Now come to that realization and conduct yourself accordingly....I remind myself often, no men who indulge in porn, no weed smokers, not even those self medicating for PTSD, no gamblers... Low character, low morals, low value, likelyhood of cheating... HIGH! No thank you! I'm good and can do bad by myself sir!
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..? Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it. This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way. I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram! True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women. The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues. There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings. The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view. We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days. Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife. So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
Amen! I met my ex.., pregnant 1 1/2 yr into the relationship I found out he lied about being divorce, instead he was in the process of getting one, long story short I found out I was pregnant again by him, and so much toxicity was going on, and I was going crazy trying to figure out why is he treating me like this. I left. I pray to God for forgiveness, because I didn't know, I told him in the beginning that I don't entertain married men. He said he lied because he was selfish.... And he needed a friend.. smh.,..man I tell you, Tony spoke the truth
OMG. I have waited my entire life to hear someone tell the truth about a cheating husband. Women, heed to the true word. My ex-husbend of 35 years still tries to contact me. I went NO CONTACT that many years ago. Given I am a school administrator now, I've seen the trash can at work. I've seen the "come up" woman. Most of all I have seen the curse and the Fall Out. So sad because children are involved. Congratulations, Tony! You nailed it. I'm happily single until this day. Let the church say, AMEN.
A cheating husband is a low character human being and dating one won't end well! The men cheating on their wife and the woman they're cheating with weren't raised, they just grew!! 💯
Ladies! Keep your legs closed!! Period!! Women need to do better validating ourselves. Stealing, sleeping with someone one elses man, husband doesnt make you better, doesnt make you marriage material. You are being used and seen as easy. You are lessening your spirit by doing this. What rationale do you have for this behavior? Do you think he will leave his wife for you? If he does he wont be faithful. How you got him is how you'll lose him. Others will view you as a homewrecker....is that a badge of honor? Ladies love yourself enough to say no and keep your standards high
He the trash bag,: she's the trashcan.. They weren't raised: they just grew. He wanna be rich in lust: or rich in money. So many jewels you said! Love how you make us think on it in such a way!
Thank you... I was married for 16 years to who I thought I would be with till the end. He cheated with a woman for years before I found out. Long story short, he cheated, I found out, left him and he married his affair. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. He has since tried to come back and I almost folded.....BUT GOD!!! I refuse to be the other woman.... I will do things the right way. Be blessed... and thank you so much for taking the time for us.
I was married 22 years and he left me for the women if yo u can call her that I always wonder what she did so right and what I did so wrong being together 24 and married 22 and to leave your childern and one with special needs why did she want him to help destroyed my family
@Krystle Laughter I thought the same thing. It is a shame Coach Tony has to talk about this, and a lot of things. But, I believe that comes from the lack of communication from our elder women and giving us the real truth, because they didn't know the truth men. They were never given. So, the cycle has continued.
God will never send you someone else’s husband. Ever!! And God will never Bless that type of relationship between a married man and another woman. Period!! But unfortunately so many believe they are the exception to the rule and will do what they want to anyways.
I used to see my ex husband uncle who was divorced with his wife when they have 5 kids for another woman with no commitment with the other woman. And now, the other woman becomes a trash cans, he beats on her, cheat on her every day by going to club with a young women and comeback home beat her like, curses at her. And her becomes super toxic. This is karma.
I was married 12 yrs and I'm divorced because he cheated on me the whole time and people don't respect being married anymore so I will not get married again
I was the other woman. Took me a long time to realize the truth. I was fed so many lies about the future and what we had to come. But I just made it easy for him. He had a baby with someone while we were together and I only just found it out a month ago. Not to mention he is married. Awful situation to be involved in. He fed me the "legally separated" lie for years....it was never true....my story is a sad one. Outside looking in, one would think I was crazy. I recognize I was young (ten years younger than him), he was my first everything (do the math)....I was so in love....his word was gospel to me. I am free from the prison of loving him. He wasn't a man at all. The man I thought he was, was an illusion. 11 years of my life wasted. I am hoping and praying for a good man to enter my life.
If he says he has a wife or he can’t be there for you when you need him, forget about him. Being a side piece is worse than being alone cause at least you don’t get taken advantage of and left to fend for yourself when it’s all said and done. They are driven by greed, and will sleep around just because most women are single and don’t wanna be. Men have it too easy already, let’s not add more notches to their belts. Isolation is dangerous, but women don’t seem to have a choice in the matter and these married men are taking full advantage.
how can i side piece claim a married man he will not leave his wife for you these women dont know their worth the wife is a WOMEN srong, clever ,courageous and a good man will claim that. Not a man that says he is of God because even pastors cheat he needs to be God fearing and believe in God.
