I struggled to understand the line. Because I feel it's normal to feel some sort of anxiety when someone ignores you for two days or three, still looks at your stories, likes your posts, but doesn't answer to your messages. It takes nothing to say, " Sorry, I'm not in a great mood, I need some time"
If they’re interested they’ll talk to you it’s as simple as that, i just came out of my first relationship and i’ve learnt so much about when i’m ready to start dating. Be confident in yourself, if they don’t reply leave it, take your time to reply if you’re not rushing they’ll know you have other things in your life and that you’re confident within yourself
Craig, you dropped so many gold-nuggets again in this video. will watch it daily now. i was jealous and needy and it suffocated the attraction of my partner, now she needs a break... she will get it. I will not fail.
It is my devout faith and prayer and patience and understanding (learning about self and both our needs.) guides me to do what is best for both of us, not just what I think is right or best.
Try relationship with avoidant... You will have lot of anxiety to work on😂 being constantly busy with work, prioritizing friends over You, watch your confidence drop like a rock in a long run
I actually happy to see this only because I was with an Avoidant. My confidence dwindled significantly around a year and a half after we married. We became pregnant with twins, so I married her! She was showing up in ways that were making me question myself. Constant criticism, constant insecure behavior, controlling and argumentative. Im a shell of the person I used to be.
Thanks Craig for this video. My girlfriend of 2 years pulled away after I did some pretty unattractive behavior. I ended up chasing her for a few days & after realizing she needed space I backed off completely. She's been the one to reach out each time but we're still not together like before. Being in no contact is the hardest thing to do when my anxiety hits. She randomly called me 2 weeks ago & brought me some ice cream. Her main reason to come over was to pick up her stuff & see our puppy. I acted unaffected by everything & was my normal self. She only picked up half her stuff. I'm really working on myself & space makes you realize what you have & where you can improve. Not just in my relationship but also everything else in my life. I take it day by day & going to stay positive things will improve
I was with my ex for 5 years before I was dumped last March. Sometimes I wish I can get a refund for all that time I invested in that stupid relationship. Maybe I should sue her for wasting 5 years of my life. Dude, you just wasted 2 years with an idiot who pulled away from you for some small behavior you did. She's no prize.
@LaoSoftware sorry to hear that, especially after 5 years that's a good amount of time. Seriously, women pull away & act like children. I'd rather just talk & fix the issues. I did a lot for this girl.
Avoidants are by far the toughest people to have relationships with....you have to be very secure in your attachment style to have successful relations with avoidants....i say run away fast
Craig I love you so much.. you guys are doing the world a huge service. I feel like you guys are on the forefront of a type of work that is much needed in this crazy world.
Great Video Craig👍🏻 These videos always come up when we need them It’s truly incredible! This topic is very relevant for even us Singles, who’s scaring away potential dates because of our insecurities and Anxiety. That’s exactly what I’m doing all the time 😕😞
This guy is so right my ex reached out and now she is starting to realize im not chasing anymore that unless she calls we are done forever. and truet me wenever i feel down i do the workbooks or just start watching these video's. Its hard to reprogram your brain at 41 but it needs to be done.
I'm doing the same, but I was doing the chasing as a woman, which is worse. He's used to being chased. Now, I stopped. So we're in a stand still because I was doing all the work and he's not stepping up. He only called once a week drunk, and then broke up over text. Then sent a text 3 weeks later to meet and talk but only because I replied to his break up text that he's a coward for breaking up a 3.5 year relationship over text. I haven't met him yet.
Thanks Craig,I have a loving friend that I am attracted to but she isn't. It just might be my anxiety. Going to do the work and maybe she will come back.
I feel like my new relationship is doomed. My partner's father is very sick and will pass away shortly. Understandably, his priority is his family right now, and he's going to have his mother move in with him after his father's passing. We have been together for 4 months, and I don't think our relationship will survive that. I'm thinking about breaking up before he does 🤦♀️
Hey Coach you're exactly right, I'm back in the dating scene, all it takes is a bit of delay in my reply & bam their attachment/anxiety comes out, this is helping me weed out these guys very quickly. Also, a question i ask is why they think there previous relationship failed & what could they have done better. This also me allows to see if they take any responsibility & accountability.
