@@nessawithsmiles God IS a God of mercy yes! However don't get that confused with the consequences of certain actions. There are STILL consequences. God's Word lets us know that.. *If u sow to the flesh you'll reap corruption..
LadyD I can agree that people reap what they sow. But there have been times for example where I did not sow by studying for my exams, yet God has allowed me to get the highest grade in the class. I believe God can do the same in many scenarios. Some people who were players end up getting saved and God wipes their sin and their skate completely clean as though they had never done any wrong in their life. All I’m saying is that many people may be waiting for someone to pay the price for their actions.. and truthfully it’s possible that they never will and in fact, will end up super successful and in a loving and faithful relationship thanks to God alone. God chooses how he wants to deliver his grace, mercy and blessings. There is no hard and fast formula.
How is his manhood I'm question because he doesn't want to marry one of these masculine, disrespectful, entitled, promiscuous women?.. I take care of myself, I make my own money. Why do I have to marry someone to be called a man? Why am I a (grown boy) because I don't see the benefits of marrying women these days? Women initiate approximately 80% of divorces. And approximately 90% of court cases are won by women.. I don't see the benefit of marriage in today's society.
@Rochelle carmel you're right. When i made this comment I was in a much different space. Not all women are like that. Although I still don't think marriage is a mark of manhood. I think that if you find a good woman with morals and standards, you should marry her. Thanks for commenting and sharing your perspective.
Because a good woman means he's going to have to work. He's got to put in effort. He's going to have to give a f*** . He doesn't want to do that. That isn't a man that's a boy.
True. They want good wives but don't wanna put In the work to be good husbands. A man came to me saying he needs a good wife in his life and I asked if He acts like husband material. Cus he doesn't
Very true, my ex said he want to start the life with whoever can start now more than he want to be with me. The reason being is I am too difficult to get and he does not want to put the effort in anymore. I said “just do it and I love you, I wish you the best” I love him so much even though we are not compatible and he treated me badly at times. Loving someone is not always keeping them and fix them to align with you but letting go of him and let him meet the person that he wants. I am so heartbroken that we do not understand each other and always end up in fighting mode. But, I have to let that person go to get me back and make him happy ❤
Marriage requires a level of maturity that a lot of men just have not reached yet. Marrying an immature man will make your life a living hell and make you disbelieve the joy that marriage really can be. Don't be a good woman that attaches herself to a bad man...you are not responsible for fixing, saving or helping any man. Bad company will corrupt your good character.
A man chooses a not so good woman because he is not a good so man. He is looking for someone not so good just like him and women choose them because they are thirsty and low self-esteem and pick up low standard men. On point Tony 💯👌😁
@@larkford4460 I'm a work in progress. I have some healing to do and I'm on a spiritually journey with God. Thanks to Tony Gaskins Academy I've completed two courses and I'm on my way.
@DestinyB I truly admire your response to Lark. Shows class & integrity in your demeanor. This is exactly how immature "boys" should be addressed, and simultaneously dismissed 😂👏👏👏 Kudos to you 💖🌹🌹🌹 P.S women see through RHETORICAL Insults...even though you disguise them as questions 😂 Silly rabbits...Trix are for kids! 😂😂
I used to think something is wrong with me for having morals. You've answered this question so well. No one could ever break it down this way. Thank you Tony 💐
Me too, I use to sit down and talk to him, and he use to tell me , well everybody don’t think 🤔 like you cheriee. He made me feel weird just because I have morals.
@@chynadoll77cyn59 They are so good at covering up. They end up with a girl that you know belongs to everyone 😂 but you get so confused like what just happened 🤔😐🤣
Same here. I even started blaming my parents for raising me with such high standards AND started worrying about how my kids will struggle like I am, in a world of such low moral standards. But! May we never lower our standards just to fit in 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
So on point. I’ve spoken to several men in my travels who have told me the reason they are with their spouses is because they know they will tolerate their mess. They’ve all cheated. On the flip side I’ve dated men who have even told me they loved me but were not ready to be with a woman “like me”. I thanked them. They saved me a lot of wasted tine!
Teach us: "Marriage makes us appear complete"... so true. This is why the married man is so appealing. My ex-husband's mistress thought the world of him until I let go and he became completely hers. Then she realized the mess she had inherited.
I had an epiphany recently that just because you see two people married does not mean it's a good marriage. That made me feel good about continuing on doing the work, so I can attract someone like myself. Healthy, loving, emotionally intelligent, caring, etc. This video was confirmation. Thanks Tony!
A very true message ladies! Don’t be excited to be with a man that tries to rush the relationship forward without properly vetting him. He’s probably trying to find a woman to have on paper but not in morals love or respects. Don’t be so desperate for the RING! Cause that ring will eventually feel like a CHAIN!
U must have been a fly on my wall..I was in that situation..Lets get married...Wht Married? Hunny U have to Man up..I want a Ring but I aint rushin to shack up with a man that think 🍆 gon pay a Bill..No Sir I pass 😃😄
Smh y’all are confusing. One minute you say leave a man that’s taking his time moving forward with you. Next you say leave a man that’s rushing it. Confused ass people don’t know what they want
I am so glad I ran across this video. For years and years and years I have been single and could not understand why men do not approach me or why I'm still single. But now I realize that it will take a very special man who actually wants to be faithful, wants a hard-working woman, a classy woman, and he is the type of man who wants to be a husband. I used to get so upset when I see women who are dressed provocative or cussing their man out or dress like they don't even care that they're outside and they have some of the cutest finest men. Especially with my career I see it every single day. Women with no job nothing to offer nothing at all, but have a man who will work and take care of them and they are doing the bare minimum as well. It's difficult when there are women out there who will settle for less and it makes it easier for certain men not to have to work hard. But there's a lid to every pot and my man is coming. Excellent video I really needed to hear it because I couldn't understand why. But it's very true...a man who is not ready to be a man will settle for a woman who is on his level.
Absolutely! Getting old is inevitable; growing up is optional. Grown boys suffer with the "Peter pan syndrome" they refuse to give up their immaturity and toys. A good marriage requires specific responsibilities & specific accountability.
After 7 years, you clarified something I wasn't aware of. This man came to me with the illusion of love and all good things when in reality he was batterd, broken and hurt. He took advantage of my battered broken and hurt heart. my parents abandoned me long ago because they too were broken. but I will not stay stuck in either story. I will rise up and find that unconditional love for myself so that I can one day find a man worthy of me. Thank you so very much for being the light. Amen
Blessings hope you were able to move forward from this situation. I'm in a situationship and I know and desire more. It's my sons father too so it really don't make it easier. I gotta learn my self worth and embrace self love
The accuracy...I am that woman who was broken, kind hearted, and married a grown boy. I found myself again, starting setting hard boundaries, and so the separation has commenced. I’m hurt and disappointed in myself for believing those lies he told.
Kytkah please know you are not alone. You are in the company of many very good and incredibly beautiful women (and men, I’m sure). Please don’t beat yourself up although I realize it’s a process for getting over the hurt and disappointment you are feeling in yourself. It is clearly evident by your comment that you are learning and that is what makes you truly incredible and worthy ♥️
You will overcome, with all of God's grace! I got divorced from my Narcissistic ex-husband of 5 years, best decision I ever made! Bought my house and finally found peace. Biblical Peace. Look forward.
For anyone wanting to get married, I am married and I wish to God, I wouldn’t have married him. He’s a narcissist and I didn’t see the signs. I might as well be single because I’m home alone, but he won’t give me a divorce so he gets to go do what he wants and I got a ring and a certificate. Big deal.