Are you reading the comments 75% of the men left their wives (over 100 some comments stating that) stop projecting and stroking your ego Men leave all the time Some should I know women who are bat shish crazy even Christian ones who wants to be in a miserable marriage? People should not cheat but they should leave if they are in a toxic marriage ..just because she is a wife doesn’t make her a BETTER woman..ignorant comment
My husband would not end the relationship with his mistress. As a result I divorced him. They stayed together, however within 18 months she was dead due to an illness.
You spoke nothing but facts and gems! I totally agree with your descriptions of everything! Many of these women nowadays should subscribe to this channel! As a married faithful woman , with a faithful loyal husband , I appreciate this video.👌🏽
Never ever deal with a married man. Marriage can be easy ;but can become tough because you need to be faithful.Really inspired me to start my own UA-cam Channel.
It’s so crazy to hear this because I always knew and said my husband had a personality disorder because of the way he would become whatever he was around. The hard truth hit me later 7 years in my marriage and he had been cheating on me for 5 years with over 100 women. It is definitely on me to admit I ignored all the signs. I would love to say I was a prize but I couldn’t have been to allow myself to ignore my spirit and what I knew to be true because I was broken to.
I always tell my sons. Dont do the mistakes their dad did. I will not ask for anything when Im old, they just need to pay me in return by being good to their future wife and kids
Change your circle of men Sister. God fearing men do not cheat. There is only a few faithful men in the world today though. It is how they were brought up by their parents. Children are a product of their enviroment. They mimik what they see.😊
This was very meaningful, as my dad left my mom for another woman that he met at my Aunties Thanksgiving table. I wish my mom was alive to hear this because she cried for him until the day she died😢🥀 But I heard you. Thank you, sir, for bringing us the truth. I truly believe that you are part of my journey🙏🏼
Tony is right! This married man has been after me for so long! I promise I be like are you serious? Has a WHOLE WIFE AND TWO DAUGHTERS! It it wasn’t for my morals, standards and valuing her being a woman and a wife I would have been in his trap. It’s just very sad
I had to rewind the video to make sure that I heard Tony correctly when he said that "he's had to help men that sleep with animals". I honestly felt a little bit of hope leave my body. Lord help us.
Tony.. Thankyou for explaining in depth. My husband of 6 years , together for 11 years left me for a trash can for the second time after I forgave him the first time. We have a 2 year old daughter and 3 steps kids with him who I love to death. He left right as we were about to buy a house that I saved for. I’m left hurt and feeling abandoned while he is living with this side chick and her 2 kids..driving her car and going on trips with her. I pray to GOD everyday that he heals me from this and gives me the strength to forgive him even though I will never take him back. Ladies pray that God brings the husband HE has for you and the husband you want ! What you want is not always what’s best for you.
I love church but I swear you speak the truth we don’t hear in church. Or maybe you just say it more plain and clear. 😄 thank you, Tony. God is most certainly using you!!
I remember my ex had another woman when we were married. She knew he was married and when I tried to tell her how her really was, she thought I was jealous and bitter. By her being so much younger than both of us, she thought because he called her everyday he loved her, I had to leave him and took the kids with me I'm so glad I'm out that marriage. Now she want to know what I was going to tell her all along.
Left my husband 2 weeks ago.....he cheating with his PA who is married......they can have each other -liers,cheaters and cruel human beings...am out and trying to heal
I did this too! Lol 😆 shes like "all u think he does is lie to me" in my head im like (sweetie just wait 🤣🙆🏻♀️) me an my ex husband are same age Range. Im 26, hes 27, the lady he broke are marriage for is a 54 old lady thay he worked with. Which now isn't anything too him because she lost her job, and they worked together lol
Powerful !!!Thanks Tony. My husband left me for another women and married her, I already knew what you were saying is right, but it felt good to hear it from another Christian brother in Christ. I had to hold my peace and stand on the verses in the Bible vengeance is mine I will repay says the lord.
Talk about how the wives know their husbands are serial cheaters and tolerate it. A lot of married men out in the clubs and doing everything single people do times 10.
I really don’t think you realize how funny you are! Thank for making this wisdom easy to digest! Blessings to you, your beautiful wife and children!🙏🏽✊🏽
“If the man is the trash bag then you the trash can and ya’ll are both a mess together.” “You didn’t lose a grown man you lost a boy” You dropped some gems in this one.
It's TRUE Tony, my husband left me for a six-figure lady and married her for financial reasons to have the easy life, now he's being taken care. I call him the gold-digger.
Thank you for being truthful! Your honesty has opened my eyes to a new understanding... From my experience it seemed to me as if men can't help themselves in relation to the opposite sex (no self control).
