That was one of the things my Great-grandmother taught my Mother and she taught me, NEVER TELL A MAN ALL YOUR BUSINESS BECAUSE HE WILL NOT TELL YOU ALL OF HIS. Great-grandma was a Master Teacher!
I’m about to start practicing the art of silence, then I’m going to practice being a mystery. Then I’m going to work on myself so I’m not so available. I’m going to become a super listener. I’m holding “the gold” for the prize.
It takes to much energy to deal with these so called men creatures. I'm starting to realize it's more important things to worry about. I just do my best and let God do the rest.
theres a "psychology trick" that says that if u ask a question a person will tell u their answer, but after they say it, you stare in silence long enough without reacting & they'll keep on talking until they spill all the beans. sometimes that's how u gotta interact with ppl. keep it cute & don't spill too much, and eventually the man u dating will tell u everything u need to hear.
Come on now. Y'all be knowing. My grandparents always told me that it wasn't a such thing as a good person being with a bad person for long. Both people are bad 100% of the time. It's just that one or both parties will play the victim. 🤷🏿♂️
Yes. Please don't tell me about any females you claim did you wrong red flag he's a list trying to get over being sensitive if you talk down about a female then what was the reasons the five you tricked with kicked you to the curbside pickup with the trash dumpster.
'You're the reason why the caged bird sings" LMFAOOOOOOOO I am totally guilty of being too honest and not knowing how to swerve around answering certain personal questions. You're the 3rd man I have known who advised against giving out too much information and it's the truth. The guys I let talk more than myself always lasted the longest in my life. Keeping my mouth and legs SHUT.
Yes, totally agree. When I thought I was being a 'real lady with respect' and being honest 'those gentlemen' were not being honest. It took me some time to understand most males (in general) are not honest and very selfish with their 'truths'.
@@Metaphysicalmindspace777 yup, they are masters of omission. I'm following suit because they like mystery and it's hurtful to have your business used against you.
Men do judge...My husband tried me on our 2nd date, that wasn't happening and a month after we married he told me if I had he wouldn't have married me, nor spoke to me again. 3 months into our relationship he asked me to marry him....15 years of marriage
This makes a lot of sense. I have spent the past two decades telling men my life story.. & it's never worked in a positive way.. so I need to do more listening. And I'm glad that I can say that I've never had casual sex.. never have, never will. I also never agree to meet a guy for a date straight up.. I always wait three weeks after starting to talk on the phone, because in those three weeks, they ALWAYS show their true colours.. & then I haven't wasted my time meeting up with a jerk.
🤣🤣 I also tell my friends to stop telling men why your last relationship didn't work out even if your ex was no good.Let that man" think" he was a good man so he will not start off slacking in certain areas.
@@Jaz-px5pr Yes that's what I'm talking about. I believe when we start dating our behavior and our words can send the wrong message if we are not careful. So if a man know you accepted your past man with all his foul behavior he may feel he can get away with it too. Women go into too many details about the failed relationship just tell the man it didn't work out period. Let that man believe your relationship was good. I tell my friends keep your ears open, legs closed and mouth shut.
( lean in ) -“He doesn’t know you “..... “ that’s not your friend”- I HOLLERED !!! ... not at the topic but at the emphasis.. Gullible, naive, frustrated, insecure, trauma -- is what he hears because HES NOT YOUR FRIEND
"A man falls in love when you let him do the work." Let him work for your heart, stop revealing all your business. Let your past work for you and not be used against you!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Men definately judge women and make grand assumptions based on how we do things with them. My spouse and i were intimate before marriage and i got pregnant, he felt like if i was sleeping with him that way, i could do the same with another guy, and he made me get a DNA test. I never really gave him any induction that i was a sleep around or a serial dater even...except for the fact that I had done it with him. Men see things in black and white, it doesn't matter how good of a girl or woman you are when you meet them, they will assume that they must not be the only one enjoying. (Which could be an indication that they dont even see themselves as a catch, just getting what they can.) Lol Women will know the worst and overlook it, underestimating the guys ability to be the worst.
Honestly, I’ve made these mistakes so much because I didn’t know I was worth better. The Holy Spirit is a great teacher and comforter I’ve noticed these exact habitual patterns, so thank you Tony! Thank you for all your videos my goodness, the need to experience love shouldn’t be greater than honouring yourself as a woman. Purity is the standard.
I judge a man if he tries to sleep with me too fast.. I judge a man if he tries to probe too deep.. And honestly.. I judge a man by his initial response and conversation..
@@agirlwholovesgod1645 hopefully he's your age or only 1 year older than you. If he is older than 18 please stay away from him. Dont ruin your young life and get pregnant or abused. You are only 16 just chill. But ya continue to watch these vids to have an early start on game. As for the young man tell him to wait if he acts like he can't wait then he's impatient and only wants sex. Period. Men or young boys that act like they can't respect your request STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM THEM ... They can be abusive emotionally, mentally or physically
I wrote for you at the top concerning a comment you made a woman was desperate girl this is UA-cam if anything no woman is better than anyone we all got played at one time in our life’s and if you haven’t it will be your turn humble yourself yourself because a real woman would have picked anyone who made that comment and spoke with respect to that lady . We all been a fool don’t come on UA-cam or social media and say that can never and that’s will never bevause even tony has Said it y’all come here and say that will never and that has happened this UA-cam. Don’t get a little knowledge and act better than anyone because you have your days we all had and we wisen up I hate woman like that
FACTS I'm naturally quiet/introvert but also an extrovert lol but I am extremely observant and the less I say...men are anxious because they say I am ambiguous and they dont know what is next. Lol I have also been told 'oh u dont talk much' so that means to them I'm compliant and easygoing. When I'm really squaring you up and getting so much information I just hmm and ahh and say oh really, oh is it lol my favourite words.
