Dear Coach Craig, This is a success story. Well I didn’t get my ex back (it’s been almost 2 years now), but I met someone else and things are going good so far. My new partner told me « you treat me differently than my previous relationships ». That’s where I knew my hard work is paying off. Thank you so much coach. I now can see what you always tell us in the videos. I trust you with my love life.
many of us have come a very long way with you guys.. those of us hiding behind the text of comments are not putting ourselves on the forefront like you guys are.. I cannot say thank you enough
I strongly believe that the work of this channel is possibly more potent than most therapists but for people that do want to venture into seeing a therapist, the way I am thinking about it is to try a different therapist every week in your locality, and after you run out of different therapists to try in your area take notes of how you felt about each one along the way so then whichever one you hated the most lol or felt most difficult for you.. I feel that one would be the one to visit more often or steadily.. it might be best to find one that really works for you and work with them continually but it might also be just as beneficial to try different ones over and over to get a well-rounded view and then choose which way you will go coming from a place of experience.. and that's my two cents on that 😁
Don't mind me trying to channel my inner Margaret.. instead of blaming yourselves for everything.. remember that it's not good to tolerate abuse and blame shifting, sure we are responsible for our own healing, growth and behavior just as our partner or ex needs to take responsibility for their end of it, and rather than wording it as being able to regulate our emotions.. I see it as being able to stay true to ourselves rather than being overwhelmed by our anxiety, as the overwhelming anxiety is what drives us to do such "crazy"? or uncalled for behaviors.. if people will do the work towards healing and growth then they can become much more secure in their own truth and so the anxiety no longer has such an effect on us, it's great how they are pointing out in this video the value of seeking professional help.. and so they are pointing out how therapy is very important but even though I'm going to sound like a paid advertisement here.. I myself have done the workbooks two times through from this channel and so it is really a guidebook towards doing the work because a therapist does not actually help us, but they guide us so that we can help ourselves.. I believe I worded this pretty well, I'm still learning everyday.... every day in every way I'm getting better and better 🙏
My ex was playing games and when I repeatedly pointed it out he eventually admitted that he wasn’t intentionally doing it. I was shocked that he realized it!
My ex has been in therapy for years and years. Doesn’t seem to help, I actually think she goes to therapy to get justification for her “triggers” and just does what she wants.
I'm somewhat worried that these videos might give me unnecessary hope. I broke up with my ex, because she was confused about me and another guy from work. We dated for 1,5 years, moved in together and got a pet. So she flirted with him and enjoyed his attention(she might be a narc), he fell in love with her and kissed her. She came clean about this wanting to be honest, but it hurt anyways. There was a fight, promises and pleading on her side and tough love on my side. I'm not a pushover, but I really tried to let it go and gave it a shot. Mostly it was a decline for 6 months with some happy moments. I guess she stayed out of guilt and I let her stay out of hope. Really loved her(maybe still do), tried to work on things. Sometimes, not all the time, memories of this event grabbed a hold of me and we fought again. And so by the end of 6th month, my relative got really sick, I needed her by my side, but she kept pulling away. I couldn't tolerate it, but kept insisting on if we love each other and want to be together, we can manage anything, she was lost and unsure(it looked like it). "Is it because you have feelings for this guy?" - I asked. "Maybe," - she replied. That was it for me. I (wanted to type "we") broke up with her. Painful stuff. She packed and left. 2 weeks after I found out that she went after this guy, I couldn't resist breaking NC and confronted her about this, if she really attempts to date him, she said "yes". And now they're probably dating. No social media activity, no flashing a new boyfriend, nothing. Secrecy. She lost attraction, went for something more exciting... I get it. It's not making things easier. I'm lost, hurt, confused. I binge watch your videos, but I get even more confused as I'm doing that. Do I want this person back? Do I not? It would butter my ego, but i want to let go. I wasn't respected, appreciated, not even talking about being loved. How do I recover?
I feel like theses videos give me unnecessary hope too. Might have caused me to hold on longer than I should. Over a year for me and nothing. Hearing success stories with dumper coming back within 6 months, relationship was much shorter, lower commitment, much more toxic. My ex fiancée mother was the cause of my breakup. I think, why didn't my girl come back?
@@rwentfordable At some point of binge watching all the videos on such channels I realized, that it's all about inner peace, healing and self improvement. If this person decided to leave me, that's fine! I'm not the one to make decisions for them. But I am responsible for me and my life, I am the one who can make me happy, joyful and peaceful. If they don't want to join me on this voyage, that's fine. I get it. I got closer to my friends, made new ones that support me, not the ex in a lousy rebound(though I still think she's s narc). And I'm so thankful to me for not keeping myself in misery and agony. Although it's tough, I keep moving forward. Making my life and the life of my closest better. I don't care if she comes back, I got shit to do right now. Try to stop giving it so much energy and aim it towards yourself and self-improvement. Something has to die, so that something new gets born.
My ex is very like borderline and he calls me a narcissist and believes it😂 he has more apathy and sensitivity than anyone I’ve ever met and gets mad at me for being empathetic.
I never had,any support from my ex or listened to so I'd lash out get drunk & send hurtful text's which i regret yet she still saw me had sex with me after ending our relationship after 8 weeks when i misunderstood her So i got toxic She didn't want to work things out with me yet kept seeing me . I miss her
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Dear Coach Craig,
This is a success story. Well I didn’t get my ex back (it’s been almost 2 years now), but I met someone else and things are going good so far. My new partner told me « you treat me differently than my previous relationships ». That’s where I knew my hard work is paying off.