That’s a no no for me I don’t have time for a man who is already married or taken u can keep it moving sir thank you very much I will never be a man side chick or anything else!!!!
😂😂🙏🏾 when I tell you this man is telling you the truth you better believe me. These are the same things that my dad used to tell me. I love this man he keeps it’s so real and 100 my dad may be resting in heaven but I can turn on Tony Gaskins and feel like I’m still listening to my father preach to me. Amen
he will go all the way through with the infidelity to make it look real like he's an innocent guy who made a mistake by getting married to a crazy person, then he bumped into to his soul mate.
Tony, I don’t know where your wife found you, but I need to talk to her so I can get one😂. I am ready to leave my husband for 95% of everything you’re saying. We been married 20yrs as of June 2020. I can’t give him 20 more yrs of my life. I’m giving him his freedom to do as he please. I’m gonna focus on making and saving money. Buying land and giving more to those in need. My husband is so selfish and unwilling to understand the struggles people go through and treat me horrible because I’m giving. Enough is enough. Thank you for having morals, honor and respect for your wife. Maybe she can teach a women’s class on what to look for before we make the mistake of picking the wrong mate. I wish you guys continued success.
Thank you for this post. Everything you said is on Point!! You just read my ex husband actions. I needed to hear this to understand why my marriage failed. I divorced him and he has been revengeful ever since..Just wish our children didn't have to endure the lost & pain that comes with... More importantly, I appreciate the message given about young boys and how they should be raise in order to become real men.
Thank you so much! I was a faithful wife. 25yrs. Yet i end my marriage. Yet he did all the wrong. Still angry with me cause his lifestyle changed. I sign up for godly marriage. He wanted me to deal with a decietful religous man. That quote scripture but not live the life. Thank you so much!
Oh my God I thank God for you my husband left me for another woman and I asked every question about myself thru all the pain God had to show me his love I'm stronger thanks to God ❤️❤️❤️
You are 100% correct!! I wish I had a man that was raised and faithful. I’m in the process of a divorce due to everything you have mentioned, thus far. With some physical abuse to add. Meanwhile, his parents thinks he’s a saint. Love your guidance Mr. Gaskins!
Phew 43:00-46:00 I can think of a famous pastor and his new wife who fit this description 👀 Mr Gaskins speaking nothing but the whole truth. If he's married when you meet! That ain't your husband sis 🚩 God is never an author of confusion 🙌🏾
Omg you saved me. I am a Christian that started fornicating with a man that lives with the Mother of his children, they are not married but living together. I got lonely and I messed up
Thank you Mr.Tony for your perspective. Other Male youtubers I've watched are always mentioning how single mothers are ruining society and their children. Failing to take ownership of their mishaps. Instead they blame the women for choosing the men. Can you please discuss this lack of accountability on both parties.
At least you are honest and very real. My husband has cheated on me for 25 years. He is with her after cheating on me. My husband does not believe in God. He cheated on me and filed for a divorce and he has slept with so many people and he thinks he did nothing wrong. He is a horrible liar. He is a person that lied to me.
Tony Speaks and Peach!! A man is married until he’s divorced!! And this means spiritually divorced too!! Use discernment with every spirit out here.. If you meet him while is getting divorced, he is still married.. Stay away!
Tell the low-down dirty truth regardless of who feelings it hurts!!!! Families are being destroyed while people are trying to speak carefully!!!! Women and children are being harmed. Men are not standing up in their homes, communities or in their churches because people are sugar coating the truth!!!
Yes the woman who took my husband told me you begging me take your husband he’s both our man and laughed at me and my kids!!! He moved in with her and didn’t want to support our four children!!! 20 years of marriage down the drain!!!
Wow! Great video! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I don't understand why men would want multiple women these days because in 2020 there are diseases out there. I pray that God puts it on all mens hearts to come into his Divine Masculine power and care of his health, integrity and have respect for women rather than using them for his own gain. Amen!
Sickness will make a man faithful. These men are going to get enough of sleeping around. Being broke and sick can be some act right for a man, but it’s too late for him when that happens. And animals- sleeping with animals is plain sick and demonic. Why bother with this mess? If he’s sleeping w/animals, he definitely can’t be trusted with kids.
You speak nothing but the truth, as sad as it is to say I have been the trash can for 6 years. I really didn't care until the 3rd year when I caught feelings because we met at a time where we both were low mentally, emotionally, financially etc and were just supposed to be FWB. I just ended things for good this month!! After years of BS, lies, no/low effort etc. We were planning to move in together but I told him we have to do the work on ourselves first, he couldn't move in my house we had to find a bigger house together with both putting down payment and he had to divorce her, of course he never was going to do that. He did exactly what you said though he didn't take his frustrations out as violence it was sexual, all the things his wife wouldn't do (none was against my will though it was things I was already into). I realize although I am better off financially, appearance wise, supportive (believing in him) I am a weaker, dumber, less self esteem, self love etc woman than she is. Although I do miss him (the toxic soul tie), I'm glad I ended things. I'm working on me.