There are levels to a relationship. Trust and respect must be earned!!!!. Let time pass before certain details are revealed because not all men are truly and deeply interested in you.
You’re absolutely about a man losing respect for you when you have sex too soon it has definitely happened to me but you have to be honest with yourself to heal
My past is my past but some men want to know all your business n hush on their business 🤔 to use against u down the road smh . Tell NOTHING just listen
Please talk about the importance of singleness, too often when you're living a single life you get into pressure and make quick decisions about getting into marraige just because you fall into pressure etc. Its great to be single and a time to love yourself. Singleness is best! Let's also promote it and not let people rush into things.
A masters in medical science? That and being a wife and mother altogether is an amazing accomplishment. Mrs.Gaskins is an inspiration to women everywhere ☺. You two are just the bomb. Many blessings.
Women give away their power with this mindset. Maybe he will commit? Absolutely not. Im not an option! He better hope I commit and may the best man win.
I learned this a while ago and after 13 years of being single, when I began dating again and met my current boyfriend, the first thing I asked him was if we we were gonna date exclusively or dating others people while getting to know each other. (although I never dated other guys) LOL This was my way of letting him know that I was aware of some of the male mindset & that the playing field was gonna be level. His response was no, he was just trying to get to know ME! I never told him what I was looking for in a man, I let him figure it out but this was only after learning the hard way through other dating experiences. Then I watched his behavior. We're still together 3 years later. We don't have to do what men do , we just need to call them on to their stuff. Ladies always maintain your dignity. Thanks Tony!👍🏾
Tony, you’ve mentioned a few times that woman shouldn’t do online dating. Would you please make a video on this. Ladies, please thumbs up this request so Tony see this. 🙏
This goes for friendship's too. I asked God why I was always running into the same friendships with women that tell your business or use it against you and the Lord plainly revealed that one of the reasons was telling people my business too fast & telling too much. I feel that God tell us to communicate with him without ceasing because only he can answer, handle our problems, & give us the best advice. Humans will play on you when it comes to the information you tell them.
I have learnt to move in silence and stop telling people my business ,being to open makes people know ur weakness easily and it will definitely be used against u
Oh my gosh..how dare that woman tell her date about Tony Gaskins...she really slap crazy.. tony is a hidden asset to women and she running off at the mouth gollee....
This video is worth watching several times. You must watch this one to the end. Powerful words, "Turn Your Pain into Purpose." A relationship with God is so important. God said put him first and all other things will be added to you. Seek him, get healed, and then think about dating... or not! Thanks Tony.
I am a gay men in a great relationship that has lasted nearly 13 years now. Some of what Tony says applies to the mindset I had when I was single for (what felt like) an eternity. I constantly revisit this video (some other TG videos too) because it's so funny. I have also had a lot of female friends and relatives who have made the mistakes that Tony tries to help prevent. I would really like to share this with a few women who would probably learn a lot from these videos (more so if they apply the advice) but I don't want them to get mad at me since, "a hit dog holler." I know they have repeatedly allowed sex to become easy to get from them. Let's be honest: if a woman is already giving up the sex, she is not going to stop giving the same man the sex. If anything, she might get angry and self-conscious when she realizes that giving up the sex has not resulted in marriage--the healthy monogamous type. Earlier generations of women appeared to understand that if you behave like a wife--but without the ring and commitment--he will probably move on and make some bs claim about needing a break or space. Contrary to the feminist message, women are better off making the man wait A LONG time.
16:39 “ Oh, what kind of man am I looking for? ..oh ok ok..um excuse me I don’t have a list or anything but give me one second let me get in this here purse..”😂😂😂
The question is, why do we women even seek/need the approval from loose men that we are not loose like them? We fear rejection from someone who judges us on a higher standard than himself. He can have had 1000s of one-night-stands, yet he looks down on her even if he's her FIRST one-night-stand
Exactly. The people who hold me to higher standards than themselves can't tell me ish about morality. As far as THEY are concerned, I'm better than them that's why they EXPECT better from me. So I will act accordingly and disregard validation from someone who is inferior to me.
I agree. It's scary how men can judge on the higher standard doesn't fear God and committing the same sexual sin and think that God only judges the women. If a man like that doesn't want me I will rejoice!
This is why when I'm asked what I'm looking for or what's my love language....I do not answer! Because they will adapt and be whatever you said LOL🤦🏾♀️
And what you liked with one person isn’t the same multiplied... every person is different and old tricks get boring. I like to learn and them to learn me over time and experiences 🤷🏻♀️
Reminds me, met a guy, I thought he was the one, we went on 5 dates but 3 weeks later, he asks when are we going to have sex... He was like "sex is the foundation of love" 🤦.. Unfortunately for him ain't giving up my power and that hurt his ego
That's so true ..as soon as I start praying before I eat when were having dinner. All of a sudden the next time is see him He rocking Kirk Franklin 👀 naw brah been there done that smh
I needed this video so bad. I knew I was bad at dating but damn I've been doing everything wrong 😭. You are the best Tony! Im definitely buying your books.
