How To Mirror A Man | Tony Gaskins
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- Опубліковано 6 лип 2024
- How to mirror a man? In this video I share this concept and explain it in detail so you understand the difference between mirroring a man and thinking like a man.
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Never do more for a man than he’s willing to do for you.
100% True!
Shinel amen sis
Amen, Ashe
Never give a man more than he’s GIVING you!! period!
NEVER
Match his energy sus 🗣🗣🗣🗣Never care more than you are cared for.💅🏾💅🏾💅🏾
At this point that’s exactly what I’m doing with my husband...I stopped cooking and cleaning up after him and he will not be getting anything for Xmas or his birthday because the last time he bought me anything was Christmas 2015 but I’ve been over doing things for him...I’m tired and completely over it and I’m training myself not to care about him anymore so that when that day comes I will be completely unbothered
@@theythinkidontknow1975
A man is always supposed to pursue his wife. I hope it works out for you sis🌹
Be blessed!!!
Do not give a man more that he gives you... if he is not giving you what you need leave.
Crystal Burton was going to say this
It’s so strange that men see kindness as weakness lol and seek to take advantage of it... instead of appreciate it
Trapsource goddess I know, right? That’s so twisted.
Men and women do this. Humans will take advantage of anyone. It's an imperfect world with imperfect people.
@@MichElle-py8lk sickening lol
Hunnie this is the harsh truth .... Im guessing the only one that will appreciate it is our Soul mate
@@summerdior459 nope, not even the soulmate. A man/soulmate is still a man. The rule applies across the board hard lesson, but truth. The objective is to love self first by applying discipline, self control, self confidence, self love because you know your self worth.
Was about to make a 4-course meal for a guy I recently met since he works 2 jobs and eats fast food when he can.... but he hasnt found the time to take me out once in 2 months. Nah. I'm getting my nails/feet done instead. 2020 Ladies, time to reclaim our self love!!!! 😊😊😊
Kysha Hampton Yass! In this season what makes me feel good is hotel and spa confirmation yas sis we getting our feet done and sitting in hot tubs all 2020!!
Girl I was about to start planning a man’s birthday in august but nah I’m done😂
You go girl, we'll done
Yes girl!! I’ve done the same thing….giving wifey benefits for free…NOPE!!
You lost me at 4 course!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Don't give a man anything period, let him earn you.
ifightzrealwell you do know you have to earn him to.
Shanell Pittman No you don’t.
LOL😅 Love Your Words, PERIOD😄!!!
HaHa Ha, just sounds Funny💞
😇😇😇
@@shanellpittman7742 I don't fully agree with you. I believe that men are the natural givers and women are the natural receivers. When a woman starts to give a man, the natural balance is thrown off.
@@ifightzrealwell I am going to take Tony's advice and Matthew Hussey because I was constantly told to do the reverse thing here in Adelaide South Australia so men would ask me to buy them something I did even though I am on a disability pension they took it and ghosted me what changed it for me is they never ever spent a cent on me and the last one owned 13 houses! That changed me forever. Then I learnt from another female on UA-cam video about being a feminine qualities and that is being the Reviewer Not the Giver because that's a masculine trait
You know what I think of those scrougy boys now I think of them as being females! and if any more males try that on for size I'll be sure to tell them to their face. God bless you
I been doing this ,didn’t know it was called mirroring, I just assumed I was petty lol.
seven kings 🤣 I’m waiting on a dude birthday right now just to NOT do anything for his a**! Hahahaha.
Valerie You and I both!! 😂😂Idc how petty it will make me look. I’m gonna match his energy.
Please expand your vocabulary. You're using the word petty incorrectly and putting yourself down.
All it is is "matching" not petty. Matching and mirroring is the same thing.
Sarah Lysobey > relax, my husband actually called me petty for mirroring when we dated so I used that word, you telling me to expand my vocabulary as if you know me is actually insulting. Stfu and go about your business 😊 please and thank you
Valerie > lol yess girl
When you give a man Anything that he didn’t EARN , he feels that you’re pursuing him and will be gone. 💯
Or he will feel entitled
Amen!