“ There’s nothing you can do to keep that man faithful, other than himself “ Wow..Raw truth!!!💯✅👍🏽
Facts 💯💯💯
Truth
Newday 2c we are out here but you good girls keep looking over us. Good men that dont cheat.
Now come to that realization and conduct yourself accordingly....I remind myself often, no men who indulge in porn, no weed smokers, not even those self medicating for PTSD, no gamblers... Low character, low morals, low value, likelyhood of cheating... HIGH! No thank you! I'm good and can do bad by myself sir!
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..?
Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it.
This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way.
I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram!
True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women.
The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues.
There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings.
The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view.
We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days.
Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife.
So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
Alottttttt of married men at my work place is cheating heavyyyyyyyy. Honey it’s a Mess.
That's a shame!
Yepppp!!!! But they aren't cheating with themselves!!!!!
Paychecks going to several sources, huh
Yes sis! Yes! Trueeeee
Is it because their wife ain't happy they know it & refuse to do anything about it or because they want best of both worlds?
I never understand why men and women do not understand that, what's done in the dark.. ALWAYS comes to light. 💡
Amen sis.
Amen! I met my ex.., pregnant 1 1/2 yr into the relationship I found out he lied about being divorce, instead he was in the process of getting one, long story short I found out I was pregnant again by him, and so much toxicity was going on, and I was going crazy trying to figure out why is he treating me like this. I left. I pray to God for forgiveness, because I didn't know, I told him in the beginning that I don't entertain married men. He said he lied because he was selfish.... And he needed a friend.. smh.,..man I tell you, Tony spoke the truth
🗣🗣🗣Hello!
Sure does.
True indeed
Tony is right! Ladies we need to stop praying for just a man but start praying for a man that has surrendered their life to God!!
So true!
Amen
THIS‼️
Absolutely! Once a man is faithful to God, his faithfulness will transcend his relationship with his wife
"People don't cheat by chance, people cheat by choice". - Tony Gaskins, Jr.
I agree
Nobody aint shit. Men or women. Cant trust neither one . make the rest of us look bad.stop cheating.
They cheat because they want to plain and simple.
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I love this
I’ll never understand how a woman can knowingly mess with a married man. Like I love God too much and Karma is real!
She’s not a faithful believer and don’t respect herself nor God.
She’s just sleep!!
Try it being a so called friend.
Cause they don’t know nor realize the ramifications of their choices 🧎🏽♀️☺️
Christi Smith one of my biggest fears honestly. Only way to avoid it is to make sure he’s faithful.
Hearing all this is so depressing, it's like why even bother getting married anymore. The comment section alone is astounding.
OMG. I have waited my entire life to hear someone tell the truth about a cheating husband. Women, heed to the true word. My ex-husbend of 35 years still tries to contact me. I went NO CONTACT that many years ago. Given I am a school administrator now, I've seen the trash can at work. I've seen the "come up" woman. Most of all I have seen the curse and the Fall Out. So sad because children are involved. Congratulations, Tony! You nailed it. I'm happily single until this day. Let the church say, AMEN.
A cheating husband is a low character human being and dating one won't end well! The men cheating on their wife and the woman they're cheating with weren't raised, they just grew!! 💯
Say it loud for the ppl in the back 🗣. 💯
I agree
Demetria Calvin In islam a man can marry 4 wives therefore, it is not seen as « cheating »
Amen
So true
Ladies! Keep your legs closed!! Period!! Women need to do better validating ourselves. Stealing, sleeping with someone one elses man, husband doesnt make you better, doesnt make you marriage material. You are being used and seen as easy. You are lessening your spirit by doing this. What rationale do you have for this behavior? Do you think he will leave his wife for you? If he does he wont be faithful. How you got him is how you'll lose him. Others will view you as a homewrecker....is that a badge of honor? Ladies love yourself enough to say no and keep your standards high
Stop having the loose booty in the words of Tony Gaskins 🤣🤣
Preachhhh
God Bless You Sister.😊
Amen and Amen again! For real.
Unfortunately we're all exes, nexts, next ex,... Almost every time a man chooses one woman there's another that's salty...
It is such a sad state of affairs.
He the trash bag,: she's the trashcan.. They weren't raised: they just grew. He wanna be rich in lust: or rich in money. So many jewels you said! Love how you make us think on it in such a way!