Thank you for the confirmation!! Hallelujah! No matter what it look like God got me and He got somebody for me. Whom God puts together no man can put asunder. A thousand may fall at my right 10,000 at my left but no harm shall come to me. Ladies keep believing and have faith in the Almighty! God got you and God got someone made just for you! Be Blessed!❤🙏
Lol I hollered when he started speaking in tongues! 🤣🤣🤣. But seriously watch those men in church! Some if them not really God fearing but they know the “good girls” go to church.
True, one call himself a deacon BUT gain discomfort & distance from me asking spiritual questions of his walk with Christ, now he mad 🤔 really has me scratching my head..... sadly i feel to step away from dating because men are expressing narcissistic behavior & I can't build a future on that...... 🙏🏽🤷🏽♀️
I know one who told me I was clean. Clean ? I hadn't been with alot of men . I was married for 30 yrs and am now widowed and haven't dated for the last 4 yrs. He on the other hand was" dirty " . Been with so many women I was dizzy. How do I know? I let him talk and he told me in various ways. Oh so u want to take your community @#%$ and non commitment self and be with me. Nah I don't want all those spirits and soul ties on me. Imma wait until God and I know what he has for me. All the while quoting scripture. If u dont set standards and boundaries and be quiet you will get got !
I had a friend schooled me on this. He called it “checking your temperature,” and he was ON point. Men always checking your temperature to see what the boundaries are or are not.
If you or someone you know has been " touched, molested, raped" it is imperative to get some type of help because it is TRAUMA and allot people are walking around with these wounds and dont even know it. Trauma affects brain development, and epigentics says trauma is passed down genetically. So if you were touched , your mother was touched, grandmother was touch how if this affecting your genetic makeup?? We need to talk about this....trauma being passed down through genetics, we can call it a generational curse or whatever it needs to be called to be addressed. People who have experienced trauma need trauma focused care. Check out the ACE study Adverse Childhood Experiences. We also need to realize many of the men we deal with have experienced molestation as well. They may not be so quick to disclose it, but many have. Read " The Body Keeps The Score"
Thank you..im 49 and dealing with this..its like a stop sign is staring me in my face. I had the worst pick of men and still to this day ..still single and dating wrong!! Thank you. Tony too for all his great videos and truth and facts to help us with our uncontrollable behaviors
I absolutely can not get enough of your videos, praise God for your word.. I don’t care how long your videos are because I could listen too you all day.. I’m learning from you every day 🙌 Thank you so much, God bless you and your family
😂😂😂. The God-Fearing answer had me in tears. Agree most of us talk too much. I will make sure I keep Pepto-Bismol with me on my future dates to avoid the "diarrhea of the mouth".😜
Only way you gone get in the comments arguing is if you just got your feelings hurt, You just got off your back last night...🤣🤣🤣 a hit dog will holler!🤣🤣
Its crazy how he hit thw hammer on the head and its also deep that man go so far as to peep out woman weaknesses and use it against them in that manor but as a woman in saying its time to wake up and stand up and stop getting walked all over like a rug I'm loving these videos already
I dumped a guy I really liked and had everything in common with because he told me in a slick indirect way that he talk to other women. He said he jokes around with other women (Is the way he put it) I went thru his phone and found out that was a lie. He was pursuing other women, on Instagram telling them he wanted to rub their ass and suck their toes. He told an ex he still loved her. He was doing all this while telling me he loved me and wanted to get a place together so I could be a stepmother to his two kids🤦🏽♀️ . He actually went to see one of the women. He told her he loved her and had feelings for her He lied about it when I asked him about it of course..He was beneath my level anyway. I need to do better.
Tonyyyyyyyy! My Mama used to say a man and a woman can do the same thing last night but that man will wake up smelling like roses and a woman WILL NOT! Be blessed!!!!
My GOD that hit differently.. I don't know why your likes and comments ain't on swole. I Super agree, that's why us ladies can't do what a man do. Point blank!
Thank you for your presentation encouraging women to refrain from talking too much. In my distant past, I have been guilty of that very thing. I learned that it is much better to be an active listener. I met a nice man who does most of the talking, and it is rather refreshing for a man to share so many wonderful things about himself. I am looking forward to getting to know him better.
Mouth closed, legs closed, make standards and stick to them! I'm learning Tony.
That’s right - and why we need the strength of the Holy Spirit to keep us from caving in- we can’t keep up the standard without Divine Help!
That was one of the things my Great-grandmother taught my Mother and she taught me, NEVER TELL A MAN ALL YOUR BUSINESS BECAUSE HE WILL NOT TELL YOU ALL OF HIS. Great-grandma was a Master Teacher!
Realest ish ever!!
and they will throw it back up in your face..trust me.
Truth
I agree with all of you 1000%
Or They Will Use It Against You In The End 🤦
I’m about to start practicing the art of silence, then I’m going to practice being a mystery. Then I’m going to work on myself so I’m not so available. I’m going to become a super listener. I’m holding “the gold” for the prize.
I love this comment! I hope you're doing well sis!
It takes to much energy to deal with these so called men creatures. I'm starting to realize it's more important things to worry about. I just do my best and let God do the rest.
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theres a "psychology trick" that says that if u ask a question a person will tell u their answer, but after they say it, you stare in silence long enough without reacting & they'll keep on talking until they spill all the beans. sometimes that's how u gotta interact with ppl. keep it cute & don't spill too much, and eventually the man u dating will tell u everything u need to hear.
