach Craig is a huge Star Wars fan through the other videos, so is his "Hi there" every beginning of the video a homage to the famous "Hello there" from Obi Wan? XD
Not really…. But maybe one day I’ll do it!
Hi there coach craig im a filipino good thing i can understand english and your channel helps me a lot just wanna say thank you and more powers to your channel
Aq din laking tulong sa akin sobraaaa
I don’t know Amanda sky sounds a little crazy? I am anxious as well, I was in a long-distance relationship! My girlfriend wanted to go home to the Philippines for a couple of weeks just to visit family nobody was sick, and I understood and I let her go because I know that’s important to her! I didn’t get jealous we didn’t text that much but I understood and she greatly appreciated that
This man's story brings back memories of my ex-husband. People with anxious attachment can get so selfish. I was seriously ill and all he cared about was himself and his feelings... After I divorced him I never again dated a person with anxious attachment, couldn't take any more of that.
I did the no contact. It's almost been a year since he left. I filed divorce 6 months ago. I don't think he's gonna want to come back.
Feelings only change when behaviors change. When someone stops treating you with patience, kindness, respect, and love it becomes difficult to remain in those many mindsets toward them. I'm not holding on anymore to someone who let go of me long ago. He underestimated my ability to reajust and adapt accordingly. He believed he could run around the country seeing to his "various other comittments" and id be here waiting for him like some silly school girl, vying for the love of a man who is emotionally UNAVAILABLE. I was in live with who he "pretended to be," which was not at all who he "actually turned out to be." It is so much easier to get over someone when you realize that theyre not all who you thought they were.
Hello! Can you explain how a tramatic events and midlife crisis can have on your significant other. We have been together for 29 yrs and my significant other lost his mom, i believe he was going thru a midlife crisis as well and lost his dog. all within a few months. Little did i know that he would end up pushing me away by doing the unthinkable. He cheated on me. I did not see it coming (at the time) and i was, to say the least devastated!! he is my one!! well that is when i discovered you guys and stopped the begging and started no contact and made up my mind to move on.. I am not kidding when i say.. THAT DAY that i made up my mind is the day he contacted me and told me he had made a huge mistake. Its been one year since we have gotten back together and he has never treated me better. We are healing and moving forward.. THank you.. I thought others would benefit from my experience..
By the way it took tremendous work on my part to be able to forgive him and move on.. But it was MY choice to do soo..
@@michelletrujillo2818❤
7 years. 1 kid. 5 years of engagement (covid reasons) she left me for someone else. 6 months limited contact. She keeps leaving me stupid breadcrumbs. Calling for a lighter or saying she's stuck on a train. I wonder why she keeps doing this even when i said i didnt wanna be friends and stuff. Really sucks but gotta move on.
Can you do more videos on separation/divorce/cheating?
Even as he broke up with me he said he didn't know if he was making the right decision. Well, it's been 5 months of NC. He hasn't uttered a single peep or showed any indication of missing me. So he's probably certain he made the right decision.
This is a great example of it is of no use to get a "closure" with an ex. Really, you just receive a blah-blah garbage from an ex - for many reasons. It took me many years to realize this.
Coach what if I was rude, indifferent when I saw her again after she cancelled on me from her reaching out to meetup, after a month no contact. I accidentally showed my cards frustrated and annoyed dismissive. She was reaching out before now isn't. I knew I was supposed to be happy and fun first 'new date' but did I blow it and need another no contact or it's done?
His story is exactly same as mine but instead of her mom it was her friends
Don't trust her friends
My ex ran into ex from high school been together almost 3 yrs dont thi k its a rebound its unbelievable cut me off no text no talk 35 yrs marriage 3 kids ny heart is still broken. Think going back to maiden name. No one in his familt even acknowledges me
What if she www your friend first for 12 years, date for 2 years then got put back in friend zone. She still texts me everyday but believe she us now talking to somebody else.