Thank you... I was married for 16 years to who I thought I would be with till the end. He cheated with a woman for years before I found out. Long story short, he cheated, I found out, left him and he married his affair. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. He has since tried to come back and I almost folded.....BUT GOD!!! I refuse to be the other woman.... I will do things the right way. Be blessed... and thank you so much for taking the time for us.
How did you find out ?
Deep sister u got me jumping in sooo happy. U stronger NOW. Yes!!!! I feel ya 1000
I was married 22 years and he left me for the women if yo u can call her that I always wonder what she did so right and what I did so wrong being together 24 and married 22 and to leave your childern and one with special needs why did she want him to help destroyed my family
They will always regret losing in a good woman. He knows what he with can always step out at any time. That’s always in the back of their heads
@Chelle Belle.... & u will ALWAYS B the Woman that GOT AWAY! Stay Strong...
It's so sad that you even have to make this video. You reap what you sow. 💯
@Krystle Laughter I thought the same thing. It is a shame Coach Tony has to talk about this, and a lot of things. But, I believe that comes from the lack of communication from our elder women and giving us the real truth, because they didn't know the truth men. They were never given. So, the cycle has continued.
@@Newladyn09 So true.
Teaching is never shameful. We were born in sin so we must be taught.
God will never send you someone else’s husband. Ever!! And God will never Bless that type of relationship between a married man and another woman. Period!! But unfortunately so many believe they are the exception to the rule and will do what they want to anyways.
What if the married man deliver food to you?
@Natasha I agree sis!👑💃💪💙🙌
NEVER...Key word is GOD...The devil will send another womens husband for sure.
Not sure how to answer your question Kurtis. And since it’s Tony’s channel he would be the one to ask.
You are correct God will not send you another Woman's Husband. If a Husband cheats he belongs to the Streets he belongs to the WORLD he for Everybody⚫
I stood up on this:
He will destroy the soul of his wife to consume and devour the soul of his "soulmate" that he found while he was married. 😱😈😳
Sometimes the the TRUTH is UGLY!!! DON'T sugar coat anything Tony!!! SUGAR COATING is the problem!!! KEEP TELLING THE TRUTH EVEN THE UGLY TRUTH!!!
This happened to me after 20yrs, unwanted divorce but God's reaping and sowing is quicker in these latter days, to God be all the Glory.
Amen!
Amen
I used to see my ex husband uncle who was divorced with his wife when they have 5 kids for another woman with no commitment with the other woman. And now, the other woman becomes a trash cans, he beats on her, cheat on her every day by going to club with a young women and comeback home beat her like, curses at her. And her becomes super toxic. This is karma.
I was married 12 yrs and I'm divorced because he cheated on me the whole time and people don't respect being married anymore so I will not get married again
@Pamela Moore 😵
Pamela Moore why we you still there?! That's blatant disrespect😳😳😳
@Pamela Moore 😢😢
I feel ya on that
@Pamela Moore Dang... that's a whole reality show😑
I was the other woman. Took me a long time to realize the truth. I was fed so many lies about the future and what we had to come. But I just made it easy for him. He had a baby with someone while we were together and I only just found it out a month ago. Not to mention he is married. Awful situation to be involved in. He fed me the "legally separated" lie for years....it was never true....my story is a sad one. Outside looking in, one would think I was crazy. I recognize I was young (ten years younger than him), he was my first everything (do the math)....I was so in love....his word was gospel to me. I am free from the prison of loving him. He wasn't a man at all. The man I thought he was, was an illusion. 11 years of my life wasted. I am hoping and praying for a good man to enter my life.
If he says he has a wife or he can’t be there for you when you need him, forget about him. Being a side piece is worse than being alone cause at least you don’t get taken advantage of and left to fend for yourself when it’s all said and done. They are driven by greed, and will sleep around just because most women are single and don’t wanna be. Men have it too easy already, let’s not add more notches to their belts. Isolation is dangerous, but women don’t seem to have a choice in the matter and these married men are taking full advantage.
how can i side piece claim a married man he will not leave his wife for you these women dont know their worth the wife is a WOMEN srong, clever ,courageous and a good man will claim that. Not a man that says he is of God because even pastors cheat he needs to be God fearing and believe in God.
@@simmysguidancemedley7049 amen
Are you reading the comments 75% of the men left their wives (over 100 some comments stating that) stop projecting and stroking your ego Men leave all the time Some should I know women who are bat shish crazy even Christian ones who wants to be in a miserable marriage? People should not cheat but they should leave if they are in a toxic marriage ..just because she is a wife doesn’t make her a BETTER woman..ignorant comment
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My husband would not end the relationship with his mistress. As a result I divorced him. They stayed together, however within 18 months she was dead due to an illness.