My ex wants space because of my attachment style and says they need space. I said I would give space. I hope I didn’t mess up. I am going no contact. We’ve been together for 3 years and now I feel like I really messed up. I’m not giving up hope.
@@doubleJJ01 we are back together. We are happy and worked on our individual growth and healed past wounds from other relationship dynamics. Our relationship is stronger and healthier
@@vibrationalflow happy for you , stay blessed , in my case idk if it even work out again , I broke no contact several times but she keep saying " idk what to do" whenever I ask to work things out , I tried NC for 2months fail , again for 50 days fail again , its been 8 days since I last texted her , any suggestions on what should I say to her b4 going no contact yet again ,
Coach Craig I was wondering how it get ahold of you to have classes or one-on-one with you and how much all that would cost if you could send me information or a link
She asked for space but after a week. Come on thats a break up you can't be mad at someone for breaking no contact. It wasn't even asking for space. "It was I don't how is want this anymore " Once week isn't desperate
My ex reaches to me yesterday to wish me happy birthday, then I reply thanks and polite asked how is she, she send me something short, my next message is ignored( she saw my next message but she didnt open it). Amazing 😂 She breakup with me 6 months ago, I was stick No contact rule.
It probably would have been best to make a short reply & still have her always reach out to you. Just stay no contact & have her be the one to always reach out for now
you should have just thanked her kindly instead of following up and asking her questions... The ex has to come forward with more effort, not the dumped one.
These rules apply only for men. Men have to be mysterious and not too eager. Women can simply wait around because they are the gatekeepers for sex and relationships. I get that you don't need to send messages to them constantly. Now that's fine but what I don't like is the cat and mouse-games. Express your interest directly and If they reject you move on. If you want a pen pal now that's a different story.
PLEASE READ👈🏼👈🏼 My ex and I have been on and off for almost 4 years now. She has always broken up with me. She blamed it on undiagnosed depression saying I’m not good for her. She has come back to me after no contact all those times she has broken up with me. 2 months ago I broke up with her because she was being very distant and I was tired of feeling like I was walking on egg shells around her, almost waiting for the next time she’ll break up with me. When I broke it off she said that she had no energy for herself or anyone else, that being with anyone else is the least of her concerns. She blocked my number because she didn’t want to reach out to me again. (At least that’s what she has said in the past) A week after the break up I emailed her telling asking if could talk about my abrupt decision to break up with her and that I should have been there for her when she’s down. She said “I don’t know if I want to talk, I want to be able to find some peace, I really don’t want to bring anything up that we have already put to rest. I told her okay that’s fine, contact me if you change your mind. The last 9 months we were long distance due to school and work. She’s in town now and I found out that she’s on tinder looking for “short term fun”. She’s made tinder accounts in between break ups with me in the past. But 1 month post break up and you’re already trying to see other people for fun seems kinda early to me. This is where I’m at. I’m the dumper but it feels like she dumped me. We spent 9 months apart, thousands of miles away from each other and now that we’re 10 minute away we can’t see each other. I feel so sad and hopeless because I feel like this was the final straw for her. I didn’t want to dump her but her distancing herself from me made me miserable. But I still feel like she dumped me. Can anyway please give me there thoughts and opinions. I’m hurting bad. I love her and I know she loves me too. Please someone.
I struggled to understand the line. Because I feel it's normal to feel some sort of anxiety when someone ignores you for two days or three, still looks at your stories, likes your posts, but doesn't answer to your messages. It takes nothing to say, " Sorry, I'm not in a great mood, I need some time"
If they’re interested they’ll talk to you it’s as simple as that, i just came out of my first relationship and i’ve learnt so much about when i’m ready to start dating. Be confident in yourself, if they don’t reply leave it, take your time to reply if you’re not rushing they’ll know you have other things in your life and that you’re confident within yourself
Craig, you dropped so many gold-nuggets again in this video. will watch it daily now.
i was jealous and needy and it suffocated the attraction of my partner, now she needs a break...
she will get it.
I will not fail.
It is my devout faith and prayer and patience and understanding (learning about self and both our needs.) guides me to do what is best for both of us, not just what I think is right or best.