So if you know he is going through a lot and like his mom is sick do you still do no contact ! I broke no contact after 5 weeks today on his bday and he told me his mom has gotten super sick and that he has been taking care of her !! He didn’t reply back to my last message do I do no contact all over again ! 🥺
OMG, 24 days since he showed me the door and he ran into me in public. I was friendly but brief and it felt like he wanted more of my time. But this time, not feeling it abd have no desire to repeat the pattern
I personally will never give up on my ex whom has avoidant traits. I know how hard she can love and the intimacy is perfect. She is not to blame for her hard and neglecting upbringing. Currently off the radar hoping she will get intouch. Rather than showing ive changed by updating my social stories, ive deactivated the account and gone complete radio silence. Actions speak louder than words.... she may be frustrated now she cannot keep tabs on me and reach out.... 🙏
What if after 5 1/2 year monogamous relationship, he monkey branched to someone else who is married, and in an open relationship with her husband, and now he says that non-monogamy is what he wants? He calls it a "friends with benefits" situation with her. I've just been gutted. It's been 7 months now since he left for her.
And if she started dating someone new within about a month?
Don’t think she’s missing me lol
She’s said “ I want to keep my distance and for you to move on”
And that’s unfortunately just not possible yet.
Most probably a rebound relationship....those dont last....
More likely she knew that guy already for weeks/months, and monkeybranched over to him once she was sure that she had him.
I feel this way, too. It's been 7 weeks. I broke no contact for first time, sent a brief msg via text. I suspect he saw it. I d k if I'm blocked. I texted to tell him if he wants to get back in the group ( patriot group we both belonged to) that I will not bother him. He's a workaholic and this group did help him emotionlly but because of wanting to avoid me, I think, he's not participated. He is a dismissive aoidant and had suicidal tendencies when I met him.
Apart from behavioral changes, do they come back even if they break up on the financial insecurity as he recently got the job, which he thinks will pay him less but,got if after so much of hard work, and I'm still studying and giving entrance exam for my master's college,
it will take me almost a year to start earning. what his reasons and behaviors indicate that , he dont want a future with me as of now because he consider me as a burden on him(tha's what i think the major reason of break up). but he does contact me time to time after i have started no contact a month ago. i do love him but i haave told him i cant be his friends, as i still have feelings for him...but even after telling this he calls and texts. i feel bad n hurt but still picks up his calll...thinking he might get upset and if he's considering to come back, he wont come!!!!
what should i do, its affecting my studies too 😓😓.
What kind of burden? U rely on ur father right? Don't rely on him if he's building his career, u finish n get job. Don't go zero contact but be strong enough to face consequences. U r still young.
Hey Craig , some people say that a woman will generally get over a break up quicker than a man will. Is that something that you know about ? Thanks 🙏
From what I've read, women feel a breakup worse initially but they do much more work to process it upfront, whereas men will tend to just move on and avoid it or distract themselves, but because they don't do a lot of processing upfront, they suffer later and their processing is delayed
This could explain what you were saying
My ex broke up with me a week ago for a second time, can no contact work again? Im working on myself, changed my job, go to the gym, accept social activity and meet people ... But e daid he lost desire and me being autistic was really hard for him! I just wonder! Im not chasing, but i will move on if there is no chance... And just do the growth part.
I got dumped twice too by my ex. The second time actually hurts worse than the first. The only course of action for you is to move on. If they did it twice, they will always do it again. Completely aim towards killing all feelings and attachment and move on. No ifs and buts. Remove yourself completely from his life and strive towards healing. And if he ever comes back…. for the love of God pls do not go back. You are strong enough to brace through the pain and come out untop. Hugs.
My ex texted me after 4.5 months wanting to meet up to return my keys. Is this a indirect direct approach?
Yes
Just change your locks. That’s a shitty excuse. They should be upfront
What strategy should I follow to get back with an anxious attached ex girlfriend? 😄
What about when your ex has a 8 year old daughter? Will be come back when I walked out of their life (but begged for him back after 4 days) can they come back with protecting them as well as him that I could just do it again?
My x ignores and become so cruel, it happen once we cross way then he didn't even look at me, it hurts a lot when I ask him why then he says I shouldn't not even allowed to look at him in the eye,, for myside it's not acceptable bcus I give him everything, I provide everything for him,,, it's really hurt knowing we love them yesterday suddenly change to cold and stone person, now I'm on 7weeks of no contact not to get him back but to get myself back, I think he start to notice it bcus he suddenly unblock me on social media,,, I still love him so much but I cnt find myself to forgive him, the injury on my heart is just too deep and the pain never go,,.