Thank you so much coach. I now can see what you always tell us in the videos. I trust you with my love life.
many of us have come a very long way with you guys.. those of us hiding behind the text of comments are not putting ourselves on the forefront like you guys are.. I cannot say thank you enough
This is a fear of mine, though of course nothing I can do about it. Staying "toxic" is easier in a lot of ways than doing the work.
I strongly believe that the work of this channel is possibly more potent than most therapists but for people that do want to venture into seeing a therapist, the way I am thinking about it is to try a different therapist every week in your locality, and after you run out of different therapists to try in your area take notes of how you felt about each one along the way so then whichever one you hated the most lol or felt most difficult for you.. I feel that one would be the one to visit more often or steadily.. it might be best to find one that really works for you and work with them continually but it might also be just as beneficial to try different ones over and over to get a well-rounded view and then choose which way you will go coming from a place of experience.. and that's my two cents on that 😁
Don't mind me trying to channel my inner Margaret.. instead of blaming yourselves for everything.. remember that it's not good to tolerate abuse and blame shifting, sure we are responsible for our own healing, growth and behavior just as our partner or ex needs to take responsibility for their end of it, and rather than wording it as being able to regulate our emotions.. I see it as being able to stay true to ourselves rather than being overwhelmed by our anxiety, as the overwhelming anxiety is what drives us to do such "crazy"? or uncalled for behaviors.. if people will do the work towards healing and growth then they can become much more secure in their own truth and so the anxiety no longer has such an effect on us, it's great how they are pointing out in this video the value of seeking professional help.. and so they are pointing out how therapy is very important but even though I'm going to sound like a paid advertisement here.. I myself have done the workbooks two times through from this channel and so it is really a guidebook towards doing the work because a therapist does not actually help us, but they guide us so that we can help ourselves.. I believe I worded this pretty well, I'm still learning everyday.... every day
in every way I'm getting better and better 🙏
My ex was playing games and when I repeatedly pointed it out he eventually admitted that he wasn’t intentionally doing it. I was shocked that he realized it!
My ex has been in therapy for years and years. Doesn’t seem to help, I actually think she goes to therapy to get justification for her “triggers” and just does what she wants.
Same with my ex. Exactly.
I fill guilty of changing therapists because I have been with someone so long but I feel like I'm not being understood.. 😔
Great vidoe coaches! Miss Margaret's input.
woah you have a second channel ? like christmas morning
One of your best videos guys, lots of good ground covered
I'm somewhat worried that these videos might give me unnecessary hope. I broke up with my ex, because she was confused about me and another guy from work. We dated for 1,5 years, moved in together and got a pet. So she flirted with him and enjoyed his attention(she might be a narc), he fell in love with her and kissed her. She came clean about this wanting to be honest, but it hurt anyways. There was a fight, promises and pleading on her side and tough love on my side. I'm not a pushover, but I really tried to let it go and gave it a shot. Mostly it was a decline for 6 months with some happy moments. I guess she stayed out of guilt and I let her stay out of hope. Really loved her(maybe still do), tried to work on things. Sometimes, not all the time, memories of this event grabbed a hold of me and we fought again. And so by the end of 6th month, my relative got really sick, I needed her by my side, but she kept pulling away. I couldn't tolerate it, but kept insisting on if we love each other and want to be together, we can manage anything, she was lost and unsure(it looked like it). "Is it because you have feelings for this guy?" - I asked. "Maybe," - she replied. That was it for me. I (wanted to type "we") broke up with her. Painful stuff. She packed and left. 2 weeks after I found out that she went after this guy, I couldn't resist breaking NC and confronted her about this, if she really attempts to date him, she said "yes". And now they're probably dating. No social media activity, no flashing a new boyfriend, nothing. Secrecy. She lost attraction, went for something more exciting... I get it. It's not making things easier.
I'm lost, hurt, confused. I binge watch your videos, but I get even more confused as I'm doing that. Do I want this person back? Do I not? It would butter my ego, but i want to let go. I wasn't respected, appreciated, not even talking about being loved. How do I recover?
I feel like theses videos give me unnecessary hope too. Might have caused me to hold on longer than I should. Over a year for me and nothing. Hearing success stories with dumper coming back within 6 months, relationship was much shorter, lower commitment, much more toxic. My ex fiancée mother was the cause of my breakup. I think, why didn't my girl come back?
@@rwentfordable At some point of binge watching all the videos on such channels I realized, that it's all about inner peace, healing and self improvement. If this person decided to leave me, that's fine! I'm not the one to make decisions for them. But I am responsible for me and my life, I am the one who can make me happy, joyful and peaceful. If they don't want to join me on this voyage, that's fine. I get it.
I got closer to my friends, made new ones that support me, not the ex in a lousy rebound(though I still think she's s narc). And I'm so thankful to me for not keeping myself in misery and agony. Although it's tough, I keep moving forward. Making my life and the life of my closest better.
I don't care if she comes back, I got shit to do right now. Try to stop giving it so much energy and aim it towards yourself and self-improvement. Something has to die, so that something new gets born.
Staying toxic and dyafunctional is easier than doubg the work....
Craig sounded like a tiger 🐯 when he said Hi there ! 👋 😝
My ex is very like borderline and he calls me a narcissist and believes it😂 he has more apathy and sensitivity than anyone I’ve ever met and gets mad at me for being empathetic.
I never had,any support from my ex or listened to so I'd lash out get drunk & send hurtful text's which i regret yet she still saw me had sex with me after ending our relationship after 8 weeks when i misunderstood her
So i got toxic
She didn't want to work things out with me yet kept seeing me .
I miss her
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