I give a man HALF of what he does for me :) I don’t even match him. Less is more.
I hear that!
👏🏾
Exactly
Zactly.
Hmmm. Imma try that.
“Don’t give a man more than he’s giving you”⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Even with mirroring, sometimes, it’s just best to remove yourself because ego and pride will keep the lesson from being learned.
That's why he also said to then WALK AWAY.
Amen.
Listen to his advice, beginning at 7:37, he explains when you should walk away. 👠👠
Mr. Gaskin, I thank you. My boyfriend of 3 and a half years gave me very little in our relationship. I implemented the mirroring and he didn't like it at all. When he would cursed at me, I told him if he ever wanted to see me again the cursing and yelling stopped there. He hasn't cursed since. He asked me why the sudden change in me, I told him that from that moment on, I was holding him accountable for his grown-boy behavior. I now see the grown man coming out. So again Thank you.
I assume we was just getting $50 gifts for each other😂😂😂😂😂in my Tony Gaskins voice..
As a woman who was dating. I learned that men do play major games in the beginning because they want to gauge what you will tolerate. And the eye for an eye concept does work.
You are absolutely right
Thank you Tony!
Well it will definitely be his lost. I'm out no games no drama no bs.
@Gabriela Martiniuk Are you married? Cause if not I dont want your opinion.
True.
This even goes for small things like texting. Take the same amount of time to text him back, etc. Lol
Yaaaaassss exactly...
Currently going through this now..
So am walking away and now he trying to sweet talk me through text..PLEASE
Tarot by Layla yes lol
Yes! I heard this before. Also mirror his text. If he's a one word responder, don't give him a paragraph....be nonchalant if that's how he's doing.
Disipline is key to having a balanced relationship
Discipline *
I struggle with this so much because I’m so generous ...but I’ve noticed the more I do for him the less he appreciate it. UPDATE : he’s made some changes and improved his behavior . I love this man 💓
What made him change and improve his behaviour?
Are u still with him
can we raise some money to put this on a billboard in every city.
Haha seriously!
For Real Sis
Yes!
Not everyone cares to actually apply the knowledge... even tho it’s very simple
I'll put in myself, hell. Lol
So glad you talkin about this. Somebody once told me “you don’t call me” and I responded “well you don’t call me” they said “touché” 😂😂😂
Okurrrrr!!!
1. Mirror the level of interest/engagement/investment
2. Sidestep the power struggle and your man stand alone in the mirror.
3. Be loved by you man as Crist loved the Church
4. Be Blesded 🙏🏾
"Don't give a man more than he is giving you"👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Be blessed ⭐️❤️ don’t give a man more than he is gives you.
🌹Period.🌹
The problem is most women can’t give even a portion of what a man gives smh
Lark Ford not completely true.
Exactly!
Be blessed. As a man who watch your videos I know the arguments presented are true. Ego is the downfall of many of us men! Thank you brotha! 🙏🏽
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💯signs of maturity .💚
The Sleek Gentlemen: thanks for your honest comment. Be blessed.
Denita Miller you are welcome! Blessings to you! 🙏🏽
Thank u
Amen !!! 13 years married, 22 years together, Gaskins is right!!!
Tony what you were saying about the man seeing himself and taking responsibility for his actions, sounds real good in a perfect world, but these clowns out here will be like "Oh well...." and move on to the next one. These jokers are ruthless and of a different breed. I don't think that some of them will ever grow up because it is ssoooo many broken women that will except thier immaturity.
Yes this is a sad fact to many women will accept the nonsense
True but as long as you release him it doesn't matter!
"Ssooo many broken women accept their immaturity" pearls of wisdom 💞
So true Tony, I'm 67 years n it took me more than half my life to learn these things, you are wise beyond your years 🙏🙏🙏🙏♥️
Be blessed. I’m already wired like this. I treat people how they treat me. What you give me is what you get in return. For example, I never come off more interested in a man, even if I am I keep it to myself until HE starts to show me signs that he is more interested.