I wish for him not to reach out,, I'm not ready at the same time I dnt miss him....I start to hate him.
Cruelty to you is probably not his conscious plan. If it is, please get rid of a psychopath. For most people it is so common to avoid things, because it is an easiest way. Your pain will go. If possible, watch videos on attachment styles, my guess is that you have anxious attachment style (prolonged pain after breakup, "providing everything for him" etc. Myself having a breakup in my old age, thinking I will spend my whole life with my ex. Best of luck!
Mistakes? Repair? I have no idea what you're talking about. Not that I'm really trying to own up on my end. I'd really like to do so. I don't think it's up to me to repair a relationship that someone else destroyed.
Being in no contact is alot easier than people give credit.
Lucky you, if you have managed to go so far. I took me many many years and almost 10 breakups to really get this.
@johnton6488 It's about having boundaries really. If someone TPs your house are you gonna want them back? It's incredibly tough to learn how to apply this to someone you love.
Thats a legitimate complaint on his part, she put him aside as leftover after she put her friends as priority and then didnt keep her word. That’s frustrating af! Poor guy. The problem is these ppl who don’t compromise dont sacrifice for the good and instead want what they want
To be honest, this is the first situation where I hope she never comes back. The boyfriend was terrible! Being jealous of her time with friends and her sick mom ? 🤮
I agree. He needs to work on himself before he gets in a relationship with anybody. His behaviour was selfish and controlling. If this couple would had been in a situation in which she depended on him (financially or because of children or whatever), he would have gotten away with all of this and this poor girl would have been absolutely miserable.
Me too my ex stole from me multiple times etc...I feel lonely but I'm not stressed over him .
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This dudes just anxious and most likely they're a young couple
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The girl seems secure to me. I dont think she is avoidant
Exactly, secure women are even more set to leave a relationship. Of course, it is a freedom based choice and possibility of every person in democratic societies. Being in a relationship with 2 kids for over 12 years and believing this will last to an end... My ex suddenly left me, because "she was not happy". I had to go through a second Matrix (red pill they call this). When she left me, even my family was putting all blame on me, I lost all my money etc... After months I realized how much I have been lied to about women by society. And getting Karma, because I have had contempt over fathers fighting for having at least some time with their children, or trying to prove their innocence over charges like abusing children etc.
i wish i would of seen the videos years ago because i made all the mistakes. Now told me to leave her alone time to move on Blocked 10 years down the drain waist of time.
I bet ya she comes back lol it might be anywhere between 6months to 2yrs but I bet ya she def comes back. Make sure you update here so I can see that I was right lol
@@addub25 ill update if she does but we were split for 4 years at this point
@@skinner1790 so you were together for 10yrs and you split up 4yrs ago?
@@addub25 we were together for 7.5 split. Then i begged and eveeything finally gave up .fast forward 2.5 years later i text her we started talking again both of us were in a relationship. When we ended up single we tried in her eyes. Then she left me i told her wish i never met her and got BLOCKED EVERYWHERE. so no hope man
(Re: The "father" comment some of us have such pain from our lack of attention from our father that we shun videos that would take us there, so no offense. I will get there.)
Right now though, I'm working through other things like an ex from 1975 high school. He decides to come back into my life, though he is still married to his sixth wife...(shakes head negatively). We are 120 miles apart, but he came down 3 times last summer and screwed w/my heart before he told me about his marital standing.
After communicating for months online He started talking the "friend-zone" again and so I cut him off straight and told him he was like a bad cigarette habit and that I would succeed by taking it one day at a time and he should do the same.
You CoachCraigKenneth have been very helpful in my gaining that strength to move on and get through it. Your coaching has been extremely beneficial to me. I know that I can/will continue to get better and grow in myself, so that next time I will be wiser and extremely more powerful in my maintaining my self-worth! (Flying kiss sent to your cheek) TA ~ Thanks again!
I am on the 7th official day and strengthening myself by posting here, thank you, CoachCK! Well, he tried to communicate right off when I set the boundaries, but I sent the message into a folder for reading later when I'm even stronger. I signed it Strong T when I cut "us" off. I'm still strengthening, I feel so very weak, but hopeful for my sanity in L~❤V~E returning so that I can trust someone new.👍!