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You spoke nothing but facts and gems! I totally agree with your descriptions of everything! Many of these women nowadays should subscribe to this channel! As a married faithful woman , with a faithful loyal husband , I appreciate this video.👌🏽
Never ever deal with a married man.
Marriage can be easy ;but can become tough because you need to be faithful.Really inspired me to start my own UA-cam Channel.
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Yes he is a trash bag my ex husband got caught cheating on me last year I left him and Divorced him point blank period Amen.
Good for you! May God Bless you in your next step in life!
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“You don’t even know ya daddy” Tony is pure gold!!!
It’s so crazy to hear this because I always knew and said my husband had a personality disorder because of the way he would become whatever he was around. The hard truth hit me later 7 years in my marriage and he had been cheating on me for 5 years with over 100 women. It is definitely on me to admit I ignored all the signs. I would love to say I was a prize but I couldn’t have been to allow myself to ignore my spirit and what I knew to be true because I was broken to.
« Her insides are floating and he in there like nemo » lmbo 🤣🤣🤣
Man, that was hilarious 🤣🤣😂
Cracked me up 🤣🤣
I'm weak..hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
I always tell my sons. Dont do the mistakes their dad did. I will not ask for anything when Im old, they just need to pay me in return by being good to their future wife and kids
All facts, but super humorous 😭 thank you for this!
I don’t know one man that HASNT cheated...
Change your circle of men Sister. God fearing men do not cheat. There is only a few faithful men in the world today though. It is how they were brought up by their parents. Children are a product of their enviroment. They mimik what they see.😊
Lovely Roses How long you been married?
They all do.
This was very meaningful, as my dad left my mom for another woman that he met at my Aunties Thanksgiving table. I wish my mom was alive to hear this because she cried for him until the day she died😢🥀
But I heard you. Thank you, sir, for bringing us the truth. I truly believe that you are part of my journey🙏🏼
Wow God rest her soul
I am so sorry to hear that!
Wow
Peace to your mommas heart and soul... And to yours. 💗
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Tony is right! This married man has been after me for so long! I promise I be like are you serious? Has a WHOLE WIFE AND TWO DAUGHTERS! It it wasn’t for my morals, standards and valuing her being a woman and a wife I would have been in his trap. It’s just very sad
Some people are wicked. Those poor daughters, I hope they dont end up with men like their dad
Exactly
I am so proud of you and your commitment to Christ!
I had to rewind the video to make sure that I heard Tony correctly when he said that "he's had to help men that sleep with animals". I honestly felt a little bit of hope leave my body. Lord help us.
Tony.. Thankyou for explaining in depth. My husband of 6 years , together for 11 years left me for a trash can for the second time after I forgave him the first time. We have a 2 year old daughter and 3 steps kids with him who I love to death. He left right as we were about to buy a house that I saved for. I’m left hurt and feeling abandoned while he is living with this side chick and her 2 kids..driving her car and going on trips with her. I pray to GOD everyday that he heals me from this and gives me the strength to forgive him even though I will never take him back. Ladies pray that God brings the husband HE has for you and the husband you want ! What you want is not always what’s best for you.
I love church but I swear you speak the truth we don’t hear in church. Or maybe you just say it more plain and clear. 😄 thank you, Tony. God is most certainly using you!!
I remember my ex had another woman when we were married. She knew he was married and when I tried to tell her how her really was, she thought I was jealous and bitter. By her being so much younger than both of us, she thought because he called her everyday he loved her, I had to leave him and took the kids with me I'm so glad I'm out that marriage. Now she want to know what I was going to tell her all along.
Left my husband 2 weeks ago.....he cheating with his PA who is married......they can have each other -liers,cheaters and cruel human beings...am out and trying to heal
Don't tell her
I’m sure she’ll figure it out for herself. 🤣
I did this too! Lol 😆 shes like "all u think he does is lie to me" in my head im like (sweetie just wait 🤣🙆🏻♀️) me an my ex husband are same age Range. Im 26, hes 27, the lady he broke are marriage for is a 54 old lady thay he worked with. Which now isn't anything too him because she lost her job, and they worked together lol
@@nolwandledlamini8027 i just caught my husband her clown told my husband lol this dangerous him lol and multiple other women
🗣🗣🗣🗣 It's all about CHARACTER!!
Powerful !!!Thanks Tony. My husband left me for another women and married her, I already knew what you were saying is right, but it felt good to hear it from another Christian brother in Christ. I had to hold my peace and stand on the verses in the Bible vengeance is mine I will repay says the lord.