Right. I am the same way.
Samehere
But does that work? Like have u found its worked by keeping the man interested?
Yep, same
"If you meet a perfect man congratulations here's a cookie" 😂
Why am I just learning about this in my 40s.. omg thank you
It's never late
Same🥴😩🥺
This is a good one. I’m going through
A situation ship right now. He pulling
Back from texting and calling so
I’m doing the same. Thank you!
Man this is facts!!! When a man sees you’re weak he will take advantage of u and I was blind to see this! I did so much and pampered him and that is where I went wrong from the beginning he gave nothing in return. Smh.. never again.
Same here live and learn !
Be blessed. I am 41 years old and I have NEVER been taught about standards and self respect. I was abused as a child and due to all of the influences, I never knew that I was worth anything. I had relationships with wrong men and a terrible marriage. I found Jesus when I was 35 and have not had a relationship yet. If I knew all of this, when I was young and in my 20's, I would have saved myself a lot of heartache. I am learning from you, and want to speak a Blessing over you and your wife and may the unity of your marriage be protected by the Blood of Jesus. May your children and your children's children be blessed in all their relationships. In Jesus Name. You are a blessing and I will teach my son's how to be honourable men and how to treat women.
Amen, Good for you❣️
Tony when I start dating again I need you in my back pocket 👀👀👀👀👀👀😳👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Your showing a man how to respect you.
Be Blessed. Dont give a man more than he is giving you!!!
"Side step the power struggle", wow, this hit me like a ton of bricks. So very true, my arguing days are over starting today. Thank you for your videos.
This is my 3rd or 4th time listening to this video. I swear I hear something NEW Everytime.
Be Blessed and thank you Tony
@Cher Horowitz...in the "getting to know phase" with someone....had to come back for a refresher...❤❤
Wow!! I wish I knew this before I foolishly spoiled my ex-boyfriend. In my mind, I wanted him to see how good of a wife I could be to him if we got married, I felt like I needed to prove myself to him when it really should be the other way around. I spent more money and time on him that he did in the 2.5 years we dated. It drained my energy and my bank account 😩. Thank you Tony for this wisdom. I will know better next time around.
Me too sis, me too. It was almost 2.5 years too. But now I know better.
Samething happened to me. Nowww we different
Me too..I am living and learning daily. Now I know better
Omg! I felt like I was reading my comment to Tony! Hard lesson learned!
So giving gifts equates to you being a good wife....
Agree 💯 percent
I treat a man the same way they treat me.
I love it
Give a person a taste of there own medicine ...
Sherri Ent😄😄😄😄
Don't give a man more then he gives you really needs to sit in my spirit!!!! This message is the only one I have listen today for the last 4 hours! That's how badly I need it to become my actions.
Mirroring is leveling up or staying on a man's level with regard to his actions. This makes a grown man wake up & get in tune with the woman...and become a better man. Take the emotion & ego out of the equation...yes, the man will be disarmed.
Yessssssss
I wish I had this advice when I was younger it would have saved me a lot of heartache 🤦♀️🙆♀️
Me too
And a lot of years I'll never get back. 😞
The father I never had 😂💪 Gaskins dropping them 💎💎💎
True Tony, we can’t control other people, but we can control how we conduct ourselves.
😂🤣this has definitely been my motto in this dating game and at times when I was married. It never feels good to dish out something you can't handle yourself. 🤷🏽♀️ Trust me this works and put men into perspective about their behaviors. We teach people how to treat us.
Ooowwee Tony got me punchin' the air and cheering right now! I love the way he teaches so practical. That part about not revenge cheating is on point! Never ever ever lower your self and compromise your virtue for no damn body!