I’m gonna start doing this
@@dangdeionn Don't count on it. These guys have game and lies for days. As u stare in silence they'll just tell ya more lies, that's all.
This is so true
Come on now. Y'all be knowing. My grandparents always told me that it wasn't a such thing as a good person being with a bad person for long. Both people are bad 100% of the time. It's just that one or both parties will play the victim. 🤷🏿♂️
It's true I do it and don't even realize and when I tell you men I date tell me everything plus some lol I just listen, nod and take notes🤣
I do not tell my man about you because everything you share and tell me is my WEAPON TO HELP ME, you hear me!!
You are correct 😉
This the one !!
I can see your browsing history Sehkan. I want a divorce!
Funny
You can’t tell them everything .
When you’re quiet, the guy will eventually tell on himself.
EXACTLY!!
Every time!💯
Lu Ash AMEN!!!!
He always does
Yes. Please don't tell me about any females you claim did you wrong red flag he's a list trying to get over being sensitive if you talk down about a female then what was the reasons the five you tricked with kicked you to the curbside pickup with the trash dumpster.
'You're the reason why the caged bird sings" LMFAOOOOOOOO
I am totally guilty of being too honest and not knowing how to swerve around answering certain personal questions. You're the 3rd man I have known who advised against giving out too much information and it's the truth. The guys I let talk more than myself always lasted the longest in my life. Keeping my mouth and legs SHUT.
Omg he’s so funny the way he’ll say things keeps me entertained.
Yes, totally agree. When I thought I was being a 'real lady with respect' and being honest 'those gentlemen' were not being honest. It took me some time to understand most males (in general) are not honest and very selfish with their 'truths'.
Ms. Perfectly Imperfect we’ve all learned from those young years that women talk waaaayyy too much. Men have mastered sharing only certain things.
@@Metaphysicalmindspace777 yup, they are masters of omission. I'm following suit because they like mystery and it's hurtful to have your business used against you.
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Men do judge...My husband tried me on our 2nd date, that wasn't happening and a month after we married he told me if I had he wouldn't have married me, nor spoke to me again. 3 months into our relationship he asked me to marry him....15 years of marriage
So you slept with him on the 3rd or 4th😏?
@@fruitfulone7993 lol
Hmm
Who Cares, he proposed within 3 months! 😄
This makes a lot of sense. I have spent the past two decades telling men my life story.. & it's never worked in a positive way.. so I need to do more listening. And I'm glad that I can say that I've never had casual sex.. never have, never will. I also never agree to meet a guy for a date straight up.. I always wait three weeks after starting to talk on the phone, because in those three weeks, they ALWAYS show their true colours.. & then I haven't wasted my time meeting up with a jerk.
“…3 weeks of talking before going on a date”…Great advice. Thanks for sharing!
Tony is a low key comedian. I love the boxing analogy 😂
Nail on the head!
Love that about him. And all the jargon.
Tony is a comedian 😅
Yess!!
"at age 22, [he] had more miles than a 67 chevy"
🤣🤣 I also tell my friends to stop telling men why your last relationship didn't work out even if your ex was no good.Let that man" think" he was a good man so he will not start off slacking in certain areas.
Exactly...just like you don't go on a job interview and tell them all the negative things that happened on that last job...
Right like if you tell a man you never had a Valentine's, he will do the bare minimum and give the basic bear candy and flower gift
@@Jaz-px5pr Yes that's what I'm talking about. I believe when we start dating our behavior and our words can send the wrong message if we are not careful. So if a man know you accepted your past man with all his foul behavior he may feel he can get away with it too. Women go into too many details about the failed relationship just tell the man it didn't work out period. Let that man believe your relationship was good. I tell my friends keep your ears open, legs closed and mouth shut.
Haha
Big facts!!!
Me cringing at all the mistakes I’m doing 😫
Harriet Aquino it’s all good. Bro helping us 💪🏾
At least u recognise the mistakes, so u learning
Lmao!! Ditto! Same here girl. Man I wear my heart on my sleeve, been told that several times by the guy I like.
Sheryl'Lyn Rivera yes, I do too. Something I need to work on now. Haha never realized that wasn’t a good thing
Wake up before it's too late!!
( lean in ) -“He doesn’t know you “..... “ that’s not your friend”- I HOLLERED !!! ... not at the topic but at the emphasis.. Gullible, naive, frustrated, insecure, trauma -- is what he hears because HES NOT YOUR FRIEND
I’m crying too 😭😭😂😂
LADIES! We are the GATE. Just keep it locked 🔒
YESSS!!! Very well said! We need to start a petition or something off this. Keep the gates closed!
Amen!
Ya but theres so many single moms 😂😂😂
Why Tony’s girl voice always start with “Ohhhhhh” 🤣🤣
Reyaunna Williams lmaoooooo
True 😂😂😅
Always!!!!!!! 🤣🤣
Sha nay Nay did that... LOL
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"A man falls in love when you let him do the work." Let him work for your heart, stop revealing all your business. Let your past work for you and not be used against you!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
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This is a good comment. God bless you. Enjoy your evening.
@@ladennayoung2939 Thank you & many blessings to you too!!
Very sound advice. Thanks, this is what I need right now.
Exactly, I no longer tell a guy what am looking for in a man I just watch and wait. Actions speak louder than words.