Harley Quinn damn I was with a narcissistic ass guy and he would be out all nite as well !! I left his cheating ass! What’s going on with these grown ass boys these days smh
Yola Mayo I am leaving him. He’s just awful and spiteful. He won’t cooperate because he knows it’s a longer and more expensive process to get a divorce without his cooperation. Control freak!
I have a plethora of men in my family who are very successful, good looking and considered to be the full package but will marry a thot in a second. My sister and I realized early on that it had everything to do with their own insecurities and low self esteem. But It all started with them witnessing the womanizing lifestyle of our father. He was also the full package if you looked on the surface, but he didn’t chose a thot, he chose a good woman who didn’t truly love herself. The men in my family are also known to prey upon good women who don’t understand their worth. Because a good woman will also accept and excuse bad behavior if she isn’t fully healed from whatever trauma or heartbreak she experienced in her life.
@Asia Henry I had to raise my son as a single parent when my ex husband and my sister decided to go after each other but he later married another woman who had 3 children. The day after our divorce and she abused my son! I put her straight on that. My son gave his life to Jesus of his own free will at 10 but my narcisst parents and siblings and ex husband threatened him about what would happen to him if he continued. But I raised him to respect women. From when he was a child adult men and women wanted him to go to their house to discipline their children. He had 140 people to his wedding his wife also comes from a broken home but I am so proud of them they truely love each other and they are spectacular parents to my 2 grandchildren. I decided when I was a baby how I wanted to be as a person I knew I wanted to be a Christian my parents and siblings are wolves in sheep's clothing they have decided thousands by their charm. I also decided how I wanted to treat people and how I wanted to raise my children whilst I was just 17 months old so yes you can decide how you want to act Even as a child but even Jesus said in the world you will have trouble and persecution but He said be of good cheer when they do that and all kinds of evil against you because He overcome the world. I am proud of my family it's my daughter in Law's birthday today I can't see them because they live 2000 km away in Qld I live in Adelaide South Australia. I am praying and having faith for a Christian husband of exceptional spirit Daniel 6:3 and that I be a Christian wife of Nobel character Proverbs 31:10-31 that's why I listen to Tony and Pastor RC Blake's jnr on UA-cam because they were once womanisers and turned their life around and married Proverbs 31:10-31 wives that gives me comfort and hope
So true, I know many “good” men that has married a thot.Thots seems to be winning these days, I’m starting to question what’s the point of being a well put together good woman if all I ever get is cheated on and hurt and left single. I might as well be the thot.
Thank you for covering this topic. The world will really have quality women out here thinking that there’s something wrong with having morals, values and standards. I’m not creating a family around dysfunction. This content is affirming - thank you ♥️
A barber in his early 50's in my hood, revealed to me that he is a grown boy. He said that men can identify a good woman; and a man who refuses to grow up will dog the good woman out, and will chase after the loose women. He said that he wants to settle down, and knows what marriage will require him to sacrifice and give up, but he doesnt want to because it's too costly for him. He said that the loose women he dates, he dont even take them to his apartment, he takes them to hotels when he wants to have his sexual rendezvous.
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e yes he is! Tony Gaskins is doing the same thing. Keeping it real and educating single women on how different types of men think & behave. Ignorance nowadays is a choice.
Just because dusty and pickmiesha got married doesn't mean they are winning. Lol when you play stupid games you win stupid prizes.. my ex though he was better off because he found a girl with low self esteem and no self respect to marry him lol. I dodged a bullet for real! Thank the Lord!
A man that is with a no good woman is not a good man. He doesn't want to be held accountable. Just because he's tall, dark, handsome, own house, own car, and has money doesn't mean he's a man. He's just a grown boy. UNBELIEVABLE.
Good women don’t play games , have phone tricks and don’t listen. That’s they’re first issue. A Good Woman is mature emotionally mentally and physically.
Excellent teaching! There are so many men that seek to lay down with a woman instead of getting to know her. In fact, they always stop speaking to me because they can't get what they want. Grown boys, definitely.
This explained exactly what happened to me. His mother did not raise him to be responsible. He married me for the reason you explained. When I held him accountable of being responsible too many times he decided to bail out of the marriage with his mother's help. Thank you for this Mr. Gaskins. You have helped me to understand what I went through. Thank you.
This really hit home a lot of the guys I have dealt with ended up with women who emasculate them, cuss em out and dont mind jumping on him, and busting they windows out. Well they can have em cuz I dont want a man who stays and tolerates that type of abuse like its ok. I don't do drama😁
We also have to consider that we live in a society where men aren't held accountable for what they do compared to women. When men go out and have a side woman, I noticed the woman gets blamed for the whole ordeal. I think it's a problem dealing with bad people period when you are trying to live right and be a good person.
Teach Tony! I had a guy that I figured out was attracted to me and starting pursuing me. He was involved with a loose woman and ghosted once we began to talk. Not going to lie it stung at first but I am so glad for Godly standards that I won't compromise on. I am waiting on the Lord to send a mature man.
This explains a lot about how some men including my ex, kept going back to his ex as she is everything you stated and the opposite of me! Thank you Tony ‘Be Blessed, Blessed Tribe’ 😎
I had 3 of those grown boys. They THOUGHT I was weak..and clearly had been warned. Each time I left a relationship..it was a far better improvement to my situation and I can't tell you any one of them today that are living is in a better situation since going our separate ways.. They miss their loss..and it hurts them to see how much better off I am. Their hurt because I made it without them or either they couldn't accomplish making me into their victims..crawling in behind their sorry butts!
Just my opinion The reason why some men are not mature enough they dont love, respect, value themselves lack of father figure and not ready mentally, spiritually emotionally and financially. You right tony he don't want to be accountable. Ladies we can't change beg or build a grown immature boy into a real mature men thats not our job we can give him good positive advice, pray and encourage him but if men want to change they have to work on themselves to do better. If men don't want or see a good woman right in front of him then he is blind and that is he's lost ladies he is not for us and we need to move on. Men need to take time to heal, learn, grow, love, respect, forgive and focus on God and focus on themselves.God bless everyone. Thank you God and tony for this message. 👍👍👏👏
So true..this married guy confirmed it. Him: you can get it anytime you want it Me: nah, I'll fall in love with you Him: no you won't Me: yes I will...women are weak Him: I know... When he said that I knew he was in the work place looking for single desperate women. A man who doesn't respect his wife is trash. That's it that's the main thing I want you to take from my comment. Love yourself enough to know you deserve to be respected. You shouldn't want a man that's willing to do such things as sleep around on his wife. It's some hurt people in this world...and as the old saying goes, "hurt people, hurt people" pCe love & blessings ❤💫
Some of us just have to reach a point where we know who we are and our worth. Self worth and self efficacy enables you to not question why doesn’t a man want a good woman. We don’t give a flip if you don’t because there’s someone out there who will. We give away too much power and too much free p. There’s been wars started because of women and here you are crying about one man not validating you. Please stop, Sis. You only get one life. You better ride it until the brakes falls off. It will be over before you know it. Get out there and own your life. Ppl like confidence too! Aiight...I’m out LOL
Your brilliant! That's how I think too. Their is far too many women and men who become depressed and angry and suicidal because their relationship didn't work out. I've been abused and abandoned since I was a baby and I am 62 but their is no way I am going to become what others want me to become and that's depressed and angry and suicidal just ain't gonna happen no I am happy. Having fun and laughing and being joyful constantly because I set it as a notice alarm on my mobile it goes of 24 hrs a day. It's a constant desicion that combines with constant actions. Result Positive emotions. Jesus wants us to rejoice always you can't lead anyone depressed even yourself because you just would keep going round in circles never going forward
Tony, I have skipped over this video for months bcuz I thought I knew why men don't choose good women, but you really put everything into perspective. Omg, I'm that good women who ended a 6 year relationship bcuz he all of a sudden decided he didn't want marriage? He knew all along, he wanted a good time n dragged me along. I take responsibility on my part, wanted a husband n did everything like a wife, but with no real commitment? You videos helped me not to go back. He's mad n believe he has moved on with other women. It hurts, but now I'm understanding the why, the real why! We put our standards down for love n hope, now I see if they not growing n making moves, they r not good men...I'm healing bcuz of ur videos of honesty that he doesn't want me n that's good! Preparing for my husband who is going to walk up to me saying, Hi wife! N I will know he's my husband...thanks Tony!