Lol
When it was known husband cheated he could not lie about it, the female he laid up with text me got my cell number from his phone as well left her underwear ECT, funny now he lied that woman trying to break us up, I laughed in his face saying no you broke this marriage up. Why in the hell should she care about you being married if you don't care why would she. Evil deeds alcoholic crack addictions,lust ,hatred spirits of self, will lead you to self destruction. Of course I divorced this flith and I will not have no interest to lay up with another male for revenge God says revenge is mines, not yours. Not mines. Before divorced I wouldn't call home to see what he was doing, nor where he was at didn't care. Didn't question him about people, places or things sometimes silence is golden in certain situations as this was for me I just didn't care anymore once you laid your body down man or woman it's over my feeling disappeared disappointed 😔 time to move on. The ten years I was married to him every day he accussed me of cheating with Tom's dick and Harry. Why???? Because it was him all the time doing the cheating.
Wow! Someone revenge cheated on me, it was not reality of what was happening, just their view. It was an final end of the relationship, just could not respect a guy at all who could even contemplate doing that and the girl he targeted was just a hapless victim. So much ugliness.
This is what I told my ex and he never got it. I left him and my PEACE was restored. I never gave him anything because he wasn't my equal,not on my level, not mature and not worthy of me.
I love me more...
Be blessed, mirroring is an awesome lesson, it prevents a lot of wasted time, enables us to see things early and move on if necessary, while protecting our own selves.
needed this more than ever. my love been taken for granted too often.
Tony love it Mirroring. This excellent video for the Ladies. So many women giving more.
Especially the men wanting to be head of the household, and leader. Well he needs to show it. 👍🏿
Young ladies need to see this video.
Donna Just Being Real .. Yes, we do !! 🙌🏽
@@blossomingbutterfly8955 Exactly
Young & Older Women...need to heed this Concept! Thank you Tony 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🎤
@@TeesSmootheSounds Don't get me wrong ALL ages. I just wish young girls taught this early in age. To prevent the mess with men. 👏🏿👍🏿
Donna Just Being Real .. Riiiighttt!
"Congratulations here's a cookie"😂😂
Lol 🤣🤣
I know 😂😂
Lol I cannot
Amen...Amen
"If the man is not doing his job, then he is already out of line"
The fact that most of your videos men have put me through and it’s just crazy how accurate these vids are. You really out here changing mindsets , and that’s a beautiful thing. God bless you 🙏🏾
Life for women is so crazy....
Omg do men ever suffer???! N
@@tawnimarie1402 Yes... later on... when they are too old and broken to be able to play any more, and ego too big to learn about how to love. Look up the homeless and mentally ill populations after a certain age, and find out who the most neglected people are in medium and long-term care. They suffer, tremendously.
@@hymnodyhands I see. Valid point. Lol. Cuz dammit it seems like we were born to suffer
@@hymnodyhands Yup, when they've hurt, used, destroyed & unappreciated tons of great women...
My Dad is 74, brags about his thousands of women & now complains that he can't meet a decent woman 🥴
I'm like "Welp you probably passed em up & kept the other thoughts to myself" 😬😒
be blessed. i also recommend the father daughter talk by RC blakes
delaina holt yes!! Love @RC Blakes
RC BLAKES is the best thank God for his books
delaina holt a
Amen.
Agreed. Wish Blake’s would focus more on teaching young boys and men what a king really is, though.
I say this all of the time. "I am going to be as good to you as you are to me". You should treat people the way that you would like to be treat. Be blessed Tony thank you for the wisdom.
I wish it didn't take me so many years and trials to know this, but thankful I know now. ❤
Amen
I am excellent at this! Some men have gotten upset, but they’ve also gotten the point!
A hit dig will Holla, lol - TG
be blessed! i sent this to a few of my friends. i struggle with giving too much now i know!
You have to pull back a little. What u would do.......people WONT DO it 4 u. ❤
Lesson learned!