Amen
Talk about how the wives know their husbands are serial cheaters and tolerate it. A lot of married men out in the clubs and doing everything single people do times 10.
I really don’t think you realize how funny you are! Thank for making this wisdom easy to digest! Blessings to you, your beautiful wife and children!🙏🏽✊🏽
The trash can and trash bag analogy took me out 😂🤣😅🤣😂
Girl and they a mess together lol I died 😆 🤣
Me too 😂 I love your channel, too, Deb ☺️ Be blessed ✨
“If the man is the trash bag then you the trash can and ya’ll are both a mess together.”
“You didn’t lose a grown man you lost a boy”
You dropped some gems in this one.
Yep
Yes
It's TRUE Tony, my husband left me for a six-figure lady and married her for financial reasons to have the easy life, now he's being taken care. I call him the gold-digger.
Mr .gaskins .thank you for this word today...i just REPENTED ) and asked GOD to forgive me for my wrong doings..bless you sir...
As the married woman I thank you for this video. You made my day!
Thank you for being truthful! Your honesty has opened my eyes to a new understanding... From my experience it seemed to me as if men can't help themselves in relation to the opposite sex (no self control).
That’s a no no for me I don’t have time for a man who is already married or taken u can keep it moving sir thank you very much I will never be a man side chick or anything else!!!!
😂😂🙏🏾 when I tell you this man is telling you the truth you better believe me. These are the same things that my dad used to tell me. I love this man he keeps it’s so real and 100 my dad may be resting in heaven but I can turn on Tony Gaskins and feel like I’m still listening to my father preach to me. Amen
Preach Tony... I need the knowledge cause my father wasn’t around to teach me... thanks for all you do👏🏽🙏🏽💎💎
he will go all the way through with the infidelity to make it look real like he's an innocent guy who made a mistake by getting married to a crazy person, then he bumped into to his soul mate.
Tony, I don’t know where your wife found you, but I need to talk to her so I can get one😂.
I am ready to leave my husband for 95% of everything you’re saying. We been married 20yrs as of June 2020.
I can’t give him 20 more yrs of my life. I’m giving him his freedom to do as he please.
I’m gonna focus on making and saving money. Buying land and giving more to those in need.
My husband is so selfish and unwilling to understand the struggles people go through and treat me horrible because I’m giving.
Enough is enough.
Thank you for having morals, honor and respect for your wife. Maybe she can teach a women’s class on what to look for before we make the mistake of picking the wrong mate.
I wish you guys continued success.
Janiceandrews8565 right! Tony is the man and his wife is very lucky! All men need to take notes from him.
Thank you for this post. Everything you said is on Point!! You just read my ex husband actions. I needed to hear this to understand why my marriage failed. I divorced him and he has been revengeful ever since..Just wish our children didn't have to endure the lost & pain that comes with... More importantly, I appreciate the message given about young boys and how they should be raise in order to become real men.
Thank you so much! I was a faithful wife. 25yrs. Yet i end my marriage. Yet he did all the wrong. Still angry with me cause his lifestyle changed. I sign up for godly marriage. He wanted me to deal with a decietful religous man. That quote scripture but not live the life. Thank you so much!
Oh my God I thank God for you my husband left me for another woman and I asked every question about myself thru all the pain God had to show me his love I'm stronger thanks to God ❤️❤️❤️
It’s CRAZY how much truth you speak. You are such a blessing
You are 100% correct!! I wish I had a man that was raised and faithful. I’m in the process of a divorce due to everything you have mentioned, thus far. With some physical abuse to add. Meanwhile, his parents thinks he’s a saint.
Love your guidance Mr. Gaskins!
Phew 43:00-46:00 I can think of a famous pastor and his new wife who fit this description 👀 Mr Gaskins speaking nothing but the whole truth. If he's married when you meet! That ain't your husband sis 🚩 God is never an author of confusion 🙌🏾
Omg you saved me. I am a Christian that started fornicating with a man that lives with the Mother of his children, they are not married but living together. I got lonely and I messed up
Someone give this man a medal. He KNOWS what's up. He KNOWS.
Thank you Mr.Tony for your perspective. Other Male youtubers I've watched are always mentioning how single mothers are ruining society and their children. Failing to take ownership of their mishaps. Instead they blame the women for choosing the men. Can you please discuss this lack of accountability on both parties.
At least you are honest and very real. My husband has cheated on me for 25 years. He is with her after cheating on me. My husband does not believe in God. He cheated on me and filed for a divorce and he has slept with so many people and he thinks he did nothing wrong. He is a horrible liar. He is a person that lied to me.
Omg Tony when you said Carmen Sandiego I almost choked lol 😂 lol 😂
Tony you sure be telling the truth
I have since had conversations with him it’s like he wants to say sorry, but he doesn’t no how to!!