Thank you sooooo much I gave him 10 yrs travel 4 hours to visit him for 2 yrs. got tired moved in , Now he treat me like shit, I’m just trying to stay strong 💪 working in moving out his house “ Just wanted to say the info you gave was needed thank you n God bless
You are speaking truth and facts. I've seen these type of relationships and marriages and once they over. I've heard all tyoes of things that went on in that union or relationship. Bringing other women into the mix etc...So I never compare what someone else have because I never know what that women is doing to keep him or going through. What's for me will be for me!
ANGIE FOY if it’s not then so be it!! But it’s his loss!! He’ll realize it sooner than later but in the mean time LOOK DAM GOOD!! Outside and Inside! Take care of you first!! Then watch God work!!
Yes me as well, my divorce was final in June, i was not going to accept his lying and cheating so i divorced him, this married woman he left me for is putting him through hell...what goes around comes around...
@Robin D. Yes, thank you, he sent me an Instagram follow request and i was like why???we are divorced now and he is still seeing this married woman he left me for....the grass was not greener like he thought it was....
Agree. Just think of that woman and the "prize" that she "won". Better yet, think of all the control, disrespect and lack that she will experience by being with him.
WOW!!! By far, the most valuable 14 minutes of answers to questions I've been asking myself for 4 years. I've been thinking a lot of the same stuff you've talked about, but hearing a MAN confirm them has put the lid on it. I felt good about sending it to my X, who has recently gotten engaged. Now he knows, that I know, what really caused the breakdown of our relationship, and why he picked the "lesser", look-alike version of me.
"Women who have thrown their self-respect and their class out the windows getting married ,do not feel that you need to do the same to be able to get married..."....Nice,nice...Thanks alot...
Very enlightening. That makes me take it as a compliment that he walked away . I literally said that we broke up because he didn't want to be held accountable for the damage that he had done and be responsible for repairing it or be accountable for any more of the bull that he was doing. He even agreed that we broke up over things that could've been fixed, yet he chose not to fix anything . I know it was him and not me . When I hear commentary like this it brings resolve
I wholeheartedly agree with you Tony. I've said this, what people or men do not understand is that the woman they choose to marry is a reflection of himself. A lot of men today have no standards and they do not know what a good woman looks like. It's all about the quality. I don't get mad at these mix match couples, I just shake my head.
This was a must listen for me. I was struggling with this until now. My breakup is fresh, I just ended a relationship of 3 years with a man that I thought was my friend. He started opening a little bit but pulled back and started back having a relationship with his baby's mother. Well let him tell it, they didn't have nothing going on. But anyway. He couldn't set boundaries when it came to the mother of his child and I wasn't willing to be butt hurt every time her name came up. I am struggling now with that decision but I will not go back even if he wanted that. He showed me the man he was and I didn't like what I saw. He didn't want to set boundaries and I want a man that can set boundaries with relationships. I love your messages and I am that woman that is constantly working on self. I have been on my job 9 years and 3 years ago I started my own business. It was him that gave me the motivation and I thank him for that. thank you for all that you do and your wife should start a channel too
Be blessed!! I know imma good woman for a short period I felt like maybe I'm just not good enough for him. But then I realized that he wasn't good enough for me. God has a MAN for me not a grown boy.
Thank you so much!! I have been going through this for the past 3 months with a guy I just broke up with. He had me so bamboozled, I thought I was crazy. He never admitted to any of the lies I caught him in. He would completely flip them on me and tell me I'm insecure! I'm so glad hearing this information from a GOOD MAN. Now I know in my gut I was right the entire time and this "grown boy" will no longer have access to me ever again.
I have come to the realization that me working on myself first and foremost is one of the most important things that I can do. Focusing on continuously developing my relationship with Christ, and building my relationship with my son is one of the most important things I can do in Jesus name. I don't want to be caught up in the pain of the men not choosing to love me, or with what the men will not do in order to heal for themselves. I want to focus on praying for them and loving them as God say I should love them. But not focusing on a relationship with a man in the manner that I used to.
Yep. One of my aunt's went on and on about how good my ex was, and how even my uncle said he was a good guy. I was like child please. Lol. Honey I almost lost my mind trying to stay with me. Because he was so abusive psychologically and emotionally behind closed doors for the most part. I was concerned about what people thought initially. Then the Lord allowed me to come to myself. I'm grateful to God that He brought me out of that, and I pray I don't return to those type of relationships in Jesus name. I pray I continue to know that I deserve better, and that God have better for me in Jesud name. Those that wait on the Lord shall renew their strength. Wait on Him y'all in the name of Jesus.
Good qualities doesn’t make an all the way GOOD women. I’m still young, don’t have it all yet but everyday striving for more but I have a heart of gold, I’m a supporter, a listening ear, a healer, faithful, cook, very low key. Every woman thinks they’re a good woman but you truly feel it when you are. We just have to be strong and wait on our days. Keep your standards up ladies!
Right on time I was thinking about this topic today and asking this same question to the Lord earlier, he really used you to answer my question. God bless you Tony.
Thank you for calling a Spade a Spade. Amazing, things are not always a they appear. Let's stand up for ourselves ladies. We want a man who loves himself and loves a woman who has Standards.
I felt like God permitted me to watch this video because he talks through many ways! I had all those questions and sometimes shared with my friends, but never got answered! They didn't know either why bad girls get married good men or vice- versa! I talked to God with tears and asked why thousand of times. I was watching this video like my daughter watching frozen two; she won't hear you even if you called her hundred times.😂 Now I got the reason why! Thank you so much. God bless you too.
Wow to hear this come out the mouth of a man is such a blessing thnk u brother for shedding light on this. U confirmed wht I was thinking about this very situation/ topic and it makes so much sense. Im a good woman with strong values and I just went through a same situation. We r no longer together because he wasn't willing to show up in my life like I wanted so it had to end. He wasn't right for me,
Thank you so much for making and posting this video. All that you’ve said in here answers so many questions I’ve had about a particular guy and the other person he chose to marry, and why he acted so mean & cruelly towards me when I continued to hold him accountable for his actions. Thank you again. (Puzzle solved.). 🧩👍🙏🏻😇
You are what you attract, you can’t save everyone some folks don’t wanna be saved from their own problems . 💁🏾♀️ Just because you’re married don’t mean you’re happy it’s just for appearances for a look or an image for superficial reasons. It’s not genuine or sincere. No matter how much someone puts up a front. That’s why I want something that’s real not artificial or fake. Good chemistry 🧪 is what’s important plus in spiritual alignment with you. Not every spirit/vibe will mix well with yours.