I no longer have 3 brothers. I now have 4 and Tony is the fourth one! Thanks for dropping these gems. You are truly a fresh breath of air. 😄
Men definately judge women and make grand assumptions based on how we do things with them. My spouse and i were intimate before marriage and i got pregnant, he felt like if i was sleeping with him that way, i could do the same with another guy, and he made me get a DNA test. I never really gave him any induction that i was a sleep around or a serial dater even...except for the fact that I had done it with him. Men see things in black and white, it doesn't matter how good of a girl or woman you are when you meet them, they will assume that they must not be the only one enjoying. (Which could be an indication that they dont even see themselves as a catch, just getting what they can.) Lol Women will know the worst and overlook it, underestimating the guys ability to be the worst.
Honestly, I’ve made these mistakes so much because I didn’t know I was worth better. The Holy Spirit is a great teacher and comforter I’ve noticed these exact habitual patterns, so thank you Tony! Thank you for all your videos my goodness, the need to experience love shouldn’t be greater than honouring yourself as a woman. Purity is the standard.
I judge a man if he tries to sleep with me too fast.. I judge a man if he tries to probe too deep.. And honestly.. I judge a man by his initial response and conversation..
Check all. This is me. I can read a man very easy.
@@mejustbeingme1207 what if he’s being too eager? I’m about to be 17 and I don’t want to get into the dating stuff until I learn more about guys
@@agirlwholovesgod1645 hopefully he's your age or only 1 year older than you. If he is older than 18 please stay away from him. Dont ruin your young life and get pregnant or abused. You are only 16 just chill. But ya continue to watch these vids to have an early start on game. As for the young man tell him to wait if he acts like he can't wait then he's impatient and only wants sex. Period. Men or young boys that act like they can't respect your request STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM THEM ... They can be abusive emotionally, mentally or physically
@@agirlwholovesgod1645 i think that's a wise decision wait..
@@agirlwholovesgod1645 me too lol
Tony’s “girl voice” cracks me up but message received.
That voice is better than SIRI and ALEXA combined !!! -
Yup 🤣
Wellllllllll... 🤣🤣
I live for it😂😂😂😂😂
Facts 😂😂
I know dudes be mad with TONY 😂😂😂 they game weak already, but now the naive women finally listening
Facts 💯💯💯
They will be forced to come correct.
I wrote for you at the top concerning a comment you made a woman was desperate girl this is UA-cam if anything no woman is better than anyone we all got played at one time in our life’s and if you haven’t it will be your turn humble yourself yourself because a real woman would have picked anyone who made that comment and spoke with respect to that lady . We all been a fool don’t come on UA-cam or social media and say that can never and that’s will never bevause even tony has Said it y’all come here and say that will never and that has happened this UA-cam. Don’t get a little knowledge and act better than anyone because you have your days we all had and we wisen up I hate woman like that
Ditto
He has real fortitude. He's a rare breed
And never tell a man about your vulnerabilities....in my grandmother's words....never give anyone a stick to break your back.
FACTS I'm naturally quiet/introvert but also an extrovert lol but I am extremely observant and the less I say...men are anxious because they say I am ambiguous and they dont know what is next. Lol I have also been told 'oh u dont talk much' so that means to them I'm compliant and easygoing. When I'm really squaring you up and getting so much information I just hmm and ahh and say oh really, oh is it lol my favourite words.
There are levels to a relationship. Trust and respect must be earned!!!!. Let time pass before certain details are revealed because not all men are truly and deeply interested in you.
Bingo
You’re absolutely about a man losing respect for you when you have sex too soon it has definitely happened to me but you have to be honest with yourself to heal
The part that kills me is...they act like they didn't sleep with you. It took 2.
"ALL HE CARE ABOUT IS WHAT THAT MOUTH DO!!" LOL I'M IN TEARS!
Kids lmao
Kelly Brightness GOD BLESS EM’😂
Fr I can't deal with Mr. Gaskins😂😂😂
My past is my past but some men want to know all your business n hush on their business 🤔 to use against u down the road smh . Tell NOTHING just listen
Please talk about the importance of singleness, too often when you're living a single life you get into pressure and make quick decisions about getting into marraige just because you fall into pressure etc. Its great to be single and a time to love yourself. Singleness is best! Let's also promote it and not let people rush into things.
Agreed. I've even had to slow down in my current dating life because i'm working on some important life goals.
I’m not looking for a “relationship” & certainly not marriage! I want respect, I want quality time.
A masters in medical science? That and being a wife and mother altogether is an amazing accomplishment. Mrs.Gaskins is an inspiration to women everywhere ☺. You two are just the bomb. Many blessings.
Keep quiet ladies let the man wonder🤫🤫🤫🤔. Keep him in suspense maybe then he will commit.
Women give away their power with this mindset. Maybe he will commit? Absolutely not. Im not an option! He better hope I commit and may the best man win.
“So many women choking on microphones “. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣that has to be the best metaphor ever . So true tony !!
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That is related to the Jill Scott video.
I thought I heard it in that movie Best Man Holiday. No matter still funny.