Don't fall into the trap, anyone can say sorry if that's what they mean to say
Sesame Street teach 4 yr olds how to apologize. He got serious problems!
I love the honesty.....yess! But it makes me not want to get married or get into a relationship with a guy..... its just sad out here
Tony Speaks and Peach!! A man is married until he’s divorced!! And this means spiritually divorced too!! Use discernment with every spirit out here.. If you meet him while is getting divorced, he is still married.. Stay away!
Tell the low-down dirty truth regardless of who feelings it hurts!!!! Families are being destroyed while people are trying to speak carefully!!!! Women and children are being harmed. Men are not standing up in their homes, communities or in their churches because people are sugar coating the truth!!!
Yes the woman who took my husband told me you begging me take your husband he’s both our man and laughed at me and my kids!!! He moved in with her and didn’t want to support our four children!!! 20 years of marriage down the drain!!!
Girl... trust me they will both be a head ache to eachother. No matter what don’t take him back
This was so good 🥺 I’m so grateful for you Tony !
Wow! Great video! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I don't understand why men would want multiple women these days because in 2020 there are diseases out there. I pray that God puts it on all mens hearts to come into his Divine Masculine power and care of his health, integrity and have respect for women rather than using them for his own gain. Amen!
Amen🙏
Thank you! There’s no such thing as a
faithful man!
There is NO such thing as a faithful man without the power of GOD.
3hrs Later...still listening to TG talmbout "She finna shine!"
Giving me life!
Not in there like Nemo mannnnnnn 😩😂. I’m in tears
Lol
Nothing good is going to come out of it dating a married man run run run🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️ you're wasting your precious time
Thank you Tony, for being obedient to your calling. May God continue to richly Bless you and your Family🌸
Believe me it is not worth it you will regret it. Run as fast as you can.
Preach, that's why i divorced my ex husband... I'm to good for that... Preach
Tony can u please make a video of men leaving you while pregnant and go in another relationship/ men leaving their babies-children please
This is scary dogs and cats? Isn't that animal abuse, God keep me away from men like this.
Sickness will make a man faithful. These men are going to get enough of sleeping around. Being broke and sick can be some act right for a man, but it’s too late for him when that happens. And animals- sleeping with animals is plain sick and demonic. Why bother with this mess? If he’s sleeping w/animals, he definitely can’t be trusted with kids.
That is soo true Tony. A Man has to be rewired by the Most High!
I told a married guy NO!! I told him I am not a cheat, you are. Even if he became single, it is hell no..again, he is a cheat. SMH
"That's what SHE said, Lord" 😂😂😂😂😂😂🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
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I never met a faithful man In my life. An I work with hundreds of them..big factz
Real talk! Thank you Tony❤️🙏🏽
JESUS JESUS JESUS SO ON POINT. PERIOD..IF YOU MARRIED DONT EVEN LOOK AT ME.
So good. I've been on both sides of the affair and yes I just grew up without guidance. I too am learning to make better choices.
As I guy I can’t do nothing but appreciate & respect this video learned a lot in so little time💯
Bingo !!!! Ran her dry and left her and i been married 4 years now and not to him . Now i make 4 times and dont pay a bill ever God is good
"That Jezebel spirit has consumed you!" Man that rt dere.
You speak nothing but the truth, as sad as it is to say I have been the trash can for 6 years. I really didn't care until the 3rd year when I caught feelings because we met at a time where we both were low mentally, emotionally, financially etc and were just supposed to be FWB. I just ended things for good this month!! After years of BS, lies, no/low effort etc. We were planning to move in together but I told him we have to do the work on ourselves first, he couldn't move in my house we had to find a bigger house together with both putting down payment and he had to divorce her, of course he never was going to do that. He did exactly what you said though he didn't take his frustrations out as violence it was sexual, all the things his wife wouldn't do (none was against my will though it was things I was already into). I realize although I am better off financially, appearance wise, supportive (believing in him) I am a weaker, dumber, less self esteem, self love etc woman than she is. Although I do miss him (the toxic soul tie), I'm glad I ended things. I'm working on me.
Do you want another packet of ketchup here Ya go 😂😂
"And, lose they teeth!" 😳😩🤣😂👌🏽 That's right... Better, watch your mouth! 👊
You are so funny with the ketchup joke! I have three sons. I hope they turn out to be good men. :)
Thanks for this message. I have been struggling and slowly learning to heal from this kind of situation . God bless you and your family !
I swear you read a page out of my book of life 😂😂
Tony thank you so much for pursuing your purpose. I’ve been wanting a video like this and you do it! So grateful to have such clarity.