Try relationship with avoidant... You will have lot of anxiety to work on😂 being constantly busy with work, prioritizing friends over You, watch your confidence drop like a rock in a long run
I actually happy to see this only because I was with an Avoidant. My confidence dwindled significantly around a year and a half after we married. We became pregnant with twins, so I married her! She was showing up in ways that were making me question myself. Constant criticism, constant insecure behavior, controlling and argumentative. Im a shell of the person I used to be.
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Thanks Craig for this video. My girlfriend of 2 years pulled away after I did some pretty unattractive behavior. I ended up chasing her for a few days & after realizing she needed space I backed off completely. She's been the one to reach out each time but we're still not together like before. Being in no contact is the hardest thing to do when my anxiety hits. She randomly called me 2 weeks ago & brought me some ice cream. Her main reason to come over was to pick up her stuff & see our puppy. I acted unaffected by everything & was my normal self. She only picked up half her stuff. I'm really working on myself & space makes you realize what you have & where you can improve. Not just in my relationship but also everything else in my life. I take it day by day & going to stay positive things will improve
I was with my ex for 5 years before I was dumped last March. Sometimes I wish I can get a refund for all that time I invested in that stupid relationship. Maybe I should sue her for wasting 5 years of my life. Dude, you just wasted 2 years with an idiot who pulled away from you for some small behavior you did. She's no prize.
@LaoSoftware sorry to hear that, especially after 5 years that's a good amount of time. Seriously, women pull away & act like children. I'd rather just talk & fix the issues. I did a lot for this girl.
Get a refund...lmao😅
What happened eventually?
What about extreme avoidants? They can really manipulate even secure people and seem to need abnormal amounts of space.
yup!
Different story here-in my opinion: stay away from them...! They can go for someone who is as/or even more heremit than themselves. That works.
You don’t want them
Avoidants are by far the toughest people to have relationships with....you have to be very secure in your attachment style to have successful relations with avoidants....i say run away fast
Craig I love you so much.. you guys are doing the world a huge service. I feel like you guys are on the forefront of a type of work that is much needed in this crazy world.
Great Video Craig👍🏻
These videos always come up when we need them
It’s truly incredible!
This topic is very relevant for even us Singles, who’s scaring away potential dates because of our insecurities and Anxiety.
That’s exactly what I’m doing all the time 😕😞
Thank you Craig, this video helps a lot
This guy is so right my ex reached out and now she is starting to realize im not chasing anymore that unless she calls we are done forever. and truet me wenever i feel down i do the workbooks or just start watching these video's. Its hard to reprogram your brain at 41 but it needs to be done.
I'm doing the same, but I was doing the chasing as a woman, which is worse. He's used to being chased. Now, I stopped. So we're in a stand still because I was doing all the work and he's not stepping up. He only called once a week drunk, and then broke up over text. Then sent a text 3 weeks later to meet and talk but only because I replied to his break up text that he's a coward for breaking up a 3.5 year relationship over text. I haven't met him yet.
That's right. It works both ways.
Thank you Craig for this one .learnt alot .more mindful that I need get back k. Into mine books ..❤
I need to do them again books ..
Thanks Craig,I have a loving friend that I am attracted to but she isn't.
It just might be my anxiety.
Going to do the work and maybe she will come back.
Just be unavailable, but be kind
I feel like my new relationship is doomed. My partner's father is very sick and will pass away shortly. Understandably, his priority is his family right now, and he's going to have his mother move in with him after his father's passing. We have been together for 4 months, and I don't think our relationship will survive that. I'm thinking about breaking up before he does 🤦♀️
Hey Coach you're exactly right, I'm back in the dating scene, all it takes is a bit of delay in my reply & bam their attachment/anxiety comes out, this is helping me weed out these guys very quickly.
Also, a question i ask is why they think there previous relationship failed & what could they have done better. This also me allows to see if they take any responsibility & accountability.
Oof just being a decent, good person doesnt worth nothing today i suppose, its only about passing the tests
Great video bro..