Sis....forgive me...what is choking on the microphone???? I'm from the Caribbean. 😮
I learned this a while ago and after 13 years of being single, when I began dating again and met my current boyfriend, the first thing I asked him was if we we were gonna date exclusively or dating others people while getting to know each other. (although I never dated other guys) LOL This was my way of letting him know that I was aware of some of the male mindset & that the playing field was gonna be level. His response was no, he was just trying to get to know ME! I never told him what I was looking for in a man, I let him figure it out but this was only after learning the hard way through other dating experiences. Then I watched his behavior. We're still together 3 years later. We don't have to do what men do , we just need to call them on to their stuff. Ladies always maintain your dignity. Thanks Tony!👍🏾
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Hey Tony glory to God ! I always say the egg never chase the sperm, women stop chasing men🤷
@Donna Daniels,agreed
Tony, you’ve mentioned a few times that woman shouldn’t do online dating. Would you please make a video on this. Ladies, please thumbs up this request so Tony see this. 🙏
Tony already has 2 videos on his channel about online dating. Just wanted to let you know, ive watched them several times myself.
A M what’s their titles please?
@@adabekeethefirst8705 just type his name + online dating
Pls provide titles please. I haven’t seen. Thanks
@@adabekeethefirst8705 The truth about online dating
This goes for friendship's too. I asked God why I was always running into the same friendships with women that tell your business or use it against you and the Lord plainly revealed that one of the reasons was telling people my business too fast & telling too much.
I feel that God tell us to communicate with him without ceasing because only he can answer, handle our problems, & give us the best advice. Humans will play on you when it comes to the information you tell them.
Thank you. I got the same revelation
THIS is a word!
True
Amen!!!!!
I have learnt to move in silence and stop telling people my business ,being to open makes people know ur weakness easily and it will definitely be used against u
God will deliver to you what’s for you ‼️
Yasss... He will🙏✔💯👏
Amen
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“eating peach cobbler and singing on microphones” take me out everytime 😂😂
Listen this guy is funny... 🤣🤣
Oh my gosh..how dare that woman tell her date about Tony Gaskins...she really slap crazy.. tony is a hidden asset to women and she running off at the mouth gollee....
In so many words... it’s called being MYSTERIOUS!! 💋I’m living and learning!!
This video is worth watching several times. You must watch this one to the end. Powerful words, "Turn Your Pain into Purpose." A relationship with God is so important. God said put him first and all other things will be added to you. Seek him, get healed, and then think about dating... or not! Thanks Tony.
Tony always have a disclaimer for us :
Now listen I can’t talk that long
59 mins later
Now listen, you hear me
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BeauPho Masterpiece lmao true but I love it!!
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You hearrrrr meeeeeee hahahaha love it when he says that cuz we know he real serious
Kml yes! I could listen to him alllll dayyyyy
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I am a gay men in a great relationship that has lasted nearly 13 years now. Some of what Tony says applies to the mindset I had when I was single for (what felt like) an eternity. I constantly revisit this video (some other TG videos too) because it's so funny. I have also had a lot of female friends and relatives who have made the mistakes that Tony tries to help prevent. I would really like to share this with a few women who would probably learn a lot from these videos (more so if they apply the advice) but I don't want them to get mad at me since, "a hit dog holler." I know they have repeatedly allowed sex to become easy to get from them. Let's be honest: if a woman is already giving up the sex, she is not going to stop giving the same man the sex. If anything, she might get angry and self-conscious when she realizes that giving up the sex has not resulted in marriage--the healthy monogamous type. Earlier generations of women appeared to understand that if you behave like a wife--but without the ring and commitment--he will probably move on and make some bs claim about needing a break or space. Contrary to the feminist message, women are better off making the man wait A LONG time.
They told us we are equal to men, and they told us not to play games and manipulate with sex. So we put out. Well, not anymore!
I love listening to gay men talk about these things because they say the truth that straight men will not tell women!
Thanks Tony for saying that - DO NOT TELL ALL YOUR BUSINESS!
I can’t wait for a guy to ask me “are you going on dates with other people?” So I can say “of course, aren’t you?” 🤣🤣🤣
Girl I did that and the dude asked me to be his girlfriend the next day 🤣
Um, the answer is of course. If he responds with AGRESSION. His services are no longer required, lol.
I just Hollered
Some men will swear on their mothers graves you've got him wrong and you're the " only one" he has and try to make you the bad guy.
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Nah real talk we ladies need to stop mentally investing in these men we be knowing for 24hrs... “Mant of Godt” 😭😂
16:39 “ Oh, what kind of man am I looking for? ..oh ok ok..um excuse me
I don’t have a list or anything but give me one second let me get in this here purse..”😂😂😂
Newday 2C I fell out on that part 😂😂😂😂 he is hilarious but serious at the same time
Newday 2C I died at that too! From the 16:30 mark til the 19:05 mark, I was DYING😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Love Tony! Lol!
Lmaooo 😂😂
“You was waiting for that” 😂
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I like this man and his wife they are a blessing😂🤦🏽♀️🥰🙌🏾💯
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He is a blessing telling us woman the truth.God Bless u.
The question is, why do we women even seek/need the approval from loose men that we are not loose like them? We fear rejection from someone who judges us on a higher standard than himself. He can have had 1000s of one-night-stands, yet he looks down on her even if he's her FIRST one-night-stand
Yes Ms. Linda B!
Exactly. The people who hold me to higher standards than themselves can't tell me ish about morality. As far as THEY are concerned, I'm better than them that's why they EXPECT better from me. So I will act accordingly and disregard validation from someone who is inferior to me.