The last bloke I had asked me to buy him a bottle of Jim Beam I'm on a disability pension but I did then I found out he owns 13 houses and never spent a cent on me! Then he ghosted me so I hope that helps you to stop because a lady did a UA-cam video on female qualities Receiving and male qualities Giving they actually know that's why they dump us to go after the woman that wants to Receive I definitely want that
If he spend 50 on me for my birthday, i'll spend 45 or 30 on him
😂😂😂😂
Better than me 🤣 I’ll give him a cvs birthday card
Exactly Nicole! Because if he only spent $50 then he don’t take the woman serious at all! High school guys spend more than that.
@@claudiap2714 yes! Enjoy lol
Yesss!!!!
“Congratulations here’s a cookie” 😂😂😂
•√"Don' give a man more than he gives you"
•√"You get out what you put* in a relationship"
•√"When you mirror a man now he can see himself"
Deal Breaker Ex. :
"If he yells/curse at you stop it by walking away...don't yell/curse back"
•√ "side step the power struggle" mirror him
•√"Never compromise your self worth/self respect leave and move one"
•√Don't settle/sit in it leave
~Blessed~
Thxx 🤗
Be blessed. This is an area of growth for me. For me it’s not financial, it’s me giving too much time and attention in conversation when I first meet a guy. I’m so open and make friends easily. At times, I get way too comfortable. My ex told me I don’t make men them work for my fun, attention and information. He said they probably feel like theres nothing to work to learn. 😂😩
Wow, when they say it like that, That's a WORD. I can relate. I'l use that feedback.
Ola Nike 💘💘We got this sister. Love and joy in 2020!
Me too. My ex wasn’t very polite with communicating the same message. 😂
Be blessed. God is not mocked. You're sewing good seeds Tony and reaping a great harvest. God bless you.
My grandma told me the same thing but I didn’t listen now I’m going to mirror his actions.
Great video. So if he barely text me and never call. I should do the same, never text and barely call. I give attention when I get it. Mirror him. "Don't give a man more than what he giving you." Great advice!!
It may be time to move on sis. Inconsistency is a red flag.
If he’s doing that he is not sincerely interested. Let him go.
Be blessed! “Never compromise your self worth or your self respect.” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you Tony for that direct word. It’s simple you meet a man with the same amount of energy that he gives you all while maintaining respect for that man and your self.
Exactly...continuing to reinforce negative behavior just makes more of it. I dimiss quickly, whn a man gets it, he cares enough to try. Whn he doesn't he isn't mature enough to handle an adult relationship, so leave & save yourslf the time.
2:50 i dieddddd 😂😂😂 “ well yeah you got me me a $50 gift”...imagine his face
U smile and say its the thought that counts
Thats sooooo what they deserve 🤣🤣🤣
I know one thing when he has met you and you' re a great woman and even so there are a lot of women integrity and character means a lot. When you leave, then he realizes that you were not playing with him. His loss and another man' s gain.
This advice is so simple but it's never clicked until now. My mind is blown reflecting on my past dating experiences and how much I would do to get a man to appreciate me... never again. 🤯 Mirroring all the way.
GENIUS 😭 What would I do without you Tony. The virtual big brother I never had. This whole video makes so much sense the way you used the analogy of mirroring of a man.
So basically “RECIPROCATE”!! Thanks❤️
Be blessed...,
Be blessed! Do not give a man more than he give you. Point blank period! If he's not giving you what you deserve...Leave him!
Tony!!! you are the real deal!!!! Seriously I almost always write down notes from you videos.. you are changing lives that you have no idea about.. the ripple effect is unmeasurable thank you god for Tony and his wife !!!!
Oh Tony, you had me laughing at the end. Moving forward in my life, I am taking your advice and running with it. I hope more ladies agree with you. I had to learn the hard way after pain and suffering. It’s generous of you to give your time to help others avoid the pain. The Lord bless your home.
Be Blessed. If the man is not doing his job, then he is already out of line. After watching this video, I doubt there will be any man getting more than he is giving me. Great teachings.
Give him what he gives you but don't lower your standards to do so. Keep it classy with your standards and values intact. Got it. Thank you, Sir.
Be Blessed. ❤
Don't give a man more than he is giving you! point blank PERIOD! Be Blessed Tony! Thank you for your Wisdom
Your videos are SUCH a huge blessing for us women. Thank you!