I CAN'T THANK YOU ENOUGH FOR THESE VIDEOS TONY. MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE AND FAMILY MANY TIMES OVER. MAY GOD KEEP YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES SAFE. AMEN
Why don't those type of men remain on their own until they are truly sure in what they want . I believe its a ego thing of thinking that he can always get better than what he has. And men are always sexual and this is when GOD steps in because the brother is still in that sin nature and he don't have any resistance against those feeling. And to be- honest women goes through the same things. And to do things through self will we can't its going too take GOD TOO STEP IN AND MAKE THE SITUATION RIGHT. AND ALSO SOME OF IT IS COMMON SENSE AS WELL. AND I KNOW MY TIME IS COMING SOON BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP FOR ALONG TIME BUT I NEEDED THAT SPACE TO REGROUP MYSELF. AND TO GROW AND TOO LEARN AND TO NOT TO MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES I HAVE MADE IN THE PAST.
It's that they want to be the centre of attention always that's actually God's place alone and they want to sin and not be accountable but they want us to hop on the sin train too especially if you're a Christian. Because then they throw it back in our face. I am never going to tempt you to sin because I am deliberately trying to not sin. If you don't stop sinning God will hand you over to your depravity He won't come in and do a Saul to Paul transformation because we are living in the end times. My mother wouldn't stop sinning so God handed her over to her mental insanity I went no contact and have not looked back those wolves in sheep's clothing father and siblings were then stuck with it they didn't know what to do. Their in showing their wolves also the other true Christians were also not doing the right thing because they naively believed she is a Christian. Meanwhile another woman who actually is a true Christian who had bipolar syndrome like my mother she got miraculously healed because she studied the scriptures went to the pastors had faith and was rewarded for her faith and it's medically proven by multiple doctors. So again stop sinning God is not going to do your job for you. Tony Gaskins was a womanisers so was pastor RC Blake's jnr but they stopped sinning and God gave them their reward of Godly proverbs 31:10-31 wives and Godly children and pastor Blake's jnr has Godly grandchildren and is blessing their ministries and blessing us God led us to them! God bless you and your family and work love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia
You have hit the nail square on the head! 100%! Believe every word, ladies and try to know what joy, happiness, peace and fulfillment you can truly have in yourself and with people in your life who are truly good. God bless 🙏
Thank you for this!!!!! I have ALWAYS wanted to know the answer to this question. It was what I thought but you got more in depth with it. There was HEALING IN YOUR ANSWER!!!!!
Just Broke Up with my sons father is so hard but He was lying and cheating. Your Videos are helping me to go through My truth; mistajes I did too.God bless
Thank you Tony...you have shed light on a problem so many of us good women agonize over. I now can look at this through new eyes...and I'm grateful!! May god continue to bless you and your truthful work.
This is what i needed to hear. 14 years i am coping and figuren out what is wrong with him! I holding him accountable for his behaviour many times! I knew he is an insecure man, plus we have an age difference of 17 y. Talked to him many times, so much i got fad up myself. Even 4 years ago we split up 'cause of act of his daughter... many times if he still ghost me i say you are an addult man!!! You cant let your daughter make out with who you have a relationship!!! Since he got addicted too at alcohol and cocaïne i tried to make him going to a clinic. He doesnt want to, is ashamed for family. I sad are you not ashamed when they see you drunk etc???!!! His behaviour got more and more bad towards me. Calling me names, got on internet searching for woman.... and he still come at my door! Say 98% i did not open the door saying if he wants to talk to be sober! But he never does. I went not even to the door. After a long time i thought to let him talk. The only thing he wants is sex! There was 1 time he came sober. So i said my things. What i wanted of him, he has to change, get rid of addictions, and i never let him in anymore to talk if he is not sober! Next time when i get my chance i will confront him what i learned in this video. Plus if he never is going to change, i never ever going to speak to him and he must never come at my door again !!!!!!
We're living in a time now whereby these kinds of women go after the man whereby a a morally good woman won't. This is making men passive with out them knowing it and I won't go into what all of this can led to. I also here people say hurt people hurt other people this is true sometimes but not all of the time because if that was the case then I should be hurting almost everyone that I ever met
I truly understand how she feels. But our time will come. They’re not looking for a good woman they’re looking for a good time.
Glamrocs Makeup ...or are looking for a 'bad time' after God gets finished with them.
Antoinita Violette God has grace and mercy for everyone. God may allow them to find their soulmate and never suffer the consequences of their actions.
Yup
@@nessawithsmiles God IS a God of mercy yes! However don't get that confused with the consequences of certain actions. There are STILL consequences. God's Word lets us know that.. *If u sow to the flesh you'll reap corruption..
LadyD I can agree that people reap what they sow. But there have been times for example where I did not sow by studying for my exams, yet God has allowed me to get the highest grade in the class. I believe God can do the same in many scenarios. Some people who were players end up getting saved and God wipes their sin and their skate completely clean as though they had never done any wrong in their life. All I’m saying is that many people may be waiting for someone to pay the price for their actions.. and truthfully it’s possible that they never will and in fact, will end up super successful and in a loving and faithful relationship thanks to God alone. God chooses how he wants to deliver his grace, mercy and blessings. There is no hard and fast formula.
LADIES LISTEN 🗣YOU CAN’T FORCE A GROWN BOY TO BE A MAN.
*PERIOD* 😔
How is his manhood I'm question because he doesn't want to marry one of these masculine, disrespectful, entitled, promiscuous women?.. I take care of myself, I make my own money. Why do I have to marry someone to be called a man? Why am I a (grown boy) because I don't see the benefits of marrying women these days? Women initiate approximately 80% of divorces. And approximately 90% of court cases are won by women.. I don't see the benefit of marriage in today's society.
Facts smh sad
Real talk!!
@Rochelle carmel you're right. When i made this comment I was in a much different space. Not all women are like that. Although I still don't think marriage is a mark of manhood. I think that if you find a good woman with morals and standards, you should marry her. Thanks for commenting and sharing your perspective.
Because a good woman means he's going to have to work. He's got to put in effort. He's going to have to give a f*** . He doesn't want to do that. That isn't a man that's a boy.
Preach !
True. They want good wives but don't wanna put In the work to be good husbands. A man came to me saying he needs a good wife in his life and I asked if He acts like husband material. Cus he doesn't
I needed to hear this so badly today❤️. Thank you
I wish I can circle ⭕️ this, I never looked at it like that
Very true, my ex said he want to start the life with whoever can start now more than he want to be with me. The reason being is I am too difficult to get and he does not want to put the effort in anymore. I said “just do it and I love you, I wish you the best” I love him so much even though we are not compatible and he treated me badly at times. Loving someone is not always keeping them and fix them to align with you but letting go of him and let him meet the person that he wants. I am so heartbroken that we do not understand each other and always end up in fighting mode. But, I have to let that person go to get me back and make him happy ❤
If a man is no good then he should only go after no good women and leave us good women alone.
Stacey Sims Amen !!!! I know I gotta chose better and cut stuff off sooner! I blame them and me 😂
The challenge is that people want good things WITHOUT being worthy. Some men operate this way as well.
facts
This!!!!👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Pest comes into the homes of both the good and the not so good. So take precautions accordingly.
Marriage requires a level of maturity that a lot of men just have not reached yet. Marrying an immature man will make your life a living hell and make you disbelieve the joy that marriage really can be. Don't be a good woman that attaches herself to a bad man...you are not responsible for fixing, saving or helping any man. Bad company will corrupt your good character.
Well said Mr Tony.
Amen
Amen
Yes Ma'am!
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I enjoy, my own company, it's a piece of mind
Maryann Gray *peace
Maryann Gray sorry I had to be petty 😂😂
Esther I...you grammar police 😂😂
Maryann Gray yes same here. I enjoy being single almost too much. Not sure if I want to ever change that
@@estheri5944 lol...im with you. I was about to write up a citation👮🏿♂️ but you beat me to it😅😅😅
A good woman is also a strong woman, exactly!
Facts!!!