Ton of value 👌👌👌
Another great video Coach!!!!thank you
Craig can you make a video about the fading effect bias
Yes he does help
My ex wants space because of my attachment style and says they need space. I said I would give space. I hope I didn’t mess up. I am going no contact. We’ve been together for 3 years and now I feel like I really messed up. I’m not giving up hope.
I am in the same boat except mine just ghosted after being together three years. Did your ex ever reach out?
We are in contact but I’m just letting things flow.
Update @@vibrationalflow
@@doubleJJ01 we are back together. We are happy and worked on our individual growth and healed past wounds from other relationship dynamics. Our relationship is stronger and healthier
@@vibrationalflow happy for you , stay blessed , in my case idk if it even work out again , I broke no contact several times but she keep saying " idk what to do" whenever I ask to work things out , I tried NC for 2months fail , again for 50 days fail again , its been 8 days since I last texted her , any suggestions on what should I say to her b4 going no contact yet again ,
Much Thanks Always Craig Kenneth! Love All Your Videos!!
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Coach Craig I was wondering how it get ahold of you to have classes or one-on-one with you and how much all that would cost if you could send me information or a link
Honestly, watching your video are much better than taking an advice from your parents about your relationship problems😂
Sounds like excellent advice but how do I use this when I'm still single lmao? 🤣😂
If you work on these things you won’t be single for long 😅
😂😂 coach craig can I get a like for breaking no contact yesterday and regretting it 😂😂
She asked for space but after a week. Come on thats a break up you can't be mad at someone for breaking no contact.
It wasn't even asking for space. "It was I don't how is want this anymore "
Once week isn't desperate
My ex reaches to me yesterday to wish me happy birthday, then I reply thanks and polite asked how is she, she send me something short, my next message is ignored( she saw my next message but she didnt open it). Amazing 😂
She breakup with me 6 months ago, I was stick No contact rule.
Why did she bother at all, then ignore you.
So stupid.
@@andreamagyar5541 I agree with you.
It probably would have been best to make a short reply & still have her always reach out to you. Just stay no contact & have her be the one to always reach out for now
you should have just thanked her kindly instead of following up and asking her questions... The ex has to come forward with more effort, not the dumped one.
These rules apply only for men. Men have to be mysterious and not too eager. Women can simply wait around because they are the gatekeepers for sex and relationships. I get that you don't need to send messages to them constantly. Now that's fine but what I don't like is the cat and mouse-games. Express your interest directly and If they reject you move on. If you want a pen pal now that's a different story.
As a girl, not true. Men distance themselves all the time lol
@@aaronfelcity1403 ya there's lots of men who think that life is sooo easy for women. They couldn't be wronger.
Disagree...the "rules" are for everyone not just one sided.
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My ex and I have been on and off for almost 4 years now. She has always broken up with me. She blamed it on undiagnosed depression saying I’m not good for her. She has come back to me after no contact all those times she has broken up with me. 2 months ago I broke up with her because she was being very distant and I was tired of feeling like I was walking on egg shells around her, almost waiting for the next time she’ll break up with me. When I broke it off she said that she had no energy for herself or anyone else, that being with anyone else is the least of her concerns. She blocked my number because she didn’t want to reach out to me again. (At least that’s what she has said in the past) A week after the break up I emailed her telling asking if could talk about my abrupt decision to break up with her and that I should have been there for her when she’s down. She said “I don’t know if I want to talk, I want to be able to find some peace, I really don’t want to bring anything up that we have already put to rest. I told her okay that’s fine, contact me if you change your mind. The last 9 months we were long distance due to school and work. She’s in town now and I found out that she’s on tinder looking for “short term fun”. She’s made tinder accounts in between break ups with me in the past. But 1 month post break up and you’re already trying to see other people for fun seems kinda early to me. This is where I’m at. I’m the dumper but it feels like she dumped me. We spent 9 months apart, thousands of miles away from each other and now that we’re 10 minute away we can’t see each other. I feel so sad and hopeless because I feel like this was the final straw for her. I didn’t want to dump her but her distancing herself from me made me miserable. But I still feel like she dumped me. Can anyway please give me there thoughts and opinions. I’m hurting bad. I love her and I know she loves me too. Please someone.
Move on Sir