I mean, an IP's focus is also on the individual as well. We tend to focus more on people as individuals rather than as groups. We're not just focused on ourselves.
I am in the middle of a split of my wife of 18 years. I am self typed as an ISTP. My wife had childhood trauma and I think she had a anxious attachment problem. I find I don't look exactly like the stereotype of an ISTP although I totally understand the type. I feel my wife and father both had similar issues and small amounts of stress brought out ultra controlling behavior that I can't take. The demands caused me to run myself into the ground and wrecked my health. I think I have identified them as likely EFXJ types. I want to make sure I understand what I am seeing to avoid running into the same problem in the future.
I think it's true for me, anyway. I need to be sure it's right for me before I commit, but also I want to have harmony, and once I'm in it, I tend to value the other person or group over myself. -INFJ I don't know my ex's type, but he's sort of like the IPs and EPs. He can jump into things, if it's something he (at least thinks he) wants, but it takes convincing for him to prioritize the group over himself. Once committed to group things, he usually stays with it, but not always. He also doesn't always follow through even with commitments he thought he really wanted for himself.
I’m also an IJ (INFJ type) and I noticed that when I was younger I used to make commitments relying heavily on my Fe. I did took into consideration my Ti, but I didn’t prioritized it at all so it was easier for me to just “ignore” it even when I knew deep inside it wasn’t completely right. People pleasing habits and all. It wasn’t until my 20s that I started to actually think to myself “is this what I truly need right now? How will it turn out for me?” I think it’s something that we learn with maturity.
If anyone has trouble following through on commitments, here are two things to consider that may help: 1, a broken promise is the same as a lie, literally. You said you would do/not do something, and then that wasn't true. And 2, don't bite off more than you can chew. Not overcommitting is probably the single biggest way a person can start to become more reliable if they have problems following through. Less load on your shoulders AND less to remember to keep track of. Then you can work your way back up with practice.
For your 1st point, I disagree. You said you could do something based on what you thought/believed at the time. The lie for me is acting like you can do something when you can't. I agree with your 2nd point, and that definitely takes work, especially when you skew to being optimistic in nature - an ENFP.
0:18 - EJ types
3:05 - IP types
5:27 - EP types
9:12 - IJ types
I mean, an IP's focus is also on the individual as well. We tend to focus more on people as individuals rather than as groups. We're not just focused on ourselves.
Thank you for that clarification ❤
Commitment to what exactly, serial monogamy, a job description, living on the right side of the law?
I think they are talking about commitment in general.
So...to answer your question, Yes.
I am in the middle of a split of my wife of 18 years. I am self typed as an ISTP. My wife had childhood trauma and I think she had a anxious attachment problem. I find I don't look exactly like the stereotype of an ISTP although I totally understand the type. I feel my wife and father both had similar issues and small amounts of stress brought out ultra controlling behavior that I can't take. The demands caused me to run myself into the ground and wrecked my health. I think I have identified them as likely EFXJ types. I want to make sure I understand what I am seeing to avoid running into the same problem in the future.
Joyce looks a little different in this thumbnail photo
I like the old Joyce Meng
That was Joyce in the thumbnail pic? Whoever it is she's a fox.
that's not Joyce in the thumbail imao
@@marci7906 I didn't think so. Still a fox though. 😂
Lol.
I think it's true for me, anyway. I need to be sure it's right for me before I commit, but also I want to have harmony, and once I'm in it, I tend to value the other person or group over myself. -INFJ
I don't know my ex's type, but he's sort of like the IPs and EPs. He can jump into things, if it's something he (at least thinks he) wants, but it takes convincing for him to prioritize the group over himself.
Once committed to group things, he usually stays with it, but not always. He also doesn't always follow through even with commitments he thought he really wanted for himself.
Definitely true for me as an intj. If Fi says no then I don’t commit to it, simple as.
I’m also an IJ (INFJ type) and I noticed that when I was younger I used to make commitments relying heavily on my Fe. I did took into consideration my Ti, but I didn’t prioritized it at all so it was easier for me to just “ignore” it even when I knew deep inside it wasn’t completely right.
People pleasing habits and all.
It wasn’t until my 20s that I started to actually think to myself “is this what I truly need right now? How will it turn out for me?”
I think it’s something that we learn with maturity.
If anyone has trouble following through on commitments, here are two things to consider that may help: 1, a broken promise is the same as a lie, literally. You said you would do/not do something, and then that wasn't true. And 2, don't bite off more than you can chew. Not overcommitting is probably the single biggest way a person can start to become more reliable if they have problems following through. Less load on your shoulders AND less to remember to keep track of. Then you can work your way back up with practice.
For your 1st point, I disagree. You said you could do something based on what you thought/believed at the time. The lie for me is acting like you can do something when you can't. I agree with your 2nd point, and that definitely takes work, especially when you skew to being optimistic in nature - an ENFP.
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