The truth!!!
i love women.always will.when you love someone,you feel that energy,love will always prevail.
i agree.a good woman is a strong woman.
Just seems easier to stay single most days. Smh
Beautyby Nisia tell me about it!!
Real Talk!!😘🤗😊
@@legal_beagle5294 The energy it takes...🙄
@@evamcinnis7992 facts....unfortunate facts lol smh
😂 honestly 😭.
I will be content in being single and to wait for the right man, than to go through hell with the wrong one. I will never settle again.
Amen
A man chooses a not so good woman because he is not a good so man. He is looking for someone not so good just like him and women choose them because they are thirsty and low self-esteem and pick up low standard men. On point Tony 💯👌😁
*ABSOLUTELY* ☝
Lack of good raising ...
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So true
So many men haven't been raised just grown-up but not real men!
@LadyD Exactly!
Are you a real woman?
@@larkford4460 I'm a work in progress. I have some healing to do and I'm on a spiritually journey with God. Thanks to Tony Gaskins Academy I've completed two courses and I'm on my way.
@DestinyB I truly admire your response to Lark. Shows class & integrity in your demeanor. This is exactly how immature "boys" should be addressed, and simultaneously dismissed 😂👏👏👏
Kudos to you 💖🌹🌹🌹
P.S women see through RHETORICAL Insults...even though you disguise them as questions 😂
Silly rabbits...Trix are for kids! 😂😂
@@vibingchakras Thanks and classy is the best way to respond. I've taught myself how to be emotional intelligent.
I used to think something is wrong with me for having morals. You've answered this question so well. No one could ever break it down this way. Thank you Tony 💐
Me too, I use to sit down and talk to him, and he use to tell me , well everybody don’t think 🤔 like you cheriee. He made me feel weird just because I have morals.
@@chynadoll77cyn59 They are so good at covering up. They end up with a girl that you know belongs to everyone 😂 but you get so confused like what just happened 🤔😐🤣
Same here. I even started blaming my parents for raising me with such high standards AND started worrying about how my kids will struggle like I am, in a world of such low moral standards. But! May we never lower our standards just to fit in 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@princesssophiawise3560 it's still a struggle we are yet to figure out 🙁
My ex told me he doesn't know anyone else like me who cares to have high morals...
He doesn’t want a good woman, because he’s not a good man. You just didn’t know it. Not of equal YOKE.
So on point. I’ve spoken to several men in my travels who have told me the reason they are with their spouses is because they know they will tolerate their mess. They’ve all cheated. On the flip side I’ve dated men who have even told me they loved me but were not ready to be with a woman “like me”. I thanked them. They saved me a lot of wasted tine!
Agreed, on the wasted time.
Sameeee👏👏
Teach us: "Marriage makes us appear complete"... so true. This is why the married man is so appealing. My ex-husband's mistress thought the world of him until I let go and he became completely hers. Then she realized the mess she had inherited.
Wanting a good woman requires you to be a good man !
Absolute Facts
Thank you. This is the kind of clarity that many women need to hear; it's not you, its him.
100%
I had an epiphany recently that just because you see two people married does not mean it's a good marriage. That made me feel good about continuing on doing the work, so I can attract someone like myself. Healthy, loving, emotionally intelligent, caring, etc.
This video was confirmation.
Thanks Tony!
He chooses someone that is just like him. I see it all the time. Way to much drama to be with a boy and not a man.
Facts!!! They got their counterparts!!!!
Fact!
A very true message ladies! Don’t be excited to be with a man that tries to rush the relationship forward without properly vetting him. He’s probably trying to find a woman to have on paper but not in morals love or respects. Don’t be so desperate for the RING! Cause that ring will eventually feel like a CHAIN!
Nicole Cherry, Powerful statement!
U must have been a fly on my wall..I was in that situation..Lets get married...Wht Married? Hunny U have to Man up..I want a Ring but I aint rushin to shack up with a man that think 🍆 gon pay a Bill..No Sir I pass 😃😄
Smh y’all are confusing. One minute you say leave a man that’s taking his time moving forward with you. Next you say leave a man that’s rushing it. Confused ass people don’t know what they want
We want balance
Suffer-RING🤣
I am so glad I ran across this video. For years and years and years I have been single and could not understand why men do not approach me or why I'm still single. But now I realize that it will take a very special man who actually wants to be faithful, wants a hard-working woman, a classy woman, and he is the type of man who wants to be a husband. I used to get so upset when I see women who are dressed provocative or cussing their man out or dress like they don't even care that they're outside and they have some of the cutest finest men. Especially with my career I see it every single day. Women with no job nothing to offer nothing at all, but have a man who will work and take care of them and they are doing the bare minimum as well. It's difficult when there are women out there who will settle for less and it makes it easier for certain men not to have to work hard. But there's a lid to every pot and my man is coming. Excellent video I really needed to hear it because I couldn't understand why. But it's very true...a man who is not ready to be a man will settle for a woman who is on his level.
I came across his video and i have learned so much from Tony. Now seeing how a man thinks and his tricks.
I thought I was the only one who felt like this. Thank you for summarizing it so beautifully! ❤ You’ll find someone great!
Absolutely! Getting old is inevitable; growing up is optional. Grown boys suffer with the "Peter pan syndrome" they refuse to give up their immaturity and toys. A good marriage requires specific responsibilities & specific accountability.
Very few good men-I am a successful spiritual woman with morals and standards .
“They weren’t raised - they just grew up” - amazing!!! 👏🏼
After 7 years, you clarified something I wasn't aware of. This man came to me with the illusion of love and all good things when in reality he was batterd, broken and hurt. He took advantage of my battered broken and hurt heart. my parents abandoned me long ago because they too were broken. but I will not stay stuck in either story. I will rise up and find that unconditional love for myself so that I can one day find a man worthy of me. Thank you so very much for being the light. Amen
Blessings hope you were able to move forward from this situation. I'm in a situationship and I know and desire more. It's my sons father too so it really don't make it easier. I gotta learn my self worth and embrace self love
The accuracy...I am that woman who was broken, kind hearted, and married a grown boy. I found myself again, starting setting hard boundaries, and so the separation has commenced. I’m hurt and disappointed in myself for believing those lies he told.
Kytkah
Been there too. Hold your head up, dear one. Keep your focus on the Great I am.
@aprilmurray thank you for the encouragement. No one can stop the Great I Am. No one. He is already fighting battles.
Kytkah please know you are not alone. You are in the company of many very good and incredibly beautiful women (and men, I’m sure). Please don’t beat yourself up although I realize it’s a process for getting over the hurt and disappointment you are feeling in yourself. It is clearly evident by your comment that you are learning and that is what makes you truly incredible and worthy ♥️
You will overcome, with all of God's grace! I got divorced from my Narcissistic ex-husband of 5 years, best decision I ever made! Bought my house and finally found peace. Biblical Peace. Look forward.
*Kytkah*
*BEEN THERE TOO* ✋
For anyone wanting to get married, I am married and I wish to God, I wouldn’t have married him. He’s a narcissist and I didn’t see the signs. I might as well be single because I’m home alone, but he won’t give me a divorce so he gets to go do what he wants and I got a ring and a certificate. Big deal.
That's why I'll never get married you'll be OK stay strong
I married a narcissist.... stayed for 10 years.... biggest mistake in my life a horrible nightmare.... you can divorce him or leave.... I did🙏🏽
Harley Quinn damn I was with a narcissistic ass guy and he would be out all nite as well !! I left his cheating ass! What’s going on with these grown ass boys these days smh
Michal Davis Thanks. You’re so right. I was way happier when I was single.