I agree. It's scary how men can judge on the higher standard doesn't fear God and committing the same sexual sin and think that God only judges the women. If a man like that doesn't want me I will rejoice!
and this is where princella comes in.
and a man that would use the fact that you slpt with him after 1hour as a reason why you deserve XYZ. how comical.
This is why when I'm asked what I'm looking for or what's my love language....I do not answer! Because they will adapt and be whatever you said LOL🤦🏾♀️
Lmao they sound like the rona... just mutating 😆😅
This makes so much sense.
Jeanett E say gifts
And what you liked with one person isn’t the same multiplied... every person is different and old tricks get boring. I like to learn and them to learn me over time and experiences 🤷🏻♀️
Im learning that
That “Woman” voice takes me out everytime 🤣🤣🤣
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Fareal😂😂
AshBashOneOnly 😂😂😂
AshBashOneOnly same here ! He is funny😂
I’m dead at “this is a ManT of GodT” 😂😭💀💀😂💀🤣
Yes he is sis
😩He said, “ you went on one date and now you’re a relationship coach for your friend who is single and stressed out” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Reminds me, met a guy, I thought he was the one, we went on 5 dates but 3 weeks later, he asks when are we going to have sex... He was like "sex is the foundation of love" 🤦.. Unfortunately for him ain't giving up my power and that hurt his ego
I keep bursting out laughing while walking around the store listening with my Bluetooth, I know they think I’m crazy😂🤣 You are so funny!!!
😂😂😂 I kept busting out laughing at work and smiling super hard looking all crazy lol
Alicia Woods I’mma listen again, I’m at work & it’s slow for now. It’s good information and entertaining at the same time.
I'm dying. I can't. Tony just spoke in fake tounges. 😂🤣😁He is so hilarious. Thank you for the knowledge Tony. Be Blessed!
Katrina Dodd “sharrrrrrondo!” Lol 😝
Comedy is his hidden talent for real. So funny yet very honest😁😁
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You are a gift to the body of Christ. The Lord bless you
Amen
Yep I’m becoming more reserved now , nobody need to know my business 😌
That's so true ..as soon as I start praying before I eat when were having dinner.
All of a sudden the next time is see him
He rocking Kirk Franklin 👀 naw brah been there done that smh
Dead🤣🤣🤣😂
"Oh my goodness this is a mant of godt"👏👏😂😂😂😂😂😭😂
intentionalgreatness 😂😂😂😂
intentionalgreatness 🤣🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤦🏾♀️
I was in tearsssss when I heard that 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thursday Tiffany? Why my name had to be the bad example Tony...😂😂😂😂
Tiffany G 😂
@Tiffany--you are not Thursday Tiffany; you are Terrific Tiffany. It was a different girl/lady.
@@acaringtouch1131 I know just thought it was funny lol. Thanks😊
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Tony Gaskin= My secret weapon🤐🔫💣💪🏾
Boom 👊
l A Humbled MomBullseye!!!! gv me the skull pls! 😜💀☠️😝🙏🙏!!!
Me too...
Bang bang!!!
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He don’t care about your mind!! 😂😂🤣🤣🤣
It's true he only cares about the cat!
LET THE MEN DO THE WORK...THEN HE. FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU....POINT BLANK PERIOD!!!
Eating peach cobbler 😂😂😂😂 choking on microphones 😂😂😂 I cannot 🤣🤣🤣
shermanmakayla I will NEVER look at peach cobbler the same.
Quality
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I really hate that analogy. So disgusting.
"I was just Basking in Beethoven" 🤣😂🤣😂 I gotta shut my mouth, I agree. It's hard when the chemistry is amazing and conversation is just flowing.
Keep your class LADIES 💥
Amen to this! Never tell all of your business to a man, let him do the work for you and level up from your past and past mistakes! 🙏🏻🙌🏻
I needed this video so bad. I knew I was bad at dating but damn I've been doing everything wrong 😭. You are the best Tony! Im definitely buying your books.
“What do that mouth do and how can they get you on yo byke” truth 😩🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank you for the confirmation!! Hallelujah! No matter what it look like God got me and He got somebody for me. Whom God puts together no man can put asunder. A thousand may fall at my right 10,000 at my left but no harm shall come to me. Ladies keep believing and have faith in the Almighty! God got you and God got someone made just for you! Be Blessed!❤🙏
Omg I need to practice keeping my mouth shut! gosh I run off at the mouth😭😂
Me too...😂😂😂
Same here😒
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It takes practice but it’s worth it.
LOL! Don't feel bad. I just realized I talk to much too. Smh! You live and learn.
The trauma in me needed to hear that one free message and it helped. Thank you
God bless you sista!
I just found gold on UA-cam
Yes!
“I’ve come to the conclusion…that you a loose booty.” Yep. It’s 5:40pm. Going to bed. Good night. I can’t anymore. Signing off.
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Right After the gym!!!
Listen Tony is a mess okay! 😭😂
I almost died!!!!
Pati3nceizkey i just woke up, three weeks later. 😂🤣🤣
Lol I hollered when he started speaking in tongues! 🤣🤣🤣. But seriously watch those men in church! Some if them not really God fearing but they know the “good girls” go to church.