Like your concept: Mirror a man - never give more than what he puts out, only give what he gives you, mirror his actions. Thanks Coach Tony 💯👌☺️
Don't allow him to be a priority while you remain an option ...
This is a good concept. This is something that i do already. I never go beyond what a man is doing for me. I have done that before in my past and realize is that wen u keep doing that mess they get comfortable and not want to put alot of effort into the relationship. No thank you. Never again.
That's a Divine message. May God Bless your Marriage your kids , everything you touch and your ministry.....
Tony we live in the UK ... everything u say in all of ur videos is spot on ! You don’t know how much you have helped save myself & my best friend . We watch you everyday ... so we can heal our wounds left on us by abusive ex partners ! Xxx
Definitely a message I needed to hear.. I always go the extra to please a man I deal with and show how good of a woman iam but NEVER get nothing in return.. smh I’m learning. thank you Tony 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Great Advice Tony For The Women!
Love this Tony. This perspective answered the question that I've been wondering about give and take. This is good stuff.
Letting him lead. It's a dance.
Be blessed. I do this already and get told I'm being hard to get or I tit for tat. It is funny how many don't like what you do that's what they did. This video lets me know I'm doing right......periodtt! Thanks for this!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Its keeping the same energy.
When I mirror I get you’re mean and rude AF. 🤣🤣 that’s funny because I’m doing you
@@tab2go675 it's like they hate themselves!!!
Yes, you are, he will get mad, and leave, or get mad, and be honest with him self, and change
@@cdesireecd91 right
When a sound, Just man gives great advice about the human male mind, he has my FULL attention. 😌
Teasha Stewart please understand. One man’s mine works different from every other man’s mind. His reasoning and motives are also different from other men. He says doing more for a man means he will lose respect. Personally that makes me do even more for the women because I see she’s not just receiving without reciprocating
@@larkford4460 I get what you've said and I know that already. I have my own life experiences that he was speaking to and being that I am a woman, I will take the jewels of knowledge that he gave and leave what I don't need. ✌🏾
@@larkford4460 Get lost dusty. You're a GROWN BOY! And we don't want you.....
I got caught up in a one sided relationship bc I did not understand this concept. I was causing myself to do too much (that my person was unwilling to reciprocate PERIOD). Thank you for this 🙏
there is a guy I like and I think I do a pretty good job at mirroring him, but in some instances not. I think its important for a girl to feel desired by the guy she likes (and he likes her too) and he never really compliments me. I know he likes me because he has told me, but I think he could be intimidated by me.., but regardless its hurtful because I want to feel like he desires me... I think any girl would want that. But I notice that even though he doesn't really express to me, I will express my attraction to him, and I am stopping that. Since he doesn't express how he finds me pretty/beautiful, why should I express that I find him sexy and handsome? I don't think I am unreasonable in wanting to feel like a guy can be expressive with me
I started doing this unconsciously so stumbling upon this video is a confirmation.
Be blessed! He's right. Never lose your self worth & never give a man more than he's giving you. I had to learn this the hard way
The best video out on UA-cam by far. Thank you! I’ve watched all your videos
Once again!!!! Thank you for the knowledge my brotha !!!!!! So grateful for your word and your passion behind the GIFT YOU HAVE SIR
He is speaking the truth on this one ... I gave more than I was receiving in a previous relationship ( even though an elder told me not to) & it all backfired... Match his interest/investment but do not do more. Lesson learned the hard way but I'm glad I eventually learned...
Me also now I know to look do not speak much. It will all reveal it self
Be blessed 🙏🏽...That's why I've been single so long. Not lowering my standards just to have or keep a man 👋🏼
I was always told...that behind most....not all failed marriages and relationships, is a man not doing what he is suppose to do by his wife, significant other, or whatever and his family/children.
Mr. Gaskins, thank you for dropping golden nuggets. Your advice have helped me a lot to understand people in general. BE BLESSED