Yola Mayo I am leaving him. He’s just awful and spiteful. He won’t cooperate because he knows it’s a longer and more expensive process to get a divorce without his cooperation. Control freak!
I have a plethora of men in my family who are very successful, good looking and considered to be the full package but will marry a thot in a second. My sister and I realized early on that it had everything to do with their own insecurities and low self esteem. But It all started with them witnessing the womanizing lifestyle of our father. He was also the full package if you looked on the surface, but he didn’t chose a thot, he chose a good woman who didn’t truly love herself.
The men in my family are also known to prey upon good women who don’t understand their worth. Because a good woman will also accept and excuse bad behavior if she isn’t fully healed from whatever trauma or heartbreak she experienced in her life.
@Asia Henry I couldn't agree more.
@Asia Henry I had to raise my son as a single parent when my ex husband and my sister decided to go after each other but he later married another woman who had 3 children. The day after our divorce and she abused my son! I put her straight on that. My son gave his life to Jesus of his own free will at 10 but my narcisst parents and siblings and ex husband threatened him about what would happen to him if he continued. But I raised him to respect women. From when he was a child adult men and women wanted him to go to their house to discipline their children. He had 140 people to his wedding his wife also comes from a broken home but I am so proud of them they truely love each other and they are spectacular parents to my 2 grandchildren. I decided when I was a baby how I wanted to be as a person I knew I wanted to be a Christian my parents and siblings are wolves in sheep's clothing they have decided thousands by their charm. I also decided how I wanted to treat people and how I wanted to raise my children whilst I was just 17 months old so yes you can decide how you want to act Even as a child but even Jesus said in the world you will have trouble and persecution but He said be of good cheer when they do that and all kinds of evil against you because He overcome the world. I am proud of my family it's my daughter in Law's birthday today I can't see them because they live 2000 km away in Qld I live in Adelaide South Australia. I am praying and having faith for a Christian husband of exceptional spirit Daniel 6:3 and that I be a Christian wife of Nobel character Proverbs 31:10-31 that's why I listen to Tony and Pastor RC Blake's jnr on UA-cam because they were once womanisers and turned their life around and married Proverbs 31:10-31 wives that gives me comfort and hope
So true, I know many “good” men that has married a thot.Thots seems to be winning these days, I’m starting to question what’s the point of being a well put together good woman if all I ever get is cheated on and hurt and left single. I might as well be the thot.
Wendy Drummond wow evil people
My my my. Wow. U r on point
This sounds JUST like my Narcissistic Ex!!! I'm so glad he's out of my life, for good !! Nothing but a liability!✌🏾
Amen... ain't God good!
Yeah right they are so much trouble n high level of stress
glad you got away from him.
Thank you for covering this topic. The world will really have quality women out here thinking that there’s something wrong with having morals, values and standards.
I’m not creating a family around dysfunction.
This content is affirming - thank you ♥️
A barber in his early 50's in my hood, revealed to me that he is a grown boy. He said that men can identify a good woman; and a man who refuses to grow up will dog the good woman out, and will chase after the loose women. He said that he wants to settle down, and knows what marriage will require him to sacrifice and give up, but he doesnt want to because it's too costly for him. He said that the loose women he dates, he dont even take them to his apartment, he takes them to hotels when he wants to have his sexual rendezvous.
Ohh wow!
He's an honest man.
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e yes he is! Tony Gaskins is doing the same thing. Keeping it real and educating single women on how different types of men think & behave. Ignorance nowadays is a choice.
Does that man ever grow up and get married?
It sounds MORE COSTLY chasing loose women...paying for hotel rooms and extracurricular activities
Just because dusty and pickmiesha got married doesn't mean they are winning. Lol when you play stupid games you win stupid prizes.. my ex though he was better off because he found a girl with low self esteem and no self respect to marry him lol. I dodged a bullet for real! Thank the Lord!
Not Dusty and Pickmiesha 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
""When you play stupid games you win stupid prizes!" Lol
love it!!
This message is TRULY right on time.
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A man that is with a no good woman is not a good man. He doesn't want to be held accountable. Just because he's tall, dark, handsome, own house, own car, and has money doesn't mean he's a man. He's just a grown boy. UNBELIEVABLE.
Good women don’t play games , have phone tricks and don’t listen. That’s they’re first issue. A Good Woman is mature emotionally mentally and physically.
Some men want a good woman who’s docile and submissive because they can tame them and make them accept any of their crap.
If the good woman isn’t docile and submissive, he will be upset because he can’t tame her so he will go for his next victim.
Excellent teaching! There are so many men that seek to lay down with a woman instead of getting to know her. In fact, they always stop speaking to me because they can't get what they want. Grown boys, definitely.
Had it happen to me.
*Thank you for saying this! There's nothing wrong with me!🙌🙌 You can't believe everything you see. Some ppl are " not winning"*
This explained exactly what happened to me. His mother did not raise him to be responsible. He married me for the reason you explained. When I held him accountable of being responsible too many times he decided to bail out of the marriage with his mother's help.
Thank you for this Mr. Gaskins. You have helped me to understand what I went through. Thank you.
This really hit home a lot of the guys I have dealt with ended up with women who emasculate them, cuss em out and dont mind jumping on him, and busting they windows out. Well they can have em cuz I dont want a man who stays and tolerates that type of abuse like its ok. I don't do drama😁
We also have to consider that we live in a society where men aren't held accountable for what they do compared to women. When men go out and have a side woman, I noticed the woman gets blamed for the whole ordeal. I think it's a problem dealing with bad people period when you are trying to live right and be a good person.
Teach Tony! I had a guy that I figured out was attracted to me and starting pursuing me. He was involved with a loose woman and ghosted once we began to talk. Not going to lie it stung at first but I am so glad for Godly standards that I won't compromise on. I am waiting on the Lord to send a mature man.
This explains a lot about how some men including my ex, kept going back to his ex as she is everything you stated and the opposite of me! Thank you Tony ‘Be Blessed, Blessed Tribe’ 😎
I had 3 of those grown boys. They THOUGHT I was weak..and clearly had been warned. Each time I left a relationship..it was a far better improvement to my situation and I can't tell you any one of them today that are living is in a better situation since going our separate ways..
They miss their loss..and it hurts them to see how much better off I am. Their hurt because I made it without them or either they couldn't accomplish making me into their victims..crawling in behind their sorry butts!
Just my opinion The reason why some men are not mature enough they dont love, respect, value themselves lack of father figure and not ready mentally, spiritually emotionally and financially. You right tony he don't want to be accountable. Ladies we can't change beg or build a grown immature boy into a real mature men thats not our job we can give him good positive advice, pray and encourage him but if men want to change they have to work on themselves to do better. If men don't want or see a good woman right in front of him then he is blind and that is he's lost ladies he is not for us and we need to move on. Men need to take time to heal, learn, grow, love, respect, forgive and focus on God and focus on themselves.God bless everyone. Thank you God and tony for this message. 👍👍👏👏
You better speak and heal . This makes a lot of sense . This is real life .
This video single-handedly healed my broken heart. Thank you 🤗💖
Danielle Patton agreed
You're a very wise man
When I clicked on this and read the topic, Why Doesn’t He Want a Good Woman ? I said to myself because he Not S***
Facts a man don’t want no good woman cuz he ain’t a good man he hurting confused n out here so he gone attract that & what’s easy 💯
He spoke nothing but the entire TRUTH!!!!!
So true..this married guy confirmed it.
Him: you can get it anytime you want it
Me: nah, I'll fall in love with you
Him: no you won't
Me: yes I will...women are weak
Him: I know...