Kia J lol 😂
Yes Lord !! 👀👀
True, one call himself a deacon BUT gain discomfort & distance from me asking spiritual questions of his walk with Christ, now he mad 🤔 really has me scratching my head..... sadly i feel to step away from dating because men are expressing narcissistic behavior & I can't build a future on that...... 🙏🏽🤷🏽♀️
I know one who told me I was clean. Clean ? I hadn't been with alot of men . I was married for 30 yrs and am now widowed and haven't dated for the last 4 yrs. He on the other hand was" dirty " . Been with so many women I was dizzy. How do I know? I let him talk and he told me in various ways. Oh so u want to take your community @#%$ and non commitment self and be with me. Nah I don't want all those spirits and soul ties on me. Imma wait until God and I know what he has for me. All the while quoting scripture. If u dont set standards and boundaries and be quiet you will get got !
Sometimes WE learn the hard way, but WE do learn...so Preach!!
Your women impersonations have me crying laughing every single time! Lol 😂
This education is priceless! Healing so many woman, tony ! Thank you 🦋💯
I have such a good topic suggestion/ title: WAYS MEN TEST YOUR MIND (see where your mind at.) vs just getting to know you
AllTheWild_ this is excellent
I had a friend schooled me on this. He called it “checking your temperature,” and he was ON point. Men always checking your temperature to see what the boundaries are or are not.
Yess!!
I definitely need him to make a video about that
This is a great idea!!
I'm definitely the personification of being too honest and talking too much. Truth is Truth Help Jesus 😶🤐😊
Listen ladies! I made the biggest mistake listening to this podcast while driving, Tony had me screaming at him 🤣😂🤣 this man is hilarious 😆
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"stay off your bike" perIOD! You hear me? OhKayy! (love it! lol)
If you or someone you know has been " touched, molested, raped" it is imperative to get some type of help because it is TRAUMA and allot people are walking around with these wounds and dont even know it. Trauma affects brain development, and epigentics says trauma is passed down genetically. So if you were touched , your mother was touched, grandmother was touch how if this affecting your genetic makeup?? We need to talk about this....trauma being passed down through genetics, we can call it a generational curse or whatever it needs to be called to be addressed. People who have experienced trauma need trauma focused care. Check out the ACE study Adverse Childhood Experiences.
We also need to realize many of the men we deal with have experienced molestation as well. They may not be so quick to disclose it, but many have.
Read " The Body Keeps The Score"
Thank you so much.
Thank you..im 49 and dealing with this..its like a stop sign is staring me in my face. I had the worst pick of men and still to this day ..still single and dating wrong!! Thank you. Tony too for all his great videos and truth and facts to help us with our uncontrollable behaviors
I absolutely can not get enough of your videos, praise God for your word.. I don’t care how long your videos are because I could listen too you all day.. I’m learning from you every day 🙌 Thank you so much,
God bless you and your family
Me either girl
This is a man of godt lol 😂
"I got on my bike on the first night and I've been married ofor 20 years. He been cheating on you for 20 years."🤣🤣🤣🤣😂
"What do dat mouf do, and what can you do on yo bayack?"- Tony Gaskins. This had me rollin'. This is wisdom!!!
😂😂😂. The God-Fearing answer had me in tears. Agree most of us talk too much. I will make sure I keep Pepto-Bismol with me on my future dates to avoid the "diarrhea of the mouth".😜
Only way you gone get in the comments arguing is if you just got your feelings hurt, You just got off your back last night...🤣🤣🤣 a hit dog will holler!🤣🤣
Semia Baker 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Stopped talking so much 😔. Got it. Be blessed.
LaT How it’s okay we’re all learning 🤗 the right one will listen to you all night, just take your time 😗
Its crazy how he hit thw hammer on the head and its also deep that man go so far as to peep out woman weaknesses and use it against them in that manor but as a woman in saying its time to wake up and stand up and stop getting walked all over like a rug I'm loving these videos already
I dumped a guy I really liked and had everything in common with because he told me in a slick indirect way that he talk to other women. He said he jokes around with other women (Is the way he put it) I went thru his phone and found out that was a lie. He was pursuing other women, on Instagram telling them he wanted to rub their ass and suck their toes. He told an ex he still loved her. He was doing all this while telling me he loved me and wanted to get a place together so I could be a stepmother to his two kids🤦🏽♀️ . He actually went to see one of the women. He told her he loved her and had feelings for her He lied about it when I asked him about it of course..He was beneath my level anyway. I need to do better.
Tonyyyyyyyy! My Mama used to say a man and a woman can do the same thing last night but that man will wake up smelling like roses and a woman WILL NOT! Be blessed!!!!
My GOD that hit differently.. I don't know why your likes and comments ain't on swole. I Super agree, that's why us ladies can't do what a man do. Point blank!
I sitting here listening to you talk about how a man will turn your abuse against you to get what they want. You are 100% RIGHT.
Yessss I've seen this happen and it is VERY traumatic. Be careful with sharing this info with others in general.
Yeah I cut him off for that and don’t tell hi why
I told a dude yesterday I went on 10 dates in a week cause I don’t like him anymore .
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You are so real and hilarious!! I needed my father, uncles, brother, and cousins to give me the jewels you drop in your videos. THANK YOU!!
Thank you for your presentation encouraging women to refrain from talking too much. In my distant past, I have been guilty of that very thing. I learned that it is much better to be an active listener. I met a nice man who does most of the talking, and it is rather refreshing for a man to share so many wonderful things about himself. I am looking forward to getting to know him better.
Same here
"Have you gone to therapy?" " Well no cause my insurance doesn't cover it". I can't 😂😂😂😂😂
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