When he said that I knew he was in the work place looking for single desperate women. A man who doesn't respect his wife is trash. That's it that's the main thing I want you to take from my comment. Love yourself enough to know you deserve to be respected. You shouldn't want a man that's willing to do such things as sleep around on his wife. It's some hurt people in this world...and as the old saying goes, "hurt people, hurt people" pCe love & blessings ❤💫
EEEERRRRR, PUMP THEM BRAKES!! "WHEN YOU SEE A MAN WITH A WOMAN THAT IS NOT A GOOD WOMAN, THAT MEANS THAT IS NOT A GOOD MAN"...SUBSCRIBED...
Some of us just have to reach a point where we know who we are and our worth. Self worth and self efficacy enables you to not question why doesn’t a man want a good woman. We don’t give a flip if you don’t because there’s someone out there who will. We give away too much power and too much free p. There’s been wars started because of women and here you are crying about one man not validating you. Please stop, Sis. You only get one life. You better ride it until the brakes falls off. It will be over before you know it. Get out there and own your life. Ppl like confidence too! Aiight...I’m out LOL
Well put!
Wys.
Your brilliant! That's how I think too. Their is far too many women and men who become depressed and angry and suicidal because their relationship didn't work out. I've been abused and abandoned since I was a baby and I am 62 but their is no way I am going to become what others want me to become and that's depressed and angry and suicidal just ain't gonna happen no I am happy. Having fun and laughing and being joyful constantly because I set it as a notice alarm on my mobile it goes of 24 hrs a day. It's a constant desicion that combines with constant actions. Result Positive emotions. Jesus wants us to rejoice always you can't lead anyone depressed even yourself because you just would keep going round in circles never going forward
Needed this ❤️ thank you
THANK YOU QUEEN WELL SAID & SO APPRECIATED!!! GOD IS SOOO GOOD!!! HAPPY 2020 BE BLESSED🤗
Tony, I have skipped over this video for months bcuz I thought I knew why men don't choose good women, but you really put everything into perspective. Omg, I'm that good women who ended a 6 year relationship bcuz he all of a sudden decided he didn't want marriage? He knew all along, he wanted a good time n dragged me along. I take responsibility on my part, wanted a husband n did everything like a wife, but with no real commitment? You videos helped me not to go back. He's mad n believe he has moved on with other women. It hurts, but now I'm understanding the why, the real why! We put our standards down for love n hope, now I see if they not growing n making moves, they r not good men...I'm healing bcuz of ur videos of honesty that he doesn't want me n that's good! Preparing for my husband who is going to walk up to me saying, Hi wife! N I will know he's my husband...thanks Tony!
Thank you sooooo much I gave him 10 yrs travel 4 hours to visit him for 2 yrs. got tired moved in , Now he treat me like shit, I’m just trying to stay strong 💪 working in moving out his house “ Just wanted to say the info you gave was needed thank you n God bless
DAMN. That got me. He doesn’t want a good woman, because he doesn’t want to be held accountable 🙌🏻
You are speaking truth and facts. I've seen these type of relationships and marriages and once they over. I've heard all tyoes of things that went on in that union or relationship. Bringing other women into the mix etc...So I never compare what someone else have because I never know what that women is doing to keep him or going through. What's for me will be for me!
This is the reason for my current divorce, this message is for me.
May God be with you!! I'm going through a divorce as well for the same situation!!
ANGIE FOY if it’s not then so be it!! But it’s his loss!! He’ll realize it sooner than later but in the mean time LOOK DAM GOOD!! Outside and Inside! Take care of you first!! Then watch God work!!
Yes me as well, my divorce was final in June, i was not going to accept his lying and cheating so i divorced him, this married woman he left me for is putting him through hell...what goes around comes around...
@Robin D. Yes, thank you, he sent me an Instagram follow request and i was like why???we are divorced now and he is still seeing this married woman he left me for....the grass was not greener like he thought it was....
Me too sis! Good luck
God is going to have SPECIAL Angel wings for Tony I’m sure. Thank you for being a blessing to us!😇🌈💕
Agree. Just think of that woman and the "prize" that she "won". Better yet, think of all the control, disrespect and lack that she will experience by being with him.
Tony you touching lives, especially mines.....
WOW!!! By far, the most valuable 14 minutes of answers to questions I've been asking myself for 4 years. I've been thinking a lot of the same stuff you've talked about, but hearing a MAN confirm them has put the lid on it. I felt good about sending it to my X, who has recently gotten engaged. Now he knows, that I know, what really caused the breakdown of our relationship, and why he picked the "lesser", look-alike version of me.
"Women who have thrown their self-respect and their class out the windows getting married ,do not feel that you need to do the same to be able to get married..."....Nice,nice...Thanks alot...
Very enlightening. That makes me take it as a compliment that he walked away . I literally said that we broke up because he didn't want to be held accountable for the damage that he had done and be responsible for repairing it or be accountable for any more of the bull that he was doing. He even agreed that we broke up over things that could've been fixed, yet he chose not to fix anything . I know it was him and not me . When I hear commentary like this it brings resolve
I wholeheartedly agree with you Tony. I've said this, what people or men do not understand is that the woman they choose to marry is a reflection of himself. A lot of men today have no standards and they do not know what a good woman looks like. It's all about the quality. I don't get mad at these mix match couples, I just shake my head.
This was a must listen for me. I was struggling with this until now. My breakup is fresh, I just ended a relationship of 3 years with a man that I thought was my friend. He started opening a little bit but pulled back and started back having a relationship with his baby's mother. Well let him tell it, they didn't have nothing going on. But anyway. He couldn't set boundaries when it came to the mother of his child and I wasn't willing to be butt hurt every time her name came up. I am struggling now with that decision but I will not go back even if he wanted that. He showed me the man he was and I didn't like what I saw. He didn't want to set boundaries and I want a man that can set boundaries with relationships. I love your messages and I am that woman that is constantly working on self. I have been on my job 9 years and 3 years ago I started my own business. It was him that gave me the motivation and I thank him for that. thank you for all that you do and your wife should start a channel too
Omg the part where you said good women compare ourselves to low value women who just sleep with whoever. Oooowwwee. That is TRUE.
Be blessed!! I know imma good woman for a short period I felt like maybe I'm just not good enough for him. But then I realized that he wasn't good enough for me. God has a MAN for me not a grown boy.
Realist video In 2019 and don’t @ me either ! This needs a Part2 unc
“Bring his best to the table just like she’s doing...” Preach!!! 🗣
"Your not missing out" love this
YourMotivationPage that’s what had me stuck .... I felt like I was missing out. Because he left me and decided to go back to his baby mama
Thank you so much!! I have been going through this for the past 3 months with a guy I just broke up with. He had me so bamboozled, I thought I was crazy. He never admitted to any of the lies I caught him in. He would completely flip them on me and tell me I'm insecure! I'm so glad hearing this information from a GOOD MAN. Now I know in my gut I was right the entire time and this "grown boy" will no longer have access to me ever again.
I have come to the realization that me working on myself first and foremost is one of the most important things that I can do. Focusing on continuously developing my relationship with Christ, and building my relationship with my son is one of the most important things I can do in Jesus name. I don't want to be caught up in the pain of the men not choosing to love me, or with what the men will not do in order to heal for themselves. I want to focus on praying for them and loving them as God say I should love them. But not focusing on a relationship with a man in the manner that I used to.
Yep. One of my aunt's went on and on about how good my ex was, and how even my uncle said he was a good guy. I was like child please. Lol. Honey I almost lost my mind trying to stay with me. Because he was so abusive psychologically and emotionally behind closed doors for the most part. I was concerned about what people thought initially. Then the Lord allowed me to come to myself. I'm grateful to God that He brought me out of that, and I pray I don't return to those type of relationships in Jesus name. I pray I continue to know that I deserve better, and that God have better for me in Jesud name. Those that wait on the Lord shall renew their strength. Wait on Him y'all in the name of Jesus.
Yes!! Amen.
Good qualities doesn’t make an all the way GOOD women. I’m still young, don’t have it all yet but everyday striving for more but I have a heart of gold, I’m a supporter, a listening ear, a healer, faithful, cook, very low key. Every woman thinks they’re a good woman but you truly feel it when you are. We just have to be strong and wait on our days. Keep your standards up ladies!
Right on time I was thinking about this topic today and asking this same question to the Lord earlier, he really used you to answer my question. God bless you Tony.
Me as well....I asked God to make it plain....thanks
Thank you for calling a Spade a Spade. Amazing, things are not always a they appear. Let's stand up for ourselves ladies. We want a man who loves himself and loves a woman who has Standards.
I felt like God permitted me to watch this video because he talks through many ways! I had all those questions and sometimes shared with my friends, but never got answered! They didn't know either why bad girls get married good men or vice- versa! I talked to God with tears and asked why thousand of times.
I was watching this video like my daughter watching frozen two; she won't hear you even if you called her hundred times.😂
Now I got the reason why!
Thank you so much.
God bless you too.
Wow to hear this come out the mouth of a man is such a blessing thnk u brother for shedding light on this. U confirmed wht I was thinking about this very situation/ topic and it makes so much sense. Im a good woman with strong values and I just went through a same situation. We r no longer together because he wasn't willing to show up in my life like I wanted so it had to end. He wasn't right for me,
Thank you so much for making and posting this video. All that you’ve said in here answers so many questions I’ve had about a particular guy and the other person he chose to marry, and why he acted so mean & cruelly towards me when I continued to hold him accountable for his actions. Thank you again. (Puzzle solved.). 🧩👍🙏🏻😇
Tanya E. Amazing! Thank you for sharing that feedback!
The light 💡 finally went off!!! It’s never been said this way...Thank God for you🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 you are a blessing!!!
I said that!:Don't wanna be held Accountable got no mentor,pastor etc.
He doesn't want a good women, but when he encounter the evil one, he will regret it. Simple like
That. Because he is not good.
You are what you attract, you can’t save everyone some folks don’t wanna be saved from their own problems . 💁🏾♀️
Just because you’re married don’t mean you’re happy it’s just for appearances for a look or an image for superficial reasons. It’s not genuine or sincere. No matter how much someone puts up a front. That’s why I want something that’s real not artificial or fake. Good chemistry 🧪 is what’s important plus in spiritual alignment with you. Not every spirit/vibe will mix well with yours.
Best video I’ve seen in such a long time. Gives me peace. It’s 5 am and I’ve not been able to sleep. Now I can. Thank you. He blessed.
Yeeess you preaching women don’t give up! Keep holding these men accountable
WOW.. what a relvelation .. Awakening !! This sounds all so familiar ...... No Wonder I've been walking away from those kind of broken energy ..
I CAN'T THANK YOU ENOUGH FOR THESE VIDEOS TONY. MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE AND FAMILY MANY TIMES OVER. MAY GOD KEEP YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES SAFE. AMEN
Why don't those type of men remain on their own until they are truly sure in what they want . I believe its a ego thing of thinking that he can always get better than what he has. And men are always sexual and this is when GOD steps in because the brother is still in that sin nature and he don't have any resistance against those feeling. And to be- honest women goes through the same things. And to do things through self will we can't its going too take GOD TOO STEP IN AND MAKE THE SITUATION RIGHT. AND ALSO SOME OF IT IS COMMON SENSE AS WELL. AND I KNOW MY TIME IS COMING SOON BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP FOR ALONG TIME BUT I NEEDED THAT SPACE TO REGROUP MYSELF. AND TO GROW AND TOO LEARN AND TO NOT TO MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES I HAVE MADE IN THE PAST.
It's that they want to be the centre of attention always that's actually God's place alone and they want to sin and not be accountable but they want us to hop on the sin train too especially if you're a Christian. Because then they throw it back in our face. I am never going to tempt you to sin because I am deliberately trying to not sin. If you don't stop sinning God will hand you over to your depravity He won't come in and do a Saul to Paul transformation because we are living in the end times. My mother wouldn't stop sinning so God handed her over to her mental insanity I went no contact and have not looked back those wolves in sheep's clothing father and siblings were then stuck with it they didn't know what to do. Their in showing their wolves also the other true Christians were also not doing the right thing because they naively believed she is a Christian. Meanwhile another woman who actually is a true Christian who had bipolar syndrome like my mother she got miraculously healed because she studied the scriptures went to the pastors had faith and was rewarded for her faith and it's medically proven by multiple doctors. So again stop sinning God is not going to do your job for you. Tony Gaskins was a womanisers so was pastor RC Blake's jnr but they stopped sinning and God gave them their reward of Godly proverbs 31:10-31 wives and Godly children and pastor Blake's jnr has Godly grandchildren and is blessing their ministries and blessing us God led us to them! God bless you and your family and work love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia
You have hit the nail square on the head! 100%! Believe every word, ladies and try to know what joy, happiness, peace and fulfillment you can truly have in yourself and with people in your life who are truly good. God bless 🙏
Thank you. You're message helped me be more so at peace...
You gave me hope when I had none. Thanks...your helping keeping going
Thank you for this!!!!! I have ALWAYS wanted to know the answer to this question. It was what I thought but you got more in depth with it. There was HEALING IN YOUR ANSWER!!!!!
Learning to love 💕 yourself it is the greatest love 💗 of all!!!!
i agree.loving yourself is the greatest ever.
I'd rather do the hard work of having to raise a strong son,than to have to have someone else try to fix a broken man.
This make a lot of sense. That’s why I’ve always been afraid to get married. I’ll wait. Thank you!👌🏽
Just Broke Up with my sons father is so hard but He was lying and cheating. Your Videos are helping me to go through My truth; mistajes I did too.God bless
Thank you Tony...you have shed light on a problem so many of us good women agonize over. I now can look at this through new eyes...and I'm grateful!! May god continue to bless you and your truthful work.
This is what i needed to hear. 14 years i am coping and figuren out what is wrong with him! I holding him accountable for his behaviour many times! I knew he is an insecure man, plus we have an age difference of 17 y. Talked to him many times, so much i got fad up myself. Even 4 years ago we split up 'cause of act of his daughter... many times if he still ghost me i say you are an addult man!!! You cant let your daughter make out with who you have a relationship!!! Since he got addicted too at alcohol and cocaïne i tried to make him going to a clinic. He doesnt want to, is ashamed for family. I sad are you not ashamed when they see you drunk etc???!!! His behaviour got more and more bad towards me. Calling me names, got on internet searching for woman.... and he still come at my door! Say 98% i did not open the door saying if he wants to talk to be sober! But he never does. I went not even to the door. After a long time i thought to let him talk. The only thing he wants is sex! There was 1 time he came sober. So i said my things. What i wanted of him, he has to change, get rid of addictions, and i never let him in anymore to talk if he is not sober! Next time when i get my chance i will confront him what i learned in this video. Plus if he never is going to change, i never ever going to speak to him and he must never come at my door again !!!!!!
Thank you so much for this I never thought about this and I did wonder why those type of women were married and I’m over here praying for a date! 🤔🙁😅
We're living in a time now whereby these kinds of women go after the man whereby a a morally good woman won't. This is making men passive with out them knowing it and I won't go into what all of this can led to. I also here people say hurt people hurt other people this is true sometimes but not all of the time because if that was the case then I should be hurting almost everyone that I ever met